Language, Not Rules

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  • @mcolville
    @mcolville  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1832

    One thing missing from this video, that used to be a major component of DM advice in the 70s and early 80s, is that CONSISTENCY is more important than accuracy. Your players won't mind if you're making a ruling on the fly that might contradict the "real" rule, as long as your rulings today, are consistent with your rulings from last week and last month. In fact a lot of "rulings" come about because you DO know the rule...and you just don't like it! So you make up your own!
    It used to be, DMs were told to make something up and move on, that was virtuous, but they were also told that their rulings need to be consistent with the rulings you made before.
    Player only rebel when the DM seems *capricious*. Players need to be able to predict how something will turn out, and if you're not consistent in your rulings, they stop trusting you and you lose them.
    The more you DM, the more you develop your own style and your rulings become more consistent, but it never hurts to ask your players how you ruled on an issue before. No need to be proud, it's much worse to contradict yourself than it is to just ask the players "how did we deal with this last time?"

    • @brian.francisco
      @brian.francisco 2 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      I think the idea of needing to be consistent is why some players and DMs prefer a robust rules system. We can make a ruling on the fly and not understand the long term consequences of that ruling. And now we are faced with a choice, we could stick to it and potentially lose some aspect of our game that we held dear whether it be it the verisimilitude or the power balance, or anything else. Or we could change the ruling and though we have good reason to do so we may come across as unfair now that we are changing how things are ruled.

    • @jrg305
      @jrg305 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I agree with the idea that being capricious is what turned me off from two DM I have had in the past. I KNOW they didn't read the 5e rules and they had trouble with understanding nuance in games like Wiz War. One DM would systematically take the opposite argument I would be able to point out through thorough page attributions and examples.
      Issues I have had: the DM made me hit a party member with a fireball because I was in magical darkness, and to him, it didn't make sense I would be able to have precision to hit enemies on the left and not the ally on the right. But the spell mentions nothing about needing sight (just like attack roll spells. Usually saving throw cantrips do require sight).
      Another example: the DM doffed plate armor in one action when I cast heat metal. Same battle, the DM went invisible but did not take the hide action so I just happened to miss with Faerie Fire.
      Another example is DMs not understanding the mechanics behind heavily obscured areas, often still allowing opportunity attacks or just calling it blanket disadvantage. While the rules seem weird here, why be inconsistent. Technically, fog cloud can extend the range of your longbow attacks as a straight roll. That's how the rules work, but this doesn't make sense to some DMs but casting magic spells does. Eventually, it is arbitrary. I agree that being consistent is most important.
      Enough of these instances, you realize the DM doesn't pay much attention to detail or game mechanics and attacks you for "rules lawyering" which is basically the community-allowed cut down when things are too complex for them and they are feeling shut down.
      I understand d&d is a game that brings together the imaginative but it will also bring those of us technical science and engineering/STEM field people, and I feel like by not playing by rules, you're saying D&D is just for people who have imagination but no technical aptitude. The value is placed on those with imagination and not those who can handle complex rules systems. Why not let those who understand it show you why and then recognize others have strengths you don't? I recognize my story telling and authoring isn't as good, but I don't trash authors. Don't attack technical people because you're not good at it.
      You're making a whole video character attacking people who feel safe with rules. For you, rules hold you back. One is not right, but it is important to direct these people to games that place high priority on rules as written than to attack a common personality.
      These said people may take comfort in counting calories and writing down their sets and reps in the gym. Other people are extremely overweight and value the social aspects of eating and trying various culinary permutations of nutrition, something the American culture prioritizes and has health problems because of.
      So in the spirit of inclusivity, which I know you value having watched your other videos and being very liberal (ironically liberals are anything but inclusive these days), why is it ok for you to bash a personality style but it isn't ok to discriminate in other ways? If you don't like it, you can say what kind of table you wish to play at and save us all the frustration of playing together.

    • @mr0661
      @mr0661 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Wait a minute, this message says 1 day ago, but video was released only few minutes ago... did you time travel?

    • @xionkuriyama5697
      @xionkuriyama5697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      @@jrg305 Almost took you seriously until you decided to make it about politics at the end. I'm sorry you had a bad time with DMs who clearly didn't understand the rules in the first place (which is clearly not what he was talking about, btw), but it's not the same as experiencing racism or sexism or homophobia. Sit down.

    • @steven7159
      @steven7159 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@jrg305 This may be what you took from it, because you feel somehow personally attacked, but you are off center on what he was saying. Having gamed with and under EE majors and coders I understand where you're coming from, but you've miscalculated here.

  • @paulinfgo
    @paulinfgo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +899

    I have a rules lawyer in my group. He loves reading and memorising rules, and he's also a DM from time to time. I can tell you he's a great addition, because when I'm running, he respects my ruling, and if I think I need some clarification, I can ask him, and he'll explain it to us. He doesn't fight over "the correct way" or any of that, he's just a chill dude who loves D&D and likes to know the rules in the book!

    • @Patches2212
      @Patches2212 2 ปีที่แล้ว +196

      I like calling such folks "Rules Shepherds", just to distinguish them from the bad connotations to Rules Lawyers. They know all/most of their "sheep" (rules) very well, and keep watch to make sure none of them go forgotten or stray away (aka remembering the table's rulings and helping with the rules the DM has "forgotten"). However, unlike Rules Lawyers, who just wish to debate what is "right vs wrong"/why their "client" (interpretation of the rules) is right, a Rules Shepherd doesn't mind if one of the sheep is a bit different from how they think sheep should act (aka if the DM rules differently than RAW).
      Rules Shepherds care for the rules so they can protect/safeguard them, not to argue over them

    • @giantflamingrabbitmonster8124
      @giantflamingrabbitmonster8124 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      I have to fight my rules lawyer tendencies, and the player/dm you described is how I strive to be as a player (it's hard, lol).
      @@Patches2212 Rules Shepherd is a great term I'm totally going to use in the future.

    • @alalalala57
      @alalalala57 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      That's not a rules lawyer. A lawyer argues.

    • @ZttackFrmBhind
      @ZttackFrmBhind 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I think that a rules Lawyer would be less of a person who knows the rules and likes for them to be followed like a "Rules Scholar", and more like somebody who will argue for specific interpretations of rules that will give them an advantage as a lawyer is often seen as not really caring about what the law is or its intent but whether or not they can keep their client from being punished.

    • @paxtenebrae
      @paxtenebrae 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@Patches2212 I love this. I was going to comment and say "I'm not sure you can truly call someone a rules lawyer if they are not shouting 'OBJECTION!' to the other players, DM included, on a regular basis." To me Rules Lawyer is in behavior, not in how versed someone is with the rules. The behavior described here is clearly another thing and I like Rules Shepherd as a descriptor for that!

  • @nickjuchau1830
    @nickjuchau1830 2 ปีที่แล้ว +902

    A man goes wine tasting. "Ah yes, a fine aroma." He takes a sip. "With distinct hints of blue, harkening back to my youth and the overconsumption of aquatic mammalian popsicles."

    • @ZumbaMarx
      @ZumbaMarx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      I read this comment before the vid and I was *so* confused.

    • @sebastianwinters9864
      @sebastianwinters9864 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@ZumbaMarx same, still waiting on ads

    • @MorinehtarTheBlue
      @MorinehtarTheBlue 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I'm a Canadian who has never seen an Otter pop. So I don't know which one of many such artificially supplied flavors blue might taste like.

    • @dragonboyjgh
      @dragonboyjgh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@MorinehtarTheBlue You ever had koolaid or gatorade? pretty much follows the same flavor-colors pattern.

    • @Eric_The_Cleric
      @Eric_The_Cleric 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@MorinehtarTheBlue the "blue raspberry" flavor in most drinks is what he's referring to.

  • @go-away-5555
    @go-away-5555 2 ปีที่แล้ว +313

    My first DM always made sure to remind us, in those "but the rules say" moments, that it was the Player's Handbook, not the Player's Rulebook. Dungeon Master's Guide. Not Dungeon Master's Rules.

    • @pensato348
      @pensato348 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      It's funny you say that, I had a conversation with a player today who told me to "Read the Rulebook, Nat 1s aren't a thing"... I proceeded to tell him that they are in my world, and he said "I want you to read the Rulebook and make a list of every rule you are following and every rule you are making up..." I don't think my campaign is the right campaign for him, and I think I'll tell him what you are saying here. "It's the Player's Handbook, not the Player's Rulebook."

    • @paximilian4037
      @paximilian4037 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@pensato348 Making a rough list of things you typically deviate from the rules on isn't really a bad idea. For example, if you're going to be using a crit fumble table, a player might want to know that before they choose a fighter, where you could significantly affect the function of their character. Obviously, asking for every rule you're house ruling can be excessive, but if you know some ahead of time, that should really be covered in session zero. I might rule something different than the rules on the fly, but I do crits different than RAW, so I make sure to let my players know ahead of time.

    • @pensato348
      @pensato348 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@paximilian4037 yeah, for sure, communication is essential, and asking for home rules isn't that bad of a thing. The problem was much more complicated than I could explain easily in a comment, but the problem really came from a sense of not wanting to fail... ever... not that the rules I was playing by weren't clear. I had gone over some expectations and home-rules in our Session 0, but I didn't expect to have to explain nat 1s and nat 20s being special, because I've never seen or played in a game where they weren't automatic failures or successes. Either way, though, it was nice that the disagreement happened because it lead to me understanding that our styles of play and what we enjoyed from the game were significantly different.

    • @GlennRittenhouse
      @GlennRittenhouse 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I run online using discord. I have a tab for rules. General rules that apply game wide. Specific rules, like can the artificers pet give or receive flanking. And as things come up, as they always do, I add to that tally.

  • @jackmonaco4503
    @jackmonaco4503 2 ปีที่แล้ว +158

    "This is a bit of a rant."
    *IT. IS. TIME*

  • @TooLateForIeago
    @TooLateForIeago 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    One of the more reliable rules/ruling compromises I use with my groups is, "I'd rather not stop everything to check this. How about we do 'x' now and reference for he next session?" It often works.
    And Rule of Cool is important too. I like rewarding my players for being creative, fun, and unpredictable.

    • @helgenlane
      @helgenlane 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I think this mentality should pretty much not exist after everyone has internet on their phones. It takes less than 5 minutes to find any rule and any explanation for these rules online.

    • @helgenlane
      @helgenlane 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@chrisstoltz3648 it's your personal issue, not a universal one. Each group and each game is different.

    • @myheadhurtsagain
      @myheadhurtsagain ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@helgenlane If you believe that then why did you try to correct OP? Clearly this works for them and their group, which is different from yours...

  • @ewanstephenson9023
    @ewanstephenson9023 2 ปีที่แล้ว +517

    It's incredible the amount if juice this channel gives. It took me years to learn a lot of stuff that is just simply and eloquently presented in this channel.
    So many people can pick up their DM screen, binge this channel and start where I was starting years into the hobby. There's no substitute for running the game still, but man can you get a running start.
    What a time to play DnD!

    • @voltdragon
      @voltdragon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      That’s exactly what I did! I spent a summer watching literally all of his running the game videos and then ran campaigns where I put his lessons into action. I’m a much better DM than I would have been because of it!

    • @ewanstephenson9023
      @ewanstephenson9023 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@voltdragon Good on you, it's such a good launching point. I'm sure you're both starting at a better point and learning faster than I ever did. It's great!

    • @KBTibbs
      @KBTibbs 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      If even the only thing people get from this channel is, "Don't wait. Just start." I think that's pretty valuable. Matt might have a different value proposition in mind, considering his effort, though.

    • @aaronstone6407
      @aaronstone6407 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's what I did. 1.5 years into a campaign so far and going well. It helps that I have a great group of players of course.

    • @ivanfiodorov6429
      @ivanfiodorov6429 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i kinda miss those 3 hours fights about grapple tho. but man, todays roleplaying systems are fun and the amount of excelent GM's giving you advise is shoking.

  • @paxtenebrae
    @paxtenebrae 2 ปีที่แล้ว +494

    Matt calls it a rant, but this feels more to me like an introductory lecture to The Philosophy of RPGs as taught by him. And, in fact, I can think of few people better equipped to proctor such a lesson for us all here on TH-cam. I move to change Matt's title from "The King of Kickstarter" to "Preeminent Philosopher of RPGs".

    • @EugeneYunak
      @EugeneYunak 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      it's only fitting since he is no longer the King of Kickstarter

    • @nathandorsey9145
      @nathandorsey9145 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      What are lectures but rants you pay for?

    • @brandonsaffell4100
      @brandonsaffell4100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      It is a rant because of it's inspiration, which much be addressed in the work. Joyless pedants.
      This is good philosophy, and I want more of it. Matt covers a lot of other related areas of philosophy soundly, and exploring the philosophy of storytelling is something we are sorely missing.

    • @paxtenebrae
      @paxtenebrae 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@nathandorsey9145 Ha! Well, touché...

    • @dragonlordjonerc
      @dragonlordjonerc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I just refer to him as "Bugbear Prophet"

  • @ianking7511
    @ianking7511 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I'd say the thing about language specifically is that every community will use language differently and understand 'deviations' common to their group. When communicating between communities or cultures, however, technical accuracy becomes much more important since the common understanding is not guaranteed to exist. Every game group could use entirely idiosyncratic house rules and it would work fine within that context. What a ruleset does is allow people to talk about a game as something that exists beyond a single group, as something common to a greater community.

  • @NickShabazz
    @NickShabazz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +241

    *You're
    (In all seriousness, this was a great video, both about people, language, and how we interact with the world, both in helpful and unhelpful ways. Beautifully done, thank you!)

    • @pajaliisa
      @pajaliisa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Wait, which channel am I in again?

    • @lfleming221
      @lfleming221 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      🤣

    • @hwaryun7042
      @hwaryun7042 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      i would like but it is at such a good number. 69. Nice. wow someone ruined it

    • @joerg-michajahn4963
      @joerg-michajahn4963 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I saw that, too. I wonder if we now get tabletop reviews of tabletop games from a not-brilliant man ... Sorry Nick, nice to see you on a completely different channel! And now we need to find out whether Matt collects knives ... or watches ;+)
      And yes, very good video. Thank you from me as well!

    • @Fabelaz
      @Fabelaz 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You know, I will still continue to correct that. That is the purpose of my online interaction.

  • @tiervexx
    @tiervexx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    I wanted to point out that one of the most important functions of the rules is to make sure you are treating your players fairly. DM's that overtly play favorites are also playing fast and loose with the rules and many stories in /r/rpghorrorstories are only possible because a bad DM threw the rules out the window to godmode people. With that said, I agree with your statement that consistency is more important than accuracy and as long as deviations from the rules are done with good intentions, everything is cool!

    • @guitarlover1204
      @guitarlover1204 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      The best and to my knowledge, only way to stop things like what happens in r/rpghorrorstories from happening is to talk about it ooc, or stop playing with them.

    • @NoActuallyGo-KCUF-Yourself
      @NoActuallyGo-KCUF-Yourself 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't be consistently bad.

  • @Revolyutsiya1917
    @Revolyutsiya1917 2 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    Just as in all arts, you need to know the rules before you try to break them. That's the difference between being clever and being sloppy. You don't need to be 100% accurate in rules or language, but you at least need to care about being clear and consistent in both if you want to avoid frustrating people.

    • @Drekromancer
      @Drekromancer 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Well said, king. 👑

    • @drac3650
      @drac3650 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think this applies to just DMing in general. If you want to be a DM you should read at least one module even if you won't run it.

    • @ryanmcintyre5639
      @ryanmcintyre5639 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Then perhaps the best way to say it is that, like with a language, the rules are most important when you’re a beginner and still learning how it works

  • @WD--tw3zr
    @WD--tw3zr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Man I feel called out, I definitely can say that I have had my viewpoint about rules and how important they are changed. It’s been a joke at my DnD table that I’m a textbook rules lawyer, and several times I’ve militantly followed the rules, and pointed out rules mistakes of other players and the DM. Now that I’m DMing some, I think this has been a huge lesson for me. Thanks for the awesome video!

  • @telepathetic730
    @telepathetic730 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Matt is giving real comforting dad vibes. 🖤

    • @anthonybird546
      @anthonybird546 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      *80s sitcom theme plays*
      Matt: "What's wrong Tony? Have a bad game?"
      "Gee Dad, Darren is really hard on me, he's a real rules lawyer. I wish I knew all the rules, I shouldn't even BE a Dungeon Master."
      Matt: this video

  • @BraveryBeyond
    @BraveryBeyond 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    "Mastery is revealed in limitation."
    I think this point is undersold in this rant. Rules exist to provide structure. That structure then provides meaning to what's created. Too many rules and you become fixated on the form rather than the meaning. But too few and nothing meaningful can be properly formed. Both in language and D&D, rules provide a structure of commonality so that interactions are meaningful. Using those limitations to their fullest is what reveals a true master, who can then transcend those limitations knowing the value they bring.
    I would argue that without rules or with a disproportionate amount of rulings, D&D isn't as fun because limitation breeds drama.

    • @Chaosmancer7
      @Chaosmancer7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly, and that I think gets lost in a rush to downplay the fixation of following rules perfectly

    • @icyblankets4971
      @icyblankets4971 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very well said.

    • @sheepsy
      @sheepsy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Knowing the rules makes knowing when to break them an art form.

  • @chillinboy07
    @chillinboy07 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I've seen rule zero used to railroad and just in general beat the PCs into submission by many different GMs. So rules in my opinion give the PCs a leg to stand on versus that abuse.

    • @chillinboy07
      @chillinboy07 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Vedexent_ this wasn't one GM and from my experience it's super common.

    • @EvilArtifact
      @EvilArtifact 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      It can be difficult to recognize an unhealthy playing environment when you're in the middle of it. Many players will persevere because bad D&D is often preferable to no D&D. But in cases like this, no amount of rules will salvage a game being run by a jerk.

  • @matthewneuendorf5763
    @matthewneuendorf5763 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    The most important thing in language is the same as the most important thing in the rules: a common understanding of usage. When you are having a discussion, you must agree on the meaning of words, especially important ones, otherwise you can talk for hours and never actually communicate. When you are playing 5E D&D, you must agree on the implementation of rules, both official and house, and on the style and flavor of a game, otherwise you can play for hours and never actually have fun.

    • @SquashDog01
      @SquashDog01 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Cannot like this comment enough. Langue is a tool for expression. And like many thing ps in life, just because you can, doesn’t always mean you should. And this actually cuts both ways for rules as well. Sometimes the rules are just bad, poorly thought out and implemented, or impede play in a way that is distracting and of superficial importance.
      At other times, your understanding of the rules is likely to be very incomplete and can have far reaching implications that create a myriad of issues that yank you and your players out of the fiction and enjoyment. We are human after all and not perfect beings. The key is to play and understand the rules to the best of your ability that best facilitates the kind of outcomes you are looking for.
      Rules do matter, language does matter, meaning does matter. But these things change over time, we are adaptable creatures, not mindless automatons. The rules and mechanics exist to facilitate the kinds of experiences that are deemed fun-nothing more and nothing less.

    • @MsNathanv
      @MsNathanv 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thanks, that's exactly right. Colville picks some easy examples like "Let's eat Grandma" but not all examples are that easy-- we can look at DnD for the doubly ambiguous "Holy water or powdered silver and iron, which the spell consumes" components, for example; there's no single, obviously correct interpretation of that clause. And when some player casts fog cloud in the middle of a wolf pack, and the DM decides that there is such a thing as double-advantage, the player can easily be, "But negating pack tactics was the whole reason I did that in the first place-- it was a major part of my reasons for learning the spell in the first place." There is a clear analogy between language and rules here. There's no Great Dictionary in the Sky for any of us to consult, and DnD rules are no different. But there is such as thing as shared understandings, even if imperfectly shared, and those are important.

  • @TNH91
    @TNH91 2 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    Grammar and syntax comes after meaning, but they support it and change the way it is perceived. Good grammar and syntax should be invisible, we only react to it when it's bad. Some don't react at all, while others get an almost physically painful reaction.
    The same should be true for story and rules in roleplaying; the story is supported by the rules (just as our world is supported by rules which physics is trying to understand), but if the rules makes the story not make sense then one should change one and/or the other.
    It's the communication; as long as everyone agrees on the rules/grammar and syntax, then it is easy to communicate. If someone breakes the rules then communication becomes hard. And because so many people use a common language it's not as easy to just "change a rule" as it is in a game of role-playing with a small group. One should try to keep to the "rules" to avoid taxing others with added mental load (especially when something is one-to-many, like a blog on the internet or a book), but if everyone you communicate with knows the same but different rules then communication is not a problem.

    • @SamWeltzin
      @SamWeltzin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Yeah, exactly this. There needs to be a reason for every deviation, whether it be in language or games. Otherwise you're flailing around being confusing and frustrating. And here's the thing: Sometimes frustration or confusion is the purpose as well, but it still needs to be deliberate.

    • @beardalaxy
      @beardalaxy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Something important to note is that the slightest change, where people will understand the meaning anyway, can give something a slightly different meaning. For instance, "wherever he is" carries a slightly different meaning than "where ever he is." The first means that he is somewhere that is unknown, whereas the second implies that he is in a place (whether known or unknown) forever.
      Tiny rule changes can alter things quite a bit and as a DM you have to be ready to deal with the consequences.

    • @Ellebeeby
      @Ellebeeby 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@beardalaxy this is a great point - and further, you don’t even need to change a single word in a sentence to create this kind of linguistic confusion.
      To give a crass example, take the sentence “I didn’t screw your mother”’. Say this sentence aloud, and stress a different single word each time. The meaning changes drastically!

  • @Bryon1187
    @Bryon1187 2 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    "joyless pedant" 😆😆 I have been pedantic, but not necessarily joyless at it. 😉

    • @bryan__m
      @bryan__m 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Exactly, being a pedant is TONS of fun!

    • @stuartlaws9977
      @stuartlaws9977 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for making the joyless distinction between the two ;)

  • @jpdtrmpt7217
    @jpdtrmpt7217 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I agree with all of this except for you comment on the oxford comma. Anyone who leaves it out deserves prison.

  • @alexsterling5788
    @alexsterling5788 2 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    I am constantly seeking a nice middle-ground between robust/complex rules and flexible/simple rules. I like deeper game mechanics where you take disparate things and find something really cool by combining them in novel ways. What I don't want is for that depth/complexity to come at the cost of being able to roleplay cool stuff that isn't explicitly on the character sheet. Setting expectations for how to use the rules and how to make good rulings is definitely going in the front of my Game Master's book.

    • @whiskeybingo5603
      @whiskeybingo5603 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You make a good point. My thinking following the video (regarding good game design) was "as few rules as possible, but with as much provision as possible." Sort of a libertarian mindset. Give the GM the building blocks, and let them run wild. There's no need to dictate every interaction in a system if the rules are well-written. Sure, there are scenarios where specific rulings are required - grappling comes to mind as one such case in D&D - but if your rules are simple, logical, and intuitive, the GM will be able to intuit a valid ruling after growing comfortable with the provided rules.

    • @vehmic6278
      @vehmic6278 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Have you checked out 13th age? It was made by former designers of 3rd and 4th edition but they wanted to make a more narrative rules light system.

    • @alexsterling5788
      @alexsterling5788 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@vehmic6278 Took a look and yeah, very 4th edition at its core but with more narrative abstraction and emphasis on character than class. A good read for sure.

    • @kodaxmax
      @kodaxmax 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      In skyrim theirs a mod called frostfall, which adds survival elements. you need food, sleep and to keep warm. its fairly robust and well made. most players find it spices up the game significantly. however it can quickly turn into a chore as your character gets more powerful and you master the mechanics.
      i think the same happens with alot of tabletops. like the rules for travel, or keeping track of players eating daily.

    • @hyoomanmaol
      @hyoomanmaol 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Having a lot of rules doesn't inherently mean those rules are hard to remember or complicated.
      Compare Pathfinder 2e which has a lot of rules, but a very very tight framework for those rules. Even if you do need to look something up, the system for something is always concise and simple, and the meanings of everything is codified into Traits, Feats, Actions, and Activities, so there's rarely any confusion.
      5E on the other hand, is full of incongruently defined means of conducting various aspects of the game, and no unifying structure for how anything in that game works.
      Sure, you might need to look things up more with Pathfinder, but you're going to have a much easier time looking them up, and have to do a lot less reading when you do find them than you would with 5e.

  • @daedalus7286
    @daedalus7286 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thank you for all of your wonderful videos Matt - I was feeling very demotivated during my first campaign that I stopped running consistently in June, and all your videos have me getting the itch once more!

  • @michimatsch5862
    @michimatsch5862 2 ปีที่แล้ว +114

    I think why people freak out when you do not exactly follow the rules is because they view it as a social contract under which you have all agreed to work under.
    If you are willing to break the social contract of the rules what part of the social contract might you break next?
    The solution is of course to communicate with your players to make sure you all agree on how you are gonna play this game.

    • @skullsquad900
      @skullsquad900 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly

    • @ianp7054
      @ianp7054 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's an interesting point but I can see holes in it. (Note: I'm not trying to use your language in a mocking way, just trying to refer to the point you've made!)
      In game, if a DM makes a ruling that favours the party the players are much less likely to "freak out", even if that's breaking the rules (social contract) just as much. Not saying it doesn't happen, but definitely less.
      And in the context of an audience viewing the game (who often you will see freak out about rulings that favour the party), what concern do they have? That the DM is going to break the social contract outside the context of D&D? That seems far fetched. "Oh he gave disadvantage despite flanking, so I'm worried he's going to run a phone scam?"
      Maybe that's not a great example of breaking the social contract. Licking a spoon and putting it back in the drawer?

    • @davidharshman7645
      @davidharshman7645 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@ianp7054 I dunno...most "rules pedants" I know are as happy to point out rules that hurt their own situation as much as those that help them.

    • @alalalala57
      @alalalala57 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      The first and foremost social contract is that it is the DMs domain, who then serves the players needs.
      The DM can't break nothing because the DM sets everything lol.

    • @Prismatic_Rain
      @Prismatic_Rain 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @@ianp7054 I HATE it when the DM ignores rules in a way that favors the party. I hate it so much. It makes me feel like the entire reason for the parties success in that situation came down to DM fiat. Why did we even bother rolling dice or trying in good faith to overcome the problem if the DM is just going to hand wave and make sure we succeed no matter what. I want successes and failures to both feel earned in the same way. Follow the rules, please.

  • @LordSephleon
    @LordSephleon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    I was one of those people who constantly corrected others in spelling and grammar, even in casual environments like Instant Messages and chat rooms (remember those?).
    It's almost no coincidence that when I started getting burned out with 3rd Edition's complex network of rules sometime in the mid 2000s and realized how much people have come to over-rely on rules over the DM's judgements (as I am a perpetual DM of 25 years myself), I subconsciously stopped being such a language elitist and just allowed people make all the mistakes they want.
    I'll still occasionally point out spelling and grammar mistakes when I spot them (usually the more egregious ones), but most of the time, I just keep it to myself. Unless, of course, I'm specifically asked to proof-read something, in which case the red pen comes out of retirement. ;)

    • @LordSephleon
      @LordSephleon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@bitghost4700 Oh? I did have to go in and add -ed after a particular word, but please prove to the world how skilled you are and point out mistakes in a TH-cam comment.
      EDIT: I don't care if I make mistakes in a TH-cam comment as much, especially since I tend to change thoughts or sometimes lose attention since I'm listening to the video.
      Also, I may have come off as exceedingly snarky as I'm working at the moment, so I'll just apologize now for the unnecessary tone, but I still stand by the intent of my words, not the severity. :)

    • @sebastianwinters9864
      @sebastianwinters9864 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Whom'st'd've'nt kept you from your expression?

    • @giantflamingrabbitmonster8124
      @giantflamingrabbitmonster8124 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Just want to chime in that a) I've had a similar growth pattern and share a similar stance, and b) I really dig your profile picture

  • @LevTheLurker
    @LevTheLurker 2 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    Agree mostly but an exception to this that I've found is for groups with multiple DMs. Our Westmarches-ish campaign has 4 people DMing, and we agreed early on that we would be playing strictly RAW so we could avoid instances of a character being allowed to do something in one DM's campaign and not in another's because of different rulings. But even then the main goal wasn't because the rules are sacred or always perfect, and there have been some times when we didn't like RAW and made notes to change them in the next campaign, but to avoid frustration from both DMs and players so everyone knew how the game worked no matter who was at the table.

    • @leogr1003
      @leogr1003 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I think this goes to Matt’s comment on consistency. By all adhering to the rules more strictly, you can stay consistent across gm’s and maintain the local realism of the world you’re playing in. Thinking of the rules as language still makes sense. If multiple writers worked on the same book, you would want them to speak the same dialect and use words in the same ways in order to maintain the consistency of the main characters’ personalities and speech patterns, and in order to make the transitions between chapters as seamless as possible. Maybe a better way to describe this would be multiple actors playing the same character. If two separate film adaptations of Batman were being produced with two different casts, the best way to make them feel like they take place in the same universe would be to adhere as strictly as possible to the comics. It’s not because the comics are particularly virtuous, it’s simply because they’re the most complete style guide for how batman should be.

    • @ryansandwich1086
      @ryansandwich1086 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That's a good idea. You don't want the players to not know what they can and can't do across the same campaign.

    • @sethrdee
      @sethrdee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I too have a West Marches-ish campaign! Ours is on Discord. We've done much the same, sticking to RAW as much as we are capable. Like you said, this is rather important with multiple DMs. That's why I enjoy having a plain and straightforward RAW game, as well as a home game where I'm able to express a story in a fun and satisfying way without having to overly worry about the rules.

    • @MaximumFrost
      @MaximumFrost 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is a good thing to point out. I bailed on a westmarch style campaign because there was one GM in particular who ran combat differently than just about everybody else and severely punished martials/short rest characters with his style. Would have been nice if he could have gotten reigned in by the other GMs to be consistent with how others did things.

    • @Darcy_Issues
      @Darcy_Issues 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am in Westmarch campaign and we don't stick to RAW very often at all, but I think there is a lot of discussion with DM's concerning rules. Each DM does have their own style so there is certainly some inconsistency over how they apply the rules (which is inevitable unless you go RAW) , but it was never different enough to effect how the game was played. I think not doing RAW can work in a westmarch so long as there is a good communication between DM's and players and a general. I think you can do either butnot going RAW and making it work is likely a fair bit more effort but I think personally it is worth it. In conclusion, Westmarches are great. Would recommend to anyone who has yet to play in one.

  • @JoshDurelofIOW
    @JoshDurelofIOW 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    As a DM who has moved from 5e to pathfinder/3.5, I do miss having the fluidity the system invites to the game, less conflict between DM and player on how things work and what rules are what back win 5e.
    But I wish to point out one thing that has been different sense the shift. My players seem more interested in trying to do more kinds of things. Perhaps it's just the players, but I've seen more cases of a player wanting to do something, often after finding out there were rules for it. A player wanting to make a captain America style shield throwing, Gun Buckler welding fighter character, or a player wanting to be a Magic Item crafting Magus (which might just be so he can make sure he gets the magic items he wants), or most of all 2 of my players wanting to found a kingdom because they found out there were rules for it, and feel that the campaign they are playing in has a good opportunity to use those rules. Non of these kinds of player characters and actions appeared in my games in the past, until I started using a rules system that openly told players "you can do this, and here is how it works".
    My point being there is some point to having rules as a means to promote players doing things, I've had players play 5e who got there characters killed doing nothing because I quote "the rules don't say I can do that." and even after trying to be clear that you can attempt anything you think you could do, it doesn't click for all people.
    I wish playing a system that had the rules to promote more player ideas and concepts didn't have to come at the cost of a DM's sanity being constantly called out and hounded about the rules.
    I feel once I finish these Pathfinder campaigns (running two at once) I will probably ether take what I learned from Pathfinder and return to 5e, expanded and learned, or I'll have learned how to handle the system in a fashion that doesn't make me go mad....
    I felt like I had a point making this but now I feel like I'm just ranting, anyway, I guess at the least I'll share this text for the algorithm or what ever excuse people make.

    • @AlexPBenton
      @AlexPBenton 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I would strongly recommend Pathfinder 2e, it keeps the larger amount of content and more in depth rules, but also takes notes from 5e on simplicity and intuitiveness.
      You can make genuinely interesting builds, and the versatility of the feat and 3 action systems really creates an engaging and fluid experience.
      I built a Champion (paladin, but more versatile) which I designed to be an AC machine. In any other system, it would have been boring to play, but the 3 action system allowed me to break my “Move, Raise Shield, Take Cover, (Wait for enemy attacks to spend my reaction)” in favor of more interesting activities. Despite building such a formulaic and repetitive character, I had more fun playing that character than any other I’ve played before.

    • @bryannorris8049
      @bryannorris8049 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I'm torn on 5e. As a DM I like the simplicity, as a player I don't feel like any character I make feels unique and worse I don't feel like my choices are really significant like they were in previous editions. If I can (try to) do anything not covered by the rules it either isn't something unique to my character choices or my DM had to come up (and maybe playtest) the rule on their own which isn't easier.

    • @bekkayya
      @bekkayya 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      as an old forever pathfinder DM I getcha completely. I ended up just trying to keep the world rules consistent and if a player wanted to do something whack they were responsible for maintaining those rule systems themselves (which they did happily funny enough). Playing physically helps this though, idk how online dms cope.

    • @PedroKing19
      @PedroKing19 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I think your experience only strengthens his point! A more robust set of rules gives all players a more firm grasp of the language they need to use to attempt things. To know that there is already a rule puts more confidence in a players decisions

    • @viperblitz11
      @viperblitz11 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      If you haven't heard of it, I'd recommend having a look at Open Legend. It's designed so every action is vaguely defined, encouraging players to explore ways they can flavor their characters' abilities. Invoking "slowed" on an enemy halves their movement speed, but that can be done by casting a time spell or by throwing caltrops. It excites the imagination while staying open-ended enough to be bent to the table's needs.

  • @ItsShatter
    @ItsShatter ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think rules in D&D lend themselves to a sense of verisimilitude and consistency in the game. They mark the difference between a game and collaborative storytelling. That being said, rules can and sometimes should be broken, just consistently and in a way that doesn’t ruin the experience.

  • @Calebgoblin
    @Calebgoblin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I think there's two big factors that play into people's temperament on rules & language.
    As players, the "optimizer" tends to hang on to every word and turn of phrase, because they are trying to exploit every last number of advantage from it.
    As DMs, particularly with lower levels of experience, it's easy to lean on the minutae of the rules because learning how to make quick rulings that reflect the spirit of the rules and maintain balance is just something that takes practice.

    • @Insertein
      @Insertein 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yo let's appreciate this comment real quick

  • @jacobsimon8983
    @jacobsimon8983 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Matt! I employed Orcs Attack yesterday! A party of gnolls started slowly hunting the party as they traversed the mountains. It was tense and dramatic and it made the session awesome! Love the videos!

  • @littlernemo4055
    @littlernemo4055 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I'd say that great writers have a tremendous knowledge of grammar, spelling, syntax. They sometimes choose to break those rules, but they know them backward and forward

  • @aaronworkgrierson1470
    @aaronworkgrierson1470 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I bought the Strongholds and Followers PDF and I am really enjoying it so far. Your insights have been very helpful for me in running, and designing, games with my brother. I hope you are all doing well and I look forward to watching more of y'alls videos.

  • @heiho9029
    @heiho9029 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You open this video saying this isn't a running the game video yet you still show up with some amazing advice. Always a treat to watch this channel!

  • @Seraphim_MTG
    @Seraphim_MTG 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    One thing I want to point out is that in discussions of rules, at least as I see them, are usually like linguists, not like grammar pedant. Sure, one comment will be just blatant "do that cuz that how it supposed to be", but most of the time, people offer interpretations and why they make them. I really like the kind of rules advice that is "here is how this looks rules-as-written to me, however I would rule X because at my table we go for tone Y". You learn a lot this way.

    • @shanz7758
      @shanz7758 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I like this perspective on the matter, and actually, as a DM, I profondly when I say to my players "Well, here is the rule as written, here is how I understand it. If you can convince me that I can interpret the rule in a way that lets you do what you intend the way you intend to do it, then you can try it your way". I enjoy debate about rules, as long as they are not one hour long.

  • @MatthewBrpg
    @MatthewBrpg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    In my experience, rules lawyers are usually* a product adversarial/authoritarian DMs. If you think the DM is out to get you then mastery of the rules is a survival tactic. It shows you how to accomplish what you want without the DM just saying "no" and allows you to rein in some of the DM's malevolent impulses.
    Sometimes collaborative DMs have to learn how to play with players who learned how to play under adversarial DMs and laying down "we don't play that way" doesn't work because it reinforces the perception of the DM as authoritarian and the player thinks you're just trying to take away their tools. First, offer a rule on how to deal with rules disputes: If it's a matter of immediate life or death for your character we'll stop and figure it out, otherwise we just roll with the ruling and hash it out after the game.
    On a longer timeline though, you have to build trust so that they can accept that the rulings you make are intended to promote fun, not squash it. Start with something minor that clearly benefits them - a cool home-brewed class, spell, or ability modification. "Your fiend warlock can choose to do fire damage instead of force with their eldritch blast." Build from there.
    *Some forms of neurodivergence can also make people prone to this, but show them where rule 0 is in the book and then the rest of the remedy is still the same.

  • @pluralkumquat
    @pluralkumquat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I'd call myself a joyful pedant, personally. I still consider 3.5 to be my favorite edition because of the rules. My favorite thing to do as the DM is go through all the available class, feat, and template options so that I can make fun custom monsters for my players to fight. Spending 6 hours on a Sunday afternoon to build a 30 second fight was my hobby and I enjoyed it.

    • @Braincain007
      @Braincain007 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Absolutely no offense meant by this. But to me that sounds absolutely miserable. I barely have 3 hours in a week to plan the entire game. Wasting 6 on 1 encounter? I would probably kill myself. Again, thats just my perception

    • @flowonthego
      @flowonthego 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Braincain007 Barely 3 hours out of 168 hours available in week? The hell you doing with your life?

    • @Braincain007
      @Braincain007 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@flowonthego oh yeah because I don't sleep, work, go to classes, eat, use the bathroom, exercise, talk with friends or family, drive anywhere, or consume any other forms of entertainment during the week. Some of us have lives dude.
      Edit: I also forgot to mention, you know, running the actual game. Which in itself takes 5 hours a week. And I run 2 games, so that's actually 10 hours. Then if I prep for 3 hrs each that's another 6 hours.

  • @Ciberbuster
    @Ciberbuster 2 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    While the spirit of the suggestion is great, having a good grasp of the rules is a great tool for any DM. From understanding what is possible for your characters rules-wise, to check possible problems before they ruin your session. I had a DM that didn't allow the rogue to sneak attack most of the times because he didn't understand the Sneak Attack rules or other not allowing a spell a player was enthusiastic about because he didn't understand it. DMs should have a good grasp of the rules, at least to the extent of understanding their intentions and the possibilities open for the players.

    • @Eric_The_Cleric
      @Eric_The_Cleric 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I mean, if that was happening consistently over the course of a few sessions, that DM should have sat down and figured out what was going on with their player's abilities rather than saying "no you can't use it." If not, those players should sit their DM down and say "this is ridiculous, this is how it works, learn it so I can use it." If this was just one session, then the player who knew what was going on should have given a quick summary of what their ability was. Especially Sneak Attack. That is both simple to learn and simple to teach. This situation seems to fully come down to a lack of communication between DM and player, which is a much deeper issue than the type of language being used to communicate.

    • @stealthington
      @stealthington 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I think Matt has mentioned in a video (I could be wrong - not trying to put words in his mouth) it should be the player explaining how player abilities work if the DM doesnt remember; the DM has enough to worry about with all the rest of the game. If the DM is ignoring the player attempting to explain (and I would assume both your example players did try) then that isn't just ignoring the rules, its ignoring the players.
      TLDR: the DM should understand the main rules and should be able to rely on players to know their class.

    • @alalalala57
      @alalalala57 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The players should have a good grasp of rules around their own characters. It shouldn't be the DMs job tho the DM should try and understand.

    • @Ciberbuster
      @Ciberbuster 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Eric_The_Cleric in the sneak attack case, we had to stand our ground. I served as rules lawyer for the rogue player and it heated up before getting some consent.

    • @Ciberbuster
      @Ciberbuster 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@stealthington True, but the DM should understand enough of the rules to correctly award the players for using their options rules-wise. There is a level of player's agency based on the understanding the players have of the rules of their characters, a DM should account this.

  • @cormacmckinstry2195
    @cormacmckinstry2195 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I think there is some real flaws in this thinking. It seems to imply that anyone who sees a rule being gotten wrong and says something about it as playing the game wrong and acting maliciously. And tries to do so by painting one broad picture of anyone you might see post a single comment about it. This is ridiculous, and just because you don't see them talking about enjoying the game there and then, doesn't mean they don't. That is bad faith conjecture and sophistry.
    More importantly, it implies a bad homerule can never make a game bad or unfun. It definitely can. I have sat through games where very confident but very wrong GMs declared that we'd be sticking with their rules and undermine the various systems that relied on the rules the GM had overwritten. This is not to say you shouldn't break a game's rules, but you, ideally, should understand why those rules are there before you break them. James Joyce and Shakespeare broke the rules of grammar because they knew they would be understood without the excluded grammar rules.
    In a situation where you don't know a rule and don't have time to look it up, making something up is the right answer, I agree with Colville there. But an important point I feel was excluded is to make it clear to the player that this is an in-the-moment, once-off rule. "We'll do it like this for now, I'll look it up later". And tell the players the correct rule next session. Otherwise, the players will often avoid doing the action ever again and never even mention it because, in Matt's example, it involves risks the players don't like when it needen't. Consistency isn't worth it if it's consistently bad.
    Also you can totally blame the game system for a bad game sometimes. Some systems can turn out to be miserably bad, and misery is best shared. Don't put all that blame and pressure on a GM, that's awful.

  • @bodbyss
    @bodbyss 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    While I largely agree with everything said, I think this fails to consider that some people design entire characters within the well-understood and documented rules of the game, that building a good result within understood and defined constraints can feel rewarding. And seeing someone ignore the rules and the dm go along with it to do things your own character wasn't capable of doing sucks. (or more specifically, you thought about doing *that very thing* but the rules didn't support it so you built your character in a different way weeks ago). For example, the current rules on dual wielding sucks in 5e. Its not a good option when all things are considered. So I decide I'm not going to make a dual wielder. Now my permissive DM is letting the other guy do things that normally wouldn't be allowed, that guy gets to play the dual wielder that I originally wanted to because they're both ignoring specific rules that makes dual wielding suck.
    The solution is to ask the DM to bend the dual wielding rules during or roughly around the time of session 0, but sometimes DMs themselves don't know the rules, don't know that the rules around dual wielding suck, etc. I've had DMs tell me they go by the rules, but they themselves don't understand the rules particularly well and then have to make 'rulings' at session 5 because they never understood the base rules. So the proposed solution would have failed there.
    Another example would be mounted combat, more or less the same base problem as dual wielding in that the rules around it make it suck. So I decide I'm not going to build a lance-wielding paladin. I decide to make another different character. But then at session 8 I suddenly find the paladin has decided he's going to be a jouster and he's having a ton of fun I missed out on potentially having. I can't make a jouster too, that's just a "me too" action and going "me too" is pretty lame in general.
    All that being said, saying "you shouldn't be able to do that" when someone is potentially having fun is probably the 100% incorrect response. But some rules do have good reason to exist. (just not the ones I called out here)

  • @captain-hooked
    @captain-hooked 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Enjoyable and informative! Thank you and I look forward to the next one.

  • @Crow.Author
    @Crow.Author 2 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Wow, Matt looks so… professional in a polo.

    • @thecoolerrats7144
      @thecoolerrats7144 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      But not too professional. Like a good middle manager.

    • @Drekromancer
      @Drekromancer 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@thecoolerrats7144 Like a retail boss who will let you leave work early to pick up your kid from school.

    • @thecoolerrats7144
      @thecoolerrats7144 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Drekromancer or the down to earth owner of a small business…hey, wait…

  • @duseylicious
    @duseylicious 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I totally agree, yet interestingly enough I’m also someone who thinks the system we use is important. Some RPGs give rules for overcoming challenges, some for setting up scenes, some attempt to create drama, others comedy. I’ve trying to reconcile my belief that “it’s not always important to follow the rules” and “rules are important because (depending on the system) they can create interesting, specific experiences.” And I think what I was missing was thinking of the system as a language. I’ve often thought of the rules as “tools” but I think thinking of them as “a language” is much more useful.

  • @shadow_of_the_spirit
    @shadow_of_the_spirit 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love how polite this rant is.
    Love to here your point of view about games and storytelling.

  • @benjaminfrost2780
    @benjaminfrost2780 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video, thank you so much for all the videos. This channel has been the single greatest resource for myself as a DM. Whether it be insight on something, leaning something, or simply being given confidence on something by you.

  • @FrostSpike
    @FrostSpike 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Big thing for me is that, with 3.5e, it seems that the players and the DM (generally) worked under the same set of rules - so boss monsters were built with appropriate character levels, used appropriate Feats, etc. whilst in 5e, the DM operates under a somewhat different set of rules to the characters. The monsters have their own abilities (as pseudo-Feats) and the DM can just "make it up" - there's no expectation that what a monster can do, a character should also be able to do. It remains important though that there is some consistency of what creatures can do, so that the party can have sensible plans to defeat them.

  • @JohnNoZ35
    @JohnNoZ35 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I did the ruling vs rules thing in 3E a lot. When it would speed up the play, I would just say, sure you can do that, it will give you +2 on your to hit. And we moved on without looking up the exact rule.

    • @alexandriamason2355
      @alexandriamason2355 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      but that is the rule for 3e, circumstance bonus = anything the DM thinks is cool.

  • @powerfulghost
    @powerfulghost 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    When it comes to language, I think it's also important to think about what's being communicated by grammar and spelling outside of the actual content. When I read a paper in which the writer consistently misspells the name of a key figure in the field, or of an important concept, I'm not concerned because I don't know what they mean; rather, I'm concerned because, if the writer had spent enough time with the material to have something meaningful to say about it, they probably would have learned how to spell it.

    • @Ellebeeby
      @Ellebeeby 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      “Whilst not directly correlated, sloppy writing strongly implies sloppy thinking - and we already have enough sloppy thinkers”

    • @jmvh59
      @jmvh59 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      There is a big difference between never spelling a word the same way twice and consistently spelling it the same--albeit wrong--way.

  • @dcnole
    @dcnole 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A nice follow-up/continuation of one of my favorite early-ish Running the Game videos, "The Map Is Not the Territory." Good vid, Matt.

    • @A2ndChapter
      @A2ndChapter 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very much this.
      That video still resonates with my GMing style and general approach to this hobby - th-cam.com/video/3v2_JDz2Di0/w-d-xo.html

  • @Gareth79
    @Gareth79 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this post. Rules as semiotics, especially in the RPG context. Made me think of the grammar of a given table/group, and how new players to those environments have to navigate this unique grammar. Eventually they even shape that grammar, and the group now has a new language. Thanks for such a powerful lens to improve my DM toolkit!

  • @freddypowell7292
    @freddypowell7292 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Please God (&, more importantly, Matt) let the 4th edition history of dnd one fighter at a time video be on the way.

    • @rafaelbrandao4059
      @rafaelbrandao4059 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Remember to also plead with Justin Timberlake.

    • @farrout000
      @farrout000 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are probably aware, but Matt is about to release his recorded 4e games to TH-cam.

  • @davidioanhedges
    @davidioanhedges 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    When you know the rules of a language well enough to break them and still get your message across then you have mastered that language
    When you know the rules of D&D (or any other RPG) well enough to break them and you and your players still have fun you have mastered that system
    ...perfect or complete knowledge is impossible, but a robust and well designed system, or language will allow you to leverage your incomplete knowledge

  • @lisabenden
    @lisabenden 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this video! It so well summs up what I have been learning over the last year or so doing text based rp in the MCDM Rollplay Stage Discord Chanel... That as long as everyone communicates everything runs smoothly, and even failing skill checks or loosing battles is fun. It's only when there is lack of communication that things get un-fun.

  • @lothar8940
    @lothar8940 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video is good summary of how you teached me to feel more comfortable while running D&D, because at the beginning I was trying to be so strict to the rules (which resulted having bad time for all) and after listenting to your videos on my way to work/home i builded up more confidence in just making on the fly things that will suit the action more if I and my players are not sure how rules will deal with our shenanigans. So thanks

  • @theemperormoth5089
    @theemperormoth5089 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    "It is entirely legal, and thus ENTIRELY CORRECT!!!" -The Grand Provost Marshal

    • @SonofSethoitae
      @SonofSethoitae 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hail, TTS Exodite, praise the Man-Emperor of Man

  • @icyblankets4971
    @icyblankets4971 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I’m a player and DM that loves rules and and definitely still loves storytelling. A DM with a strong grasp of the rules means that when I play and do something special within the games reality (created and governed by the rules) I feel like I really earned it, because I played my character well within the bounds of that reality, not just because my DM thought it was cool. To me it makes the world feel real.

  • @michaelramon2411
    @michaelramon2411 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi. As a Pathfinder-playing rules-focuser, I think a major reason why I and my friends like the rules-heavy approach is that it gives the world a sense of consistency that we can plan for. By understanding how the world works, we can adapt and make smart decisions to overcome our foes. In a sense, it makes the whole game a giant puzzle to crack. That doesn't mean the GM has to 100% abide by everything (especially if they need to rule something on the fly like "make a Reflex save"), but the rules act as an essentially neutral arbiter to make things feel fair - success or failure wasn't dependent on whether the GM decided to let the players win or not.

    • @paulsnowuk
      @paulsnowuk 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think that the negative view of this is that you are saying that PF becomes a puzzle game for the players. This is analogous to playing a board game. Are you actually roleplaying with the view of your characters of the world? Can they know those rules?

    • @michaelramon2411
      @michaelramon2411 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@paulsnowuk We roleplay plenty outside of combat. In combat, the stakes get a lot higher and there is already a big element of randomness from the dice. The character may not in-universe understand the full intricacies of the five-foot-step, but they DO understand how fighting works and how to do it effectively, and they want to win.

    • @paulsnowuk
      @paulsnowuk 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@michaelramon2411 So in-universe, they live in a world where movment is quantised into 5-foot segments? They manipulate a world with that nature to it? Doesn't this show the rules are only a tools to help model what's going on. You can't take them seriously as a 100% true representation of the nature of the world.

  • @countlesssea7444
    @countlesssea7444 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thank you. You're the reason I'm not a bad gm (I hope) love you Matt. The good times you've inspired me to have have been great. I really appreciate it. Now I'm in my freshman year of college and trying to start a game over at college. Thank you for helping me have hours of fun for me and according to them my players.💙💙💙

  • @toddpickens
    @toddpickens 2 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    Couldn't agree more. Was literally just discussing this on the insanity that is twitter.
    It's a shared experience, not a sausage making machine. I can run an entire campaign with a six-sided die or coin to flip, imagination, and common sense.

  • @hotwheels2621
    @hotwheels2621 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I feel a need to explain that some of us pedants enjoy a good story immensely, but as we are running with a story, we trip and lose immersion when we encounter a misspelling or a grammar error. I can’t help this, this is who I am and it’s weird to me that other people don’t take psychic damage when they read a typo. I’m sure there are some joyless pedants out there, but I’m a joyful pedant.
    Love your stuff

  • @Michael-R
    @Michael-R 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Excellent analysis. I would love more videos like this

  • @PonyusTheWolfdude
    @PonyusTheWolfdude 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is one of the most important things to understand in most creative endeavours imo. Helped me a lot professionally.
    I don't approach my GMing as a big W Writer, I approach it as a game designer, but as a game designer I know the rules are there for structuring the creation of entertainment, not for the omnicient observer that knows what rules I broke when I entertained my players

  • @grahamstewart2968
    @grahamstewart2968 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    That's exactly what my dad always said "The purpose of language is to communicate." For this reason he was happy with people using the grammatically incorrect term "Yous" when referring to multiple people, as historically the plural was "you" and the singular was "thou". With "Thou" falling out of favour, in favour of "you" as the singular, there was a communication opening for a new word referring to multiple people... "guys" is fine too.

    • @stealthington
      @stealthington 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I tend to go with folks, but I think it communicates my intent :)

    • @grahamstewart2968
      @grahamstewart2968 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@stealthington Absolutely... and if you're Australian/British it's also perfectly acceptable and friendly in adult company to just say "how ya doin, C***s". As long as the intention is clear to everyone it's a win.

    • @Drekromancer
      @Drekromancer 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@grahamstewart2968 I fucking love Australians hahaha

    • @alalalala57
      @alalalala57 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@stealthington I have adopted folks as well. I'm a Malaysian that sounds like an American Southerner from time to time lol.

    • @flowonthego
      @flowonthego 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@grahamstewart2968 Depends if you know the guy, and you may seem like a bogan if you just start saying it.

  • @davidharshman7645
    @davidharshman7645 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I will say that I mostly agree...except for how absolutely Matt said it. "Rules pedants" aren't all waiting like vultures to take pleasure in pointing out an error in the rules, nor are they mutually exclusive with the group of people telling dramatic stories for drama's sake. I have known many people that are rules pedants, not because they enjoy pedantry, but because they honestly believe that everyone has more fun when we all follow the same set of rules. They think the dramatic stories are easier to tell or listen to if we all understand the same set of rules. And, they often take great joy in finding rule combinations that give them a cool combo effect. That isn't joyless, it is simply joy with a different source and expression.
    Also, the alternative isn't necessarily "confusion". It may be hard feelings when the rules aren't consistently applied (or even just appear not to be.) Or it could be a too harsh ruling that keeps a player from doing a cool thing that should have been allowable by the rules, if only the DM had taken the time to check or ask. After all, bad rulings can ruin a game as much (or more) than strict adherence to a bad rule.
    (And yes, the people I know who take joy in being 'rules ambassadors' are probably the minority of the Rules Pedants. But, they do exist and deserve to be acknowledged.)

    • @cmikewilson
      @cmikewilson 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeah, his general point was good, but too much "mind-reading."

  • @johnandrewbellner
    @johnandrewbellner 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh my! Superb video. Great topic. Great viewpoint. Great approach. Great presentation. Thank you!

  • @ElrohirGuitar
    @ElrohirGuitar 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Really great video. I had the advantage of DMing pre first edition. I learned to DM by understanding the underlying intent of the game. My groups had a wonderful time playing in second edition and I remember a time when the players were navigating a ledge in a cavern and had to leap across several small breaks. I just told them "don't roll a one". The players suddenly feared their situation as seriously as facing a dragon and cheered each success. I knew would allow a last ditch grasp of the ledge if they failed and that there was water at the bottom, but they didn't. I finally stopped DMing for a while in 3rd edition because players seemed to want rules over fun and there were too many books to keep track of the rules.
    This all reminds me of freshman English in college. I had a teacher correct a paper I had written. I went to her and argued that I had written a part intentionally "wrong" to make a point. After convincing her that I knew the "correct" rules, she relented and I never had a problem with her afterwards.

  • @plaidpirate
    @plaidpirate 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    This seems quite possibly inspired by a bit by Stephen Fry called "Language", which you can find on TH-cam as well - he makes a lot of similar points there and it's also a great little rant. Check it out if you want to hear more examples of language rules.

    • @davidioanhedges
      @davidioanhedges 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      th-cam.com/video/wBOCHPCYnDw/w-d-xo.html

    • @VosperCDN
      @VosperCDN 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Stephen Fry is amazing to listen to in his discussions about ... well, just about everything he chooses to talk about.

    • @carlfishy
      @carlfishy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      "They whip out their Sharpies and take away and add apostrophes from public signs, shake their heads at prepositions which end sentences and mutter at split infinitives and misspellings, but do they bubble and froth and slobber and cream with joy at language? Do they ever let the tripping of the tips of their tongues against the tops of their teeth transport them to giddy euphoric bliss? Do they ever yoke impossible words together for the sound-sex of it? Do they use language to seduce, charm, excite, please, affirm and tickle those they talk to? Do they? I doubt it. They’re too farting busy sneering at a greengrocer’s less than perfect use of the apostrophe. Well sod them to Hades. They think they’re guardians of language. They’re no more guardians of language than the Kennel Club is the guardian of dogkind." - Stephen Fry

    • @farrout000
      @farrout000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      If I recall, Matt has mentioned this video a few times, he was likely inspired.

    • @KBTibbs
      @KBTibbs 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      This essay introduced me to the idea of "sound-sex" and for that I'm grateful to Mr. Fry.

  • @javidproductions9353
    @javidproductions9353 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I like the feeling of a fair fight. I have no issue with/as a GM making up stuff before the battle. I just like it being fair once set in motion.
    Rules allow fair fights, and add pleasure. I like knowing the rules to be consistent.
    But if the GM doesn't care I won't argue.

    • @janfransdevries8032
      @janfransdevries8032 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Consistency is key. A DM once ruled their dragons are vulnerable to lightning. That's fine. I chose spells accordingly. Then we came across another dragon, same colour, same age, but he was immune to lightning. Reason? "Well this one just has it."
      If you, as a DM, are training your players on your custom enemies, please do not penalize them when they learn your custom enemies.

    • @ianp7054
      @ianp7054 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah, there's a limit though. I just played a session where a player tried to steer one ship in to another to crush a sea creature, in the astral sea. What are the rules for that?
      DM made a ruling, there were some rolls, and it was an awesome moment we'll talk about in the future.

    • @javidproductions9353
      @javidproductions9353 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ianp7054 "What are the rules for that?". Depends on the system surely? Some systems could have rules for hitting with vehicles, some won't.
      I'm saying that the rule existing is always better. Because it allows it to be a balanced choice and helps solidify consistency within the system. A choice made by designers will always be more balanced and consistent then a choice made by me on the fly. Doesn't mean I don't believe in improvising, if I don't know the rule (or it doesn't exist) I must. But knowing the correct rule is significantly better.

    • @javidproductions9353
      @javidproductions9353 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@janfransdevries8032 Agreed. And rules are a good tool to insure the consistency

    • @innocentbystander72
      @innocentbystander72 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@janfransdevries8032 That DM should have told after the second dragon was not affected by the lightning that the first dragon had a curse.

  • @delrey28
    @delrey28 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love your material, but I think this is the best thing I've ever seen on this channel. Very much loved it.

  • @ethansexton2590
    @ethansexton2590 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    As always, you’re an inspiration, Matt. You’ve been like my older brother teaching me the game for three years now. Thank you.

  • @grantstephens8754
    @grantstephens8754 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    In response to "There is no reward for running the game 100% by the rules..."
    That isn't the point, at least for me. And in no way do I run the game 100% by the rules. But, some of us just enjoy knowing there is a rule. Matt has said it before. He will print off an edited map of broken spire keep so when his players say "well isn't that convenient" he can say "it's all right here" and show that is what would happen.
    The language might be about communicating, but the rules are about determining WHAT WOULD HAPPEN. That's why we have them.

  • @jonathanenck3814
    @jonathanenck3814 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I think one of the biggest example of this is Jeremy Crawford and Chris Perkins running the Acquisition Inc. games. They literally wrote the rules (with a large team behind them of course), and for all that creating the rules is their job, they very clearly play the game for the players to have fun (even Wil Weaton, sore as he is about the whole acid pit thing). My favorite parts of those games are where they crack up because the things the players choose to attempt against the backdrop of they created for the games. And I fully recognize that the Acq. Inc. games are more entertainment than useful ways to learn the game, they very clearly show that D&D and TTRPG's are about having fun with friends. The very same reason I have followed Critical Role. Much as I love Matt and the gang, what they do is equally about the entertainment and not just D&D. Of course it helps that they are entertainers by profession, which elevates their game and the entertainment value of the stories they've told. The Chain is far more D&D and less entertainment, but it is still a group of friends playing in a world to have fun (even when that looks like choosing between dying quickly or dying slowly.)

  • @virginiacritchfield1483
    @virginiacritchfield1483 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    this is awesome. thank you for giving the way to communicate this through.

  • @luisebraunsperger
    @luisebraunsperger 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video Matt! Always good hearing your thoughts about pretty much anything. You’re an inspiration to me as a Gm.

  • @billyalarie929
    @billyalarie929 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    as a writer, this is absolutely amazing and encouraging.

  • @kalebbateman
    @kalebbateman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Listening to Matt talk about D&D is a lot like watcging Bob Ross paint. It starts out making perfect sense, but then he says something that doesn't seem right. But sure enough, if you watch until the end, the stroke that seemed out of place makes perfect sense, and actually adds way more than you could've ever expected.

  • @JasonVDM
    @JasonVDM 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brilliant video Matt!!!
    I DM'ed my first game 33 years ago. The years of thinking about and playing have taught me: Roleplaying is communication. All the way. All the time.
    You are 100% right.

  • @lx-icon
    @lx-icon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think this to myself upon watching every single one of your videos: you are so damn eloquent. I could listen to you for days on end because your voice/tone is both engaging and reassuring.
    Also - hot.
    Also also - completely agree with the actual context as well :D

  • @VegtamTheWonderer
    @VegtamTheWonderer 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I mean, 3rd edition was tedious, but I've never seen players less imaginative or less invested than in 5th edition. Not even in other systems. It doesn't matter if they are experienced or new, if I'm the DM or not, or what the setting is. There's such a difference. 5th edition just does something to suck all the life out of players. Even I feel it. I don't know what's wrong exactly, but I do know something's off. I've been playing RPGs for over 20 years and I've never seen anything shut players down like 5th edition.
    Two years ago, I ran 3.5 for a few players who usually can't be bothered to even name their characters. It was like they were different people. They were all animated, had detailed backstories, constantly talking about the game outside the game. They would gush about their characters and even their builds and the cool shit people were doing. I've had the same thing happen with 4th edition, Shadowrun, Pathfinder, Kids on Bikes, the Marvel Universe Roleplaying system, the Robotech RPG, and the various 40k RPGs.
    If I had to guess at the root cause, I would say having to make constant spot rulings annihilates immersion way more than frequently looking up a rules.

    • @michaelduke9057
      @michaelduke9057 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I will defend 5th edition to this extent its way more accessible than other versions of DnD and has brought a lot of new players to the hobby. However, I have also seen players with experience in other game systems ultimately be disappointed with 5e though I can't put my finger on it either. Maybe there is a blandness to it? Maybe it's too low risk for the players? Not sure.

    • @VegtamTheWonderer
      @VegtamTheWonderer 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@michaelduke9057 I think the "accessibility" is a function of the problem. In my experience, it's not so much that people pick up the game faster, it's that you don't have to understand the mechanics to play.

    • @Drekromancer
      @Drekromancer 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@VegtamTheWonderer I agree it's a tradeoff. At this point, I feel as though naked 5e is underwhelming in a lot of ways, but it's designed so that a beginner can pick it up and learn it easily. Once you have a player trained on the D&D mentality, I think they're due for a switch. 5e is just the launchpad to the next thing. Whether that means 3e, 4e, or some of the crunchier 5.5e supplements is not for me to say. However, I really enjoy the idea that 5e is the core of a modular experience, so you can add crunchier "modules" onto it once players get acclimated to the basics. (I'm very into modding/optimizing parts of 5e to have the kind of crunch it's missing, without losing its simplicity and flexibility.)

    • @photografo9240
      @photografo9240 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I've had the opposite experience lol
      Haven't been around as long but I had the displeasure of playing in a pathfinder game and everyone (me and every other player who gets really into character and rp) was bored and playing was a pain.
      Turns out having to spend 6 hours to make a character and stopping the game every 5 minutes to check if player A can lift the rock player B can jump the chasm is tedious and terribly unfun.

    • @VegtamTheWonderer
      @VegtamTheWonderer 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@photografo9240 I only see pathfinder 1 and DND 3.5 get bogged down when people keep trying to do stupid crap nobody in that situation would even consider, like trying to actually do a Fastball Special or something stupid like that.
      Usually I just ask, "why would your character possibly think that's the best option?" once and people stop doing that kind of garbage and stunlocking the game trying to stretch the rules to do something obviously nonsense.
      Or if in a goofball game, nobody cares what the rule is anyway and we go back to making it up on the fly.

  • @WaterTheBoy
    @WaterTheBoy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I see a lot of these arguments from the perspective of the DM, but how would this argument apply to players?
    I find it hard to imagine a player being able to disregard the rules without creating a conflict of interest between other players and the DM. If that is still left up to the DM, in that a player can ask to break a rule, I find that far less satisfying because it would be an exception simply given to me rather than earned like everything else on my sheet.
    Do players even apply to this? Should a player expect a rule to be changed for them?
    They otherwise only have the rules as written to go off of.

    • @JacksonBockus
      @JacksonBockus 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      From the rules-as-language perspective, players use the language to propose ideas and negotiate with the DM. So the player can say things like “can I make an athletics check to jump the ravine?” And the DM understands what the player is asking for well enough to accept the proposal, reject it, or make a counter-offer, like “only if you use the Dash action” or “sure, but you’d have disadvantage due to limited visibility”.
      In that scenario, neither the player nor the DM are looking up rules for jumping; they’re negotiating within the framework of the rules to reach a mutual understanding.

    • @markfelps2269
      @markfelps2269 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      In my experience DMs let players break rules all the time. From close tracking of materials to combat maneuvers not explicitly covered in rules, to intentionally just ignoring rules inconvenient to players, like penalties for shooting past people or exhaustion -- one of the most ignored rules in the game. Players mostly complain because they wanted to do a cool thing outside the rules that would be super effective and the GM disallows because they know if they allow that super effective thing is now going to be a regular part of every battle. Because once you let the player break that rule, you've said they can break it forever in most player's minds.

  • @MumboJ
    @MumboJ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I think this video is basically the reason I prefer DMing for new players.
    If they don't know the rules, they aren't constrained by them.
    This leads to fewer objections and more creativity.

  • @ericdewald8948
    @ericdewald8948 ปีที่แล้ว

    Rewaching this and it is SO good; thank you for communicating this topic.

  • @DrLipkin
    @DrLipkin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Some of the best moments from games that I have run came from me making rulings on the fly. But I disagree that wanting to hew closely to the rules makes someone a joyless pedant. The rules don't just represent language, but the limitations of a universe. D&D is a shared story, so mutual understanding of the universe is vital to that enterprise. Someone arguing for the rules is defending their understanding of the universe, and therefore defending their enjoyment of the game. If everyone can agree that a ruling seems fair, great. But if not, DM fiat over rules as written can lead to confusion and frustration, especially if it happens a lot.
    One of my players is neuro-divergent. I am a different kind of neuro-divergent. We see and experience the world differently than each other, and from neuro-typical people. Sticking to the rules as closely as we can ensures that we can play together and with other people with as little friction as possible. Calling us joyless pedants is unkind.

    • @proteuswest1084
      @proteuswest1084 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      If a DM consistently overrides RAW, especially to the detriment of the players, and without discussing these changes in advance, then that is a problem. That problem usually occurs because the DM has adopted a competitive mentality. Unless such a mentality is agreed upon by everyone, it's very unhealthy for a game of D&D, and it is a violation of the social contract.
      Likewise, players who adopt a competitive mentality, calling out their DM or arguing over the rules, are also violating the social contract. It isn't the act of sticking to the rules that makes you a joyless pedant. It is the underlying need to confront others about the rules. Calling out and actively discussing problematic behaviors is not unkind. It is the responsibility of the DM, and it is how adults handle conflicts.
      As for neurodiversity, I greatly appreciate the intent behind the term. I am considered neuro-divergent. Normalizing differences is very important, and it should be encouraged. No one should feel abnormal or be labeled as such. But let's be realistic here: from a practical standpoint, the term is mostly meaningless because we all see and experience the world differently. It isn't as if all neurotypical people are a monolithic hive mind who all experience the world the same way. Viewing the world differently isn't an acceptable excuse for game ruining behaviors, and acting as if calling out those behaviors is discriminatory is a cop out.

    • @DrLipkin
      @DrLipkin 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@proteuswest1084 I appreciate the time you took to respond. I disagree with pretty much everything you said. But I don't have the energy to argue, so I'm gonna walk away.

    • @timothymcwilliams6055
      @timothymcwilliams6055 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I don’t think Matt is necessarily calling you a joyless pedant. You’ve expressed a reason for sticking closely to the rules that helps you and your table enjoy the game. As far as I’ve interpreted, the people who are joyless pedants are those who stick to the rules for no other reason than that they are the *rules* and thus must be followed. That certainly wouldn’t include you and your friends based on what you’ve said.

    • @dwil0311
      @dwil0311 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      “Sticking to the rules as closely as we can ensures that we can play together and with other people with as little friction as possible. Calling us joyless pedants is unkind.”
      I would suggest you go back and give the video a rewatch without this thought in your mind, and you might realize that nowhere did he call what you described as joyless pedant and in fact he’s advocating for the common language you’ve developed.

    • @timothymcwilliams6055
      @timothymcwilliams6055 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @dwil0311 Edited to remove comment, I super didn't realize I wasn't the one being addressed. My bad.

  • @thatradiogeek
    @thatradiogeek 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I thoroughly enjoy the comprehensive nature of third edition and I sorely miss it. I find now that the rules are so vague we argue more about them. Also I feel like, this is a game, so there *should* be rules. Without the rules, we're just sitting here bullshitting with each other making stuff up, we aren't playing a game.

    • @steven7159
      @steven7159 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      This isn't an argument for 'no rules' in any way, shape, or form.

    • @DanTalksGames
      @DanTalksGames 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@steven7159 it's a fair point, though. Where's the line between a game and unbound improv? If the numbers are arbitrary, why have them?
      I fully agree with Matt that joyless pedants are a bane to TTRPGs, but I think it's worth discussing where the line with rules are.

  • @kirkbrown1267
    @kirkbrown1267 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    THANK YOU.
    You are, truly, a river to your people and I am grateful to you for it.

  • @kgeo2686
    @kgeo2686 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was so great and helpful to just refresh my mindset while DMing

  • @QuestingBeast
    @QuestingBeast 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The phrase "Rulings, Not Rules" comes from the OSR (Old School Renaissance), a subculture within D&D that had a lot of influence on the development of 5e. More specifically, it comes from Matt Finch's free Quick Primer for Old School Gaming.

    • @igrek4035
      @igrek4035 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hello, Didn't knew you watched this channel.

    • @paulsnowuk
      @paulsnowuk 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Which is copyright 2008. So as old as 4E - so probably could not have influenced (early) 4e releases.

  • @BubblingBrooke
    @BubblingBrooke 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I call myself a rules monkey because I like knowing the rules and believe they help facilitate fun. If I'm a player and I notice an inconsistency I've developed a habit of asking if it was an intentional choice for something to work x way.(not in a rude way of course, just so I know if I should drop the issue or not) Most of the time its been an error and things are corrected. I like to keep things fair on both sides of the table. Of course if the dm is clear about certain rulings I never push it.

  • @finleyacker6773
    @finleyacker6773 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This really fits in with a book I’ve been working through called Finite and Infinite Games by James Carse which has provided a whole new way to look at both games as well as life as something that is played and how we interact with the “rules”. The language analogy fits with it a lot, really cool.

  • @thomasrhoads4316
    @thomasrhoads4316 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video. Very helpful thing to bring to our attention and a good philosophical point.

  • @noralockley8816
    @noralockley8816 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    My main issue and conflict that occurs that gets me upset with a DM is rules that involve player abilities. A player creates a character looks over the abilities and how they work ( or how they think it works) roleplays their character then in that crucial moment of time the DM doesn't follow the rules as written and makes up a rulling ( either because they don't know the rule or don't like it.) Well the player suddenly feels upset and confused because either their ability doesn't work now the way it's suppose to and now doesn't know how their ability will work. One school of thought is well the DM is right don't rules lawyer. This ignores the fact the player knew the rule. Sights what they read and understood but the DM still rules against them because we'll they don't want to be bothered with rules. So the player is now scratching their head. Well how does my ability work. This then destroys the flow of the game to the player and the enjoyment. On top of that perhaps reason why they chose that class to play. This is the problem between no real rules when they involve player ability and the economy of their action. There needs to be some sort of set rules that is agreed upon by the DM and players. I not to comfortable with a DM who just seems to be making up rulings on the fly.

  • @jxmxsc
    @jxmxsc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    As a writer who has a full time job proofreading, I totally agree with this assessment. At the start of my job, I was so hyper-focused on syntax, grammar, etc, that my anxiety spilled over into how I was learning 5e. It's only in recent years where I've stopped taking the rules of DnD (and arguably my job) quite so seriously that not only are my games infinitely more fun for everyone, but I'm also way more jazzed to write creatively at the end of a working day.

  • @erichusbands8268
    @erichusbands8268 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I alway enjoy your videos, your information and insight is spectacular and I hope the aspects that I go to implement have made me a better DM.
    I'm looking forward to your upcoming videos.

  • @xalxika
    @xalxika ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As someone who speaks multiple languages at differing levels of fluency, I can truly say it boils down to whether or not you can communicate clearly. I've mixed languages and used hand gestures to help get a point across, akin in many ways to splicing pieces of several TTRPGs to make a rule on the fly. I then go home and look up the words I didnt know so I can better create sentences in the future. If I had let my lack of knowledge of a word or phrase stop me from communicating, I wouldnt have gotten very far in language. If you let a lack of knowing a rule prevent you from creating something that works temporarily... youll have a hard time DMing

  • @Illien0
    @Illien0 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I think an over-focus on the rules has killed a little bit of the creativity for my friend group. Not that we spend all our time looking up rules, but instead that we view our character sheets as lists of 'actions' you can perform as if it were a rigid RPG, final fantasy or something. And I dont really know how that happened, but its kinda sad

  • @zzbones2196
    @zzbones2196 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow it seems when I need to hear something as a DM, Matt swoops in and tells it to me. Thank you 😊

  • @irremedy
    @irremedy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Perfectly stated, Matt. Thank you for offering this wisdom so simply and clearly.

  • @Goob_G3
    @Goob_G3 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent video. I read this quote in a book a while ago (not related to games) and went something like "grammar and syntax are like a pair of crutches. Once you are fully fit, you throw them away."

  • @jan_wh1tey
    @jan_wh1tey 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    As a child of God and Justin Timberlake, I take grave offense from this video.

    • @emerymarks7139
      @emerymarks7139 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I looked for the comment because I knew somebody was gonna claim it! Haha

  • @liammccrorey62
    @liammccrorey62 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I may be a rules nerd finding genuine fun in reading rules of games. Seeing how simple mistakes lead to comedic consequences, and how big complicated games can be broken down into key words.
    This does not mean I am a “joyless pedant.”
    The two aren’t correlated. It’s just how I have my fun.

    • @Linruat
      @Linruat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      YOUR fun generally does not translate to "the group's fun." I enjoy min-maxing, but I can also turn that off and actually enjoy the game as opposed to enjoying the game-design.

    • @alexwinter8423
      @alexwinter8423 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      *pedant
      sorry, I had to

    • @ThanatoselNyx
      @ThanatoselNyx 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Linruat exactly, some of us joyless pedants can do both.

    • @liammccrorey62
      @liammccrorey62 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Linruat I also turn my rules nerd off when I’m playing.
      Additionally when the GM does have a rules question it’s nice to have a person around who finds joy in reading through the FAQs.

    • @liammccrorey62
      @liammccrorey62 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@alexwinter8423 Thanks.

  • @JANoll1
    @JANoll1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don’t usually comment on videos, but I am compelled by this video to do so. Bravo on this video. I am impressed to find this on Matt’s channel. If my local D&D groups adopted this philosophy, I would be playing more 5e. Thanks for doing this video.

  • @bobert2999
    @bobert2999 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Matt! Starting a low level game soon with newer players, and I think this will be super valuable info.