I love the point he makes about happiness is not something you can make with your own hands. it's such a comfort and it takes away a lot of pressure put on us as individuals by society when you know the only way you can achieve happiness is by submitting to Allah. It defies everything Western culture tries to feed us and tells us constantly. How many books, movies, podcasts ... etc are out there trying to convince us and "show" us how to make our own happiness? That's such a powerful statement. This further solidifies my belief that Western culture is just a giant confusing mess that makes absolutely no sense and is a big waste of time and money.
Don’t go into marriage thinking it will be eternal happiness and tranquility. And then leave when things don’t go your way. Happiness is granted by Allah, so some years He will withhold it. Some years you will struggle. But be patient.
May Allah grant you the best spouse who will not assist you in yourr worldly matters but also in your din May Allah quicken and ease the process for you. Amin
Jabir said that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) cursed the accepter of interest and its payer, and one who records it, and the two witnesses, and he said:They are all equal. Sahih Muslim 1598
You can’t find peace, happiness and tranquility in your spouse if your heart and mind is in chaos. Heal your traumas and understand the people have limitations. One person may not be able to show up or love you the way you need to be loved when you need it. Cultivate that relationship with Allah first for yourself.
It would be better & best if you made this video divided into parts & name different parts like in most of long videos... Segments... Like it would be easy to move to specific time & topic...
As per Biology, after the age of 9 to 11, girls start periods and after the age of 12, boys start ejaculation. Girls and Boys may feel full sexual desire after that age which may lead them to sins. Marriage safeguards them. Earlier majority marriages used to happen near that age for Girls and Boys. Parents should haste in marriage means if Girls and Boys have maturity after that age then parents should try to find a partner for them.
Deen with Good Aklaq is 100 %important for both men and women to stand in healthy relationship of marriage Main priority should be given for a Deen of a spouse Alhamdulillah Good talk Assalamualaikum
Well I had 3 women in my life had all religious and deen and I wanted to get married to them but it didn’t workout even tho I wanted to all halal it didn’t work out because they have different personalities in back home and me being a westerner they are not open 3 women in my life from another world 🌎 who have poor communication and there not open I had enough of it
Listening to this, I wish my mum left my dad a long time ago. I grew up with two parents but I have suffered because of my dad's anger issues and the pressure he puts on my mother and me, he is always shouting for things that are not even bad (e.g. if I forgot to put my mug in the sink, he will have a fit of rage). This annoys me so much as someone who is not interested to do haram stuff as I am scared of Allah. All he does is shout at my mum with disrespect but my mum stayed with me because of me, and we now have trauma. I am scared of men because of him.
#Ethiopia #AnwarMasjidAttack #StopViolence #JusticeForMuslimLives Brother and sisters More than 23 MOSQUES demolished near the capital😭, Addis Ababa and many innocents killed by police😢. The owner of this channel please spread this horrible incidents. I could share you the tragic photos and videos about the situation, if you want them!!
SubhanAllah! We as women have to do a better job as wives and mothers to our families. We are the main cause of our marriages falling apart. We want too much, instead of being content and grateful for what الله has given us. We tend to want more, more, more more of this Dunya and what it contains, that's why the majority of the people of the hell fire are us women. We need to check ourselves and do better moving forward. I'm a woman and I'm speaking from a woman's point and I know what we are capable of. May الله help all the women/men of the ummah around the world to reevaluate themselves and follow what HE ordained for us to do in the Quran and Sunnah. Jealousy is normal, but don't try to change what الله has ordained for us to fit our ways as women. In polygamy or not! HE'S in total control and we all have to go back to HIM! May الله help all of us moving forward! (Men and Women) 🧕👳♂️ اللهم امين
Asalam Alaikum, Respectfully sister Aisha, I disagree with what you are saying, women are not the main cause main of the destructions of marriages. Especially here in the west, many women are expected to provide so much more and its understandable because society has made living a stable life very difficult. Men are doing the opposite, they are doing less and less for their families and expecting so much more. Women have no choice but to work full time jobs,come home cook, clean, take care of the kids, and satisfy her husband, in the meantime, her husband is sitting around watching tv or entertaining another women. I have seen many marriages fail because men cannot provide the basics necessity of a healthy marriage. Women have to demand for simple gestures including respect, love, protective and servitude from their husbands. Second you mentioned that the number of women going to hell outweighs the number of men. According to your comment, this is a result of women not maintaining their marriages, the reality truth is that women will go hell for the simple sin “words/tongue” “backbiting” it’s not because of men. If this was the case Allah would have not provided women with a choice to getting a divorce “khula.” Furthermore, you explore the idea that both men and women should seek for forgiveness and reevaluate themselves, but no where in your comment did you mention why men should seek forgiveness and reevaluate themselves. Additionally, polygamy is a sunna that Allah has provided more so for widowed women and single mothers who are struggling. But men have taken this sunna and abused and took advantage of it. So yes, women can choose to not participate in the act of polygamy if it does not serve them because I guarantee you the majority of times men take second wife’s to fulfilling a desire that eventually fades away and the cycle starts again. They do not care where their current marriage stands in all aspects. I hope you can clarify if I am wrong, you are saying that men should abuse their wife’s, financially/physically/emotionally and women should still be content with what they have. As a women who has observed her sisters and friends and many others provide everything for their husband, but did not receive anything in return except a second women into their life’s, it’s infuriating to see comments/ statements that devalue the real issues. Imagine your fellow Muslim sister who is in an abused marriage coming across this comment, the poor women probably blames herself for everything and now she has sisters blaming her as well. By making this statement, you are undermining and devaluing the importance of a women’s rights in Islam. Why do think many cultures do not educate women on subjects like “women’s rights in Islam.” Have you thought about that? Allah has commended both men/women to value our “nasfi” souls, and it seems like women have that right taken away from. As mothers and wives, we need to remind ourselves that we are Muslims before being wives and mothers, we serve no one but “Allah” and if our marriages hinder that, we should not shame women for wanting to leave even if the reason is getting a second wife. Finally sister Aisha, Muslim men and women have obligations to oblige to in order for a marriage to prosper. But let’s not sit here and pretend that men are not the main cause of marriages falling apart. If a men can maintain his marriage with love and respect, he will achieve a beautiful home. Women might initiate many divorces, but we need to understand the notion behind the act, this will result in preventing further divorces from happening. Many women have very low standards and they can’t even get those provided for them. you describe them as greedy because they want more, can you define what you met by that statesmen? Could it be more love, more respect, care, understanding, maybe that’s all a women needs more off. Can you sit here and blame a women for wanting such basic human needs. Or are you assuming that women just want more money, that’s why they are getting divorced. Coming from a wife and mother, I urge you to look this comment and see how you can improve it. We don’t want to degrade women nor put all the blame in them. If we are going to pray for both parties we must not shame only one. Maybe that was not your intention, but it does not come across in your comment. May Allah be please with all of us inshallah…
@@rehemachan3270 some women choose their own path. before you get married you need to talk to your intended husband. go into a marriage with your eyes wide open, lay down the ground rules. you don't have to work if you don't have to, that's his job to take care of you. if you want to work down the line that's a different story, ya'll talk about it. it's this women's lib thing that's making some women not want to stay home and be a wife and take care of their children. I'm not putting women down at all.
I understand what you are saying, however a man’s intention is not always they same after marriage. The man you converse with before marriage will most likely not be the same man you married. Like I stated in the earlier comment, many women are forced to work because their husbands cannot provide, either they have a low paying job or have multiple families to tend to. Do you know how many women would love the chance to stay home and be housewife’s, but the reality is that’s not the case. Society has made living so difficult and expensive. Also education differs depending on the culture you were raised in, many men do not obtain a high level college degree to sustain their families and in other cases they don’t have a stable income. So you might say that partners should discuss arrangements prior to marriage, but what happens if those arrangements are broken by the husband? What happens if he can’t meet his obligations? Or better yet, what about the women are are currently in this situation? Who provide a full income and maintain their homes, should they blindly watch their husband marry even though she can’t stay home. Also you stated that you are not degrading women but blindly mentioning that they are they main reason why marriages are fall apart is an insult that could further result in the degrading and devaluing of women.
@@rehemachan3270 also another reason why our marriages are falling apart is because no one is following the Quran and Sunnah. You too busy thinking about what ifs after the marriage. slow down take one day at a time sis. The prophet's wives and the prophet (saw) is the best example that we can have and we're not nowhere near following them! May الله help us all!اللهم امين I don't want to argue with you sis. have a great day!
Got afraid and sad when my insurance doctor asked me who is your decision maker when if comes to serious of your health. Answered have no one. Ya Rabb, what is your plan for me. Ameen. Subhanallahi Alhumdullilarhi Allahuaukbal Lareilarha Illular. Austukfillularhi. Ameen.
I currently living in the west. I’ve been searching for the last 5 years. I think we’re doomed here in the west. Everyone is talked to looking for all materialistic matters. Heights, and how much you earn. Doesn’t matter if your potential is higher in the future, if now you’re still poor, then they will reject you. And height preferences. The girls was like 5ft, but looking for 6ft guys. Doesn’t matter if you’re pious, pray 5 times a day, read Quran, pay zakat, good personalities and upbringing, ect. Nowadays, put an AI generated pics, you’ll get tons of msg for your marriage profile. Nobody cares about honesty and good character anymore. I guess time to give up on the muslim marriage in the west
I live alone in the west i am terrified from the laws here I could lose everything I can’t do that even with a prenups they don’t work after 5 to 10 years.
I’m a muslim men. Alhamdulillah. My faith and imaan is strong. But ive got one issue. I do not believe in succesfull mariage, why? Because I feel like mariage is not benefiting the men in the west. Ofcourse it protects you from Zina and a good spouse will give you peace. But in this modern world, I do not believe it exist. You can say “sheitan whispers you shouldnt get married” but deep inside I really dont believe in mariage and the benefits of it for me as a man. There is more risk in getting married, it takes away freedom, drive, hobies, peace etcetera. More than 50% are getting divorce. A men coming home from work and doesnt get respect, you get divorced and everything is taken from you. I live on my own. I am ready for mariage and I am an adult. Does somebody here in the comment section has any tips for me? I want to get maried, but i dont believe in it.
To start read Hadith al-Bukhari 5063 and Muslim 1467 you can Google it. In addition the prophet saw is documented to have strongly strongly encouraged marriage as it had many benefits, even though the prophet saw was aware of how life would be near end times he still urged marriage and the prophet saw is much more knowledgeable than me and you will ever be as marriage has many benefits. Your fear of not finding a good partner is one of common tactics that shaitan will use it convincing muslims not to get married. Will I find a good partner? Will she be evil? Will she do this? Will she do that? No one knows these things except allah. How do you know that allah won’t bless you with a wife who is stronger in faith than you, that would love you, that would play with you, support you etc. You are removing a wonderful spouse allah will inshallah bless you with because of Shaitans whispers. My advice to you brother is to Trust allah’s plan, Wallahi marriage with the right person is the most beautiful thing in the world and you will be very happy inshallah, don’t listen to these evil whispers and follow the sunnah by finding a practicing woman and marry her. And May allah protect you from evil spouses (Ameen) but these stories you hear about bad spouses who mistreat their spouse is incredibly rare in practicing Muslim woman. The Muslim divorce rate is not 50% that’s incorrect. When you are single you think that hobbies peace and free time will be stripped because of marriage and this is also false. You will have more to do with your wife when married instead of alone . If you never get married trust me you will fall into a very deep depression due to loneliness. Even if someone were to marry a bad person than this is a test from allah. Accept it with patience and do your best. Divorce is not the end of life itself, life will keep going you can either be sad and never get married and live a very lonely life or try to find that woman allah will bless you with. Look at Yusuf as since a child he was thrown in slavery, accused of rape, forgotten in jail by his friend, distanced from his father. But because Yusuf as was so devout to allah he trusted him and in the end he became the minister or Egypt who would have known that but allah. And I guarantee you shaitan whispered in Yusuf as ear but Yusuf as trusted allah. Look at our mother Khadijah ra after both husbands died she could have questioned Allahs plan but she didn’t she had faith and in the end she married the greatest man of all time our prophet saw.
I know the message is long but I would hate for my Muslim brother to avoid marriage because of fear inspired by shaitan. Marriage is beautiful one of the greatest gifts we have in this life if not the greatest. When you spend time with your wife you will really feel immense peace and happiness. Trust Allahs plan and the words of our prophet saw they both want the best for us get married and live happily with your wife inshallah.
Brother, marry a Muslim woman. A woman has no rights over you money or property once you're divorced, so you're not obligated to share half of anything with her. If she makes court give you half of everything after divorce still then she's disobeying Allah. May Allah be with you.
First study...then get married. Flying in and out is not a good start for a relationship. One thing at the time. If you pile up your plate too much, you can't finish it
So what happens when you find 3 women in my life all had deen and the proposal all rejected which means I had Missed out all personal happiness and comfort. And not I hate halal with pure passion and it’s not for me I had enough of it I’ll go find unlawful path that will find happiness with hey it’s life you have to survive to love game deen religious all come with problems and when you find all 3 women in my life in the past now I m 41 and I m missing out. Haram will be the life for me it will turn out that way and this is life
I love the point he makes about happiness is not something you can make with your own hands. it's such a comfort and it takes away a lot of pressure put on us as individuals by society when you know the only way you can achieve happiness is by submitting to Allah. It defies everything Western culture tries to feed us and tells us constantly. How many books, movies, podcasts ... etc are out there trying to convince us and "show" us how to make our own happiness? That's such a powerful statement. This further solidifies my belief that Western culture is just a giant confusing mess that makes absolutely no sense and is a big waste of time and money.
Don’t go into marriage thinking it will be eternal happiness and tranquility. And then leave when things don’t go your way. Happiness is granted by Allah, so some years He will withhold it. Some years you will struggle. But be patient.
What led you into Hell Fire?
They will say: 'We were not of those who prayed.'” (Qur'an 74:42-43)
🌹Don't forget your five daily prayers 🌹
Thank you
Please pray for that I am in a happy & successful marriage as soon as possible by the grace of the almighty creator of existence alhamadallah
Same here plz for me
My Allah gives more strength and patience, 🙏🤲🤲
Ameen
Wish I had this information 30 years ago
Alhamdulilah
I am struggling to get married, please pray for me to get married soon. All hope is lost, all I have now is Allah 😢
Are you looking for a spouse
May Allah grant you the best spouse who will not assist you in yourr worldly matters but also in your din
May Allah quicken and ease the process for you.
Amin
Not only
just do mutah sir
You will find the perfect spouse
You blew Ali Dawah's hyped up 10 yr late marriage documentary out of the park Mashallah.
Jazākallahu Khairan !
Jabir said that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) cursed the accepter of interest and its payer, and one who records it, and the two witnesses, and he said:They are all equal.
Sahih Muslim 1598
You can’t find peace, happiness and tranquility in your spouse if your heart and mind is in chaos. Heal your traumas and understand the people have limitations. One person may not be able to show up or love you the way you need to be loved when you need it. Cultivate that relationship with Allah first for yourself.
Whatever Allah wills will be done. Mashallah!
It would be better & best if you made this video divided into parts & name different parts like in most of long videos... Segments... Like it would be easy to move to specific time & topic...
As per Biology, after the age of 9 to 11, girls start periods and after the age of 12, boys start ejaculation. Girls and Boys may feel full sexual desire after that age which may lead them to sins. Marriage safeguards them. Earlier majority marriages used to happen near that age for Girls and Boys.
Parents should haste in marriage means if Girls and Boys have maturity after that age then parents should try to find a partner for them.
What ever Allah permits with respect...Ameen.
may ALLAH protect us
Ameen
Deen with Good Aklaq is 100 %important for both men and women to stand in healthy relationship of marriage
Main priority should be given for a Deen of a spouse
Alhamdulillah
Good talk
Assalamualaikum
Well I had 3 women in my life had all religious and deen and I wanted to get married to them but it didn’t workout even tho I wanted to all halal it didn’t work out because they have different personalities in back home and me being a westerner they are not open 3 women in my life from another world 🌎 who have poor communication and there not open I had enough of it
Listening to this, I wish my mum left my dad a long time ago. I grew up with two parents but I have suffered because of my dad's anger issues and the pressure he puts on my mother and me, he is always shouting for things that are not even bad (e.g. if I forgot to put my mug in the sink, he will have a fit of rage). This annoys me so much as someone who is not interested to do haram stuff as I am scared of Allah. All he does is shout at my mum with disrespect but my mum stayed with me because of me, and we now have trauma. I am scared of men because of him.
Subhannalah may ALLAH forgive for our sins 😢❤😢😢😢😢❤❤❤
Ameen
Ameen
Dating apps will ruin your life brothers and sisters, look to the masjid or your parents
Absolutely
Unfortunately I don’t have those options 😢
@@sadiah8060oh no
Dating apps ruins entire society, muslim and non muslim alike
don't forget about mutah as well, served me well
❤
Salam
I’m looking for spouse.
Please pray for me i will pray for you.
I’m here in London.
I’m struggling since two years.
Jazak ALLAH
#Ethiopia #AnwarMasjidAttack #StopViolence #JusticeForMuslimLives
Brother and sisters More than 23 MOSQUES demolished near the capital😭, Addis Ababa and many innocents killed by police😢. The owner of this channel please spread this horrible incidents. I could share you the tragic photos and videos about the situation, if you want them!!
Ya Dual Jalali Wal Ikaram. Ameen.
SubhanAllah! We as women have to do a better job as wives and mothers to our families. We are the main cause of our marriages falling apart. We want too much, instead of being content and grateful for what الله has given us. We tend to want more, more, more more of this Dunya and what it contains, that's why the majority of the people of the hell fire are us women. We need to check ourselves and do better moving forward. I'm a woman and I'm speaking from a woman's point and I know what we are capable of. May الله help all the women/men of the ummah around the world to reevaluate themselves and follow what HE ordained for us to do in the Quran and Sunnah. Jealousy is normal, but don't try to change what الله has ordained for us to fit our ways as women. In polygamy or not! HE'S in total control and we all have to go back to HIM! May الله help all of us moving forward! (Men and Women) 🧕👳♂️ اللهم امين
Asalam Alaikum,
Respectfully sister Aisha, I disagree with what you are saying, women are not the main cause main of the destructions of marriages. Especially here in the west, many women are expected to provide so much more and its understandable because society has made living a stable life very difficult. Men are doing the opposite, they are doing less and less for their families and expecting so much more. Women have no choice but to work full time jobs,come home cook, clean, take care of the kids, and satisfy her husband, in the meantime, her husband is sitting around watching tv or entertaining another women.
I have seen many marriages fail because men cannot provide the basics necessity of a healthy marriage. Women have to demand for simple gestures including respect, love, protective and servitude from their husbands.
Second you mentioned that the number of women going to hell outweighs the number of men. According to your comment, this is a result of women not maintaining their marriages, the reality truth is that women will go hell for the simple sin “words/tongue” “backbiting” it’s not because of men. If this was the case Allah would have not provided women with a choice to getting a divorce “khula.”
Furthermore, you explore the idea that both men and women should seek for forgiveness and reevaluate themselves, but no where in your comment did you mention why men should seek forgiveness and reevaluate themselves.
Additionally, polygamy is a sunna that Allah has provided more so for widowed women and single mothers who are struggling. But men have taken this sunna and abused and took advantage of it. So yes, women can choose to not participate in the act of polygamy if it does not serve them because I guarantee you the majority of times men take second wife’s to fulfilling a desire that eventually fades away and the cycle starts again. They do not care where their current marriage stands in all aspects.
I hope you can clarify if I am wrong, you are saying that men should abuse their wife’s, financially/physically/emotionally and women should still be content with what they have.
As a women who has observed her sisters and friends and many others provide everything for their husband, but did not receive anything in return except a second women into their life’s, it’s infuriating to see comments/ statements that devalue the real issues.
Imagine your fellow Muslim sister who is in an abused marriage coming across this comment, the poor women probably blames herself for everything and now she has sisters blaming her as well. By making this statement, you are undermining and devaluing the importance of a women’s rights in Islam. Why do think many cultures do not educate women on subjects like “women’s rights in Islam.” Have you thought about that?
Allah has commended both men/women to value our “nasfi” souls, and it seems like women have that right taken away from. As mothers and wives, we need to remind ourselves that we are Muslims before being wives and mothers, we serve no one but “Allah” and if our marriages hinder that, we should not shame women for wanting to leave even if the reason is getting a second wife.
Finally sister Aisha, Muslim men and women have obligations to oblige to in order for a marriage to prosper. But let’s not sit here and pretend that men are not the main cause of marriages falling apart. If a men can maintain his marriage with love and respect, he will achieve a beautiful home. Women might initiate many divorces, but we need to understand the notion behind the act, this will result in preventing further divorces from happening. Many women have very low standards and they can’t even get those provided for them. you describe them as greedy because they want more, can you define what you met by that statesmen? Could it be more love, more respect, care, understanding, maybe that’s all a women needs more off. Can you sit here and blame a women for wanting such basic human needs. Or are you assuming that women just want more money, that’s why they are getting divorced.
Coming from a wife and mother, I urge you to look this comment and see how you can improve it. We don’t want to degrade women nor put all the blame in them. If we are going to pray for both parties we must not shame only one. Maybe that was not your intention, but it does not come across in your comment.
May Allah be please with all of us inshallah…
@@rehemachan3270 some women choose their own path. before you get married you need to talk to your intended husband. go into a marriage with your eyes wide open, lay down the ground rules. you don't have to work if you don't have to, that's his job to take care of you. if you want to work down the line that's a different story, ya'll talk about it. it's this women's lib thing that's making some women not want to stay home and be a wife and take care of their children. I'm not putting women down at all.
وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
I understand what you are saying, however a man’s intention is not always they same after marriage. The man you converse with before marriage will most likely not be the same man you married. Like I stated in the earlier comment, many women are forced to work because their husbands cannot provide, either they have a low paying job or have multiple families to tend to. Do you know how many women would love the chance to stay home and be housewife’s, but the reality is that’s not the case. Society has made living so difficult and expensive. Also education differs depending on the culture you were raised in, many men do not obtain a high level college degree to sustain their families and in other cases they don’t have a stable income. So you might say that partners should discuss arrangements prior to marriage, but what happens if those arrangements are broken by the husband? What happens if he can’t meet his obligations? Or better yet, what about the women are are currently in this situation? Who provide a full income and maintain their homes, should they blindly watch their husband marry even though she can’t stay home.
Also you stated that you are not degrading women but blindly mentioning that they are they main reason why marriages are fall apart is an insult that could further result in the degrading and devaluing of women.
@@rehemachan3270 also another reason why our marriages are falling apart is because no one is following the Quran and Sunnah. You too busy thinking about what ifs after the marriage. slow down take one day at a time sis. The prophet's wives and the prophet (saw) is the best example that we can have and we're not nowhere near following them! May الله help us all!اللهم امين I don't want to argue with you sis. have a great day!
Subhanallah
Now days Muslim only see 2 things bank passbook, Passport. No one ask about iman 😞.
Is not all of us ooo
Alhamduillah
Got afraid and sad when my insurance doctor asked me who is your decision maker when if comes to serious of your health. Answered have no one. Ya Rabb, what is your plan for me. Ameen.
Subhanallahi
Alhumdullilarhi
Allahuaukbal
Lareilarha Illular.
Austukfillularhi. Ameen.
Ameen
subhanAllah
I currently living in the west. I’ve been searching for the last 5 years. I think we’re doomed here in the west. Everyone is talked to looking for all materialistic matters. Heights, and how much you earn. Doesn’t matter if your potential is higher in the future, if now you’re still poor, then they will reject you. And height preferences. The girls was like 5ft, but looking for 6ft guys.
Doesn’t matter if you’re pious, pray 5 times a day, read Quran, pay zakat, good personalities and upbringing, ect.
Nowadays, put an AI generated pics, you’ll get tons of msg for your marriage profile. Nobody cares about honesty and good character anymore.
I guess time to give up on the muslim marriage in the west
In sha Allah by 2025 I will be a married man 👨 🙏 ❤
إنْ شَاءَ الله
May Allah ﷻ grant your a pious and beautiful spouse who has the best akhlaaq. أمين
Work hard until then إنْ شَاءَ الله
May Allah grant u a pious spouse
MashaAllah superb❤❤❤
I live alone in the west i am terrified from the laws here I could lose everything I can’t do that even with a prenups they don’t work after 5 to 10 years.
Is it possible for a man to marry a woman who is 6 years older than him? In today's world? Can anyone volunteer?
My sister is 15 years older than her husband. Depends what your age is also
@@sadiah8060 15 😱
Where is that Hadith saying that marriage is half of your deen narrated by Aisha ???
How do you deal with the pressure from family 😢
I have a question, can a girl get married a boy who is younger than her?? What islam say about it
The prophet Muhammad pbuh first wife Khadija was 15 years older than him
Assalaamu'alaikum , anyone knows the name of this speaker please.....?
Wasim kempson.. if I'm not mistaken, i saw it in other comment.
I’m a muslim men. Alhamdulillah. My faith and imaan is strong. But ive got one issue. I do not believe in succesfull mariage, why? Because I feel like mariage is not benefiting the men in the west. Ofcourse it protects you from Zina and a good spouse will give you peace. But in this modern world, I do not believe it exist. You can say “sheitan whispers you shouldnt get married” but deep inside I really dont believe in mariage and the benefits of it for me as a man. There is more risk in getting married, it takes away freedom, drive, hobies, peace etcetera. More than 50% are getting divorce. A men coming home from work and doesnt get respect, you get divorced and everything is taken from you.
I live on my own. I am ready for mariage and I am an adult. Does somebody here in the comment section has any tips for me?
I want to get maried, but i dont believe in it.
To start read Hadith al-Bukhari 5063 and Muslim 1467 you can Google it. In addition the prophet saw is documented to have strongly strongly encouraged marriage as it had many benefits, even though the prophet saw was aware of how life would be near end times he still urged marriage and the prophet saw is much more knowledgeable than me and you will ever be as marriage has many benefits. Your fear of not finding a good partner is one of common tactics that shaitan will use it convincing muslims not to get married. Will I find a good partner? Will she be evil? Will she do this? Will she do that? No one knows these things except allah. How do you know that allah won’t bless you with a wife who is stronger in faith than you, that would love you, that would play with you, support you etc. You are removing a wonderful spouse allah will inshallah bless you with because of Shaitans whispers. My advice to you brother is to Trust allah’s plan, Wallahi marriage with the right person is the most beautiful thing in the world and you will be very happy inshallah, don’t listen to these evil whispers and follow the sunnah by finding a practicing woman and marry her. And May allah protect you from evil spouses (Ameen) but these stories you hear about bad spouses who mistreat their spouse is incredibly rare in practicing Muslim woman. The Muslim divorce rate is not 50% that’s incorrect. When you are single you think that hobbies peace and free time will be stripped because of marriage and this is also false. You will have more to do with your wife when married instead of alone . If you never get married trust me you will fall into a very deep depression due to loneliness. Even if someone were to marry a bad person than this is a test from allah. Accept it with patience and do your best. Divorce is not the end of life itself, life will keep going you can either be sad and never get married and live a very lonely life or try to find that woman allah will bless you with. Look at Yusuf as since a child he was thrown in slavery, accused of rape, forgotten in jail by his friend, distanced from his father. But because Yusuf as was so devout to allah he trusted him and in the end he became the minister or Egypt who would have known that but allah. And I guarantee you shaitan whispered in Yusuf as ear but Yusuf as trusted allah. Look at our mother Khadijah ra after both husbands died she could have questioned Allahs plan but she didn’t she had faith and in the end she married the greatest man of all time our prophet saw.
I know the message is long but I would hate for my Muslim brother to avoid marriage because of fear inspired by shaitan. Marriage is beautiful one of the greatest gifts we have in this life if not the greatest. When you spend time with your wife you will really feel immense peace and happiness. Trust Allahs plan and the words of our prophet saw they both want the best for us get married and live happily with your wife inshallah.
Brother, marry a Muslim woman. A woman has no rights over you money or property once you're divorced, so you're not obligated to share half of anything with her. If she makes court give you half of everything after divorce still then she's disobeying Allah. May Allah be with you.
@@Hakeem_YSF thankyou ❤️ may Allah swt bless you akhi
@@kasxmi9722 thankyou for your words. Ameen ❤️
owes me 4 years of forced marriage...
Hey how are you there? How you deal with the arranged marriage. Did you get with it or it's heavy in your heart and live?
How to make Strong Community? Halal Legal credit unions
Can I have the name of the shaikh who gives this lecture please Jazakallah khair
Wasim Kempson .. you can find it in the description
Should I study medicine(6 years) abroad or get married, I can fly in and out easily
Get married abroad? Muslims are everywhere brother
Are u from India brother?
@@MarufKhan-on1rb UK
First study...then get married. Flying in and out is not a good start for a relationship. One thing at the time. If you pile up your plate too much, you can't finish it
But have u found the one yet
So what happens when you find 3 women in my life all had deen and the proposal all rejected which means I had Missed out all personal happiness and comfort. And not I hate halal with pure passion and it’s not for me I had enough of it I’ll go find unlawful path that will find happiness with hey it’s life you have to survive to love game deen religious all come with problems and when you find all 3 women in my life in the past now I m 41 and I m missing out. Haram will be the life for me it will turn out that way and this is life
So please have u found a wife now
Social media is ruining these women
To much ig and snap chat
Why are you saying that though
is mutah allowed?
Marriage is head ache 😣
Marriage in Islam is like a prison for women. Once you get in, you can't get out (women are not allowed to divorce, even in an abusive relationship).
Not true at all she can and there is Hadith about it.
This is so wrong. Women allowed to asked for divorced mostly if it's abusive.