You Must Play With Your Wife | Jordan Peterson

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  • Jordan Peterson's advice on marriage, relationships, life.
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    ⚠️ ABOUT DR. JORDAN PETERSON
    Jordan Peterson is a renowned Canadian psychologist, author, and professor, widely acclaimed for his profound insights into the human psyche and his contributions to the field of psychology. With an illustrious career spanning several decades, Peterson has earned a remarkable reputation for his thought-provoking ideas and transformative teachings.
    Peterson's academic achievements are truly exceptional. He holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Alberta and has served as a professor at the University of Toronto. Throughout his career, he has published numerous influential papers and articles, making significant contributions to the field. Notably, his work on personality psychology and the psychology of religious and ideological belief systems has garnered widespread recognition.
    One of the striking indicators of Peterson's impact is his exceptional citation count on Google Scholar of over 20,000 citations. His research has been cited by scholars and researchers worldwide, highlighting the significance and relevance of his ideas. This recognition reflects the profound influence he has had on the academic community and the intellectual discourse surrounding psychology.
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  • @jordanfine7272
    @jordanfine7272 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1826

    It's amazing that he played the piano the whole time he was talking.

    • @Hypothetical-Being
      @Hypothetical-Being 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

      That music was overlayed on his speech, he wasn’t playing it 🤓

    • @jenniferv
      @jenniferv 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      hahahah right? wow! stop playin

    • @justicemoody
      @justicemoody 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +84

      @@Hypothetical-Being He was kidding.

    • @Dhruvbala
      @Dhruvbala 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      @@Hypothetical-Being Haha. Subtle self parody with the ‘🤓’

    • @olibrooke7114
      @olibrooke7114 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I've seen people sing and play the piano, blew my mind

  • @judithanntoole8900
    @judithanntoole8900 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +995

    My husband and I have been married for 41 years now. We still laugh and fool around like kids. We both came from very difficult upbringings and at one point I really thought our marriage wouldn’t make it.
    There are three things that saved us. One …and please don’t slam me , was Jesus Christ..I’m not trying to be preachy …that’s just the way it was for us…the ability to have fun…and the hope that He gave us, because we had lost any hope of our own.
    I feel so grateful.

    • @JoeSmith-gb4ng
      @JoeSmith-gb4ng 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +144

      Don't be ashamed about mentioning Christ, even if they do slam you. If more people would pay attention that relationships work best when God is the center of them then divorce wouldn't be so rampant in our society.
      God Bless you and your husband and here's to forever being together for you two.

    • @bbaer5442
      @bbaer5442 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

      I can honestly say the.same ... 25 yrs in and all Glory goes to Our God ❤

    • @bernaridho
      @bernaridho 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

      Yes, don't be ashamed. Even if some people feel it's preachy. Gods urge us not be ashamed of Them/Him.

    • @rosemarysanders1105
      @rosemarysanders1105 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Beautifully said, I can relate. An attitude of gratitude is a very good thing!

    • @BenWeeks-ca
      @BenWeeks-ca 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Were there 2 other things that saved you or was it a trinity thing entirely? (Am a believer too. :) )

  • @MikoAnch
    @MikoAnch 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    Been with my wife for 10 years now. Married 7. Still madly in love with her - still obsessed. She's all I think about when I'm not with her. Even when I fantasize about random things, I unconsciously always include her in there. The mother of my boys. The woman of my dreams. I am absolutely the luckiest man in the world.

    • @AnselGrey
      @AnselGrey หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's amazing bless you man

  • @derrickrr5516
    @derrickrr5516 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +438

    I’m 46. My wife and I had our first kiss 29 years ago. Play has been difficult for her. Her father was a MAD alcoholic. Never physically abusive but the emotional abuse and fear he instilled left its mark. She slowly became him, worse than him in some ways. I was playful and full of energy and optimism for so long. Eventually she broke me. Now I often feel like a pessimistic, negative person inside while trying to put on a happy face for my kids and my wife. But I never lost my persistence. I never completely give up. Almost every day I pick my wife up off her feet and give her a big huge hug for at least 30 seconds before setting her down. Sometimes I joke that I have to carry her around the house like a princess to get my daily cardio in. She won’t really let me tickle her and she has limited interests so I have to take what I can get. It helps, I think. Her mom once told me her heart is like an onion and you have to peel away the layers. I think when I pick her up and carry her around I peel away one layer. I don’t feel like I reach her heart often but I’m always one layer closer.

    • @beverlypearson5332
      @beverlypearson5332 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    • @constancemasterson9582
      @constancemasterson9582 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

      You have a strong character. Thank you for sharing this word.

    • @Marie16240
      @Marie16240 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      You are amazing to have so much hope in your heart for both of you ❤️‍🩹thank you for being you.
      I realized that my husband wouldn’t be there for me in this way and when I did all became broken and lost. We are still together, sort of, but I am suppressing heavy feelings of loneliness and sadness. I am not sure I’ll be able to do this for long.
      Take a good care of yourself! If you break, everything you’re holding together will to ❤️‍🩹

    • @figure15skater
      @figure15skater 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      Being an adult child of an alcoholic is hard & your wife may benefit from Al anon. She’s so blessed to have you as her partner and I’m glad you posted this comment.

    • @mikec2845
      @mikec2845 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      You sound a lot like my Dad, and it didn't end well in the end, but we had a lot of good times growing up.
      Sometimes people need to know the blunt, yet loving reality of your heart. Consider showing her this comment!

  • @jread3312
    @jread3312 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +181

    This touched my heart deeply. At 80 years old, one of the treasures I have discovered about aging is the realization that I also can love others from every age that I have ever been. Now I know I'm not alone in this. :) God Bless

    • @AlwaysOn702
      @AlwaysOn702 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @jread3312 Say more about that. You can love others from every age? Are you referring to memories or people who you have met through your years?

    • @4.0.4
      @4.0.4 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      At 80 you pretty much watched the downfall of civilization, and maybe even helped it (no judging), but rest easy knowing it's not gonna stay this bad for long.

    • @LaFonteCheVi
      @LaFonteCheVi 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wise words

    • @Youtubeuser1aa
      @Youtubeuser1aa 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@4.0.4well the actual downfall happened in the 1940s (saying that has happened now is silly and dramatic) so I guess if you’re 80 you missed that.

    • @Youtubeuser1aa
      @Youtubeuser1aa 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      When do you have peaceful acceptance of death? Have you?

  • @OzSafe1
    @OzSafe1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +107

    Our family (6 kids, 10 grandkids) and friends laugh at our endless play. My wife and I have our own unique language filled with certain looks, words and sayings. We laugh at our own quirky habits and idiosyncrasies which too, are part of our play. Normal, healthy children play when they know their father loves them and my wife and I know we have a Father in heaven who loves us, and that’s why we’re always playing.

    • @TheLazyLifterr
      @TheLazyLifterr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Gosh that word idiosyncrasies brings me back to the first time I watched Good Will Hunting. God bless you and your family 🙏🏼

    • @judithanntoole8900
      @judithanntoole8900 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It’s a blessing to have such a happy way with each other. Thanks for sharing.😊

    • @frozenrogue8970
      @frozenrogue8970 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I love that: healthy children play..

    • @utkarshsharma4628
      @utkarshsharma4628 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Beautiful ❤

  • @stephanienonyabeezwax1288
    @stephanienonyabeezwax1288 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    My husband and I still play. Making each other smile in the moments the other isn’t expecting it, is perfect. Last wk we left my parents house when our 6yr old yells from the back that her brother, 1 yr old, pooped. So we pulled over at the end of the neighborhood street. I got out and checked, so my husband said he’ll pull over into the grass more. I walked a few ft away, he back backed up, and as he started forward, I threw my hand on my hip, straightened one leg, and popped my thumb up for a ride. He went from 😐😏😄. His whole mood changed after that. Not that he was in a bad mood, but it was lighter now. Doesn’t take much. We as adults, can get stuck in a groove. Work, survive, keep kids alive, clean house repeat repeat.. remember to have fun ❤

  • @timpan0
    @timpan0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +195

    How can you not like Jordan Peterson?
    Greetings from Sweden!

    • @Sloimer
      @Sloimer 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Kermit the Fraud

    • @MichelleNovalee
      @MichelleNovalee 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Hateful people hate good people.

    • @D1M1T
      @D1M1T 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      some people are realists and have a balanced view. I overall like what ive seen from him, however he's fell into the addiction much like us so he's not beyond criticism, no one is. I could talk about his connection to Israel that's my main concern but make up your own minds.

    • @Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq.
      @Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He talks all about tyrannical evil and power dynamics but, fails to see or refuses to acknowledged that baleful influence via social and emotional manipulation on the part of XX used to exploit XY. He's unwittingly Guy Know Cent Rick and his daughter and wife are gradually taking over his platform and message to make millions and "return him to the fold". He began by caring about men and now he condemns those who advocate their sovereignty.

    • @StableColonel
      @StableColonel 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It really boggles the mind. They hated Jesus too.

  • @Milestonemonger
    @Milestonemonger 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +80

    We've been married for 41 years. My husband and I love traveling and laughing together...at ourselves and each other 💘

    • @Vextrove
      @Vextrove 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm glad you two can be happy together

    • @mariannefrancis6407
      @mariannefrancis6407 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      God bless your life

    • @mariannefrancis6407
      @mariannefrancis6407 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think this generation won't be like that 😢

  • @gwenaguilar7049
    @gwenaguilar7049 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +143

    Met my hubby at 14 and became instant best friends. My one constant. Took me 4yrs to see he was the one. We've been through a lot. I tell everyone that there are times I've wanted to to divorce my husband, but never have i wanted to give my best friend. We spend hours talking, sitting together watching tv and laugh hysterically. This is priceless. Jesus said that we must be like the children for the children will inherit the Earth. He was telling us to enjoy life and be like them.

    • @judithanntoole8900
      @judithanntoole8900 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Such a beautiful story, ours is much the same. Jesus is so good. His divine enablement carry’s is through the difficult seasons. Blessings ❤️to you and your beloved.

    • @nyquilsleepah
      @nyquilsleepah 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Also to trust in God as a Child would trust their parent.

    • @jeffhiggins808
      @jeffhiggins808 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Playful, innocent, honest, and no arrogance or pretense

    • @kelly4187
      @kelly4187 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My wife and I speak to young couples in our parish, and one of our important key messages we want to get across is “divorce should not be a word in your vocabulary”. Don’t even use it in jest, and if you are dissing your husband behind his back to your friends then that needs to stop: it is a sign of bad dysfunction. You are married for life… one of you has to die for this to end. Live intentionally like it.

    • @judithanntoole8900
      @judithanntoole8900 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kelly4187 Such great advice! I remember during that pivotal time in our relationship that was a decision that changed the trajectory of our marriage…divorce was off the table, and we also chose not to speak of it at all.
      I think when couples threaten each other, at first it really hurts but after a while of continually escalating…hearts harden …and they think this is where we’re going to end up, let’s just get it over with.
      Speaking well of your spouse…Amen!
      I am so happy to hear that you are helping married couples! That is something we need more of today, people like you and your wife believing that it is possible to turn the worst situation into the best situation. I can honestly say that if we hadn’t had a community believers we would have quit…because I know I truly had no hope.
      God loves marriage, He loves family. Keep doing what you’re doing your changing the lives of generations to come.
      Blessings to both you and your beloved.😊

  • @PowerRedBullTypology
    @PowerRedBullTypology 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +130

    You need 2 things: play and depth. Play for the easy times and dept for the long term (obstacles)

    • @robhulson
      @robhulson 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      And then you have this moment of realization that many obstacles could be overcome if the right play were employed.
      Then life starts opening up its secrets to you.

    • @sharkfinn6469
      @sharkfinn6469 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      And girth. It makes a huge difference

    • @Jules-740
      @Jules-740 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Play for the hard times and humor.

    • @robhulson
      @robhulson 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sharkfinn6469 And being able to stay hard and knock her in all the right places, with force. It’s like finding your own vampire energy, and vampire is one of the top five female fantasies.
      I like getting hungry for my woman and consuming her. I like being selfish. And that includes rocking her world.
      I won’t mention my own stats because I’m not a lunatic. But suffice it to say that the woman I’m with, who is a damn honest woman, has said that of all the “male energy rod” she has had, mine is the best she’s *ever* been given.
      I go from the heart AND the wolf.
      And we talk really frankly and honestly with each other.
      She’s quite the amazon woman herself. Speaks more truth than any woman I’ve been with. Remarkable lady I deeply admire.

    • @PhilosopherKing161
      @PhilosopherKing161 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What’s ur socionics type? Cause I do remember seeing your comments to every single typology content here

  • @KyleCollins-ny4em
    @KyleCollins-ny4em 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +249

    What a fairytale he’s gotten to live. Knowing his love since childhood.

    • @PowerRedBullTypology
      @PowerRedBullTypology 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      @@KyleCollins-ny4em any fairy tale while being as depressed as him and his daughter were does not automatically seem like a fairy tale to me

    • @jazay591
      @jazay591 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I wonder how many guys she dated before she settled down with him

    • @PukikiQuaker
      @PukikiQuaker 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @@PowerRedBullTypology No matter how stable your home life is… working in healthcare will take an emotional toll. It is so hard that most people burn out.

    • @jdkayak7868
      @jdkayak7868 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I don't think they dated early on and he was born in the era and traditional location where it wasnt like nowadays e​@@jazay591

    • @christianlassen1577
      @christianlassen1577 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      they've had all the rough scary adventures of a typical fairy tale, too

  • @racothran
    @racothran 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    "What do you see in someone you love when you see them with love?" 😢❤
    After having my first child, I have felt more love in my heart than ever. I am beyond ecstatic because of it, but now I see the gaps I have allowed in so many other relationships. My husband is one of them. (I have such a wonderful man in my life!!) Don't take them for granted, even if you feel like they have done the same to you. Be the START of change, always love with more ferocity. It only comes with intention!!
    I really really wish Jordan Peterson had a larger female following. I always feel so at ease when he speaks about enhancing your relationships. If what he says is his lifestyle, you can tell he really loves his wife.

    • @judithanntoole8900
      @judithanntoole8900 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Such a good word! Thanks for sharing. ❤

    • @Brigsgirl22
      @Brigsgirl22 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I'm a woman and I have followed him for a decade. There are quite a number of us out there. But yes, he definitely has a much wider audience of men following

    • @aprildawn82
      @aprildawn82 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      There's something about becoming a parent that shows a person what true love is. It happened to me as well. ❤️

  • @3lit3gn0m3
    @3lit3gn0m3 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    When I was younger, one of the most important pre-conditions for a partner for me was always "It needs to be someone I'm friends with." To me, seeing people who are not friends, but are still a couple...has always seemed awkward and forced. When I hear them call eachother "honey" it seems forced, because that doesn't seem like something I'd call someone I'm genuinely close to.
    I'm not going to police what people call one another, it just seems strange to me. Being genuine seems to be the only way into a good relationship, and friendship is often one of the most telling things. If you don't like being around someone, you won't really be friends with them. If all you want from someone is to spend time with them and perhaps have fun, how is that not the ultimate pre-condition for marriage?
    To this day, I hold the same opinion. Friendship and being close outside of intimacy is the first requirement for things to continue.
    All that said, I'm not really searching anymore. Videos like this remind me of when I did, and it's interesting to think about, but there's no point stressing over something I can't force in the first place. Perhaps I'll never meet that person, but I think that's better than forcing a relationship with someone I can barely stand purely because I want to 'settle.'
    Hearing Jordan say something I've felt for a very long time was refreshing. He's a lucky guy to have met his wife when he did, and a smart guy for realizing what he needed to make of it when he did.

    • @theusher2893
      @theusher2893 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You're not wrong!

  • @hammer48ful
    @hammer48ful 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Been married 52 yrs. and it keeps on getting better. We try to work as a team through good and bad. Having dates is important so you can just enjoy each other. Like kids you can fight and make up and keep on going.

  • @HarmonicWave
    @HarmonicWave 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I didn't meet my wife until we were in our late twenties, but today is our 13th anniversary and we're still in love like when we first got married, feels like just a few years ago. We're just getting started with our life together.

  • @andres.e.
    @andres.e. 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +87

    "I can see [my wife] at every age I've known her at the same time. What do you see when you see someone you love? - Jordan Peterson

    • @robhulson
      @robhulson 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      This is extremely wise. The more we introduce the play of the various levels of our past into our present, especially from our childhood, the more sides of ourselves we show off to our partner.
      Honestly, and this is going to sound silly, but I feel like I have a harem with a single woman. My woman shows me so many sides of her personality that I find hopelessly mesmerizing and endlessly attractive, or sometimes just plain darn cute.
      This is what you don't get with an actual harem, whether simultaneous or sequential.

    • @andres.e.
      @andres.e. 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@robhulson Interesting idea, the 'harem' thing.

    • @andres.e.
      @andres.e. 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@robhulson And now that I think of it, the original JP comment can also be applied to our children, parents, siblings, long-time friends… It happens to me with my children sometimes.

    • @jeseljams9956
      @jeseljams9956 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I totally get this with my husband of 28 yrs. ❤️‍🔥💖💗

    • @maxonmendel5757
      @maxonmendel5757 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      age play is fun

  • @martinlewandowski8782
    @martinlewandowski8782 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    This man is what we need. Knowledge with a purpose to be better and help others with it ...

  • @davec.3198
    @davec.3198 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My wife and i have this and it allows us to laugh and joke no matter what happens. Life is absolutely wonderful and tragic at the same time. You have to cling to each other no matter what.

  • @Justyouraverageguy172
    @Justyouraverageguy172 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    Just seeing and hearing this is so….revelatory for lack of better words. It does make sense now instead of treating marriage as a business like modern society lies to us about that it makes sense now with what I had in the 2 romantic relationships I had in my life at 28. There was a balance and it worked.

  • @theusher2893
    @theusher2893 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Every woman I've tried a relationship with couldn't do this. There was something fundamentally broken in them that made them either controlling or cold or desirous of something that I couldn't give them, like the love of their father. They were roadblocks to becoming a whole person, and they attempted to shortcut that goal by filling in those gaps with a relationship. And every time, I'd have to tell them that I couldn't give them what it was that they needed to heal.

  • @bitset3741
    @bitset3741 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Years ago my someone asked me who my best friend was, right in front of my wife, and she responded with "Me, of course"
    And I said "I think he means besides you"
    And after, I though NO, not besides her, She is me best friend, period.
    She is the closest friend I have ever had, and she should never be 2nd, or "besides", never taken for granted or overlooked.
    Since then I have thought about that tons of times, and really settled into and love the fact that she is my friend, my best friend.
    When I was younger I wished that we had been childhood sweethearts, but I was an idiot and would have messed that all up.
    We met when she was 18, and our friendship has been amazing for over 28 years now.
    Now I need to think about this "play" thing. We love to spend time together, and we do joke around and stuff.

  • @createwithbarbbl4125
    @createwithbarbbl4125 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is why I will always listen to this man. These are my favourite Jordan Peterson type talks.

  • @GaryTremblay-z7d
    @GaryTremblay-z7d 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I literally got a chill in my spine. I was married 25 years and had a wonderful marriage. Sadly she passed away 7 years ago. I am getting remarried in less than 2 weeks to a wonderful friend. Jordan hit the nail on the head. With my late wife and my fiancé we play. We always cook together and clean up the dishes together, we have fun together in everything we do. When you have it, it is wonderful

    • @ry2yb
      @ry2yb 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Happy for you!

  • @bubbythebrow153
    @bubbythebrow153 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    My wife and I get along really well. And after watching this it made me realize we play all the time. Sometimes we’ll be grocery shopping and I’ll just start running around the store and she will chase me. It’s childish but we laugh the entire time we’re doing it.

  • @MonsieurWhojee
    @MonsieurWhojee 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I had a similar vision of the afterlife (Paradise) in the hospital. I struggled to explain what I saw and felt. Jordan describes it perfectly. "Paradise is a place you play forever. And the play gets better and better."

  • @Bromarrr
    @Bromarrr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    So much wisdom every time I hear Dr. Peterson talk. Money doesn’t bring you happiness. Such a simple saying but people will devote their whole lives to it. Prioritize truth & love 🙌🏼

  • @MarMaxGaming
    @MarMaxGaming 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    “Prioritize Love, Truth, & Play” - Jordan Peterson
    Words to live by!

  • @AprilSunshine
    @AprilSunshine 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    Have you heard about the study of rats and play?
    They introduced just the smell of a cat, the smell of peril... and the rats never played the same again.

    • @dix_pack_of_sixie
      @dix_pack_of_sixie 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Damn, this shook the framework of everything I thought I knew. The truth at face value alone is stunning, but when you roll this through your mind for a bit, you realize, on just how many levels peril, stress, bills, etc, has fundamentally transformed you - for better or for worse. Sad that we have built and still maintain a society that works in opposition of everything we are and were meant to be. And all for profits to a few.

    • @theusher2893
      @theusher2893 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Rats are one of the VERY few animals to genuinely and probably show empathy (alongside ceteceans and select higher primates) so this isn't surprising.

  • @andreatorluemke4982
    @andreatorluemke4982 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    One can always choose to see the person in front of them through the eyes of love. Amen❤❤❤

  • @friendlypiranha774
    @friendlypiranha774 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This message is so beautiful. Unfortunately I see very little of it in my friend's marriages. Most of them are just stuck with one another.
    Fortunately, I love and absolutely adore my Wife... because we play together. We share many hobbies. When she plays her scrapbooking, I'm right there with her helping her with the cutting out and sorting and arranging. I absolutely love watching her as she completely immerses herself into it and let's all her stress and worries go. When I play model trains, she is right there with me having fun with me. Because I let her 'into' my (railway) space, she completely embraced it. We have several other hobbies and interests that we share. And we share them equally. We've been doing this for donkey's years and it is always fun. There are no rules; we just immerse ourselves into each other and play like children. It is so fulfilling. Highly recommend it to all married couples.
    PS: She once tried my new radio controlled speedboat and wrecked it. She felt bad, but I just made her laugh and told her maybe that's not for us then. I love her to bits and I do know that if she had to go before me, I'd just wither away within 3 months. Love you My Baby 😍

  • @NoMarkofthebeastonlyJesus
    @NoMarkofthebeastonlyJesus 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He said what you prioritize you worship. You should prioritize love & truth and not worship money. Great advice.

  • @michaelmarcus509
    @michaelmarcus509 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you Mr. Peterson you’ve changed my life, I mean that truly. God bless you good sir.

  • @self0078
    @self0078 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Very beautiful message. God bless you JP and anyone on here!

  • @jeffreyjohnston2445
    @jeffreyjohnston2445 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Play is important but I would suggest working together more important. Everything in life is to be worked at-including play.

    • @stevenholden2814
      @stevenholden2814 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Start filming all your lectures bro.

    • @jeffreyjohnston2445
      @jeffreyjohnston2445 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@stevenholden2814 Lol! My missus barely lets me lecture let alone filming them!

  • @APOStLEpaulie
    @APOStLEpaulie 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Married 13 years tomorrow...God's grace and mercy has carried us, play is the proof❤ BE GOOfY TOGETHER ❤️

  • @yakarin
    @yakarin 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    That's so sweet and tender

  • @musicgroopie1
    @musicgroopie1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I just retired and my wife is six years older than me and retired a decade before me. I would always try and leave work at work and come through the door with a playful smile and a hug. Even when she reciprocated, it seemed forced. Whenever fun music comes on in the house I do silly dance moves and I'm constantly trying to make her laugh. She grew up with a not so good step father and her mother emotionally abandoned her. She was responsible for taking care of the house and her baby sister. She got pregnant at 16 and was forced into an adoption. We are both in our second marriage now and have been married 25 years now. She has lost her laugh and smile i remember from when we first started dating. My parents were not very accepting of me marrying an older person. Now that I'm retired I'm home with her all day and I am bound and determined to bring back that smile i fell in love with although at times it wears me out and depresses me. The good news is in Heaven we will be together forever with jesus's promise that all tears will be gone. No more fear, sadness, despair , just eternal life with perfect bodies and minds

  • @kendra7540
    @kendra7540 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Healed so glad you mentioned through the eyes of a child 🎯

  • @Cuppatime-mj5rb
    @Cuppatime-mj5rb 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    True and ‘of the essence.’ Pure good advice.

  • @EnigmaticMindLLC
    @EnigmaticMindLLC 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Do you remember The Field of Dreams? The baseball player asked if that was heaven, because he got to play.

    • @Av-vd3wk
      @Av-vd3wk 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@EnigmaticMindLLC no, it’s Iowa…

    • @MarshAgobert
      @MarshAgobert 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I don’t see that in the Gospels. I’m not all the way through it. I’ll take some direction. Point me in the right direction. Please. 🙏🏽

  • @kyrareneeLOA
    @kyrareneeLOA 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Jordan, My lovely partner and friend turned to me and said..." but he didn't say "how to play.. why did he not give examples. I (men) need examples." Love this topic.💞 Please make more. 👏

  • @jonathanwilson672
    @jonathanwilson672 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    That is such a wonderful thing to know about you both Dr. Peterson...to have met as children and became lifetime friends in matrimony...i always thought regarding females..."if you don't like her first as a person...you can never truly love her"😂❤😂❤

  • @grimjhaixus
    @grimjhaixus 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Needed this. Thank you.

  • @ytmndan
    @ytmndan 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    A fun game I like to play with mine is changing the default setting of the smart lights every few days, and then deny outright that the lights have gotten any dimmer. She's gonna laugh so hard when I finally tell her.

    • @JennaJanexxx
      @JennaJanexxx หลายเดือนก่อน

      Who knew Gaslighting could be wholesome 😇😂

  • @MetaSiren
    @MetaSiren 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    What about too much play, especially when something requires a serious mindset? My husband “plays” to the point where responsibilities take a back seat.

    • @jas340
      @jas340 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good point. That is called avoidance.

  • @void6714
    @void6714 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    dude almost made my cry 4 times in one video. damnit peterson

  • @rachelhendrickson7555
    @rachelhendrickson7555 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I agree with the parent first part but spouces should be friends first and elevate it to spouse

  • @aguyandhiscomputer
    @aguyandhiscomputer 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Wife putting her arms around her husband, her head on his shoulder, her head on his stomach.
    I bet that feels wonderful.

  • @jonathanadams4169
    @jonathanadams4169 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Some wives will say they want you to flirt more. I think play is effectively the same thing.

  • @markd774
    @markd774 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I keep inviting her to play but she seems to have an extremely long lasting headache 😂

  • @badusername321
    @badusername321 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    genuinely nice things to say sir. nice.

  • @maryj7423
    @maryj7423 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    The giggle 🥲😍

  • @amandanelson5067
    @amandanelson5067 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I really like some of the messages you share. There are things I don't and disagree with on judgements of people's pasts. Sometimes people go through hard times in life and have unpleasant chapters. That doesn't mean they are not capable of repairing themselves to make a better chapter come next. THIS message resonates with me. My soon to be ex-husband and I did not have this and he was a tyrant to me. Some relationships are like that... and some of life's lessons are a part of a season, or chapter, along the story... but that doesn't mean my story needs to end. As long as I have air in my lungs... THIS is where it is. When one accepts the other for who they are and embraces all of it to learn together and remember to have fun along the journey... that is sustainable and to be cherished in this fleeting world. 🙏💖

  • @michaelrfalkowski2446
    @michaelrfalkowski2446 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Paradise is a place where you play forever. My kids sure agree. Thanks Doc.

  • @FirstLordFury
    @FirstLordFury 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is a very beautiful video. I watched it at work without music, but I love it!

  • @lukenath6983
    @lukenath6983 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    What a beautiful truth here

  • @dawntie
    @dawntie 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Play is in the heart:
    Headed Heart
    Dismiss not,
    indifference felt,
    stoic and smart,
    sad to an art,
    his mind stole his heart.

  • @ArlindoBuriti
    @ArlindoBuriti 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Just like me and my wife... 5 years as a girlfriend and 3 as a wife... since day one we even said that it was like we knew one another because how we played and even to this day we laugh and fool around with one another... she always has a smile on her face when she is with me... yeah bro, this is true... all I see around me and her are people with their faces shut no smile... but we are happy , her mother even say that we are like a dorama couple. Hahahaha

  • @gerrymcintosh4477
    @gerrymcintosh4477 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you Dr. Peterson. Wish you well. 🇨🇦💝🙏🥩🥰

  • @miriamstea6426
    @miriamstea6426 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My husband is way too serious, he has forgotten how to play! This makes me sad🥲

    • @ry2yb
      @ry2yb 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I understand.

    • @MarMaxGaming
      @MarMaxGaming 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It sucks when people become such hard asses, sometimes it happens over time with a lot of stress and responsibilities

  • @qt4298
    @qt4298 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My partner struggle to play for fun. We tried so many times to play together, always ends up she being upset, about losing or about negative things from the environment (for example other people she doesn’t like), till the point we don’t play often anymore, and this relationship is about to end imo. But playing is not giving us anything good neither since she is the one always like 100% will get mad in the end, we would also end up having argument or conflict with she trying to unleash the pressure on me, which makes both of us hurt. Just here to share one of my experience.

  • @indepcalifvoter
    @indepcalifvoter 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Heaven as Field of Dreams. We have had fantastic water fights, hikes and walks and bike rides. 41 years and the happiest as a pair of kids!

  • @jeremyn.1000
    @jeremyn.1000 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Jordan has saved so many things in my life. Things I haven’t even lost yet.

  • @mabelidove6813
    @mabelidove6813 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Note to self: Prioritizing love and play 💖 do everything with love

  • @artsie8282
    @artsie8282 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Love this video. My husband loves me to golf with him. We also hold hands and watch tv for two hours a night.

  • @WarriorsPhoto
    @WarriorsPhoto 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Prioritize play. The lesson I was looking for. 😢
    It’s really that simple and I see those that are playing. 😮They do actually enjoy life so much more. 😊

  • @Eatbutternow
    @Eatbutternow 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I don’t like playing. I guess that must be why I suck at relationships.

    • @MarMaxGaming
      @MarMaxGaming 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      People do enjoy some fun, and bring around folks that are fun

    • @odelekevictor3895
      @odelekevictor3895 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You have the power to change. We have the power to evolve. You will be better for it.

    • @shaddjimenez4524
      @shaddjimenez4524 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How about as a kid? When you were a kid?

  • @Pathfinder8789
    @Pathfinder8789 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Learn each other's love languages. That's not everything, but it greatly helps with understanding and grace.

  • @ronashman8463
    @ronashman8463 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dear Lord, thou hast poured wonderful wisdom into this man.

  • @2009galactica
    @2009galactica 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That was my live until my husband got dementia. He is basically a plant now. Not talking, not moving. 2 years already. I don’t know how to continue living my life. I still love him. 😢. I wish I could get JP advice

  • @NahuelTomasViking
    @NahuelTomasViking 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'd like this video to be seen for all the world we living. All people shall have 4 minutes to pay attention. I love Dr. Jordan B. Peterson with all my heart and Soul 🥹💖

  • @ChristnThms
    @ChristnThms 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The vast majority of women, a growing majority as the generations teach each other, absolutely hate to see the men in their life having fun unless he's focused entirely on her.
    This isn't just wives. It's daughters, sisters and mothers too.
    In fact, it's even women he doesn't know, though proportional to their awareness of him.
    This idea of play cannot exist when one side resents the other side for their joy.

    • @WadeHarris-v3f
      @WadeHarris-v3f 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Much truth to that observation, sadly. And true that the play must be unselfish to really be effective glue. The other side of that coin is that one should not play with others or alone more than he/she does with their spouse. I am so grateful that God gave me a wife that is not jealous of me spending time with a friend, my dad, etc. I encourage the same for her. And neither of us abuses that freedom. We make sure we are each other's most frequent playmate.

  • @sparrowhawk5673
    @sparrowhawk5673 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I spent years trying to prioritize love and it just didn't work out for me I got too much rejection that it just ate me up from the inside out.
    Now deleting the need to have someone else approval or acceptance has brought so much more peace for me. Not that I'm mean I'm not. Yet God's approval and love is all I need. Will never reject me and will always over love me.
    ********
    As for prioritizing play... it took me years to grow up. 35 years old and was still with the mind of kid. For many years I usually got along better with kids than people my own age. Yet giving that up allowed me to let go of foolishness and Fantasies and brought me to reality. Allowing me to finally take what I didn't have desires I wasn't going to get anymore. Everyone else grew up and didn't want to be with someone unlike their age.

  • @petermincher4063
    @petermincher4063 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The book of thomas is not gospel but a religious add on. Great video

  • @Centercreek
    @Centercreek 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Appreciative inquiry. Repeat the things that facilitate wellbeing. With specificity. Pay attention to the wins. Put whatever’s got you there on repeat. Binge watch that victory. Repeat.

  • @LeeElmore-hq6gi
    @LeeElmore-hq6gi 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wow. I understand it finally. It’s how I’ve always felt.. but to just find somebody like that. That’s what my marriage just don’t work I’m a lot of fun and I love to play and swim and fish and ride motorcycles and whatever.. just go through the country for a ride.. and then there comes the jealousy that I might be just as smart as the male. that’s always what breaks us apart and their infidelity. They needed a woman to make them feel better. I picked the wrong ones

  • @paul7000
    @paul7000 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can I get this video without the music? Is it available? Thank you

  • @shannoncaines1482
    @shannoncaines1482 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I needed this video so much! Thank you, Jordan Peterson!!!!

  • @only_jesus_savesfromhell
    @only_jesus_savesfromhell 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    He references the Gospel of Thomas. The Gospel of Thomas is not part of the canon of Scripture because of many reasons that you can look up yourself. Unbiblical writings masquerading as biblical writings are the wrong means of support, and actually tear away at rather than support any claims for an argument.

  • @endasil
    @endasil 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Anyone know a version of this without background noise? It's driving me crazy. Way too loud compared to the speech.

  • @yoramsaul
    @yoramsaul 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    This video would be better without AI “music”

  • @roqclimber
    @roqclimber 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I'm not married, so I just Play with Myself!

    • @Noop-Noop56
      @Noop-Noop56 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hahaha

    • @jas340
      @jas340 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Somebody HAD to say it.

  • @kelly4187
    @kelly4187 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is very interesting to hear after reading Bishop Robert Barron say .”The Mass is one of the most useless things…in the sense that it isn’t something that we do to achieve something for us. It is the supreme form of PLAY… something you do simply out of joy and relationship and love”

  • @vladislavkaras491
    @vladislavkaras491 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great speech!
    Thanks for the video!

  • @sharielf
    @sharielf 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The more I play the more God works. Love you Dr. Peterson and your wonderful family!

  • @macblink
    @macblink 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    "The opposite of tyrannic evil is play" beautiful line 👌🏻
    And there's some woke idiots out there that call Peterson a Nazi 🤦🏻

  • @andreatorluemke4982
    @andreatorluemke4982 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    So many men do not allow themselves to play and to truly love their wives. They let themselves be over taken with seriousness and assuming mal intent. Women are so good. Men need not fret and a woman who loves you will walk through fire for you. All the logic in the world cannot compare with intuition and wonder amen❤

    • @slashf
      @slashf 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      As a man, I can assure you that a great many of us would counter that it is our *wives* who have lost all sense of play.
      I cannot tell you how often I have seen or heard men saying that their wives married them, got more serious, and now complain that their husbands never grew up. Meanwhile, these men are wondering what happened to the woman with whom they fell in love and used to think their then boyfriend was fun. There's a reason for the stereotype of women complaining their husbands are immature, perpetual children whom they have to mother, and that entertainment often depicts fathers as goofy idiots who are functionally incompetent at home without the more mature women in their lives-and the reason is *not* necessarily because these perceptions are grounded in reality.
      Having experienced my share of this as a husband, it's confusing, frustrating, and saddening. Against my instincts, I behave more seriously and less playfully because my wife expects it of me and makes it clear when I'm not that she is not pleased. Because it is against my instincts, though, I fail often enogh keeping up the act (especially when interacting with my kids) that it just reinforces her perception of me being yet another child in her care.
      So, yes, many of us become more serious and less playful because our wives signal in many ways both obvious and subtle that they expect it of us. I know I'm not the only guy whose heart aches when I listen to this video or see couples interacting playfully. Many of us long for that kind of relationship-the kind of relationship we used to have with our wives, but no longer do, because they 'grew up' and have made it clear they wish we would do the same.

  • @CPE-j1u
    @CPE-j1u 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Jordan - the great man

  • @artugert
    @artugert 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Makes sense. So what should you do if you're already married with children, and you don't get along with your wife at all, and never really have? I am naturally a playful person, and my wife is not. I can't imagine ever being playful with her.

    • @debbiewilder4738
      @debbiewilder4738 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Why would you marry someone you don't get along with

    • @artugert
      @artugert 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@debbiewilder4738 That's not easy to explain without getting into a lot of personal details. I would take the decision back if I could.

  • @josebotelho427
    @josebotelho427 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I thought it was about play as in the word "forePLAY" but this is so much better, as you can keep it going on and on and on for centuries to come... Love is eternal

  • @liguania
    @liguania 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Love this So Much!

  • @Tom2941
    @Tom2941 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    "When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind." Bible 1 Corinthians 13:11.
    Play is a form of child work. Play is the child learning to do; figuring things out.

    • @debbiewilder4738
      @debbiewilder4738 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There are some Childish things you have to put away for sure but that don't mean you can have can't have moments of childishness and fun the things that he's talking about is lust and greed and irresponsibility and those kind of things not having fun with your family

  • @RedRoosterParty
    @RedRoosterParty 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This would be better if the background music wasn't overpowering Dr. Peterson's speech.

  • @wiseproverbs2248
    @wiseproverbs2248 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My wife doesn't play. I don't think she knows how.

    • @kirstenmartin2650
      @kirstenmartin2650 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I didnt know how to play. father schizophrenic from serious abuse, poverty and war. brought it to our family. too much anger. too many generations in the family angry.

    • @debbiewilder4738
      @debbiewilder4738 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Father God in the name of Jesus we just pray that you break these chains that this person has brought from their past of not being able to play Lord Jesus just be with their hearts and mind and let them have moments of childhood fun and enjoyment amen

  • @SpringBudEyes
    @SpringBudEyes 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The title and thumbnail are honestly the most brilliant meme. I sent the screenshot to my gf.

  • @jesuschristlives2724
    @jesuschristlives2724 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My parents have been 41 years. They were childhood friends.

  • @thegamingrelish9272
    @thegamingrelish9272 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Fun, intimacy and communication

  • @nanoplanck
    @nanoplanck 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We should consider ourselves lucky to have JBP in our times, what a great human being!

  • @zanido9073
    @zanido9073 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Title is wild 😂