Also if you *are* really listening then I have an accessibility complaint. Can you please enable auto captions? That's like the bare minimum you can do to help the deaf/hard of hearing community enjoy your videos too!
Squishes is qpr (queer platonic relationship) crush. So if you would want a relationship without wanting anything sexual it could be called a squish. For those who things like crushes implies something they don't want squish is a useful term
Since no one else is talking about it, I will: a squish in this kind of context is like a crush, but platonic. You get all the same feelings as a romantic crush, but in a platonic way this comment blew up OMG 😂 hi squish community
Me, a lesbian: *has a “gal pal” who I flirt with regularly, share mutual gay panic, speak with about anything and everything (even our “gal pal” moments), gets called Romeo and she gets called juliet and she has actively and un-ironically said she wishes she could cuddle with me to sleep* . . . Also me: no I don’t have a girlfriend :’) I’ll ask her out soon a promise but we’ve basically been together for month now ToT
My friend has had this pretty much same situation for years with her friend who is also a girl, and they finally got together and i'm really happy for them, I wish you luck! You two sound adorable
Asked her out last week, got outted to my parents the same day. It’s been a mess but it’s getting better with my parents and I have an amazing girlfriend by my side to help me through it :)
Not necessarily really really wanting to be friends with someone; a squish is a platonic crush, a desire for a strong platonic relationship, a queerplatonic relationship or a non-romantic emotional relationship with a person. Squishes are the platonic or emotional, basically non-romantic equivalent to the romantic crushes. A squish is a platonic attraction or an emotional attraction. (This is one of the 'official' definitions of a squish. I hope I don't sound rude by correcting you slightly!)
As a Polish lesbian, I agree. They perform extraordinary mental gymnastics to pretend EVERYONE in Poland is cis het white and Christian. It's tough for us here. Not the worst there is, obviously, but tough
soo, I looked it up, and: A squish is kind of like a crush, but platonic. Non-sexual, non-romantic, yet you get those butterflies and excitement when you're talking to that person. You look forward to seeing them and seek them out. You glow when you think about them, but as "just a friend"
As a person in the Ace spectrum (and probably aro too, still questioning), this is so helpfull. I felt so confused for a long time but now it make so much sense.
Omg growing up there was this boy and we were best friends since kindergarten and I always got this feeling around him. When my family moved out of state when I was 16 I cried hysterically because we left in the middle of the night so I didn't get to say goodbye 💔 we were best friends and never dated now I realize he was my squishy thxs
anyone else realizing that OT picks up wholesome things like the comic panel background colors making the lesbian flag faster than any of the naughty jokes that are arguably much more obvious?
No one appreciates how with OT's sound effects he actually pays attention to the volume level. like how with "Demon summoning noises!" it's loud and intense and with "ocean noises..." it's distant and quiet.
I like to call myself as queer because let’s be honest, “part of the LGBTQIA community” is a mouthful and seems so formal, and although I know some queers who don’t identify as homosexual refer to themselves as gay, as an aroace who doesn’t experience same-sex attraction, it doesn’t feel right. This post makes me happy and gives me more reasons to love the label
I also prefer queer because the label Lgbtia+ is too long and I don't like to forget identities (and other global labels for the community who are shorter and more easily inclusive are less know)
I love using queer for so many reasons. I’m an enby and attracted to any gender but also don’t really seem to experience attraction in the way most do and exist on the aro/ace spectrum, but I’m also don’t fit most peoples understandings of aro/ace. I love how it lets my identity be simple while also complex. Also reclaiming the word makes me feel a sense of power and I feel like it connects me to a larger community than specific labels. 😊
I always refer to myself as queer. It's a lot easier than trying to explain, when there are multiple labels involved and many people don't understand the ones outside of homosexual, bisexual, and transgender.
I tend to use the word “queer” as just an overall umbrella term for everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community. It helps everyone feel included and it’s just easier to say and type. Sometimes saying or typing LGBTQIA+ is a bit of a mouthful.
Queer is a cultural reclamation in the same vein as Punk was, a supposedly negative word retaken as banner to say "Yeah sure we're not what you like, but fuck you, we exist, we're awesome, and we ain't gonna bend over backwards for your shit" Its great! Very useful umbrella as well
@@blankcanvasstudios3463 I mean, *technically* it used to be a slur, but it’s been reclaimed almost completely by the entire lgbt+ community so you should be fine as long as you don’t say it in a rude way!
In terms of squishes: "A squish is a platonic crush, one where you like someone and want to be close to them, but not in a romantic way." - Urban dictionary
As someone who has experienced sexual assault and losing my grandma to a domestic violence situation, I just want to take the time to thank you, One Topic, for being a safe male. Someone who gives off such kindness, love and respect. Your videos really have helped me not only by creating a safe space for lgbt people, but by also personifying what a safe male looks like and how we all deserve to be treated. Keep being amazing 💙💙
My sister and I are both scared of dudes so we developed a word for a AMAB person we felt safe around. LTM least threatening male. OT gives of LTM energy!
@@ameliasellers6396 thank you💜 I'm definitely in a better environment now! My girlfriend has really taught me a lot about boundaries and taking care of myself. It's really hard when the abuse is within your own family. Makes it hard to heal, so I'm definitely proud of where I am now🙂 thank you for the kind words. Means a lot!
😦 😧😮😲 😱 😭😭😭😭😭😭 There is absolutely nothing that I can say, to either you, @alex paynter, or any of the other women here who are victims of sexual assault and find men unsafe. Or to women here who find men unsafe for any other reason. Because those feelings are not only valid, they're more than justified. I wish for all of the men in your life to be like OT. _Edit:_ Fixed an autocorrect blunder.
To anyone afraid of men for any reason I hope you find some LTM’s you feel safe around and I hope they never betray your trust. I’ve been lucky enough to find a few.
IIRC a squish is a friend crush. IE someone you feel strongly platonically attracted to. if you've ever met someone and thought "damn, i wanna be that person's friend and hang out with them" that is a squish
Last year I came out to my mom as pansexual, demisexual and biromantic. This year I came out as genderfluid. She asked me what the sexuality meant and I explained it. She asked me "when did you realize this" for both. She asked "what should I refer to you as other than my daughter" when I came out as fluid. We stan supportive parents. Also my dad's bi apparently so thats neat. And my grandma is trying to be supportive as best as she can for the time she grew up in. She simply says some variation of "don't say that in public, people will try to kill you," which is a great reminder and just enough support to feel like we can live in peace.
hearing people coming out to their parents, and them being supportive, warms my heart. y'know? this should be a normal event. parents should always love their children for who they are, not who they want them to be. so remember, if you're part of the LGBTQIA+ community, remember, i support you. even if your friends, relatives, parents don't support you, just remember, that there's always a person in your life who will respect you, for who you are.
We stan supportive parents! As a pansexual, demisexual, biromantic, and genderfluid person myself, it makes me really, really happy to see such supportive parents, especially because I know mine aren't. I'm glad that you have these experiences and are comfortable around your family! Very heartwarming, keep being an amazing person, Krystyne!
Another Demi :D I am so glad to see another demi being supported and treated with kindness, even by generations taught not to be kind. It may not be perfect, but the effort there from them is hopeful. And seeing you out and proud just made my week. You are awesome.
Animal fact: the New Mexico Whiptail know as the “Lesbian Lizards” are the result of a hybridization of two other whiptail species- the tiger whiptails and little striped whiptails. Other hybrid all female whiptail species exist but parthenogenesis does not occur in their parent species, meaning that hybridization results in developing the capability for parthenogenesis in these lizards.
I've never felt like I've learned so much in one video. I'm in a really good friend group and I had NO IDEA these two terms existed, but Squish definitely defines my relationship with my closest friend in our group, and Alterous Attraction has help me understand past "crushes" I've had on two of my really good friends. I wish they taught this in school, but alas, you gotta grow up confused until your favorite LGBT+ Ally TH-camr helps you find the terms out of curiosity, and learn more about yourself as a result 🥺
i have learned today that a squishies relationship is like a crush for platonic relationships! im aro ace and have always been so confused about my feelings towards other people, and turns out im not a lesbian, i just thought that girl in my physics class is hot and i want to be friends with her
I'd rather be called handsome than pretty. Handsome is a more genuine compliment and pretty was always used for "yay, you're conforming to gender norms" in my childhood
@@bleucha I dress more masculine, so when I dress to look good, it'd be masculine and pretty doesn't really fit with that. When I was younger I was forced into dresses, shoes that hurt, and scalp-ripping hairstyles and I was called pretty, but that wasn't how I wanted to look, so I guess I associated pretty with just something you say to a little girl when she's conforming to gender roles
Sometimes I forget that parasocial relationships exist, and I think “dang, I’d really wanna be friends with OT.” your personality radiates sweet energy and like,, man. I need more friends like this
Oooooooh. It's called a squish because you wanna be their friend and hug them so badly that you might squish them. Thank you comment section for teaching me new things
I could honestly sit here and write an essay on all the ways this channel has helped me the past 6 months. At first, accepting queer people, then accepting that I am one, then growing and expanding on all the ways I identify. It's sometimes difficult to find any spaces that I actually feel safe and like I'm not going to be judged or harrassed, but I can say with complete certainty that this is the best one. I watch at least one video on this channel before I fall asleep each night because it reminds me that I'm not alone and that I'm allowed to have a moment where I don't worry about anything. I am forever grateful that you've created this space for everyone to get along, regardless of identity. Thank you for being the best ally and just an all around wonderful person.
@@somebody7048 haha good luck with your gender! It was a hell of a ride for me! If i can give one bit of advice it's never say never and don't get too attached to a certain label. That held me back for ages. Allow yourself to change your mind as you learn more about yourself.
@@deadchannel22 Hello, me again. I'd like to let you know that after almost 2 years and 3 months I was able to reach a break through in my gender identity crisis and I've now realized that I'm genderfluid.
"Squish" is actually a platonic enquivalent of the word "crush"! You think this person is really cool and you would love to be their best friend? You most likely have a squish! The word "squish" is just a platonic crush. This word is often used in the arospec community (I'm aroace myself), but isn't limited to it. Anyone can have a squish on someone, allosexual alloromantics too. Also, "smush" is a sexual enquivalent of crush (you're strongly sexually attracted to this person/you think they're hot? you may have a smush on them!) and "swish' is the aesthetic enquivalent of crush (you think they're absolutely gorgeous and you like their clothes/aesthetic? you may have a swish!). The alterous crush is often called "mesh" and sensual one is called lush (sensual attraction is when you enjoy physical affection with someone like hugs or cuddling without it being sexual or romantic)!
My entire life is just squishes because I have too much anxiety to try and go further. If we remain friends, cool, more great. As long as I'm included, I'm happy. Hence cosplaying.
Watched several times, just found out he's straight. I like how he doesn't feel the need to constantly assert his sexuality to distance himself from the LGBTQ peeps he truly supports.
Is it just me or does this guy just make you feel safe and loved? Like honestly I don’t even know the guy but watching his videos makes me feel like I’m not alone. Idk people like him give me a small sliver of hope for this domed world of hate. (The warm and fuzzy vibes go HARD)
I suggest a good reference to be uroshima Taro. It's basically exactly what was described in this video, but with a fisherman and a turtle lady in an underwater Kingdom
I wasn't sure which was funnier, the _"number"_ joke or how proud you were of it. And the "these are the sounds of X" moments are getting better every episode.
This whole video is really comforting and funny But the comic at 7:40 made me feel safe , happy and loved I regularly come back to it and it's incredible Don't forget that no matter what your gender or sexuality is you are loved
I know this was posted a year ago, but when I learned of alterous attraction I also learned something new about myself. Like I always knew that I connected to people in a different way just didn't know how. So Thanks 😊
You litterally made me teared up with this wholesome ending speech. I don't usually comment, but I wanted to say thank you for all the work you do, and all the smile you bring to the faces of the people who watch your videos. Thank you so much.
Same, Batcyan. Same... Goodness, OT! Do you want to make your audience cry? Because that's how you make your audience cry! Thank you for giving so much kindness, love, and understanding to the world! You change lives for the better, and I'll always be grateful for you having changed mine.
A squish is a having an intense, but platonic, feeling toward another person as far as really, really wanting to be someone's friend. It started as a post on AVEN, I believe. The person said that since a sexual attraction is a "smash", and a romantic attraction is a "crush", then a friendship attraction would be a "squish". It makes more sense if you think about the words literally for a sec. Basically picture literally smashing something vs. literally crushing something vs. Squishing something. That's the logic, I believe.
You're right about the origin of squishes, the AVEN poster who came up with it chose it because it's a milder synonym of crushing. I personally love the word because my squishes feel like getting a big hug, so it's very accurate :)
@@Alicia-zf3nq Oh, I never thought of squishes being a big hug! I love it! I'm glad I remember the origins correctly. I saw the post, but it's been years.
@@Toni-lo9ms yeah i kind of do the same thing all the time, but most time i imagine the person i just meet as my bride and then we have kids,but then i think to myself "i am hella gay wtf is going on"
I'm aro ace. I hate the term "squish" but can't deny I've had "I REAAALLLLLY want to be their friend and hang out with them!" thing going before, and gotten occasionally jealous when I got blown off. It's just, I want their time and to do fun things with them, but I'd hate for it to get weird with them trying to make it a romanatic/sexual thing.
There're 2 reason for this 1: most fugivorous animals usually eat the berry (or any small fruits) whole to avoid cracking the seed because most of them contain some kind of toxin (cyanide) 2: the seeds aren't usually big enough for birds to think twice before shoving the whole berry down their throat
Another fun fact: Birds can actually spread plant seeds because of that! They just poop out the whole seed. You wonder how islands originally got plant life? It's that.
@@birdhater004 don't you need teeth for biting? I'm not sure whether there is a different word for biting without teeth in English but I assumed there is, sorry if I'm wrong
9:50 this single post has just answered one of my biggest issues as of late finally! I still think I would prefer to go out with them, but if I can’t ever I’m fine still being their friend because they are very cool.
I feel this way HEAVY for my best friend. She's an ethereal goddess and I love her so much, and if at one point, she had been like "Lyssa, you make my heart sing, wife me pls" I would have done it in a heartbeat (but never actively made any moves. I do kiss her face alot tho). But I'm just as happy being super close friends and watching her and her new husband build the most beautiful life and family.
@@Hopelessdemiromantic oh that's so sweet of you! Fortunately, while those feelings won't go away, I've got myself a beautiful fiancee and couldn't be happier. I feel like it's the true sense of the feeling, like I love her and it would have been dope, but since I love her so much, I don't dwell on what could've been and focus on how happy we both are now :)
0:41 I liked your interpretation better. I want to see a movie about a college age, very 'with the times' person teaching their old but also and accepting grandparent how to throw down and them bonding along the way.
@@objectifiedslime7891 I mean, technically he is part of the LGBTQ+ community, as it's an acronym for LGBTTQIAAP+, which includes Ally. So he is indeed already part of the LGBTQ+ community.
@@objectifiedslime7891 Yeah obviously not, and I don't think Allies should be in the Acronym, but they are, and with that, technically part of the community. Obviously it's way more complex than just that, but if over simplified, they are part of the community. You can call them part of it or not, that's your own personal preference. Either way, have a nice day!!
For anyone who doesn't know: A "squish" is used more in the aromantic community to mean that you really wanna be good friends with someone. If I'm using it wrong, please tell me, but I am about 95% sure.
I'd say it's mostly used by the aro community but not exclusively. You can experience both platonic and romantic attraction, at the same time or separately. Or you could just have one or the other, or neither, and these are all okay
@@ascende_superius so platonic is where you wish to be friends with someone, and romantic is where you have a desire to date someone. I hope that explains it a bit :)
Finally, people talking about alterous attraction! When I first found out there was a word for it, I just felt something in my heart click; a missing piece, one I had been missing for so long, had finally been found, and I hope anyone out there who sees this has that same moment of clarity with their identity someday. ...also I experience alterous attraction to like 80% of my friends at any given time, please send help 😭
✨As someone who’s very queer, I love these extremely queer subreddits. They actually somehow make me happy. And OT’s videos on them make them even better.✨
8:15- Okay OT, so I doubt you’ll get to see this but there is a story about this! So a king (or knight?) got invited to a wedding feast for a fae friend of his. He invited several of his men to accompany him as guards and guests. When the festivities were over, they went to return home. The king’s friend gave him a cat as he mounted his horse and said, “Don’t jump off your horse until this cat does.” The king’s travel party departs. At some time nearing dusk, some of the group say they should stop and plan to make camp. However, the cat hasn’t jumped down yet. The king remains on his horse while some of the guards get down. The moment their feet touch the ground, they disintegrate into bones and then dust. It turns out that 300 years had passed at the wedding party, and touching the ground accelerated them to present. This is one of the origin myths for the Wild Hunt, or the band of horse riding ghosts/spirits/monsters/demons that produce the sound of thunder.
So for anyone who doesn't know....A "Squish" is a platonic crush. It's someone you see and you immediately think, "Wow, I wanna be friends with them!!!" And it's in the same way as a crush, but you don't think about romantic things with them. (All the time ;] ) It's very nice and I think we should popularize it.
On the usage of Queer, I respect that others have reclaimed the word and use it to describe themselves as long as they don’t refer to me as such. Assuming that the people uncomfortable with the word queer are just gatekeepers erases people who may have trauma throughout their lives. More power to you that you can reclaim a word that’s been hurled at us but you don’t get to speak for those of us who don’t.
I think queer sees more usage amongst younger crowds in progressive areas. I think older LGBT peeps in rural areas tend to have been harassed with the word too much to be totally comfortable with it as a label for themselves. The people who act like everyone needs to get over their trauma and just get used to being called a triggering word should try to be a little more understanding of other people's experiences.
The word “queer” is one that we can use to describe ourselves, but that still has too much power to hurt if it’s used by someone outside the community.
Also, ace people only dont have sexual crushes, they can still have crushes, it may be aro people youre thinking of who dont experience romantic crushes :) Ace people can also have squishes of course! But it's not the ace equivilent I'm afraid :D
Thank you so much for this safe space 🥰🏳️🌈 I've learned so much by watching your videos, and warms up my heart to know that this community is receiving so much love, understanding and wholesomeness. Ty ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍
OT; I would like to inform you, that a ‘squish’ is a ‘friend crush’ so somebody who you have a crush on but want to be friends with them instead of dating them, like a popular kid in those movies that people REALLY want to be friends with; i.e.; they have a squish on them.
That alterous attraction thing was really interesting because it's exactly what I feel for my best friend and I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like that!
OT (and to others who want to know as well), to sum it up since you asked what a squish was in the video (09:15). A squish is the asexual/aromantic version of a crush. To go a bit more in depth about what a squish is: A squish is like a crush but non-romantic/sexual and it is widely used by aromantic people, asexuals and aroaces to describe our feelings since there weren't really a word for it. Also having a crush means that you fell in love and wan't to do all the stereotypical things lovers do (Kisses, close contact and "the naughtiest" to name a few), but having a squish can mean (it can be different depending on the person) that you just wan't to be with them, physical contact (not the naughty kind, cuddling and things like that) and other non sexual/romantic things but that still shows affection (also, some kiss their squish, some don't, it depends on the person and what they are ok/comfortable with). Also, I am a new aroace (as of january/february this year) and I haven't really gotten the hang of all the definitions and the "non-allo" meanings of things yet, so I might not be 100% correct with this, but I hope I am not completely wrong at least.
Darn it OT don't hit me with the feels! That was so sweet of you. I really wasn't expecting such a moving end to your video. But that's one of the things I love so much about your videos: humor, learning, and HEART. My dude 🤜🤛
Damn, that ending got me right in the feels... If anyone should be thanking anyone is me to you OT, and not the other way around. Thank you for being such a wholesome light that brings a fun and safe space for those who need it; I know I do sometimes.
🐘 I corrected the part about elephants, haha
please add your suggested subreddits or video ideas here! I am listening 😊
what
All of them
More aspie memes would be sweet OR r/lgbtmemes
Also if you *are* really listening then I have an accessibility complaint. Can you please enable auto captions? That's like the bare minimum you can do to help the deaf/hard of hearing community enjoy your videos too!
Squishes is qpr (queer platonic relationship) crush. So if you would want a relationship without wanting anything sexual it could be called a squish. For those who things like crushes implies something they don't want squish is a useful term
Since no one else is talking about it, I will: a squish in this kind of context is like a crush, but platonic. You get all the same feelings as a romantic crush, but in a platonic way
this comment blew up OMG 😂 hi squish community
May I add that it's commonly used in the arospec community but is not exclusive to it?
Omfg, I finally understand my feelings towards others. Thank you for explaining!!
wait this makes my life make sense
I might be stupid, but what does "in a platonic way" mean? What does platonic mean even?
@@iki9958 platonic means not romantic. Like you're just friends
Whiptail lizards: are cute, bite, and don’t let go.
Just like my lesbian friends.
That’s cute
Nice
Oh look its my ”just friend” with a new video
Hi Click
r/ClickyAndHisPlatonicFriend
@@akumayoxiruma Please tell me that’s a real subreddit
@@caltheuntitled8021 If it already isn't, someone please take the initiative
@@sanjuktadatta9267 it's not one yet, just looked it up
That quiet little “oh” when OT realised was adorable
Right? Before that I was just like “initiate countdown to him realizing.”
4 minutes in and he has already done it twice XD
Tell me you are an innocent, pure cinnamon roll person without telling me you are an innocent, pure cinnamon roll person.
ikr i like how he realized after that boxing granma lol
And hilarious
Me, a lesbian: *has a “gal pal” who I flirt with regularly, share mutual gay panic, speak with about anything and everything (even our “gal pal” moments), gets called Romeo and she gets called juliet and she has actively and un-ironically said she wishes she could cuddle with me to sleep*
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Also me: no I don’t have a girlfriend :’)
I’ll ask her out soon a promise but we’ve basically been together for month now ToT
My friend has had this pretty much same situation for years with her friend who is also a girl, and they finally got together and i'm really happy for them, I wish you luck! You two sound adorable
How did it go?
Asked her out last week, got outted to my parents the same day.
It’s been a mess but it’s getting better with my parents and I have an amazing girlfriend by my side to help me through it :)
@@selenosofia8980 That sucks, but im really glad things are improving! Congrats to you two!
@@selenosofia8980 oh thats nice
the look when he realized what fisting meant i’m crying- o(-(
This!! He was making up that whole scenario in his mind and then _...oh_
@@TheeKaroolyne yeah I laughed so hard
@@1greninjawolfbossdeath648 Saaame 😂
My name is Zara too-
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*sex joke*
*camera focuses on OT's face*
OT:Completely misunderstands it as something wholesome
Wholesome...boxing? Well..
OT when getting it:🍅
I suspect he's doing it on purpose sometimes.
Me in a nutshell.
A « squish » is a platonic crush. It’s basically really really wanting to be friends with someone.
Welp, I just learned something new today too! Thank you!
Not necessarily really really wanting to be friends with someone; a squish is a platonic crush, a desire for a strong platonic relationship, a queerplatonic relationship or a non-romantic emotional relationship with a person. Squishes are the platonic or emotional, basically non-romantic equivalent to the romantic crushes. A squish is a platonic attraction or an emotional attraction. (This is one of the 'official' definitions of a squish. I hope I don't sound rude by correcting you slightly!)
@@lostcamcorderr It’s not rude at all. Honestly I wasn’t 100% sure if the definition was correct since I just went by memory, so thanks !
@@TahinavaiTheKitten I'm glad it didn't sound rude! Your welcome :)
Ooooh, makes sense!
As a Polish lesbian, I agree. They perform extraordinary mental gymnastics to pretend EVERYONE in Poland is cis het white and Christian. It's tough for us here. Not the worst there is, obviously, but tough
oh my god, the way he just deadpan says "Eat the Rich" I'm hyperventilating over here it was dramatic !!!!!
glad I'm not the only one
4:06
soo, I looked it up, and: A squish is kind of like a crush, but platonic. Non-sexual, non-romantic, yet you get those butterflies and excitement when you're talking to that person. You look forward to seeing them and seek them out. You glow when you think about them, but as "just a friend"
Yes! Frequently used in the Aro/Ace community. 💜
It's like a friend crush. You're just super into being friends with a person
@@carriecolvin3789 that’s so sweet wth 😭💖
As a person in the Ace spectrum (and probably aro too, still questioning), this is so helpfull. I felt so confused for a long time but now it make so much sense.
Omg growing up there was this boy and we were best friends since kindergarten and I always got this feeling around him. When my family moved out of state when I was 16 I cried hysterically because we left in the middle of the night so I didn't get to say goodbye 💔 we were best friends and never dated now I realize he was my squishy thxs
anyone else realizing that OT picks up wholesome things like the comic panel background colors making the lesbian flag faster than any of the naughty jokes that are arguably much more obvious?
I noticed that, absolutely adorable lol.
He's got less of a naughty joke sense than most asexuals, and buddy when you see what some of us are like with naughty jokes that is SAYING something
ooooooohhhh an autistic trait :D (sry lol im autistic and almost obsessed with representation
@@rubberdinghy7708 wait he's actually ace?? heck yes
@@rubberdinghy7708 true
No one appreciates how with OT's sound effects he actually pays attention to the volume level. like how with "Demon summoning noises!" it's loud and intense and with "ocean noises..." it's distant and quiet.
I like to call myself as queer because let’s be honest, “part of the LGBTQIA community” is a mouthful and seems so formal, and although I know some queers who don’t identify as homosexual refer to themselves as gay, as an aroace who doesn’t experience same-sex attraction, it doesn’t feel right. This post makes me happy and gives me more reasons to love the label
I also prefer queer because the label Lgbtia+ is too long and I don't like to forget identities (and other global labels for the community who are shorter and more easily inclusive are less know)
Also my mother tongue is french I don't think the word have an history of being used as a slur in french
I use queer because I don't wanna really label myself, but I want something I can tell people. It works for loads of things.
I love using queer for so many reasons. I’m an enby and attracted to any gender but also don’t really seem to experience attraction in the way most do and exist on the aro/ace spectrum, but I’m also don’t fit most peoples understandings of aro/ace. I love how it lets my identity be simple while also complex. Also reclaiming the word makes me feel a sense of power and I feel like it connects me to a larger community than specific labels. 😊
I always refer to myself as queer. It's a lot easier than trying to explain, when there are multiple labels involved and many people don't understand the ones outside of homosexual, bisexual, and transgender.
I tend to use the word “queer” as just an overall umbrella term for everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community. It helps everyone feel included and it’s just easier to say and type. Sometimes saying or typing LGBTQIA+ is a bit of a mouthful.
Queer is a cultural reclamation in the same vein as Punk was, a supposedly negative word retaken as banner to say "Yeah sure we're not what you like, but fuck you, we exist, we're awesome, and we ain't gonna bend over backwards for your shit"
Its great! Very useful umbrella as well
You can also use GRSM stands for gender romantic and sexual minorities
Once, this *straight* dude told me that saying 'queer' was offensive, and after that I only said LGBTQIAP+ for like a month
@@blankcanvasstudios3463 I mean, *technically* it used to be a slur, but it’s been reclaimed almost completely by the entire lgbt+ community so you should be fine as long as you don’t say it in a rude way!
Queer is not a slur, but it can be used as an attack and that is not okay.
Fun fact: Pirates were historically actually pretty okay with the whole gay thing. =>
Im pretty sure they sometimes had gay weddings onboard ships
@@goose4717 thats adorable
Most people/cultures were
@@goose4717 Isn't that where the term _"matey"_ came from? Gay relationships?
@@kissit012 Not after the British Empire started making the rounds they weren't.
In terms of squishes:
"A squish is a platonic crush, one where you like someone and want to be close to them, but not in a romantic way."
- Urban dictionary
T H A N K✨Y O U✨S O✨M U C H
Just realized I have a squish on a boy in my class 😌👍👍
Oh I have one of those.
Squish is such a cute term!
yes, and as a note it is used a lot by aroace people
OT is just like Papyrus: sweet, innocent, and naive in a good way
@tikomeji OT AND PAPYRUS NoooOoOooooOoooOOO
@emergencyfood#3635 NOOOOOO
@stalebread looking forward to take all your kromer
Holy shiz yes
*NYEH HEH HEH!!!*
As someone who has experienced sexual assault and losing my grandma to a domestic violence situation, I just want to take the time to thank you, One Topic, for being a safe male. Someone who gives off such kindness, love and respect. Your videos really have helped me not only by creating a safe space for lgbt people, but by also personifying what a safe male looks like and how we all deserve to be treated. Keep being amazing 💙💙
My sister and I are both scared of dudes so we developed a word for a AMAB person we felt safe around. LTM least threatening male. OT gives of LTM energy!
@Echo Bun its least threatening male
@@ameliasellers6396 thank you💜 I'm definitely in a better environment now! My girlfriend has really taught me a lot about boundaries and taking care of myself. It's really hard when the abuse is within your own family. Makes it hard to heal, so I'm definitely proud of where I am now🙂 thank you for the kind words. Means a lot!
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There is absolutely nothing that I can say, to either you, @alex paynter, or any of the other women here who are victims of sexual assault and find men unsafe. Or to women here who find men unsafe for any other reason.
Because those feelings are not only valid, they're more than justified.
I wish for all of the men in your life to be like OT.
_Edit:_ Fixed an autocorrect blunder.
To anyone afraid of men for any reason I hope you find some LTM’s you feel safe around and I hope they never betray your trust. I’ve been lucky enough to find a few.
OT laughing and then becoming completely deadpan and saying, "eat the rich" is my new favourite thing
Based OT
Based AF indeed
I always thought it was Oti lol
i love youtubers that are like "mostly progressive liberal stuff, but sometimes i hint at being alittle leftist"
@@tieflingcorpse9817 left is liberal
I can confirm, as a lesbian, we do warp reality
True 👍 am too les
"The ultimate power, lesbians!"
-Shadow the Hedgehog
@@Xx_Aberforth_xX "SHADOW WAS LESBIANS THE WHOLE TIME!!!!!" Master Roshi
@@Gamingraptorpro shadow was lebanon 😔
IIRC a squish is a friend crush. IE someone you feel strongly platonically attracted to. if you've ever met someone and thought "damn, i wanna be that person's friend and hang out with them" that is a squish
i have one of those rn. we talk in class and exchanged cookie run ids so i think it's going well hehe
I'm wondering where that friendship went please I need answers (you don't have to answer if you don't want to) @@ratboy2
Last year I came out to my mom as pansexual, demisexual and biromantic.
This year I came out as genderfluid. She asked me what the sexuality meant and I explained it. She asked me "when did you realize this" for both. She asked "what should I refer to you as other than my daughter" when I came out as fluid. We stan supportive parents.
Also my dad's bi apparently so thats neat.
And my grandma is trying to be supportive as best as she can for the time she grew up in. She simply says some variation of "don't say that in public, people will try to kill you," which is a great reminder and just enough support to feel like we can live in peace.
hearing people coming out to their parents, and them being supportive, warms my heart. y'know? this should be a normal event. parents should always love their children for who they are, not who they want them to be. so remember, if you're part of the LGBTQIA+ community, remember, i support you. even if your friends, relatives, parents don't support you, just remember, that there's always a person in your life who will respect you, for who you are.
We stan supportive parents! As a pansexual, demisexual, biromantic, and genderfluid person myself, it makes me really, really happy to see such supportive parents, especially because I know mine aren't. I'm glad that you have these experiences and are comfortable around your family! Very heartwarming, keep being an amazing person, Krystyne!
Another Demi :D
I am so glad to see another demi being supported and treated with kindness, even by generations taught not to be kind. It may not be perfect, but the effort there from them is hopeful. And seeing you out and proud just made my week. You are awesome.
Aww amazing! When I came out to my mum she said
“You know girls can be jerks too,”
She was ALSO bi! :D
@@veedragonjedi That's really nice! ^^
10:03 a squish is like a platonic crush
Thank you
OT, “Eat the rich.”
*dissolves into giggles*
That one surprised me.
three cheers for comrade OT everyone!
OT just unleashed the beast of puns today
You wouldn't get them from any other guy :)
All of his puns are good tho. He's quite *punny*
OT's a treasure of epic proportion
"Gold for mental gymnastics" lol
Yep
0:30 the minute you could see the realization through the sunglasses on ot's face
Animal fact: the New Mexico Whiptail know as the “Lesbian Lizards” are the result of a hybridization of two other whiptail species- the tiger whiptails and little striped whiptails. Other hybrid all female whiptail species exist but parthenogenesis does not occur in their parent species, meaning that hybridization results in developing the capability for parthenogenesis in these lizards.
In the beginning I was on board. At the end my tiny brain hurt.
You just made my brain bleed, I’m suing you
I didn't know squishes and alterous attraction even existed. This is fantastic news!
Also you owe us a dad joke session, OT!
I've never felt like I've learned so much in one video.
I'm in a really good friend group and I had NO IDEA these two terms existed, but Squish definitely defines my relationship with my closest friend in our group, and Alterous Attraction has help me understand past "crushes" I've had on two of my really good friends.
I wish they taught this in school, but alas, you gotta grow up confused until your favorite LGBT+ Ally TH-camr helps you find the terms out of curiosity, and learn more about yourself as a result 🥺
I've been consuming OT's content for HOURS now and I don't seem to get tired. Love the little realization at the dirty jokes lol You got this OT
💜ty
@@OneTopic can you make more from r/traa? those are my favorite
Squish: A platonic "crush." When you really, REALLY want to be friends with someone
Every time I hear "These are the noises that X makes" another year gets added onto my life, OT sound effects are the best
*agreeing noises
@@selenajarv8763 *these are the noises of agreement
LOL this thread made my day
@@OneTopic we are here for chaos and smiles!
@@carolinehileman1104 *chaos and silliness
i have learned today that a squishies relationship is like a crush for platonic relationships! im aro ace and have always been so confused about my feelings towards other people, and turns out im not a lesbian, i just thought that girl in my physics class is hot and i want to be friends with her
"Thank goodness you taught me what f-"
"O h"
OT, if you're reading this, just know you are my absolute favourite.
0:15 I LOVE HOW INOCCENT AND WHOLESOME OT IS 😭🥺🥰
Me 2 :3
I'd rather be called handsome than pretty. Handsome is a more genuine compliment and pretty was always used for "yay, you're conforming to gender norms" in my childhood
maybe because handsome sound similar to awesome but i think it's a compliment with so much power (like omg you're so cool)
I personally use pretty/handsome/hot/cute/etc based on vibes like pretty feels different than cute but I don't know how to explain why
@@bleucha I dress more masculine, so when I dress to look good, it'd be masculine and pretty doesn't really fit with that. When I was younger I was forced into dresses, shoes that hurt, and scalp-ripping hairstyles and I was called pretty, but that wasn't how I wanted to look, so I guess I associated pretty with just something you say to a little girl when she's conforming to gender roles
@@dinahsaurusvex7325 Ho I was just giving my point of view on the word
(english is not my mother tongue)
I use sparkly! Imo it has different vibes, and I use it as a non gendered version of pretty/handsome
Can we just appreciate OT's parents for raising such a wonderful, wholesome,and sweet man
Litterally why can't all dudes be like this
@@ironcomics99idk dude, everyday at my school I have to defend my transfem friend because I’m the only cis straight guy there who has guts.
@@NCSGaming15 Blahaj says"good job"
@@poison-LICKTHEPOISON Thank you Blahaj
@@NCSGaming15 your welcome
Sometimes I forget that parasocial relationships exist, and I think “dang, I’d really wanna be friends with OT.” your personality radiates sweet energy and like,, man. I need more friends like this
A squish is just like when you see a person and just really want to be their friend because they're so amazing to you! :DDD
Dang- Then I probably had a squish on someone 5 or 6 years ago
yeah its a platonic crush basically!
that is so hecking adorable
yeah i used to have a squish on my best friend, now its just alterous attraction
Oooooooh. It's called a squish because you wanna be their friend and hug them so badly that you might squish them.
Thank you comment section for teaching me new things
OT: "Math puns make me feel number."
Me, completely missing the joke: "Wow, this man would HATE Sho Minamimoto."
NICE.
OH HELLO THERE FELLOW TWEWY FRIEND? :0
I could honestly sit here and write an essay on all the ways this channel has helped me the past 6 months. At first, accepting queer people, then accepting that I am one, then growing and expanding on all the ways I identify. It's sometimes difficult to find any spaces that I actually feel safe and like I'm not going to be judged or harrassed, but I can say with complete certainty that this is the best one. I watch at least one video on this channel before I fall asleep each night because it reminds me that I'm not alone and that I'm allowed to have a moment where I don't worry about anything. I am forever grateful that you've created this space for everyone to get along, regardless of identity. Thank you for being the best ally and just an all around wonderful person.
@@somebody7048 I'm a pansexual transmasc enby! My pronouns are they/them!
@@deadchannel22 Awesome, I'm a pan demisexual-romantic who goes by all pronouns (And I'm currently in gender identity confusion)
@@somebody7048 haha good luck with your gender! It was a hell of a ride for me! If i can give one bit of advice it's never say never and don't get too attached to a certain label. That held me back for ages. Allow yourself to change your mind as you learn more about yourself.
@@deadchannel22 Ok, thank you! (*^▽^*)
@@deadchannel22 Hello, me again. I'd like to let you know that after almost 2 years and 3 months I was able to reach a break through in my gender identity crisis and I've now realized that I'm genderfluid.
"Squish" is actually a platonic enquivalent of the word "crush"! You think this person is really cool and you would love to be their best friend? You most likely have a squish! The word "squish" is just a platonic crush. This word is often used in the arospec community (I'm aroace myself), but isn't limited to it. Anyone can have a squish on someone, allosexual alloromantics too. Also, "smush" is a sexual enquivalent of crush (you're strongly sexually attracted to this person/you think they're hot? you may have a smush on them!) and "swish' is the aesthetic enquivalent of crush (you think they're absolutely gorgeous and you like their clothes/aesthetic? you may have a swish!). The alterous crush is often called "mesh" and sensual one is called lush (sensual attraction is when you enjoy physical affection with someone like hugs or cuddling without it being sexual or romantic)!
Oh!! Knowledge!!! Thank you!!!! 💖💖💖💖💖
@@HappyGrrs No problem! I love giving people useful info 💚
Yes! I love all these words, they’re all so cute! As an ace, I often experience overwhelmingly strong swishes because people are so pretty
My entire life is just squishes because I have too much anxiety to try and go further. If we remain friends, cool, more great. As long as I'm included, I'm happy. Hence cosplaying.
Wow there is so much information here 🤯🤯🤩
Watched several times, just found out he's straight. I like how he doesn't feel the need to constantly assert his sexuality to distance himself from the LGBTQ peeps he truly supports.
Is it just me or does this guy just make you feel safe and loved? Like honestly I don’t even know the guy but watching his videos makes me feel like I’m not alone. Idk people like him give me a small sliver of hope for this domed world of hate. (The warm and fuzzy vibes go HARD)
"Turn it into a book-"
Me, a author that makes queer books for fun: Okay, I'll do my best. Just know, your heart will melt of cutness.
I suggest a good reference to be uroshima Taro.
It's basically exactly what was described in this video, but with a fisherman and a turtle lady in an underwater Kingdom
I wasn't sure which was funnier, the _"number"_ joke or how proud you were of it.
And the "these are the sounds of X" moments are getting better every episode.
This whole video is really comforting and funny
But the comic at 7:40 made me feel safe , happy and loved
I regularly come back to it and it's incredible
Don't forget that no matter what your gender or sexuality is you are loved
For those wondering, a squish is a term mostly used in aromantic spaces to describe a 'platonic crush'
first 30 seconds in, "He CANNOT be that pure."
I know this was posted a year ago, but when I learned of alterous attraction I also learned something new about myself. Like I always knew that I connected to people in a different way just didn't know how. So Thanks 😊
You litterally made me teared up with this wholesome ending speech. I don't usually comment, but I wanted to say thank you for all the work you do, and all the smile you bring to the faces of the people who watch your videos.
Thank you so much.
Same, Batcyan. Same...
Goodness, OT! Do you want to make your audience cry? Because that's how you make your audience cry!
Thank you for giving so much kindness, love, and understanding to the world! You change lives for the better, and I'll always be grateful for you having changed mine.
Same! You brighten my day, OT.
My god me too This is kinda hit me out of no where bro
Same, watching OT's videos always brings a smile to my face when I'm down
A squish is a having an intense, but platonic, feeling toward another person as far as really, really wanting to be someone's friend.
It started as a post on AVEN, I believe. The person said that since a sexual attraction is a "smash", and a romantic attraction is a "crush", then a friendship attraction would be a "squish". It makes more sense if you think about the words literally for a sec. Basically picture literally smashing something vs. literally crushing something vs. Squishing something. That's the logic, I believe.
You're right about the origin of squishes, the AVEN poster who came up with it chose it because it's a milder synonym of crushing. I personally love the word because my squishes feel like getting a big hug, so it's very accurate :)
@@Alicia-zf3nq Oh, I never thought of squishes being a big hug! I love it!
I'm glad I remember the origins correctly. I saw the post, but it's been years.
I honestly struggle to get through every single one of OT's videos.
they're just too FREAKIN wholesome !! AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH!
9:07
me an ace:wait, do you guys know the differences between platonic and romantic attraction?
i surely dont
I was surprised too. I'm a heteroromantic ace dude but I remember squishing on my best male friend. Still think about him some times.
@@Toni-lo9ms yeah i kind of do the same thing all the time, but most time i imagine the person i just meet as my bride and then we have kids,but then i think to myself "i am hella gay wtf is going on"
I'm aro ace. I hate the term "squish" but can't deny I've had "I REAAALLLLLY want to be their friend and hang out with them!" thing going before, and gotten occasionally jealous when I got blown off. It's just, I want their time and to do fun things with them, but I'd hate for it to get weird with them trying to make it a romanatic/sexual thing.
As an ace straight guy, I can unfortunately confirm that this is accurate. And I hate myself for being this way…
Fun fact: when birds eat berry's they dont bite the seed
There're 2 reason for this
1: most fugivorous animals usually eat the berry (or any small fruits) whole to avoid cracking the seed because most of them contain some kind of toxin (cyanide)
2: the seeds aren't usually big enough for birds to think twice before shoving the whole berry down their throat
Fun fact apple seeds contain small doses of cyanide it's why you aren't supposed to eat the core
Birds don't have teeth
Another fun fact: Birds can actually spread plant seeds because of that! They just poop out the whole seed. You wonder how islands originally got plant life? It's that.
@@birdhater004 don't you need teeth for biting? I'm not sure whether there is a different word for biting without teeth in English but I assumed there is, sorry if I'm wrong
9:50 this single post has just answered one of my biggest issues as of late finally! I still think I would prefer to go out with them, but if I can’t ever I’m fine still being their friend because they are very cool.
I hope you end up happy whichever way it goes!
I feel this way HEAVY for my best friend. She's an ethereal goddess and I love her so much, and if at one point, she had been like "Lyssa, you make my heart sing, wife me pls" I would have done it in a heartbeat (but never actively made any moves. I do kiss her face alot tho). But I'm just as happy being super close friends and watching her and her new husband build the most beautiful life and family.
I'm sorry :( I'm sure you'll find someone
@@Hopelessdemiromantic oh that's so sweet of you! Fortunately, while those feelings won't go away, I've got myself a beautiful fiancee and couldn't be happier. I feel like it's the true sense of the feeling, like I love her and it would have been dope, but since I love her so much, I don't dwell on what could've been and focus on how happy we both are now :)
You, sweet being, are something people dream to meet. So mature about it and you deserve the best! 💞💞
@@beautybard that's great
@@michanone I'm not sure I've ever been called "sweet being", but I'm glad it has finally happened. I didn't know I needed that. Thank you 🥰
0:41 I liked your interpretation better. I want to see a movie about a college age, very 'with the times' person teaching their old but also and accepting grandparent how to throw down and them bonding along the way.
4:35 not me being disappointed they didnt make "banana"
I always love the sheer amount of memes the LGBTQ+ creates, and they are always amazingly funny and relatable
Cishet (as far as we know) people who are as supporting of the LGBT community as Onetopic is... it's always a treat
@@megatennepster3833 OT is like the one cishet person I'd be like "yeah, you're apart of the LGBTQ+ community"
@@objectifiedslime7891 I mean, technically he is part of the LGBTQ+ community, as it's an acronym for LGBTTQIAAP+, which includes Ally. So he is indeed already part of the LGBTQ+ community.
@@Toastiye No allies aren't a part of the community they support the community. If I'm an ally to POC that doesn't change the fact that I'm white.
@@objectifiedslime7891 Yeah obviously not, and I don't think Allies should be in the Acronym, but they are, and with that, technically part of the community. Obviously it's way more complex than just that, but if over simplified, they are part of the community. You can call them part of it or not, that's your own personal preference. Either way, have a nice day!!
9:22 A squish is a bit like a platonic crush, which I think is downright adorable!
Also that little bit at the end I CAN'T- OT THAT'S SO SWEET
OT once again proves how he is the TH-cam dad with all these dad jokes.
7:18 The song "God is a woman" just took a whole new meaning
Just spitting facts.
your pfp :o love that webcomic
@@chouette3125 Thank you! Bfs is probably one of my favorite webcomics (◍•ᴗ•◍)
For anyone who doesn't know: A "squish" is used more in the aromantic community to mean that you really wanna be good friends with someone.
If I'm using it wrong, please tell me, but I am about 95% sure.
something like that, from my understanding its kinda like a platonic crush?
@@dyslexicelf9380 yee
I'd say it's mostly used by the aro community but not exclusively. You can experience both platonic and romantic attraction, at the same time or separately. Or you could just have one or the other, or neither, and these are all okay
@@theweirdestfish9962 what differentiates platonic attraction from romantic?
@@ascende_superius so platonic is where you wish to be friends with someone, and romantic is where you have a desire to date someone.
I hope that explains it a bit :)
4:20 I feel SO CALLED OUT I was literally JUST talking about getting more of these earlier today 🤣😂
Finally, people talking about alterous attraction! When I first found out there was a word for it, I just felt something in my heart click; a missing piece, one I had been missing for so long, had finally been found, and I hope anyone out there who sees this has that same moment of clarity with their identity someday.
...also I experience alterous attraction to like 80% of my friends at any given time, please send help 😭
This helped me figure out how I feel for one of my friends too!! Glad I got an explanation that makes sense
Me: *at the very beginning* "I don't think OT knows what that means."
OT: *re-reads it* O_O
8:21 Metioning Poland?
You've summoned the Poles ;-)
Not me tearing up at OT's heartfelt message at the end...
Literally same
same. That was so sweet
Definitely me, right in the feels
11:13 “They bite and they don’t let go.”
Exactly.
I was promised more pirate puns/dad jokes. I was lied to, an outrage I say.
✨As someone who’s very queer, I love these extremely queer subreddits. They actually somehow make me happy. And OT’s videos on them make them even better.✨
9:45 this just explained so much! I never understood this!
0:18 Ot being the most innocent man ever XD haha love it
A squish is just a platonic crush- someone you want to be near/hold hands/touch a lot, all the romantic stuff, without the actual romance
The whole thing about alterous attraction clears up so much I didn't know about myself! I'm so glad that was included!
8:15- Okay OT, so I doubt you’ll get to see this but there is a story about this!
So a king (or knight?) got invited to a wedding feast for a fae friend of his. He invited several of his men to accompany him as guards and guests. When the festivities were over, they went to return home. The king’s friend gave him a cat as he mounted his horse and said, “Don’t jump off your horse until this cat does.” The king’s travel party departs.
At some time nearing dusk, some of the group say they should stop and plan to make camp. However, the cat hasn’t jumped down yet. The king remains on his horse while some of the guards get down. The moment their feet touch the ground, they disintegrate into bones and then dust. It turns out that 300 years had passed at the wedding party, and touching the ground accelerated them to present. This is one of the origin myths for the Wild Hunt, or the band of horse riding ghosts/spirits/monsters/demons that produce the sound of thunder.
Ot laughing then seriously saying "Eat the rich." Honestly made my day
So for anyone who doesn't know....A "Squish" is a platonic crush.
It's someone you see and you immediately think, "Wow, I wanna be friends with them!!!" And it's in the same way as a crush, but you don't think about romantic things with them. (All the time ;] )
It's very nice and I think we should popularize it.
As a lesbian transgender woman I want to thank you for being an amazing human.
On the usage of Queer, I respect that others have reclaimed the word and use it to describe themselves as long as they don’t refer to me as such. Assuming that the people uncomfortable with the word queer are just gatekeepers erases people who may have trauma throughout their lives. More power to you that you can reclaim a word that’s been hurled at us but you don’t get to speak for those of us who don’t.
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Not everyone lives in an area where it's been reclaimed
I think queer sees more usage amongst younger crowds in progressive areas. I think older LGBT peeps in rural areas tend to have been harassed with the word too much to be totally comfortable with it as a label for themselves. The people who act like everyone needs to get over their trauma and just get used to being called a triggering word should try to be a little more understanding of other people's experiences.
The word “queer” is one that we can use to describe ourselves, but that still has too much power to hurt if it’s used by someone outside the community.
Ok but like his endings of his videos are like the most heartfelt things ever!!!!!! We love you too!!!!!!
8:00. And that is how I met Artemis and finally fulfilled my dream of becoming a huntress, though not the type I expected.
Look we all meet God's in strange ways I once met Brigid while I was filing my taxes
Artemis:"What will you have in 300 years"
Lady:"Id have you."
Having a crappy day an OT made laugh of dad jokes and cry with the message at the end. Thank you hahaha
5:27 Good on her for getting those... windplants!
OT really on fire with all the puns today, I'm here for it but I'm also in pain, thank you
Squishes are the ace equivalent of crushes, but instead of wanting a romantic partner they want a friend ^^
Non ace people can also have squishes (just wanted to add) 😊
Also, ace people only dont have sexual crushes, they can still have crushes, it may be aro people youre thinking of who dont experience romantic crushes :)
Ace people can also have squishes of course! But it's not the ace equivilent I'm afraid :D
@@chelseacox9895 The comment should be edited to say, It's the aro equivalent of crushes
Thank you so much for this safe space 🥰🏳️🌈
I've learned so much by watching your videos, and warms up my heart to know that this community is receiving so much love, understanding and wholesomeness.
Ty ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍
That little Oh when he realized what fisting means :D
"Oh" And then he tries not to blush in embarrassment. 😆
I still don't know what fisting is T-T
@@natcolita I don't know too -_-
@@aliceandrade7164 you probably don't want to know so be thankful. Lol
@@natcolita it has something to do with ✨adult fun time✨, i wouldn’t reccomend looking it up, you’ll find out at some point.
Thank you OT for being such a wholesome person full of dad jokes, providing support and a safe community for all of us!
OT; I would like to inform you, that a ‘squish’ is a ‘friend crush’ so somebody who you have a crush on but want to be friends with them instead of dating them, like a popular kid in those movies that people REALLY want to be friends with; i.e.; they have a squish on them.
That alterous attraction thing was really interesting because it's exactly what I feel for my best friend and I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like that!
OT (and to others who want to know as well), to sum it up since you asked what a squish was in the video (09:15). A squish is the asexual/aromantic version of a crush.
To go a bit more in depth about what a squish is:
A squish is like a crush but non-romantic/sexual and it is widely used by aromantic people, asexuals and aroaces to describe our feelings since there weren't really a word for it. Also having a crush means that you fell in love and wan't to do all the stereotypical things lovers do (Kisses, close contact and "the naughtiest" to name a few), but having a squish can mean (it can be different depending on the person) that you just wan't to be with them, physical contact (not the naughty kind, cuddling and things like that) and other non sexual/romantic things but that still shows affection (also, some kiss their squish, some don't, it depends on the person and what they are ok/comfortable with).
Also, I am a new aroace (as of january/february this year) and I haven't really gotten the hang of all the definitions and the "non-allo" meanings of things yet, so I might not be 100% correct with this, but I hope I am not completely wrong at least.
Darn it OT don't hit me with the feels! That was so sweet of you. I really wasn't expecting such a moving end to your video. But that's one of the things I love so much about your videos: humor, learning, and HEART.
My dude 🤜🤛
Damn, that ending got me right in the feels...
If anyone should be thanking anyone is me to you OT, and not the other way around.
Thank you for being such a wholesome light that brings a fun and safe space for those who need it; I know I do sometimes.
Your dad jokes are on another level today
10:26 nice to see lesbians who are trans allies and can be attracted to em...
I was talking about Kida, who did you think I was talkin' about?
I taught a robot how to fist. Turns out, bad idea. Now I feel the wrath of a thousand suns down there. Still love Penny though.
Gods ruby,
GUNS AND ROSES THAT’S SO SMART OH MY GOD
I was so confused until I saw your profile pic 🤣
Wahahahahahahaha so good!
Oh, god Ruby no
OT is so damn innocent.. the moments when he realizes are the best XD