It is not MASKING. MASKING is being noise sensitive and NEEDING earphones and overwhelmed and saying he needed time to get to know her which is the typical response expected of him instead of saying the truth which probably was that he needed the money and the time and he needs it to be perfect…… my opinion. Plus the noise and that foreign environment that he was in when he broke the news.. noooopeeeee. He hurt her.
Just my opinion has a fellow autistic person, that’s not masking love. You lied because you got scared and didn’t know how to handle that. But masking? No sir.
I agree with you 100% also as an autistic person. I get annoyed that he is using autism as an excuse for bad choices and behaviors or is it rude of me? I dont know I just think he is lying about what is autism and what not?
@@ikatmax agreed I think all it does is muddy the neurotypical understanding which benefits no one. I hope he can work on hinging less on his diagnosis
He's an expert on emotional and psychological deficiency. knows all the terms and symptoms...but uses them as excuse rather than work to overcome them. This is next level.
He didn't lied try again you and the others. The producers filmed him trying to giver indications that the wedding won't happen during this first trip there, but she refused to listen.
@nikkirockznikkirockz8551 accountable for what Bozo. For not wanting to marry someone the first time they meet them or for being scared to tell the green card chaser about that because he knew she would blow up . Let's give the green card chaser a pass because her victim didn't want to marry her asap and in a hurry.
@nikkirockznikkirockz8551 how dare he not marry her as fast as possible. The adaucity. When in reality I 100 percent bet none of you hypocrites will do that.
As someone with ASD that was not masking masking is when you basically mimic others to appear socially normal ....not lie to people about getting married lmao 🤣 wild this guy
He seems quite fully aware that he was avoiding having the conversation with her and that he was lying to her. He blames his autism... that's not masking.. masking is pretending to be normal.. not covering up lies or being a coward. Yeah, I get it, having hard conversations is hard, but the longer you wait, the harder it is. He probably shouldn't be getting married at all, especially not to someone in another continent.
Welcome to masking. He's trying to follow the rules so he'll fit in. It sounds ridiculous, but as an autistic person I actually get what he's doing here
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Where has this producer been in the history of 90 Day?? But also, I get the feeling they only questioned him because he can’t fight back. Other cast members are quick with it and can’t crack as easily
Niles is insensitive, he is emotionally abusing Matilda, he's crass, and uses his spectrum diagnosis as a tool of emotional manipulation. I don't like Niles anymore, and definitely not for Matilda. This isn't Niles's first time manipulating a young woman I suspect.
As someone with autism, what you see here in Niles is not uncommon at all with autistic men and some women- not to make an excuse for him of course, but hear me out for clarity’s sake… A lot of the time someone with autism will want to avoid saying or doing anything that will create a potentially hostile, emotional or contentious interaction, because that’s our worst nightmare. We HATE conflict. So as she was describing the details of the wedding she was planning, Niles probably thought “oh man, if I tell her I’m not going to have the wedding on the trip, she’s going to be mad at me. She might not want to meet me. I don’t want her to be mad. I still want to meet her. I’ll deal with this later.” Now here it is later, and his not being clear about his plans is now biting him in the buttocks. He is also oblivious to the fact this woman is the best looking and accepting female he will likely ever have the opportunity to be with in his life (typical autism “rizz”) so he’s not looking at the big picture. I don’t think Niles is a bad guy. Just ignorant of the enormity of his screw up here. If I were him I would do whatever it takes to get married on this trip, because she’s pretty enough I don’t think she’ll wait another couple years for him to come back when he’s “ready.” African women tend to get married young and I’m sure she has loads of Kenyan men after her. If anything if he leaves she’ll start using him for money while stringing him along until she finds someone to marry in Africa. She doesn’t NEED you Niles.
As a counselor I agree with your point of view. He is manipulating her every step of the way. Unfortunately, Matilda doesn't see that she should hold him accountable. Make him pay for all the expenses her family and friends have put into him coming to Africa to get married. He lied, period. Scared, we all get scared making important decisions, autistic or not.
Thank you. You’re like the only person who gets it and gives him some grace lol. It’s obviously wrong he lied but I don’t believe he’s a “gaslighter” or “manipulator”; I think he wants to people please because of fear of conflict. Not realizing that now the conflict will be worse because he delayed being honest ahead of time.
But she’s the one that pushed the wedding to happen too early in their relationship…he was right postponing the wedding until they got to know each other better face to face. She has an alternative agenda…money and moving to the US and felt since Niles was autistic she could manipulate the marriage to her advantage. Even her mother wasn’t displaying enthusiasm about the marriage. Matilda was bragging and boasting to her family and friends about getting married to her American catch. Niles wouldn’t be able to meet her bride price or the other expenses for this modern day shotgun marriage so the marriage wouldn’t take place. Bias judgements aren’t called for.
@@daddams100 100 percent agreed she was pushing the wedding far too much to a stranger with autism...slow it down...Niles is right to do so...after all if he wanted to use her he would not have bought the ring and woukd have just slept with her as she was pushing that as well...has she forgotten she is Ghanaian...u sleep together after the ceremony 😅😅😅......
I’m calling him a liar lol. Mostly because in the first episode he kept mentioning how he was doing all of these things for her, because he didn’t tell her they wouldn’t be getting married on this trip- like she had hoped. He intentionally misled her and kept it hidden, until he couldn’t anymore. He even says he bought the ring to soften the blow that they wouldn’t be getting married immediately like she was led to believe. Being intentionally manipulative and purposely hiding information is a form of lying. It’s dishonest and I hope he finds a way to really make things right. Rather than coming up with excuses.
First of all I think this story line has added embellishments to create drama where there doesnt need to be any. From a Ghanaian perspective, lets use wisdom here, there's no way that this girl can get married in two weeks to someone who she has met for the first time who came to Ghana by himself with no family with him. Her family hasn't even met his family yet, so the knocking ceremony would not be traditional. As for him not telling her, if you recall in their first episode he did try to tell her in that call when he was delivering his door dash but she bulldozed him and said he will come to Ghana and they will get married and she hoped he 'wouldn't disappoint her' he looked very uncomfortable and couldn't tell her. And telling over 200 people that they were getting married without even the knocking ceremony or even meeting him in person is nonsense. The way she is pressuring him, when, when, when shows her immaturity. Two weeks is not enough time to figure out if you are compatible with a person in real life after dating online. This trip would be for the getting to know phase and then the next trip he would bring his family do the knocking ceremony and get married. She is rushing maybe because she wants to get to the US but remember processing times for the spousal visa can be anything from a year to 2 years sometimes even longer so she would have to stay in Ghana until her visa is approved. I wish TLC would stop trying to add drama, this show used to be somewhat authentic.
Very very good points...far too many posters are going after Niles and frankly she also is to blame here...he bought her a ring and he did not sleep with her...
Niles took accountability for all his wrongs. Either way it was a low blow for Matilda thinking they were getting married on this trip. Speak up Niles! Matilda can’t read your mind. Always be honest. Honesty is kindness.
@@Emily_Paris Sorry no, this story is a fabrication there is no way she could have thought she was really getting married to a man she would meet in real life for the first time in 2 weeks. I am Ghanian, it is customary for the 2 families to meet before and accept the proposal this is the knocking ceremony. Then the wedding plans can commence and the license can be applied for. 2 weeks isn't enough time and dont forget his family isn't on board with it. He should have told her before he got there after that phone call we saw but I think the editing is to promote unnecessary drama.
5:26 the producer is like aht aht aht, we didnt manufacture this drama (this time) YOU did this, and I think Matilda is in agreement. EDIT: The show probably had wedding scenes planned and paid for flowers and stuff. I cant help but feel the producer is a little annoyed as well.
Yeah, you have a point there. If there's no wedding then their storyline is about to end. They'll probably try to make something out of the knocking ceremony.
I think she really loves him, and he's lucky to have met this kind hearted soul who's accepted him for who he is. I don't see malice in her. Wanting to move to the US doesn't invalidate the love and care she's expressed toward him.
@@JennyAguilleraEXACTLY , she basically says in the first episode she is wanting to get to America and get her green card so she can send money back to her family. So she's not wanting to help out with her bills here. She's wanting him to pay for all that on his own. Sorry that's not saying she loves him that says she's using him... big difference.
Bruh, as someone who works with Autistic individuals masking is NOT lying. Lying is lying. Claiming otherwise is deceitful and misleading. But then again, all people, neurodivergent or otherwise can be deceitful. Also, who's the hot guy doing the pottery?
I don't understand him lying and saying the reason for postponing the wedding is to "get to know her better" when the real reason is he doesn't have the money?
I’m glad someone else see what’s going on here!! They all see passports & visa’s & when he can’t get them all out he’ll have to take care of her & her entire family until she can establish herself & then she’ll leave him! I feel bad for the poor guy, he’s getting into the typical marriage scam!
So if I leave out a bunch of information in the future and it causes conflict, can I just claim PTSD also? It’s not my fault if I’m deceptive, and keep talking about how bad I feel for being deceptive? 🤔
Poor Niles. He was afraid to say "not this trip" to her, and instead let her steamroller right over him. As a person on the spectrum, I have met pushy people like this. They gaslight you by saying you agreed with what they wanted to do just because you did not stand up to them forcefully. Be strong, Niles! Next, she will try to baby-trap you. She's mad thirsty for that greencard!
Poor Matilda more like it Niles is the one he proposed to her and leading on He leaves and she's the one to face embarrassment from everybody you have no idea about African culture and stop please with the green card Niles looked for Matilda online not the other way around
The producer is going easy on him, because of his autism. That’s my opinion 🤷🏻♀️😅. I do hope they work out, since they’re the sanest couple this season 🤣🤣🤣 Thanks for the great recap, Zain ❤️💯💪🏼
@@sylviadavis2208 They are trying to paint him in bad light. And he does pretty well for a person with autism. Matilda needs to learn how to deal with people with developmental disorders too. She can't always be trying to have her way and expect a healthy relationship. She will trigger something in him and he might put her off permanently.
@@sylviadavis2208 he is not a bad guy who led her on...she kept rushing ahead with her fantasy mentality...he tried to slow her down...if he wasn't serious about her he would have just slept with her and not bought her a ring...or that over expensive dress...afterall she is Ghanaian and knows u sleep with him after u marry NOT before...
@NatalieRabuzin i totally agree with you. I think he is a nice guy. He isn't gaslighting her at all. She just wants what she wants when she wants it. She always talked over him and never took anything he said seriously.
He is good, he is good good 😂 We just witnessed a Master-class in manipulation from a true Sensei Niles. 👘 It’s always the quite ones you Least expect 🪤 Jokes aside this Niles guy is truly awful!
Am i the only one who heard Niles say to her that he was not prepared to get married on this trip? He said it over the phone n she ignored him and told him she wants to get married by the end of the trip. He never agreed to that. She shouldn't have planned the wedding without a confirmed date that they agreed on together. Its her own fault. Theres a clip of this conversation before he even got there.
@@NatalieRabuzinthe firing squad comment is funny..if her family is a typical Akan family, then that's exactly what they will be facing for wasting everybody's time..on your comment about getting to know each other, that's bull..The issue is not knowing themselves enough..the issue is money..the guy is broke/doesn't earn enough and doesn't want to come clean on that..allowing her to live in a dreamland with a Prince Charming..The charade must end..she needs the truth and then they can start a real relationship if she still wants one with him!
As a Ghanaian I'm here to tell y'all that this storyline is a lie and she is in on it. She knows damn well thats not how our tradition goes, her family wouldn't even allow her to marry since they haven't been introduced to his family 🤷🏾♀️.
Your comment is disappointing..Families don't always get introduced before marriage takes place..they are going for knocking,he needs at least one family member with him, but being a foreigner it can be waived if it's explained to the family head
@@NatalieRabuzinWhich excellent points? There is no one way of getting married in Gh..it depends on the family..Niles doesn't need anyone to make him a bad guy..he is doing that all by himself..he should come clean about his finances..let her know he is not rich and then they can have a real relationship..this is tiring to watch!
@@georgiamanu6353Oh..you must be new in Gh..people get engagement stuff way ahead of time, to be ready in time and also to reduce cost, cos the prices of things increase all the time..she was so sure of herself and went to the extent of telling people she was getting married..what will she gain from being in on a lie? And is her mum in on it as well..pls come again.
Niles can not get the money for the party with magic. They both could comunicate a bit better. Mathilda needs to patient and not walk over her sensitive fiance. Niles did not reject her, he was to shy to admit he did not have the money. Because he got pressured by the gender roles. He already spend alot of time and money in her. I'f she loves him, she can wait, this things need time.
like the whole point of being engaged is so that you can get married so she thought oh we're engaged so I can plan for the wedding and he never said anything so she thought she had to go ahead
Zain, you are right. Being diagnosed with a condition does not give you a free pass to lie, deceive, or other bad behaviors. It is your responsibility to learn to live in society and make personal adjustments for your condition. (Perhaps on those personal 'affirmations' that Niles shared with Matilda he ought to have listed, "I will work on being openly honest especially when I feel threatened or awkward/overwhelmed"....)
respect for Matilda how she handled this. I would be angry too. I hope everything works out and they still get married and live a long and happy life in America. For once a couple who behave themselves with dignity, no yelling and insults, this uncle is nice to watch
He lied, but when it comes to romantic relationships, he's like a 3-year-old covered in cookie crumbs who says he didn't eat the cookies. He probably thinks the rules are different for these relationships and he's trying to figure that out, but he's terrible at playing games. Being on this show is probably good for him. As a person with Asperger's, I have a lot of sympathy for his journey
@@Lost-Cake so why did he ask her then? If he was not ready why did he propose? He is not a child and it's not his first relationship. He has more experiences. Stop using your asperger to excuse your bad behavior. Accountability.
While it’s good that Niles is being held accountable, it seems disingenuous. Why haven’t Loren, Bid Ed, and especially Angela ever held accountable on camera? Especially with things like abuse and STDs involved
How would anyone want to or expect to marry someone you have never met in person before? That just screams desperation and wanting a green card ( which she basically said she is after on the 1st episode).
Are you telling me it’s never happened in any episodes? What is it that tiger Lily didn’t do? Niles had been talking to her for over two years and he now claims he came to know her better ? Again? You unjustly and unfairly analyze this cos Matilda is not well to do and sees herself capable of marrying someone she can have a life with? And have a chance of a better exposure?
If he is aware of what he is doing then he could have changed the behavior. I was a special needs teacher for years and the children that were aware of their disability and symptoms would use that as an excuse for bad behavior. I had one that would say “I did that because of my condition” as an excuse for choking another chid out on the playground. I was trying to like Niles but he is dead wrong.
@@xxarianahiltonxx5116 she was putt8ng alot of pressure on him and just pushing ahead...she should have listened more instead of being in her fantasy of US here I come...
I like the clip you put in, at the end. I tripped out when he spun it with his feet. I thought it was electrical. Makes me want to try doing it. I'm sure it's harder than it looks. Thanks for the video, Zain❤
This entire season he has quite literally said to us the audience, that he is afraid to tell her he cannot get married on this trip. And that that is why he bought a promise ring so that he could tell her he cannot marry her on the trip… I do not like that. He tries to use his supposed disability when it benefits him.
Meh, I don't like either of them in this scenario. He obviously wasn't clear about his intentions, but she pushed and pushed every time he dropped a hint of doubt. On top of which, they never even met and she knows he would be doing this all alone, no family, no friends. Why would you want that for your future spouse?
@@henrysmith180 Yea, they really should have sat down and had a talk. I don't blame either one of them entirely. I'm guessing they both got caught up in the whirlwind.
Women are always planning the wedding...no matter what the guy says at times...why would her family allow her to marry a stranger from the internet...or pay for it themselves when they dont know him...
He spoke to her ONCE about MAYBE not getting married on his first trip and even though he noticed her family and entire community discussing a marriage soon during the trip he slept with her instead of sitting her down and being firm with his thoughts. Who knows if she would have slept with him had he been completely up front on his thoughts rather than wimping out with a MAYBE not getting married etc.
Appreciate you calling him out on his "masking" BS. That's not what masking is at all, what he *was* doing was lying and manipulating. The producer was dead on too. Now I really do think he's using his autism as a way to fuck around with an *excuse*, he knows full well what he's doing.
Oh yeah, he real slick. He don’t wanna lose her now because she won’t give him validation, and nobody else will want him like the way she pretends, even though I think she was marrying him citizenship to get the rest of her family over, but at the end of the day, I see two people playing each other.
seriously doubt he has 10,000USD, and that’s another perspective issue that can be their downfall. Her family believes Americans are rich and no need to confirm anything about his budget. They think they are getting a rich American to support the whole family. He thinks he’s getting a woman like Americans who will support herself and him.
Good points...she has been unrealistic here and ridden rough shod over him every time he tried to slow her down both over the phone and in person...yes he is an American but not a rich one and he has a small salary and is autistic...
Zain you getting a BBL? 🇹🇷
I'M DECEASED 💀💀
I was thinking, wow his skin looks more youthful…who’s plumpin them cheeks 💉 👀
Hahaha
Stop😂
The producer is calling his bluff and we love her!!
This was so awesome.
It is not MASKING. MASKING is being noise sensitive and NEEDING earphones and overwhelmed and saying he needed time to get to know her which is the typical response expected of him instead of saying the truth which probably was that he needed the money and the time and he needs it to be perfect…… my opinion. Plus the noise and that foreign environment that he was in when he broke the news.. noooopeeeee. He hurt her.
Gold.digger.for.green.card
Why didn't the producers do anything when Tyrannosaurus Angela was losing her mind at Michael?
@@greecoboost It might've been a different producer, silly!
Just my opinion has a fellow autistic person, that’s not masking love. You lied because you got scared and didn’t know how to handle that. But masking? No sir.
I agree with you 100% also as an autistic person. I get annoyed that he is using autism as an excuse for bad choices and behaviors or is it rude of me? I dont know I just think he is lying about what is autism and what not?
@@ikatmax agreed I think all it does is muddy the neurotypical understanding which benefits no one. I hope he can work on hinging less on his diagnosis
@healer_stealer i think you hit the nail on the head I really really hope he does
Niles got himself in too deep and wanted to back peddle and they won’t let him. You have Autism not Alzheimer’s dude. 😂😂😂😂
He's an expert on emotional and psychological deficiency. knows all the terms and symptoms...but uses them as excuse rather than work to overcome them. This is next level.
Ok you organize a wedding and a party for 300 people with a deadline and see how it goes😅
*I love the producer calling him out on his lies! He's so full of it. Smh*
He didn't lied try again you and the others. The producers filmed him trying to giver indications that the wedding won't happen during this first trip there, but she refused to listen.
@@loredanadincu4300 Hush up, DUSTY!
You KNOW that was a "Sistah" gurl that exposed his bullshi#, I love the way she looked out for Matilda and held him Accountable! 💥
@nikkirockznikkirockz8551 accountable for what Bozo. For not wanting to marry someone the first time they meet them or for being scared to tell the green card chaser about that because he knew she would blow up . Let's give the green card chaser a pass because her victim didn't want to marry her asap and in a hurry.
@nikkirockznikkirockz8551 how dare he not marry her as fast as possible. The adaucity. When in reality I 100 percent bet none of you hypocrites will do that.
Producer is amazing! Niles ,a lie is a lie and many people who are scared of telling the truth do this regardless of diagnosis.
As someone with ASD that was not masking masking is when you basically mimic others to appear socially normal ....not lie to people about getting married lmao 🤣 wild this guy
He seems quite fully aware that he was avoiding having the conversation with her and that he was lying to her. He blames his autism... that's not masking.. masking is pretending to be normal.. not covering up lies or being a coward. Yeah, I get it, having hard conversations is hard, but the longer you wait, the harder it is. He probably shouldn't be getting married at all, especially not to someone in another continent.
Cos you want him for yourself???
@adjoagyeamaogyeaman1406 what? where did that come from?
"I go into a mode where I don't tell the full truth" lmfao XD you mean, lie?
🤣🤣🤣🤣✋🏽
A$$h0le mode
"Did I lie correctly" witht he side eye.... LMFAO!!!!
Welcome to masking. He's trying to follow the rules so he'll fit in. It sounds ridiculous, but as an autistic person I actually get what he's doing here
@@Lost-Cake You mean, you are his fellow LIAR!
He is horrible. Her family is poor, they would have spent money on the wedding without his help and he knew! He lied and led her on
We like and comment on a ZD video 7 seconds after it uploads, we don’t even watch it first because we know it’s good lol🎉😊 Thanks for the laughs, I needed it today more than ever.
Thank you!! Enjoy the video
Right? Same! 😊
Came for the drama and commentary, but loved the support to local craftsmanship at the end ❤
Shout-out to turkey, beautiful country
When the guy started shuffling his feet I thought he had a bug on him 😂😂
Where has this producer been in the history of 90 Day?? But also, I get the feeling they only questioned him because he can’t fight back. Other cast members are quick with it and can’t crack as easily
Maybe cause he has autism they wanted to make sure he knew what he was doing? 🤷♀️ people get abused on the show all the time they never care.
@@belledear54 they really don’t care and it’s so sad to see
He should’ve brought a friend with him overseas
Idk why he didn’t bring up wanting any of his people to be at the wedding
Where was this producer when Angela was around.
Excellent point...
Afraid 😅😂
@dogtrainer4645 😩😩😩 and shivering in their boots
a very good question
He doesn’t have money but he doesn’t want to tell her
That's noT the point, he's a DECEIVER!
@@nikkirockznikkirockz8551I agree with you on this one
Niles is insensitive, he is emotionally abusing Matilda, he's crass, and uses his spectrum diagnosis as a tool of emotional manipulation. I don't like Niles anymore, and definitely not for Matilda. This isn't Niles's first time manipulating a young woman I suspect.
Well , Autistic people are crass by default
WheW you said it ALL, I've been thinking this from Day too!!
Facts
And he’d be lonely for a long time
Honestly, he's so odd that if he can find someone to marry him, he should do it immediately and lock it down lol
As someone with autism, what you see here in Niles is not uncommon at all with autistic men and some women- not to make an excuse for him of course, but hear me out for clarity’s sake…
A lot of the time someone with autism will want to avoid saying or doing anything that will create a potentially hostile, emotional or contentious interaction, because that’s our worst nightmare. We HATE conflict. So as she was describing the details of the wedding she was planning, Niles probably thought “oh man, if I tell her I’m not going to have the wedding on the trip, she’s going to be mad at me. She might not want to meet me. I don’t want her to be mad. I still want to meet her. I’ll deal with this later.” Now here it is later, and his not being clear about his plans is now biting him in the buttocks. He is also oblivious to the fact this woman is the best looking and accepting female he will likely ever have the opportunity to be with in his life (typical autism “rizz”) so he’s not looking at the big picture.
I don’t think Niles is a bad guy. Just ignorant of the enormity of his screw up here. If I were him I would do whatever it takes to get married on this trip, because she’s pretty enough I don’t think she’ll wait another couple years for him to come back when he’s “ready.” African women tend to get married young and I’m sure she has loads of Kenyan men after her. If anything if he leaves she’ll start using him for money while stringing him along until she finds someone to marry in Africa. She doesn’t NEED you Niles.
As a counselor I agree with your point of view. He is manipulating her every step of the way. Unfortunately, Matilda doesn't see that she should hold him accountable. Make him pay for all the expenses her family and friends have put into him coming to Africa to get married. He lied, period. Scared, we all get scared making important decisions, autistic or not.
Thank you. You’re like the only person who gets it and gives him some grace lol. It’s obviously wrong he lied but I don’t believe he’s a “gaslighter” or “manipulator”; I think he wants to people please because of fear of conflict. Not realizing that now the conflict will be worse because he delayed being honest ahead of time.
Please tell me this producer just called Niles out on his BS. YES
No you just seem like a liar
Matilda is so sweet she deserves better in her life 😢
Much better
@@Aprilluvsfood are u ready to do the knock8ng ceremony in that case?😮😮😮
@@NatalieRabuzin Are you daft? Think about what you just wrote... Does it sound sensical? No.
@@Aprilluvsfood as another poster said they are good together but rushing it never works...nothing daft about that...
This man is diabolical & she deserves better.
If he's diabolical she's dumb as rocks and a gold digger. Reality is never so extreme.
Mathilda needs to find a man who is not a coward. Niles is not the one.
@@hi-xf7cj Agree 💯. She's a great girl, she doesn't deserve this.
His excuse he lied to not hurt her. He lied the whole time for her? But him lying is what hurt her 🙄
But she’s the one that pushed the wedding to happen too early in their relationship…he was right postponing the wedding until they got to know each other better face to face. She has an alternative agenda…money and moving to the US and felt since Niles was autistic she could manipulate the marriage to her advantage. Even her mother wasn’t displaying enthusiasm about the marriage. Matilda was bragging and boasting to her family and friends about getting married to her American catch. Niles wouldn’t be able to meet her bride price or the other expenses for this modern day shotgun marriage so the marriage wouldn’t take place. Bias judgements aren’t called for.
Its not like she gave him alot of space to be realistic 😅
She is beining a pushy Princess. But she still charming tho
@@daddams100The girl needs to relax Niles did nothing wrong to her. He was beining the most gentleman he could.
The crying is a bit in mature
@@daddams100 she took advantage of him
@@daddams100 100 percent agreed she was pushing the wedding far too much to a stranger with autism...slow it down...Niles is right to do so...after all if he wanted to use her he would not have bought the ring and woukd have just slept with her as she was pushing that as well...has she forgotten she is Ghanaian...u sleep together after the ceremony 😅😅😅......
Lmao Zain! 😂 Niles: “Oh you’re in the Van.” …Zain….” Where the fuck else would she be?” 😂I love you! Thanks for the early morning laughs!
Haha morning!
I’m calling him a liar lol. Mostly because in the first episode he kept mentioning how he was doing all of these things for her, because he didn’t tell her they wouldn’t be getting married on this trip- like she had hoped. He intentionally misled her and kept it hidden, until he couldn’t anymore. He even says he bought the ring to soften the blow that they wouldn’t be getting married immediately like she was led to believe.
Being intentionally manipulative and purposely hiding information is a form of lying. It’s dishonest and I hope he finds a way to really make things right. Rather than coming up with excuses.
The ending: Wow! 😍🥰 How beautiful! Thank you for sharing.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Poor Matilda. I feel for her. People trying to make her seem like a bad person are wild. She genuinely loves Niles. All he does is lie.
I agree, I see that first love adoration in her eyes
First of all I think this story line has added embellishments to create drama where there doesnt need to be any. From a Ghanaian perspective, lets use wisdom here, there's no way that this girl can get married in two weeks to someone who she has met for the first time who came to Ghana by himself with no family with him. Her family hasn't even met his family yet, so the knocking ceremony would not be traditional. As for him not telling her, if you recall in their first episode he did try to tell her in that call when he was delivering his door dash but she bulldozed him and said he will come to Ghana and they will get married and she hoped he 'wouldn't disappoint her' he looked very uncomfortable and couldn't tell her. And telling over 200 people that they were getting married without even the knocking ceremony or even meeting him in person is nonsense. The way she is pressuring him, when, when, when shows her immaturity. Two weeks is not enough time to figure out if you are compatible with a person in real life after dating online. This trip would be for the getting to know phase and then the next trip he would bring his family do the knocking ceremony and get married. She is rushing maybe because she wants to get to the US but remember processing times for the spousal visa can be anything from a year to 2 years sometimes even longer so she would have to stay in Ghana until her visa is approved. I wish TLC would stop trying to add drama, this show used to be somewhat authentic.
Very very good points...far too many posters are going after Niles and frankly she also is to blame here...he bought her a ring and he did not sleep with her...
I was thinking the same thing. People here going a after Niles but he did say it in the beginning this was a get to know each other trip.
@@lanigirl01 but then again tlc is probably fanning this drama with the editing as well...
Niles took accountability for all his wrongs. Either way it was a low blow for Matilda thinking they were getting married on this trip. Speak up Niles! Matilda can’t read your mind. Always be honest. Honesty is kindness.
@@Emily_Paris Sorry no, this story is a fabrication there is no way she could have thought she was really getting married to a man she would meet in real life for the first time in 2 weeks. I am Ghanian, it is customary for the 2 families to meet before and accept the proposal this is the knocking ceremony. Then the wedding plans can commence and the license can be applied for. 2 weeks isn't enough time and dont forget his family isn't on board with it. He should have told her before he got there after that phone call we saw but I think the editing is to promote unnecessary drama.
Love your recaps, but the ending was so satisfying. Beautiful work ❤
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Nahhhh being manipulative and lying to then turn around and call it masking is some NASTY WORK
Loving that he's gonna have to answer to her family, in person 😆 "it's what she deserves 😏" *Kim K voice* 😆
5:26 the producer is like aht aht aht, we didnt manufacture this drama (this time) YOU did this, and I think Matilda is in agreement.
EDIT: The show probably had wedding scenes planned and paid for flowers and stuff. I cant help but feel the producer is a little annoyed as well.
Yeah, you have a point there. If there's no wedding then their storyline is about to end. They'll probably try to make something out of the knocking ceremony.
Good morning Zain and Zainies.
Good morning
lol my sons name is Zain and I call him Zainy ❤that’s one of the reasons I subscribed 😂
Lying is not masking! I think Matilda must really want that green card so badly.
I think she really loves him, and he's lucky to have met this kind hearted soul who's accepted him for who he is. I don't see malice in her. Wanting to move to the US doesn't invalidate the love and care she's expressed toward him.
😂😂😂😂she doesn't love him plenty people will fake to each America remember this comment when she reaches America and leave him
@@JennyAguilleraEXACTLY , she basically says in the first episode she is wanting to get to America and get her green card so she can send money back to her family. So she's not wanting to help out with her bills here. She's wanting him to pay for all that on his own. Sorry that's not saying she loves him that says she's using him... big difference.
I think she loves him and has hope to start a better life and even if she wants a green card she seems like a genuinely would be a good loving wife.
@@Ankns-ug5ihyou are genuine and fair. Analysis is apt
I died when the producer called him out! gaslighting is not "masking"
Listen Zain you toxic ambassador lol I'm rooting for this couple 😊
Me too they're cute
Bruh, as someone who works with Autistic individuals masking is NOT lying. Lying is lying. Claiming otherwise is deceitful and misleading. But then again, all people, neurodivergent or otherwise can be deceitful.
Also, who's the hot guy doing the pottery?
The pottery bit was a nice surprise
I don't understand him lying and saying the reason for postponing the wedding is to "get to know her better" when the real reason is he doesn't have the money?
She’s crying because the cash cow is walking away. Niles don’t marry her your life will be hell.
I’m glad someone else see what’s going on here!! They all see passports & visa’s & when he can’t get them all out he’ll have to take care of her & her entire family until she can establish herself & then she’ll leave him! I feel bad for the poor guy, he’s getting into the typical marriage scam!
Niles is not a serious guy. And she’s only now discovering it.
So if I leave out a bunch of information in the future and it causes conflict, can I just claim PTSD also? It’s not my fault if I’m deceptive, and keep talking about how bad I feel for being deceptive? 🤔
PTSD, autism, add, adhd, people just raiding the psychology dsm for excuses at this point.
@@feitmeexactly. No accountability in this world. It's so hard to hear : "I am responsable, I messed up, I am sorry."
@@milibibi2152 and try to think ahead! We usually have a pretty good idea when things aren’t going to go well.
Poor Niles. He was afraid to say "not this trip" to her, and instead let her steamroller right over him. As a person on the spectrum, I have met pushy people like this. They gaslight you by saying you agreed with what they wanted to do just because you did not stand up to them forcefully. Be strong, Niles! Next, she will try to baby-trap you. She's mad thirsty for that greencard!
Poor Matilda more like it Niles is the one he proposed to her and leading on He leaves and she's the one to face embarrassment from everybody you have no idea about African culture and stop please with the green card Niles looked for Matilda online not the other way around
She is not pushy. You were never there to know what made her believe in the marriage. 🤫
I love the producer calling him to the carpet. 😂
YESSSSS its my lovely knee slapper! WAIT you used me 😅
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I love this channel too
@@ZainDaily 😂😂😂
The producer is going easy on him, because of his autism. That’s my opinion 🤷🏻♀️😅. I do hope they work out, since they’re the sanest couple this season 🤣🤣🤣
Thanks for the great recap, Zain ❤️💯💪🏼
He actually told her he didn't think he would marry her on the trip but they would discuss it. She just assumed, using a local mentality.
Thank you. Thats what i remember seeing in a scene
@@sylviadavis2208 They are trying to paint him in bad light. And he does pretty well for a person with autism. Matilda needs to learn how to deal with people with developmental disorders too. She can't always be trying to have her way and expect a healthy relationship. She will trigger something in him and he might put her off permanently.
@@sylviadavis2208 he is not a bad guy who led her on...she kept rushing ahead with her fantasy mentality...he tried to slow her down...if he wasn't serious about her he would have just slept with her and not bought her a ring...or that over expensive dress...afterall she is Ghanaian and knows u sleep with him after u marry NOT before...
@NatalieRabuzin i totally agree with you. I think he is a nice guy. He isn't gaslighting her at all. She just wants what she wants when she wants it. She always talked over him and never took anything he said seriously.
He is good, he is good good 😂
We just witnessed a Master-class in manipulation from a true Sensei Niles. 👘
It’s always the quite ones you
Least expect 🪤
Jokes aside this Niles guy is truly awful!
Her family could say no but they won't because they will lose all the American money!!!😂
The brother knew.
@@Margriet101 the brother knew what ...
@@NatalieRabuzin That she needs to chill, they ar both each other best options
Because of our bad leaders you think America has money than Kumasi? You must be delusional
@@adjoagyeamaogyeaman1406 delusional like matilda ...
Using autism as an excuse to justify lying is just despicable 😂
Autism my azz, he's LYING! I hope Matilda gets her a Real Prince Charming, she doesn't deserve this! 😤
He just blamed his deception and the problems it caused, on the autism 🤷♀️
Hmmm 🤨
@@cathy_clarinet Yeah, that is so wrong. I've had friends with autism. They were not pathological liars that couldn't keep their stories straight
@@aryastark575 In fact often they are rigorously honest and offended by people who aren’t!
@@cathy_clarinet exactly! I have a cousin that’s autistic and he’s brutally honest and says things with no filter. 🙈
@@cathy_clarinet Yes! They are so honest they'll hurt your feelings 😂. The guy is full of it and making excuses
@@isabellancali5388 I’ve had a couple students who were autistic and brilliant, btw, I havent seen them use it as an excuse 🤷♀️
Am i the only one who heard Niles say to her that he was not prepared to get married on this trip? He said it over the phone n she ignored him and told him she wants to get married by the end of the trip. He never agreed to that. She shouldn't have planned the wedding without a confirmed date that they agreed on together. Its her own fault. Theres a clip of this conversation before he even got there.
Funny juice omg 😂😂
I do really like this couple, not sure what to expect 👀
love the new background zain!!
He's in a different country he said.
Looks like hes facing the family firing squad there next week...
😂😂😂😂
@@maamedarkoa2412 they both got caught up in the whirlwind...they need to slow it down to see if they really are compatible...
@@NatalieRabuzinreally? After two years? Get serious.
@@adjoagyeamaogyeaman1406sorry...get serious about what...
@@NatalieRabuzinthe firing squad comment is funny..if her family is a typical Akan family, then that's exactly what they will be facing for wasting everybody's time..on your comment about getting to know each other, that's bull..The issue is not knowing themselves enough..the issue is money..the guy is broke/doesn't earn enough and doesn't want to come clean on that..allowing her to live in a dreamland with a Prince Charming..The charade must end..she needs the truth and then they can start a real relationship if she still wants one with him!
I call shenanigans on Miles.😅 Plus, the looks on Matilda's family faces has me scared for Miles.😬
It's Niles
That producer deserves a raise! 😂
As a Ghanaian I'm here to tell y'all that this storyline is a lie and she is in on it. She knows damn well thats not how our tradition goes, her family wouldn't even allow her to marry since they haven't been introduced to his family 🤷🏾♀️.
Your comment is disappointing..Families don't always get introduced before marriage takes place..they are going for knocking,he needs at least one family member with him, but being a foreigner it can be waived if it's explained to the family head
@@maamedarkoa2412well nothing has been explained to the girl or her family, so why would they go ahead and start planning a wedding 🤔.
Manu 6353...excellent points...I also think tlc is now making Niles look like the bad guy...
@@NatalieRabuzinWhich excellent points? There is no one way of getting married in Gh..it depends on the family..Niles doesn't need anyone to make him a bad guy..he is doing that all by himself..he should come clean about his finances..let her know he is not rich and then they can have a real relationship..this is tiring to watch!
@@georgiamanu6353Oh..you must be new in Gh..people get engagement stuff way ahead of time, to be ready in time and also to reduce cost, cos the prices of things increase all the time..she was so sure of herself and went to the extent of telling people she was getting married..what will she gain from being in on a lie? And is her mum in on it as well..pls come again.
Niles can not get the money for the party with magic.
They both could comunicate a bit better. Mathilda needs to patient and not walk over her sensitive fiance.
Niles did not reject her, he was to shy to admit he did not have the money. Because he got pressured by the gender roles. He already spend alot of time and money in her. I'f she loves him, she can wait, this things need time.
She's made many assumptions zbout his wealth and his lifestyle. She will be devastated to arrive in USA and it not be NYC clubs every night.
This is the first time I see 90 Days producer did a great job 😂
He was just scared to tell her. That’s understandable. But she really was being presumptuous.
like the whole point of being engaged is so that you can get married so she thought oh we're engaged so I can plan for the wedding and he never said anything so she thought she had to go ahead
Great job Zain 😊.potter at the end was fascinating and talented ❤
That ending was way cool. Thanks, Zain!! ❤
That’s not masking 😂
I thought I heard Sarper at the end.
Zain, you are right. Being diagnosed with a condition does not give you a free pass to lie, deceive, or other bad behaviors. It is your responsibility to learn to live in society and make personal adjustments for your condition. (Perhaps on those personal 'affirmations' that Niles shared with Matilda he ought to have listed, "I will work on being openly honest especially when I feel threatened or awkward/overwhelmed"....)
He is autistic...give him a break...his situation is stressful to anyone including when he was on the phone with her and now in person...
Does nobody remember Niles saying he wants to wait for a second trip to marry - and she demanded they marry the first time!
Everybody take notes 📝
Lying isn’t a part of Autism boo!!!
Crying is HUMAN, not feminine!!!
Thank you!!!
Oooooh, pottery!
That man at the end is talented! I loved watching him work 👌🏽🤓
respect for Matilda how she handled this. I would be angry too. I hope everything works out and they still get married and live a long and happy life in America. For once a couple who behave themselves with dignity, no yelling and insults, this uncle is nice to watch
He lied, but when it comes to romantic relationships, he's like a 3-year-old covered in cookie crumbs who says he didn't eat the cookies. He probably thinks the rules are different for these relationships and he's trying to figure that out, but he's terrible at playing games. Being on this show is probably good for him. As a person with Asperger's, I have a lot of sympathy for his journey
Take accountability for your lies and stop using your problem to excuse your poor behavior.
My point is, he's still learning and not ready to be married at all
@@Lost-Cake so why did he ask her then? If he was not ready why did he propose? He is not a child and it's not his first relationship. He has more experiences. Stop using your asperger to excuse your bad behavior. Accountability.
While it’s good that Niles is being held accountable, it seems disingenuous. Why haven’t Loren, Bid Ed, and especially Angela ever held accountable on camera? Especially with things like abuse and STDs involved
How nasty is Matilda that she wants anyone to get married when they have no friends or family around and the other does? This is not like eloping.
How would anyone want to or expect to marry someone you have never met in person before? That just screams desperation and wanting a green card ( which she basically said she is after on the 1st episode).
Are you telling me it’s never happened in any episodes? What is it that tiger Lily didn’t do? Niles had been talking to her for over two years and he now claims he came to know her better ? Again? You unjustly and unfairly analyze this cos Matilda is not well to do and sees herself capable of marrying someone she can have a life with? And have a chance of a better exposure?
Her crying would be far worse to quickly marry now and in 6 months its over...
If he is aware of what he is doing then he could have changed the behavior. I was a special needs teacher for years and the children that were aware of their disability and symptoms would use that as an excuse for bad behavior. I had one that would say “I did that because of my condition” as an excuse for choking another chid out on the playground. I was trying to like Niles but he is dead wrong.
6:02 He started disassociating due to being backed into a corner. Oof
He did say to her he didn't want to marry on this trip.
But he also backpedled on that same call.
@@xxarianahiltonxx5116 she was putt8ng alot of pressure on him and just pushing ahead...she should have listened more instead of being in her fantasy of US here I come...
I like the clip you put in, at the end. I tripped out when he spun it with his feet. I thought it was electrical. Makes me want to try doing it. I'm sure it's harder than it looks. Thanks for the video, Zain❤
This entire season he has quite literally said to us the audience, that he is afraid to tell her he cannot get married on this trip. And that that is why he bought a promise ring so that he could tell her he cannot marry her on the trip… I do not like that. He tries to use his supposed disability when it benefits him.
Matilda! He lied! ANd then made you think he told you about the wedding not happening but you forgot, or a miscommunication? Throw miles away, please!
He probably tried to tell her but she talked over him 😂 he just shouldn’t have proposed in the first place without meeting her
Meh, I don't like either of them in this scenario. He obviously wasn't clear about his intentions, but she pushed and pushed every time he dropped a hint of doubt. On top of which, they never even met and she knows he would be doing this all alone, no family, no friends. Why would you want that for your future spouse?
On the flip side, if he dropped hints and she wasn't catching on, shouldn't he be direct so there's no misunderstanding?
@@henrysmith180 Yea, they really should have sat down and had a talk. I don't blame either one of them entirely. I'm guessing they both got caught up in the whirlwind.
Matilda is my favorite. She seems very genuine..
Women are always planning the wedding...no matter what the guy says at times...why would her family allow her to marry a stranger from the internet...or pay for it themselves when they dont know him...
Zain, let's go on "90 Day Fiance!" I promise I won't yell "You USED me!
Zain, some funny juice yesterday with a slight bit of a headache today IS a hangover (albeit a very mild one...).
He spoke to her ONCE about MAYBE not getting married on his first trip and even though he noticed her family and entire community discussing a marriage soon during the trip he slept with her instead of sitting her down and being firm with his thoughts. Who knows if she would have slept with him had he been completely up front on his thoughts rather than wimping out with a MAYBE not getting married etc.
Appreciate you calling him out on his "masking" BS. That's not what masking is at all, what he *was* doing was lying and manipulating. The producer was dead on too. Now I really do think he's using his autism as a way to fuck around with an *excuse*, he knows full well what he's doing.
Oh yeah, he real slick. He don’t wanna lose her now because she won’t give him validation, and nobody else will want him like the way she pretends, even though I think she was marrying him citizenship to get the rest of her family over, but at the end of the day, I see two people playing each other.
seriously doubt he has 10,000USD, and that’s another perspective issue that can be their downfall. Her family believes Americans are rich and no need to confirm anything about his budget. They think they are getting a rich American to support the whole family. He thinks he’s getting a woman like Americans who will support herself and him.
Good points...she has been unrealistic here and ridden rough shod over him every time he tried to slow her down both over the phone and in person...yes he is an American but not a rich one and he has a small salary and is autistic...
I don't think Niles is as innocent as he is portraing...
Gosh the camera isn't their friend is it ? 😮😮😮
Love the turkey clips!