کی parenting ہماری سب سے بڑی “ ” ذمہ داری یہ ہے کہ ہم اپنے وجود کی آلودگی سے اپنے بچوں کو بچانے کی کوشش کریں۔ Solutions courtesy @Hassan Siddiqi comment- : 1- Improve relationship with your own brother/sisters and do not provide justifications if you have bad relationships. 2- Dont do comparison among your children .. which means to appreciate them of their individual strengths 3- Ignore the disagrements and fights b/w siblings and let them resolve unless it seems to get nasty and a big one
MashaAllah sir, I've been trying to select someone as a mentor for myself to learn from his exposures, and then share that with my beloved one. Alhamdulellah I find that in shapb of you sir. Thanks for giving this sort of incredible and unimaginable wisedom. May live long sir.
It is very important to make others nd our self understand the role they/we have.. every 1 wants to take advantage of their role instead of thiking about others right. This is very important in my point of view that older is older and younger is younger. Being older doesn't mean that s/he has to sacrefie their self for young siblings..instead it should be turn taking. When it comes to caring both should b explained the importance of each others role in each others life. May Allah make out lives easy up on us, by being a good muslim role model to all around us nd may He make our children pious. Ameen.
ماشاءاللہ ۔لگتا ہے کہ آپ کی صورت میں اللہ تعالی نے مجھے ایک اور بھائی عطا فرما دیا ہے اللہ تعالی سے دعا ہے کہ آپ کی اپنی زندگی میں پاکستان میں مثبت تبدیلی دیکھنے کی سعادت بھی نصیب فرمائے امین ثمہ آمین
Allah salamat rakhy sir aap ko Kis qadar gehrai sy aaap ny bachon k ehsasat ko mehsoos kr rakha hy jo usually hum parents b mehsoos nahin kr paty. Allah aap j sy rehnumaon ka saya salamat rakhy or hamen aap sy youn hi tarbiyat yafta honey ka sharf hasil hota rahy.
بہت ہی اہم لیکچر تھا۔ بنگلہ دیش سے آپ کو بہت بہت شکریہ۔ ایک بات بولنا چاہتا ہوں، یہ comparison کرنا ہمارے لئے اتنا فطرتی ہو چکے ہیں کہ دل میں یہ خوف پیدا ہوتا ہے کے بچوں کے بیچ میں کمپریزن نہ کیا ممکن ہو سکتا ہے ہمارے لئے؟
Kaash yeh Parenting advices/ Lessons pehle bhee available hoate... :( Anyways Sir your lessons are soooo Good! Hope tv channels would give u Air time to present these Lessons on Tv also
Solution already in the talk in my opinion- what i understood is: 1- Improve relationship with your own brother/sisters and do not provide justifications if you have bad relationships. 2- Dont do comparison among your children .. which means to appreciate them of their individual strengths 3- Ignore the disagrements and fights b/w siblings and let them resolve unless it seems to get nasty and a big one.
Zabardust speech sir hum as kartay hain we did lot of time copare in study thats wring recently my husband did that he did not allaow my daughter to study medical compare others ke girls always get marridge kia karro gi and he selext her conerce now sge have tuff time because she did not like that subject but ihelo her and cobvence that when father hapoy GOD happy to u
@@ERDCPKکسی بچے کو بچپن میں مارا اور بہت ڈانٹا گیا ھو... وہ پڑھنے میں اچھا ھو مگر اسکی سوشل لایف زیرو ھو.. دوست احباب برائے نام ھوں تو 23 سال کی عمر میں ھونے کے باوجود اچھی یونیورسٹی سے پڑھنے کے باوجود اس کے بچپن کے ٹراما کو کیسے ختم کریں.. اس پہ ویڈیو بنائیں اسے اپنے والدین سے شکایت ھو کہ وہ اسکے بچپن میں اسے ٹائم نہیں دے سکے... اور وہ شدید تنہائی کا شکار ہو...
What should be said instead of "ap to baray ho"? I say this very often to my daughter that u are elder and u can understand things more easily than ur younger brother so give him etc etc I don't want to do more harm plz rectify my mistake. Thanks
#Anumisrar G bilkul thek kaha ap ne.......hamarey yahan pehla bacha agr just ek sal ka b ho n dusra ajae to g wo bara ojata hai....ap baray ho ap baray ho kehna shuru ho jatey hyn hum.....but is waja se us bache ki personality totally shatter hojati hy qk wo khud bhi ek bacha hi hai....isi waja se bacho me laraii ojati hai zid ajati hai.......iski jaga humen aise phrases use krney chaye like....agar lar rhe hain to ye kehne k bajae k chotey ko de do toy ap to baray ho......humen ye kehna chaye hy k beta(mei apne bete ko shehzadey keh k pukarti hu) to shehzaday play together...share the toy....!! Qk ek se le k dusrey ko dena uske andar ehsas e mehroomi paida ojaegi..k mjse kam n chotey se zyada pyar kartey hyn......hum yaheen pe dhoka kha lete hyn k ap to smjtey ho to de do toy qk chota nahi samajta.....jab k yaheen pe humen ye smjna chahye k agar wo samajta hy to phr wo to ache k bajae bura b samaj skta hy jb k chotey ko hum kc or chez se b behla saktey hain qk wo abi nahi samajta......hope u'll understand what m saying......n hope thz helps u....stay bless n happy..😊😊😊
Lecture key note "hurt people hurt people". 😊. Thanks sir for info. And this Ap to baray ho this is spot on.Aksar families may aur highly educated families may b danista ya gayir danista yay he hota ha.
Bohat acha sabq hain ham jese walden ke lie ham bi ese karte hain ghar main bachoon ke sath main jab video dekh ri thi mera dil tarp rha tha ke ham kitna ghalt kar re the main ne to apne Kontakte main sab ko ye video beji
مقابلہ موازنہ خفی اور موازنہ جلی comparison hidden or apparent جیسے حکمت اور سمجھ آجاتی ہے ذہنی پختگی سے آجاتی ہے بچوں کو ایک دوسرے سے نقصان پہچانے سے روکیں مگر 90٪٪٪ وقت معمولی نوک جھونک کو مکمل نظر انداز کریں The capacity to endure is maturity چھوٹے بچے کو بڑے بچے کے سامنے زیادہ پیار مت کریں بلکہ والد بڑے بچے کو خاص وقت اہمیت اور valued feel آپ تو بڑے ہیں ) یہ کملہ مت استعمال کریں بلکہ ان کی نظر سے دیکھیں
Welldone sadiqi sahb...ap amazing ho.. salute and regards...plz 2 requests hn..,1 plz single parnts k massil or onka hal btaen..2 ye k kia ap trainers courses karwaty hn? Plz btaen
exactly it’s happening with me & I’m so worried for my son. He’s becoming an aggressive person Day by day.i don’t want to scold him every time but I’m so under pressure of my mother in law & sisters in laws.i don’t want him to disrespect them. One of his phupo always tried to tease him (tries to pinch,when he talk she cuts him,arguing with him)I completely understand her intentions that she’s doing this in love but my son is just 4 this isn’t understandable for him. Masab ab bht chirchira ho gya hy even he doesn’t want to see her in his room or around himself. Plz help me to sort out this problem. I’m so worried
Our family uses to compare the siblings on the basis of face beauty.my one daughter is being called "chand Ka tukra" and the other one is "koji(ugly).its really hurting.aisy logo ko kaisy smjhaya jaye k aisy tu bchy cmplx ka shikaar ho jayain gy
Thank you so much sir ap ne muje ak bohat badri tention se nikal deya mere 2bacahy bety hain bohat ladrai karty hain muje lagta hai k ma fail ho unko samjanay ma lakin fact is k unko hud apna set karnay ka timr ma ne dyti wo jin k leye ladrai koi masla he ne usko mane apnay sar ka dard bana leya hai now i am feeling better.thank you
Sir My eldest son is extreamly lazy and bad in studies too.But he has a Sufism in his personality and with a technical mind always involve in creativity. I respect my son's abilities and neglect his flaws.but his younger brother( who is best in studies and highly punctual )take my attitude as favouritism and feel down sometime.
@@secretdynamogamer4045 Please encourage discussions and conversations with your kids. Along with group discussions like on lunch or any activity, give individual and separate time too to each of your kids. Conversations are an integral part of relationships.
کی parenting ہماری سب سے بڑی “
” ذمہ داری یہ ہے کہ ہم اپنے وجود کی آلودگی سے اپنے بچوں کو بچانے کی کوشش کریں۔
Solutions courtesy @Hassan Siddiqi comment- :
1- Improve relationship with your own brother/sisters and do not provide justifications if you have bad relationships.
2- Dont do comparison among your children .. which means to appreciate them of their individual strengths
3- Ignore the disagrements and fights b/w siblings and let them resolve unless it seems to get nasty and a big one
Right and thanksssssss
If we dont compare then what should we do u didn't tell
@@rabiashah1963 Every child is unique. Focus and be happy with what he/she is doing already and give them confidence on their existing strengths.
ERDC “aap toh bade hain na “ is line ka substitute line batayen. Kya keh Kar ham bade bache ko samjhaye
Jazak Allahu khaira ki aapne likh kr share kiye Allah aapko aur tarakki de
اللہ تعالیٰ اس دنیا میں منزل ڈھونڈنے والے ہر انسان کے سر پر آ پ کا سایہ سلامت رکھے۔
"Hurt people hurt people"
Wow Amazing philosophy but 100% True
Excellent. Kindly share this lecture completely...I'll be grateful
MashaAllah sir, I've been trying to select someone as a mentor for myself to learn from his exposures, and then share that with my beloved one. Alhamdulellah I find that in shapb of you sir. Thanks for giving this sort of incredible and unimaginable wisedom. May live long sir.
Really great lessons for mothers. N I like ur Comprehensive style. Jazak Allah.
..nd for fathers... Alhumdulillah
It is very important to make others nd our self understand the role they/we have.. every 1 wants to take advantage of their role instead of thiking about others right.
This is very important in my point of view that older is older and younger is younger. Being older doesn't mean that s/he has to sacrefie their self for young siblings..instead it should be turn taking. When it comes to caring both should b explained the importance of each others role in each others life.
May Allah make out lives easy up on us, by being a good muslim role model to all around us nd may He make our children pious. Ameen.
Bht alaa....allah apki zindagi m brkat dy ameen.
ماشاءاللہ ۔لگتا ہے کہ آپ کی صورت میں اللہ تعالی نے مجھے ایک اور بھائی عطا فرما دیا ہے اللہ تعالی سے دعا ہے کہ آپ کی اپنی زندگی میں پاکستان میں مثبت تبدیلی دیکھنے کی سعادت بھی نصیب فرمائے امین ثمہ آمین
ALLAH ham parents ko hiddayat day.... Achi tarbiat ki taufeeq day.
Ma sha ALLAH sir i really like your videos.
کمال باتیں سلوٹ سر اللہ سبحان تعالیٰ آپ کی زندگی میں برکت عطاء فرمائے
Great job sir , Jazaak Allah
You are absolutely awesome sir. Great explanations
JazakAllah khair...
Thank you sir thank u sooooo much may ALLAH PAK guides us much more
ماشاءاللہ بہت خوب اللہ تعالٰی آپکو جزائے خیر عطا فرمائے
Khushkismt hn wo jinky parents apky jesy hon MashaAllah
Allah salamat rakhy sir aap ko
Kis qadar gehrai sy aaap ny bachon k ehsasat ko mehsoos kr rakha hy jo usually hum parents b mehsoos nahin kr paty. Allah aap j sy rehnumaon ka saya salamat rakhy or hamen aap sy youn hi tarbiyat yafta honey ka sharf hasil hota rahy.
Great efforts to society improvement may Allah pak shower his blessings on u and your team jazakalllah khair
Jazak Allah Khair sir
Jazak'Allah sir .. loved your lecture, learned a lot.. so thankful to you !!
May Allah SWT bless you with all the success and health
Thanks a lot. You are welcome to our channel th-cam.com/users/ERDCpk
Loved people, love people!
Jazakallahu khairn kasiran kasira v nice lecture
I want to ask that it's not possible in joint family system
How to encourage our kids give me solution plz sir
Yes right .in joint family system sometimes other people teaches wrong values to children .
Golden words.
Sir you are absolutely right.
Kya khub kha ap ny Zbardast
very useful and informative lecture. JazakAllah
Sir you are true inspiration
Jazakallah khair sir
very helpful for parents who were orphans in their childhood
Just AMAZING! MashaAllah.
Beautiful talk
Very nice and informative
Sir app buhat acha samjhaty hai.thanks very nice
بہت ہی اہم لیکچر تھا۔ بنگلہ دیش سے آپ کو بہت بہت شکریہ۔
ایک بات بولنا چاہتا ہوں، یہ comparison کرنا ہمارے لئے اتنا فطرتی ہو چکے ہیں کہ دل میں یہ خوف پیدا ہوتا ہے کے بچوں کے بیچ میں کمپریزن نہ کیا ممکن ہو سکتا ہے ہمارے لئے؟
Kaash yeh Parenting advices/ Lessons pehle bhee available hoate... :( Anyways Sir your lessons are soooo Good! Hope tv channels would give u Air time to present these Lessons on Tv also
Sir you are a great person. I like ur all videos about parenting
Thank you so much salman sir
JazakAllah very nice
Wah wah sir Kamal KR DEA very intelligent man
Good topic Sr g aj Kal hr gr m yehi ho raha h thnxxx sir g jazakAllah
کمال ہے سر۔ اللہ تعالی آپ کو رحمت و برکات سے نوازیں
Buhat khoob Allah kary ap ki baat samjh mai ajye insani khaal mai bahriyon k janwar hain yahan sab
Well said,I learn alot, JazakAllah
Very informative.
Thanks you so much sir
Great but give us solutions of these issues.thanks
Solution already in the talk in my opinion- what i understood is:
1- Improve relationship with your own brother/sisters and do not provide justifications if you have bad relationships.
2- Dont do comparison among your children .. which means to appreciate them of their individual strengths
3- Ignore the disagrements and fights b/w siblings and let them resolve unless it seems to get nasty and a big one.
@@hassansiddiqi3050 Thanks for summing that up. Will include that in the pinned comment.
You arre great sir
Zabardust speech sir hum as kartay hain we did lot of time copare in study thats wring recently my husband did that he did not allaow my daughter to study medical compare others ke girls always get marridge kia karro gi and he selext her conerce now sge have tuff time because she did not like that subject but ihelo her and cobvence that when father hapoy GOD happy to u
plz tell me kay jub bari bachi choti bachi say zid kare exmple toys ,mobile tu bare bachay ko kysay samjae
Jazakallah khair 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Hakim in the morning to you soon and have a good time and consideration and look
So nice sir
Masha allah..awesome
Awesome sir u r doing great job great respect for u
Thanks for the appreciation. Do watch more & also share with family & friends.
@@ERDCPKکسی بچے کو بچپن میں مارا اور بہت ڈانٹا گیا ھو... وہ پڑھنے میں اچھا ھو مگر اسکی سوشل لایف زیرو ھو.. دوست احباب برائے نام ھوں تو 23 سال کی عمر میں ھونے کے باوجود اچھی یونیورسٹی سے پڑھنے کے باوجود اس کے بچپن کے ٹراما کو کیسے ختم کریں.. اس پہ ویڈیو بنائیں اسے اپنے والدین سے شکایت ھو کہ وہ اسکے بچپن میں اسے ٹائم نہیں دے سکے... اور وہ شدید تنہائی کا شکار ہو...
OUT STANDING SIR
So motivational Mashallah
Great mentor sir u r gem
Great sir
Very nice sir .you are great
Thank u sir or zaberdast baat aj batai k "ap tu baray hu" ye tu may akser bary bety ko kehti hun
Boht khoon hats off to you sir. Reality turns into solutions 😊😊😊
I'm a single parent... brother u say 💯 right everything
Very well sir
What should be said instead of "ap to baray ho"? I say this very often to my daughter that u are elder and u can understand things more easily than ur younger brother so give him etc etc
I don't want to do more harm plz rectify my mistake. Thanks
#Anumisrar G bilkul thek kaha ap ne.......hamarey yahan pehla bacha agr just ek sal ka b ho n dusra ajae to g wo bara ojata hai....ap baray ho ap baray ho kehna shuru ho jatey hyn hum.....but is waja se us bache ki personality totally shatter hojati hy qk wo khud bhi ek bacha hi hai....isi waja se bacho me laraii ojati hai zid ajati hai.......iski jaga humen aise phrases use krney chaye like....agar lar rhe hain to ye kehne k bajae k chotey ko de do toy ap to baray ho......humen ye kehna chaye hy k beta(mei apne bete ko shehzadey keh k pukarti hu) to shehzaday play together...share the toy....!! Qk ek se le k dusrey ko dena uske andar ehsas e mehroomi paida ojaegi..k mjse kam n chotey se zyada pyar kartey hyn......hum yaheen pe dhoka kha lete hyn k ap to smjtey ho to de do toy qk chota nahi samajta.....jab k yaheen pe humen ye smjna chahye k agar wo samajta hy to phr wo to ache k bajae bura b samaj skta hy jb k chotey ko hum kc or chez se b behla saktey hain qk wo abi nahi samajta......hope u'll understand what m saying......n hope thz helps u....stay bless n happy..😊😊😊
anum israr you can say that beta I understand your situation or your feelings .iam with you ,lets gets separated for sometime to cool down
Very informative video for parents
Thnks for sharing sir
Keep in touch.
Excellent sir
I love it thanks again
Lecture key note "hurt people hurt people". 😊. Thanks sir for info. And this Ap to baray ho this is spot on.Aksar families may aur highly educated families may b danista ya gayir danista yay he hota ha.
Bohat acha sabq hain ham jese walden ke lie ham bi ese karte hain ghar main bachoon ke sath main jab video dekh ri thi mera dil tarp rha tha ke ham kitna ghalt kar re the main ne to apne Kontakte main sab ko ye video beji
Mera ek beta as m parobam AP ka mobile no as number p msg 03003585797
Exactly ........
جزاک اللہ خیرا
jazakAllah
مقابلہ موازنہ خفی اور موازنہ جلی comparison hidden or apparent
جیسے حکمت اور سمجھ آجاتی ہے ذہنی پختگی سے آجاتی ہے بچوں کو ایک دوسرے سے نقصان پہچانے سے روکیں مگر 90٪٪٪ وقت معمولی نوک جھونک کو مکمل نظر انداز کریں
The capacity to endure is maturity
چھوٹے بچے کو بڑے بچے کے سامنے زیادہ پیار مت کریں
بلکہ والد بڑے بچے کو خاص وقت اہمیت اور valued feel
آپ تو بڑے ہیں ) یہ کملہ مت استعمال کریں بلکہ ان کی نظر سے دیکھیں
Zbrdast sir so nice 👍
👍 useful info
Mashallah behad khoob sir 💚💚💚❤❤❤❤
V nice
Welldone sadiqi sahb...ap amazing ho.. salute and regards...plz 2 requests hn..,1 plz single parnts k massil or onka hal btaen..2 ye k kia ap trainers courses karwaty hn? Plz btaen
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Nice sir
God bless you
Allah Almighty bless you sir
Ap to bary hy na 🤩🤩🤩bilkul theek kaha ap ny👍👍👍
Amazing and very informative video ....
Bot c parshni Meri ktm hoi asy lgta tha pagl ho jaon gi..thnx Bai
Bohot khoob
exactly it’s happening with me & I’m so worried for my son. He’s becoming an aggressive person Day by day.i don’t want to scold him every time but I’m so under pressure of my mother in law & sisters in laws.i don’t want him to disrespect them.
One of his phupo always tried to tease him (tries to pinch,when he talk she cuts him,arguing with him)I completely understand her intentions that she’s doing this in love but my son is just 4 this isn’t understandable for him.
Masab ab bht chirchira ho gya hy even he doesn’t want to see her in his room or around himself.
Plz help me to sort out this problem.
I’m so worried
Joint family main bachy ki achi tarbiyat boht mushkil kaam hai ...
Same problem
Jazak Allah Khear, thank u so much sir for teaching us a very good lesson.
Best sir
Our family uses to compare the siblings on the basis of face beauty.my one daughter is being called "chand Ka tukra" and the other one is "koji(ugly).its really hurting.aisy logo ko kaisy smjhaya jaye k aisy tu bchy cmplx ka shikaar ho jayain gy
Mind blowing sir
Well said
V informative vedio sir thanks
Love from Canada
Thank you so much sir ap ne muje ak bohat badri tention se nikal deya mere 2bacahy bety hain bohat ladrai karty hain muje lagta hai k ma fail ho unko samjanay ma lakin fact is k unko hud apna set karnay ka timr ma ne dyti wo jin k leye ladrai koi masla he ne usko mane apnay sar ka dard bana leya hai now i am feeling better.thank you
Understanding of the problem is half of the solution. Glad this video helped.
Sir what about comparing
I like the things you talked about but please do share the solutions to such issues
Please see the pinned comment at top
Sir
My eldest son is extreamly lazy and bad in studies too.But he has a Sufism in his personality and with a technical mind always involve in creativity.
I respect my son's abilities and neglect his flaws.but his younger brother( who is best in studies and highly punctual )take my attitude as favouritism and feel down sometime.
I love my younger son too and keep a appreciative behaviour towards him always
Often parents are fail in keeping equality in their children which causes the emotion of privation in one of them personality
Plz give a solution
@@secretdynamogamer4045 Please encourage discussions and conversations with your kids. Along with group discussions like on lunch or any activity, give individual and separate time too to each of your kids. Conversations are an integral part of relationships.
@@ERDCPK sir i am unspeech person i try to convince people but always fail my campanions win to convience but i donot send me solutionplz
I hv learnt
Very nice
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