Hello you savages. Get access to every episode 10 hours before TH-cam by subscribing for free on Spotify - spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - apple.co/2MNqIgw Here's the timestamps: 0:00 The Productivity Debt 08:00 The Curse of Competence 13:43 Be More Sanguine 15:23 The Power of Low Self-Esteem 19:26 Obesity is a Bigger World Threat than Hunger 20:56 Focus Less on Wealth & More on Lifestyle 29:46 The Culture Wars Shiny Object Cycle 37:05 Fighting Against Cynicism 40:34 Don’t Wait for Life to Happen 44:13 The Danger of Shadow Sentences 55:25 The Best Heuristic for Finding Friends 57:38 Find the Others 1:00:58 Most Important Lessons About Stress 1:08:12 Ending
I really think there isn't a better channel in existence. It's just endless intelligent, rational and balanced conversation. You'll probably never read this, but Thank You Chris!!
The idea of feeling unready to truly live life hits home. Here's my journal entry from a few weeks ago: "i feel like i'm stuck in a permanent state of temporary. i keep telling myself: these people are temporary. this job is temporary. i'll aim higher. but... i have no deadlines. it's permanently temporary."
That's a bleak but accurate description of life itself. *Permanently temporary.* Don't feel bad. Try to find a lifelong career that feels rewarding enough to allow you to want to wake up every morning and do it. Set some goals for yourself. Like Jordan Peterson teaches, start with the small and work up to the grand. Clean your room, then your house, then your community.. then run for Congress if you've gotten that far
Sounds like you don't like your job. Have you tried Jordan Petersons Self Authoring Program? It helps SO much! It's only about $10. It brings you thru a series of questions about your past, present & future to help you set achievable goals, which can change over time, as needed.
Opticontentment: The feeling of being content with where/who you are and at the same time, excitedly wanting to optimize all of the things, including yourself.
Thank you Chris! That was just a fantastic episode and many of the things you talked about resonated sooo much with my current state of mind, my challenges, fears, doubts... Thank you for putting these thoughts into words in a way that I couldn't. Big love!!
On the topic in the 20 minute window - if the general guidance is that you should put away 15% of your income for retirement, why shouldn't that apply to your personal time? If you can put 15% of your income aside for future you, then you can put aside 15% of your current time for future you's happiness. That ends up being 3.5 hours a day. Find away to enrich your personal human savings rather than just your investment accounts.
I couldn't understand more or agree more every single point made and lesson. 100% each one is a gem. From the productivity debt 100% hit home with a mistake I was making all the time and only just started trying to reflect on and how you explain and dissect shadow sentences absolutely fantastic. Thank you 🎉
I think these episodes of 'Lessons from x episodes' are actually amongst my favourites! Perhaps we can't listen to all episodes, but this are some highlights and core learnings that you just throw and compress in here and then we get to listen and benefit from regardless. Awesome
Thank you Chris, only listened to the first 2 points yet but feels like you are directly talking to me! I'm 19 y/o right now and I am demanding so much for myself that it can get a bit lonely at times (because everyone my age doesn't seem to understand), so thank you for letting me know that these feelings are part of the game
I wish you the best in getting through this bottleneck. Please remember that it's just a narrow passage to squeeze through all the big potential bursting out of you right now. It's a snug fit in the process, but out the other side a big world awaits to receive what you have to offer. If you're open to some unsolicited advice...perhaps finding friends, mentors and even proteges of different ages would provide you with some space to unfurl and sort out more of who you are as you push through these growing pains. Whatever you do, press on. You've got this 💪😊🙌
FWIW your videos are so inspiring and I really like the questions ones. From someone who has tried so hard at things in life to have everything fail, I wish I could have heard all these casts when I was younger to maybe have done something with my degree and my life. I know young people are so F'ing dumb, just like we were.... but man I hope your videos reach people to make adifference in their lives and the future of people. You seem to work so tirelessly and for nothing other than this, thank you so much Chris.
26:10 knowing when to pull back & when to push on can be hard, made even harder when you’re constantly on social media absorbing the ideology of grind culture. I’ve curated my feed so more stuff about self-care & my hobbies, and I’ve found that helps me to lean into to my body more, working with its natural seasons / energy levels. Some days I’ll happily do a 12hr day and others I spend the morning in my garden or cooking, using my hands and letting my mind wander, before doing a few necessary screen based tasks in the afternoon, but with a hard cut off of 5.30pm
I call Shadow sentences 'Implied sentences' because their meaning is implied but not said. I always reply, 'Say what you mean.' Shadow sentences leave too much to interpretation. People assume you'll understand, but often their words are misunderstood and they feel ignored.
About the first one- I think it would be more helpful to address the root cause than to add more systems in place to manage a disease. Give up social media and then news. Focus on your own internal yardstick and know that productivity is an illusion. We don’t have to justify our existence.
'There are two types of people in this world. Those who don't know how to improve their lives and those who don't know when to stop' That's an excellent quote.
I have been in the "lonely chapter" and the "on the grind" for so long now that I have forgotten how to live and enjoy life. I even forgot how to talk with my friends because I can't imagine them understanding the challenges that I face and find that I am not able to express my thoughts anymore. Thanks for this talk, because that is how it feels watching this video, like a deep and meaningful conversation with a wise and old friend. Thanks for giving me the talk. I needed to realize life is happening now. Ps you should consider writing a book Chris, I think you can really help people with your wisdom.
Same. Ever since I started working, I don’t know how anymore. Especially since I worked 16 hours a day in an audit firm. Left it and slowly integrating to society but everything is different now.
Before going to work this morning i verbally promised my dogs i would take them on a long walk when i got back. I got home, had some food and was then asked if i could do one more job. Answer i gave was no, i had promised my dogs their walk. No matter how much i could've done with the money i have zero regrets about any time spent with my beloved furry pals so this video minds me i'm doing alright. 😊🙏 Thank you.
He meant that some people raise the productivity bar very high to feel that they are worthy of being alive. These people tend to increase their efficiency rather than relax and have a quiet time with friends and family because when they do the latter they think they are wasting time and feel the guilt of not being productive (not doing enough).
These 100 episodes are so valuable! I'll be listening back to this episode multiple times to keep myself in check. Thanks for summarising all the ideas so succinctly
These small ideas add up to something great. It's amazing to have you dissect these thoughts and hold them up to your life struggles... Which are very similar to my life struggles... Even though we are quite different people... It's like constant life hacks, but thought hacks instead. I think there for I am. I am better and happier because of the practical clarity you bring to these important ideas... This channel is a safe anchorage from the troubled waters of a turbulent mind. Somewhere to rest and regain strength. I've only been subscribed to this channel a couple of months, but it's had a profound affect on my happiness and well being. It's 6am on a Sunday morning and everyone in the house is still asleep. I'm going to spend the day with the family today... Go to the beach maybe... Even though the weather isn't perfect. I may take that fishing rod i bought last year... Enjoy your weekend man. Thanks for everything!
1:00:57 Vital reframe. Also...Congratulations on 800 episodes 🎉 Thank you for helping us to 'find the others'. I look forward to the next 800. Keep the good stuff flowing!✨️ Okay, I'm gonna stop blowing up your comment section now...🤭👋
56:23 💪😊💥 This is why replacing most of our ideas about mental health with a model for mental fitness is likely our best way out of this mire. Social, emotional, and psychological well-being are dependent on skills, practices, and repetition. But, for all the fitness trainers showing us how to build our bodies up to be strong, healthy, agile, and, dare I say, sexier, there is still a dearth of coaches training the skills to give us these benefits in the less tangible but perhaps more critical aspects of our total being and wellbeing. Diet = everything we take in (environment, circumstance, company, conversation, media, etc.). In an effort to get fit beyond the physical, we need to mind our total diet, go outside our comfort zone, and change our minute to minute practices (i.e., inner dialog, activity levels, physiology, what we attend to, who we spend time with...). The company we keep is the mold that shapes our lives and the tint that colors the quality of our altogether too brief experience of life. 🙏✨️
I usually just listen on Spotify but switched over to TH-cam for this one because I felt it might hit better watching it. From listening to previous milestone episodes, I know they're always heartfelt and give a great summary of some of the key points from the previous bunch of episodes and how you've internalized them. I'm sure many of us have picked up on the subtle tells that suggest you may be feeling the pressure and are having quite the internal conversation at the moment. If that is the case, I wanted to try and let you know that, to most of us, it looks like you're doing a cracking job, mate. Embracing the madness of it all and seeing that the madness is, in fact, a large part of why it's so beautiful. The work you put in to bring us these conversations and insights is truly appreciated. When gratefulness came up in the episode, I couldn't help but think I'm grateful there's a bro out there dedicating his time to this pursuit, so that I can have a reflective internal moment listening to his conversation and applying the wisdom as best I can in my own life. Never really got into posting comments on videos, so this might be a weird one, but sod it, here I am doing the thing, saying hello to the random stranger on the train. Cheers mate, big love, stay strong
If you pay for Spotify premium then switch for YT premium it's much better experience and much bigger music and everything library on yt speaking from personal experience using it for 8 months now not going back from this
Find the others. Some days that feels like a very tall order to fulfill. I hold onto current friendships for lack of more compatible alternatives. Gonna be a long road, this.
Shadow sentences sound like passive-aggresive mind games to me. There's a difference between being subtle versus blunt and trying to get someone to guess your meaning by refusing to actually speak it. Always hated mind games in previous relationships and don't tolerate now.
Thank you for the insights Chris. I entered my lonely period when I turned 30 by moving away from a place I didn't like to somewhere new where I didn't know anyone. Thank you for helping.
Man, I cannot thank you enough for all these amazing episodes. I have learned so many things which have helped improve my life in such a positive way. Thank you for doing what you do bro!
I took a transcription of the last portion of this podcast, and threw it into an AI engine and condensed and well, made a Dr Seuss synopsis. Lets hope this pastes in correctly... enjoy! Number One: Problems will come, they always do, They won't disappear, not for me, not for you. Did you think they'd be gone, like a game you've won? Nope! They'll change their shape, but they'll never be done. Dealing with them is just part of the deal, They're not a curse, but part of what's real. Number Two: The worries you have, oh, they sure seem great, But in three months' time, they’ll evaporate! The things you fret now will soon fade away, Why waste your joy on problems today? Number Three: Learning's not easy; it comes from the edge, It’s out on the limb, not under the hedge. The harder the challenge, the more you will grow, And look at the wisdom that you’ll come to know! So thank the tough times, and invite them right in, They’re helping you strengthen the “you” deep within. Number Four: Don't take life too seriously, it's all quite absurd! In a few generations, you’ll be just a word! So why all the fuss? Just let go, have some fun, The race will be over before it’s begun! These four little lessons? They help me, you see, To let go of the pressure and just let things be. If no one will care and I won’t recall, Why not enjoy this life, problems and all?
That one mate went straight deep through my guts!!! Need to get out EU (CH). Spent so much enregy/time/labor, trying to fit the group I've landed into according to the place our parents are based. (even worse when adoptated from 8000km away) Been a long path beeing able to cut off useless distraction/people!! Hence increasing exponentialy my full skills, Having literraly free space to stock them in my head, the ones I would have used instead in my "average life, with average people, doing tones of average things!! Bashing my IQ with even no clue of it! Would add that moving over average IQ is definitely though time to get through because of the self reconizing u need to believe. However once you got the illumination in the head. There we go, F1 is lunched !!! Thanks a lot for what you do!! all the hard work behind the scene!!! Big Man!! Oh Finding the right people is maybe the hardest thing to understand that u may not find them, they might find you once u find yourself and lunch the train :D
Are we living our lives as a statement - a public declarations of our powers and greatest we are chasing (endlessly) Or in the image of our joys and happiness within doing the thing. Where the pursuit brings the happiness. Living with a high degree of dignity/grace, humility, contentment (golden days are now) passion (enthusiasm). As important as it feels now. Know that with 2-3 generations of our death. Most of us won't be remembered and most certainly mostly likely not in the way we would want to be if we are (out of our control) Reconciling the contradictory state of existence. Our importance and its lack of. Instead of seeking plaques to point to our absence. What we the "forever ripples" we can create in our time....?
I think another important thing about culture wars shiny object cycle is that it's an easy money generator, in a similar way that the YT commentary community works. One article/opinion leads to countless hours of content where all you have to basically do is say if you are for or against that, using pretty much the same arguments that you use for every other discussion (woke people, far right are to blame etc.) All of them just use a template of "These (some group of people) ___ are ___(doing something bad)" followed up by "this video is sponsored by... also, check out my...".
Hey Chris, love the show! Here's a further idea you might enjoy relating to the 'shiny object cycle'. It's called a 'familiar surprise'. There's a TedTalk by Derek Thompson where he discusses Raymond Lowery's theory.
Hard-hitting truth and wisdom! So many gems in this video. Thanks for sharing Chris. BTW: Love the "gratitude post-it notes" tip. If we focussed more on our small successes we would be able to address our challenges more effectively.
"Don't wait for the life you want to come" is a quote that most people should take away from this video. Simply put, you would love to enjoy your life, and I promise, there are people around you that are waiting for you to enjoy your life. Thanks Chris!
@chris, I think another way to look at “shadow sentences” comes from Edward Hall on direct/indirect communication styles, which varies depending on culture. For example, in many East Asian countries, there is a greater desire for harmony and “saving face”, so a lot of requests are made very indirectly. Exactly, because as you note, making a direct request can put one in a vulnerable position, and turning down a direct request can be uncomfortable or embarrassing for both parties. I think there are advantages to more direct and explicit communication, as you note, but it does depend on the culture and context.
Literally thought of starting a podcast today, and searched for something like this, this is amazing. Just realized this video was uploaded 3 hours ago 😂😅❤?!.
Shadow sentences have been glorified by cinema and media making it kinda cool culture to communicate but it doesn't seem so glorious in real life it's just good for reel life
Who was the guest who did a bunch of studies on personality tests accuracies? he was testing the big 5, to meyers-brigs, and used astrology as a control
Thank you for these lesson compilation videos Chris ! I always leave having learned something useful, especially with the shadow sentence stuff, definitely something j need to work on.
Hello you savages. Get access to every episode 10 hours before TH-cam by subscribing for free on Spotify - spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - apple.co/2MNqIgw Here's the timestamps:
0:00 The Productivity Debt
08:00 The Curse of Competence
13:43 Be More Sanguine
15:23 The Power of Low Self-Esteem
19:26 Obesity is a Bigger World Threat than Hunger
20:56 Focus Less on Wealth & More on Lifestyle
29:46 The Culture Wars Shiny Object Cycle
37:05 Fighting Against Cynicism
40:34 Don’t Wait for Life to Happen
44:13 The Danger of Shadow Sentences
55:25 The Best Heuristic for Finding Friends
57:38 Find the Others
1:00:58 Most Important Lessons About Stress
1:08:12 Ending
Have you considered making more of solo episodes? I feel like they provide the most value (at least for me)
Oo😮
Just letting you know the audio in this is fkd
Love how you stand throughout the episode
Great strategy esp for ADHDs like myself
Every time i watched your podcasts,
I just surprised how deep you are 😌😶 59:57
I really think there isn't a better channel in existence. It's just endless intelligent, rational and balanced conversation.
You'll probably never read this, but Thank You Chris!!
Never give up! He might give you the like some day!
So freaking true. Definitely share this sentiment.
The idea of feeling unready to truly live life hits home.
Here's my journal entry from a few weeks ago:
"i feel like i'm stuck in a permanent state of temporary.
i keep telling myself: these people are temporary. this job is temporary. i'll aim higher.
but... i have no deadlines. it's permanently temporary."
That's a bleak but accurate description of life itself. *Permanently temporary.*
Don't feel bad.
Try to find a lifelong career that feels rewarding enough to allow you to want to wake up every morning and do it.
Set some goals for yourself.
Like Jordan Peterson teaches, start with the small and work up to the grand. Clean your room, then your house, then your community.. then run for Congress if you've gotten that far
Thank you, you’ve articulated it really well. Any thoughts on what the antidote might be?
Sounds like you don't like your job. Have you tried Jordan Petersons Self Authoring Program? It helps SO much! It's only about $10. It brings you thru a series of questions about your past, present & future to help you set achievable goals, which can change over time, as needed.
Bro you opened my mind In this same situation I'm going thru
Thank you for sharing
This would be an awesome ongoing series. Every 100 episodes, maybe do a top 10-15 takeaways. Hell it could even be every 10 episodes.
Gotta say Chris..... This was extremely helpful for me today .Much appreciated brother 👍
Opticontentment: The feeling of being content with where/who you are and at the same time, excitedly wanting to optimize all of the things, including yourself.
Thank you Chris! That was just a fantastic episode and many of the things you talked about resonated sooo much with my current state of mind, my challenges, fears, doubts... Thank you for putting these thoughts into words in a way that I couldn't. Big love!!
On the topic in the 20 minute window - if the general guidance is that you should put away 15% of your income for retirement, why shouldn't that apply to your personal time? If you can put 15% of your income aside for future you, then you can put aside 15% of your current time for future you's happiness. That ends up being 3.5 hours a day. Find away to enrich your personal human savings rather than just your investment accounts.
Ok, I will sleep for 3.5 hours😂
if you want to go deeper into the rabbit hole, 'Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood is a must-read
I couldn't understand more or agree more every single point made and lesson. 100% each one is a gem. From the productivity debt 100% hit home with a mistake I was making all the time and only just started trying to reflect on and how you explain and dissect shadow sentences absolutely fantastic. Thank you 🎉
I think these episodes of 'Lessons from x episodes' are actually amongst my favourites! Perhaps we can't listen to all episodes, but this are some highlights and core learnings that you just throw and compress in here and then we get to listen and benefit from regardless. Awesome
I am so grateful this podcast exists.
Thank you for your service.
We appreciate you so much Chris!!! 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you Chris, only listened to the first 2 points yet but feels like you are directly talking to me! I'm 19 y/o right now and I am demanding so much for myself that it can get a bit lonely at times (because everyone my age doesn't seem to understand), so thank you for letting me know that these feelings are part of the game
I wish you the best in getting through this bottleneck. Please remember that it's just a narrow passage to squeeze through all the big potential bursting out of you right now. It's a snug fit in the process, but out the other side a big world awaits to receive what you have to offer.
If you're open to some unsolicited advice...perhaps finding friends, mentors and even proteges of different ages would provide you with some space to unfurl and sort out more of who you are as you push through these growing pains.
Whatever you do, press on. You've got this 💪😊🙌
Thanks man, sometimes I feel like life is really hard. I’m glad to have a found this hive mind of knowledge. Makes life easier
Thank you for this awesome compilation.
Always the best episodes, keep it up.
So many gems!!💎
This is so good!! It's the first time I have ever heard of this concept and it's so me
Love the line that in 3 generations no one will even remember your name.
FWIW your videos are so inspiring and I really like the questions ones. From someone who has tried so hard at things in life to have everything fail, I wish I could have heard all these casts when I was younger to maybe have done something with my degree and my life. I know young people are so F'ing dumb, just like we were.... but man I hope your videos reach people to make adifference in their lives and the future of people. You seem to work so tirelessly and for nothing other than this, thank you so much Chris.
Thank you so much for your content and work! ❤️
I've just started eating better and working out, im switching it all up man, thank you
Loved this, thanks for sharing!😊
Chris: you should read up on Hermann Hesse (1877-1962). You might enjoy his writings. based on what you talk about in this podcast.
I do recall the word sanguine in use on the original Star Trek at least once (by Spock of course).
26:10 knowing when to pull back & when to push on can be hard, made even harder when you’re constantly on social media absorbing the ideology of grind culture.
I’ve curated my feed so more stuff about self-care & my hobbies, and I’ve found that helps me to lean into to my body more, working with its natural seasons / energy levels.
Some days I’ll happily do a 12hr day and others I spend the morning in my garden or cooking, using my hands and letting my mind wander, before doing a few necessary screen based tasks in the afternoon, but with a hard cut off of 5.30pm
I call Shadow sentences 'Implied sentences' because their meaning is implied but not said. I always reply, 'Say what you mean.'
Shadow sentences leave too much to interpretation. People assume you'll understand, but often their words are misunderstood and they feel ignored.
great vid, it would be awesome if you put these out for various topics (i.e the top 10 you learned about health etc) 😅
SO good!
Good Stuff. Keep it up!
This is the most insane title on TH-cam ive never clicked on something so hard
They need to discover what part of your mind got trained so hard to be this productive
P-ositive
A-ttitude
I- n
N-egative
S-ituations
I like this one 😊✋
The state of our world "Everything is a Claire's Accessories!" 🤣...pretty much that or a nail salon...sigh
About the first one- I think it would be more helpful to address the root cause than to add more systems in place to manage a disease. Give up social media and then news. Focus on your own internal yardstick and know that productivity is an illusion. We don’t have to justify our existence.
Happy to learn that my cherry red face from any high intensity workout isn’t because I’m out of shape, I’m just sanguine! Maybe both… 😅
Instantly googles concatenation 🎉
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Your mother sends her love🤣🤣 jesus christ
'There are two types of people in this world. Those who don't know how to improve their lives and those who don't know when to stop' That's an excellent quote.
Did you just make that up? It’s um quite profoundly busy, just by the nature.
Love from sideline Bob in NZ
@@PinkyBar374 No, it's not mine. It was Chris's quote, he mentions it in 23:35
There are two types of people in this world - those that lump everybody into two categories, and those that don't.
I have been in the "lonely chapter" and the "on the grind" for so long now that I have forgotten how to live and enjoy life. I even forgot how to talk with my friends because I can't imagine them understanding the challenges that I face and find that I am not able to express my thoughts anymore. Thanks for this talk, because that is how it feels watching this video, like a deep and meaningful conversation with a wise and old friend. Thanks for giving me the talk. I needed to realize life is happening now. Ps you should consider writing a book Chris, I think you can really help people with your wisdom.
He’s mentioned working on a book a few times now. I believe it’ll be coming out next year🙂
check the comments I just posted :) Havent seen yours before!! We'll fidn the way mate :D
Same. Ever since I started working, I don’t know how anymore. Especially since I worked 16 hours a day in an audit firm. Left it and slowly integrating to society but everything is different now.
Being this early to a video this good feels illegal
8am😂
Fr
Chill, Its just a misdemeanor 😂. Btw it's 9 pm here in India.
Say 3 Hail Mary's my son and you'll be ok
TBH, your comment is sure relatable 😅
Before going to work this morning i verbally promised my dogs i would take them on a long walk when i got back.
I got home, had some food and was then asked if i could do one more job. Answer i gave was no, i had promised my dogs their walk. No matter how much i could've done with the money i have zero regrets about any time spent with my beloved furry pals so this video minds me i'm doing alright. 😊🙏 Thank you.
That first one... with the bottomless pit of productivity debt. That was the most accurate and perfect description of what I feel every day.
Sometimes we just need things to be told verbally to us like parents to their child to feel ok and safe about this or that
What did he mean, I didn't grasp it. Your reply will be valuable; thanks for reading this.
He meant that some people raise the productivity bar very high to feel that they are worthy of being alive. These people tend to increase their efficiency rather than relax and have a quiet time with friends and family because when they do the latter they think they are wasting time and feel the guilt of not being productive (not doing enough).
That one hit me hard. It's exactly how I feel - or should I say: how I talk to myself - in most of the mornings.
These 100 episodes are so valuable! I'll be listening back to this episode multiple times to keep myself in check. Thanks for summarising all the ideas so succinctly
These small ideas add up to something great.
It's amazing to have you dissect these thoughts and hold them up to your life struggles... Which are very similar to my life struggles... Even though we are quite different people...
It's like constant life hacks, but thought hacks instead.
I think there for I am. I am better and happier because of the practical clarity you bring to these important ideas...
This channel is a safe anchorage from the troubled waters of a turbulent mind. Somewhere to rest and regain strength.
I've only been subscribed to this channel a couple of months, but it's had a profound affect on my happiness and well being.
It's 6am on a Sunday morning and everyone in the house is still asleep. I'm going to spend the day with the family today... Go to the beach maybe... Even though the weather isn't perfect. I may take that fishing rod i bought last year...
Enjoy your weekend man. Thanks for everything!
I wonder how many of these comments Chris actually reads?
1:00:57 Vital reframe.
Also...Congratulations on 800 episodes 🎉 Thank you for helping us to 'find the others'. I look forward to the next 800. Keep the good stuff flowing!✨️
Okay, I'm gonna stop blowing up your comment section now...🤭👋
Absolutely beautiful, man, THANK YOU!
The "Don't wait for life to happen part" 41:00 hits hard
56:23 💪😊💥 This is why replacing most of our ideas about mental health with a model for mental fitness is likely our best way out of this mire.
Social, emotional, and psychological well-being are dependent on skills, practices, and repetition. But, for all the fitness trainers showing us how to build our bodies up to be strong, healthy, agile, and, dare I say, sexier, there is still a dearth of coaches training the skills to give us these benefits in the less tangible but perhaps more critical aspects of our total being and wellbeing.
Diet = everything we take in (environment, circumstance, company, conversation, media, etc.). In an effort to get fit beyond the physical, we need to mind our total diet, go outside our comfort zone, and change our minute to minute practices (i.e., inner dialog, activity levels, physiology, what we attend to, who we spend time with...).
The company we keep is the mold that shapes our lives and the tint that colors the quality of our altogether too brief experience of life.
🙏✨️
I really enjoy your ideas and views. Thanks for all you do and continue to grow and stay curious! Know that you are loved.
This show is the GOAT. This show is the doom spiral slayer. Grateful for your efforts and stoked for your success Chris. Thank you 💯
Thanks!
That letter to Churchill was savage. I thought it was going to end quickly but it just got worse.
"Problems are a feature of life, not a bug"... I really needed to hear that lesson right now. Thanks alot Chris!
A toonie from Canada ❤ lolz thx Chris and his fine team of experts great work 😊
I was a bit down lately and this episode came a the right time. Made me refocused on the present and what I already have. Thanks Chris
I usually just listen on Spotify but switched over to TH-cam for this one because I felt it might hit better watching it.
From listening to previous milestone episodes, I know they're always heartfelt and give a great summary of some of the key points from the previous bunch of episodes and how you've internalized them. I'm sure many of us have picked up on the subtle tells that suggest you may be feeling the pressure and are having quite the internal conversation at the moment.
If that is the case, I wanted to try and let you know that, to most of us, it looks like you're doing a cracking job, mate.
Embracing the madness of it all and seeing that the madness is, in fact, a large part of why it's so beautiful. The work you put in to bring us these conversations and insights is truly appreciated. When gratefulness came up in the episode, I couldn't help but think I'm grateful there's a bro out there dedicating his time to this pursuit, so that I can have a reflective internal moment listening to his conversation and applying the wisdom as best I can in my own life. Never really got into posting comments on videos, so this might be a weird one, but sod it, here I am doing the thing, saying hello to the random stranger on the train. Cheers mate, big love, stay strong
Thank you 💜
If you pay for Spotify premium then switch for YT premium it's much better experience and much bigger music and everything library on yt speaking from personal experience using it for 8 months now not going back from this
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21:18 - 22:11
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Find the others.
Some days that feels like a very tall order to fulfill. I hold onto current friendships for lack of more compatible alternatives. Gonna be a long road, this.
Over 10,000 views and less than 1,000 likes blows my mind. Less than 1/10 of the audiences likes the content?
I almost didn’t watch this one because no guest, but I’m glad I did because I got some real value from it. Thanks bro
Glad you have guests because these boring recaps that last forever are beyond grueling to listen to. Even at 2x.
More guests. Less you.
Are you being serious right now?
Shadow sentences sound like passive-aggresive mind games to me. There's a difference between being subtle versus blunt and trying to get someone to guess your meaning by refusing to actually speak it. Always hated mind games in previous relationships and don't tolerate now.
The Gurwinder Bhogal episodes are the most underrated
Thank you brother this really helped me
Thank you for the insights Chris. I entered my lonely period when I turned 30 by moving away from a place I didn't like to somewhere new where I didn't know anyone. Thank you for helping.
Man, I cannot thank you enough for all these amazing episodes. I have learned so many things which have helped improve my life in such a positive way. Thank you for doing what you do bro!
Teacher: “Use the word sanguine in a sentence.”
Johnny: “Australians are just sanguine Brits…”
Teacher: “A+”
I took a transcription of the last portion of this podcast, and threw it into an AI engine and condensed and well, made a Dr Seuss synopsis. Lets hope this pastes in correctly... enjoy!
Number One: Problems will come, they always do,
They won't disappear, not for me, not for you.
Did you think they'd be gone, like a game you've won?
Nope! They'll change their shape, but they'll never be done.
Dealing with them is just part of the deal,
They're not a curse, but part of what's real.
Number Two: The worries you have, oh, they sure seem great,
But in three months' time, they’ll evaporate!
The things you fret now will soon fade away,
Why waste your joy on problems today?
Number Three: Learning's not easy; it comes from the edge,
It’s out on the limb, not under the hedge.
The harder the challenge, the more you will grow,
And look at the wisdom that you’ll come to know!
So thank the tough times, and invite them right in,
They’re helping you strengthen the “you” deep within.
Number Four: Don't take life too seriously, it's all quite absurd!
In a few generations, you’ll be just a word!
So why all the fuss? Just let go, have some fun,
The race will be over before it’s begun!
These four little lessons? They help me, you see,
To let go of the pressure and just let things be.
If no one will care and I won’t recall,
Why not enjoy this life, problems and all?
That one mate went straight deep through my guts!!!
Need to get out EU (CH). Spent so much enregy/time/labor, trying to fit the group I've landed into according to the place our parents are based. (even worse when adoptated from 8000km away)
Been a long path beeing able to cut off useless distraction/people!!
Hence increasing exponentialy my full skills, Having literraly free space to stock them in my head, the ones I would have used instead in my "average life, with average people, doing tones of average things!! Bashing my IQ with even no clue of it!
Would add that moving over average IQ is definitely though time to get through because of the self reconizing u need to believe.
However once you got the illumination in the head. There we go, F1 is lunched !!!
Thanks a lot for what you do!! all the hard work behind the scene!!! Big Man!!
Oh Finding the right people is maybe the hardest thing to understand that u may not find them, they might find you once u find yourself and lunch the train :D
Are we living our lives as a statement - a public declarations of our powers and greatest we are chasing (endlessly)
Or in the image of our joys and happiness within doing the thing. Where the pursuit brings the happiness.
Living with a high degree of dignity/grace, humility, contentment (golden days are now) passion (enthusiasm).
As important as it feels now. Know that with 2-3 generations of our death.
Most of us won't be remembered and most certainly mostly likely not in the way we would want to be if we are (out of our control)
Reconciling the contradictory state of existence.
Our importance and its lack of.
Instead of seeking plaques to point to our absence.
What we the "forever ripples" we can create in our time....?
I think another important thing about culture wars shiny object cycle is that it's an easy money generator, in a similar way that the YT commentary community works. One article/opinion leads to countless hours of content where all you have to basically do is say if you are for or against that, using pretty much the same arguments that you use for every other discussion (woke people, far right are to blame etc.) All of them just use a template of "These (some group of people) ___ are ___(doing something bad)" followed up by "this video is sponsored by... also, check out my...".
Damn, I really needed to hear about productivity debt. The last few years, I generally only feel peace when I’m grinding something out.
Wonderful insights 🙏
"Shadow sentences" is just a rebrand of passive aggression, mate.
Why make up buzzwords for terms that already exist?
Great stuff Chris. Keep em coming.
Hey Chris, love the show! Here's a further idea you might enjoy relating to the 'shiny object cycle'. It's called a 'familiar surprise'. There's a TedTalk by Derek Thompson where he discusses Raymond Lowery's theory.
This guy’s legit
Chris can you stop knocking the UK (and particularly the North) it's making me feel attacked.
You're sounding more and more American!
This is fantastic!
Hard-hitting truth and wisdom! So many gems in this video. Thanks for sharing Chris. BTW: Love the "gratitude post-it notes" tip. If we focussed more on our small successes we would be able to address our challenges more effectively.
"Don't wait for the life you want to come" is a quote that most people should take away from this video. Simply put, you would love to enjoy your life, and I promise, there are people around you that are waiting for you to enjoy your life. Thanks Chris!
This is the sermon we need. Preach, brother Williamson!
@chris, I think another way to look at “shadow sentences” comes from Edward Hall on direct/indirect communication styles, which varies depending on culture. For example, in many East Asian countries, there is a greater desire for harmony and “saving face”, so a lot of requests are made very indirectly. Exactly, because as you note, making a direct request can put one in a vulnerable position, and turning down a direct request can be uncomfortable or embarrassing for both parties. I think there are advantages to more direct and explicit communication, as you note, but it does depend on the culture and context.
This is amazing! I love this. I kinda wish whenever you read a passage or defined terms you would put the words on the screen.
You mention screwing in a light bulb, after it being illuminating and afterward being de-lighted, how does a couple actually get in there to do it?
Fuck yea
Literally thought of starting a podcast today, and searched for something like this, this is amazing.
Just realized this video was uploaded 3 hours ago 😂😅❤?!.
Shadow sentences have been glorified by cinema and media making it kinda cool culture to communicate but it doesn't seem so glorious in real life it's just good for reel life
Who was the guest who did a bunch of studies on personality tests accuracies? he was testing the big 5, to meyers-brigs, and used astrology as a control
I’m guessing Chris won’t be moving back to Blighty anytime soon.
I wish I had had all this insights 20 years ago. I guess It is never too late❤
Thank you for these lesson compilation videos Chris ! I always leave having learned something useful, especially with the shadow sentence stuff, definitely something j need to work on.