Grow up, dude! You're not in the dating stage anymore. You're married with children. You want your wife to stop shouting and nagging at you, start acting like an adult with adult responsibilities and don't wait for your wife to have to ask you to help do this or do that. Take the initiative when it comes to household chores---after all, you live there too so you need to pitch in also. Your wife treats you like a child because you are clearly acting like a child, constantly needing directions and instructions. Your wife can change her shouting ways if you change your childish ways. It's frustrating and exhausting having to tell your spouse how to do certain tasks over and over again!
I dont know brother you mentioned your mother treated you the same….maybe you behave like a child who does not do things unless your told to. But if you are a responsible person who helps around the house and your wife is just a complainer then she is a headache for any man. Need to hear from your wifes side of the story.
No, there’s some people like this!! If you never experienced it, you think he is a child! But, some people are too bossy & tell you what to do! Only people who been thru a women like this or man knows! They treat you like they our mama and dad!? I feel disrespected & if they tell you like a husband or wife then yes it’s ok! I believe him!!
yes i know there are actual people with behavior like the wife in the story but he did mentioned his mom treated him the same so im not convinced she did it for no reason. Sometimes when i watched my 10 year old son do things around the house i felt like i had to show him how to do it or do certain things in a certain way. But i gave them credit for trying because theyre just kids.
Yes, cov txiv neej hmoob thiab cov tub hluas hmoob lub neej niaj hnub no ces cov tsis paub hauj lwm yog cov coob tshaj thiab yog tsis txib ces yeej tsis paub hauj lwm li txib ua qhov twg ces ua qhov ntawd xwb mas txim txub tiag2 li nawb.
Maybe you're just to damn lazy to lift a finger to help your wife. I would complain, too, if I had to take care of everything. Most guys they don't help unless he's asked to help around the house. But honestly, truth, I rathered have someone is organized and be responsible then someone that is damn lazy and don't do nothing in the house. You should be glad you have your wife. Happy wife happy life!!!
If some Hmong men take responsibility, know their roles as a husband and a father maybe they will not get yelled at all the times . Remember we don’t want to anyone mother too. We just want to be your wife. Is good to have someone in a family to be in charge to get things done. If we just waited until the husband is ready lord. If you don’t want your wife to scream then maybe is time to step up.
NomPheej awwws! Ua siab ntev os…. 😂😂😂😂 it’s better to have your wife complain. You don’t want to have your Inlaw complain. 😂😂😂 👍🏼👍🏼 Welcome to Nyab life NomPheej! 😂😂😂
Because us 21st generation Hmong women are smarter, independent and know our worth. We’re no longer the timid little things that wait on you hands and feet and believe anything you feed in our ears. We bear your children, do the traditional wifely duties while holding a full time job. Hmong men still hold that 1975 mindset . They are still being pampered by their parents to be kings of their households. We women have to adapt to a different time and environment, it’s time our Hmong men step up to the plate and do their part.
Ntuj aws.....cov niag txiv neej tub2222222 nkeeg ces luag txib los nim ntxub luag ces li ko mos g tau ntsib tus txiv neej tub nkeeg mas txhob maj tuag os
I can’t stand people who nags 24/7 don’t matter man or woman. There is always ways to talk or tell your spouse to do stuff without nagging and belittling them all the time.
Why does this story sound so similar to my life (except that I don't choose his clothing). Anyways, you sound just like my husband... a little childish and need constant reminder / teaching of how to do things. 🤦♀️
Sounds familiar because you’re part of the statistics of having typical Hmoob husbands who are incompetent and forever their mother’s spoil brat. There are only 20 percent that are able and considerately able to help around the home and do things for the family. The other 20% husbands wants to control everything the wife does/wears/goes/looks.
You complain about your wife acting like your mother, but imagine if she were like you, nothing would be done. Most husbands who have wives that are competent and responsible tend to lead a more secure, successful life.
NomPheej awwws! Maybe you should re-evaluate yourself too seb vim li cas your wifey pheej yuav tau repeat and treat you like she does. I mean maybe she is a little too demanding and expecting too much from you. Maybe you're not pulling enough weight on your end too.🤷🏻♀️ LoL
There is no problem for him to solve here because he doesn’t see anything wrong with him and only see everything wrong in his wife. Both can change, but he only wants her to change! There isn’t going to change on his part…😢
Your wife is right. I think she works really hard so you can enjoy your great life and you don’t see it. Maybe if you told her you appreciated her more, she would be less of a nagger. And she does sound controlling, but that’s something you both need to discuss. I think your marriage lacks communication. And obviously you both love each other otherwise you wouldn’t tolerate eachother all this time. Men do need to be more attentive and not take their wives for granted. If they want to be treated like a man, they have to act like a man. Take charge. Protect your wife and kids. Be the man of the house. If you start doing these things, she will start seeing you as the man.
Peb poj niam hmoob aw txhob heev2 os hwm yus tus txiv me2 thiab txhob txib2 dhau txoj cai vim luag yog txiv neej es yuav tsum xav tias tsuav tau tus txiv ho paub pab yus tej lub sib hawm tsam ho tau tus g pab yus ua noj ua haus ces ho nyuab ib zaug os. Ne ne qhia cai ntau dhau yav hmo ntuj me kwv chim2 g xav sawv los ua hauj lwm lm...hehe
Tiam no kuv mas laj ua tus neeg qhia thiab hlub lwm tus, cas tsis tau tus hlub yus li yog ib tus txiv tiag es kom yus no ho muag tej lus qab qab tawm tuaj thiab os lawv aw!
Nompheej aw..koj tus pojniam complain koj heev xaj koj ua haujlwm xwb no yog tias nws xaj koj ua xwb e nws tsis ua li no ces yog nws phem heev nawb.. tabsis yog nws txib koj ua e nws tseem tau qhia koj thiab no ces yog tim koj lawm os.. koj lam yog ibtug txiv tsev xwb koj tsis paub tab li tsis paub haujlwm ua dabtsi los tos txib thiab hais kom ua mam li ua xwb ces ua rau koj tus pojniam siab tsis ntev hais lus zoo lawm nws thiaj li hais lus npautaws nte li nte rau koj xwb os. Koj twb paub zoo thaum neb tseem yog nkauj/ nraug nws twb hais lus zoo ne.. yog hais lus phem npaum li koj hais ces koj yeej tsis kam yuav nws los ua pojniam os.. txhob saib pom luag qhov phem xwb tig rov saib yus tus kheej seb puas zoo txaus tso mam li tuaj rhuav yus tus niamtsev lub qe.. mloog li koj hais ma koj tus pojniam nyiam kom koj ua txhua yam los yog coj cwjpwm kom zoo zoo xwb . nws lub ncauj lub siab heev nrog rau testaw txoj kev nquag ces nws yeej yog ibtug zoo niamtsev lawm nawb.. yog tos koj xwb ces neb lub neej tsis txog twg li os.. yus yuav tau hloov kho yus tus kheej ua ntej tso yog thaum nws pom tias koj ua tau txhua yam tsis tos nws txib ces nws thiaj li fwm koj saib taus koj yog ibtug txivtsev zoo.. ok.
Brother, if your story is true and you both don't figure out what respect, care, and patience is, you both are in trouble. Your wife is Condescending and controlling and you are for the most submissive and in dreaming. These just don't mixt well. Forget everything else, sit, talk and get to know each other. If you can't even do this with honesty and seriousness, then there is no use in trying, and you need to just separate and do some growing. Good luck.
It sounds like you feel you’re always walking on eggshells around her and she’s telling you how and what she likes but comes across demeaning and bossy. Txoj kev nyiam zoo thiab kev qhuag does not always mean that person will be bossy and demanding in the relationship. I think you and your wife are both responsible for the dynamic of your marriage. You both want the same things but your communication is off. Most importantly, sounds like respect is missing from both of your way of communicating to each other. I think if your wife has a little bit more faith in your abilities and you learn to let go of being offended (and read between the lines), your relationship will become more calm. Both of you guys are reacting ti each other. Best of luck.
You'd be surprised how many men choose a partner that is similar to their own mother. You already saw it when you said she behaved like how your mother would towards you when you were a child. Koj seen os.. yog koj pojniam tsis ua npaum no, koj lub neej tsis nce tes ses koj tsis nyiam nws ib zaug thiab tiag.
Kuv xav tias lub ntiaj teb no ntshe muaj kuv lub neej tbiaj zoo li no xwb no Cas ho muaj koj thiab o tus mi nus aw.kuv tus mi txiv ces zoo li ko kiag li tiag kuv hlub nws kawg tab sis nws ces ua li ko rau kuv ces kuv tsis pom rab yuav ua Cas li o.yus muaj mi tub mi nyuam tag yus yeej tsis xav muab lub neej tso tab si zoo li yus yuav tau ib tug nom xwb ces sov yuav ua lub neej no mus li Cas li o.
Omg! I know how that feeling is with a man too! Acting like he’s my dad! Don’t even see him yelling at his other kids from a previous marriage! I; am also annoyed! I don’t need a dad, thanks no thanks! I got one … 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢Even I don’t boss anyone around and they still leave me! Omg, Same About Clothing ... Gosh, Feeling A Bit Sick Due To People Like This!! He still loves her even if she boss him around!! The men I know hardly helps me & I don’t even get mad until he starts to compare me! It’s going down for realz then!! 😢😢😂😂😢😢😂😂 He also didn’t abuse her! That’s a plus! That’s a good man who just wants a wife, not a grandma or mom!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Cov me txiv neej nej xav tias peb cov poj niam xav xav hais nej thiab ua leej niam rau nej instead ua tus wife so exhausting do mother’s job tab sis tsis ua los nej yeej tsis paub yuav nyob li tus me nyuam tsis paub ab tsi xwb txog thaum koj tus poj niam ua li ntawd ces xyov nws sab npaum li cas lawm as we women we should love just been a wife not a mother stress free, worry free but men doesn’t stepped up you not grow up It’s you not your wife I’m in your wife shoe before I it’s so exhausted
Txoj kev no kuv nkag siab my ex coj kiag li koj tus poj niam rau kuv tiag tu2 siab kawg li hos..kuv tus ex ces saib kuv zoo li tus me nyuam yaus xwb thiab os..
Hmmmm… sounds like basic everyday cleaning tasks to keep the place clean- should be done by both without too much trouble/ one asking/ reminding the other to do. Wondering why the wife is this way? Could it be that if she doesnt ask, he doesnt see things need to be cleaned? Or only does but not really put effort into it? I know some people only clean to get someone off their back and the job is half#%^ done. Just my thoughts.
the wife is too much. she doesn’t know how respect her husband as a man. if you talked down on your husband too much, all the people will look down on your husband.
That's the kinda wife I would divorce due to how she is and act. I ain't trying to live someone underskirt n boss me around for stupid no reason n telling me what to do.
The majority of Hmoob men don't take their life seriously. Those who are and want to be Hmoob "leaders" can't even be leaders in their own marriage/nuclear family. They have no to little humility and fear of showing vulnerability. How can these men be better husbands and leaders for their families when they rarely see themselves as needing to improve? The majority of Hmoob women just naturally take the roles of leadership in their families because they were trained at a very young age to be caretakers and providers. When these women have these husbands, they lose respect for their husbands and it becomes a vicious cycle of wives who takes a parentified role in the marriage and husbands who takes a child-like dependency in the marriage.
Hoyo tos koj niag poj niam ua koj niam rau koj xwb los sounds like koj yog ib niag txiv tsis paub qab hau lo as. Yog yus paib qabhau cesyus tus poj niam yeej tsis ua yus niam li mos. Nws tsuas qhia kom. Koj paub xwb los koj twb tsis nloog tsis xyaum li ne. Ces koj kawg mag qhia cuag menyuam yaus xwb mas
It’s okay that she is that way but she should talk with respect. It goes both way helping her and respecting her vice versus. No respect no love. Your wife really doesn’t know much about camping herself either. You can wear and dress whatever you like as long as you are comfortable but she is a little disrespectful as well. Work it out and communicate
My first year of marriage was rocky with chores in my home. I can see myself in the wife at times but I stopped yelling because it wasn't helping lol. So I just take a deep breathe and speak 1 on 1 with him because I respect him. We are so much better than ever. Find balance in your relationship.
😅😂 Koj twb noj pog mis tawm plawv plaws hauv pog ob ceg, tos pog ua mov koj noj, ntxuav koj lub tais rab diav, koj tso quav tso zis lo toilet los tos pog ntxuav, khaub ncaws los tsis txawj hnav, tseem yuav kom pog nqee koj tias mi ab tub es los ua home vawj ob ces no es mam paub mus ua xwb ces nws tsis yog koj niam es yuav yog dab tsi naw. Twb yog pog kawg es thiaj tseem ua koj qhev au. Lwm tus ces koj twb mag laub tsawg zaus lawm au.
😂🤣Good topic to talk about!! Your wife is a control freak. But maybe you have other issues? When the hubby/wife too slow or too lazy to do things, it gets annoying n the nagging starts. Happy wife happy life! Maybe talk it over n start doing things different…change habits. If u still cannot satisfy her then she probably have issues. Some women R natural naggers n just like to complain about every little things! Couples need balance, complain a little but compliment too. N if u ask them to do then don’t wine later. Maybe get professional marriage counseling.
I don’t know why you complaining … she tells you to do something but she ends up doing it so looking on other side, she does it. Your wife qhia koj ua neej only. Imagine if she was lazy where would your life be… you wouldn’t be conscious about how your behavior is
Muaj tej tug txiv mas yuav ua dabtsi lo phiaj tos tus pojniam ua ntau thiab nws phiaj tsis paub ua dabtsi li tshuav yog tau haujlwm hmo ntuj xwb ces tsim nyog tau cov pojniam txawj cem li no thiab mas..
😆 🤣 laughed so hard listening to this story. I do think your wife is bossy and annoying but you may also be one of those men who are not self-aware or very competent and doesn't take the initiative. Even if you are clueless and lack initiative, I still think your wife's way of nagging you, teaching you, ordering you is wrong. She needs to rethink her tone and her approach. She's very toxic and disrespectful to you. You, on the other hand, need to own your marriage partnership by taking initiative and do things before your wife has to order you around like a child. She's ordering you bc you're not up to par as a husband. I think you each bear a responsibility for your relationship going south. But, final thing is, lack of respect is an ingredient for divorce for sure. If your wife keeps disrespecting you, it only put a wedge between you both. Good luck.
this is typical marriage. you say I say. if you feel like you don't wanted stay together, go different directions. stop nagging and suck it up! please!!!!!!!
For real, they are men and women who nag like that, who think that their schedule and time is more valuable than yours, that want stuff done their ways ALL THE TIME! It’s exhausting dealing with people like that! The best way to deal with them is to not answer and continue what you’re doing, your own way. Eventually the nagging stops! Guess how I know?
this guy puts his wife into the mother role. it isn't attractive to a woman to have their "man" be their child. this person is a selfish, self-centered, entitled man child.
haha..thaub koj yeej lazy zog lawm..koj lucky koj tus poj niam tseem yuav koj...koj yog ib tug txiv neej mas koj yuav tsum txawj coj me ntsis...yog koj yog ib tug txiv neej tsheej haj ces koj tus poj niam yeej tsis cuag ko rau koj. yus yuav tau pauv yus tus kheej kom yustsheej haj me ntsis...starting by stop complaining about your wife..stop defending yourself and figure out a way to fix yourself. she will follow once you stop defending...and start doing your job as a man.
Honestly dude... I think u are a bit slow at doing things. As an adult u need to know your responsibilities without people telling u what to do all the time.
Grow up, dude! You're not in the dating stage anymore. You're married with children. You want your wife to stop shouting and nagging at you, start acting like an adult with adult responsibilities and don't wait for your wife to have to ask you to help do this or do that. Take the initiative when it comes to household chores---after all, you live there too so you need to pitch in also. Your wife treats you like a child because you are clearly acting like a child, constantly needing directions and instructions. Your wife can change her shouting ways if you change your childish ways. It's frustrating and exhausting having to tell your spouse how to do certain tasks over and over again!
I dont know brother you mentioned your mother treated you the same….maybe you behave like a child who does not do things unless your told to. But if you are a responsible person who helps around the house and your wife is just a complainer then she is a headache for any man. Need to hear from your wifes side of the story.
No, there’s some people like this!! If you never experienced it, you think he is a child! But, some people are too bossy & tell you what to do! Only people who been thru a women like this or man knows! They treat you like they our mama and dad!? I feel disrespected & if they tell you like a husband or wife then yes it’s ok! I believe him!!
yes i know there are actual people with behavior like the wife in the story but he did mentioned his mom treated him the same so im not convinced she did it for no reason. Sometimes when i watched my 10 year old son do things around the house i felt like i had to show him how to do it or do certain things in a certain way. But i gave them credit for trying because theyre just kids.
Oh, there’re old boys nowadays that need to be told everything every time every steps or it ain’t going nowhere.
Yes, cov txiv neej hmoob thiab cov tub hluas hmoob lub neej niaj hnub no ces cov tsis paub hauj lwm yog cov coob tshaj thiab yog tsis txib ces yeej tsis paub hauj lwm li txib ua qhov twg ces ua qhov ntawd xwb mas txim txub tiag2 li nawb.
Maybe you're just to damn lazy to lift a finger to help your wife. I would complain, too, if I had to take care of everything. Most guys they don't help unless he's asked to help around the house. But honestly, truth, I rathered have someone is organized and be responsible then someone that is damn lazy and don't do nothing in the house. You should be glad you have your wife. Happy wife happy life!!!
lol, well yes so long as they are not controlling and condescending.
If some Hmong men take responsibility, know their roles as a husband and a father maybe they will not get yelled at all the times . Remember we don’t want to anyone mother too. We just want to be your wife. Is good to have someone in a family to be in charge to get things done. If we just waited until the husband is ready lord. If you don’t want your wife to scream then maybe is time to step up.
NomPheej awwws! Ua siab ntev os…. 😂😂😂😂 it’s better to have your wife complain. You don’t want to have your Inlaw complain. 😂😂😂 👍🏼👍🏼 Welcome to Nyab life NomPheej! 😂😂😂
I’m dying from laughing from beginning to the end of story. My husband does everything for me but I’m somewhat a Lucy too 😂🤣
Because us 21st generation Hmong women are smarter, independent and know our worth. We’re no longer the timid little things that wait on you hands and feet and believe anything you feed in our ears. We bear your children, do the traditional wifely duties while holding a full time job. Hmong men still hold that 1975 mindset . They are still being pampered by their parents to be kings of their households. We women have to adapt to a different time and environment, it’s time our Hmong men step up to the plate and do their part.
That's me! Perfectionist. It's OK if men aren't attracted to women with high standards. It's not for everyone.
Ntuj aws.....cov niag txiv neej tub2222222 nkeeg ces luag txib los nim ntxub luag ces li ko mos g tau ntsib tus txiv neej tub nkeeg mas txhob maj tuag os
I can’t stand people who nags 24/7 don’t matter man or woman. There is always ways to talk or tell your spouse to do stuff without nagging and belittling them all the time.
Why does this story sound so similar to my life (except that I don't choose his clothing). Anyways, you sound just like my husband... a little childish and need constant reminder / teaching of how to do things. 🤦♀️
And like most Hmong men
Wife doing a lot for the husbands
Sounds familiar because you’re part of the statistics of having typical Hmoob husbands who are incompetent and forever their mother’s spoil brat. There are only 20 percent that are able and considerately able to help around the home and do things for the family. The other 20% husbands wants to control everything the wife does/wears/goes/looks.
I want to hear your wife’s side of the story. I don’t believe you were that calmed when you spoke to your wife too.
Agree
Sitting here at the laundromat listen to your story and laugh out loud ppls might think that I’m crazy 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Zaj dab neeg no mas yog kuv lawm thiab
Mloog koj zaj neej neeg no kuv twb nrog tus txiv tsev no meem nyom kawg li as😂😂😂😂😂
You complain about your wife acting like your mother, but imagine if she were like you, nothing would be done. Most husbands who have wives that are competent and responsible tend to lead a more secure, successful life.
Kuv mloog mas zoo li Koj niam twb tsis phem npaum Koj pojniam. This is TOO much for Everyman, including me too.
Brother, it's ok. Lesson learn and move on. You just have a lot to catch up.
NomPheej awwws! Maybe you should re-evaluate yourself too seb vim li cas your wifey pheej yuav tau repeat and treat you like she does. I mean maybe she is a little too demanding and expecting too much from you. Maybe you're not pulling enough weight on your end too.🤷🏻♀️ LoL
Your nompheej awwwwws cracks me up!
There is no problem for him to solve here because he doesn’t see anything wrong with him and only see everything wrong in his wife. Both can change, but he only wants her to change! There isn’t going to change on his part…😢
Tau niam tsev tsheej haj ces ua twj ywm thiab lau mloog los mas zoo li koj tsis tshua paub cai na tus nus .
Your wife is right. I think she works really hard so you can enjoy your great life and you don’t see it. Maybe if you told her you appreciated her more, she would be less of a nagger. And she does sound controlling, but that’s something you both need to discuss. I think your marriage lacks communication. And obviously you both love each other otherwise you wouldn’t tolerate eachother all this time. Men do need to be more attentive and not take their wives for granted. If they want to be treated like a man, they have to act like a man. Take charge. Protect your wife and kids. Be the man of the house. If you start doing these things, she will start seeing you as the man.
Tos kj Tus Poj niam qhuab. Ntuas. Kj los. Ua tau tsis Txaus nyiam li as
Peb poj niam hmoob aw txhob heev2 os hwm yus tus txiv me2 thiab txhob txib2 dhau txoj cai vim luag yog txiv neej es yuav tsum xav tias tsuav tau tus txiv ho paub pab yus tej lub sib hawm tsam ho tau tus g pab yus ua noj ua haus ces ho nyuab ib zaug os. Ne ne qhia cai ntau dhau yav hmo ntuj me kwv chim2 g xav sawv los ua hauj lwm lm...hehe
Kuv Agree Nrog koj os me nu aw vim kuv pom ib txia poj niam muab tus txiv ua qhev ua mov noj xwb os.
If she’s like your mom it mean she love you very dearly and care about you 😂
You love your mom very much so 🤭
A child trapped in a man's body, that's what she sees you. You wanted to be treated like a king like most Hmong men.
Tiam no kuv mas laj ua tus neeg qhia thiab hlub lwm tus, cas tsis tau tus hlub yus li yog ib tus txiv tiag es kom yus no ho muag tej lus qab qab tawm tuaj thiab os lawv aw!
Omg! 😂 😂 Mab you did such an incredible job at the beginning, I almost fell off the treadmill 😅😂😂
Aw nom pheej aw xam yog luvxim xwb thiaj yuav koj os yog peb g yuav koj lawm koj g nyiam huv
OMG funny story... If you compliment her often. Maybe she will stop yelling at you and ordering you around. 😂🙉👣
Koj tus niam tsev ua yog lawm vim koj tsis paub cai nws qhia cai rau koj txhob complain koj tus niam tsev kiag li nawb.
Nompheej aw..koj tus pojniam complain koj heev xaj koj ua haujlwm xwb no yog tias nws xaj koj ua xwb e nws tsis ua li no ces yog nws phem heev nawb..
tabsis yog nws txib koj ua e nws tseem tau qhia koj thiab no ces yog tim koj lawm os.. koj lam yog ibtug txiv tsev xwb koj tsis paub tab li tsis paub haujlwm
ua dabtsi los tos txib thiab hais kom ua mam li ua xwb ces ua rau koj tus pojniam siab tsis ntev hais lus zoo lawm nws thiaj li hais lus npautaws nte li nte rau koj xwb os. Koj twb paub zoo thaum neb tseem yog nkauj/ nraug nws twb hais lus zoo ne.. yog hais lus phem npaum li koj hais ces koj yeej tsis kam yuav nws los ua pojniam os.. txhob saib pom luag qhov phem xwb tig rov saib yus tus kheej seb puas zoo txaus tso mam li tuaj rhuav yus tus niamtsev lub qe.. mloog li koj hais ma koj tus pojniam nyiam kom koj ua txhua yam los yog coj cwjpwm kom zoo zoo xwb . nws lub ncauj lub siab heev nrog rau testaw txoj kev nquag ces nws yeej yog ibtug zoo niamtsev lawm nawb..
yog tos koj xwb ces neb lub neej tsis txog twg li os.. yus yuav tau hloov kho yus tus kheej ua ntej tso yog thaum nws pom tias koj ua tau txhua yam tsis tos nws txib ces nws thiaj li fwm koj saib taus koj yog ibtug txivtsev zoo.. ok.
Brother, if your story is true and you both don't figure out what respect, care, and patience is, you both are in trouble. Your wife is Condescending and controlling and you are for the most submissive and in dreaming. These just don't mixt well. Forget everything else, sit, talk and get to know each other. If you can't even do this with honesty and seriousness, then there is no use in trying, and you need to just separate and do some growing. Good luck.
It sounds like you feel you’re always walking on eggshells around her and she’s telling you how and what she likes but comes across demeaning and bossy. Txoj kev nyiam zoo thiab kev qhuag does not always mean that person will be bossy and demanding in the relationship. I think you and your wife are both responsible for the dynamic of your marriage. You both want the same things but your communication is off. Most importantly, sounds like respect is missing from both of your way of communicating to each other. I think if your wife has a little bit more faith in your abilities and you learn to let go of being offended (and read between the lines), your relationship will become more calm. Both of you guys are reacting ti each other. Best of luck.
Kuv tseem nco tau koj qhia ib zaug txog tias yus yov tau ua tus poj niam, tus phooj ywg thiab tus hluas nkauj thiab es thiaj pab tau yus tus txiv.
Kuv yog ib niag txiv neej uas coj tau mob taub hau dhau heev os niag txiv neej coj tau tsis paub qab hau li os
You'd be surprised how many men choose a partner that is similar to their own mother. You already saw it when you said she behaved like how your mother would towards you when you were a child. Koj seen os.. yog koj pojniam tsis ua npaum no, koj lub neej tsis nce tes ses koj tsis nyiam nws ib zaug thiab tiag.
Dud, stand as a man. Doesn’t matter man or woman should just talk respect. If not I would just let her do or get out be my own.
Dag tiag tiag poj niam nquag tsis coj li koj tus poj niam ko. Neb ces me nyuam yaus ib yam nkaus xwb
Lol! Love your acting with the voices and attitudes!! 😅 Nom Pheej os nom pheej!!
Most of people that are not handy working, when they work their performance/action looks so enjoyable. Maybe you are one of those styles, too.
Ham tsi yog li koj pojniam hai mas
Kuv xav tias lub ntiaj teb no ntshe muaj kuv lub neej tbiaj zoo li no xwb no Cas ho muaj koj thiab o tus mi nus aw.kuv tus mi txiv ces zoo li ko kiag li tiag kuv hlub nws kawg tab sis nws ces ua li ko rau kuv ces kuv tsis pom rab yuav ua Cas li o.yus muaj mi tub mi nyuam tag yus yeej tsis xav muab lub neej tso tab si zoo li yus yuav tau ib tug nom xwb ces sov yuav ua lub neej no mus li Cas li o.
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Such a good actress Kalia !🤣
Omg! I know how that feeling is with a man too! Acting like he’s my dad!
Don’t even see him yelling at his other kids from a previous marriage! I; am also annoyed! I don’t need a dad, thanks no thanks! I got one … 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢Even I don’t boss anyone around and they still leave me! Omg, Same About Clothing ... Gosh, Feeling A Bit Sick Due To People Like This!!
He still loves her even if she boss him around!! The men I know hardly helps me & I don’t even get mad until he starts to compare me! It’s going down for realz then!! 😢😢😂😂😢😢😂😂 He also didn’t abuse her! That’s a plus! That’s a good man who just wants a wife, not a grandma or mom!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Cov me txiv neej nej xav tias peb cov poj niam xav xav hais nej thiab ua leej niam rau nej instead ua tus wife so exhausting do mother’s job tab sis tsis ua los nej yeej tsis paub yuav nyob li tus me nyuam tsis paub ab tsi xwb txog thaum koj tus poj niam ua li ntawd ces xyov nws sab npaum li cas lawm as we women we should love just been a wife not a mother stress free, worry free but men doesn’t stepped up you not grow up
It’s you not your wife I’m in your wife shoe before I it’s so exhausted
Zoo li neb khub txij nkawm ko tsis tees Kooloos sub as. Neb 2 niam txiv ko ntshe yog cov tsis tees Kooloos paub.
He is a language love person lol
Txoj kev no kuv nkag siab my ex coj kiag li koj tus poj niam rau kuv tiag tu2 siab kawg li hos..kuv tus ex ces saib kuv zoo li tus me nyuam yaus xwb thiab os..
Txhob ntxub thiab tib poj niam os koj mas lam laus xwb lub niam paj lhub zoo li tus me nyuam yaus 10 xyoo xwb koj tsis muaj éducation yuav tsum xyaum ua txiv neej yawg thiab.
Mi nus aws tau poj niam zoo xwb ma
Hmmmm… sounds like basic everyday cleaning tasks to keep the place clean- should be done by both without too much trouble/ one asking/ reminding the other to do. Wondering why the wife is this way? Could it be that if she doesnt ask, he doesnt see things need to be cleaned? Or only does but not really put effort into it? I know some people only clean to get someone off their back and the job is half#%^ done. Just my thoughts.
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All I can say is “ Ua siab ntev “ lol
Cov neeg es muaj “cleaning disorder “ yeej zoo li no. Kuv paub koj Txoj kev vim kuv muab ib tug thiab.
I couldn’t live with someone who always puts you down. All you hear day in and day out is nagging and how terrible you are. 👋
the wife is too much. she doesn’t know how respect her husband as a man. if you talked down on your husband too much, all the people will look down on your husband.
She your Boss not u wife
Lmao! Your description of him eating is hilarious 😂😂
That's the kinda wife I would divorce due to how she is and act. I ain't trying to live someone underskirt n boss me around for stupid no reason n telling me what to do.
Koj yeej tsis tau yauj lwm thiab ne😂.lwm tus twb muab koj pov khib nyiaj lawm os nom pheej os nom pheej eeee😅
Cov txiv need gmoob no tau zoo dhau this pab poj niam.tau tus poh name this cem this yws ces cov no re sis paid tav this is ua noj
The majority of Hmoob men don't take their life seriously. Those who are and want to be Hmoob "leaders" can't even be leaders in their own marriage/nuclear family. They have no to little humility and fear of showing vulnerability. How can these men be better husbands and leaders for their families when they rarely see themselves as needing to improve?
The majority of Hmoob women just naturally take the roles of leadership in their families because they were trained at a very young age to be caretakers and providers.
When these women have these husbands, they lose respect for their husbands and it becomes a vicious cycle of wives who takes a parentified role in the marriage and husbands who takes a child-like dependency in the marriage.
I feel like some women are a bit extra these days, but I'm a guy that doesn't like people that talks a lot so that might affect it a little.
All I hear is nom Phaaaaa….nom Pha gonna kick u only😂🤣🤣
Hoyo tos koj niag poj niam ua koj niam rau koj xwb los sounds like koj yog ib niag txiv tsis paub qab hau lo as. Yog yus paib qabhau cesyus tus poj niam yeej tsis ua yus niam li mos. Nws tsuas qhia kom. Koj paub xwb los koj twb tsis nloog tsis xyaum li ne. Ces koj kawg mag qhia cuag menyuam yaus xwb mas
Kwv tau poj Niam coj li ko ces laj ua neej txog hnub kawg os nawb
It’s okay that she is that way but she should talk with respect. It goes both way helping her and respecting her vice versus. No respect no love.
Your wife really doesn’t know much about camping herself either. You can wear and dress whatever you like as long as you are comfortable but she is a little disrespectful as well. Work it out and communicate
My first year of marriage was rocky with chores in my home. I can see myself in the wife at times but I stopped yelling because it wasn't helping lol. So I just take a deep breathe and speak 1 on 1 with him because I respect him. We are so much better than ever. Find balance in your relationship.
Yep, tell me about it. And when u stop being close in the bedroom everything goes down hill...
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Koj twb noj pog mis tawm plawv plaws hauv pog ob ceg, tos pog ua mov koj noj, ntxuav koj lub tais rab diav, koj tso quav tso zis lo toilet los tos pog ntxuav, khaub ncaws los tsis txawj hnav, tseem yuav kom pog nqee koj tias mi ab tub es los ua home vawj ob ces no es mam paub mus ua xwb ces nws tsis yog koj niam es yuav yog dab tsi naw.
Twb yog pog kawg es thiaj tseem ua koj qhev au. Lwm tus ces koj twb mag laub tsawg zaus lawm au.
I just love how the main character is always the nice one amd the wife is the one yelling, irrational one.
The question is, are you helping her? I'm sure if we hear her side of the story, we will see why she treats you the way she does.
😂🤣Good topic to talk about!!
Your wife is a control freak. But maybe you have other issues? When the hubby/wife too slow or too lazy to do things, it gets annoying n the nagging starts. Happy wife happy life! Maybe talk it over n start doing things different…change habits. If u still cannot satisfy her then she probably have issues. Some women R natural naggers n just like to complain about every little things! Couples need balance, complain a little but compliment too. N if u ask them to do then don’t wine later. Maybe get professional marriage counseling.
Ntuj aw...vim yus twb tsis yog neeg xaj aj es koj tseem muaj lub chim thiab, zoo lis koj es phim niag twb tsis txhuam hniav lis xwb yom 🤣
I don’t know why you complaining … she tells you to do something but she ends up doing it so looking on other side, she does it. Your wife qhia koj ua neej only. Imagine if she was lazy where would your life be… you wouldn’t be conscious about how your behavior is
Women are natural nurturers. If you don’t want a mom-wife then stop acting like a child-husband
Very good 👍 👏 👌
Typically in a Marriage, having controller & complainer is a Turn-Off!!!
My wife nags and it’s very annoying at times but without her nagging me, I’d be a couch potato and get nothing done.
Muaj tej tug txiv mas yuav ua dabtsi lo phiaj tos tus pojniam ua ntau thiab nws phiaj tsis paub ua dabtsi li tshuav yog tau haujlwm hmo ntuj xwb ces tsim nyog tau cov pojniam txawj cem li no thiab mas..
Napeng, you don't get it. You didn't adult from when you were with your mom and you carried your childish ways into your marriage.
Kuv niag los tib yam li ko thiab os tabsis tseem tsis pub yus dawj nws thiab nas
Annoying story I can’t finish
She just like my husband so annoying
If you're a man then act like a man if you act like a child she'll treat you like a child.
Koj tus poj niam yeej yug los xeeb txawm coj tus cwj pwm nchav li no, tab sis yog nws tau tus txiv tsiv nruj tshaj nws no ces nws yuav tig los zoo dua li nws hais lus nchav rau koj. Nws mloog koj lus hais yog thaum koj tab tom caij nroos saum nws plab nkaus xwb. Koj tau tus poj niam muaj phem ncauj tsiv lus heev rau koj thiab tiag, tab sis koj los yeej tsis paub tab hno xaiv leg dej nws kom haum nyog taus nws siab nyiam thiab.
😆 🤣 laughed so hard listening to this story. I do think your wife is bossy and annoying but you may also be one of those men who are not self-aware or very competent and doesn't take the initiative. Even if you are clueless and lack initiative, I still think your wife's way of nagging you, teaching you, ordering you is wrong. She needs to rethink her tone and her approach. She's very toxic and disrespectful to you. You, on the other hand, need to own your marriage partnership by taking initiative and do things before your wife has to order you around like a child. She's ordering you bc you're not up to par as a husband. I think you each bear a responsibility for your relationship going south. But, final thing is, lack of respect is an ingredient for divorce for sure. If your wife keeps disrespecting you, it only put a wedge between you both. Good luck.
this is typical marriage. you say I say. if you feel like you don't wanted stay together, go different directions. stop nagging and suck it up! please!!!!!!!
For real, they are men and women who nag like that, who think that their schedule and time is more valuable than yours, that want stuff done their ways ALL THE TIME! It’s exhausting dealing with people like that! The best way to deal with them is to not answer and continue what you’re doing, your own way. Eventually the nagging stops! Guess how I know?
Pheng, you are not up to your wife standards! I know how cleanest she is!
I just started listening to it, but first let me laugh.... Lmaoooo 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Siaj cas raug yus ua luaj li ne haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Dhuav tiag cov pojniam coj li koj tus niam tsev ko.
She observed you so..well every mistake u make u will get lecture
this guy puts his wife into the mother role. it isn't attractive to a woman to have their "man" be their child. this person is a selfish, self-centered, entitled man child.
haha..thaub koj yeej lazy zog lawm..koj lucky koj tus poj niam tseem yuav koj...koj yog ib tug txiv neej mas koj yuav tsum txawj coj me ntsis...yog koj yog ib tug txiv neej tsheej haj ces koj tus poj niam yeej tsis cuag ko rau koj. yus yuav tau pauv yus tus kheej kom yustsheej haj me ntsis...starting by stop complaining about your wife..stop defending yourself and figure out a way to fix yourself. she will follow once you stop defending...and start doing your job as a man.
Some men are very lazy like that.
Honestly dude... I think u are a bit slow at doing things. As an adult u need to know your responsibilities without people telling u what to do all the time.