My child's abuser was her youth pastor. I found out late September and after the church made it clear that they were standing behind him, I went to police. I never knew he was alone with her as his wife and toddlers were always around. He was arrested in early October and the senior pastor is supplying his lawyer...also going to other local churches and telling them these are nothing but false accusations. Bond is at a million and another kid has come forward. It's infuriating. She had been going to that church since 2009. No one has reached out. When the truth finally comes to light, I'm certain we will never get an apology. Leaning on God a lot... God bless you for this video!
I'm so, so sorry your child went through this and you are not receiving support. Our church has a reducing the risk policy that requires training, background checks, open rooms, and never one adult alone with one child. It's not a perfect solution, but puts safeguards in place to prevent abuse. Again, so, so sorry.
@@laurahoggard7730 thank you. Those policies were supposed to be followed at the church where the abuse happened. It's a Church of God. I grew up COG so I never imagined it could happen there. Most of it happened on church property as the youth pastor and his family lived in the parsonage. Now she has been diagnosed with depression, PTSD & ADD. She also has to take meds due to nightmares. It was truly an eye opener. Church should be the absolute safest place to be. God has His hands all over our situation. He continues to prove that to us.
Thank you for this video. I’ve been abused too. I was 13 and he was 28. I’m an adult now but it still bothers me. I’m tired of thinking about him everyday. He doesn’t deserve to be in my mind.
Had a teacher be a little too interested in my education & I knew what was happening back then too. Trauma wires your brain to events that need closure or “winning” again so don’t trip about intrusive thoughts
I just want to say this happened to me as an adult-everything that you described. We had a significant age gap and I thought it was love. I felt manipulated and the more isolated I got and the more he tried to make things sexual. I got therapy and finally told my family and friends and I was able to get out of it and I have never felt more free. I think the biggest myth is that this only happens to children. You can be groomed as an adult by another adult you trust significantly older than you.
alot of times abuse is with a family member. Someone you trust and know. It makes it even more confusing. It also can be so subtle, "the steps" Having gone through this with my own daughter and my step dad. In my experience the steps weren't as defined. Kind of like the grieving process. Steps can blend into each other. Looking back I thought it was special they had their own time together. Now I just shudder thinking about it. So heartbreakingly sad! :(
+missmissybee So sorry to hear about that. The grieving process is a good analogy. It's not always clear cut and procedural. Praying for your little girl. Thanks for sharing your experience.
missmissybee ' yeah I know how that is I have a older brother who does weird things to my sister to her it looks like his playing but when I try to tell her what he doing is not right she thing he just playing something he will play then he started to get in a sexural way what her and he did it to me so I told him to stop and get of of me he would not so that when I knew he was not playing what us so I started to think what acting and fight back so I did and end up hitting my sis in the chests she did not care because she knew what I was doing and my brother is stronger so hell do stuff that we don't like and he calls it playing so I try to keep my distance from him so this time I was ruin away because I knew what was going to happen and he started to say hug me and I said no so he shouted bad words at me so when I hug him he grap my butt so I push him and told him let me out and he was blocking the door so I scream and my sister came trying to open the door and she could not so when my sis would tell him to stop and leave my a long he would say mind your own business so it about time I talk to my mom before he does some thing he would regret but I just can't because my mom his mean to me when I try to tell her something she just yell at me a when I think about this I cry sorry about bad spelling
You can always get help from the police or a school counselor. Tell them what is happening. They will protect you. If he is doing it to you, he will do it to someone else. If you give me your information I will report it for you to your local police department or department of children and family services.
@@Teresahorner this is true. Aside from certain things such as inappropriate pics, they won't do anything even though it's clear right in front of them that the grooming process is taking place, especially online.
Can a child predator, actually try this to an adult? My mom just got with this guy and he's 43 and I'm 30. But he often tried forcing hugs on me. And always tried getting me in my mom's room alone. Sent me a text that I was just like wtf...and then proceeded to just touching on me one day while I was washing dishes. Thing is my husband saw and made a big deal about it. And then her bf got all offended when confronted. We looked up his records and he's a convicted sex offender. Like WTF...but he told my mom that his wife out false charges on him of child molestation with his kids. And she believes him...I told her I can't come to her house anymore after finding out.
It can happen at any age really I use to know some 20 year old that was dating a guy in his 40s, not only did he look like a sexual predator but i think he is one . he acts very very weird .
I know someone who is a former pastor…and takes an autistic year old girl out for “dates” and a shopping trip…he isn’t related to the girl. When I expressed concern to him, saying he should at least know the optics are not acceptable. Since he preaches at the same church this child and her single mom goes to they feel they can trust him. Just the fact he uses words like date, and special, and it must be just the 2 of them or it isn’t a date, creeps me out. He called me sick.
So sorry. I hope nothing came of it. Not all grooming has to lead to an event right? I just truly learned what grooming was so how would i know though.
7:01 If you’re gonna try to get info from your child about the relationship with the adult, make sure to nonchalant. Just ask something without seeming too concerned,
Thanks for the second part. The last week I watched "spotlight" movie and "touch" this subject. It's unreal what common is this, I mean, not only with priest-religion, but is real......and very sad. We need to protect our childs.
Wonderful parenting aid, thank you so much. There is a war against our kids today and as parents we have to be on guard. It is crazy to me to contemplate that some parents outher letting their kids going out with an adult different than themselves at last there is a writing contract between them. Other moments parents should be around no matter what.
@queenofthebutterflies5212 - re: "God....." Do you often write to God via TH-cam ?!? Or do you usually start sentences off with "God?" Ever get a response from God?
Have you heard of Anxiety War? He does lures, expose and report online predators to his local authorities. And he does show how many of them behaves and react. There's not only just male online predators, but female as well. Even if they aren't violating children themselves, there's also human trafficking as well.
I have wife, a 6 year old daughter and a 5 year old son. Yesterday when i was walking home from church some guy I'd never seen before came running out after us and grabs my 6 year old daughters hand and starts walking along with us like he's part of out family or something. I gathered from something my wife said that he was her Sunday school teacher. The guy is 26 and literally looked 15 or 16 to me so while it was slightly awkward it wasn't as wierd as it might sound. He wouldn't talk or hardly hardly look me in The eye but my daughter seemed comfortable enough . My wife had a slightly taken a back look on her face but didn't say anything, just looked suprized and a little uncomfortable. I kept glancing in an intentionally obvious way down at thier hands to signal "you should let go of my daughter's hand." He would look up and catch my eye, and look back down again, and still wouldn't talk. I could see he saw my hints but he acted like he was either oblivious to non verbal signals or was pretending to be oblivious to them but he literally had NO expression. I started actually getting a little scared because it felt really wierd having some person I never met walking along like that with us and not talking. Then I put myself in between them trying to physically push him backwards away from my daughter and he would NOT let go of her hand! He wouldn't talk or look me in the eyes either! If my wife hadn't been there I wouldn't have been so nice about it but I was trying to figure out if what he was doing was actually OK. When I could see he wasn't going to let go of my daughter I said "hey how old are you?" He finally looks up at me with a smirk and said 13. I said youre 13 years old? He said "no my parents have been running Sunday school at church for 13 years." I said, "no I'm asking you how old you are." He said "oh 15" . At which point my wife who was walking behind us finally said "he's 26" I said " I've never seen you before, don't you think it's a little wierd for a 26 year old man to walk down the street holding hands with a 6 year old girl?" He looks up at me with the same smirk but no surprise, no embarrassment, he didn't even look offended. He said "is that how it is in US?" (I'm an expat and this is in South America) I said "that's how it is on all of planet earth!" He STILL wouldn't let go of her hand and didn't register ANY expression except for the impudent smirk he'd had the entire time but his posture turned awkward like he was finally scared but trying not to show it. Than he asked me where we lived which was such an inappropriate question for the situation that I started toward him and said "let go of my daughters hand!" It literally was like pulling a tooth. He had a look like how dare I ask him that and It was the hardest thing he'd ever done. I told my daughter to run back to her mom, and he literally started following her but caught himself and started walking with me real nervous like. I said "don't ever touch my daughter again", and he acted like he didn’t understand me or couldn’t believe he was hearing right. I said "are you married?" He said no. I said I think it's wierd for a 26 year old man that's not married to be a Sunday school teacher and it's even weirder to walk holding hands with my 6 year old girl, and refuse to talk to me or look me In the eyes, and that maybe he should get married first then resume teaching Sunday school. He wouldn't talk but now he's following me like a scared puppy. I asked where he lived and he told me where and I pointed toward where he told me and said "don't you need to go up that road?" He said "no", and I said "well how do you get home then?" Than he described a rout that would have been WAY out of the way and just happened to go right past our house and I could tell he must have known where we lived . I said "that's funny I've never seen you come past our house and we walk home every Sunday and you've never walked with us!" He's like "yeah that's how I get home" so I could tell he'd literally planned on taking an out of the way route home so so he could walk with us and come by our house on the way. I thought I got to shake this wierdo so I started walking slower and he FINALLY got the hint and kept walking. No goodbye and he didn't even look back but keeps walking slow like he's hoping we'd catch up with Him again. I walked back to my wife and shes staring daggers at me . She said "how can you treat him like that?" But she looked just as shaken up as I was and didn’t make any effort to catch up with him either. She told me his mom was a child psychologist and had been running the children's activities in church for years and has adopted other kids and he's one of the Sunday school teachers and so on, and his family is so nice and they'll be SO hurt when they find out how I treated their poor little boy. Does anybody think this person i described like a creepo or not? I don’t want to unnecessarily hurt people but nothing about that walk home was normal and I'm wondering about taking my kids out of Sunday school. It reminds me of "grooming". Anyway id say he was trying to get us to like him and maybe invite him into our house. Also I've heard that the lack of picking up on social cues and hints and a lack of showing suprize and shame is a sign of a psycopathic personality. How do you treat a situation where someone like that has so thoroughly wiggled into a social circle and everyone defends them so vehemently? Also I've been going to this church for 5 years and id NEVER seen this person before, and how is a 26 year old man able to look and act so much like a little kid?? Looking for advice.
Are there any warning signs of a pedophile that could BE a FAMILY member? Ex. Father, brother,sister, mother, uncle? Its easier for family members than a stranger from the streets but i feel its also harder to detect especially when they put on a mask for people to see their "good" side
Warning signs would be sudden mood changes in the child, wanting to avoid being in certain places or with people, bed wetting, bruising in the private areas. There is a list of other signs here: www.rainn.org/articles/warning-signs-young-children
@@WaypointParenting would a child want to spend time with the accused up until the point they personally get in trouble at school? Like that's what doesn't make sense to me. She has been overly clingy ever since she met him, and he hasn't exactly just given in freely, more like he was continuously pressured into going to play basketball with her, by her, at the park, pressured into taking her golfing one time, by her, pressured into taking her to the store, by her. He tries to keep his distance. But she did just get into MAJOR trouble at school, and is blaming everyone but her, and accusing him. I don't get why, but I DO know it's not true. Not by what she claims. She claims it's early in the morning, very vague on details, but also, I usually sleep in her pull out bed because he snores so loud....and she hates it. Up until the day she acused him, after blaming everyone else, for her getting into trouble at school.
Oh, but there IS someone online who is obviously grooming. I've since cut her off from any electronics because of it. And yes, it's VERY clearly grooming from a man.
Unless the parents are the predators and the child only feels safe disclosing it to one adult. It will be mostly secret unless overwhelming evidence can be gathered against the child's parents.
Thank you Newmans. We haven't done any videos in a while. We've been busy with other projects, but I do miss getting to teach and present material to other Christian parents.
So sorry to hear that you were abused. I would encourage you to find a female biblical counselor that can help you sort through your feelings. Unfortunately predators come from all walks of life, including so-called "religious" people. God will bring justice.
So in case any adult is watching, you should know pretty darn quick if you are even remotely in this ballpark... Kids are great, but they're kids. Why would I want to spend (considerable) time with kids away from their parents? When this happens, it is always for a specific reason that has absolutely nothing to do with... I think its EXTREMELY important that otherwise more honorable adults have the awareness that they don't do this stuff... Because a LOT of folks will wrongfully accuse innocent adults of this stuff...
@@truthbetold4350 Yeah. A good example are certain Boy Scout leaders (that we know of in the news and others, etc.), at least in the past. The way my church handled this, was that every Boy Scout activity needed a few to a handful of different more mature and very responsible, resourceful men (depending on the length of the activity), who the bishop spiritually felt/sensed had good and honorable character. I never knew of any improprieties, anything inappropriate that ever happened. The leaders did not sleep in tents with boys, etc. They had their own tents. These were chaste, virtuous men that were my Boy Scout leaders. Every single one of them. Other Boy Scout troops, etc., certain others were not run this way. We are all aware/increasingly aware of what has gone on in this regard with this organization in the past. Now, the organization is COMPLETELY different, and I can't say for the better... 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
@@silvermoonluna5844 Everything an adult does with a child should involve another adult observing, who is an adult of fairly virtuous character at least. With parents/relatives, etc., rest assured, a great deal of child sexual abuse comes from either parents, or others like aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc. It is good that we are trying to monitor adults that work with kids more closely, always doing background checks, etc. However, because parents/relatives are not as closely observed, that is where abuse will often occur. The same is true for certain sorts of religious leaders, those with whom a great deal of trust is placed. The solution is not doing away with activities that truly do benefit and bring joy to children (and teens). The solution is having more means of monitoring ALL adults and protecting children via parents keeping a watchful (but NOT automatically mistrustful) eye on each other and other relatives, and adults in general behaving themselves and being more virtuous/chaste, such that, along with increased use of security cameras, etc., the chances of something truly terrible happening to a child in this way lessen with time.
Child predators are disgusting and horrible, in fact ANY predator is horrible. But child predators are the worst. And then some groups try to say that the Pedophiles were "born that way" and that it's a sexual preference. What a bunch of B.S. No one has the right to abuse a child for any reason, especially sexually. These kids grow up with major mental health issues and sometimes for years afterwards. Beware of old who kiss young kids on the lips. It may not be a big thing, but most old men I know didn't do this. I had one who did.
Can older people get groomed by younger people as well?? And do they always want sexual favors? Also, when I was 21, I would do sexual favors for a man that was in his 50s. I didn’t have to do them but he always told me that I had the choice to do them and there was a lot of money on the table to do them. So I had a choice. And a lot of times I agreed to sleep with him. This wouldn’t count as grooming would it?? Not to mention, I would confide in him about a lot of things going on in my life so it was more than just sex and money. I honestly thought of this as just simply business. He never knew me as a child so it’s not like he was “preparing” to sleep with me into adulthood. It was a decision we both made as consenting adults
good news! you're right you weren't groomed, you're just a prostitute! before you think it, prostitutes also talk about their life with their clients, this is common and happens with any personal/business relationship.
@explorer8125 - sure the other person will "like you" as long as you allow the pants removed, comply with spreading your legs. Any other rhetorical questions?
Sex, is such a huge issue. They blame it always almost on the man, but the man himself is simy a product of his environment. The problem that comes with this is violence. Most men wanna have sex, but pregnancy comes with that which complicates the issue. Sadly, it's just the world in which biology manipulates us. That rational thinking, morality? It didn't exist back then. Morality exists for THOSE who can have healthy lives, offsprings, but not to those nature determines it cannot be a reproductive mate. But the same BIOS is installed in all, or most of men, and thats what causes men to always seek sexual acts with women, even to their own familial kind. Child abuse? It's because they cannot have sex with other partners, and their own partners shame them sexually. So there's no choice left but to seek out sex with a young female. This would've been avoided had males got a partner at 16 or 15 while he is 14-16 or even older. Because the framework is there. You lose that framework, that step, you are going to lose out, and some become predators because they CANNOT be "without a partner/mate". It also goes with the repression, the cultural expression of their race, etc. This is biology, clear and cold cut. You can only cut it out if we have some identifiable gene that, we can cut out, or witch hunts, as we so often do derive our sick pleasures, as they do. Two wrongs don't make a right, but seems there's no other better way. I think the wiring for sexualization and protection is screwed for these individuals due to some brain trauma and major changes in their neural wiring. So, they see it as sexually desirable for a young child, because the notions of protection is crossed into their unmet sexual needs. What I think goes is that the healthy state in a normal individual, that section there is lost in childhood, and so he is unable to find himself a young partner and develop a relationship with his social needs and what not healthy. So he becomes sexually deprived, much like a malnourished individual. Believe it or not, sex IS A SEVERE need, or rather the emotional healthiness in a person, etc, therefore he/she is screwed over.
I agree with much of what he says except for the touching, a "hi five or a pat on the back is OK", I don't agree!!! Sometimes a pat on the back or just touching the back period is a trial testing for predators!!! I teach my kids about that if an adult touches there back you pay close attention to that and avoid it the second time!! So if the touch comes a second time while trying to avoid it, show power of self awareness control and move away from it and immediately tell me!!!! This works because one of mine took power against a predator and we was victorious against that person together !! Victorious because he showed the power of awareness and communicated with me immediately then I took charge!!! YES!!!!!!!
What about when you have evidence to prove and support the grooming signs and DFS and family courts fail the child?! Because that is what is happing to my son right now and our county’s DFS has a long history of failing to protect the child. My local court system doesn’t care. The police have even refused to investigate simply because my sons father protects his girlfriend by denying all abuse even though they have been investigated multiple times for abuse and neglect. Advice?
I found out this was happening to my child 4 months ago by her youth pastor. I went to the police and she was recorded. He was arrested that night and is still in county jail. They still have her cell phone. Does your child talk about it? I know sometimes it's tough when the child won't talk. I'm so sorry. This is a nightmare.
@@shamalamadingdong1417 my daughter’s abuse started in March, 2018 and she did not tell me until October, 2019. She was almost 14 when it started. In September, 2019 she finally told her best friend who told her that if she didn’t tell me then the friend would. It took another 2 months of therapy before her therapist was able to get her to open up enough about him taking her innocence. I wish I had a magic wand to give you. Until you can confirm it, I do strongly recommend you keep everything. Write dates, names, ANYTHING down. Keep texts, social media posts, etc. My daughter’s abuser used Snapchat most of the time and Snapchat does not work with law enforcement. If I had better evidence he might’ve gotten more than 3 years in prison. Best of luck to you.
@spartanwife4938 - No advice here! It's now 3 years later, either your son has moved out of your house, or continues to WANT to be in the situation that goes nowhere legally.
Tell your teacher. Or a secretary. The school nurse. Any adult you trust and can confide in. Don't sit back and let it continue. You don't have to accept unwelcome physical contact. Just tell somebody.
You need to punch him in the face and yell i said stop touching me.. So that people hear! And make sure u are never alone anywhere near him... Then u tell all the adults. Who wont do shit really, they never really do. And then you need to be able to defend yourself anyway.. Whatever you need to do really. You dont just allow people to walk all over you. If they are bigger than you seek support from friends. Dont stay alone where u are defenseless.
So I’m gonna try to connect this with a possible grooming thing and if you think this is grooming please tell me. Btw the predator’s traits is relaxed, jokey with dark humor, and is very odd Target: Similar interests?? Get to know them: They happen to both like anime Meet a need: Watching anime with no ads, probably. Isolate: At lunch they’re going to go alone and watch anime (the predator will also buy lunch for them) The secrecy: The predator asked her to help design a cover for a book he made, he has asked multiple people to do this. I asked sarcastically for money and he said he might have, and trading money is not allowed at the current place. Desensitize: Me and a friend of mine talked about how suspicious the predator is, but the victim shrugged it off and doesn’t want the predator to get in trouble (I think this is the current stage. the predator let the victim harm someone else and didn’t tell anyone.) ((Also about the private messages, they have each other’s phone numbers for anime.))
I have raised alarm I have inquired with authorities I have tried to help the mother recognize but I don't know why because he has been with the child's mother as the geandmothers husband and I have known them in passing and this mother is exploiting the little girl kn I wiggly but no one can see this except a hand full of pll and still the authorities do nothing
You know what I hate about it all, There is NOWAY for us to stop all predators, There are millions and millions of them , watch the Blake lively fund raiser, I hate the most is how the victim must feel after , the gasp, the omg factors , They must feel like it's the most horrible thing in life that can happen, and I feel like it affects their ability to heal afterwards, but I don't know how we as a society can help the victims become victors
My girlfriend was violated by her father and she couldn't do anything and she still feels like it was her fault because she didn't say anything.. I honestly want to fucking murder him to this fucking day.. Edit: and she was fucking 7 when that happened!!! And now she has a neighbor that is a little too close to her and her family buying her things etc and I told her she should be really careful but she doesn't listen she just says "I'll be fine".. fine isn't something you can just throw around when anything happens in an instant.. I'm so fucking worried about her each and everyday.. I love her and i would die for her I just want to protect her from horrible people like that...
@@warriormanmaxx8991 Hey Douchebag - are you FUCKING serious about THAT fucking comment? Yes, I mean Yours. That's some fucked up, shit, man. Like, whoa. Like, chill out, dude. Smoke some grass. Relax. ✌🏼😎🌿 That other dude's comment seems legit. That makes you a *walloping* of an asshole. If I'm right, it's important you know that you ARE the asshole here. Consider me a mirror. If I'm wrong, then at least I had fun writing this comment.
That's the victim not knowing any better. Still has to be removed from the situation as soon as signs are spotted. Don't know whether there is a specific term for victims who "enjoyed" their grooming. Stockholm syndrome, perhaps?
I was groomed at age 10 a little male family friend and then at 11/12 by a foster father. Then again as 15 year old my best friend now ex bf. He was porn addict hence why he took advantage of me who knows probably my friends which was my friends daughter too. I hate getting in these predicaments its cause me anxiety and stress. Bad choice in men for awhile then I became hypersexual for while looking for love when should be healing and turning to God to heal me. I'm still healing from what happened to and sometimes I have PTSD and some paranoia especially for my now children. Thanks for this platform to speak of things like this. I wish I could report these things but I didn't want to cause drama or relive what happened everyday in court system. I'm praying for boys,girls or anybody going through molestion or someone committing pedophilic acts on innocent people. I prayer and hope for these people to seek out behavior therapy and medication to change there foolish acts and behaviours.
Only you can do that. Shes your daughter. Just keep her with you for life. Theres good men and bad men and any bad man gets close just tell them to back off. Only fight if they attack. All dads should keep their daughters to themselves so the good men out there dont have to deal with them and live their lives.😁😃😎The life of freedom yo. Now im gonna get back to picking my afro and beard.
So yes u took our land without guvingnus the deed dad was in his 79s when i was 7 so u guys had us in the bag and did as u paied our taxes and destroyed our home and family
Keep your child away from all men in general. Its best for the women to be with children so men dont have to err... I mean so there wont be potential danger.😁😃😎
My child's abuser was her youth pastor. I found out late September and after the church made it clear that they were standing behind him, I went to police. I never knew he was alone with her as his wife and toddlers were always around. He was arrested in early October and the senior pastor is supplying his lawyer...also going to other local churches and telling them these are nothing but false accusations. Bond is at a million and another kid has come forward. It's infuriating. She had been going to that church since 2009. No one has reached out. When the truth finally comes to light, I'm certain we will never get an apology. Leaning on God a lot... God bless you for this video!
That is terrible and I know God will take care of you through it all.
I'm so, so sorry your child went through this and you are not receiving support. Our church has a reducing the risk policy that requires training, background checks, open rooms, and never one adult alone with one child. It's not a perfect solution, but puts safeguards in place to prevent abuse. Again, so, so sorry.
@@laurahoggard7730 thank you. Those policies were supposed to be followed at the church where the abuse happened. It's a Church of God. I grew up COG so I never imagined it could happen there. Most of it happened on church property as the youth pastor and his family lived in the parsonage. Now she has been diagnosed with depression, PTSD & ADD. She also has to take meds due to nightmares. It was truly an eye opener. Church should be the absolute safest place to be. God has His hands all over our situation. He continues to prove that to us.
God bless you and your family I wish justice for you and the other families hurt
To be honest, it sounds like the Senior pastor may also be a predator, thus defending this guy so much. That's just weird.
Thank you for this video. I’ve been abused too. I was 13 and he was 28. I’m an adult now but it still bothers me. I’m tired of thinking about him everyday. He doesn’t deserve to be in my mind.
I'm sorry that happened to you
Had a teacher be a little too interested in my education & I knew what was happening back then too. Trauma wires your brain to events that need closure or “winning” again so don’t trip about intrusive thoughts
i used to go on online chatrooms when i was 15 and one man in his 30s asked me to show my chest? Does this count as sexual abuse?
A man that almost sold me into sex trafficking was just like this. It's terrifyingly accurate.
I just want to say this happened to me as an adult-everything that you described. We had a significant age gap and I thought it was love. I felt manipulated and the more isolated I got and the more he tried to make things sexual. I got therapy and finally told my family and friends and I was able to get out of it and I have never felt more free. I think the biggest myth is that this only happens to children. You can be groomed as an adult by another adult you trust significantly older than you.
alot of times abuse is with a family member. Someone you trust and know. It makes it even more confusing. It also can be so subtle, "the steps" Having gone through this with my own daughter and my step dad. In my experience the steps weren't as defined. Kind of like the grieving process. Steps can blend into each other. Looking back I thought it was special they had their own time together. Now I just shudder thinking about it. So heartbreakingly sad! :(
+missmissybee So sorry to hear about that. The grieving process is a good analogy. It's not always clear cut and procedural. Praying for your little girl. Thanks for sharing your experience.
missmissybee ' yeah I know how that is I have a older brother who does weird things to my sister to her it looks like his playing but when I try to tell her what he doing is not right she thing he just playing something he will play then he started to get in a sexural way what her and he did it to me so I told him to stop and get of of me he would not so that when I knew he was not playing what us so I started to think what acting and fight back so I did and end up hitting my sis in the chests she did not care because she knew what I was doing and my brother is stronger so hell do stuff that we don't like and he calls it playing so I try to keep my distance from him so this time I was ruin away because I knew what was going to happen and he started to say hug me and I said no so he shouted bad words at me so when I hug him he grap my butt so I push him and told him let me out and he was blocking the door so I scream and my sister came trying to open the door and she could not so when my sis would tell him to stop and leave my a long he would say mind your own business so it about time I talk to my mom before he does some thing he would regret but I just can't because my mom his mean to me when I try to tell her something she just yell at me a when I think about this I cry sorry about bad spelling
You can always get help from the police or a school counselor. Tell them what is happening. They will protect you. If he is doing it to you, he will do it to someone else. If you give me your information I will report it for you to your local police department or department of children and family services.
Waypoint Parenting even the police dont even HELP. Thank you video.
@@Teresahorner this is true. Aside from certain things such as inappropriate pics, they won't do anything even though it's clear right in front of them that the grooming process is taking place, especially online.
The loud music is distracting me from what you’re saying.
I wouldn't lean too heavy on the idea they just come out of nowhere. 80% of sexual abuse in children are with people they know well. Family
I know. But people want to believe that abuse only happens when crazy strangers jump out from behind a bush in a dark alley....
It's actually over 90-93%
Can a child predator, actually try this to an adult? My mom just got with this guy and he's 43 and I'm 30. But he often tried forcing hugs on me. And always tried getting me in my mom's room alone. Sent me a text that I was just like wtf...and then proceeded to just touching on me one day while I was washing dishes. Thing is my husband saw and made a big deal about it. And then her bf got all offended when confronted. We looked up his records and he's a convicted sex offender. Like WTF...but he told my mom that his wife out false charges on him of child molestation with his kids. And she believes him...I told her I can't come to her house anymore after finding out.
If he is registered, then you definitely need to be cautious and stay away. Predators always deny and cover up.
It can happen at any age really I use to know some 20 year old that was dating a guy in his 40s, not only did he look like a sexual predator but i think he is one . he acts very very weird .
Trust your instinct...yes he is..and stay away.
Creeps gunna creep.
I know someone who is a former pastor…and takes an autistic year old girl out for “dates” and a shopping trip…he isn’t related to the girl. When I expressed concern to him, saying he should at least know the optics are not acceptable. Since he preaches at the same church this child and her single mom goes to they feel they can trust him. Just the fact he uses words like date, and special, and it must be just the 2 of them or it isn’t a date, creeps me out. He called me sick.
@mrBrrxX - how about minding your own "creeps me out" business as a third party !!
I just realized that this happened to me a few years ago
So sorry. I hope nothing came of it. Not all grooming has to lead to an event right? I just truly learned what grooming was so how would i know though.
Could do without the upbeat annoying music
Sorry, we aren't professional video editors and always have room to improve. We'll take your feedback into consideration.
It doesn't bother me
@Patricia August it didn't bother me that much
7:01 If you’re gonna try to get info from your child about the relationship with the adult, make sure to nonchalant. Just ask something without seeming too concerned,
Thanks for the second part. The last week I watched "spotlight" movie and "touch" this subject. It's unreal what common is this, I mean, not only with priest-religion, but is real......and very sad.
We need to protect our childs.
+Alezy Pedraza Hey again Alezy. Yes, very sad that so many children have been affected by this.
Yes its real. The HUMAN trafficking
I saw where a child oncologist was exploting molesting his sick child patients
Wonderful parenting aid, thank you so much. There is a war against our kids today and as parents we have to be on guard. It is crazy to me to contemplate that some parents outher letting their kids going out with an adult different than themselves at last there is a writing contract between them. Other moments parents should be around no matter what.
This makes me sick to my stomach.... This evil world we live in all these pedophiles need to die!!! Thanks for the info
Very sad indeed. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
God, I feel SICK just with the opening sentence. How people could DO THIS? - they HAVE to be sociopaths/psychopaths
It’s the brain, it’s deformed and they can’t do anything about it and that’s why we need to lock em up
@queenofthebutterflies5212 - re: "God....." Do you often write to God via TH-cam ?!? Or do you usually start sentences off with "God?" Ever get a response from God?
Have you heard of Anxiety War? He does lures, expose and report online predators to his local authorities. And he does show how many of them behaves and react. There's not only just male online predators, but female as well. Even if they aren't violating children themselves, there's also human trafficking as well.
I have wife, a 6 year old daughter and a 5 year old son. Yesterday when i was walking home from church some guy I'd never seen before came running out after us and grabs my 6 year old daughters hand and starts walking along with us like he's part of out family or something.
I gathered from something my wife said that he was her Sunday school teacher.
The guy is 26 and literally looked 15 or 16 to me so while it was slightly awkward it wasn't as wierd as it might sound.
He wouldn't talk or hardly hardly look me in
The eye but my daughter seemed comfortable enough . My wife had a slightly taken a back look on her face but didn't say anything, just looked suprized and a little uncomfortable.
I kept glancing in an intentionally obvious way down at thier hands to signal "you should let go of my daughter's hand."
He would look up and catch my eye, and look back down again, and still wouldn't talk. I could see he saw my hints but he acted like he was either oblivious to non verbal signals or was pretending to be oblivious to them but he literally had NO expression.
I started actually getting a little scared because it felt really wierd having some person I never met walking along like that with us and not talking.
Then I put myself in between them trying to physically push him backwards away from my daughter and he would NOT let go of her hand! He wouldn't talk or look me in the eyes either!
If my wife hadn't been there I wouldn't have been so nice about it but I was trying to figure out if what he was doing was actually OK.
When I could see he wasn't going to let go of my daughter I said "hey how old are you?"
He finally looks up at me with a smirk and said 13.
I said youre 13 years old? He said "no my parents have been running Sunday school at church for 13 years."
I said, "no I'm asking you how old you are." He said "oh 15" . At which point my wife who was walking behind us finally said "he's 26"
I said " I've never seen you before, don't you think it's a little wierd for a 26 year old man to walk down the street holding hands with a 6 year old girl?"
He looks up at me with the same smirk but no surprise, no embarrassment, he didn't even look offended.
He said "is that how it is in US?" (I'm an expat and this is in South America)
I said "that's how it is on all of planet earth!"
He STILL wouldn't let go of her hand and didn't register ANY expression except for the impudent smirk he'd had the entire time but his posture turned awkward like he was finally scared but trying not to show it.
Than he asked me where we lived which was such an inappropriate question for the situation that I started toward him and said "let go of my daughters hand!"
It literally was like pulling a tooth. He had a look like how dare I ask him that and It was the hardest thing he'd ever done.
I told my daughter to run back to her mom, and he literally started following her but caught himself and started walking with me real nervous like.
I said "don't ever touch my daughter again", and he acted like he didn’t understand me or couldn’t believe he was hearing right.
I said "are you married?" He said no. I said I think it's wierd for a 26 year old man that's not married to be a Sunday school teacher and it's even weirder to walk holding hands with my 6 year old girl, and refuse to talk to me or look me In the eyes, and that maybe he should get married first then resume teaching Sunday school.
He wouldn't talk but now he's following me like a scared puppy.
I asked where he lived and he told me where and I pointed toward where he told me and said "don't you need to go up that road?" He said "no", and I said "well how do you get home then?"
Than he described a rout that would have been WAY out of the way and just happened to go right past our house and I could tell he must have known where we lived .
I said "that's funny I've never seen you come past our house and we walk home every Sunday and you've never walked with us!"
He's like "yeah that's how I get home" so I could tell he'd literally planned on taking an out of the way route home so so he could walk with us and come by our house on the way.
I thought I got to shake this wierdo so I started walking slower and he FINALLY got the hint and kept walking. No goodbye and he didn't even look back but keeps walking slow like he's hoping we'd catch up with Him again.
I walked back to my wife and shes staring daggers at me .
She said "how can you treat him like that?"
But she looked just as shaken up as I was and didn’t make any effort to catch up with him either.
She told me his mom was a child psychologist and had been running the children's activities in church for years and has adopted other kids and he's one of the Sunday school teachers and so on, and his family is so nice and they'll be SO hurt when they find out how I treated their poor little boy.
Does anybody think this person i described like a creepo or not? I don’t want to unnecessarily hurt people but nothing about that walk home was normal and I'm wondering about taking my kids out of Sunday school.
It reminds me of "grooming". Anyway id say he was trying to get us to like him and maybe invite him into our house.
Also I've heard that the lack of picking up on social cues and hints and a lack of showing suprize and shame is a sign of a psycopathic personality.
How do you treat a situation where someone like that has so thoroughly wiggled into a social circle and everyone defends them so vehemently? Also I've been going to this church for 5 years and id NEVER seen this person before, and how is a 26 year old man able to look and act so much like a little kid??
Looking for advice.
He either sounds like a creep or mentally handicapped, but based on your story, I doubt he's the latter.
He's a weirdo
dont put your kid with him at sunday school
Are there any warning signs of a pedophile that could BE a FAMILY member? Ex. Father, brother,sister, mother, uncle? Its easier for family members than a stranger from the streets but i feel its also harder to detect especially when they put on a mask for people to see their "good" side
Warning signs would be sudden mood changes in the child, wanting to avoid being in certain places or with people, bed wetting, bruising in the private areas. There is a list of other signs here: www.rainn.org/articles/warning-signs-young-children
Everyone wants you to do a video of family members , dads grooming daughters . Please we need your insight . I feel like I could save these girls
@@WaypointParenting would a child want to spend time with the accused up until the point they personally get in trouble at school? Like that's what doesn't make sense to me. She has been overly clingy ever since she met him, and he hasn't exactly just given in freely, more like he was continuously pressured into going to play basketball with her, by her, at the park, pressured into taking her golfing one time, by her, pressured into taking her to the store, by her. He tries to keep his distance. But she did just get into MAJOR trouble at school, and is blaming everyone but her, and accusing him. I don't get why, but I DO know it's not true. Not by what she claims. She claims it's early in the morning, very vague on details, but also, I usually sleep in her pull out bed because he snores so loud....and she hates it. Up until the day she acused him, after blaming everyone else, for her getting into trouble at school.
Oh, but there IS someone online who is obviously grooming. I've since cut her off from any electronics because of it. And yes, it's VERY clearly grooming from a man.
This is very informative! Thank you
You are welcome. Glad you found it helpful.
Nothing should be private between an Adult and your child.
Unless the parents are the predators and the child only feels safe disclosing it to one adult. It will be mostly secret unless overwhelming evidence can be gathered against the child's parents.
Great site for parents and children. Ty for taking your time to inform.
So sad but true! Thank you for spreading this information!!!
This is so difficult to hear
I appreciate your channel. Keep up the good works!!
Thank you Newmans. We haven't done any videos in a while. We've been busy with other projects, but I do miss getting to teach and present material to other Christian parents.
FYI That background music does not go with the topic.
I want to believe & learn what you are saying but I was molested for years by a pastor.
So sorry to hear that you were abused. I would encourage you to find a female biblical counselor that can help you sort through your feelings. Unfortunately predators come from all walks of life, including so-called "religious" people. God will bring justice.
Good video. I wish I saw this before I got assaulted. I could have realised what was going on and stopped it.
I'm sorry to hear you were assaulted. I hope this video is able to help others.
Very informative. I'm a new mom and I'm learning about how to be a good parent. Thank you for the education 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Hi, Jared. If you don't mind, could you please refer to the study source you use in this video? Thank you very much. Sending love from Indonesia.
I’m so glad I bullied my groomer but damn it was textbook grooming
So in case any adult is watching, you should know pretty darn quick if you are even remotely in this ballpark...
Kids are great, but they're kids. Why would I want to spend (considerable) time with kids away from their parents? When this happens, it is always for a specific reason that has absolutely nothing to do with...
I think its EXTREMELY important that otherwise more honorable adults have the awareness that they don't do this stuff... Because a LOT of folks will wrongfully accuse innocent adults of this stuff...
And thats how the ones who ACTUALLY are doing this stuff get away with it
I would err on the side of caution anyway..When something feels off, it usually is...Especially when it comes to this kind of stuff...
@@truthbetold4350 Yeah. A good example are certain Boy Scout leaders (that we know of in the news and others, etc.), at least in the past. The way my church handled this, was that every Boy Scout activity needed a few to a handful of different more mature and very responsible, resourceful men (depending on the length of the activity), who the bishop spiritually felt/sensed had good and honorable character. I never knew of any improprieties, anything inappropriate that ever happened. The leaders did not sleep in tents with boys, etc. They had their own tents. These were chaste, virtuous men that were my Boy Scout leaders. Every single one of them.
Other Boy Scout troops, etc., certain others were not run this way. We are all aware/increasingly aware of what has gone on in this regard with this organization in the past. Now, the organization is COMPLETELY different, and I can't say for the better... 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
@@silvermoonluna5844 Everything an adult does with a child should involve another adult observing, who is an adult of fairly virtuous character at least. With parents/relatives, etc., rest assured, a great deal of child sexual abuse comes from either parents, or others like aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc. It is good that we are trying to monitor adults that work with kids more closely, always doing background checks, etc. However, because parents/relatives are not as closely observed, that is where abuse will often occur. The same is true for certain sorts of religious leaders, those with whom a great deal of trust is placed.
The solution is not doing away with activities that truly do benefit and bring joy to children (and teens). The solution is having more means of monitoring ALL adults and protecting children via parents keeping a watchful (but NOT automatically mistrustful) eye on each other and other relatives, and adults in general behaving themselves and being more virtuous/chaste, such that, along with increased use of security cameras, etc., the chances of something truly terrible happening to a child in this way lessen with time.
Thanks for spreading awareness
Child predators are disgusting and horrible, in fact ANY predator is horrible. But child predators are the worst. And then some groups try to say that the Pedophiles were "born that way" and that it's a sexual preference. What a bunch of B.S. No one has the right to abuse a child for any reason, especially sexually. These kids grow up with major mental health issues and sometimes for years afterwards. Beware of old who kiss young kids on the lips. It may not be a big thing, but most old men I know didn't do this. I had one who did.
Can older people get groomed by younger people as well?? And do they always want sexual favors? Also, when I was 21, I would do sexual favors for a man that was in his 50s. I didn’t have to do them but he always told me that I had the choice to do them and there was a lot of money on the table to do them. So I had a choice. And a lot of times I agreed to sleep with him. This wouldn’t count as grooming would it?? Not to mention, I would confide in him about a lot of things going on in my life so it was more than just sex and money. I honestly thought of this as just simply business. He never knew me as a child so it’s not like he was “preparing” to sleep with me into adulthood. It was a decision we both made as consenting adults
good news! you're right you weren't groomed, you're just a prostitute! before you think it, prostitutes also talk about their life with their clients, this is common and happens with any personal/business relationship.
I thought grooming meant stuff like haircuts & showers
doobiesmoke15 that but gromming also means this
When you get older like dating age and older and this happens to you, it’s hard to know if there a predator or if they just like you
@explorer8125 - sure the other person will "like you" as long as you allow the pants removed, comply with spreading your legs. Any other rhetorical questions?
I would really like to know who clicked the dislike button.
I’m dealing with sa and grooming all from my friend who’s is one year older then me…
I just realized my first relationship in my life was actually sexual grooming.
@elizabethstonem1056 - Congratulations ... someone in your past life found you attractive. Welcome to the club!!
Sex, is such a huge issue. They blame it always almost on the man, but the man himself is simy a product of his environment. The problem that comes with this is violence. Most men wanna have sex, but pregnancy comes with that which complicates the issue. Sadly, it's just the world in which biology manipulates us. That rational thinking, morality? It didn't exist back then. Morality exists for THOSE who can have healthy lives, offsprings, but not to those nature determines it cannot be a reproductive mate. But the same BIOS is installed in all, or most of men, and thats what causes men to always seek sexual acts with women, even to their own familial kind. Child abuse? It's because they cannot have sex with other partners, and their own partners shame them sexually. So there's no choice left but to seek out sex with a young female. This would've been avoided had males got a partner at 16 or 15 while he is 14-16 or even older. Because the framework is there. You lose that framework, that step, you are going to lose out, and some become predators because they CANNOT be "without a partner/mate". It also goes with the repression, the cultural expression of their race, etc. This is biology, clear and cold cut. You can only cut it out if we have some identifiable gene that, we can cut out, or witch hunts, as we so often do derive our sick pleasures, as they do. Two wrongs don't make a right, but seems there's no other better way.
I think the wiring for sexualization and protection is screwed for these individuals due to some brain trauma and major changes in their neural wiring. So, they see it as sexually desirable for a young child, because the notions of protection is crossed into their unmet sexual needs. What I think goes is that the healthy state in a normal individual, that section there is lost in childhood, and so he is unable to find himself a young partner and develop a relationship with his social needs and what not healthy. So he becomes sexually deprived, much like a malnourished individual. Believe it or not, sex IS A SEVERE need, or rather the emotional healthiness in a person, etc, therefore he/she is screwed over.
Im feeling very sick to my stomach!
I agree with much of what he says except for the touching, a "hi five or a pat on the back is OK", I don't agree!!! Sometimes a pat on the back or just touching the back period is a trial testing for predators!!!
I teach my kids about that if an adult touches there back you pay close attention to that and avoid it the second time!! So if the touch comes a second time while trying to avoid it, show power of self awareness control and move away from it and immediately tell me!!!! This works because one of mine took power against a predator and we was victorious against that person together !! Victorious because he showed the power of awareness and communicated with me immediately then I took charge!!! YES!!!!!!!
Thank you.
So basically twilight
I am a 10 year old
This is bad but good advice for dating at the same time , you made some great points .
What about when you have evidence to prove and support the grooming signs and DFS and family courts fail the child?! Because that is what is happing to my son right now and our county’s DFS has a long history of failing to protect the child. My local court system doesn’t care. The police have even refused to investigate simply because my sons father protects his girlfriend by denying all abuse even though they have been investigated multiple times for abuse and neglect. Advice?
I found out this was happening to my child 4 months ago by her youth pastor. I went to the police and she was recorded. He was arrested that night and is still in county jail. They still have her cell phone. Does your child talk about it? I know sometimes it's tough when the child won't talk. I'm so sorry. This is a nightmare.
@@jamie_craig what do you do if you see all the warning signs and have suspicions, but your child won't talk about it?
@@shamalamadingdong1417 my daughter’s abuse started in March, 2018 and she did not tell me until October, 2019. She was almost 14 when it started. In September, 2019 she finally told her best friend who told her that if she didn’t tell me then the friend would. It took another 2 months of therapy before her therapist was able to get her to open up enough about him taking her innocence. I wish I had a magic wand to give you. Until you can confirm it, I do strongly recommend you keep everything. Write dates, names, ANYTHING down. Keep texts, social media posts, etc. My daughter’s abuser used Snapchat most of the time and Snapchat does not work with law enforcement. If I had better evidence he might’ve gotten more than 3 years in prison. Best of luck to you.
@spartanwife4938 - No advice here! It's now 3 years later, either your son has moved out of your house, or continues to WANT to be in the situation that goes nowhere legally.
I have no experience with children. I'm a child myself. This is no joke. If there is any pride that is of good here it is. I AM FILLED WITH JOY.
White family
Sexual predators invited male or female. Grammatical mistake uninvited.
I let my mom watch this BC there's this guy in my class and he scares meh like he touchs me I don't like!
Did you tell her what he is doing?
Tell your teacher. Or a secretary. The school nurse. Any adult you trust and can confide in. Don't sit back and let it continue. You don't have to accept unwelcome physical contact. Just tell somebody.
U need to set boundaries and tell him nicely dont touch me u cross the line and also tell your parents and have a talk
You need to punch him in the face and yell i said stop touching me.. So that people hear! And make sure u are never alone anywhere near him... Then u tell all the adults. Who wont do shit really, they never really do. And then you need to be able to defend yourself anyway.. Whatever you need to do really. You dont just allow people to walk all over you. If they are bigger than you seek support from friends. Dont stay alone where u are defenseless.
Simply Oreo tell the POLICE !!!!!!!!
This happened to be online and stuff and I will it involved and I haven’t told anyone and my friends don’t believe it happened when it did
i'm really sorry you went through that and that your reality is being denied. please don't feel rushed to tell anyone if you don't want to
Also duh teaching a child what touches are wrong would be nice. Children are very much blank slates.
This make me sick 🤢🤮
I think this message is good if you have small kids.
So I’m gonna try to connect this with a possible grooming thing and if you think this is grooming please tell me. Btw the predator’s traits is relaxed, jokey with dark humor, and is very odd
Target: Similar interests??
Get to know them: They happen to both like anime
Meet a need: Watching anime with no ads, probably.
Isolate: At lunch they’re going to go alone and watch anime (the predator will also buy lunch for them)
The secrecy: The predator asked her to help design a cover for a book he made, he has asked multiple people to do this. I asked sarcastically for money and he said he might have, and trading money is not allowed at the current place.
Desensitize: Me and a friend of mine talked about how suspicious the predator is, but the victim shrugged it off and doesn’t want the predator to get in trouble
(I think this is the current stage. the predator let the victim harm someone else and didn’t tell anyone.)
((Also about the private messages, they have each other’s phone numbers for anime.))
@deadchannel1400 - Good Grief! What are you yapping about? Are you "asking for a friend" or is the person in question ... YOU ?!?
nice video!
I have raised alarm I have inquired with authorities I have tried to help the mother recognize but I don't know why because he has been with the child's mother as the geandmothers husband and I have known them in passing and this mother is exploiting the little girl kn I wiggly but no one can see this except a hand full of pll and still the authorities do nothing
You know what I hate about it all, There is NOWAY for us to stop all predators, There are millions and millions of them , watch the Blake lively fund raiser, I hate the most is how the victim must feel after , the gasp, the omg factors , They must feel like it's the most horrible thing in life that can happen, and I feel like it affects their ability to heal afterwards, but I don't know how we as a society can help the victims become victors
Sounds like Stephanie Marrero
I ran into a few Pedo's in my lifetime. They are very manipulative. They love to throw shade at others, as a smoke screen.
So I guess that the biological parents can never be the groomers then what if it is the parents who are doing it
Or her
My girlfriend was violated by her father and she couldn't do anything and she still feels like it was her fault because she didn't say anything.. I honestly want to fucking murder him to this fucking day..
Edit: and she was fucking 7 when that happened!!!
And now she has a neighbor that is a little too close to her and her family buying her things etc and I told her she should be really careful but she doesn't listen she just says "I'll be fine".. fine isn't something you can just throw around when anything happens in an instant.. I'm so fucking worried about her each and everyday.. I love her and i would die for her I just want to protect her from horrible people like that...
Hey @sunkeeper8009 - Thank you for your "fucking" story about your "I'll be fine" girlfriend, who is not as "fucking" concerned as you seem to be !!
@@warriormanmaxx8991 Hey Douchebag - are you FUCKING serious about THAT fucking comment? Yes, I mean Yours.
That's some fucked up, shit, man. Like, whoa. Like, chill out, dude. Smoke some grass. Relax. ✌🏼😎🌿 That other dude's comment seems legit. That makes you a *walloping* of an asshole.
If I'm right, it's important you know that you ARE the asshole here. Consider me a mirror.
If I'm wrong, then at least I had fun writing this comment.
But what if the victim enjoys what the predator did, is it call sexual grooming too?
That's the victim not knowing any better. Still has to be removed from the situation as soon as signs are spotted. Don't know whether there is a specific term for victims who "enjoyed" their grooming. Stockholm syndrome, perhaps?
Change your music!
She was I feel so sick
My little sister's 16 yr old boyfriend, youth pastor, got 2 years in prison because he messaged him asking for sex.
Makes me remember the Dalai Lama. It's amazing how people don't want to believe the truth that is clearly visible.
There is a child grooming manual that’s legal. I’m not kidding. I wish I was.
Sheila hurd mark cross newton co Arkansas 2 of my abusere who destroyed me and my family's lives and home
A couple of errors but basically right
Pretty sure I was being groomed at 14 now
I was groomed at age 10 a little male family friend and then at 11/12 by a foster father. Then again as 15 year old my best friend now ex bf.
He was porn addict hence why he took advantage of me who knows probably my friends which was my friends daughter too.
I hate getting in these predicaments its cause me anxiety and stress.
Bad choice in men for awhile then I became hypersexual for while looking for love when should be healing and turning to God to heal me.
I'm still healing from what happened to and sometimes I have PTSD and some paranoia especially for my now children.
Thanks for this platform to speak of things like this.
I wish I could report these things but I didn't want to cause drama or relive what happened everyday in court system.
I'm praying for boys,girls or anybody going through molestion or someone committing pedophilic acts on innocent people.
I prayer and hope for these people to seek out behavior therapy and medication to change there foolish acts and behaviours.
Please help us, My daughter is so beautiful, men follow her around the city. Please make en STOP. HELP.
Only you can do that. Shes your daughter. Just keep her with you for life. Theres good men and bad men and any bad man gets close just tell them to back off. Only fight if they attack. All dads should keep their daughters to themselves so the good men out there dont have to deal with them and live their lives.😁😃😎The life of freedom yo. Now im gonna get back to picking my afro and beard.
Geezums I wish I had known the actual definition of grooming before. Cryoatic = canceled.
got a video on how to innoculate children?
@SnugglerWuggler to prepare to fight of an predator
Hi my name is mike Werts. I have Been sex abuse When I was a child I didn't like it at all. & I like your video too.
So yes u took our land without guvingnus the deed dad was in his 79s when i was 7 so u guys had us in the bag and did as u paied our taxes and destroyed our home and family
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Step one : keep your child away from churches and pastors lo l
Keep your child away from all men in general. Its best for the women to be with children so men dont have to err... I mean so there wont be potential danger.😁😃😎