‘Ignore things we cannot control,’: Mother uses spinach as metaphor to teach bullied son
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A mother in southern China used spinach as a metaphor to explain to her four-year-old son how to deal with an unpleasant comment from a kindergarten classmate.
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It takes one to teach and it takes another to listen.
And how a normal Convo is recorded and went to a news channel of China sure😅😅
Come up with that by yourself 🤡
If she keeps at it, she'll never have to do another chore herself.
What do you do with spnich?
If taught well, it is easy to hear.
Now that is great parenting right there, actually taking the time to teach your child.
Yes, ignore bullying and oppression, let the CCP control you because you can't control them
Great indoctrination being passed down through families
@Bussiness Name he’s in kindergarten what do u expect and what she means by “leaving it alone” is not taking the words to heart
@@bussinessname7717 some forms of bullying could be ignored....not all as obvious
@Bussiness Name Wow, what a way to twist my words. 🤣🤣
yea, taking time to hit the record and reenact the whole thing again and post it, no wonder the kid is ignoring the mom. Superb parenting.
That kid being 2 years old, (by how he cuts that spinach) has helped his mom in the kitchen more than I did in my entire life
The kid is 4 not 2
I thought I was the only one...😳
Since little I have been kitchen-phobic, and now that I'm older, the heat and choping hurts my hands😮.
In what world do you live is that kid a 2 year old to you? I have 2 nephews and 1 niece, that kid's not 2.
That's sad. You should have helped more
@@catrocastre8215 nah, excuses.
I really love the way his mother gave him her full attention when he told how was his day. She is really supportive. Thank you for teaching me that too
Convenient there was a camera recording their conversation. Is this normal in China these days?
@@hb1949 We will never know the intention for the recording. Who knows if the mother is just like your usual nowadays mothers out there who like to take a video of their kids helping in kitchen and upload it on social media with caption like "my kid helped me with dinner" or something but suddenly her kid told her his problem? But then, who knows if she really scripted this conversation? All i can say, take what can be learned, leave what is unnecessary. After all, if we can learn something from that, it is not a bad thing, at least in my opinion.
The scary thing about bullying is the possible collateral damage it can cause. There's no system to help the victims. One of the worst things that can happen is that the bully comes from a rich family and they get away scot-free. Another bad thing is when the principal downplays the severity of the bullying, saying "They're just kids!!", even though the injuries are obvious. This is what happens in 'all of us are dead', the virus was created by a teacher whose son was bullied, and the principal was like "Come on, they're just kids playing". When the teacher refused to accept that choice, the principal threatened to fire him
Otherwise known as "life is unfair and that people will be treated based on their wealth and background" every child needs to learn this.
Adults that said "they are just kids" never went through bullying. Kids unlike adults don't have boundaries & don't think about things before doing them, this can end up in serious fights. Sometimes these fights end up in the hospital.
Hence this video
Yeah I agree, I don't like that the mother was teaching her son that, that's not a way to treat bullying at all, bullying is NOT to be taken light hearted at all
@@joshuabuchanan1141 you don't know if the mother went to the principal to talk about the problem. Neither if she went to talk to the parents. This doesn't look like a kid being bullyed every single day but like one who received one bad comment once. And I was bullied one year but it is more important to know how not to be reached by the bad words. The bully attacks the person they know is the weakest (maybe just because is the kindest). If I were the mother, and there was a kid who bullies my son, I would go to the school to talk to the teacher and to the parents. But if it didn't work, I would go to pay another big kid to keep my son safe from the other (so things would still be between kids).
Not only her son, but me too learn from the mother...
Awesome 👍🏻
wow! what a wise mom! i would expect something like ignore the haters but she explained it so well and not putting blame on the other kid - people just have different opinions.
exactly! what a great explanation
Whoa, this kid seems so pensive and mature for his age, and obvious to see his mother has a clear influence.
We need more of these kinds of mothers who need to teach some ppl out there
This kid was forced to be mature at that young age, kind of sad… kids should be kids and enjoy their stress free time. Teach your kids at young age to not talk bad about other people, and kids like him won’t have to mature at that age
@@truehappiness4U I'd take a kid as mature as him anytime than an adult who acts like a child whenever they don't get what they want
@@truehappiness4U You can't control how other people's kids act, but you can teach yours to be resilient. It's like the mom said, you've gotta focus on what you can control and forget what you can't. I wish I had learned that lesson at his age.
@@cyan-ida4206 well said!!
What a lesson not only for her son, but to all of us as well. Well done Mom!!!🙏🏼
The fact the kid is cutting spinach like a pro at this age 😱 this mum!
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His not a western kid so what do you expect.
Kudos to the mom and son
We don’t respect bullies we just learn children fight back the same of them for defense themselves
This is the kind of teaching the western kids need now
yes i 100% agree
Exactly 💯
Theyre too busy figuring out what their gender is 😂. Tjey can't be bothered with such nonsense
@@me-fv5xb Is that why the CCP put out an education drive to counter the problem with the preponderance of 'girly men' on the mainland back in 2021?
@@PopulismIsForBottomFeeders oh no, not the ccp 😂
Kid who rely to his mother for his problem, and the mother who guide her child with care and patience.
💯 parenting done right.
This is so cute! That little boy is lucky to have such a wonderful woman as his mother.
Mom could be sad too but she step back and think further. I really love the interaction and the kid seems pretty calm and polite. Hope we all could learn a thing or two💙
Did anyone notice he is doing house chores... wow... at that age... superb
Mother teaches his son how to properly cope, how beautiful ☺️
At 26, I still need to be reminded of this. It's so hard when you've done your absolute best, but things can still go wrong. But as she said, there's no point in dwelling over something we can't control. Let's be kinder to ourselves❤
This is what I taught my kids too.. That in life, not everyone we encounter is going to be a friend.. There will be some people who likes us, and some people that don't. And that is perfectly ok because we can then nurture and focus on the relationships that matters.
all kids deserve such mom
I don't know why bullying isn't taken as seriously as it should be. It leaves a trauma.. scars that do not heal over time. It is a crime against one's self respect and dignity. I hope authorities worldwide start to take serious measures against it
My parents used to tell me to ignore bullies. It's terrible advice. It's been decades and I still haven't recovered.
Bullies will never go away but we must always find healthy ways of dealing with them. This mother is teaching her son that we shouldn’t let others people’s words destroy our souls.
This an exemple of How much language does engage! Great job of Chinese wisdom, inspiring spiritual values for the Peace that the world badly needs. Xie xie.
That is freedom of speech. Kid
If they take your drawing and tear it, that is bullying.
Her voice sounds calming
Children aren’t the only ones who needs to listen to this conversation.
Well done mom!
This was so cute! She is very intelligent and he is a little angel!
parents should always be the guiding light to their children... to a child, their parents are their world
And all this with her son helping her out. ☺️
Every child needs a loving mother with beautiful advice.
That's great parenting! Bravo to the mother!
Great mum and lovely son. We need more of this ❤
I learned something valuable today. Thank you Miss. You're a blessing.
To not worry about things out of our control; what a profound piece of advice not only for the kid but for all of us.
Mum used a great analogy to teach her son about people with differing opinions, likes and dislikes. It was something he could relate to and easy to understand.
Well done Mum. Her son is a smart, adorable and receptive young boy. She and her husband have done a great job raising their son.
Reminds me if my mum.
She raised me by herself bring a single parent, so it was a bit tough at times.
But there’s really nothing more valuable than wisdom. My mum used to teach me things in a similar way.
But I hope she also teaches him how to stand up for himself and his loved ones. Balance in raising a child is necessary.
I wish them well 🩶
Most adults don't even understand this. She needs to teach some grown ups too.
Who else is marveled by the fact that he is helping in the kitchen at his age?
Pft, my 4 year old self wouldn't have understood anything about that metaphor. 😂 He has such great mama!
I'm in real need of advice at this moment about a conflict and you know what, thank you to this mom for helping me too ❤
That's a nice mom. I was never bullied before, but I got onto one or two fights when I was younger, mostly with my best friend at the time lol.
My father taught me to just defend myself if things got physical, thankfully, it never really got to that point, even when it did, I made friends, I miss those times
This is so cute. I wish this video existed a couple years ago so I could’ve sent it to my younger cousin when she was being bullied. Love u, cuz. ❤️
What a patient mother. If me, i will bring my son to karate class.
As a mom I teach my children not to be a bully, and I teach them also that if the bully hurt you physically then nothing's wrong to defend yourself. As long as you are not the one creating the fight first then defend yourself.
Great kid and great mom.
Every parent must take time to advise like that. I am impressed.
MAXIMISE THE THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL, AND MINIMISE THE THINGS YOU CAN'T - Felix Lengyel, 1995-2023
juicers are everywhere bruh
juicer infestation
Wonderful mother
The mother seemed really well educated and influencer so the kid and parents and teachers need to teach em this kind of manners from the beginning.
Definitely an Old Soul..Bless her and her family.❤
Okay but can we appreciate how expertly he cuts those vegetables.
Wow! That is Some Top Notch/First Class....BEAUTIFUL Parenting!
Wonderful Mamma!
And The Kindergarten Too!...Their awareness of what had happened & handling of it/sharing it with Parent....Brilliant!
🌟🌈❤🙏❤🌈🌟
later that night
Father: I don't like spinach in my food.
Mother: *grabs knife*
Father: I love spinach in my food, can I have seconds my dear?
What an excellent parenting....
Giving a powerful message for kid
And she taught him to use knife at th very young age.
❤❤❤❤
What a wise mommy! I definitely am going to show this clip to my daughter. ❤
This mother needs to teach the whole world because there are people who clearly don’t respect each other’s opinions
Meanwhile my Grandma and Grandpa : "Heres a Machete, go with your Grandfather to fetch some bamboo and make Bamboo spear"
i hope i can be a wise mother like her
I want to be a mother like her, amazing parenting skill and very wise ❤❤❤
Another thing to point out. The kid is helping cutting the ingredients... not only did he learn to use the knife, but HE HELPS AT HOME!!!! how many kids just play around and wait to be fed or demand the food to be done fastly??
Such parents are blessing to have
What a great mother
Yes,we have to leave the things that we can't control..Thanks to this mother and the universe!!🙏😊
I like the way the mother teaches her son now that’s parenting
That doesn't work against bullies, you cannot say: "if the bullies don't like me, and I cannot control that, therefore I ignore them."
The bullies will come back again and again to bully. Period.
Definitely! However, I don’t think he’s being bullied? More like a negative comment by another kid, which is why I believe the mother said those things. If he was being bullied multiple times by the same kid I think she would have taken action herself because that’s something she can control. I don’t know. That’s how I interpreted it
@@maxilu5243It’s very unlikely it begins and ends with one negative comment. This is probably the only comment the teacher noticed or was made aware of. I would imagine he is being bullied and this is just the first the adults have heard of it.
The title is a mistranslation. It was one negative comment, not bullying.
The kid was not bullied; just negative comment on his drawing by his classmates
You can ignore words.... But when bully come with actions also act .... If a bully rob You or hit You... Defend yourself
SUPER SMART MOM.😊
Well done mum 👏 👏👏
What a wise mother!
I'm a great father looking for a great mother like her.
oh dear.. this is wholesome
This is wrong - you do not ignore bullying. He should have stuck up for himself and put that boy bullying him in his place. I was severely bullied at school and it got worse but I didn`t stick up for myself when I should have - I should have fought back.
What a great mom
Bravo Mom!! ❤❤
This boy who is still in kindergarten already knows how to cut vegetables with a knife, while so many kids in the world cannot even feed themselves.
Wished my parents could guide me like that when I was younger. 😢
Amazing mum ❤❤❤
the kid got back from school and told the mom, the mom decide to reenact the trauma for views and likes. let that sink in.
Your mum is very wise indeed.😂
“Leave it as it is,” honestly I don’t know how to feel about that message. Sure, that keeps the kid out of trouble for a while, but don’t you all think that this could lead to this kid to accept everything if not eh majority of experiences in life the way they are and not seek for more? Idk, just a kind of tough message for a kid to accept at a young age.
True, even if they start using violence, "leave things as they are"f course not, if someone just comes at you for trouble, defending yourself is never bad. Some people said it was a mistranslation, and it were just bad comments, ok if they stop later it just fine to keep on and forget, but, if it turns to a daily basis, react! Change your kid's kindergarten, if others are just to far away to put your children, analysi the situation because he is too young to suffer it, the mental damage for his adulthood Iwill make the changing and iworth it.
This is really beautiful
Anyone's more impressed that the boy is helping out in kitchen already at his age instead of the mum's advice? 😅
Idk, but ignoring it is often the worst way to deal with bullies. Bullies tend to pick on kids who don't know how to retaliate, and they will continue to torment their victims for as long their victim doesnt do a thing. If it's just a one-time bullying, it would not affect the victim's self-esteem and mental health, but imagine the bullying continues for months or even years
Personally, I think that she’s not just teaching the kid to forget about the bully but to ignore the bully. Most of the time, bullies like the satisfaction of making someone else upset or scared. I think that I’f this child is able to be mature enough and ignore and show no care towards what bullies say, he most likely won’t get picked on.
If I'm the bully, I don't want to be ignored, it's embarassing and unsatisfying. I put some effort to bully you, and you just ignore it like nothing?
@@nadiamoosa3654 Excellent point ! Very few times I had to deal with bullies, but in every instance I astonished them frozen with wits that paralysed them on the spot. Wisdom is a powerful Secret weapon. The element of surprise to take them Off-guard., in gesture or in words. Throw a giant mirror to their face. That is the way the Empire of Lies (US of BS) Amuricans will have to deal with facts of hard reality, sooner or later but not too late! Timing is everything.
I think she is just referring to verbal bullying which can be ignored in most cases. But you're right about retaliating if its physical bullying.
I think she wasn't trying to teach her son how to deal with bullies. She was teaching him how to deal with destructive criticism. Imo, they are different. If your friend says that he doesn't like vanilla ice cream (And you do), then your friend is not bullying you. Now, if your friend says that he doesn't like vanilla ice cream and proceeds to throw your ice cream away, then that would be bullying. I mean, we all have likes and dislikes, so having a different take on things is not bullying, but talking trash is. That's just my opinion. 😊
That is so awesome!!!
in the world of internet we have facebook youtube and sometimes we get negative comments. There's no point getting upset or angry over it. What others think is their own problem no point fighting over it
Brave mom. A four-year-old boy is given to cut greens with a sharp knife. Really?😮
Thank you for sharing. It means a lot to me😢
What a mother❤
when i was in the nursery, about 3-4 years old at that time, my fellow classmates would jeer at me and mock me because of my name ( it sounded similar to a foreign food0 i would cry and eventually, before i was in the kindergarten, I requested my parents to change my name to avoid getting mocked again.
my mother refused to, as my name was meaningful ( ' The loveliest of all the children' it meant that in my native language)
and it took a long time for them to think of that name.
I, on the other hand, fearing the mocks of my classmates , pleaded them again and again until my they finally agreed to
my new name meant" the sweetest child to ever been born"
my mother told me this while giving me my new name;" Dont listen to the people bullying you for your name, if you ever come across such a person, think, how much of a sense do their name makes? who are they to mock your name that has been gifted to you? can they even live up to their names? the people who mock you like before are just jealous of your beautiful name, ignore them, sweetheart"
those words live in my heart even now, yes i have experienced some mockery even after my name was changed but i have faced them bravely.
This is really out of topic but i was reminded of the incident from this video
Meanwhile some spartan: "what would we do about things we can't control? we slice them, like these spinach."
I want to marry her son when he grew up. He help his mom cut veggie!! Amazing. Number 1 son in the world.
Dans les années 80, dans mon école située dans un quartier populaire il n'y avait pas d' harcèlement. Quand ce genre de chose arrivait, on se donnait rendez-vous après l'école pour se bagarrer. Après ça tout le monde devenait amis. C'est plutôt à la mère de l'enfant qui a fait la remarque désobligeante de réagir. Il ne faut pas inverser. C'est toujours à la victime qu'on fait la morale. Cela doit être l'inverse. Il ne faut jamais se laisser faire, agir tout de suite sinon le harcelement continue.
Il y a du harcèlement partout (et de tout temps). Après je suis d'accord que c'est aux coupables qu'il faut faire la morale, pas aux victimes et surtout agir pour que ça s'arrête. Dans ce cas précis, on ne sait pas si c'est du harcèlement (récurrent), le petit a reçu une remarque négative sur son dessin, la maman lui apprend simplement à ne pas prendre les opinions négatives à coeur.
This mother is prepared
This is not how you deal with bullies, you respond to bullies in a "proper" way, not by ignoring them.
There is nothing much to say except this is so much beautiful ❤
1:30 I think that comment has missed a word
"BEAUTIFUL"
this is were you need a father.. he would have taught him a different lesson
Best mom.
Wait, my mom is the best.
She can be the second best.
parece q todo mundo ta precisando de uma mãe esses dias, obg mãe desse menino por existir