Finally, people who are actually qualified to talk about marriage and this topic. Not these young men who do not have the life experience or qualifications to give advice. Keep up the great work!
Just because someone is young, it doesn't mean they don't understand life issues. Prophet Ibrahim was a child when he advised his father to stop making and worshipping idols. Allah guides whom he chooses and everyone should reflect on the information being shared. Even non Muslims can give good advice.
@@RR-gv2dj you missed the part where I said “do not have the life experience or qualifications to give advice.” If you do, great. If you don’t, it’s best to stay in your lane instead of unintentionally misguiding people with bad advice based on nothing - no life experience, no knowledge and definitely no qualifications.
I wanted to say jazakallahu khair for this series, it’s targeted towards men but as women we can also gain so much understanding of the male mind just by listening to the brothers masha’Allah.
As Salaam Allaykum! Surah al-Hujurat verse 13: O humanity! Indeed, We created you from a male and a female, and made you into peoples and tribes so that you may ˹get to˺ know one another. Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous among you. Allah is truly All-Knowing, All-Aware.1 Alhumdulillah for Islam!
All four factors are real, and as someone pointed out to me which I've always found to be true: the factors you compromise on WILL bite later, so you need to prepare yourself for that test (nobody is perfect so you will be "rating" all the factors, as they say in the video). No factor should be given zero importance, but the religiosity of a person encompasses their substance the most. Life throws things at you which you could never foresee, but if you can feel secure about the core of a person's beliefs, priorities and ethics, you know that inshallah you won't differ very much on how to understand or deal with any trial that comes up. (Sometimes even if the trial is realising you need to divorce and going through with it honourably)
I love my family more than I hate my job…….someone shared that with me one day and it helped me persevere…..alhamdulilah. Jazakallahu kairan Safwad(raheema hullah).
Can't express how much I appreciate and love this format. It truly teaches me so many important aspects in life. I believe so many men have difficulties and thoughts they are not able to express and discuss. We need responsible, decisive and reflective men to heal our Ummah. Thank you so much and may Allah enable us to continue learning from this format for many more years. May Allah bless you.
Alhamdulillah that you guys exist in this Ummah. As a practicing muslimah who is single ,I usually just feel so broken whenever i watch these young muslim men podcasts about marriage. But seeing this gave me hope that we can still find a righteous marriage with all the good intentions and allah will put barakah in it Insha Allah. Barakallahu feekum 🙏
I enjoyed this video immensely. As an educated lady, who has worked odd jobs several times to keep the money flowing, I always assumed that is was SOP to do what's necessary to make money. However, this video brought up a good point that not everyone has that hustle mentality. I never considered the importance of my husband being a hustler as well, to keep the peace in the house. I wouldn't want my husband sitting at home waiting for his dream job, and Target is begging people to come work. That would infuriate me.
This one is amazing. You’ve tackled the questions I have for each point of this Hadith perfectly. Wishing for myself to find a spouse that has a healthy mindset on qawama, money, religion, expectations and beauty
1:01:06 thank you for pointing this out. It is so frustrating that people assume hijabis are automatically more pious than everyone else. A woman may struggle with full hijab but not fall short of other obligations. Thank you so much for being real💯💯💯💯
@48:40 Allahuakbar this observation was SHARP. I was about to judge and say "oi is she not wearing hijab?" But then I realize it was all in the mans' head. Subhanallah. Man.
an important and urgent topic for our time, addressed properly with qualified professionals. alhamdulilah. feel like I found a gold mine because this almost never happens.... thank you for your efforts. may God reward you immensely
I wish more men had a better understanding of what that hadith of the prophet pbuh really meant. I think the three biggest problems are communities putting culture before religion and the fact that this generation can't make a decision to save their life, and the biggest issue which is not having taqwa. And the problem is because of that the window for sisters to be married gets smaller and smaller as she gets older, and more independent. And suddenly you have this large number of girls in their 30s who wanna get married and have children but there are no men considering those women. Like what do I do at this point.
I think the biggest issue is a lack of maturity in our community. A marriage cannot survive without at least one person in the relationship being mature. And a lot of young people are immature and do not know how to communicate and deal with conflict. That’s a recipe for disaster.
@@SS-cu8se yes, that’s also why divorce rates are so high in my community, there’s also no real understanding of how serious divorce actually is and the Islamic way of going about it.
Jazakallah Khairan! This was so beneficial to listen to as a woman as well. It would be great if Yaqeen could have a similar series aimed at women seeking to get married. I know the issue of widely obedience is widely contested one and often can lead to misinterpretations and tension in premarital + Marital life. Would be great to see that covered in a series.
20:50 the situation will be resentment, women can’t respect/love a lazy man. We want to see you work harder than us outside the house. We can handle the inside if you are doing your part
Salam brothers. Good podcast as usual may Allah increase and reward you guys. Some small suggestions 1. Stay on points a little longer and have more defined direction for episode. Many times good points were made or good topics brought up but then you switch real quick and not continue 2. Talk about/ get into a little more detail of some of the sensitive/taboo things that are prevalent these days especially when it comes to men and women relations and how we view women etc. Because it would be better to hear it from men of religion and experience than random non-Muslims/media. If am not mistaken the Prophet PBUH used to answer all type of questions. So if you don’t address certain topics because of shyness or fear of backlash etc people could could end up seeking it from non-reliable sources.
Agree with your points 100%, I will also add that the brothers establish their intentions before they start , especially when speaking about islam and what's permissible, what's not permissible. May Allah make it easy for all of us.
"knowing when to choose mom and knowing when to-" My parents started great, ended up ripping each other to pieces. They never divorced. Mom passed away 2022. Dad became and still is a broken wreck. No interest in remarrying despite his family wanting him to 3 days after Mom passed away. Mom and Dad's mom obv didn't get along, at all. But now Mom's gone. I used to joke with her is she going to put my wife through her paces when the time comes etc. But now it's non question - still unmarried. Salam laykum.
21:49 - lack of drive has everything to do with excellence in character and conduct - as women, we don't necessarily get upset about money - we get furious over the fact that they lose respect for themselves and don't mind the consequences attached to that.... eventually they lose the qawamah towards his wife and his family which puts the family members in a terrible position mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially.
Thank you brothers for the honest and valuable reflection on this important matter for young Muslims …as you said man should get the women who check most of the boxes “ why he is going to marry” … same for sisters … and not marry the “potential”he or she.
This video scary me .... a lot BUT i think we as womens we should become more than muslim,it is not enough but we have to make sacrifice to obtain susbtenable marriage which last forever in sha Allah . Thank you very much for this video May Allah reward you for this present wallahi . It shift my mentality immediately, make Allah make us women who can maintain a healthy dynamic. Allahou Akbar we just have to believe ❤ God is great
Interesting discussion! A lot of good points to ponder upon. However, I have some philosophical questions and would love to hear the team's thoughts on them. 1) I have always wondered about how people find if someone is compatible before marriage. Given the limited ways in which you can interact with your potential spouse, how can one find out if someone is really compatible with you. Moreover, isn't compatibility something that is achieved by couples who build their marriage and companionship with patience, tawakkul-alAllah, husn-uz-zan, and graciousness. 2) Talking about chosing religiosity over culture, isn't it a part of American culture or western culture to have the liberty to marry someone that is not the same nationalty or culture as you. Islam and its application transcends all countries and cultures but do other people from other countries really have those options given their homogeneous population? 3) I am not someone who is against divorce or anything but I have always wondered that our religion teaches us to become strong men/ women who are an example to other ummahs. With all our chaotic gut feelings, indecisiveness, and disproportionate focus on marriage and partners, are we gonna have sufficient time and energy to ponder and work on other important matters. Isn't it a trick of Shaytan to entangle us into our private lives so much so that we reduce Islam and its message to solving marriage problems and choosing right partners.
Masha ALLAH ALAHUMA BARAKA THIS MAKE MY DAY PLEASE KEEP MAKE VIDEOS LIKE THIS FOR A MOTHER FROM AFRICAN WHO MARRIED ARAB MEN AND 7 kinds ALHAMDULILLAH I WILL SHOW THIS TO MY SONS IN SHAA ALLAH THIS VIDEO MAKE MY DAY WEN HE TALK ABOUT HIJAB THE MEANING OF HIJAB A LOOT OF MEN LOOKS AT WOMEN ON SOCIAL MEDIA AND FORGETS WHAT REAL A WOMEN IS WHAT IS BEAUTY TO A WOMEN AND WEN HE SAY SHE BEAUTIFUL BUT LOOKS A Ugly UGLY 😅❤
😢 I am 34 old woman I feel very sad and uncomfortable to find a future spouse because I dont have good financial standing... am I wrong in feeling this and how should I approach marriage if I am feeling this way?
Mostly of men not all men. A real men who knows he is the PROVIDER and Allah has made him the provider. Even if u work, in Islam ur money is yours u dont have to provide unless you want. So sister bithnillah work most importantly in your connection with Allah and your character and the correct suitor will come. And be honest that you dont have much financial things to offer. The right one will appear.
I wish people took their time with getting to know someone to see if they are compatible. I feel like it would save a lot of people from choosing the wrong person and breaking up a family, not because it naturally didn’t work out, but because they did not vet the person properly and rushed without assessing red flags.
Which Hadith did he reference about "you have a right on Allah to help you?" Hadith Thalathdune . Trying to find the reference may Allah have mercy on me
Sahih al-Bukhari 5090 Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers. حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى، عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي سَعِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لأَرْبَعٍ لِمَالِهَا وَلِحَسَبِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا وَلِدِينِهَا، فَاظْفَرْ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ ". @mughnimentalhealth
Come on, where’s part 2? 😀😀😀 Edit: Ahh! I already had part 2 downloaded. If you have a multi-part series you should have some consistency in the titles :)
The first line-- don’t look at potential. I did- I thought I could change the man. By Allah! I was so wrong. He started praying, he stopped womanizing-- but at his own pace. It was so sign of respect or honor to me. It was for himself. He’s still a miserable father- I guess he’ll find a way to fix that at his own pace as well- my interference only makes him more stubborn to change. It’s been a shitshow.
Really great episode with different experiences and perspectives being put on the table. Jazakhallahun khayrun I absolutely agree, after the 20/30 years, you look back and revisit the red flags you should’ve followed at the initial point… although we’re told never to look back. Also Brother yes, some are divorced in their head even though they’re married. 😔
Brothers will be very beneficial to talk about marry man. Dating woman for months and trying to dump the first wife and kids. Young woman are not looking for a Muslim brother they looking for money willing to marry a 50 year old for papers and wealth .
It's a series for men by men. Why would women be involved? Men can and should have their own discussions, opinions, perspectives, and spaces with input from women and visa versa. We don't need to tell them how to be men or how to think like men.
@@user-et2ng1qb2m bc marriage involves women. If you want to know how to have a successful marriage, need women to tell you what it looks like to relate best to them.
Finally, people who are actually qualified to talk about marriage and this topic. Not these young men who do not have the life experience or qualifications to give advice. Keep up the great work!
I love it! Mashallah
Absolutely agree!! Especially as a sister
Just because someone is young, it doesn't mean they don't understand life issues. Prophet Ibrahim was a child when he advised his father to stop making and worshipping idols. Allah guides whom he chooses and everyone should reflect on the information being shared. Even non Muslims can give good advice.
@@RR-gv2dj you missed the part where I said “do not have the life experience or qualifications to give advice.” If you do, great. If you don’t, it’s best to stay in your lane instead of unintentionally misguiding people with bad advice based on nothing - no life experience, no knowledge and definitely no qualifications.
I agree!! Millennial and Gen x Muslims stand up! We are changing the game and hopefully leaving a standard for future generations
as a sister, Iman Cave is such an amazing series. I would encourage all mothers of sons (and daughters) to watch and learn.
Mom to 4 sons 👋… I thoroughly enjoyed this.
I wanted to say jazakallahu khair for this series, it’s targeted towards men but as women we can also gain so much understanding of the male mind just by listening to the brothers masha’Allah.
Three generation of marrying outside of our culture makes for the most amazing gatherings and beautiful children.
The only worry is your culture will be lost overtime, but it's possible to keep it plenty alive.
@@ashthomp97it will only be lost when you dont preserve it
Where
As Salaam Allaykum!
Surah al-Hujurat verse 13:
O humanity! Indeed, We created you from a male and a female, and made you into peoples and tribes so that you may ˹get to˺ know one another. Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous among you. Allah is truly All-Knowing, All-Aware.1
Alhumdulillah for Islam!
“Find out what type of man is looking for your hand”
That🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
As a woman, I love this channel!!!
Good to see qualified people speaking about marriage instead of hearing conservative and liberal and women are this or that
I'm a sister who truly appreciates this series. I always learn a lot. Jazakumullahu khayran kathiran to you all.
All four factors are real, and as someone pointed out to me which I've always found to be true: the factors you compromise on WILL bite later, so you need to prepare yourself for that test (nobody is perfect so you will be "rating" all the factors, as they say in the video). No factor should be given zero importance, but the religiosity of a person encompasses their substance the most. Life throws things at you which you could never foresee, but if you can feel secure about the core of a person's beliefs, priorities and ethics, you know that inshallah you won't differ very much on how to understand or deal with any trial that comes up. (Sometimes even if the trial is realising you need to divorce and going through with it honourably)
I love my family more than I hate my job…….someone shared that with me one day and it helped me persevere…..alhamdulilah. Jazakallahu kairan Safwad(raheema hullah).
Can't express how much I appreciate and love this format. It truly teaches me so many important aspects in life. I believe so many men have difficulties and thoughts they are not able to express and discuss. We need responsible, decisive and reflective men to heal our Ummah. Thank you so much and may Allah enable us to continue learning from this format for many more years. May Allah bless you.
Alhamdulillah that you guys exist in this Ummah. As a practicing muslimah who is single ,I usually just feel so broken whenever i watch these young muslim men podcasts about marriage. But seeing this gave me hope that we can still find a righteous marriage with all the good intentions and allah will put barakah in it Insha Allah. Barakallahu feekum 🙏
I enjoyed this video immensely. As an educated lady, who has worked odd jobs several times to keep the money flowing, I always assumed that is was SOP to do what's necessary to make money. However, this video brought up a good point that not everyone has that hustle mentality. I never considered the importance of my husband being a hustler as well, to keep the peace in the house. I wouldn't want my husband sitting at home waiting for his dream job, and Target is begging people to come work. That would infuriate me.
This one is amazing. You’ve tackled the questions I have for each point of this Hadith perfectly. Wishing for myself to find a spouse that has a healthy mindset on qawama, money, religion, expectations and beauty
May Allah bless you with a righteous spouse
Listening as a woman and really enjoyed it 😌
i keep pausing the episode, taking it in, playing it, and pausing again. some true gems in this one!!!
1:01:06 thank you for pointing this out. It is so frustrating that people assume hijabis are automatically more pious than everyone else. A woman may struggle with full hijab but not fall short of other obligations. Thank you so much for being real💯💯💯💯
@48:40 Allahuakbar this observation was SHARP. I was about to judge and say "oi is she not wearing hijab?" But then I realize it was all in the mans' head. Subhanallah. Man.
This channel is good for women for sure. Any woman looking out for the right spouse, this is very helpful.
Knowing your principals while setting boundaries
an important and urgent topic for our time, addressed properly with qualified professionals. alhamdulilah. feel like I found a gold mine because this almost never happens.... thank you for your efforts. may God reward you immensely
I wish more men had a better understanding of what that hadith of the prophet pbuh really meant. I think the three biggest problems are communities putting culture before religion and the fact that this generation can't make a decision to save their life, and the biggest issue which is not having taqwa. And the problem is because of that the window for sisters to be married gets smaller and smaller as she gets older, and more independent. And suddenly you have this large number of girls in their 30s who wanna get married and have children but there are no men considering those women. Like what do I do at this point.
please write peace and blessings be upon him fully
This is the conundrum. Unfortunately there are no easy answers.
I think the biggest issue is a lack of maturity in our community. A marriage cannot survive without at least one person in the relationship being mature. And a lot of young people are immature and do not know how to communicate and deal with conflict. That’s a recipe for disaster.
@@SS-cu8se yes, that’s also why divorce rates are so high in my community, there’s also no real understanding of how serious divorce actually is and the Islamic way of going about it.
30s is not only to get married and have children, btw. That needs to go as well.
Jazakallah Khairan! This was so beneficial to listen to as a woman as well. It would be great if Yaqeen could have a similar series aimed at women seeking to get married. I know the issue of widely obedience is widely contested one and often can lead to misinterpretations and tension in premarital + Marital life. Would be great to see that covered in a series.
Jazakumullah Khairan for unpacking this Hadith so beautifully!
20:50 the situation will be resentment, women can’t respect/love a lazy man. We want to see you work harder than us outside the house. We can handle the inside if you are doing your part
Such an excellent discussion. I think this is beneficial for everyone. Not just the brothers. May Allah reward you all.
Salam brothers. Good podcast as usual may Allah increase and reward you guys.
Some small suggestions
1. Stay on points a little longer and have more defined direction for episode. Many times good points were made or good topics brought up but then you switch real quick and not continue
2. Talk about/ get into a little more detail of some of the sensitive/taboo things that are prevalent these days especially when it comes to men and women relations and how we view women etc. Because it would be better to hear it from men of religion and experience than random non-Muslims/media. If am not mistaken the Prophet PBUH used to answer all type of questions. So if you don’t address certain topics because of shyness or fear of backlash etc people could could end up seeking it from non-reliable sources.
Agree with your points 100%, I will also add that the brothers establish their intentions before they start , especially when speaking about islam and what's permissible, what's not permissible. May Allah make it easy for all of us.
This was for me ❤ shukran Allah
That gave me a better understanding for this hadith for sure may allah guide and accept your good deeds and make it pure for his sake
Allahumma Aamen 🤲
One of my favourite series on youtube. I look forward to the episodes and hopefully they will continue for very long insha'allah
I looooooveeed watching this! It is so insightful! Jazakumullah Khairan
I just want to say JazakAllah khair ❤
What a wholesome conversation. Kudos !!!!
Dear brothers & sisters! Don’t forget to send your blessings upon the Prophet (ﷺ)
“Allahumma salli ‘ala Muhammadin wa aali Muhammad” 🤍
Sallallahu allai wassalam 🌹♥️💞♥️🌹
I enjoyed both parts. As a woman I would also like to hear a advise for female. Some of the topics I have also gone through them
"knowing when to choose mom and knowing when to-"
My parents started great, ended up ripping each other to pieces. They never divorced. Mom passed away 2022. Dad became and still is a broken wreck. No interest in remarrying despite his family wanting him to 3 days after Mom passed away. Mom and Dad's mom obv didn't get along, at all.
But now Mom's gone. I used to joke with her is she going to put my wife through her paces when the time comes etc.
But now it's non question - still unmarried.
Salam laykum.
MashaaAllah. Beautiful segment. Useful discussion. Enlightening for those taking the big step forward. May Allah ease.
Subhanallah I love this. This is so beautiful mashallah tabarakallah! May Allah bless you all. Ameen!
Thank you ❤
amazing episode tabarakAllah, keep up the good work! may Allah reward you all.
21:49 - lack of drive has everything to do with excellence in character and conduct - as women, we don't necessarily get upset about money - we get furious over the fact that they lose respect for themselves and don't mind the consequences attached to that.... eventually they lose the qawamah towards his wife and his family which puts the family members in a terrible position mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially.
Thank you brothers for the honest and valuable reflection on this important matter for young Muslims …as you said man should get the women who check most of the boxes “ why he is going to marry” … same for sisters … and not marry the “potential”he or she.
Great discussion
This video scary me .... a lot BUT i think we as womens we should become more than muslim,it is not enough but we have to make sacrifice to obtain susbtenable marriage which last forever in sha Allah . Thank you very much for this video May Allah reward you for this present wallahi . It shift my mentality immediately, make Allah make us women who can maintain a healthy dynamic. Allahou Akbar we just have to believe ❤ God is great
Love these!!! So many deep subjects were discussed with such wonderful insight. Looking forward to the next part insha Allah
Interesting discussion! A lot of good points to ponder upon.
However, I have some philosophical questions and would love to hear the team's thoughts on them.
1) I have always wondered about how people find if someone is compatible before marriage. Given the limited ways in which you can interact with your potential spouse, how can one find out if someone is really compatible with you. Moreover, isn't compatibility something that is achieved by couples who build their marriage and companionship with patience, tawakkul-alAllah, husn-uz-zan, and graciousness.
2) Talking about chosing religiosity over culture, isn't it a part of American culture or western culture to have the liberty to marry someone that is not the same nationalty or culture as you. Islam and its application transcends all countries and cultures but do other people from other countries really have those options given their homogeneous population?
3) I am not someone who is against divorce or anything but I have always wondered that our religion teaches us to become strong men/ women who are an example to other ummahs. With all our chaotic gut feelings, indecisiveness, and disproportionate focus on marriage and partners, are we gonna have sufficient time and energy to ponder and work on other important matters. Isn't it a trick of Shaytan to entangle us into our private lives so much so that we reduce Islam and its message to solving marriage problems and choosing right partners.
Great podcast!!
Masha ALLAH ALAHUMA BARAKA THIS MAKE MY DAY PLEASE KEEP MAKE VIDEOS LIKE THIS FOR A MOTHER FROM AFRICAN WHO MARRIED ARAB MEN AND 7 kinds ALHAMDULILLAH I WILL SHOW THIS TO MY SONS IN SHAA ALLAH THIS VIDEO MAKE MY DAY WEN HE TALK ABOUT HIJAB THE MEANING OF HIJAB A LOOT OF MEN LOOKS AT WOMEN ON SOCIAL MEDIA AND FORGETS WHAT REAL A WOMEN IS WHAT IS BEAUTY TO A WOMEN
AND WEN HE SAY SHE BEAUTIFUL BUT LOOKS A Ugly UGLY 😅❤
thank you syeikh for your sharing ..may Allah swt bless us
may Allah bless you all I can't wait for the next part
This is very interesting conversation. Jazakumullah.
Please make Indonesia subtitle available so that more of my friends can watch this.
Great episode
😢 I am 34 old woman I feel very sad and uncomfortable to find a future spouse because I dont have good financial standing... am I wrong in feeling this and how should I approach marriage if I am feeling this way?
That should be the husbands job why does it concern you?
@@IslamTrue. but I feel like most men want to find women who are financially well off...
@@Adehsn what country are you in
@@IslamTrue. usa
Mostly of men not all men. A real men who knows he is the PROVIDER and Allah has made him the provider. Even if u work, in Islam ur money is yours u dont have to provide unless you want. So sister bithnillah work most importantly in your connection with Allah and your character and the correct suitor will come. And be honest that you dont have much financial things to offer. The right one will appear.
25:09 As salaamu Alaikum ,can someone tell me what’s is the name of this Hadith he said
I wish people took their time with getting to know someone to see if they are compatible. I feel like it would save a lot of people from choosing the wrong person and breaking up a family, not because it naturally didn’t work out, but because they did not vet the person properly and rushed without assessing red flags.
When will part 2 be shared? Looking forward to it!
Excellent show!
Is part 2 out yet? And does he have a channel so that I can get notifications when a new episode comes on??
Please advise what if husband gets upset and belittles wife’s parents for their past mistakes ?
What happens to those (men/women) who are unfortunate because they had a dysfunctional family dynamic?
They seek therapy and do the necessary work.
Can you please address the topic of meeting someone in a haram way, is it advisable to try to make it halal by marriage or break it off
Good video
45:50
51:10
Which Hadith did he reference about "you have a right on Allah to help you?" Hadith Thalathdune . Trying to find the reference may Allah have mercy on me
Sahih al-Bukhari 5090
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.
حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى، عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي سَعِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لأَرْبَعٍ لِمَالِهَا وَلِحَسَبِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا وَلِدِينِهَا، فَاظْفَرْ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ ".
@mughnimentalhealth
ALLAHU AKBAR
PS: Zero chance anyone but me and Allah will decide who I marry. I submit only to Allah's qadr, and absolutely no one else's expectations. Period.
Come on, where’s part 2? 😀😀😀
Edit: Ahh! I already had part 2 downloaded. If you have a multi-part series you should have some consistency in the titles :)
The first line-- don’t look at potential. I did- I thought I could change the man. By Allah! I was so wrong. He started praying, he stopped womanizing-- but at his own pace. It was so sign of respect or honor to me. It was for himself. He’s still a miserable father- I guess he’ll find a way to fix that at his own pace as well- my interference only makes him more stubborn to change. It’s been a shitshow.
😮😮
Really great episode with different experiences and perspectives being put on the table. Jazakhallahun khayrun
I absolutely agree, after the 20/30 years, you look back and revisit the red flags you should’ve followed at the initial point… although we’re told never to look back.
Also Brother yes, some are divorced in their head even though they’re married. 😔
What to do if you are physiologically divorced without children,but still married? Plz wallahi provide a solution!
13:17
Timestamps would be appreciated.
WOW
Brothers will be very beneficial to talk about marry man. Dating woman for months and trying to dump the first wife and kids.
Young woman are not looking for a Muslim brother they looking for money willing to marry a 50 year old for papers and wealth .
Say the shahada next that’s all ya gotta do! 😂
These conversations are so one sided, they need more perspective on women.
It's a series for men by men. Why would women be involved? Men can and should have their own discussions, opinions, perspectives, and spaces with input from women and visa versa. We don't need to tell them how to be men or how to think like men.
@@user-et2ng1qb2m bc marriage involves women. If you want to know how to have a successful marriage, need women to tell you what it looks like to relate best to them.
Then, all the hijabis on social media who discuss this kind topic needs men perspective 😂
Marry if you want our of culture but never put of islam.