Difficult to make friends these days

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  • @ElishaLong
    @ElishaLong  22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

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  • @goyomain0774
    @goyomain0774 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +40

    All of the best friends and relationships I’ve made in my life have come from belonging to something - a team, club, job, community. Humans have always built relationships by doing together, good relationships should be a byproduct of something bigger, not a goal in themselves.

    • @thegoldentree6913
      @thegoldentree6913 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Could be from a shared ideology too.

  • @Daniel-j6l
    @Daniel-j6l 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +59

    I am not in a good place… the last few years I have been obsessed with Philosophy and reading. I have grown bitter, resentful, and disgusted by the sight of others. Whenever I am around people, in class, even at my own home, something feels wrong… it is literally only when I am completely alone, in silence that I can feel any level of peace. I know that this lifestyle and this mindset with regards to other people is horrible for my health, but I do not know how to overcome the instincts that I have grown into. I lift weights, am in great shape, eat clean, etc… but my dislike of others is really scaring me.

    • @danielandrei1709
      @danielandrei1709 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +11

      Bro I feel you. Your brother from Romania loves you.the struggle is real.never give up!!

    • @sebastiangrundler7640
      @sebastiangrundler7640 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +23

      Whoever says he is in the light and hates his brother is still in darkness.john 2.9
      You will overcome this brother we live in a sick world. Be kind unto all and good, likeminded friends will find their way to you.

    • @gtomazini2406
      @gtomazini2406 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

      I shared a similar comment in here a while ago. It's hard to get out of these habits once you have been doing these things for months or even years. I feel u bro 🙏

    • @Sean-ri6bq
      @Sean-ri6bq 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      Biggest insight I have for you is to stay positive and look for the good constantly in people. It’s there, people have good hearts and intentions. Seek it out and share your good with them

    • @Reincarnation-IsReal
      @Reincarnation-IsReal 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

      earth is a soul trap and we are batteries

  • @braulindisla-elburrodelaba5361
    @braulindisla-elburrodelaba5361 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +22

    Smart phones ruined everything

  • @stephenhughes5156
    @stephenhughes5156 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +19

    I think it's hard to make real friends after school/uni in general tbh.

  • @jada3956
    @jada3956 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +11

    I feel you on this my guy. As girl i can't even have girls my age or even older women talk me nicely or just be themselves. without them like you said without arguing, back stabbing, jealousy, envious and they feeling intimidated by me. And its like if the women are insecure then men's are insecure. Im like just how much childhood trauma and unhealthy habits do y'all have?, because this is crazy. At least im working on healing from mines and i know how to talk to people without always trying to fight them or argue unless im defending myself. Alot of people feel like if you not toxic then they don't wanna be around you because you not nasty underneath like they are. Or maybe your healing they haven't ( which most of them arent doing, some probably are). But either way i have of the same issues sometimes from guys in relationships or friendships. Don't get me wrong i make mistakes too but at least im willing to work on it. But as for the whole drama ghetto toxic thug nasty lifestyle that most people support nowadays. For me, I can only tolerate so much drama before i say "that's enough and its over or i don't wanna talk to you or be friends with you anymore". Im willing to give a person a shot but alot of people like you said as soon you make a mistake they stop talking to you. Smh but its ok just like me and you we have to find our nitch( group) of people who are the rare ones not weird ones or dysfunctional ones. Not consider as the norm if that make sense.

    • @lumbanbatukornelius2094
      @lumbanbatukornelius2094 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

      These days people be claiming that they have the truth. And when they see someone talking bullshit (or what they consider to be bullshit) they try to justify their toxicity by referring to the truth as implied by "well, actually..." In turn, every convos become events for intellectual assertion, which is tiring.

    • @jada3956
      @jada3956 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@lumbanbatukornelius2094 exactly alot of these people have been unhappy since their were young and they just gotten worse. And the young ones around my age are not happy either because they have been brainwashed by the older ones who are miserable and they got what is called generational curses. Read about it. But they keep following it because they dont know any better; their naive and so is most of the older ones not all but just most. I would say some people are waking up and trying to work on themselves and thats good for them. But I get what you saying it does gets tirings afterwards because its like can we just talk normal without always feeling like we have to be on survival and attack mode? Jesus did not make us this way thats why it hurts us adding that to stress. but dude to Satan's influence and mankind being a bunch of airheads and they keep listening to him. So that's why everything is the way it is now. Read about the last days of revelations in the bible, it basically talks about how things will become worse before jesus final return. And all I can say is protect yourself and find people who are like you. Good luck💯

  • @abdelbassetmezhoud3628
    @abdelbassetmezhoud3628 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +13

    I really believe that something somehow "evil" ended up hunting our doomed generation ! not only when it comes to friendship or relationships in general, but when dealing with almost every single aspect of human life. the horrible feeling of being "overwhelmed" has literally taken over passion and turned us into some sort of "retired youth" ! I personally sleep well, eat well, exercise, relax ( no friends, though), still I keep feeling drained and fatigued from dealing with everyday life ( which is not a big deal, after all !). weird times really !

    • @federicodeangeli8103
      @federicodeangeli8103 5 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      No friends will do that to you

    • @abdelbassetmezhoud3628
      @abdelbassetmezhoud3628 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@federicodeangeli8103 what can I do ? I like to think I am trying to make things better, yet I still don't see how to truly make "real change", you see ! 27 years old, never dated, never had a real long lasting relationship of any kind ! Strange thing, I am no nerd or weirdo ! I just can not help but live every single minute with the heavy burden of self-consciousness and social awkwardness.

    • @federicodeangeli8103
      @federicodeangeli8103 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@abdelbassetmezhoud3628 be outside, go to concerts, try drugs once or twice, read the Bible and consume happy media if you have to consume media

  • @dinocarosi4303
    @dinocarosi4303 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +12

    Brother, this is too true. I really noticed my friend group becoming "Well, actually... guys" a few years ago. Sucks all the real energy out of the conversation. I started to do it too but now I just try to get them to joke around more with these topics.

    • @PRSWAGSTER99
      @PRSWAGSTER99 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      Well actually, you sound like a cool guy so I bet you’ll meet cool bros and duddettes for sure lol

  • @JujuBerry
    @JujuBerry 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +7

    Your backyard looks like the best place to smoke a cigar especially with the sun always beaming in these videos 🔥

  • @lacplesis484
    @lacplesis484 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    I started thinking of a quote I read in a book last year. It goes something like this: "only victories are celebrated by everyone". It got me wondering if we need to celebrate the mundane, the losses, the processes and how does that celebration look like. The quote feels so true and also a bit bizzare to me. It reminded me of my friends and how I don't really show enough appreciation to them. I feel like I need to "celebrate" my friendship with them for no apparent reason. And it doesn't have to be like a party or whatever. Just by going somewhere or doing something new with them and showing appreciation to them spontaneously feels like a "celebration".
    The quote also reminds me that people will celebrate with you if you are "successful" (I don't like that term because it gives me an impression that you need to be somewhere or else you''re a failure, which is not true) but they won't be around if you suffer loss. In that case, people who actually stay by your side no matter what happens to you are your real supporters aka real friends.
    This is my grain of thought.

    • @PRSWAGSTER99
      @PRSWAGSTER99 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Yessir! Ironically, you don’t want to go through loss but that’s when your real friends truly show up.

  • @officialtbhoops
    @officialtbhoops 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    I got 3 of these friends. They’re the brothers I never had. Rare friends are rare by definition, don’t expect many.

  • @NicolaiTschenow7530
    @NicolaiTschenow7530 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    Coming across a completely new good friend in your late 20s/early 30s, well you are more likely to come across the arc of the covenant.

  • @renaissanceman2841
    @renaissanceman2841 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    This is very accurate. I’m finding a lot of people want to argue these days, them being contrarian and bringing down the vibe.

  • @KSSGHD
    @KSSGHD 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Brother life isn't harder in a lot of ways but it's a lot harder in a lot of ways too. It's all about adapting, enjoying life as much as you can with people you like being around. I used to put a lot of pressure on myself to have more friends, date more often, work harder but I've been lucky to go self-employed, left a toxic job and am a lot happier. If I want to be around people I just go do stuff, the friends are the people I meet and who show up every week, who say yes to a coffee/pint/hike. Find yourself some bros who turn up on the regular doesn't matter what it is

  • @Artur.Dimaev
    @Artur.Dimaev 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    It's so weird seeing elisha again, i used to watch bros videos after a nightmare relationship back in 2020.. he saved me in many ways man

  • @AreteAesthetic
    @AreteAesthetic 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    I’m always blown away in my STEM classes, as well as when I read a great fiction book, at the power of some people’s imaginations

  • @Organic_Organist
    @Organic_Organist 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Eli at his peak. Excellent video. Cheers

  • @swanvonmane8533
    @swanvonmane8533 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Not being able to bullshit is so real

  • @hanadee1994
    @hanadee1994 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    right on homie, loved the vibe.

  • @jerzire
    @jerzire 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    That was awesome Elisha! 😊

  • @RB98r
    @RB98r 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I work by myself a lot, I often make up conversations and doing different accents and end up making myself laugh. Gotta make myself some fun at work, it's great.

  • @adriant.4387
    @adriant.4387 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Mostly I am realistic-optimistic about the future. Even though some days are just gray, I feel that my faith is keeping me on track. Also, about making friends, my lifestyle made me to enjoy solitude more(like 70% of the time) and to listen myself better. Stay strong and love from Romania:)

  • @PRSWAGSTER99
    @PRSWAGSTER99 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    In the military I met my best friends due to adventure, a common goal, hardship, and luck. I noticed that there was also a lot of accountability all across the board. If you backstab a friend, we were going to jump you. If you cheated on your partner, then by army law, you had to cut grass, mop rain, sweep dirt, less sleep, and you got a huge pay cut. In the civilian side I warned the friend groups I met in college from screwing each other over due to selfish reasons because I had seen what can happen. They still did what I warned against and had stupid falling outs (70% mostly because women started to involve themselves in the friend groups lol). . My point is that people don’t really hold each other accountable, and there is not much reason to out here. It’s a lot of work nowadays though because for some reason people tie themselves in some extraordinary drama that breaks all common sense. I’m no saint don’t get me wrong, and I thank my friends for holding me to a good standard instead of letting me kill my own soul at one point. Gods will is number one and if you guys continue trying to do the right thing, then I’m sure the right people will appear. God bless you Elisha and the viewers.
    I like to daydream about creating games, rock climbing, space stuff (the brightest object of all time got recorded last week and no one knows), and funny jokes that would work in only the most niche situations lol

    • @connormcaneeley3480
      @connormcaneeley3480 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Do you daydream about creating games as in video games?

    • @PRSWAGSTER99
      @PRSWAGSTER99 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      @ Yeah creating video games. Me and some friends when I was very young would create video game characters as well. Me and my cousins have also made up random games that aren’t video games sometimes when the power goes out due to hurricanes lol. Creativity comes out in the most random places. I’ve always got something cooking up in my mind. The trick is getting others inspired and with that fire as well.

  • @IceX024
    @IceX024 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    For the past few moths, I`ve been day dreaming about boxing a lot. I have received boxing gloves for my birthday last month, and as soon as I stop doing graveyard shifts, I think I wont leave gym for a while.

  • @MoltMedia1
    @MoltMedia1 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Glad I found your channel man. This stuff is great. That’s coming from a TH-camr too.

  • @keertrenxhughjcock
    @keertrenxhughjcock 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I feel like I’ve put myself in the space to do this last few months, started. job in making furniture, started ju-jitsu, but I haven’t found the friendship instead it’s been anxiety and stress inducing putting pressure on myself to form these connections not having them develop naturally and not feeling I’m being myself. Think I need to take your advice and push a few buttons, as I’ve been too transactional in my conversations.

  • @artofpractice
    @artofpractice 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I’ve always daydreamed about God, life, death, and my goals. Guitar and music stuff is constantly running through my head. I daydream about rocking out open mics.

  • @SirCrazyPretzel
    @SirCrazyPretzel 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I think some good activities to do that are healthy are going for walks in nature (and not listening to music at times), and raking leaves or mowing the grass. I find my imagination starts kicking in or I start thinking of stuff in the past or me changing things and what could've happened during bad times had I not done what I did, or thinking about good times and smiling and laughing. I agree with you that cell phones and social media have definitely wrecked a lot of stuff. Seems like anytime you might want to talk to someone in public, they have their head down in their phone.

  • @colinsweller
    @colinsweller 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Currently most of the people in my life right now don't remember things about me. Always asking me the same things over and over. Poor memories in general. Always telling me the same stories over and over. After the 3rd time hearing the same thing I just don't respond.

  • @perger01
    @perger01 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I've been thinking a lot about talking to strangers when I'm outside. Feels like I lose contact with old friends every year and not because something happened, but just everyone doing their own thing. At the gym that I go to I see old guys approaching and talking to random people like they've been knowing each other for years and I want to be able to do the same thing. So I made it my new year's resolution to get out of my comfort zone and approach people out in public.

  • @SoundIPeace
    @SoundIPeace 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    A lot of raging alcoholic, a lot of self denying alcoholics and envious people. The problem in people is rather greed or being a self denying alcoholic and watch out for the ones that don't call beer alcohol.

  • @matthewdeklerk3457
    @matthewdeklerk3457 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    My new year's resolution is to make one single irl friend i see and talk to more than once a year.

  • @Organic_Organist
    @Organic_Organist 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Lately, I day dream of my beautiful baby boy and gorgeous wife when Im away from the house.
    Other than that, Europe and the friends and family I miss in Poland. That and conducting orchestras and choirs, playing magnificent bach pieces on the pipe organ, and performing as a concert pianist again.
    Though I dont allow these thoughts often now that Im finishing up law school.

  • @TheJacknife14
    @TheJacknife14 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Most people don't go out a lot so it's hard to make friends.

  • @jackcatlin
    @jackcatlin 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    The chaos and social tribalization of the last four years has separated people and they're going inside themselves to recuperate and think about whats happened, it's lead to them pulling away from each other. In many ways I think periods of self thought like this are important, most people are feeling dooped by what they went through during covid and seeing aspects of their country fall apart from the culture war. Painful instances like this lead to rebirths in people and how we view the world, it will take some time for people to come together again but it starts with speaking the truth and being completely honest with those closest to you, were on the right track just keep going day by day.

  • @Nozzedbebba
    @Nozzedbebba 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I’ve been thinking about traveling the world a lot recently. Gotta make it happen

  • @LS-vy6pm
    @LS-vy6pm 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Well said bro. I've been thinking on this a lot lately

  • @aaronriego3503
    @aaronriego3503 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Hi elisha,good video and greetings from Bolivia bro🇧🇴

  • @bengalboypaco3140
    @bengalboypaco3140 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Im lucky to have a really good friend was at his house the other day ripping the bong our stomachs hurt how hard we laugh together

  • @Frankvectro220
    @Frankvectro220 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I like most of your videos elisha!❤

  • @jaysee313
    @jaysee313 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I just think time is moving way too fast, what are we, already in mid January? i swear Christmas/NYE was just 2 days ago. that fast pace of time creates fast pace relationships, hollow and fleeting.

    • @ElishaLong
      @ElishaLong  21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

      Have something you are looking forward to and time slows down.

    • @jaysee313
      @jaysee313 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@ElishaLong Thanks friend!

  • @realsandro
    @realsandro 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I consider you a friend 😊❤

  • @brianliftsthis
    @brianliftsthis 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I can be a better friend in this regard. Good video bro

  • @FearthelordRomans1
    @FearthelordRomans1 16 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    The reason you don’t find people like this anymore is just because people took advantage of them

  • @m1v1per95
    @m1v1per95 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    But theyre out there

  • @wecameasnoobs9343
    @wecameasnoobs9343 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I'll be your friend dude 🤘🏼 I dream about my mum passing on with 💯 certainty that I have everything on this end without a doubt.

  • @Maizeak
    @Maizeak 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    dude, where's the jacket from?

  • @pascalschacher6971
    @pascalschacher6971 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Yea man these Days are brutal bro. If your not on the same Page about something, they get pissed off quickly and unfriend you afterwards 😂 its 2025 you cant have fun now. Its a Time of Tribulation

  • @davidovhs
    @davidovhs 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    "Well actually"...lmfao

  • @m1v1per95
    @m1v1per95 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Everyone needs something it seems like which is almost reasonable but it feels imbalanced

    • @lukejames3639
      @lukejames3639 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      balance mentioned

    • @ElishaLong
      @ElishaLong  22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Got his ass​@@lukejames3639

    • @m1v1per95
      @m1v1per95 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Foul

    • @m1v1per95
      @m1v1per95 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@ElishaLong"um actually"

  • @ThePsyopCop
    @ThePsyopCop 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    The “well actually…” thing comes from the podcast mind virus. People watch too many of them these days and emulate the way podcast guests speak - always wanting to drop a clippable factoid and be the super special smartboy.

  • @chillaxer8273
    @chillaxer8273 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    We are all friends

  • @Baze502
    @Baze502 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Play old video games and doom scroll, pretty much sums up my life right now…

  • @j.e3336
    @j.e3336 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I dont think its hard to make friends at all in a literal sense. If you meet a like-minded person it will happen naturally. But i will say society is fractured off too much, too many subgroups and sub-sub groups, so you have to dig deep.

  • @aemilos888
    @aemilos888 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    With sadness I say that my family is like that but with God. Absolutely zero inquisiveness, can't open up any subject without the buzzkill "Well, if God wanted it to be this way".
    Hey you heard about X, Y, Z?
    Yeah, well, that's how God wanted it to be, and the conversation is over.
    I feel that craving to shoot the shit a little, develop some ideas and back and forth a little with someone, alas it's impossible so I closed myself within my own shell.

  • @dinocarosi4303
    @dinocarosi4303 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Let us know what you think of David Lynch, Eli. Maybe you can make a video on it. 🤞🏻

  • @Josiahpreaches
    @Josiahpreaches 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I’ve been day dreaming of being a bird and flying. (I really want freedom)

  • @SKuLLxKruSHeR
    @SKuLLxKruSHeR 19 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Need no one but God 🙏

  • @carterchappell2217
    @carterchappell2217 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Jesus Christ man he is so powerful

  • @Rich10000
    @Rich10000 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Hard enough to make male friends as a male, then throw in you want a female friend.. it over

    • @ElishaLong
      @ElishaLong  21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Like a gf?

    • @Rich10000
      @Rich10000 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @ElishaLong yeah, the simplest things are just getting harder, times are changing rapidly and people just can't see it.

    • @ElishaLong
      @ElishaLong  21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Why can't you meet a girl who finds you attractive and you find attractive

  • @SirTheraphowright
    @SirTheraphowright 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    all your base are belong to us

  • @m1v1per95
    @m1v1per95 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Yeah work at one job long enough and youll feel motivated go and go be creative elsewhere

  • @omars365moments
    @omars365moments 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    especially when their impaired with other impaired individuals running

  • @shakermak3r
    @shakermak3r 20 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Greetings from Kazakhstan

  • @windman95
    @windman95 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    🍯

  • @m1v1per95
    @m1v1per95 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Fr fr

  • @fluffpiggyo
    @fluffpiggyo 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Friends?😂😂😂😂 Bro u can't even marry longer than 3 years wtf u on.human interaction ceased

  • @MrPepepe666
    @MrPepepe666 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    WTF you takling about there is potheads stonners every corner, dude

  • @m1v1per95
    @m1v1per95 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Loool u believe in a higher power see ya later or never again

    • @Organic_Organist
      @Organic_Organist 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      So have most intelligent people throughout history. Most scientific discoveries were found and developed by devout Christians. Even the bit bang theory was created and developed by a Catholic monk.
      The existence of God can be understood and reached through reason.
      So, why wouldn't you believe in God? Historically, you're the anomaly.

  • @javiersantos4385
    @javiersantos4385 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    You should try therapy man, I can help you for a low fee.

  • @bengalboypaco3140
    @bengalboypaco3140 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Im lucky to have a really good friend was at his house the other day ripping the bong our stomachs hurt how hard we laugh together