I went the longest I've ever went without binging or restricting since watching your videos and listening to your book. I did binge eventually, and I felt awful. That urge to restrict came back as well. I visited your videos again, and you helped me to stop beating myself up after that binge. You are so understanding and motivational. I appreciate you so much.
Thank you, this is really helpful. Eating what my body wants not what my mind wants is what I struggle with the most. I can have loads of healthy and nutritious food in the house (what my body wants) but I lose count of the amount of times I will say I don’t ‘fancy’ that so I don’t have it. It’s a constant battle and one I want to crack!
I sent myself a text with these 7 messages so I can look at them every day. This is so helpful. I've been using intuitive eating for a few weeks and I've been feeling quite good (scared but a bit like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders) but the 10 steps sometimes feel a bit overwhelming (even though they are really good). Looking forward to the vid on the retreat. Thank you so much for what you are doing.
I am bug-eyed about this video. These are basic, obvious "rules" yet I never thought to do them. I am usually not even aware that I'm eating. Take a bite of a cookie, put it doen, bite. Then there I am searching frantically for my cookie. It somehow got in my belly. Thank you thank you!! These rules are so very helpful!
I always look forward to your videos Sarah. I really appreciate the time and care you take in helping others with Binge Eating Disorder. Thanks so much. I have a tendency to look outside of myself for ' the answer' to my ED and am slowly coming to realise that having immersed myself in such a lot of wisdom from yourself, Geneen Roth, Intuitive eating, OA etc, I am in a position to design my own recovery. I am such a black and white thinker. (Yes really) that I immerse myself into whatever book I am reading at the time that seems to make sense and then feel like a failure when I can't stick with the advice fully. So I'm going to do a James Arthur as his song talks about 'I define I design my recovery.' My last therapist observed that he could see my 'Guru within' but somehow I have lost trust in myself and am waiting for the holy grail- the one method that will cure me for ever! So I am going to take 6 of those 7 guidelines and throw them in the mix with other things that I have found good for me, and work with others to try to find my own way through. Wish me luck!
Thank you Sarah for this podcast. I can't tell you how many times I read Geneen Roth's books and that was in my 20's! I am now in my late 40's and still struggling. What did you think of Geneen Roth's retreat? I would love to go to one but they are always out of state and expensive. It's summer time and I hate wearing shorts and swimsuits. Yet I am working as a group leader in a day camp. I am doing this for my youngest to go to camp. I end up wearing the almost dreaded capris because it's what I sort of feel comfortable in. I will be 50 in a year and a half. Why can't I just get over this binge eating mentality? Thank you.
I highly recommend checking out this conversation I had about Geneen Roth and her work: th-cam.com/video/-zPqpSiyD7w/w-d-xo.htmlsi=A9WiQLzQvzfzQe3o Both of us have been on her retreats, gained some insight from her work, but also have a couple of concerns about her messaging at times
Please read the story written by Robin Williams' wife. He did not just take his life. He had an illness alike to dementia. It may change your thinking, it did mine.
So when can we eat our "fear" foods (ie, highly palatable) without restriction? No one "needs" cake, for example, but we may want it. How do we re-learn how to identify and trust true hunger/satiety when all signals are scrambled, (indistinguishable mental vs physical hunger) Only ever eating what we 'need' and not what we may 'want' furthermore promotes perceived restriction, perpetuating the entire destructive cycle?!
You are always just amazing and so helpful for me, for my personal recovery Sarah!! A question that I have and would really like your advice. If we feel like at the moment we have trigger foods or we have a hard time trusting ourselves with certain foods, do we temporarily avoid them? Or do we practice having them daily and the worries and guilt around that food will go away? I would be interested in your own personal experience with this!
I think I have mentioned this in my videos before, but one of the things I did with this was I gave myself full permission to have my binge foods the only condition was I had to sit at the table and focus on the food. I did this for two months and I felt that I needed to do this to break the association between these foods and watching TV. TV and eating was a way of numbing and I think if I had just given myself permission to eat these foods, it would be just having permission to keep numbing. Hope that makes sense. Are you on Instagram? I did a more detailed post about keeping these foods in the house
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thank you so much for your reply!! One of my recovery goals with food is mindful, slower eating. And I feel like I fail every time, for example, I tried conquering 2 fear foods at once: peanut butter and dried fruit ( like apricot, dates )so I combined the two, tried to sit down and eat it today but I felt so anxious and worried because these foods are always a source of guilt and fear for me. so I ended up eating it and my mind was all over the place if it makes sense...I didn't even feel like I tasted the food. So while not a binge, there was a disconnect... Should I keep trying to eat these fear foods until maybe it gets easier?
Will it? Some people yes and some people no. Problem is that people think the body only wants *just enough* food. Body’s want to be fully nourished and fo have reserves of energy. I think the main problem with the notion of eat what the body wants (not the mind) is that the mind has to interpret what the body wants. That’s going to be challenging with all the conditioning and anxiety around food so I actually don’t think it’s helpful
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thanks for the reply. I was thinking of the particular foods my body would probably want more so than the quantity. My mind often wants "junk" food, but does my body ever want those kinds of foods? 🤷♀ I agree that it's challenging and perhaps even more so for those of us who are new to this.
@@lisak.126 I think I recorded this video during or just after a retreat with Geneen. Since then I have moved further away from her guidelines as I’m not sure that they are always the most helpful x
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thanks so much Sarah. It's actually quite helpful for me to learn that you no longer find this guideline helpful. As I've been "bingeing" 😉a lot of your videos recently, one of the (many) things I really appreciate is your approach to utilize the concepts that work for you, and don't worry about the ones that don't. 💞
I’m glad Sarah you moved away because when you said eat what your body wants not your mind. I panicked because I felt the restriction of never eating anything for joy. That made me want to eat 10 cupcakes that I had earlier (after lunch)said no ….not now maybe some cupcake after dinner.
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I went the longest I've ever went without binging or restricting since watching your videos and listening to your book. I did binge eventually, and I felt awful. That urge to restrict came back as well. I visited your videos again, and you helped me to stop beating myself up after that binge. You are so understanding and motivational. I appreciate you so much.
I’m very happy to hear that my content is helping 😍😍
Firstly, we call my daughter "Pook" 😄 Second, I am grateful for your post- you made me realize some things about me.
Your videos have been so important to my recovery. Thank you for taking so much time to share your knowledge and compassion with us.
You are very welcome 🙏🏻❤️
Thank you, this is really helpful. Eating what my body wants not what my mind wants is what I struggle with the most. I can have loads of healthy and nutritious food in the house (what my body wants) but I lose count of the amount of times I will say I don’t ‘fancy’ that so I don’t have it. It’s a constant battle and one I want to crack!
I sent myself a text with these 7 messages so I can look at them every day. This is so helpful. I've been using intuitive eating for a few weeks and I've been feeling quite good (scared but a bit like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders) but the 10 steps sometimes feel a bit overwhelming (even though they are really good). Looking forward to the vid on the retreat. Thank you so much for what you are doing.
What a good idea! 📱
I love this idea! I may write or type it, take a pic, and make it my phone wallpaper- I have a screen with no apps on it.
I am bug-eyed about this video. These are basic, obvious "rules" yet I never thought to do them. I am usually not even aware that I'm eating. Take a bite of a cookie, put it doen, bite. Then there I am searching frantically for my cookie. It somehow got in my belly. Thank you thank you!! These rules are so very helpful!
I always look forward to your videos Sarah. I really appreciate the time and care you take in helping others with Binge Eating Disorder. Thanks so much.
I have a tendency to look outside of myself for ' the answer' to my ED and am slowly coming to realise that having immersed myself in such a lot of wisdom from yourself, Geneen Roth, Intuitive eating, OA etc, I am in a position to design my own recovery. I am such a black and white thinker. (Yes really) that I immerse myself into whatever book I am reading at the time that seems to make sense and then feel like a failure when I can't stick with the advice fully. So I'm going to do a James Arthur as his song talks about 'I define I design my recovery.' My last therapist observed that he could see my 'Guru within' but somehow I have lost trust in myself and am waiting for the holy grail- the one method that will cure me for ever! So I am going to take 6 of those 7 guidelines and throw them in the mix with other things that I have found good for me, and work with others to try to find my own way through. Wish me luck!
Good luck Janette! I can totally relate to getting immersed in a book/idea and convincing myself I has finally found The Answer ❤️
Thank you so much, this was so so helpful
Totally agree 🤝🏻
Glad to hear it 😍
Thank you Sarah for this podcast. I can't tell you how many times I read Geneen Roth's books and that was in my 20's! I am now in my late 40's and still struggling. What did you think of Geneen Roth's retreat? I would love to go to one but they are always out of state and expensive. It's summer time and I hate wearing shorts and swimsuits. Yet I am working as a group leader in a day camp. I am doing this for my youngest to go to camp. I end up wearing the almost dreaded capris because it's what I sort of feel comfortable in. I will be 50 in a year and a half. Why can't I just get over this binge eating mentality? Thank you.
I highly recommend checking out this conversation I had about Geneen Roth and her work: th-cam.com/video/-zPqpSiyD7w/w-d-xo.htmlsi=A9WiQLzQvzfzQe3o Both of us have been on her retreats, gained some insight from her work, but also have a couple of concerns about her messaging at times
Please read the story written by Robin Williams' wife. He did not just take his life. He had an illness alike to dementia. It may change your thinking, it did mine.
Invaluable x
So when can we eat our "fear" foods (ie, highly palatable) without restriction? No one "needs" cake, for example, but we may want it.
How do we re-learn how to identify and trust true hunger/satiety when all signals are scrambled, (indistinguishable mental vs physical hunger)
Only ever eating what we 'need' and not what we may 'want' furthermore promotes perceived restriction, perpetuating the entire destructive cycle?!
You are always just amazing and so helpful for me, for my personal recovery Sarah!!
A question that I have and would really like your advice.
If we feel like at the moment we have trigger foods or we have a hard time trusting ourselves with certain foods, do we temporarily avoid them? Or do we practice having them daily and the worries and guilt around that food will go away? I would be interested in your own personal experience with this!
I think I have mentioned this in my videos before, but one of the things I did with this was I gave myself full permission to have my binge foods the only condition was I had to sit at the table and focus on the food. I did this for two months and I felt that I needed to do this to break the association between these foods and watching TV. TV and eating was a way of numbing and I think if I had just given myself permission to eat these foods, it would be just having permission to keep numbing. Hope that makes sense.
Are you on Instagram? I did a more detailed post about keeping these foods in the house
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thank you so much for your reply!! One of my recovery goals with food is mindful, slower eating. And I feel like I fail every time, for example, I tried conquering 2 fear foods at once: peanut butter and dried fruit ( like apricot, dates )so I combined the two, tried to sit down and eat it today but I felt so anxious and worried because these foods are always a source of guilt and fear for me. so I ended up eating it and my mind was all over the place if it makes sense...I didn't even feel like I tasted the food. So while not a binge, there was a disconnect... Should I keep trying to eat these fear foods until maybe it gets easier?
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist I have this issue too where watching tv triggers me to binge and it has been so difficult trying to break this habit.
If I try to eat what my body wants instead of what my mind wants, won't that feel like restricting?
Will it? Some people yes and some people no. Problem is that people think the body only wants *just enough* food. Body’s want to be fully nourished and fo have reserves of energy. I think the main problem with the notion of eat what the body wants (not the mind) is that the mind has to interpret what the body wants. That’s going to be challenging with all the conditioning and anxiety around food so I actually don’t think it’s helpful
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thanks for the reply. I was thinking of the particular foods my body would probably want more so than the quantity. My mind often wants "junk" food, but does my body ever want those kinds of foods? 🤷♀ I agree that it's challenging and perhaps even more so for those of us who are new to this.
@@lisak.126 I think I recorded this video during or just after a retreat with Geneen. Since then I have moved further away from her guidelines as I’m not sure that they are always the most helpful x
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist Thanks so much Sarah. It's actually quite helpful for me to learn that you no longer find this guideline helpful. As I've been "bingeing" 😉a lot of your videos recently, one of the (many) things I really appreciate is your approach to utilize the concepts that work for you, and don't worry about the ones that don't. 💞
I’m glad Sarah you moved away because when you said eat what your body wants not your mind. I panicked because I felt the restriction of never eating anything for joy. That made me want to eat 10 cupcakes that I had earlier (after lunch)said no ….not now maybe some cupcake after dinner.