@@LemonJellyJ I learned that too after sharing this story right after it happened 😂 honestly I was embarrassed then, but now years later it’s definitely just funny.
"Feel embarrassed, it's normal". That's actually groundbreaking for me. Usually when I'm embarrassed about something, people try to reassure me by telling me not to be embarrassed. Next time I'll try to accept the feeling because it's a normal human experience.
A tip that can help is realizing that other people don’t typically remember moments that caused you embarrassment. Even if you try to remember it about others, I’m sure it’s a bit of a struggle. In this case, everyone is thinking about the mom and baby being okay. So people don’t care if the mom poops.
@@Gingabread-bw6xjI appreciate your take, but it’s fundamentally missing the point. Feeling embarrassed isn’t something that needs to be “fixed”. It doesn’t need to be avoided. It doesn’t have to be bad. You are not “doing worse” if you are feeling embarrassed. Being embarrassed is normal and healthy and okay. Let’s not try to avoid embarrassment. When we do so, embarrassment can turn into shame, and shame is the toxic place we should try to stay away from.
@@mary-janereallynotsarah684 she most likely did because you can hear how the "don't" got cut off. But oh well, at least others find comfort in her phrase without the "don't"
Yeah. It always bugs me when the baseline is "We don't care, so you should not either", with a hefty undertone of not being "allowed" to react or have feelings. I have never given birth, but a lot of medical stuff is incredibly degrading. That THEY do not care, changes nothing for me, other than being reminded of that I have no value as a human for them.
Yeah the nurses didn’t believe my mom was close to popping out my brother until she started yelling, “I’m gonna poop!!!” Then they believed her and came running! The doctor didn’t make it, the bed hadn’t been taken apart yet, it was a whole mess. Excellent “birth control” for teenage me, though!
Oh my goodness!!! That's EXACTLY what I said!!!! I told my husband hahahahahah and the nurse was like nope that's the babies head time to PUSH lol never end up using the bathroom but man it allllll feels the SAME.
Every person who works in a hospital has to deal with pee and poo every single day. From the porter, to the cleaners, the assistants, nurses and doctors. It's such a normal part of anything in hospital. Absolutely none of them care. It's part of the day job.
My favourite pooping in labour story! Im a retired midwife, sometimes we can get a little TOO involved when encouraging Mums to push. This one Mumma had been pushing for a while and Dad was being very encouraging and supportive, counting along and holding his breath. Suddenly a shocked look came over his face, he walked over to the corner of the room and he shook out a little nugget from his pants leg. He was so involved he accidentally gave birth to his own little turd baby. I pretended not to notice, and cleaned it up right after the birth while he was distracted with the new baby. Later on I saw him searching around the corner of the room, trying to be subtle. I couldn’t think of a good way to say “It’s all right mate, I’ve already cleaned it up”.
I worked in an ambulance and we got a mother-to-be in active labor, and every time she had a contraction she screamed “I’m gonna poop!” Like that was the overriding sensation she was feeling. She was so incredibly stressed about it. I tried to comfort her all the way to the hospital that it was fine and normal and if she pooped that was alright and we wouldn’t be upset. I really, really hoped I made a difference in her day by providing even a tiny bit of reassurance.
This is crazy but true...my cousin "dropped a nugget"( thats how she put it), while pushing her son out and her moms immediate reaction was to reach down and flick it away for some reason. She flicked the "nugget" right into the Drs face as he was delivering. (After i wrote this im thinking its one of them family stories that should stay in the family....but things happen lol)
I'm really appreciating the number of videos out there like this. When I first learned that I might poop while in labor, that became my number one fear about it. Hearing healthcare professionals normalize it and tell me they don't care has really helped improve my anxiety about it.
My wife did with the first baby but not the other two. All three were induced (planned) and they just put you on a fast which was 12 hours I think. What she wasn't prepared for was the sensation of her hips spreading which she described as cracking while she was a few hours into petosin drip. She vomited almost immediately.
I’ve had 3 kids. Once I was in the thick of things with labor, I cared exactly zero about anything other than getting that baby out. I probably pooped during at least one of my deliveries, but I never knew at all. When you think about it, birth is incredibly messy and the medical personnel will be prepared to handle all kinds of messiness quickly and discretely.
Births 2, 3 and 4 my nurses and staff were amazing and didn’t care. Birth 1- I got yelled at by a “midwife” for pooping on the floor of the shower at a 10 (they didn’t believe I was dilated fully) and being noisy. I was young and didn’t want to offend anyone by asking questions before I signed on with a doctor or midwife. Don’t be like me- ask the questions. Even the uncomfortable ones.
Not to mention that if you're pushing out a big baby and had a good meal beforehand, The baby's head and body is quite literally pressing on the lower part of the colon, so of course there's gonna be some forbidden soft serve! Again, ITS OKAY TO POOP WHILE IN LABOR AND PUSHING!!! Dont let the dad, your parents, his parents, your friends, his friends, anyone shame you for it!!! Of course its embarrassing to the patient, its still okay to the medical staff ❤
@@megankissinger8269I think only the father should be allowed or may be someone like the gonna be grandmother for support. But nobody else. Having a bunch of people in the delivery room is embarrassing and unnecessary I think.
I watched two of my three sons being born and Thier mother pooped a bit but to me, and I was in my early 20's, was just natural. It was just a part of bringing my child into the world. The nurse just wiped her off and dropped the wipe straight down into a trash can. The entire process was amazing.
Should say aswell thats theres a risk with having enemas during labour aswell. It can cause more pain during child birth as irritates there anus, also has a risk of making the labour and delivery a lot faster (this can be dangerous in itself) Not to mention it can cause you to soil yourself more with watery poop while pushing increasing infection risk. It was recommended and routine in the uk for years and now its incredibly rare
You’re so right! I didn’t have an enema but I only pushed for 10 minutes. I blame that on why I tore so badly. I have perma hemorrhoids bc I had them when I delivered and they got sewn up in the stitches. I’ve had pain there ever since but doctors don’t seem to care.
Thanks for this! Im not bothered by the thought of pooping during labor (actually find it a bit funny) but I do NOT want to smell it. So naturally I was thinking "well maybe I want an enema she didn't even say why it's not recommended so it must be fine??" Now I know. Thanks for giving us the info that she left out
@@livelongandprospermary8796as a doctor I recommend you see a colorectal surgeon. That's a general surgeon who then did a fellowship in colorectal surgery. He will be able to redo the stitches if possible. Gyn won't touch you for fear of hurting you.
They told me to push like i was pooping. When i started pushing, i didn't, then i remembered and tried it. Pooped a little. They said go back to how you were pushing before. No more poops and much more effective. 20 minutes first baby. It is not the same muscles, at least not for me.
The nurses and ob love it when you poop. It means you're using the right muscles and the baby will actually come out instead of risking and emergency c-section. My midwife told me to push like I was trying really hard to poop!
I had my first baby in a birthing clinic and during my last check-up before labor, my mom joked that I should stop eating when I feel that I'm already close to giving birth so I won't poop during labor. Well, my midwife immediately told my mom that I should definitely eat, and she doesn't care whether I poop while goin through labor, the important thing is that I eat enough coz I'll need all the energy I have to push the baby out. My mom was also educated about it and I have always been grateful to my midwife. The moment my mucus plug is gone, I bathe then ate to prep for labor and true enough, my eldest took a while to get out.
I am 66 too, I had my first baby in 1974 my labor started at 7 AM and the hospital was 45 minutes away. We got there around 7:45 and I was in hard labor after they checked me and I was 8 cm not only did they give me an enema, but they shaved me also. I got to the bathroom and about the time I started to sit down I had a labor pain. Needless to say I spray-painted their bathroom. I had my 8 pound daughter at 9:57 AM. I had my other two babies in in 1979, 1981 and they did not do an enema or shave me either. My second baby born in 1979 was a frank breech birth, butt first. Unfortunately, my OB doctor that had just checked me did not notice that the baby was in the breech position. Thankfully, I did not have an epidural or any pain relief. And she was born a healthy, but bruised baby girl.!!
When I was first pushing with my first child I was having issues with the first few pushes and my nurse said "Just pretend like you're taking a crap" I immediately though 'I can do that' it totally helped and I was able to get my son out after an hour of pushing 😂😂
My mom almost died bc they gave her an enema when delivering my sister. My sister was breech and so they decided to order a c-section. Some negligent nurse didn't get the memo and gave my mom an enema. They're not supposed to do that my mom said (she's a nurse but was too scared and anxious to speak up). Well, like the doc said - you're using all the same muscles for popping and laboring. Next thing my mom knows is she's in the bathroom and feels my sister's leg! They had to do vaginal delivery and the bleeding afterward almost killed my mom. Thank God she made it through.
Omg! That’s horrifying! Your poor mom! What a trooper! I had two c sections so I can not even IMAGINE having such a situation, thank god your mom and sister both made it through that situation because it could have easily been tragic! 💔 but wow, it just goes to show how quickly and easily a mistake can cause a life threatening emergency in a medical situation!
I'm glad to hear your sister and mom survived that horrible ordeal. I hope the nurse learned a lesson about not making it about what would be easier or convenient for her and now trusts and appreciates the process of a natural delivery. This was common practice but it's dangerous considering the stability of the mom and babies vitals, like blood pressure or glucose, which could often be overlooked especially if someone is fixated or afraid of stranger's poop getting on them.
@@swan98it was and still is completely normal and common for women in germany to get an enema 😂 why would anyone want to poop while giving birth? maybe it's not a big deal, still not necessary at all
@@Hitsugix Enemas will make your bowels constrict and expel for hours. No woman wants to have diarrhoea and be stressed about a leaking butt while trying to push a baby out. Are you a woman? 🫠
I’ve had three babies, with my last one I pooped and the doctor made me stop pushing, announced it to the whole room, walked into the bathroom for toilet paper, cleaned up the couple poops, and then told me to keep pushing. I was mortified to say the least.
He's a piss poor MD. #1 no need for toilet paper that's what what the blue disposable pads are for. #2 Nurses typically clean it up the instant it happens. #3 He KNOWS it's totally out of your control. He is a JACKASS
That’s ridiculous!!! When I had a little poo leak out when I was pushing with my second baby, the doc had a bowl of warm water she poured on me - telling me it was just to help relax me. The video said otherwise 😜! No doctor should behave like yours did. Was it their first delivery??
As a young nurse back in the day, I worked in delivery and had to shave off all the womans pubic hair, front to back, plus give her an enema... There were no exceptions...!!! When I went into labor and entered the hospital I was working at, I told the nurses I didn't want or need an enema, that I had evacuated earlier in the day... My cohorts held me down, gave me an enema and shaved me anyway, causing me to have diarrhea for two days! I left institutional care because of this treatment. My next two children were born at home. Illegally. My midwife and I would have been arrested and jailed if we were discovered... My children are all in their 40's now. I still actively champion women's health. 51% of the population are continuing the fight !!!!!😢😢🎉❤
Was it illegal because the midwife didn't have a license or because it was in one of the 5-8 states that don't recognize the profession? I'm just curious, not doubting your story.
I can’t believe how horribly women were and are still treated in hospitals. Knowing that, I can’t believe still only about 1% of births in the U.S. are home births :( And btw, why the shaving??
My mom told me this when I was little, some woman poop, some others dont, some feel pain, some others not, we are all different, and should not be ashamed of the nature of our bodies, all love out there ❤❤
@@anayarey It's kinda (really) rare but there are a few women out there that don't really feel the pain, maybe some uncomfort but not the pain that most others do. It's wild.
I did before I was even pushing because my giant baby was *giant* and her head pushed everything out during her very slow descent down the birth canal… the nurse was like “you ever squeeze a tube of toothpaste from the bottom? It’s gonna happen.” because I was so humiliated and she felt bad because I felt bad 😂
My nurses told me it happens to literally everyone and I would probably not even know because they're so good at just wiping it away quickly and tbh Idk if I pooped or not but I'm so glad no one ever told me if I did😂
I have had 5 babies. The nurses are so incredibly skilled at what they do. You likely won't even realize that it's happened. They just wisk it right away into the container before you notice. Once i was at this stage, i had completely forgotten that this was even a thing. 😉❤
My child development teacher in high school, she had 7 kids back in the 70s-80s. She told us that her first kid, they gave her an enema and she ended up birthing her son on the floor, facing the door of the room with it wide open, everyone in the hall watching cause she'd been on the toilet till she realized the baby was coming out, and she shit EVERYWHERE. She told us (back in 2007) to NOT EVER GET AN ENEMA in labor 😂😂😂
Ohhh ok so thats why It fell out of practice. I get it now. I was like " iknow its okay and normal to pooo while in labor, but if you dont want your midwife spous dr and nurses to see you poop and its harmless why not get an enema?"
I just had baby number three a week ago and I’m sitting there throwing up and my ob bless his heart goes now I know it’s time to push. Some women have pushed out their baby while throwing up so it’s okay. My ob is amazing
Most of the time the doctor or nurses don’t even tell you if you pooped because they either don’t want to embarrass you or it’s so routine they forget about it immediately
If you're trying to bring another human into this world, I don't think it's helpful to redirect the mother's focus to the fact that she just pooped in front of 6 people. Like let's focus on the task at hand..
I realise that you probably only used the term because you didn't want to reveal your IRL name, but imagining your husband exclaiming, "WIFE, NO!" in a panic made me chuckle. 😂
I'm older and I'm glad things have changed. When I had a baby it was a) no eating just ice chips even if it's days b) enema c) shaved d) shamed if you want natural childbirth e) once you leave the hall and get a room, no one can come in (not delivery room yet just while waiting for hours)
I pooped during both my births 🤷♀️ no one cared! The nurse actually told me that it meant I was using the right muscles and that I was doing great. They are so used to it and it gets cleaned away so fast.
When I was in clinical for nursing school, and watching a delivery, poor mama pushed so hard, sh popped out a turd! I, as the only nursing student in there, and not in gloves, got handed a pair, and got the very special honor ( not sarcastic at all here!! Honestly!) of snatching that Pooh away so she wouldn’t squish it and be upset! I was so very pleased and proud, and still remember the baby’s name over 40 years later! April! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I had my son in 94 in about a 24 hour labor. In hour 1 they either made me drink something or gave me an enema I can not remember…but I was in the bathroom for a looooong time. I had horrendous hyperemesis and threw up daily- sometimes multiple times and would have to check in to the hospital to get hydrated. So…I was empty empty. They hooked me up to Pitocin and labor began. I was exhausted, feverish- low grade, and once my water broke delirious with uncontrollable pain. My husband opted for the epidural- I honestly could not be consulted- and thank god. I slept nearly all the rest of the labor. They woke me up to say it was time and two nurses basically laid across me to push him put physically while I did what felt like out of body pushing. The doctor tried to deliver my placenta but it slipped away from her and she had to scrape it out. Lots of blood. I had no use of my legs till the middle of the next day - anesthesiologist was a bit anxious. From the moment they cleared me out till the time I could actually hold him - I felt ZERO ownership of my own body. We never could get pregnant again and a nurse or doctor once mentioned it could possibly be scarring from the placenta scraping. Both my husband and I were young with healthy reproductive systems otherwise. Don’t know - I would have rather just kept what little energy I had - didn’t have much in my system anyway. It felt like clearing my system was just the first domino to fall.
Enemas, ironically, can start a constipation issue when there was not one or make an existing constipation issue worse because after an enema, sometimes one is all it takes but for some people it takes a few, your body becomes reliant on the enema to help stimulate and empty your bowels and so, even though you are intially "emptied out", you can actually get REALLY backed up in there after having an enema. This is especially horrid when you consider that after birth you already need to be on stool softeners as you are likely to experience constipation just as a result of giving birth. So this makes it all tens times worse. Well at least, it CAN, anyway. Even if you manage to escape the extreme constipation, it is still a well known fact that enemas unintentially rinse away way too much good gut bacteria in the process of using them, and so it can also lead to GERD, even MORE worsened constipation issues, and other stomach and gut issues. It also puts you at risk for hemmorhoids which is already an existing risk for pregnant and newly postpartum women. There are so many reasons why you should not use enemas unless you absolutely need to, and I hope someone reads this and understands and agrees and spares themselves from trouble.
This is a ‘don’t ask if you don’t want to know the truth’ type situation. You won’t worry about it while you’re in hard labor so forget worrying about it later. Don’t waste your energy with worry - you’ll need that energy for more important things! Congratulations to all you ladies having babies! ❤
Nurses are a blessing when they discretely clean you up while in mid labour, then pretend they didn't notice if you had a bowel movement or not, when you ask.
lol, i bought an enema begore my last baby. i was induced so i knew when I was going in. it was too complicated and i ended up doing just a liquid diet for 12 hours before. when i told the nurses they all told me i was crazy. one of them even told me "lady, I've beem doing this for over 30 yrs. YOU EAT NOW! you need energy" after that my husband forced me to eat a bagel.
See, my mom *didn’t* poop while in labor with me, and that was a big problem. The Dr realized that my mom has nerve compressions that caused the muscles involved in pushing to be weakened. I was 2 months early, and she was in labor for almost two days. I finally came out 30 minutes before they were going to do a c-section, and I had to be air lifted to a larger hospital because I wasn’t breathing. Pooping means you’re using the right muscles, it’s okay!!
Trust and believe I would rather deal with 10,000 delivery poops than handle even 100 cdiff or gi bleed poops. It lets us know as your care team that you’re using the muscles you’re supposed to be using to push as healthily as possible! You have other, far more important and pressing, things to worry about in this moment, sweetheart. I can promise you that no nurse nor doctor is judging you for pooping, and we will get you cleaned up as soon as possible so you can feel as comfortable as possible. You’re doing the most difficult thing a human body is capable of doing, there is absolutely 0 shame in that. Also if you ask me if you just pooped I’m probably going to tell you no, mostly because I want you to focus on breathing and timing your pushes! I know it’s scary for so many reasons and I hope it comforts you to know that your care team is doing everything they can to keep you and your baby safe and healthy. Also, and I cannot stress this enough, please please do not shave on your care teams accord. You could accidentally cut yourself and provide the opportunity for infection when your care team is perfectly capable of doing everything they need to do with or without the hair. If you want to because it will make you more comfortable I fully support that, but I’d highly recommend using an electronic razor with a guard on to minimize the risk of cutting yourself. One of the first skills nurses learn when learning to take care of patients is how to properly clean them, so rest assured your team will get you cleaned up and if all goes well you’ll be warm and cozy, holding your baby in no time. You got this!
She is so right!! The smell of a GI bleed poop is horrendous! I was just in the hospital for a GI bleed, a high one, so besides the gosh awful smell, it was black due to the clots and black blood. Never been more scared to poop in my life, yet you can’t help but have to. I kept apologizing, but damn, it is awful. I am a former nurse, and felt bad for my nurse and assistants. The bleeding stopped, but I will do whatever I have to, never to bleed like that again.
I know this sounds impossible, but don't fear the tears. They're not fun, and healing can take a while, but it's normal and u just have to pay attention to ur body and give it enough time to heal. I know how u feel, I was terrified of tearing, so much so that I was seriously considering an elective C-section. I ended up having a vaginal delivery and got an epidural at around 7cm. My baby was small-ish, 6lb 7oz. Resulted in 2nd degree tears, they went horizontally and I had some "internal skidmarks" as my doc called them (they were internal abrasions). Took me 3 months to heal, and getting back to intimate activities was slow, but I'm now over 2 yrs PP and it's like it never happened, not noticable at all. Bottom line, even if u do tear, it will heal, and it sucks while ur healing (use a peri bottle when u pee and take lots of sitz baths) but u get through it and it becomes a nothing sort of thing.
@@lynnodonovan4204 Sitz baths are commonly recommended for postpartum healing. Not sure why u think it's not a good idea, but doing 2-3 a day helped me immensely. It is important to not add anything to the water ur sitting in tho because that can cause further inflammation. My OB recommended it.
I asked my fiancé ( was 2 months along out of an abusive relationship) he knew it wasn't his bio child but that man did not care we were his family and that was his son. I asked did I poop he was so graceful and said no. I know dang well I did lol and his mom was like no honey you were fine.
@hillaryhayman1 yo what THE F***. Be careful how you speak to your sisters. Clearly you didn't read the abusive relationship part. You're damn lucky you don't personally understand it. But thats why I say be careful. When you judge a fellow woman for something you are blessed to not understand, a higher force may decide its your time to understand. Keep your bullshit to yourself if thats TRULY how you are but i sont think it is. I think youre hurting & you projected onto her. & i hope things get better for you. But imma still rant on in defense of the commenter here because from experience, It's hell, domestic violence, whether physical, emotional, financial, psychological ..all forms are hell. & woman are biologically programmed to NEED Containment from a male. You cannot argue facts. So if a woman who has been abused & has not had Containment from a healthy masculine man, happens upon one who not only is ready, willing, & able to love her but also her unborn child... Uhhh..she should have said "no. It's just too soon Sir. I think I'd rather suffer in survival mode. & also traumatize my baby by living that way...cuz...yah know...this made up concept of TIME. SO: So there's two ways her story could have gone after she rid herself of the man who was causing her suffering therefore making room for something meant for her highest good to come in, as she was finally in receptive mode, knowing her worth & then God/The Cosmos, whatever you believe in, served her her karma...her GOOD karma for CHOOSING to be brave enough to leave the abuse, WHILE PREGNANT which adds to the fear (Again, Containment, look up Teal Swan's video on it). So her story could have gone how it did...with a man who loves her & THEIR child cuz he took hers in as a man should when hes healthy on a soul level & loves a woman who has a baby. OR she could have said "nah, it has been much too recent, my departure from hell...i think ill sabotage this Love that is in front of me looking like Home & warmth...but no.Yuh. Yup. Your idea TOTALLY would have been better (sense the sarcasm). Lol gtfo. I read this comment & it warmed my heart & brought tears to my eyes. You read this comment & judged her...even though the outcome of what you perceive as inappropriate timing...lead to stability & love for a woman & child. I'm far from perfect believe me but you should go within & figure out why you felt how you felt upon reading this & then felt the need to talk down to her like that....BECAUSE SHE ACCEPTED A SAFE LOVE. Ugh. I can't.
My friend got an enema willingly 2 years ago before childbirth. I thought that if I ever had a baby I'd get one too, not to spare the drs and nurses but just because I don't want to poo myself :D Now after reading these comments I'm like.... ooof maybe it's not the right thing
My midwife told me, it is good when you are pooping when pushing, because then the nurses or midwifes know that you are pushing in the right direction and push enough to get the baby out 😅😅😅 the only thing that was triggering for me, was after it happends, the midwife wispers in my ear: i clean that up... Please don't say anything, that was the shame of my life in that moment... clean it up but don't tell me, i felt it that was enough for me 😅😅😅😅
My OB/GYN felt differently about this. I was stuck at stage four and was not dilating in correlation to the amount of pain I was experiencing (level eight pain but not level eight dilation) and my baby was feeling duress every time I had a contraction (his heartbeat dipped. (he was born with The umbilical cord wrapped around his head and an Apgar score of four) recommendation, enema because things need to speed up and fast. after the enema I went from a four to an 8 in five minutes, snapped open just like that. I was actively pushing less than 15 minutes later so Success ! but I still pooped on the table but that’s not necessarily a reason for having an enema there might be others. And she is right that the people who deliver babies do not care one bit about this.
Right.. but that’s because you needed your birth sped up. If it’s standard practice to do an enema then women who don’t need it sped up can have complications from that. Like if they’re unaware about the baby being breeched and they give her an enema… that means baby is now going to be birthed quickly the wrong way which can kill baby or mom (from the bleeding). It can happen so fast they won’t be able to send her in for a c-section anymore. It can also lead to liquid poops during pushing time which increase the risk of infection since it’ll get into the vaginal canal and any tears easier. In your case it made sense but it shouldn’t be standard. I doubt your OB would agree on it being a standard practice and would just use them as need like they did with you.
I had the same experience with the umbilical wrapped and duress during contractions. Apgar was 0 at birth b/c his heart stopped during the last push. They resuscitated him quickly and he's 5 years old now with no adverse affects. I just wanted to say I'm sorry you went through that. I know how scary it is.
Thank you so much for this video! I’m a young women, and while I’m not about to have a baby, and hopefully won’t for a few years yet (I am NOT properly prepared to raise a healthy and stable little one just yet!) I do really want to be a mama someday. Getting to learn about things like this now is oddly comforting. Like, it makes the whole process of giving birth a little less scary because I actually get to know more what to expect. Thank you again for the education!!
I’ve had 2 water births and one of the suggested items the hospital wanted me to bring was a fish net to scoop up the poop when it bobbed to the surface. My husband literally fished my poop out of the tub. 😳 But birth was easy and babies were healthy. Still the best way to birth!
Thank you for your awesome advice you are giving today‘a Moms. I am 63 and I had my children in the 1980’s. I didn’t even give this poop thing a second thought the one time I did think I pooped was when I lost my mucus plug. Child birth is a wonderful time in your lives enjoy it all goes so fast. And don’t worry about shaving you legs either! No one worries about that either 😂😂 Thank you Dr I am enjoying your videos!
I was lucky and didn't poop while in labor, but i sure as heck laid out a few drawn out gusts. Every time I did my amazing delivery team cheered for me as i apologized. 😂 I know there's just nothing you can do about it; the baby effectively shoves everything out that end too as you push. But i did still feel bad about letting it rip in their faces.
This was forced on me in 2011 and it was the thing I remember the most about my first baby. It was so incredibly painful and was done fully without my consent. I think about it like weekly.
I'm so sorry, what a fucking nightmare :(( That sounds like it legitimately left you traumatized. There are therapists who can probably help you work through it so you have less frequent thoughts about it if you ever do (or don't of course, also) end up getting pregnant again or whatever. I know you didn't ask for advice, this just sounds horrible though. Especially that you think about how horrible it was so often. ❤
@@SarahSkinnyJeans I really appreciate your reply, it was very kind! I've had three more kids since then and we're all done now, but I do think I probably need to talk through it.
Enemas are still routine in Korea but also slowly being phased out. I was careful to choose a hospital that didn't do old practices like that. Now, it turns out I didn't need to worry because my IBS reacts to labor the same way as period cramps since I immediately emptied my bowels as soon as active labor started. Both times 😅
So i honestly dont know anyone who had a natural birth and didnt poop but my best friends story is my fave. We were pregnant at the same time in 2021. Both of us wanted home births but her insurance wouldnt cover it at home so she had to do it in the hospital. She was determined to still have a natural birth tho. Sooo since she went in and refused the “just in case” IV and all the other prep they made her go sit in room they used as a supply closet with her husband and doula. They only came in when they like needed some gloves. So she didnt really want them BUT she had to shit and there was no working toilet near there. Her doula kept trying to flaf a nurse down but They kept telling her noo its probably baby’s head or told her to hold on one sec. So my friend is trying sooo hard not to let it go and shes already in hard hard labor b/c she had stayed home for part of it. Finally they bother to come move her to a room. As they are helping her to the bed her body just throws down and she goes all over the bed and her husband swears she yells “thats whats you get!!!” 😂 That hospital sucks and a few months before my cousin who also asked for no pain management got put in the same supply room.
I honestly wish they gave me one before hand. It might have saved me from getting septic following my csection 😢 if you have sever constipation during your pregnancy, request stool softners before and ESPECIALLY after, if you are having a csection! Not pooping can literally kill you.
@LisaMT1218 when you don't have a bowel movement for an amount of time, they become impacted which then can lead to septic/infection (from the actual fecal matter) and when you have surgery and pregnancy, constipation is a side effect. Also, from the surgery, it hurts so bad to pass a bowel movement, a person may try and put it off until healed a little more (like I did, now they won't let me leave the hospital until I have a bowel movement) Having a severe open wound (csection) and bacteria from the fecal matter (being compacted) is just asking for problems. So, while one may not have to do with another, it's hand in hand.
Considering I ended up in the hospital a week after my son was born for days, with the possibility of not surviving and having to leave him, all because I didn't sh*t, is insane to say the least. I warn everyone to take stool softeners for a while before (if their pregnancy has bad constipation) and after. I don't think any new parent wants to risk leaving this world and their new baby
the most important thing is that the baby and the mom are both healthy. nobody gonna care if you shit yourself while literally pushing a person out your body
My mom had one with me and she said it was the worst experience bc the nurse left right after doing it and left her with all the wires and monitor attached to her and like 5 minutes, she just started screaming for the nurse bc she was in active labor and was about to explode but had no way to get to the toilet with everything attached to her😂
I've also heard/read/something that it is good for the baby to be exposed to some of those bacteria. And that previously mid wives would smear it on baby's face on purpose, but that today they don't do it or have an alternative. I'm not quite sure about the details of it, but something like it. 😊
My midwife actually said ”ewww, I got your poop on my shoe” several times after I pushed out my baby. I was mortified. She was terrible in many other ways too, like talking down on me all the time, and telling me while I was in active labour I wasn’t her priority anymore, that the only person that mattered now was my baby, and that I should get used to it now since I was about to become a mother any minute. And I’ll never forget or forgive her for being the reason I missed the last 20 minutes of the final episode of Friends when it was first aired, because she insisted she *had to* examine me right that second. She raised her voice at me like I was a petulant child when I questioned the need to get this done immediately, since her collegue who had just ended her shift examined me less than an hour ago, and there had been no progress in dialation for many hours. She didn’t belive it and had to see it for herself. I wasn’t in active labour or anything at that point, my baby took another 7 hours to get here, so there was absolutely no need for the rush. I missed the ending of the final episode of Friends for nothing. And then I pooped on her shoe.
@@kris3242 Yes, now 19 years later I defenitely think so too. At the moment, not so much.😂 A few years ago I heard through the grape vine that she had a very difficult first time delivery when she became a mother herself a few years later. I think *that* was the universe getting back at her for all the women she mistreated during her time as a midwife. (I live in a rather small town and most mothers have had the same midwives throughout the years.)
I pray I have decent delivery nurses whenever I decide to have a kid and give birth cuz I can only imagine how a mama feels during/after giving birth, nevermind having the people helping you judging you
Back in the day they would shave all your pubic hair off and give you an enema. My grandma had home births and would do those things for herself before the doctor showed up. She also had to clean up the entire mess after giving birth. I guess that's one of the reasons I always thought of her as the strongest woman I knew.
I always went overdue so I drank castor oil to start labour. The cramps were awful but no chance of me pooping in labour after that, and yes labour started soon after that, a hot bath and off to the maternity ward.
Episiotomy isn’t really a thing anymore either. When I had my first baby in 2017, my in laws asked my husband if I had one. My doctor kinda laughed and explained to me that the way tissue tears down there naturally is actually easier to suture back together and cutting a woman to help the baby come out actually lead to more severe tearing. Ouch!
I cleverly avoided popping while in labor at the hospital by spending the first 2 hours of my precipitous labor on the toilet thinking I just had a tummy ache. So when I delivered in triage 30 minutes later there was nothing left and no time anyway.
A shower is exactly what I had after giving birth to my 2nd child. Felt so good to sit in the shower with warm water running over my head and body...nothing like that to relax me. I shampooed my hair, had just had a VBAC and no meds, no nothing...best feeling afterwards.
I had a c section and got sent home a day early cuz I had done everything I needed in order to go home, way different then my first 2 vaginal deliveries
I would be surprised jf you didn’t poop while you were pushing! I had brought up the question of pooping during labor to my midwives in one of my appointments, and they got out an old book to show me that had amazingly detailed drawings of a woman’s body as labor was progressing. The drawings very clearly showed that anatomically, when the baby is descending down the birth canal, the baby’s head presses up against the spine and tail bone to the extent that the colon is completely squeezed in between. Any poop that is below the baby’s head position at that point will *inevitably* come out. So there is no controlling it, and the midwives said they cheer when the poop starts coming out because it means the baby is about to come out. And they have never experienced a birth in which there was no poop. I for sure pooped during the pushing stage, even though I had had diarrhea the night before (like my body’s natural enema) and also pooped earlier in active labor (while on the toilet). So don’t worry about preventing it because you’re going to fail to lol And the bottom line is that nobody cares about it!! It just gets wiped away. Last thing - this design is intended by nature. Most babies come out facing the mother’s anus, and the baby’s microbiome is first seeded through getting bits of mom’s poop. It’s actually amazing!
In certain countries, this is standard. If you have a fear of doing this while giving birth, an enema could be a viable option to reduce your anxiety or stress in regards to this situation. Shouldn’t be forced on anyone of course, but this is and should certainly be an option for those who want to do it. Note: some studies might suggest this increases the risk of infection if a watery stool is passed during birth.
You say that, but I cared. I didn't even know until my kids were grown and my mom told me I pooped with my kids (she was in the room with most of them). Even now, it embarrasses me, and I wish she never told me.
And nobody would ever poop while lying on their back, but why are women still forced to labour and deliver on their backs? It's unnatural, unhealthy and prolongs the birthing process, because you are not using gravity and you are literally pushing the baby "up" instead of down, because it needs to unnaturally move around your coccyx. Also your pelvic bones are forced to stay in one position and can't move to give space für the baby. Being in this position there is a higher need of medication and artificial labour hormones (oxitocin or pitocin). Furthermore it leads to more serious complications like higher chance of tearing, needing a vacuum-extraction or even needing a C-Section. It also stresses the baby much more because of the prolonged labour and pushing phase and often times leads to a drop in the fetal heart rate. No animal EVER would deliberately lay down on their back and strap their legs, count to 10 and push like crazy to give birth. NEVER. Why are women still put in the bed to give birth on their backs? It is unnatural! German midwife here by the way. 👋🏼
I would rather give birth in a 7-11 convenience store than a modern American hospital that accepts my "health"care insurance. I'm not sure how the Germans deliver babies, but I bet it's safer & more efficient than nightmare deliveries happening in the states. (Most doctors/insurance companies would rather do C Sections anyways.)
In Germany, do you vaccinate newborns babies in the hospital? In USA, they inject HepB & VitK to newborn before discharging home. Do you guys vax pregnant women? In USA, the govt recommends TDAP during every pregnancy, plus annual flu shot, and up to date on COVID shots. IMO, it's too much... we are hurting our beloved children.
@@MK-ih6wp Thank you for your answers! Appreciate it. The only governmental recommended vaccination for pregnant women is the flu shot, but I personally do not recommend it to a healthy woman, and wouldn't do it myself. The vaccination given for the babies in hospitals or at home is Vit K (but oral, I think the U.S. gives that into the muscle - which is crazy...). I don't understand why you would vaccinate a newborn with HepB. How on earth is it supposed to get infected with HepB if the mother is negative? In Germany the government recommends to start vaccinating with 12 weeks, including HepB. But again, I am very cautious with that. I am in no way against vaccinations! But rather doing it cautiously. We started to give our children the shots when they were about 6 or 7 months old, so at the time when the maternal passive immunity starts to decrease. For us personally, that was the best decision. 🙂 Hope that helps!
My mom was there and she had literally worked with sick and/or elderly people so it was so natural for her to wipe me down there when I pooped. She was the best support ever! (Yes my husband was there but he was at my head holding my hand)
Had my first baby during the routine enema era, that was the least bothersome of those old standard practices.( Episiotomies are FGM that cause years of problems.) With my second baby I said I need to go to the bathroom just before crowning. Doctor cleaned that up and even laughed when my water broke splashed her glasses.
I don’t care what you guys say, I’m getting one and will ask my mom or sister to help me. I’m not going to shit on my baby or in front of people, that’s going to cripple me with anxiety and enhance my cptsd. No no no no no thank you.
My husband came up with a genius plan to make sure I didn't get constipated with our first. He kept giving me lots of prunes. Well, I didn't get constipated, but I was incredibly gassy. On the upside, I guess he's the only one I didn't poop a little with during the actual birthing part. Still prefer not to eat a boatload of prunes.
With my last baby, I both pooped and peed. I tried to give a urine sample. I was too far along and I was laboring on the toilet. I couldn't go. It just wouldn't come out. I felt my baby coming out and I remembered that I shouldn't push (the Dr wasn't in the room yet and the nurse was still checking me in). I told the nurse that my baby was coming out, she just looked at me like I was stupid. I ended up pooping and peeing and my baby came out with his water sack still in tact without me pushing. By this point the nurse was still not really doing anything until she lifted up the sheet and saw my son crowing. She pulled the emergency tab but my kid was out by then. This is one of the reasons why I don't want to go to a hospital if I get pregnant again. The nurse looking at me like I was stupid and the fact that I asked for an epidural and didn't get one; I even asked for a bath but didn't get one either. (I was still being checked in.)
Just because you're fine with people pooping in public doesn't mean they're fine with being a person that poops in public. It may be okay with you but it's not okay with them. And that in itself should be okay. 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
While I agree that it's OK. It really isn't about what everyone comfortable with but what mom is. If mom wants to do something to prevent her from pooping the bed maybe not judge her just the same and if she does. Can we just help mom be comfortable either way?
I feel like I’ve previously replied to your comment. You’ll be pooping the bed either way. One way you could end up with a tip, emergency c-section, or a nasty infection. Do you want to take a guess on which one it is? This video is trying to make mom comfortable while doing something completely natural and okay that society told her is wrong
I was so busy worrying about my baby that I didn't care. Thank you for reassuring moms that this is normal, natural, and that nobody cares. We sometimes overthink things.
I get that everyone else in the room doesn’t care but if the patient cares then *it is NOT ok to dismiss **_their_** feelings* I’m sick of healthcare workers *minimizing* patients fears, if they want an enema *give them the f enema* 🤬
The point of this is so hopefully fewer people will worry about popping during delivery so much that they want an unnecessary enema. It's not about dismissing those feelings, it's about reassuring that you don't have to stress about that.
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I asked one of my nurses if I pooped after labor and she said ‘no, of course you didn’t!’ And my husband was like ‘yes you did. No one cared.’ 😂😂
My friend is a nurse and worked in labor and delivery. She told me the answer to that question is ALWAYS “no”. 😅
@@LemonJellyJ I learned that too after sharing this story right after it happened 😂 honestly I was embarrassed then, but now years later it’s definitely just funny.
I never asked, and no one ever told me otherwise.
I never thought I did, but now I’m questioning 😂😂😂😂
Those nurses will lie about you pooping so hard if it’s the last thing they do
"Feel embarrassed, it's normal". That's actually groundbreaking for me. Usually when I'm embarrassed about something, people try to reassure me by telling me not to be embarrassed. Next time I'll try to accept the feeling because it's a normal human experience.
A tip that can help is realizing that other people don’t typically remember moments that caused you embarrassment. Even if you try to remember it about others, I’m sure it’s a bit of a struggle. In this case, everyone is thinking about the mom and baby being okay. So people don’t care if the mom poops.
@@Gingabread-bw6xjI appreciate your take, but it’s fundamentally missing the point.
Feeling embarrassed isn’t something that needs to be “fixed”. It doesn’t need to be avoided. It doesn’t have to be bad. You are not “doing worse” if you are feeling embarrassed.
Being embarrassed is normal and healthy and okay. Let’s not try to avoid embarrassment. When we do so, embarrassment can turn into shame, and shame is the toxic place we should try to stay away from.
I thought she made an editing mistake
@@mary-janereallynotsarah684 she most likely did because you can hear how the "don't" got cut off. But oh well, at least others find comfort in her phrase without the "don't"
Yeah. It always bugs me when the baseline is "We don't care, so you should not either", with a hefty undertone of not being "allowed" to react or have feelings.
I have never given birth, but a lot of medical stuff is incredibly degrading. That THEY do not care, changes nothing for me, other than being reminded of that I have no value as a human for them.
I screamed "I'm going to poop I'm so sorry" then a baby popped out instead 😂
Yeah the nurses didn’t believe my mom was close to popping out my brother until she started yelling, “I’m gonna poop!!!” Then they believed her and came running! The doctor didn’t make it, the bed hadn’t been taken apart yet, it was a whole mess. Excellent “birth control” for teenage me, though!
Oh my goodness!!! That's EXACTLY what I said!!!! I told my husband hahahahahah and the nurse was like nope that's the babies head time to PUSH lol never end up using the bathroom but man it allllll feels the SAME.
Same I was like uhmm so sorry but I think I need to poo and the nurse was like no honey you're having a baby LOL
Oh thank god hahah 😂
I did the same thing but with throw up 😂😂
Every person who works in a hospital has to deal with pee and poo every single day. From the porter, to the cleaners, the assistants, nurses and doctors. It's such a normal part of anything in hospital. Absolutely none of them care. It's part of the day job.
Right. I dont know who these people are, I've never heard anyone complain about it.
Being human can be disgusting at times, and that's ok, it's normal 😊
My favourite pooping in labour story!
Im a retired midwife, sometimes we can get a little TOO involved when encouraging Mums to push. This one Mumma had been pushing for a while and Dad was being very encouraging and supportive, counting along and holding his breath. Suddenly a shocked look came over his face, he walked over to the corner of the room and he shook out a little nugget from his pants leg. He was so involved he accidentally gave birth to his own little turd baby.
I pretended not to notice, and cleaned it up right after the birth while he was distracted with the new baby. Later on I saw him searching around the corner of the room, trying to be subtle. I couldn’t think of a good way to say “It’s all right mate, I’ve already cleaned it up”.
You are the MVP! Poor dads, they’re so important and so peripheral all at the same time.
🤣 omg the horror!!!
😂 that’s beautiful!
You are a legend!
😂😂😂
I worked in an ambulance and we got a mother-to-be in active labor, and every time she had a contraction she screamed “I’m gonna poop!” Like that was the overriding sensation she was feeling. She was so incredibly stressed about it. I tried to comfort her all the way to the hospital that it was fine and normal and if she pooped that was alright and we wouldn’t be upset. I really, really hoped I made a difference in her day by providing even a tiny bit of reassurance.
You absolutely did & I'll bet she hopes you know that.🙃
This is crazy but true...my cousin "dropped a nugget"( thats how she put it), while pushing her son out and her moms immediate reaction was to reach down and flick it away for some reason. She flicked the "nugget" right into the Drs face as he was delivering. (After i wrote this im thinking its one of them family stories that should stay in the family....but things happen lol)
UFYIDYCIGXGXI OMG that’s hilarious!!! That poor doc! 😂😂😂
😅😅😅😅😅😅😅no way
This actually made me laugh 😂. That poor doctor
That’s amazing 😂😂😂
I'm so glad you wrote that story😂😂 it made my day
We literally could not care less if you poop. That's actually a good indicator that the contractions are good and momma is pushing well. It's normal!!
I'm really appreciating the number of videos out there like this. When I first learned that I might poop while in labor, that became my number one fear about it. Hearing healthcare professionals normalize it and tell me they don't care has really helped improve my anxiety about it.
This is still my number one fear. It's actually one of the main reasons if not THE REASON I don't ever want to get pregnant/have a baby
I wish that was my number 1 fear about labor. For me it is tearing horribly and the pain that follows during the recovery.
My wife did with the first baby but not the other two. All three were induced (planned) and they just put you on a fast which was 12 hours I think. What she wasn't prepared for was the sensation of her hips spreading which she described as cracking while she was a few hours into petosin drip. She vomited almost immediately.
As a healthcare worker the fact that if you need to poop and literally cannot is more terrifying because you might need an emergency surgery.
I’ve had 3 kids. Once I was in the thick of things with labor, I cared exactly zero about anything other than getting that baby out.
I probably pooped during at least one of my deliveries, but I never knew at all. When you think about it, birth is incredibly messy and the medical personnel will be prepared to handle all kinds of messiness quickly and discretely.
Births 2, 3 and 4 my nurses and staff were amazing and didn’t care.
Birth 1- I got yelled at by a “midwife” for pooping on the floor of the shower at a 10 (they didn’t believe I was dilated fully) and being noisy.
I was young and didn’t want to offend anyone by asking questions before I signed on with a doctor or midwife.
Don’t be like me- ask the questions. Even the uncomfortable ones.
Not to mention that if you're pushing out a big baby and had a good meal beforehand, The baby's head and body is quite literally pressing on the lower part of the colon, so of course there's gonna be some forbidden soft serve!
Again, ITS OKAY TO POOP WHILE IN LABOR AND PUSHING!!! Dont let the dad, your parents, his parents, your friends, his friends, anyone shame you for it!!! Of course its embarrassing to the patient, its still okay to the medical staff ❤
You did not just say forbidden soft serve 😂 I am both laughing and slightly horrified
Totally normal. Embarrassing for mum maybe but no one else cares.
All the more reason not to allow a bunch of people in the delivery room.
@@jupiter1217Exactly. People glorify childbirth. Maybe I don't believe in normalizing shitting in front of an audience.
@@megankissinger8269I think only the father should be allowed or may be someone like the gonna be grandmother for support. But nobody else. Having a bunch of people in the delivery room is embarrassing and unnecessary I think.
I watched two of my three sons being born and Thier mother pooped a bit but to me, and I was in my early 20's, was just natural. It was just a part of bringing my child into the world. The nurse just wiped her off and dropped the wipe straight down into a trash can. The entire process was amazing.
Should say aswell thats theres a risk with having enemas during labour aswell. It can cause more pain during child birth as irritates there anus, also has a risk of making the labour and delivery a lot faster (this can be dangerous in itself) Not to mention it can cause you to soil yourself more with watery poop while pushing increasing infection risk. It was recommended and routine in the uk for years and now its incredibly rare
THANK YOU! this video provided no real information as to why it's not recommended. this is what i wanted to know.
You’re so right! I didn’t have an enema but I only pushed for 10 minutes. I blame that on why I tore so badly. I have perma hemorrhoids bc I had them when I delivered and they got sewn up in the stitches. I’ve had pain there ever since but doctors don’t seem to care.
Thanks for this! Im not bothered by the thought of pooping during labor (actually find it a bit funny) but I do NOT want to smell it. So naturally I was thinking "well maybe I want an enema she didn't even say why it's not recommended so it must be fine??" Now I know. Thanks for giving us the info that she left out
@@livelongandprospermary8796as a doctor I recommend you see a colorectal surgeon. That's a general surgeon who then did a fellowship in colorectal surgery. He will be able to redo the stitches if possible. Gyn won't touch you for fear of hurting you.
They told me to push like i was pooping.
When i started pushing, i didn't, then i remembered and tried it. Pooped a little.
They said go back to how you were pushing before.
No more poops and much more effective.
20 minutes first baby.
It is not the same muscles, at least not for me.
Your so calming, birth trauma and birth shaming is real, it's great that you encourage mamas to do what there body was made to do
The nurses and ob love it when you poop. It means you're using the right muscles and the baby will actually come out instead of risking and emergency c-section. My midwife told me to push like I was trying really hard to poop!
>The nurses and ob love it when you poop.
They told me it would reduce the risk of tearing. I only pushed for 10 minutes so I tore like a motha. And I’m pretty sure I still managed to 💩 during
@@livelongandprospermary8796 i was pushing for 3 hours and still tore in both directions. I'm convinced nothing helps with it.
Great point.
Mine gave the same advice when I was pushing out my first it totally helped 😂
I had my first baby in a birthing clinic and during my last check-up before labor, my mom joked that I should stop eating when I feel that I'm already close to giving birth so I won't poop during labor. Well, my midwife immediately told my mom that I should definitely eat, and she doesn't care whether I poop while goin through labor, the important thing is that I eat enough coz I'll need all the energy I have to push the baby out. My mom was also educated about it and I have always been grateful to my midwife. The moment my mucus plug is gone, I bathe then ate to prep for labor and true enough, my eldest took a while to get out.
OMG! I’m 66 now and this has bothered me all these years after! Now I’m laughing. Thank you.
Gracious! It’s wild how women are made to think that normal body functions aren’t acceptable!
I am 66 too, I had my first baby in 1974 my labor started at 7 AM and the hospital was 45 minutes away. We got there around 7:45 and I was in hard labor after they checked me and I was 8 cm not only did they give me an enema, but they shaved me also. I got to the bathroom and about the time I started to sit down I had a labor pain. Needless to say I spray-painted their bathroom. I had my 8 pound daughter at 9:57 AM. I had my other two babies in in 1979, 1981 and they did not do an enema or shave me either. My second baby born in 1979 was a frank breech birth, butt first. Unfortunately, my OB doctor that had just checked me did not notice that the baby was in the breech position. Thankfully, I did not have an epidural or any pain relief. And she was born a healthy, but bruised baby girl.!!
When I was first pushing with my first child I was having issues with the first few pushes and my nurse said "Just pretend like you're taking a crap" I immediately though 'I can do that' it totally helped and I was able to get my son out after an hour of pushing 😂😂
My mom almost died bc they gave her an enema when delivering my sister. My sister was breech and so they decided to order a c-section. Some negligent nurse didn't get the memo and gave my mom an enema. They're not supposed to do that my mom said (she's a nurse but was too scared and anxious to speak up). Well, like the doc said - you're using all the same muscles for popping and laboring. Next thing my mom knows is she's in the bathroom and feels my sister's leg! They had to do vaginal delivery and the bleeding afterward almost killed my mom. Thank God she made it through.
Omg! That’s horrifying! Your poor mom! What a trooper! I had two c sections so I can not even IMAGINE having such a situation, thank god your mom and sister both made it through that situation because it could have easily been tragic! 💔 but wow, it just goes to show how quickly and easily a mistake can cause a life threatening emergency in a medical situation!
Jesus I'm so glad she's OK. It is so sad that protecting a ladylike image was encouraged by the medical industry over safety
Nurse wasn’t negligent
Nurse wasn’t told of the change
Can’t do what ur not told
@YeshuaKingMessiah nurse should have double checked. Negligence.
I'm glad to hear your sister and mom survived that horrible ordeal. I hope the nurse learned a lesson about not making it about what would be easier or convenient for her and now trusts and appreciates the process of a natural delivery. This was common practice but it's dangerous considering the stability of the mom and babies vitals, like blood pressure or glucose, which could often be overlooked especially if someone is fixated or afraid of stranger's poop getting on them.
People are out of their damn mind if they think I'm going to endure a freaking enema just before giving birth 😂
😂❤
But I guess there were lots of women who were forced to do it 😔
@@swan98it was and still is completely normal and common for women in germany to get an enema 😂 why would anyone want to poop while giving birth? maybe it's not a big deal, still not necessary at all
@@Hitsugix Enemas will make your bowels constrict and expel for hours. No woman wants to have diarrhoea and be stressed about a leaking butt while trying to push a baby out. Are you a woman? 🫠
They gave me one. Horrible experience that made me feel like I was gonna puke. Glad they no longer do it!
I’ve had three babies, with my last one I pooped and the doctor made me stop pushing, announced it to the whole room, walked into the bathroom for toilet paper, cleaned up the couple poops, and then told me to keep pushing.
I was mortified to say the least.
I wished they hadn't announced that and handled it that way... :(
That's so unprofessional oh my gosh!
Unprofessional of that doctor wow!!!
He's a piss poor MD.
#1 no need for toilet paper that's what what the blue disposable pads are for.
#2 Nurses typically clean it up the instant it happens.
#3 He KNOWS it's totally out of your control.
He is a JACKASS
That’s ridiculous!!! When I had a little poo leak out when I was pushing with my second baby, the doc had a bowl of warm water she poured on me - telling me it was just to help relax me. The video said otherwise 😜! No doctor should behave like yours did. Was it their first delivery??
As a young nurse back in the day, I worked in delivery and had to shave off all the womans pubic hair, front to back, plus give her an enema... There were no exceptions...!!! When I went into labor and entered the hospital I was working at, I told the nurses I didn't want or need an enema, that I had evacuated earlier in the day... My cohorts held me down, gave me an enema and shaved me anyway, causing me to have diarrhea for two days!
I left institutional care because of this treatment. My next two children were born at home. Illegally. My midwife and I would have been arrested and jailed if we were discovered... My children are all in their 40's now.
I still actively champion women's health. 51% of the population are continuing the fight !!!!!😢😢🎉❤
Was it illegal because the midwife didn't have a license or because it was in one of the 5-8 states that don't recognize the profession?
I'm just curious, not doubting your story.
I can’t believe how horribly women were and are still treated in hospitals. Knowing that, I can’t believe still only about 1% of births in the U.S. are home births :( And btw, why the shaving??
My mom told me this when I was little, some woman poop, some others dont, some feel pain, some others not, we are all different, and should not be ashamed of the nature of our bodies, all love out there ❤❤
Some women don't feel pain while pushing a baby out of their body? Are you for real?
@@anayarey It's kinda (really) rare but there are a few women out there that don't really feel the pain, maybe some uncomfort but not the pain that most others do. It's wild.
I did before I was even pushing because my giant baby was *giant* and her head pushed everything out during her very slow descent down the birth canal… the nurse was like “you ever squeeze a tube of toothpaste from the bottom? It’s gonna happen.” because I was so humiliated and she felt bad because I felt bad 😂
I had a C-section but if any women feel shamed for pooping during delivery-- please appreciate how much work youve put on for your baby to be born. ❤
My nurses told me it happens to literally everyone and I would probably not even know because they're so good at just wiping it away quickly and tbh Idk if I pooped or not but I'm so glad no one ever told me if I did😂
Had my first 3 1986,1988,1991… those enemas while in labor were not easy, had my next baby 2001 it was soooooo different
That sounds horrible I'm sorry they made you do that.
I have had 5 babies. The nurses are so incredibly skilled at what they do. You likely won't even realize that it's happened. They just wisk it right away into the container before you notice. Once i was at this stage, i had completely forgotten that this was even a thing. 😉❤
My child development teacher in high school, she had 7 kids back in the 70s-80s. She told us that her first kid, they gave her an enema and she ended up birthing her son on the floor, facing the door of the room with it wide open, everyone in the hall watching cause she'd been on the toilet till she realized the baby was coming out, and she shit EVERYWHERE. She told us (back in 2007) to NOT EVER GET AN ENEMA in labor 😂😂😂
Thank you for giving a possible explanation why.
Awwww poor love!
Dang! That sounds... shitty.
Ohhh ok so thats why It fell out of practice. I get it now. I was like " iknow its okay and normal to pooo while in labor, but if you dont want your midwife spous dr and nurses to see you poop and its harmless why not get an enema?"
@@nosoyheinekenget an enema a day or two before your due date. 😅 I would. I don't like the feeling of pooping.
I just had baby number three a week ago and I’m sitting there throwing up and my ob bless his heart goes now I know it’s time to push. Some women have pushed out their baby while throwing up so it’s okay. My ob is amazing
Most of the time the doctor or nurses don’t even tell you if you pooped because they either don’t want to embarrass you or it’s so routine they forget about it immediately
If you're trying to bring another human into this world, I don't think it's helpful to redirect the mother's focus to the fact that she just pooped in front of 6 people. Like let's focus on the task at hand..
Thank You! You are amazing!! Your patients are so blessed to have you as their Dr.!😘😘
My husband tried to be like 'wife no don't poop it could get on the baby' and he's really lucky I was too busy to *gently* set him straigh.
That’s…awful lmao
@@afroaesthete3701its really not lol
I realise that you probably only used the term because you didn't want to reveal your IRL name, but imagining your husband exclaiming, "WIFE, NO!" in a panic made me chuckle. 😂
@@bowie3503it really is lol
@@bowie3503 it really is.
I'm older and I'm glad things have changed. When I had a baby it was a) no eating just ice chips even if it's days b) enema c) shaved d) shamed if you want natural childbirth e) once you leave the hall and get a room, no one can come in (not delivery room yet just while waiting for hours)
I pooped during both my births 🤷♀️ no one cared! The nurse actually told me that it meant I was using the right muscles and that I was doing great. They are so used to it and it gets cleaned away so fast.
I just love how positive you are
My body went into empty-everything-out mode on its own all three times. By baby #3, this helped me realize things were getting ready to get exciting!!
Same with most of mine too
Mind if I ask how many days you were emptying? I'm doing that now, but it's been days...
@@TheKittyfizzle It started three or four days before labor. My body completely emptied itself!
@@TheKittyfizzleAwe! Go, momma, go! Literally! 😅❤
Can confirm that with this baby, it happened again just before labour again
When I was in clinical for nursing school, and watching a delivery, poor mama pushed so hard, sh popped out a turd! I, as the only nursing student in there, and not in gloves, got handed a pair, and got the very special honor ( not sarcastic at all here!! Honestly!) of snatching that Pooh away so she wouldn’t squish it and be upset! I was so very pleased and proud, and still remember the baby’s name over 40 years later! April! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am soooo grateful for modern medicine and science
Thank You for your professionalism.. Compassionate people are rare nowadays...GOD bless 🌹🤗
I flat out tried to poop. I had heard that those were the specific muscles you need to be using so it made sense in my head 😂
That's the spirit fr
I had my son in 94 in about a 24 hour labor. In hour 1 they either made me drink something or gave me an enema I can not remember…but I was in the bathroom for a looooong time. I had horrendous hyperemesis and threw up daily- sometimes multiple times and would have to check in to the hospital to get hydrated. So…I was empty empty. They hooked me up to Pitocin and labor began. I was exhausted, feverish- low grade, and once my water broke delirious with uncontrollable pain. My husband opted for the epidural- I honestly could not be consulted- and thank god. I slept nearly all the rest of the labor. They woke me up to say it was time and two nurses basically laid across me to push him put physically while I did what felt like out of body pushing. The doctor tried to deliver my placenta but it slipped away from her and she had to scrape it out. Lots of blood. I had no use of my legs till the middle of the next day - anesthesiologist was a bit anxious. From the moment they cleared me out till the time I could actually hold him - I felt ZERO ownership of my own body. We never could get pregnant again and a nurse or doctor once mentioned it could possibly be scarring from the placenta scraping. Both my husband and I were young with healthy reproductive systems otherwise. Don’t know - I would have rather just kept what little energy I had - didn’t have much in my system anyway. It felt like clearing my system was just the first domino to fall.
Enemas, ironically, can start a constipation issue when there was not one or make an existing constipation issue worse because after an enema, sometimes one is all it takes but for some people it takes a few, your body becomes reliant on the enema to help stimulate and empty your bowels and so, even though you are intially "emptied out", you can actually get REALLY backed up in there after having an enema. This is especially horrid when you consider that after birth you already need to be on stool softeners as you are likely to experience constipation just as a result of giving birth. So this makes it all tens times worse. Well at least, it CAN, anyway. Even if you manage to escape the extreme constipation, it is still a well known fact that enemas unintentially rinse away way too much good gut bacteria in the process of using them, and so it can also lead to GERD, even MORE worsened constipation issues, and other stomach and gut issues. It also puts you at risk for hemmorhoids which is already an existing risk for pregnant and newly postpartum women. There are so many reasons why you should not use enemas unless you absolutely need to, and I hope someone reads this and understands and agrees and spares themselves from trouble.
Gastro Esophageal Reflux Disease? you mean ibs?
Giving one enema will not cause problems with constipation nor does it cause GERD.
This is a ‘don’t ask if you don’t want to know the truth’ type situation. You won’t worry about it while you’re in hard labor so forget worrying about it later. Don’t waste your energy with worry - you’ll need that energy for more important things! Congratulations to all you ladies having babies! ❤
If you try to give me an enema while I’m trying to push something out you’re not coming anywhere near me again lol
I thought the same ting :D
Nurses are a blessing when they discretely clean you up while in mid labour, then pretend they didn't notice if you had a bowel movement or not, when you ask.
lol, i bought an enema begore my last baby. i was induced so i knew when I was going in. it was too complicated and i ended up doing just a liquid diet for 12 hours before. when i told the nurses they all told me i was crazy. one of them even told me "lady, I've beem doing this for over 30 yrs. YOU EAT NOW! you need energy" after that my husband forced me to eat a bagel.
I'm really sorry you felt you had to do that, I'm glad you're okay and can have some humor about it.
Wow, that's doing too much to prevent a natural bodily function.
See, my mom *didn’t* poop while in labor with me, and that was a big problem. The Dr realized that my mom has nerve compressions that caused the muscles involved in pushing to be weakened. I was 2 months early, and she was in labor for almost two days. I finally came out 30 minutes before they were going to do a c-section, and I had to be air lifted to a larger hospital because I wasn’t breathing. Pooping means you’re using the right muscles, it’s okay!!
Trust and believe I would rather deal with 10,000 delivery poops than handle even 100 cdiff or gi bleed poops. It lets us know as your care team that you’re using the muscles you’re supposed to be using to push as healthily as possible! You have other, far more important and pressing, things to worry about in this moment, sweetheart. I can promise you that no nurse nor doctor is judging you for pooping, and we will get you cleaned up as soon as possible so you can feel as comfortable as possible. You’re doing the most difficult thing a human body is capable of doing, there is absolutely 0 shame in that. Also if you ask me if you just pooped I’m probably going to tell you no, mostly because I want you to focus on breathing and timing your pushes! I know it’s scary for so many reasons and I hope it comforts you to know that your care team is doing everything they can to keep you and your baby safe and healthy. Also, and I cannot stress this enough, please please do not shave on your care teams accord. You could accidentally cut yourself and provide the opportunity for infection when your care team is perfectly capable of doing everything they need to do with or without the hair. If you want to because it will make you more comfortable I fully support that, but I’d highly recommend using an electronic razor with a guard on to minimize the risk of cutting yourself. One of the first skills nurses learn when learning to take care of patients is how to properly clean them, so rest assured your team will get you cleaned up and if all goes well you’ll be warm and cozy, holding your baby in no time. You got this!
She is so right!! The smell of a GI bleed poop is horrendous! I was just in the hospital for a GI bleed, a high one, so besides the gosh awful smell, it was black due to the clots and black blood. Never been more scared to poop in my life, yet you can’t help but have to. I kept apologizing, but damn, it is awful. I am a former nurse, and felt bad for my nurse and assistants. The bleeding stopped, but I will do whatever I have to, never to bleed like that again.
Shaving is crazy
It's so nice to hear regular explanations for medical stuff! ❤
I'm not a mama yet but I have no fear of pooping! I just want a healthy baby & I don't want to rip 🤞🏻
I know this sounds impossible, but don't fear the tears. They're not fun, and healing can take a while, but it's normal and u just have to pay attention to ur body and give it enough time to heal. I know how u feel, I was terrified of tearing, so much so that I was seriously considering an elective C-section. I ended up having a vaginal delivery and got an epidural at around 7cm. My baby was small-ish, 6lb 7oz. Resulted in 2nd degree tears, they went horizontally and I had some "internal skidmarks" as my doc called them (they were internal abrasions). Took me 3 months to heal, and getting back to intimate activities was slow, but I'm now over 2 yrs PP and it's like it never happened, not noticable at all. Bottom line, even if u do tear, it will heal, and it sucks while ur healing (use a peri bottle when u pee and take lots of sitz baths) but u get through it and it becomes a nothing sort of thing.
Lots of Asian squats/heel sitting if you can, 3x 8lb babies, no stitches/tears 👍👍👍
No sits baths. Peri bottle only
@@lynnodonovan4204 Sitz baths are commonly recommended for postpartum healing. Not sure why u think it's not a good idea, but doing 2-3 a day helped me immensely. It is important to not add anything to the water ur sitting in tho because that can cause further inflammation. My OB recommended it.
@@insertwittyprofilenameherethis doesn't comfort me at all 😅 I'm happy you've fully recovered though ❤
I asked my fiancé ( was 2 months along out of an abusive relationship) he knew it wasn't his bio child but that man did not care we were his family and that was his son. I asked did I poop he was so graceful and said no. I know dang well I did lol and his mom was like no honey you were fine.
Wow a whole 8 weeks from the previous guy 🤦🏼♀️
@hillaryhayman1 yo what THE F***.
Be careful how you speak to your sisters. Clearly you didn't read the abusive relationship part. You're damn lucky you don't personally understand it. But thats why I say be careful. When you judge a fellow woman for something you are blessed to not understand, a higher force may decide its your time to understand. Keep your bullshit to yourself if thats TRULY how you are but i sont think it is. I think youre hurting & you projected onto her. & i hope things get better for you. But imma still rant on in defense of the commenter here because from experience, It's hell, domestic violence, whether physical, emotional, financial, psychological
..all forms are hell. & woman are biologically programmed to NEED Containment from a male. You cannot argue facts. So if a woman who has been abused & has not had Containment from a healthy masculine man, happens upon one who not only is ready, willing, & able to love her but also her unborn child...
Uhhh..she should have said "no. It's just too soon Sir. I think I'd rather suffer in survival mode. & also traumatize my baby by living that way...cuz...yah know...this made up concept of TIME.
SO:
So there's two ways her story could have gone after she rid herself of the man who was causing her suffering therefore making room for something meant for her highest good to come in, as she was finally in receptive mode, knowing her worth & then God/The Cosmos, whatever you believe in, served her her karma...her GOOD karma for CHOOSING to be brave enough to leave the abuse, WHILE PREGNANT which adds to the fear (Again, Containment, look up Teal Swan's video on it). So her story could have gone how it did...with a man who loves her & THEIR child cuz he took hers in as a man should when hes healthy on a soul level & loves a woman who has a baby. OR she could have said "nah, it has been much too recent, my departure from hell...i think ill sabotage this Love that is in front of me looking like Home & warmth...but no.Yuh. Yup. Your idea TOTALLY would have been better (sense the sarcasm). Lol gtfo. I read this comment & it warmed my heart & brought tears to my eyes. You read this comment & judged her...even though the outcome of what you perceive as inappropriate timing...lead to stability & love for a woman & child. I'm far from perfect believe me but you should go within & figure out why you felt how you felt upon reading this & then felt the need to talk down to her like that....BECAUSE SHE ACCEPTED A SAFE LOVE. Ugh. I can't.
My friend got an enema willingly 2 years ago before childbirth. I thought that if I ever had a baby I'd get one too, not to spare the drs and nurses but just because I don't want to poo myself :D Now after reading these comments I'm like.... ooof maybe it's not the right thing
Definitely not the right thing to do. It’s not worth the risk. Complications can arise from doing an enema while in active labor. It’s not worth it.
I would do it for sure. No way I'd just willingly shit on a bed lmao
I want to have you as my doctor during labor…
You voice is so soothing,assuring and comforting ❤
My midwife told me, it is good when you are pooping when pushing, because then the nurses or midwifes know that you are pushing in the right direction and push enough to get the baby out 😅😅😅 the only thing that was triggering for me, was after it happends, the midwife wispers in my ear: i clean that up...
Please don't say anything, that was the shame of my life in that moment... clean it up but don't tell me, i felt it that was enough for me 😅😅😅😅
Twice pooper here! Never felt embarrassed or judged by my midwife or nurse. ♥️♥️♥️
My OB/GYN felt differently about this. I was stuck at stage four and was not dilating in correlation to the amount of pain I was experiencing (level eight pain but not level eight dilation) and my baby was feeling duress every time I had a contraction (his heartbeat dipped. (he was born with The umbilical cord wrapped around his head and an Apgar score of four) recommendation, enema because things need to speed up and fast. after the enema I went from a four to an 8 in five minutes, snapped open just like that. I was actively pushing less than 15 minutes later so Success ! but I still pooped on the table but that’s not necessarily a reason for having an enema there might be others. And she is right that the people who deliver babies do not care one bit about this.
Right.. but that’s because you needed your birth sped up. If it’s standard practice to do an enema then women who don’t need it sped up can have complications from that. Like if they’re unaware about the baby being breeched and they give her an enema… that means baby is now going to be birthed quickly the wrong way which can kill baby or mom (from the bleeding). It can happen so fast they won’t be able to send her in for a c-section anymore. It can also lead to liquid poops during pushing time which increase the risk of infection since it’ll get into the vaginal canal and any tears easier. In your case it made sense but it shouldn’t be standard. I doubt your OB would agree on it being a standard practice and would just use them as need like they did with you.
I had the same experience with the umbilical wrapped and duress during contractions. Apgar was 0 at birth b/c his heart stopped during the last push. They resuscitated him quickly and he's 5 years old now with no adverse affects.
I just wanted to say I'm sorry you went through that. I know how scary it is.
Thank you so much for this video! I’m a young women, and while I’m not about to have a baby, and hopefully won’t for a few years yet (I am NOT properly prepared to raise a healthy and stable little one just yet!) I do really want to be a mama someday.
Getting to learn about things like this now is oddly comforting. Like, it makes the whole process of giving birth a little less scary because I actually get to know more what to expect.
Thank you again for the education!!
I’ve had 2 water births and one of the suggested items the hospital wanted me to bring was a fish net to scoop up the poop when it bobbed to the surface. My husband literally fished my poop out of the tub. 😳
But birth was easy and babies were healthy. Still the best way to birth!
EWWWWWWW
I didn't know turds float
@@livewellwitheds6885 well you're lucky because I saw a number of them calmly floating their way while at the beach and it's disgusting 😂
@@livewellwitheds6885 some do, some don't
@kleineoOoStern who tf poops at the beach 💀💀 That's so disgusting
Thank you for saying this, gived a sense of normality on this😊❤
I know my mom said that her first pregnancy in 1990 she was so happy that enemas had just been deemed unnecessary a few years prior in Canada.
Thank you for your awesome advice you are giving today‘a Moms. I am 63 and I had my children in the 1980’s. I didn’t even give this poop thing a second thought the one time I did think I pooped was when I lost my mucus plug. Child birth is a wonderful time in your lives enjoy it all goes so fast. And don’t worry about shaving you legs either! No one worries about that either 😂😂
Thank you Dr I am enjoying your videos!
I was lucky and didn't poop while in labor, but i sure as heck laid out a few drawn out gusts. Every time I did my amazing delivery team cheered for me as i apologized. 😂 I know there's just nothing you can do about it; the baby effectively shoves everything out that end too as you push. But i did still feel bad about letting it rip in their faces.
I delivered my son in 1982
I was given an enema & was shaved
All in front of my hubby. No modesty
during labor & delivery.
This was forced on me in 2011 and it was the thing I remember the most about my first baby. It was so incredibly painful and was done fully without my consent. I think about it like weekly.
I'm so sorry, what a fucking nightmare :((
That sounds like it legitimately left you traumatized. There are therapists who can probably help you work through it so you have less frequent thoughts about it if you ever do (or don't of course, also) end up getting pregnant again or whatever.
I know you didn't ask for advice, this just sounds horrible though. Especially that you think about how horrible it was so often.
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@@SarahSkinnyJeans I really appreciate your reply, it was very kind! I've had three more kids since then and we're all done now, but I do think I probably need to talk through it.
Enemas are still routine in Korea but also slowly being phased out. I was careful to choose a hospital that didn't do old practices like that.
Now, it turns out I didn't need to worry because my IBS reacts to labor the same way as period cramps since I immediately emptied my bowels as soon as active labor started. Both times 😅
So i honestly dont know anyone who had a natural birth and didnt poop but my best friends story is my fave. We were pregnant at the same time in 2021. Both of us wanted home births but her insurance wouldnt cover it at home so she had to do it in the hospital. She was determined to still have a natural birth tho. Sooo since she went in and refused the “just in case” IV and all the other prep they made her go sit in room they used as a supply closet with her husband and doula. They only came in when they like needed some gloves. So she didnt really want them BUT she had to shit and there was no working toilet near there. Her doula kept trying to flaf a nurse down but They kept telling her noo its probably baby’s head or told her to hold on one sec. So my friend is trying sooo hard not to let it go and shes already in hard hard labor b/c she had stayed home for part of it. Finally they bother to come move her to a room. As they are helping her to the bed her body just throws down and she goes all over the bed and her husband swears she yells “thats whats you get!!!” 😂
That hospital sucks and a few months before my cousin who also asked for no pain management got put in the same supply room.
I honestly wish they gave me one before hand. It might have saved me from getting septic following my csection 😢 if you have sever constipation during your pregnancy, request stool softners before and ESPECIALLY after, if you are having a csection! Not pooping can literally kill you.
Your bowels have nothing to do with a c section/uterine infection.
@LisaMT1218 when you don't have a bowel movement for an amount of time, they become impacted which then can lead to septic/infection (from the actual fecal matter) and when you have surgery and pregnancy, constipation is a side effect. Also, from the surgery, it hurts so bad to pass a bowel movement, a person may try and put it off until healed a little more (like I did, now they won't let me leave the hospital until I have a bowel movement)
Having a severe open wound (csection) and bacteria from the fecal matter (being compacted) is just asking for problems. So, while one may not have to do with another, it's hand in hand.
Considering I ended up in the hospital a week after my son was born for days, with the possibility of not surviving and having to leave him, all because I didn't sh*t, is insane to say the least. I warn everyone to take stool softeners for a while before (if their pregnancy has bad constipation) and after. I don't think any new parent wants to risk leaving this world and their new baby
It is important to stay on top of pregnancy constipation. I’m sorry you had such a difficult time.
the most important thing is that the baby and the mom are both healthy. nobody gonna care if you shit yourself while literally pushing a person out your body
My mom had one with me and she said it was the worst experience bc the nurse left right after doing it and left her with all the wires and monitor attached to her and like 5 minutes, she just started screaming for the nurse bc she was in active labor and was about to explode but had no way to get to the toilet with everything attached to her😂
I've also heard/read/something that it is good for the baby to be exposed to some of those bacteria. And that previously mid wives would smear it on baby's face on purpose, but that today they don't do it or have an alternative.
I'm not quite sure about the details of it, but something like it. 😊
My midwife actually said ”ewww, I got your poop on my shoe” several times after I pushed out my baby. I was mortified.
She was terrible in many other ways too, like talking down on me all the time, and telling me while I was in active labour I wasn’t her priority anymore, that the only person that mattered now was my baby, and that I should get used to it now since I was about to become a mother any minute.
And I’ll never forget or forgive her for being the reason I missed the last 20 minutes of the final episode of Friends when it was first aired, because she insisted she *had to* examine me right that second. She raised her voice at me like I was a petulant child when I questioned the need to get this done immediately, since her collegue who had just ended her shift examined me less than an hour ago, and there had been no progress in dialation for many hours. She didn’t belive it and had to see it for herself.
I wasn’t in active labour or anything at that point, my baby took another 7 hours to get here, so there was absolutely no need for the rush. I missed the ending of the final episode of Friends for nothing. And then I pooped on her shoe.
Take it as your body getting revenge for u 😂❤
@@kris3242 Yes, now 19 years later I defenitely think so too. At the moment, not so much.😂
A few years ago I heard through the grape vine that she had a very difficult first time delivery when she became a mother herself a few years later. I think *that* was the universe getting back at her for all the women she mistreated during her time as a midwife.
(I live in a rather small town and most mothers have had the same midwives throughout the years.)
Oof hopefully she learned some empathy then. I had 3 kids myself n I hate the way some doctors n the lik treat us
I pray I have decent delivery nurses whenever I decide to have a kid and give birth cuz I can only imagine how a mama feels during/after giving birth, nevermind having the people helping you judging you
Back in the day they would shave all your pubic hair off and give you an enema. My grandma had home births and would do those things for herself before the doctor showed up. She also had to clean up the entire mess after giving birth. I guess that's one of the reasons I always thought of her as the strongest woman I knew.
it's soooo itchy being shaved and irritating as it grows back!!! poor Nana!!!!! 💔💔💔 wish people would let natural things be.
I'm thankful that these types of videos are here cause if there wasn't i would have believed my "biology" teachers words
When someone says no it means no. And doctors need to learn that pregnant women aren't property.
I always went overdue so I drank castor oil to start labour. The cramps were awful but no chance of me pooping in labour after that, and yes labour started soon after that, a hot bath and off to the maternity ward.
Episiotomy isn’t really a thing anymore either. When I had my first baby in 2017, my in laws asked my husband if I had one. My doctor kinda laughed and explained to me that the way tissue tears down there naturally is actually easier to suture back together and cutting a woman to help the baby come out actually lead to more severe tearing. Ouch!
Ouch is right. didn't even know that was a thing! poor mommas
Lucky you! They still "convinced" me to have one in 2022 after doing all the prep I could to prevent it, so it's def still a thing 🙃
I cleverly avoided popping while in labor at the hospital by spending the first 2 hours of my precipitous labor on the toilet thinking I just had a tummy ache. So when I delivered in triage 30 minutes later there was nothing left and no time anyway.
I live in a country where if you deliver normally no c-section, in a hospital, straight after delivery they send you to shower!
A shower is exactly what I had after giving birth to my 2nd child. Felt so good to sit in the shower with warm water running over my head and body...nothing like that to relax me. I shampooed my hair, had just had a VBAC and no meds, no nothing...best feeling afterwards.
I had a c section in the morning and was up and showering mid afternoon. So grateful for all the improvements to delivery!
I had a c section and got sent home a day early cuz I had done everything I needed in order to go home, way different then my first 2 vaginal deliveries
I would be surprised jf you didn’t poop while you were pushing!
I had brought up the question of pooping during labor to my midwives in one of my appointments, and they got out an old book to show me that had amazingly detailed drawings of a woman’s body as labor was progressing. The drawings very clearly showed that anatomically, when the baby is descending down the birth canal, the baby’s head presses up against the spine and tail bone to the extent that the colon is completely squeezed in between. Any poop that is below the baby’s head position at that point will *inevitably* come out. So there is no controlling it, and the midwives said they cheer when the poop starts coming out because it means the baby is about to come out. And they have never experienced a birth in which there was no poop. I for sure pooped during the pushing stage, even though I had had diarrhea the night before (like my body’s natural enema) and also pooped earlier in active labor (while on the toilet). So don’t worry about preventing it because you’re going to fail to lol And the bottom line is that nobody cares about it!! It just gets wiped away. Last thing - this design is intended by nature. Most babies come out facing the mother’s anus, and the baby’s microbiome is first seeded through getting bits of mom’s poop. It’s actually amazing!
In certain countries, this is standard. If you have a fear of doing this while giving birth, an enema could be a viable option to reduce your anxiety or stress in regards to this situation. Shouldn’t be forced on anyone of course, but this is and should certainly be an option for those who want to do it.
Note: some studies might suggest this increases the risk of infection if a watery stool is passed during birth.
Just don't give a shit if you shit during labor. You're literally doing one of the most gruelling events in your life.
You say that, but I cared. I didn't even know until my kids were grown and my mom told me I pooped with my kids (she was in the room with most of them). Even now, it embarrasses me, and I wish she never told me.
And nobody would ever poop while lying on their back, but why are women still forced to labour and deliver on their backs? It's unnatural, unhealthy and prolongs the birthing process, because you are not using gravity and you are literally pushing the baby "up" instead of down, because it needs to unnaturally move around your coccyx. Also your pelvic bones are forced to stay in one position and can't move to give space für the baby. Being in this position there is a higher need of medication and artificial labour hormones (oxitocin or pitocin). Furthermore it leads to more serious complications like higher chance of tearing, needing a vacuum-extraction or even needing a C-Section. It also stresses the baby much more because of the prolonged labour and pushing phase and often times leads to a drop in the fetal heart rate.
No animal EVER would deliberately lay down on their back and strap their legs, count to 10 and push like crazy to give birth. NEVER.
Why are women still put in the bed to give birth on their backs? It is unnatural!
German midwife here by the way. 👋🏼
I would rather give birth in a 7-11 convenience store than a modern American hospital that accepts my "health"care insurance.
I'm not sure how the Germans deliver babies, but I bet it's safer & more efficient than nightmare deliveries happening in the states.
(Most doctors/insurance companies would rather do C Sections anyways.)
In Germany, do you vaccinate newborns babies in the hospital?
In USA, they inject HepB & VitK to newborn before discharging home.
Do you guys vax pregnant women?
In USA, the govt recommends TDAP during every pregnancy, plus annual flu shot, and up to date on COVID shots.
IMO, it's too much... we are hurting our beloved children.
@@MK-ih6wp Thank you for your answers! Appreciate it.
The only governmental recommended vaccination for pregnant women is the flu shot, but I personally do not recommend it to a healthy woman, and wouldn't do it myself.
The vaccination given for the babies in hospitals or at home is Vit K (but oral, I think the U.S. gives that into the muscle - which is crazy...). I don't understand why you would vaccinate a newborn with HepB. How on earth is it supposed to get infected with HepB if the mother is negative? In Germany the government recommends to start vaccinating with 12 weeks, including HepB. But again, I am very cautious with that. I am in no way against vaccinations! But rather doing it cautiously. We started to give our children the shots when they were about 6 or 7 months old, so at the time when the maternal passive immunity starts to decrease. For us personally, that was the best decision. 🙂
Hope that helps!
Thank you for making us feel comfortable!!
Unfortunately in some countries it is still considered as normal and is frowned upon if you decline it 😢
Why unfortunately? It is better then poop on everyone
My mom was there and she had literally worked with sick and/or elderly people so it was so natural for her to wipe me down there when I pooped. She was the best support ever! (Yes my husband was there but he was at my head holding my hand)
My biggest concern is whether the poop will touch my baby 🥺. I don't want to welcome them into the world like that.
They're covered in plenty of gross stuff. One more won't matter.
@@jenelle5331 solid point.
Had my first baby during the routine enema era, that was the least bothersome of those old standard practices.( Episiotomies are FGM that cause years of problems.) With my second baby I said I need to go to the bathroom just before crowning. Doctor cleaned that up and even laughed when my water broke splashed her glasses.
Push it alllllll out, Mama. Even after that kid is out, assert yourself like "But wait! There's MORE!"
I don’t care what you guys say, I’m getting one and will ask my mom or sister to help me. I’m not going to shit on my baby or in front of people, that’s going to cripple me with anxiety and enhance my cptsd. No no no no no thank you.
Why are people so concerned about pooping during it? I'd be more concerned about farting.😅
This made me hyena laugh lol thank you.
Both of those things are literally my biggest fears and why I won't have kids.
Omg though you're funny
My husband came up with a genius plan to make sure I didn't get constipated with our first. He kept giving me lots of prunes. Well, I didn't get constipated, but I was incredibly gassy. On the upside, I guess he's the only one I didn't poop a little with during the actual birthing part. Still prefer not to eat a boatload of prunes.
When you fart and poop at the same time, with a baby coming through next door, it can propel it quite a distance 😂😂😂
With my last baby, I both pooped and peed. I tried to give a urine sample. I was too far along and I was laboring on the toilet. I couldn't go. It just wouldn't come out. I felt my baby coming out and I remembered that I shouldn't push (the Dr wasn't in the room yet and the nurse was still checking me in). I told the nurse that my baby was coming out, she just looked at me like I was stupid. I ended up pooping and peeing and my baby came out with his water sack still in tact without me pushing. By this point the nurse was still not really doing anything until she lifted up the sheet and saw my son crowing. She pulled the emergency tab but my kid was out by then. This is one of the reasons why I don't want to go to a hospital if I get pregnant again. The nurse looking at me like I was stupid and the fact that I asked for an epidural and didn't get one; I even asked for a bath but didn't get one either. (I was still being checked in.)
Just because you're fine with people pooping in public doesn't mean they're fine with being a person that poops in public. It may be okay with you but it's not okay with them. And that in itself should be okay.
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I swear just hearing her talk would put me at ease.
While I agree that it's OK. It really isn't about what everyone comfortable with but what mom is.
If mom wants to do something to prevent her from pooping the bed maybe not judge her just the same and if she does.
Can we just help mom be comfortable either way?
There are actual medical benefits to the baby when they’re pooped on. It helps jump start their immune system
I feel like I’ve previously replied to your comment. You’ll be pooping the bed either way. One way you could end up with a tip, emergency c-section, or a nasty infection. Do you want to take a guess on which one it is? This video is trying to make mom comfortable while doing something completely natural and okay that society told her is wrong
I was so busy worrying about my baby that I didn't care. Thank you for reassuring moms that this is normal, natural, and that nobody cares. We sometimes overthink things.
I get that everyone else in the room doesn’t care but if the patient cares then *it is NOT ok to dismiss **_their_** feelings*
I’m sick of healthcare workers *minimizing* patients fears, if they want an enema *give them the f enema* 🤬
The point of this is so hopefully fewer people will worry about popping during delivery so much that they want an unnecessary enema. It's not about dismissing those feelings, it's about reassuring that you don't have to stress about that.
Being in labor sounds bad enough, but enemas are anything but comfy (coming from experience)