Let's Talk: Being A Loner

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  • @PIPNTISAH
    @PIPNTISAH 7 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    I'm 57 and I've been a loner all my life. I have very close friends but I'm never lonely and never bored. I'm very outgoing with people but spend most of my time alone. It is just a natural state for me. My dad and his dad were loners so maybe it's genetic? Too many people wears me out.

    • @PeteS_1994
      @PeteS_1994 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Maybe you are an introvert

    • @pw3543
      @pw3543 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You described me perfectly. I am 56 and I spend most of my time alone. What is nice is that I have never been lonely.

    • @SimonB.
      @SimonB. 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My mother is a loner. Me too.

    • @realityroyalty4335
      @realityroyalty4335 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My dad was too

    • @clint1285
      @clint1285 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      amen

  • @bb____________
    @bb____________ 7 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    i loveeeee being by myself。its the best way to entertain myself and not having to deal with no ones problems,however i think i have come too far。i think i have crossed the line and it is becoming unhealthy。i just love being alone because i have absolutely nothing in common with others even with my closest friends,therefore when i am alone i have control over the things i wanna watch listen eat do etc

  • @KeshiaK39
    @KeshiaK39 7 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I agree, I'm so glad I'm not alone on being alone.. I love being alone and I don't ever understand people that need to be be surrounded by others at all times in their life.. There's nothing wrong with being introverted or alone, I don't know why people judge us. Wonderful video 😊

  • @matthewtoledo3675
    @matthewtoledo3675 6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Let's be loners together

  • @Mark-sj3xb
    @Mark-sj3xb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I will typically go out to eat by myself and go sit at the bar and order my food. I will then strike up a conversation with someone near me and enjoy it thoroughly. But that’s as far as I want to go with anyone. So I like to talk to people but I don’t want or desire close friendships. Anyone else like that?

  • @Yararar
    @Yararar 7 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    My mom is the complete opposite of me and I remember when she used to think there was something wrong with me because she could never understand how anyone could enjoy being alone. I can relate to everything you've just said!

    • @michleong107leong6
      @michleong107leong6 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Only true loners can relate to those feelings.

  • @nitaicintamani4842
    @nitaicintamani4842 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    It's so good to hear someone else express things like this, thank you 🙏🏾❤

  • @edsayson8158
    @edsayson8158 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brigitte, keep in mind, you are not alone on this journey or whatever you name it. I love being alone too because I can have more time to focus for my prayers and play the music instruments(piano, guitar and cello)and able to reached my goal. you're right as long as we don't bother or disturb others,just be by yourself and enjoy of who your are. Keep your heads up Brigitte.👍❤️

  • @pisanghangus2
    @pisanghangus2 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I like how you can be honest and open to people. That's just incredible. If you can be happy being alone, you can definitely be happy with your friends. :)

  • @TenEoneon777ZiikPo
    @TenEoneon777ZiikPo 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Yes, you made a lot of sense. I know i am a loner too. Though it took a long time realizing that. But wanted to support your views regarding loners and introversion. There is nothing wrong with us.
    And the last line " we don't go around and disturb people" got me. I strongly feel that way too.
    I have grown as a person and learned some socializing tricks too. And i don't have many friends. My family, especially my brother and my aunt is my best friend. They totally understand me.
    And you are right to say that it's unhealthy to cut ourselves from others. No matter where are, we will need to depend on others. So, atleast for the sake of dependency make some friends. There are good people out there. We just need to step out of our bubble. I tried it and it's not too bad. Just know that the world is not perfect and somedays might suck coz of someone or something but then we are emotionally strong people. We can deal with anything. Just keep growing. thank you.

  • @Yu5ei
    @Yu5ei 8 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Being happy and healthy (physically or mentally) can be done independently ✌🏻️

  • @justintorchia87
    @justintorchia87 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    humans drain me

    • @Mark-sj3xb
      @Mark-sj3xb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree. I love being alone. I actually do enjoy engaging with people early on, and most people that I’ve known a short time think I’m outgoing. But the more I get to know people I get bored and just want to meet new people. I guess I’m scared of getting too close to people as I have NO close friends. And my current friends are always people I’m currently interacting with and when my scenery changes I never keep track of people so I have no long lasting friendships

  • @EstilodeRosi
    @EstilodeRosi 8 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    sometimes my boyfriend makes me feel like it's a bad thing to be a loner..I talk to people but I'm not an open book like I can carry a conversation but it takes me time to trust people. He has two sisters and I guess he wants me to have a great relationship with them and his mom but it's going to take time.

    • @illegalalien6542
      @illegalalien6542 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well then you need to get rid of that zero and talk to the hero

    • @emilyh.2942
      @emilyh.2942 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      RosisFashion your not a loner because you have a boyfriend

    • @westofwilliams
      @westofwilliams 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Emily H. That’s not necessarily true

    • @michleong107leong6
      @michleong107leong6 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Many people that cannot stand being alone often thinks that loners are weirdos and it is abnormal not to socialise.

  • @melonsoda123
    @melonsoda123 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Not all loners are introverted and prefer to be alone.

  • @MrGaryg20047
    @MrGaryg20047 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I can't stand working around others and when I take my breaks I like to stay to myself especially during lunch time

    • @MrGaryg20047
      @MrGaryg20047 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Also I like going on long walks or hiking and I have friends who don't like doing that and thank you for your share plus like they say "Your Not Alone" and there are others like us in the world.

  • @PinkyBear
    @PinkyBear 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Being a loner doesn't have to be a bad thing. Personally, I have very few friends and I rather do things by myself. I think it's great and I don't feel lonely or sad.

  • @emilyh.2942
    @emilyh.2942 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I have no friends at school

    • @annaofminecraft
      @annaofminecraft 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Candy L that sounds pretty creepy by itself but would be creepier with “🌚 “

    • @FeraleHubbard
      @FeraleHubbard 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hang in there. Most people suck anyway.

    • @Romanov3579
      @Romanov3579 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know the feeling it is weird 😔

  • @roberthsu4862
    @roberthsu4862 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am 34 years of age and I've been a loner my entire life. I don't really have any friends, even though I am a nice friendly person (at least I think I am lol). I have just recently noticed that it makes me extremely uncomfortable when people treat me nicely or want to befriend me. Because I've been alone for so long and being alone is what I'm used to. I just feel so uncomfortable when anyone shows kindness towards me because that's something I'm not used to experiencing. I've already accepted the fact that I'm probably going to be alone until I die and I think I've come to terms with that.

  • @williamcaprone4839
    @williamcaprone4839 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Iam a loner too alot of people are fake and weak minded so being a loner the best.We loners are strong minded people777Keep your head up Brigitte much love.

    • @williamcaprone4839
      @williamcaprone4839 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      😊 Showing some love💐💐💐💐💐 Stay safe you and your families.I know we are quarantine😐 but better to be safe than sorry 😒 Prayers goes out to you and your family😉 ✌ ✌ ✌ ✌ ✌

  • @microspect
    @microspect 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I am a loner and getting an rv soon to travel the USA! Love your independence, don’t let anyone tell you what to do.

  • @nijenskylowrie225
    @nijenskylowrie225 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m a loner myself. I enjoy being by myself. People might think it’s a bad thing but it’s really not. I get along with people with no problem but I just love being by myself most of the time

  • @PrimeChosenOne
    @PrimeChosenOne 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    There’s time that I feel like I’m alone. Not be able to fit in with the crowd being left out. Honestly I know that I’m not alone. I know there’s people who actually care about me and watch over me. But the most important is GOD is watching over me answering my blessings. Being alone is great you feel more peaceful, relaxed, get things done so you won’t be behind & being independent. Being alone you are strong and have a heart but lonely people are social who are close with friends & family.

  • @banillabop4143
    @banillabop4143 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I feel like people who say they enjoy being a loner are either misinterpreting what they are saying or they are just lying to themselves. I can tolerate being by myself for a day or two. after that I start to go crazy being by my self for so long. just the fact of knowing that you are by yourself with nobody to respond to your actions or words drives me crazy. yes I'm not afraid of being alone, but I don't enjoy being alone for extended periods of time. its literally inherent in our genes that we need to talk to people. loners tend to have lower life expectancy and more diseases because being alone for too long is unhealthy. whether youre an introvert and extrovert, you DO need to have somebody in your life. whether it be your mother, brother, friend, wife, husband, regardless... you DO need to have somebody in your life! at least one!

    • @V_For_Vigilante
      @V_For_Vigilante 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I don't need fake people, traitors killers, bullies liars and thieves in my life so no being a loner is good its Just that people like u are followers of the sheep just depends on others in life

    • @V_For_Vigilante
      @V_For_Vigilante 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ur just a weak person if u say that

  • @cliffimages1785
    @cliffimages1785 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Smart young lady. You've lifted my spirit!!! Thanks for posting this video!!!!

  • @GoodxJ
    @GoodxJ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ✌🏼

  • @MJ-xs4pt
    @MJ-xs4pt 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Me too girl
    I love also to travel by myself
    People think I'm untisocial but I just love spending time with myself

  • @Jwet1100
    @Jwet1100 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a 30 year old recently diagnosed autistic man who would love to fit in and be a social savant, yet i realize it's simply just not possible and i find peopling extremely difficult especially when my not so neurotypical traits start to show and the mask begins to slip. Feeling lost in a conversation, being judged, getting distracted, mind blindness, etc can really wear you down. I feel so alone when I'm with others.

  • @christinagonzales858
    @christinagonzales858 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i really relate to you girl... thru this year i prefer by being with myself and in completely okay with that.. i am more likely bored with the people

  • @sengt1020
    @sengt1020 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    💛

  • @Zerpentile93
    @Zerpentile93 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think Ive just realized Im a loner and always been but didnt accept nor embrace it which I think I should because that is just how Ibam wired. Thanks. Awesome video.

  • @michleong107leong6
    @michleong107leong6 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Loners will be less affected emotionally by the current covid 19 situation. No problems with self isolation and social distancing 😁

  • @robertmarkold3408
    @robertmarkold3408 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im a loner because I dont like or trust anyone

  • @JasonGafar
    @JasonGafar 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm a very sociable loner. I wasn't always a loner, however I endured a lot of trauma growing up and this damaged me, resulting in me being a loner. I'm really insecure about this. I want a girlfriend however I am scared she may judge me for being a loner.

  • @kikyo5243
    @kikyo5243 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love being loner

  • @OohIShipIt
    @OohIShipIt 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Same here! We are awesome! Thank you for sharing. It's good to know they're other loners out there.

  • @eye.cu2b321
    @eye.cu2b321 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    HIKIKOMORI 24/7-365. No Friends, No Family, No Colleagues, Anonymous 2 the Max. Total Freedom.

  • @Tony-tb5mu
    @Tony-tb5mu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think I've found my twins. I am the exact person just like you. I thought I was one of a kind in this world until I saw your channel.

  • @1724nine
    @1724nine 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great message from a beautiful woman:)) thanks for sharing.

  • @fantasy-or3pi
    @fantasy-or3pi 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    loner don't have problem been alone, the problems is those conformist have problem with loner been alone

    • @AgressiveSillence
      @AgressiveSillence 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      so true.. those weak snowflakes believe they are the norm..

  • @magicisaacs.3446
    @magicisaacs.3446 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i love being a loner.and im happy of being like that i dont have any problem with that

  • @somebodylost9320
    @somebodylost9320 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    The difference between us I that I am a loner with extreme mental health issues but I also love eating by myself and I always loved it I am a total introvert right now I wasn’t before but now I have depression and anxiety

  • @michleong107leong6
    @michleong107leong6 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I enjoy being alone alot. I have no issues knowing new people but it's not my habit to stay in touch with friends.... And some people just hate me for that and decided to give up on the relationship. But this doesn't make me put in more effort out of the ordinary just to keep relationship going. True friends will always be there and remember you even if you don't stay in touch with them regularly.....

    • @Mark-sj3xb
      @Mark-sj3xb 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel the same and my friendships are similar to yours.

    • @Mark-sj3xb
      @Mark-sj3xb 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      And nobody calls me up unless they need something. I get more robocalls than anything.

    • @Mark-sj3xb
      @Mark-sj3xb 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      In fact, I can count on one hand the number of times in my life someone has called me just to say hi. And I’m 60 years old.

  • @stevenwillians9665
    @stevenwillians9665 ปีที่แล้ว

    Im been a loner for a long time i love my alone time im been bully too much and i always to fit in ever find place but nice video

  • @andreasultimate9978
    @andreasultimate9978 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a fellow loner and I'd like to accompany you doing loner stuffs :D

  • @ambitchouslexxo.3069
    @ambitchouslexxo.3069 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    yaaaaas! grl i feel you! I enjoy having my ME time. love that I am not the only one haha :)

    • @BrigitteChaichana
      @BrigitteChaichana  9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Haha trust me you're not the only one! Thanks for watching

  • @brittb779
    @brittb779 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video :) Needed to hear that today.

  • @sherryyu8191
    @sherryyu8191 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Being a loner in college is literally like being a non stop frap party

  • @filesender6787
    @filesender6787 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a loner, not because of rejection from other people but it's simply because I make tasks much faster when I'm alone. I solve puzzles more easily when im the only one thinking about them. My businesses or projects are much more successful when i plan and make them alone.
    My topic of interests are a little nerdy and weird for most people. Im not underestimating other people, its just that most people are interested in trivial and mundane things that im rarely interested about. I think im lucky enough to find a husband that is also interested in physics, science and etc so that he can keep me stimulated. I'm not saying this to show how intelligent i am, its just that im only willing to learn even if i dont really know that much. Im still a student of life that knows very little.
    I dont really get lonely being alone. I just cant find anyone here in my area that has similar interests with me. Here in my country, you're an outcast if you dont conform to silly things that they do. I dont like to participate in activities just to show that i belong. I always like being a rebel.
    I am still open in meeting new people tho even if they are not nerds,.. I can feel that most people are interested with me but at the same time, some feel intimidated or not at ease, I think. Some people simply likes me. and some people dont like me for some reason and I dont care that much about them... I really love meeting new people and being intuitive to their way of talking, facial expressions and etc. I love analyzing people, not for the purpose of hurting them but maybe i can find solutions to their problems (based on my analysis) if they will allow me too.. its just that i need more time alone. There are also other people that i cant really stand and i avoid them as much as possible esp. when i sense that something is off. Some people drain my energy even if they're not doing or saying anything.
    I'm not so vain when it comes to my appearance, im lazy putting detailed makeup.. but i love looking at my appearance just simply because i love to. I dont like my imperfections in my body but i dont obsess with hating them. though i love looking perfect just simply because it makes me happy when i look good. Most of the things that i say sometimes are for humor purposes.
    I love thinking about the future, because I still dream of having enough resources and money where i can do the things that i want. Right now, i hate the limitations. Material things are not the exact things that will make a person happy but its about having the freedom to explore the world itself. maybe im not the most enlightened person, but all i know is that im not deceiving myself when im writing this. I maybe had a sad life before and i will never deny that. Thinking about the sad past makes me sad a little bit but also wiser. I will never ever hate myself. I really like myself. Maybe in my past lives or when i was a child, i dont like myself that much but things has changed. Having my youtube channel terminated makes me sad but maybe i really need to rest and try something new. I really want to try new things but i think i dont have any access or means for them.
    my husband influences me to be sweet and soft. I dont hesitate being soft for him. He is the first man that im so willing to serve a dish with rice and meat. I dont do it bec. i think its my obligation, i just want to do it for him for all the good things that he has done for us. I love providing him the things that he needs too, i dont care if im the woman and he's the man that should be the provider. We both say "i love you and i miss you" every minute.. he was the one who started that and then it has just become a part of my routine.
    and if youre wondering why i wrote this long long comment, i just thought it is my diary lol.

  • @peoplearemolecules3399
    @peoplearemolecules3399 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    You said all of my words sister. You encourage me a lot with that clip. Thank very much. #being_aloner❤️

  • @painexotic3757
    @painexotic3757 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Antiscoial doesn't = asocial. I agree that being asocial and isolated CAN lead to suicidal thoughts but I tend to think that this comes beforehand. I think that people usually isolate themselves because they are depressed or angry at something in the first place, not vice versa. And even for those whom are asocial, this doesn't mean it'll lead to anti-social behavior or that you can't be contempt with your isolation lol.

  • @MegaMissfitz
    @MegaMissfitz 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    please excuse me for today foamy! i havnt had many conversations over the past few weeks! im feeling a little rusty in the compliment dept 🤔🤔🤔

  • @robertmarkold3408
    @robertmarkold3408 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im a loner because I choose not to have people in my life

  • @varundas9723
    @varundas9723 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    being a loner is fuckin beautiful i have embraced it!!!

  • @selvarajkannan9923
    @selvarajkannan9923 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hilarious 💅.venerable Brigitte Chaichant ji.Be happy for no reason like a child and You have seed faith on life.Life is only one time only ,it never comes again.Life gives you lemans then you make the lemonade.Frequently having wavering mind,better consult psychiatric doctor if necessary.🙏.

  • @robertmarkold3408
    @robertmarkold3408 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Well people now have to deal with being alone like it or not

  • @Romanov3579
    @Romanov3579 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    We are what we are

  • @shyratolbert8136
    @shyratolbert8136 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a loner 2, and I think it's cool 😎😏

  • @nikolugo
    @nikolugo 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have no problem being alone

  • @lakaumbucha
    @lakaumbucha 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m an introverted loner but I kinda want to start a gang. Strength in numbers.

  • @fr1day488
    @fr1day488 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks you made me feel better and confident😆👍🏻

  • @brahforreal3157
    @brahforreal3157 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Quarantine is perfect for introverts lol

  • @benjames1447
    @benjames1447 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    omg i can totally relate to you, I really thought I was the only one in the whole world who was like this.

  • @brahforreal3157
    @brahforreal3157 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Me too

  • @feveredego
    @feveredego 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video! I understand exactly how this feels : )

  • @Pokeclips2.0
    @Pokeclips2.0 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Will I'm a loner too😔

  • @anhoang5460
    @anhoang5460 8 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Who the hell dislike my best best friend's video?!

  • @SpaceCattttt
    @SpaceCattttt 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've never seen an attractive loner before. But then again, I'm not just a loner; I'm a recluse...

  • @syrus3657
    @syrus3657 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    alot of us are loners

  • @justintorchia87
    @justintorchia87 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    am a loner that is life of party

  • @jordantorus8035
    @jordantorus8035 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    omg this is so accurate!!!

  • @sowmyasasun878
    @sowmyasasun878 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    let's be lonely together

  • @terencechesney9098
    @terencechesney9098 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a nice video...

  • @paulcooper3463
    @paulcooper3463 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Are you from china or chinese decent good video btw.

  • @Robert-bm3pb
    @Robert-bm3pb 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love being introvert. I remember 12 years ago my senior year of high school we took a personality test which either resulted in 2 main categories: introvert or extrovert. (if you answer honestly which I did and was very hard because we had to read our results among the class which was extremely uncomfortable for me) I embraced it and it was terrifying to share the results but I've learned as you get older and out in the world it gets a lot easier.

  • @aDm219
    @aDm219 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    heey i'm a loner and usually i think that loner equels loser is that true?

    • @BrigitteChaichana
      @BrigitteChaichana  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      aDm No way Jose! Being a loner (or an introvert) has nothing to do with being a loser! (Generally, I don’t like categorizing anyone as “losers” because we’re all dealing with different challenges). All personalities are unique and should be accepted as long as you don’t hurt anyone :)

  • @joshbrown592
    @joshbrown592 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    hi brigitte, really liked this video feel like we have a lot in common. maybe we could collaborate one day, appreciate a reply

  • @justintorchia87
    @justintorchia87 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    gotta like yourself first

  • @JohnDoe-il4if
    @JohnDoe-il4if 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    😙❤

  • @anthonyleathart7596
    @anthonyleathart7596 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    SImply gorgeous :)

  • @glorian.7272
    @glorian.7272 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a fellow loner too, being by myself makes me think more clearly and do things better xoxo
    check out my video on being a loner: th-cam.com/video/9rNzO6c9W4c/w-d-xo.html

  • @hericazita8198
    @hericazita8198 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm shipping you with Moretoki!

  • @emilyh.2942
    @emilyh.2942 6 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @mariommendozajr.6174
    @mariommendozajr.6174 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Nonsense talk.

  • @paulramsay1481
    @paulramsay1481 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Using the word so all the time especially at the beginning of sentences is SO annoying. Totally unnecessary.

    • @BrigitteChaichana
      @BrigitteChaichana  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Paul Ramsay then don’t watch my video??? Leaving rude comments on someone’s video without thinking that she will actually read it and respond is SO annoying and disrespectful.

  • @bb____________
    @bb____________ 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i loveeeee being by myself。its the best way to entertain myself and not having to deal with no ones problems,however i think i have come too far。i think i have crossed the line and it is becoming unhealthy。i just love being alone because i have absolutely nothing in common with others even with my closest friends,therefore when i am alone i have control over the things i wanna watch listen eat do etc。。。