Do Women Force Men to Pick Up the Pieces After Having Children by Those Who Are No Good?
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- Do women who have kids with men who aren’t “good,” force the new men in their lives to become fathers? Plus, a chef is making headlines for turning leftover food into recycled meals.
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Jeanie was spot on!! Anyone you lay down with is a potential parent to a potential child you could conceive with them. Choose your partners wisely.
Yes!!! This glamorization of single motherhood makes people feel better and ignore the fact that in most cases it starts the cycle of poverty.
Nobody wants to hear that though.
I'm sure someone is about to post and exception story and tell me how wrong I am.
At the end of the day, we should aim to stop burdening the system with this problem. Along with as stated earlier, always having to walk into a blended family.
If you waited all your life to wait for the right person but too many people [your age group/dating preference group] are "done with that" because they already had several.....that's problematic.
@k f The Real is based in the US and if you watch it they have said at some point what states they either live or are always in. So if you can't relate, why participate?
@k f boy this was a lot to read but the more I read is the more it makes sense. you're a hundred percent right
@@lorettaknoelk3475
First off, not to be rude but did even read what (k f) was saying? Granted, there were things I didn't agree with but they did make a few points I DO agree with. Also, what does it matter what country they're from? "The Real Daytime" may be based in the U.S., yes but it DOES AIR in other countries too. 🤦🏽♀️
People from other countries can chime in as well and maybe give another perspective. IDK. 🤷🏽♀️
Secondly, what do you mean, “If you waited all your life to wait for the right person but too many people [your age group/dating preference group] are "done with that" because they already had several.....that's problematic.”
I'm lost on the "problematic" part and the "done with that" part.
Are you saying that people who already had kids from previous relationship(s) is problematic? Or are you saying its a problem if a guy doesn't want any/anymore kids because he may or may not have already had one or more???
Also, not to "glamorize" single motherhood but there ARE SOME women who WANT and choose TO BE single mothers. Some women go to sperm banks to start their families. 🤷🏽♀️
I'm not going to say your wrong or make and "exception story" but I'm not sure if in "most cases", single motherhood specifically, "starts the cycle of poverty", ALONE. I think there's other contributing factors that go into that.
@k f You've made some very valuable points.
Loni has grown so much over the years. I appreciate her perspective. I hate the show is ending! I look forward to these clips. Can’t they make it a web show? 😢
It's the fault of racist sexist conservative Christians. Those are the people that need to be 'canceled'. And by canceled, I mean, 'un-alived'.
Wheeettt! The show is ending!? Why😭😫?
That's a great idea. Similar to Fox Soul
I think having Garcelle on the show helped her make that change..but it was a great one
Yes, I actually like this setting better without the audience.
I feel like it’s the opposite… it’s the women that have to pick up the pieces & are forced to be single parents that have to carry that heavy load and it’s unfortunate…
Exactly. It's always the women and nonbinary people who suffer at the hands of cis het whlte men.
yes, mostly because we don't have access to birth control and/or abortions. even if we get raped, we HAVE to give birth, and adoption is a really hard route for most women.
@@15minutestoread97 wait in which country are you are ever with rape you HAVE to keep the pregnancy??
@@15minutestoread97 this is literally not true.
A woman decides to have a baby. The woman is the only one who can carry a child and women decide to get pregnant or take the chance with unsuitable partners/fathers all the time.
I agree with Loni. Let these guys have contraceptives and stop blaming women for having kids
Always has to be men’s flaut, What’s so crazy about some women accepting responsibility that they chose the bum?
Then gold diggers will have nothing left to do or fall back on, they won't be able to "blac chyna" a man anymore 😂🤣😂🤣
This is why I hate that this show is being cancelled.
This topic is so important and NOBODY else is having these conversations on platforms like this!
I am so gnna miss you ladies.
*Save The Real Daytime!*
One simple TH-cam search contradicts what you just stated, plenty of channels are having this conversation. Some for it some against it, but they do exist.
When you're in a major city like NY, seeing the homeless digging in the trash for food, it will humble you. We need to provide better ways for the homeless to acquire that 40 percent of food we waste every year.
So true - i was shocked how many homeless people there are - it really saddened me.
Just remember: it's the responsibility of whlte cishet Cnristians to take care of the homeless and impoverished - not us. THEY are the ones who are responsible for them being homeless in the first place. If you wasn't for Christianity, capitalism, and white-supremacy, there would be no such thing as 'homeless'. Ideally, ALL minorities (POCs, LGBTQ) should have housing, be rich, and shouldn't be forced to 'work'. We need reparations and we need it now
With all this stuff that we need to do, what do they need to do? As far as I can remember, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.
Jeannie is spot on. You can't sleep with a bum and then get mad when he's a bad father. As women we have to take some responsibility
They do when they raise the child by themselves. That’s called taking responsibility
What Jeannie said in the beginning, I always say and take to heart. Like the first question everyone should think about when having sex is are you ok with having a baby with this person? If not then don’t even continue. It’s a 50/50 chance and I’m not risky 50% of having a baby with someone I don’t want to have a kid with. 50% to take responsibility for another human being with someone I don’t like, nah I’m good. Then people wanna get mad when a baby comes, you took that chance and lost.
50/50 chance?? Do you know how odds work?
@@propogandalf I mean with having a baby either you do or you don’t, not about to be technical with it.
@@malishaguerrier You tried to get technical with percentages and ratios and they were inaccurate
For men, maybe? But women and nonbinary people? Please don't tell us when and who can can have sex with. We are inherently sexual beings, and if I want to have sex, I will - unprotected or not. If I winged up getting pregnant, ill have a fcking abortion. I really don't care. Life is too short for us, marginalized people, to be wrapped up in 'morals' that are determined by warped sexist homophobic Christian ideology. The only fault I'm going to blame are cis het whlte men, who historically apparently been proven to be the sole source of all our problems
@@propogandalf Don’t be dense. You understood what she meant. And you know what she’s so right! That’s so true. Women have to be ready to accept that truth. Sex is good but make better choices with it ! Not every guy you encounter or lust over has to end up in your bed. Be selective with it
As a single mom I can see the perspective however I really think there are multiple perspectives. All single moms weren’t having sex with someone out of simply lust. A lot of us had a child and chose to keep a child with someone they genuinely thought would be a good partner and person and we’re in love. Sometimes it just doesn’t work out. And we as single moms deserve the happiness that new love can bring. And of course as GOOD moms we would want anyone that is around our child consistently to be somebody that loves them. It takes a special man to take on that position but nobody is “trapping” or “forcing” a man to do it. A responsible single mom makes it clear from the beginning that we are a package deal and HE can make the choice to continue to consider me as a potential partner. We are just fine on our own. We also didn’t make these children on our own. The father should at least be contributing financially so us as single moms aren’t out here settling for crappy men just so we can have some help. Rant over 😂
In Nairobi, supermarkets tend to burn with bleach and detergent, excess or leftover food... because, they tried to give to charity, but people offered to give to charity, ended up, *selling* the food to people, to gain profit.
So sad
I feel that this topic has many factors , Some woman ignore red flags from the beginning, Some woman have kids with fathers who don't take care of their first set of kids and expect something different because it them , Some woman do fall in love and have kids and it doesn't work out . So this can't be bias because every situation and everyone's life is different.
I didn't want kids my ex-husband did so I gave him two, tried to give him more but my body said nope lol. After 12 years he told me to get out and I did, that was 2017 I've been on a few dates since nothing ever came out of those and now I'm just focused on raising my kids. This one girl asked me don't you want a good man to help you raise your kids and I told her I do, their dad is a great man and he takes great care of them I don't feel like I need to drag in another man just to confuse them. I feel like my time will come I'm still in my 30s my 40s are going to be great 😃.
No such thing as a 'great man' if said man is cisgender, Christian, and heterosexual. Facts
@@millykendrill5301 um ok
That’s my thing! My kids dad is a WONDERFUL father, we just didn’t work out as mates. Not all single women with kids are looking for another father for their children , some of us just want a partner for ourselves!
@@apRN1993 so would you date a guy who was broke then . if he made much less than you would you still take him as a partner since your not looking for another father for your kids .
@@jgibson8092 Broke? No, he shouldn’t even be dating if he’s broke. As long as he makes enough money to support his own lifestyle independently then yes. Not sure what that has to do with what I posted earlier.
it's the best thing that could ever happen to a parent having a child with someone who wants the child as well...its easier to raise the child...coz even when it doesn't work out between the 2 of you...the parenting side always does.
mine passed on when my baby was 2 years but just knowing how much He loved my baby is good enough till date
Thank you, Jeannie!!! Spot on!
Love you queens can't believe The Real is ending! Cheers to another show
Garcelle dropping those facts!
You ladies look and do amazing. Every. Single. Episode. I'm in awe. Thank you for sharing with us all these seasons
Going to miss these ladies.All the best in your future endeavors.
The truth is you never know how a man would be as a father until he is one. I dont think woman try to find a better man to “father” there children its just sometimes good men actually turn out to be deadbeats. I also agree with Garcelle. You should have a child with a man who actually wants kids. Woman cant keep blaming men for there poor choice of actions. Some woman out here sleep with men who already have kids he don’t take care of .Thats the woman’s choice. You already saw the kind of man he was and you accepted it by laying down with him.
@k f your right. I hate to be brutal but i dont feel bad for single mothers who already had a chance to see how the man was as a father. If a man has kids he dont take care of that already shows how he is as a father. It was there choice to be a single mother. I only feel bad for the single mothers who didn’t know what they were getting there self into by having a kid with the man they had a kid with.
White cis het Christian men are always going to be deadbeats, or worse. Find anyone else, literally, if you want a kid. It saves you the chance of winding up producing yet another misogynistic whlte man in the world too.
Nope, if he’s are a deadbeat once he has had kids, then he was never a good man or even a man in general. I fully agree you should have a baby with a person that wants to be a father/mother, otherwise, why would you do that to the kid? That seems very selfish.
I never accept a man who doesn’t take care of his kids. That only shows how he would be a crappy father to yours if you choose to make some! Wake up people!!!
Sometimes it wasn't a man and woman who got pregnant, it was a girl and boy.
The way that I look at it my kids will always be apart of my life. Any man, good or not, can leave at any time. I am not putting that pressure on them to take the place of their father, but I am observing that you want to help me. I’m not forcing anyone to do anything because if you can’t except my kids then I have no problem being alone.
I know people would hardly listen. But, just don't have sex with someone you wouldn't want to be tied to FOR LIFE due to a surprise kid. Also, before u sleep with a guy talk about what would happen with a surprise pregnancy? What would he think about abortion? Would he be supportive of whatever you decide? Yeah most teens to 20's year olds aren't thinking of marriage or babies when they are hooking up but then you got all those dead beat dad's out there and single moms who didn't think things through.
Men can have vasectomies u know? I know it can still happen but is rare. If a man doesn't wanna have kids, get a vasectomy. And no one is forcing anybody. If having stepchildren is something you cannot really tolerate, don't do it.
Praise God I have NEVER been that hungry!!!
Let’s be real though you know exactly what you’re doing when you’re choosing to have sex with someone and you have choices when it comes to what to do if you end up pregnant. Many women choose the wrong men and then go and choose another wrong man which then creates more broken homes. Men need to be accountable for not stepping up and not making sure to protect themselves but women need to be held accountable when they know they aren’t being safe, and then if you end up pregnant and it’s not what you wanted and that man doesn’t step up for you make sure you make better choices in the future to not have more children with men you KNOW won’t step up.
Don't want any readymade family not just because of finances but also because of trying to disciplining the children. It can come in between you and the mother and the children end up disrespecting you saying your not there father. Not to mention you have to do with the baby father, it's just too much
Some men will falsely claim they took contraceptives to try and get out of being a father.
Married men can be bad fathers.
True!!
What does that have to do with this?
I totally agree with loni, I always believed contraceptive even though great for women and protected focused to
Much on females
yeah she would say that as if women aren't thotting around town either its not just men . There are women running around town sleeping with every man they can find to get pregnant and get a bag why don't they get their tubes tied.
Garcelle’s necklace is giving First Lady of a Baptist church.
Huh???? What??? Lmaooo🥴🤔😄😁 how????
People should evaluate their readiness for a parent child relationship. It is a tremendous responsibility.
Love Adrienne's hair here 😍😍
This is so true. So many females out here having kid after kid after kid with multiple guys and they ALL leave. Like use an IUD. Stop having babies with guys you know for a fact is a nut. I have a friend who baby dad own family told her he was not right in the head. They told her to leave him alone because he is a nut. She didn't listen now she saying how she wished she took their advice because he does NOTHING for the kid they have together.
I mean a man still can control whether they have a child or not. It’s called a condom.
Let them use contraception....don't they already?? If they do not want to be trapped, they already have condoms...d'oh?!?!
Condoms break. The only thing closest to fullproof way to prevent pregnancy is abstinence.
My Dad was manipulated into marrying an immigrant family that robbed him blind & stressed him into death from a broken heart. 💔
Here in Australia I know a couple of companies that when they have "damaged goods" there donated to the zoos and wild life centres. We have a separate care facility for those Struggling Financially
People need to think ahead more!
Like she said.
I also think the glamorization of Single Motherhood is making people think ahead EVEN LESS. It's a mentality of assuming government help will be given or the next guy will "have your back" if he "really loves you".
After all,
Think about how much people look at you funny if you are say over 28 without kids. People will ask someone who just got married when they are having kids, nevermind if the person(s) can afford them.
NORMALIZE STOPPING THE CYCLE OF POVERTY!!
Then we need to ban Christianity and end capitalism
I don’t think it’s glamorized. Anyone who wants to be a single parent probably shouldn’t be having kids to begin with. I just think that the reality is that you don’t know how any partner will be as a parent until you have kids. There are many wolves in sheeps clothings. The reality is that life happens and sometimes it doesn’t happen the way you think it would, and you have to readjust. But I won’t bore you because I think you’re referring to the stereotypical single parent.
If a woman is established and just wants a child to raise so be it. If you are struggling already, bringing a baby into your nightmare isn’t a good move.
@@aaliyahbroadus4279 Yes. Nobody wants to hear about the exception story. We need to address the collective. The celebrities making that seem like a breeze. The stripper single mom, the average person dating, the everyday folks that just "worry about it later".
Abortion is a thing. As a trams-femme nonbinary demisexual who was assigned male at birth, I cannot bear children. I cannot become pregnant, but if I could, you bet your ass I would be having as many abortions as possible just to spite the misogynistic society we live in. I envy cisgender women in that way. Any (cis) 'man' who wants to tell you what to do with your bodies is not your friend - he views you as less than human, less than the parasite that grows in your womb. Have an abortion, dump that man, and if possible, take him for everything he's worth. It's HIS fault for putting you in this mess.
I love Loni’s colors today 💕
GARCELLE IS GIVING ME FANCY VIBES, TODAY!!!! 😍😍😍👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I got pregnant with a former boyfriend who left which was fine with me. I didn't date anyone until 8 years later. Met my husband who absolutely loved her as his own. Then we had 2 other children together
You don’t have a baby with someone just because you are in love with them. And you definitely don’t have a baby because they are in love with you. Being in love doesn’t mean lets have a baby.
Adrienne at 4:01 had me wheezing!! So real. We don’t have to normalise everything smh
I don't see it :(
She wasn’t normalising she was humbling people and herself
You mean Jeanie!?
@@pinkstar9430 no Adrienne
Garcelle is always spot on. That lady has wisdom and is so down to earth.
Do you mean Garcelle?
@@MsDorcelus lol yes
Come to think of it, I think Loni has never been absent from the show for any reason... Correct me if I'm wrong though
I guess there are some men who just want to blame women....I don't know 🤷🏿♂️ but there are women who do trap men (especially rich men) with a child. It does happen.
Good for those women 🤣
Every time you have sex you take that risk. Rich or not. No one is kidnapping these men and forcing them to do anything.
The guy can just - not have sex with - women he doesn’t want to have kids with….
I think I just solved this “trapping” problem for men. 😆
I understand some women do have the intention on getting pregnant by a rich man or a man that they want to keep but also men can USE CONDOMS or use other methods. I know condoms aren’t 100 protective but men should also be careful. Unless the woman drug them or something 🤷🏾♀️then we can only blame the woman
Please find a way to keep THE REAL going😢Only if the Ladies REALLY want to stay. I never watched tv until I watched THE REAL. What will I do now☹️
I just saw on a social platform the idea to keep food that’s going to expire especially aspire soon and I’ve been in your fridge so you’ll be sure to use it
I just became friends with these girls and now they’re cancelled! 😫
You should go to the schools at lunchtime and see how much food the kids throw, like whole apples and sealed milk and juice etc. It so sad that other kids need food while in our schools so much gets thrown away.
It’s not just food that’s being waisted. It’s a lot of other stuff too. I’ve found TVS, computers and other electronics and appliances that were completely working that are in ok to practically brand new condition in dumpster or in the curbside. Yes they aren’t “brand new” but they’re still 100% usable and should’ve been donated to women’s shelter, college students (mainly laptops/desktop pc’s) and other less fortunate people.
When I had my kids I knew I’d be a great mother and I THOUGHT their father was on the same boat about him being a father but now 10 years later this man has cheated on me and our kids and dating now I do not want a man to raise my kids they’re my responsibility if a man wants to be in our lives he will make it known to me that he wants us to be a family
how did he cheat on the kids? he cheated on you. and cheating doesn't mean he doesn't want to be a father.
@@wandavaughn3049 when you cheat, you cheat on the family. Cheating requires possible time spent with the children to be a dad was spent in hotel rooms and going on dates. It makes me sick men will spend hours and days away cheating when it could be used to be a better father. Resources that should be spent on the kids went to the next.
I think the lady made creative videos to draw attention to an important topic. I’ve seen people looking through trash cans for food. They usually don’t have a kitchen to make it fancy but they are eating out the trash.
Adrienne is so damn pretty😍😍
I really am going to miss this show.
Single mother life ain’t for me honaaaayyyy. I would be so depressed.
As Americans we are extremely wasteful...period
America is the most wasteful, racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, and Islamophobic place on earth, so I guess it isn't a surprise.
Amazon be throwing away alot of food too
Men set women up too and that’s why what Jeanie said is absolutely true. I personally would never abort a life, but proclaiming how much I “never want to be a single parent” made one dude think that if he tampered with the protection and got me pregnant, I’d be with him. Welp we both learned a tough lesson. He didn’t get what he wanted and I got what I thought I could never handle. Thank God for my child; I completely changed my behavior when I found out I was pregnant.
I learned that ducks eat rice spaghetti, and cooked chicken,so when we have leftover rice, pasta, chicken
I feed the ducks in our city park!
They eat it up most of the time !
Actually bread, and crackers are harmful for ducks, and birds!
LOVE Adrienne’s look here!!!
Wonder her feelings about this now. She didnt marry and have a child w someone she thought would be a deadbeat
I have never believed that a woman can trap a man with a baby, because the reality is that when you make the decision to have unprotected sex with someone, you’re basically saying that you are aware of and ready for whatever “consequences” come from that act. You don’t want a kid? Wrap it up!
I'm a single mom due to my ex leaving after cheating on me for months while I was at home with our kids 1 being a newborn,I had kids with him because I thought we were forever,he was my endgame,I wasn't his,he has gone on to have a baby with his affair partner,but our kids are not a priority for him so I make sure they are ok have everything & honestly I don't need a man to help me nor do I want one at this moment in time maybe in the future but that will be for me not my kids
The curve ball is...the people can secretly give the food to the homeless...so if you can't finish your meal, feed someone who desperately need the help.
It's not just women that have children so do men. So are men trapping women to raise their children and pick up the pieces. Come on that is so one sided.
I don't know what restaurants you're talking about Adrienne because I can tell you that the restaurants in my area throw the food in the trash. Wing Stop and Chipotle are notorious for throwing away food that customers don't pick up. I have seen homeless people go get the food out of their dumpster at night and it's enough food for several families to eat.
Grocery stores and restaurants waste the MOST food. Stop putting the onus on regular folks and shift it to make the changes Adrienne was speaking on
I’m glad Adrienne mentioned that men are thinking this way. We need to stop demonizing women and hold men accountable to creating kids and not parenting them!
Your just generalizing all men think that way, calling it demonizing when it happens to women but it accountability for men…. How is that fair or equal? Both are equally capable of this behavior.
I hope ratings aren’t the reason for canceling the show. a lot of people like myself don’t have TV/ Cable but watch the show solely through youtube and socials 🥺💓 i will miss the ladies, they’ve put on such a great show.
Loni is right … we need to stop wasting food !!! And they are homeless … they better take that food !!! And I am with Jeannie y’all need to take responsibility when having S*x with someone and think about the long term effects !
That's why people shouldn't be speaking on stuff that they are not completely well informed on. In a lot of cases you have men flat out marry you and plead with you to have their children and get women pregnant and leave them. STOP blaming women that's bullshit
I think since we live in a patriarchy and society does not generally give men any responsibility in the matter, it is important that women PROTECT YOUR WOMB.
I use to love this show because they actually kept it REAL. Idk what happened but they never have actual opinions anymore they dance around and go off topic so much, everything is about political correctness. The reponse to this in season 1 would have been…nobody can force anyone to do anything, that includes be a good a bio father or step father. People change after a baby, if you’re single or married. Yes, both people can “trap someone” but the topic is about trapping a step parent with that mindset already in mind when being with the bio parent .. so what are they talking about, they didn’t even answer the question??
Adrianne said she doesn't believe anyone would have a child with the hope to trap another perspn to father them. That's discussing the topic. People are not always being politically correct. Some are being kind, understanding, considerate, compassionate and aware that they don't know it all. I would rather have people who speak a truth without the intension to hurt others then people who use their words carelessly. Imagine there are single mom's who deserve love and then these women just say , yes women have kids to trap New loves. Do you know what kind of image and falsehood this would put out about single mom's? They are expected to sometimes have opinions on subjects they have not incountered. They can't just spit " final truths" like Tamar and Amanda used to. It's unfair to the rest of the people who don't fall under their "truth". And many people don't fall under YOUR truth either. Judging by yout standards, in this instance you are not Real. To this person saying she is glad this show ending, so many people will be scrambling and out of work. A little compassion goes a long way.
Some people like to hide being mean behind calling it " Real".
@@Drawingboredi I disagree, why have a talk show called the real if you’re worried about pleasing everybody? You’ll never please everyone regardless. It’s not difficult to speak a truth without being intentionally hurtful. Obviously, they wouldn’t say “single mothers have kids to trap people” because that’s a generalization and ultimately untrue so it wouldn’t make sense, and would be UNREAL. I’m a single mother myself so I’m not sure if you used that example because you thought that’s what I was trying to say but you’d be incorrect. If you bothered to truly read my comment and use that compassion and understanding you’re talking about, you’d see how I made a quote of what would be said first season as opposed to what’s said now. It wasn’t rude, lacking compassion, inconsiderate or generalized ignorant statement like the one you provided. It took a stance and stayed on topic unlike what the ladies are doing now which is why the show is getting cancelled and ratings are so low. numbers don’t lie. Views in the original seasons were much higher because the ladies were real and they were never rude even if I didn’t agree with them on something, they understood where they were coming from. This is a talk show about life in general not advanced physics so as far as speaking without knowledge it’s possible yet there are four ladies here with different backgrounds to bounce questions off which they use to do just fine. So yes, I believe they are too worried about political correctness.
💯💯☝
I got lost for a moment lol. They got off topic quickly 😂
I always say keep it in your pants unless you can see a future with the person. That applies on both sides
Both my dad and mom didn’t want their (3) children, and eventhough they tried to hide it we knew...little kids are smart. When we grew up and I reunited with my father he confessed to not wanting kids... my mother never confessed it but she doesn’t have too... I already know ... we all do... but the interesting thing about life is Newton’s third law of physics... it states that for every action produces an equal but opposite reaction. So just as my parents didn’t want kids, now their grown children dont want them either... we’re all doing good financially and I know my parents could use any help in their old age... but the help they desire will never come ...I haven’t seen or spoken to my own mother in 6 plus years and counting ... she asks about me but in my heart I know she only does it because she WANTS something. I doubt I’ll even be at her funeral... moral of the story is make sure you get with the right partners that actually “want” kids... if not it WILL backfire ... when those kids grow up they repay ... good or bad
So very true.
Am sorry for such an experience.
But if I may ask who raised you? They mighty have not planned it but they didn't try to avoid it either.
If they never wanted you they would have aborted you and being successful as you say may have never existed. Atleast give them tge grace especially your mother those 9 months of being uncomfortable deserves recognition.
But at the end of the day uts your choice.
Am sure you don't have kids.
@Daphine... God raised me... I remember my mother never picking me up on time after school... 2-3 hours late was normal for me and no biggie... but one time she didn’t pick me up until 12 o clock at night... I was 5... yea she’s got abortions alright... probably like 3 of them... that goes to show you how less she values life... especially her kids... my dad was in on all of that too... so yes you’re right, I don’t have kids by choice... and because I had such horrible examples I will wait until I’m super successful financially and emotionally ready for that lifelong commitment if I ever decide to have kids in the future... but as far as the family I came from... that ship has sailed and sunken and I can only look onward and forward... im getting to the place where my mind is deleting all traces and rememberances of anyone that was ever in my past... and it’s sooo peaceful to press the delete button
@@thegoldenbowl5217 so sorry to hear that.
Glad you are giving yourself time to heal completely.
All the best
Much love
@daphine...thanks sweetie ♥️ I feel like I've healed a huge chunk...I forgave my parents... But the damage was done and just like a tree branch that's been chainsawed off it's gonna take years for that thing to finally grow back... So thats where I'm at I'm growing back slowly...in peace ...and I'm actually really glad and happy 😊😁🙂....I'm alive and God is great ... Thanks for your warm wishes...I hope you have a great rest of your week 🙂♥️
Which is why I didn’t have a child until I was almost 30 and married. [Ain’t nobody got time for dat!]
If the guy is not head over hill, obsess with you, do not get pregnant.
Yeah; everyone ain’t the same.
Ima single mom.
I don’t trust NOBODY around my child.
Ain’t gone be no step/bonus parent in my house.
If/when I date, it’s just dinner here and there. I’ll get into a serious relationship when my kid is nearly grown, old enough to 1)know how to advocate for their self 2)old enough not to be looking for a 2nd parent. My kid has a relationship with their dad, but even without-nobody allowed around mine. I’m pretty sure there are more parents out there on the same. 🤷🏽♀️
Same! My son just turned 18 and has never seen me romantically involved with a man other than his dad. I had my own childhood trauma with stepdads so I didn’t want to take a chance.
exactly 💯 they ought to throw this one in the trash
@@nb4888 sorry to hear that. This is why sex Ed, consent and safety needs to be taught in class like they do in many EU countries. Unfortunately, it’s an uphill battle here with politics and religion even though many schools are supposed to be secular. But wow, you raised your son to adulthood, and made sure his safety was your #1 priority. I hope you’ve been healing too 💕
I had a friend and when she found out the baby was not related and she has carried on as if she never heard anything different Yup me ♥️
people donate food all the time, im sure there is already some sort of vetting process in place. we may need a more robust one, but i dont see why restaurants and grocery stores havent been doing this from day 1. glad the laws are changing in some places, though.
Agree with Loni
Love Loni’s dress
NO WOMAN goes on straight 💯 wanting to have kid's with a dead beat dad..but things happen ( i agree with loni
And sometimes theses women are married and it doesn't work out.
I have a friend who is going through a divorce and she has children, so if in the future she meet a man , she has children that man will obviously know she has children and can handle this situation...which is very hard for both sides including the children.
There’s a lot of chicks that do
I LOVE what Loni is wearing 😍
Honey this is so close to home. My husband has 4 kids by another woman whom he left because she was cheating on him. Well recently she got pregnant by another man twice the last child is 8 months old and she started this whole rumor and had everyone believe that that child is my husband's,🧐🤨. Told everyone and her mother swearing up and down lying in my face when I know that's not the case. My husband and I got married while she was running around doing x y and z . The problem is that I just gave birth to my first who is now 1 month old. And it looks so bad. My husband is a Christian man and doesn't want his4 kids to see their mother in another light or shame the other two that are not his. Ugh. How does a woman have the audacity to lay with a man, the deadbeat and then come and push that child on the push over. The good thing is that she knows that I know that the last two aren't his. 🤷a mess.
Easier said than done ….. about being with someone that wants kids. Like Adrienne said your not thinking about being possible parents. With that being said “use protection” pull out method does not work HELLO!!!!
I think expecting another person to care for YOUR child is wrong period
The good Samaritan act protects restaurants from being sued. Big corporations just keep that myth alive out of pure greed.
I love loni’s shoes. So cute
But what about those that say they want them then, can't handle the pressure (whatever they may be). Some think that because the lust didn't work that the kids should be thrown away. They make promises to always be there and as soon as the rain gets to heavy, they run (the is goes for women and men)
I think ppl forget some guys want to have a baby. They will intentionally try to get you pregnant, then once the baby is conceived they don't want to be a parent anymore. Even dada who are married, don't always give 100% of themselves in parenthood. So yes, male contraception should be rolled out and normalized. As well as vasectomies.
None of them answers the questions and topics they don't like. This topic had nothing to do with women who fell in love with partners and didn't work out. This was specifically directed at women who choose badly then want good men to take care of their children! 🤦♂️
If it wasn't for the stuff in men, women couldn't get pregnant. Putting all the blame on women is absolutely ridiculous.
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Some men want the kids and was good at the beginning as Loni said ‘but they take to the hills when the responsibility of having the kids comes even thou they were good boyfriends/ husbands but just rubbish fathers. This things ain’t always intentional.
Cheers to the good dads out there.
I was eating and the 2nd segment disgusted me..esp when Garcelle tlked about the dumpster pizza being cold....ewwwwweee
For the poor and vulnerable they live within the shadow of excess and paucity.
Well these women are having kids alone so are the man out looking for women to help raise their kids
im not okay with this show ending
Thank God for Loni in this segment. Because the rest of them really don’t have the range to discuss the things that they are talking about.
Im really gonna miss this show