I needed to hear this topic!! I’m avoidant because I’m ok being alone. I was dating a man and he was so sweet, and understanding, respectful, and attentive. He thought I was cold and I didn’t have strong feelings for him like he did. I recently broke a pattern. He would tell me he would miss me usually I would be quiet, but we haven’t seen or talked to each other in a couple days. I realized I missed him. I struggled with texting because I didn’t want to be the first to text. I knew I was afraid. I thought my thats it he is gone. Out the door. Or he is going to ghost me. I made a conscious choice to text. Usually when afraid I tell myself I’m not going to live in fear. Texted him. Telling him I missed him and he better not be asking for other woman’s phone numbers. I was actually shocked that he responded fast with “I miss you too. I won’t.” Dating him I realized I have patterns of cutting people out, not letting people in not because I’m afraid of rejection but being used in some way or judged. I love that Matt said you use as a form of growth. In past dates I would enter with zero expectations and don’t care if he likes me or not mentality , See what I learn from the experience. I discovered when like someone I tend to contain and not show any emotion. When the man I date shows genuine displays of affection in public it makes me uncomfortable. I am getting more comfortable and receptive. I met him at car wash. I wanted him to talk to me and he did. He wanted to take me out to lunch. We had breakfast the next day. Let’s see where this goes! 🙏🏼
I have issues with this too and am learning to be vulnerable with people. You are doing an amazing job; breaking patterns in no easy task. He seems like a really sweet guy who will appreciate you. Wishing you the very best.
Oh boy .. I think I have the same pattern 😐I have been most of my life alone (single and enjoying life by dancing around my apt in underwear) but recently I was in a relationship where my partner was complaining all the time that she felt lonely and I was distant .. it has been really difficult for me to discover if I have a pattern, I still don't know if I do .. maybe I have to rethink my situation because your story sounds a lot like me
Love this for you. If you don't mind me sharing a book recommendation. It's called women who love too much by Robin Norwood. It's so good. If you want to check it out. I feel like every woman should read it or hear it in an audio book. Best of luck!
Yeah, bruh....you did it. These two sure like deflecting!!! Just answer the questions! They also talk over each other. No wonder they can't fix anything. Neither one is listening to each other.
He really argued her down to keep the truck and ain’t paying no child support. Just made everything she said be true. Lol he was hurt at that judgement 😂😂😂 he looked sad asf
Why do men hate paying child support to help with supporting their kids. I prefer the judge order half on rent and weekends with the kids maybe they would stop having kids with multiple women in different households
I found judge Mablean VERY patient and VERY tolerant to let the two bozos in front of her, time after time, talk at the same time and over each other. I wouldn’t be able to let that kind of discourtesy and impoliteness in my courtroom.
It does suck when there’s no control in the court room… but then again that’s why their in this courtroom because they can’t listen to one another, in order to hear each other… it sucks but that’s life hun??? Wonder where they are now 💭
It's not easy for her to save money for a car when all of her money goes to the bills & taking care of the children while all of his went to the truck's stereo system.
The offended life is a bitter one. The offended life is a lonely one. The offended life is a cynical one. As much as lies within you this year, do not cave into bitterness. Fight it with every ounce of strength within you. Choose faith. Choose hope. Choose love. Choose Jesus.
Please somebody make him understand that she doesn't want THE SYSTEM. she just needs a vehicle to help her smooth her daily activities and taking care of HIS children
This was so funny... He was soooo sick that he had to pay all of that. I'm glad she got the monies she needed cause he definitely was taking advance of.
They just talk all over one another 😑 You cannot effectively communicate that way because nobody is hearing the other person. It’s also annoying to hear.
I really don’t agree or like this judge she takes her position to be harsh and being right out mean instead of doing the right thing for the children. The judge misuses her authority.
The “Child Support” is for the child, please go and do it. Good Luck and Just Pray that he will be consistent as he should… but don’t feel bad about placing him on CS because it has nothing todo with your feelings and ALL ABOUUT THE CHILD💯👍🏾. I Had to learn the Hard way… didn’t do it until he was 12 🤦🏽♀️
I needed to hear this topic!! I’m avoidant because I’m ok being alone. I was dating a man and he was so sweet, and understanding, respectful, and attentive. He thought I was cold and I didn’t have strong feelings for him like he did. I recently broke a pattern. He would tell me he would miss me usually I would be quiet, but we haven’t seen or talked to each other in a couple days. I realized I missed him. I struggled with texting because I didn’t want to be the first to text. I knew I was afraid. I thought my thats it he is gone. Out the door. Or he is going to ghost me. I made a conscious choice to text. Usually when afraid I tell myself I’m not going to live in fear. Texted him. Telling him I missed him and he better not be asking for other woman’s phone numbers. I was actually shocked that he responded fast with “I miss you too. I won’t.” Dating him I realized I have patterns of cutting people out, not letting people in not because I’m afraid of rejection but being used in some way or judged. I love that Matt said you use as a form of growth. In past dates I would enter with zero expectations and don’t care if he likes me or not mentality , See what I learn from the experience. I discovered when like someone I tend to contain and not show any emotion. When the man I date shows genuine displays of affection in public it makes me uncomfortable. I am getting more comfortable and receptive. I met him at car wash. I wanted him to talk to me and he did. He wanted to take me out to lunch. We had breakfast the next day. Let’s see where this goes! 🙏🏼
I have issues with this too and am learning to be vulnerable with people. You are doing an amazing job; breaking patterns in no easy task. He seems like a really sweet guy who will appreciate you. Wishing you the very best.
Oh boy .. I think I have the same pattern 😐I have been most of my life alone (single and enjoying life by dancing around my apt in underwear) but recently I was in a relationship where my partner was complaining all the time that she felt lonely and I was distant .. it has been really difficult for me to discover if I have a pattern, I still don't know if I do .. maybe I have to rethink my situation because your story sounds a lot like me
Love this for you. If you don't mind me sharing a book recommendation. It's called women who love too much by Robin Norwood. It's so good. If you want to check it out. I feel like every woman should read it or hear it in an audio book. Best of luck!
@@anthonyszymon3032 Thanks for this!
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Yeah, bruh....you did it.
These two sure like deflecting!!! Just answer the questions! They also talk over each other. No wonder they can't fix anything. Neither one is listening to each other.
That’s true
A deflector ohh my Goshhhh, I don’t like that💯💯
He really argued her down to keep the truck and ain’t paying no child support. Just made everything she said be true. Lol he was hurt at that judgement 😂😂😂 he looked sad asf
Why do men hate paying child support to help with supporting their kids. I prefer the judge order half on rent and weekends with the kids maybe they would stop having kids with multiple women in different households
Because they never wanted them seems like 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
I found judge Mablean VERY patient and VERY tolerant to let the two bozos in front of her, time after time, talk at the same time and over each other. I wouldn’t be able to let that kind of discourtesy and impoliteness in my courtroom.
It does suck when there’s no control in the court room… but then again that’s why their in this courtroom because they can’t listen to one another, in order to hear each other… it sucks but that’s life hun??? Wonder where they are now 💭
@@andreawashington5430 hmm…that would be interesting to have a feedback on what happened to them🤔.
Both of them make the same decision, moved on..
It's not easy for her to save money for a car when all of her money goes to the bills & taking care of the children while all of his went to the truck's stereo system.
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@@ashleyhorton9949 ?
He needs to grow up and learn how to read a bus schedule
The wife wasn't taking the truck to be malicious. The judge read her wrong.
I Agree.
Exactly it’s already been established he don’t take care of the kids so she need to sell the car to get a car she can drive to care for her kids.
The offended life is a bitter one. The offended life is a lonely one. The offended life is a cynical one. As much as lies within you this year, do not cave into bitterness. Fight it with every ounce of strength within you. Choose faith. Choose hope. Choose love. Choose Jesus.
Judge is straight ol school just speakin whats right.
He is still trying to be single and not married.
Please somebody make him understand that she doesn't want THE SYSTEM. she just needs a vehicle to help her smooth her daily activities and taking care of HIS children
He is arguing over a car but said nothing about his children.
Do bad by yourself ugh why stay in marriages like this
Exactly
Girl you won in the end. Don't cry I been tbere, he is a child let him pay the child support and move on
Man grow up and take care of your children:
It seems he's a bit backwards.
He too old for loud music 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Baby he think he cruising in the PARK.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂
Good video
He is trying to avoid answering questions
They annoyed me. That is all.
This was so funny... He was soooo sick that he had to pay all of that. I'm glad she got the monies she needed cause he definitely was taking advance of.
They just talk all over one another 😑 You cannot effectively communicate that way because nobody is hearing the other person. It’s also annoying to hear.
The been yelling “ no face no case” since the 90s
I really don’t agree or like this judge she takes her position to be harsh and being right out mean instead of doing the right thing for the children. The judge misuses her authority.
Wonder where they are now?
I’m filling for child support Monday
He wants keep my daughter on weekend but miss two weekends and this process just starting September 13
The “Child Support” is for the child, please go and do it. Good Luck and Just Pray that he will be consistent as he should… but don’t feel bad about placing him on CS because it has nothing todo with your feelings and ALL ABOUUT THE CHILD💯👍🏾. I Had to learn the Hard way… didn’t do it until he was 12 🤦🏽♀️
🙉🙉🙉Gosh they starting to sound like a broken record already. Divorce or separate already will ya ,, so annoying 😵💫🙄
This is not good
She seems like a user and cold harded
A user and cold hearted when her bum ass husband put a car over his priorities
You are blind.
Worse divorce court judge there’s ever been