How Childhood Conditioning Shapes Your Love Life

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  • @Mia1827
    @Mia1827 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +31

    Fantastic video A month ago, my five-year marriage came to an end. I'm devastated that my real love chose to distance themselves from me. I've tried everything to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I try my hardest not to think about him, but I can't help but miss him and think about him often. I truly couldn't explain why I'm saying this. 🥺😞

    • @cynthiabanks-x7q
      @cynthiabanks-x7q 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?

    • @cynthiabanks-x7q
      @cynthiabanks-x7q 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.

    • @cynthiabanks-x7q
      @cynthiabanks-x7q 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.

    • @Mia1827
      @Mia1827 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable
      I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤

  • @katm599
    @katm599 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Thank you very much. I was a sensitive child, one of 7. Having emotions, particularly difficult ones, were not tolerated well. My father’s words to me at a very young age, “you’re too thin-skinned” has had a huge impact on me & my relationships. I’ve worked in therapy to understand my patterns. I see them clearly. Breaking free from then has been so challenging! It’s really tough work, changing those patterns!

  • @4Authenticity
    @4Authenticity 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Wow Jillian… a few thoughts.
    A parent having a difficult time (parenting) doesn’t equal the child being difficult. Two truths can exist (my focus this week oddly enough).
    My 25yr marriage has ended essentially because of what this video describes. Me of the anxious, she of the avoidant (and so much more).
    I brought in volumes of baggage, yet hers was very covert and influential.
    It all got to a point where she hit eject on the relationship, and I understand.
    Oddly, I was working on childhood trauma and felt it would be the breakthrough for our marriage, instead it is the bedrock of my healing, not only childhood issues, but uncoupling the 25yrs I spent trying to become one. To be a husband, a father, a man, a friend.
    I’m thankful for this video where you calmly share the intermingling of great forces without casting blame.
    In my journey I decided I don’t want to merely be “healthy” because that’s a standard determined by a person or institution. I want to be better, because it’s a direction, a goal, a motivation for every day, every interaction.
    Thank you Jillian for adding your perspective and voice which helps us to be better. Shalom…

  • @SeanMcVitty
    @SeanMcVitty 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Your best talk yet! Thank you for also sharing your personal backstory. So much vulnerability, insight and healing right here in this video. Thank you 🙏

    • @jillianonlove
      @jillianonlove  12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I appreciate your kind words! 🙏

  • @wadeverweire7810
    @wadeverweire7810 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    ☀️ Good Morning Jillian !
    So glad you made this video about this specific subject! I sound like a broken record LOL but I agree 100% with everything you convey in this video. It's been part of my thought process for many years. The first 15 years of a person's life really influences them good or bad. And yes healing really is just having a better understanding. To self-reflect is a healthy thing to do from time to time however for so many people it can be a very difficult thing to actually step out of the box and be able to look at themselves and their past. It can take practice. Then, if they're aware and truly honest with themselves they can see areas where they may need some change and begin practicing a new way and follow a healthier path in their journey. No need for me to keep rambling on basically repeating everything you said in the video lol. But you've nailed it again! Every word in this video is a fact of the matter for most people and I wouldn't change anything in this video. This video is definitely one of the most important ones as it is at the core of all of us.❤
    Thanks for this!
    You're a savior for many !

  • @suzanne2680
    @suzanne2680 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    The most gifted voice on relationships at the moment. Normally the anxious one, currently grappling with whether to leave a reasonably healthy relationship (my first) and very good but overly clingy, anxious, codependent? man with at-odds values on animals (a big thing for me).
    Don’t know what I’d do without these videos. Thank you.

  • @martinmetzgerguitarist
    @martinmetzgerguitarist 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Jillian, your wise words are so truthful and healing. Thank you!!

    • @jillianonlove
      @jillianonlove  12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for being here 💕

  • @rocdocs
    @rocdocs 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I just pre-ordered the book. I can’t express how much this content has helped me. Thank you 🙏

    • @jillianonlove
      @jillianonlove  12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for your support - I'm so glad it's resonating with you!

  • @NilsExp
    @NilsExp 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Great info, thank you for sharing 🙏

  • @odgiiv1
    @odgiiv1 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Love you Jill. Thank you again for your wisdom and insights.

    • @jillianonlove
      @jillianonlove  12 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You are so welcome

  • @dashagalperin9133
    @dashagalperin9133 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This is such a great video, thank you! You briefly equated not being seen or understood to not being good enough and I would love for you to elaborate on that connection if you don't mind

  • @arthurtheartist
    @arthurtheartist 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    My problem is I give too much. And I'm happy to be the rock in the relationship but when I genuinely need help, I feel abandoned. Any hint of negative emotion is never received well by my partners. So I work hard to be happy on my own and end up feeling drained. I've had many beautiful relationships but I will never understand how it makes one stronger.

  • @craigo3849
    @craigo3849 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Very few Parents are adept at understanding childhood development stages and psychology. Most Parents are educated or uneducated in The Basics. When I was a boy my parents has The Dr Spock book on a nightstand.

  • @craigo3849
    @craigo3849 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Many times I see a parent ask a small child if s/he wants to wear a coat or would you put on your raincoat ? Often children agree or strongly disagree in a Rain Storm. Managing a child's Opposition to necessary daily domestic routines is Difficult. Getting a child to go to school or read, or do homework, particularly for uneducated or working Parents is Difficult

  • @craigo3849
    @craigo3849 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I'm not a parent, although I wanted to be. Is it reasonable to reflect that "A Difficult Child" may in fact be Difficult becrearing and guiding and protecting a young mind is extremely difficult to manage?

  • @craigo3849
    @craigo3849 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Many times I think having a child is wonderful, but raising, guiding and seeing that child through each developmental phase particularly if s/he is Resistant, would be a Disillusioning Life for any caring loving Parent, no?