Disarming Destructive Fear | MarriageToday | Jimmy Evans
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- The devil tries to use the core fears that we carry with us to destroy our lives and marriages.
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REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS
JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE MUST BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES BACK
I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHICH STRENGTHENS ME
PHIL 4:13
Can a spouse that was cheated on experience PTSD? My husband cheated on me almost three years ago. But at times I go through mistrust and unjustly accuse him of cheating for no reason. It's hurting our marriage.
I was cheated on 5 years ago and left her. The memory remains. I just found Pastor Evan's videos and he has some great coping and forgiveness teachings 💙
Very timely word!!
Every time I hear these no brainer messages it makes me depressed because I know my wife and father in law get the same messages being part of focus on the family, but our marriage stays the status quo and I’m the one that’s out of line even though our pastors and counselors have said they are the ones with the wrong marriage philosophies. I hear my dad will always be my number one man and I hear I’ll never put a man before my parents and I have to hear my father in law say she’s MY daughter. Because this is their mentality this is what we live every day. We’ve been married 14 years and I’m no closer to my wife now than I was the day I married her and because of how I’ve reacted to the constant bombardment of living out this enmeshed relationship has actually made us further apart. I’m tired of being nothing more than roommates and being told I’m the one that’s got it wrong no matter how many times we’ve heard these messages. How can they hear you say marriage comes first and the leave and cleave stuff and say I’m in the wrong for expressing how it hurts me. You aren’t even talking in parables! The bottom line is I love my wife dearly and I am committed to our marriage for better or worse and in sickness and in health and the five divorces between her parents and the way he turned her into his surrogate wife has given her a very unhealthy vision for marriage. How do we get the help we need if she thinks it’s fine the way it is and nobody in our circle knows to help and hold us accountable for our marriage? I deleted my Facebook so I stop posting comments to hurt my wife. Why do I feel bad for her for expressing the hurt I have to live with with nobody I talk to? I’m tired....... We need divine intervention in the worst way. We did go to counseling together but I asked her to stop. I don’t understand how you can take the time to go to a counselor, cry help us and throw your hard earned money at him just to call him names for saying you have to stop this. I don’t think she wants help and I know my father in law doesn’t want her to get the help because he can’t handle being anywhere but the top spot in her life. He’s her hero and he plans on keeping it that way. When do I get to be my wife and kid’s hero? Why am I looked at like a nutcase instead of someone who genuinely cares and wants to work this out? How can they say and act the way they do and not expect me to be upset about it? I just want to understand at this point. I’ve shifted my mentality to see her as my roommate because that’s what she needs, but I still need to understand why this is happening! I am not airing out our dirty laundry, I’m not trying to shame my wife or my father in law. If this is what they need then that’s what I want them to have. I need help navigating my role in this type of marriage and at best I just need some clarity. I’ve become the bad guy fighting for a proper marriage and I let my emotions get the best of me to where I just added to the problem and each comment I make just adds salt to an open wound, but how can I live this without being able to let it out? I need help, we need help. I know G-d put us together for a reason and I don’t know how to live without my wife by my side. Why can’t I at least do what I can in the other areas? It’s like because we aren’t right I’ve let everything go. My health has been waylaid, I don’t parent as well as I could, I don’t care if the house falls apart. I just don’t care. How will that help the situation? It seems when I do what I’m supposed to do instead of her stepping up it seems more like a that’s better attitude. It’s like it doesn’t matter how our marriage is mistreated it only matters that I take it with a smile. My marriage counselor has given up hope and just asks me how much longer I want to take it. Our pastor told me I’m not bound to a marriage like that. I have more hope and faith than the very people I turned to to help me with my hope and faith. Where do I go from here?? G-d has been everything to me in this. It’s his strength alone that keeps me together, but my heart is absolutely broken and I don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. I just know G-d knows why we’re together and I hang on to the faith that when our marriage turns around it will shine for G-d’s glory! I’m tired of being a roommate and I know this isn’t what my wife wants deep down either. How do we fight the demons plaguing our marriage with nobody being able to break through this stronghold?
Brother, so sorry to hear that you are going through this. First know you're not crazy. And your marriage is not the only one going through this struggle. The bible says that a man shall leave his father and mother and the two shall become one flesh. So when you and your bride first entered the church on your wedding day, you were separate. When you both left, you left different. You left together as one. A lot of folks don't understand this biblical concept of leaving and cleaving. I can include myself in this. When I got married, in terms of leaving and cleaving, I left geographically, and financially. In other words, I left the home of my upbringing to have my own home with my wife and I also had no financial support from my side of family. What I failed to realize was that there was still an emotional hold that my side of family had. It truly wasn't until recently that God opened my eyes to this. So there is hope. Pray for your wife. Keep fighting. I'm praying for you brother. ALso praying for your bride and father in law. That God may loose any strongholds there. Yes she is his daughter. But the day she became your wife, biblically you became first (after God of course).
For me too.
Powerful powerful teacher!! I have learned and continue to learn so so much from Pastor Jimmy Evans 🙌🏻