Psych2Go Education channel gets some love. Do you find yourself getting angry easily? It may be angry at someone or events. Hopefully this video will bring some insight to you! Comment below to see if you share the same experience with others.
I'm like a hypocrite. Around my friends I'm this sweet and loving person but when I'm with my family it's always like hell breaking loose. I want to be the person everyone knows, especially around my parents. I get angry over the simplest things, which is a real problem for me
Same here, maybe I am comfortable with expressing myself with my family the way I am because they give me enough freedom but it also makes me angry at myself that I act like a jerk around my family because I let loose all of the pent up emotions that I actually want to convey to the one’s who are actually the reason behind my anger but end up reflecting on my parents who are not guilt of anything. I try to control my anger but can’t help but let loose and then regret it later and end up feeling depressed. I just wanted to share my perspective to let you know you’re not the only one who’s clueless about the problem you’re facing as I am as well
It can happen from a lifetime of having to swallow your anger with them. It didn't click for me until this past month that the reason I'm quick to anger with my mother is because I've never been allowed to voice any issues and have them taken into consideration for change. My mother was extremely mean to me this past month because she has been in a bad mood over something I had nothing to do with, and I just took it and waited until she was away to break down since I knew confronting her about it wouldn't change anything. How could anything I do fix a problem I in no way created? I knew any attempt would be met with gaslighting and even more cruelty, and I don't want to hurt anymore than I already do. Now that she's in a better mood, I find myself getting frustrated extremely quickly because she got to release all of those negative feelings onto me, while now I have those feelings and can't give them back. I hope this helps. Much love and many prayers sent everyone's way 🙏 ❤️
“Anger is a fear of getting hurt.” Sooo true, I find myself being defensive internally because am fighting not to be hurt, because I have been hurt many times before, so it’s like “no more” and am subconsciously on to protecting myself and it comes off as anger
Depends, the statement itself is not rly the definition of anger. In my case, my anger takes the form of need to physically break a person. Thing is im not big on physically assaulting others, so its all a mindgame, one that ends up in self harm in a very berserk state. You could say whats containing my anger is the sense of self preservation which ofc goes with fear of consequences.
Whenever I get angry, I cry and I hate it because no one tries to comfort me and so I just deal with it alone and in the end, I'm the only one who says sorry even though I wasn't the only one wrong. And they say I was disrespecting them cus they're older than me.
They do this often to me to the extent that i perfected how to have mental breakdown without anyone knowing about it. I even do it even in front of other people.
My short temper stems from things not going my way. Like if I can't get a shoe on, or spill something, or drop my keys, or even make a typo on my phone, etc, I have the urge to lose my shit. I have actually lost my cool before over things not going my way because I want things to be done in smooth sailing, but that often doesn't happen. I often scream, slam doors or even throw stuff in rage. My rage also pushes me to have huge meltdowns over the slightest trigger. It's hard to control my emotions when pissed.
@@thelivesofmany7013 I get very angry at people as well. If people cross me, I would get the urge to harm someone, but I don't act upon it because I can and will get arrested.
My classmates took advantage of my kindness and used my good nature against me from childhood to adolescence. Although I treated them kindly, they eventually started to ask too much of me. As the weeks went by students started coming to me for favors, and I felt compelled to comply. Eventually, it got to the point where I started to resent them and walk on eggshells around them.
Thank you so much for making a video about this, because I struggle with being ashamed of myself when I get angry. I don't let my anger take over, and turn me into a monster. But, when I feel angry, I still feel like it's wrong, because of what I've been taught by people around me. People say that anger is a sin, one of the seven deadly sins, and as a Christian, that really bothers me. I am trying to get it through my head that anger only becomes sinful when you let it control you, and you end up hurting others, as well as yourself. But, feeling angry shouldn't be considered a sin. It's an emotion. It's how you feel... and quite frankly, I'm so sick to death of being told my feelings are wrong. So... I'm really glad this video was made.
I learned this today from Ephesians 4:26 in the bible it says “Be angry, yet do not sin.” Do not let the sun set upon your anger. So what Paul said here is that you can get angry and thats okay, but don't let it control you because then Satan can take advantage of how you feel and then it can lead you to sin. BUT anger itself is not a sin. It is a human emotion that we all have. We just have to control it so it doesn't control us and make us do bad stuff. Some Tips for controlling anger I can recommend you: If you want pray to Jesus the living son of God about it. If you believe and receive him in your life he has promised that He Will Never Leave You Nor Forsake You. Exercise can also help you to control your anger by letting your emotions out by doing something creative, training at the gym or play a sport you like! I'm really sorry to hear that people told you that anger is a sin just because we feel it.... But I hope that Ephesians 4:26 explains the truth about this topic and it helps you out with your relationship with Jesus. (Hate on the other side is a different thing and if you feel hate for someone or something then that's not good, because you let the emotion of anger to evolve into what the devil wants us to do and that's to hate. Just wanted to make that clear. 😅)
Growing up, I was always told to control my emotions and "react properly". Forced to be mature even as a child. No matter how I try to control my emotions now, I still go back to those childlike tantrums or be a person that even I will be afraid of. I feel confuse inside whether it's pain, anger or resentment. I was not able to let go of those feelings back then. People see me as a calm person most of the time because I tend to keep it all inside, that is why when I get mad, they all have the same "wtf" reaction on their faces and I can't justify what I say and what I do because during those anger moments, I am finally being honest to myself (too honest). I laugh, cry and get mad easily. It is hard living like a bomb, ready to explode in one snap anytime. I do feel guilty for the people who met me when I was emotionally unstable that I couldn't control my anger. I said and did things that I truly regret. I should've expressed that anger towards people who actually deserves it.
Right For sure never lash out at anyone who hasn't done anything to you Just break objects instead And try to check the people who DO fc with you on the spot
I relate to this so much like fr 💯. I lashed out at some homies who literally were getting on that family level. I feel guilty for lashing out at them but a part of me realizes I lashed out at them because I felt safe enough to do so. If that makes sense? Like with family they see you at your good and the ugliness in you and I feel like the same goes for the people who didn't deserve it.
I kinda get ya. Ever since I was a kid I was also told by my mom to react calmly and not show too much emotion. According to my mom, if I let out I was sad or angry or bothered by something I was just gonna be a bother to everybody and just make everything worse, so I had to bottle everything in and not react almost. I feel like that's affected me today cause the smallest things can get me either so depressed I just wanna lock myself in my room alone for a while or so unbelievably angry that I wanna just tell at the top of my lungs and kick or punch something. I was never able to handle these emotions well growing up cause if I told my mom I wasn't feeling well I was either just trying to be the center of attention, a nuisance or just making a big deal out of nothing. Having to deal with these issues is hard and I don't feel like I can trust my family with them. I feel like going to a medical professional and talking about these things with someone I can trust outside my family might be best.
i think what separates me from everyone else is i’m angry but i don’t explode on people all the time. i just let it sit in my chest/stomach while overthinking about things that make me more mad or even sad. i’ve been doing this for so long & now i can’t even work without reaching a limit & wanting hurt someone or just lash out n break down. it’s gotten worse. & the one thing i hate the most is tht it’s like i’m scared to react out of anger whenever people do cross a boundary & i just let them annoy me or walk over me. it makes me feel less of a man.
I'm an introvert and I've social anxiety too aswell. Whenever someone asks me any question twice i easily get mad like "Are you deaf, don't you understand what i just said" my family is not the support one's who would listen to me and understand. My sibling Says I'm so aggresive that i can't even manage to control my anger towards others. I'm literally so done with my life ugh. i always feel so irritated don't know why.... specially when someone asks me personal, judgmental, silly questions which causes me angriness and headache.
Vanessas visual language is so on point and engaging to watch. Love her art style. Kinda would say anger is the instinctive fight response. And yeah a phobia is the fear/hatred of something. Very much go hand in hand
I have anger issues for a long periods of time, unfortunately I still have a difficult family members who would violate my personal boundaries by going into my room & that involves of touching, taking things away that does not belong to them. And plus this is the difficult situation that I had to face like pretty much every single day. As well even during my childhood.
Yeah, my Freind deals with this too & got upset with me and yelled choosing a pink slide for our project. It honestly makes me feel bad bc of things I've experienced in my life. I'm so sorry that these things happened to you, nobody should ever go through that
@@puffmello2674 Thank you and I do really appreciate that from you a lot. And it's really does mean a lot. I'm am sending a lot of hugs to you too my friend! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
That's also one of the reasons I gets angry I fricking hate when people touch my stuff and they'll be like "i don't know" when you ask them why something is missing or broken what f**king makes me more angry when I'm asking questions why my stuff is broken or missing and they ignore me
You’re not alone and after that i always blame myself bc i cant control what i say when i get angry i know many people hate me but i hate myself too bc my mouth so toxic when i get mad but what i say it’s not true , I didn’t mean it
Ok so there was this motherfucker at the arcade i was 6 at that moment when i had my money on me so i started to play the arcade game but the stupid little brat STOLE MY FRICKING MONEY FROM ME! i was SO MAD that i beat up that kid so hard he bleed out and died and from that moment i didin't know what i did to him but i thought he was sleeping for some reason but as i grow things start to get better and yeah.
I got angry and mad at the girl i love because i found it hard to trust her from previous relationships. She ended up backing off because i scared her and i honestly hate myself for it and i noticed her attitude towards me had changed. I want to tell her im sorry and how much i miss her but i feel it won't change her and it'll only make me more upset. Please whatever you do, don't act in anger or you'll ruin the one thing you care about most. We are still friends but it's just not the same and i miss her every fucking day. I wish i knew what to do....
Sorry to hear about that mate ❤️ chin up I’m sure you’ll find that perfect girl in the future that will love you as much as you love them. I hope this shorty message helps
What you need is transparency in a relationship, be 100% real about your issues and complaints. Putting up with something is fine, but you dont have to hide it until u burst. I hate this, can we change it? No? At least now you both are aware of it. And if u didnt mean something u said or did, absolutely never hesitate to explain xD. Not knowing what to do in a relationship is so bizzare to me, u rly need to be open about things if ur serious. My exes unreasonably high pitched voice at times made me wanna choke her so i told her and ofc when we were both conscious of it no way i was gonna actually do anything xD. Being open about my anger issues makes the problem less relevant, because joking about it is kinda relaxing.
That's weird, but for me, anger kept me alive whenever I was close to ending it all. Hate outwards burned brighter than hate inwards tbh. I'm actually thinking that exact moment I'll stop being angry and hateful, I'll just kms right away. And I've proven this theory to myself many times actually.
well, for me, i have years of repressed anger, but well, it already gone bad way, it's my fault honestly..... i think we need videos on how to manage our anger....
Idk how old you are man But I can promise you this: Women will never be the way you want them to be on the INSIDE They just too different My advice is focus on making money, staying healthy, and just have simple fun with them (No marriage, no gfs, no relationships) It's honestly the best you can make of it
I get angry easily, I know I shouldn't but I find it easier to make people listen to me that way. No one listens if you be nice and polite so in my mind the only way that people will take you seriously is if you yell. I often feel really bad for the more sensitive people who end up getting scared of me and if I try to go comfort them they dont seem comfortable with me being there so I leave. I am to young to be doing this and I cant figure out how to stop
It's them dude.... not you Take it from me Most people don't respect THEMSELVES So obviously they won't care about respecting anything else My advice is lower your expectations from others a LOT And avoid them as much as possible Once I did those two things my life got way smoother
A calm voice and heartwarming advice from the person running this channel who seems to understand what I've been feeling lately is absolutely beautiful. I've been so angry lately I couldn't even think about my own actions. Bless you, Psych2Go Education! 🥺🙏
felt , me 3 .... seeking help because no matter what i say or do , people do not hear me because they think im "overreacting" and then , its all my fault for feeling the emotions i feel........ its just wonderful@@jennydasuperstar1126
I have bad anger issues, I just cant take it anymore but I’m trying my best to get out of this. I’m practicing to calm down and relax, taking a deep breath before letting another word that I might regret later, I just always put that in mind so that I can remember. Its just better on that way when you just think of happy things and smile and just dont think too much of the situation that makes you feel angry, trust me, if you do that, it makes your brain think differently that you are not really angry. You could also just sing a song and play it off it will make you feel a lot better. I do this and I’m finding a way to control my anger issues so it will not get any worse. Dont let your emotions control you!
I cry and rage over the smallest things and today, my grandma cleaned my room and I was happy until I realized, everything was out of place and I felt uncomfortable I couldn’t find anything and I locked myself up in the bathroom and begun saying that I was useless disrespectful etc. this has happened before with way worse things and nothing changes no matter how hard I try to not get mad. My parents say I overreact and that I’m useless, nothing good you know. Obviously I mistreat myself and don’t feel confident ever or anything. I can relate to all these comments and I love my family but sometimes they aren’t the best. They expect a ton of me but they don’t try anything themselves so.. yeah
My family always asks me why I’m only easily angry at home and I always tell them that it’s because they know that triggers me and don’t change while I always try to adapt…….they still don’t understand and I still get mental breakdowns🙂🥲
I find myself in the middle of an extremely difficult negotiation. I just want to yell how the other parties are soooo wrong even though I know that will shoot back with a worsened situation. That's why I landed here ... in search of something, anything to calm me. Alone the soothing pace and voice tone is kind of a little relief. Have you anything about anger management? Greetings from Mexico.
If its sth i cant just str8 up explain on the spot, i hold it all in. When im alone i usually punch my palm like im killing something and i try to catch them properly so i dont damage my hand since im rly berserk at that moment xD. If im rly in need of intense brakes, i bite my forearm like a feral dog. Last one is very sub optimal, very fucked up after u calm down. Self punching is kind of satisfying though. But idk, my anger mostly consists of the desire to BREAK someone, literally smash them open, thats why i have these violent solutions. Probably should look into meditation tho. And maybe some sort of mental shift into a more confident approach to things. Things dont always go your way, even when you know better, idiots somehow end up on top for reasons. Expect all irrational conclusions and you will manage to keep your cool.
*_I start screetching and crying in tyrannical rage and pain of what they have done. I then proceed to break things that are easiest to break within 10 feet of me. I never forget to make them regret what they have done._*
in my case, i just… randomly get angry. it’s not always because of something i just randomly get triggered and randomly feel a burst of anger. idek how to deal with it but it almost destroyed my friendships and it’s destroying my relationship with my family
I get enticed by people who are rude to me. It’s like a drug. You know you shouldn’t do it, but you continue on anyway. It’s like a scab you keep picking at. It’s like a magnet that you can’t take off something. Anger… I follow these rude people because of my anger. And my craving for attention. I continue to say this and every time I say it, it feels like I should have not.
I recently ruined the best relationship I will probably ever have bc I didn’t know how to deal with my anger and emotions properly. To anyone seeing this, please don’t let that happen to you, don’t lose that person. It’s not worth it, ever. Please read this and if you’re having a hard time with your own anger. Know that it’s okay to be angry, you have that right, just talk about it, please. I’ve got appointments set with psychiatrists and therapists now but that won’t mend the shit I did out of sheer rage and anger. I can only prevent it from happening again at this point. Maybe I can help prevent anyone else from going that way if they just see this. Im genuinely crying while writing this and Idek remember the last time I did that. This person meant so much to me so please, please don’t make my mistakes. I don’t know how else to say it.
I frequently have arguments/disagreements with my dad, and he turns it into a “you’re so entitled,” or “you’re being rude,” or, “look how nice you have it here, feel free to move out.” I try my best to stay calm and explain my viewpoint, but he always escalates it and makes it seem like I’m just a terrible person and starts raising his voice. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells and can’t tell him what I really think without it turning into a lecture. I get so angry and have to leave the room, and end up having a private meltdown. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been in my room, crying about arguments.
@@corgireal1614 I’m sorry you’re dealing with that too! I have a job and I pay my bills, but it’s just so expensive around here, that I don’t think I could live on my own paycheck. I hope you can get your situation sorted though!
I can definitely understand that I saw that getting mad was me not being mature and that you should not get angry . this video was very helpful thank you
I kinda relate to this in every way, its something like I have a desire to hurt someone, sometimes I take it out on other people or myself or on objects
Aced it. My anger is an alarm that goes off when someone crosses my boundaries. I cannot repress my anger, it will seep through so easily. But then when i release it, it seems like i dont communicate it right or the other person is gaslighting me? I talk in terms on “i” or “me” or “i feel” but still. Idk honestly… help?
Thank you for this video! I definitely suffer from bad anger issues. I easily get angry or frustrated when I’m overwhelmed, I hear certain peoples voices, or told to do simple things like babysitting my little sister because my brain translates it into anger. I’m a middle child and everyday feel like my feelings are invisible to my family. It doesn’t help that I’m a teenager either so nobody really “understands” how we feel. It’s gonna be ok though💗
ANGER IS A GREAT MOTIVATOR YOU HAVE TO GET ANGRY. YOU HAVE TO GET MAD. YOU'VE GOT TO GET UP OFF YOUR SEATS, GO TO THE WINDOW AND YELL *"I'M AS MAD AS HELL AND I'M NOT GONNA TAKE THIS ANYMORE"*
i seriously have problems so i need people to tell me what i’m struggling with. and to not tell me i’m just being inpatient. i’m the type of person who will get very angry at the SMALLEST things. if you say something in the wrong tone, distract me, talk over me, talk to me when i’m doing my own shit, i’ll start yelling at you for as long as i can. i’ve been struggling with this since 4th grade. i was 9. i’m now 12. it’s genuinely impacted my life so much and i want it to stop. it’s not just that though, i also have seasonal depression, social anxiety, severe paranoia, and i get very overwhelmed VERY quickly. there can be too much sound and i’ll want to scream, there can be too much happening and i can go into a panic attack, there can just be people asking me a simple question and i’ll go into panic mode for some reason. i really need help. and i don’t know what to do. does anyone know what this could be..?
I'm the opposite of repressed anger, I express my anger "too much" in ways that I don't like and not always can control. When it comes to anger, I react instead of respond. This happens to me with people I care about a lot and are very close to me. My friends don't know me as an angry person, but my family and my boyfriend sure do and have to be patient with me. I was not an angry person in my childhood. I don't know why I changed into this and don't know what to do, I just want to understand where this pattern comes from.
I'm highly logical person and all my life I've suppressed my feelings simply because they didn't make any sense to me...... Or because I felt weakness in my feelings which I didn't like. But as an adult I realize how important the emotional health is. Don't ignore your emotions people and don't allow anyone to invalidate your feelings.
I always argue with my mom 😥 She didn't trust me, my attitude and decision. 😭 She said that she knows me since I was a child, that I'll grow up as a bad woman.
Whether she knows it or not she is actually condemning you to a life that she has no control over you having. That is toxic, and it benefits her from having you stressed out like this.
Hence why it is wise to be slow to anger and quick to listen. It is also incredibly important to settle disputes and reason with people you have upset as soon as humanly possible
Venting: I asked my roommate if his fling/this girl was living with us (there are 4 people on the lease). He said "No," and then a few days later and they were both still here. So I asked the girl and made sure he was in earshot, but she said "oh hahaha no girl," something else. I made sure to say to tell me because I was scared when I woke up and heard footsteps outside my door that I do not recognize. It has been even more days, so I am angry and I think I'll be asking for the girl/fling to leave because I have had it. I can hear them a lot which would've been fine if they had been honest, but they still have not told me. They could have said, "we'll discuss it," or "we're not sure," etc etc. So I believe I should put my foot down and make her leave for a day. I don't mind her coming back, but I am upset that I expressed my anxiety and still do not feel respected. I have come to hate how I react as after many days, I started feeling passive-aggressive and thought maybe they would get the hint, but they have not and I just feel shitty. Thanks for letting me vent. I hate myself and I hate it here. Have a good day.
I just wanna let it go, My anger comes from grief from my mama dying, Fake friends, Weird family and feeling lost in my life. I just wanna be free and find something to cure it.
I've complety lost myself by getting angry, I hate myself so much but no matter how freaking hard I try I can't control it, I act before think and my family is the biggest reason why I've dealt with this. Now I just feel like the "bad guy", very unstable and uneasy with my own self.
thank you so much for the video it is exactly how I feel when I get angry sometimes I throw things around because i don't know how else to express my anger
I'm working my therapist right now to work on my emotions because I'm not great at recognize emotions or feeling them in general. 😭😭😭 She insists we should work on boundaries as well. Thank you for sharing this type of content. I really love these type of videos, it helps me understand others and myself much better. ❤❤❤
My step mother had 2 other kids, and would always favor them over me, I was always in trouble, punished, made fun of, my biological mom was in jail and doing drugs instead of wanting to see me for visitation, and through becoming older I’d chase finding acceptance from any woman I could, then get cheated on by many of them…the constant cycle of never feeling adequate and good enough for someone, and as a man, crying and being emotional is looked down upon, or ridiculed, so I channeled it into anger, and I’m so scared of pushing those I love away because of my rage, and I don’t know how to truly love myself
The big difference between anger and fear in my experience has been that anger makes it difficult to lie and that you can't really lie *about* what makes you angry, but when you are scared you can lie and its very easy to do so.
So here's my thing This morning I got way too stressed because I had a lot to do before heading to work, that includes making breakfast, washing the dishes, clean my cats' sandboxes, and go to the grocery store to fix a situation with a product I bought But the younger cat was being way too annoying. When I was eating breakfast, he tried to get on top of the table through my chair, so I tried to get him loose and get down, but he insisted and held onto my hand scratching it. The second time he did it he held onto my pants and he hurt my leg. Then he headed into a corner in the house, somewhere he can't be because he's gonna leave hairs so I took him out of there. Next, when I was washing the dishes, he got on top of the kitchen, so I took him down of there, and as soon as he got on the floor, my older cat started attacking him and I tried to calm them down. My problem is that when the younger cat sneaked in the corner, the first thing I tried was slamming the furniture to scare him and get him to get out by himself. When he got up in the kitchen, I tried to splash him with water droplets from my hand, but as that didn't work, I just took him and yeeted him out of the kitchen, and when the older cat attacked him, I straight slammed the table to scare them while I was searching the water spray to calm them down, and I even screamed "WHERE TF IS THE WATER SPRAY" When things calmed down, without thinking I said "Great, now I'm like my father" and at that moment I realized what I said and that I'm inheriting his anger management issues I don't want to be like that, like him, I don't want to sort things out with violence and/or fear, what should I do?
Yesss even pets can be annoying as fuck, dogs are worse but when they are young, shitting and pissing all over the place because they're still in training but still it's like they do it on purpose. I have this dog, about 6 weeks old, comes in my room, shit or piss and just walks right back out... like who in the hell do you think you are you little SHIT?! It's like he sees only my room as a giant blue and white pad, those blue and white pads that they piss and shit on. Now aside from the rooms he would pretty much do his business anywhere else in the house, only my room and anywhere else in the house. Another annoying thing about young dogs is that as you're walking, they're like following you but they're Infront of you and literally all up close, like are you asking to get your damn feet/paws stepped on dumb ass? Fucking move!
And I actually thought about hurting your cat, like chopping it into pieces, sorry 😅 I never had a cat but that does sound annoying. The fact that animals just don't know that they're rude, nasty and disrespectful. Like seriously bruh... You're just going to walk up to my plate, sniffing it all up of course and then attempt to take some food like it's fucking yours? 🤨
Yeah, after I yell at my dogs or other people for the most banal thing in the world, the first thing that comes to my mind is those times when my mother hitted and yelled at me for having a B on school or being too loud, and it hurts as hell because I renember when I was a little kid and tell myself: "when I grow up, I'm not going to be like my mother, and I'm gonna raise my kids with love". I know I'm one year late, but please get therapy, I'm going to therapy and it has helped a lot with my anger issues. Also sorry for my bad english.
At work and when I was still in college and with people outside of my parents' house, I tend to be chill and I don't get irritated easily even when bad situations happen at work, I manage to absorb my anger and be patient. At home is where my problems start. I have childhood trauma caused by neglect both physically and emotionally from both parents and especially from my mother. My mother always start yelling even when I talk to her calmy and always shows on her face how annoyed she is of me talking to her, even for the silliest thing like asking where is the key to the basement, she would ignores me completely the first time asking then when I ask again she shakes her head and sighs and uses a bad voice tone yelling "I don't know go look for yourself uffff", so this makes my blood boils and I start yelling myself because of the mean way she treats me.
i gained anger issues to people who say “keep crying” when i hear this anger starts to absolutely boil and i start either slam my device or absolutely go in fits of rage it just tells me to cry as if im FORCED to cry and pressure overtakes me and anger pops up anything im forced to do causes me to boil up in anger and that certain line is basically telling me “cry more”
This evening I got annoyed at people. I am not happy I did. I am sorry to anyone that I treated unfairly, gossiped about/talked behind their backs, and for anything else.
I don’t know why, but I keep getting angry for no reason and when I do get angry, I feel like stomping and destroying one of my stuffed animals. Then I start stomping on one and even put it in the trash, but then I instantly regret it and quickly get it out of the trash and give it a good wash. I just wish I had the courage to tell my parents all this so I can get some help..
Anger and frustration takes on many forms for me... it could be because I'm internalizing something else that has nothing to do with the person I'm talking to, or I could just be feeling hurt in some way and I don't always have enough tolerance or patience for certain behaviors.... Sometimes it's hard to reel in my snippy attitude when I've already had a stressful day. but it's not as bad as it used to be when I was younger. I just can't help but wonder why so many people have very little respect for certain things, and then when I get told that I need to care less or expect less from others, that puts me in a position that makes me feel conflicted. Treat others the way you want to be treated; it's a fairly simple concept in my eyes.
I’ve held in my anger for years and years, sometimes if you gotta scream to the top of your lungs in your room by yourself or with friends that won’t negatively joke about it. But one thing that comes with emotional maturity is when you understand the reason you’re mad, you can begin to talk yourself out of it or de-escalate the situation inside your own brain. Like instead of thinking “this person just cut me off I’d rip their head off 😂” just be like “that pissed me off but they may have not even meant to do it” Youno type shit that’s just an example. Hope I helped someone 💪🏻 and y’all get in the gym and get healthy, if your body is healthy and works right your brain gets all the good stuff it needs like clean oxygen and blood 🤙🏻🤙🏻
Everytime I hear a small noise, or hear somebody arguing, or hear a loud noise I just get so angry and on-edge! Please everyone! I’m tryna get help for this issue! Prey for me.
My friends, they like grabbing my stuff and making me run. They know i despise running. They know how my stuff are so so valuable to me. Yet they kept teasing me. I said i didnt like it but they continued doing it. I kept warning them but they didnt stop. Theyve reached my limit yk. I was angry from the start, but i never expressed it bc i thought if i said or expressed i was angry in some way, i would be exaggerating. I felt angry at myself for not letting them know how i actually felt. Well this time, they took my phone and my book. Two very valuable things, objects. And this time i had it so i yelled but i immediately felt guilty for yelling at them. Ik this is a little thing and something that does not deserve my overreaction but still. They knew that this habit of theirs bothered me.
I thought about my angry reactions that I have usually and realised that it usually stems from my fear of being hurt. I was shocked that I didn't see it before - I just thought I was too sensitive
These videos are so helpful. My brother loves to make me angry for no reason and when I lash out at him he plays victim. Next time I will try to talk to him rationally, I don’t think it will work out but I will try.
i get angry real fast, its probably because I don't get along with my mother at such a young age of 13 over the past 2 months the feelings i felt the most were anger and anxiety but whatever who's gonna give a f### anyways
Alot of mothers do that They take out their negative on their kids Just TRY an stay cool till you old enough to get away from her Because tbh mothers rarely change
I’m commenting to rant since I’m not the one to tell my emotions in the real world. Lately I’ve been so angry at my family, my mom was getting on me about cleaning my room which I did but apparently it wasn’t good enough for her. And mind you I’m a private person and everything in my room goes a certain way and if it’s not like that I lose my shit. Anyways I came home from school the other day,walked into my room and it was spotless. My mom had took it upon herself to clean it. And most people probably think I’m crazy for getting mad at her cleaning my room. Buts it’s not even that I just feel violated. My room is my safe space no one can hurt me in there. So that started my anger. She also took it upon herself to move everything from where it was and was taking my things and putting them in her room. At this point I was losing my shit hysterically crying because I didn’t know where anything was and there was stuff missing. Out of rage I completely put everything back where it was and start slamming doors and all of the above. I’m still pissed about it and haven’t talked to her since. I also tend to me angry at her because she doesn’t know when to stop talking. I’m very insecure of my body and that never stops her from saying very insulting/rude things. But I guess I don’t really think about it anymore since it’s been happening for a while. I feel like what ever I do I get angry. And earlier today I got furious with my dad over the littlest thing and I don’t know why. It’s like I’m a different person completely around my family.
i wouldn’t say i get mad easily, just annoyed. when somebody mishears me or doesn’t understand something the first time i tell them, i get really irritated and its ruining all my relationships slowly but surely-
I'm so impatient and 80 percent of the time I want things to go my way of which I know that isn't right. Then the worst part of me that causes uncontrollable anger in me is trusting someone and the person betrays me. I keep thinking about it like forever and if I don't hurt you with my words or set boundaries obviously the wrong ways by trying to protect myself I lose my peace. And each time I react that way it hurts me back later on. Like regret doing that even while I'm still in that state of anger.
I don't really understand my emotions anymore. Social media has probably done something to me. Especially twitter and smash bros ultimate online since that's where I get mostly angry. Even in my daily lives, people make me mad and I have no one to talk to about. I dont trust therapists either.
My friends don’t really want to listen to me or even associate with me despite me being in their group, that is why when I became a walking fire of anger when I reached 8th grade. There were many annoying people sure but one stood out and made me wanna just lash out, and in the end I did… and at the back of my head, I never regretted that. Because he really did deserve it, it had just gotten even worse as he and another annoying person were sitting behind me. They had many fights and since I became more responsible, I wanted to tell the teachers, but letting out my true feelings felt more personal. And in the end I just forced myself to calm down, the teachers know that I was frustrated so when I told them I wanna go outside the classroom to calm down, they would. It just goes to show how anger can sometimes feel more personal and more like wanting to express how you want people to feel, but the result will be you being told to shut up and be silent…
Same. Anger issue is not the only one i loses friends. Just showing the slightest negative trait just any negative saying of mine they begin to feel distant and uncomfortable
i always get angry when something doesnt go my way. i saw a comment where someone said something like this and an example was not being able to put a shoe on and i completely relate to it. also when something isnt working or loading, i get so pissed off and it feels like my mouth is being held shut because i cant speak but it feels like im about to start screaming, shouting/ throwing shit. even when i was younger, if something was pissing me off id start crying and throw it on the floor. i hate it so much because people always call me spoilt/bratty because im not appreciating my life and im getting angry over small things, but i really just cant help it. sorry for the vent, if you read all of this i hope i didnt bore you
No, your not being boring. the fact that so many people here relate with each other makes me feel kinda happy as I am not the only one who feels this type of way. I also get easily angry and I can’t help it too.
@@ChaoticSiIence this comment section is really helping me tbh, it makes me feel less alone. since im just a teen, it can be awkward asking about topics such as mental health and seeking help but today i asked my parent if i could get some sort of anger management classes or something like that. im so grateful he said yes but idk if it will actually happen. the fact that my parent was so supporting made me so happy, but now im realising that other people might now be as fortunate and it is really heartbreaking. aha sorry that im just kinda venting to you lmao
@@_ReeseL I feel exactly the same bro. the comment section does help tbh. when your younger it’s very hard to talk about your mental health and some people say things like “your too young to have anger issues” or such. I’m very happy for you and you have good parents.
@@_ReeseL True, just because your young doesn’t mean you have any problems. This is one of the many reasons why many people bottle up their emotions, they feel like no one understands them or they’re too scared to show it.
Psych2Go Education channel gets some love. Do you find yourself getting angry easily? It may be angry at someone or events. Hopefully this video will bring some insight to you! Comment below to see if you share the same experience with others.
The video was really insightful to me thx for talking abt this :)
Yeet
So glad it’s getting love
Now I fell better
I just scream at people and I’m just 9
the sad thing is when you get mad at people, they always think you’re overreacting. this always makes me more mad
Especially when they hurt you and start playing the victim and recruiting others to hate you.
@@D93-w5q this.
Or when they blame it on something about you and act like it's what defines you
@@14DrunkRaccoons this just shows how bad of a person they are. i usually cut all contact after that.
Who you are you telling that’s shit blows meeeee
I'm like a hypocrite. Around my friends I'm this sweet and loving person but when I'm with my family it's always like hell breaking loose. I want to be the person everyone knows, especially around my parents. I get angry over the simplest things, which is a real problem for me
Same here, maybe I am comfortable with expressing myself with my family the way I am because they give me enough freedom but it also makes me angry at myself that I act like a jerk around my family because I let loose all of the pent up emotions that I actually want to convey to the one’s who are actually the reason behind my anger but end up reflecting on my parents who are not guilt of anything. I try to control my anger but can’t help but let loose and then regret it later and end up feeling depressed. I just wanted to share my perspective to let you know you’re not the only one who’s clueless about the problem you’re facing as I am as well
same here. The more comfortable i am with people the angrier i get
I’m the exact same way, I’m really sorry to hear that but just remember you’re not alone and you can do it💗
that's exactly my dad and me
It can happen from a lifetime of having to swallow your anger with them. It didn't click for me until this past month that the reason I'm quick to anger with my mother is because I've never been allowed to voice any issues and have them taken into consideration for change. My mother was extremely mean to me this past month because she has been in a bad mood over something I had nothing to do with, and I just took it and waited until she was away to break down since I knew confronting her about it wouldn't change anything. How could anything I do fix a problem I in no way created? I knew any attempt would be met with gaslighting and even more cruelty, and I don't want to hurt anymore than I already do. Now that she's in a better mood, I find myself getting frustrated extremely quickly because she got to release all of those negative feelings onto me, while now I have those feelings and can't give them back. I hope this helps. Much love and many prayers sent everyone's way 🙏 ❤️
“Anger is a fear of getting hurt.” Sooo true, I find myself being defensive internally because am fighting not to be hurt, because I have been hurt many times before, so it’s like “no more” and am subconsciously on to protecting myself and it comes off as anger
Depends, the statement itself is not rly the definition of anger. In my case, my anger takes the form of need to physically break a person. Thing is im not big on physically assaulting others, so its all a mindgame, one that ends up in self harm in a very berserk state. You could say whats containing my anger is the sense of self preservation which ofc goes with fear of consequences.
Anger is a fear of getting hurt, it's true
This is so true now I'm going to say to my teacher
4 me not
damn this hit
Your childhood links to how you treat your adulthood.
So true
Very true
So so so true
Goddam traumatic childhood. 🍺
Yah ! This happens with me now
Whenever I get angry, I cry and I hate it because no one tries to comfort me and so I just deal with it alone and in the end, I'm the only one who says sorry even though I wasn't the only one wrong. And they say I was disrespecting them cus they're older than me.
I really felt this 😃
How do you deal with it? ( I have the EXACT same problem.)
I'm literally angry rn 😤
If you already act alone why do you involve yourself with people problems? Its ok, people die alone in their own thoughts anyways.
They do this often to me to the extent that i perfected how to have mental breakdown without anyone knowing about it. I even do it even in front of other people.
My short temper stems from things not going my way. Like if I can't get a shoe on, or spill something, or drop my keys, or even make a typo on my phone, etc, I have the urge to lose my shit. I have actually lost my cool before over things not going my way because I want things to be done in smooth sailing, but that often doesn't happen. I often scream, slam doors or even throw stuff in rage. My rage also pushes me to have huge meltdowns over the slightest trigger. It's hard to control my emotions when pissed.
Same but i get angry at people not things. But its that easy too
@@thelivesofmany7013 I get very angry at people as well. If people cross me, I would get the urge to harm someone, but I don't act upon it because I can and will get arrested.
Exactly I have been going through the same thing too
Damn I hear you
It's just how this stupid world is
It's DESIGNED to fc with you
Same, I get angry at everything don’t matter if it’s a living being or an object…
My classmates took advantage of my kindness and used my good nature against me from childhood to adolescence. Although I treated them kindly, they eventually started to ask too much of me. As the weeks went by students started coming to me for favors, and I felt compelled to comply. Eventually, it got to the point where I started to resent them and walk on eggshells around them.
Focus on YOU not your "friends"
Trust me they ain't your friends, and they'll only hold you back if you TRY to stay friends with them
Should have just fucking swung at them
Same but my sister does it to me i find myself so angry at her for 'using' me
That happened to me in 3rd grade, I gave someone something of mine and everyone else wanted something from me
@@Petrichoredits1 Sometimes being generous gets to the point where people start expecting it as a default.
Thank you so much for making a video about this, because I struggle with being ashamed of myself when I get angry. I don't let my anger take over, and turn me into a monster. But, when I feel angry, I still feel like it's wrong, because of what I've been taught by people around me. People say that anger is a sin, one of the seven deadly sins, and as a Christian, that really bothers me. I am trying to get it through my head that anger only becomes sinful when you let it control you, and you end up hurting others, as well as yourself. But, feeling angry shouldn't be considered a sin. It's an emotion. It's how you feel... and quite frankly, I'm so sick to death of being told my feelings are wrong. So... I'm really glad this video was made.
I learned this today from Ephesians 4:26 in the bible it says “Be angry, yet do not sin.” Do not let the sun set upon your anger. So what Paul said here is that you can get angry and thats okay, but don't let it control you because then Satan can take advantage of how you feel and then it can lead you to sin. BUT anger itself is not a sin. It is a human emotion that we all have. We just have to control it so it doesn't control us and make us do bad stuff. Some Tips for controlling anger I can recommend you: If you want pray to Jesus the living son of God about it. If you believe and receive him in your life he has promised that He Will Never Leave You Nor Forsake You. Exercise can also help you to control your anger by letting your emotions out by doing something creative, training at the gym or play a sport you like! I'm really sorry to hear that people told you that anger is a sin just because we feel it.... But I hope that Ephesians 4:26 explains the truth about this topic and it helps you out with your relationship with Jesus.
(Hate on the other side is a different thing and if you feel hate for someone or something then that's not good, because you let the emotion of anger to evolve into what the devil wants us to do and that's to hate. Just wanted to make that clear. 😅)
Well if that guy hurts you u gotta hurt him so anger helps me a bit bc i become stronger when im angry
Like imagine someone STABBED you, the anger helps u to defend yourself bc he wants to kill you, anger makes you stronger am i right?
Growing up, I was always told to control my emotions and "react properly". Forced to be mature even as a child. No matter how I try to control my emotions now, I still go back to those childlike tantrums or be a person that even I will be afraid of. I feel confuse inside whether it's pain, anger or resentment. I was not able to let go of those feelings back then. People see me as a calm person most of the time because I tend to keep it all inside, that is why when I get mad, they all have the same "wtf" reaction on their faces and I can't justify what I say and what I do because during those anger moments, I am finally being honest to myself (too honest). I laugh, cry and get mad easily. It is hard living like a bomb, ready to explode in one snap anytime. I do feel guilty for the people who met me when I was emotionally unstable that I couldn't control my anger. I said and did things that I truly regret. I should've expressed that anger towards people who actually deserves it.
Right
For sure never lash out at anyone who hasn't done anything to you
Just break objects instead
And try to check the people who DO fc with you on the spot
I relate to this so much like fr 💯. I lashed out at some homies who literally were getting on that family level. I feel guilty for lashing out at them but a part of me realizes I lashed out at them because I felt safe enough to do so. If that makes sense? Like with family they see you at your good and the ugliness in you and I feel like the same goes for the people who didn't deserve it.
I kinda get ya. Ever since I was a kid I was also told by my mom to react calmly and not show too much emotion. According to my mom, if I let out I was sad or angry or bothered by something I was just gonna be a bother to everybody and just make everything worse, so I had to bottle everything in and not react almost. I feel like that's affected me today cause the smallest things can get me either so depressed I just wanna lock myself in my room alone for a while or so unbelievably angry that I wanna just tell at the top of my lungs and kick or punch something. I was never able to handle these emotions well growing up cause if I told my mom I wasn't feeling well I was either just trying to be the center of attention, a nuisance or just making a big deal out of nothing. Having to deal with these issues is hard and I don't feel like I can trust my family with them. I feel like going to a medical professional and talking about these things with someone I can trust outside my family might be best.
as somebody who feels repressed anger often, this really helps
i think what separates me from everyone else is i’m angry but i don’t explode on people all the time. i just let it sit in my chest/stomach while overthinking about things that make me more mad or even sad. i’ve been doing this for so long & now i can’t even work without reaching a limit & wanting hurt someone or just lash out n break down. it’s gotten worse. & the one thing i hate the most is tht it’s like i’m scared to react out of anger whenever people do cross a boundary & i just let them annoy me or walk over me. it makes me feel less of a man.
I'm an introvert and I've social anxiety too aswell. Whenever someone asks me any question twice i easily get mad like "Are you deaf, don't you understand what i just said" my family is not the support one's who would listen to me and understand. My sibling Says I'm so aggresive that i can't even manage to control my anger towards others. I'm literally so done with my life ugh.
i always feel so irritated don't know why.... specially when someone asks me personal, judgmental, silly questions which causes me angriness and headache.
Whew. Same thing here. Seems like every little thing annoys me and it won’t stop.
I relate to the thing about people askin me a question twice way too much i get so angry when i have to repeat myself
Maybe just don't have social anxiety then .... Skill issue
Vanessas visual language is so on point and engaging to watch. Love her art style. Kinda would say anger is the instinctive fight response. And yeah a phobia is the fear/hatred of something. Very much go hand in hand
I have anger issues for a long periods of time, unfortunately I still have a difficult family members who would violate my personal boundaries by going into my room & that involves of touching, taking things away that does not belong to them. And plus this is the difficult situation that I had to face like pretty much every single day. As well even during my childhood.
Yeah, my Freind deals with this too & got upset with me and yelled choosing a pink slide for our project. It honestly makes me feel bad bc of things I've experienced in my life. I'm so sorry that these things happened to you, nobody should ever go through that
@@puffmello2674 Thank you and I do really appreciate that from you a lot. And it's really does mean a lot. I'm am sending a lot of hugs to you too my friend! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
just choose not to be upset simple as that at least that's what my mom says
That's also one of the reasons I gets angry I fricking hate when people touch my stuff and they'll be like "i don't know" when you ask them why something is missing or broken what f**king makes me more angry when I'm asking questions why my stuff is broken or missing and they ignore me
@@cradica it's not that simple for other people like me
"Anger is one letter short for Danger" -My favorite Computer teacher
i've ruined my life and tore my family apart with my anger. my anger has become my suffering.
Why does anger make me feel guilty and then depressed?
Same here
It's ok to be angry as fc
Just make sure you don't hurt anyone or anything who doesn't deserve it
Same here
You’re not alone and after that i always blame myself bc i cant control what i say when i get angry i know many people hate me but i hate myself too bc my mouth so toxic when i get mad but what i say it’s not true , I didn’t mean it
Because after you cool down
You kinda realize what you did was dumb
Unless it's not
0:55 the way the main character embraced that little ball of anger made me burst into tears out of no where
yes I'm skrood up . . .
Anger is linked to hurt, fear and frustration
I repress hurt to "unpack" later but sometimes it slips out in stressful situations as anger or feeling overwhelmed
Ok so there was this motherfucker at the arcade i was 6 at that moment when i had my money on me so i started to play the arcade game but the stupid little brat STOLE MY FRICKING MONEY FROM ME! i was SO MAD that i beat up that kid so hard he bleed out and died and from that moment i didin't know what i did to him but i thought he was sleeping for some reason but as i grow things start to get better and yeah.
@@xx_royrumblerust_xx3891 O_O I'm terrified of six year old you. Glad you grew over time
This video doesn’t even scratch the surface of true rage and anger . I’ve done and said things that are so horrific , it’s cost me everything .
I got angry and mad at the girl i love because i found it hard to trust her from previous relationships. She ended up backing off because i scared her and i honestly hate myself for it and i noticed her attitude towards me had changed. I want to tell her im sorry and how much i miss her but i feel it won't change her and it'll only make me more upset. Please whatever you do, don't act in anger or you'll ruin the one thing you care about most. We are still friends but it's just not the same and i miss her every fucking day. I wish i knew what to do....
Sorry to hear about that mate ❤️ chin up I’m sure you’ll find that perfect girl in the future that will love you as much as you love them. I hope this shorty message helps
What you need is transparency in a relationship, be 100% real about your issues and complaints. Putting up with something is fine, but you dont have to hide it until u burst. I hate this, can we change it? No? At least now you both are aware of it. And if u didnt mean something u said or did, absolutely never hesitate to explain xD. Not knowing what to do in a relationship is so bizzare to me, u rly need to be open about things if ur serious. My exes unreasonably high pitched voice at times made me wanna choke her so i told her and ofc when we were both conscious of it no way i was gonna actually do anything xD. Being open about my anger issues makes the problem less relevant, because joking about it is kinda relaxing.
That's weird, but for me, anger kept me alive whenever I was close to ending it all. Hate outwards burned brighter than hate inwards tbh. I'm actually thinking that exact moment I'll stop being angry and hateful, I'll just kms right away. And I've proven this theory to myself many times actually.
well, for me, i have years of repressed anger, but well, it already gone bad way, it's my fault honestly.....
i think we need videos on how to manage our anger....
Idk how old you are man
But I can promise you this:
Women will never be the way you want them to be on the INSIDE
They just too different
My advice is focus on making money, staying healthy, and just have simple fun with them
(No marriage, no gfs, no relationships)
It's honestly the best you can make of it
I get angry easily, I know I shouldn't but I find it easier to make people listen to me that way. No one listens if you be nice and polite so in my mind the only way that people will take you seriously is if you yell. I often feel really bad for the more sensitive people who end up getting scared of me and if I try to go comfort them they dont seem comfortable with me being there so I leave.
I am to young to be doing this and I cant figure out how to stop
It's 50/50 you wouldn't be acting like that if others took you seriously
It's them dude.... not you
Take it from me
Most people don't respect THEMSELVES
So obviously they won't care about respecting anything else
My advice is lower your expectations from others a LOT
And avoid them as much as possible
Once I did those two things my life got way smoother
i feel the same as you
I get the same way
@@GORILLA_PIMP im heading the same direction. Once you stop caring. Life seems smoother. When you care too much full of emotions. It always bursts.
Anger seems to be linked to sadness for me.
A calm voice and heartwarming advice from the person running this channel who seems to understand what I've been feeling lately is absolutely beautiful. I've been so angry lately I couldn't even think about my own actions. Bless you, Psych2Go Education! 🥺🙏
I guess I suddenly have anger issues now :’)
me too
felt , me 3 .... seeking help because no matter what i say or do , people do not hear me because they think im "overreacting" and then , its all my fault for feeling the emotions i feel........ its just wonderful@@jennydasuperstar1126
Same 🙏
Present 😅
I have bad anger issues, I just cant take it anymore but I’m trying my best to get out of this. I’m practicing to calm down and relax, taking a deep breath before letting another word that I might regret later, I just always put that in mind so that I can remember. Its just better on that way when you just think of happy things and smile and just dont think too much of the situation that makes you feel angry, trust me, if you do that, it makes your brain think differently that you are not really angry. You could also just sing a song and play it off it will make you feel a lot better. I do this and I’m finding a way to control my anger issues so it will not get any worse. Dont let your emotions control you!
I cry and rage over the smallest things and today, my grandma cleaned my room and I was happy until I realized, everything was out of place and I felt uncomfortable I couldn’t find anything and I locked myself up in the bathroom and begun saying that I was useless disrespectful etc. this has happened before with way worse things and nothing changes no matter how hard I try to not get mad. My parents say I overreact and that I’m useless, nothing good you know. Obviously I mistreat myself and don’t feel confident ever or anything. I can relate to all these comments and I love my family but sometimes they aren’t the best. They expect a ton of me but they don’t try anything themselves so.. yeah
Anger is the reaction of the fear getting hurt
None of these ideas are new to me, but put together and delivered so personably, they are a good aid in being mindful of my feelings.
My family always asks me why I’m only easily angry at home and I always tell them that it’s because they know that triggers me and don’t change while I always try to adapt…….they still don’t understand and I still get mental breakdowns🙂🥲
I find myself in the middle of an extremely difficult negotiation. I just want to yell how the other parties are soooo wrong even though I know that will shoot back with a worsened situation. That's why I landed here ... in search of something, anything to calm me. Alone the soothing pace and voice tone is kind of a little relief. Have you anything about anger management? Greetings from Mexico.
If its sth i cant just str8 up explain on the spot, i hold it all in. When im alone i usually punch my palm like im killing something and i try to catch them properly so i dont damage my hand since im rly berserk at that moment xD. If im rly in need of intense brakes, i bite my forearm like a feral dog. Last one is very sub optimal, very fucked up after u calm down. Self punching is kind of satisfying though. But idk, my anger mostly consists of the desire to BREAK someone, literally smash them open, thats why i have these violent solutions. Probably should look into meditation tho. And maybe some sort of mental shift into a more confident approach to things. Things dont always go your way, even when you know better, idiots somehow end up on top for reasons. Expect all irrational conclusions and you will manage to keep your cool.
Because they too caught up in their egos and pride to make the "smart" play
They too stupid to win
This days I've been getting agitated quite easily and earlier I suddenly burst and idk wat to do anymore
That's why I never get furious. I just beat the heck out of everybody who bothers me.
*_I start screetching and crying in tyrannical rage and pain of what they have done. I then proceed to break things that are easiest to break within 10 feet of me. I never forget to make them regret what they have done._*
@@DANGERINTHEFALLS amen brother.
in my case, i just… randomly get angry. it’s not always because of something i just randomly get triggered and randomly feel a burst of anger. idek how to deal with it but it almost destroyed my friendships and it’s destroying my relationship with my family
My god, I just watched the beginning of the video and you got everything right
I get enticed by people who are rude to me. It’s like a drug. You know you shouldn’t do it, but you continue on anyway. It’s like a scab you keep picking at. It’s like a magnet that you can’t take off something.
Anger… I follow these rude people because of my anger. And my craving for attention.
I continue to say this and every time I say it, it feels like I should have not.
I recently ruined the best relationship I will probably ever have bc I didn’t know how to deal with my anger and emotions properly. To anyone seeing this, please don’t let that happen to you, don’t lose that person. It’s not worth it, ever. Please read this and if you’re having a hard time with your own anger. Know that it’s okay to be angry, you have that right, just talk about it, please. I’ve got appointments set with psychiatrists and therapists now but that won’t mend the shit I did out of sheer rage and anger. I can only prevent it from happening again at this point. Maybe I can help prevent anyone else from going that way if they just see this. Im genuinely crying while writing this and Idek remember the last time I did that. This person meant so much to me so please, please don’t make my mistakes. I don’t know how else to say it.
I frequently have arguments/disagreements with my dad, and he turns it into a “you’re so entitled,” or “you’re being rude,” or, “look how nice you have it here, feel free to move out.”
I try my best to stay calm and explain my viewpoint, but he always escalates it and makes it seem like I’m just a terrible person and starts raising his voice. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells and can’t tell him what I really think without it turning into a lecture.
I get so angry and have to leave the room, and end up having a private meltdown. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been in my room, crying about arguments.
I'm in the exact same situation and at this point I'm just hoping to snag a job and move out as soon as possible :/
@@corgireal1614 I’m sorry you’re dealing with that too! I have a job and I pay my bills, but it’s just so expensive around here, that I don’t think I could live on my own paycheck. I hope you can get your situation sorted though!
personally i wouldn’t have that ibr
2:16, when I ask for anything
😂😂😂😂 Brings back memories
True af
I get the belt buckle
My father and mother has been beating me since 2009 😎
(I was born in 2006)
@@ej-ej49 beating 😨 a 3yr old child ...
I can definitely understand that I saw that getting mad was me not being mature and that you should not get angry . this video was very helpful thank you
I kinda relate to this in every way, its something like I have a desire to hurt someone, sometimes I take it out on other people or myself or on objects
Aced it. My anger is an alarm that goes off when someone crosses my boundaries. I cannot repress my anger, it will seep through so easily. But then when i release it, it seems like i dont communicate it right or the other person is gaslighting me? I talk in terms on “i” or “me” or “i feel” but still. Idk honestly… help?
you are not alone , its like everyone is fucking with us . non stop .
Thank you for this video! I definitely suffer from bad anger issues. I easily get angry or frustrated when I’m overwhelmed, I hear certain peoples voices, or told to do simple things like babysitting my little sister because my brain translates it into anger. I’m a middle child and everyday feel like my feelings are invisible to my family. It doesn’t help that I’m a teenager either so nobody really “understands” how we feel. It’s gonna be ok though💗
ANGER IS A GREAT MOTIVATOR
YOU HAVE TO GET ANGRY. YOU HAVE TO GET MAD. YOU'VE GOT TO GET UP OFF YOUR SEATS, GO TO THE WINDOW AND YELL *"I'M AS MAD AS HELL AND I'M NOT GONNA TAKE THIS ANYMORE"*
i seriously have problems so i need people to tell me what i’m struggling with. and to not tell me i’m just being inpatient.
i’m the type of person who will get very angry at the SMALLEST things. if you say something in the wrong tone, distract me, talk over me, talk to me when i’m doing my own shit, i’ll start yelling at you for as long as i can. i’ve been struggling with this since 4th grade. i was 9. i’m now 12. it’s genuinely impacted my life so much and i want it to stop. it’s not just that though, i also have seasonal depression, social anxiety, severe paranoia, and i get very overwhelmed VERY quickly. there can be too much sound and i’ll want to scream, there can be too much happening and i can go into a panic attack, there can just be people asking me a simple question and i’ll go into panic mode for some reason. i really need help. and i don’t know what to do. does anyone know what this could be..?
I'm the opposite of repressed anger, I express my anger "too much" in ways that I don't like and not always can control. When it comes to anger, I react instead of respond. This happens to me with people I care about a lot and are very close to me. My friends don't know me as an angry person, but my family and my boyfriend sure do and have to be patient with me. I was not an angry person in my childhood. I don't know why I changed into this and don't know what to do, I just want to understand where this pattern comes from.
I'm in this situation, and I don't know what to do
Me right now.
Your voice is actually so calming, I calmed down like right after vid tysm
I'm highly logical person and all my life I've suppressed my feelings simply because they didn't make any sense to me...... Or because I felt weakness in my feelings which I didn't like. But as an adult I realize how important the emotional health is. Don't ignore your emotions people and don't allow anyone to invalidate your feelings.
I always argue with my mom 😥 She didn't trust me, my attitude and decision. 😭 She said that she knows me since I was a child, that I'll grow up as a bad woman.
Whether she knows it or not she is actually condemning you to a life that she has no control over you having. That is toxic, and it benefits her from having you stressed out like this.
Hence why it is wise to be slow to anger and quick to listen. It is also incredibly important to settle disputes and reason with people you have upset as soon as humanly possible
Venting:
I asked my roommate if his fling/this girl was living with us (there are 4 people on the lease). He said "No," and then a few days later and they were both still here. So I asked the girl and made sure he was in earshot, but she said "oh hahaha no girl," something else. I made sure to say to tell me because I was scared when I woke up and heard footsteps outside my door that I do not recognize.
It has been even more days, so I am angry and I think I'll be asking for the girl/fling to leave because I have had it. I can hear them a lot which would've been fine if they had been honest, but they still have not told me. They could have said, "we'll discuss it," or "we're not sure," etc etc. So I believe I should put my foot down and make her leave for a day. I don't mind her coming back, but I am upset that I expressed my anxiety and still do not feel respected.
I have come to hate how I react as after many days, I started feeling passive-aggressive and thought maybe they would get the hint, but they have not and I just feel shitty.
Thanks for letting me vent. I hate myself and I hate it here.
Have a good day.
I've started getting almost uncontrollably angry at everyone who annoys me even a little now. Its getting harder to keep inside
I can totally relate with this video.
Give me your anger
I lost my anger and i need it
@@astrobeans1807 Me when I'm actually happy:
I can feel you relate to this video Medea lol
Omg is that Medea from your throne in you profile picture?
I just wanna let it go, My anger comes from grief from my mama dying, Fake friends, Weird family and feeling lost in my life. I just wanna be free and find something to cure it.
I was told since childhood to “put the monster back in its cage”. So that’s how I’ve always dealt with it.
Its the little things that build up my anger and all in all i just try to not care and take the blame and try to calm down
Remember:
Anger is one word short for Danger...
I've complety lost myself by getting angry, I hate myself so much but no matter how freaking hard I try I can't control it, I act before think and my family is the biggest reason why I've dealt with this. Now I just feel like the "bad guy", very unstable and uneasy with my own self.
‘Backaches, migraines and fatigue…’ THIS
thank you so much for the video it is exactly how I feel when I get angry sometimes I throw things around because i don't know how else to express my anger
I'm working my therapist right now to work on my emotions because I'm not great at recognize emotions or feeling them in general. 😭😭😭 She insists we should work on boundaries as well. Thank you for sharing this type of content. I really love these type of videos, it helps me understand others and myself much better. ❤❤❤
My step mother had 2 other kids, and would always favor them over me, I was always in trouble, punished, made fun of, my biological mom was in jail and doing drugs instead of wanting to see me for visitation, and through becoming older I’d chase finding acceptance from any woman I could, then get cheated on by many of them…the constant cycle of never feeling adequate and good enough for someone, and as a man, crying and being emotional is looked down upon, or ridiculed, so I channeled it into anger, and I’m so scared of pushing those I love away because of my rage, and I don’t know how to truly love myself
"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate..... leads to suffering" -Grandmaster Yoda
Is that a saying?
"That's my secret! I'm always angry!"
The big difference between anger and fear in my experience has been that anger makes it difficult to lie and that you can't really lie *about* what makes you angry, but when you are scared you can lie and its very easy to do so.
HOLY CRAP 104 LIKES AND 0 DISLIKES!?!? THAT'S THE BEST I'VE EVER SEEN!!
Yes it still
I feel like someone purposely disliked after they read this comment
@@hiii1149 right 😆😆
@@aritradhabal cuz this is not the original channel. They just re-uploaded or stole it from the original
@@WARLOCGaming Yes this is from psych2go original channel probably idk
I need a voicemail video from you , ur voice is the only thing to calm me down all day
So here's my thing
This morning I got way too stressed because I had a lot to do before heading to work, that includes making breakfast, washing the dishes, clean my cats' sandboxes, and go to the grocery store to fix a situation with a product I bought
But the younger cat was being way too annoying. When I was eating breakfast, he tried to get on top of the table through my chair, so I tried to get him loose and get down, but he insisted and held onto my hand scratching it. The second time he did it he held onto my pants and he hurt my leg. Then he headed into a corner in the house, somewhere he can't be because he's gonna leave hairs so I took him out of there.
Next, when I was washing the dishes, he got on top of the kitchen, so I took him down of there, and as soon as he got on the floor, my older cat started attacking him and I tried to calm them down.
My problem is that when the younger cat sneaked in the corner, the first thing I tried was slamming the furniture to scare him and get him to get out by himself. When he got up in the kitchen, I tried to splash him with water droplets from my hand, but as that didn't work, I just took him and yeeted him out of the kitchen, and when the older cat attacked him, I straight slammed the table to scare them while I was searching the water spray to calm them down, and I even screamed "WHERE TF IS THE WATER SPRAY"
When things calmed down, without thinking I said "Great, now I'm like my father" and at that moment I realized what I said and that I'm inheriting his anger management issues
I don't want to be like that, like him, I don't want to sort things out with violence and/or fear, what should I do?
Yesss even pets can be annoying as fuck, dogs are worse but when they are young, shitting and pissing all over the place because they're still in training but still it's like they do it on purpose. I have this dog, about 6 weeks old, comes in my room, shit or piss and just walks right back out... like who in the hell do you think you are you little SHIT?! It's like he sees only my room as a giant blue and white pad, those blue and white pads that they piss and shit on. Now aside from the rooms he would pretty much do his business anywhere else in the house, only my room and anywhere else in the house. Another annoying thing about young dogs is that as you're walking, they're like following you but they're Infront of you and literally all up close, like are you asking to get your damn feet/paws stepped on dumb ass? Fucking move!
And I actually thought about hurting your cat, like chopping it into pieces, sorry 😅 I never had a cat but that does sound annoying. The fact that animals just don't know that they're rude, nasty and disrespectful. Like seriously bruh... You're just going to walk up to my plate, sniffing it all up of course and then attempt to take some food like it's fucking yours? 🤨
Yeah, after I yell at my dogs or other people for the most banal thing in the world, the first thing that comes to my mind is those times when my mother hitted and yelled at me for having a B on school or being too loud, and it hurts as hell because I renember when I was a little kid and tell myself: "when I grow up, I'm not going to be like my mother, and I'm gonna raise my kids with love".
I know I'm one year late, but please get therapy, I'm going to therapy and it has helped a lot with my anger issues.
Also sorry for my bad english.
At work and when I was still in college and with people outside of my parents' house, I tend to be chill and I don't get irritated easily even when bad situations happen at work, I manage to absorb my anger and be patient. At home is where my problems start. I have childhood trauma caused by neglect both physically and emotionally from both parents and especially from my mother. My mother always start yelling even when I talk to her calmy and always shows on her face how annoyed she is of me talking to her, even for the silliest thing like asking where is the key to the basement, she would ignores me completely the first time asking then when I ask again she shakes her head and sighs and uses a bad voice tone yelling "I don't know go look for yourself uffff", so this makes my blood boils and I start yelling myself because of the mean way she treats me.
im angry about so many things so often now i can barely even remember what its like to not be this angry all the time
i gained anger issues to people who say “keep crying” when i hear this anger starts to absolutely boil and i start either slam my device or absolutely go in fits of rage it just tells me to cry as if im FORCED to cry and pressure overtakes me and anger pops up anything im forced to do causes me to boil up in anger and that certain line is basically telling me “cry more”
This evening I got annoyed at people. I am not happy I did. I am sorry to anyone that I treated unfairly, gossiped about/talked behind their backs, and for anything else.
I don’t know why, but I keep getting angry for no reason and when I do get angry, I feel like stomping and destroying one of my stuffed animals. Then I start stomping on one and even put it in the trash, but then I instantly regret it and quickly get it out of the trash and give it a good wash. I just wish I had the courage to tell my parents all this so I can get some help..
@I CAN'T STOP MEEEEE AAAAA yep I have severe anxiety
The shoe throwing tho!!! LMFAOOOOOO 😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭
IKRRR 😭😭😂😂
Anger and frustration takes on many forms for me... it could be because I'm internalizing something else that has nothing to do with the person I'm talking to, or I could just be feeling hurt in some way and I don't always have enough tolerance or patience for certain behaviors.... Sometimes it's hard to reel in my snippy attitude when I've already had a stressful day. but it's not as bad as it used to be when I was younger. I just can't help but wonder why so many people have very little respect for certain things, and then when I get told that I need to care less or expect less from others, that puts me in a position that makes me feel conflicted. Treat others the way you want to be treated; it's a fairly simple concept in my eyes.
I’ve held in my anger for years and years, sometimes if you gotta scream to the top of your lungs in your room by yourself or with friends that won’t negatively joke about it. But one thing that comes with emotional maturity is when you understand the reason you’re mad, you can begin to talk yourself out of it or de-escalate the situation inside your own brain. Like instead of thinking “this person just cut me off I’d rip their head off 😂” just be like “that pissed me off but they may have not even meant to do it” Youno type shit that’s just an example. Hope I helped someone 💪🏻 and y’all get in the gym and get healthy, if your body is healthy and works right your brain gets all the good stuff it needs like clean oxygen and blood 🤙🏻🤙🏻
Well, there’s people who get angry frequently, especially with sociopaths.
Everytime I hear a small noise, or hear somebody arguing, or hear a loud noise I just get so angry and on-edge! Please everyone! I’m tryna get help for this issue! Prey for me.
Because I never get what I am wanting. and when I get angry I cry.
My friends, they like grabbing my stuff and making me run. They know i despise running. They know how my stuff are so so valuable to me. Yet they kept teasing me. I said i didnt like it but they continued doing it. I kept warning them but they didnt stop. Theyve reached my limit yk. I was angry from the start, but i never expressed it bc i thought if i said or expressed i was angry in some way, i would be exaggerating. I felt angry at myself for not letting them know how i actually felt. Well this time, they took my phone and my book. Two very valuable things, objects. And this time i had it so i yelled but i immediately felt guilty for yelling at them. Ik this is a little thing and something that does not deserve my overreaction but still. They knew that this habit of theirs bothered me.
I hope they’ve stopped doing that
I thought about my angry reactions that I have usually and realised that it usually stems from my fear of being hurt. I was shocked that I didn't see it before - I just thought I was too sensitive
I get angry so quickly, I don't why
Sometimes I agrue with my co-workers very intensively 😓
I get angry too 😭 I know how you feel 😔
These videos are so helpful. My brother loves to make me angry for no reason and when I lash out at him he plays victim. Next time I will try to talk to him rationally, I don’t think it will work out but I will try.
i get angry real fast, its probably because I don't get along with my mother at such a young age of 13
over the past 2 months the feelings i felt the most were anger and anxiety but whatever who's gonna give a f### anyways
Alot of mothers do that
They take out their negative on their kids
Just TRY an stay cool till you old enough to get away from her
Because tbh mothers rarely change
Same 😔
I’m 13 too and I also get angry really fast, hope u get through ur problems with ur mom ❤️
Brilliant video! Yes, anger is linked to fear. But we can learn to deal with it in a much healthier way ♥️
I’m commenting to rant since I’m not the one to tell my emotions in the real world. Lately I’ve been so angry at my family, my mom was getting on me about cleaning my room which I did but apparently it wasn’t good enough for her. And mind you I’m a private person and everything in my room goes a certain way and if it’s not like that I lose my shit. Anyways I came home from school the other day,walked into my room and it was spotless. My mom had took it upon herself to clean it. And most people probably think I’m crazy for getting mad at her cleaning my room. Buts it’s not even that I just feel violated. My room is my safe space no one can hurt me in there. So that started my anger. She also took it upon herself to move everything from where it was and was taking my things and putting them in her room. At this point I was losing my shit hysterically crying because I didn’t know where anything was and there was stuff missing. Out of rage I completely put everything back where it was and start slamming doors and all of the above. I’m still pissed about it and haven’t talked to her since. I also tend to me angry at her because she doesn’t know when to stop talking. I’m very insecure of my body and that never stops her from saying very insulting/rude things. But I guess I don’t really think about it anymore since it’s been happening for a while. I feel like what ever I do I get angry. And earlier today I got furious with my dad over the littlest thing and I don’t know why. It’s like I’m a different person completely around my family.
i wouldn’t say i get mad easily, just annoyed. when somebody mishears me or doesn’t understand something the first time i tell them, i get really irritated and its ruining all my relationships slowly but surely-
i keep bottling it until i cant control it and will just burst IN front of anything that is IN front of me
Me too
I'm so impatient and 80 percent of the time I want things to go my way of which I know that isn't right. Then the worst part of me that causes uncontrollable anger in me is trusting someone and the person betrays me. I keep thinking about it like forever and if I don't hurt you with my words or set boundaries obviously the wrong ways by trying to protect myself I lose my peace. And each time I react that way it hurts me back later on. Like regret doing that even while I'm still in that state of anger.
I don't really understand my emotions anymore. Social media has probably done something to me. Especially twitter and smash bros ultimate online since that's where I get mostly angry.
Even in my daily lives, people make me mad and I have no one to talk to about. I dont trust therapists either.
This is so helpful, thank you! I was angry. After watching this I thought about why I was angry and I feel better now: )
My friends don’t really want to listen to me or even associate with me despite me being in their group, that is why when I became a walking fire of anger when I reached 8th grade. There were many annoying people sure but one stood out and made me wanna just lash out, and in the end I did… and at the back of my head, I never regretted that. Because he really did deserve it, it had just gotten even worse as he and another annoying person were sitting behind me. They had many fights and since I became more responsible, I wanted to tell the teachers, but letting out my true feelings felt more personal. And in the end I just forced myself to calm down, the teachers know that I was frustrated so when I told them I wanna go outside the classroom to calm down, they would. It just goes to show how anger can sometimes feel more personal and more like wanting to express how you want people to feel, but the result will be you being told to shut up and be silent…
Am I the only one who gets mad and loses friends
I feel you mate
: )
@@yuinasatoru6527 thx 😊
Same. Anger issue is not the only one i loses friends. Just showing the slightest negative trait just any negative saying of mine they begin to feel distant and uncomfortable
Yes, but it’s not only anger for me. I’m also bitter and I hate it
I got angry and threw my phone, it cracked the screen. Now I'm sad. And trying to figure out why. So I'm here.
this made me realize so much about my self
I dont watch ur channel in front of my parents because they say that u have no problem but i cant say that they're toxic
My level goes down sometimes and I feel like I’m the low level person
i always get angry when something doesnt go my way. i saw a comment where someone said something like this and an example was not being able to put a shoe on and i completely relate to it. also when something isnt working or loading, i get so pissed off and it feels like my mouth is being held shut because i cant speak but it feels like im about to start screaming, shouting/ throwing shit. even when i was younger, if something was pissing me off id start crying and throw it on the floor. i hate it so much because people always call me spoilt/bratty because im not appreciating my life and im getting angry over small things, but i really just cant help it. sorry for the vent, if you read all of this i hope i didnt bore you
No, your not being boring. the fact that so many people here relate with each other makes me feel kinda happy as I am not the only one who feels this type of way. I also get easily angry and I can’t help it too.
@@ChaoticSiIence this comment section is really helping me tbh, it makes me feel less alone. since im just a teen, it can be awkward asking about topics such as mental health and seeking help but today i asked my parent if i could get some sort of anger management classes or something like that. im so grateful he said yes but idk if it will actually happen. the fact that my parent was so supporting made me so happy, but now im realising that other people might now be as fortunate and it is really heartbreaking. aha sorry that im just kinda venting to you lmao
@@_ReeseL I feel exactly the same bro. the comment section does help tbh. when your younger it’s very hard to talk about your mental health and some people say things like “your too young to have anger issues” or such. I’m very happy for you and you have good parents.
@@ChaoticSiIence the "youre too young to ()" hits hard. in the eyes of many people, im too young to have the problems that i do
@@_ReeseL True, just because your young doesn’t mean you have any problems. This is one of the many reasons why many people bottle up their emotions, they feel like no one understands them or they’re too scared to show it.