The thing about mental health is that it can happen at any time. And while yes, there are other people out there with worse lives, it still doesn't mean that the life of someone suffering isn't terrible for them. As someone who dealt with mental health problems for 11 years I can honestly say it's one of the worst things. A lot of the time it defies logic. With a terminal illness, you know what's wrong with you. With mental health it isn't that easy. And when you are trapped inside your own head, and your thoughts consist of nothing but darkness, it is truly scary. For me the concept of swapping lives and places with someone else isn't as simple as it seems. Everyone goes through something that's truly harrowing to them. Expecially with mental health. When you wake up every day feeling so empty and dead inside knowing you have another day ahead of you full of dark thoughts. I understand your point here for sure, I just think psychology and mental health is not as black and white as it may seem. It's extremely complicated and can be extremely tragic. If someone lives a happy life, it doesn't mean they're happy mentally. They usually say the happiest people are the ones suffering the most. I dont know, for me the concept of comparing lives seems sort of pointless for no one can really swap lives. We each have our own individual struggle that is specific to us. While someone may be dying of starvation for example, we aren't experiencing it. That's why I believe to compare one life to another doesn't necessarily work. Great video Derek. I like when a video gets you thinking. For the record no hate on my side here, just my opinion on your topic. Very relaxing video, hope all is well friend.
Couldn’t agree more!! Our lives are all so relative and I don’t believe comparing will fix anything. I think gratitude is important - “I’m grateful I have a home”. But saying I have a home and others don’t as a way to show yourself that you have nothing to be anxious or sad about is not fair. Thanks for sharing this!
I certainly agree that simply knowing someone has it worse isn't going to fix a problem but I do think it is the start of the healing process. So many people think they can fix what is wrong on the inside with something from the outside (potent meds). Not saying they don't have a place but certainly they are way over prescribed. Something happened in society recently and it has created this onslaught of mental illness. Kids used to bring guns to school because they had shooting classes...there was never a school shooting. Now these kids are pumped full of meds and we have school shootings everyday. I certainly don't claim to have the answers but I do know social media has people comparing themselves to others the opposite way. Everyone sees others living better than them and that is what they focus on. If we focus instead on who has it worse than us, I believe it truly is a much healthier and much more empathetic way to live. No hate taken from you on this. I appreciate your insightfulness and opinion!
I completely get how your client is feeling. First of all, motherhood hits women's hormonal balance (and neurotransmitters) like a truck! Takes a toll on our bodies, emotions, and minds. It is exhausting, and the expectations from others and ourselves are high, no matter how good of a mother we are. Additionally, we have to keep up a household and a healthy relationship with our partner. To add to all that frustration, the overwhelming feeling of not being financially independent (even if our partner makes a good living) is suffocating. I would advise her to start working on something she likes and makes her a little money as soon as she feels the time is right for her and her little ones (maybe start by working from home to not miss the most formative years of her kids). More than comparing ourselves to others, let's keep in mind that we will never fully meet others' expectations, so we might as well focus on ourselves, work on who we want to become and do what makes us fulfilled, so we can show up happy and confident for our loved ones. At the end of the day, it's not about looks or money... it's about feeling in a good place, like you said, and enjoying the little things in life that make up the little charms of our existence.
Such great insight here! Thank you so much for sharing that. I can tell you that I would not trade places with most stay at home moms. I truly believe it is one of the toughest jobs out there and respect the heck out of them for doing it. I am grateful my mom stayed home with me when I was young and wish every child could have a mother that was able to do it as well. Bless your heart for being a wonderful mom and taking the time to leave this amazing comment for others that might be experiencing similar stressors.
Dude you are growing fast af!! Keep it up my man. You hit 5k 2 days ago and you're a third of the way to your next thousandth milestone! You would reach 10k faster than you would anticipate at this rate and it's only gonna keep growing. That's awesome! I also want to say I love that you only do whispers and not triggers like tapping, eating and whatnot. I personally do not enjoy that aspect of ASMR and just stick to crispy whispers as found in your channel!
This low key reminds me of the golden age of asmr. Love the simplicity and how good the tingles are. Most asmr artist have all this super expensive gear, mics and blah. It just doesn’t sound as good tbh
“You don’t want to get to 50 and be working 60 hour weeks” man I’m gonna be a doctor, I’ll be working 60+ hour weeks until I drop dead! Fair advise though I can’t lie!
I just checked and TH-cam says I have gained 781 in the last 28 days which is definitely the fastest I have ever grown. I can't thank all you new subscribers enough for pushing me over the 5000 mark and skyrocketing me right past it!
@@ASMRReality Your channel is a treasure (It is the new subscriber from France I've just change my nickname. by the way). It has been more than a decade now that a regularly watch TH-cam and a year ago that I've found your channel. Yesterday for the first time I've created a TH-cam account just to subscribe to your channel. Mate ! The way you give your honest opinion on different subjects it feels like we're around a cup of coffee even though we are thousands miles away from each other. It may not be your greatest income of money but to my humble opinion it is a most valuable entreprise. All the efforts you make to keep this channel alive are not vain. Keep it up Derek ! and pardon my English ;)
The thing about mental health is that it can happen at any time. And while yes, there are other people out there with worse lives, it still doesn't mean that the life of someone suffering isn't terrible for them. As someone who dealt with mental health problems for 11 years I can honestly say it's one of the worst things. A lot of the time it defies logic. With a terminal illness, you know what's wrong with you. With mental health it isn't that easy. And when you are trapped inside your own head, and your thoughts consist of nothing but darkness, it is truly scary. For me the concept of swapping lives and places with someone else isn't as simple as it seems. Everyone goes through something that's truly harrowing to them. Expecially with mental health. When you wake up every day feeling so empty and dead inside knowing you have another day ahead of you full of dark thoughts. I understand your point here for sure, I just think psychology and mental health is not as black and white as it may seem. It's extremely complicated and can be extremely tragic. If someone lives a happy life, it doesn't mean they're happy mentally. They usually say the happiest people are the ones suffering the most. I dont know, for me the concept of comparing lives seems sort of pointless for no one can really swap lives. We each have our own individual struggle that is specific to us. While someone may be dying of starvation for example, we aren't experiencing it. That's why I believe to compare one life to another doesn't necessarily work.
Great video Derek. I like when a video gets you thinking. For the record no hate on my side here, just my opinion on your topic. Very relaxing video, hope all is well friend.
Couldn’t agree more!! Our lives are all so relative and I don’t believe comparing will fix anything. I think gratitude is important - “I’m grateful I have a home”. But saying I have a home and others don’t as a way to show yourself that you have nothing to be anxious or sad about is not fair. Thanks for sharing this!
@@ChiKat8 Yeah I agree! Thank you for your reply!
I certainly agree that simply knowing someone has it worse isn't going to fix a problem but I do think it is the start of the healing process. So many people think they can fix what is wrong on the inside with something from the outside (potent meds). Not saying they don't have a place but certainly they are way over prescribed. Something happened in society recently and it has created this onslaught of mental illness. Kids used to bring guns to school because they had shooting classes...there was never a school shooting. Now these kids are pumped full of meds and we have school shootings everyday. I certainly don't claim to have the answers but I do know social media has people comparing themselves to others the opposite way. Everyone sees others living better than them and that is what they focus on. If we focus instead on who has it worse than us, I believe it truly is a much healthier and much more empathetic way to live. No hate taken from you on this. I appreciate your insightfulness and opinion!
I completely get how your client is feeling. First of all, motherhood hits women's hormonal balance (and neurotransmitters) like a truck! Takes a toll on our bodies, emotions, and minds. It is exhausting, and the expectations from others and ourselves are high, no matter how good of a mother we are. Additionally, we have to keep up a household and a healthy relationship with our partner. To add to all that frustration, the overwhelming feeling of not being financially independent (even if our partner makes a good living) is suffocating. I would advise her to start working on something she likes and makes her a little money as soon as she feels the time is right for her and her little ones (maybe start by working from home to not miss the most formative years of her kids). More than comparing ourselves to others, let's keep in mind that we will never fully meet others' expectations, so we might as well focus on ourselves, work on who we want to become and do what makes us fulfilled, so we can show up happy and confident for our loved ones. At the end of the day, it's not about looks or money... it's about feeling in a good place, like you said, and enjoying the little things in life that make up the little charms of our existence.
Such great insight here! Thank you so much for sharing that. I can tell you that I would not trade places with most stay at home moms. I truly believe it is one of the toughest jobs out there and respect the heck out of them for doing it. I am grateful my mom stayed home with me when I was young and wish every child could have a mother that was able to do it as well. Bless your heart for being a wonderful mom and taking the time to leave this amazing comment for others that might be experiencing similar stressors.
Well said!
Subbed at 5k! You’re going to explode in popularity, your material is great
I've had a great bump recently thanks to people like you and I hope you are correct about the future of my channel! Really appreciate your optimism!
Dude you are growing fast af!! Keep it up my man. You hit 5k 2 days ago and you're a third of the way to your next thousandth milestone! You would reach 10k faster than you would anticipate at this rate and it's only gonna keep growing. That's awesome! I also want to say I love that you only do whispers and not triggers like tapping, eating and whatnot. I personally do not enjoy that aspect of ASMR and just stick to crispy whispers as found in your channel!
Its starting to kick in. Just hope I can keep it going.
I needed to hear this. Thank you! ❤
I needed the reminder and thats why I talked about it! Glad you liked it!
thanks for sharing. gratitude is so wonderful.
It truly does make a difference!
This low key reminds me of the golden age of asmr. Love the simplicity and how good the tingles are. Most asmr artist have all this super expensive gear, mics and blah. It just doesn’t sound as good tbh
Well I ain't changing. This is what I do and I'm so glad it works for you!
New subscriber here! I’ve been binge watching your videos for the last two days lol love the content and congrats on 5k+ subscribers! Major😄
Thank you so much! I can't express how much I appreciate your support!
appreciate your consistent uploads!!
I'm gonna keep em coming for you!
“You don’t want to get to 50 and be working 60 hour weeks” man I’m gonna be a doctor, I’ll be working 60+ hour weeks until I drop dead! Fair advise though I can’t lie!
Maybe you can practice till your 50 and then just make ASMR videos about your career and life advice:)
@@ASMRReality I love that idea!
your brown doggo is so sweet. i had to chuckle a bit at them doing circles behind you at one point. =)
He's old and losing his mind. i just don't have the heart to put him down yet because he is healthy otherwise. I laugh at him too:)
Can’t wait to see your channel hit the roof! You deserve it and I know you mean well. Have a good night buddy. 👍🏾
I'm hoping it does too! The universe just wants me to work hard for it so I appreciate it more!
Another great video, Derek! Grateful to have found you and your channel🫶🏽
I am equally as grateful that you found me!
Great video, you never fail to relax me keep it up.
Thats what I like to hear!
Derek I can finally see you getting the attention you deserve! Very thought provoking video, love it as always.
Yes, finally starting to grow a little quicker now. Thank you so much for your help!
5.3k subs i think u get to 6k in 20 days
I'm loving this pace!
Love this asmr bro. It’s sooooo good. Keep grinding
You know I will bro!
You always upload right on time for sleep! As usual, great topic and opinions! 😴
We must be on the same sleep schedule because I sleep right after I post:). Thats why I can't respond to comments till the next day:)
Ohh I think we are then! I’m glad you respond though!
@@stephania.r17 I always do!
I swear we are on the same wave length because you’ve been covering topics that have been hitting close to home lately.
Must be in the air cause I just speak about what comes to my mind:)
Wow dude i subbed like 2 weeks ago and u have gained like 1000 subs. Ur pretty much blowing up rn
I just checked and TH-cam says I have gained 781 in the last 28 days which is definitely the fastest I have ever grown. I can't thank all you new subscribers enough for pushing me over the 5000 mark and skyrocketing me right past it!
Just in time for bed😻
Same🎉
Hope you had a peaceful sleep!
This channel is one of my safe spaces...thanks 🙏
You are safe with me, my friend!
@@ASMRReality thank you so very much..so thankful....full of gratitude and greatfullness and Thankfulness..
Great video. Your topics lately have seemed to be on par with my life questions lately lol.
Well I try to talk about stuff I wish I knew when I was younger so I'm glad they help! I needed me when I was younger...LOL!
❤❤
Now I can relax!
New subscriber from France
Welcome! So glad to know I have a French friend!
@@ASMRReality Your channel is a treasure (It is the new subscriber from France I've just change my nickname. by the way). It has been more than a decade now that a regularly watch TH-cam and a year ago that I've found your channel. Yesterday for the first time I've created a TH-cam account just to subscribe to your channel. Mate ! The way you give your honest opinion on different subjects it feels like we're around a cup of coffee even though we are thousands miles away from each other. It may not be your greatest income of money but to my humble opinion it is a most valuable entreprise.
All the efforts you make to keep this channel alive are not vain.
Keep it up Derek ! and pardon my English ;)
Deep thoughts keep me up. But this one did quite the opposite
Glad to know you were able to relax from this one!
I will feel sad and miss you if you leave man🥲
I'm not going anywhere! I am here for you!
Hello from your Swedish subscriber❤️😄, been a while since I last checked in but I’m glad to be back now❤️
Hello my Swedish friend! So glad to know you are still here!
Amazing vid🙌
Thank you, Shane!
the media screws womens heads up smh
I think it really does.