Rebuilding Trust in Your Marriage After Infidelity (Part 2) - Mark & Jill Savage
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ก.ค. 2024
- Mark and Jill Savage share their own personal story of rebuilding trust in their own marriage after infidelity.
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"Building trust is changed behavior over time." Thank you ❤️
Thank you
I would like to hear more from Mark. My heart warmed when it was said he opened up his phone to Jill. That right there, would thrill my heart and give me hope. Thank you Mark & Jill for sharing your story. Maybe one day my spouse will be transparent.
My husband left me almost a month ago to be with his sister after an incestuous relationship when he was younger and now he is deceased and his sister was with him other than me.
This doesn’t do much for me. In my experience my husband and I had the exact same passwords. He was deleting his messages and they had specific times and code words.
My husband did that too but that didn't stop him from hiding things. He cleared his history and hid things on his phone. That's not something that would give me any security at all after knowing how easy it is to still hide things while making it appear as though they are being transparent and honest.
@@GeraldeneP I am in the exact same situationa
@@jackyelsaso5948 It's ten months since I found out and the pain hasn't eased. If anything it's gotten worse. I am so sorry for what you are going through
The opening up his life with the phone, his intentionally telling her where he was going and then having his friend being with him to prevent relapses and giving Jill complete confidence in his being away…these things made a huge difference in this recovery process!
currently trying to fix my marriage, mark & jills story has really helped. praying for a stronger marriage and learning how to love my husband through the pain
Bless you in Jesus name.
1 Peter 3:1 and Titus 2 has really helped also John Bevere’s teaching on Honor and another he did called The Wilderness. These helped me so much I hope it can you too
This really hit me hard I'm currently going through this myself, I was the unfaithful one. And now 4-5 months from when she found out we're in a very hard and dark place. She's trying and I'm trying hard as well. I've been praying all day and looking up different articles and books people have wrote I was just going to stop till I came across their story and I started crying because it hits so hard.
Your poor wife. I pray you are strong enough to TRULY love your wife and that you become a man worthy of her heart
Awesome , she submitted in an amazing way ...
women have so much power... and when they learn to use it ... 💪🏽💪🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
This is spot on! Every Single thing said. Help me Jesus! 🙏🙏
'I realize that I misuse my strength' really convicted me.
Thanks for pointing out that being strong can be misused in the marriage
I’ll never forget, when I found out. I was shocked and couldn’t believe it but it was real. I went to work, came home full of anger. Then after that initial day I cried for days. The biggest heartbreak that I’ve ever experienced. I feel like he let me, my unborn and everyone down. It’s been almost 2 years and I am honestly still very angry. I want peace, to move on and be okay. He dug the grave and he can lay in it. I want to move on and thrive in life and have happiness and forever in someone else.
Thanks for explaining the many times we have to forgive in the process of "letting go" of an offense and for elaborating on the layers of processing needed. It is not 1 and done as people usually expect it to be. They want you to get over it because they are relieved😕.
Love your show, gave me lots of strength. Thanks a million for what you do.
Wow, the opening statement from Jill, "just love him"
That is exactly what the Holy Spirit said to me about my prodigal wife, "Just love her despite the circumstances"
Wow, layers of forgiveness.
thank you.. yes, I am in the middle of the having to forgive it 100 times part... and im really struggling
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Thank you for the sharing!
I cheated on my wife over and over. I miss her so bad right now. She just found about my infidelity again and her i am, hurtinng for hurting her. I did wrong. I wanted to be a great guy and a great husband for my wife. Us, being together for 5 years, is not easy. Husband or guys reading this, man so the right thing even when its hard. Pray for your wife and pray to work and fix you! Dint hurt that woman! Im hurting and miss my wife so bad and i feel like i can't take it.. i just want my wife.. i want her so bad.. i want to be more transparent and use ny better judgement and... Man i miss my wife..
My husband was able to woo my heart. It took years before our marriage was restored. Honestly, after my husband's Confession, my heart was not in rebuilding the marriage. He never gave up on trying
Awesome program for those who are married
This is so helpful Thank you!!!
ILOVE WHAT YOU ALL DO
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This is difficult to watch. Adultery is a horrible breech of trust! If the adultery occurs once, perhaps moving forward is a strong possibility, but when it has happened multiple times, then it would be nearly impossible to regain trust n reconcile. I hv observed that women whose husbands commit adultery are more willing to stay in the marriage than when it is the other way around. Having multiple children and not being financially dependant is an added burden in a woman choosing to stay as well🌿
The women in the 2nd category need to listen to Dr. David Clark and Pastor Mark Gungor -- KICK HIM TO THE CURB! Call out his sin, name it for what it is and be done.
In my decision to stay, for me, I wanted to follow God's will for my marriage. I outearned my husband. In the profession I'm in, most of my female colleagues outearn their husbands. I knew I could raise the kids without him and maintain a decent lifestyle. My husband had to work hard to regain my trust, my love, my willingness to rebuild the marriage
What about the other woman? Did she remove herself quietly or cause issues after Mark ended it?
Can I get the name of the book please? Thanks.
We appreciate your interest in our broadcast, Jiu. The book is titled: Your Next Steps: What To Do When Your Spouse Is Unfaithful. You can get this resource as a free gift for a donation of any amount using this link: bit.ly/3peKzXh. May God bless and guide you, friend.
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Trying my best to learn from what other couples did to heal from the hurt of infidelity. My husband just confessed to having affairs in the past that produced babies. He can't say for sure if they're up to three babies. I feel so hurt and deceived. I'm trying to figure it out and seeking for divine direction.
Please do not go through this on your own but find friends family to come alongside you
Guys I'm currently going through the similar issue. My wife is currently dealing with mental issues and had to be taken to a treatment center while in there says she fell in love with someone. She blames it all on me After getting out shes filed for a divorce and has been constantly seeing the guy. And has no remorse so far. At first I wanted the divorce as well. After some days and praying talking to pastors I'm wanting it to work but she doesn't. The issue that I am having now with me is when I look at her all I'm seeing is the two of them in the act of fornication. Its putting me in a place of deep hurt and physical sickness wanting to just throw up everytime. How do I get the visual side of it out of my head so I can focus on showing her the love so that we can make it work Please give advice thanks everyone.
I prayed for you 🙏
I would also like to know how to get the visual out of my mind. I’m physically ill and heartbroken after giving 29 years of my life to him. Renewed our vows twice which means we took our vows a total of 3 times and it meant nothing to him. He’s remorseful but I feel he’s only sorry because the truth came out not because he’s actually remorseful.
So many layers 😞
I didn't find that Mark was really able to express himself within the interview. Seems that Jill had all the talking space.
She certainly likes to talk over him & not allow him to finish what he had to say.
My daughter in law cannot give up her anger and has negative influences and has started following psychic's instead of God's leading. She's given up just wants out ! So sad!!
Yikes..... It sounds like she needs to work on things (with her own mind) & stop looking for other things to guide her...
They are really giving him excuses! It's not because she was too strong! Maybe she is, but that should not be the focus of this. His accountability should be the focus. What did he DO to get your trust back? What consequences did he have. Seems like she has rescued him from all of his consequences. The hosts are really making this both of their faults!
Gender aside, this behavior is common to all prodigals not just men. Great interview though!
affairs are a hollywood dream or visual that all americans have gone to the cinemas to support
don’t forget the repetitive spins of infidelity on your local radio
Humans struggle with accountability not mostly men.
I was disappointed in Jim Daly's obvious favoring the wife, most clearly at the end. As a host, Jim should have been impartial. I can see where it would have been equally difficult for both partners in this marriage, though, in very different ways.
I've listened to their testimony 2 times. I have to say that she pushed him away year after year by minimizing what he would say and over rode him. This emasculates the man making him feel powerless. He began to think she did not care for him, what he thought, who he was. She wanted to be dominate in the relationship. She felt she was more important than him. So much for being a help meet wife. Yes, he had an affair, but she emotionally pushed him away!!! The list he had was created from the resentment that had built over the years.
No excuse for infidelity. He should have figured another way to talk with her . Get counseling or many other options , besides having an affair . No excuse for an affair .
I disagree. The unfaithful is the one who had the CHOICE on how to handle the relationship. She may have been a part of making the marriage vulnerable but He was totally 100% responsible for deciding to willingly choose to betray his marriage vows.
What a dumpster fire of bs! One of the only things that guy or any thinks about before cheating is getting laid and it’s new there is NOTHING ELSE-anything said else is just sugar coating. She didn’t commit to compassion but instead suppression, the reality of being alone and how difficult it is in the dating pool, and how to get their toilet stuck with all that bs. This guy actually got her to say she was also to blame. I got news for u, some girl lifts up her skirt and says go head…he’ll be on it
The wife is too excited to talk about herself. She is a professional speaker and is empowered by media to weld it for her advantage to make $$
I agree
I rebuke that
The book / pamphlet that she wrote and offers is free of charge. Whether her speaking is profitable to her or not, what she says really resonated with me.