THE WEDDING MADE ME DEPRESSED

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  • @AkahandClaire
    @AkahandClaire  5 ปีที่แล้ว +401

    Guys! Please help us spread our Channel to the world!! Tell your friends and loved ones to subscribe! The movement has begun! 🤣

    • @abiebonginyang9122
      @abiebonginyang9122 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Akah and Claire someone has added weight oh.. marriage is sweet ooo.. love you guys

    • @faith136
      @faith136 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This was really helpful, its good to know these feelings are normal. thanks

    • @blessingo6645
      @blessingo6645 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This is the first time claire played and spoke freely ,I had to watch this video thrice,I'm impressed please send me your measurement, AKAH naa work you do

    • @elenavivi2662
      @elenavivi2662 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      You two are adorably hilarious. I just subscribed. 👍🙏

    • @joymasimane9313
      @joymasimane9313 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      its amazing. it's so real. its really helped me, i'm 3 weeks away from my wedding

  • @SeetahLuvz
    @SeetahLuvz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +395

    I am so happy to see Africans be more open and honest about their sexual experiences. Happy married life, I pray that you will both grow and build together in joy and peace. Cheers

  • @Memkoh
    @Memkoh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +540

    THE. MOST. GENUINE. post-marriage video on the internet. Whaattt! No pretense whatsoever! When one person went "uhhh" the other person felt the same and all your reactions working in synergy made this video hilarious as always. I can tell you are on the right path to staying married and doing life together God's way.
    Keep working on your marriage! And I LOVVEEE the advise you gave here, especially how the people holding you both accountable put things in perspective so you knew you were not alone + the talk on unreasonable expectations people set before marriage.
    Claire, I felt allll your emotions when you talked about the rough patch you had and how it led you to cut your hair. Huggiesss ❤️❤️ I'm happy you are much better and you're glowing. It'll get easier especially as you two are committed to figuring things out together, and learning. I'm also wondering if Claire felt the same thing Akah felt (society looking at you in a different light). I'm sure you did and will talk about it in another video soon. I know you were trying to wrap this up :)
    Love you guys! Thanks for the honesty.
    I always say that married folks don't let us in, even slightly and that's why people go into marriage expecting roses whereas the married people are giggling at the unmarried ones in that "when you reach this side you'll see" attitude. Hoping it changes with this bold step you're taking.
    Thank you!

    • @deblovers6356
      @deblovers6356 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This just spoke my mind. Thank you so much. God bless akah and Claire

    • @ebilicioustv2644
      @ebilicioustv2644 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I can't lie... The married folks jes laugh at the singles to be married ... Lik when I literally tell pple congrats I'm lik get ready in my head ...lol...at God help our generation

    • @Memkoh
      @Memkoh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@ebilicioustv2644 loooollll! We shall fine you, sis 😂It's almost like you guys are saying "no one told me anything, so you gon learnnnnn when you enter". LOL! 😂😂😂

    • @joeekeator9271
      @joeekeator9271 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      True

    • @omoboladeosinowo6889
      @omoboladeosinowo6889 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very very genuine, I love them!!!

  • @EbunoluwaSofolahan
    @EbunoluwaSofolahan 5 ปีที่แล้ว +497

    Who else noticed that Claire is now more expressive than she used to be before marriage...... akah has robbed off on her

    • @runwithsuzan
      @runwithsuzan 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I noticed o. And this is really good

    • @damilolaakinbulu6090
      @damilolaakinbulu6090 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Honestly! 😂

    • @maryallen1584
      @maryallen1584 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Don't mind the big mouth. See now claire is talking too much....🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

    • @not-even-german4892
      @not-even-german4892 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@maryallen1584 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @Ihunanya_
      @Ihunanya_ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I think she's always been this way. The first time I discovered her was on a panel at Lagos social media week. She spoke so well and was so relatable, I went to look for her on Instagram and discovered she was Akah's girlfriend.

  • @lizreason5419
    @lizreason5419 5 ปีที่แล้ว +203

    'You are the joy of my life' how Claire says this without even thinking; passively and almost unconsciously...Beautiful!

    • @BinaKerekebuna
      @BinaKerekebuna 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm telling you

    • @AFMStories
      @AFMStories 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aswear.😭❤️🥰

    • @preyemoses
      @preyemoses 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Right, he even put on a light smile . This is goals❤️😂✌🏾

    • @trudy_triad
      @trudy_triad 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      😍

  • @BeautyNaturelle
    @BeautyNaturelle 5 ปีที่แล้ว +162

    This is the most transparent post-wedding video I've watched with a Nigerian couple. Thanks for your candor; we're learning! New subbie in da houuuse! - Naya

  • @OreoluwaAremo
    @OreoluwaAremo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Newly married couples never talk about this. Thank you so much for sharing!

  • @saranghae2808
    @saranghae2808 5 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Thank you so much Claire and Akah for being SO real. Two lessons I picked up: 1) getting a wedding planner is essential, it is not even a luxury; and 2) marriage counselling is okay and even essential. GOD Bless your home!

  • @Omangozika
    @Omangozika 5 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    I love how Eniola is more outspoken and more expressive. We’re kinda similar in that area, the best thing is to just express how you’re feeling how you’re feeling at the moment, use your words... God will be with you guys

    • @AkahandClaire
      @AkahandClaire  5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ‘Oma Ngozika thank you. Amen ❤️

  • @Bems__
    @Bems__ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    I LOVE that you comfortably talked about sex because as a virgin I’ve been looking for couples who talk about their sexual life in marriage. Bless you guys ❤️❤️

  • @chinyuzzy
    @chinyuzzy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +351

    Soon as you guys talked about the sex part so bluntly I was like naahhhhhhhhh I am so subscribing. Was expecting some codedness but was pleasantly surprised. Thanks for being so relatable and God bless your marriage!!!

    • @Wetesk53
      @Wetesk53 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      LMAO, that's all you know...

    • @_nitaseee5989
      @_nitaseee5989 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      same here... raw content is key

    • @Bems__
      @Bems__ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Honestly I was so happy because I learned from it

    • @EpicBlackBunnies
      @EpicBlackBunnies 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      And it was the first thing they addressed, no dragging the video along and saving the part most people would be curious about for last. Love eeet

    • @PatriciaAbijah
      @PatriciaAbijah 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Watch their other videos 😊

  • @chisomarinze2545
    @chisomarinze2545 5 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    " You are the joy of my life". I am happy when l see you". Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
    Thank you guys so much for being very open and transparent.
    And Akah, your mum is the real MVP. She told you to give her a year to adjust. That is really wonderful.

  • @BubuEsho
    @BubuEsho 5 ปีที่แล้ว +242

    What kills a lot of marriages is everyone’s perfect rosy idea of marriage. When any small thing happens they can’t cope because they have filled themselves with novel romance. Is only God that can help us 😢

    • @lollyd407
      @lollyd407 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bukola Esho Word!👊🏽

    • @AfricanTalesByDupe
      @AfricanTalesByDupe 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      God will bless u

    • @not-even-german4892
      @not-even-german4892 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yeppp ...people get married to their dream man NOT the actual ONE ....😂😂😂😂😂

    • @kuldoxy5637
      @kuldoxy5637 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@not-even-german4892 Hahaha, lol.

    • @kylieking8163
      @kylieking8163 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes because no one talks about the hard part only the marriage is all good go and marry

  • @DrHunnay
    @DrHunnay 5 ปีที่แล้ว +194

    My wedding is in a week. I am excited for the journey ahead

  • @marvellousnnowi-nonso4365
    @marvellousnnowi-nonso4365 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Honestly, I can relate to this. I got married 2 months ago but I'm so sad, the whole change is overwhelming, sometimes I wish I can talk to someone but I still feel like people won't understand like they expect everything to be rosy all because you are married but in honesty it is choking, sometimes I feel like running away and leaving everything behind. I pray I come out of this, the responsibility and expectation is too much.

  • @Ihechi.U
    @Ihechi.U 5 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    The first few months will be fights over silliest things😭😭 because you are still learning each other but will gradually adjust😂 Speaking from experience😩 but marriage is a beautiful thing, you just have to find a balance.

  • @seysstudio5217
    @seysstudio5217 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    The most honest post-marriage video I have seen so far on TH-cam. God bless your marriage!!!

  • @faithkalat3344
    @faithkalat3344 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks for the tips. It will definitely be helpful 👍🏽🙏🏽👌🏾

  • @agnesorock7108
    @agnesorock7108 5 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    I wish some African husband will see this. African husband always think their wives have no mind / feeling of their own. Thank u for sharing ❤

    • @mawunyohammond6440
      @mawunyohammond6440 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Agnes Orock it hurts so bad. My boyfriend is always angry at my opinions about issues 😢😢😢😢

    • @belleobura
      @belleobura 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Nyo Braids tell him he’s a fkn clown mchew

  • @BubesCorner
    @BubesCorner 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Omg omggggggggg I hope my husband sees my comment....this is so usssss and I'm so claire. I cant sleep if we are fighting. I feel my emotional security was broken into. But bro will sleep and sleep tight. This is my favorite channel on TH-cam right now. Please continue keeping it real, so that we can learn.

  • @LoveiDora
    @LoveiDora 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    No selfishness lives here, no narcissist in this relationship. Watching this warmed my heart. This is what marriages are made of; openness and the ability to want to learn, unlearn and relearn. You both are doing a great job!

  • @eneyoayaz2062
    @eneyoayaz2062 5 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    Someone blushed when the wife said: you know you are the joy of my life.. nice content

  • @davidiyobor8849
    @davidiyobor8849 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I’m not married yet but I learnt a lot from this video🙌🏾. Love you guys. Sending you love and light💕

  • @Eb-Anny4417
    @Eb-Anny4417 5 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Ahah and Claire basically preparing me for the future. It’s almost a lot to take in but one thing I learnt is to find someone w the same mindset as you .... at least

  • @TumiAde
    @TumiAde 5 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    wow!! young relationships will appreciate this because as every young person is getting married now, no one is sharing their experience post-marriage. the next thing we hear is, they are no longer together after a year without us knowing the reason/s. I am sure saving this video and letting him watch it. Thanks for sharing guys. Looking forward to more of this

  • @blessingbella7932
    @blessingbella7932 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Finally watched this video... I’m 2 months in marriage and I can so relate with most of what you shared. The depression, oh my God the sex life...ahahaha I’m actually laughing but it wasn’t funny and we are still working on it, the adjustment to go back to work ..We have been constantly late since we got back to work... lol I think I will need a channel to really explain honestly. Thanks guys for sharing . Claire we have so much in common. Keep shining guys

  • @DolaPosh
    @DolaPosh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Do you know what's funny? I feel like Claire is narrating my issues. I went to therapy, just to figure out what was going on. I was putting all the pressure on my hubs, and the problem was me especially the change in moving to London and having to start my career/new path again, definitely made me depressed. It's nice that you guys are sharing this to help young couples. We should definitely keep trying to make things work from sex to communication and spirituality.

  • @RealtalkwithIhuoma
    @RealtalkwithIhuoma 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I wish couples would be this open and realistic and talk about their marriage between themselves. No marriage is perfect but open and genuine communication goes a long way to make a marriage strong and mature. I'm praying for this in my own marriage too.

  • @chiisomoluchii
    @chiisomoluchii 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    “And I communicate in my mind sometimes” that was a mood 😭😭

  • @OnlyloveandGod
    @OnlyloveandGod 5 ปีที่แล้ว +141

    When communicating listen to understand not to reply.
    Communicate your anger don’t express it, this way you would find a solution.
    Most wives need to feel love to make love and most husbands need to make love to feel love.
    Have plenty of sex; it’s so important and pray while doing it😁... those prayers always get answered.
    Wives respect your husband and husbands love your wives( this advice helped me a lot).
    Always pray about everything.
    Those are some of the advice that has helped me so far. I have been married for just 7 years.
    You both are so cute. God bless your home and marriage.

    • @Glamyougirl17
      @Glamyougirl17 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      theola koye I’m not married yet but thank you for this wife

    • @harunashayet2504
      @harunashayet2504 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      How does one pray during sex ma ?I am a single lady tho, won't it be like a distraction ,what do you think and how do we go about it when for newly weds ?

    • @Glamyougirl17
      @Glamyougirl17 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      haruna shayet just pray! Pray while he stroking lol. Thank you God for my loving husband, thank you God for our intimacy, thank you God for our fiancés and ask that you continue blessing our finances

    • @rosyabii
      @rosyabii 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I mean communication is important... Seems like this video is for me😩 I can't..

    • @wowso4
      @wowso4 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      theola koye thank you for the lovely advice, even though I’m not married yet it will come in handy when I do get married.

  • @elizabethadeniyi4365
    @elizabethadeniyi4365 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I have married for 26 years how I wish you are around then and you have made this video and I have listened to it l like your openness Whao!

  • @teesapace
    @teesapace 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Been married almost 8years and it was so refreshing to watching. God bless and keep your home

  • @karimotisiaka.8942
    @karimotisiaka.8942 5 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I love how you're very self aware individually

    • @AkahandClaire
      @AkahandClaire  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Karimot Isiaka. Thank you 🙏

  • @ebilicioustv2644
    @ebilicioustv2644 5 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    I was also depressed in my first year of marriage plus pregnancy was stressfuuullll and I took it out on hubby😫... Indeed every single point u raised in this video happened to me too😫... Soo now I can giv my husband a break knowing that we are not alone in this ... Many more blissful years Claire and Akah...Cheers!!!

    • @rachaelnnaemeka
      @rachaelnnaemeka 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      So true, I was depressed too, It felt like my life was going to end, I wasnt happy I was always sad. How can my life just change like this and I moved from Lagos to portharcourt. Everything about PH was depressing me. Oh my dear husband suffered it o. But thank God for grace

    • @charmyni8847
      @charmyni8847 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You not alone

    • @Michelle-fz4px
      @Michelle-fz4px 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The truth in this thread 😍😍😍😍

    • @Glamyougirl17
      @Glamyougirl17 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Rachael Nwobodo Hi why were you guys depressed? Want to know if Hebrew something Incan expect and avoid to have a better experience. Hope everything is fine now my sisters.

    • @Glamyougirl17
      @Glamyougirl17 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Rosie Berry hi why dear?

  • @shephatiahobadan9820
    @shephatiahobadan9820 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I've been married for 5 years, and even though I had great marriage counselling, I wish I had a couple like you guys to listen to. Its beautiful, keep it up. Praying for you guys. This will keep you even closer.

  • @OJMaronii
    @OJMaronii 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I couldn’t be MORE proud of This YOUNG , SERVING GOD AND PURPOSEFULLY GETTING IT COUPLE that I’ve always admired! Thanks for keeping it a 💯 and encouraging singles that are waiting . Your Marriage is Blessed, Happy and Fruitful in Jesus Name Amen!

  • @BubuEsho
    @BubuEsho 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The fact that you guys comfortable spoke about your sex life is just amazing. I feel like people don’t really talk about issues like this almost like it doesn’t exist.
    I am also like claire, any big change affects me mentally drastically. It’s always so bad that my life literally goes backward. You guys are amazing. I hope you have a wonderful friendship and marriage . 💕💕

  • @slimqt9224
    @slimqt9224 5 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    I'm just 18 so i'm not even thinking about marriage but this is one of my favourite videos! honestly wish nothing but the best for you two x

    • @sanyadamilola2208
      @sanyadamilola2208 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me toooo😹😹😹I kind of know who I'm going to marry( crazy i know) but it's so not the right time.
      But I enjoy watching this

  • @atinukeakintola
    @atinukeakintola 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I just watched this video and I can totally relate with the sex issue, I got married three months ago and mehn, the time before the sex became great, I used to think maybe my body wasn’t appealing to my husband but overtime, I realized it a gradual process of knowing and unlearning a lot of things. Thank you guys ❤️

  • @ratatouille1233
    @ratatouille1233 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Happiness is key. Always remember to be selfless and go the extra mile to make each other happy. Don't take each other for granted. Avoid 'see finish'😃

  • @runwithsuzan
    @runwithsuzan 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Claire is now more expressive, more outspoken and all. Akah has done his work. We love you guys

  • @ixorauthman5042
    @ixorauthman5042 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Because you're the joy of my life, i get happy when i see you...😩😩😪 you guys are really sweet.

  • @florenceogechi9153
    @florenceogechi9153 5 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Eniola is just glowing anyow nd adding weight.....
    I totally relate ,the power of communication cannot be ova looked

    • @Daiky28
      @Daiky28 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      True

  • @marggieb7918
    @marggieb7918 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It's so unlike me to comments online,but I must say I'm quite impressed with this video......so real and practical.
    God help u and continue to make Jesus the centre of your home
    I love u guys...

  • @sayitasitisnn6785
    @sayitasitisnn6785 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I love a sincere and real couple. This is the picture of marriage I know and I pray God willing you guys only become closer and better. The first months are usually hard as I hear and it is good to see that you are doing your best to make it work. You got me hooked guys. I know I will learn a lot from you too and plus you are brother and sister in Christ so a huge plus there☺️☺️

  • @oluwadamilolaodusote9187
    @oluwadamilolaodusote9187 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Most transparent video ever. Well done guys.

  • @lifeimprovementcic2292
    @lifeimprovementcic2292 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks for sharing, married for 10years now and i can confidently say it does gets better and sweeter with age! Like fine wine😉 simply because you both mature, learn each others love languages and become more skilfull and better equipped to deal with situations! Wishing all the best!♥️♥️♥️

  • @EscapeChores
    @EscapeChores 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Omg omg I love you guys! I feel so good finding another black couple like my husband and I! 💕🇯🇲

  • @auntieemmy6549
    @auntieemmy6549 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Oh God! Please give me that relatable and hilarious man for us to understand each other... God bless this marriage🙏💞🇬🇭

  • @godmomentswithtomi_
    @godmomentswithtomi_ 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Coming back to watch this in 2024 🥹 and my gosh you both have grown so much🥹❤️. God is good ❤️

  • @sharonidoko3459
    @sharonidoko3459 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I'm happy there are still people who have like same values with me.

    • @nkirukambah7176
      @nkirukambah7176 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      sharon idoko me too oh!!!!!! We still have that in our world today.. so babe keep ursef ehn... dey we’re together for 5 good years..

    • @amyanthon.6072
      @amyanthon.6072 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      sharon idoko yess girl preach! There are lots of ways to be intimate , it doesn’t have to be sexual..

  • @yewandekoyenikan4732
    @yewandekoyenikan4732 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really appreciate your openness. Very rare in our conservative society.

  • @IreneUmeoke
    @IreneUmeoke 5 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    God in heaven how did you combine these two 😂😂😂video hasn’t started and I’m already laughing

  • @auntyabbie
    @auntyabbie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow! You don't get this type openness and honesty with Nigerians, especially with martial intercourse. I'm hooked on y'all. Love that Nigerians are finally being open with depression and not dismissively "praying it away" or "just being happy". I'm so impressed! Yes, communication is key in all types of relationships, especially with loved ones. Progressive Nigerians is a total joy to watch on youtube. Great job guys!

  • @KristinIni
    @KristinIni 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thanks for sharing guys! There’s so much newlyweds go through and they never share with others. I’m looking forward to the transparency of this channel 👌🏽

    • @AkahandClaire
      @AkahandClaire  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Kristin Udoh yay! More to share!!

  • @catherineanthony4776
    @catherineanthony4776 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The conversation, the genuineness, everything! So naked. I love!!

  • @cynthiatafrey7054
    @cynthiatafrey7054 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This was so real and honest looool we need more of this on TH-cam

  • @CongoTalks243
    @CongoTalks243 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    A genuine young couple on TH-cam! Just wow! Thanks for being real! I’ve never been married but I always say that it can’t be as easy as people want us single people to believe; and going into it with the right person is soooooo important! If it’s been hard for you guys who are literally best friends, imagine how hard it would be for people who don’t even get along before marriage already! Thanks for being real guys!! And please keep praying and working on yourselves! God will guide you through it all ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @tolamamus
    @tolamamus 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love how you guys are so transparent about your experience as a married couple, you are role models to young and old couples. Love you am so subscribed to this channel.
    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @chhiomamitchell9233
    @chhiomamitchell9233 5 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    I lowkey feel I’m like eniola
    I can’t b intimate with someone without having a thousand things in mind
    I’ve always felt like I’m just not the sexual type
    But now I know it’s just to find the right person thatll help you figure yourself out

  • @becomingtheayodeles
    @becomingtheayodeles 5 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    We just got married and it is difficult adjusting to not seeing my parents,my siblings and my former life. It's emotionally draining plus I hate change.

  • @tobiitaiwo
    @tobiitaiwo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Totally enjoyed watching! Even after two years😄

  • @Viviansjournal
    @Viviansjournal 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I also got married in April and it's been wonderful but draining, I totally relate with Claire on so many issues, as my husband got back into work and daily living so easily while I am still struggling with the change and trying to get back on track. Really enjoyed this video it's very realistic, nothing really prepares you for life after marriage .

  • @marianasamu1478
    @marianasamu1478 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Happy that Claire is so vocal. Amazing 👏

  • @adesuwaobadare-akpata3871
    @adesuwaobadare-akpata3871 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I didn't plan to watch all 24mins, but I'm glad I did.. Thanks guys. This honesty and openness is such a relief ☺🤗

  • @onyiibeg
    @onyiibeg 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Very rightly said....that change took me to a place where I couldn't find myself, got married, left naija.....All took a big hit on me. Took me years to gather myself even after 2 kids. Literally just finding myself

    • @auntyabbie
      @auntyabbie 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      My love to you. I've never had a desire to get married but I had NO IDEA people felt like this after marriage! Crazy!

  • @jefdigital3809
    @jefdigital3809 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    U guys are so real.. and that’s what a lot of people needs to hear

  • @gigiadoghe5235
    @gigiadoghe5235 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You guys are the realest couple EVER !! Love it , love it, love it !! So subscribed ..
    Please don’t ever change

  • @FunmilolaPopoola
    @FunmilolaPopoola 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you so much for your transparency. This is definitely going to help THOUSANDS understand that no marriage is perfect, even the ones destined from God. God bless you both! I’ll support y’all forever!! ♥️

  • @princeaghamiogie7154
    @princeaghamiogie7154 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Nice video. Marriage to the individual you love is a thing of joy. It doesn't mean that all is going to be well all the time. As a man let your wife win most of the arguments. Respect your wife appreciate her from time to time buy her little gifts. When she is doing a lot of cooking let her know you appreciate her work in the kitchen. Make it a point of duty to always assist in domestic work around the home. I bet you, you will get the best from her. Am talking from experience. In spite of all these, there is still going to be misunderstanding in the marriage from little issues here and there. Communication, listening and respect for one another will surely take your marriage to another level. Watching from New York

  • @eseo.9208
    @eseo.9208 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Absolutely luv the openness of this vlog. I remember watching the clip of Claire cutting her hair and I was like this isn't an "i want to try a new look", babes is going through something or finding it difficult to adjust into her new status, maybe even depressed... I'm glad you pulled through it.

  • @ttlopehsofiat3007
    @ttlopehsofiat3007 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It would get better by the grace of God... I'm glad you guys are pushing through ❤❤❤

  • @ojularioyindamola7140
    @ojularioyindamola7140 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I can totally relate to Claire falling into depression....I think I had the same situation after getting married. I left Nigeria two days after plus having to pursue a master’s degree at the same time , It’s been 1yr and I STILL HAVE NOT FOUND MYSELF/BALANCE it’s just been me living it as it comes and it’s overwhelming.

  • @LaLas-Vision
    @LaLas-Vision 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I loooooove how open and honest you both are . You don't understand how difficult it is to find a TH-camr that's reaaalll... Thank you sooo much. I'm a new subscriber !!!!

  • @titilayoakins1269
    @titilayoakins1269 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for being so genuine.Marriage counselling can’t be more than this
    .❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @pelaako1508
    @pelaako1508 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Just discovered your channel today, I love it and it's soo inspiring

  • @tchedaromez
    @tchedaromez 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Tbh, you guys honesty is always amazing. Anyways, I’m over here jotting things down for when I’m ready to settle down. 🤩💕

  • @thelandisgreen7499
    @thelandisgreen7499 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love the realnesss. I can relate with Claire about the culture shock moving to England to study aswell wow! Lol

  • @kanualice3871
    @kanualice3871 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The transparency was so good. I love the video ❤️

  • @Dhammilicious
    @Dhammilicious 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Omg!!This was hilarious and real!I'm not married but I've learnt a lot. Thank you for this!

  • @pyrecispeter-nelson5165
    @pyrecispeter-nelson5165 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Claire is like a whole new person ❤❤❤❤

  • @patthomas8134
    @patthomas8134 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You guys are so genuine. God will make everything that you desire come true. Keep praying together and never relent.

  • @Mz_ceentia
    @Mz_ceentia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This video is soooo real and uncut!!!!!!! I love the openness and honesty!!!! One of my fave couples ❤️❤️❤️💙

  • @ukpaiugonma9884
    @ukpaiugonma9884 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love love love you guys.❤

  • @louisaagbonika8055
    @louisaagbonika8055 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I really enjoyed watching this. It was real. I have been married for a year now and I completely understand what you guys mean.

  • @omezikamugwa9942
    @omezikamugwa9942 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Totally agree with Claire on alot of issues she went thru

  • @ejiroonobrakpeya5307
    @ejiroonobrakpeya5307 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you for your honesty and helping us that are scared of commitment

  • @oluwatoyinesther4431
    @oluwatoyinesther4431 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You People are real motivation to young couples, Saying it Exactly the way it is.......No Lies😇😇😇😇😇😇😇 JESUS Will Have Mercy On Us All( Amen).

  • @ttlopehsofiat3007
    @ttlopehsofiat3007 5 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I'm not married yet o but I understand the not wanting letting an argument last over night.... I am like Eniola I want to talk there and there but my boo takes his time we try to find a balance to make it work and understanding is key.... I fell if you know the root of the problems, solving won't be that difficult 🤗 love you guys and I wish you blissful years ahead🙏

  • @nellya1
    @nellya1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Nah this is raw...i´ve watch a few videos of u guys in the past and never subscribed . Subscribing to this channel . Love the honesty

  • @Amina_mo
    @Amina_mo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This is spot on! I can totally relate.
    I got depressed and my transition was super difficult.

    • @AkahandClaire
      @AkahandClaire  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      amina zaid wow! I hope you’re back on your feet. Sending hugs* ❤️

    • @Amina_mo
      @Amina_mo 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Akah and Claire Sending hugs right back at you 🤗. Yes I am! Thank God

  • @explorewithchi2815
    @explorewithchi2815 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lol....I have thought about separation and divorce too...and i complained to a married friend, she said oh yeah it's normal, marriage isn't rosy. It's never rosy and not a fairytale. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm sending it to my spouse asap

  • @juliekyewalabye4012
    @juliekyewalabye4012 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    loved how authentic this was

  • @serahdonald
    @serahdonald 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Omg the most genuine Nigerian couple.. Well done.. Am subbing immediately

  • @essybabyj6141
    @essybabyj6141 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love this so much, I’ve never seen this kind of vlog like this where Nigerian couples are talkin about their marriage because it’s so descreet and they don’t go in to details so this is very different being vulnerable and open so thank you for this because Nigerian marriage is different from the western marriages.

  • @joisissyumeh-enike8725
    @joisissyumeh-enike8725 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow....I am so delighted to watch this, just getting to know you guys like today, and wow...Claire, thank you for sharing this, this is literally me right now, I recently got married, and even though I am happy to be with my partner, I still feel down, sometimes I feel like there is something I need to do, my husband keeps asking if I am okay most of the time, like I am happy when he is around and all....but the moment he is out I feel sad, my husband asked me the other day if I was okay, that I don't post pictures and all like I used to, and in all sincerity, my husband makes so much effort and all, he is my best friend and all, but I just don't know why I feel the way I do...thank you for this video

  • @thatchocolategirl3313
    @thatchocolategirl3313 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Y'all are funny!! and i love how open you guys are

  • @onyinyeonyx8414
    @onyinyeonyx8414 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Grateful for videos like this🙌🏽

  • @CocoaBelow
    @CocoaBelow 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love how open and honest this was, can’t wait to see more !

  • @_________Lucious
    @_________Lucious 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You both are so real. It's beautiful. I pray it remains this beautiful forever.