Is It the Kids These Days? Or the Parents?

แชร์
ฝัง
  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 พ.ย. 2018
  • People like to complain about kids these days - but who’s the one giving them the participation trophies? That’s right.
    SUBSCRIBE to get the latest from #STEVETVShow:
    Steve Harvey is EVERYWHERE!
    STEVE Website | stevetv.com
    FACEBOOK | @STEVEHARVEYTV
    SteveHarveytv
    INSTAGRAM | stevetvshow
    stevetvshow
    TWITTER | @SteveTVShow
    stevetvshow
  • บันเทิง

ความคิดเห็น • 269

  • @SpeakUpWorld
    @SpeakUpWorld 5 ปีที่แล้ว +235

    Parents trying to be their child/children friend lol

  • @faheemthedream2007
    @faheemthedream2007 5 ปีที่แล้ว +140

    He wears the best suits!!!

    • @byee
      @byee 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      LionKing yeees

    • @jennamiller7016
      @jennamiller7016 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Always looking classy

  • @__kiki__3842
    @__kiki__3842 5 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    You know your fat son can't run😂😂😂😂That line had me dying

  • @rhodaleader6824
    @rhodaleader6824 5 ปีที่แล้ว +425

    Well said Steve
    We all need to teach our children hard truths, because they need to learn that the world is not fair

    • @osamasiddiqi1583
      @osamasiddiqi1583 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Uzair momo how is that ?

    • @ohFitZz
      @ohFitZz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I've never understood this concept, even as a child I learned enough of the world not being fair seeing the stuff around me and living life lol

    • @kelleybright3113
      @kelleybright3113 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank u mom 4 kickn my butt all them years

    • @verajones9623
      @verajones9623 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hello Rhoda

    • @bobosims1848
      @bobosims1848 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Not fair? I don't think that's what the problem is, here. If fat Tommy can't run, and therefor he gets no trophy, do you think this is unfair?
      What you should be teaching your kids, is that life isn't easy! That trophies, rewards and prizes come with hard work, with effort! And that only the best get them. Because if everybody would get them, regardless of what rank they finished at, then why the hell would anyone even bother to finish first anymore?
      Sure, participation should be encouraged. But fame and glory should remain only for those who score top rank!

  • @jaycitytv4657
    @jaycitytv4657 5 ปีที่แล้ว +176

    Why parents don’t understand this

  • @JohnJohn-jm9oi
    @JohnJohn-jm9oi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +122

    Parents want to live out their dreams through their kids. That’s the problem.

  • @Nikolaiwww
    @Nikolaiwww 5 ปีที่แล้ว +157

    when Steve gets to real...even for his own audience. But He's right.

  • @tedwoghiren4002
    @tedwoghiren4002 5 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    They are all clapping, most will carry on. This applies to adults too. You can't make a carpenter a brain surgeon.

    • @sumalways
      @sumalways 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah but give him good tools and he could built a house or a damn wooden sculpture...👍 Lucky are those who find their passions and do what skills they own.If you aint loving Monday you aint doin what you love😜

  • @Rinasusanarosado
    @Rinasusanarosado 5 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Let the truth be told, bravo Steve👏👏👏👏

  • @salishawright2984
    @salishawright2984 5 ปีที่แล้ว +210

    Steve, I think this is the best video I've seen from you because I'm teacher and I can relate. So many parents seem to always want you to give their kids something for nothing. They're not realizing that their kid is only a teacher's problem for a couple of hours a day for 180 days but they'll be their parents' problem for the rest of their lives because they never taught their kids to work hard for anything or lose gracefully. I feel bad for the world.

    • @AEdavirgin
      @AEdavirgin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I've been coaching for 12 years now and my observations have been more and more kids that respect me more than their parents over the years. They don't even care if you tell them I'm telling your parents anymore lol. I just need them to have basic human decency and respect by the time they get to me.

    • @salishawright2984
      @salishawright2984 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@AEdavirgin Agreed! I know what you mean. Parents no longer discipline their kids nor do they encourage them to be better kids. What I've noticed is that what they're actually teaching their kids is to scheme and to try play the system. We've been told to make things so easy for them that they really don't even know what hard work is or how to behave like they have home training.

    • @AEdavirgin
      @AEdavirgin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@salishawright2984 most def, the dirtiest 4 letter word you can say to them is EARN. I try to do my best with them since they didn't choose their circumstances. Have you seen a kid and thought what's wrong with him until you meet the parents then it clicks?
      Happy thanksgiving!!

    • @missright9159
      @missright9159 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@AEdavirgin This. It's at the point where I tell my parents that they really don't have to come chaperone. Their kids will listen to me way before they listen to their parents because they know they will not get far with their foolishness with me. Field trips are so much better without them around.

  • @firesign4297
    @firesign4297 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Support your KIDS❤...at what they do...BEST!👏👏👏👍👍

  • @AvyScottandFlower
    @AvyScottandFlower 5 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Yeah
    Accept and support who your kids are; encourage them to better themselves at what they like, but don't try to CHANGE them into somebody they're not, or force them to chase your own unfulfilled dreams
    This will save everyone a WORLD of grief!

    • @bbc7112
      @bbc7112 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes and supporting them don’t mean being the child’s friend. Letting the child do whatever they want and still support it. It means teaching them respect, hard work and responsibility.

    • @TheTrueSirPenguin
      @TheTrueSirPenguin ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes

  • @waheedahsrecipes5004
    @waheedahsrecipes5004 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    SO TRUE STEVE STOP PUTTING YOUR KIDS IN STUFF THAT YOU KNOW THEY'RE NOT GOOD AT AMEN😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Mrslorri1
    @Mrslorri1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    So true, I love it!! The audience didn't seem to feel this one though, they were in shock and they live in denial with thinking these kids are good at what they as parents want them to do trying to live vicariously through them. This is tough truth!

  • @daniellehoreau7721
    @daniellehoreau7721 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    All my life I've been tall and athletic naturally. So many people wanted me to play sports. It never was my interest. I was always the artistic and nerdy type. I was put in uncomfortable situations because of it. If my family accepted me for what I was talented and passionate about and not what I had the "potential" to do I wouldn't have certain insecurities today. Everybody has their place. Introduce things to your kid but don't force it. It sucks for them and everybody else too.

    • @DrArthurCGarp
      @DrArthurCGarp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Preach!
      Too many parents want their kids to do one thing only. As a kid my mother forced me to do tennis, ballet and Tae Kwon Do and she tried to force me to play football and soccer even though I hated it. I was a straight A student but that wasn't enough for her. I could do my homework, get A's in school, talk articulately and none of that mattered because she wanted me to play sports like my brothers. I couldn't play so I got no praise, I was often ignored unless she was angry enough about something to beat me, and I always felt alone because she allowed my brothers to bully me constantly.
      I pray to God my nieces, nephew and future kids can feel happy just being smart or social or whatever they want to be.

    • @rachael4512
      @rachael4512 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@DrArthurCGarp I don't force my kids to do anything but I will let them do any activity they want, even if they're bad at it. My daughter can't dance, she wants to go to dance lessons so I let her 🤣 she doesn't have to compete. I'm sure she'll do a lot of different things over the years, she'll probably be bad at most of them and that's OK - the point of childhood is having fun.

    • @MadaughtaUcheetah
      @MadaughtaUcheetah ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m going through this right now

  • @lr5547
    @lr5547 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Real talk

  • @quentinjansevanvuuren4199
    @quentinjansevanvuuren4199 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Yes i agree with Mr. Steve well said and that is the truth.

  • @princesstroublez2276
    @princesstroublez2276 5 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Preach it brother truth is, I never push my oldest but i had things in mind that I thought she could be. But i just kept quiet & motivated her along the way with her decisions. Now she does and gives pride in what she wanted & thought what was best for herself being future Chef. And my son still in school, but he has a bright future knows what he wants, he pick one of his choices and I'm happy & he has my support. He just need me as a his backbone to push him, kept him on that path since boys are different. I always said I will leave it to them to decide and not what I want them do be when they mind is not set on whatever and I'm a proud mom today.

  • @tytaylor8762
    @tytaylor8762 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    The parents are way too lenient and give their kids whatever they want just so they are keeping up with the Joneses. It's sad to say but if someone doesn't step in and make these kids realize that they have to work for what they want instead of having it handed to them our country is in for a world of hurt.

    • @zebakhan39
      @zebakhan39 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I have a 3 year old, he knows to get something he has to do certain things i.e take his plate to the sink after eating, he dusts all the snirting boards if the house, cleaning his toys etc. At the moment he wanted a fire engine toy but the toy is being held hostage till he learns to be reponsible for his other toys. He is trying and he asks everyday is it the way it should be. Mid December I will purchase the toy as he is trying but still is 3. As husband and wife we have discussed 4 mandatory things he will have to do whether he likes it or not, that is MMA, swimming and 2 languages. Rest are his choices. However, we will put him in different things so he can find out what he is good at or not but he can not quit because its hard. Life is hard

  • @pinkchastity
    @pinkchastity 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    It's not the kids it's the parents ! How can a child learn bad behavior ? Parents. Too many parents think whoppings or time out is the way. Where is the positive reinforcement, communication, mental stability from activities. Some of these parents don't even take their child out to enjoy themselves and release energy/have some "me time". Then think they have ADHD because they have so much built up in them. I see alot of parents don't even take time to really get to know their child. Bad parenting has became the way now days. The things I see I just shake my head. So many grow up to be hurt and confused. Don't even know how to pay a bill or manage credit. Parents are just baby sitters now days and a parent are supposed to be a teacher and a comforter first.

  • @southernsass2937
    @southernsass2937 5 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Tell it Steve!!

  • @michaela4499
    @michaela4499 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Steve really tells the truth he never sugar coats anything

  • @andiego39
    @andiego39 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Exactly I was pushed it broke me. I had to decide on what to do when I was older because by then they thought I am older enough to decide on my own.

  • @khalidtaj9148
    @khalidtaj9148 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Steve you're a legend man.

  • @yupengzhao219
    @yupengzhao219 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love how Steve always tells it as it is.

    • @andysupple4838
      @andysupple4838 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      He's never politically correct

  • @gemmamor4145
    @gemmamor4145 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Facts

  • @JailanSimon
    @JailanSimon 5 ปีที่แล้ว +441

    White moms triggered everywhere 😂

    • @anavarexe1820
      @anavarexe1820 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Asian moms, too.

    • @Macheako
      @Macheako 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@anavarexe1820 and black moms

    • @nycrojo
      @nycrojo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Matthew Morton and Latina moms

    • @anavarexe1820
      @anavarexe1820 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      So...literally any mom 😂

    • @Loey_Exo9
      @Loey_Exo9 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Nope Mexican parents aren't soft

  • @angelalaraia3846
    @angelalaraia3846 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    That's so true Steve that's the the way I raise my kids to

  • @dopechick4955
    @dopechick4955 5 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    The white women in the audience are livid 😂

  • @amyjkr
    @amyjkr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I taught my kids the same principles as I grew up with, to earn it. But the problem is, school sports are compromised by the fact that the coaches often also have a club business with their sport. And if a kid is in the club (at $5,000 a year) they make the team. Meanwhile, the kids who are not in club, but naturally athletic, are outcasts because they aren’t in the club. It’s sick.
    My daughter made the volleyball team in high school after just arriving home from Texas the same day. All the other girls had been in the summer camp for two weeks prior ($500), and most were in the coaches club. So the team bullied my kid because she beat out another girl who was in their club. It was so bad she had to quit. Even the coach bullied her, she never got to play, and it was humiliating.
    Total crap.

  • @ohmygosh4761
    @ohmygosh4761 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Speak the truth Steve

  • @marlonlima6072
    @marlonlima6072 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    If Steve starts is own suit brand, man he will make good money

    • @delealgladney2423
      @delealgladney2423 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ummm, don't know if you're joking or not, but Steve has had his own line for about 10 years now.

  • @keypenny
    @keypenny 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amen Steve Amen ! You said it like it is, I agree with you 100% !

  • @arleneaugustahair8393
    @arleneaugustahair8393 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    See and my kids thought I was mean. If I win at UNO, I’m not going to be a good winner. I’m going to slam my card down and talk trash! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @christophergarrett7082
    @christophergarrett7082 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Knowing what I'm good at and not good at helped me alot growing up.

  • @jazzfreedom5447
    @jazzfreedom5447 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is so true and so beautiful how you explain with so much love and peace

  • @kathyeli9587
    @kathyeli9587 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Steve stay on point with his own analysis of a situation love the advice and personal nurturing he gives be real about it from the heart.... Dang steve be having you crying.. OMG...

  • @eateralward4610
    @eateralward4610 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Yo ain't going in the air 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @ogechiwilson
    @ogechiwilson 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You said the truth Steve

  • @Happy-jv9fd
    @Happy-jv9fd 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Steve your Show is PRICELESS .....bravo

  • @lilybrenkman7186
    @lilybrenkman7186 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Aye lemme be a happy kid while it lasts

  • @writerspen010
    @writerspen010 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I always hated getting participation trophies; it felt meaningless to receive them. On my softball team, one of my coaches gave out awards that actually meant something: if you did particularly well in a game, you got a brand new "game ball" for your shown improvement. I had just switched from baseball to softball that season after a few years of not playing, so when I won one after working really hard on my pitching I was ecstatic :D

  • @karinaserrano5953
    @karinaserrano5953 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So true!

  • @hallstokes
    @hallstokes 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Well said Steve...

  • @musiktherapist
    @musiktherapist 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes, you focus on what you know you're good at.. Always hitting the mark Steve.

  • @ericcesolitude1st
    @ericcesolitude1st ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh I’m rolling but he’s ain’t lying 😂

  • @cartier2312
    @cartier2312 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You can't be 5'9 and 170 you ain't gonna go inna Air lol 😂😂

  • @3LynnMarie1
    @3LynnMarie1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That Arby's comment made my night 🤣🤣💀

  • @noriedelarose8710
    @noriedelarose8710 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you!

  • @thekingofutube9328
    @thekingofutube9328 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bruh I'm 5'9 172 and I can almost dunk

  • @firesign4297
    @firesign4297 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    IT'S THE PARENTS!!!👏👏👏

  • @Unknown-zk4nl
    @Unknown-zk4nl 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Straight forward Steve

  • @clwnluv1
    @clwnluv1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I've seen it. My ex didn't stand up to her kids. They ran the house.

  • @KH-us9pr
    @KH-us9pr 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amen Steve!!!!

  • @susannefoort6606
    @susannefoort6606 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Words Of Wisdom !!!!!!

  • @fatimah1758
    @fatimah1758 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Well said Steve.

  • @elainesacc8015
    @elainesacc8015 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    When Steve knows real facts bout cheer😍

  • @kenberry8504
    @kenberry8504 ปีที่แล้ว

    Preach it brother.

  • @datsunliam5514
    @datsunliam5514 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Well said steve. My son got a trophy for not even finishing their sports carnival. I was rather annoyed about the whole situation but nevertheless was happy he had a go. But. The next year when he didnt get one for not finishing again he was so mad and upset and we had quite the discussion about putting in effort and only the best get ribbons or trophys etc guess who got FIRST place the year after. Guess who got a blue ribbon. Your damn right it was my boy and i couldnt of been more proud

    • @rickybobby3402
      @rickybobby3402 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Datsun Liam He got lucky 😏

  • @brandonahmed7459
    @brandonahmed7459 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    AMEN Steve Harvey

  • @promiseakanteh3572
    @promiseakanteh3572 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think we should learn to accept our kids for who they are, not for what we want them to be

  • @hibu88
    @hibu88 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    That’s Profound!

  • @bloxygurlanimations9752
    @bloxygurlanimations9752 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    TRUTH!!

  • @Twistedviolets
    @Twistedviolets 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    😂😂😂 love Steve

  • @christianmbabazi9722
    @christianmbabazi9722 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    👏👏👏 better to learn now then when it's to late

  • @stacyann1854
    @stacyann1854 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love you Steve Harvey. Real. Be careful..they watchin..

  • @crystalcruz5257
    @crystalcruz5257 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yup 💯💯💯💯

  • @peterchileshe9760
    @peterchileshe9760 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    PRRRRRREEEEAAAACH!!!!!! this goes to everyone

  • @ustaaddiishbihi7852
    @ustaaddiishbihi7852 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Love You Steve

  • @xfatal1241
    @xfatal1241 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    “You cant be Fih Nine One Seddy”

  • @30Allaboutme
    @30Allaboutme 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amen!!!!!

  • @Machenziethemodel
    @Machenziethemodel 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you 😆

  • @AimHuangRajJaeWan
    @AimHuangRajJaeWan 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I agree to that! 👍

  • @reginadeniseclarke7660
    @reginadeniseclarke7660 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Steve Hearvy FunnY, LMBO 😂😂 😂😂

  • @fbixpert
    @fbixpert 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Our society will be much healthier if all parents will think like Steve.

  • @native9275
    @native9275 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Today its definitely the parents

  • @waym8407
    @waym8407 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's the parents, children raising children!

  • @melluques8475
    @melluques8475 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I remember my boys did tennis, the mother in that place were more competitive than the children! The coach ask me if I wanted more classes for my boys, are they having a good time? Yes they are, are you teaching them skills to play tennis? Yes I am. That’s what this is all about for my boys, a new hobby they are learning after school and have a good time as they exercise 🤷‍♀️

  • @OfficalMaryScott
    @OfficalMaryScott 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love Steve Harvey

  • @EDBailley
    @EDBailley 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Steve your a trip 😂😂😂😂

  • @espresso9315
    @espresso9315 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    i showed my mom n was lyk let m skip math class😂😂😂😂

  • @d__kfatkins8037
    @d__kfatkins8037 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Steve is real ❤

  • @beegee6
    @beegee6 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Steve is so right.

  • @edwardmartins9839
    @edwardmartins9839 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    "When are they gonna throw you in the air " lmaoo.

  • @milkktae656
    @milkktae656 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    yes steve! yes. i’m still a “kid” (16) but i feel you.

  • @xyzpanther5487
    @xyzpanther5487 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good cleanup Steve

  • @snowbird1381
    @snowbird1381 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    say it louder for the parents in the back!!!

  • @angelasanders4539
    @angelasanders4539 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Steve Harvey I love you

  • @tcalvin4196
    @tcalvin4196 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It is called PUNK PARENTING and unless and until the parents stop making excuses, up holding their kids in wrong doing, not instilling values like being kind, honesty, love, compassion, accepting, and so many of life values these kids now days are lacking; we will continue to see the FOOLISHNESS that is being ALLOWED to play out in society today.

  • @alexandrade3267
    @alexandrade3267 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I love watching these vids

  • @NancyR.A.
    @NancyR.A. 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good!!!

  • @andyliu1968
    @andyliu1968 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love the show

  • @ZachDrake5960
    @ZachDrake5960 ปีที่แล้ว

    I remember getting one of those trophies when I did little league baseball.

  • @missdanidot
    @missdanidot 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    👏👏👏 Love this. We never got participation trophies! It was always like MVP and most improved. The only thing we'd get is a piece of paper to say Congratulations on finishing the year and a ice block to say cya! 😂😂😂 I really don't believe in the whole everyone is a winner mentality because that's not life. No one is going to give you a gold star for showing up for work or paying your bills. Don't teach kids that they will because it will only lead to a huge reality shock when they get out in the real world and realise that nobody cares if you came 6th in your 4th grade race or that you paid your rent on time last week. 😂 Loved this clip, the audience was so shocked! 😂😂😂

  • @whitneyrideout4553
    @whitneyrideout4553 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Whats difficult is when you discipline your kids and treat them to respect adults and use manners, and they wonder why none of their friends have to...

  • @timothybrogan7008
    @timothybrogan7008 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Knowledge through comedy

  • @TheBritishPatriot
    @TheBritishPatriot 5 ปีที่แล้ว +176

    Preach Steve!
    Soft parenting has birthed a whole generation of entitled snowflakes that are destroying society!

  • @Ljenn_86
    @Ljenn_86 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yessss Steve!!!!! YES!!! 🥂🥂💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @Think4Self0
    @Think4Self0 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If it was anyone but Steve they would say he’s mean

  • @RenCurrymusicalseoul
    @RenCurrymusicalseoul 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    That is the truth. Trying to get my daughter used to that already because we live in Korea and the competitive nature for little things in this society is sometimes intense. When she doesn't get something or loses at something, I just tell her it doesn't matter because she will always be the best to me and as log as she tries, I'm happy