Breeny Lee is the Jamaica background sold separately ?! (Asking for a friend 🤭😊😆) you are so brilliant ✨✨ keep shining .. ooh deets on the lashes too 🥰
Lisa Zambuto when God says yes about something you have prayed about (because you have to ask Him in prayer first), you have absolutely NO doubt about it in your heart, it’s like an evidence, SO evident that you can’t do otherwise than to believe that it’s like a supernatural conviction, and that peace you have when you don’t worry about anything because you know God has your back . But when it’s not for you, when he says NO, even after the prayer, your heart will still be shaking somewhat, you will have no assurance, No peace regardless of how hard you try to convince yourself
Yes girl! The moment he tells you, "but I'm single". This happened to me last month. Heartbroken and doing everything to stay busy. Keep him off my mind and life for good.
Why do women think they know what a MAN thinks??? Lmfaooo its baffling maybe thats the issues you face in your own relationships cus your busy thinking instead of acting he knows not what u think and vice versa thats y we have communication if he wants to be with u early on he will let it be known but real Men do not rush shit for both parties to learn and validate if its worth it thats what dating is for
The heart really doesn't know. I thought my heart could be protected in a situationship and now I have feelings as if I'm in a committed relationship. I have to let this go. It's so damaging.
Even girlfriend isn’t enough. Being girlfriend is easy. They try to make you act wifey without the ring. NEVER cook for a man and never wash his clothes unless you have that ring.
"I am too pretty for a man to be unsure of me and tell me to prove myself" Needed to hear that. Sick and tired of these men downplaying our value and making us feel inadequate and as if there's something we need to prove to them. NO. Thanks, Breeny.
why do women thing they need not prove themselves? their worth? how far have we fallen in society that people don't know that value of earning something? actually being deserving of something from practical merit.. not just because I say so.. its like everyone is talking magic tricks and no one wants to do the work.. just imagine just for one second a guy said to a woman I don't need to prove my worth.. the whole world would be in an uproar... but then its okay for a woman to do that.. are you people serious right now? Breeny, I am blaming you... quit brain washing people away from responsibility.. or I am telling you that if this is what you genuinely believe? then even your relationship with your Mr right wont last, and I am not cursing you, just don't say I didn't warn you..
I got married at 21 years old, and I don’t recommend it. I ended up getting divorced at 32 because it was a toxic marriage. I was young and blind to the warning signs early on. I wish I had waited until I was at least 25. Anyhoo, I’m 34 years old now and engaged to a wonderful man whom I’m better yoked with. I asked God for what I wanted and he delivered. 🙌🏼
in the same situation wish I had waited I'm 29 now 2 kids divorced ....hopefully one day God will lead me to the man He chose for me.... happy for you love!
I definitely agree I don't recommend marriage at a young age either I married at a young age myself live your life, travel, establish your career, find yourself and keep your options open its not a time frame on relationships/marriage
But you were perfect at 21 and you told everybody that he was the perfect man.....so it is your fault you choose him and pùsh him to marry you....maybe you were the toxic one not him.
@Natural Beauty26 It is funny to hear women blaming men when you are the onw who decided who is going to penetrate them....and later on claim the one who penetrated her is a filthy man...lol
That's not true...It's not a matter of being a GOOD woman or man. We all are capable of making wrong choices, or believing in a person who is manipulative. Honestly, most times it is definitely the GOOD woman or man that gets caught up in what seems like settling, when actually it's more accurate to call it trusting. Too bad the disappointment has to follow!!
LiveLife16 If you take the time to step away from the dating scene to work on yourself and figure out why you keep falling for the wrong ones, you will start being good to yourself and you will finally make peace with the mistakes that you’ve made, then you will become a better person. You will attract a good person as you have transformed into a good/better individual. That’s what I meant.
Yahuah Is My Everything I completely agree. Self love first at all times no settlement at all. I refuse to put Myself on sale when I’m Quality full price.
Dominique Smith Exactly 💯 Notice how some products in stores never go on sale. Not that we are like merchandise - but when you know your worth/value and what you bring to the table, self love will come naturally. Eventually you will attract true love because you have given that to yourself ❤️
Women often think they can CHANGE a man. Settling will not increase your value in his eyes. The right man will be ready the moment he meets you! Don’t put yourself in these situationships, when you know deep down inside you want more. From a self content creator to another, I loveeee this video Breeny and the way you broke it down. ❤️
But haven't you noticed the man might then change with another girl after saying he cannot/won't change??I don't see it as win or lose i see it as timing. Everyone has the ability to change but its all about timing. I find that some men can be very prideful in not allowing others to influence them, themselves and some women can be very passive aggressive projecting what they want onto others.
Dana Müller so relatable I think for me sex became something we can be a part of and move on from it like nothing like men do but it’s a highly spiritual act that can make us feel so unworthy and used.
Dana Müller I also struggled with this and haven’t been intimate with someone for almost three years now. Better without tbh... I feel much more calm as a person, less stressed. Hope you’re okay 💖
Just move on if he doesn't want a relationship. When a guy says this, it doesn't mean that it's the woman. I'd never say if a man doesn't want a relationship, it means he doesn't want one with you, some women can personalise this, fall into a depression and think that they're the problem. Sometimes these men just don't want a relationship period, they just want to date a bunch of females. Move on. It's not you, that statement is more about him. Many of these men are doing the very same thing (playing games) With multiple women, its not just that one girl. They just want to date multiple women and be bachelors.
I agree. We are not here to impress and chase them. What one man won't do, another man will. Most of the time the guy wants to be with a man... not you.
Honestly. Reality literally mike Tyson sucker punched me on Valentine’s Day. I was in a situationship for over a year and I held my feelings in for that length of time because i knew he didn’t feel the same way about me. So I jumped the cliff n told him I loved him... on Valentine’s Day. And he looked at me like I was crazy. He didn’t say it back. And I went above and beyond for him n he literally said were just friends. One day I’ll look back at this n really talk about this. N save someone else from this bullshit.
It’s the truth tho. They don’t want a relationship with you. It doesn’t mean it’s something wrong with you though. It most definitely could be him. HE just doesn’t see it. Someone else will see it all with you.
"you can't convince a man that you're a good woman.. if he can't see that, he's never gonna see that" .. YES girl just discovered you! LUV ur truth bombs!!!!
Been in situationships and the truth is, if the guy wants you he won't let you be a "situation" in his life . Men will use any excuse under the sun to avoid being commited to the woman he doesn't want. Ps. just cause he flatters you with compliments doesn't mean he wants you. In short, actions speak louder than words.
Wanting attention but not wanting to be in a relationship= issa trap and you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. For example: entertaining guys you know do not meet your standards. So you decide to entertain them for the attention you get ("just for a short term"). Trust me your mind knows very well that this is temporary and will not go anywhere. But your heart will still respond in the normal way and you will get attached. So you're stuck and confused because you don't even like this person like that but you're feeling some type of way. What was meant to be a short term thing has now rolled into months. You then have 2 options. 1. Lower your standards and try and accept this person. 2 . Walk away, block, delete and mend your self-inflicted wounds. Guess what? The guy isn't complaining because he's getting companionship without responsibilities that come from a relationship. Time isn't an issue for most men. Don't waste your time even if you have it!
❤️ this comment. The heart always does what the heart does. You start spending time with someone and before you know it you are 'in love' with someone who you shouldn't be with
This literally just happened to me I got attached because of the attention I got and when it stopped I got so sad but I didn’t even really like the dude 😫
I was in a situation ship and it was severely hurting my confidence. I finally asked the guy his what intentions were and he said " ooooh one day at a time" I still kept talking? But I was crying because I didn't know what was up. I asked again and he said he's not ready. I decided to love my self and break it off. It really hurt because we talked everyday! But I'm so proud I did it because I deserve someone who loves me for me!
God is speaking to me through you. I'm a 26 year old virgin and entered a situationship due to sexual frustration. We didn't have sex but didn't just about everything else. I know I am a wife and deserve so much more. This dude didn't even want to buy popcorn on our "date" 😣. As lonely as I am I will push through and know my worth. I'm moving across the country next month to pursue my dreams, and I will focus on that. Thank you again, your timing is divine.
Grace girl the dude I was seeing last year didn’t even buy me nothing for Christmas but yet wanted me to buy him something worth 60 dollars lol ( I just brought him a 5 dollar soap but ended up using it on myself cause I didn’t get my gift from him) and when Valentine’s Day came he didn’t even buy me nothing I showed him a bare that was only 88 cents and he said “I ain’t buying that shit” let’s just say I dumped his ass soon afterwards never again ugh and he claim to be “religious”
@@shutit4024 leave his sorry ass! These men are trained to give you the least and then expect the most. This dude offered to buy a popcorn as a kind gesture, but when I actually said yes it was clear he didn't want to lmao. So I just said forget it. We have to do better! These men are trying to play us for our goods, and do the least for it!
Grace oh trust me I dumped his ass he wanted me to hang out with him on his birthday and thought I would “give it up” just cause it’s his birthday nope! I didn’t hang out with him I said I was busy lol but yeah and he tried to get me pregnant before ( tried to trap me) but my dumb ass couldn’t see it back then..but I’m like if you don’t want to be with me then what was the point of trying to get me pregnant ?
True on the other hand a lotta men struggle with commitment imo a relationship ain't difficult if it's so hard for you to only fuck with one girl you got a problem talk to a psychologist about it
Refreshing to have honest mature men like you. Because at the end of it all...it is not about sex, race or whatever. We should all be treated well. None above the other. Happy weekend!
So many comments with women saying they r in situationships and have been for months,years! This is exactly why men don’t feel the need to “act right “, going on actual dates is foreign to them ,n they expect sex with no commitment. Stop moving this way ladies pls. We can’t even blame men for expecting so much for so little. All this bs about the guys ending it n girls are left depressed n heartbroken is so unnecessary! When u set te boundaries n demand respect, it feels so much better when the ball is in ur court. Call the shots and end things before u become sum guys pay thing or just STD- something to do. Take back ur power! Situationships are a No for me. The woman doesn’t win in the end when the guy uses u for fun n then puts u bk when he’s done. Be hard to get!
Two major key factors I learnt today: "Always remember that young choices become adult problems" Loud it sis👏 "You have the power to create your future with the choices that you make today"
Hi Breeny! I'm 55, which is well above the age of most of your followers, but even at my age, I can't waste time on situationships 😌 I've blocked two guys in the past year for trying to waste my time. I'm afraid to be alone as I head toward retirement...so even us older gals have a lot to lose with uncommitted men 😌 I really love your videos!!! Keep up the awesome work! 😚
Roberta E I wasted my teen years on fucboys I’m still kinda mad about that because I should have been enjoying my teen years and maybe having one relationship but nope I was never taught anything about guys so I found myself into 2 situations but now I’m 19 and learning but I just wish my mother or father would of told me about guys and it didn’t help having a couple of friends being pregnant and still getting into relationships. I want to get married in my 20s but as a teen I wanted to settle down still
@@shutit4024 ...you have plenty of time to meet Mr. Right. I didn't marry my beloved husband until I was 30. He was a real man...worth the wait. But cancer took him from me 2 years ago, and that painful lesson has taught me more about love than any other thing in this crazy life. Be patient and the right man will come to you...and never take him for granted 🙏😌
Was in a situationship for a whole YEAR!! At least with friends with benefits, you know there is no hope for a relationship - that you are just friends, experiencing the benefits. BUT with a situationship, there is NO direction or title, whatsoever! Like, you don't know whether you are coming or going. I kept asking if what we were & his answer stayed the same - "Keke, I'm not looking for a relationship rn. But we are exclusive" 😩 that was his word "exclusive" 😂 he treated me well, we'd talk & he was a great emotional support but the fact that he wasn't my bf & i wasn't his gf, frustrated me. I eventually, ended that October & even though it hurt, i realized i deserved better; i want more. Decided to take a break from dating so that i can do it the right way, now I'm working more on myself, on Christ & being intentional. Not entertaining a man who is not clear about his intentions, no sir! Great advice Breeny, thanks! Young girls need to learn this, we've got this dating thing completely messed up!
@@jboy98ful You can leave. You have the power to & although it'll hurt, you'll surely move on. If a man has not made his intentions clear, that simply means he's not interested in you - you ain't the one he loves. It's painful to hear but lady, that's the plain truth. You're more than a situation-ship, you're a Queen. 👸
"The reason you are insecure is because you don't feel safe." This is a great statement. A friend said something similar to me during my last relationship. I hadn't ever really be insecure before, but this particular guy gave me lots of reasons to doubt him and doubt his commitment to me. I don't regret that relationship breaking down, even though I was heart broken at the time. I am so much better off, and I deserve so much better! We all deserve better ladies :) Don't settle! Thanks Breeny
Dangerous thing about situationships is they always feel harmless at the start but man oh man the end is a whole different story, they hurt. By the time i got out of one I was writing some of the most beautiful but melancholic poetry i ever wrote LOL. I really wish and pray fewer people get into those and more get out. Not a nice space to be in.
NubineQueen ! Same from when I was 15-18 😔 I’m 19 now I only been in 2 and the last person I was in an situationship he tried to get me pregnant (trapping me) I soon dump her afterwards but the crazy thing was he didn’t to be together with me so I didn’t understand that at all
I believe that once you start being honest with yourself, regarding wanting a serious relationship and eventually marriage and kids, you will begin to find it extremely difficult to settle. Compromising will no longer be an option once you start valuing yourself.
then you'll be post 30 as your dream man who doesn't tick 50 boxes fails to materialise then say "where have the good men gone" and be like most bitter careerist women who dated the alphas in their 20s and now cant get commitment from one so their only option is settling for a boring beta male, which they dont want to avoid so keep getting older, bitter and more past their prime.
Brandon Reynolds Good men come to you when you aren’t looking for them💀😂 A woman who loves herself isn’t searching because at the end of the day we love ourselves enough to not even need a man. But a good one will come anyway because our self love makes us 10x more attractive. If you have to search for a man you prolly already lost🤷🏿♀️😂
@@Melly16yr10 I think that may be what she’s trying to say here. It’s true though. Why bother? You know who you are, if you spend time telling someone who you are instead of walking the walk what really is the point?
Khafi Kareem, i love ya but you still ignored her message and messed up on Bbnaija but i do hope that you rewatch this vid and learn from it for real this time
BREEEEEEEEEEEEENYYYYYYY IM NOT EVEN DONE WITH THIS VIDEO YET BUT I HAD TO COMMENT BECAUSE YOU’RE TALKING TO ALL US. Let me tell you sum... and let me keep it a buck... all this sexual women’s liberation... ain’t always liberating. Them situationships will take you OWT. The last one I accidentally tumbled in sent me right into the church. YOUNG WOMEN LISTEN PLEASE there’s no man worth your sanity and peace of mind. I promise you. Loving yourself first will be your greatest power and defender against foolishness. Listen to your gut. Women’s intuition DONT LIE. Knowing who you is will change your life. We’re too cute. Too smart. Too gifted. Too phenomenal to believe anything different. Save your heart and time for the deserving and be content with your own company.
seriously. some man who i thought was trying to court me. told me we were in a situationship. i told him we were just friends, & the next day told him we weren’t compatible and cut it off. like run away from that mindset. period.
I feel like my 1 year relationship was basically a situationship despite the title... such a waste of my time for a guy who did not value or respect me, lesson learnt
Nothing worse than a situationship. Even FWB is better because there has been a CLEAR DEFINITION. Situationship is the worst because there's so much confusion as to the extent of your agreement when in some cases...there wasn't even an agreement on what y'all can claim from each other, whether it be emotional or physical. Sucks too when you get hurt because you have no one to blame but yourself
no no… you already had those, that's why you got into it in the first place, or why you didn't bother to look for a good guy in the first place while you were in you peak fertility and every guy was in your DMs, and you called it wanting to have fun.. why do people like lying to themselves, or blaming something or someone else instead of themselves?
Waaaaait. Did everyone just miss she mentioned she met someone amazing? Breeny! I am so fucking happy!!! You have been waiting forever for someone to see your worth. He’s one lucky guy. And yes he better be reading this.
Situationships are awful. I ended one in January which didn’t last long (thank God) but taught me a lot. I think me turning another age (22), and knowing that I wanted to get engaged/Married in the next 5 years, made me end it. A lot of what you said in this video was my reasoning so it was nice to hear it.
“I am not ready for a relationship WITH YOU” happened to me, it’s really with( the person) next thing you know, he is starting an actual relationship with somebody else ..
Yeah I’m crying real tears right now, I’ve been back and forth thinking whether to end this situationship or not , and this just confirmed it for me , thank you so much Breeny 💕
Jikittgreat, SAVE YOUR SELF. THE MAN THAT IS CREATED FOR U FROM THE BEGINNING OF TIME WILL FIND U. & LOVE U AS THE Lord love's u. U are worthy to be love , & care for & about. Began to cherish your self. Grace to all. gh
jokittygreat1 trust me do it it’s better when YOU END IT don’t end up like me all bitter and still hurt do it you don’t want this to be gone too long then if he ends up cutting you off then you’re feel sorry for yourself
End it and block him cause he'll definitely come back to confuse you with romantic gestures with no substance. The man for you won't make you question your decisions. ❤️❤️❤️
Wow it hit me hard "His not ready for a relationship(with you)is silent"😢 am in a situationship with this guy 💪it aint with my time am done with him👱Thank you.. love u so much Sis😙
I was just in a situationship. 6 months of my life wasted. I cant thinking one thing, that add value to my life out that. All it taught me was what I dont want in a man, and what i will not put up with anymore
This video couldn’t come at a better time. Just walked away from multiple situationships. Left me confused, upset, and felt disposable. I knew what I wanted by tried to ignore it by saying oh I want to experience and have fun. I have to watch this video multiple times when I get tired of being single and desperate! Love the advice. You definitely need a podcast! Thank you for sharing ❤️
So many comments with women saying they r in situationships and have been for months,years! This is exactly why men don’t feel the need to “act right “, going on actual dates is foreign to them ,n they expect sex with no commitment. Stop moving this way ladies pls. We can’t even blame men for expecting so much for so little. All this bs about the guys ending it n girls are left depressed n heartbroken is so unnecessary! When u set te boundaries n demand respect, it feels so much better when the ball is in ur court. Call the shots and end things before u become sum guys pay thing or just STD- something to do. Take back ur power! Situationships are a No for me. The woman doesn’t win in the end when the guy uses u for fun n then puts u bk when he’s done. Be hard to get!
Finally someone I respect admitted loudly that sleeping and messing around because young is NO EXCUSE!!! Taking responsibility and aknowledging your actions is timeless. Thank youu🙏🙏❤️❤️
I think this is great advice for women who aspire to be married. If you don’t have that desire as the end goal, situationships can still be fulfilling. Sometimes it takes a situationship or two to figure out what you want or don’t want. And learning what you want is never a waste of time.
I also think that when we mess around when we are young. There are hard consequences that come off of our poor choices for love. We become bitter, broken and untrustworthy of others. Then when your husband does arrive you have so much to work through yourself to be ready fo the person God has allowed you to meet. Protect your hearts girls and remember God loves you and you are enough!
Officially in my mid 20s now. All of the trash has been taken to the dump. Let go, and let God. And I can say it feels way better to be at peace single than keeping around corrupt company that’s only “robbing” you in so many ways whether you notice it or not.
You have time. I got married for the first time at 42 and had my first baby at 45. Now I'm 53 andI am getting divorced,(married a narcissist) and soon I will date and PROBABLY get married again. Know your value but don't rush and don't be pressed by what society says. ❤❤❤
100% agree with what she is saying. If you are under the age of 30, please take a good look at your past and use that to build a stronger foundation for a better future. Also, be warned if you are out here sexing and try to stop, it will be hard, you will be tested with temptation.. dont give in, pray and find something productive to occupy you until you heal. You can do this. One love Thanks Breeny for discussing the hard facts of life. Our men are weak because we allow them to be. Support our men and make them earn the right.
I feel so stupid and used. I was just in a situationship that ended. I'm 23 and a late bloomer, I watched women in my life be treated like shit and never understood how they didn't see the signs. I do now! He was so manipulative now that I look back on it. I had my first date, first kiss, and lost my virginity to him for nothing! For a situationship...that's over 2 weeks before we hit 3 months. I feel so dumb, gross, and regretful. Hoping one day I'll appreciate this lesson.
I'm 30 and honestly, this was the realest shit ever. I wasted my twenties in an abusive relationship. Spent the last 3 years rebuilding. I wanna be married and have kids by 33 and this video honestly gave me hope. )
Crowned In Beauty fr fr ... I was just thinking that to myself lol . I was recently in a situationship with a guy after my divorce and I’m thinking 🤔 okay this should be fun cuz I don’t want a relationship just yet but I do want someone to kick it with ... and the fact that I’m so used to being in control I thought that I could have my way with this one but boy was I wrong he flipped the script on me .
I literally skipped that girl phase since I was a teenager. I never liked the situationsship stuff because I never saw any sense in it. It was always obvious to me that I would just fall in love with the guy if we are meesing around. No wonder I´m single since then because my generation does not do relationships because "we are young" and "we have time". Everyone is just running away from love and thats such a sad fact
You were everything I needed right now. My first true relationship became a situationship at the age of 19 and it took me months to get over. It completely demolished my proclaimed self-image of being grown and being able to handle it. It has taken me so much energy to let it go and make peace with the decisions I now regret, but it was a lesson incredibly well learned. I'll be turning 20 in four months and I will take your advice without a doubt, even if I have to physically go with a pen and paper and solidify my standards. Here is to the next decade of my life.
Breeny, you are a blessing! I was in a situationship for over 3 wasted years of my youth. Always put 100% in and he was always a mess, never tried. Dodging the future, playing with pretty words instead of actions, I even broke up with him and he came crying back saying he would change. I took him back always and I just wanted to be married so bad. He was always acting like a little boy that wasn’t sure what he ever wanted. I moved across the country to be with him and he still kept treating me like trash. I don’t know why it took me so long to finally get the strength but I know by staying I was stealing away my heart from the true MAN that deserves it and wants to make me a wife and mother. I packed up my car as full as I could and drove 17 hours back home. I listened to all of your videos on the way there and it gave my soul the strength to make it. I thank God for you words and know he is speaking through you. Im happily single until a real man actually sees my worth and proves it. Thank you❤️
madeline burkemper I am literally in tears reading your story because I literally went through the same thing. I wasted so much time with a man who wouldn’t even bend over backwards for me. That situation left me empty and so sad. I pray no one has to ever deal with something like this ever. I’m happy you walked away as well as myself. It hurts but I know in due time I will be healed.
I loved everything about this video. Almost 30 and my view on life and relationships has changed drastically. I went from trying to secure my education and bag to longing to be a wife and a mom, to wondering if I want children and if there is anyone that I can work out a relationship with well enough to want to spend my life with them. I went from being independent to wanting to be with someone I would let my guard down for and want to learn to be submissive for. Life period is a damn journey and time is definitely not on your side. I don't regret the path I have taken but when I see some of my friends and family that are married with children and just now going back to school to do what I spent most of my 20's doing I get jealous and doubtful of my own future. Now that I have achieved my goals I am on a new journey [career, celibacy, etc.] to see where it will take me.
Syd Law Can I just say that it is actually so important to solidify your education/career before getting married and having kids. You may look at your friends who are already married with kids but many of them might tell you that they wished they finished school before having kids. Even my dad told me that he wished he could go back to school but he couldn’t because when you have kids your priorities change and it’s a lot harder. You will meet the right person one day and have a family . All in God’s timing.❤️
26:32 " You have the power to create your future with the choices you make today. " This is so deep. Thank you for constantly reminding us of our worth. The future is more important than having fun now.
GIRL YES! THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS! I just got out of a "Friends with benefits Relationship" thinking it was going to turn into a realtionship. I wish I can go back in time when I Saw the Red Flag ! RUN GIRLS!
This video is an indeed a wake up call...even though I’m just 21 and a virgin, the message was truly inspiring. I want to start getting serious with relationships when I turn 23. It’s abt time we women stop giving our time to time wasters and grow up to be the kind of woman you want to be. it’s all up to u babe.. in all, that was a good video❤️😍😍
I ended one almost four months ago and I'm still not over it. It really damaged me. He introduced me to his family and friends, told his young niece and nephews that I was their aunt, and I went with him to family events; he told his family and friends that I was, "a friend, but more". I fell into his trap and became really delusional. I bought his niece and nephews gifts (like a fool). I bought him gifts, too. One day he told me how much he likes me so I asked what he likes about me. He said, "I like how you are with me." (RED FLAG). I'd planned a spa day for us to enjoy together (like an idiot), but before it happened I decided to ask him if he only wants to sleep with me, but he didn't respond. He couldn't even be honest about his OWN intentions! I cut him off right there. To make matters worse, he was STILL EXPECTING the spa day (very selfish on his part)! The audacity... I used the spa products on myself; had a great time.
I'm 19 & currently listening to this while working.... I find myself in a situationship and he has definitely told me I'm too good for him. When you said it, it really hit me. Such a waste of time, I cannot settle for this. Thank you for this wake up call!! I enjoyed your video, love your channel!
YOU ARE UNDERRATED ! I AM 28 AND THIS RESONATES WITH ME SOOOO MUCH. I LOVE YOU YOU NEED AND DESERVE ALL THE BEST! We need more people like you seriously you are my inspiration!
This touched me on a spiritual level😭🔥💕 Thank you for being the big sister we all want and raising the Standard🔥. Sending love and gratitude all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦 Stay beautiful Queen👑💕 I stan💖 💖
I ended a situationship with someone who before then was a friend and this man hasn’t spoken to me since LOL he threw the situationship and friendship away like it was nothing and it probably was nothing to him. And I know he’s still out messing with women and not committing. I’m so glad I dodged that bullet… and want more for myself.
You spoke nothing but hard facts that most of us need to hear 👏🏿🙌🏿 I hope you find your man, your boo, your king.... You deserve nothing but the best sis 💯🙏🏿
I'm dealing with a situationship right now and this just made me want to end it. It's obviously not going anywhere and he obviously doesn't want me. He just wants companionship and someone to be there when he wants something. I'm over it. And he's leaving in a couple months anyways for the fire academy. I might as well break this almost 8 month fling off now. We all deserve better. Thank you for this video ❤️
I did end it but im not entirely sure what to make of things because he continues to text me as if nothing has happened even though he was okay with me ending everything. So I'm in a state of confusion right now. I don't want to be rude an ignore him so as of now, I'm just treating him as close friend and nothing more. He's been the one instigating conversations as well. I don't text him unless he texts me. Also another thing I've noticed with me not texting him first is if I fall asleep while texting him, he tends to send me a message in the morning again along the lines of "guess you fell asleep on me lol". Sooooo I'm just confused. 🤷🏿♀️
@@beemo6221 I don't want to cut him off as a friend as he is a good friend. I'm just not going to expect anything more or treat him as anything more. I know he doesn't want me as anything more than a friend and I'm okay with that and am already moving on as far as that goes. With the guy you're dealing with. It's a bit dumb of him to say you guys would be too fiery together...He might as well have just said he doesn't want anything more rather than lead you on... I'm sorry you're going through this as well. It's shitty but what can you do, I guess. It's just best to move on. You'll find someone eventually. Just sucks when you invest so much time into one person.
Sis, if this is still going on, and you wrote this 8 months ago and the situationship started 8 months before that, this means that for 16 months he's been thinking that it's okay to text you when he wants. I know you feel bad ignoring him but honestly you need to make him understand that he has no control over your time. If you ignore him he will call you trust me. And of he really wants to step up to the plate and make you his woman he will move heaven and earth to do that. Sometimes we just need to realise that everyone comes into our lives to teach us something. Some stay longer than others but some only stay a little while. If we see that someone has served their purpose in our lives we move on. If he really wants you in his life as his woman and eventually his wife his eyes will open and he will come running. If not, it's his loss because you have so much value and worth. More than you will ever know! You are unique you are a more precious than a diamond. And if people have to work hard to afford a diamond a man should work hard to afford your time and energy. Kindly explain to him that things ended 8 months ago and you don't think it's healthy to be texting like nothing happened and that you're moving on. After this, stop texting him and ignore. It might be difficult but it's so necessary. Your future self will thank you for it. He will step up to the plate if he wants you because you are a star 🥰🤗💫 (p.s- this is my own advice to myself too. I just asked a guy to define what we are earlier today. If he says he's not ready for a relationship I'm running away even if it hurts) 💕
@@christinaahoney8764 I appreciate your response so much... it honestly made me tear up a bit. Since my last response on this, I have been trying to limit how much I talk to him so I can get myself to that point of ignoring him. I'm going to mute his messages so I don't see them. Out of sight out of mind. Eventually I'll get to just deleting his number. I guess I'm trying to make baby steps which probably sounds super pathetic but idk. Deep down I know i deserve better and idk why it's so hard to just get over him. How did things turn out with the guy you were talking to??
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How do you know when God is saying NO to someone you're dating and when God is saying YES? What are the different ways you're able to tell?
Breeny Lee is the Jamaica background sold separately ?! (Asking for a friend 🤭😊😆) you are so brilliant ✨✨ keep shining .. ooh deets on the lashes too 🥰
Lisa Zambuto when God says yes about something you have prayed about (because you have to ask Him in prayer first), you have absolutely NO doubt about it in your heart, it’s like an evidence, SO evident that you can’t do otherwise than to believe that it’s like a supernatural conviction, and that peace you have when you don’t worry about anything because you know God has your back . But when it’s not for you, when he says NO, even after the prayer, your heart will still be shaking somewhat, you will have no assurance, No peace regardless of how hard you try to convince yourself
Thank you so much
I needed to hear this
Keep doing what you do 👏👏
@@karisanchez8383 saaame
Two signs of not knowing your worth: You settle and tolerate.
De Andria McPherson
PREACH!
Tolerate is a big one for me. 😖
De Andria McPherson Preach 🙏🏽
Guys aren’t settling either
But men has to settle down and tolerate right? settle down with a woman who has the DNA of another man called children, and no money and fat...
Situationships are only serving to the man because he gets to have everything without putting in the work
Exactly 😩
Concisely said
But what if I want some dick too ?
@@tmoneypoleductions9764 😂😂good question
@@tmoneypoleductions9764 it’s not worth your self respect
"situationships will make you go crazy" thank you...
oh gawdd situationships are the worst.
Yes girl! The moment he tells you, "but I'm single". This happened to me last month. Heartbroken and doing everything to stay busy. Keep him off my mind and life for good.
legit
😂😂😂
A man knows every early on if he wants to be with you or not. Don’t waste your time
You're really pretty!😍😍
@@rohmanadeem5504 thank you
THIS. Within a week.
Why do women think they know what a MAN thinks??? Lmfaooo its baffling maybe thats the issues you face in your own relationships cus your busy thinking instead of acting he knows not what u think and vice versa thats y we have communication if he wants to be with u early on he will let it be known but real Men do not rush shit for both parties to learn and validate if its worth it thats what dating is for
Yeah I asked one “where is this going” and he gave me the run around. I left so fast lmao. (8 months btw)
I gave u the like when you said "the heart dont care about situationships, cant tell the difference between just fun. It's made to feel:
The heart wants what it wants
The heart really doesn't know. I thought my heart could be protected in a situationship and now I have feelings as if I'm in a committed relationship. I have to let this go. It's so damaging.
If a man doesn't see your value (girlfriend or wife) it's not your job to convince him. I think I learned that from you Breeny
Yaaass!! Hash tag:Quote of the year
Even girlfriend isn’t enough. Being girlfriend is easy. They try to make you act wifey without the ring.
NEVER cook for a man and never wash his clothes unless you have that ring.
@@MmmMulholland even as a wife, it's not my job to cook and clean. This is 2020. He can wash his his own clothes, he's an adult.
"I am too pretty for a man to be unsure of me and tell me to prove myself"
Needed to hear that. Sick and tired of these men downplaying our value and making us feel inadequate and as if there's something we need to prove to them. NO. Thanks, Breeny.
Yeah your are too pretty but also too intelligent because you know your valur
why do women thing they need not prove themselves? their worth? how far have we fallen in society that people don't know that value of earning something? actually being deserving of something from practical merit.. not just because I say so.. its like everyone is talking magic tricks and no one wants to do the work.. just imagine just for one second a guy said to a woman I don't need to prove my worth.. the whole world would be in an uproar... but then its okay for a woman to do that.. are you people serious right now? Breeny, I am blaming you... quit brain washing people away from responsibility.. or I am telling you that if this is what you genuinely believe? then even your relationship with your Mr right wont last, and I am not cursing you, just don't say I didn't warn you..
Right? they're freaking bumbs!
"fun is for girls, fulfillment is for women!" 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽thanks Breeny ❤
Amen you can say that once again!!! 🤙🏾💯🙏🔥❤ yesh!!!!!!!!!
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Love that ✨💚
I got married at 21 years old, and I don’t recommend it. I ended up getting divorced at 32 because it was a toxic marriage. I was young and blind to the warning signs early on. I wish I had waited until I was at least 25. Anyhoo, I’m 34 years old now and engaged to a wonderful man whom I’m better yoked with. I asked God for what I wanted and he delivered. 🙌🏼
in the same situation wish I had waited I'm 29 now 2 kids divorced ....hopefully one day God will lead me to the man He chose for me.... happy for you love!
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I definitely agree I don't recommend marriage at a young age either I married at a young age myself live your life, travel, establish your career, find yourself and keep your options open its not a time frame on relationships/marriage
But you were perfect at 21 and you told everybody that he was the perfect man.....so it is your fault you choose him and pùsh him to marry you....maybe you were the toxic one not him.
@Natural Beauty26 It is funny to hear women blaming men when you are the onw who decided who is going to penetrate them....and later on claim the one who penetrated her is a filthy man...lol
Heard it too many times.. 'You're too good for me.' Dear Women.. That's a red signal.. Back off from such people. Simple!
Your too good for me. In other words. I'm dumping you...but I don't want to feel guilty.
Also code for I would like to keep you close while I play around. (Not a guarantee he’ll end up with you when he’s done tho)
My last said it alllll the time. UGH how did I fall for it every time.
A good woman or man will not settle, even if it means being single for a long time.
That's not true...It's not a matter of being a GOOD woman or man. We all are capable of making wrong choices, or believing in a person who is manipulative. Honestly, most times it is definitely the GOOD woman or man that gets caught up in what seems like settling, when actually it's more accurate to call it trusting. Too bad the disappointment has to follow!!
LiveLife16 If you take the time to step away from the dating scene to work on yourself and figure out why you keep falling for the wrong ones, you will start being good to yourself and you will finally make peace with the mistakes that you’ve made, then you will become a better person. You will attract a good person as you have transformed into a good/better individual. That’s what I meant.
Yahuah Is My Everything I completely agree. Self love first at all times no settlement at all. I refuse to put
Myself on sale when I’m Quality full price.
Dominique Smith Exactly 💯 Notice how some products in stores never go on sale. Not that we are like merchandise - but when you know your worth/value and what you bring to the table, self love will come naturally. Eventually you will attract true love because you have given that to yourself ❤️
Yahuah Is My Everything
DAMN RIGHT.
I REFUSE TO SETTLE FOR CRAP.
PREACH!
Women often think they can CHANGE a man. Settling will not increase your value in his eyes. The right man will be ready the moment he meets you! Don’t put yourself in these situationships, when you know deep down inside you want more. From a self content creator to another, I loveeee this video Breeny and the way you broke it down. ❤️
Nah, why change a man if you can just drop this and find you another one?
Cherry Tung - The Frugal Designer Handbag Lover Absolutely my point! The right one will be ready for you! 💕
Well said
have a nice day Thank you! I have a great rest of your week! 💕
But haven't you noticed the man might then change with another girl after saying he cannot/won't change??I don't see it as win or lose i see it as timing. Everyone has the ability to change but its all about timing. I find that some men can be very prideful in not allowing others to influence them, themselves and some women can be very passive aggressive projecting what they want onto others.
I did this at 20. It made me suicidal. I've never felt so disgusted with myself and used. Now I am almost 24, and I completely stopped having sex.
Dana Müller ❤️
Dana Müller girl same with me I’m 19 now and I haven’t had sex in almost a year I feel used and abused smh
Dana Müller I did this during my teen years
Dana Müller so relatable I think for me sex became something we can be a part of and move on from it like nothing like men do but it’s a highly spiritual act that can make us feel so unworthy and used.
Dana Müller I also struggled with this and haven’t been intimate with someone for almost three years now. Better without tbh... I feel much more calm as a person, less stressed. Hope you’re okay 💖
Just move on if he doesn't want a relationship. When a guy says this, it doesn't mean that it's the woman. I'd never say if a man doesn't want a relationship, it means he doesn't want one with you, some women can personalise this, fall into a depression and think that they're the problem. Sometimes these men just don't want a relationship period, they just want to date a bunch of females. Move on. It's not you, that statement is more about him. Many of these men are doing the very same thing (playing games) With multiple women, its not just that one girl. They just want to date multiple women and be bachelors.
I agree. We are not here to impress and chase them. What one man won't do, another man will. Most of the time the guy wants to be with a man... not you.
Honestly. Reality literally mike Tyson sucker punched me on Valentine’s Day. I was in a situationship for over a year and I held my feelings in for that length of time because i knew he didn’t feel the same way about me. So I jumped the cliff n told him I loved him... on Valentine’s Day. And he looked at me like I was crazy. He didn’t say it back. And I went above and beyond for him n he literally said were just friends. One day I’ll look back at this n really talk about this. N save someone else from this bullshit.
I love this
IKR,
They should just man up and own it instead of pretending to be something their not
It’s the truth tho. They don’t want a relationship with you. It doesn’t mean it’s something wrong with you though. It most definitely could be him. HE just doesn’t see it. Someone else will see it all with you.
"you can't convince a man that you're a good woman.. if he can't see that, he's never gonna see that" .. YES girl just discovered you! LUV ur truth bombs!!!!
Been in situationships and the truth is, if the guy wants you he won't let you be a "situation" in his life . Men will use any excuse under the sun to avoid being commited to the woman he doesn't want. Ps. just cause he flatters you with compliments doesn't mean he wants you. In short, actions speak louder than words.
What's the remedy then?
@@chiomaanyanwu5322 Leave. Or that's what I did anyway. You do you! :)
im not in a situationship right now, but great reminder to NEVER be in one again!
@Love 23Amazed thank you! but sometimes you get caught up in thinking that's the best you can do. I know better now :)
Wanting attention but not wanting to be in a relationship= issa trap and you are setting yourself up for heartbreak.
For example: entertaining guys you know do not meet your standards. So you decide to entertain them for the attention you get ("just for a short term"). Trust me your mind knows very well that this is temporary and will not go anywhere. But your heart will still respond in the normal way and you will get attached. So you're stuck and confused because you don't even like this person like that but you're feeling some type of way. What was meant to be a short term thing has now rolled into months. You then have 2 options. 1. Lower your standards and try and accept this person. 2 . Walk away, block, delete and mend your self-inflicted wounds.
Guess what? The guy isn't complaining because he's getting companionship without responsibilities that come from a relationship. Time isn't an issue for most men.
Don't waste your time even if you have it!
❤️ this comment. The heart always does what the heart does. You start spending time with someone and before you know it you are 'in love' with someone who you shouldn't be with
true
J O dammnn this spoke volumes
This literally just happened to me I got attached because of the attention I got and when it stopped I got so sad but I didn’t even really like the dude 😫
Hannah Lunsford Same 😂😭😂😭
"Young choices became adult problems." so true on so many levels.
I was in a situation ship and it was severely hurting my confidence. I finally asked the guy his what intentions were and he said " ooooh one day at a time" I still kept talking? But I was crying because I didn't know what was up. I asked again and he said he's not ready. I decided to love my self and break it off. It really hurt because we talked everyday! But I'm so proud I did it because I deserve someone who loves me for me!
I know how you feel 🥺
You are so STRONG keep it up beautiful
Did he ever contacted yu?
I am sorry men are such jerks
Update?
God is speaking to me through you. I'm a 26 year old virgin and entered a situationship due to sexual frustration. We didn't have sex but didn't just about everything else. I know I am a wife and deserve so much more. This dude didn't even want to buy popcorn on our "date" 😣. As lonely as I am I will push through and know my worth. I'm moving across the country next month to pursue my dreams, and I will focus on that. Thank you again, your timing is divine.
Grace girl the dude I was seeing last year didn’t even buy me nothing for Christmas but yet wanted me to buy him something worth 60 dollars lol ( I just brought him a 5 dollar soap but ended up using it on myself cause I didn’t get my gift from him) and when Valentine’s Day came he didn’t even buy me nothing I showed him a bare that was only 88 cents and he said “I ain’t buying that shit” let’s just say I dumped his ass soon afterwards never again ugh and he claim to be “religious”
@@shutit4024 leave his sorry ass! These men are trained to give you the least and then expect the most. This dude offered to buy a popcorn as a kind gesture, but when I actually said yes it was clear he didn't want to lmao. So I just said forget it. We have to do better! These men are trying to play us for our goods, and do the least for it!
Grace oh trust me I dumped his ass he wanted me to hang out with him on his birthday and thought I would “give it up” just cause it’s his birthday nope! I didn’t hang out with him I said I was busy lol but yeah and he tried to get me pregnant before ( tried to trap me) but my dumb ass couldn’t see it back then..but I’m like if you don’t want to be with me then what was the point of trying to get me pregnant ?
@@shutit4024 Oh my he sounds like a terrible person. Glad you left him!
Grace he was and thanks!
As a man i agree with this video, sadly :(. A lot of women do lose out in situationships. Nice one breeny 👍🏽
simp
Brandon Reynolds really?
So True!!
True on the other hand a lotta men struggle with commitment imo a relationship ain't difficult if it's so hard for you to only fuck with one girl you got a problem talk to a psychologist about it
Refreshing to have honest mature men like you. Because at the end of it all...it is not about sex, race or whatever. We should all be treated well. None above the other. Happy weekend!
Naaaa “YOU’RE NOT MY GIRL” burns sooo much omg I wanted to die one time when my old ting said that🤦🏽♀️
What I didn't understand I have to concentrate my English 😂😂😂
So many comments with women saying they r in situationships and have been for months,years! This is exactly why men don’t feel the need to “act right “, going on actual dates is foreign to them ,n they expect sex with no commitment. Stop moving this way ladies pls. We can’t even blame men for expecting so much for so little. All this bs about the guys ending it n girls are left depressed n heartbroken is so unnecessary! When u set te boundaries n demand respect, it feels so much better when the ball is in ur court. Call the shots and end things before u become sum guys pay thing or just STD- something to do. Take back ur power! Situationships are a No for me. The woman doesn’t win in the end when the guy uses u for fun n then puts u bk when he’s done. Be hard to get!
Just deleted the guy I’ve been inlove with since March. It kinda hurts but I’ll be fine
How are you now, Hun?
I'm about to do the same, and my heart is already breaking.
Hope you two amazng young ladies are ok♥️
@@ABB14-11 Omg same am currently in a situationship, not doing this shit ever again.
You will
Be great ☀️☀️☀️
@@ABB14-11 Deep breathing, classical music will do more for than any man 🙏
You should definitely start a podcast 💯❤️
Votes for Breeny for starting a podcast thumbs up If you think she should! ❤❤❤
Yes plssss
I knowww
Two major key factors I learnt today:
"Always remember that young choices become adult problems" Loud it sis👏
"You have the power to create your future with the choices that you make today"
ChYnasa , well said. In fact all that needs to be saud. I hope everyone listen to that comment & rethink a lot of stuff. Grace to all. gh
Hi Breeny! I'm 55, which is well above the age of most of your followers, but even at my age, I can't waste time on situationships 😌 I've blocked two guys in the past year for trying to waste my time. I'm afraid to be alone as I head toward retirement...so even us older gals have a lot to lose with uncommitted men 😌 I really love your videos!!! Keep up the awesome work! 😚
Roberta E I wasted my teen years on fucboys I’m still kinda mad about that because I should have been enjoying my teen years and maybe having one relationship but nope I was never taught anything about guys so I found myself into 2 situations but now I’m 19 and learning but I just wish my mother or father would of told me about guys and it didn’t help having a couple of friends being pregnant and still getting into relationships. I want to get married in my 20s but as a teen I wanted to settle down still
@@shutit4024 ...you have plenty of time to meet Mr. Right. I didn't marry my beloved husband until I was 30. He was a real man...worth the wait. But cancer took him from me 2 years ago, and that painful lesson has taught me more about love than any other thing in this crazy life. Be patient and the right man will come to you...and never take him for granted 🙏😌
Roberta E I’m sorry for your lost
Roberta E thanks for the advice 👍🏼
U ain't alone . We are always with you !
Red flags "I get busy I can't talk to you all the time" my defense you make time for those you care about.
I am in a relationship with someone who I can’t leave right now because I need him.
His name is mental health.💪🏾💪🏾🙆🏾♀️
Was in a situationship for a whole YEAR!! At least with friends with benefits, you know there is no hope for a relationship - that you are just friends, experiencing the benefits. BUT with a situationship, there is NO direction or title, whatsoever! Like, you don't know whether you are coming or going. I kept asking if what we were & his answer stayed the same - "Keke, I'm not looking for a relationship rn. But we are exclusive" 😩 that was his word "exclusive" 😂 he treated me well, we'd talk & he was a great emotional support but the fact that he wasn't my bf & i wasn't his gf, frustrated me. I eventually, ended that October & even though it hurt, i realized i deserved better; i want more. Decided to take a break from dating so that i can do it the right way, now I'm working more on myself, on Christ & being intentional. Not entertaining a man who is not clear about his intentions, no sir!
Great advice Breeny, thanks! Young girls need to learn this, we've got this dating thing completely messed up!
Keke_SA same situation. He “loves me but is too busy for a relationship” after 8 months finally admitted to myself it wasn’t enough. 😭
This is good I'm in this same situation right now
@@jboy98ful You can leave. You have the power to & although it'll hurt, you'll surely move on. If a man has not made his intentions clear, that simply means he's not interested in you - you ain't the one he loves. It's painful to hear but lady, that's the plain truth. You're more than a situation-ship, you're a Queen. 👸
omg i love this i went through the EXACT same thing
Really? Because I felt like my friends with benefits was a situationship
Plot twist: You are the bag, secure yourself
Ryan Reid Ty
Ryan Reid thank you 🙏
🤯... I wasn’t ready 🙏🏾😭
Ryan Reid fuck, yes! 🙌🏾
Ase 🙏🏽
"Stop wasting your time with bozo the clown" lolol
Titomi 🤣🤣🤣
Got out of a 4-months situationship yersterday, after watching your video. Thanks so much for all this precious common sense
I need to get out of my suituationship
Hope you made it out!..
"The reason you are insecure is because you don't feel safe." This is a great statement. A friend said something similar to me during my last relationship. I hadn't ever really be insecure before, but this particular guy gave me lots of reasons to doubt him and doubt his commitment to me. I don't regret that relationship breaking down, even though I was heart broken at the time. I am so much better off, and I deserve so much better! We all deserve better ladies :) Don't settle! Thanks Breeny
Dangerous thing about situationships is they always feel harmless at the start but man oh man the end is a whole different story, they hurt. By the time i got out of one I was writing some of the most beautiful but melancholic poetry i ever wrote LOL. I really wish and pray fewer people get into those and more get out. Not a nice space to be in.
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I wrote sooo many poems its very sad :(
😭🤣*the poetry bit. 😩🙋🏾♀️
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Wow sis u be reading my MIND every time!! I was JUST in a situationship... and it was hell. And confusing as hell had me hurt in the end .
NubineQueen ! Same from when I was 15-18 😔 I’m 19 now I only been in 2 and the last person I was in an situationship he tried to get me pregnant (trapping me) I soon dump her afterwards but the crazy thing was he didn’t to be together with me so I didn’t understand that at all
It is extremely hurtful it’s all fun and games but it’s literally playing with fire and the pain that comes after isn’t even worth the “temporary fun”
Same I hated myself because it was going against my grain and I knew I wasn't being treated right
I believe that once you start being honest with yourself, regarding wanting a serious relationship and eventually marriage and kids, you will begin to find it extremely difficult to settle. Compromising will no longer be an option once you start valuing yourself.
I agree👍
then you'll be post 30 as your dream man who doesn't tick 50 boxes fails to materialise then say "where have the good men gone" and be like most bitter careerist women who dated the alphas in their 20s and now cant get commitment from one so their only option is settling for a boring beta male, which they dont want to avoid so keep getting older, bitter and more past their prime.
Brandon Reynolds Good men come to you when you aren’t looking for them💀😂 A woman who loves herself isn’t searching because at the end of the day we love ourselves enough to not even need a man. But a good one will come anyway because our self love makes us 10x more attractive. If you have to search for a man you prolly already lost🤷🏿♀️😂
Indicaap0ppin Agreed 💯
@@indicaap0ppin662 Great response.
“You can not convince a man that you’re a good woman” girl dang omg.
Then why bother？
@@Melly16yr10 I think that may be what she’s trying to say here. It’s true though. Why bother? You know who you are, if you spend time telling someone who you are instead of walking the walk what really is the point?
@@bigdumby7019 Good point and question 👍😁
I'm 50... And learning so much from you! ❤
Breeny: A lot of you are ignoring your real desires to settle down and get married
Me: 🤯🤯🤯
true
Khafi Kareem, i love ya but you still ignored her message and messed up on Bbnaija but i do hope that you rewatch this vid and learn from it for real this time
Your picture 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
It's true
BREEEEEEEEEEEEENYYYYYYY IM NOT EVEN DONE WITH THIS VIDEO YET BUT I HAD TO COMMENT BECAUSE YOU’RE TALKING TO ALL US. Let me tell you sum... and let me keep it a buck... all this sexual women’s liberation... ain’t always liberating. Them situationships will take you OWT. The last one I accidentally tumbled in sent me right into the church. YOUNG WOMEN LISTEN PLEASE there’s no man worth your sanity and peace of mind. I promise you. Loving yourself first will be your greatest power and defender against foolishness. Listen to your gut. Women’s intuition DONT LIE. Knowing who you is will change your life. We’re too cute. Too smart. Too gifted. Too phenomenal to believe anything different. Save your heart and time for the deserving and be content with your own company.
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Love this comment
seriously. some man who i thought was trying to court me. told me we were in a situationship. i told him we were just friends, & the next day told him we weren’t compatible and cut it off. like run away from that mindset. period.
I feel like my 1 year relationship was basically a situationship despite the title...
such a waste of my time for a guy who did not value or respect me, lesson learnt
Nothing worse than a situationship. Even FWB is better because there has been a CLEAR DEFINITION. Situationship is the worst because there's so much confusion as to the extent of your agreement when in some cases...there wasn't even an agreement on what y'all can claim from each other, whether it be emotional or physical. Sucks too when you get hurt because you have no one to blame but yourself
I am a LGBTQ guy and this touched me. Remind me that I too deserve greatness
Of course you do!
Everyone does ! You deserve to be respected
Amen
I really needed this 😭 I just got out of a situationship. They really bring out your insecurities smh.
Facts for real. You hit rock bottom. Thinking you can handle that shit. Your heart want what the heart wants.
no no… you already had those, that's why you got into it in the first place, or why you didn't bother to look for a good guy in the first place while you were in you peak fertility and every guy was in your DMs, and you called it wanting to have fun.. why do people like lying to themselves, or blaming something or someone else instead of themselves?
If he can't see that he is never gonna see it...you cannot convince a man to take you seriously...true af ❤
All right !
Waaaaait. Did everyone just miss she mentioned she met someone amazing? Breeny! I am so fucking happy!!! You have been waiting forever for someone to see your worth. He’s one lucky guy. And yes he better be reading this.
Well, i wonder what your opinion would be now...
Situationships are awful. I ended one in January which didn’t last long (thank God) but taught me a lot.
I think me turning another age (22), and knowing that I wanted to get engaged/Married in the next 5 years, made me end it.
A lot of what you said in this video was my reasoning so it was nice to hear it.
Same I’m same age going through the same thing
Just turned 45. Just walked away from a situationship. I was in a relationship. He was single.
In your 30s and on men only consider you a pump and dump. that's the truth
@@Alyssa-tu2kx Stop subscribing to incel ideology. 🤣
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Hmmm. You were having a relationship on your own...
“I am not ready for a relationship WITH YOU” happened to me, it’s really with( the person) next thing you know, he is starting an actual relationship with somebody else ..
Delaney Graziano I am with you girl !
Exactly what happened to me last year.
Same... I was heartbroken
Yeah I’m crying real tears right now, I’ve been back and forth thinking whether to end this situationship or not , and this just confirmed it for me , thank you so much Breeny 💕
Jikittgreat, SAVE YOUR SELF. THE MAN THAT IS CREATED FOR U FROM THE BEGINNING OF TIME WILL FIND U. & LOVE U AS THE Lord love's u. U are worthy to be love , & care for & about. Began to cherish your self. Grace to all. gh
Preach, tell the true!. Ms. Breeny, lives will be change for the better!. For life. !! Think about it. Grace to all GH
jokittygreat1 trust me do it it’s better when YOU END IT don’t end up like me all bitter and still hurt do it you don’t want this to be gone too long then if he ends up cutting you off then you’re feel sorry for yourself
End it and block him cause he'll definitely come back to confuse you with romantic gestures with no substance. The man for you won't make you question your decisions. ❤️❤️❤️
Yeah girl end it. You’ll save yourself the heartbreak
“Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”, couldn’t agree more.
This is big facts I’m 25 and I feel done out here. I’m getting old 🥴🥴
God has a man for you don't give up hope. :)
Miss JayLeanne your not old, but listening to Breeny you are getting wise😇
I'm 23 and I feel the same
I am 19 and I am so tired of dating (I barely have participated in it)
Same with the men lol
Wow it hit me hard "His not ready for a relationship(with you)is silent"😢 am in a situationship with this guy 💪it aint with my time am done with him👱Thank you.. love u so much Sis😙
Dont waste your precious young years on him, he ain't worth it ❤
@@msbabycakes Thanks😊
I was just in a situationship. 6 months of my life wasted. I cant thinking one thing, that add value to my life out that. All it taught me was what I dont want in a man, and what i will not put up with anymore
Men love to use that ‘but you’re not my girlfriend’ line when you’re in a situationship. Lol.
Permanent Outsider right I hate that shit or when he says “oh we not in an relationship you can do w.e” boy it makes me so mad lol
I needed to hear this right now. I literally just broke it off with someone then saw this video. I'm 28 and it's time to get serious.
Same for me
This video couldn’t come at a better time. Just walked away from multiple situationships. Left me confused, upset, and felt disposable. I knew what I wanted by tried to ignore it by saying oh I want to experience and have fun. I have to watch this video multiple times when I get tired of being single and desperate! Love the advice. You definitely need a podcast! Thank you for sharing ❤️
So many comments with women saying they r in situationships and have been for months,years! This is exactly why men don’t feel the need to “act right “, going on actual dates is foreign to them ,n they expect sex with no commitment. Stop moving this way ladies pls. We can’t even blame men for expecting so much for so little. All this bs about the guys ending it n girls are left depressed n heartbroken is so unnecessary! When u set te boundaries n demand respect, it feels so much better when the ball is in ur court. Call the shots and end things before u become sum guys pay thing or just STD- something to do. Take back ur power! Situationships are a No for me. The woman doesn’t win in the end when the guy uses u for fun n then puts u bk when he’s done. Be hard to get!
Finally someone I respect admitted loudly that sleeping and messing around because young is NO EXCUSE!!!
Taking responsibility and aknowledging your actions is timeless.
Thank youu🙏🙏❤️❤️
Breeny you are have sent God spoke to U cause I definitely needed to hear this. Bless you x
Breeeny we appreciate you more than you will ever understand!!!! Cheers...….ladies stop letting men waste your time, know your WORTH.
I think this is great advice for women who aspire to be married. If you don’t have that desire as the end goal, situationships can still be fulfilling. Sometimes it takes a situationship or two to figure out what you want or don’t want. And learning what you want is never a waste of time.
I also think that when we mess around when we are young. There are hard consequences that come off of our poor choices for love. We become bitter, broken and untrustworthy of others. Then when your husband does arrive you have so much to work through yourself to be ready fo the person God has allowed you to meet. Protect your hearts girls and remember God loves you and you are enough!
Officially in my mid 20s now. All of the trash has been taken to the dump. Let go, and let God. And I can say it feels way better to be at peace single than keeping around corrupt company that’s only “robbing” you in so many ways whether you notice it or not.
Miss Kenyetta YES👏🏽👏🏽
This is who I call miss wisdom, knowledge and understanding ❤️
Well said! I’m learning to listen and pay attention. No SITUATIONSHIPS!!!
You have time. I got married for the first time at 42 and had my first baby at 45. Now I'm 53 andI am getting divorced,(married a narcissist) and soon I will date and PROBABLY get married again. Know your value but don't rush and don't be pressed by what society says. ❤❤❤
I swear shes literally pressuring people out there
@@rahmafiakhatib3328 no she’s not
maybe, just maybe...its not the 20 men that you've been thru in life...maybe
When I heard God introduced you to someone amazing I literally started dancing in my seat 😂😂 Happy for you girl!
100% agree with what she is saying. If you are under the age of 30, please take a good look at your past and use that to build a stronger foundation for a better future. Also, be warned if you are out here sexing and try to stop, it will be hard, you will be tested with temptation.. dont give in, pray and find something productive to occupy you until you heal. You can do this.
One love
Thanks Breeny for discussing the hard facts of life. Our men are weak because we allow them to be. Support our men and make them earn the right.
Girl, you cleared up my head. Thank you for this video, I really needed it.
Good luck love you don't need him/her 💕💕
Same for me girl.
“You have the power to create your future with the choices you make today” *taking it in c’mon* 💯💯💯
I feel so stupid and used. I was just in a situationship that ended. I'm 23 and a late bloomer, I watched women in my life be treated like shit and never understood how they didn't see the signs. I do now! He was so manipulative now that I look back on it.
I had my first date, first kiss, and lost my virginity to him for nothing! For a situationship...that's over 2 weeks before we hit 3 months. I feel so dumb, gross, and regretful. Hoping one day I'll appreciate this lesson.
I'm 30 and honestly, this was the realest shit ever. I wasted my twenties in an abusive relationship. Spent the last 3 years rebuilding. I wanna be married and have kids by 33 and this video honestly gave me hope. )
I'm 19 and I'm looking for my rib girl, I do not have the time nor energy for these games 🤦🏾♀️ You just opened my eyes a little more 🙌🏾
Lorraine Gold you his rib you not his. he should be looking for you not you looking for him. If you keep working on you he will find you
It’s like you follow me around and upload videos to expose my situations 👀👏🏾
Crowned In Beauty 😂😂😂
LMAO
Crowned In Beauty fr fr ... I was just thinking that to myself lol . I was recently in a situationship with a guy after my divorce and I’m thinking 🤔 okay this should be fun cuz I don’t want a relationship just yet but I do want someone to kick it with ... and the fact that I’m so used to being in control I thought that I could have my way with this one but boy was I wrong he flipped the script on me .
Adose of Tequila it unfortunately always happens. I don’t know what in use make us think we are in control in every situation but the heart mannn.
I messed up when I told him I liked to be in control. lol
I literally skipped that girl phase since I was a teenager. I never liked the situationsship stuff because I never saw any sense in it. It was always obvious to me that I would just fall in love with the guy if we are meesing around. No wonder I´m single since then because my generation does not do relationships because "we are young" and "we have time". Everyone is just running away from love and thats such a sad fact
You were everything I needed right now. My first true relationship became a situationship at the age of 19 and it took me months to get over. It completely demolished my proclaimed self-image of being grown and being able to handle it. It has taken me so much energy to let it go and make peace with the decisions I now regret, but it was a lesson incredibly well learned. I'll be turning 20 in four months and I will take your advice without a doubt, even if I have to physically go with a pen and paper and solidify my standards. Here is to the next decade of my life.
And Breeny does it again! "You have the power to create your future with the choice you make today." This hit hard as a 17 year old. Cheers
Breeny, you are a blessing! I was in a situationship for over 3 wasted years of my youth. Always put 100% in and he was always a mess, never tried. Dodging the future, playing with pretty words instead of actions, I even broke up with him and he came crying back saying he would change. I took him back always and I just wanted to be married so bad. He was always acting like a little boy that wasn’t sure what he ever wanted. I moved across the country to be with him and he still kept treating me like trash. I don’t know why it took me so long to finally get the strength but I know by staying I was stealing away my heart from the true MAN that deserves it and wants to make me a wife and mother. I packed up my car as full as I could and drove 17 hours back home. I listened to all of your videos on the way there and it gave my soul the strength to make it. I thank God for you words and know he is speaking through you. Im happily single until a real man actually sees my worth and proves it. Thank you❤️
madeline burkemper I am literally in tears reading your story because I literally went through the same thing. I wasted so much time with a man who wouldn’t even bend over backwards for me. That situation left me empty and so sad. I pray no one has to ever deal with something like this ever. I’m happy you walked away as well as myself. It hurts but I know in due time I will be healed.
I loved everything about this video. Almost 30 and my view on life and relationships has changed drastically. I went from trying to secure my education and bag to longing to be a wife and a mom, to wondering if I want children and if there is anyone that I can work out a relationship with well enough to want to spend my life with them. I went from being independent to wanting to be with someone I would let my guard down for and want to learn to be submissive for. Life period is a damn journey and time is definitely not on your side. I don't regret the path I have taken but when I see some of my friends and family that are married with children and just now going back to school to do what I spent most of my 20's doing I get jealous and doubtful of my own future. Now that I have achieved my goals I am on a new journey [career, celibacy, etc.] to see where it will take me.
Syd Law Can I just say that it is actually so important to solidify your education/career before getting married and having kids. You may look at your friends who are already married with kids but many of them might tell you that they wished they finished school before having kids. Even my dad told me that he wished he could go back to school but he couldn’t because when you have kids your priorities change and it’s a lot harder.
You will meet the right person one day and have a family . All in God’s timing.❤️
26:32 " You have the power to create your future with the choices you make today. " This is so deep. Thank you for constantly reminding us of our worth. The future is more important than having fun now.
GIRL YES! THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS! I just got out of a "Friends with benefits Relationship" thinking it was going to turn into a realtionship. I wish I can go back in time when I Saw the Red Flag ! RUN GIRLS!
Thanks for sharing.
Next topic: how to get your 'Russell'.
Zomiks202 yes! Haha x
Right😊
This video is an indeed a wake up call...even though I’m just 21 and a virgin, the message was truly inspiring. I want to start getting serious with relationships when I turn 23. It’s abt time we women stop giving our time to time wasters and grow up to be the kind of woman you want to be. it’s all up to u babe.. in all, that was a good video❤️😍😍
“You have the power to create the future with the choices you make today..” yessss.... I loved this video Breeny!!! Thank you!
I ended one almost four months ago and I'm still not over it. It really damaged me. He introduced me to his family and friends, told his young niece and nephews that I was their aunt, and I went with him to family events; he told his family and friends that I was, "a friend, but more". I fell into his trap and became really delusional. I bought his niece and nephews gifts (like a fool). I bought him gifts, too. One day he told me how much he likes me so I asked what he likes about me. He said, "I like how you are with me." (RED FLAG).
I'd planned a spa day for us to enjoy together (like an idiot), but before it happened I decided to ask him if he only wants to sleep with me, but he didn't respond. He couldn't even be honest about his OWN intentions! I cut him off right there. To make matters worse, he was STILL EXPECTING the spa day (very selfish on his part)! The audacity... I used the spa products on myself; had a great time.
I'm 19 & currently listening to this while working.... I find myself in a situationship and he has definitely told me I'm too good for him. When you said it, it really hit me. Such a waste of time, I cannot settle for this. Thank you for this wake up call!! I enjoyed your video, love your channel!
I saw this video and the SITUATIONSHIPS title just spoke to my soul
This needs to go viral. Such vital information in ONE video 😫👏🏾 you are brilliant ‼️ thank you for this message.
"You have the power to create situations that'll affect your future" preachhhh sis
I had good intentions when I met my ex but I wasn’t strong enough yet to say no when he didn’t meet those standards. I got my shit together now
YOU ARE UNDERRATED ! I AM 28 AND THIS RESONATES WITH ME SOOOO MUCH. I LOVE YOU YOU NEED AND DESERVE ALL THE BEST! We need more people like you seriously you are my inspiration!
This touched me on a spiritual level😭🔥💕 Thank you for being the big sister we all want and raising the Standard🔥. Sending love and gratitude all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦 Stay beautiful Queen👑💕 I stan💖 💖
I ended a situationship with someone who before then was a friend and this man hasn’t spoken to me since LOL he threw the situationship and friendship away like it was nothing and it probably was nothing to him. And I know he’s still out messing with women and not committing. I’m so glad I dodged that bullet… and want more for myself.
You spoke nothing but hard facts that most of us need to hear 👏🏿🙌🏿
I hope you find your man, your boo, your king.... You deserve nothing but the best sis 💯🙏🏿
I just ended a situationship last night it was so draining and all and now slowly I am trying to get back up again
I'm dealing with a situationship right now and this just made me want to end it. It's obviously not going anywhere and he obviously doesn't want me. He just wants companionship and someone to be there when he wants something. I'm over it. And he's leaving in a couple months anyways for the fire academy. I might as well break this almost 8 month fling off now. We all deserve better. Thank you for this video ❤️
Did you end it?
I did end it but im not entirely sure what to make of things because he continues to text me as if nothing has happened even though he was okay with me ending everything. So I'm in a state of confusion right now. I don't want to be rude an ignore him so as of now, I'm just treating him as close friend and nothing more. He's been the one instigating conversations as well. I don't text him unless he texts me. Also another thing I've noticed with me not texting him first is if I fall asleep while texting him, he tends to send me a message in the morning again along the lines of "guess you fell asleep on me lol". Sooooo I'm just confused. 🤷🏿♀️
@@beemo6221 I don't want to cut him off as a friend as he is a good friend. I'm just not going to expect anything more or treat him as anything more. I know he doesn't want me as anything more than a friend and I'm okay with that and am already moving on as far as that goes.
With the guy you're dealing with. It's a bit dumb of him to say you guys would be too fiery together...He might as well have just said he doesn't want anything more rather than lead you on... I'm sorry you're going through this as well. It's shitty but what can you do, I guess. It's just best to move on. You'll find someone eventually. Just sucks when you invest so much time into one person.
Sis, if this is still going on, and you wrote this 8 months ago and the situationship started 8 months before that, this means that for 16 months he's been thinking that it's okay to text you when he wants. I know you feel bad ignoring him but honestly you need to make him understand that he has no control over your time. If you ignore him he will call you trust me. And of he really wants to step up to the plate and make you his woman he will move heaven and earth to do that. Sometimes we just need to realise that everyone comes into our lives to teach us something. Some stay longer than others but some only stay a little while. If we see that someone has served their purpose in our lives we move on. If he really wants you in his life as his woman and eventually his wife his eyes will open and he will come running. If not, it's his loss because you have so much value and worth. More than you will ever know! You are unique you are a more precious than a diamond. And if people have to work hard to afford a diamond a man should work hard to afford your time and energy. Kindly explain to him that things ended 8 months ago and you don't think it's healthy to be texting like nothing happened and that you're moving on. After this, stop texting him and ignore. It might be difficult but it's so necessary. Your future self will thank you for it. He will step up to the plate if he wants you because you are a star 🥰🤗💫 (p.s- this is my own advice to myself too. I just asked a guy to define what we are earlier today. If he says he's not ready for a relationship I'm running away even if it hurts) 💕
@@christinaahoney8764 I appreciate your response so much... it honestly made me tear up a bit. Since my last response on this, I have been trying to limit how much I talk to him so I can get myself to that point of ignoring him. I'm going to mute his messages so I don't see them. Out of sight out of mind. Eventually I'll get to just deleting his number. I guess I'm trying to make baby steps which probably sounds super pathetic but idk. Deep down I know i deserve better and idk why it's so hard to just get over him.
How did things turn out with the guy you were talking to??
I’m so happy you got a man I’ve been praying for you 😭😭❤️
Mercedes B Thank you girl ♥️