I have a different story. I Left Kenya in 2014 for 2 years . I had left my kids with my parents. I am grateful I did it juu kwa hiyo harakati I got my husband . Saa hii Niko USA with the kids. Kama singeenda Dubai siningekuwa Kenya nikiteseka ? I would say God have a destiny for us all.
That was a good move halafu unaweka mungu mbele. Even Abraham in the bible took his family and left, but wakati huo he only needed to ride on a donkey and visa was needed. Today if you want to travel you need a visa and most of the time unapata peke yako halafu God willing familia inakufuata. Aren't you happy now with your family? I did the same and im happy. Prophetess Wamuratha mkienda nyinyi nyote muomoke atakosa kazi.
you are talking the truth, mimi nko Qatar and this is my last time to be here nkiongea na watoto wangu the way they insist that they want me and yet they know I am here for them I won't dare go far from them again blessings that God has kept for me atanibarikia huko huko
@@mercylameck259 kwanza agojeke tu you cry like a baby thinking maybe if you are there with him/her hangegojeka but I thank God I have a careling family they love my kids alot and that makes me Stronger coz ata nkiwa home they like to stay with my mum and my siblings but being near wakiniona time to time it's my prayer
I left my daughter when she was 1&half years, now she is almost 4 and I feel so bad because she doesn't even recognize me as her mother 😭 I want to go back and collect my mistakes before it's too late.
Earlier this year when I was home, I told my 5yr old that am going back to work abroad to look for money, he collected all the money in the house including coins, gave me and said, "Baba kama ni pesa chukua hii na usiniache" Your reaction was as good as mine.
As many may disagree on what WaMuratha is saying, I wish we can all take this and start a discussion within ourselves. We are gonna provide for our kids while not present,what will be their tomorrow like? Huyo mama anauza soko and raising kiddos without much is always there, encouraging and motivating her kiddos. Wait and see what their tomorrow will be like. May God give us wisdom 🙏.
I agree with you, but in the Kenya we are in, will all of us get do the kiosk, mama fua, and mijengo jobs? Can they accommodate all the jobless people in Kenya? Let us not pretend we do not know how things are. Some of us are privileged to be here with our kids but not everyone is lucky to get that opportunity. I wish this is being taken to the government to try and create more jobs. Sio kila mtu huku ako an uwezo ya kupata capital. Business ni uncertain huku, get a loan may be job ikose kushika. You have to repay the loan. Very high interests too. You'd rather get that loan then go to the middle east where you are certain of the returns...
If you see how some girls are shaming wamurtha on TikTok utajua watu hawataki kuambiwa ukweli ...I know a lady she here in Saudi her dota amerapiwa Mara mbili ukiona akipeana iyo story hana ata iyo uoga aki and when you ask her utaenda home lini anasema hana haraka sasa swali langu ni uyo mtoi wake atawai samehea mamake kweli ??kaba mwana gukira mbeca
@@gracenjogu8958 njogu you are right about people avoiding the truth,sawa basi thats y things will keep on happening en we should not question God coz the decisions we make leads us to where we are,mundu niagithondeke maisha yake. Basi
God bless you wamuratha. Most people will always hate FACTS💯 Continue reminding us on the things we actually know but we keep on forgetting. God bless you again♥🙏
Very true anasema ukweli some people wako huku Raha tu am in Qatar and majority huacha bwana zao Kenya na madharau wanakuja huku Raha na kujiuza, I salute to the few who work ,watoto wanawachwa Kenya wajitawale
I am a child whose mother left for abroad studies, ndio aongezwe cheo job. We had been evicted from a rental, slept hungry, and even stayed sick all through dad drunk and slept around, doing road trips. Eventually mama made it, got a promotion, and bought land and built a big lovely home. Today it's our home since dad eventually left after mama suffered a stroke. I will always be grateful to my mother for the sacrifice my mother made, today my sisters and I have a place to call home. Mama is an orphan, so huyo shosh na guks we don't know. Dad nayeye alisema tusiwai gawa shamba kwao home. Wamuratha leo hii vile maisha ni ngumu tungekuwa wapi kama sio mum kutupea pahali pa kukaa??? To every woman who makes that sacrifice, to go and hussle in middle east may our almighty God bless you, your children and your generation as He has blessed mine! And go get a good future for them- they will appreciate your sacrifice, I promise!
Thankyou child.. am a long distance mother.. n my children will call me blessed jus like ur calling your mom blessed. Because it's a sacrifice n its worth it
I grew up with an absent mother. We r 5 of us. Kazi ilikua wanaume tu. I have no good relationship with her. I got married to a wonderful husband. I chose to stay home for my 2 kids. They turned out so well, both are high performers in school. Almost finishing campus. Now my husband has put up a business for me. I have no regrets. And my family is happy. I adore my children. Glory to God
I see mixed feelings hapa... Many people hating on her... What she means is that parenting sio pesa tu.... Sijui hii chuki yote ni ya nini... Why can't you understand kwanza before ucomment vibaya... Aaah.. People are so quick to judge... Hajui shida aje na ameishi miaka mingi kutuliko... 😏😏
Exactly watoto wetu siyo pesa wanakuwanga haja nazo ni upendo wetu and bythe way hiyo upendo haiko ilipotea zamani sana ju hatuwapei hiyo upendo ifeel so sad for our kids this is naked truth
She is thinking shallow... how many children hv been raised by both parents and they are thieves n drunkards... a mom who leaves her child is biting a bullet its mostly a life n death situation.
Mum nakupenda sana bat leo nimesema no juu atuwendi nikupenda siku hizi maisha hiko juu kuna ..kwaza mtu ako na mtoi high school ...si wazee yote wana futa bangi ...mungu ndio mlezi mwema
I thank God my Dad has always come home every Friday since I was in class 6 and now am 30,he never ran to nairobi life.God bless my father.i agree presence is better than presents
Rev Niko gulf leaving my babies with my parents it was not easy coz I remember when I boarded at jkia I cried when I think of my kids.not easy at all but am hoping to reunite soon
This is very true my siblings and I are a victim of this... Tomorrow I'll be giving my story about this topic on my TH-cam channel you've spoken for more than a million children. Thank you so much.# No shame in speaking the truth.
They should work and provide for their families, that’s why they’re men in the first place! Also I take this opportunity to thank them for taking the innate role of protecting bestowed on men by God seriously! Thank you for protecting us and for your service men. It’s simply the role of a man to protect and to provide, every woman should check on that before giving their womb to weak, silly, abusive and lazy men, reject from hell type of men! According to psychology children with only one available parent who’s present and mentally healthy grow very well. Children of military men are so much well taken care of.
Mtu anazaa peke yake aachwe alee vile anaona vyema. Ata watoto walie njaa, wakose masomo sionangi watu wakikuja ku support. I have seen good children in kenya and brought by grand parents while their parent are working abroad. I have seen children brought by both parent or single parent and are good too. I have witnessed children brought same but are bad charactered. So i put every soul of our children in JESUS hand. It is not by our own power. What we declare by our tongue come to pass. Declare good things and pray for your children then leave everything at his hand.
I wish also people would practise delayed gratification and save first. I didnt marry not get a kid and no serious boyfred till i was over thate. People( those women i studied with in the 90s and who got married as teens after class eight in the village made fun of me wakachoka. now they are leaving their marriages in masses and heading to gulf or returning to their fathers homestead some as grandmothers since their teen dotas gave birth hehe. ). I shall be able to bring up my kids comfortably, God first.
I can see many disagree and for a reason, but to me, am with you 100%,a mother's presence and love is more than everything. Even for people working in Kenya and are always busy with no time for the kids... Let's try to be intentional.
Money ain't everything...I see some ladies who think providing for their children is the only goal in life while they are far away😭😭😭they don't know the damage...it hurts but Mungu atusaidie
Am glad to hear but!!! Am here to say we don't go because we don't care.. We went through a lot so we abind to make ends meet 😭😭let it not be that we don't care remember that we the separated, singled are the talk of the town when we are there🇰🇪 doing nothing. I see and have known a lot of people there leaving with they spouses but have neglected their kids in ushago.. Si wenye tu wame travel Ndio watoto wako na problem ya kuwa drug addict, my mother in law has been home and my brother's in law are horrible drunkard.. Wacheni kutuponda sana juu we don't travel for leisure 😢😢
My mother left the 6 of us and went to Australia for 10 years. It was hard. But 10 years later my siblings and I all joined our mom. Life is good....we were not well off in kenya. Now I have three kids of my own and I'm very optimistic about their future!!! I thank my mom for sacrificing the 10 years without us. Because of her....our generation will be okay.
I agree with you 💯,I used to leave the house at 5:30am and come back at 7pm. My children were under the care of a house help,the moment it hit me I resigned to doing something flexible. I've learned so much about them in just 2 months and I can't replace that with anything. Thanks for such a wonderful topic
@@esthernjau4166 proud of you too, imagine l notice the difference in self esteem of my boys now 11 and 8 years, so you can imagine how young they were then
Good topic, I think it should be the man to go kazi ya nje if it's a must. Mums we need to be close to our kids especially when they are young. Mum's love is irreplaceable.
Wamuratha ona tondu ngwendete umuthi wagua tuothe! Mimi siko gulf na sina watoto kenya. But one thing is for sure andu aria othe mathiaga gulf magatiga ciana kenya makoraguo makinyite muico. First waikara hau ciana ciage irio na githomo what will happen? Si watakuwa wezi jabazi sugu! Na mambo ya drugs. Girl chaod nake atuike desperate ahike kana atuike malaya. Ciana ni Ngai uciroraga tondu ona winacio hau wagwitua kihuhunguiyo no egutuika. I respect all of them aria matigite ciana magathii gwetha umatho. We wamuratha nikuhuna uhunite tutigithie!! Na sitaki makasiriko kwa comment yangu!!
First, each and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Second, we cannot generalise and say it's wrong. For some of us it's the best decision we ever made coz we were able to educate and support our siblings/families. Being 21st century you can communicate with those kids each and every day on real time meaning the relationship is strong. Leaving them with parents is what i would advocate for (did that) and not other relatives. Something to ponder about; for the orphans are they not brought up by other relatives? Don't we have some who turned out alright? Are there no kids who live with their parents here same house yet they don't have any relationship at all, parents leave before kids wake up and return home late night; is that scenario any different? Each and everyone pls consider your situation and make your decision individually, weigh your options. Some of us has to be the difference that we seek. Make plans to travel as often as you can otherwise get your kids join over the holiday. - it's a sacrifice either way.
Thank you for this topic Wamuratha. You are raising awareness on what true parenting and bonding is all about. Kids psychological needs are rarely considered or talked about since we live in a society where financial growth overshadow mental health. Kids left alone by parents (who are going for financial growth) often suffer from bonding issues especially in romantic relationships later on. Keep raising this awareness 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾.
It's OK to raise awareness but not target gulf members.... How about the absentee parents who leave the house early morning and come back late when kids are already asleep. I know it's uncomparable to being away for 2 yrs but it's hard
Thank you wamuratha usichoke kutuambia ukweli I support that. Our parents hawakutupea money or any plot walituonyesha njia wakatufundisha displine na kujitegemea. But siku hizi tuna tafutia watoto pesa tunasahau the best thing we can give them is education and good discipline it doesn't matter kama ni shule ya public.
I disagree with you momaaa..... tutithiaga nikweda ni kwaga otherwise....😭😭😭😭😭 again si watoto wenye wamewachwa tu hupotea ata wenye wako na wazazi karibu....I swear ugeagalia the other side of the story... please don’t judge us 😭😭
Wat do we do if no otherwise,then nduri Hindi ungiikara hau n they need their basics Ngai ateithagia witeithitie, u can't stay n suffer where is u hv alternative
If you choose to go there don't spend more than 3 years, uku ata kunfanyaga mtu anakua nikama kichwa imefungika.. Coz ni kazi tu naizi kazi ni ovious.. Our children neeed our presence it really counts alot in there lives
Thanks for Airing this my social media bae.This has been making me very sad n worried.... Aki wamama wanaacha ata less 5yrs...KIDS GROWING HAVE NO REVERSE
You spoke very well mum... but bado kuna watoto wanakunywa drugs na anakuwanga rebellious na bado wana wazazi wao hapo...🤔🤔🤔🤔 hapo utasema aje mummy...
I appreciate this Ann,,,I usually appreciate my mum who never looked for good life and much money but she was there,,,she made us love our dad with what he had,and today I know what means parents prescence
Mum but there are also parents living in the same country but never see their children. Afadhali the one who has a legit reason of leaving the country coz of work than children who know their parents are in the next town but they have no relationship with their parents. Ongeleshea hao pia
@@annewamurathaofficial666 Hapa ulisema ukweli mtupu. It is bitter truth. Suppose our parents left or deserted us. We will not be who we are. I have embraced my own and i can even die for them . Children have feeling too.
Wamuratha already talked about that( lack of touch or bond with children even locally). I believe this detouchment is what brings about the bitterness we see in our youth today, such as burning of schools, murders in homes and in marriage. These are lessons that should be taken very seriously if we are going to repair our broken society. Thankyou very much Anne Wamuratha for that thought trigger.
@@annewamurathaofficial666 wamuratha thank you so much for not shying away from such issues, parental guidance is very important iyo yote umeongea ni kweli.
Life Life Life!!! For sure,life has got many challenges. I'm not in his life for 7yrs. I equally pass mental pressures as he does. I know prayers works but again Dr.Ann here got the best analysis which is nothing but the truth.Life is not balanced🤨 Some come for 2years and go settle their things comfortably. It takes some 5yrs and some 10yrs to do the same. Not because they don't care about their children's moral growth but thats what life serves them. It's called life! Everything to God in prayers.
You can go to the middle east but don't stay there forever, 2 years imetosha ukienda sana 3 years coz mtoi nivile unamlea.. Tena no one said huezi make it in kenya ukisharudi kutoka uko, it all depends on your perseption
@@mercy254kenya-b7 You also do not understand the pain of leaving your children and finding them in coffin after they have been abused and murdered. It happens.
i really love your stories and am a huge fun. But always remember on every story or theory there is a positive point of it and the negative point of it. Its only viewed on certain perspective that has much support on it either adding value or reduction of it.
I would only say you wont understand until you are there. There are very many processes in different countries to live there with your kids and families. Some really want to be with their kids and families, but the visa processes are tedious and may take years to be processed. So its so wrong for you to point fingers without clarity. Its a topic that can not be generalised coz people's circumstances differ much!!
U can say again It not sameone wish to stay away from his or her kids how i wish in her generation they wont have one who will leave kids cz by that she cn understand
I second you on that, we cannot generalise at all. For some it's the only way to put food on the table and for some to get fees paid meaning it's a worth move. Many would never understand since they haven't been in that situation.
Exactly my point. I had a career, I came here USA as a visitor ndio nikuje nitafute job then nilete mtoto wangu, kufika nikapata its not easy coz ata visa ni ya visitor. So I started asylum processes and NCLEX processes bado nikiwa na hope all will be fine nilete mtoto wangu. Process is still ongoing and I can't travel home coz of the asylum thing, so ni mtoto nachukia ama?🥺
My son and I were being evicted No food no hope I got a chance to leave the country and things are different sometimes we have to make tough choices my son today calls me his hero don’t we have parents with children who are drug addicts yet they are staying with them in the same house: utakakanyuireri ndamenyaga Kari Rita thank God if all your kids are ok
@@martinkiberenge4405 i think this has nothing to do with materialthing.It about responsibility als a parent.The Kids never asked to be Born. The parent made the decision and need to be there.Its never a must to fill the World.
@@eunicemartin6814 that's am saying siezi enda kufanya mjengo while there's opportunity kwenda America ndiyo nikae na watoto hapo wasikue wezi ama wanidharau.
I agree with you...i grew in such circumstance n me n my siblings went through nice schools. Actually people thought we were cool kids....we looked okey but we were empty shells.my grandma made us slaves , we were so vulnerable to men as well. Shosh pretended to be nice wen mum visited.... Mum went home after retiring.my bro is a drunkard n me n others don't go home...we don't feel like it n she is there wondering why we don't feel her.......my sis don't talk to her....n she goes like Kai Ari Kii Ndamwikire? This affected us so much. Today my kids hawawezi hata lala away from me for one day. Wooi... Ndamuthaitha .atumia aitu please rerai twana twanyu. Wamuratha kinyira hau.
Thanks Wamuratha for your counsel. There are many factors to consider when making the decision to work abroad /away from the family . The choice is made out of necessity I have worked abroad for theblast 10 years but go home for 2 weeks every 6 -10;weeks. I started working abroad when my children were between ages 23&16 years and in boarding schools/ colleges. We talked and chatted and still do daily. We are very close and they have done well in life. I agree with you but times has changed and its sometimes necessary for mothers to work abroad. Counsel parents how to handle such situations.
I had an opportunity to go to USA 2015....am a mother of 2 kids but I didn't go because I didn't have anyone I can trust my kids with...my mum died when I was a small girl....so I choose to remain here for my kids. But if my mum was alive maybe I could have gone...
I think every situation is different. I left my son with my parents for 3 yrs to the USA. My son was so angry with me when we rejoined. He finally understood
This is the truth an I admit when I take flight leaving my gals I feel so hurt but sometimes no option. I need to think an rethink on this.our kinds are mishandled by our own sisters n brothers n even parents.but tufanye nini for now 😭😭😭😭😭
You have said it all and I couldn't say it any better, but personally I can't regret coming to Gulf ,I know it's just for a short time then I re-unite back with my son ,,
👍👍👍 I'm glad you came up with this subject. Truth hurts, but somebody had to say it. I don't care how much money you make! Or how much education you get! Your children, husband/ wife, must have a priority in your life period! Don't marry if you are planning to continue with your education. Don't give birth if you know you will not be there for that child. Children are not toys, Family is not a project. You will give an account before God.
I have a different story. I Left Kenya in 2014 for 2 years . I had left my kids with my parents. I am grateful I did it juu kwa hiyo harakati I got my husband . Saa hii Niko USA with the kids. Kama singeenda Dubai siningekuwa Kenya nikiteseka ? I would say God have a destiny for us all.
Happy for you Stella
That was a good move halafu unaweka mungu mbele. Even Abraham in the bible took his family and left, but wakati huo he only needed to ride on a donkey and visa was needed. Today if you want to travel you need a visa and most of the time unapata peke yako halafu God willing familia inakufuata. Aren't you happy now with your family? I did the same and im happy. Prophetess Wamuratha mkienda nyinyi nyote muomoke atakosa kazi.
Mwabie
True true girl
Sure!
Hii debate imekuwa ngumu kwangu coz kuna wenye wako fanincially stable na wengine ni maskini. Somebody like my comment
"The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any."
One good mother is worth a hundred teachers.
Take that to the bank.
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Your comment should be in bold letters. Couldn't have said it any better.👍
true.lucky are those who have good mothers. as for me i dont
Well said
Wacha kujudge sana, mambo kwa ground ni tofauti
She is not judging try to get her well
Aki ogeza volume this lady amelea wake na tithe so hajui vile ground iko
She is judging no one. It is upon everyone to do what is right
you are talking the truth, mimi nko Qatar and this is my last time to be here nkiongea na watoto wangu the way they insist that they want me and yet they know I am here for them I won't dare go far from them again blessings that God has kept for me atanibarikia huko huko
AMEN AMEN 🙏
Thanks for that.
Walai it hurts mtoi saying anakumiss 😭
@@mercylameck259 kwanza agojeke tu you cry like a baby thinking maybe if you are there with him/her hangegojeka but I thank God I have a careling family they love my kids alot and that makes me Stronger coz ata nkiwa home they like to stay with my mum and my siblings but being near wakiniona time to time it's my prayer
In the same situation 😩
I like your teachings Anne you have helped me and family so far am now able to take God care of my Family 🙏 Goa bless you.
Normally I watch your stories without commenting but hii imenifurahisha sana! Naked truth!
I left my daughter when she was 1&half years, now she is almost 4 and I feel so bad because she doesn't even recognize me as her mother 😭 I want to go back and collect my mistakes before it's too late.
I know how it feels, wasnt brought up by my mother. The time i needed her the most hakuwa. Its sad
@@davidkamau1715 I also went through the same thing and I wouldn't want it to reach to that point.
Go ahead darling, may God Almighty make every crooked way straight for you 😘in Jesus name
@@annyngethe1356 amen, thanks mama
Same with me here😪😪😪kwanza yangu ni worst coz I don't even talk to him😭😭😭
Earlier this year when I was home, I told my 5yr old that am going back to work abroad to look for money, he collected all the money in the house including coins, gave me and said, "Baba kama ni pesa chukua hii na usiniache"
Your reaction was as good as mine.
Wooi njogu I can imagine it's sad but poverty is bad
woiye
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Tucii twakwa .nonginya ngomererie.God help me.
As many may disagree on what WaMuratha is saying, I wish we can all take this and start a discussion within ourselves. We are gonna provide for our kids while not present,what will be their tomorrow like? Huyo mama anauza soko and raising kiddos without much is always there, encouraging and motivating her kiddos. Wait and see what their tomorrow will be like. May God give us wisdom 🙏.
I agree with you, but in the Kenya we are in, will all of us get do the kiosk, mama fua, and mijengo jobs? Can they accommodate all the jobless people in Kenya? Let us not pretend we do not know how things are. Some of us are privileged to be here with our kids but not everyone is lucky to get that opportunity. I wish this is being taken to the government to try and create more jobs. Sio kila mtu huku ako an uwezo ya kupata capital. Business ni uncertain huku, get a loan may be job ikose kushika. You have to repay the loan. Very high interests too. You'd rather get that loan then go to the middle east where you are certain of the returns...
Very true,,thanks
True
If you see how some girls are shaming wamurtha on TikTok utajua watu hawataki kuambiwa ukweli ...I know a lady she here in Saudi her dota amerapiwa Mara mbili ukiona akipeana iyo story hana ata iyo uoga aki and when you ask her utaenda home lini anasema hana haraka sasa swali langu ni uyo mtoi wake atawai samehea mamake kweli ??kaba mwana gukira mbeca
@@gracenjogu8958 njogu you are right about people avoiding the truth,sawa basi thats y things will keep on happening en we should not question God coz the decisions we make leads us to where we are,mundu niagithondeke maisha yake. Basi
Angikoruo kenya gutire mawira andu macoke ningi thina wongerereke
Andu nimoimagare magethe
God bless you wamuratha. Most people will always hate FACTS💯 Continue reminding us on the things we actually know but we keep on forgetting. God bless you again♥🙏
Hapo umenena
Facts of more nonsense
Very true anasema ukweli some people wako huku Raha tu am in Qatar and majority huacha bwana zao Kenya na madharau wanakuja huku Raha na kujiuza, I salute to the few who work ,watoto wanawachwa Kenya wajitawale
Wow!wow! bitter truth n very educative
Learned alot thank you so much
I am a child whose mother left for abroad studies, ndio aongezwe cheo job.
We had been evicted from a rental, slept hungry, and even stayed sick all through dad drunk and slept around, doing road trips.
Eventually mama made it, got a promotion, and bought land and built a big lovely home. Today it's our home since dad eventually left after mama suffered a stroke.
I will always be grateful to my mother for the sacrifice my mother made, today my sisters and I have a place to call home.
Mama is an orphan, so huyo shosh na guks we don't know. Dad nayeye alisema tusiwai gawa shamba kwao home.
Wamuratha leo hii vile maisha ni ngumu tungekuwa wapi kama sio mum kutupea pahali pa kukaa???
To every woman who makes that sacrifice, to go and hussle in middle east may our almighty God bless you, your children and your generation as He has blessed mine! And go get a good future for them- they will appreciate your sacrifice, I promise!
Umeongea the naked truth.....Ambia wamuratha alipata bwana akiwa kasichana kadogo, hawezi elewa the situation ya gulf hustlers
Yes mum you are very right.children need parental love not money.
Very right mummy
Thank you for your comment may your mum Live long.
Thankyou child.. am a long distance mother.. n my children will call me blessed jus like ur calling your mom blessed. Because it's a sacrifice n its worth it
Wamuratha ni waria. I turned down a six figure salary for the sake of my 3 boys. No regrets.
I grew up with an absent mother. We r 5 of us. Kazi ilikua wanaume tu. I have no good relationship with her. I got married to a wonderful husband. I chose to stay home for my 2 kids. They turned out so well, both are high performers in school. Almost finishing campus. Now my husband has put up a business for me. I have no regrets. And my family is happy. I adore my children. Glory to God
That’s how it should be.
Wow"
I see mixed feelings hapa... Many people hating on her... What she means is that parenting sio pesa tu....
Sijui hii chuki yote ni ya nini... Why can't you understand kwanza before ucomment vibaya... Aaah..
People are so quick to judge... Hajui shida aje na ameishi miaka mingi kutuliko... 😏😏
I love your thinking grace😘 people are so quick to judge💯
Exactly watoto wetu siyo pesa wanakuwanga haja nazo ni upendo wetu and bythe way hiyo upendo haiko ilipotea zamani sana ju hatuwapei hiyo upendo ifeel so sad for our kids this is naked truth
Hatred haikosi where there is a truth.
If you have never gone to abroad you can't understand why people go.
She is thinking shallow... how many children hv been raised by both parents and they are thieves n drunkards... a mom who leaves her child is biting a bullet its mostly a life n death situation.
Mum nakupenda sana bat leo nimesema no juu atuwendi nikupenda siku hizi maisha hiko juu kuna ..kwaza mtu ako na mtoi high school ...si wazee yote wana futa bangi ...mungu ndio mlezi mwema
I thank God my Dad has always come home every Friday since I was in class 6 and now am 30,he never ran to nairobi life.God bless my father.i agree presence is better than presents
Let's try to balance both money and family =steve [USA] good advice mama
Rev Niko gulf leaving my babies with my parents it was not easy coz I remember when I boarded at jkia I cried when I think of my kids.not easy at all but am hoping to reunite soon
This is very true my siblings and I are a victim of this... Tomorrow I'll be giving my story about this topic on my TH-cam channel you've spoken for more than a million children. Thank you so much.# No shame in speaking the truth.
I will be watching you
@@Jenniferspace alright
💃🏽💃🏽to your channel
@@janendungu3498 it will be uploaded before noon.. karibu
I have a question: what is your opinion about military men? How should they relate with their children and wife?
They should work and provide for their families, that’s why they’re men in the first place! Also I take this opportunity to thank them for taking the innate role of protecting bestowed on men by God seriously! Thank you for protecting us and for your service men. It’s simply the role of a man to protect and to provide, every woman should check on that before giving their womb to weak, silly, abusive and lazy men, reject from hell type of men! According to psychology children with only one available parent who’s present and mentally healthy grow very well. Children of military men are so much well taken care of.
hapo itabidi muzoee sasa
I'm not a kikuyu, buy i understand. You are blessed mum.TRUE....
You are wise.i like your show.thankyou,thankyou. From machakos
Good teaching chr need parents not material things.Songa mbele Wamuratha.
Thankyou… You have spoken the Truth. 🙏 Amen. God Bless you
Mum umenena. This is the truth and nothing else but the truth.
Yes it's real true wamuratha I support you ,am in Qatar and wengine sio shida wanaacha bwana zao na madharau wanakuja huku kuzurura na kujiuza na raha
Mtu anazaa peke yake aachwe alee vile anaona vyema. Ata watoto walie njaa, wakose masomo sionangi watu wakikuja ku support. I have seen good children in kenya and brought by grand parents while their parent are working abroad. I have seen children brought by both parent or single parent and are good too. I have witnessed children brought same but are bad charactered. So i put every soul of our children in JESUS hand. It is not by our own power. What we declare by our tongue come to pass. Declare good things and pray for your children then leave everything at his hand.
Well said
I totally agree with you,I would always go with my kid wherever,coz I know they value of a parents presence
Can you go to Saudi with your child?
@@george1528 Hell no..and since its impossible.. Ad rather not go at all.
I wish also people would practise delayed gratification and save first. I didnt marry not get a kid and no serious boyfred till i was over thate. People( those women i studied with in the 90s and who got married as teens after class eight in the village made fun of me wakachoka. now they are leaving their marriages in masses and heading to gulf or returning to their fathers homestead some as grandmothers since their teen dotas gave birth hehe. ). I shall be able to bring up my kids comfortably, God first.
I can see many disagree and for a reason, but to me, am with you 100%,a mother's presence and love is more than everything. Even for people working in Kenya and are always busy with no time for the kids... Let's try to be intentional.
Ona aria mena ithe na nyina responsible no manyuaga njohi na ndawa.
Very true. Aiitu matikunywa in Jesus Christ mighty.
Wamuratha thank you its a nice advice,its my prayer next year I will stay with daughter.
Money ain't everything...I see some ladies who think providing for their children is the only goal in life while they are far away😭😭😭they don't know the damage...it hurts but Mungu atusaidie
Am glad to hear but!!! Am here to say we don't go because we don't care.. We went through a lot so we abind to make ends meet 😭😭let it not be that we don't care remember that we the separated, singled are the talk of the town when we are there🇰🇪 doing nothing. I see and have known a lot of people there leaving with they spouses but have neglected their kids in ushago.. Si wenye tu wame travel Ndio watoto wako na problem ya kuwa drug addict, my mother in law has been home and my brother's in law are horrible drunkard.. Wacheni kutuponda sana juu we don't travel for leisure 😢😢
I take your advice...be blessed.
My mother left the 6 of us and went to Australia for 10 years. It was hard. But 10 years later my siblings and I all joined our mom. Life is good....we were not well off in kenya. Now I have three kids of my own and I'm very optimistic about their future!!! I thank my mom for sacrificing the 10 years without us. Because of her....our generation will be okay.
You have talked 100%truth may God help our generation
I agree with you 💯,I used to leave the house at 5:30am and come back at 7pm.
My children were under the care of a house help,the moment it hit me I resigned to doing something flexible.
I've learned so much about them in just 2 months and I can't replace that with anything.
Thanks for such a wonderful topic
Your previous life is my current situation. May God help me
@@Dr.JaneNjoroge ItTakes baby steps,all will be fine
@@esthernjau4166 l also resigned from the bank to be with my young kids, 7 years later and now working with GOK and that was the best decision l made.
@@carolinemutegi1056 It's the toughest decision to make yet the most important thing to do.
Am proud of you dear
@@esthernjau4166 proud of you too, imagine l notice the difference in self esteem of my boys now 11 and 8 years, so you can imagine how young they were then
Good topic, I think it should be the man to go kazi ya nje if it's a must. Mums we need to be close to our kids especially when they are young. Mum's love is irreplaceable.
Thats true
If you know what pple go through dio waede outside hakuna mama anaeza Chukua miguu aache watoi akiwa hawapedi…. I thank God for my mom
Utakanyuiriire ndoi ke ritaa,,,nihayo tuu,God bless my dad
Wao wonderful advice
Be with your family wherever you are. Very important.
Its true
I want you to know these people loves their children and making the decision to leave their loved ones behind is not easy!
She thinks it's easy... Only Mtu amekua shida can understand
Wamuratha ona tondu ngwendete umuthi wagua tuothe! Mimi siko gulf na sina watoto kenya. But one thing is for sure andu aria othe mathiaga gulf magatiga ciana kenya makoraguo makinyite muico. First waikara hau ciana ciage irio na githomo what will happen? Si watakuwa wezi jabazi sugu! Na mambo ya drugs. Girl chaod nake atuike desperate ahike kana atuike malaya. Ciana ni Ngai uciroraga tondu ona winacio hau wagwitua kihuhunguiyo no egutuika. I respect all of them aria matigite ciana magathii gwetha umatho. We wamuratha nikuhuna uhunite tutigithie!! Na sitaki makasiriko kwa comment yangu!!
First, each and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Second, we cannot generalise and say it's wrong. For some of us it's the best decision we ever made coz we were able to educate and support our siblings/families. Being 21st century you can communicate with those kids each and every day on real time meaning the relationship is strong.
Leaving them with parents is what i would advocate for (did that) and not other relatives. Something to ponder about; for the orphans are they not brought up by other relatives? Don't we have some who turned out alright? Are there no kids who live with their parents here same house yet they don't have any relationship at all, parents leave before kids wake up and return home late night; is that scenario any different?
Each and everyone pls consider your situation and make your decision individually, weigh your options. Some of us has to be the difference that we seek. Make plans to travel as often as you can otherwise get your kids join over the holiday. - it's a sacrifice either way.
It's a thorny issue.To each their own.
Well said
TRUE TRUE TRUE!!!100%
Mrs Wamuratha.Thanks for this great conversation, watching you from Jeddah city.
Tuko Saudi tukioshea waarabu vyoo na bado tunsjikaza💪💪💪tigana na ithui tondu tutiathire nikwenda
Thank you for this topic Wamuratha.
You are raising awareness on what true parenting and bonding is all about. Kids psychological needs are rarely considered or talked about since we live in a society where financial growth overshadow mental health.
Kids left alone by parents (who are going for financial growth) often suffer from bonding issues especially in romantic relationships later on.
Keep raising this awareness 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾.
It's OK to raise awareness but not target gulf members.... How about the absentee parents who leave the house early morning and come back late when kids are already asleep. I know it's uncomparable to being away for 2 yrs but it's hard
Haha ninie njitagwa elithabethi😂😂😂😂
Thank you wamuratha usichoke kutuambia ukweli I support that. Our parents hawakutupea money or any plot walituonyesha njia wakatufundisha displine na kujitegemea. But siku hizi tuna tafutia watoto pesa tunasahau the best thing we can give them is education and good discipline it doesn't matter kama ni shule ya public.
Very true Mum, thanks for discussing this issue
That's true watching from Saudi Arabia
I disagree with you momaaa..... tutithiaga nikweda ni kwaga otherwise....😭😭😭😭😭 again si watoto wenye wamewachwa tu hupotea ata wenye wako na wazazi karibu....I swear ugeagalia the other side of the story... please don’t judge us 😭😭
Tamwire...njikare nao hau maandie
But ave seen pipo quit their jobs here to go abroad
Ma tigai gutuhura surely 😭😭😭not good
Wat do we do if no otherwise,then nduri Hindi ungiikara hau n they need their basics Ngai ateithagia witeithitie, u can't stay n suffer where is u hv alternative
If you choose to go there don't spend more than 3 years, uku ata kunfanyaga mtu anakua nikama kichwa imefungika.. Coz ni kazi tu naizi kazi ni ovious.. Our children neeed our presence it really counts alot in there lives
Thanks for Airing this my social media bae.This has been making me very sad n worried.... Aki wamama wanaacha ata less 5yrs...KIDS GROWING HAVE NO REVERSE
Wamuratha wi muthaka that hairstyle is🔥🔥💞
You are so right mama
Ciana ciakwa ciatuirwo ngombo, ndingigeria ringi. Ruutha tuikara nao. Working from home is a blessing for all of us.
This is a bitter truth aki it pains mtoi always asking utakam lini anakumiss 😭 please God remember us we wish to watch our children grow
You spoke very well mum... but bado kuna watoto wanakunywa drugs na anakuwanga rebellious na bado wana wazazi wao hapo...🤔🤔🤔🤔 hapo utasema aje mummy...
I appreciate this Ann,,,I usually appreciate my mum who never looked for good life and much money but she was there,,,she made us love our dad with what he had,and today I know what means parents prescence
Mum but there are also parents living in the same country but never see their children. Afadhali the one who has a legit reason of leaving the country coz of work than children who know their parents are in the next town but they have no relationship with their parents. Ongeleshea hao pia
I have said it even in Kenya na watoto hawakujyi
@@annewamurathaofficial666 Hapa ulisema ukweli mtupu. It is bitter truth. Suppose our parents left or deserted us. We will not be who we are. I have embraced my own and i can even die for them . Children have feeling too.
Good point...
Wamuratha already talked about that( lack of touch or bond with children even locally). I believe this detouchment is what brings about the bitterness we see in our youth today, such as burning of schools, murders in homes and in marriage. These are lessons that should be taken very seriously if we are going to repair our broken society. Thankyou very much Anne Wamuratha for that thought trigger.
@@annewamurathaofficial666 wamuratha thank you so much for not shying away from such issues, parental guidance is very important iyo yote umeongea ni kweli.
God protect my boy you know what i went through it was not a simple decision to leave him
Hugs to you my dear, I see you, I celebrate you, keep winning children understand...
Hahaha!!! The the hurts,ati kifurana gia kinyau.U,ve made my day
Well stated mum. This is a bitter truth mama. Touching lives.
Riu MA ri, weega niguikara nao hau nyone magithinika? Nakuelewa Sana mum but Sasa hapa tunawaachia mungu sababu hatuna LA kufanya.
Life Life Life!!! For sure,life has got many challenges. I'm not in his life for 7yrs. I equally pass mental pressures as he does. I know prayers works but again Dr.Ann here got the best analysis which is nothing but the truth.Life is not balanced🤨 Some come for 2years and go settle their things comfortably. It takes some 5yrs and some 10yrs to do the same. Not because they don't care about their children's moral growth but thats what life serves them. It's called life! Everything to God in prayers.
+974🇶🇦
Kama hujawahi experience huwezi elewa. Thina ni muuru kwi ngui. Poverty knows no dignity. I loathe it
True she doesent understand the pain
You can go to the middle east but don't stay there forever, 2 years imetosha ukienda sana 3 years coz mtoi nivile unamlea.. Tena no one said huezi make it in kenya ukisharudi kutoka uko, it all depends on your perseption
@@mercy254kenya-b7 You also do not understand the pain of leaving your children and finding them in coffin after they have been abused and murdered. It happens.
Wooow habari ndio iyo... wonderful
God bless you mom you're a blessing. You always inspires us in a bigger way. Keep the fire burning
This is very true.It is not all about money.Love and relationship is very important.
i really love your stories and am a huge fun. But always remember on every story or theory there is a positive point of it and the negative point of it. Its only viewed on certain perspective that has much support on it either adding value or reduction of it.
I would only say you wont understand until you are there. There are very many processes in different countries to live there with your kids and families. Some really want to be with their kids and families, but the visa processes are tedious and may take years to be processed. So its so wrong for you to point fingers without clarity. Its a topic that can not be generalised coz people's circumstances differ much!!
U can say again
It not sameone wish to stay away from his or her kids how i wish in her generation they wont have one who will leave kids cz by that she cn understand
I second you on that, we cannot generalise at all. For some it's the only way to put food on the table and for some to get fees paid meaning it's a worth move. Many would never understand since they haven't been in that situation.
Exactly my point. I had a career, I came here USA as a visitor ndio nikuje nitafute job then nilete mtoto wangu, kufika nikapata its not easy coz ata visa ni ya visitor. So I started asylum processes and NCLEX processes bado nikiwa na hope all will be fine nilete mtoto wangu. Process is still ongoing and I can't travel home coz of the asylum thing, so ni mtoto nachukia ama?🥺
She is very naive and shallow. Some of us pray day n night for our children to join us.
@@truthbetold3102 you have my case exactly. So did you write the NCLEX? I'm in the process of revision right now.
My son and I were being evicted No food no hope I got a chance to leave the country and things are different sometimes we have to make tough choices my son today calls me his hero don’t we have parents with children who are drug addicts yet they are staying with them in the same house: utakakanyuireri ndamenyaga Kari Rita thank God if all your kids are ok
Wamuratha said, you choose wisely. Kama kuna mtu atatake care your kids vizuri well and good bt never go for more than ten years
Tiga kwaria cia ruraya tondu ndurì warìa thìna ugaikara thììna inì kenya. Mùndù aikare Kenya marìe mahiga?
Njikare Kenya na mùshara wa 3k per month na rùraya ngùthiì kuona 300k per month njoke njikare kenya na stress? Rubbish
@@peterndegwa2930 300k? wengi hulipwa about 40k food and accomodation provided
@@peterndegwa2930 uko wapi huko kwa 300k nikuje🤣🤣🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
@@peterndegwa2930 Show me, what outweighs what and how?".. Your kid/s life or, "........300k?".
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Ooh my this was an insight thanks wamuratha,,,,,nii na 🎒 kmngwenda the touching of the family.
On Point Mami😍😍😍😍.
I Hope the message will be heard to those it meant to reach.
Uzizae kama you cannot take care of the mini being.
Chunga kuongea hivo usifisirike uuwe wenye umezaa coz ulikua na uwezo.
@@martinkiberenge4405 i think this has nothing to do with materialthing.It about responsibility als a parent.The Kids never asked to be Born. The parent made the decision and need to be there.Its never a must to fill the World.
@@eunicemartin6814 that's am saying siezi enda kufanya mjengo while there's opportunity kwenda America ndiyo nikae na watoto hapo wasikue wezi ama wanidharau.
Lakini wababa waache kutesa wamama
Ndio wamama wanaenda middle east🙆♀️🙆♀️🙆♀️wazee amkeni muende vibarua na mpende wake wenu
true! so many irresponsible men.
Sasa umenena hapo , main reason mothers are living their kids is bcz men have become irresponsible...
I agree with you...i grew in such circumstance n me n my siblings went through nice schools. Actually people thought we were cool kids....we looked okey but we were empty shells.my grandma made us slaves , we were so vulnerable to men as well. Shosh pretended to be nice wen mum visited.... Mum went home after retiring.my bro is a drunkard n me n others don't go home...we don't feel like it n she is there wondering why we don't feel her.......my sis don't talk to her....n she goes like Kai Ari Kii Ndamwikire? This affected us so much.
Today my kids hawawezi hata lala away from me for one day.
Wooi... Ndamuthaitha .atumia aitu please rerai twana twanyu.
Wamuratha kinyira hau.
Very True Mama. I agree kabisa watoto wangu siwaachi mtu yeyote hata ndege. Wacha tupambane na maisha pamoja.
I totally agree 💯….. couples in different countries there’s no home there just lying 🤥 each other. Long distance is a scam!!!!
Thanks Wamuratha for your counsel. There are many factors to consider when making the decision to work abroad /away from the family . The choice is made out of necessity I have worked abroad for theblast 10 years but go home for 2 weeks every 6 -10;weeks. I started working abroad when my children were between ages 23&16 years and in boarding schools/ colleges. We talked and chatted and still do daily. We are very close and they have done well in life. I agree with you but times has changed and its sometimes necessary for mothers to work abroad. Counsel parents how to handle such situations.
NM
Aitu matigukua in Jesus mighty name, matikwanagwo may
God protect them,
amen
Thanks mama Wamuratha as well as the show is perfect and teaching us always outside the society and community
people need to listen and examine without throwing stones,I agree with her 💯
True May God bless you 🙏❤
Tikwenda twendaga kumatiga maa..tanii ndatigire gakwa kena mwaka na mwieri muguoja.ngitigire mami .ngithii ndionaga ihuti ririthii ni thiina uria ndarii naguo...nginya kibarua kiu urauga kia 200 ndiakionaga.nariu ndingirira guka guku.......hope wamuratha niurona atumia makiendia ciana. aria angi kuraga ciana ciao nao makeyuraga...ni mathina nginya mundu agakinya muico......nii nguhoya Ngai agitire ciana ciakwa. na matikanate ikinya ririra riagiriire🙏🙏🙏
Mrs Wamuratha.Kindly have a conversation in regards to ibuku ria Alawii 18, addressing to our nyumba ya mumbi.
I agree with you mum, as much as we need money to raise our kids mothers love and presence is more important.
Ndutucaririe wira wone tugiikara Kenya nihaku nitondu wi wira
I had an opportunity to go to USA 2015....am a mother of 2 kids but I didn't go because I didn't have anyone I can trust my kids with...my mum died when I was a small girl....so I choose to remain here for my kids. But if my mum was alive maybe I could have gone...
Hello mum where can I get an school of guidance and canceling , am mary kamau
I support u mum,nlisafiri 2012 my sons were slaves in that house
Your looking smart mum Glory and honour belong to God
I think every situation is different. I left my son with my parents for 3 yrs to the USA. My son was so angry with me when we rejoined. He finally understood
This is the truth an I admit when I take flight leaving my gals I feel so hurt but sometimes no option. I need to think an rethink on this.our kinds are mishandled by our own sisters n brothers n even parents.but tufanye nini for now 😭😭😭😭😭
You have said it all and I couldn't say it any better, but personally I can't regret coming to Gulf ,I know it's just for a short time then I re-unite back with my son ,,
Ti kwenda tūngîendire gūcitiga nî thîîna mūūru.
Kenya tūtingîiganîra tūrî aingî kaba kumagara.Mumagari nî wa njūa igîrî no tūgacoka Ngai witū enda.😭.
Well said Mum. May God help us mothers. A mother child love is very essential.
👍👍👍 I'm glad you came up with this subject. Truth hurts, but somebody had to say it. I don't care how much money you make! Or how much education you get! Your children, husband/ wife, must have a priority in your life period! Don't marry if you are planning to continue with your education. Don't give birth if you know you will not be there for that child. Children are not toys, Family is not a project. You will give an account before God.