Thanks for this. I’ve been meaning to do this topic. Interesting to hear your account of that. I relate to so much of what you said. Sideburns ... the love of sideburns. I remember when my dad had them. He looked so groovy. 🙂🕺🏻
I'd love to hear you speak to this-- you are such a great storyteller, Earl. And yes, being a kid in the 70's gave us a whole lotta sideburns to ogle...
Che. The ultimate revolutionary. An icon. Anyone leaning towards counterculture would find his ideology and looks appealing. And that patchy beard... damn lol Che. I had the tshirt. I never thought of him as anything but the rebel in me. Not the dude. It's funny how we process things and try to find clues/cues to where /how/when it all started. Che wasn't it. I learned about the internet when it was just beginning. One of my teacher said "there is this thing called html and you can make pages for the Internet and the whole world to see" Yeah. I learned html on Notepad. Straight up typing the code lol. You all know what Notepad is right? lol Well this Internet thing definitely busted me out of my microcosm. Better late than never And I digress again. Things come when we are ready. I agree. But then. In my case, things came when I actually knew there was something to be ready for. Loved this vid. I relate in so many ways.
I’m so glad you told your experience Stine. This has happened to me. I’m 51 and have just realised I’m trans. Almost certain I’m male but could be fluid. It has been 1 and half month so I’m super early on my journey. It was like being hit by a train but also obvious? But yeah. Menopause. Thank god for menopause.
Man, your videos are so good! I really appreciate you talking about all this stuff. I've been following along as I've been transitioning and you share so much wisdom and reflection, it's been really helpful for me.
This really resonated with me. Especially about the whole question of why did it take me until age 52 to figure this out?! It was much easier for me to accept myself as lesbian, I felt pride. For some reason I had shame about my gender issues, like I was somehow defective. It’s hard to explain or talk about. Thanks for the video!
Thank you. I think the cultural acceptance of lesbians is so much greater, so much easier for people to wrap their heads around. And it was easier for me to understand myself as lesbian than as trans . My self understanding and acceptance really bloomed after I read Joan Roughgarden's EVOLUTION'S RAINBOW. I still have my days of feeling baffled, but that's usually when I've lost my sense of self-reference and groundedness. Thanks for watching!
I definitly share some of your feelings especialy things come when you are ready. Then you helped me remember moments of my chilhood. I was never ever in phase with other kids. I was always feeling as a spectator of life. I was there no more. I was living because to desappear was not an option. I always found girls boring like hell and had no sense of gender. Curious. Thanks
Hello, I have a totally unrelated question. First I'd like to say I'm sorry your separated from your biological family. My question is as a lesbian woman you and wife I'm sure had a circle of friends. Now that your a staight couple do you have the same friends? I admire you so much, I can't even imagine what you've been threw. I appreciate you so much for sharing.
This is an interesting question. I think that my wife and I weren't always entirely embraced by lesbian circles because she wasn't seen as "lesbian enough" -- some of it her history, and some of it her appearance. So I've always circulated in fairly mixed social circles, with a lot of straight friends. That said, I do think there is an awkwardness, socially, with lesbian friends and acquaintances, and some of those friendships have fallen away when my transition was treated like an "unmentionable." I think this is particularly difficult for partners, as most people won't acknowledge what is going on (because they themselves are uncomfortable with the concept), and so spouses are left in this bizarre silence, where no one asks how they are doing, or mentions the trans spouse (for fear of not knowing what to say). I do think that there is a huge shift, socially, that comes with transition, but there is immense beauty, hope, and love in the relationships that emerge -- the unexpected growth of new friendships, the way peripheral people shift to becoming more central in our lives due to their fearlessness and ability to embrace that which they themselves may not know. There is rebirth for everyone involved -- as a couple and as individuals-- if they choose to travel this path together. Thanks for watching.
Thanks for this. I’ve been meaning to do this topic. Interesting to hear your account of that. I relate to so much of what you said. Sideburns ... the love of sideburns. I remember when my dad had them. He looked so groovy. 🙂🕺🏻
I'd love to hear you speak to this-- you are such a great storyteller, Earl. And yes, being a kid in the 70's gave us a whole lotta sideburns to ogle...
Che. The ultimate revolutionary. An icon. Anyone leaning towards counterculture would find his ideology and looks appealing. And that patchy beard... damn lol
Che. I had the tshirt. I never thought of him as anything but the rebel in me. Not the dude. It's funny how we process things and try to find clues/cues to where /how/when it all started. Che wasn't it.
I learned about the internet when it was just beginning. One of my teacher said "there is this thing called html and you can make pages for the Internet and the whole world to see" Yeah. I learned html on Notepad. Straight up typing the code lol. You all know what Notepad is right? lol Well this Internet thing definitely busted me out of my microcosm. Better late than never
And I digress again.
Things come when we are ready. I agree. But then. In my case, things came when I actually knew there was something to be ready for.
Loved this vid. I relate in so many ways.
Thanks, Nate. And all that identifying with counterculture is such an interesting thing to consider. Mean it
I’m so glad you told your experience Stine. This has happened to me. I’m 51 and have just realised I’m trans. Almost certain I’m male but could be fluid. It has been 1 and half month so I’m super early on my journey. It was like being hit by a train but also obvious? But yeah. Menopause. Thank god for menopause.
Man, your videos are so good! I really appreciate you talking about all this stuff. I've been following along as I've been transitioning and you share so much wisdom and reflection, it's been really helpful for me.
Thanks for watching!
Thanks for sharing. It's always helpful to hear trans stories from people who didn't always know.
Thanks for watching -- so many different narratives out there-- I struggled for a long time thinking that mine didn't "fit."
This really resonated with me. Especially about the whole question of why did it take me until age 52 to figure this out?! It was much easier for me to accept myself as lesbian, I felt pride. For some reason I had shame about my gender issues, like I was somehow defective. It’s hard to explain or talk about. Thanks for the video!
Thank you. I think the cultural acceptance of lesbians is so much greater, so much easier for people to wrap their heads around. And it was easier for me to understand myself as lesbian than as trans . My self understanding and acceptance really bloomed after I read Joan Roughgarden's EVOLUTION'S RAINBOW. I still have my days of feeling baffled, but that's usually when I've lost my sense of self-reference and groundedness. Thanks for watching!
I used to take my brother's Action Jackson action figure's head and put it on my sister's Barbie Doll head. I had some problems.
I need an oil on canvas illustration of this one...
I definitly share some of your feelings especialy things come when you are ready. Then you helped me remember moments of my chilhood. I was never ever in phase with other kids. I was always feeling as a spectator of life. I was there no more. I was living because to desappear was not an option. I always found girls boring like hell and had no sense of gender. Curious.
Thanks
Thanks, Didac. I often felt that sense of "spectator" -- and yes, when playing with the girls I found myself trying to make things more interesting...
Hello, I have a totally unrelated question. First I'd like to say I'm sorry your separated from your biological family. My question is as a lesbian woman you and wife I'm sure had a circle of friends. Now that your a staight couple do you have the same friends? I admire you so much, I can't even imagine what you've been threw. I appreciate you so much for sharing.
This is an interesting question. I think that my wife and I weren't always entirely embraced by lesbian circles because she wasn't seen as "lesbian enough" -- some of it her history, and some of it her appearance. So I've always circulated in fairly mixed social circles, with a lot of straight friends. That said, I do think there is an awkwardness, socially, with lesbian friends and acquaintances, and some of those friendships have fallen away when my transition was treated like an "unmentionable." I think this is particularly difficult for partners, as most people won't acknowledge what is going on (because they themselves are uncomfortable with the concept), and so spouses are left in this bizarre silence, where no one asks how they are doing, or mentions the trans spouse (for fear of not knowing what to say). I do think that there is a huge shift, socially, that comes with transition, but there is immense beauty, hope, and love in the relationships that emerge -- the unexpected growth of new friendships, the way peripheral people shift to becoming more central in our lives due to their fearlessness and ability to embrace that which they themselves may not know. There is rebirth for everyone involved -- as a couple and as individuals-- if they choose to travel this path together.
Thanks for watching.