I just need to say this: Delilah your devotion to your faith and the Lord inspires me. I was not raised a Christian, neither am I going to church. But the way you talk about your faith, your trust in the Lord and the way that it affects your life on daily basis makes me want to lean in to it. Just by being you, you inspire people, you reach people and teach them. That's beautiful!
I wanted to share that thought as well! I’m so glad other people feel the same way. Delilah has such a calming presence and I really appreciate how she is vulnerable and honest.
It is a huge breath of fresh air to see young Moms committed to raising functional humans.❤❤❤❤ I am 40 and pregnant with my 3rd child...so, when I wanted to explain to my boys that I have a baby growing in my belly, i thought using visual to explain stuffs. Well, TH-cam suggested your videos...my boys loved loved baby Will as a newborn, and they want me to get him😂😂😂😂. Ever since, I have been hooked to your content. Thank you for confessing your faith out loud, thank you for giving your all to your family. In a crazy, dillusional world we need more homemakers. ❤❤❤❤
Mom of 10, here; after baby no. 4, things DO get easier. Don’t let the overwhelm stop you. Our big family is one of the biggest blessings this side of Heaven. 🌷 Lord bless you, Zach, Delilah, and babies. 🤍
My mom has 10 children and she said about the same, she said after two or three it just got easier each time! And we all love having multiple siblings, people always think that we are just saying that to make our parents happy but really my siblings push the most I think for more kids in the family!❤ it’s such a blessing and I love it so much!
I felt like having kids has had the "reset button" effect in my life. Simple things like having a longer shower, doing my skincare routine, having a cup of coffee with my husband without interruptions (rare) - all those things feel like a treat. We take things for granted. Also having this joy that kids bring to our lives is a treat, a true blessing. Thanks for talking about "the mindset shift". I will try and do the same going on, whenever I'm feeling frustrated, I will turn my attention to the positives of that particular situation. We have so much to be grateful for! I hope all goes well with the baby delivery. Love from London
I just lost my 4th baby that would have been born in January. I really love watching your videos, especially your pregnancy updates. For some reason it brings me a lot of peace. Prayers for your pregnancy and your baby. We know we will have another baby in the Lord's timing, and we are grateful for the babies we have. Thank you for your faith and for sharing these experiences. They honestly bring me hope and joy to be in fellowship with other mamas.
When Will yelled "Mom!" it reminded me of my Daycare Baby, when she woke up from nap, she yelled over the monitor "Jenna! I awake now!" 😂 She was 2. It was so cute and funny.
This video was really encouraging to me - I’m 6 weeks postpartum with my third baby, my other two being boys under 5… even though this is all familiar now, I still feel so frustrated and stressed by all the demands on me and the fact that I have NO time right now for me or things I enjoy. I’m just surviving. And my boys are testing my patience every moment of the day. Thank you for always being both real and uplifting.
I love love love how christ centered you are and how open you are with your relationship with the Lord and what you practically do. Love you, and love your family!
THANK YOU for addressing the people who take your words the wrong way. I can’t believe when people make TH-cam videos to slander other people (like the ones I’ve seen about you) FROM OTHER CHRISTIANS. C‘mon people. I understand exactly your heart Delilah, and thank you for clarifying! ❤️
Delilah, when I think about the kind of Godly mother I want to be, I think of you. Your calm, trusting presence is so beautiful to see. Thank you for your videos - you encourage people in ways that you will never know, but I hope you also feel encouraged that everything you do is so much appreciated.
I had lots of anger towards my husband in my first year as a new mom and the Lord showed me where I was being ruled by a spirit of self pity. It took a lot of work with Holy Spirit to First identity when and how this was happening and then I was set free and able to work through having a different heart response to situations. I began by hearing the voice of self pity and just knowing that was what was happening. Now I am able to partner with my husband much better and when I’m having a moment I can just communicate that to him. Way way less frustration, less bitterness and more joy has come from this.
Delilah you talking about your mindset shifts have helped me TREMENDOUSLY!! Whenever I’m in a moment of grumble, anger, overwhelm or whatever the feeling is I take a second to acknowledge that and then turn into something positive bc if we let it those feelings/emotions and mindsets can ruin our days if we don’t stop them in their tracks and choose to look over the other side and make it beautiful. It’s not always easy but it has helped me become such a better wife, mom and homemaker, so thank you for sharing your heart❤️
I am 35 years old and just learning some of the mom/wife things you're talking about, particularly realistic expectations from the husband. You are so wise, thanks for sharing.
It made me so happy to hear you say that it’s not easy or realistic with the whole baking and cooking. Society is so mean. They really just think you as a mother have to automatically be a robot. Do it all, no exceptions. And if you say you can’t, then you get shamed.
I love these chats! And thank you for sharing about your baby blues realization... my dad passed away jan 2022 and I only realized how deep down into depression I had been when I had started coming back to myself a little earlier this year. I didn't realize how internally dark I had been feeling until one day I noticed how good it felt to really belly laugh again (with my husband). It was then that I realized it had been a little over a year since I had truly laughed with my whole body and being instead of just my voice/mouth. These things can really sneak up on you and can take a while to be recognized.
I have four children who are all adults now. For me the transition to baby number four was by far the easiest of all of them. I think because you're already fully flowing as a larger family and the addition of one more little one didn't seem to change that much of the day to day. I was also homeschooling at that time, and baby number four never lacked for one sibling or another to keep his eyes on which kept him happy and entertained. I really loved having four children, two boys and two girls. Boys are the oldest and youngest with the girls in the middle. 💙💜💜💙 Maybe you will have the same only in reverse. 💜💙💙💜. Your family is in my prayers! 🙏❤️
2-3 was the hardest transition for me. They were 3 and under and suddenly I didn't have a hand to hold on to each one😅 now pregnant with #7 and my oldest is 12. It's so different now having babies when you have a couple preteens that are eager to help. It was so hard when I had all tiny kids, but now I have older helpers that are more than willing and able to load a dishwasher or clean a bathroom or babysit while I'm fighting morning sickness. ❤
It's so true you often grow apart from people who are not in the same season in life, like yes, a lot of people don't understand what it is to be a mom, but then moms also don't understand people in their late 20s, who are still not married and don't have kids (or don't want), and it's totally okay! It's just two different seasons in life. God bless you and your beautiful family ❤❤
I loved that you spoke about the perspective shift! I did this with my second pregnancy and I found it made such a difference! And I tried telling my friend about it during her pregnancy and she just couldn’t understand that I wasn’t saying be more positive about it but rather don’t sit in the discomfort. I don’t know- but I loved that you addressed it and I try to do the same thing while parenting 2 under 2 and not loosing my cool lol
I just wanted to say how much I am grateful for all your videos. It is been huge support through the last years. Being a mum can be really tough sometimes, but you always inspire me to be the best version of myself and enjoy real life whether it is simple or complicated. ❤
I nannied for a family who would have their kid leave their soother out for Santa the night before Christmas and they NEVER had issues with their kids giving up the soother ❤
I LOVE when you talk about the mindset shift because you have helped me sooo much with controlling my emotions and shifting to gratitude and a positive so thank you thank you!!!!
I just have to say, I’ve been watching you for years and you are such an inspiration to me Delilah. You are such a good person and mother. I love how passionate you are about faith, positivity and change, it makes me more passionate as well. Love you and your little family! ❤️
I’ve heard that the structural integrity of the pacifier is compromised when you cut them and they become a chocking hazard! I would look into it! Definitely not trying to sound like a karen just a mom sharing some knowledge❤
You give me so much joy, and such a sense of peace... I have no other words of how to describe it but I just feel at peace watching your videos. Everything seems so thoughtful and with a purpose and it is such a joy to watch your videos. I strive to be even just 1% more like you
I understand your values and why you will never hire a nanny. Before I was able to move back to my hometown I did have a nanny. I work full time from home so it was necessary for a few hours a day, and I had no village. And OMG my nanny was a rock star. We are still very close friends and my son still adores seeing her on video chat. I am soooo lucky to have found the right person and I couldn’t imagine never knowing her. Life just gives you what you need sometimes. All that said, it’s beautiful watching my son grow this amazing relationship with his grandma now that I’m back home and she watches him while I am in meetings. 🥰 Nanny Grammy we call her. I highly recommend that people who do hire a nanny ask all the questions about values and how they handle all the weird things about parenting. I found the PERFECT person who turned out to be so perfect we are close even 6 months after I terminated her employment. 🥰
This was a huge wake up call to me reminding myself that everything on my to do list needs to get done. I would feel anxious and rushed to go get something to do. I'm definitely working on patience on my daughter who is 1 1/2 and is very vocal on what she wants and doesn't. I just take a deep breath and help her name her feelings ar that moment
You inspire me so so much I’m a mom of 2 and things are just so hard but just watching you make things easier And help me grow with God more In my motherhood journey
I really like what u said about a phrase/brain shift. My favourite mind shift to do is 'I get to' instead of 'I have to'. Like, 'I get to sit her breastfeeding my baby', 'I get to comfort my baby', 'I get to prepare dinner for my family' etc 💜 I also don't find myself Wanting to take much 'me time'. I work out of the home so any time I have spare I really Want to be spending as much of that time as possible with my baby girl 💕 and I take my time during the commute, during lunch break, during pumping etc 👍🏻
Love your Q&A videos Delilah. So funny that you talk about time with baby feeling like alone time. Before I watched this video I put my 2 older kids down for a nap and told them that I prayed to the Lord for patience today as I have a 5 week old baby and I’m feeling tired. Then I put baby in a carrier, made a coffee and feel like I have alone time too. So nice to hear that’s how you get time to yourself during the newborn season. Wishing you all the best for your labour & delivery ❤
Just wanted to pop on here and say I love how much ‘faith talk’ was in this video. Love to hear about how you incorporate God into your life, especially regarding the little ones. We do not attend church. Yet it is so important to me that my child receives daily interactions with God and faith and prayer. She hears me pray, and hears my Hail Marys spoken at night when I put her to bed, but not much else. Thank you for reminding me that it doesn’t need to be hard. Just take a little time here and there, and stay consistent.
I love what you said about choosing Joy. I needed that today. Could you make a shorter video with just the "editing Delilah" segment? I'd love to be able to refer back to it when I need to.
Thank you for sharing such encouraging words and being vulnerable to your TH-cam family❤ the Lord speaks through you to so many of us and I hope you know how much your videos mean to so many of us. I’m praying for you and your family and a wonderful birth of baby #4. I’m in the same boat as you with another c section for baby #4 and mourning the loss of a chance of a VBAC, but trusting in the Lord that He knows what is best for us ❤ lots of love from BC!
I love these videos! Thank you for sharing so much with us. I know for alot of moms its nice to know what other mummas are doing out there that way we understand none of us are alone!!
Just had our 4th in April, about the same age gaps as your kiddos and this has been the best and easiest transition 😍🙌🏽 Praying everything goes smoothly for you!! Adding that yup *almost* 28 and most of my friends are double my age just because we started our family so *early*
I was only 24 years old when I had my 4th! Got married at 18, had my first at 19, my second at 21, etc. I felt sooo young to have that many kids at that age. It was hard. But now, I'm 31 and on my last pregnancy (my 6th live birth) and I'm happy I did it this way! Now when I"m 40 the hardest part of my parenting journey (with lots of littles) will already be over!
@@danielleallred9625 I love to hear that!! I was married at 18 and had our 1st when I was 20/21. I don't regret it one bit ☺️ though we are still deciding if we want another one, I'm excited most of the "harder" baby/toddler stages will be over when we are in our 40s
I got married at 18, had my first at 19, second at 20, and thinkinf of my third at almost 22yo hahahaha and friendship wise, I would say one of my best friends is a mom 40yo mom of 5😬although I am sure she sees me more as a 6th daughter to whom she can relate to kids wise (my kids and her last 2 kids are about the same age). I just recently made a mom friend close in age, and I am so happy!
Dear Delilah, you are such an inspiration, I absolutely love watching your Q&A videos because so much of your wisdom comes through! I love it how you view life through the lens of faith, and how beautifully you put into the words all the lessons that you've learned along the way. Your channel feels like a safe and beautiful cocoon and I come here every time I need to shift my focus back on what's important in life. Thank you for being so honest and authentic! ❤
Praise to the lord, but I would like to say to any mama reading/watching this.....baby blues and depression is a real diagnosis and medicine is a blessing that God has given us. Prayer is powerful, but cannot heal all depression. Seek help from both the lord AND a medical professional.
Thank you so much for what you share with us. My wife and I watch you and we appreciate what you offer your viewers. We wish you and your family much blessings for God is good all the time! Amen
I recently looked back at your earliest videos and it's really cool how you can literally see you go from a girl to a woman... These videos will be so special for your children to have when they're grown. I'm now 37 and my mama is 72, I'd love to have that to look at of my mama and get a sense of who she was as a young woman.
Thank you for explaining the change of mindset with biblical elements too. I found that really helpful. As not on my own strength can I just change my mindset. Thank you
Thank you for sharing! You and baby will be in my prayers. I really appreciated your explanation on changing perspective because I feel like o need a little bit of that in my life right now
Lovely video Delilah :) pregnant with twins here with a 14 month old so nervous about the transition from 1-3 ! As someone who cares deeply about prayer and Bible Reading too I enjoyed your tips about gratitude and keeping it up after baby (ies!) thank you 😊
Same! 4 kids and everytime Within 2months after baby bam period is back Almost exactly same timing everytime. I wasn't one to be able to share the oh it didn't come for like a year 😳 like how! Exclusive breastfeeding I was doing to. Just didn’t share that experience like other mommas have. It did help me know quickly where I was in my cycle so it was a blessing too.
Not having something that keeps you emotionally balanced, really hurts you. I find that when I don’t have time to just journal or do self care. That’s what causes me to snap. Because it’s what reminds me of the things in my life. And that I am a mother. But so much more too. And yes. It’s a way for me to address my feelings haha. Not bottle them up.
Funny story about soother clipping, now I don’t actually remember this, but my mom says when I was a toddler, probably about 2 1/2 she did that with my “binky” and when she gave it to me I sucked on it for a minute then took it out of my mouth and said “ You cut by binky. You cut my binky with scissors.” And then cried over it for several days.
Postpartum was so hard after first baby! I also was so angry at hubby for unmet expectations and bitter and just an awful person to him... thank goodness for God helping me change for the better and realize that i was wrong to act this way to him! We are commanded to love our husbands!!!
When our 4th was born , it all went really smoothly. It just gets easier the more you have… as weird as it may sound 😅 but everything will come so naturally because you have a lot of experience and have gotten used to the work. But! For me the most challenging was to slow down, because life goes by really fast when you’re so busy with all the kids. Especially when the oldest becomes a teenager 🤭 because its a huge change in your home and everyone needs to adapt to it. The younger kids won’t understand why the oldest stops playing games and will be out of the home more often. Thats a whole transition by itself. because its new and you have to figure it out together, just like when you have your first baby…
I have 4. Ages 7.5, 5, 3, and 1 this week. 4 was the hardest only because our 3rd is severely asthmatic and has been in the hospital A LOT over the last 2 years (16 times). Our 4th wasn’t planned and I honestly just feel like I haven’t left survival mode. Hopefully your transition is easier
we live in the same city and im totally in the same boat with having a hard time making mom friends. like you we started our family young so none of our friends have babies!! its tough but thats so amazing you have gotten friends through church😊
I loved this q and a! So much good stuff. Modelling asking for forgiveness, the psalms I’m with you on the ‘mindset change’. I read 1000 gifts by Ann Voskamp and it changed my life.. seeing God’s goodness in everything. That is what it is to be blessed by God. A gift is in the giving, not in the receiving. He gives us so much and we do have to take a minute to see what we have. Everything we have is from Him. There is nothing we can give him that he hasn’t already given us. I’m so glad that you are feeling the love ❤ prayer is powerful 💪🏻 praise the Lord !
Wow Delilah, you look so pretty & glowing today! ❤ I had all my 4 kids when I young & it was hard at first but being young & not knowing how to be a Mom it was hard I had both my parents, thank goodness. They helped me a lot! I was a late baby. They were in their 40's when i was born. I had a sister & brother 13, & 11yrs older than me. So I was by myself after I was 5yrs or so. So I was spoiled rotten. I got most everything I wanted! And I loved them so very much! So I wanted my kids to have a young Mom & be able to take care of them & do things with them, because my health wasn't real good even then I knew. I had a lot of things go wrong with me. So i really enjoyed being with them when they were young. I went to work when my youngest was 4yrs old. Mainly just to get out of the house. But still needed the money! I never had a job before I was married. I got married at 19yrs. I had my first baby at 21'yrs, 2nd baby 23yrs. 3rd baby 25yrs at baby 4 27yrs. I am so thankful I had them young & healthy! So Delilah I understand when you say your so thankful to the lord you had your babies at a young age. I think were able to deal with things more when were young. I keep praying for you & baby to go through the birth & everything will be pleasant & loving & hope everything goes well! Thanks for sharing!❤☺️🫂🍄🌞🪻🌹💐🦋🌞
I also had to learn that resentment towards my husband had everything to do with me. The way the lord showed me is that I was looking to my husband to fill my empty cup when I should have been looking to the lord to fill it. The lord will overflow your cup so that you can continue to pour into your children and your husband without feeling empty. Iv lived by that now as a mom of two and it’s changed my perspective a lot.
I really like your idea about why you don't want nany? It's feel like my situation too.. Thank you for encouraging other mom to not do it.. Kids need us more than the time we use to work. i remember from my childhood my late mom love for me.. I want this love my kids have too for me when I'm not alive.. And this love bond from childhood.. You are doing great... 💕🤞
Thank you so much for this talk! It was exactly what I needed right now. I have a 2 year old and a 7 month old baby, and I feel that I have no time to do things beside being with my baby. I feel so awful for saying this, but I'm waiting for him to be older, so I dont have to carry him and nurse him all the time... I love him with all my heart, but I think it is so much more fun with the kids that run around and talk
The hardest for me was 0-2 to be honest. My first two are 13 months apart, so those early days were hard. Especially when there were disabilities involved as well. 2-3 had been a breeze because of the age gap too. My kids are 7, 6 and 20 months old.
I am so sorry you're going through this hard time! You don't know me but I also had difficulty getting pregnant. Something that helped me was doing a keto diet! I did keto for 6 months and got pregnant. I couldn't believe it. If going low card scares you, try paelo? I hope this help! I learned that carbs really hurt me. Maybe this will help :)
I have a 2 year old & have been wanting to have another so bad…just had an ectopic pregnancy this month.. I appreciated her not taking her healthy babies, especially the one in her womb, for granted. Sending prayers out to you 💗
I’m praying for you!! Make sure you get lots of self care time and take rest!! Stress is horrible for your fertility! 🤍🤍🤍 I’m almost ttc and I’ve been listening to down to birth podcast, they actually have a lot of great info for TTC women too :)
Hahaha yes! I noticed last time on IG that lots of people miss interpret what you say. Tends to happen a lot. But I definitely understand because I'm practicing that myself. I think the reason us women get so upset with our partners is because we automatically know because it's naturally in us. But with men we have to tell them and sometimes it can be exhausting. Especially postpartum because we have gone through a drastic change and everything is overwhelming. I'm have 2yrs old & 3M and it was hard the first 2M. But because I had got a c-section (again) which this time it actually took a tole on my body + preeclampsia. But right after 2M till now, everything has gone pretty smooth. The only thing that is hard is bedtime for sure because it 2 separate bedtimes.
I love what you said about not having connection with God and sliding down the path and being bitter and angry. Im a Muslim and I've come to the same conclusion lately. Before this, i used to blame my outbursts to stress, lack of sleep or healthy food, not taking vitamins. But it just hit me that its simply the fact that when I'm working at my relationship with God, i will have a better relationship with the rest of His creation
The easiest transition for me was probably going to two kids from one. If I had this third child closer to the second, that would have been easier, but because my two older children are so much older, it is weird having a newborn when I was so focused on the teen stage and out of the baby stage. I also was the first of all my friends to have kids and first in my family too. . .and was very lonely because of that as well, especially because I am an extrovert and it seemed like suddenly having a child made me not fun to hang out with anymore. I also had post-partum depression after my first but didn't realize it as well until after I had my second one and could reflect on the difference of attitude/emotions. I totally have been in that, "I'm a bad mom" position, though it has been a long time. Once my older boys hit about 12, I saw how much of a good mom I have always been. You're right that we all get into that mindset though. I remember not getting my period again until 4 months after birthing each baby. I remember bleeding for like 6 weeks after each (which I am doing now nearly 3 weeks postpartum). That is crazy you get your period right away again!
I have three under three 😊 One to two was the easiest! Though I love the chaotic fun that comes with three super cute people around the two to three transition found me juggling like never before in the first few weeks.
Also what you said about connecting to women of different ages and outgrowing our school friends after having children. I’m feeling like it’s taking a while to mourn those old relationships and move on
You are wise beyond your years. You are really glowing with this pregnancy!
I just need to say this:
Delilah your devotion to your faith and the Lord inspires me. I was not raised a Christian, neither am I going to church. But the way you talk about your faith, your trust in the Lord and the way that it affects your life on daily basis makes me want to lean in to it.
Just by being you, you inspire people, you reach people and teach them. That's beautiful!
Same!! Not religious at all but love hearing religious people talk about their faith and devotion I love love love it xxx
I wanted to share that thought as well! I’m so glad other people feel the same way. Delilah has such a calming presence and I really appreciate how she is vulnerable and honest.
It is a huge breath of fresh air to see young Moms committed to raising functional humans.❤❤❤❤
I am 40 and pregnant with my 3rd child...so, when I wanted to explain to my boys that I have a baby growing in my belly, i thought using visual to explain stuffs. Well, TH-cam suggested your videos...my boys loved loved baby Will as a newborn, and they want me to get him😂😂😂😂.
Ever since, I have been hooked to your content.
Thank you for confessing your faith out loud, thank you for giving your all to your family. In a crazy, dillusional world we need more homemakers. ❤❤❤❤
Mom of 10, here; after baby no. 4, things DO get easier. Don’t let the overwhelm stop you. Our big family is one of the biggest blessings this side of Heaven. 🌷
Lord bless you, Zach, Delilah, and babies. 🤍
My mom has 10 children and she said about the same, she said after two or three it just got easier each time! And we all love having multiple siblings, people always think that we are just saying that to make our parents happy but really my siblings push the most I think for more kids in the family!❤ it’s such a blessing and I love it so much!
@@JoelleGrace love your perspective, Joelle. Your parents are blessed💝
I think mom mellows out a bit and the older kids are able to help out in more meaningful ways.
There may be more to it, but that’s my short answer. 🌺
I felt like having kids has had the "reset button" effect in my life. Simple things like having a longer shower, doing my skincare routine, having a cup of coffee with my husband without interruptions (rare) - all those things feel like a treat. We take things for granted. Also having this joy that kids bring to our lives is a treat, a true blessing. Thanks for talking about "the mindset shift". I will try and do the same going on, whenever I'm feeling frustrated, I will turn my attention to the positives of that particular situation. We have so much to be grateful for! I hope all goes well with the baby delivery. Love from London
I love your close up shots talking about acknowledging your hardships but finding joy in the Lord . You are glowing 🌞
I just lost my 4th baby that would have been born in January. I really love watching your videos, especially your pregnancy updates. For some reason it brings me a lot of peace. Prayers for your pregnancy and your baby. We know we will have another baby in the Lord's timing, and we are grateful for the babies we have. Thank you for your faith and for sharing these experiences. They honestly bring me hope and joy to be in fellowship with other mamas.
I lost a January baby too, last month. She would have been my third. Still trying for a sticky baby. Prayers and hugs for you too. ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss Callie 💔🫶🏼 I’m comforted to know your baby is with Jesus!
Y'all are making me cry. I'm so grateful for you. I'm sorry for your losses as well. Yes! They will be friends together with the Lord.
When Will yelled "Mom!" it reminded me of my Daycare Baby, when she woke up from nap, she yelled over the monitor "Jenna! I awake now!" 😂 She was 2. It was so cute and funny.
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This video was really encouraging to me - I’m 6 weeks postpartum with my third baby, my other two being boys under 5… even though this is all familiar now, I still feel so frustrated and stressed by all the demands on me and the fact that I have NO time right now for me or things I enjoy. I’m just surviving. And my boys are testing my patience every moment of the day. Thank you for always being both real and uplifting.
3 to 4 was the easiest for sure. Like you said, the older kids all play together and are able to do things for themselves. It’s so nice
I love love love how christ centered you are and how open you are with your relationship with the Lord and what you practically do. Love you, and love your family!
THANK YOU for addressing the people who take your words the wrong way. I can’t believe when people make TH-cam videos to slander other people (like the ones I’ve seen about you) FROM OTHER CHRISTIANS. C‘mon people. I understand exactly your heart Delilah, and thank you for clarifying! ❤️
Yes, and she does it so beautifully and lovingly!
@michaelamosing8810 so true!!
Yes talking about the mindset shift is GAME CHANGER especially in motherhood during the hard days. Thanks for chatting about that!
Delilah, when I think about the kind of Godly mother I want to be, I think of you. Your calm, trusting presence is so beautiful to see. Thank you for your videos - you encourage people in ways that you will never know, but I hope you also feel encouraged that everything you do is so much appreciated.
I had lots of anger towards my husband in my first year as a new mom and the Lord showed me where I was being ruled by a spirit of self pity. It took a lot of work with Holy Spirit to First identity when and how this was happening and then I was set free and able to work through having a different heart response to situations. I began by hearing the voice of self pity and just knowing that was what was happening. Now I am able to partner with my husband much better and when I’m having a moment I can just communicate that to him. Way way less frustration, less bitterness and more joy has come from this.
Ooo! Yayyy! My babies are down for their naps and I have laundry to fold 🧺 Always love these little chats.
Delilah you talking about your mindset shifts have helped me TREMENDOUSLY!! Whenever I’m in a moment of grumble, anger, overwhelm or whatever the feeling is I take a second to acknowledge that and then turn into something positive bc if we let it those feelings/emotions and mindsets can ruin our days if we don’t stop them in their tracks and choose to look over the other side and make it beautiful. It’s not always easy but it has helped me become such a better wife, mom and homemaker, so thank you for sharing your heart❤️
I am 35 years old and just learning some of the mom/wife things you're talking about, particularly realistic expectations from the husband. You are so wise, thanks for sharing.
It made me so happy to hear you say that it’s not easy or realistic with the whole baking and cooking. Society is so mean. They really just think you as a mother have to automatically be a robot. Do it all, no exceptions. And if you say you can’t, then you get shamed.
I love these chats! And thank you for sharing about your baby blues realization... my dad passed away jan 2022 and I only realized how deep down into depression I had been when I had started coming back to myself a little earlier this year. I didn't realize how internally dark I had been feeling until one day I noticed how good it felt to really belly laugh again (with my husband). It was then that I realized it had been a little over a year since I had truly laughed with my whole body and being instead of just my voice/mouth. These things can really sneak up on you and can take a while to be recognized.
I don't know why but watching this video I forgot you're pregnant. You are so calm, I admire that so much!
I have four children who are all adults now. For me the transition to baby number four was by far the easiest of all of them. I think because you're already fully flowing as a larger family and the addition of one more little one didn't seem to change that much of the day to day. I was also homeschooling at that time, and baby number four never lacked for one sibling or another to keep his eyes on which kept him happy and entertained. I really loved having four children, two boys and two girls. Boys are the oldest and youngest with the girls in the middle.
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Maybe you will have the same only in reverse.
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Your family is in my prayers! 🙏❤️
Baby 4 fits in so well and you will all find it so natural to have another little one in the family ❤
2-3 was the hardest transition for me. They were 3 and under and suddenly I didn't have a hand to hold on to each one😅 now pregnant with #7 and my oldest is 12. It's so different now having babies when you have a couple preteens that are eager to help. It was so hard when I had all tiny kids, but now I have older helpers that are more than willing and able to load a dishwasher or clean a bathroom or babysit while I'm fighting morning sickness. ❤
It's so true you often grow apart from people who are not in the same season in life, like yes, a lot of people don't understand what it is to be a mom, but then moms also don't understand people in their late 20s, who are still not married and don't have kids (or don't want), and it's totally okay! It's just two different seasons in life. God bless you and your beautiful family ❤❤
I loved that you spoke about the perspective shift! I did this with my second pregnancy and I found it made such a difference! And I tried telling my friend about it during her pregnancy and she just couldn’t understand that I wasn’t saying be more positive about it but rather don’t sit in the discomfort. I don’t know- but I loved that you addressed it and I try to do the same thing while parenting 2 under 2 and not loosing my cool lol
I just wanted to say how much I am grateful for all your videos. It is been huge support through the last years. Being a mum can be really tough sometimes, but you always inspire me to be the best version of myself and enjoy real life whether it is simple or complicated. ❤
I nannied for a family who would have their kid leave their soother out for Santa the night before Christmas and they NEVER had issues with their kids giving up the soother ❤
I LOVE when you talk about the mindset shift because you have helped me sooo much with controlling my emotions and shifting to gratitude and a positive so thank you thank you!!!!
“Choose joy even when you don’t feel it” - yep, I needed to hear that!
I just have to say, I’ve been watching you for years and you are such an inspiration to me Delilah. You are such a good person and mother. I love how passionate you are about faith, positivity and change, it makes me more passionate as well. Love you and your little family! ❤️
I’ve heard that the structural integrity of the pacifier is compromised when you cut them and they become a chocking hazard! I would look into it! Definitely not trying to sound like a karen just a mom sharing some knowledge❤
I thought this too!
It’s a pretty hard plastic/rubber, so I can’t imagine how snipping the tip could cause anything else to fall apart 🤔
@@mjalphonse I’m not sure what kind she uses, but I’m sure it depends on the brand!
@alyssaingram2719 definitely true!
This is true.
I love your chats… you always leave me feeling encouraged thank you! ❤
You give me so much joy, and such a sense of peace... I have no other words of how to describe it but I just feel at peace watching your videos. Everything seems so thoughtful and with a purpose and it is such a joy to watch your videos. I strive to be even just 1% more like you
Crying listening about mom rage. I relate so much right now. I easily fall into guilt!
I understand your values and why you will never hire a nanny. Before I was able to move back to my hometown I did have a nanny. I work full time from home so it was necessary for a few hours a day, and I had no village. And OMG my nanny was a rock star. We are still very close friends and my son still adores seeing her on video chat. I am soooo lucky to have found the right person and I couldn’t imagine never knowing her. Life just gives you what you need sometimes. All that said, it’s beautiful watching my son grow this amazing relationship with his grandma now that I’m back home and she watches him while I am in meetings. 🥰 Nanny Grammy we call her.
I highly recommend that people who do hire a nanny ask all the questions about values and how they handle all the weird things about parenting. I found the PERFECT person who turned out to be so perfect we are close even 6 months after I terminated her employment. 🥰
This was a huge wake up call to me reminding myself that everything on my to do list needs to get done. I would feel anxious and rushed to go get something to do. I'm definitely working on patience on my daughter who is 1 1/2 and is very vocal on what she wants and doesn't. I just take a deep breath and help her name her feelings ar that moment
My easiest transition was 3 to 4! 4 to 5 was my hardest but I think it was circumstantial, as we moved overseas postpartum. Praying for you and baby!!
I definitely need to work on choosing joy more. Thanks Delilah ❤
I love watching your journey through motherhood. It’s so beautiful and inspirational!
You inspire me so so much I’m a mom of 2 and things are just so hard but just watching you make things easier And help me grow with God more In my motherhood journey
I really like what u said about a phrase/brain shift. My favourite mind shift to do is 'I get to' instead of 'I have to'. Like, 'I get to sit her breastfeeding my baby', 'I get to comfort my baby', 'I get to prepare dinner for my family' etc 💜 I also don't find myself Wanting to take much 'me time'. I work out of the home so any time I have spare I really Want to be spending as much of that time as possible with my baby girl 💕 and I take my time during the commute, during lunch break, during pumping etc 👍🏻
Thank you for being honest about losing it but working on it. Definitely a place I'm working on with the Lord!
Love your Q&A videos Delilah. So funny that you talk about time with baby feeling like alone time. Before I watched this video I put my 2 older kids down for a nap and told them that I prayed to the Lord for patience today as I have a 5 week old baby and I’m feeling tired. Then I put baby in a carrier, made a coffee and feel like I have alone time too. So nice to hear that’s how you get time to yourself during the newborn season. Wishing you all the best for your labour & delivery ❤
Just wanted to pop on here and say I love how much ‘faith talk’ was in this video.
Love to hear about how you incorporate God into your life, especially regarding the little ones.
We do not attend church. Yet it is so important to me that my child receives daily interactions with God and faith and prayer.
She hears me pray, and hears my Hail Marys spoken at night when I put her to bed, but not much else.
Thank you for reminding me that it doesn’t need to be hard. Just take a little time here and there, and stay consistent.
You are glowing & I see so much calmness and grace 🩵🫶🏻🙏🏽
I love what you said about choosing Joy. I needed that today. Could you make a shorter video with just the "editing Delilah" segment? I'd love to be able to refer back to it when I need to.
Thank you for sharing such encouraging words and being vulnerable to your TH-cam family❤ the Lord speaks through you to so many of us and I hope you know how much your videos mean to so many of us. I’m praying for you and your family and a wonderful birth of baby #4. I’m in the same boat as you with another c section for baby #4 and mourning the loss of a chance of a VBAC, but trusting in the Lord that He knows what is best for us ❤ lots of love from BC!
I love these videos! Thank you for sharing so much with us. I know for alot of moms its nice to know what other mummas are doing out there that way we understand none of us are alone!!
Just had our 4th in April, about the same age gaps as your kiddos and this has been the best and easiest transition 😍🙌🏽 Praying everything goes smoothly for you!!
Adding that yup *almost* 28 and most of my friends are double my age just because we started our family so *early*
That’s so encouraging to hear! We have baby #4 coming this fall and feeling a bit nervous about the transition and being majorly outnumbered haha
I was only 24 years old when I had my 4th! Got married at 18, had my first at 19, my second at 21, etc. I felt sooo young to have that many kids at that age. It was hard. But now, I'm 31 and on my last pregnancy (my 6th live birth) and I'm happy I did it this way! Now when I"m 40 the hardest part of my parenting journey (with lots of littles) will already be over!
@@danielleallred9625 I love to hear that!! I was married at 18 and had our 1st when I was 20/21. I don't regret it one bit ☺️ though we are still deciding if we want another one, I'm excited most of the "harder" baby/toddler stages will be over when we are in our 40s
I got married at 18, had my first at 19, second at 20, and thinkinf of my third at almost 22yo hahahaha and friendship wise, I would say one of my best friends is a mom 40yo mom of 5😬although I am sure she sees me more as a 6th daughter to whom she can relate to kids wise (my kids and her last 2 kids are about the same age). I just recently made a mom friend close in age, and I am so happy!
Dear Delilah, you are such an inspiration, I absolutely love watching your Q&A videos because so much of your wisdom comes through! I love it how you view life through the lens of faith, and how beautifully you put into the words all the lessons that you've learned along the way. Your channel feels like a safe and beautiful cocoon and I come here every time I need to shift my focus back on what's important in life. Thank you for being so honest and authentic! ❤
Praise to the lord, but I would like to say to any mama reading/watching this.....baby blues and depression is a real diagnosis and medicine is a blessing that God has given us. Prayer is powerful, but cannot heal all depression. Seek help from both the lord AND a medical professional.
People without children have no idea how much doing small things like taking a shower is already some much needed me-time. 😂
Thank you for reminding me how lucky I am today 😂
Thank you so much for what you share with us. My wife and I watch you and we appreciate what you offer your viewers. We wish you and your family much blessings for God is good all the time! Amen
not me distracted by the crooked lampshade 😅
Me too haha
I recently looked back at your earliest videos and it's really cool how you can literally see you go from a girl to a woman... These videos will be so special for your children to have when they're grown. I'm now 37 and my mama is 72, I'd love to have that to look at of my mama and get a sense of who she was as a young woman.
2 to 3 was the easiest transition for me! Love having 3 💙💙🩷
Thank you for explaining the change of mindset with biblical elements too. I found that really helpful. As not on my own strength can I just change my mindset. Thank you
This was great for perspective on motherhood--thankfulness is definitely a choice. Love seeing you in color! The floral dress was so so pretty
Thank you for sharing! You and baby will be in my prayers. I really appreciated your explanation on changing perspective because I feel like o need a little bit of that in my life right now
I feel so cool you answered my question about bedtime routine with multiple kids!!! Thanks ❤ you really inspire me xx
Lovely video Delilah :) pregnant with twins here with a 14 month old so nervous about the transition from 1-3 ! As someone who cares deeply about prayer and Bible Reading too I enjoyed your tips about gratitude and keeping it up after baby (ies!) thank you 😊
Same! 4 kids and everytime Within 2months after baby bam period is back Almost exactly same timing everytime.
I wasn't one to be able to share the oh it didn't come for like a year 😳 like how! Exclusive breastfeeding I was doing to. Just didn’t share that experience like other mommas have. It did help me know quickly where I was in my cycle so it was a blessing too.
Not having something that keeps you emotionally balanced, really hurts you. I find that when I don’t have time to just journal or do self care. That’s what causes me to snap. Because it’s what reminds me of the things in my life. And that I am a mother. But so much more too. And yes. It’s a way for me to address my feelings haha. Not bottle them up.
today's my birthday and I'm really thankful to you and your family for today's video. God bless you!! Much love from Italy
Funny story about soother clipping, now I don’t actually remember this, but my mom says when I was a toddler, probably about 2 1/2 she did that with my “binky” and when she gave it to me I sucked on it for a minute then took it out of my mouth and said “ You cut by binky. You cut my binky with scissors.” And then cried over it for several days.
Postpartum was so hard after first baby! I also was so angry at hubby for unmet expectations and bitter and just an awful person to him... thank goodness for God helping me change for the better and realize that i was wrong to act this way to him! We are commanded to love our husbands!!!
0-1 was the hardest learning curve but being outnumbered (2-3) has been the hardest in terms of finding out routine again!
I love your laundry chats, I paused this video earlier and waited until i was done with laundry so I can fold with you
I have two kids and definitely 0 to 1 was easier than 1 to 2 was a struggleeeeee for Me. I’m still in the struggle 😅
I love when you have q and a's cause. I can listen and cook.
When our 4th was born , it all went really smoothly. It just gets easier the more you have… as weird as it may sound 😅 but everything will come so naturally because you have a lot of experience and have gotten used to the work.
But! For me the most challenging was to slow down, because life goes by really fast when you’re so busy with all the kids. Especially when the oldest becomes a teenager 🤭 because its a huge change in your home and everyone needs to adapt to it. The younger kids won’t understand why the oldest stops playing games and will be out of the home more often. Thats a whole transition by itself. because its new and you have to figure it out together, just like when you have your first baby…
Question: How do you discipline your children? What do you do when they don't listen your requests?
I have 4. Ages 7.5, 5, 3, and 1 this week. 4 was the hardest only because our 3rd is severely asthmatic and has been in the hospital A LOT over the last 2 years (16 times). Our 4th wasn’t planned and I honestly just feel like I haven’t left survival mode. Hopefully your transition is easier
Praying for you and your family.
I've just started watching your channel. Wow I'm so glad I found you! Amazing ❤
1-2 was the same as 3-4 , my 4th baby is so cruisey , so was my second. I’m still working through the challenges that our 3rd gives us.
Okay. I know I've commented with name ideas before but what about Olivia for a girl or Oliver for a boy?!!
You’re glowing ! Wishing you the best❤😊
we live in the same city and im totally in the same boat with having a hard time making mom friends. like you we started our family young so none of our friends have babies!! its tough but thats so amazing you have gotten friends through church😊
0-1 was definitely the hardest for me too!!
Has always been a put peeve when TH-camrs tell me to grab a cup of coffee while I watch their video. But now you're telling me to do LAUNDRY?!?! 😂
I love that, keep on doing wat you do on you tube your right you dont need a nani. You are a wonderful mom
I also get my period back immediately post parfum despite round the clock nursing! So relieved to hear that from another mom with a similar lifestyle.
I loved this q and a! So much good stuff. Modelling asking for forgiveness, the psalms
I’m with you on the ‘mindset change’. I read 1000 gifts by Ann Voskamp and it changed my life.. seeing God’s goodness in everything. That is what it is to be blessed by God. A gift is in the giving, not in the receiving. He gives us so much and we do have to take a minute to see what we have. Everything we have is from Him.
There is nothing we can give him that he hasn’t already given us.
I’m so glad that you are feeling the love ❤ prayer is powerful 💪🏻 praise the Lord !
Wow Delilah, you look so pretty & glowing today! ❤ I had all my 4 kids when I young & it was hard at first but being young & not knowing how to be a Mom it was hard I had both my parents, thank goodness. They helped me a lot! I was a late baby. They were in their 40's when i was born. I had a sister & brother 13, & 11yrs older than me. So I was by myself after I was 5yrs or so. So I was spoiled rotten. I got most everything I wanted! And I loved them so very much! So I wanted my kids to have a young Mom & be able to take care of them & do things with them, because my health wasn't real good even then I knew. I had a lot of things go wrong with me. So i really enjoyed being with them when they were young. I went to work when my youngest was 4yrs old. Mainly just to get out of the house. But still needed the money! I never had a job before I was married. I got married at 19yrs. I had my first baby at 21'yrs, 2nd baby 23yrs. 3rd baby 25yrs at baby 4 27yrs. I am so thankful I had them young & healthy! So Delilah I understand when you say your so thankful to the lord you had your babies at a young age. I think were able to deal with things more when were young. I keep praying for you & baby to go through the birth & everything will be pleasant & loving & hope everything goes well! Thanks for sharing!❤☺️🫂🍄🌞🪻🌹💐🦋🌞
I also had to learn that resentment towards my husband had everything to do with me. The way the lord showed me is that I was looking to my husband to fill my empty cup when I should have been looking to the lord to fill it. The lord will overflow your cup so that you can continue to pour into your children and your husband without feeling empty. Iv lived by that now as a mom of two and it’s changed my perspective a lot.
I feel that…I’m introverted, the oldest child and became a mom at 22 still working on the friend thing.
Yes to the age thing!! I’m a young (24 y/o) mom and most of my friends are in their 30’s but we’re in the same phase of life so it makes it easy.
I really like your idea about why you don't want nany? It's feel like my situation too.. Thank you for encouraging other mom to not do it.. Kids need us more than the time we use to work. i remember from my childhood my late mom love for me.. I want this love my kids have too for me when I'm not alive.. And this love bond from childhood.. You are doing great... 💕🤞
Thank you for the encouragment to listen to the bible while nursing. Great reminder for me as I have a two month old as well as 3 other littles
Thank you so much for this talk! It was exactly what I needed right now. I have a 2 year old and a 7 month old baby, and I feel that I have no time to do things beside being with my baby. I feel so awful for saying this, but I'm waiting for him to be older, so I dont have to carry him and nurse him all the time... I love him with all my heart, but I think it is so much more fun with the kids that run around and talk
The hardest for me was 0-2 to be honest. My first two are 13 months apart, so those early days were hard. Especially when there were disabilities involved as well. 2-3 had been a breeze because of the age gap too. My kids are 7, 6 and 20 months old.
I love hearing your insights! I can’t wait to have a baby but my husband and I are struggling to get pregnant. 😕
I am so sorry you're going through this hard time! You don't know me but I also had difficulty getting pregnant. Something that helped me was doing a keto diet! I did keto for 6 months and got pregnant. I couldn't believe it. If going low card scares you, try paelo? I hope this help! I learned that carbs really hurt me. Maybe this will help :)
Praying for you and your husband 🙏🏾
I have a 2 year old & have been wanting to have another so bad…just had an ectopic pregnancy this month.. I appreciated her not taking her healthy babies, especially the one in her womb, for granted. Sending prayers out to you 💗
@@katelynlundberg959 same to you
I’m praying for you!! Make sure you get lots of self care time and take rest!! Stress is horrible for your fertility! 🤍🤍🤍 I’m almost ttc and I’ve been listening to down to birth podcast, they actually have a lot of great info for TTC women too :)
Hahaha yes! I noticed last time on IG that lots of people miss interpret what you say. Tends to happen a lot. But I definitely understand because I'm practicing that myself.
I think the reason us women get so upset with our partners is because we automatically know because it's naturally in us. But with men we have to tell them and sometimes it can be exhausting. Especially postpartum because we have gone through a drastic change and everything is overwhelming.
I'm have 2yrs old & 3M and it was hard the first 2M. But because I had got a c-section (again) which this time it actually took a tole on my body + preeclampsia. But right after 2M till now, everything has gone pretty smooth. The only thing that is hard is bedtime for sure because it 2 separate bedtimes.
I love what you said about not having connection with God and sliding down the path and being bitter and angry. Im a Muslim and I've come to the same conclusion lately. Before this, i used to blame my outbursts to stress, lack of sleep or healthy food, not taking vitamins. But it just hit me that its simply the fact that when I'm working at my relationship with God, i will have a better relationship with the rest of His creation
The easiest transition for me was probably going to two kids from one. If I had this third child closer to the second, that would have been easier, but because my two older children are so much older, it is weird having a newborn when I was so focused on the teen stage and out of the baby stage.
I also was the first of all my friends to have kids and first in my family too. . .and was very lonely because of that as well, especially because I am an extrovert and it seemed like suddenly having a child made me not fun to hang out with anymore.
I also had post-partum depression after my first but didn't realize it as well until after I had my second one and could reflect on the difference of attitude/emotions.
I totally have been in that, "I'm a bad mom" position, though it has been a long time. Once my older boys hit about 12, I saw how much of a good mom I have always been. You're right that we all get into that mindset though.
I remember not getting my period again until 4 months after birthing each baby. I remember bleeding for like 6 weeks after each (which I am doing now nearly 3 weeks postpartum). That is crazy you get your period right away again!
I have three under three 😊 One to two was the easiest! Though I love the chaotic fun that comes with three super cute people around the two to three transition found me juggling like never before in the first few weeks.
Love these videos, thanks for all your insights. I always got my period back immediately after my bleeding stopped, not fair haha
Also what you said about connecting to women of different ages and outgrowing our school friends after having children. I’m feeling like it’s taking a while to mourn those old relationships and move on
I found 1-2 was harder than 0-1 but I recon it depends on the baby you get as my first was an angel and second alot of work 😅