Is appearance important while dating? + Should she continue to accept gifts rom her EX-Boyfriend..

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  • @COOKIEDOUGHTHEGREAT
    @COOKIEDOUGHTHEGREAT 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +207

    I used to think appearance wasn’t important until I started attracted exactly what I looked like musty , bad hygiene, dysfunctional men who had nothing to live for just like me , now I take great care of myself with jewelry, nice clothes , makeup and lotions , and I noticed decent , well mannered men approach me but also weirdos still approach but there nervous too honestly cuz I look amazing , I even learned how to do my own hair .

    • @heidicalhoun7382
      @heidicalhoun7382 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      I’m hollering 😂

    • @anyssarobertsify
      @anyssarobertsify 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      You go girl! 🎉

    • @quetta561
      @quetta561 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Them broke Dustin’s gonna always try it they use to being told no and honestly don’t care. But it’s true u have to take care of yourself

    • @fulltimesuperstar1
      @fulltimesuperstar1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Girllll whenever 👎🏽👎🏽 men approach me they be NERVOUS AS HELL!

    • @gottaluvpink89
      @gottaluvpink89 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Lol I love your transparency. Congratulations on your glow up 👏👏👏

  • @ezy78667
    @ezy78667 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    That girl is NOT over that man!!!! The guy knows exactly what to do to keep her hanging!! He never did that for her during the relationship because he had her, but she is gone, he is giving all these gifts and money just to keep her obsessed, its been 8 months, she is still talking about him online, stalking him, calling here talking about him and convincing herself that she does not want him. She is obsessed with him, because he going on dates with others while she is here TALKING about him!! He is probably watching this with his friends laughing because men are not stupid, they know exactly what they are doing! She needs to block him, move on or stop lying to herself and go back to him.

    • @jayscott5618
      @jayscott5618 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Exactly! At the same time she is bragging.

    • @NohateJay
      @NohateJay 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hes laughing at what tho? If she wanted to be in his presence she would. She’s young enjoying the “ego boost” and getting gifts and money!

  • @victoriaa7081
    @victoriaa7081 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +84

    Feed the baby the good stuffs too - win win for you both!

    • @lurker616
      @lurker616 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Exactly! I was thinking the same thing. Start them early with a healthy lifestyle that lasts a lifetime.

  • @Richard-Reloaded
    @Richard-Reloaded 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    Indeed! You must decrease the circumference of your back in order to increase the circumference of your dating options.

    • @Mzlouluv
      @Mzlouluv 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Lhh dnt do that. 😂😂

    • @Ahyawnah
      @Ahyawnah 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      LMAOOOOOOO PLEASEE

    • @Richard-Reloaded
      @Richard-Reloaded 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@Ahyawnah I ain't lying Ayanna.

    • @MsLovelylady32
      @MsLovelylady32 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      😂😂 Welp

    • @Make_it_Make_Scents
      @Make_it_Make_Scents 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      That’s gone be my mantra ✍🏽

  • @kelleme
    @kelleme 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +110

    While being fit is ideal, being confident holds a lot of power too.

    • @barackmarley4963
      @barackmarley4963 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      Ain't NOBODY want a 250lbs confident woman. 😂

    • @lennylink8772
      @lennylink8772 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      That only applies to men.

    • @NiaFoster-km1me
      @NiaFoster-km1me 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@barackmarley4963 im guess youve never watched my 600 lb life all those folks have partners

    • @gaudylady7
      @gaudylady7 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You'll be surprised...and I'm not even close to that weight.@@barackmarley4963

    • @AndreCHatchett
      @AndreCHatchett 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Grow up

  • @Lady_Tee15
    @Lady_Tee15 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    Please bring back 'Fashion Friday'!❤❤❤

    • @ArtLee68
      @ArtLee68 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      YES! PLEASE BRING IT BACK!!!

    • @gabriellewilliams6133
      @gabriellewilliams6133 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      She did! Last week

  • @AsheaAhana
    @AsheaAhana 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    ugh I wish I could've got his content 10 years ago when i was 20

    • @HauzPlant
      @HauzPlant 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same

    • @fanny2fr3sh
      @fanny2fr3sh 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same same! These youngins getting gems that took us years to get.

    • @ennvee1989
      @ennvee1989 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Its nevr too l8

    • @JUWLZ777
      @JUWLZ777 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Same

  • @saharaloveland
    @saharaloveland 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    I skip meals and lose weight easily. I feel bad for ppl who can't lose weight by fasting. I have enough insecurities I'm just happy weight hasn't been one of em

  • @VWHNeal1018
    @VWHNeal1018 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    The 3rd girl, just as Ashley said, gradual. Allow time to help you decide what you want to tell. If there is mystery, it keeps the guy interested. Never be an open book. They have to earn the right to know information about you.

  • @porichechannel
    @porichechannel 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    9:41 he wanted to get me new jordan ones... The giggle😂😂❤❤

  • @kevinmcghee8935
    @kevinmcghee8935 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Hey Ashley you are absolutely correct when you say a man shouldn’t ask what a woman what she brings to the table. So please let women know that it’s not appropriate to ask a man how much he makes for a living. She should ask the right questions like what do you do for a living. Then Google how much that job pays.

  • @ebonidaneen5639
    @ebonidaneen5639 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Not the Jordan ones 😂😂 I was thinking exactly like Ashley like aww to be so young so cute

  • @ArtLee68
    @ArtLee68 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

    Ladies, run from the man who ask you “what you bring to the table.” He is looking for you to foot the bill. This chocolate beauty will get caught in the right man’s net. The “what you bring to the table” is not the right man for her.

    • @PSYCHDEGREE63
      @PSYCHDEGREE63 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      HVM wants more than 🐈🐈🐈 he basically wants to know what he is going to be investing in and you're going to be an asset not a liability
      I think it's a question that both male and females needs to ask each other that question to make sure that your compatible
      Every individual that is interested in marriage has a list in their mind what would make them a good husband or wife

    • @sarahjoe2457
      @sarahjoe2457 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@PSYCHDEGREE63 HVM don't ask this question.

    • @Jeremiah_29
      @Jeremiah_29 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​​@@sarahjoe2457 Exactly! Everyone knows what they want and need. They will figure out if you have those characteristics or not. They don't have to ask you that type of question to know if you meet those requirements.

    • @NohateJay
      @NohateJay 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Y’all have to learn how to separate social media from real life! I have never had someone ask me what I bring to the table! That’s pod cast fake conversations

  • @Stillwatersrndp
    @Stillwatersrndp 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +98

    The money you use to buy the fake hair and curl fake hair, buy fake eyelashes, need to be used to hire a workout director

    • @lennylink8772
      @lennylink8772 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      Or use the TIME used doing that to exercise.

    • @COOKIEDOUGHTHEGREAT
      @COOKIEDOUGHTHEGREAT 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

      I’ll just say this , I enjoy looking good and I’ll continue to buy wigs , makeup and accessories because they make me feel good , no one should be doing what they do for attention, just do what makes you feel good

    • @j.baldwin3012
      @j.baldwin3012 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      ​@SylistheButcherr The problem is she's putting energy into everything else, except the things that will give her the body she wants.

    • @MilaniB20
      @MilaniB20 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Do both at the same time. 😭

    • @MilaniB20
      @MilaniB20 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Except I don’t wear wigs, closures, & frontals & fake eyelashes.

  • @quinnterry2834
    @quinnterry2834 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    She still likes the guy. Not saying anything is the biggest message she can send

  • @queenofthesouth4205
    @queenofthesouth4205 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Lindsey (nurse) needs to join some professional organizations. Go to professional conferences. Attend medical/professional charity events. Volunteer, jazz clubs.

  • @laurabullinger7183
    @laurabullinger7183 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Losing weight is HARD! I can relate! If I even have a full meal, I gain 2 pounds! We're talking veggie rice - 2 drumsticks - salad - small dessert! I was taking thyroid pills but they stopped working. Oh well!

    • @XxMercuriiXx
      @XxMercuriiXx 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Cut out the dessert and replace the white rice with brown rice, calorie restriction

    • @LindsayAmelia
      @LindsayAmelia 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      watch your salad dressings and cooking oils as well. Use avocado oil if not already. No vegetable oil, no seed oils, no canola oil.

    • @jayscott5618
      @jayscott5618 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Use The weight loss pills and injection shots.

    • @CinemaDoll137
      @CinemaDoll137 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      get your a1c + insulin levels checked along with your thyroid. you may end being referred to an endocrinologist.

    • @XmeimeisworldX
      @XmeimeisworldX 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      No you need to journal what your actually eating, cut out unnecessary snacks, have protein at the base of your meal. Actually understand nutrition.
      Walk 10’000 steps a day and the weight will drop off.
      I lost 100lbs 16-18 doing fad diets and it didn’t last long
      Lost 150lbs in 22 months and have kept it off.

  • @IceyIcey2023
    @IceyIcey2023 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Oh I luvvv this discussion and she is so beautiful!!

  • @paulaturner7015
    @paulaturner7015 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    You are sending mixed signals if you’re accepting his cash app etc..

  • @grace52506
    @grace52506 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The second girl needs to see a therapist and the boy who is chasing her needs to stop. She’s not worth it.

  • @sparklesp9304
    @sparklesp9304 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    Honestly, your kid should be eating healthy too to develop the right palate

  • @jayc5756
    @jayc5756 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Yes its important. Bur you not trying to get the guy thats not attracted to you ma. You get the guy thats Already Attracted To You. So you will be his type already.

  • @123paramorefan
    @123paramorefan 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Does anyone know why she stopped Fashion Friday ?

  • @LaLa-gk6rd
    @LaLa-gk6rd 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    The nurse seemed to lack self awareness.
    I can tell she’s a sweetheart at her core, but her directness may rub some men the wrong way.
    Praying she finds someone who isn’t intimidated by her and that she’s able to bring her wall down a bit.

    • @hamidatkareem3346
      @hamidatkareem3346 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I wouldn't say she lacks self-awareness, she has trust issues, not just with romantic relationships, but friendships as well

  • @Malakkah
    @Malakkah 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You can tell when Lindsay started to read the comments 😕

  • @hellothere8347
    @hellothere8347 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The third girl is beautiful 😍😍 makeup hair everythig

  • @yasminogbu8929
    @yasminogbu8929 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ashley you have so much patience ❤️

  • @gloriouslove9009
    @gloriouslove9009 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m a grandmother, but my mother used to teach me what her mother taught them back in the day and that is you better get that baby weight off before the six week check up 😂😂😂for your husband. Maybe that’s why they stayed having a lot of babies because they taught get your baby weight as soon as possible.

  • @porichechannel
    @porichechannel 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    😂she said see you in april❤😂😂

  • @tinawalker5335
    @tinawalker5335 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Lindsey is not being forthcoming it would get her the help she is looking for.

  • @Mariellaverona
    @Mariellaverona 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Jo she lost me at the jordan one 😂😂 thats crazy. Its almost a insult.

  • @BLURRRULB
    @BLURRRULB 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Umm…. Feed your baby healthy food too!

  • @barackmarley4963
    @barackmarley4963 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    22 a child where the father is not in the home.....the heck you guys getting pregnant so young. 😔😔

  • @AndreCHatchett
    @AndreCHatchett 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    They aren’t into you 20:28 they’re lying.

  • @Mzlouluv
    @Mzlouluv 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    As my saying goes, there's nothing wrong with a bit of belly except on me.

  • @MilaniB20
    @MilaniB20 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You need to get to the root of these habits & addictions & break the cycle as well as make lifestyle changes. & give yourself time. You’ve consumed junk food for 2 or so decades.

    • @MilaniB20
      @MilaniB20 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Change your child(ren)’s diet as well so you can stay on track plus children shouldn’t/can’t be eating like that either.

    • @MilaniB20
      @MilaniB20 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Only shop at the perimeter of the grocery store as well as go to the farmers markets & butcher shops.

  • @pierre5097
    @pierre5097 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    i wish the last girl the best but those arm tats are a bit of a turn off for most serious guys.

  • @lennylink8772
    @lennylink8772 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    The lady at the end, Men are not intimidated by ANY woman. Your tattoos show that you are vary masculine. Get rid of them. I don't know why women have such a hard time telling each other the truth. And if you don't exercise, make sure you make it a lifelong habit, you will appear younger and more vibrant then the women around you.

    • @rosewatersweettea
      @rosewatersweettea 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      And that’s why I have no tattoos and I exercise 4x a week. I’m automatically attractive to men just from doing these two things. Exercise gives you a glow that men will come running to. Even men I shouldn’t have a chance with chase me 😂

    • @ccmcclinton6138
      @ccmcclinton6138 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@rosewatersweetteaI am only 23 and workout 6 days a week mostly weight lifting and no tattoos or piercings and never get hit on.

    • @hrstories2
      @hrstories2 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@ccmcclinton6138lol😢

    • @Tessy29k
      @Tessy29k 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      ​@@rosewatersweettea Women like you haven't gotten the memo yet. Attention from most men is meaninglessness and amounts to eff all for a lot of women who still look good. Exercise and being slim doesn't guarantee a happy marriage or true love. The other person has to choose everyday to love every part of you. I support exercise for health but if we're just talking purely aesthetics then no that has rarely worked out for any woman. Whether you work out 50 million times and visit the gym 365 days a year a man will still treat you badly if he wants to.🤷🏿‍♀️

    • @Tessy29k
      @Tessy29k 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​​@@ccmcclinton6138 I didn't need to do any of that and have had 2 marriage proposals in the last 2 years. My husband to be literally cherishes the hell out of me, loves every inch and spoils me rotten. I really wish women understood that working out doesn't automatically guarantee you the man of your dreams because I see many of you end up terribly disappointed when you work out, get fit and still end up with bad options or no options. Working out for health is good though and should definitely be encouraged.

  • @oceanporter7755
    @oceanporter7755 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The third young lady needs to look into Black girl social club in her city

  • @dishwithpatrish
    @dishwithpatrish 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    At 35, I still looked like a baby. I think it may be all the food hormones, hair and makeup making the younger girls look older.

    • @fanny2fr3sh
      @fanny2fr3sh 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And yes we enjoyed looking younger. This generation wants to look grown so bad. Im 35 and love the shock face ppl make when I tell them how old I am.

    • @CinemaDoll137
      @CinemaDoll137 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      those silky straight and body wave wigs always age us.

  • @grace52506
    @grace52506 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You are beautiful. You look at least 30

  • @lennylink8772
    @lennylink8772 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Is appearance important? ......Well women LOVE tall men.❤❤❤❤

    • @saharaloveland
      @saharaloveland 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Not all women I literally had a guy who was 6'3 and full of himself saying how he's a catch and many women want him. I told him idc about height and a guy being wealthy I care about how a man makes me feel and he got offended 😂 I guess all he has to ride on is his height and money that's why it was the only thing he could talk about pertaining to himself.

    • @lennylink8772
      @lennylink8772 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@saharaloveland 😂 The majority of young men are invisible to the majority of women, it's extremely RARE that a woman wants a man shorter than her.
      The man is enjoying being seen, and he should enjoy it after being invisible for so long.

  • @Beth223-w6k
    @Beth223-w6k 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Girl some jordans 😮

  • @cheriew2512
    @cheriew2512 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Just forget about dating black men …. if it happens it happens! Otherwise it’s a complete waste of time

  • @chasingladdis6350
    @chasingladdis6350 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Oh to be 25 again lol.. she sounds so young

  • @DetroitHimawari
    @DetroitHimawari 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Lindsey was playing dumb for way too long. 23:30

  • @j.baldwin3012
    @j.baldwin3012 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The woman at 19:17 is also covered in tattoos. Do women realize many serious men don't take extra tattooed women seriously?

    • @fashionwithoutlabels
      @fashionwithoutlabels 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Who cares. There are REAL men out there who accept women for who they truly are.
      I would be more concerned about things I CAN NOT SEE on a man…like him being on the down low. Get it??

    • @j.baldwin3012
      @j.baldwin3012 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @fashionwithoutlabels Good old S.I.G.N. language. A real man is born with XY chromosomes and has reached full physical maturity. Everything else is language that people use to try to shame men for not moving how they think those men should move.
      At the end of the day, men put women into categories. Excessive and visible tattoos are the hallmarks of a 304. Not every woman with a bunch of tattoos is a 304, but most men look at women like this as recreational use only. No halfway decent dude is trying to bring a tatt monster to the family cookout.

    • @PSYCHDEGREE63
      @PSYCHDEGREE63 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Heavily tatted women is not attractive, is very masculine energy
      HVM and high producers is looking for a specific type of woman, because she will be representing him and his legacy
      Most high value men and high producers are looking for a clean slate
      Yes they will sleep with these women that are heavily tatted but at the end of the day they're not too quick to wife them up, from what I seen working with high value men, they move different and want different when choosing a wife, and being heavily tatted I have yet to see one HVM to Wi-Fi a woman that is heavily tatted and all those piercings

    • @j.baldwin3012
      @j.baldwin3012 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @PSYCHDEGREE63 I agree. The only men with money who wife these women are entertainers. Businessmen, doctors, lawyers, and various professionals want someone that they can bring to the company picnic who won't look like a side show freak. The only women who get upset about this are the women with tattoos. All of the other women get it, and that's why they never got tattoos.

  • @Godspit6066
    @Godspit6066 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Lol she probably bragging, she don't want to tell u😂

  • @nadanalia3000
    @nadanalia3000 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That 25 year old sounds 16 lol.

  • @lurker616
    @lurker616 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Empty words? What kind of words would I expect from a man I don’t want to be with anymore? She’s silly and loving the attention. Which is fine but call it what it is, sis.

  • @Blahblahblah-b2d
    @Blahblahblah-b2d หลายเดือนก่อน

    As a woman that has a ex that’s a narcissist girl don’t be proud of that !! He is a narcissist and you are turning into one ☝️😂

  • @leveluplovee
    @leveluplovee 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    In little babies plate LOL

  • @jetskipapi6193
    @jetskipapi6193 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Ashley gonna lose her patients with these brawds …they’re dizzier than a mfr

  • @bobcat8654
    @bobcat8654 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    First woman seems annoying

  • @DistrictHeightsMd
    @DistrictHeightsMd 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Tell her to cut her carbs

  • @okbutexplainthis
    @okbutexplainthis 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The second girl is gross, mentality wise. Using someone for money and cackling about it 🤮