" I know that's not a normal reaction " ITS COMPLETELY NORMAL ERIN. any reaction to pregnancy or lack thereof is NORMAL. Society needs to normalize women being ok or at peace with not wanting to be pregnant, whatever the reason is.
Yessss🙌🙌🙌🙌 I had to have a hysterectomy at 25 because of Endometriosis, and for a while I felt exactly how Erin did, I felt a huge weight lifted. Now that I've been in a healthy, loving relationship for 6 years, I'd love to have a baby with him so I've gone into a different phase. But for a while, I felt so relieved
@Tiffany Robinson to be totally honest, it's tough. I would love to be able to have a child with my partner, but the main thing I try to focus on is the fact that I wouldn't have been able to carry a pregnancy to term because of Endometriosis and the damage it caused all my reproductive organs. I was only ever able to get pregnant once, and I wasn't even aware I was pregnant when I miscarried and had to have a D&C because my fallopian tubes were blocked. So, I try to remind myself that even if I had the organs to have children, my body wouldn't have been able to do that anyway. My partner actually doesn't want to have kids with his genes anyway, so if we ever become able to adopt, we definitely would. I'm not sure we will ever be there because of all my medical problems, I'd never bring a child into a situation that isn't 100% healthy, supportive, and the best option for that child. I'd love to be able to adopt someday, there's so many kids in the system it breaks my heart. I wish I had some advice for you, it's a really hard thing to go through and live with, but id say to do whatever is best for you and your health. Sending you love❤️❤️
@@AKbaby89 Yes, I too have endometriosis and the symptoms are becoming unbearable so I know a hysterectomy is looking like the option for me. And a bunch insecurities and questions are running through my mind now. Like wil find someone that'll be ok with not having kids? I know these men exist but I just feel incomplete as a woman
@Tiffany Robinson well just so you're aware, a hysterectomy really doesn't impact Endometriosis much. I've had several surgeries since my hysterectomy, it really only stops me from bleeding, but my body still goes through the hormone cycle since I have one ovary left. I thought I'd be pain free after the hysterectomy, but that doesn't seem to be the case very often. ❤️❤️
I’m so glad you’re in a good place Erin. People place so much importance on pregnancy. It doesn’t matter how your child comes into this world, what matters is the work, time, and love that comes with being a parent. While pregnancy can be beautiful it pales in comparison to holding your baby and watching them grow. I wish you and your husband joy and happiness on your journey!
After a traumatic fertility journey, my husband and I weren’t able to have a biological child. It wasn’t until we adopted our son that we were able to look back and see the bigger plan. Life worked out just the way it was suppose to.
Kylee, same here! The day he was born and I held him for the first time, I knew exactly why all the other things we had tried hadn’t worked. We were meant to be his parents!
My mom was diagnosed with endometriosis right after she got married and lost the ability to have biological children. She was devastated at the time. Seven years later she adopted me and a few years later my brother. Looking back she feels it was the biggest blessing because she was meant to be our mom. Without having to go through that she would have never met us. I feel the same way...No one else was supposed to be my mom.❤ God has a plan and your hearts desire in mind. It will absolutely unfold.
Thank you for sharing this Erin! I think you have a huge support system of followers and friends who have watched your entire journey, and it's a very mature decision to be able to accept this. We are here for you, and we love you !
I'm so frustrated that surrogacy isn't at least partially covered when it's proven it is unsafe for you to carry. I had a horrible post partum hemorrhage and nearly died. I wanted more children but I couldn't afford the surrogate. We are exploring adoption now. I wish you many blessings in this journey.
There's very little consideration to the long-term health risks for surrogates, and gestating a human is not the same as say, giving up a kidney. Adding in insurance policies sounds like something right out of the Handmaid's Tale.
If you're a woman you are already paying more insurance costs because you have the possibility to get pregnant. There is absolutely zero reason that that cost can't cover surrogate pregnancies. It might be a chance and it's a choice a lot of women don't make but they sure as heck are being charged for it anyway. I guess non of you have heard of a pink tax. Also, handmaid's tale was a forced situation. There are plenty of women that volunteer to carry other women's babies all of the time. Live in reality people not the fictional dystopias you're watching on television. Consent is a real concept that absolutely applies in this scenario.
Erin you don’t have to justify to anyone this choice. Your health matters the most and that’s it. We often talk about the baby’s health but the moms health matters so much too!
Girl you have worked sooooo hard in the last 2 years are you serious??? Getting out of bed is work. And you have gone above and beyond that. You kick ass, don’t discredit it!!!
Prayers to you and your hubby hun! I found out a few years ago when I miscarried that I won’t be able to have a baby either! I love your positivity! God has a plan🙏💕 When you guys do get your baby, no matter how or when, they are going to be absolutely loved and all of this, hopefully will bring even more uplifting vibes on your entire journey!💕
What helps through tough times I say… things are happening for me.. not to me. The universe isn’t punishing us. I love you, you’re an inspiration to so many others. And I’ve said this before but you’re wonder woman.
I’m going through another rough time, breakup and failing my medical school entrance exam. I think the universe said “Ariella focus on school, now is the time, boys will come later”
I truly appreciate your honesty on all areas of this exhausting journey you’ve been on the last year. I had a similar experience & had to make the decision to stop the fertility process & have a hysterectomy for MY future health. Now a decade later I can unequivocally say that it was the right thing. I fully understand the relief of not worrying anymore about getting pregnant & all things attached. It is physically & emotionally exhausting. Owning that so soon is HUGE! I still have no doubt you will be a mama & will be an EXCEPTIONAL MAMA at that! My sincere condolences to the losses you’ve endured & my prayers for a HEALTHY & JOYFUL future! 🤍🙏🏻😘
Being pregnant is definitely a different experience for everybody but I totally agree with you, you don’t need it in order to feel attached to your baby, you don’t need it to breastfeed, you don’t need it to feel unconditional love for a new human being, you’ll be a wonderful mom no matter what way you decide to go, good luck 💕
Just, leaving this cause I learned about it recently, and I thought it was really cool, adoptive parents can still breastfeed! Whether through induced lactation, or by using a supplemental feeding device, like a breastfeeding person whose baby needed more milk, or had an inadequate supply might use!
Whatever route you go is going to be great. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about your choices to be a parent or not or how you get there. You're so strong! Keep being your positive awesome self
It makes my heart happy to see you at peace. Even if it isn't necessarily the end game you were expecting, I'm glad you have a solid answer and can get hopefully get some rest (physical AND mental!). Much love to you guys!
You’re a true inspiration, Erin. I have felt like such a disappointment and so alone in my journey of getting pregnant for so long, and that I was the only person going through this. Knowing that you and other women are going through the same thing makes me feel more at peace. You are so strong and beautiful for sharing your story and journey🤍✨ thank you for this- You have no idea how much I needed this.
Erin, no matter how your child makes it’s way into your arms, they will be SO loved because of how hard you worked to meet them. You will be a great Mom, whether that is through surrogacy, adoption, anything. I recently had my first child and while he is my world and everything I went through was worth it for him, pregnancy and labor were horrible. I was sick all the time, in pain, had a high risk pregnancy, was a human pin cushion (about 30+ blood tests in a month and 2 collapsed veins), and had a preeclamptic attack post labor that was painful and terrifying. If I had the means to have a surrogate carry our 2nd future child, I would consider it. Surrogacy isnt a dirty word and should be talked about more. You have been through a LOT of trauma and if a surrogate will prevent you from experiencing more trauma, it is WORTH IT. Best of luck on your journey and thank you!
It’s wonderful to hear how well you’re doing with this. So many props for your strength girl! I actually know someone who used a surrogate. She tried IVF for quite some time as well and I believe she and her husband posted a video talking about it as well. Today she has a healthy baby boy - a truly awesome story. I pray whatever you guys want works out for y’all!
I have PCOS and with an injury when my fiance was a child we weren't supposed to get pregnant. I checked my temp, did all the things for four years and when we finally gave up and made peace with it a few weeks later I found out I was 16 weeks pregnant. If you wish to be a momma however it happens you will be an amazing momma❤️
I'm glad to hear you have some answers now. I know that sometimes it's harder not knowing medical issues than having answers and finding solutions to those medical issues. I hope you guys have fun with the new renovations and that time together❤
Your journey is beautiful and absolutely YOUR'S! My most beautiful journey has been with my children, not with my pregnancies. Seeing your baby smile, your toddler learn how to count, your ten year old hit that ball across the field.... those are the things that make life amazing. You got this! Can't wait to hear about your journey.
It’s huge that you’re sharing this and the nuance of it too! Medical trauma is VERY real and VERY valid. And I really appreciated learning about how false the stigma around surrogacy is. I hope in the future that stigma gets reduced, bc it truly is a part of Ableism. Proud of you for taking care of yourself and your vulnerability!
As someone else who went through something similar, I feel you on a very base level. I still have moments of “what if” but I remember that I could lose my life if I got pregnant. And I like my life. So much love to you Erin and your husband.
Erin, I have never seen someone as strong as you are. You have been through SO much during the past few years, I have followed all of your journey and I am SO proud of you, it is normal to feel sad because you had a specific picture in your head and hoped that it would come true, but to EVERY problem/issue, there is a solution and I am SO glad to see you come in terms with it and accept it how it is. I kept smiling and laughing at your little funny comments while watching the video! You do what is BEST for you, this is for sure a good thing, I don't personally see it as a sad or bad thing, you will eventually come up with another solution, take your time, you look STUNNING AND BEAUTIFUL as always and enjoy life as you are doing right now, I am sending tons of positive vibes and love to you and Matt and the cute doggie! Love you Erin! ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
I’m honestly so thankful you’re in a happy place!! You’re one of the people I think about regularly & seeing you in so much pain and heartache was so sad!! Thank you for sharing your story & I think surrogacy, if you feel happy & it feels right for you and Matt then why shouldn’t you! Adoption is a good option too!! You’re truly incredible & I know you’ve helped so many people going through trauma & fertility issues! So thank you x
i know what you mean when you say this is a blessing in disguise. my mom died last year and it motivated me to start working on becoming independent rather than relying on everyone around me
When I found out I couldn’t have a baby, I felt super at peace. I’ve never heard anyone describe it this way, but I felt that as well. People didn’t understand so I didn’t talk about it. When I looked back on my life, I realized it may have been the plan all along. I feel like I can be a great teacher and I have resources to help family and friends due to not spending money on children. I considered a surrogate but it just didn’t feel right to us. May be right for you.
I am so glad you are able to relax and be free from the burden to your thoughts and your body not doing what you want it to.. I’ve had a uterine rupture after my last child and it was a long painful journey to heal
Came to this video expecting to cry, now I’m sitting here so proud of how positive you are about all of this! As someone who didn’t have the blissful pregnancy or birth I would for sure say it doesn’t matter how your little person gets to you, all that matters is how much that little person will be loved! 💕
So I was born without a womb and I can not get pregnant like it’s not ever going to happen and it’s taken me a while to get to a happy place about that. Thank you for opening up about this! Love you Erin!
@@MK67934 it is! But they are out of our price range. At this point we have come to terms with it and are happy with not being parents! Thank you though!
Honestly. This is the best thing for you. Some people don't care about the risks. I'm glad you're being logical about the situation. Sometimes it REALLY isn't worth it if it means it's gonna cost you your life.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! I’m so glad to hear that you’re in a good place. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. It really helps to break down the stigma
I would recommend the podcast Infertile AF they have a ton of stories of women walking through their fertility journies and there has been some that talk about their journey with surrogacy. So glad to see you happy and I can imagine how this can be hard but also a weight lifted off of you.
I am so glad you are in a good place with your journey! There should never be any shame over how you be come a parent. The journey is beautiful any way you choose or it gets chosen for you at times.
I’m happy you’re in a good place. Your story really opened up the gates to discuss this topic and the struggles women go through and I’m sending you, Matt, and Benji so much love and light.
Hi Erin! I’ve been following you for many years and it’s so nice to hear you be in a positive place. I am just starting my journey with infertility and you have been such a role model. My cousin works with Carrying Hope Surrogacy asked in NC but they work with families literally world wide. Their website has a lot of helpful information and the ladies on their team are truly one of a kind. Praying that you receive a sign of what your families best choice will be and you continue to have many positive blessings!
I'm so glad you're doing ok right now. It's hard. I was in a similar situation, though not in a relationship. In my case, they were considering hysterectomy. I told them I'd figure it out later and I did. My husband had a son from a previous marriage but I'm adopting him and love him like my own. Every journey to becoming a mom is valid and different. This is just part of yours. Good luck with surrogacy!
As long as you are happy and safe. That is what is important. So happy that your happy with where you are. It has been hard on you. I pray all good things for you moving forward. 💕
I'm in the same boat. My last try was about a year ago and ended up not working around June. I actually been better since we decided that it wasn't going to work for me. We're I live surrogacy is illegal unless I use someone on my own family. That isn't an option for me either. We may, in the future, consider adoption but is not in our plans for now. We are still healing from the multiple losses we had. I wish you peace to endure this moment. I wish love and understanding. I wish you strength most of all.
It’s so crazy to me that you have been through so much and yet still been putting out so much content. I really admire how open you have been through everything and intensely brave to show your pain throughout. ♥️♥️♥️
I’m so glad you’re sharing everything about your journey ! And a safe pregnancy is always the better choice ! We wouldn’t want to put you and baby at risk 🥺 And I’m so glad to hear that the baby journey isn’t over ! I do see a baby in your future even if you don’t carry the baby, it will still be yours 🥲❤️
Hey Erin We are here for you and Matt what ever your life path. I follow you for good bad and sad and still want the best for you Girl your glory is o we the horizon so keep yo head up🥰🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
You’re such a strong person! I’m glad that you’re able to enter this mindset! One of the best things you said in this video was “you don’t know what you don’t know” and you could absolutely be saving your life by making this choice. I appreciate you being so vulnerable because society is so weird because pregnancy is so glamorized but most people experience the not so glamorous aspects and don’t discuss them! I follow some creators that are very straightforward with how their pregnancy experiences have been & I hope more people are compelled to do the same! Thank you for sharing with us 🤍
Aw you're such a beautiful person and I hope it works out for the best. One of my dear friends has been a womb mom not once but twice for other mommas. She's one of those who had easy pregnancies herself and she is truly my hero for being so selfless.
I am so sorry that you’ve gone through all of that pain and struggle. I am so glad that you seem to be in a good place about it right now. Sending you and Matt (and Benji) lots of love ❤️
Thanks for sharing love. God has got you in the palm of his hands. The peace you’re feeling is straight from God. How great is that. Sending love to you , Matt and Benji. Xo
Thank you so much for sharing your journey! I also struggle with fertility and miscarriages and I am so glad to see other people being open about their journey. It helps with feeling less alone.
Thank you for sharing all this. I have been trying to get pregnant for about 2 years and will start my fertility testing journey on my next cycle. I’m very nervous about what news these test will bring but watching your journey through it all has given me a lot of hope and peace that no matter what, there is still joy and happiness and family in the future no matter how that comes to be. I am truly grateful to you and can’t wait to follow the rest of your journey.
You're absolutely right that while pregnancy is beautiful and worth what you get, it is not a thing to necessarily regret missing (27 weeks into pregnancy 2, so I may be biased against the experience currently). I wish you all the good things.
My heart goes out to you and I know you’ll make the best of whatever situation happens. Life looks different for everyone and even paths we didn’t intend to go down lead you somewhere beautiful.
Surrogacy is a blessing given to those that might need to pivot and find another way to grow their families. All the very best with whatever path you and your wonderful husband choose 💫❤️🍀🍀🍀
I'm a little heartbroken for this obstacle, but super happy that you are making it work for you. You are loved and awesome and amazing. Never give up on your dreams, and thank you for being so honest and open and genuine with us here.
I'm so glad you have found peace. Having a child is such a unique experience, and everyone's journey is different. While I love my daughter with all my heart, being pregnant is not an experience I have any desire to repeat. You're so right that in the end, what you cherish is the time you spend with the people you love most. Looking forward to watching your story unfold❤
Erin, I’m so happy you’re in a good place! I’ve been following you on TH-cam and Instagram after seeing you in Clever videos years ago. I’ve always loved your vulnerability in your content. Although I have yet to try to conceive a child or really even begin to have that conversation with my partner, I’ve appreciated your honestly and willingness to share throughout your journey. It’s made me so much more aware of what my friends who are having kids or trying to have kids are going through. And I know content like this is been so so helpful to those going through their own fertility journey. I hope wherever you go from here has a positive outcome 🧡
My cousin, who had fertility problems herself, decided to only have the one child she carried(many IVF attempts) decided to be a surrogate for someone who needed one. What a gift she gave, and she is so grateful she did it. She even pumped milk for the baby for 6 months. I don’t know if it’s common, or legal, but she did not accept monetary compensation for the gift. We are all so proud that she, as a woman who suffered from infertility, had the fortitude and grace to pay it forward.
Thank you for sharing - this is still such a taboo thing to discuss and I’m glad you’re at peace. Life becomes so much easier once you decide “I’m gonna sit this part out for now to regroup.”
Being vulnerable is such a big thing to do and you have shared some incredibly raw and emotional times, thank you for being open and real. You have to do what feels right for you, and only you get to decide that. Surrogacy is a wonderful thing, it is not for everyone but there are many amazing people out there who are willing to help. I have found instagram to be useful for finding people who are sharing their surrogacy journeys, both as a surrogate and as the intended parents. Wishing you all the very best wishes and good vibes for your ongoing journey!
Erin, lovely, as a sister to a surrogate baby do iit!! If that's how you want to have a child GO FOR IT! It's such a blessing medicine is able to do these kind of things! I would be honored and more than willing to help a family out in this situation if I was asked. Don't worry about what people may say, long as you and your husband and are happy!
Ur so brave. Health is the perfect word as its one of the most important. Whatever comes next for u hopefully not only brings all the joy and happiness but also a bundle of love. No matter the avenue.
As a long time viewer of you I am thrilled for whatever journey you lead us to here for you to be a mother no matter how Your baby comes into this world either adoption or surrogacy it is going to be your baby still and it is going to have the best parents to care for him or her
Here in Canada it’s illegal to pay a surrogate. The only thing you have to pay for is the process of Ivf where you would place your embryo in her womb. But you can pay for vitamins ect if she requests it, but you don’t have to give a surrogate a fee for carrying the child. Just have to pay for additional medical costs. But doctor appointments, scans, everything is covered in Canada.
Life never happens as you think it will. Being at peace about things thrown your way is such a wonderful thing. I am sending all the love, peace and comfort to you, whatever comes your way.
Sending you all the love! My wife and I wanted to adopt and that route didn’t work out. Looking back now, it all brought us to where we are now with our amazing daughter.
Erin, I'm glad you are feeling that this is something you can handle and that the weight has been relieved from this experience. Fertility is a struggle for many women and I'm glad that you are brave enough to share this with us. All my love and I hope this community is as supportive of you as they should be!
" I know that's not a normal reaction " ITS COMPLETELY NORMAL ERIN. any reaction to pregnancy or lack thereof is NORMAL. Society needs to normalize women being ok or at peace with not wanting to be pregnant, whatever the reason is.
Yessss🙌🙌🙌🙌 I had to have a hysterectomy at 25 because of Endometriosis, and for a while I felt exactly how Erin did, I felt a huge weight lifted.
Now that I've been in a healthy, loving relationship for 6 years, I'd love to have a baby with him so I've gone into a different phase. But for a while, I felt so relieved
@@AKbaby89How do you deal with knowing you can't have a baby, especially for your partner? Im currently facing a hysterectomy and it saddens me
@Tiffany Robinson to be totally honest, it's tough. I would love to be able to have a child with my partner, but the main thing I try to focus on is the fact that I wouldn't have been able to carry a pregnancy to term because of Endometriosis and the damage it caused all my reproductive organs. I was only ever able to get pregnant once, and I wasn't even aware I was pregnant when I miscarried and had to have a D&C because my fallopian tubes were blocked. So, I try to remind myself that even if I had the organs to have children, my body wouldn't have been able to do that anyway.
My partner actually doesn't want to have kids with his genes anyway, so if we ever become able to adopt, we definitely would. I'm not sure we will ever be there because of all my medical problems, I'd never bring a child into a situation that isn't 100% healthy, supportive, and the best option for that child. I'd love to be able to adopt someday, there's so many kids in the system it breaks my heart.
I wish I had some advice for you, it's a really hard thing to go through and live with, but id say to do whatever is best for you and your health. Sending you love❤️❤️
@@AKbaby89 Yes, I too have endometriosis and the symptoms are becoming unbearable so I know a hysterectomy is looking like the option for me. And a bunch insecurities and questions are running through my mind now. Like wil find someone that'll be ok with not having kids? I know these men exist but I just feel incomplete as a woman
@Tiffany Robinson well just so you're aware, a hysterectomy really doesn't impact Endometriosis much. I've had several surgeries since my hysterectomy, it really only stops me from bleeding, but my body still goes through the hormone cycle since I have one ovary left. I thought I'd be pain free after the hysterectomy, but that doesn't seem to be the case very often. ❤️❤️
I’m so glad you’re in a good place Erin. People place so much importance on pregnancy. It doesn’t matter how your child comes into this world, what matters is the work, time, and love that comes with being a parent. While pregnancy can be beautiful it pales in comparison to holding your baby and watching them grow. I wish you and your husband joy and happiness on your journey!
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So so so beautifully and well said. You must be the most amazing support system to the people you love❤️
Thats beautiful.
Also normalize that it’s on for a woman to not wanting to be pregnant and not wanting kids
I couldn't have said this better myself!
After a traumatic fertility journey, my husband and I weren’t able to have a biological child. It wasn’t until we adopted our son that we were able to look back and see the bigger plan. Life worked out just the way it was suppose to.
Kylee, same here! The day he was born and I held him for the first time, I knew exactly why all the other things we had tried hadn’t worked. We were meant to be his parents!
thank you for giving that child a home & a family :)
I wish more couples would adopt! There are so many children out there without homes and we are so overpopulated as it is.
I can help you get pregnant. exact solution
wonderful parents im sure
You honestly left no stone unturned. This is a really solid decision and you should be so proud of how hard you worked to get here. Sending love.
And know what... even if you deciced no without going through the options cause you didnt have money or didnt want to, then thats good too.
@@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid Absolutely!
My mom was diagnosed with endometriosis right after she got married and lost the ability to have biological children. She was devastated at the time. Seven years later she adopted me and a few years later my brother. Looking back she feels it was the biggest blessing because she was meant to be our mom. Without having to go through that she would have never met us. I feel the same way...No one else was supposed to be my mom.❤ God has a plan and your hearts desire in mind. It will absolutely unfold.
Thank you for sharing this Erin! I think you have a huge support system of followers and friends who have watched your entire journey, and it's a very mature decision to be able to accept this. We are here for you, and we love you !
Love you Viv!
Hi from South Wales 😍😍😍😍.
A family member adopted TWO babies. Best thing that ever happened.
I think its a blessing that you are able to have a surrogacy. Its illegal here in europe. Wish you the best of luck
I'm so frustrated that surrogacy isn't at least partially covered when it's proven it is unsafe for you to carry. I had a horrible post partum hemorrhage and nearly died. I wanted more children but I couldn't afford the surrogate. We are exploring adoption now.
I wish you many blessings in this journey.
I think its not covered for obvious financial reasons
@@beccathebeccanator1433 yeah because the insurance companies are greedy. They have plenty of money to cover these expenses.
There's very little consideration to the long-term health risks for surrogates, and gestating a human is not the same as say, giving up a kidney. Adding in insurance policies sounds like something right out of the Handmaid's Tale.
And it shouldn't be covered... its a choice.
If you're a woman you are already paying more insurance costs because you have the possibility to get pregnant. There is absolutely zero reason that that cost can't cover surrogate pregnancies. It might be a chance and it's a choice a lot of women don't make but they sure as heck are being charged for it anyway. I guess non of you have heard of a pink tax. Also, handmaid's tale was a forced situation. There are plenty of women that volunteer to carry other women's babies all of the time. Live in reality people not the fictional dystopias you're watching on television. Consent is a real concept that absolutely applies in this scenario.
Erin you don’t have to justify to anyone this choice. Your health matters the most and that’s it. We often talk about the baby’s health but the moms health matters so much too!
Girl you have worked sooooo hard in the last 2 years are you serious??? Getting out of bed is work. And you have gone above and beyond that. You kick ass, don’t discredit it!!!
Thank you for sharing. Good luck on the surrogate! Take care
Prayers to you and your hubby hun! I found out a few years ago when I miscarried that I won’t be able to have a baby either! I love your positivity! God has a plan🙏💕 When you guys do get your baby, no matter how or when, they are going to be absolutely loved and all of this, hopefully will bring even more uplifting vibes on your entire journey!💕
God's plan was for man to go forth and multiply. Do good works.
@@ChrisHillASMR I find your comment highly offensive and rude! Not sure if your heartless or didn’t understand something!
@@junebug2850 oh please find a friend!
He's an a hole. He would create little a holes
What helps through tough times I say… things are happening for me.. not to me. The universe isn’t punishing us. I love you, you’re an inspiration to so many others. And I’ve said this before but you’re wonder woman.
8:35 there it is!!! You said it. It’s happening for you to protect you from something else
I’m going through another rough time, breakup and failing my medical school entrance exam. I think the universe said “Ariella focus on school, now is the time, boys will come later”
I truly appreciate your honesty on all areas of this exhausting journey you’ve been on the last year. I had a similar experience & had to make the decision to stop the fertility process & have a hysterectomy for MY future health. Now a decade later I can unequivocally say that it was the right thing. I fully understand the relief of not worrying anymore about getting pregnant & all things attached. It is physically & emotionally exhausting. Owning that so soon is HUGE! I still have no doubt you will be a mama & will be an EXCEPTIONAL MAMA at that! My sincere condolences to the losses you’ve endured & my prayers for a HEALTHY & JOYFUL future! 🤍🙏🏻😘
Being pregnant is definitely a different experience for everybody but I totally agree with you, you don’t need it in order to feel attached to your baby, you don’t need it to breastfeed, you don’t need it to feel unconditional love for a new human being, you’ll be a wonderful mom no matter what way you decide to go, good luck 💕
Just, leaving this cause I learned about it recently, and I thought it was really cool, adoptive parents can still breastfeed! Whether through induced lactation, or by using a supplemental feeding device, like a breastfeeding person whose baby needed more milk, or had an inadequate supply might use!
The podcast Katie’s Crib has some episodes about surrogacy! Excited for your continued journey in parenthood 💕
Whatever route you go is going to be great. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about your choices to be a parent or not or how you get there. You're so strong! Keep being your positive awesome self
I admire your transparency and honesty, Erin! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. 💜
It makes my heart happy to see you at peace. Even if it isn't necessarily the end game you were expecting, I'm glad you have a solid answer and can get hopefully get some rest (physical AND mental!). Much love to you guys!
You’re a true inspiration, Erin. I have felt like such a disappointment and so alone in my journey of getting pregnant for so long, and that I was the only person going through this. Knowing that you and other women are going through the same thing makes me feel more at peace. You are so strong and beautiful for sharing your story and journey🤍✨ thank you for this- You have no idea how much I needed this.
Erin, no matter how your child makes it’s way into your arms, they will be SO loved because of how hard you worked to meet them. You will be a great Mom, whether that is through surrogacy, adoption, anything.
I recently had my first child and while he is my world and everything I went through was worth it for him, pregnancy and labor were horrible. I was sick all the time, in pain, had a high risk pregnancy, was a human pin cushion (about 30+ blood tests in a month and 2 collapsed veins), and had a preeclamptic attack post labor that was painful and terrifying. If I had the means to have a surrogate carry our 2nd future child, I would consider it. Surrogacy isnt a dirty word and should be talked about more. You have been through a LOT of trauma and if a surrogate will prevent you from experiencing more trauma, it is WORTH IT. Best of luck on your journey and thank you!
It’s wonderful to hear how well you’re doing with this. So many props for your strength girl!
I actually know someone who used a surrogate. She tried IVF for quite some time as well and I believe she and her husband posted a video talking about it as well.
Today she has a healthy baby boy - a truly awesome story.
I pray whatever you guys want works out for y’all!
I have PCOS and with an injury when my fiance was a child we weren't supposed to get pregnant. I checked my temp, did all the things for four years and when we finally gave up and made peace with it a few weeks later I found out I was 16 weeks pregnant. If you wish to be a momma however it happens you will be an amazing momma❤️
I hope I handle any struggle I go through in my life with Erin’s grace and strength, you’re inspiring!
I'm glad to hear you have some answers now. I know that sometimes it's harder not knowing medical issues than having answers and finding solutions to those medical issues. I hope you guys have fun with the new renovations and that time together❤
I love you Erin! Sending you lots of love and prayers for peace and clarity on your future decisions! I can’t wait to continue to watch your journey
Your journey is beautiful and absolutely YOUR'S! My most beautiful journey has been with my children, not with my pregnancies. Seeing your baby smile, your toddler learn how to count, your ten year old hit that ball across the field.... those are the things that make life amazing. You got this! Can't wait to hear about your journey.
So much love for you Erin! Everything happens for a reason and it’s so great that you’ve found the bright side! ❤️
It’s huge that you’re sharing this and the nuance of it too! Medical trauma is VERY real and VERY valid. And I really appreciated learning about how false the stigma around surrogacy is. I hope in the future that stigma gets reduced, bc it truly is a part of Ableism. Proud of you for taking care of yourself and your vulnerability!
As someone else who went through something similar, I feel you on a very base level. I still have moments of “what if” but I remember that I could lose my life if I got pregnant. And I like my life. So much love to you Erin and your husband.
Erin, I have never seen someone as strong as you are. You have been through SO much during the past few years, I have followed all of your journey and I am SO proud of you, it is normal to feel sad because you had a specific picture in your head and hoped that it would come true, but to EVERY problem/issue, there is a solution and I am SO glad to see you come in terms with it and accept it how it is. I kept smiling and laughing at your little funny comments while watching the video! You do what is BEST for you, this is for sure a good thing, I don't personally see it as a sad or bad thing, you will eventually come up with another solution, take your time, you look STUNNING AND BEAUTIFUL as always and enjoy life as you are doing right now, I am sending tons of positive vibes and love to you and Matt and the cute doggie! Love you Erin! ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
You are not alone. Happiness and contentment regardless of circumstance is achievable. Thank you for sharing 💜
I’m honestly so thankful you’re in a happy place!! You’re one of the people I think about regularly & seeing you in so much pain and heartache was so sad!! Thank you for sharing your story & I think surrogacy, if you feel happy & it feels right for you and Matt then why shouldn’t you! Adoption is a good option too!! You’re truly incredible & I know you’ve helped so many people going through trauma & fertility issues! So thank you x
i know what you mean when you say this is a blessing in disguise. my mom died last year and it motivated me to start working on becoming independent rather than relying on everyone around me
sending so many hugs. infertility is not spoken about enough. so thank you for sharing❤❤❤❤
Just saw this and I'm sending you and your family internet hugs, love & wishing you the very best
Love you from Nigeria🇳🇬 ! That’s how vast your influence is, you are perfect Erin❤️
Hearing you talk, you’re such an amazing person.
When I found out I couldn’t have a baby, I felt super at peace. I’ve never heard anyone describe it this way, but I felt that as well. People didn’t understand so I didn’t talk about it. When I looked back on my life, I realized it may have been the plan all along. I feel like I can be a great teacher and I have resources to help family and friends due to not spending money on children. I considered a surrogate but it just didn’t feel right to us. May be right for you.
I am so glad you are able to relax and be free from the burden to your thoughts and your body not doing what you want it to.. I’ve had a uterine rupture after my last child and it was a long painful journey to heal
Came to this video expecting to cry, now I’m sitting here so proud of how positive you are about all of this! As someone who didn’t have the blissful pregnancy or birth I would for sure say it doesn’t matter how your little person gets to you, all that matters is how much that little person will be loved! 💕
So I was born without a womb and I can not get pregnant like it’s not ever going to happen and it’s taken me a while to get to a happy place about that. Thank you for opening up about this! Love you Erin!
Wow, I never heard of that. Anyway, I wish you the best♥️♥️
They uterine transplants these days. That might be an option
@@MK67934 it is! But they are out of our price range. At this point we have come to terms with it and are happy with not being parents! Thank you though!
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Honestly. This is the best thing for you. Some people don't care about the risks. I'm glad you're being logical about the situation. Sometimes it REALLY isn't worth it if it means it's gonna cost you your life.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! I’m so glad to hear that you’re in a good place. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. It really helps to break down the stigma
I would recommend the podcast Infertile AF they have a ton of stories of women walking through their fertility journies and there has been some that talk about their journey with surrogacy. So glad to see you happy and I can imagine how this can be hard but also a weight lifted off of you.
I am so glad you are in a good place with your journey! There should never be any shame over how you be come a parent. The journey is beautiful any way you choose or it gets chosen for you at times.
I have known since I was young. It's comforting to know. Yes, it's sad. Good luck in your journey.
I’m happy you’re in a good place. Your story really opened up the gates to discuss this topic and the struggles women go through and I’m sending you, Matt, and Benji so much love and light.
Hi Erin! I’ve been following you for many years and it’s so nice to hear you be in a positive place. I am just starting my journey with infertility and you have been such a role model. My cousin works with Carrying Hope Surrogacy asked in NC but they work with families literally world wide. Their website has a lot of helpful information and the ladies on their team are truly one of a kind. Praying that you receive a sign of what your families best choice will be and you continue to have many positive blessings!
I'm so glad you're doing ok right now. It's hard. I was in a similar situation, though not in a relationship. In my case, they were considering hysterectomy. I told them I'd figure it out later and I did. My husband had a son from a previous marriage but I'm adopting him and love him like my own. Every journey to becoming a mom is valid and different. This is just part of yours. Good luck with surrogacy!
As long as you are happy and safe. That is what is important. So happy that your happy with where you are. It has been hard on you. I pray all good things for you moving forward. 💕
I'm in the same boat. My last try was about a year ago and ended up not working around June. I actually been better since we decided that it wasn't going to work for me. We're I live surrogacy is illegal unless I use someone on my own family. That isn't an option for me either. We may, in the future, consider adoption but is not in our plans for now. We are still healing from the multiple losses we had. I wish you peace to endure this moment. I wish love and understanding. I wish you strength most of all.
Thank you for sharing your Journey Erin! Fertility issues suck but talking about them makes the topic a little less taboo.
As always Erin, sending hugs and love from across the pond 💕
Praying for you! You are so strong!
I am so glad that you are talking about it and you are happy. The most important thing is that you are happy with the decision 😊
It’s so crazy to me that you have been through so much and yet still been putting out so much content. I really admire how open you have been through everything and intensely brave to show your pain throughout. ♥️♥️♥️
I’m so glad you’re sharing everything about your journey !
And a safe pregnancy is always the better choice ! We wouldn’t want to put you and baby at risk 🥺
And I’m so glad to hear that the baby journey isn’t over ! I do see a baby in your future even if you don’t carry the baby, it will still be yours 🥲❤️
Hey Erin
We are here for you and Matt what ever your life path. I follow you for good bad and sad and still want the best for you Girl your glory is o we the horizon so keep yo head up🥰🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
You’re such a strong person! I’m glad that you’re able to enter this mindset! One of the best things you said in this video was “you don’t know what you don’t know” and you could absolutely be saving your life by making this choice. I appreciate you being so vulnerable because society is so weird because pregnancy is so glamorized but most people experience the not so glamorous aspects and don’t discuss them! I follow some creators that are very straightforward with how their pregnancy experiences have been & I hope more people are compelled to do the same! Thank you for sharing with us 🤍
Aw you're such a beautiful person and I hope it works out for the best. One of my dear friends has been a womb mom not once but twice for other mommas. She's one of those who had easy pregnancies herself and she is truly my hero for being so selfless.
I am so sorry that you’ve gone through all of that pain and struggle. I am so glad that you seem to be in a good place about it right now. Sending you and Matt (and Benji) lots of love ❤️
Thanks for sharing love. God has got you in the palm of his hands. The peace you’re feeling is straight from God. How great is that. Sending love to you , Matt and Benji. Xo
I am so proud of you! You are so strong!
Thank you so much for sharing your journey! I also struggle with fertility and miscarriages and I am so glad to see other people being open about their journey. It helps with feeling less alone.
Thank you for sharing all this. I have been trying to get pregnant for about 2 years and will start my fertility testing journey on my next cycle. I’m very nervous about what news these test will bring but watching your journey through it all has given me a lot of hope and peace that no matter what, there is still joy and happiness and family in the future no matter how that comes to be. I am truly grateful to you and can’t wait to follow the rest of your journey.
You're absolutely right that while pregnancy is beautiful and worth what you get, it is not a thing to necessarily regret missing (27 weeks into pregnancy 2, so I may be biased against the experience currently). I wish you all the good things.
My heart goes out to you and I know you’ll make the best of whatever situation happens. Life looks different for everyone and even paths we didn’t intend to go down lead you somewhere beautiful.
You’re at peace with the decision and I feel that coming through and that is really encouraging! ❤️❤️
Surrogacy is a blessing given to those that might need to pivot and find another way to grow their families. All the very best with whatever path you and your wonderful husband choose 💫❤️🍀🍀🍀
I'm really happy that you're in a good space ❤️
I'm a little heartbroken for this obstacle, but super happy that you are making it work for you. You are loved and awesome and amazing. Never give up on your dreams, and thank you for being so honest and open and genuine with us here.
I am so happy for you! I am so glad you have found peace and are choosing to stay healthy :)
So happy to see you feeling happy about it. It is definitely a journey.
I'm so glad you have found peace. Having a child is such a unique experience, and everyone's journey is different. While I love my daughter with all my heart, being pregnant is not an experience I have any desire to repeat. You're so right that in the end, what you cherish is the time you spend with the people you love most. Looking forward to watching your story unfold❤
Good for you Erin! Wishing you all the best!
love that you’re at peace - I have PCOS and have had to come to terms with all of it
Erin, I’m so happy you’re in a good place! I’ve been following you on TH-cam and Instagram after seeing you in Clever videos years ago. I’ve always loved your vulnerability in your content. Although I have yet to try to conceive a child or really even begin to have that conversation with my partner, I’ve appreciated your honestly and willingness to share throughout your journey. It’s made me so much more aware of what my friends who are having kids or trying to have kids are going through. And I know content like this is been so so helpful to those going through their own fertility journey. I hope wherever you go from here has a positive outcome 🧡
You are amazing Erin!
My cousin, who had fertility problems herself, decided to only have the one child she carried(many IVF attempts) decided to be a surrogate for someone who needed one. What a gift she gave, and she is so grateful she did it. She even pumped milk for the baby for 6 months. I don’t know if it’s common, or legal, but she did not accept monetary compensation for the gift. We are all so proud that she, as a woman who suffered from infertility, had the fortitude and grace to pay it forward.
Thank you for sharing - this is still such a taboo thing to discuss and I’m glad you’re at peace. Life becomes so much easier once you decide “I’m gonna sit this part out for now to regroup.”
Being vulnerable is such a big thing to do and you have shared some incredibly raw and emotional times, thank you for being open and real. You have to do what feels right for you, and only you get to decide that. Surrogacy is a wonderful thing, it is not for everyone but there are many amazing people out there who are willing to help. I have found instagram to be useful for finding people who are sharing their surrogacy journeys, both as a surrogate and as the intended parents. Wishing you all the very best wishes and good vibes for your ongoing journey!
Erin, lovely, as a sister to a surrogate baby do iit!! If that's how you want to have a child GO FOR IT! It's such a blessing medicine is able to do these kind of things! I would be honored and more than willing to help a family out in this situation if I was asked. Don't worry about what people may say, long as you and your husband and are happy!
Thank you for sharing 🥰 i have been following your journey and I was sad with you, but am happy you are in a good space. 💛
Sending you love and light Erin ❤️✨
Ur so brave. Health is the perfect word as its one of the most important. Whatever comes next for u hopefully not only brings all the joy and happiness but also a bundle of love. No matter the avenue.
I love you so much Erin. Thanks for having the courage of talking about this. 💜
Erin you have done so much by sharing your story. You are truly an inspiration. I love you! 💕🙏🏼
Thank you so much for sharing all your journey. I cannot express how much it helps me to hear you and learn from you. Wish both of you the best.
The peace radiating from this video is so beautiful 😍
Whatever you choose, we will support you ❤
Been following your journey don’t worry everything works out the way it should sending you the best !
As a long time viewer of you I am thrilled for whatever journey you lead us to here for you to be a mother no matter how Your baby comes into this world either adoption or surrogacy it is going to be your baby still and it is going to have the best parents to care for him or her
Here in Canada it’s illegal to pay a surrogate. The only thing you have to pay for is the process of Ivf where you would place your embryo in her womb. But you can pay for vitamins ect if she requests it, but you don’t have to give a surrogate a fee for carrying the child. Just have to pay for additional medical costs. But doctor appointments, scans, everything is covered in Canada.
Life never happens as you think it will. Being at peace about things thrown your way is such a wonderful thing. I am sending all the love, peace and comfort to you, whatever comes your way.
Sending you all the love! My wife and I wanted to adopt and that route didn’t work out. Looking back now, it all brought us to where we are now with our amazing daughter.
I am immensely proud of you! Sending you both lots of love
Erin, I'm glad you are feeling that this is something you can handle and that the weight has been relieved from this experience. Fertility is a struggle for many women and I'm glad that you are brave enough to share this with us. All my love and I hope this community is as supportive of you as they should be!
May God bless you Erin
I am so glad you and your family have answers! I am so glad you are in a great place! Hugs to you and your family.