I lost a friend who seemed to dominate the discourse, about 80% her words and stories. I don't miss her so much though as I feel the relationship was so one-sided and repetitive. I tried at times to fight for more "me" but it didn't seem to work. I can't say that most people are like that though. For a lot of people I could probably be a better listener.
I've noticed the same. However there are two types of "non listeners" one type will keep talking and talking until you speak up then they will sit and listen but won't ask you further questions ( which can be frustrating and feel like a one sided interest). The second type talk so much and don't even stop when you say a word or two. Personally, I can't stand these types and I usually give them five max minutes before I excuse myself. They are so self centered and usually insanely insecure.
Every conversation is an interrogation. If you listen, people will eventually either tell you or show you everything. Be like a matador. Remember, there is no such thing as an innocent question and no such thing as a valueless answer.
The problem with doing this method u absorb Thier energy.. most of that energy is trauma, troubles and other negative energy.. that will make u feel sad.
I absolutely agree with this approach to human nature. I am deeply empathic to people and it's natural for me to understand and relate. Yet understanding people should always be known with great respect and honor. It's a beautiful process.
We all have this sense that we are not tapping into often, what Mr. Greene, is speaking on. I use that early on in life. Empathy. and sensing people's energy. I am like a magnet, can sums someone up, walking into a room, and keen observer without constantly looking at him or her. Just a first glance, matters and kept that photogenic memory, energy in my head. This is how you obtain wisdoms, through keen observations.
Agree 100% that we need social connection and we're suffering now from too much distraction and self absorption. But in my experience as someone who's always been highly attuned to others, people don't always want to be so closely observed. Some feel intruded upon, some people actually feel threatened by it, some will mistake a high degree of empathy for a ready emotional crutch, some will misinterpret empathy or mistake it for vulnerability on the part of the observer, or unusual insight a sign of untrustworthiness... There can be reactions you really don't want.
i feel this this. as a college student, i noticed that some ppl are off-put by my immediate curiosity in them. socializing is a delicate balance, and often it takes time for the other person to feel comfortable opening up. as much as i would love to hear their story, some ppl don’t want to share so quickly, and that’s ok. i think mr. greene’s advice works best in situations where you’re spending a lot of time with someone and forced to interact with them (like at work). that way the progression of the conversation seems more natural. or… on rare occasion, the other person is like me, and wants to have those deep 1-1 conversations right off the bat. but that’s usually not the case. i used to be very quiet, self-conscious, and scared of other ppl, so i understand why they may be wary. but now i feel like i can befriend anyone and get along with anyone… with time, and of course if they’re willing
@@aliciawang3749 Misinterpretation can occur, too, as when "deep listening" is mistaken for sexual interest. We think we're just being good at taking information in, but we're also sending information out whether we're aware of it or not. And we don't always have control over how that's interpreted. So, it pays to be careful!
@@mjinba07 so true about sexual interest! i am careful to avoid too much conversation with guys, or they may get the wrong idea… it has happened before, multiple times. usually what happens is that i’m bored at work, and i’d rather talk than stand there awkwardly and quietly, so i made conversation. the more we talked, the more honest we became. i didn’t show any signs of romantic interest other than eye contact, listening, and thoughtful responses. however, this may be interpreted as more than a friendship. all i wanted was to make the time pass faster, while also learning about the other person.
Yea that’s true. But if you’re intuitive enough and actually truly good at reading people you can figure out who wants to be “seen” and who doesn’t. With the people who don’t want to be that exposed and vulnerable you kinda “play dumb” act like you haven’t figured them out as much as you really have (unless you’re trying to throw them off balance or intimidate them). Then w people who want to be seen and truly understood, you can be more open, outwardly observant, curious and connected. You have to calibrate accordingly to each individual person.
As an adult I've mostly thought what I had experienced was boring or uninteresting compared to others, so I rarely talk about myself, or past, or stuff to others. Unless they ask me. But few ask me anything. I do like to talk about how I did something if it helps another do something similarly or successfully, or explaining my mistakes. And I like doing or saying anything tasteful and harmless that causes laughter.
You can try this on yourself to get better it. Find a topic you love that you could talk for hours about. It could be work, your hobbies, anything. Then, imagine yourself talking to someone new. What could they say in what sequence will get you to start talking a lot? How would you get yourself to open up? When you are able to do that, understand that everyone else is like that as well. There is always something they could talk about for hours as well. You just have to find it.
Great advice! I did this one with my a coach at my local gym. She's the hard type that isn't warm nor easily opens up to people. I was interested in her (as a friend - I am female as well) and once she disclosed to me that she's an athlete, I used it as a starter for our next conversation that went on for an hour. She told me all the juicy details and I absolutely LOVED every second of it. I'm sure we would've kept going for hours if I didn't have to leave. People's hobbies/passions are a great way to have deep conversations. They really warm up to you especially if you're genuinely interested and ask good follow up questions.
I do that sometimes and then I'll realize it and feel like a creeper and immediately tell on myself and then they get really visibly uncomfortable. So I don't know what's worse tbh. My empathy can be debilitating at times, I don't want inside their head. I would like honest unmasked communication, but that only comes from me,. I understand people objectively and accept them unconditionally, however if their behavior is damaging or not aligned or infringes upon mine, I'll accept them unconditionally from afar. I can't remember the last time I wasn't completely misunderstood
For those of us who are observant, it's also about intention, and its about being present in the now. And it's also about tuning into our animal side & feeling senses more, & to allow more of complexity and nuance of awareness of our emotional and physical environments inside ourselves. And its also to allow ourselves to notice the contradictory physical language that is the opposite of someone's speech. It's outward focus as a way to inform inner focus. To use information from the outside to direct inner thought into outward action & or manifest happenings into being.
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Well…I met someone who used to apply this and other psycho-social techniques that in my opinion seemed to be learnt during her law studies…I used to make her feel that it worked with me but she is one of the people I consider to be fake that I l’ve ever met. (Apparently she couldn’t assume that I read quite a lot about psychology. It was easy for me to fake being unskilled because she was upper class compared to me). //However the exercise can be helpful. Thanks Mr Greene
He is correct! 🏆🥇🌟😂. The thing I love about Robert Greenes titles is that they sound so dangerous and then people get worried someone bad will be given a weapon. That’s just the book cover. The truth is people are like movies. You cannot read people like a book unless you yourself a very genuinely good person. So his teachings only work for that subset of people meaning his teachings cannot be weaponized. The narcissist mind will fall asleep after the first sentence about anyone other than themselves. You must have a level of empathy so extreme you actually loose your sense of time in this life. Like 10 years vs a week might actually feel the same to you studying this subject and you might actually kinda bounce out of it asking yourself was that a dream? Nope I actually just dove through that persons life seeing it like a movie. With no ill intent. You cannot be an empath with ill intent. That is actually how you bore an empath. But no gifts are free. You be introvert, high strung with tendancies towards hoarding.
It's the hard way of living. The very fact of being inclined to it makes me believe I won't accept any betrayal. I have no rights to pretend, but it is what I painfully think
Honesty! Are those others willing to be Honest? Honest, not so much with the other person but, With SELF! If your Honest with SELF, you can be Honest with others. Social Media and the Impersonal internet world we now live in have made us more interested in “Likes” than “ Reality” and being Real. To thy own self be true! True/Truth means HONESTY. Are you willing to tell the truth as you experience it! Fascinating!
You can learn a ton about someone by just listening to them. Also, something I learned years ago was the ancient art of Chinese face reading. No joke. It’s taught at the FBI and other agencies. I can meet someone and in about 30-60 seconds you will know an unbelievable amount of information about them. The ears, nose structure, eyes, forehead, mouth. And 99% of the time it’s right on the button. Try it. It doesn’t take long to learn and it’s readily available on the internet. You’ll be shocked at how accurate it is in telling about a person without them even saying a word
The same way others understand calculus better than others, some here.... Same message but we all understand it somehow differently... Yes its that crazy 😅😅
I'm gonna need some judging from you guys. In University I had a mask that I put on myself of being something that's pretty much what I wanted to be, and no matter how hard I try I just couldn't need take off that mask. When I'm back I would take off that mask. And when I get a call or message I'm always guard up to listen or see in privacy, and was afraid people could find out about me. My university was 15mins distance away from my home B.T.W. In Robert Greene's laws of human nature's chapter 2, Narcissism, Types of narcissist, the theatrical narcissist. He talked about a character who is a theatrical narcissist that's pretty much me back in university.
Don’t forget that some people are, for various reasons, are not interested to reveal about their childhood so those questions come across as crossing a line
Most people aren’t that interesting though when you try this .. some are fascinating though , just hard to find those who will reveal enough of who they really are
@@souqsayara7644 yeah, i dont know what that guys talking about. i wonder what makes him think that. @guitarwithbrett who are some people uve talked to? that are were not interestinf
@@sloppy1287 many in tech which is my field who are introverts . They are interesting if can get them talking. People who are know it alls or very fixed mindsets. They can be interesting to observe, but it’s not a fun interaction when a person always tries to outdo you with a better story etc . It’s also hard often to communicate as words often do not convey actual thinking or experience as they are so open to interpretation. Many also in life aren’t thinker or talker types , more doers. So can be tricky to really get why they are doing what they do.
Everyone is interesting to me, even the mundane. Because how we see people is a projection of our own mind. Every interaction verbal and nonverbal is a way to level up awareness of one’s own mental prowess. But that my way of looking at things
being more self immirsed and finding out the true answers within urself instead if being worried about what other ppl think about u. all u need is those few tools or essentials and the base of good ethics yk being kind being gentle having temperament control ur literally a God atp and nobody can tell u urwrong bc the way God built you your mind the way how u feel u cannot fake it. u cannot tell yourself a lie you cannot tell urself oh i dont like to be treated good so if I tray other people bad" I'm a liar to myself" and that's if ur a liar to urself. which we are not. we are truthful beings and that conciousness that God placed inside us man its inagural which u can't lie ab it bc those times lies like oh " if I got hit on the face I wouldn't feel mad or sum" that's a lie u would feel angry do how equal universal exchange in this last day we can't keep doing this any more killing our brothers or sisters will be prosecuted and punished by God now so we should just stop and be kind. one u get in that comfort zone ur unstoppable and u will live forever
I often feel like I can read peoples minds. I'm usually right, I'm still pretty self absorbed. But I am incredibly observant, and very attuned to reading the eyes and slight facial movements. Also just experience in life, many ppl act the way others have before. If you're observant of human behavior you can often predict what someone will feel or how they will think in a given situation. How you make others feel is one of these things, if you know how you effect others you know where the misunderstandings are happening and can correct them before the become a problem. People are very childish and fake, it's important to notice when they start acting like that and make your truthful intentions known, point out the thoughts they are having, deal with that before it becomes a problem for you.
I will never ever understand the point of background music. It's annoying and doesn't add anything. There's good stuff to listen to, don't ruin it with music. I seriously wonder if there's people watching videos thinking "hmmm.. this would have been so much better with background music"..? Sorry for my rant 😄
I can't get on those sites it's just too much work for me to try to type in somebody's name to get in touch with them over a phone and you can't even talk to them unless you have to get what's up and then it's one thing after another I don't like those apps
Dude, probably a good skill to have, but why i know we as a species are screwed, there was a time when we were lockdown and scared of a virus but we had a chance to come together, empathize and help each other, but when it was over we went straight back to being selfish greedy and fickle. Empathize? Empathize with what exactly? 🤔🤷♀️🙄
Empathize we live in late stage capitalism and the group psyche is toxic, and some was the 20th century in terms of death and pollution, can’t escape that fact, not the fact that we are heading into some of the darkest ages we will ever experience due to climate change and war, and unfettered cannibal capitalism. See how far empathy gets us, only the strong and cruel (the rich) will survive. 😊 Awn Mawmma
I’m sure he can’t help it.. but I have issues with sounds. It’s hard for me to listen to his voice because it cracks a lot. I want him to cough or clear his throat most of the videos. I want to hear him because I do enjoy what he’s saying. I have to do captions instead.
I am a human mother of two males I wish I knew this before Not judgenning God bless us all perhaps just a holly spirit English is not my mother tongue but I love linguistics and parenting
I was lonely but i became bored enough to grow curious about the people around me, turns out im surrounded by some interesting people, turns out the loneliness i had was from my own arrogance of thinking i was more special than they could comprehend.........😂😂😂😂 Not the case i just lacked appropriate social skills n couldnt actually converse properly and thought it was everyone elses fault 😂 oh to be a fool lol 😅
English is not my mother tongue I was an interpreter once for few years It was best job I ever had I can totally relate to the total listening Problem is people don’t listen God bless M
You're not going to find it on the phone yo you got to go outside in the world and do it you can't do it on the phone I get stuck with that I can't do the websites it's too much
Anyone with empathy will tell you in no uncertain terms, that it is a Curse! It works nothing like what he is saying. It's only bad. It's means other people are not playing by the rules. So they winn and bully and the person with empathy. It's just bad you don't want it !
Goodness me, NO! 😱 I am making active efforts NOT to understand or feel the others. It exhausts me. No, I am not your friend. No, I am not your therapist. No, I am not your child or your Mum. Let’s focus on the task at hand. No, I don’t want to manipulate you. No, I don’t want to have power. I just want you and me to do what we are paid for, in a polite way. Boundaries. Fucking boundaries. Let’s make an effort and not spill our personal shit in communal areas. I do NOT care. And the mix of disgust and compassion drives me insane. It has to end.
The other person is probably thinking that they "need to do something about this wedgie...right now before I lose my daggone mind...they can send rockets to the moon and beyond our solar system but they can't invent a pair of drawers that don't bunch up during a simple , everyday earth walk ...WTF?"
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90% of people I talk to everyday don't listen they just can't wait to talk about themselves
I lost a friend who seemed to dominate the discourse, about 80% her words and stories. I don't miss her so much though as I feel the relationship was so one-sided and repetitive. I tried at times to fight for more "me" but it didn't seem to work. I can't say that most people are like that though. For a lot of people I could probably be a better listener.
Why u are not start to listen them
I think that's pretty common. Most people are kinda desperate to be heard and listening is a skill few people think to learn.
I've noticed the same. However there are two types of "non listeners" one type will keep talking and talking until you speak up then they will sit and listen but won't ask you further questions ( which can be frustrating and feel like a one sided interest).
The second type talk so much and don't even stop when you say a word or two. Personally, I can't stand these types and I usually give them five max minutes before I excuse myself. They are so self centered and usually insanely insecure.
That’s great for somebody who doesn’t like talking about their life and prefers hearing what others have to say 😊😁
You can make more friends in 2 months then in 2 years by getting genuinely interested in other people
~DALE CARNEGIE
Many people are very good at pretending that they are very different to whom they really are.
You also are like that. We always act differently around different people.
@@zenostrixsterNo not everybody
Robert Greene promoting empathy in the most interesting way. who doesn't love that?
Every conversation is an interrogation. If you listen, people will eventually either tell you or show you everything. Be like a matador. Remember, there is no such thing as an innocent question and no such thing as a valueless answer.
Robert Greene is a personal hero of mine. Such a sublime and honest gentleman 👏💖💪
I've found that many people are more mentally strong than others
Weird sentence 😜
That's true.
The problem with doing this method u absorb Thier energy.. most of that energy is trauma, troubles and other negative energy.. that will make u feel sad.
I do it 5 days a week, after every client I go into the bathroom and shake it off, it's not my energy.
I absolutely agree with this approach to human nature. I am deeply empathic to people and it's natural for me to understand and relate. Yet understanding people should always be known with great respect and honor. It's a beautiful process.
We all have this sense that we are not tapping into often, what Mr. Greene, is speaking on. I use that early on in life. Empathy. and sensing people's energy. I am like a magnet, can sums someone up, walking into a room, and keen observer without constantly looking at him or her. Just a first glance, matters and kept that photogenic memory, energy in my head. This is how you obtain wisdoms, through keen observations.
Agree 100% that we need social connection and we're suffering now from too much distraction and self absorption. But in my experience as someone who's always been highly attuned to others, people don't always want to be so closely observed. Some feel intruded upon, some people actually feel threatened by it, some will mistake a high degree of empathy for a ready emotional crutch, some will misinterpret empathy or mistake it for vulnerability on the part of the observer, or unusual insight a sign of untrustworthiness... There can be reactions you really don't want.
i feel this this. as a college student, i noticed that some ppl are off-put by my immediate curiosity in them. socializing is a delicate balance, and often it takes time for the other person to feel comfortable opening up. as much as i would love to hear their story, some ppl don’t want to share so quickly, and that’s ok. i think mr. greene’s advice works best in situations where you’re spending a lot of time with someone and forced to interact with them (like at work). that way the progression of the conversation seems more natural. or… on rare occasion, the other person is like me, and wants to have those deep 1-1 conversations right off the bat. but that’s usually not the case. i used to be very quiet, self-conscious, and scared of other ppl, so i understand why they may be wary. but now i feel like i can befriend anyone and get along with anyone… with time, and of course if they’re willing
@@aliciawang3749 Misinterpretation can occur, too, as when "deep listening" is mistaken for sexual interest.
We think we're just being good at taking information in, but we're also sending information out whether we're aware of it or not. And we don't always have control over how that's interpreted. So, it pays to be careful!
@@mjinba07 so true about sexual interest! i am careful to avoid too much conversation with guys, or they may get the wrong idea… it has happened before, multiple times. usually what happens is that i’m bored at work, and i’d rather talk than stand there awkwardly and quietly, so i made conversation. the more we talked, the more honest we became. i didn’t show any signs of romantic interest other than eye contact, listening, and thoughtful responses. however, this may be interpreted as more than a friendship. all i wanted was to make the time pass faster, while also learning about the other person.
@@aliciawang3749 Yeah, with young men sometimes you need to be signaling that you're NOT interested. Unless you are! lol
Yea that’s true. But if you’re intuitive enough and actually truly good at reading people you can figure out who wants to be “seen” and who doesn’t. With the people who don’t want to be that exposed and vulnerable you kinda “play dumb” act like you haven’t figured them out as much as you really have (unless you’re trying to throw them off balance or intimidate them). Then w people who want to be seen and truly understood, you can be more open, outwardly observant, curious and connected. You have to calibrate accordingly to each individual person.
Robert, THANK YOU.
Love Robert - he’s a treasure to humanity ❤
Robert Greene’s books are fire 🔥
Facts!! 💯
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Robert, you are very awesome to listen to!
As an adult I've mostly thought what I had experienced was boring or uninteresting compared to others, so I rarely talk about myself, or past, or stuff to others. Unless they ask me. But few ask me anything. I do like to talk about how I did something if it helps another do something similarly or successfully, or explaining my mistakes. And I like doing or saying anything tasteful and harmless that causes laughter.
You can try this on yourself to get better it. Find a topic you love that you could talk for hours about. It could be work, your hobbies, anything. Then, imagine yourself talking to someone new. What could they say in what sequence will get you to start talking a lot? How would you get yourself to open up? When you are able to do that, understand that everyone else is like that as well. There is always something they could talk about for hours as well. You just have to find it.
Underrated comment!
Great advice! I did this one with my a coach at my local gym. She's the hard type that isn't warm nor easily opens up to people. I was interested in her (as a friend - I am female as well) and once she disclosed to me that she's an athlete, I used it as a starter for our next conversation that went on for an hour. She told me all the juicy details and I absolutely LOVED every second of it. I'm sure we would've kept going for hours if I didn't have to leave.
People's hobbies/passions are a great way to have deep conversations. They really warm up to you especially if you're genuinely interested and ask good follow up questions.
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One of the best videos I have seen on social skills. Thanks. Imagine how much better society would be if empathy were more common.
Understand this 100% this is deep
This is what it feels like being a barber. I couldn't ever put it into words before. 😊❤
Listen 🎶. Thank you for all the hard work and insight.
The best advice ive ever heard
I do that sometimes and then I'll realize it and feel like a creeper and immediately tell on myself and then they get really visibly uncomfortable. So I don't know what's worse tbh. My empathy can be debilitating at times, I don't want inside their head. I would like honest unmasked communication, but that only comes from me,. I understand people objectively and accept them unconditionally, however if their behavior is damaging or not aligned or infringes upon mine, I'll accept them unconditionally from afar. I can't remember the last time I wasn't completely misunderstood
For those of us who are observant, it's also about intention, and its about being present in the now. And it's also about tuning into our animal side & feeling senses more, & to allow more of complexity and nuance of awareness of our emotional and physical environments inside ourselves. And its also to allow ourselves to notice the contradictory physical language that is the opposite of someone's speech. It's outward focus as a way to inform inner focus. To use information from the outside to direct inner thought into outward action & or manifest happenings into being.
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being non selfish is key.
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That's very practical and smart goal, a wise man once said do everything you can to get outta debt, one of his tips to getting rich
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Throughout the video, he kept describing me through and through 🙂
thanks for putting the original talks
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Great advise from Robert. You live with spouse for decades, as time goes by you don't take time to know her interests.
You should ask your spouse and also be genuinely interested in their interests as well as yours.
I am as you, i think as you think since my childhood
Love your stuff kick on love it
Well…I met someone who used to apply this and other psycho-social techniques that in my opinion seemed to be learnt during her law studies…I used to make her feel that it worked with me but she is one of the people I consider to be fake that I l’ve ever met. (Apparently she couldn’t assume that I read quite a lot about psychology. It was easy for me to fake being unskilled because she was upper class compared to me).
//However the exercise can be helpful. Thanks Mr Greene
I haven’t gotten your book yet but l learned a lot from your messages .
Robert Greene books help me tremendously especially with my client's. Thank you❤❤❤❤❤
Which book is it?
48 laws of Power
Excellent
thanks this was a great help for me i am realy self senterd
He is correct! 🏆🥇🌟😂. The thing I love about Robert Greenes titles is that they sound so dangerous and then people get worried someone bad will be given a weapon. That’s just the book cover. The truth is people are like movies. You cannot read people like a book unless you yourself a very genuinely good person. So his teachings only work for that subset of people meaning his teachings cannot be weaponized. The narcissist mind will fall asleep after the first sentence about anyone other than themselves. You must have a level of empathy so extreme you actually loose your sense of time in this life. Like 10 years vs a week might actually feel the same to you studying this subject and you might actually kinda bounce out of it asking yourself was that a dream? Nope I actually just dove through that persons life seeing it like a movie. With no ill intent. You cannot be an empath with ill intent. That is actually how you bore an empath. But no gifts are free. You be introvert, high strung with tendancies towards hoarding.
Such amazing insight!
Hmm well I automatically tell people yeah, I experienced that too. I'm not trying to manipulate them... It's just something I've always done
Nice one
I do these things naturally.
It's the hard way of living. The very fact of being inclined to it makes me believe I won't accept any betrayal. I have no rights to pretend, but it is what I painfully think
Great tips! Thanks for this video :)
What's the other feeling? What is it? What is so special about this other feeling? What is it? What is it? Can't wait for the answer.
Honesty!
Are those others willing to be Honest?
Honest, not so much with the other person but, With SELF!
If your Honest with SELF, you can be Honest with others.
Social Media and the Impersonal internet world we now live in have made us more interested in “Likes” than “ Reality” and being Real.
To thy own self be true!
True/Truth means HONESTY.
Are you willing to tell the truth as you experience it!
Fascinating!
You can learn a ton about someone by just listening to them. Also, something I learned years ago was the ancient art of Chinese face reading. No joke. It’s taught at the FBI and other agencies. I can meet someone and in about 30-60 seconds you will know an unbelievable amount of information about them. The ears, nose structure, eyes, forehead, mouth. And 99% of the time it’s right on the button. Try it. It doesn’t take long to learn and it’s readily available on the internet. You’ll be shocked at how accurate it is in telling about a person without them even saying a word
yea
Others already got into me , so , I don't want to toil to enter into others , only to play.
The same way others understand calculus better than others, some here.... Same message but we all understand it somehow differently... Yes its that crazy 😅😅
I'm gonna need some judging from you guys. In University I had a mask that I put on myself of being something that's pretty much what I wanted to be, and no matter how hard I try I just couldn't need take off that mask. When I'm back I would take off that mask. And when I get a call or message I'm always guard up to listen or see in privacy, and was afraid people could find out about me. My university was 15mins distance away from my home B.T.W.
In Robert Greene's laws of human nature's chapter 2, Narcissism, Types of narcissist, the theatrical narcissist. He talked about a character who is a theatrical narcissist that's pretty much me back in university.
Don’t forget that some people are, for various reasons, are not interested to reveal about their childhood so those questions come across as crossing a line
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Most people aren’t that interesting though when you try this .. some are fascinating though , just hard to find those who will reveal enough of who they really are
The human brain and people are damn interesting to me
@@souqsayara7644 yeah, i dont know what that guys talking about. i wonder what makes him think that. @guitarwithbrett who are some people uve talked to? that are were not interestinf
@@sloppy1287 many in tech which is my field who are introverts . They are interesting if can get them talking. People who are know it alls or very fixed mindsets. They can be interesting to observe, but it’s not a fun interaction when a person always tries to outdo you with a better story etc . It’s also hard often to communicate as words often do not convey actual thinking or experience as they are so open to interpretation. Many also in life aren’t thinker or talker types , more doers. So can be tricky to really get why they are doing what they do.
Try 512 personalities and people become interesting
Everyone is interesting to me, even the mundane. Because how we see people is a projection of our own mind. Every interaction verbal and nonverbal is a way to level up awareness of one’s own mental prowess. But that my way of looking at things
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after certain age people are not ready to understand the needs of others.......... all is about me me me me me me
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So here I am interested in other people, now I'm filled with thoughts about what they do and think that I find myself staring :(
Only via mentalization.
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How dare that man take out his phone while interviewing, Robert!
To get into somebody's mine is interested for me cuz you never know what they're thinking and how they are
Yes sir. 😂😂😂❤ I know how 2 do that 😅😅😅😅
being more self immirsed and finding out the true answers within urself instead if being worried about what other ppl think about u. all u need is those few tools or essentials and the base of good ethics yk being kind being gentle having temperament control ur literally a God atp and nobody can tell u urwrong bc the way God built you your mind the way how u feel u cannot fake it. u cannot tell yourself a lie you cannot tell urself oh i dont like to be treated good so if I tray other people bad" I'm a liar to myself" and that's if ur a liar to urself. which we are not. we are truthful beings and that conciousness that God placed inside us man its inagural which u can't lie ab it
bc those times lies like oh " if I got hit on the face I wouldn't feel mad or sum" that's a lie u would feel angry do how
equal universal exchange in this last day we can't keep doing this any more killing our brothers or sisters will be prosecuted and punished by God now so we should just stop and be kind.
one u get in that comfort zone ur unstoppable and u will live forever
I often feel like I can read peoples minds. I'm usually right, I'm still pretty self absorbed. But I am incredibly observant, and very attuned to reading the eyes and slight facial movements. Also just experience in life, many ppl act the way others have before. If you're observant of human behavior you can often predict what someone will feel or how they will think in a given situation. How you make others feel is one of these things, if you know how you effect others you know where the misunderstandings are happening and can correct them before the become a problem. People are very childish and fake, it's important to notice when they start acting like that and make your truthful intentions known, point out the thoughts they are having, deal with that before it becomes a problem for you.
You are on point with everything you just said.
We often forget about the cultural aspect of things. This seems correct in the western world, but doing that in Asia may seem too frontal
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Love your talks, honestly the background music is very distracting
I will never ever understand the point of background music. It's annoying and doesn't add anything. There's good stuff to listen to, don't ruin it with music. I seriously wonder if there's people watching videos thinking "hmmm.. this would have been so much better with background music"..? Sorry for my rant 😄
I feel like robert greene slap me in the face by Truth. 🤯 My whole point of view change
I can't get on those sites it's just too much work for me to try to type in somebody's name to get in touch with them over a phone and you can't even talk to them unless you have to get what's up and then it's one thing after another I don't like those apps
Getting a cat changes everythng in a lonely person lives.
Dude, probably a good skill to have, but why i know we as a species are screwed, there was a time when we were lockdown and scared of a virus but we had a chance to come together, empathize and help each other, but when it was over we went straight back to being selfish greedy and fickle. Empathize? Empathize with what exactly? 🤔🤷♀️🙄
Empathize we live in late stage capitalism and the group psyche is toxic, and some was the 20th century in terms of death and pollution, can’t escape that fact, not the fact that we are heading into some of the darkest ages we will ever experience due to climate change and war, and unfettered cannibal capitalism. See how far empathy gets us, only the strong and cruel (the rich) will survive. 😊 Awn Mawmma
I’m sure he can’t help it.. but I have issues with sounds. It’s hard for me to listen to his voice because it cracks a lot. I want him to cough or clear his throat most of the videos. I want to hear him because I do enjoy what he’s saying. I have to do captions instead.
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i hoped there will be no music
I am a human mother of two males I wish I knew this before
Not judgenning
God bless us all perhaps just a holly spirit
English is not my mother tongue but
I love linguistics and parenting
I was lonely but i became bored enough to grow curious about the people around me, turns out im surrounded by some interesting people, turns out the loneliness i had was from my own arrogance of thinking i was more special than they could comprehend.........😂😂😂😂 Not the case i just lacked appropriate social skills n couldnt actually converse properly and thought it was everyone elses fault 😂 oh to be a fool lol 😅
Same case ❤😂
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The WEF leader has plans for such an app, its being built right now
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People are nice but now nothing they do impress me big houses big living no guts to think beyond❤❤
People absolutely hate me. I trigger them and they don't understand me at all, and I can't do small talk, so I isolate
English is not my mother tongue
I was an interpreter once for few years
It was best job I ever had
I can totally relate to the total listening
Problem is people don’t listen
God bless
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You're not going to find it on the phone yo you got to go outside in the world and do it you can't do it on the phone I get stuck with that I can't do the websites it's too much
Neuroscience may perhaps bring a app out but it would be dangerous
Stop caring so much. It doesn't even matter.
The video is weird with the voiceover
Somebody teach him the art of staying chill and not to give a fuck.
Why this sad instrumental it's not nice
Get inside of others' people mind? I do this all the time
Anyone with empathy will tell you in no uncertain terms, that it is a Curse! It works nothing like what he is saying. It's only bad. It's means other people are not playing by the rules. So they winn and bully and the person with empathy. It's just bad you don't want it !
Can't one use it for good?
@@Ot-ej5giits uncontrollable, and weak sometimes to have it
Agree!! 💯 that energy is heavy!! 🪨 and emotionally draining 😢 RUN!!!
Empathy is a tool for a psychopath, and a broken leg for a highly sensitive person.
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Ahem that sounds like men that I have met, they act like they are the golden retriever of everything. Honestly it's quite sad.
Goodness me, NO! 😱 I am making active efforts NOT to understand or feel the others. It exhausts me. No, I am not your friend. No, I am not your therapist. No, I am not your child or your Mum. Let’s focus on the task at hand. No, I don’t want to manipulate you. No, I don’t want to have power. I just want you and me to do what we are paid for, in a polite way. Boundaries. Fucking boundaries. Let’s make an effort and not spill our personal shit in communal areas. I do NOT care. And the mix of disgust and compassion drives me insane. It has to end.
but be real
family f**k us up
most
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I think u know too much .....what should I do now
But you're just using your imagination and unless you actually get to know them. How do you know your imagination is accurate
The other person is probably thinking that they "need to do something about this wedgie...right now before I lose my daggone mind...they can send rockets to the moon and beyond our solar system but they can't invent a pair of drawers that don't bunch up during a simple , everyday earth walk ...WTF?"
Remove the cringe piano background music from your snippets!
Can someone please give this guy some tea with honey?
Get inside the minds of "Other People"???....NO THANKS!!!!!!!
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