im sure if it was chad she would have chased him out to his car and at least a bj before he got away. the rest of us.... free meal and get a free hand shake.
Now they can find out what constant rejection feels like, because that the reality for most men. Most men, but the "Top Tier" men they only have eyes for.
what is weird to me that he first inbited her inside just to tell her one second later to leave again. why invite her inside in the first place? either reject her right at the doorstep or invite her in and see where the evening is taking you.
@@t.kersten7695he's doing what all these sluts have done to the good men over the last many decades. Good for him for wasting her time. We need to 'normalize' men denying females time, attention, space, affection, and so on, so forth. They don't deserve the comforts they don't work for, and the same comforts they force the men to uphold & maintain. So once agian I'm glad this man wasted her time & energy.
I put myself out there all the time and get rejected every single time. Men are actually extremely nice when it comes to rejecting women, where on the other hand women are extremely rude, mean, hurtful and cruel when it comes to rejecting men.
That's because women consider it a stab to their status whenever an unworthy man thinks he has a shot with her. It's a knee-jerk reaction, but that does not make it okay. Women need to do better.
As well as the majority of men! Unless they see you drive in with a Lambo or know about what you do possibly loaded with money! For some reason they fall in love at first sight!
What usually happened to me is the ole "No show" at the restaurant or they had someone come inside and check me out and then "no showed" either way...whatever, at least I did not have to feed them. Ladies, have some common courtesy and refuse the date if your not sure. I no longer bother dating but when I did I was always completely honest on my profile and posted photographs that were taken in the past 3 months. I get it that most women want the Chad types. I cannot help that I am 5ft 5 inches tall and not the dream date most women want but I am a good guy and had a good career until I retired. No worries, enjoy Chad and his games. Life is good being single without someone that could never be happy because of their unrealistic requirements.
She’s posted follow up videos. She admitted to being a plus sized woman and that her date was aware of that because she had full body pictures in her dating profile. We are only getting her side of the story, but my guess is that when he found out that she has a TikTok page and that she was going to post about their date, he decided that didn’t work for him. He handled it graciously.
It would seem that having a TikTok page is the 21st century equivalent of an STD was in the 20th. It should be a precursor to even agreeing to a date that each party signs an NDA. It's a sad state of affairs that you need a lawyer to date someone and protect your reputation.
It’s a choice to plus size but many women prefer a guy who’s in shape over 6 ft tall with his own place and car ,she’s making the video so guys can pander to her
@@markh.7650 not really "equivalent", it may be worse. An STD can be cured (depending)... but a Tik Tok ( or OnlyFans) page will be around for ever. Its a shame these young women don't understand this, and worse, those that do understand it don't educate their fellow females. Instead they tell them "you-go-girl".
WOW ROMEO? must be nice. the rest of us just end up paying for a free meal for her to listen how wonderful her kids and THE GRANDKIDS ARE... total waste of time and money. the time we have.... the money... might as well just burn it. total waste.
Or wasting your time and money on women who don't think you're a good fit for them, but have no problem going through the motions and letting you pay for their drinks and food.
@@NONAME-kw3pu there’s a dating coach I heard the other night say that the best way a guy can interest or attract a woman is by asking her questions and listening to what she has to say .. the coach said the guy should not talk about himself much at all. I’m Sitting there like “I’m not going to sit there and listen to a woman endlessly talk about her life”.. I mean, if the first few convos we have are not going to be good back and forth conversations between adults then I’m not going to bother
Great minds think alike...that was the first thought that went through my head. He also saved himself a few bucks since we know there was no way she was ever going to offer to contribute to the bill.
Yeah, the only thing I can critique about her is the choice she made to make her personal moment of vulnerability public. Women use social media like their personal diary and while plenty of it can be hilarious or baffling. This one is just sad.
Though possible, I do not see any evidence of that. It seems likely it was her appearance she was rejected for so it might be that all her online pictures are bust shots and she is a bit chubby below that. I am guessing, but that would not count as catfishing...well I mean depending on how edited and selective her photos are.
One more thing. I'd rather would have been let down in rejection than to be flaked on. I had numerous times where the woman never showed up leaving me sitting there where we agreed to meet at.
I’m in a wheelchair and I’ve been rejected, made fun of, insulted by being told what would I be useful for other than a handicapped spot. These were women. So it doesn’t feel good.
A lot of time women do this to themselves by putting old pics on dating apps. The guy shows up and feels like it's a bait and switch. This guy handled it kindly and with class.
I read a story on this, when it broke. The w0man admitted she was plus-sized, and she put up *recent,* full-body pictures in her profile. And, she talked with the guy on the phone at least once. And, I think discussed him being okay with dating a "bigger w0man."
THAT WILL DO IT... she is driving the NEW 4 WHEEL DRIVE TRUCK that her ex is paying for. we are driving 10 yr old generic car complete with faded paint
When any salesman or religious recruiter approaches me, I always say "I don't have any money." The religious recruiter ALWAYS makes the second try "that doesn't matter." But since I don't turn around and reengage, they accept the no-sale and give up.
Rejection sucks,but this guy did it in the most humble manner. And i myself have no issiue with the fact she is a plus sized girl. But i do have an issiue with putting every little thing all over social media and TikTok. That dude was honest and prevented that she was even more hurt in the future
when are u going to learn to have NOTHING to do with it... til u get the dinero to go to philippines/thailand/costa rica. u are going to PAY FOR IT no matter what but at least in the other countries u get what u pay for.
I'm the 50th thumbs up. Try your own rejecting once in awhile. Not to be vicious and/or vengeful. If out to dinner and not feeling it before you order make it clear you're each paying for your own meal. Hopefully you didn't pick her up and stay and enjoy a meal and engage the waitress asking her what she would order and such.
I got setup on a blind date with a very obese woman that I was very not interested in,I was polite to her and still took her out to dinner but in the conversation found out she was in a open marriage and I told her I could not be involved and that was the end.
All the while agreeing with your analysis on female accountability or lack thereof, I appreciate your call for a truce between the sexes. I'm all for collecting data and calling a spade a spade. If generally speaking women (or men) are more inclined towards certain behaviors, well that's just what we need to constructively and realistically work on. The anger-fueled insults and put-downs on the other hand are counter-productive. This message deserves its place in the manosphere.
All I have had is rejection and it never gets easier. I’m done trying with everyone. No one wants me around. Not even my family. I have nowhere to turn.
@@davidpeterson8424 Never let them get you down. You are just as valued and important as ANYONE else...take care, keep on your course and make your life great!!
Don't be too hard on yourself. You must have some redeeming features. Work on yourself, read,find an interest, join a hiking group,travel a bit ,learn a language, learn to cook. Make yourself an interesting person that people want to engage with and don't dwell on the past.😊
@@davidpeterson8424 You have many places to turn to, just your vision is clouded at the moment. Work on your vision first, then with clarity persist on your path. It's hard, bro, I know. But you owe to yourself.
todays women are weird, met 1 in some cafe last week, she wanted a wine, so ok, i gave her 1 , then she wanted to dance, but the weird thing is she kept me 1 meter apart LOL, i told her coronatimes r over, & also the free wines r over, then she starts babbe ling that all men r the same HAHAHA, I'm single 6 years now, i dont need a woman like that. Anyway sir, keep your videos coming, they r needed to open up the minds of some men that r still dumb simps
u didnt spend $100 on her? and THEN OH THERE IS ROMEO!!!! I GOT TO GO TALK TO ROMEO... BYE and there goes $100... might as well burn the MONEY. pointless waste of time.
Exactly right. Do not mistreat or take pleasure in the mistreatment of others. That only cheapens and harms those that engage in such nonsense. We all should be doing better. Social media is entirely unsocial and has let far too many get comfortable with saying and acting in ways that would rightly get them punched in the pre-internet world. We need to return to that, not for the violence but for the simple preservation of respect for others.
Reminds me of a bad dating app date. We agreed to meet at a fine sports club for lunch. Four different restaurants inside. I lived 45 minutes away from the club. She, just around the corner from the club less than 5 minutes away. We agreed to meet at the club's reception at 11am. I was there 10 minutes early waiting at reception. No show at 11. Still waiting at 11-30 I called her. "Oh, I'm still at home. i was waiting for you to get there first. I'll be there in 20 minutes." But you are only five minutes away. "I am but I have a couple of things to do first. See you soon." LOL No she didn't.
I'm 66, a lifelong bachelor, not for lack of good faith and concerted effort when I was a younger man, so it is what it is. Still above ground and breathing. I've lost track of all these very type of dusty women who rejected me and slapped me down with absolute impunity back in the day. Sweet for sweet. Welcome to my world young lady. God's justice be done.
TOTALLY!!! i gave up along long time ago. just the E ticked to the poor house/jail with the amerikan liberated witch. nothing is worth that... NOTHING!!!
You have some very good points. I too feel for her. The sad thing about social media, (including TH-cam), is that it brings the worst out of people. We should all try to do better.
Bassfz did a video on this She's rejected her fair share of men, so while I will not hate on her, I also don't feel particularly sorry for her It just is what it is At least she didn't get the sort of nuclear rejection a lot of guys get
Men: when rejecting a woman, do as what I think this guy did: let them down as gently as possible. This will do two things: 1) It will show women by example how to reject. Perhaps some women will pick up on this and call out other women to stop being rude about it. 2) You are depriving women of more ammunition. I know, it won't make that much difference, because they'll always find something to nag about. But some of the rejected women may value and learn from this. It starts with small gestures on our part. Remember, we're MEN! Don't be like women who are rude. I used the phrase, "I'm flattered and appreciate your approach, but I'm just not interested." Said with a smile and as politely as possible. In other words, The Golden Rule: Do as you would have done to you.
Simply put. Shit happens. Okay. Now, pick yourself up, square your shoulders, hold your head up, and continue with your life. It's harsh. Yes. But life is harsh and unforgiving.
My dentist was female and a dancer. I am a dancer. We made arrangements to meet at a night club for dancing. She was way late and I concluded that she was not coming. So, I went home. She did come late and related that she had asked two men to dance and had been refused. She said that she had never understood rejection like that and wondered how men could tolerate it. I responded that it comes with the territory. I have been on dates and known that there would never be a second date, but insisted that I continue to be gracious on that first date. I listen and learn, even on a "bad date". If you want to be abrupt, that is your choice. You all need a funny date story. I made a dinner date before walking down the street and doing Argentine tango. The woman ordered a glass of wine with dinner. That is unusual for a dancer. The drink sat, untouched during dinner. I made no comment. The drink was still standing there on the table when the dishes had been cleared and we were leaving. Not angry. Just grateful that I had missed a bullet.
Broad brush stroke here, but my experience with Latin American women is that they will order the most expensive drink and meal on the menu, even if they have no idea what it is, and then leave it sitting untouched if they don’t like it. They may even want to eat yours instead. You should count yourself lucky she didn’t bring a friend who did the same thing and expected you to pay.
Men face it every day. She doesn’t deserve it. Neither do men. I have seen rejection delivered to men in the most vicious manner often. If we could all be more kind to one another.
@patrickmoran687 I agree completely. That's why, even if I don't like a woman at first site I try to be kind enough to have the date with her anyway. Who knows? she could give me good energy and grow on me, becoming more appealing in the process. A first look doesn't always have to doom a potential connection! 💯
There is a danger for him because she knows where he lives, and she could accuse him of all kinds of things based on knowing his address which will strengthen her assertions. He may have handled the situation with class and professionalism, but she can twist the who episode if she so chooses.
I understand what you mean, but let's not give her any ideas! But, honestly, I don't get that vibe from her. I hope that you're wrong, but in today's world, you can never be certain! 💯 😔
If I ask a woman out on a date, I'd prefer she be respectful with me. If she says yes, at least give me a chance to know me a little first. If no, at least tell me you don't want the date -RESPECTFULLY.
@matthewforte5341 I appreciate your ability to recognize that the woman is kind and hopefully you recognize that the man was kind enough not to waist her time! 💯
If you mean a see of rejected men, I couldn't agree more. And, let's be honest, for most women with that mountain of broken hearts, there are SEVERAL that, had she taken that particular guy, he would have moved mountains to make her happy. Women don't know how to identify those kinds of guys and that's their biggest obstacle! 💯
I am one of those men that has been rejected in the most brutal way imaginable. Ofcourse that hurts but it also means that i will never ever help a woman if she needs it or if she is in danger. I will rather bring the popcorn and see if she survives or not.
@@Thomas-st1gn I stopped to help a young woman with a flat tire and walked her thought the steps. Then I asked her for $20 as a joke. This was before cell phones. I taught her a life lesson her father or Uncle should have taught her.
100s... 1000s... unknown. after a while guys just give up and have nothing to do with the female. IT is just not worth the hassle of pay pay pay pay pay pay pay for nothing
Could not agree more but I do have a but. If she purposely hide her appearance from this man and he agreed to the date under false pretenses then it is on her for not being transparent. She still doesn’t deserve to be treated with disrespect. From her account of the situation the man wasn’t disrespectful. He asked her to come outside so not to reject her in a public setting and he said I’m sorry I’m just not feeling it. Most women on the other hand love to try and humiliate men in the most public setting for the most attention they can get. That’s why men are being mean and not compassionate for her. I definitely disagree with doing that but I certainly understand why.
I would STILL like to hear if the guys version of events have any variation. We only have one perspective on the story, and we can't 100% guarantee there isn't some bias in it. I'm just pointing out that most women tend to skew things in their favor, and unless we hear the guys version is exactly the same, we don't know that she isn't doing it too. PS. I like the decorative signage, I have a home made one that says "DON'T WEEP FOR THE STUPID ELSE YOU'LL CRY ALL DAY".
Very well said sir. I would never be mean to anyone like this young lady despite how bad Ive been treated in the past. My heart goes out to her she seems very nice.
I feel bad for her, but at least the guy was honest from the beginning. If the situation were reversed, a woman would have eaten the free dinner, not taken the guys calls later, and talked smack about him to her friends or on social media. That’s the difference, this guy probably hasn’t said anything to anyone after about this.
I agree. Nobody likes rejection, though guys deal with it all the time, not taking anything away from her experience. Like you said, Dan, it's better that he was honest with her rather than lead her on and waste both of their time. I dealt with rejection for most of my life and yeah, I'm pretty sure most of walked around with a chip on our shoulders feeling entitled to one's affections. It took me years to understand that attraction is not only subjective but can't be forced. I found someone eventually and now engaged.
No I'm not surprised by your reaction... it's why I stay subbed. No need to hate on her but sadly one should expect backlash for uploading a video like the one she did.
I agree that rejection is tough, but it's essential for learning how to succeed. It should be approached with grace to create a teachable moment. In the case of the girl in the video, she should reflect on what she can learn from the experience. Kudos to the guy for being honest and handling the situation with class.
Men who reject women leave it at that. Women increasingly are not content to reject, they have to ruin his life by complaining to HR or putting him on blast on tiktok.
that is the way it normally goes.... $100 as she enjoys the "date" (free meal and drinks) and then... OH THERE IS ROMEO... i got to talk to him, bye. and off she goes to give romeo a hummer in the parking lot
She got rejected.....okay. Memo to her: that's life & we (men) get rejected everytime. Welcome to the real world, ladies. Double Standards are beyond tiresome.
I totally agree with you. Just as I think it is first class of a woman to decline a date in a kind way, you can also treat a woman YOU have asked out to a nice time. It is the equivalent of asking someone to dinner as host and then telling them to leave when they show up. I will never forget the kindness of a girl I asked out in high school that turned me down but told me how kind it was of me to ask and that she appreciated me asking. Women have lost this.
Years ago, I had a fat, doe-eyed girlfriend for a while who looked something like her. Didn't work out, but that had nothing to do with her appearance. Sometimes the attraction's there. Sometimes it's not.
If we men want to be treated with respect and dignity by women during the dating process then we absolutely have to consistently act in a positive way ourselves. There's a lot of emotionally childish idiots on here who are giving it the "yeah she deserved it" bs, but then all we are then doing is stooping to the sh1t levels that many women have gone down to in their rejection of men. When going out there and being part of the dating pool rejection comes with the territory and some are better at doing the rejecting than others. We will never teach others how to handle ourselves with respect if we're busy being a**holes to those who are not being a**holes to us. Us guys need to hold ourselves to higher standards when being rejected otherwise we are no better than the women who have no idea how to reject a guy in a dignified way.
I think the guy here turned her down in as respectful a manner as possible. He was honest to her from the beginning. And the Ladies need to understand, this is what we men face on a regular basis. And to be honest, men face rejections far more disrespectfully than this. But then the flip side is, its the men who later become mentally stronger in life. They are able to take such rejections again and again and not be mentally or emotionally affected by it. They are able to move ahead inspite of all failures and come out stronger than ever. This is what gives a man his inner strength. Ladies on the other hand are used to having their way most of the times. So when they face rejection, they are devastated and clueless as to how to deal with it. So usually they are NOT as mentally and emotionally strong as a man.
rejection sucks for all, so I feel for her. But i must admit I am not sure if its better to end fast, and save time; or, the time spent 'pays' for all the work one puts in. even if it ends badly. Thanks for the vid.
I've rejected plenty of women, but there are no insults or putdowns. Just a polite no thank you. Women need to do better in rejecting men they don't desire!
Sir, that's the exact approach I would have taken, even if I wasn't interested. In fact, I have done that several times, again, even though I wasn't interested. If she can put forth effort and show up, I can give her time to not feel like she wasted it. 👍
The way I see it, this guy was in a no win situation. If he had continued with the date, he would’ve been blamed for leading her on. Since he stopped the date upon meeting her, it gave this woman a reason to complain about him online and get her sympathy likes in, from her “community”. He was screwed right from the start.
If women can't handle rejections with dating. How about rejections applying for work, a home, a bank loan and other unrelated things. Does all of it get cried over on TikTok.
As a man, treat other people the way you want to be treated. I think what the guy did to her was BS, first of all NEVER go on a "date" not having seen this person or at least a photo. That's just asking for it. And yes, I've been rejected just like all other men, but it doesn't give me the right to treat someone else bad.
There were only 3 women in my life before I married. Two were ++sizes. I'd had constant rejection in school from age 9. The other was a lovely trim blonde, but could not really comprehend the devastation of parental rejection. She never could connect the dots between those days of sadness and being turned out to the world before majority age. I just wasn't good enough for her. The irony about her is she ended up working with impaired children which has me wondering if she really learned empathy over the intervening years.
That's why people should go on coffee dates instead of going for a meal. Then the guy could have at least had a coffee with her and then break the news. It would have been kinder.
I do feel sorry for her but it's way worse for men because men would have had to drop $100-$200 on the meal then the woman would let the man know she wasn't feeling it via text an hour later.
She puts her L's on social media. That's enough to walk away. There's two sides to every story. She is telling one. He did the right thing. Was respectful. This shouldn't even be a topic of discussion. But she's airing her laundry on social media.
Rejection sucks? Wow, who knew! Enjoy that bit of equality, ladies.
im sure if it was chad she would have chased him out to his car and at least a bj before he got away. the rest of us.... free meal and get a free hand shake.
I agree we all need to treat each other with kindness, however I am positive there is a lot more to her story other than what she posted.
We want equality.....wait not like that!!!!
Now they can find out what constant rejection feels like, because that the reality for most men. Most men, but the "Top Tier" men they only have eyes for.
Now she and others who feel bad for her know what we go through for trying to approach them.
The guy was honest with her, not wasting either of their time. That's a good thing.
Women would take the free dinner and then reject the guy
what is weird to me that he first inbited her inside just to tell her one second later to leave again. why invite her inside in the first place? either reject her right at the doorstep or invite her in and see where the evening is taking you.
@@t.kersten7695he's doing what all these sluts have done to the good men over the last many decades. Good for him for wasting her time. We need to 'normalize' men denying females time, attention, space, affection, and so on, so forth. They don't deserve the comforts they don't work for, and the same comforts they force the men to uphold & maintain.
So once agian I'm glad this man wasted her time & energy.
@@mlb6d9 exactly
@@t.kersten7695he was trying to be nice and realized it wasn’t going to work out. He didn’t want a chubby - so he told her.
I put myself out there all the time and get rejected every single time. Men are actually extremely nice when it comes to rejecting women, where on the other hand women are extremely rude, mean, hurtful and cruel when it comes to rejecting men.
That's because women consider it a stab to their status whenever an unworthy man thinks he has a shot with her. It's a knee-jerk reaction, but that does not make it okay. Women need to do better.
@@gordongekko2781Men regard women humiliating them publicly for what it is, a personal attack.
As well as the majority of men! Unless they see you drive in with a Lambo or know about what you do possibly loaded with money! For some reason they fall in love at first sight!
I don't see why we have to reject others harshly. Take it easy and just put zero expectations upfront when approached or approaching.
What usually happened to me is the ole "No show" at the restaurant or they had someone come inside and check me out and then "no showed" either way...whatever, at least I did not have to feed them. Ladies, have some common courtesy and refuse the date if your not sure. I no longer bother dating but when I did I was always completely honest on my profile and posted photographs that were taken in the past 3 months. I get it that most women want the Chad types. I cannot help that I am 5ft 5 inches tall and not the dream date most women want but I am a good guy and had a good career until I retired. No worries, enjoy Chad and his games. Life is good being single without someone that could never be happy because of their unrealistic requirements.
She’s posted follow up videos. She admitted to being a plus sized woman and that her date was aware of that because she had full body pictures in her dating profile. We are only getting her side of the story, but my guess is that when he found out that she has a TikTok page and that she was going to post about their date, he decided that didn’t work for him. He handled it graciously.
It would seem that having a TikTok page is the 21st century equivalent of an STD was in the 20th. It should be a precursor to even agreeing to a date that each party signs an NDA. It's a sad state of affairs that you need a lawyer to date someone and protect your reputation.
Good take I did not think of that.
Yeah I’m
Going to skip the girl that details every little thing about her life on social media. I’m a private guy so that type of setup will never fly
It’s a choice to plus size but many women prefer a guy who’s in shape over 6 ft tall with his own place and car ,she’s making the video so guys can pander to her
@@markh.7650 not really "equivalent", it may be worse. An STD can be cured (depending)... but a Tik Tok ( or OnlyFans) page will be around for ever. Its a shame these young women don't understand this, and worse, those that do understand it don't educate their fellow females. Instead they tell them "you-go-girl".
Man rejecting a woman "I want to break up". Woman rejecting a man "I'm calling the cops".
just the E ticked to JAIL... NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO nothing is worth that... NOTHING
Women: Lizzo is beautiful
Men: You look like Lizzo
Women: How dare you!
I’ve heard some true statements before but THAT?! Couldn’t be further from it.
I have rejected women on first sight.
I have gotten tired of wasting my time and money on women who are never going to be a good fit for me.
WOW ROMEO? must be nice. the rest of us just end up paying for a free meal for her to listen how wonderful her kids and THE GRANDKIDS ARE... total waste of time and money. the time we have.... the money... might as well just burn it. total waste.
Or wasting your time and money on women who don't think you're a good fit for them, but have no problem going through the motions and letting you pay for their drinks and food.
Don’t pay full price ever
@@NONAME-kw3pu there’s a dating coach I heard the other night say that the best way a guy can interest or attract a woman is by asking her questions and listening to what she has to say .. the coach said the guy should not talk about himself much at all. I’m
Sitting there like “I’m not going to sit there and listen to a woman endlessly talk about her life”.. I mean, if the first few convos we have are not going to be good back and forth conversations between adults then I’m not going to bother
Especially when she shows up 30 lbs fatter and no filters like her profile 😆
women often turn men down by marrying them and then revealing after 10 years that she just wanted a house
Boom!
Exactly!
That was my wife after 7 years of marriage.
Lucky for me they had their house before I met them.😅😅
And babies. And status.
Two words " double standards" , nobody likes rejection and the guy let her down gently.
How many free meals has she eaten knowing she wasn't feeling it at all?
Great minds think alike...that was the first thought that went through my head. He also saved himself a few bucks since we know there was no way she was ever going to offer to contribute to the bill.
TOTALLY... total waste of time and money.
Women need to understand that being overweight is about as unattractive to men as a 34 year old guy that plays videogames all day is to women.
A lot, apparently, is the answer.
She likes meals. A lot!
Yeah, the only thing I can critique about her is the choice she made to make her personal moment of vulnerability public.
Women use social media like their personal diary and while plenty of it can be hilarious or baffling. This one is just sad.
Agreed.
I think it's less about being a diary and more about getting attention and validation.
Remember when a diary was kept under lock and key? Good times.
I'm fresh out of compassion. Past actions, meet present consequences.
Unless it's Chad, men generally let women down easy.
the rest of us end up buying her a free dinner and she might give us a firm handshake and thanks for dinner (end of story). pointless waste of Money
Or tyrone
He was honest for her... Rather than getting her hopes up
she is not skinny... that is the end of that story. if she is not a 5 or better.... then he is walking. u go romeo... go romeo... go romeo.
i really like that u try to be fair and try to be empathic to both men and women.
Are women fair and empathetic to men?
A woman would have tolerated the man paying for the meal or date, THEN would reject him.
“She put herself out there”
Really? Sounds more like she catfished this guy then played victim
Wasn't a catfish. The pictures on her profile made it obvious that she was big-backed.
Though possible, I do not see any evidence of that. It seems likely it was her appearance she was rejected for so it might be that all her online pictures are bust shots and she is a bit chubby below that. I am guessing, but that would not count as catfishing...well I mean depending on how edited and selective her photos are.
Fatfish*
I'm the 85th thumbs up. Those red cheeks are a turn off for me. Almost clownish.
I appreciate you, man. Cruelty doesn’t ever make things better. We’ve got to keep a level head, thanks for this.
Totally agree with your views. Treat people with kindness and respect. If you don't get that in return, that is a bad reflection on them, not you.
One more thing. I'd rather would have been let down in rejection than to be flaked on. I had numerous times where the woman never showed up leaving me sitting there where we agreed to meet at.
saved u money. so that is good.
Been there when I was in high school back in the 80's. Never again.
It’s awful. Women in the church do it all the time.
men get rejected all the time, but we don't post it publicly. we take the L and go on with our lives
I’m in a wheelchair and I’ve been rejected, made fun of, insulted by being told what would I be useful for other than a handicapped spot. These were women. So it doesn’t feel good.
A lot of time women do this to themselves by putting old pics on dating apps. The guy shows up and feels like it's a bait and switch. This guy handled it kindly and with class.
I read a story on this, when it broke. The w0man admitted she was plus-sized, and she put up *recent,* full-body pictures in her profile. And, she talked with the guy on the phone at least once. And, I think discussed him being okay with dating a "bigger w0man."
3 words for instant wonan reject: I am poor
THAT WILL DO IT... she is driving the NEW 4 WHEEL DRIVE TRUCK that her ex is paying for. we are driving 10 yr old generic car complete with faded paint
'wanna go dutch?' is also 3 words, and is repellent to girls.
When any salesman or religious recruiter approaches me, I always say "I don't have any money." The religious recruiter ALWAYS makes the second try "that doesn't matter." But since I don't turn around and reengage, they accept the no-sale and give up.
She seems like a nice person. I too want to say I am sorry that happened to her but at least I think the guy was honest and diplomatic about it.
Rejection sucks,but this guy did it in the most humble manner. And i myself have no issiue with the fact she is a plus sized girl. But i do have an issiue with putting every little thing all over social media and TikTok. That dude was honest and prevented that she was even more hurt in the future
Rejections suck but get use to it
Some comedian (can’t remember who) did a bit about how dating for fat chicks is basically the same as dating for guys 😆
when are u going to learn to have NOTHING to do with it... til u get the dinero to go to philippines/thailand/costa rica. u are going to PAY FOR IT no matter what but at least in the other countries u get what u pay for.
I'm the 50th thumbs up. Try your own rejecting once in awhile. Not to be vicious and/or vengeful. If out to dinner and not feeling it before you order make it clear you're each paying for your own meal. Hopefully you didn't pick her up and stay and enjoy a meal and engage the waitress asking her what she would order and such.
Toxic lmfao
I got setup on a blind date with a very obese woman that I was very not interested in,I was polite to her and still took her out to dinner but in the conversation found out she was in a open marriage and I told her I could not be involved and that was the end.
All the while agreeing with your analysis on female accountability or lack thereof, I appreciate your call for a truce between the sexes.
I'm all for collecting data and calling a spade a spade. If generally speaking women (or men) are more inclined towards certain behaviors, well that's just what we need to constructively and realistically work on. The anger-fueled insults and put-downs on the other hand are counter-productive.
This message deserves its place in the manosphere.
I was rejected so badly by a woman once. I didnt talk to women for 7 years after that. I never forgot it and never will. I will Never forget.
You should have grown a set a few days after that. That's pathetic.
All I have had is rejection and it never gets easier. I’m done trying with everyone. No one wants me around. Not even my family. I have nowhere to turn.
@@davidpeterson8424 Never let them get you down. You are just as valued and important as ANYONE else...take care, keep on your course and make your life great!!
Don't be too hard on yourself. You must have some redeeming features. Work on yourself, read,find an interest, join a hiking group,travel a bit ,learn a language, learn to cook. Make yourself an interesting person that people want to engage with and don't dwell on the past.😊
Sounds like me.
Seems like you have issues. Try self reflection and honesty.
@@davidpeterson8424 You have many places to turn to, just your vision is clouded at the moment. Work on your vision first, then with clarity persist on your path. It's hard, bro, I know. But you owe to yourself.
todays women are weird, met 1 in some cafe last week, she wanted a wine, so ok, i gave her 1 , then she wanted to dance, but the weird thing is she kept me 1 meter apart LOL, i told her coronatimes r over, & also the free wines r over, then she starts babbe ling that all men r the same HAHAHA, I'm single 6 years now, i dont need a woman like that. Anyway sir, keep your videos coming, they r needed to open up the minds of some men that r still dumb simps
u didnt spend $100 on her? and THEN OH THERE IS ROMEO!!!! I GOT TO GO TALK TO ROMEO... BYE and there goes $100... might as well burn the MONEY. pointless waste of time.
Exactly right. Do not mistreat or take pleasure in the mistreatment of others. That only cheapens and harms those that engage in such nonsense. We all should be doing better. Social media is entirely unsocial and has let far too many get comfortable with saying and acting in ways that would rightly get them punched in the pre-internet world. We need to return to that, not for the violence but for the simple preservation of respect for others.
It`s more important that a man rejects a woman early in a date since it`s the man that ends up paying the bill.
Reminds me of a bad dating app date. We agreed to meet at a fine sports club for lunch. Four different restaurants inside. I lived 45 minutes away from the club. She, just around the corner from the club less than 5 minutes away. We agreed to meet at the club's reception at 11am. I was there 10 minutes early waiting at reception. No show at 11. Still waiting at 11-30 I called her. "Oh, I'm still at home. i was waiting for you to get there first. I'll be there in 20 minutes." But you are only five minutes away. "I am but I have a couple of things to do first. See you soon." LOL No she didn't.
Call me uncultured but what's a "fine sports club"? 🤔
@@joemachine4714 Usually a golf and tennis club with memberships but have limited hours for non member dining.
I'm 66, a lifelong bachelor, not for lack of good faith and concerted effort when I was a younger man, so it is what it is. Still above ground and breathing.
I've lost track of all these very type of dusty women who rejected me and slapped me down with absolute impunity back in the day.
Sweet for sweet. Welcome to my world young lady. God's justice be done.
TOTALLY!!! i gave up along long time ago. just the E ticked to the poor house/jail with the amerikan liberated witch. nothing is worth that... NOTHING!!!
I quit putting myself out there when I was 24. For reference, I'm 68.
AMEN
It’s crazy how just refusing to even interact with them in public is enough justification for complete strangers to try and destroy your life 😂
When i was trying to date, i would always thank them for doing me a big favour by saying no and not wasting my time .
You have some very good points. I too feel for her. The sad thing about social media, (including TH-cam), is that it brings the worst out of people. We should all try to do better.
You know she catfished him. Her pics almost certainly had her thinner and without gray hair.
The low twisted angle thing. Seen that.
Bassfz did a video on this
She's rejected her fair share of men, so while I will not hate on her, I also don't feel particularly sorry for her
It just is what it is
At least she didn't get the sort of nuclear rejection a lot of guys get
Men: when rejecting a woman, do as what I think this guy did: let them down as gently as possible. This will do two things:
1) It will show women by example how to reject. Perhaps some women will pick up on this and call out other women to stop being rude about it.
2) You are depriving women of more ammunition. I know, it won't make that much difference, because they'll always find something to nag about. But some of the rejected women may value and learn from this. It starts with small gestures on our part.
Remember, we're MEN! Don't be like women who are rude.
I used the phrase, "I'm flattered and appreciate your approach, but I'm just not interested." Said with a smile and as politely as possible.
In other words, The Golden Rule: Do as you would have done to you.
I didn’t feel sorry for her and, yes, she does deserve it. “The worst thing he can say is ‘no’.”
Simply put. Shit happens. Okay. Now, pick yourself up, square your shoulders, hold your head up, and continue with your life.
It's harsh. Yes. But life is harsh and unforgiving.
this so callled "life" is a joke for many... most ppl. just do our time til we get our "final reward".
My dentist was female and a dancer. I am a dancer. We made arrangements to meet at a night club for dancing. She was way late and I concluded that she was not coming. So, I went home. She did come late and related that she had asked two men to dance and had been refused. She said that she had never understood rejection like that and wondered how men could tolerate it. I responded that it comes with the territory.
I have been on dates and known that there would never be a second date, but insisted that I continue to be gracious on that first date. I listen and learn, even on a "bad date". If you want to be abrupt, that is your choice.
You all need a funny date story. I made a dinner date before walking down the street and doing Argentine tango. The woman ordered a glass of wine with dinner. That is unusual for a dancer. The drink sat, untouched during dinner. I made no comment. The drink was still standing there on the table when the dishes had been cleared and we were leaving. Not angry. Just grateful that I had missed a bullet.
I would have had the drink and asked for split checks.
Broad brush stroke here, but my experience with Latin American women is that they will order the most expensive drink and meal on the menu, even if they have no idea what it is, and then leave it sitting untouched if they don’t like it. They may even want to eat yours instead. You should count yourself lucky she didn’t bring a friend who did the same thing and expected you to pay.
Men face it every day. She doesn’t deserve it. Neither do men. I have seen rejection delivered to men in the most vicious manner often. If we could all be more kind to one another.
@patrickmoran687 I agree completely. That's why, even if I don't like a woman at first site I try to be kind enough to have the date with her anyway. Who knows? she could give me good energy and grow on me, becoming more appealing in the process. A first look doesn't always have to doom a potential connection! 💯
There is a danger for him because she knows where he lives, and she could accuse him of all kinds of things based on knowing his address which will strengthen her assertions. He may have handled the situation with class and professionalism, but she can twist the who episode if she so chooses.
I understand what you mean, but let's not give her any ideas! But, honestly, I don't get that vibe from her. I hope that you're wrong, but in today's world, you can never be certain! 💯 😔
Let the bears date them.
Yeah, and "bears" are usually gay.
I'm the 20th thumbs up. Becoming a common response and first thought with men these days.
If I ask a woman out on a date, I'd prefer she be respectful with me. If she says yes, at least give me a chance to know me a little first. If no, at least tell me you don't want the date -RESPECTFULLY.
I agree. We ought not be cruel to kind people of any sort.
@matthewforte5341 I appreciate your ability to recognize that the woman is kind and hopefully you recognize that the man was kind enough not to waist her time! 💯
Best dad made background ever!
Remember that guys ...behind woman there are a mountain of broken hearts..!..
If you mean a see of rejected men, I couldn't agree more. And, let's be honest, for most women with that mountain of broken hearts, there are SEVERAL that, had she taken that particular guy, he would have moved mountains to make her happy. Women don't know how to identify those kinds of guys and that's their biggest obstacle! 💯
He did exactly what women do to men but it a much more respectful way. Women hate any man who is actually decent and respectful and not subservient.
Yeah, but how many men has she done that to, but waited until they had coughed up for an expensive meal before telling them?
Looks like that has happened far too often.
I am one of those men that has been rejected in the most brutal way imaginable.
Ofcourse that hurts but it also means that i will never ever help a woman if she needs it or if she is in danger.
I will rather bring the popcorn and see if she survives or not.
It's up to you how you handle/behave in those situations. I'm not the biggest "fan" of our female fellows, but I will do otherwise.
@@Thomas-st1gn I stopped to help a young woman with a flat tire and walked her thought the steps. Then I asked her for $20 as a joke. This was before cell phones. I taught her a life lesson her father or Uncle should have taught her.
Thank you for your appeal for kindness. There is always the one who needs to take the first step.
Women physically mature before men but that’s it, that’s as far as their maturity ever goes. Men continue to mature, or at least try to.
It's become apparent that men continue to mature mentally while women get stuck at 16-18 years old. Not ready for accountability.
How many guys did she reject? Way more than her getting rejected!
100s... 1000s... unknown. after a while guys just give up and have nothing to do with the female. IT is just not worth the hassle of pay pay pay pay pay pay pay for nothing
Could not agree more but I do have a but. If she purposely hide her appearance from this man and he agreed to the date under false pretenses then it is on her for not being transparent. She still doesn’t deserve to be treated with disrespect. From her account of the situation the man wasn’t disrespectful. He asked her to come outside so not to reject her in a public setting and he said I’m sorry I’m just not feeling it. Most women on the other hand love to try and humiliate men in the most public setting for the most attention they can get. That’s why men are being mean and not compassionate for her. I definitely disagree with doing that but I certainly understand why.
Yeah, her profile picture might have been "outdated" (before she started getting all those free meals).
I would STILL like to hear if the guys version of events have any variation. We only have one perspective on the story, and we can't 100% guarantee there isn't some bias in it. I'm just pointing out that most women tend to skew things in their favor, and unless we hear the guys version is exactly the same, we don't know that she isn't doing it too.
PS. I like the decorative signage, I have a home made one that says "DON'T WEEP FOR THE STUPID ELSE YOU'LL CRY ALL DAY".
Very well said sir. I would never be mean to anyone like this young lady despite how bad Ive been treated in the past. My heart goes out to her she seems very nice.
Young? The lady has more gray hairs than my mother.
Good video sir, right on point. Perfect way to handle this, and I too feel for her.
I appreciate that
I feel bad for her, but at least the guy was honest from the beginning. If the situation were reversed, a woman would have eaten the free dinner, not taken the guys calls later, and talked smack about him to her friends or on social media. That’s the difference, this guy probably hasn’t said anything to anyone after about this.
I agree. Nobody likes rejection, though guys deal with it all the time, not taking anything away from her experience. Like you said, Dan, it's better that he was honest with her rather than lead her on and waste both of their time. I dealt with rejection for most of my life and yeah, I'm pretty sure most of walked around with a chip on our shoulders feeling entitled to one's affections. It took me years to understand that attraction is not only subjective but can't be forced. I found someone eventually and now engaged.
I appreciate that you can see both sides.
No I'm not surprised by your reaction... it's why I stay subbed. No need to hate on her but sadly one should expect backlash for uploading a video like the one she did.
Exactly. With men its "grow a set" What's the advice for women? Loose a few?
I agree that rejection is tough, but it's essential for learning how to succeed. It should be approached with grace to create a teachable moment. In the case of the girl in the video, she should reflect on what she can learn from the experience. Kudos to the guy for being honest and handling the situation with class.
Perfect response. He nailed it yet again. This guy is great!
Men who reject women leave it at that. Women increasingly are not content to reject, they have to ruin his life by complaining to HR or putting him on blast on tiktok.
"He shouldn't have dumped her before the date. He should have spent lots and lots of money on her first!"
that is the way it normally goes.... $100 as she enjoys the "date" (free meal and drinks) and then... OH THERE IS ROMEO... i got to talk to him, bye. and off she goes to give romeo a hummer in the parking lot
Am I supposed to feel bad for her? He was nice enough to tell her upfront and not be rude about it. I’m willing to bet that she can’t do the same.
She isn’t ugly.
Feel bad that happened but yea I know how rejection feels.
She got rejected.....okay. Memo to her: that's life & we (men) get rejected everytime. Welcome to the real world, ladies. Double Standards are beyond tiresome.
Agree wholeheartedly!
Most people can dish it out but cant take it
Good for him.
I totally agree with you. Just as I think it is first class of a woman to decline a date in a kind way, you can also treat a woman YOU have asked out to a nice time. It is the equivalent of asking someone to dinner as host and then telling them to leave when they show up. I will never forget the kindness of a girl I asked out in high school that turned me down but told me how kind it was of me to ask and that she appreciated me asking. Women have lost this.
I have been rejected by women a few times in life that way. It is how it looks like now. No surprise that men started act the same way.
Years ago, I had a fat, doe-eyed girlfriend for a while who looked something like her. Didn't work out, but that had nothing to do with her appearance. Sometimes the attraction's there. Sometimes it's not.
If we men want to be treated with respect and dignity by women during the dating process then we absolutely have to consistently act in a positive way ourselves. There's a lot of emotionally childish idiots on here who are giving it the "yeah she deserved it" bs, but then all we are then doing is stooping to the sh1t levels that many women have gone down to in their rejection of men. When going out there and being part of the dating pool rejection comes with the territory and some are better at doing the rejecting than others.
We will never teach others how to handle ourselves with respect if we're busy being a**holes to those who are not being a**holes to us. Us guys need to hold ourselves to higher standards when being rejected otherwise we are no better than the women who have no idea how to reject a guy in a dignified way.
I think the guy here turned her down in as respectful a manner as possible. He was honest to her from the beginning. And the Ladies need to understand, this is what we men face on a regular basis. And to be honest, men face rejections far more disrespectfully than this. But then the flip side is, its the men
who later become mentally stronger in life. They are able to take such rejections again and again and not be mentally or emotionally affected by it.
They are able to move ahead inspite of all failures and come out stronger than ever. This is what gives a man his inner strength. Ladies on the other hand are used to having their way most of the times. So when they face rejection, they are devastated and clueless as to how to deal with it. So usually they are NOT as mentally and emotionally strong as a man.
rejection sucks for all, so I feel for her. But i must admit I am not sure if its better to end fast, and save time; or, the time spent 'pays' for all the work one puts in. even if it ends badly. Thanks for the vid.
Ladies, welcome to the club. At least he was honest with her.
This "horrible" experience that she had is just another day at the office for most men.
I've rejected plenty of women, but there are no insults or putdowns. Just a polite no thank you. Women need to do better in rejecting men they don't desire!
I would have, at least, had dinner with her, just as a courtesy. She made the effort to get ready and show up so why not spend a few hours with her?
Sir, that's the exact approach I would have taken, even if I wasn't interested. In fact, I have done that several times, again, even though I wasn't interested. If she can put forth effort and show up, I can give her time to not feel like she wasted it. 👍
She looks and appears like a great girl
I love the fact she looks after her image
Keep going girl
The way I see it, this guy was in a no win situation. If he had continued with the date, he would’ve been blamed for leading her on. Since he stopped the date upon meeting her, it gave this woman a reason to complain about him online and get her sympathy likes in, from her “community”. He was screwed right from the start.
Completely agree with this take.
If women can't handle rejections with dating. How about rejections applying for work, a home, a bank loan and other unrelated things. Does all of it get cried over on TikTok.
Excellent points.
Thanks!
Well said, sir! All of it, thank you.
Very welcome
Well said.
As a man, treat other people the way you want to be treated. I think what the guy did to her was BS, first of all NEVER go on a "date" not having seen this person or at least a photo. That's just asking for it. And yes, I've been rejected just like all other men, but it doesn't give me the right to treat someone else bad.
I do think her date was wrong and showed a lack of class for not continuing the date because he was disappointed by her appearance ?
There were only 3 women in my life before I married. Two were ++sizes. I'd had constant rejection in school from age 9. The other was a lovely trim blonde, but could not really comprehend the devastation of parental rejection. She never could connect the dots between those days of sadness and being turned out to the world before majority age. I just wasn't good enough for her. The irony about her is she ended up working with impaired children which has me wondering if she really learned empathy over the intervening years.
Good commentary as usual.
Glad you enjoyed it
That's why people should go on coffee dates instead of going for a meal. Then the guy could have at least had a coffee with her and then break the news. It would have been kinder.
and save $$$$
Right. Don’t spend money on any woman who isn’t interested in you and vice-versa.
but why does he owe a stranger anything?
How do we know she didn't have a horrible attitude when he met her? Would you stay and tolerate someone who was an insufferable cunt? I sure wouldn't.
I do feel sorry for her but it's way worse for men because men would have had to drop $100-$200 on the meal then the woman would let the man know she wasn't feeling it via text an hour later.
I think we've all experienced that more often than we care to admit.
Thanks for your good advice.
My pleasure!
She puts her L's on social media. That's enough to walk away.
There's two sides to every story. She is telling one.
He did the right thing. Was respectful. This shouldn't even be a topic of discussion. But she's airing her laundry on social media.