Relationships in the Philippines/Will This Relationship Survive or Fail?

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  • Relationships in the Philippines/Will This Relationship Survive or Fail?‪@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234‬Welcome to our channel! In this thought-provoking video, we dive into the fascinating question: "Will my relationship last or fail?" Prepare yourself for a brutally honest analysis as we explore the factors that determine whether a relationship can withstand the test of time.## From compatibility to communication skills, we leave no stone unturned in this objective examination. Our goal is to equip you with valuable insights that can strengthen your own relationship or provide clarity if you're facing doubts. Join us as we delve into the complexities of long-term relationships, discussing the importance of trust, commitment, and individual growth. We bring you a well-rounded perspective that incorporates both the joys and challenges that come with navigating love's journey. Drawing from personal experiences as well as the wisdom of relationship experts, this video aims to offer guidance and support, regardless of where you currently stand in your own relationship. We firmly believe that self-reflection is vital for personal growth and relationship success, and we encourage you to engage with us in the comments section below. Whether you're in the honeymoon phase or facing relationship hurdles, this video provides valuable insights and strategies to help you build a solid foundation. Discover the key indicators that contribute to a lasting relationship, empowering you to make informed decisions about your own future. So, if you've ever wondered about the longevity of your relationship, this video is a must-watch! Prepare yourself for an eye-opening journey filled with valuable advice, relatable anecdotes, and the tools you need to assess and improve your own relationship. Don't forget to like and subscribe for more thought-provoking content on love, relationships, and personal growth. Hit that notification bell to stay updated with our latest videos! Thank you for tuning in, and now let's dive into the fascinating question of whether a relationship can truly stand the test of time.##

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  • @KenJohnsonMusic
    @KenJohnsonMusic 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Old guys abusing poor young women based on income. Sad.

    • @stephen25uk
      @stephen25uk 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Jealousy will get you nowhere. She is not abused.

    • @VOUSTUBER
      @VOUSTUBER 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You're crazy. These women are getting into relationships with foreigners that will help them to help themselves and their families...nothing wrong with that.

  • @stuartberry5277
    @stuartberry5277 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Your comment 'Some of the best deals are the ones you don't make' is pure gold.
    Wordsmiths of your calibre on TH-cam are quite scarce, I love picking up on your nuggets! ;)

  • @filipinamorena
    @filipinamorena 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I can relate on speaking slow. I always ask my boyfriend to speak slowly whenever I don't understand the things he's saying.

  • @danielwarnes7231
    @danielwarnes7231 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Excellent. Very happy for them. I do not think I disagreed about anything.

  • @eddale8325
    @eddale8325 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

    Paul probably one of the best interviews to date. The concept of "accept the culture and adjust" needs to be almost a mantra. So many couples I have known and seen, the foreigner not accepting and always complaining "oh she always helping her family", "I make her cook her food outside because it stinks" I could go on and on.

    • @eddale8325
      @eddale8325 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Sorry was trying to put a space there but as a side hearing her say "I don't like how foreigners curse" and he is an Irish man. Wonder how many times he has bitten his tongue lol.

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@eddale8325compromise again and again!

    • @Peter-td3yk
      @Peter-td3yk 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      They have cookers outside for smell.

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are soooo correct! This is Michael the Irishman who was interviewed. Ive had 5 tongue transplants so far with another planned for October 12th @@eddale8325

    • @VerifiedVIPMember
      @VerifiedVIPMember 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Def The Odd Couple

  • @BadEinsteinReal
    @BadEinsteinReal 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    She is amazing, in that she writes things down as to perfect the way she speaks during or after tampo. He seems to really have himself together… two very intelligent people.

    • @pw6748
      @pw6748 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks Paul always good to hear your story from your heart 😊

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for your generous comments. Vhie and I are still together and dong very well.

  • @MrSamSafari
    @MrSamSafari 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    I met my wife in 2008 in Las Vegas at the age of 55. She was 21 at the time. We have been together since then living here in the Philippines now. She had a son that was 6 years old at the time and now he is doing his second year of college in computer science. The secret is love and caring for each other. A simple formula. 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

    • @rickbold9337
      @rickbold9337 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Wow, she had a child at 15? So was pregnant at 14?

    • @nala3038
      @nala3038 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      She had a kid at 15???

    • @MrSamSafari
      @MrSamSafari 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@rickbold9337 yes

    • @MrSamSafari
      @MrSamSafari 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nala3038 yes

    • @rickINcali1
      @rickINcali1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Wow...glad it work out for both of you!...

  • @koufax174
    @koufax174 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Wake up call! No magical thinking. No idealizing. This was great video. This in combination with Mike in the Phillipines video this morning of man who sold everything and moved here for relationship and 10 months later couldn’t accept the Phillipines and his partner and went back home are wake up calls! More videos like this are extremely needed. Too many videos like Living Abroad and G glamorizing the Phillipines mislead men for the sake of views. Thank you Paul 🙏🏼. Please do another video with same couple of red flags 🙏🏼

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @koufax, great interview with everything exposed, the Truth! From real people discussing life!
      Excellent!

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hello Sandy. The life I've lived with Vhie has sometimes been painfully real, but we've survived each other. We've grown to now share a deep mutual respect and. dare I say it, love. As you may have realized while viewing, I'm imperfect and sometimes difficult to be around. Fortunately, Vhie saw through my external mask and realized something decent was within me, waiting to be nurtured.

    • @koufax174
      @koufax174 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@michaelcassidy1864Thank you very much for that. That helps me see more clearly what I didn’t see in the video. 🙏🏼.

  • @papadougpapadougsadventures
    @papadougpapadougsadventures 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Paul, a great conversation with ordinary people about the REAL life of a couple in the Philippines. I’m 63 my Filipina is 35. It works well.

    • @jacked6
      @jacked6 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Lol I will be 35 later this year :D

    • @user-ue6pi6bm3f
      @user-ue6pi6bm3f 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Sugar daddy, she loves you not your money

  • @vhoy7899
    @vhoy7899 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    She's is very mature and approaches her relationship in a mature way

  • @Keith-vq3ob
    @Keith-vq3ob 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    I don't believe I have ever commented on your channel, but I must say it was refreshing to see this couple get along and be forthright about their viewpoints. She was composed in her thoughts and articulate in her explanations and answers. She is quite level headed and a realist in her thoughts and observations. I agree with her about the use of vulgarity and profanity in daily conversation. Growing up in the 1950's, 60's, 70's and early 80's or previous to that timeframe, you rarely, if at all, heard people curse in public. Men had respect for women and children in that regard and it was frowned upon. The last 25 years the F-bombs are openly used in public conversations to express contempt or pleasure. People no longer have integrity, dignity and respect toward others. Society has become a rude, crass, and vulgar cesspool of thoughts, ideologies and conversations, thanks to Hollywood, media, entertainment, porn, social media and the decline of the nuclear family and it's values. Show me a person that curses and you can be assured it is someone you likely cannot trust. One of your better interviews. I don't always agree with everything you do, say, and represent, however, I respect the freedom and liberty that allows you to express your opinions in a decent way. By the way, are they married, or just have a living together arrangement? Thank you.

    • @paulinthephilippinesolddog9234
      @paulinthephilippinesolddog9234  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Living together

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes, sir i was raised that way. Now I'm potty mouth

    • @xavierkoolat6926
      @xavierkoolat6926 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 Nicely done, Paul. You picked a great couple for your interview. Kudos.

    • @debj5114
      @debj5114 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes, Paul, I thoroughly enjoyed this Vlog. I'm a silent fan.

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Hello this is Michael who was interviewed. I respect all of your comments. Re Vhie and I being married, she still has some reservations about me. But Im almost fully house trained, We will probably do it in 2024

  • @junuc10
    @junuc10 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    There are many conflicts in this type of relationship. In this particular one I only see material interests from her and perhaps the need of companionship from him.

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      When you claim to "see material interests form her" what was your source for this incorrect conclusion? Certainly not in the video content. Was it perhaps an indirect reflection on bad experiences in your life? Vhie is a successful businesswoman and financially independent from me. Perhaps you were absent when those facts were confirmed. I wont comment of your ludicrous comment about the reason Im in the relationship "is the need for companionship."

    • @garyzies3486
      @garyzies3486 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@michaelcassidy1864 Michael, she is worth her weight in gold!

    • @VOUSTUBER
      @VOUSTUBER 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Nothing wrong with those interests if it works for them. It's better than stupid butterflies in people's bellies.

  • @tedlasalvia9668
    @tedlasalvia9668 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Paul, to echo some of the previous comments, I consider this your best interview to date! Your guest is probably one of the most self-aware people I have heard on this channel. In addition, your direct questions didn't pull any punches. So, as always, I really appreciate your interview style. You don't shy away from the tough questions! Your guest's life is what I will one day strive for without being a burden to anyone. Thank you for this interview as it provide a reality touchpoint to what is possible out there!

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks Paul for your generous comments.

  • @kimhozack5719
    @kimhozack5719 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I have been marrird to a Filipina for 34 years. I am older by 11 years. We still have some communication problems from time to time. I need her to watch this video lol. For me it's like being rebooted in the understanding Department. I will say Filipino women are truly awesome and many ways. Thank you.

  • @user-DrJoe-Future
    @user-DrJoe-Future 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Outstanding interview/video. I had similar experience. I met my wife on-line when I was in the U.S., and we talked for about 6-months before I moved to Cebu City, Philippines. She joined me there alone from Mindanao. She has two twin 14-year-old-daughters that joined us about 2 months later. I was 71, she was 36. I am in good physical shape. I felt like Paul, "I don't need more kids, been there, done that, etc." However, I never felt like a had a true "family" in a previous marriage. So I thought I could have a "redo" as a family and father, learning from my past mistakes. I do like kids, and truthfully, I could have never found two more perfect daughters anywhere on the planet. They keep me smiling and laughing every day, and I truly love and support them as if biological kids. They are highly responsible, smart, work hard, and like to sing. I put them in an International Private School for the first time, and they are doing great. We live in Cebu, and my wife's "family" lives in Mindanao and Manila, so we have little interference. I selectively help family members at her request and for good reasons like her father, brother, and a special pre-teen nephew who is "Einsteinian smart." He's in 5th grade, but belongs in a least junior or senior high school if not college. However, the Philippines holds these kids back and not let them skip grades regardless of how smart they are. Poor kid -- that's "educational abuse." After almost two years, my wife and I are doing very well together and having lots of fun. I fully support her, and she is now attending a special 1-year University degree program in Business. Yes, the Philippines expertise in inefficiency and ludicrous requirements can get very frustrating for Americans. Example: At a domestic adoption meeting with adoption officials, I was told I have to get a letter from my 32-year-old son in the U.S. giving his now 72-year-old father permission to adopt my two step daughters here in the Philippines. Wow. It gets worse from there.

    • @barrydanish6008
      @barrydanish6008 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Inspiring! I’m 71, and am chatting with two Filipinas age 31, and 26, both with one son. I’m not greedy, I just want one of them, but feel that I need to meet them both, before I decide.

    • @agent.86
      @agent.86 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      She just a care taker.. better then going to Singapore..

    • @robinkelly1770
      @robinkelly1770 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It is good the Philippines holds smart kids back. By the time these children are 20 95% are burnt out and do nothing with their life. Just because you are educationally ready for university it doesn't mean you're emotionally ready. You needsocialising with other children, and time to learn to operate in society. Very very few accelarated children shine as adults and most cointries now do not allow this accelarated learning for the benefit of the children...

    • @user-DrJoe-Future
      @user-DrJoe-Future 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@robinkelly1770 There are many factors that determine whether it is good or bad to hold kids back. A few are national culture, individual maturity, natural intelligence, and government policies of meritocracy vs equity, etc. In my U.S. experience in Elementary and High School, I've seen the good and bad of advancing students (Skipping a grade(s), or advancing normally to the next class (e.g., advancing from 6th grade to 7th grade after completing 6th grade. Overall, I found that by far, the majority of disruptive students and troublemakers in school were some of the smartest students -- perpetually in detention hall. They were bored to death. If they were permitted to advance and skip a grade or two, they might have been challenged. Unfortunately, some dropped out of High School. We have 14-year olds in college doing very well. In the U.S., we have over a million students age 14-17 in college. They advance by their academic and emotional readiness. We do not artificially hold them back, that can demoralize a kid. On the other hand, not passing a student to the next grade can equally demoralize and demotivate a kid. There was a kid in elementary school where the teachers, guidance counselors and Principal, year after year, had to decide whether or not to keep him in the same grade another year due to low grades. They decided to pass him to the next grades. He had no discipline problems. Decades later, the kid ended up being a successful doctor. I do not believe it is good for a smart and motivated student to be artificially kept down and prevented from advancing, and do consider it educational and personal abuse.

    • @user-DrJoe-Future
      @user-DrJoe-Future 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@barrydanish6008 Be very careful in choosing. You really have to "learn" the girls and their family and kids. Who is better able and dedicated to help take care of YOU if something happens? Who is more mature and hones? I had a 26-year-old with a kid who drove me nuts for many reasons, and it didn't work out. Luckily I found a 35-year-old who was perfect. The Filipina Pea TH-cam channel is excellent for foreigners, and Pea has interviewed many classes and types of Philippine girls from the City and Province, all different age groups. Listen to those interviews on what the girls like, want, and what they have to offer you.

  • @WhenTheManComesAround
    @WhenTheManComesAround 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I absolutely tip my hat to this Gent. A man that realizes the impact he has on a child coming into a relationship with their mother is priceless. Obviously a man of high quality of character at this point in life. I know that his example inspires me to continue acting with honor in my future relationships and making sure I recognize what's at stake not only for myself but my future girlfriend/wife, her children & family. Our impact on a community can be vast, and ensuring it's an impact of positivity is golden. Thanks much for the video Paul, it made a great start to my day 😊👍❤️

    • @David_in_Michigan
      @David_in_Michigan 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I was impressed with his commitment as well..

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @WhenTheMan, two of us!

    • @tombkk1322
      @tombkk1322 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Solid answer on taking parenting seriously.

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @tombkk1322 yes sir I'm doing the same for my 8 year old Princess! Daughter, I never had!

    • @rickylee6129
      @rickylee6129 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I Agree 👍 😊

  • @all4fitz
    @all4fitz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Great video!
    My first impression of Michael was that he was angry and wanted nothing to do with this interview. Ha. He immediately turned out to be a fun character and eloquent speaker!
    (Even if the anger could not be interpreted as being against the Filipina, we should still eliminate it in public and at home. Don't be the uptight, overly dramatic, road raging, Karenesque American. That's what the Phils is supposed to fix!)

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hello this is Michael who was interviewed. Yes I initially did look uncomfortable didnt I. Ha ha But I wasnt. I believed this type of honest interview might help others who planned to come here or are living here to have a reality check on life here. After living in many countries all over the world I firmly believe the correct Pinay is a wonderful option for someone as nuts as Ive been and sometimes am.

    • @all4fitz
      @all4fitz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@michaelcassidy1864
      Heeey Michael! So nice that you commented.
      Yes, it absolutely helps so much to not only hear real experiences from people in the Philippines but even better from a couple who is fun, engaging and articulate like you and "Miss V". Later in the interview you mentioned spending time in other parts of the world and I was thinking you are fortunate to be so well-traveled. After 54 years, my first anticipated trip out of the US was to India a few months ago and now I know I have to stop chasing the dollar and start living by retiring soon instead of later. And your interview makes me realize I got some catching up to do. Hehe. I hope you're having the time of your life in the Philippines.
      Thanks for responding Michael!

    • @rickylee6129
      @rickylee6129 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@michaelcassidy1864Hey Michael 👋. Excellent interview, you remind me of me. I will be moving to the Philippines 🇵🇭 this year. Hope to meet you when I get there. 😊

    • @garyzies3486
      @garyzies3486 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@michaelcassidy1864 I enjoyed the interview. Living there with a Pinay can be challenging on many levels and requires a Westerner to adjust expectations. Wishing both of you a wonderful future together.

    • @garyzies3486
      @garyzies3486 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rickylee6129 You MUST love the country and adjust to their culture before you love any woman! Philippines can be extremely challenging for someone who is unwilling to change their western mindset.

  • @judekidder
    @judekidder 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Good interview. So true no need to change the philippines just embrace the philippines. ❤

  • @davidkaiser810
    @davidkaiser810 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Awesome video Paul, two imperfect people don't make a perfect relationship. All relationships have their challenges

  • @davidkaiser810
    @davidkaiser810 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    The first time I watched this video I was home alone and I was very impressed, it ticked a lot of boxes for me. When my wife got home we watched it together, it helped us both realize our communication problems. We now have a better understanding of each other

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      David, this is Michael who was interviewed with Vhie. Im very happy parts of our experience helped you. And why did it help you? Only because you were sufficiently open and willing to learn. Well done!

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This is Michael. I was the man interviewed with Vhie, Im happy we were of some help to you and your wife. Please note both of you deserve credit for being willing and able to take action to improve your relationship. Well done!

  • @homebasebelgium359
    @homebasebelgium359 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Another great interview, Paul! Michael and Vhie seem to be two very level-headed people and Vhie is communicating much better in English than she gives herself credit for. Waiting a year before becoming exclusive may be a bit extreme, but it certainly beats moving in together after one week. I think they are in a win/win relationship. Vhie is so lucky that she found a man who is really willing to embrase this daughter he didn't father and Michael is lucky to become part of a family that doesn't treat him like an ATM machine. I wish them every luck in life and hope their relationship will continue to flourish as they age.

    • @dave_in_florida
      @dave_in_florida 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I am meeting a woman name Vhat, pronounced “Vi” and she has the most beautiful smile. She is stunning and single. Trying to make an impression on her to ask her out. Wish me luck.

  • @David_in_Michigan
    @David_in_Michigan 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Great interview!
    Always wondered what challenges the pinay had with foreigners… She was well spoken and hearing she still had issues with communication was wonderful information…

    • @jamesballard6564
      @jamesballard6564 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That never goes away. Communication will be limited. I had the same problem in the past. That's why it's important to have a trusted friend that speaks your same language.

  • @riffraff521
    @riffraff521 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    It’s a huge decision to get involved with a Filipina. I’ve been here for a year. I am still not prepared for a relationship. I don’t know if I ever will be. This interview has provided me more food for thought. Never say never..

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hello Gerry, This is Michael, the crazy Irishman who was interviewed. You're not prepared for a Pinay relationship? That's fine. I wasn't either. You may want to consider keeping an open mind. It it's going to happen, fate will allow it. If not, get a puppy dog. Provided you keep on feeding it, you are guaranteed some form of love. Good luck!

    • @riffraff521
      @riffraff521 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@michaelcassidy1864 Hi Michael, thanks

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hello Gerry. This is Michael, the man who was interviewed. Please give yourself some credit. You are conscious of potential issues. That in itself is critically important. And you are correct, it is a huge decision to get involved with a Pinay. But doesn't the same apply to women from any culture? I've lived all over the world and am convinced if one is fortunate enough to meet the "right" Pinay, there is no other culture that can equal the Pinay. Sincere best wishes on your journey.

    • @chrisellis9689
      @chrisellis9689 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@michaelcassidy1864 hi Micheal, hope you are well. This was a great interview you did. I'm wonder about some5seeing you have been romantically involved with your Filipina partner. Quick question about dating a Filipina, is it normal for a girl from over there (she is 35) is be so quickly to express that she is in love with you so quickly, especially when you haven't meet yet and after only a few weeks of talking together daily as I felt it was a red flag. She is very nice and seems very honest and level headed but just quickly to go down the I love you trach lol.

    • @b-41subject57
      @b-41subject57 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@michaelcassidy1864good morning sir, I know you met your significant other online. A few questions. Would you recommend tinder to use in cebu? Also, where would you suggest a younger man in his 30s go in Cebu to potentially meet an educated and wonderful woman like your significant other? Thank you so much. I been to cebu once and stayed in IT park.

  • @islandhopper100
    @islandhopper100 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    very perceptive girl...hope there are more like that when I get there.

  • @1Chuck4U2C
    @1Chuck4U2C 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    My Brother in-law was married to his Filipina wife with a 40 year age gap , he just died at 83 and she’s 43 , happily married for 18 years. She may not remarry. I see the heart felt loss.

  • @franciscabelanger7200
    @franciscabelanger7200 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I'm happy for you two! I have been married to an American husband for 37 years. I also have daughter from my previous relationship when I met my husband. She was five when we got married.. My husband and I have two daughters and three grandchildren. We're in our 60s and still happy and loving each other. Good luck to you both.

  • @danielhackney7806
    @danielhackney7806 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    One very important point is age. I'm not talkin about age gap, but the age of the Filipina. She was 31 and he was 67 when they met 6 years ago. I think it's critical for a man in his late 50's or 60's to find a Filipina 30 or older. That might not guarantee a successful relationship, but it could definitely help avoid some of the pitfalls dating or marrying a more immature women. Increasing your odds of maintaining a long term relationship can save you a lot of stress, headache and heartache. As a retired guy I wish to avoid stress, headache and heartache. Peace, relaxation and harmony is my goal.

    • @celticwarrior777
      @celticwarrior777 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I agree

    • @danielhackney7806
      @danielhackney7806 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@celticwarrior777 Thanks, but I think the sad fact is some of the guys in my age group just can't resist the younger 20 year old. Which could ultimately produce stress, headache and heartache. I did see one couple that made it work, she was 18 and he 56, but that's the exception not the rule.

  • @bryanr435
    @bryanr435 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Do you know Paul I have to say out of all the girls have you had on your channel this girl is the most attractive she seems very nice. Genuinely nice and I think this man is very lucky. She looks like a very beautiful nice woman.

  • @RawContent
    @RawContent 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    To add to the comment of Tampo. He's right...Interpretation is a huge factor in ending or NOT ending the tension. So so true!!

  • @painrick
    @painrick 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Top Shelf interview with two of the nicest most normal and natural people, i enjoyed every moment. Another Awesomely amazing Filipina, articulate, smart and very real and truely attractive. And an Irish gentleman, self aware, respectful, I love him. Thanks Paul.

  • @fredvanarnam6080
    @fredvanarnam6080 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Must meet this couple next time I am in country. The common sense, the give and take, the understanding of each other not something you see every day. Married 10 years and still on honeymoon at 77 and 54. Great job, great interview Paul.

  • @johndowns7536
    @johndowns7536 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Marrying a filipina and living with her in the USA is the best of both worlds, especially for an old guy like me. . In my case, she earns 10 times what she could at home, so I can just do part time. We live in a cheap place, Oklahoma, with a 3% mortgage and I have medicare. She loves shopping estate and garage sales, hunting for bargains. Our expenses would not be much less in the philippines. But you can't earn anything over there.

    • @Peter-td3yk
      @Peter-td3yk 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Mine is accountant from caloocan 130k usd a year income Its all hers I never touch it. She dont touch my millions.. We live humbly rent . worth close to 3 million combined. well over 200k income.. and over 100k rolled over yearly investments.. She doesnt want my wealth, she will earn her own. frugal sure is super smart. Treats me like gold great english.. They are out there..

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @@Peter-td3yk tooooo much bragging for me.

    • @robcampbell18
      @robcampbell18 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hows the Ego??@@Peter-td3yk

    • @brianandlynphilippines
      @brianandlynphilippines 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@bradleymiller7375 succeed in life and brag too, or be salty 😅

    • @romuloabasola8618
      @romuloabasola8618 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Lucky guy by marrying a Filipina.... you have wife.... you have maid...... you have housekeeper....soon when you old you have caregiver 😅😅😅😅😅😅

  • @yesno6098
    @yesno6098 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    She is smart woman I salute her , my late husband is Irish from Boston , and His Man very nice to her and daughter ❤️😘👍👍👍👏👏👏

  • @wesleyestill7653
    @wesleyestill7653 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    They’ll be fine, especially if the money holds out.

  • @rosetaisacan5420
    @rosetaisacan5420 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    AS WE GET OLDER, WE GET WISER. ACCEPT THE FACT THAT WE DO GO DOWN HILL.

  • @TruthFinder7839
    @TruthFinder7839 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    They seem great together. Communication is always a challenge, even with same cultured male and females living together. It takes time to melt together and smooth out the rough edges. I was married to a Persian for 23 years had the same problem and she spoke great English by the way.

  • @kathiemathias212
    @kathiemathias212 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    She is such a lucky woman to have met someone as understanding and moral like him.

  • @GK-wx6xo
    @GK-wx6xo 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    "I don't want to get too personal but".....can you still get it up? 😅

  • @thestoryofarra5344
    @thestoryofarra5344 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Public display of anger is always a NO NO because it spreads negativity and toxicity. It's like a bomb. Although you didn't threw it to a particular person, it feels as though that you have. It also speaks a lot about a persons EQ. Being able to control yourself is power. When you're angry, your goal is to hurt someone (although indirectly), hence, i believe it's strength when you're able to hold your feelings and reflect and be able to communicate without anger.

  • @justinmcintosh6554
    @justinmcintosh6554 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He is lucky to have her. He seems to still kid himself that she is the lucky one with all his body language. He is the lucky one/ I hope he treats her well

    • @debj5114
      @debj5114 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He is very entitled, although it works.

    • @TheUtuber999
      @TheUtuber999 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      26:42 "No woman has impacted me sensually in any way as Lee does, and I'm talking about from a wide selection all over the world." This statement made me cringe.

  • @TimBorggrenDenmark
    @TimBorggrenDenmark 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The raw and cold truth when talking about a relationship between the West/Europe and Asian women.
    For men:
    Wet dreams and hopes!
    For women:
    Necessity, freedom and opportunity!
    - So, can such a relationship, maybe/subsequently turn into love - Hmm, only time will tell.

  • @WinstonLorde
    @WinstonLorde 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I loved listening to this couple. Both are insightful, engaging, and intelligent. Their discussion of their relationship explored universal themes that, to be sure, applies to ALL relationships. I wish you would host more intelligent couples like this rather than the whining, to say nothing of dull, men that is your standard fare.

  • @bentnickel7487
    @bentnickel7487 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Paul, your best video yet. Adjust, adapt and accept. That would sell 1 million t-shirts. 🤔😉😁

  • @jeremynewcastle
    @jeremynewcastle 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The fact that a simple act like “kissing in public” is considered sacred to Filipinas and should only be done in private is a breath of fresh air. That only means that intimacy is valued very much by the culture. Intimacy is sacred!

  • @juancarlosvaldes4538
    @juancarlosvaldes4538 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Good luck to both of them and thank you Paul. Have a blessed day!

  • @kumaroadking1580
    @kumaroadking1580 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    she's possibly the best articulate pinay,I have ever heard,.

  • @kentfonda8245
    @kentfonda8245 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Great interview... my wife and I have the exact same age difference. We are married and in the U.S. now, but we lived in Manila for 7 mo., near her family. Lots of the 'issues' they discussed are the same for us. It was refreshing to hear their perspectives. Mike's answer on their daughter is just true....love. If every dad had the same thought, what a better world we would have. Best of luck to them both.

    • @jeffrt3893
      @jeffrt3893 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Kent, may I ask, have you had any negative experiences from others judging you because of you and your wife's age gap? If so, what was the most memorial experience? I'm in the US and will soon be married to my filipina, and she is half my age.

    • @kentfonda8245
      @kentfonda8245 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@jeffrt3893 Hi, great question. I can say no we have not experienced that so far. However we live in a liberal state (Colorado, our governor is gay). It may be different in say the bible belt states where people are more conservative? Hoping for the best for you both. If you're ever travelling through Colorado let me know, it would be fun to meet.

    • @jeffrt3893
      @jeffrt3893 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @kentfonda8245 Thanks, Kent! I live in Washington state, so hopefully, it will be the same here. Do you have an email address that I can reach out to you with? It would be nice to chat with someone like you and share experiences.

  • @patriot1182
    @patriot1182 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow Wow Wow! What a delightful young lady! And beautiful! You sir have hit the proverbial jackpot! Count your blessings! I am so jealous!

  • @briangreer8463
    @briangreer8463 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A great couple to interview! Many good reminders about slowing down & acceptance.

  • @maxbeeold6270
    @maxbeeold6270 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A very informative and helpful video. Thanks for Sharing.

  • @retiredcryptohunter9031
    @retiredcryptohunter9031 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I’m 46 and married to my Filipina and she’s 28 and also has a daughter and I also accept her as my daughter. I grew up in the US and was taught that these age gaps was a bad thing BUT being here in the Philippines and seeing the different relationships of both same age and age gaps and one thing is standing out to me and that is that relationships with older men and a younger woman seems to work out much better than same age relationships. I thought I was going to have issues with my age gap with my wife but it turns out to be the best relationship I’ve ever been in.

    • @jacked6
      @jacked6 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      It's not only a US thing it's all around the world. Even in Japan and South Korea age gaps are sort of frowned upon. Many are judgemental family and friends.

    • @simplelifeme2741
      @simplelifeme2741 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Mostly in the Visayas Regions. Not really in Luzon specially in the northern parts.

    • @retiredcryptohunter9031
      @retiredcryptohunter9031 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@simplelifeme2741 that’s weird because I live in Ilocos Sur 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @simplelifeme2741
      @simplelifeme2741 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@retiredcryptohunter9031 You're 46 and your body built is still look beautiful compared to 70 years-old with a very young woman. I am from the high land (Cordillera) and I don't see a very young woman with the older guy. There might be but it's rare compared to the Visayas area.
      Ang if you have noticed. Mostly young Filipina marrying older foreign guy has a child/children. Mostly Filipinos doesn't want to take good care other man's children. Westerners are more open minded when it comes to marrying a woman with kids.

    • @bijanbayne3259
      @bijanbayne3259 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @featherfashion8065 The rare exceptions are Miami Beach and upscale L.A.

  • @ChrisB-sv1gz
    @ChrisB-sv1gz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great last video to watch! I leave tonight from Texas arrive saturday for my first visit, staying two months! Thank you Paul!

  • @glenpryce
    @glenpryce 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I've been here for 5 years already but I received a few pearls of wisdom from this interview tonight😊

  • @bobm7752
    @bobm7752 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This was the best video I have ever watched regarding relationships between foreigners and Filipinas. The reason I state this is that I was married to a beautiful and sweet Filipina and. …… I blew it. 😔, and I have to live with that the rest of my life. This video gives great insight into almost all aspects, positive and negative, involving a relationship with a filipina.
    Every aspect you discussed with this great couple made me reflect back on my own relationship and the mistakes I made. Even though my relationship failed, I remain friends with my ex wife and her entire family (including extended family), and I will love her forever. Great job Paul.

    • @user-ue6pi6bm3f
      @user-ue6pi6bm3f 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Poor thing, you were not lucky to be Sugar daddy

  • @MalluFilipino
    @MalluFilipino 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    They hit on some really important points. Anybody in a cross cultural relationship should watch this, and learn from it.

  • @manuelreyes3588
    @manuelreyes3588 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    As an American of Mexican descent (first generation) I find many of the customs of the Philippines familiar. To this include social customs.
    Of course, I wonder how out of place I would feel in the Philippines? Or will an easier transition for me versus someone outside of the Spanish/Mexican/Latin American culture?
    That would be something interesting to look into.
    Also, please follow up with a red flag episode. That would be very helpful.
    Thanks for all you do Paul, and the ever lovely Baby Mae as well, you are pretty much my go to on the subject of expat life on the Philippines.

  • @k9companion231
    @k9companion231 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hey Paul and friends. Great interview. Thank you for sharing. God bless

  • @Booracay
    @Booracay 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great interview!
    Paul, for you and your guest, dating someone about 30 yrs younger than you has worked out rather well. For me, in my 60's, I would not look for anyone under 40. I would play the probabilities that we would have more in common than with someone in their 20's. Someone in theirs 30's would also cause me some concern as well, but both of you have beaten the odds.
    I am surprised that I did not hear that us foreigners should learn the language. To some extent it is pointless due to the numbers of languages, but if you are living in a certain area it would be nice to learn some of the language.
    Thanks, good luck, and god bless.

  • @DogWalkerBill
    @DogWalkerBill 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The crowded room syndrome: I can see me having a problem with that. I've lived alone (with my cats) for over 20 years. But I think I would like to have family around. But I would also like some alone time.

  • @ThailandThomas
    @ThailandThomas 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Interesting discussion on relationship. I am a American expat in Thailand and would say every thing talked about is mostly is true for Thai relationships and family.

  • @user-gv4cm9zo6o
    @user-gv4cm9zo6o 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That was a great interview I really enjoyed it. I think he is a lot like you. Very lucky to have a very beautiful philippine.

  • @GeoffsPhilsInfo
    @GeoffsPhilsInfo 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Paul, this is probably your best ever video, I wish I could find a girl like your guest has, I also congratulate both of them, good luck for the future.

  • @user-vq8ub7nq4y
    @user-vq8ub7nq4y หลายเดือนก่อน

    30:41 "problems solutions" excellent point for tackling life from the rear-end may I say. You know life isn't always going to throw you a bone, but still enjoy the challenges anyway - best way for growth. And just a lovely couple and great interviewer! Cheers.

  • @billharris3090
    @billharris3090 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great interview and really good information thank you for sharing.

  • @ingoditrust7784
    @ingoditrust7784 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a wonderful woman!

  • @garyxyz4400
    @garyxyz4400 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very good and informative video. Thank you for sharing. I hope to remember no matter where I live in the world.

  • @marfethecatholic2217
    @marfethecatholic2217 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hahaha!😂 She was late!😂
    Thank you for sharing your experience guys!❤❤❤

  • @martinpeacocke8968
    @martinpeacocke8968 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great video! An honest couple that really care about each other.

  • @jspice-kl2wc
    @jspice-kl2wc 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great video and great question and a super great couple. Thank you. 👍👍👍

  • @robcorbett7978
    @robcorbett7978 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hi Paul , watch your videos for a while and loved this interview in context to all the subject matter is true. Being patient , open minded and being in the partnership to guide one another through the relationship. I'm in ldr although visit 3 or 4 times a year, each time growing the best partnership I've had these last 5 years with my pinoy girl and kids . . Congrats my friend on your videos and sharing the great people and country of the Philipines. Take care
    Aussie guy Rob.

  • @Connor_Dempsey
    @Connor_Dempsey 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great episode. Thanks for sharing. 😀♥️

  • @anothercomment-
    @anothercomment- 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I really enjoy and like BOTH of them

  • @ragjamrock
    @ragjamrock 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Great interview Paul.They both had some interesting perspectives on their relationship . Her point about speaking slowly and using simple words is well taken. What I believe is that many understand English better than they speak it. I have the same problem with Spanish so I can relate. Also cussing and shouting is not necessary but unfortunately many young people nowadays use the F word in normal conversation. I can tell she is making an effort to have a good grasp of the English language. I'm sure he has also helped her in this regard.👍🏼🏝️

    • @DavidSheridan-kt7hv
      @DavidSheridan-kt7hv 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Old unhappy guys also use "colorful" language quite often as well-LOL (Not talking about u Paul-HAHA). But i am sure many Filipinas here that from groups of grumpy expats in PH

  • @Filippines.FeverDream
    @Filippines.FeverDream 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent, intuitive interview by Paul. That's why he gets the big bucks.
    I've seen great relationships implode and unhealthy relationships endure.
    I didn't strongly believe or agree with all of the answers but mostly just on difference of opinion. I respect and applaud them for being willing to answer all the questions and give honest answers from their perspective. Each couple is as different as each individual. I wish them the best, but will their relationship survive? Probably? Maybe? NO IDEA...

  • @charlesholliday1050
    @charlesholliday1050 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Awesome couple great interview thank you for the great information God bless

  • @Ray_Warren
    @Ray_Warren 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    One of the best interviews I have seen on your channel. Nice👍

  • @chrisk373
    @chrisk373 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I so enjoyed this conversation. Michael is one lucky guy! Vi is an amazing woman. I only wish one day to be as lucky as he is.

  • @tomcataleno9128
    @tomcataleno9128 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very good interview,,thanks

  • @blake86303
    @blake86303 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Another great interview with very interesting people!

  • @cordovanbee
    @cordovanbee 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wonderful couple!! Great interview! Thanks

  • @bernardknowles8421
    @bernardknowles8421 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great video loved it all 👍

  • @tillthebreakofdawnyo
    @tillthebreakofdawnyo 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great video Paul! That really helped me alot seen the dynamic and perspectives of those two. I actually have to admit I always find myself trying to change my Filipina to the way I want her to be and not just accepting the way it is in the culture in the difference in the ways. They gave me really great inside and I appreciate you my brother and thank them also for their time and sharing their story.

  • @novak4594
    @novak4594 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Nice couple. Best of luck to them

  • @lawrencer8673
    @lawrencer8673 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Another great video Paul,
    As always insightful. 🇬🇧

  • @davidhancock91
    @davidhancock91 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a lovely couple. Very well balanced relationship.
    As an Australian, I love Michaels gentle, priestly, Irish Accent.
    My wife and I have been together 3 years.
    It has been by far the Best three years of my life.
    She is 28 and I am 63.
    That sounds like a lot , but for us it isn’t.
    She has a 7 year old daughter who I treat as my own.
    We have improved each other’s lives immeasurably.

  • @tirsonocon8564
    @tirsonocon8564 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So interesting that I watched in on TV & on my cell later, watched twice😊

  • @altonarm
    @altonarm 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was a great video Paul! I liked hearing from a couples perspective of life together and ways to deal with problems everyone will come across. Very helpful as usual!!❤

  • @mikelauersdorf2992
    @mikelauersdorf2992 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Excellent interview Paul, great couple

  • @DHcycling
    @DHcycling 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    good loving couple. i wish them a long plentiful relationship. stay goofy michael

  • @amandamartin4357
    @amandamartin4357 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This Lady is beautifuland and very intelligent. Also a lovely person plus indipendant. I would be so happy if any of my sons brought her home. Love from UK.

  • @deanrotering879
    @deanrotering879 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video. Very helpful information. Some of it seems small but is important.

  • @flybywir1
    @flybywir1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I've been watching your chanel from the start Paul...and that is without doubt the best and most insightful interview on Foreigner/Filipina relationships that I've seen anywhere....It's easy to see why these two are still together after 6 years...they've overcome the two biggest problems....communication and understanding.....as a fellow Irishman of a certain age Michael and V have given me great hope that my own search will be successful 😊

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      In Ireland you are correct, we share a lot with Philippine culture. I certainly wasn't looking for the joys, pains, responsibilities, and challenges of a long term relationship when I first met Vhie. Until then, my idea of "long term" was dinner Friday evening to breakfast on Monday morning. Perhaps if you stop looking, love may come and sit gently on your shoulder before you're even aware of its mystical presence.

  • @edwarddavila9925
    @edwarddavila9925 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow Paul, great video! Great questions, marvelous guest.

  • @saulgoodman7221
    @saulgoodman7221 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Paul your a natural interviewer. Great questions and answers!!

    • @saulgoodman7221
      @saulgoodman7221 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You’re up early. Didn’t catch you this morning. I was working 😩. Can’t wait until April 10th 2030. Will be 59 1/2 and so ready. ✌🏻

  • @Danno_A_Jyd
    @Danno_A_Jyd 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Very Good Interview! Many of your questions I found to be quite insightful.
    The biggest and bestest bit of advice I heard was to take things slowly. As a tradesman I've always pushed to get things done quickly, but for this dating experience I can see that slowly wins the race.
    Thank you again Paul for your efforts.

  • @livingoutloud5729
    @livingoutloud5729 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great interview, great information...Thank you!

  • @mikeblake3157
    @mikeblake3157 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent video, great couple, cannot wait until the next video with them. Right on spot with all your topics.

  • @A-RHINO-IN-THE-PHILIPPINES
    @A-RHINO-IN-THE-PHILIPPINES 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    OMG what a great interview. I got pissed having to sit through the ads...heheh. Great insites. Great info and learning more understandings.

  • @jameswalsh2427
    @jameswalsh2427 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wonderful couple thanks for sharing. Liked and subscribed. Greetings from James J Walsh in Limerick city Ireland 🇮🇪

  • @gregdixon5848
    @gregdixon5848 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    She is so cool. Deserves the best.