My husband brings his parents to our house to live with them without any notice. As a result..

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  • @bernedettekuteyi3843
    @bernedettekuteyi3843 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I would love to hear the innocent abused people have a backbone and stand up to any abuse and insult thrown their way. No dear, work comes first before being a wife, without money to support them. ATM Opie, just move out of that toxic marriage

  • @joancampbell1377
    @joancampbell1377 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good for you op it was time for you to get away from this toxic family much happiness

  • @sandrajohnson6810
    @sandrajohnson6810 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    What is with these spineless men that allow their mothers to bully their wives and treat them like slaves. My son would never put up with that and I would never do that because I love my son and love and respect his choice.

  • @tonynelligan1930
    @tonynelligan1930 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    divorce papers are NOT POKER CHIPS FOR BLUFFING. your really really don't want to get called on that one. so many men or women sign them and then discover they weren't bluffing and good life is gone.

  • @karenpatrech4346
    @karenpatrech4346 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    If talking about Money and one's financial obligations, ie, RENT, is disgraceful, well Nick can sleep out in the STREET, and live off scraps people throw him.

    • @ellenhage3611
      @ellenhage3611 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Right, he wasn't concerned about money until his cash cow left. Now he understands.

  • @debrajean9432
    @debrajean9432 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    It would be nice to hear a story where the abused character stands up for themselves sooner.

  • @ellenhage3611
    @ellenhage3611 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If he can't even pay the rent, why are you married to him? Then his non money having self brings in his parents? Girl, run away. You have no responsibility for these people. you should have left when they moved in and that would have saved you that 5k from jump.

  • @noraknight1984
    @noraknight1984 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It amazes me how the mothers in law in these series always treat their DILs like they do.
    I wonder how they were treated by their MILs.
    There are certainly a lot of divorces within them.

    • @evangelinearcayos6130
      @evangelinearcayos6130 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hhb

    • @ninaross211
      @ninaross211 ปีที่แล้ว

      THESE EVIL JEALOUS MIL.S ARE SO SO. VERY VERY JEALOUS OF DIL.S ! BECAUSE THEY HAVE NEVER EVER BEEN LOVED . THE WAY SONS LOVE 💕. THEIR WIVES •. JEALOUS MIL.S. HAD 2. BABY 🍼. TRAP FIL.S FIL.S. SO SO SO. VERY VERY MISERABLE BEING BABY 🍼. TRAPPED • NEVER EVER BEING LOVED 2. MOON 🌙 &. BACK • MOST PROBABLY NEVER EVER. HAD. ORGASAM •. FIL. PROBABLY DIDNT SCREW MIL SINCE. HUSBAND WAS. CONCEIVED.

  • @juliemacdonald1903
    @juliemacdonald1903 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Stop thinking you need a man to make you whole. Learn to enjoy being you.

  • @diamonddiva3204
    @diamonddiva3204 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    how is she supposed to stay at home and support husband when he earns less and spends all the money how are they supposed to pay rent and bills!!!

  • @pamelaechevarria8080
    @pamelaechevarria8080 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    In good families, if you are raised to respect your parents and grandparents it's ingrained from childhood on, and that's not just Asian culture it's in a lot countries including the US

  • @lindah3803
    @lindah3803 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Rent was 50/50. 1st time he doesn't have his 1/2, Don't let it happen again. 2nd time,You're paying the full rent for the next 2 months. 3rd month,I can't pay for the whole rent,Ok in that case I want a divorce. She would've never had to deal with the ILs moving in.

  • @dje9834
    @dje9834 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    You know it's an Asian story when the parents move in, next thing will be the "begging on their knees". I'm sick and tired of the op taking all kinds of abuse and not standing up for themselves.

    • @MariaVasquez-rq7rp
      @MariaVasquez-rq7rp ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Cultural customs are hard to understand,. I believe that many cultural standards are changing.

    • @diannamiller7729
      @diannamiller7729 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      We could have done without your comment!

    • @cynthiakoepke2649
      @cynthiakoepke2649 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sick n tired ❓❓❓ Are your fingers broken? Don’t like the “Stories” …… Do Not Turn Them On….. YOUR CHOICE….

    • @karenlommler6473
      @karenlommler6473 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wish that the wives would stand up to their abusers. They also say that they can't do anything when they are being abused by the husbands or inlaws.

    • @kathymarvin1950
      @kathymarvin1950 ปีที่แล้ว

      fa

  • @ernestinemarr3485
    @ernestinemarr3485 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'd leave and leave them with a bill

  • @rosalinethomas4665
    @rosalinethomas4665 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Credit card used by her mother in law???? I am with my credit card 24 hours a day. In my handbag. Never out except in a shop.

  • @srephenlucietto5114
    @srephenlucietto5114 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You seem to be living the best revenge living a sweet wonderful life

  • @bennavarro3076
    @bennavarro3076 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Nick is shameless man. Spending money for the family is the first and foremost duty of the husband. Parents should not meddle with the couple unless called for and necessary.

    • @thehawkseye3412
      @thehawkseye3412 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He didn't pay any money besides half the rent. He didn't help with any chors either. And then he was not even paying rent either. And after paying almost for everything and all the chors, he and his family were still mistreating her.

  • @screechowl75
    @screechowl75 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Her first mistake was letting him have free rein to spend his money any way he wished and she should have put her foot down when he stopped paying his share of the rent!!! Live and learn!!!

  • @linellecameron3067
    @linellecameron3067 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    It must be a new trend to have no spine nowadays. Why are so many people allowing people to move into their home, take over, be disrespected, and say they dealt with it because they love their partner who shows no love, respect, or set boundaries for those around them. If this is what new marriage is like, I'm glad I got married back in the day.

    • @ninaross211
      @ninaross211 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      UNTIL REDDIT !!! I HAD ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA !!! THERE WAS SO SO MANY & MUCH MOTHERS MOLESTED THEIR SONS !!!!! HOLDING FACT THAT AS A CHILD & HAD NO CONTROL OVER THEIR BODY & GETTING A ERECTED !!! MAKING SON THINK 💭 HE ENJOYED MOTHER TOUCHING THEM

    • @elaineehardt2524
      @elaineehardt2524 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My parents taught me to say 'get the h@ll out of my house & I'll help you pack!!!' Quite well. This is what happens with political correctness. Go's forbid someone's feelings get hurt. Snowflakes...

    • @dulcilass
      @dulcilass ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I've been married fir over 4 decades and never had problems like this with my in-laws. Very nice people. However a friend of mine (J.J.) had her MIL try to move in with her husband and her almost immediately after the honeymoon. The MIL and the husband colluded together to move his mom's things in. My friend told me she said "Fine, but can you wait a day until I can get my stuff out. I'm NOT going to live with your mother." She said that she was packed and gone the next day. J.J. wasn't a wimp. Her husband was.

  • @cynthiagreske5957
    @cynthiagreske5957 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Isn’t that the culture of Asian families that the woman is not allowed to speak back to her husband and to her in-laws and so it always seems like these women are weak and intimidated by those people. Finally when they do speak up it’s like oh you finally figured out what’s going on but that’s not it they know what’s going on but they feel powerless to do anything about it and I don’t know if they have violence because I’m speaking back, but that certainly keeps a woman quiet To.

  • @susanmullins7713
    @susanmullins7713 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Five thousand!!!!!😲

  • @ninaross211
    @ninaross211 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    A GIFT 🎁 4 WHAT ???? ESPECIALLY WHEN HUSBAND IS BROKE AS HELL !

  • @macnichol8531
    @macnichol8531 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Don’t understand why wife doesn’t just put in ear plugs and freeze the MIL out.

  • @caroltwigg5942
    @caroltwigg5942 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I had a not bright man like this, he spent and spent same way. yells at me in front of his family. i need to quit for he has to worry on me going back and forth to work, how dirty i am not to clean well the food not always done when he is home. it is i cook the steak only after i hear the shower stop and get out so his meat is fresh. then complains our child is young 3 kids age 6 kindergarten full day gets out at 6pm he plays with kids for an 1/2 hour - 7 and 9 year old 1st and 2nd grade both do after school classes out at 6:30pm I am off work at 4:40pm when i clean the home and prep the meals get the kids he is home at 7:00pm food and home is good. home work done. so not a clue what he is on about. I pass by my in-laws to my home 4 homes apart. the kids stop over and they play with grandma for 30 mins or so. She brings them over when she sees husband home. lot of times she bath them for they are dirty yard playing lol. then she shames me for it all then he jumps in saying im useless i do nothing all day. just answering phones. so I got fed up. I keep a spotless show room home. my kids are raised well they don't make mess, but do get crazy out doors. where they should have the time of their life playing.
    So my earn 45 days off and I traded 15 days plus bought 30 days off. = 4.5 months long with Saturday and Sundays off. then I asked the clerk to deposit all my pay in to my new account. - - - when he came home, I made a beautiful dinner invited mother, father and sisters in-laws. Announced I am a full time mama now your all right I work my self to death and not enough time home. Husband was choking ran out of his room, screaming what your talking about i pat his chest. your right i will be an house wife, now you only have to work a few hours more means home 10pm to make up the difference right. You can manage the bills and figure out how to pay. the class are this $$, after school care is not needed but its free my mama pays for it. then food is $$ my mama said that's all that's why the kids are skinny need more meat lol she told him $120 a week no less. I spend $65 a week lol. she would flip if she knew I get all the odd and discount produce lol plus all my breads and pastas, flat breads ect is all made fresh by me. He bit his lip. he looks like hes going to faint.
    His family cheered and toasted even said we can have another grandchild may be another boy please. I have 1 boy and 2 girls. they love them all the same. my youngest needs a play mate. but when born I tell them they will be 6-7 years apart. wont lay well.
    He played all big man. first week past he came home 10pm act like a big man pay is biggest ever had, paid the bills, we was short by $500 plus. He took it form savings each week, end of the month he working until 12-1am the bills just balanced he so proud of self. but he miss all meals with family. my in-laws ask were he is. I said working isn't it great he now can balance the bills. But sad we have no spending money. but dang get the house done in 2-3 hours, pick up a little when kids come home. they in bed by 8:30pm got the night for my self watch anything I want I love it. I love that you all forced me to do this wish I done it sooner.
    I invited my in-laws over and the husband and sister in laws. repeated the great time im having lol I said he can have all the pain and do all the earning sucks cant afford any fun but hell im having fun. 4th month now. our savings is gone. he cant take any more funds to make up the cost. then asked me to go back to work. I told him ask me in front of the family. I will not be pressured in to no situation again. he did. he works over time still but for the things he wants to get. while house hold funds are in tack. and not take my over time pay. its is for me. I cook he do the clean up as i put up the left over. I wipe up the bathrooms in morning he makes the beds. He dust the floors, then I mop, he dries, then shine lol yah excessive. I told my in-laws this. my grandparents told my mama 2 workers is better then one Husband lives longer, house paid twice as fast, then savings is doubled for retirement. can choose to retire early but better work half days. income is needed for the grand kids. if each generation did this family is blessed to live in comfort. secret is dont buy so much crap only what is needed, nice good stuff is better then lot of clutter non since. for the 5th generation and a index fund. kids don't need to work. but we tell them if they dont have a career of 40 years longer they wont get the inheritance. well skip over you.
    my sister in laws hate me. They are working now too. they no longer come over no more. they are that mad. I never told my husband i never quit my job i was on a break.

  • @MariaVasquez-rq7rp
    @MariaVasquez-rq7rp ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The American version is adult child (possibly with children)moving in with their parents.

  • @keendog91
    @keendog91 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Only the husband or wife pays alimony. MIL can’t pay alimony nor any one other than the married couple. You can sue an individual or individuals for reparations or compensation. The laws in each state are different in some states, a wife or husband can sue for mental distress. However, not all states have that lol.

    • @thehawkseye3412
      @thehawkseye3412 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      In these stories when then say alimony, half the time they mean "damages/compensation".

  • @vijayrajeswarraoparsa4217
    @vijayrajeswarraoparsa4217 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She should Divorce such Husband with dirty parents

  • @lisaedwards2542
    @lisaedwards2542 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I would have taken all the goods the old bat bought with ops card and sell them.

  • @crystalroseblue6760
    @crystalroseblue6760 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    My mother in law came to live with me and my husband ....it was a desaster,she abused me and beat me even when I was 8 months pregnant .I ended in hospital threat miscarage, hospital was going to send thd police after her,but I begged them not to ,because my husband was sending her to his brother to take care of her..he did and she had to have mental care and counciling,she got better and never forgave herself for what shs did to me and at nearly loosing her granddaughter. When she finaly saw her granddaughter when she was 4 years old she cried heavily over the child she nearly killed.

    • @rachaeladams61
      @rachaeladams61 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't let her near your child because someone like her has mental problems and she shouldn't be allowed anywhere near your child.

  • @nannettepolcastro4799
    @nannettepolcastro4799 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Why do the husband and wife have separate bedrooms on these stories?

  • @sherlocksteve9109
    @sherlocksteve9109 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    if I were you OP.. I would contact the police and tell them what wendy did. protect your credit rating. Wendy deserves that trouble.

  • @keithperdue4993
    @keithperdue4993 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Gee, lemme guess:Another "abuse & victimize" wife story. Greed & money is always the root of these stories. We get it.

  • @elrenemontanez8302
    @elrenemontanez8302 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I would have cancelled the card and got a new one but didn't keep it at the house!

  • @jadin508
    @jadin508 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’m wondering…from which culture is this story based? Usually it’s about mother - in- law imposing daughter-in-law to serve them. It’s kind of weird. Haven’t heard this kind of situation.

    • @bonnievaldez9630
      @bonnievaldez9630 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It's all Asian based

    • @jadin508
      @jadin508 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@bonnievaldez9630 thanks for the response

    • @oliviadupagan6217
      @oliviadupagan6217 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Most Asian, Korea ,China ,Philippines

  • @oldwoman5942
    @oldwoman5942 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Staff not staffs

  • @ninaross211
    @ninaross211 ปีที่แล้ว

    LIKE MOMMY SAYS •. NICK TAKING ADVICE ABOUT WIFE &. FAMILY •. FROM MIL THAT IS EXTREMELY JEALOUS •

  • @lisaedwards2542
    @lisaedwards2542 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Op and hubby should be 50, 50

  • @seabreezeblank1513
    @seabreezeblank1513 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's weird and these stories the husband and wife all have separate bedrooms but I would have taken all my personal possessions and everything in the kitchen too because all of that stuff is also mine

  • @joanhickey4449
    @joanhickey4449 ปีที่แล้ว

    Husband should be paying half of all expenses not fishing , while she supports him.

  • @joancampbell1377
    @joancampbell1377 ปีที่แล้ว

    Leave him Laura he is taking advantage of you get rid

  • @mureenedwards1177
    @mureenedwards1177 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Lady you are crazy 🤪

  • @dinahedrolin1384
    @dinahedrolin1384 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Asian stories and ridiculous but it is not practiced in the Philippines where in_laws are a nuisance.

  • @sugakookie7985
    @sugakookie7985 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Please please please get some therapy, you put up with a lot and it wouldn't be hard to fall back into that familiar pattern.

  • @judymetzger7387
    @judymetzger7387 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What the hell is wrong with people today. I sure in the hell wouldn't be sitting there at night with everybody's sleeping you leftovers. I packed my s*** and would have been out of there the first week. Nobody's going to tell me what to do in my house. Ed Sheeran The hello nobody would be telling me what a hose was Schroeder shouldn't be doing.

    • @beatapogorzelska1241
      @beatapogorzelska1241 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are not an Asian woman from the culture which should die out ASAP.

  • @deniseduffey22
    @deniseduffey22 ปีที่แล้ว

    If you don't like them watch something else simple as that 🤷

  • @joancampbell1377
    @joancampbell1377 ปีที่แล้ว

    She's getting the he'll away from you lot

  • @seabreezeblank1513
    @seabreezeblank1513 ปีที่แล้ว

    You had movers you paid people to move your stuff why would you leave your dining room table and your sofa behind That's still being a doormat

  • @judymetzger7387
    @judymetzger7387 ปีที่แล้ว

    Okay you're paying the bills, you're working long hours they move in and spect you take care of them. And you said yes, shame on you.

  • @ninaross211
    @ninaross211 ปีที่แล้ว

    OH HELL NO ! BABYSITTER 4 HIS PARENTS THAT HATES HIS WIFE •. NICK SHOULD DEMAND WIFE NEVER EVER ALLOW ANYBODY 2. VERBALLY , MENTALLY ‘. EMOTIONALLY OR. FINANCIALLY. ABUSE HER ! WHATSOEVER •. NO EXCEPTIONS •. MIL WILL ALWAYS BE. JEALOUS OF. WIFE •

  • @joancampbell1377
    @joancampbell1377 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bull get out Laura get out

  • @joancampbell1377
    @joancampbell1377 ปีที่แล้ว

    Get out Laura run

  • @stevensotelo7710
    @stevensotelo7710 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Her mother in law is a control freak..

  • @adamduffy311
    @adamduffy311 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Send your Ex Husband Pictures of Holidays in Spain France THE UK HAWAII JAMAICA OR YOU ON A CRUSE WITH YOUR NEW BF ?.
    And of course you don’t answer his texts