Iam in tears literally to say my husband of 12years love marriage betrayed me last year. Now Iam lost without trust and spirit to move forward.🥺’Only Allah can help me. Whoever reads this please include me and children in your precious dua. May Allah bless every heart that crosses with purity of soul and love for Allah & Rasool SWS❤️🕊~aameen
JAK Respected Mufti, I am convinced of my decision of taking khulla from my husband. It is after many efforts of fighting for my marriage with my husband but I realize he will never change... his belief and upbringing and views on a wife’s value are too far embedded. His family beliefs are typical and they take orders from their mother and sisters. Kicking out and casting out daughter-in-laws is normal for them. They do it to punish.I feel betrayed of the 25 yrs of sincerity, loyalty and empathy that Ive had/given to this marriage and extended family. Since the last five days, i also have not been able to go in front of him (of my own will). I stay in my room and ask my daughters to tell me if he is anywhere near the kitchen when I need to cook or eat. When he walked into the house one night while i was sitting in the kitchen w my daughter I turned off all the lights till he left. And then I went back upstairs to my room. My heart is too full.😞 I dont know why, but i have still made the dua of Istikhara today after my Zuhr and Asr salah. I just wanted to consult although I cant imagine continuing in a relationship where I have no trust or confidence on my husband. Its painful and sad. For such a case, All i have to do is go to my local masjid and speak w the Imam I believe. So, when we speak of things going quickly or not, im not sure what to expect of my dua. Any thoughts? JAK
We have the same situation.I always pray to Allah what will I do.I love my husband but my heart is fully pain because he will never change..Im not talking him everyday because I want him to realize that Im not affected.Ya Rabb pls lighten the're heart.♥️
assalamualaikum sir. please if you and whoever is seeing my comment, pray for me. I'm in danger and still indecisive whether to go back to my abusive spouse or not. please pray for me that Allah would give me the clearest signs and situations to recognize what's good for me. jajhakallahu khairan.
Emily what do you mean signs the red flag 🚩 is right in front of you dear ... do not come back to someone who’s abusing you, know your worth...if they really loved they would’ve never hurt you in the 1st place. Someone abusing is no joke... may Allah make it easy for you!
Emily? There’s abuse? And yet you are unsure and need Allahs guidance on this decision? Allah swt has already given guidance in the Quran about ‘zulm/ injustice/abuse’ etc. Everyone has a right to dignity and Allah swt is not telling anyone to take any abuse and give up your right. Same way He has told us not TO abuse and BE unjust. Leave the abuser for the sake of Allah and trust Allah. You will be better off. Allah doesnt like ‘talaq’ but he dislikes even more a nikkah (contract with Him directly) that has been taken so lightly. Your abusive husband is in BIG trouble and anyone else who supports or protects his behaviour. Be strong. And for the love of Allah, free yourself my sister. Its not the end of the world. Allah will help you if you trust Him.
I am so grateful to the generous people who took their own time and left a kind comment on my situation. I pray the same for you, that Allah might remove any discomfort/ hardship you're in right now. as for me i am still indecisive but at least i am safe. Everyday i thank Allah that i am not with him in this covid lockdown...i have lived my life with him feeling like a captive when he was unemployed and i just know (as also the news say) the cases of domestic abuse took a sharp spike during the pandemic. Perhaps everything happens for a good reason. Also the south Asian countries are very big on criticizing victims and glorifying abuse in the name of Allah's test. This is why everything is so difficult for me. The way people react to my situation anyone other than those who haven’t known me since childhood really makes it difficult for me to go by. The everyday humiliations i get from people are very subtle and silent but is very vividly present - all because i couldn’t survive the psychological torture and occasional physical abuse that was used to control me. I am now mentally more healthy and starting to see things the way they have been and i just hope Allah never gives up on me. Zazhakumullahu khairan.
O Allah don't hold me to account for what they say about me. Forgive me for that which they don't know about me. And make better than what they perceive about me. Aameen. Ya Razzaq ya rabb
My father took out istikhara for a guy who proposed to me The istikhara came out that the guy is the best guy for me. So I was married off to that guy. On the wedding night the abuse started and I was traumatized all through my 18 years of my marriage ! Now the word “ istikhara “ scares me
That is not the problem of istikhara , it is the problem of the character of the man and the ploy of Shaytan . Pray for your partner , ask Allah to give him hidayah and make him a better person. If your life has been connected with him , there must be some good in it too or maybe Allah has sent you to him to change him and improve his behaviour . I pray that Allah help you with your marriage life and give you utmost happiness 🌹
im so stressed and sad and need help. i dont have anyone supporting me, i have met someone whos also muslim but from a different culture and i felt at ease but because of the different culture my parents arent accepting and want me to marry a distant relative of the same culture. and its messing with my mental health. when im already depressed things were simple i actually found someone who i know ill be happy with and has made me a better person. and i do duah. i dont know its just effecting me badly. i cant concentrate and i just want to disappear its alot of pressure on me.
mahboob basha Salam I would suggest you to pray thahajjud in the last third of the night and ask allah to make your marriage peaceful. Recite Al-Baqarah daily if possible. As in its recitation theres Barakah. People had seen Significant improvements after this. Its a very hard process. But it has a serious impact. I have heard many stories how it drastically changed lives of Muslims in serious conditions.
Salam aleykum brothers and sisters. Can you please tell me how to pray istikhara if there are 3 Options and you have to choose? Shouldbyou just include these 3 Option at once or shall i pray istikhara for every Option?
alcapone I think you should weigh the pros and cons of each option and decide whats best for you. Then pray isthikhara and mention it. Generally it means if this option A is good for my dunya and akhira make it happen or else repel it away from me.
@@areebahanjum2784 yes I prayed istikaara. And I decided to go with nursing school cyber security just isn’t something I seem to be interested in anymore
@@abdulehtaiba139 I didn’t have any signs. I just felt it in my heart I didn’t want to do cyber security. I would rather do nursing school. I start school next month I’ll let you know if I pass my first class !
I went to perform my 2nd Umrah. I thought it was a sign as everything else I bought for him for the marriage was from there anyway. HE knew it would not work, but HE granted my prayers anyway. I now see that Allah had somehow taught me to be a wiser person. Allah will never made one suffer more than he/she can bear. There's no "Happily Ever After" with Allah's creation, if it is one sided. Eternal love is with the one and only the Al-Mighty.
Pray tahajjud sister. Allah accepts our dua in the last third part of the night. Ask to Allah SWT whatever you want. Definitely Allah will grand you that. Don't lose hope on Allah. This comment was posted bfr 3 years, and I don't know about your present situation. If it's okay now, thank Allah and if not pray tahajjud.
That smile of Mufti Menk in the start of video 😂 !!!! May Allah keep him smiling like this always Maa Sha Allah !
He's handsome man mashallah!
Ameen ya rabi yes beautiful Smile tabarakah lah
After my divorce I did do much better financially alhumdulillah. I became more closer with my lord alhumdulillah.
Iam in tears literally to say my husband of 12years love marriage betrayed me last year. Now Iam lost without trust and spirit to move forward.🥺’Only Allah can help me. Whoever reads this please include me and children in your precious dua. May Allah bless every heart that crosses with purity of soul and love for Allah & Rasool SWS❤️🕊~aameen
May Allah help you and your children 🥺
may ALLAH help u and ur family...as long as u have Allah u have everything because that's what we're here for .
May Allah reward you with better🤲🏼 the dua will Come thats a promis
May Allah bring you closer to Him and bless you with His love
MASH ALLAH mufti the Noor of ALLAH is dripping from your face
Yaaaaaa allah Grant us janatol firdose all of you say ameen
Ameen
Aameen
Masha allah this is the first time I see you. I'm so happy. May Allah swt grant you and bless you for your effort.
I like the good humour in which you said the Message
Thank you so much for such a detailed explanation of the topic I have always confused with!
JAK Respected Mufti, I am convinced of my decision of taking khulla from my husband. It is after many efforts of fighting for my marriage with my husband but I realize he will never change... his belief and upbringing and views on a wife’s value are too far embedded. His family beliefs are typical and they take orders from their mother and sisters. Kicking out and casting out daughter-in-laws is normal for them. They do it to punish.I feel betrayed of the 25 yrs of sincerity, loyalty and empathy that Ive had/given to this marriage and extended family. Since the last five days, i also have not been able to go in front of him (of my own will). I stay in my room and ask my daughters to tell me if he is anywhere near the kitchen when I need to cook or eat. When he walked into the house one night while i was sitting in the kitchen w my daughter I turned off all the lights till he left. And then I went back upstairs to my room. My heart is too full.😞 I dont know why, but i have still made the dua of Istikhara today after my Zuhr and Asr salah. I just wanted to consult although I cant imagine continuing in a relationship where I have no trust or confidence on my husband. Its painful and sad. For such a case, All i have to do is go to my local masjid and speak w the Imam I believe. So, when we speak of things going quickly or not, im not sure what to expect of my dua. Any thoughts? JAK
We have the same situation.I always pray to Allah what will I do.I love my husband but my heart is fully pain because he will never change..Im not talking him everyday because I want him to realize that Im not affected.Ya Rabb pls lighten the're heart.♥️
Thank you so much Mufti Menk.
Jazakallah brother for advices.. It's helped me a way to ask my necessary with Allah (swt) ...
I wish brother mufti menk would reply to our comments and questions here !
ان شاء الله i Will meet you one day
I hope I can find a man like you Mufti Menk
I'm here
@@Diehard0alfaidy lol
I love you brother for the sake of Allah.
Jazak Allah khair brother! It’s really helpful to understand the purpose of istakhara
Shukran Br. Mufti for helping me understand how to better navigate the istikarah prayer.
❤️❤️ best way of every thing..
My favorite advisor
As wr wbt Jezak Allah kayer brother mufti menk may Allah bless you with everything Amiin
ma shaa allah
You are a genius 🙏🏽
May allah make us become better person the day we was yesterday may allah guide us and thank our lord Allah SWT The Most Merciful Subhan allah
Barakallahu fiik
So nicely explained ! It is truly appreciated! You brought some humor also. Stay Blessed
Amazing video. Really good explanation
Excellent!!! Thank You!!
Mashallah... Thanks of lot...
Aameen ya Allah 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
سبحانالله 🕋🤲🏻🕋🌱🕊🌱
My brother love all of my brothers and sister for allah SWT
Mashallah Tabarakallah
You the best ❤❤
Jazzakallahu kheir
Waalaikum as Salam
Ameen ya rabi
assalamualaikum sir.
please if you and whoever is seeing my comment, pray for me. I'm in danger and still indecisive whether to go back to my abusive spouse or not. please pray for me that Allah would give me the clearest signs and situations to recognize what's good for me. jajhakallahu khairan.
Emily what do you mean signs the red flag 🚩 is right in front of you dear ... do not come back to someone who’s abusing you, know your worth...if they really loved they would’ve never hurt you in the 1st place. Someone abusing is no joke... may Allah make it easy for you!
Emily? There’s abuse? And yet you are unsure and need Allahs guidance on this decision? Allah swt has already given guidance in the Quran about ‘zulm/ injustice/abuse’ etc. Everyone has a right to dignity and Allah swt is not telling anyone to take any abuse and give up your right. Same way He has told us not TO abuse and BE unjust. Leave the abuser for the sake of Allah and trust Allah. You will be better off. Allah doesnt like ‘talaq’ but he dislikes even more a nikkah (contract with Him directly) that has been taken so lightly. Your abusive husband is in BIG trouble and anyone else who supports or protects his behaviour. Be strong. And for the love of Allah, free yourself my sister. Its not the end of the world. Allah will help you if you trust Him.
Waaleykum Mussalam May Allah make it easy for you
Insha Allah you'll get what you want and may Allah (swt) make your husband good person sister
I am so grateful to the generous people who took their own time and left a kind comment on my situation. I pray the same for you, that Allah might remove any discomfort/ hardship you're in right now.
as for me i am still indecisive but at least i am safe. Everyday i thank Allah that i am not with him in this covid lockdown...i have lived my life with him feeling like a captive when he was unemployed and i just know (as also the news say) the cases of domestic abuse took a sharp spike during the pandemic. Perhaps everything happens for a good reason.
Also the south Asian countries are very big on criticizing victims and glorifying abuse in the name of Allah's test. This is why everything is so difficult for me. The way people react to my situation anyone other than those who haven’t known me since childhood really makes it difficult for me to go by. The everyday humiliations i get from people are very subtle and silent but is very vividly present - all because i couldn’t survive the psychological torture and occasional physical abuse that was used to control me.
I am now mentally more healthy and starting to see things the way they have been and i just hope Allah never gives up on me.
Zazhakumullahu khairan.
O Allah don't hold me to account for what they say about me. Forgive me for that which they don't know about me. And make better than what they perceive about me. Aameen. Ya Razzaq ya rabb
AMEEN. ❤
You are absolutely awesome. Thank you very much brother. Very helpful
Alhamdulillah
Thank you!!!!
Mash Allah,thank you very much for this lesson
Jazakallah 😊
Mash allah
..Alhamdu lillahi Nazal,wa la Yazalu Hayinan aliman Qodiran,Assalamualaikum wa RohmatuLLah wa Barukatuhu..
My father took out istikhara for a guy who proposed to me The istikhara came out that the guy is the best guy for me. So I was married off to that guy. On the wedding night the abuse started and I was traumatized all through my 18 years of my marriage ! Now the word “ istikhara “ scares me
That is not the problem of istikhara , it is the problem of the character of the man and the ploy of Shaytan . Pray for your partner , ask Allah to give him hidayah and make him a better person. If your life has been connected with him , there must be some good in it too or maybe Allah has sent you to him to change him and improve his behaviour . I pray that Allah help you with your marriage life and give you utmost happiness 🌹
May Allah give him hidaya and give you a happiest life. Could you please tell your name. I will mention you in my dua insha allah.
Who said la Ilah ila Allah Today 30 times?
I keep telling whole day
Zakiya Khanam amen brother/sister
How many rakhts to pray and which time and which surah to receite during salah
im so stressed and sad and need help. i dont have anyone supporting me, i have met someone whos also muslim but from a different culture and i felt at ease but because of the different culture my parents arent accepting and want me to marry a distant relative of the same culture. and its messing with my mental health. when im already depressed things were simple i actually found someone who i know ill be happy with and has made me a better person. and i do duah. i dont know its just effecting me badly. i cant concentrate and i just want to disappear its alot of pressure on me.
🙏🏽💚❤️🤲🏽
MashaAllah brother
What about after marriage istekara? Am getting difficulties after my marriage could you please guide me by the grace of Allah
mahboob basha Salam I would suggest you to pray thahajjud in the last third of the night and ask allah to make your marriage peaceful. Recite Al-Baqarah daily if possible. As in its recitation theres Barakah. People had seen Significant improvements after this. Its a very hard process. But it has a serious impact. I have heard many stories how it drastically changed lives of Muslims in serious conditions.
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Salam aleykum brothers and sisters. Can you please tell me how to pray istikhara if there are 3 Options and you have to choose? Shouldbyou just include these 3 Option at once or shall i pray istikhara for every Option?
alcapone I think you should weigh the pros and cons of each option and decide whats best for you. Then pray isthikhara and mention it. Generally it means if this option A is good for my dunya and akhira make it happen or else repel it away from me.
Do I ya e to memorize the istikhara prayer or can I take my phone out after the two rakat when I start to make dua
Pasole Soup I think you can take the phone out and recite the dua from it shouldnt be a problem as it doesn’t do any bad . Correct me if I m wrong.
@@rimazfarouk4377 yh I also think it's fine
Assallamo alaycom how can I pray istikhara sukran.
Please sheikh tell the Dua in Arabic
May Allah subhannawataAllah give you jhanna tul firdaus mufti menk
How to pray istikhara
Pls sir what time to pray Istikhara.
Before u go bed
I don’t know if I should get my degree in nursing or cyber security is this something I can do Istikara for ?
Yh ofc
Did it help ? How did you choose ? I am confused between accounts, chemical engineering and computer engineering . I am gonna be praying now
@@areebahanjum2784 yes I prayed istikaara. And I decided to go with nursing school cyber security just isn’t something I seem to be interested in anymore
@@dinaalquzah894 how did your signs come ?
@@abdulehtaiba139 I didn’t have any signs. I just felt it in my heart I didn’t want to do cyber security. I would rather do nursing school. I start school next month I’ll let you know if I pass my first class !
What about education?
Maheen Shoaib this salat is for everything.
What is ishtikhaara please can someone explain it to me
You pray it before u go sleep and read a dua after it to get a answer from God people get dreams and signs
Can I do istikhara when I need a spouse.
After you found someone, you decide to marry them, then make Istikhara.
@@CyaneNile please let me know how
I did istikhara and married wrong person very arrogant, and very stuped very håret i hate my life with hon being married
I went to perform my 2nd Umrah. I thought it was a sign as everything else I bought for him for the marriage was from there anyway. HE knew it would not work, but HE granted my prayers anyway. I now see that Allah had somehow taught me to be a wiser person. Allah will never made one suffer more than he/she can bear. There's no "Happily Ever After" with Allah's creation, if it is one sided. Eternal love is with the one and only the Al-Mighty.
My sister may Allah bless you and may allah garden your husband hearts towards you with holed familys Ames.
Pray tahajjud sister. Allah accepts our dua in the last third part of the night. Ask to Allah SWT whatever you want. Definitely Allah will grand you that. Don't lose hope on Allah. This comment was posted bfr 3 years, and I don't know about your present situation. If it's okay now, thank Allah and if not pray tahajjud.
O Allah plzz help me to got a God f... Man to marry me inshaa Allah
Oh so funny when i Will close my eyes??😭
thank you !!