Mine is my battery power on my devices from spending so much time on TH-cam. And the email receipts from my FabFitFun and Hunt A Killer subscription boxes.
When she gave him the phone it was like a mother giving a kid his/her first smartphone. I refuse to mother a grown man. Just watching that scene was exhausting to me.
yall somehow finding a way to make the man seem at fault all the time, hes not getting mothered hes getting controlled, thats abusive behaviour. "I refuse to mother a grown man", no one asked u to
Let the dude have a nap!!!! Jeez! He's jetlagged. Couples naps are great, I love napping with a man. It's like sleeping with a human-sized heater with a heartbeat 💓
You didn't mention the key element of the phone. She gave it to him as a "gift" and then said he could have it under one condition - that she have unlimited access to his phone. This is very much about control and lack of trust. She is going to react very badly when he inevitably tries to assert independence.
Well, since the phone is considered a gift, I’m assuming that Stacey’s name is on the account and that she’s paying the bill. What’s more is that after listing her condition, he still agreed to take it. My thought is that his options are to either accept the phone with the condition and not complain about it, or give the phone back, buy one himself, and experience that freedom of doing whatever he wants with it.
She wants him to be a good little boy toy to sugar mama. Just when i think Darcey had the worst taste in men, Stacey says, hold my beer. At least Darcey's guys had their own cateers.
Boobalopbop Completely agree. Stacy acts like she’s the one in a long term relationship because she’s so much more relationship savvy than Darcy. And it’s ridiculous, because the longevity of her relationship with Florian has nothing to do with her emotional intelligence or anything like that. She just found a young man from a troubled second world country who was willing to date her in exchange for a privileged lifestyle. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with that if that’s what they both want, but she has no right to position herself as superior to Darcy or look down on Darcy for being desperate. Stacy is desperate to be loved too, clearly.
@@effyvoux I agree! Stacy's appearances in Darcy's 90 Day segments are edited to make her look like the mature, rational one. This show is revealing that she is every bit as desperate and screwed up as Darcy.
Why do these 90 Day peeps go after people who are emotionally and physically unavailable? It's like they are in love with the idea of love, but subconsciously choose people who they know won't work out.
@@Mandy3141 I recall there was this couple which went kind of unnoticed, but they were nice and went well together. The girl is called Kirlyam, I forget who the guy was. They were religious though. It's from an older season.
I once heard an interview with a caster for reality TV. At one point she was asked why they always choose these living trainwrecks. - She definitely had a hard time finding an way to answer that wouldn't loose her the job. - But she said that in order to make a show "interesting" you need people who are very "open" and "give generously of themselves". Translation: "You people don't want to pay to watch a show that is just at boring as your own social media, so we choose people who are drama queens without much thought for the consequences". So most shows have only had a few emotionally stable people in the first season. Even if some apparently apply.
Darcey and Stacey really need to get over this "love is supposed to be a fairy tale" mindset when it comes to love, in my opinion. I was raised on disney movies and movies like The Princess Bride, Ever After, Romeo And Juliet, Tristan And Isolde etc where love was always perfect and the couples fought against all odds to be together, so I grew up having this notion that if who I was with wasn't taking me out on dates, buying me gifts, complimenting me, professing their love for me, gazing at me as I slept, etc all the time then it meant that they didn't really love me, and that was SO toxic. I still have to fight the instinct to think that sometimes. Real life is NOT like it is in the movies. Real love is NOT like it is in the movies. Physical issues get in the way of romance, emotional issues get in the way of romance, people have different ideas of what romance is, etc. Just because Florian didn't throw his bags and run to stacey in the airport and pick her up and swing her around with tears in his eyes doesn't mean that he doesn't love her, that he isn't excited to see her, or that their meeting at the airport wasn't a beautiful moment. They both need to get a more mature outlook on life and love, or they'll just keep ruining relationships.
Love come in all sorts of ways, it's a matter of what's important to you. She's desperate at this point so settling for whatever will take her. My man stares when I sleep, buys flowers, takes me on surprise vacations, all these things. It's important to know there is more to this ups and downs but expecting romance isn't wrong.
He stated his love for Stacey like he's listing off morning chores lol ''. . and then I gotta do LAUNdryyyyy,.....pick up the KIDss.. Love STACEyyy......"
Loving oneself to me is about how well you parent yourself Do you validate and comfort yourself? Do you provide proper nourishment? Do you pay attention to what you want? Do you know your feelings, wants and hobbies, interests? Do you keep yourself in good company? Do you forgive yourself and give second and third chances? Are you stern when you need to be? Do you groom yourself? Do you do bad self talk are u gentle? Do u minimize, criticize yourself too much? Do you take yourself on walks or to parks? Or just to play? Do you pleasure yourself? Are you in tune with your own needs? Do you place boundaries around yourself just to keep the toxic away? Do you keep yourself busy? Do you make sure you maintain your dignity? All the things one would do for a very loved child, we must do for ourselves Makes you less needy 🔥 That is what ive learned self love to be
Has anyone made an edited compilation of Dr Honda? He has so many hilarious one-liners that would be outrageous if they were out of context and slightly distorted. "I don't know if I need to see that much SUCKAGE," lmfao!
@@ememdee5053 omg can you imagine how cute the video of him reacting to a compilation of himself would be?! He's such a good sport, I can picture his face turning bright red! Lol
I live with my bf and we have each others passcodes, not to snoop, we trust each other. We know it for convenience, sometimes my phone will be closer if he needs a calculator so he will use it, or a similar random situation. We don't hide phones or laptops from one another, they are just appliances in our home. I never had the need to go through his phone even though I have the option to do it, and I'm sure he doesn't go through my phone either. I don't see the point of marrying a person you don't trust completely.
Same. I honestly love it because sometimes I forget my phone at home when we are out and I can just use his to communicate with our friends. Also, if I am even in a bind and need a laptop, he is always offering his without a second thought so I can get my schoolwork done if we go out when I have homework. Knowing we can trust each other makes the relationship that much more strong and special.
It seems manipulative to have that kind of conversation after you've flown someone all the way over to you, given them a phone, demanded they allow you to put your fingerprint on it, and like, right when you wake up. That seems like something you should ask before all that happens. I felt like Stephanie did something similar when she apologized to Erika, got her a present, said she wanted her to feel like a princess, took her out to a romantic dinner knowing she was going to ask her about the app on her phone. It just seems like buttering people up with all these good feelings, getting them alone in an environment where you have some control and then bombing them with a question about your trust.
Amen! I've been married 30 years, and my husband once wrote brian loves julie in sidewalk chalk in our driveway. That's about as fairytale as it gets around here! 😂
I wonder how many Disney movies they repeatedly watched when little girls. Their mature mindsets seem much too infantile----Everything is a happily ever after tale with each new man. Setting themselves up for disappointment much?
"even if he diddnt actually cheat" ive always said that an emotional affair would hurt me 10x more than a random hook up.....emotional cheating can hurt worse than physical cheating sometimes...
Same. It's not the same for everyone but emotional cheating hurts more for me because I value non sexual intimacy and closeness very much. If they want that closeness from someone else it really stings.
@@LDrosophila I'm quite a strong person traveling I have no trouble when traveling close but one time i travels to Japan and slept for two days when i got there lol. Jet lag is no joke.
Dear Dr. Kirk, I wanted to let you know that your video's and podcasts really help me get to know myself and other people. I appreciate all the effort you put into helping people. I just feel like that needed to be said. Thank you!
Ikr! I thought Stacy was the more together one, but she's behaving just as sad and thirsty as Darcy. And she even says the same stupid thing about this being 4 years in the making, out fairy tale love. And I see some very abusive vibes coming from them. Florian seems like a psycho.
@@robinbrown2256 I'm getting more psycho vibes from Stacey tbh like she buys him a phone and immediately says she needs access to it or he's not getting it... That's crazy
Dear Dr. Honda, I hope you get to read the comments. You are wonderful, very kind and understanding, and that's not total speculation here. I have learned a lot from your videos and I try to apply that to my life and my relationships. I am also glad to have discovered that we are most likely related, because I too get the names of my children and my students all mixed up. I once called my son Microwave. Greetings from France, stay safe and healthy, because you deserve it, you really really do. ❤️
"You can be here, but on one condition: I must control everything about you. Oh, and you have to be okay with me getting upset because you don't want sex." 👁👄👁
Can't wait to hear his viewpoint on how they reacted to each other when the back windshield wiper broke (red flags for me) and his reaction to staying at an Airbnb above a salon.
I think that in both twins’ cases, their exes are still part of their kids’ lives. If that is true, if at least one of their parents appear to be normal and creates a healthy environment for the kids, then the kids should still turn out well.
I love that you're covering this show! I honestly do love Darcy and I think the reason is because of how you explained why she acts the way she does - otherwise I would think she was crazy. Lol
I love Stacey’s (and darcey too) mentality about wearing these sexy high heel boots you can hardly walk in to impress him and ‘look cute’ at the airport...but you’re gonna have to carry me to the parking lot and pull them off me in the car because I can’t walk..like yes, that’s sooo attractive
Remember David gave the lovely "Lana" a smartphone, which would've given him access to her. Then she wouldn't use it, saying her nails were too long. I wonder if Florian is going to regret having a phone that Stacey can easily monitor....
@@jeaniemccormick9797 David is one of those I’m glad we haven’t seen more of. Not only was he deluded, he was actually scary. Like really really scary.
Dada Haiku It’s not kissing that he has a problem with. Many people have a “built-in tolerance meter” of how much public display of affection they can tolerate before starting to show signs of repulsion.
Dr Kirk, I would like your opinion on Angela and Michael’s relationship from 90 day fiancé.. there’s really something there to talk about. And thank you for all these videos, they have helped me and my relationship a lot.
Lol Dr. Honda!! Mother's always forget which child it is when they have several!! And they call them the other's names until..."who are you?"".. 😂 I've done it plenty!
Aaaaaaand i have a dog, cats, ......it's a shitshow namewise over here. Thank god everyone is used to my mixing the names....even the dog shrugges her schoulders when i call her by my firstborns name..."come firstborn let's go to the dogpark!!!!"
I thought it was just me 😭. She was so mad about him not running up to her coming out of the terminal at the airport and appearing more excited. I genuinely think Stacey was fantasizing about get Florian sleeping with her right then in the moment and forgot she was being filmed.
Me too. And until now, I’ve never met a woman who has gotten turned on from a man taking off her shoe, especially when she complained a second ago that her feet hurt. 😨🤢🤮
I don't see what she sees in him, but that's just me. However, both twins seem to think they are living out episodes of Sex &The City. It's incredibly disheartening that they've reached this age and haven't realized that you should strive to not have the same drama in life you have in the movies and TV.
Please react to Elizabeth and Andrei! I think it would be very interesting to see your perspective on not only their marriage but also the family dynamics
my mom would also sometimes call ALL of my sibling's names before mine... I'm one of 6 children, but I am the only girl so we would be calling all of my brothers names before mine!
He’s probably ready to drop from fatigue. I’m flown across the pond many times but on one trip I missed a connection and had to wait 2 hours with my 3 year old son. We passed out on a bench near our gate because I was starting to see the floor being off balance (it was me) my son was crying. We were lucky a lady woke us to get our connection.@11:44 see?! She has no empathy for how exhausted he is.
Flip side might also be -- People in Albania and Eastern Europe are not like Americans in their overt joy, expression. Plus that flight was probably 22 hours with several time zone changes. Probably why he crashed when they got to hotel.
I was blown away at the phone situation. It felt really sinister and actually made me sick to my stomach. I think people (including myself) think the answer to previous hurts and indiscretions is to tighten control, and when that doesn't work, tighten it further. To go the other way and have faith is seemingly counterintuitive.
@@jessblea8516 Thats a good point, I totally forgot about it. On one hand I don't doubt that a guy like him could be unfaithful. He's a young model that is al ong distance from his fiance. But on the other he's done things like what you said to show that he's not that type and after so long of being not trusted was like "you don't trust me anyways so here I go"
so happy you’re doing this series :-))) I love your content, it has made me so much more considerate and compassionate and made me realise people rarely have deliberate mal intent. can’t wait for more of this! ☺️☺️
I feel like fairytails are B.S... I will never tell my doughter the story that you need a Man to wake u up and save you .. I prefer that she wakes up on her on and the man / women is a partner in a journey.. an extra and not an essencial
Controlling him isn’t going to go well. And basing a relationship on the bedroom is not a key to success. Years to come you need more than chemistry. Go to therapy with Darcey.
I have a question that will hopefully spark a discussion since I’m so early! How do you guys deal with undifferentiated people in your lives without wanting to avoid them completely? For example, one of my friends - she has many undifferentiated emotions, views, and attachment injuries and I end up just wanting to avoid her or maybe even not be her friend at all. When I try to suggest healthier thinking / therapy, it’s very unsuccessful and she gets a little bit offended. Does this make sense? Anyone have any experience with this? Advice? Thanks deserving fellow fans of Dr H 🤗
I’ve been in a similar situation with a family member of mine who was close in age to me and we were very close. Her destructive behavior started taking a toll on my mental health and overall energy. When I tried telling her how I was feeling she took at as an attack and was very defensive. It became very common for her to instigate fights with me, say something hurtful, and then come back and apologize. I eventually couldn’t take it anymore and I had to end my friendship/relationship with her. I was very sad for some time but to be completely honest with you I felt like a load was lifted off my shoulders. I was surprised by how relieved I felt but I think it’s because I had been mourning our friendship for a long time before it actually ended. At the end of the day, we can’t control what ppl do and we can only control how we react to them. So if someone doesn’t want to change I think we gotta do what’s right for us and our mental health. I hope things work out for you!
Don’t disregard your feelings of wanting to detach from her! It’s probably for the best. A big part of being differentiated is respecting your own feelings and creating boundaries. It doesn’t have to end nastily either! I save energy by understanding not everyone is on the same path or at the same point I am. We can’t save everyone or heal everyone. Especially if they’re not open to it. Maintain a healthy distance when you need to and understand that with these particular people there’s only so far we can go!
Honestly, in my experience, it doesn't end well. I am no professional but this person probably requires reparenting and therapy and if they aren't getting that you can't control anything they do.
Nah would be a very one sided analysis IMO as Lana was basically not in the show, and very emotionless the little she was shown, and clearly in it for the fame. Very unique relationship that I don’t see many would get much benefit of, besides feeling sorry for the sad soul of David who is so blind of the truth
He did go into why people believe stories like david does and i thk it was on a reunion or whatever its called. The afterwards thing where they all say their side.
I wanna know more about why david does what he does but i agree that it would be pretty one sided. I know that dr H actually did talk about him tho. I just cant remember the exact video. Sorry.
Some men are stoic. Darsey & Stacey need to learn what real love is. I spent 1 month in the hospital had a surgery where I coded twice, coma for 5 days. I have a PICC line now that I’m home and my husband not only stayed by my side the whole duration also give me my antibiotics through the PICC line every 24 hours. He’s stoic because that’s the way he was raised. IMHO ONLY - These ladies need to know if you truly love something you take care of it. Just sayin. Tone it down ladies! Get rid of all the makeup, hair extensions, ‘sexy’ clothes etc. Get you a man that puts you first and for Pete’s sake quit sleeping with men on the first date! Get to know the man on a one to one basis. Just sayin.
Don’t dare touching my phone, ever! Unless I’ve had an accident or something and you use it to call for help. Thank you. Privacy is not negotiable here😁
22:45 I'm the same, Ive called my partners my our cat's name and viceversa, called my sister by our dog's name, but the worst was that one time I called her by my name 😳 that's when I knew something was really wrong with me 😂
You can't keep someone by controlling them. You can control their phone, social media accounts, or anything surface or materialistic like that, but you can't control how they feel about you. If anything, controlling only pushes people away. If he's meant for you, he will stay. Otherwise, let him go.
So many women I know are looking for a fairy tale or Disney romance. One in particular has jumped from one relationship to the other seeking a marriage. I would love to see Dr Kirk delve deeper on this!
If you are super needy and must have someone who expresses emotions freely, don't go to Eastern Europe looking for a spouse. It's just their culture to be more reserved.
Did anyone notice those moments when Stacey was disappointed at Florian’s lack of excitement at the airport upon meeting Stacey, when Florian heard that Stacey wanted to put her fingerprint on his phone, and when she brought up the pics that Florian took? From what I saw was that Florian may’ even seemed calm during those moments, but I thought his eyes told a different story. Anyone see that too? Also, face “suckage” and “sex positivity” are terms that needs to be added to the Urban Dictionary.
My family is also so bad with names 🙈 my mum usually, when I was young could be like, sibling, dog, dog, cat, maybe random name, then eventually the right name 🙈 once she was going to tell my brother, nicke to feed the cat ville and ended up calling him Nille 😂 My grandas always calls me my mothers name,or sometimes my cousins and on occation ny grandmas. I know its not due to he dont care, he just mixes them up
When Dr. Kirk says “what if a man paid for the hotel..” I disagree because he’s not just a man she took out on a date, it’s her boyfriend of many years so it’s not like she’s forcing him to have sex she just feels rejected which is different. I feel my boyfriend would be hurt too if the roles were reversed and I don’t think we have to make it a gender thing
I think he's right. If a man paid for a hotel room he would expect sex and that is sleazy as hell. Like when a man takes a woman to dinner and expects to get something in return.
@@secretsquirrel7374 right, I agree with that as well. I just think it’s a little different bc they’re in a long term relationship and she didn’t expect sex bc she paid for a hotel, she just felt rejected bc they haven’t seen each other in a long time and I think that’s different than demanding sex bc you paid for dinner
I love how everytime Dr. feels a twinge of the "ew" he yells out "sex positivity!" 😂
I know right?!
LOL
@@MattMonat Gross. Just because you don't want to watch people suck face doesn't mean you're slut shaming.
@@MattMonat what
@@Te3time what don't you understand? Sex positivity is terrible for society. Sluts shouldn't be praised and women shouldn't support this.
Nobody deserves to see that much “suckage” 😂 We really really don’t.
see and **hear** the suckage 😭
Yeah, being sex positive doesn't mean you want to see it (and hear it).
When I saw them suck face, my thoughts were “Get a room!”
My new english word! Suckage!
Hahhahahaahha
If my husband looked through my phone, I think he would be disappointed in me. Disappointed in how many times a week I order food from DoorDash. 😆
🤣 SAME
And then you say you cooked it yourself? Lol taking notes here.
Mine is Pinterest...looking up home decor ideas
Lol my Amazon orders😩
Mine is my battery power on my devices from spending so much time on TH-cam. And the email receipts from my FabFitFun and Hunt A Killer subscription boxes.
When she gave him the phone it was like a mother giving a kid his/her first smartphone. I refuse to mother a grown man. Just watching that scene was exhausting to me.
Yes thank you! such an underrated statement. I REFUSE to mother a grown man too! haha
I don't think this is "mothering" the way I see mothering. It's just straight up controlling and invasive behavior.
She is scared that Florian wanna taste Shanti Zohra ‘s honey 🍯 😂😂😂 again
She was controlling him with the phone. Desperation is an ugly thing.
yall somehow finding a way to make the man seem at fault all the time, hes not getting mothered hes getting controlled, thats abusive behaviour. "I refuse to mother a grown man", no one asked u to
When they're arguing, he speaks naturally, but when he's calling her "my angel" etc., he sounds mechanical.
It reminds me of the "Yes master" in the Frakenstein movies where the ghoulish helper is doing the mad doctors bidding.
@@formicaforever That's a good one! Eerily similar.
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Would be great to hear your perspective on Colt, Larissa and Debbie.
That will be a treat for sure!
Dont you mean Coltee
YESS!!!
Colte & Deybie
Yes!!
Let the dude have a nap!!!! Jeez! He's jetlagged. Couples naps are great, I love napping with a man. It's like sleeping with a human-sized heater with a heartbeat 💓
Agree Dr Honda .Florian is tired after a long trip to USA from Albanien
How old are you Darcy 15?? She is like Darecy So crazy!!
Same! My man is a heater!
You didn't mention the key element of the phone. She gave it to him as a "gift" and then said he could have it under one condition - that she have unlimited access to his phone. This is very much about control and lack of trust. She is going to react very badly when he inevitably tries to assert independence.
Well, since the phone is considered a gift, I’m assuming that Stacey’s name is on the account and that she’s paying the bill. What’s more is that after listing her condition, he still agreed to take it. My thought is that his options are to either accept the phone with the condition and not complain about it, or give the phone back, buy one himself, and experience that freedom of doing whatever he wants with it.
She wants him to be a good little boy toy to sugar mama. Just when i think Darcey had the worst taste in men, Stacey says, hold my beer.
At least Darcey's guys had their own cateers.
Boobalopbop Completely agree. Stacy acts like she’s the one in a long term relationship because she’s so much more relationship savvy than Darcy. And it’s ridiculous, because the longevity of her relationship with Florian has nothing to do with her emotional intelligence or anything like that. She just found a young man from a troubled second world country who was willing to date her in exchange for a privileged lifestyle. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with that if that’s what they both want, but she has no right to position herself as superior to Darcy or look down on Darcy for being desperate. Stacy is desperate to be loved too, clearly.
"It’s not my fault that Florian wanna taste my honey 🍯😂" Best like ever! You are my favourite Shanti Zohra!
@@effyvoux I agree! Stacy's appearances in Darcy's 90 Day segments are edited to make her look like the mature, rational one. This show is revealing that she is every bit as desperate and screwed up as Darcy.
"I don't know if I need to see that much of...suck-age" - Dr. Honda, 2020
said no man ever! ;D
LMFAO
Gold 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hahahhahahaha
This needs to be on his next shirt. Along with "Sex positivity" and a drawing of him throwing his hands up 😂
Why do these 90 Day peeps go after people who are emotionally and physically unavailable? It's like they are in love with the idea of love, but subconsciously choose people who they know won't work out.
Asked and answered!
Someone who's emotionally stable wouldn't apply for 90 day fiancé in the first place
@@Mandy3141 Haha Good Point.
@@Mandy3141 I recall there was this couple which went kind of unnoticed, but they were nice and went well together. The girl is called Kirlyam, I forget who the guy was. They were religious though. It's from an older season.
I once heard an interview with a caster for reality TV. At one point she was asked why they always choose these living trainwrecks. - She definitely had a hard time finding an way to answer that wouldn't loose her the job. - But she said that in order to make a show "interesting" you need people who are very "open" and "give generously of themselves". Translation: "You people don't want to pay to watch a show that is just at boring as your own social media, so we choose people who are drama queens without much thought for the consequences".
So most shows have only had a few emotionally stable people in the first season. Even if some apparently apply.
Waiting for Dr. Kirk to get to the newest episode is PAINFUL
I am impatiently waiting for a freakout from him like the other video with Tom.
You gotta b talking about the therapy session lol
YESSSS! The suspense is killing me. I hope he gets as excited as we all were when watching it! 😄
factssss
Right?? I get so sad when the new video is over because now I have to wait again 🤣🤣🤣
Darcey and Stacey really need to get over this "love is supposed to be a fairy tale" mindset when it comes to love, in my opinion. I was raised on disney movies and movies like The Princess Bride, Ever After, Romeo And Juliet, Tristan And Isolde etc where love was always perfect and the couples fought against all odds to be together, so I grew up having this notion that if who I was with wasn't taking me out on dates, buying me gifts, complimenting me, professing their love for me, gazing at me as I slept, etc all the time then it meant that they didn't really love me, and that was SO toxic. I still have to fight the instinct to think that sometimes. Real life is NOT like it is in the movies. Real love is NOT like it is in the movies. Physical issues get in the way of romance, emotional issues get in the way of romance, people have different ideas of what romance is, etc. Just because Florian didn't throw his bags and run to stacey in the airport and pick her up and swing her around with tears in his eyes doesn't mean that he doesn't love her, that he isn't excited to see her, or that their meeting at the airport wasn't a beautiful moment. They both need to get a more mature outlook on life and love, or they'll just keep ruining relationships.
Well said! Very well said!!
I agree but even his face was bored meeting her. I hope thats not what you settle for.
YUP! 1,000!
PREACH
Love come in all sorts of ways, it's a matter of what's important to you. She's desperate at this point so settling for whatever will take her. My man stares when I sleep, buys flowers, takes me on surprise vacations, all these things. It's important to know there is more to this ups and downs but expecting romance isn't wrong.
He stated his love for Stacey like he's listing off morning chores lol
''. . and then I gotta do LAUNdryyyyy,.....pick up the KIDss.. Love STACEyyy......"
🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅
😂😂😂😂
I luv her ,nice to me,help me 😆 like someone was asking him how was his day at school
LOL freaking love it
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Loving oneself to me is about how well you parent yourself
Do you validate and comfort yourself?
Do you provide proper nourishment?
Do you pay attention to what you want?
Do you know your feelings, wants and hobbies, interests?
Do you keep yourself in good company?
Do you forgive yourself and give second and third chances?
Are you stern when you need to be?
Do you groom yourself?
Do you do bad self talk are u gentle?
Do u minimize, criticize yourself too much?
Do you take yourself on walks or to parks? Or just to play?
Do you pleasure yourself?
Are you in tune with your own needs?
Do you place boundaries around yourself just to keep the toxic away?
Do you keep yourself busy?
Do you make sure you maintain your dignity?
All the things one would do for a very loved child, we must do for ourselves
Makes you less needy 🔥
That is what ive learned self love to be
How well do you prevent your own breakdowns?
Nice list!!!💚💚
@@legzfalloffgirl5148 thank u 🖤🌱
Great List. I will copy and paste this list. Whenever I am not sure of myself, I will look at this list. Thank you.
This is an awesome list. Love it. ✨
Has anyone made an edited compilation of Dr Honda? He has so many hilarious one-liners that would be outrageous if they were out of context and slightly distorted. "I don't know if I need to see that much SUCKAGE," lmfao!
Honestly I would settle for a compilation of his uncomfortable chuckles. Unfortunately, I have zero media skills, so literally anyone else lol
I sесоnd that!
@@ememdee5053 omg can you imagine how cute the video of him reacting to a compilation of himself would be?! He's such a good sport, I can picture his face turning bright red! Lol
Yes! That moment had me laughing so hard I had to pause the video.
So agree. Doc is Highly intelligent sense of humor dropdeadgorgeous gotta love my Elvis💞💗💞
I now need a tshirt with an illustration of Dr Honda gesturing with his hands "sex positivity!" with a strained look on his face.
Yes he needs merch
@@anaisdiaz7255 he has merch!
Florian has about the level of excitement I experienced taking tests back in school
I live with my bf and we have each others passcodes, not to snoop, we trust each other. We know it for convenience, sometimes my phone will be closer if he needs a calculator so he will use it, or a similar random situation. We don't hide phones or laptops from one another, they are just appliances in our home. I never had the need to go through his phone even though I have the option to do it, and I'm sure he doesn't go through my phone either. I don't see the point of marrying a person you don't trust completely.
Same. I honestly love it because sometimes I forget my phone at home when we are out and I can just use his to communicate with our friends. Also, if I am even in a bind and need a laptop, he is always offering his without a second thought so I can get my schoolwork done if we go out when I have homework. Knowing we can trust each other makes the relationship that much more strong and special.
Sammme. Sometimes it’s just easier.
Same with me and my husband.
Ya'll are goals. Awww💕💕💕💕
It seems manipulative to have that kind of conversation after you've flown someone all the way over to you, given them a phone, demanded they allow you to put your fingerprint on it, and like, right when you wake up. That seems like something you should ask before all that happens. I felt like Stephanie did something similar when she apologized to Erika, got her a present, said she wanted her to feel like a princess, took her out to a romantic dinner knowing she was going to ask her about the app on her phone. It just seems like buttering people up with all these good feelings, getting them alone in an environment where you have some control and then bombing them with a question about your trust.
I’m sure he was exhausted from packing, get up early, traveling, time difference - just let the man recover!!
She is so selfish.
Dr Honda - your hair looks really good today!!! Loving the up sweep wave hairstyle.
He’s got that Clark Kent hair
So basically stacey is his sugar mama!
Ahhh yup yup and a yup
Yes basically lol
Both sisters always refer to having a fairy tale...they will continue to be disappointed if they do t let that expectation go!!!
Amen! I've been married 30 years, and my husband once wrote brian loves julie in sidewalk chalk in our driveway. That's about as fairytale as it gets around here! 😂
I wonder how many Disney movies they repeatedly watched when little girls. Their mature mindsets seem much too infantile----Everything is a happily ever after tale with each new man. Setting themselves up for disappointment much?
"even if he diddnt actually cheat"
ive always said that an emotional affair would hurt me 10x more than a random hook up.....emotional cheating can hurt worse than physical cheating sometimes...
@Lilman Yellow Very true
Same. It's not the same for everyone but emotional cheating hurts more for me because I value non sexual intimacy and closeness very much. If they want that closeness from someone else it really stings.
Jessie Beaty
Agree since physical is so easy to replace but you can’t replace a bond
Just let the man sleep omg! Lol
Seriously he just travelled internationally
@@LDrosophila I'm quite a strong person traveling I have no trouble when traveling close but one time i travels to Japan and slept for two days when i got there lol. Jet lag is no joke.
@@alinai5736 the struggle is real. If you can sleep for 2 days straight you'll be ok. If people keep you awake you'll be lagged for ages. It's cruel!
Seriously ..does she not understand timezones and jetlag?! It's many, many hours later for him. He's tired.
One of my main rules for traveling is to make room in your schedule for rest after traveling. Stacey should’ve thought of that.
Florian will tolerate everything and the minute he gets that green card, he will disappear
Resi Mart he is another Mohammed lol
Dear Dr. Kirk, I wanted to let you know that your video's and podcasts really help me get to know myself and other people. I appreciate all the effort you put into helping people. I just feel like that needed to be said. Thank you!
Stacey and Darcey aren’t very different. I think Stacey is just in longer term dysfunctional relationships . Oooh so much better lol
Stacey is really pulling a Darcey on Florian 😂🤣
All the times she's criticized Darcey, she's exactly the same!
Ikr! I thought Stacy was the more together one, but she's behaving just as sad and thirsty as Darcy. And she even says the same stupid thing about this being 4 years in the making, out fairy tale love. And I see some very abusive vibes coming from them. Florian seems like a psycho.
@@robinbrown2256 I'm getting more psycho vibes from Stacey tbh like she buys him a phone and immediately says she needs access to it or he's not getting it... That's crazy
@@poppyseed5270 Exactly, if a man did that to me, warning sirens would be blaring. I'd be wondering what's next, a nice dungeon for me to live in?
Dear Dr. Honda, I hope you get to read the comments. You are wonderful, very kind and understanding, and that's not total speculation here. I have learned a lot from your videos and I try to apply that to my life and my relationships. I am also glad to have discovered that we are most likely related, because I too get the names of my children and my students all mixed up. I once called my son Microwave. Greetings from France, stay safe and healthy, because you deserve it, you really really do. ❤️
"You can be here, but on one condition: I must control everything about you. Oh, and you have to be okay with me getting upset because you don't want sex." 👁👄👁
Always appreciate when people swap the genders and look at the situation to give perspective!
Can't wait to hear his viewpoint on how they reacted to each other when the back windshield wiper broke (red flags for me) and his reaction to staying at an Airbnb above a salon.
Didn't they get into a catfish, once. Darley was arrested. Possibly too much drinking?
Sorry for typos. Catfish and darcey
Again a cat fight
I hope their kids have healthier relationships
I'm worried for them but they appear more mature and stable than the mother
I think that in both twins’ cases, their exes are still part of their kids’ lives. If that is true, if at least one of their parents appear to be normal and creates a healthy environment for the kids, then the kids should still turn out well.
He literally looks dead and he can't give Stacey a smile? Wack!
I love that you're covering this show! I honestly do love Darcy and I think the reason is because of how you explained why she acts the way she does - otherwise I would think she was crazy. Lol
I love her too! Her heart is so pure and sensitive. 😭 She’s a mess but still- she’s a good person. ❤️❤️
@Bocacolax I think the only thing similar is being blonde but heck, I'll take it! Lol 😅
I love Darcey too! I have been praying for her. She has a heart of gold. All those childhood traumas are just amplified. ☹️
Me too, I’m glad she’s finally getting therapy. She deserved to stop comparing herself to others and to start doing things for herself.
I love Stacey’s (and darcey too) mentality about wearing these sexy high heel boots you can hardly walk in to impress him and ‘look cute’ at the airport...but you’re gonna have to carry me to the parking lot and pull them off me in the car because I can’t walk..like yes, that’s sooo attractive
Dr. Honda, I needed you in my life a long time ago...for real!
Definitely!
You can be sex-positive without wanting to watch other people make out in detail on screen, Dr Honda's reaction to this was hilarious
The interesting thing to me about the thumb print is that I can't see Darcey ever doing that to anybody, the way Stacey did it.
Totally true. She would want to but she’s never be that ballsey about it.
"i guess i'm watching this show now, so..."
Omg I love these episodes! I never watch this show on tv, tv so this is such a treat!
If I remember correctly Florian is in his 20’s...maybe someone their own age would want to be more secure and build roots, perhaps ? 🤔
Nickisae Really? I thought he was in his 40s when I first saw him. 👁👄👁
And he lives with his parents doesn't he ?
He's 30. Stac was 40 when he was 25 when they 1st introduced. Stac is now 45.
Culturally Albanian men don’t move out of their parents unless they’re married
This relationship becomes a little toxic when I change the genders. The phone thing is so manipulative and creepy.
It’s a little toxic before you change the genders!
Remember David gave the lovely "Lana" a smartphone, which would've given him access to her. Then she wouldn't use it, saying her nails were too long. I wonder if Florian is going to regret having a phone that Stacey can easily monitor....
@@taylordurden8274 exactly. It's toxic just the way it is. No gender swap required to see that.
@@jeaniemccormick9797 David is one of those I’m glad we haven’t seen more of. Not only was he deluded, he was actually scary. Like really really scary.
Glad I’m not the only one feeling uncomfortable with all the suck-age going on 😂😂😂
Dr. Hondas got an issue with kissing.
That’s an interesting data point. 😂
Dada Haiku It’s not kissing that he has a problem with. Many people have a “built-in tolerance meter” of how much public display of affection they can tolerate before starting to show signs of repulsion.
@@kristinbagani2811 Well that joke went over your head. lol
Dr Kirk, I would like your opinion on Angela and Michael’s relationship from 90 day fiancé.. there’s really something there to talk about. And thank you for all these videos, they have helped me and my relationship a lot.
The Doc.’s reaction to that car kiss was exactly how I felt 😂... not to criticise but it did make me cringe a bit...
I had to pause because I need a break from the vacuum suck.😛
Lol Dr. Honda!! Mother's always forget which child it is when they have several!! And they call them the other's names until..."who are you?"".. 😂 I've done it plenty!
My mom does this :)
My grandmother did that. We have 07 kids and i used to do it a lot. I still do sometimes.
Aaaaaaand i have a dog, cats, ......it's a shitshow namewise over here. Thank god everyone is used to my mixing the names....even the dog shrugges her schoulders when i call her by my firstborns name..."come firstborn let's go to the dogpark!!!!"
Stacey is definitely Darcey's twin.
I broke up with my partner after watching videos of Dr Kirk & it feels good so thank you 🙏🏻
Him lifting her into the car was so disturbing. Happy for her... cringy for me.
Cringy for me too. Mostly because of her saying, "oh baby" and whatever the hell else she said. Was all that really necessary?
I thought it was just me 😭. She was so mad about him not running up to her coming out of the terminal at the airport and appearing more excited. I genuinely think Stacey was fantasizing about get Florian sleeping with her right then in the moment and forgot she was being filmed.
Me too. And until now, I’ve never met a woman who has gotten turned on from a man taking off her shoe, especially when she complained a second ago that her feet hurt. 😨🤢🤮
Darcey & Stacey's biggest problem in their relationships was summed up when one of them stated, "I wish it would be like in the movies."
I don't see what she sees in him, but that's just me. However, both twins seem to think they are living out episodes of Sex &The City. It's incredibly disheartening that they've reached this age and haven't realized that you should strive to not have the same drama in life you have in the movies and TV.
This and a LIVE Show later today?!!!!
I really, really am starting to feel Deserving. Thanks Dr.Kirk Honda👏👏👏👏
🤣 ❤️
You look so uncomfortable seeing them make out lol. TLC shows a lot of TMI moments though, I’m always cringing 😬
I still have flashbacks from Mykol and Angela
Shimya Shimyay Me too, except with Lisa and Usman.
Please react to Elizabeth and Andrei! I think it would be very interesting to see your perspective on not only their marriage but also the family dynamics
my mom would also sometimes call ALL of my sibling's names before mine... I'm one of 6 children, but I am the only girl so we would be calling all of my brothers names before mine!
He’s probably ready to drop from fatigue. I’m flown across the pond many times but on one trip I missed a connection and had to wait 2 hours with my 3 year old son. We passed out on a bench near our gate because I was starting to see the floor being off balance (it was me) my son was crying. We were lucky a lady woke us to get our connection.@11:44 see?! She has no empathy for how exhausted he is.
I love when people are that excited and effervescent about life like Florian, it seems like he's about to pass out 😂😂😂
So happy to hear I wasn't the only who was grossed out by the "suckage" these two display LOL
Dr. Honda is the only channel I like before watching the actual video!
I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY THEY PUT SO MUCH STOCK INTO RELATIONSHIPS LIKE THATS NOT THE BAR OF SUCCESS THEYRE BOTH SO BEAUTIFUL AND SUCCESSFUL AS IS
Mastr Ji It’s their way to get a tv show.
Flip side might also be --
People in Albania and Eastern Europe are not like Americans in their overt joy, expression.
Plus that flight was probably 22 hours with several time zone changes.
Probably why he crashed when they got to hotel.
I was blown away at the phone situation. It felt really sinister and actually made me sick to my stomach. I think people (including myself) think the answer to previous hurts and indiscretions is to tighten control, and when that doesn't work, tighten it further. To go the other way and have faith is seemingly counterintuitive.
What's interesting is Florian was the one that told stacy about tom cheating on darcy.
@@jessblea8516 Thats a good point, I totally forgot about it. On one hand I don't doubt that a guy like him could be unfaithful. He's a young model that is al ong distance from his fiance. But on the other he's done things like what you said to show that he's not that type and after so long of being not trusted was like "you don't trust me anyways so here I go"
so happy you’re doing this series :-))) I love your content, it has made me so much more considerate and compassionate and made me realise people rarely have deliberate mal intent. can’t wait for more of this! ☺️☺️
I feel like fairytails are B.S... I will never tell my doughter the story that you need a Man to wake u up and save you
.. I prefer that she wakes up on her on and the man / women is a partner in a journey.. an extra and not an essencial
👏👏👏
Lisa S You’re an amazing mom ❤️
@@kendragullett1037 ooh Thank you but I am sooo far from that 😘🤗
The "Move, move" comment seems a little snippy to me, not even out of the airport yet.
Exactly, I was like oh hell no you did not 😒
I thought the same at first, then i remembered that he speaks very little English.
Controlling him isn’t going to go well. And basing a relationship on the bedroom is not a key to success. Years to come you need more than chemistry. Go to therapy with Darcey.
I have a question that will hopefully spark a discussion since I’m so early! How do you guys deal with undifferentiated people in your lives without wanting to avoid them completely? For example, one of my friends - she has many undifferentiated emotions, views, and attachment injuries and I end up just wanting to avoid her or maybe even not be her friend at all. When I try to suggest healthier thinking / therapy, it’s very unsuccessful and she gets a little bit offended. Does this make sense? Anyone have any experience with this? Advice? Thanks deserving fellow fans of Dr H 🤗
I’ve been in a similar situation with a family member of mine who was close in age to me and we were very close. Her destructive behavior started taking a toll on my mental health and overall energy. When I tried telling her how I was feeling she took at as an attack and was very defensive. It became very common for her to instigate fights with me, say something hurtful, and then come back and apologize. I eventually couldn’t take it anymore and I had to end my friendship/relationship with her. I was very sad for some time but to be completely honest with you I felt like a load was lifted off my shoulders. I was surprised by how relieved I felt but I think it’s because I had been mourning our friendship for a long time before it actually ended. At the end of the day, we can’t control what ppl do and we can only control how we react to them. So if someone doesn’t want to change I think we gotta do what’s right for us and our mental health. I hope things work out for you!
Don’t disregard your feelings of wanting to detach from her! It’s probably for the best. A big part of being differentiated is respecting your own feelings and creating boundaries. It doesn’t have to end nastily either! I save energy by understanding not everyone is on the same path or at the same point I am. We can’t save everyone or heal everyone. Especially if they’re not open to it. Maintain a healthy distance when you need to and understand that with these particular people there’s only so far we can go!
@@mamapoundcake Well said!
Honestly, in my experience, it doesn't end well. I am no professional but this person probably requires reparenting and therapy and if they aren't getting that you can't control anything they do.
Elizabeth B thank you!
It got a little awkward there for you with the kissing 😂
Little bit yeah... Nothing wrong with it but in terms of what they want to show us... Sooooooo much tongues
Awkward for everyone
Dr. Honda could you maybe cover David and Lana if you'd like to. Your insights and reactions on David's psyche would be great to watch :)
Nah would be a very one sided analysis IMO as Lana was basically not in the show, and very emotionless the little she was shown, and clearly in it for the fame. Very unique relationship that I don’t see many would get much benefit of, besides feeling sorry for the sad soul of David who is so blind of the truth
Nah, too boring honestly. I always skipped through that storyline.
Yes!!!!
He did go into why people believe stories like david does and i thk it was on a reunion or whatever its called. The afterwards thing where they all say their side.
I wanna know more about why david does what he does but i agree that it would be pretty one sided. I know that dr H actually did talk about him tho. I just cant remember the exact video. Sorry.
I can't believe I'm learning so much of reality shows. Dr, you are amazing!
The good therapist knew I was taking a homework break. I'm here for it!
Some men are stoic. Darsey & Stacey need to learn what real love is.
I spent 1 month in the hospital had a surgery where I coded twice, coma for 5 days. I have a PICC line now that I’m home and my husband not only stayed by my side the whole duration also give me my antibiotics through the PICC line every 24 hours.
He’s stoic because that’s the way he was raised.
IMHO ONLY - These ladies need to know if you truly love something you take care of it. Just sayin. Tone it down ladies! Get rid of all the makeup, hair extensions, ‘sexy’ clothes etc. Get you a man that puts you first and for Pete’s sake quit sleeping with men on the first date! Get to know the man on a one to one basis.
Just sayin.
Don’t dare touching my phone, ever! Unless I’ve had an accident or something and you use it to call for help. Thank you. Privacy is not negotiable here😁
Omg same and I’m completely faithful! I just don’t want anyone seeing my google history.
I just want the best for Darcy and Stacy. Like I hope they do good
The phrase “love yourself “ always felt such empty words to me lol we are social creatures thank you for rephrasing it ❤️
I really wish people would stop trying to make everything like a movie or like what social media portrays love to be, enjoy and love the person as is
And Stacy had the audacity to judge Darcy. Now we all know she judging her sister is the same as she calling her identical twin ugly.
Wait, did he skip the fight scene with the wiper or is he getting there?
Thank you Dr. Honda for this reaction video and giving your insight on the cast of this show! I really appreciate all your commentary on this show!!
Dr. Honda expressed my exact emotion on the "suckage" hahaha
I got SO EXCITED watching the newest episode yesterday. Dr. Kirk is going to be happy!
Florian is being mostly calm. Haha. Wait till they get to the B&B.
Sounds like Stacy helps him financially... 😂😂😂 her daddy paying for his lifestyle...
22:45 I'm the same, Ive called my partners my our cat's name and viceversa, called my sister by our dog's name, but the worst was that one time I called her by my name 😳 that's when I knew something was really wrong with me 😂
Ive called myself my mothers name. That was awkward hahahahaha
Looking forward to Dr.Honda commenting on the part where Darcey goes to therapy 😃
You can't keep someone by controlling them. You can control their phone, social media accounts, or anything surface or materialistic like that, but you can't control how they feel about you. If anything, controlling only pushes people away. If he's meant for you, he will stay. Otherwise, let him go.
Remember when Stacy and florian were pissing darcey off in Albania with how loved up they were. Yeah, me too.
"Like in the movies"
Life is not a movie!
Ya Stacey and Darcey seem to live in a fantasyland. I kind of feel sorry for them.
2020 is a whole movie, what do you mean lol
like a fairy tale 🤩☁️😇
So many women I know are looking for a fairy tale or Disney romance. One in particular has jumped from one relationship to the other seeking a marriage. I would love to see Dr Kirk delve deeper on this!
"It’s not my fault that Florian wanna taste my honey 🍯😂" Best like ever! You are my favourite Shanti Zohra!
watching Dr. Honda get flustered by stacey and florian making out gives me life! haha
I hate how the Internet would have lost their shits if it was a man doing what Stacey did to a woman.
If you are super needy and must have someone who expresses emotions freely, don't go to Eastern Europe looking for a spouse. It's just their culture to be more reserved.
Make out session .... that we had to watch 😂😂😂😂😂
Did anyone notice those moments when Stacey was disappointed at Florian’s lack of excitement at the airport upon meeting Stacey, when Florian heard that Stacey wanted to put her fingerprint on his phone, and when she brought up the pics that Florian took? From what I saw was that Florian may’ even seemed calm during those moments, but I thought his eyes told a different story. Anyone see that too?
Also, face “suckage” and “sex positivity” are terms that needs to be added to the Urban Dictionary.
My family is also so bad with names 🙈 my mum usually, when I was young could be like, sibling, dog, dog, cat, maybe random name, then eventually the right name 🙈 once she was going to tell my brother, nicke to feed the cat ville and ended up calling him Nille 😂
My grandas always calls me my mothers name,or sometimes my cousins and on occation ny grandmas. I know its not due to he dont care, he just mixes them up
When Dr. Kirk says “what if a man paid for the hotel..” I disagree because he’s not just a man she took out on a date, it’s her boyfriend of many years so it’s not like she’s forcing him to have sex she just feels rejected which is different. I feel my boyfriend would be hurt too if the roles were reversed and I don’t think we have to make it a gender thing
I think he's right. If a man paid for a hotel room he would expect sex and that is sleazy as hell. Like when a man takes a woman to dinner and expects to get something in return.
@@secretsquirrel7374 right, I agree with that as well. I just think it’s a little different bc they’re in a long term relationship and she didn’t expect sex bc she paid for a hotel, she just felt rejected bc they haven’t seen each other in a long time and I think that’s different than demanding sex bc you paid for dinner
@@mferrariish ok yes I see what you mean also.
Waiting for this all day. Thank you!
23:26 Dr Honda my mum has always done that with all of us. Specially always called my sister Toffee (our dog) and Toffee by my sister's name 😄
Toffee is a great name! 🤣