Self-destructive thoughts. My mind keeps telling me negative things & I am trying my best to remind myself I am not my thoughts & I am deserving of great things happening to me
“When we spend too much time in this era we actually end up causing more suffering” OOF!! Hot take but I completely understand where you’re coming from! Definitely keeping this in mind in the new year 🙏🏽
This is what I needed. I've been in the healing journey for almost 3 years now. I'm scared to interact with new people..I've been off on socials for 2years now and what I've learned this year is.."healing never ends" be kind to yourself you only live once.😊
I needed to hear this ❤ Life can't be 1 long healing journey. Too much "I wanna fix this, I wanna fix that" ends up feeling like a never ending uphill battle.
I was saying this just a few days ago. I realize that this healing process is never ending, so I made the decision to start dating again and put myself out there to experience life and love again. It's been 5+ years. I'm over it. Did therapy, and everything you can think of. Love the video!
honestly i HATE people that say "heal first" when it comes to relationships.... okay so then what? date when I'm dead? like you said healing is a never ending process
I felt it when you said we don’t need to deal with our healing work all at once. Sometimes we get so consumed and self sabotage ourselves as to why we aren’t letting things go all at the same time instead of giving ourselves time to heal
I used to let my “healing” journey completely detach me from life to the point where I didn’t want to date anymore or go out or experience new things until I was mentally healed. Healing doesn’t mean you still don’t deserve love, friendships, and other things in life. People who are truly there for you will go along the journey with you, you have to do the work for yourself but you don’t have to do it alone or shun yourself from the world until your “fixed.” I had to realize this this year.
“You don’t need to do all of your healing work all at once. Heal in layers, heal in phases, heal in chapters. Chronic self improvement. Living your life & healing can happen simultaneously”🤍🤍🤍
It’s good to take time away and focus on healing, but coming back to reality and the world is always good too. Wonderful message. This year I opened myself up to new friendships, and I finally made a friend in my area. I had no community in my town. And now I have a wonderful friend who has a daughter my daughter’s age! And we get along so well. I’m so grateful for allowing myself to be open to meeting a new friend. It took healing to get here, but I’m so proud of my progress! It’s important not to forget how far you’ve come!
@@clivematthews95 thank you!! Yes it’s amazing how I opened myself to the idea of a friend, and it just happened. Our daughters get along so well. They were instant best friends. And my friend is so honest and genuine. I feel lucky to have found her. It feels like we’re kindred spirits. Thank you for your comment. I wish you so much love and light on your journey, as well! Happy new year 💖✨
The timing of this video is insane! I've spent this entire year healing and I've accomplished so much, yet I'm still afraid to live life and put myself out there because I feel there's still so much work to be done. It's exhausting to feel like it never ends and I've been struggling with these feelings, especially this week
I feel exactly the same! Only i've been doing this for a few years, and still i think i'm not good enought yet, my rejection wound is not healed yet, it still triggers me, and there's no end to it.
@@C.m.129 I definitely think we need to be more compassionate with ourselves even if we aren't "there" yet. It is difficult. Also, the words "rejection wound" is quite interesting. I definitely think that plays a huge part
I’ve been chasing a healed life free for almost 7 years and honestly the more I chased it the more I realized that I was searching for answers that I’ll never get and I feel like this journey has kept me from experiencing life how I wanted to and I feel like I missed out on a lot. I convinced myself that something was wrong with me and I needed all kinds of help but I’m fine and I am doing the best that I can with the life that I was given. The healing journey will keep you stuck if you’re not strong enough to create your own path instead of trying to find the answer outside of yourself.💙
I also think the purpose behind your actions matter. Are you journaling/doing therapy/working on your limiting beliefs etc because you know these are good habits that empower you and help you create the life you desire OR are you journaling/therapy/etc because you think you have to be fixed in order to finally reach your dream life. Actions are the same but those two mentalities are different. And I agree that you have to go out, experience different things, meet and connect with others to have more “info” about yourself to continue this journey. Thank you for this video, Happy New Year ❤
Couldn't start off the new year with a better video! I was consuming so much "healing" content on Instagram - constantly saving posts, etc. - that I actually started to feel very burnt out from healing. I think in the Western world we often fall into the trap of conceptualizing healing through the lens of linear upwards progress (kind of like climbing the corporate ladder), but it's not like that at all.
honestly so true, people tend to rush for example getting over a break up and people tend to laugh at the ones that aren't over yet. Like why are you trying to rush? Who cares if you take a little more time to overcome the pain? It is your LIFE, dont get pressured to be okay all the time.
You just said everything that needed to be said. The fact is that people focus so much about the healing era they put themselves into pressure and completely forgot about the world out there
"YOU ARE SAFE WITH THE PARTS OF YOU THAT ARE BROKEN" Thank you sister in healing. So glad you decided to allow the universe,God, however you see it..to use your voice to speak to many broken people. Wishing you many blessings on your personal journey. I have absorbed this video and deeply appreciate the words.
i’m not looking to be fully healed, im definitely looking to start the process, unlearn the things that are actively hurting me that stem from deeper things. you will never stop hurting or healing, to live is to hurt and heal
Is true, I was so obsessed after starting the healing journey that I couldn't love myself now, in the present. I stopped this hunt and now I'm taking baby steps and feeling better about me, having more self compassion and giving myself time to practice what I already learned.
You are so wise and so correct about healing. Life is complicated and always gives good and bad experiences & not everything needs fixing. Some things are just an experience and nothing more. Plus our minds are ever changing. Things that made happy yesterday may not tomorrow and vis versa. At some point you just have to accept what has happened, accept self and move on from it.
This video triggered the mess out of me, but in a good way. I've isolated myself while trying to heal because I want to come back "anew" but I'm allowing myself more grace after this video ✨
My favourite part is when someone is doing the “healing” and justifies everything as being part of the process and gaslights everyone else for not being in the process, like they are better because they doing the “healing” and you are not. I am not saying to avoid it, but not everything needs healing, some part of us just want to be accepted as they are to live a more peaceful life and not being at war with ourselves trying to fix every aspect of ourselves.
so true. all this "healing era : how to become the woman you want to be" is low key toxic cause like it says to change every single thing about you. how about we live and we learn how to feel better about ourselves by experiencing and just thinking about how you can get better at everything without having to become litterally another person
I have really struggled in 2022 and I’ve been focusing on healing but didn’t feel like I was making progress. This video was a breakthrough! I love the message that we can just love our broken selves and that the purpose of life is the journey of healing and not the destination. I felt like a weight was lifted from my shoulders with the realisation that I’m whole the way I am with all my traumas and issues but can focus on healing and the journey. I don’t need to be fixed “right now” and then move on to other things. Maybe that’s just the purpose of life. Bringing joy and healing to ourselves and others. Learning about ourselves and others and loving ourselves and others through the process. Loved this - such a great message!
Thank you so much I been dealing with a lot of trying to fix myself all at once that I have been self harming more than usual and I can't enjoy in a good moment with thinking about the bad things that going to happen but you help to understand that healing can just be baby step and it doesn't have to be over night
An eye and mind-opening video. It's all about self-acceptance without time limit. We're humans, we live and learn, thus healing is part of learning. That means it's a never-ending journey, we heal while we ride and it is always patient. I myself been on hermit mode throughout 2022 and although I was focused on myself, I was also neglecting myself in terms of being social and belongingness, so it felt incomplete. One year was somehow enough for it and I don't want to be stuck in that hole of "healing". Going in 2023 I taught myself to be out in the open again, slowly but surely...and eventually my layers will be peeled as life goes on. Thank you for this!
An ILLUSION!! There's almost this I need to be fixed and 'working' on myself culture & a lot of us need to ask "is there even a problem?". (((We're bringing work habits into the healing space))) When we strive for perfection we totally invalidate our experiences and overlook the 'why' behind everything.
This is the best and most helpful TH-cam video I have found along this nearly 10 year healing journey/obsession. Instead of running from the pain, I just need to be with it, then it softens.
This came at the right time for me too! Been on this journey for 3 yrs and it’s like my overachiever tendencies just got transferred to the healing space. I see all the progress I made but still don’t feel satisfied. The theme of *impatience* was a biiiig one this week, needing everything to be done now so I deserve/get the things I want. We are whole *now*, even if still broken. Bless you for this reminder ❤❤
I don't comment often but this video came at such a perfect timing! I needed to hear the fact that this healing and self reflecting journey truly has no end, and that we will always have some imperfections. Thank you for making this video, it gave me clarity on where this path continues ❤️
i truly feel like the universe showed me this video bc i have felt so exhausted for a few days and this is the reason but i couldn’t see that until watching this :)
I don't know what it is but this video showed up literally as I realized this a few days ago. As a young person, I'm thankful to have someone to look to for some good life advice. Thank you so much
I SO NEEDED to hear this! It's been years that I've lived with pointing out part of myself that I need to fix first or heal first and until I fix it I'm not going to be able to do this or that. And it robbed me of many opportunities, dreams and achievements. Because everytime I decided to ignore it and said so what it's there but I can do this anyway, I've done amazing things! Sometimes the "end" to the healing is simply just ACCEPTANCE. Because some things, people, circumstances, experiences we can't ever change or rewrite. So the best way to heal ourselves or our response is just to accept it with compassion for what it is and let it go and move forward. ACCEPTANCE, ACCEPTANCE, ACCEPTANCE. Thank you! 🙏🏻
This is such a good video topic bc when you get into self improvement you can fall down the rabbit hole of continually looking for more content and things to improve and it can become toxic. Bc it is like when ARE you good enough to present yourself to the world, there'll never really be an end to what needs fixing
I totally agree with what you’re saying. I decided to heal BUT I am putting into practice the type of life I want for myself. I’m focusing on fun, meeting new people, and traveling. We will be hurt often so we don’t have to stay on a healing journey away from everything we love. It’s punishing ourselves.
I discovered your channel this morning and OMG! I’ve watched so many videos like this and they were good but they don’t hit like the realness of yours… I’m glad on video 3 but this was exactly what I needed for the start to my year!
Note to self : onion, unfolding, patience, acceptance, forgiveness, being at peace with urself, fluidity and openness to life and change and imperfections. One day at a time. Mirrors are essential, u cannot just try to skip a couple levels to get your dream life "right now". The journey is essential but u shouldn't be forcing it to happen. Its a means to an end don't make it the end
I’ve been in this healing journey for almost 8 years im OVER it no matter how much I do to change for the better I will have issues present . I am going to live my life & learn to enjoy the life I have
Currently here and been here for a LONG time, definitely running away from the fact that I cannot fix everything that’s happened in the past and whatever challenges may arrive in the future. Thank you so much for this video you have no idea how grateful and SEEN I feel, Appreciate you. ❤
this is an awesome video! I know there’s no end point to healing, but I definitely got too obsessed with the journey this year to the point that I hardly did any living. I’ve internalized that I’m not good enough for anyone. I’m proud of the work I’ve done, but I’m looking forward to reaping more of the rewards this year and letting loose and actually talking to people! Whew!
ok thank you sooooo much for this. earlier in 2022 i started watching kinda spiritual esque youtubers and i felt like there was this exaggerated sense of “everything will be magical and perfect forever when you heal and are your highest self” and to a degree it can be almost magical once you’ve grown and healed but i felt it kind of set up a trap for me. as much as i have healed i don’t necessarily think it is down to solely me. I let go of constantly trying to heal/self develop and just lived my life and guess what, it helped me so much more than consuming all this stuff that’s gonna help me “heal”. don’t get me wrong it helped me figure out what i need to do for myself and increased my sense of self love but it can’t just fix everything by watching a video or meditating. it helps but constantly searching for that fix can get pretty toxic.
Timing is just incredible huh? The fact you posted this before the end of this year and close to the dawn of a new one. This is such an important topic you touched upon because yes! we definitely wonder when this healing will be ever done. just like many of the lovely people who've written here, i also had been on my healing journey for about 2-3 years and sometimes i feel so guilty wondering why on earth I am not healed yet. But like you said...its happening in layers and its continuous possibly till the end of our lives. Perhaps thats why its a journey and not getting to the destination aka being healed. You feel wiser or you feel more at peace yet there will always be more things to work on. But to be able to sit with all sides to you and love it. thats magical. So much to think about here. I am so glad you did this hun! Thank you. Apologies for the ramble hah. Much love to everyone here!
This is exactly what I am going through/realizing. I have been on this journey for a while now, and literally as I started to let go and let myself open up & live again the universe started bringing new friendships towards me & family members have been reaching out to reconnect. Thank you for this message ❤
This was really an amazing video , i feel like ive been taking my healing work to serious thinking that one day i'll be finally healed 100% . I have decieded to stop obsessing too much and actually live .
Your words are so touching and comforting. I’m definitely still in my healing era and definitely feeling like I’m not progressing much . I really needed this . Thank you !
I love this video ❤ this is the most realistic, logical, and simple way of making life easier . I love how you make everything so simple and easy to understand. ❤
You're amazing sis!!! What I've learned about this is that there's nothing like a "healed version". There's no end product of healing! It's a journey and we should absolutely enjoy every bit of the journey 😂 Thank you!
It's so interesting because we have been programmed to constantly be in a state of pursuit, left brain, masculine energy, but actually it is so much more rewarding to just be in the present moment- when we learn to be content in the generous present moment it is so gratifying, then comes the beautiful balance of both sides of the brain, being in alignment with the seasons, super magnetic - ahhh it's lovely- I still fall out of alignment I just try to remind myself to just be still and know that everything right now is fine and there is no other moment then now - beautiful gems per usual, love 💯🙏
I’ve only been following your channel for a short amount of time, but I wanted to share with you how much your videos have had a huge positive impact in my life. I’m a current senior in college, and many regard me as the ideal, first gen, low income college student. You can say I have it all: the scholarships, the leadership position at school, an amazing job offer lined up for me after graduation, but throughout college, I’ve been neglecting myself, engaged in toxic relationships, and self sabotaging habits. I’ve realized that I’ve been operating from of fear and anxiety. It’s time for me to nurture my inner child. Thank you for guiding me on the right path. 💕
I really thank you for this video. Thank you, thank you… I feel like my healing journey has been very painful, because I feel like all things I’m lacking in my life are because I’m unhealed. I also feel my singleness and lack of success is because I’m unhealed. All it’s done is made me feel that until I’m “healed” and perfect life will continue to not work out for me. All the self development books, podcast, TH-cam videos, therapy…. It’s become overwhelming and made me more depressed. I wasn’t getting to outcomes I wanted… I wanted to be skinnier, more attractive, be in a relationship and figured none it is coming because I’m unhealed. The pressure it caused not makes me feel resentful like having to chase perfection. I told myself the other day. I don’t want to work on myself anymore. I’m tired I just want to be. All this work and I don’t see women around me having to heal and they are acquiring the blessings I’ve desired.., anyway, that was a dark place I was in. I’m just taking one day at time.
fax girly people for get that its okay to hurt and be slow in some parts of life and its okay to not always be healing becuase if your always healing and growing and never let your self take a break and love were you are in life than are you really enjoying living at all. Becuase healing is draining regarldless of what your healing from so we haft to make sure we give our self time to fell deaply and to just exist in the place were we are and not worry about needing to heal or grow somtimes
The timing of this video could not be better. This is exactly what I needed to hear! This is so relevant for me. Thank you. I've been in this stuck mode for years now and this is not right. It's time to start living.
Your message is refreshing. It really helped me to hear this today. Thank you for speaking about this to those of us who use "healing" as just another way to punish ourselves and perpetuate the suffering.
Wow, this video really opened my eyes...I'm still healing from an important breakup and the pain that comes with it is really tiring. Sometimes I just want to give up and be numb but I know that this is not me. Most of the time I'm hard on myself, and I'm learning to be kind to myself and embrace everything.
In my poetry book (A Girls First Poetry: A Spiritual Journey) I write many poems about the healing journey and at the end of the book I say in large font: There Is No End. It’s true! How could there be an end ? Our life and breath keep going on always. There will be new problems to heal, etc. sometimes when you go on this journey you have to let the “end” be when you feel a bit better about the subject and try to just live your life. Just keep going. If you’re focusing on fixing it you’re still recognizing the problem as being there. Face the problem and move on from the fixing after a bit. Once I release the “healing” of it for a while, and ease into just living and breathing and doing, I look back and realize wow I did kinda heal from this! Do memories of pain and heartbreak still arise? Yes. Do I think of them? Yes. But it gets easier with time - and after healing and then releasing it I can let it go when it arises so much more easily. I can accept what happened with love and compassion for myself and others. I love your point that healing doesn’t have an end. But it’s not something we should focus on all the time. Just living and not thinking about all the details of HOW you’re living can be hard but this is where the final stage of healing is - in acceptance. Lots of love for your channel dude!
I always wanted to be an TH-camr but i was so insecure about myself and what people will say you inspired me so much I'm doing it for myself and i am perfect the way i am hopefully I'll start in 2023 Love you and I'm so grateful to you ❤️❤️
I remember in therapy when i told my behaviour and the why (trauma x) and asked what i should i do. Which option should i chose? When will it be finally over? She always said „I cant tell you that there is no right or wrong. There will be never be the end. I only can help how you deal with it and live your life“ Everytime i was so devastated. It broke me everytime. But that’s the truth we have to accept.
I've been having a thought about self improvement and healing, why can't we just be, why do we always have to be better, aren't we good enough? The thing is that life is not all about positivity, life or to say the world was never perfect, emotions are inevitable, irrationality is an instinct, rationality is learned but not forced. Rationality becomes a part of you once you stay aware. There are no wrongs or rights, wrongs and rights are only shared. preceptions. As she says, you never need to have anything done, you just think you need to.
I would be so interested to hear what you do when you find yourself having a bad day. Thank you for this content, I always learn something new from your framing! Much appreciated :)
I'm in self healing journey, and I try not to rush or think of "when will it end", but it's worth for my health. Your channel plays a big role, thank you so much and lots of love
Wow this video made so much sense. I understood everything you’ve said, I need to accept now. I need to love me now, I need to accept the now and accept that everyday might not be great and that’s okay. I need to accept that some things might bother me but I’ll eventually let go in due time. Thank you ❤
Two years ago a boy broke my heart in a very complicated way. I confessed my feelings but he didn't give me and answer in the moment and started to avoid me. I spent one year grieving, going from denial to crying and denying again and more crying. I was so confused and needed him to tell me what I did wrong. Ten months after the confession I finally got to talk to him, and he said he never liked me and didn't even want to be friends. I cried more, but for the first time I also felt all the anger. From that moment forward, I started healing so much faster. A few months later I was healed and ready for the relationship that was starting to blossom. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. He is the sweetest person on earth, we make a great team. The other day I hosted a party with some friends. There he was that guy who once broke my heart, because he is in the friend group and now we are ok. I didn't even feel nostalgic when I saw, but I noticed something interesting in me: I wanted his attention/aproval in some way. I wanted him to laugh at my jokes, to see how happy and cool I am. I could've obssesed over that fact, but I decided not to do so. I am grateful for not having obssesed over these almost invisible things because maybe I will never get rid of the scars of that time, but they are nothing compared to my LOVE for my boyfriend.
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What have you been struggling with on your healing journey ? 🥺💗
Fear of success and not staying consistent but I’m working on that 😅
Self-destructive thoughts. My mind keeps telling me negative things & I am trying my best to remind myself I am not my thoughts & I am deserving of great things happening to me
Letting go of past bad choices and mistakes, putting too much pressure to heal and be a better (perfect) person
Controlling my emotions when I’m angry is the one thing I struggle with the most 😭I need help ASAP.
Loving my body even with all of my quirks and "flaws"
“When we spend too much time in this era we actually end up causing more suffering” OOF!! Hot take but I completely understand where you’re coming from! Definitely keeping this in mind in the new year 🙏🏽
YES!!!! ❤️ it’s a hard truth..
This is what I needed.
I've been in the healing journey for almost 3 years now.
I'm scared to interact with new people..I've been off on socials for 2years now and what I've learned this year is.."healing never ends" be kind to yourself you only live once.😊
yes babe.. it's time to start living 💗
@oddeyedgirl 🥂🥂🥂yess girl!
@Dani B you go girl! You got this💯🤞
Wishing you all the best of luck!♥️🥂
I needed to hear this ❤ Life can't be 1 long healing journey. Too much "I wanna fix this, I wanna fix that" ends up feeling like a never ending uphill battle.
I was saying this just a few days ago. I realize that this healing process is never ending, so I made the decision to start dating again and put myself out there to experience life and love again. It's been 5+ years. I'm over it. Did therapy, and everything you can think of. Love the video!
omg. this makes me so freaking happy to read. SO PROUD OF YOU!!
That's amazing ❤
Maybe this is the one and only therapy, the first step for everybody: going back to living
honestly i HATE people that say "heal first" when it comes to relationships.... okay so then what? date when I'm dead? like you said healing is a never ending process
🦋“When you’re telling yourself that there has to be an end to suffering, you create more suffering within you, BECAUSE THERE IS NEVER AN END”🦋
I felt it when you said we don’t need to deal with our healing work all at once. Sometimes we get so consumed and self sabotage ourselves as to why we aren’t letting things go all at the same time instead of giving ourselves time to heal
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I used to let my “healing” journey completely detach me from life to the point where I didn’t want to date anymore or go out or experience new things until I was mentally healed. Healing doesn’t mean you still don’t deserve love, friendships, and other things in life. People who are truly there for you will go along the journey with you, you have to do the work for yourself but you don’t have to do it alone or shun yourself from the world until your “fixed.” I had to realize this this year.
“You don’t need to do all of your healing work all at once.
Heal in layers, heal in phases, heal in chapters.
Chronic self improvement.
Living your life & healing can happen simultaneously”🤍🤍🤍
It’s good to take time away and focus on healing, but coming back to reality and the world is always good too. Wonderful message. This year I opened myself up to new friendships, and I finally made a friend in my area. I had no community in my town. And now I have a wonderful friend who has a daughter my daughter’s age! And we get along so well. I’m so grateful for allowing myself to be open to meeting a new friend. It took healing to get here, but I’m so proud of my progress! It’s important not to forget how far you’ve come!
This is so great to read😊
Wish u a beautiful friendship going forward, not just for you and your friend, but your daughters too ❤💛❤️☺️
@@clivematthews95 thank you!! Yes it’s amazing how I opened myself to the idea of a friend, and it just happened. Our daughters get along so well. They were instant best friends. And my friend is so honest and genuine. I feel lucky to have found her. It feels like we’re kindred spirits. Thank you for your comment. I wish you so much love and light on your journey, as well! Happy new year 💖✨
The timing of this video is insane! I've spent this entire year healing and I've accomplished so much, yet I'm still afraid to live life and put myself out there because I feel there's still so much work to be done. It's exhausting to feel like it never ends and I've been struggling with these feelings, especially this week
Aw omgg. Babe it’s time to LIVE 🥺
I feel exactly the same! Only i've been doing this for a few years, and still i think i'm not good enought yet, my rejection wound is not healed yet, it still triggers me, and there's no end to it.
@@C.m.129 I definitely think we need to be more compassionate with ourselves even if we aren't "there" yet. It is difficult. Also, the words "rejection wound" is quite interesting. I definitely think that plays a huge part
I’ve been chasing a healed life free for almost 7 years and honestly the more I chased it the more I realized that I was searching for answers that I’ll never get and I feel like this journey has kept me from experiencing life how I wanted to and I feel like I missed out on a lot. I convinced myself that something was wrong with me and I needed all kinds of help but I’m fine and I am doing the best that I can with the life that I was given. The healing journey will keep you stuck if you’re not strong enough to create your own path instead of trying to find the answer outside of yourself.💙
I also think the purpose behind your actions matter. Are you journaling/doing therapy/working on your limiting beliefs etc because you know these are good habits that empower you and help you create the life you desire OR are you journaling/therapy/etc because you think you have to be fixed in order to finally reach your dream life. Actions are the same but those two mentalities are different.
And I agree that you have to go out, experience different things, meet and connect with others to have more “info” about yourself to continue this journey. Thank you for this video, Happy New Year ❤
Couldn't start off the new year with a better video! I was consuming so much "healing" content on Instagram - constantly saving posts, etc. - that I actually started to feel very burnt out from healing. I think in the Western world we often fall into the trap of conceptualizing healing through the lens of linear upwards progress (kind of like climbing the corporate ladder), but it's not like that at all.
Healing is important, but living is more important than that.
honestly so true, people tend to rush for example getting over a break up and people tend to laugh at the ones that aren't over yet. Like why are you trying to rush? Who cares if you take a little more time to overcome the pain? It is your LIFE, dont get pressured to be okay all the time.
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You just said everything that needed to be said.
The fact is that people focus so much about the healing era they put themselves into pressure and completely forgot about the world out there
The last few minutes got me! « You are safe with the parts of you that are fixed, that aren’t perfect… » 🙏🏾
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"YOU ARE SAFE WITH THE PARTS OF YOU THAT ARE BROKEN"
Thank you sister in healing.
So glad you decided to allow the universe,God, however you see it..to use your voice to speak to many broken people. Wishing you many blessings on your personal journey. I have absorbed this video and deeply appreciate the words.
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Agreed! Started over a year ago and it’s exhausting within itself looking to constantly fix. That’s damaging within its self
i’m not looking to be fully healed, im definitely looking to start the process, unlearn the things that are actively hurting me that stem from deeper things. you will never stop hurting or healing, to live is to hurt and heal
i believe there is a end and that is becoming awareness and being 100% present
Is true, I was so obsessed after starting the healing journey that I couldn't love myself now, in the present. I stopped this hunt and now I'm taking baby steps and feeling better about me, having more self compassion and giving myself time to practice what I already learned.
my inner child feels so safe right now, thank you for this
You are so wise and so correct about healing. Life is complicated and always gives good and bad experiences & not everything needs fixing. Some things are just an experience and nothing more. Plus our minds are ever changing. Things that made happy yesterday may not tomorrow and vis versa. At some point you just have to accept what has happened, accept self and move on from it.
This video triggered the mess out of me, but in a good way. I've isolated myself while trying to heal because I want to come back "anew" but I'm allowing myself more grace after this video ✨
My favourite part is when someone is doing the “healing” and justifies everything as being part of the process and gaslights everyone else for not being in the process, like they are better because they doing the “healing” and you are not. I am not saying to avoid it, but not everything needs healing, some part of us just want to be accepted as they are to live a more peaceful life and not being at war with ourselves trying to fix every aspect of ourselves.
so true. all this "healing era : how to become the woman you want to be" is low key toxic cause like it says to change every single thing about you. how about we live and we learn how to feel better about ourselves by experiencing and just thinking about how you can get better at everything without having to become litterally another person
I have really struggled in 2022 and I’ve been focusing on healing but didn’t feel like I was making progress. This video was a breakthrough! I love the message that we can just love our broken selves and that the purpose of life is the journey of healing and not the destination. I felt like a weight was lifted from my shoulders with the realisation that I’m whole the way I am with all my traumas and issues but can focus on healing and the journey. I don’t need to be fixed “right now” and then move on to other things. Maybe that’s just the purpose of life. Bringing joy and healing to ourselves and others. Learning about ourselves and others and loving ourselves and others through the process. Loved this - such a great message!
Thank you so much I been dealing with a lot of trying to fix myself all at once that I have been self harming more than usual and I can't enjoy in a good moment with thinking about the bad things that going to happen but you help to understand that healing can just be baby step and it doesn't have to be over night
An eye and mind-opening video. It's all about self-acceptance without time limit. We're humans, we live and learn, thus healing is part of learning. That means it's a never-ending journey, we heal while we ride and it is always patient. I myself been on hermit mode throughout 2022 and although I was focused on myself, I was also neglecting myself in terms of being social and belongingness, so it felt incomplete. One year was somehow enough for it and I don't want to be stuck in that hole of "healing". Going in 2023 I taught myself to be out in the open again, slowly but surely...and eventually my layers will be peeled as life goes on.
Thank you for this!
Thank you! I've been struggling with my healing journey and you enlightened me with your concept. ❣️
An ILLUSION!! There's almost this I need to be fixed and 'working' on myself culture & a lot of us need to ask "is there even a problem?". (((We're bringing work habits into the healing space))) When we strive for perfection we totally invalidate our experiences and overlook the 'why' behind everything.
This is the best and most helpful TH-cam video I have found along this nearly 10 year healing journey/obsession. Instead of running from the pain, I just need to be with it, then it softens.
This came at the right time for me too! Been on this journey for 3 yrs and it’s like my overachiever tendencies just got transferred to the healing space. I see all the progress I made but still don’t feel satisfied. The theme of *impatience* was a biiiig one this week, needing everything to be done now so I deserve/get the things I want. We are whole *now*, even if still broken. Bless you for this reminder ❤❤
"I am not a problem that needs to be fixed."
I don't comment often but this video came at such a perfect timing! I needed to hear the fact that this healing and self reflecting journey truly has no end, and that we will always have some imperfections. Thank you for making this video, it gave me clarity on where this path continues ❤️
I’m so glad to hear this 🥹❤️
Why did I immediately started crying from beginning of this video? … from words “you are safe..”
i truly feel like the universe showed me this video bc i have felt so exhausted for a few days and this is the reason but i couldn’t see that until watching this :)
I don't know what it is but this video showed up literally as I realized this a few days ago. As a young person, I'm thankful to have someone to look to for some good life advice. Thank you so much
We are all ‘in process’ until we die…so we gotta live…Like now!
Thanks for this!✨👌🏼
I SO NEEDED to hear this! It's been years that I've lived with pointing out part of myself that I need to fix first or heal first and until I fix it I'm not going to be able to do this or that. And it robbed me of many opportunities, dreams and achievements. Because everytime I decided to ignore it and said so what it's there but I can do this anyway, I've done amazing things! Sometimes the "end" to the healing is simply just ACCEPTANCE. Because some things, people, circumstances, experiences we can't ever change or rewrite. So the best way to heal ourselves or our response is just to accept it with compassion for what it is and let it go and move forward. ACCEPTANCE, ACCEPTANCE, ACCEPTANCE. Thank you! 🙏🏻
I’m here for all the glow up in every way 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Love you 🥹🥹❤️❤️
It’s as if some of us have become addicted to this ‘healing process’
This is such a good video topic bc when you get into self improvement you can fall down the rabbit hole of continually looking for more content and things to improve and it can become toxic.
Bc it is like when ARE you good enough to present yourself to the world, there'll never really be an end to what needs fixing
I totally agree with what you’re saying. I decided to heal BUT I am putting into practice the type of life I want for myself. I’m focusing on fun, meeting new people, and traveling. We will be hurt often so we don’t have to stay on a healing journey away from everything we love. It’s punishing ourselves.
I discovered your channel this morning and OMG! I’ve watched so many videos like this and they were good but they don’t hit like the realness of yours… I’m glad on video 3 but this was exactly what I needed for the start to my year!
Note to self : onion, unfolding, patience, acceptance, forgiveness, being at peace with urself, fluidity and openness to life and change and imperfections. One day at a time. Mirrors are essential, u cannot just try to skip a couple levels to get your dream life "right now". The journey is essential but u shouldn't be forcing it to happen. Its a means to an end don't make it the end
one of the most important videos on this chanel
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I’ve been in this healing journey for almost 8 years im OVER it no matter how much I do to change for the better I will have issues present . I am going to live my life & learn to enjoy the life I have
This is AMAMZING, beautiful and verry enlighting!! Thank you so much for sharing.
Currently here and been here for a LONG time, definitely running away from the fact that I cannot fix everything that’s happened in the past and whatever challenges may arrive in the future. Thank you so much for this video you have no idea how grateful and SEEN I feel, Appreciate you. ❤
this is an awesome video! I know there’s no end point to healing, but I definitely got too obsessed with the journey this year to the point that I hardly did any living. I’ve internalized that I’m not good enough for anyone. I’m proud of the work I’ve done, but I’m looking forward to reaping more of the rewards this year and letting loose and actually talking to people! Whew!
omg yes! be PROUD of the work you've done, but also LET yourself live 💗
ok thank you sooooo much for this. earlier in 2022 i started watching kinda spiritual esque youtubers and i felt like there was this exaggerated sense of “everything will be magical and perfect forever when you heal and are your highest self” and to a degree it can be almost magical once you’ve grown and healed but i felt it kind of set up a trap for me. as much as i have healed i don’t necessarily think it is down to solely me. I let go of constantly trying to heal/self develop and just lived my life and guess what, it helped me so much more than consuming all this stuff that’s gonna help me “heal”. don’t get me wrong it helped me figure out what i need to do for myself and increased my sense of self love but it can’t just fix everything by watching a video or meditating. it helps but constantly searching for that fix can get pretty toxic.
Timing is just incredible huh? The fact you posted this before the end of this year and close to the dawn of a new one. This is such an important topic you touched upon because yes! we definitely wonder when this healing will be ever done. just like many of the lovely people who've written here, i also had been on my healing journey for about 2-3 years and sometimes i feel so guilty wondering why on earth I am not healed yet. But like you said...its happening in layers and its continuous possibly till the end of our lives. Perhaps thats why its a journey and not getting to the destination aka being healed. You feel wiser or you feel more at peace yet there will always be more things to work on. But to be able to sit with all sides to you and love it. thats magical. So much to think about here. I am so glad you did this hun! Thank you. Apologies for the ramble hah. Much love to everyone here!
Such a beautiful message 🥹❤️
This is exactly what I am going through/realizing. I have been on this journey for a while now, and literally as I started to let go and let myself open up & live again the universe started bringing new friendships towards me & family members have been reaching out to reconnect. Thank you for this message ❤
This was really an amazing video , i feel like ive been taking my healing work to serious thinking that one day i'll be finally healed 100% . I have decieded to stop obsessing too much and actually live .
Your words are so touching and comforting. I’m definitely still in my healing era and definitely feeling like I’m not progressing much . I really needed this . Thank you !
I love this video ❤ this is the most realistic, logical, and simple way of making life easier . I love how you make everything so simple and easy to understand. ❤
We just need to let go and live. To get through things as smoothly as we can and repeat that we are 'good enough' ...
I loved this 💗 I felt like you was preaching 🥹
You're amazing sis!!! What I've learned about this is that there's nothing like a "healed version". There's no end product of healing! It's a journey and we should absolutely enjoy every bit of the journey 😂
Thank you!
this was definitely eye opening for me! thank you for this video 💕
It's so interesting because we have been programmed to constantly be in a state of pursuit, left brain, masculine energy, but actually it is so much more rewarding to just be in the present moment- when we learn to be content in the generous present moment it is so gratifying, then comes the beautiful balance of both sides of the brain, being in alignment with the seasons, super magnetic - ahhh it's lovely- I still fall out of alignment I just try to remind myself to just be still and know that everything right now is fine and there is no other moment then now - beautiful gems per usual, love 💯🙏
I’ve only been following your channel for a short amount of time, but I wanted to share with you how much your videos have had a huge positive impact in my life. I’m a current senior in college, and many regard me as the ideal, first gen, low income college student. You can say I have it all: the scholarships, the leadership position at school, an amazing job offer lined up for me after graduation, but throughout college, I’ve been neglecting myself, engaged in toxic relationships, and self sabotaging habits. I’ve realized that I’ve been operating from of fear and anxiety. It’s time for me to nurture my inner child. Thank you for guiding me on the right path. 💕
Omg I’m SO proud of you. This is why I get on here and talk about these things. Sending you so much love and support ❤️
Girl this is so true!! Thanks for solidifying my thoughts, feels like what I need is manifested through your channel...
omg 🥺🥰
I really thank you for this video. Thank you, thank you…
I feel like my healing journey has been very painful, because I feel like all things I’m lacking in my life are because I’m unhealed. I also feel my singleness and lack of success is because I’m unhealed. All it’s done is made me feel that until I’m “healed” and perfect life will continue to not work out for me. All the self development books, podcast, TH-cam videos, therapy…. It’s become overwhelming and made me more depressed. I wasn’t getting to outcomes I wanted… I wanted to be skinnier, more attractive, be in a relationship and figured none it is coming because I’m unhealed. The pressure it caused not makes me feel resentful like having to chase perfection.
I told myself the other day. I don’t want to work on myself anymore. I’m tired I just want to be. All this work and I don’t see women around me having to heal and they are acquiring the blessings I’ve desired.., anyway, that was a dark place I was in.
I’m just taking one day at time.
fax girly people for get that its okay to hurt and be slow in some parts of life and its okay to not always be healing becuase if your always healing and growing and never let your self take a break and love were you are in life than are you really enjoying living at all. Becuase healing is draining regarldless of what your healing from so we haft to make sure we give our self time to fell deaply and to just exist in the place were we are and not worry about needing to heal or grow somtimes
The timing of this video could not be better. This is exactly what I needed to hear! This is so relevant for me. Thank you. I've been in this stuck mode for years now and this is not right. It's time to start living.
Your message is refreshing. It really helped me to hear this today. Thank you for speaking about this to those of us who use "healing" as just another way to punish ourselves and perpetuate the suffering.
This was very profound. Thank you 🙏❤
Este es uno de los videos más lindos que vi en mi vida. GRACIAS
Wow, this video really opened my eyes...I'm still healing from an important breakup and the pain that comes with it is really tiring. Sometimes I just want to give up and be numb but I know that this is not me. Most of the time I'm hard on myself, and I'm learning to be kind to myself and embrace everything.
I started to watch your videos and honestly I love how straight up you are. I love this channel so much! Thank you❤
In my poetry book (A Girls First Poetry: A Spiritual Journey) I write many poems about the healing journey and at the end of the book I say in large font: There Is No End.
It’s true! How could there be an end ? Our life and breath keep going on always. There will be new problems to heal, etc. sometimes when you go on this journey you have to let the “end” be when you feel a bit better about the subject and try to just live your life. Just keep going. If you’re focusing on fixing it you’re still recognizing the problem as being there. Face the problem and move on from the fixing after a bit. Once I release the “healing” of it for a while, and ease into just living and breathing and doing, I look back and realize wow I did kinda heal from this! Do memories of pain and heartbreak still arise? Yes. Do I think of them? Yes. But it gets easier with time - and after healing and then releasing it I can let it go when it arises so much more easily. I can accept what happened with love and compassion for myself and others. I love your point that healing doesn’t have an end. But it’s not something we should focus on all the time. Just living and not thinking about all the details of HOW you’re living can be hard but this is where the final stage of healing is - in acceptance.
Lots of love for your channel dude!
I always wanted to be an TH-camr but i was so insecure about myself and what people will say you inspired me so much I'm doing it for myself and i am perfect the way i am hopefully I'll start in 2023
Love you and I'm so grateful to you ❤️❤️
you WILL start in 2023 💗
I remember in therapy when i told my behaviour and the why (trauma x) and asked what i should i do. Which option should i chose? When will it be finally over? She always said „I cant tell you that there is no right or wrong. There will be never be the end. I only can help how you deal with it and live your life“
Everytime i was so devastated. It broke me everytime. But that’s the truth we have to accept.
Omgggg. I thought it was just me. I feel like I'm looking in a mirror when watching your clip.
I've been having a thought about self improvement and healing, why can't we just be, why do we always have to be better, aren't we good enough?
The thing is that life is not all about positivity, life or to say the world was never perfect, emotions are inevitable, irrationality is an instinct, rationality is learned but not forced. Rationality becomes a part of you once you stay aware. There are no wrongs or rights, wrongs and rights are only shared. preceptions. As she says, you never need to have anything done, you just think you need to.
I would be so interested to hear what you do when you find yourself having a bad day. Thank you for this content, I always learn something new from your framing! Much appreciated :)
I'm in self healing journey, and I try not to rush or think of "when will it end", but it's worth for my health. Your channel plays a big role, thank you so much and lots of love
you're so welcome love 💗
I may have heard this before, but today it makes sense.
Puffff thisss year gonna been good. For all of you hurting trust me you’ll heal you’ll be what you always have looked up to be. Happy new year 🥳
Coaches out there trying to convince us they can help us heal, when in reality they themselves are not as healed as they make it seem
Girl I needed this !! You’re an angel!❤️😇😭
Wow this video made so much sense. I understood everything you’ve said, I need to accept now. I need to love me now, I need to accept the now and accept that everyday might not be great and that’s okay. I need to accept that some things might bother me but I’ll eventually let go in due time. Thank you ❤
I’m so happy this resonated with you ❤️
thank you Elicia, for real 🙏
I really needed to hear this!! The beginning of the video gave me a sense of calm. Thank you!
that was so comforting to hear , god bless you 🙏💖💖
Two years ago a boy broke my heart in a very complicated way. I confessed my feelings but he didn't give me and answer in the moment and started to avoid me. I spent one year grieving, going from denial to crying and denying again and more crying. I was so confused and needed him to tell me what I did wrong. Ten months after the confession I finally got to talk to him, and he said he never liked me and didn't even want to be friends. I cried more, but for the first time I also felt all the anger. From that moment forward, I started healing so much faster.
A few months later I was healed and ready for the relationship that was starting to blossom. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. He is the sweetest person on earth, we make a great team.
The other day I hosted a party with some friends. There he was that guy who once broke my heart, because he is in the friend group and now we are ok. I didn't even feel nostalgic when I saw, but I noticed something interesting in me: I wanted his attention/aproval in some way. I wanted him to laugh at my jokes, to see how happy and cool I am. I could've obssesed over that fact, but I decided not to do so. I am grateful for not having obssesed over these almost invisible things because maybe I will never get rid of the scars of that time, but they are nothing compared to my LOVE for my boyfriend.
Loved this, I needed to hear it
"Be here now."
needed to hear this. thank you sm.
this is so on point and your wisdom is very much appreciated 🙏🏼
Yes! Healing is a process and with each new step you become more of yourself. So well put- keep making videos ❤❤❤
yes yes yes 🥰
Thank you for helping me in my journey ❤❤❤
You’re so welcome ❤️
Thanks for this message.
I love her videos so much
For me the experience is healing. Going through the process of it all.
Just want to say deeply thanks you