i have definitely an anxious attachment ,just split up with my avoidant girlfriend...at least I'm trying to learn more about ,I clearly communicate about mu needs and set some healthy boundaries.Everytime we get close emotionally ,she pulls away... I think she doesn't even know that she is an avoidant,I was reaching out to have a clear conversation and she kept avoiding it,so I decided to pull the plug...
Most avoidant people are unaware of their avoidance and that’s just a natural occurrence in their pattern of behavior. Good on you that you are invested in your self growth! I have a few videos coming up that will directly help in situations like yours, will be posted soon!
I have to say this pretty much describes my girlfriend 's behaviour towards me. We have pretty much split up although we see each other and she is constantly trying to get me to get jealous and assert my love for her . Any thoughts?
Based on what you just said, it sounds like she is trying to pull you back into the relationship when she feels you pulling away. Maybe she isn’t ready to let go, but if you are then you need to be honest with yourself and with her. Wish you much love in your love life ❤️
It’s never too late, you always have a choice. This is based on research that was done recently on adult attachment styles and how that affects our adult love life. You should definitely read the book called Attached by Amir Levine
i have definitely an anxious attachment ,just split up with my avoidant girlfriend...at least I'm trying to learn more about ,I clearly communicate about mu needs and set some healthy boundaries.Everytime we get close emotionally ,she pulls away...
I think she doesn't even know that she is an avoidant,I was reaching out to have a clear conversation and she kept avoiding it,so I decided to pull the plug...
Most avoidant people are unaware of their avoidance and that’s just a natural occurrence in their pattern of behavior.
Good on you that you are invested in your self growth! I have a few videos coming up that will directly help in situations like yours, will be posted soon!
I have to say this pretty much describes my girlfriend 's behaviour towards me. We have pretty much split up although we see each other and she is constantly trying to get me to get jealous and assert my love for her . Any thoughts?
Based on what you just said, it sounds like she is trying to pull you back into the relationship when she feels you pulling away. Maybe she isn’t ready to let go, but if you are then you need to be honest with yourself and with her.
Wish you much love in your love life ❤️
@xoellielily thanks,never heard of this 'condition' before and being avoidant,ignored it until maybe too late. I hope not.
It’s never too late, you always have a choice.
This is based on research that was done recently on adult attachment styles and how that affects our adult love life. You should definitely read the book called Attached by Amir Levine