When one twin is running from the connection and the other is chasing them instead of looking inwards, there comes a point where the chaser becomes exhausted and doesn’t want to continue the pursuit anymore. There is a point where one or both of you will enter in this next phase of surrender. Surrendering means doing the inner work on you while handing over the outcome of your connection to God. It’s not about convincing yourself “if it’s meant to be then it will be” while refusing to work on your own healing. That’s denial, not surrendering. True surrendering is knowing that you can’t control the outcome by trying to force the reunion in any way. We need to master ourselves, master our own healing, overcome the ego, fears, the illusions, and master unconditional love. These are the only things we can control. While we are working on ourselves, we must learn to trust in the Divine that the union will happen as a result of us working on healing ourselves and giving our Twin Flame the space to work on themselves as well. When we surrender our connection to the Divine, we learn that we can and do love our twin whether we are physically united with them or not. We love them even if they are letting ego control them. Some twins are tempted to just sit there waiting, and waiting, praying for their twin to change so they can reunite. Sitting and waiting for your twin shows them that you are always there no matter what so they aren’t motivated to do the work. Surrendering is not abandoning your twin. It’s simply assisting them to work through their problems, which will help them. You’re not giving up. You are simply recognizing that waiting at their feet is actually stopping them from healing, because you are giving them an easy way out of facing their fears. Instead of getting upset and continuing to give away your power, you must love and respect yourself, and love and respect your twin by giving them distance, surrendering the connection to Divine Guidance and timing and stop waiting at their feet. By doing this, you love yourself by creating healthy boundaries and you love your Twin Flame by snapping them out of their ego illusions. You no longer allow them to sit idly in their illusions so they don’t have to overcome them in order to reach you. Surrendering is the ultimate test for Twin Flames. Are you willing to let go of your fears (illusions) of separation and trust in the truth of Source to bring you back to oneness with your Twin? Are you able to release your fears of abandonment so you can stop trying to control the outcome? Only when you truly trust, can reunion occur. If you don’t trust, you are still living in the illusion of separation. Many times Twin Flames fear that if they walk away, then their twin will never make the necessary changes to come forward and unite. They fear that if they walk away then they will lose them. If this does happen, then they were either not your Twin Flame, or they aren’t willing to heal themselves enough for reunion. Surrendering means living your own life. If you are waiting around for them, then you are not ready to unite either. The time will come when it will feel completely natural to surrender and give up control. Your soul will have reached the point where it will naturally want to live authentically, and interacting with your Twin Flame in a way where the ego blocks will feel exhausting. You will naturally feel your soul pulling away from your Twin Flame if he/she’s not ready to interact with you through their heart centre. Your soul will be urging you to surrender and walk away from waiting on them because the Universe wants you to release any co-dependency on your part, as well as make your Twin Flame face the pain that arises when you distance yourself, so they too can heal their own co-dependency. There will be a shift inside of you when you truly surrender. It will feel like liberation. You no longer have to worry if you are doing things right or wrong. You are centering yourself and handing things over to Divine guidance and timing, and handing the outcome to the Universe. In order to recognize the truth of your soul, you must confront the biggest lie that is holding you hostage- the idea that you can be anything other than your true self. Your heart draws its strength from the love that permeates your soul, and will prevail when that love is stronger than your fear of your ego. Once you slay the beast that guards your true self, you will take ownership over your ego and reclaim your power. This is an inevitable step on the way towards becoming whole again. Despite our fears, there comes a point where our only option is to surrender to the Divine plan and follow that guidance. Regardless of what your Twin Flame is doing, or whether you’ve been in contact with them, or whether they even believe in the connection between the two of you, you have to accept the truth of what has always been in your heart, and let your love shine through. When you do this, you are allowing yourself to love your twin without expecting anything in return, and your very being becomes this love- and that’s where the miracle lies. When you do this, your twin will do the same, and your eternal love is renewed. Having a personal relationship with the Divine is what’s absolutely needed for reuniting with your twin, because this union is orchestrated by divine will. This is why it’s imperative that we come to the point of surrender on our own. As we discover things about ourselves and accept the truth in our heart, as we surrender to Divine will, let that guide us, and align ourselves with the plan for us, we will be led to our Twin Flame, and to the union. Many Twin Flames get wrapped up in the “when?” When will we unite? And they get stuck in feelings of disappointment, frustration, loss, anxiety, and doubt. If you’re feeling these emotions, then you’re not trusting that your union is orchestrated by the Divine Creator. If you are feeling loss, disappointment, frustration, anxiety, or doubt, then it shows you still need to give yourself love because you have forgotten your oneness. If you look back at your past, everything that has happened up to this point has had a purpose, to bring you to this present moment, to awaken you, to put you on this path to where you have met your twin for the ultimate healing journey. This is no accident. You chose this task and committed to your mission with Divine Creator to assist in the ascension process. Everything that has happened in your life has been a stepping stone to help you get to greater consciousness, to raise your frequencies, to bring you back to love and remind you that you were never separate from it. When you are spending your time over-analyzing everything, then you are not trusting your higher guidance, your Divine connection. When you are full of worry, you are not trusting your purpose. When you choose to see EVERYTHING as a learning opportunity, then you are living and trusting that you are guided and Divinely protected.
I love this so much! Thank you. I spent YEARS chasing him and being in pain. Finally it got to the point where I wanted to be out of the pain more than I wanted to be with him, and that shifted EVERYTHING. I prioritized my own peace and my own healing. I made peace with the idea that we might never be together in this life, and I got okay with that idea. I made peace with the fact that he will probably always be in my mind and heart, and that not a single day will go by without thinking of him at least once. I stopped my own fighting and pushing and pulling, and I just accepted all of it. The change that has come about as a result of this is SO PROFOUND. I no longer chase him. I don't look at his social media. I know if he's mine, he'll come back when he's ready- and if he's not, there's no point in me trying to get him back. Either way, there is no longer any need for trying on my part. It's a freaking miracle!! I wish every twin could get to this point of radical acceptance, but we have to go through enough pain before we're willing to just STOP and return to ourselves. ❤
@@SanctaJives loved this! The one thing that I can attest to is this journey is about the Df stepping into sovereignty. I also believe that over time our selves completely wants to feel balanced and small step by small step it starts to happen and then there is an energetic shift. Energetically we are one. But we must love ourselves and allow every feeling and thought and emotion so we can process it and continue to grow and shift. Some things are just a given. But, when we're at certain times in our journey we don't see it. Giving ourselves a literally hug, saying to ourselves " I love you" giving gratitude to ourselves for even just growing through and accepting a very challenging journey is very healing and shifting. Glad to be a part of such a beautiful community here and the tf collective. Much love and Many blessings.
This was profound thank you for sharing this. Yesterday I told myself I had no idea what's gonna happen in the future, so I guess we just gotta go through it.
You are the first twin flame that I have found that is an HSP, thank you for your perspective, being HSP is difficult, as I'm also an empath who sees and communicates with the dead, plus im the. 01% red head with blue eyes, im so sensitive that I feel everyone around me and I can only rest by being alone as much as possible, living in the country , never wanting to go far. But my sensitivity and ability to speak to the dead has allowed me to help people when spirits come to me with messages. I will always give people messages, I will never charge anyone for that, as I believe this is one reason why I am the way i am, to help heal.
Such a beautiful message. Thank you for sharing yourself. It takes an incredible amount of courage to share your messages with the world. Thank you for honoring your path ❤️
My twin ran away 6 months ago. I didn't do anything because I knew I can't go this same pattern of chasing all my life, I wanted to heal my pain. But I felt I need to tell him that I'm still here no matter what. I messaged him not long ago. He didn't reply but it was never my point. I just wanted him to know it was all true. I have no idea what's in his mind. And I always have these sad feelings that maybe I should've done more to make him feel loved. But I was so weak.. I knew I had to help myself first. My love for him will never end. Maybe we both just want to make it right and overcome the fear. Having faith in this was the biggest challenge in my life. But I think true love is worth everything...
This is really helping me understand my DM so much. I wish i had connected with your videos earlier. Ill watch as much as i can before you move on to the next part of your journey. Iam grateful for my spirit guides directing me toyour channel.
🌞rise an shine beautiful soul...thank you for your service..to hear runner perspective is soo helpful.. I find myself more and more peacuful in my journey, after understanding, what runners going through .. i am giving him ( myself in masculine ;) ) time and space..doesnt matter how long is going to take..how many lifetimes.. ✨ love you guys 🙏🌞
I could listen to you for years, explaining the other side from a personal view. I felt aspects that had been holding me back leave me during this video, simply because all we (DF/Chaser) ever have is our own brain, and it sometimes gets us into trouble being alone with all these emotions. I stepped into his experiencing for the duration if this video and really, really, really met him in understanding what he is living. Thank you for this Serena, very much.
Wow! Thank you for this perspective, absolutely beautiful and thank you for the work you are doing on behalf of the twin flame journey. It's doesn't go unnoticed.
That's good to know! There's often a lot of overlap in wounds between runners and chasers! Most twins I talk to end up having both and need each other/the reflection of other relationships in order to heal these things! Keep it up!
00:23 I know it’s just a closeup of a random TH-camr (just found this vid) but I had no idea how much I needed to see a face in some sunshine without any ‘pore filling foundation’ etc on it. It reminded me oh wait humans DO have pores, you CAN look beautiful with natural skin , etc. Ma’am you are absolutely GORGEOUS and thank you for sharing
As a DF (Chaser) thank you for sharing this information, I feel more validated of the fact it's not all my fault for causing no contact now close to 8 months. My case is a little different. I was really going for it and professing my love to her like crazy. But got to a point where I thought doesn't she have boundaries? I actually had to have her block me via Facebook and she was pissed off about that, then gaslit me. Then finally blocked me. She didn't even want to do that. Then ego death for me, a straight 3 months of purgatory. At 8 months now just starting to get my mojo back. I literally could of gone a year of telling her how much I loved her, but something told me it was time to pull back because she was just going to keep letting me go and go on.
Good for you! Nothing is all your fault on the twin flame journey. Both people are responsible for the outcome no matter what it may look like on the surface. We are 2+ years in union and still working through blame games and some power struggles! It really does get better though. They key here is to take responsibility for your part. No more no less. This is part of healing co-dependency. Many people will take more than their share of the blame and inherently give away their power to the other person. I actually have a beautiful offer on open enrollment right now that heals this very topic lol. You can find more info on the website (I will share with you below). Because it's in open enrollment that means when you sign up now you also get entered to win a personal reading with me if that's something that interests you! Here's the link! serena-s-site-6aaf.thinkific.com/courses/RelationshipRepair If you have any other questions or want to make sure you are the right fit you can always dm me on instagram @serena.lifeafterunion Lots of love ❤️
@mjey1 you are absolutely right and won't deny it. Very low self worth, but have non stop been working on my self since then. Not for her, but for me. It has taken me a lifetime to get to where I'm at now and at 61, I am at 95 percent there.
Wow this makes so much sense about my ex. She even said after all the times she would push me away nothing really happened you haven’t done anything to me they’re wasn’t infidelity and she would come back. She just wasn’t able to see on a consistent basis that I wasn’t leaving. I wasn’t cheating on her. Now that she sees there are no excuses she can tell herself for leaving it will hit different.
Thank you for this. As a divine feminine, I have been a bit confused about how my masculine is acting and feeling. We reconnected and he's going through an awakening but he is in that space where he is still unsure of what to do because he is afraid. This helped a lot and confirms the feeling I had about this being a challenge that'll last even during union. At least now I can understand how he may be feeling and how I can support him better. 🫶🏼
This is such a beautiful perspective! Yes, it is so difficult when we don't know what's going on with the other and can cause a downward spiral of feeling co-dependent (needing them to be okay in order for us to be so) but giving the space to turn inward and tend to our own inner child is so important! Lots of love to you! Thanks for doing the work!
Actually the other half doesn’t run! It’s you because they are you! You are running from your self your emotions. Your twin is there to help you heal your emotions and inner child. It’s literally you gotta stop running from your self. Best thing to do is just heal and allow it to happen. Once it you start it becomes easier. Your twin is waiting for you to do the inner work so they can. I hope that this helps someone ❤
“Your twin is waiting for you to do the inner work so they can”. What? You just said it’s not them, it’s you. So they have no inner work, only you do. You contradict yourself here. No, there comes a point when the DF has done EVERYTHING they can do, and they still may have to wait. Or it may still never happen.
@@KK-sg5gl you honestly have no idea about twin flames! They are you and if you don’t do your healing then they cant! True story! I know from my experiences and what he told me!
My DM got married this year after being with his second baby momma for several years. I was both surprised and not surprised because way back when I knew he wanted a marriage and "family" again. Like the image of a "good life". I dont know how he feels inside because we dont talk closely anymore. the past two years ive done deep shadow work and as ive healed he has ran farther away. when i saw the ring, the narrative switched. i was like, why am i still chasing and wondering. I see that no matter how much healing and time, he isnt coming towards me. at some point u just have to give it up. even if u feel vibes.
It sounds like an Attachment Trauma, that causes you to be a Fearful or Dismissive Avoidant. Emotional Neglect or Unpredictable actions from caregivers lead to those attachment traumas, that causes people than later having fear of being emotional vulnerable, let someone get to close, don't rely on someone, suppressing emotions. I've noticed, as a being earlier a chaser, that almost every runner has a avoidant behavior. That's why God invited Twin Flame, to make you vulnerable, by allowing breaking your heart by your twin. "Earthly Love" break your heart, so that God can heal you and show you the right form of Love - Unconditional, 'cause God is Love by himself. The deeper your Love and Faith in God, by believing in his only sending Son Jesus, the faster you can heal your traumas and be Secure Attached. Secure - means that you don't fear be vulnerable, have healthy boundaries, have self-love, and the most important - you don't search for someone, who can fulfill your emptiness inside you, but instead you gonna be the one, who is going to spread love.
I started reading about twin flames first and then I found the dismissive attachment Disorder and it described every single step almost down to the very words and actions... My DM has abandonment issues and such a dramatic childhood. Unfortunately my DM I truly believe has dismissive avoidant detachment
this ride is so heavy and he is running now, i saw a post on facebook and i felt so much pain, and i blocked him because i want to heal now , be in my power and i can't see him now or hear him now..... i'm leaving my partner have 2 kids and i'm going to travel this summer so i can heal .... something i'm thinking why this happens to me , so live will be much easier
Since the twin is a mirror, is it possible that you will doubt the person and the relationship if you struggle with intense self loathing from childhood trauma? Everything fit’s except I felt an ick sometimes that really concerned me but it I believe it was usually when my twin did something that I was consistently shamed for as a kid.
Omg. This is very true!!! Especially from the childhood trauma perspective. The reason you would doubt is not actually about them it's also about doubting yourself. I had the same and everytime I doubted my twin I realized the story I was playing out was the gaslighting of my intuition and emotions that I experienced from my parents as a child. Most women in the twin flame dynamic have trouble finding or accepting their own voice/thoughts/emotions because they were rejected by others and because that lives in the collective female pain body. To this day, I still feel an ick at certain things my twin has done and the honest answer is if there was absolutely no resistance to this person then the lesson would be over and there would be nothing left for them to teach you/reflect back to you for you to heal. Don't worry too much about the ick so long as (like you said) you notice that when it comes up it has less to do with them and more to do with yourself. You are asking all the right questions! Keep it up! And if you need more help you know where to find me! Lots of love! ❤️
So many questions .how long into separation did you realise and what made you want to contact your twin again so much rings true what you said ,I have really good phases where I try not to think of her then something triggers me ,been in no contact for 6 months it’s so hard ,I know there nothing I can do ,just have to leave it to universe ,does the runner feel that energy ,thankyou for your video
In my journey we were only ever not in contact through divine intervention. I.e. phones breaking. Service dying/power outages etc... only for days or a week at a time. So I think my journey differs slightly in that way. Although when we were in no contact phases I did deal significantly with fears and thoughts that either he had moved on or he had been hurt/died. And in those phases I kept having to come to terms with the fact that I would be okay on my own.
Is it possible we are both runners? All I wanted was him but he led me on and then when I was ready to move forward with him, told me he was seeing someone. I was devastated but didn't chase after him. Still trying to let this go. It hurts so much.
Yes, it is common that twins will both run and chase. You may flip flop over different periods. The reason for this is so that both twins can experience what is feels like to be on the other side. I notice that this happens more often to twins that have less collective and personal karma to heal. Because the cycles are quicker. Hope this makes sense! Lots of love!
Hi lovely. Everything you describe is the same I felt at the very beginning... That's how I know my other me. I know him through me. Because I haven't talked or seen him in ten months, and only two days in 12 months (today). Thank you for sharing, and really: in some moments we go through the same fears. I felt I was about to ruin his life, that he was a diamond and I was dirting him,...and not being enough... I feel I have to give him space and time. Btw, we have never been together...But I felt that my love was confusing him, and most of all that his love was confusing him. So now I believe that some day the love will overcome fear. Bye
I'm with you, the love will overcome the fear. We are moving as a collective each day further from fear and closer to love. You and your twin are not exempt in that. We will all be pulled closer to love!
Thank you so much for this perspective. My twin is the runner and he admitted that he didn’t feel good enough for me when we first got together. We are in separation now, with no communication but this video has really helped me understand and to let go of the resentment I was feeling towards him for cutting ties. I trust that everything will work out as it is meant to be. 🩷
Yes, I believe that is so important. It's not easy by any stretch of the imagination, but I appreciate your courage to move forward and do the work. Its scary to trust, but rewarding as well! Big love!
I walked away after a year of chasing it was exhausting and after a year of this runner and chasing I realized his ego and stubbornness was too much so I ended it 12 days ago. Is hard to love someone who doesn't want to do the work. I have gone through the dark night may times I have healed through it all but he refused to the work.
So my tf unblocked me a week ago. But jasnt connected with me yet. He is the runner and what i have veen learning. I cant message him until he does it firat. I wanted more then anything to be with him. But now im not so sure if i even want a relationship at all. I just want to be happy and in peace. My question is what will happen if i message him just to see how he is doing.
It is your journey... you are allowed to do anything you want to! Anyone who tells you otherwise is subconsciously trying to control! Just pay attention to the reason why you want to reach out. If it comes from a pure place then go ahead, if it comes from anything other that neutrality then I suggest working inside first! Hope this helps! If you need more support you know where to find us!
How is this reconciled with the Runners accepting "love" from karmic partners/someone else other than their Twin? Sometimes it's like they will give and accept love to everyone except the One.
I am a male DF Same position as your chaser . Should i tell my DM that we are twinflame. And she thinks exactly as you !😢 What should i do . I am in detox now but she doesn’t even try talking to me. Its like iam the only one trying. She is scared of hurting me because she runs away from commitment
This is a great question. I'm sure not all runners lie, but all of them are capable of it... just like all humans are. When in separation both me and my twin slept with other people and didn't tell the other person our entire separation until a few months into our union... so it is certainly possible. My main advice is to ask your intuition what you truly think is going on. Sometimes it can be helpful to set an intention before you sleep to talk with your twin in the Astral realm and gain more clarity on this.
@@LifeAfterUnion Some people say that Twin Flame is just an occult or a scam. The movie called Serendipity is just fiction, not real. I had an advice that I need to be very objective when it comes to thinking about relationship.
@@DongPeterChung I agree. Twin Flame is what you believe it to be. There are certainly people out there doing bad things to vulnerable people. I haven't watched the series but my mother in law told me about it. ALL PEOPLE regardless of twin flame or not should be as you are saying objective about relationships. They need to be practical. Twin Flame is a fantasy in many people's eyes. To me, it is a path to spiritual awakening. If one wants this amazing relationship but isn't willing to put in the work, then that is fantasy. We should never let people tell us what to believe when it comes to our relationships. As a coach I try to help people empower themselves not become dependent on my advice. I really like the perspectives you brought to my channel. Thank you for that!
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As a runner who's twin passed away, just love them before the Lord takes them...
I’m so sorry 😢
I cried when I read this. This saddened me deeply...I send you so much love and healing. Bless you.
Oooohp!
Yes, love in this moment is so important. Thank you
When one twin is running from the connection and the other is chasing them instead of looking inwards, there comes a point where the chaser becomes exhausted and doesn’t want to continue the pursuit anymore.
There is a point where one or both of you will enter in this next phase of surrender. Surrendering means doing the inner work on you while handing over the outcome of your connection to God. It’s not about convincing yourself “if it’s meant to be then it will be” while refusing to work on your own healing. That’s denial, not surrendering.
True surrendering is knowing that you can’t control the outcome by trying to force the reunion in any way. We need to master ourselves, master our own healing, overcome the ego, fears, the illusions, and master unconditional love. These are the only things we can control.
While we are working on ourselves, we must learn to trust in the Divine that the union will happen as a result of us working on healing ourselves and giving our Twin Flame the space to work on themselves as well.
When we surrender our connection to the Divine, we learn that we can and do love our twin whether we are physically united with them or not. We love them even if they are letting ego control them.
Some twins are tempted to just sit there waiting, and waiting, praying for their twin to change so they can reunite. Sitting and waiting for your twin shows them that you are always there no matter what so they aren’t motivated to do the work.
Surrendering is not abandoning your twin. It’s simply assisting them to work through their problems, which will help them. You’re not giving up. You are simply recognizing that waiting at their feet is actually stopping them from healing, because you are giving them an easy way out of facing their fears.
Instead of getting upset and continuing to give away your power, you must love and respect yourself, and love and respect your twin by giving them distance, surrendering the connection to Divine Guidance and timing and stop waiting at their feet.
By doing this, you love yourself by creating healthy boundaries and you love your Twin Flame by snapping them out of their ego illusions. You no longer allow them to sit idly in their illusions so they don’t have to overcome them in order to reach you.
Surrendering is the ultimate test for Twin Flames. Are you willing to let go of your fears (illusions) of separation and trust in the truth of Source to bring you back to oneness with your Twin? Are you able to release your fears of abandonment so you can stop trying to control the outcome? Only when you truly trust, can reunion occur. If you don’t trust, you are still living in the illusion of separation.
Many times Twin Flames fear that if they walk away, then their twin will never make the necessary changes to come forward and unite. They fear that if they walk away then they will lose them. If this does happen, then they were either not your Twin Flame, or they aren’t willing to heal themselves enough for reunion.
Surrendering means living your own life. If you are waiting around for them, then you are not ready to unite either.
The time will come when it will feel completely natural to surrender and give up control. Your soul will have reached the point where it will naturally want to live authentically, and interacting with your Twin Flame in a way where the ego blocks will feel exhausting. You will naturally feel your soul pulling away from your Twin Flame if he/she’s not ready to interact with you through their heart centre.
Your soul will be urging you to surrender and walk away from waiting on them because the Universe wants you to release any co-dependency on your part, as well as make your Twin Flame face the pain that arises when you distance yourself, so they too can heal their own co-dependency.
There will be a shift inside of you when you truly surrender. It will feel like liberation. You no longer have to worry if you are doing things right or wrong. You are centering yourself and handing things over to Divine guidance and timing, and handing the outcome to the Universe.
In order to recognize the truth of your soul, you must confront the biggest lie that is holding you hostage- the idea that you can be anything other than your true self.
Your heart draws its strength from the love that permeates your soul, and will prevail when that love is stronger than your fear of your ego. Once you slay the beast that guards your true self, you will take ownership over your ego and reclaim your power. This is an inevitable step on the way towards becoming whole again.
Despite our fears, there comes a point where our only option is to surrender to the Divine plan and follow that guidance. Regardless of what your Twin Flame is doing, or whether you’ve been in contact with them, or whether they even believe in the connection between the two of you, you have to accept the truth of what has always been in your heart, and let your love shine through.
When you do this, you are allowing yourself to love your twin without expecting anything in return, and your very being becomes this love- and that’s where the miracle lies. When you do this, your twin will do the same, and your eternal love is renewed.
Having a personal relationship with the Divine is what’s absolutely needed for reuniting with your twin, because this union is orchestrated by divine will. This is why it’s imperative that we come to the point of surrender on our own.
As we discover things about ourselves and accept the truth in our heart, as we surrender to Divine will, let that guide us, and align ourselves with the plan for us, we will be led to our Twin Flame, and to the union.
Many Twin Flames get wrapped up in the “when?” When will we unite? And they get stuck in feelings of disappointment, frustration, loss, anxiety, and doubt. If you’re feeling these emotions, then you’re not trusting that your union is orchestrated by the Divine Creator. If you are feeling loss, disappointment, frustration, anxiety, or doubt, then it shows you still need to give yourself love because you have forgotten your oneness.
If you look back at your past, everything that has happened up to this point has had a purpose, to bring you to this present moment, to awaken you, to put you on this path to where you have met your twin for the ultimate healing journey.
This is no accident. You chose this task and committed to your mission with Divine Creator to assist in the ascension process. Everything that has happened in your life has been a stepping stone to help you get to greater consciousness, to raise your frequencies, to bring you back to love and remind you that you were never separate from it.
When you are spending your time over-analyzing everything, then you are not trusting your higher guidance, your Divine connection. When you are full of worry, you are not trusting your purpose. When you choose to see EVERYTHING as a learning opportunity, then you are living and trusting that you are guided and Divinely protected.
Exactly. If the runner feels comfortable by pushing you away, then you are doing the wrong thing by chasing him as he is staying in his ego.
I love this so much! Thank you. I spent YEARS chasing him and being in pain. Finally it got to the point where I wanted to be out of the pain more than I wanted to be with him, and that shifted EVERYTHING. I prioritized my own peace and my own healing. I made peace with the idea that we might never be together in this life, and I got okay with that idea. I made peace with the fact that he will probably always be in my mind and heart, and that not a single day will go by without thinking of him at least once. I stopped my own fighting and pushing and pulling, and I just accepted all of it. The change that has come about as a result of this is SO PROFOUND. I no longer chase him. I don't look at his social media. I know if he's mine, he'll come back when he's ready- and if he's not, there's no point in me trying to get him back. Either way, there is no longer any need for trying on my part.
It's a freaking miracle!! I wish every twin could get to this point of radical acceptance, but we have to go through enough pain before we're willing to just STOP and return to ourselves. ❤
@@SanctaJives loved this! The one thing that I can attest to is this journey is about the Df stepping into sovereignty. I also believe that over time our selves completely wants to feel balanced and small step by small step it starts to happen and then there is an energetic shift. Energetically we are one. But we must love ourselves and allow every feeling and thought and emotion so we can process it and continue to grow and shift. Some things are just a given. But, when we're at certain times in our journey we don't see it. Giving ourselves a literally hug, saying to ourselves " I love you" giving gratitude to ourselves for even just growing through and accepting a very challenging journey is very healing and shifting. Glad to be a part of such a beautiful community here and the tf collective.
Much love and
Many blessings.
This was profound thank you for sharing this. Yesterday I told myself I had no idea what's gonna happen in the future, so I guess we just gotta go through it.
This is everything 😍 thank you!
You are the first twin flame that I have found that is an HSP, thank you for your perspective, being HSP is difficult, as I'm also an empath who sees and communicates with the dead, plus im the. 01% red head with blue eyes, im so sensitive that I feel everyone around me and I can only rest by being alone as much as possible, living in the country , never wanting to go far.
But my sensitivity and ability to speak to the dead has allowed me to help people when spirits come to me with messages. I will always give people messages, I will never charge anyone for that, as I believe this is one reason why I am the way i am, to help heal.
Such a beautiful message. Thank you for sharing yourself. It takes an incredible amount of courage to share your messages with the world. Thank you for honoring your path ❤️
My twin ran away 6 months ago. I didn't do anything because I knew I can't go this same pattern of chasing all my life, I wanted to heal my pain. But I felt I need to tell him that I'm still here no matter what. I messaged him not long ago. He didn't reply but it was never my point. I just wanted him to know it was all true. I have no idea what's in his mind. And I always have these sad feelings that maybe I should've done more to make him feel loved. But I was so weak.. I knew I had to help myself first. My love for him will never end. Maybe we both just want to make it right and overcome the fear. Having faith in this was the biggest challenge in my life. But I think true love is worth everything...
Best Video about Twin Flame runner on Line ...Well done
This was a great topic. I’m going through a phase where I don’t feel worthy and yes running is easier than facing all the emotional issues.
Ughhh. Each phase I feel like I keep learning this lesson! Thanks for being there with me!
This is really helping me understand my DM so much. I wish i had connected with your videos earlier. Ill watch as much as i can before you move on to the next part of your journey. Iam grateful for my spirit guides directing me toyour channel.
I'm so happy you found what you needed when you needed it! Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts on our videos!
@@LifeAfterUnion much love Beautiful Souls🫶🏾
I'm the chaser. This makes SO much sense.
Thank you for watching!
Very helpful thank you. I’m the chaser so your information has been very insightful.
Glad it was helpful! Lots of love to you!
I thank you so much for this authentic and honest testimonial… lots of love to you and your twin Serena ❤❤
Thank you so much! 💓
🌞rise an shine beautiful soul...thank you for your service..to hear runner perspective is soo helpful..
I find myself more and more peacuful in my journey, after understanding, what runners going through .. i am giving him ( myself in masculine ;) ) time and space..doesnt matter how long is going to take..how many lifetimes.. ✨
love you guys 🙏🌞
Ughhh! I love this Irine! Such beauty and peace from your words! Thank you for your medicine!
You are so divine in chaser's eyes, too. You crush them by running away.
This is very true. I have seen the look in my partner's eyes. There's medicine in the running and chasing for both.
I could listen to you for years, explaining the other side from a personal view. I felt aspects that had been holding me back leave me during this video, simply because all we (DF/Chaser) ever have is our own brain, and it sometimes gets us into trouble being alone with all these emotions. I stepped into his experiencing for the duration if this video and really, really, really met him in understanding what he is living. Thank you for this Serena, very much.
Wow! Thank you for this perspective, absolutely beautiful and thank you for the work you are doing on behalf of the twin flame journey. It's doesn't go unnoticed.
I love your videos❤ Thank You ❤ Your story reminds my situation so much.
My TF is now running away.
Hi Serena.
Wow, this helped me so much to understand my part in separation.
Thank you so much!
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Lots of love to you!! Nice to see you again :)
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Hi 😊
Thank you!
Lots of love to you as well!
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i thought i was the chaser, but I noticed a lot of these patterns you mentioned with other people recently
That's good to know! There's often a lot of overlap in wounds between runners and chasers! Most twins I talk to end up having both and need each other/the reflection of other relationships in order to heal these things! Keep it up!
00:23 I know it’s just a closeup of a random TH-camr (just found this vid) but I had no idea how much I needed to see a face in some sunshine without any ‘pore filling foundation’ etc on it. It reminded me oh wait humans DO have pores, you CAN look beautiful with natural skin , etc. Ma’am you are absolutely GORGEOUS and thank you for sharing
Hahaha! Thank you so much! We have pores! It's true!
As a DF (Chaser) thank you for sharing this information, I feel more validated of the fact it's not all my fault for causing no contact now close to 8 months. My case is a little different. I was really going for it and professing my love to her like crazy. But got to a point where I thought doesn't she have boundaries? I actually had to have her block me via Facebook and she was pissed off about that, then gaslit me. Then finally blocked me. She didn't even want to do that. Then ego death for me, a straight 3 months of purgatory. At 8 months now just starting to get my mojo back. I literally could of gone a year of telling her how much I loved her, but something told me it was time to pull back because she was just going to keep letting me go and go on.
Good for you! Nothing is all your fault on the twin flame journey. Both people are responsible for the outcome no matter what it may look like on the surface.
We are 2+ years in union and still working through blame games and some power struggles! It really does get better though.
They key here is to take responsibility for your part. No more no less. This is part of healing co-dependency. Many people will take more than their share of the blame and inherently give away their power to the other person.
I actually have a beautiful offer on open enrollment right now that heals this very topic lol.
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Lots of love ❤️
Don't you have boundaries? Why would u confess that much? Its rhetorical but obviously your lesson in self worth.
@mjey1 you are absolutely right and won't deny it. Very low self worth, but have non stop been working on my self since then. Not for her, but for me. It has taken me a lifetime to get to where I'm at now and at 61, I am at 95 percent there.
@@stevemckenzie6637 oh cool. it takes people a long time sometimes, but as a society I think a lot of people are waking up
At 5:35 Chasers often beleive that if they do not receive the love or if they were wrong, what does that make us?? Fucking crazy people!! lol
Beautifully put!!! I’m right there with u
Thanks Katie! Big love!
wonderfully explained
Thank you for being here!
u hv such a positive energy ❤
Thank you so much for the comment!
The runner, me, described to me for the first time. Now I understand…thank you. 🙏
Thank you for watching!
Wow this makes so much sense about my ex. She even said after all the times she would push me away nothing really happened you haven’t done anything to me they’re wasn’t infidelity and she would come back. She just wasn’t able to see on a consistent basis that I wasn’t leaving. I wasn’t cheating on her. Now that she sees there are no excuses she can tell herself for leaving it will hit different.
Thank you for this. As a divine feminine, I have been a bit confused about how my masculine is acting and feeling. We reconnected and he's going through an awakening but he is in that space where he is still unsure of what to do because he is afraid.
This helped a lot and confirms the feeling I had about this being a challenge that'll last even during union. At least now I can understand how he may be feeling and how I can support him better.
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This is such a beautiful perspective! Yes, it is so difficult when we don't know what's going on with the other and can cause a downward spiral of feeling co-dependent (needing them to be okay in order for us to be so) but giving the space to turn inward and tend to our own inner child is so important! Lots of love to you! Thanks for doing the work!
It's so good to see these twin flame couple sharing this. Namaste❤
Thank you for the love and support!
You have excelled so much! So glad to see you continuing to create videos and share your perspectives 💖🫶🤍
Thank you for the support! Sending love!
Grat video, I can recognise myself 💯💯
Thanks for sharing!
Actually the other half doesn’t run! It’s you because they are you! You are running from your self your emotions. Your twin is there to help you heal your emotions and inner child.
It’s literally you gotta stop running from your self. Best thing to do is just heal and allow it to happen. Once it you start it becomes easier.
Your twin is waiting for you to do the inner work so they can. I hope that this helps someone ❤
Well explained thank you for your comment
@@LifeAfterUnion Thank you, took a long time to understand because of the mind tries to understand but only the heart does understand the journey.
“Your twin is waiting for you to do the inner work so they can”.
What? You just said it’s not them, it’s you. So they have no inner work, only you do. You contradict yourself here.
No, there comes a point when the DF has done EVERYTHING they can do, and they still may have to wait. Or it may still never happen.
@@KK-sg5gl you honestly have no idea about twin flames! They are you and if you don’t do your healing then they cant! True story! I know from my experiences and what he told me!
Wonderful explanation. Thank you.
Thanks for watching!
My DM got married this year after being with his second baby momma for several years. I was both surprised and not surprised because way back when I knew he wanted a marriage and "family" again. Like the image of a "good life". I dont know how he feels inside because we dont talk closely anymore. the past two years ive done deep shadow work and as ive healed he has ran farther away. when i saw the ring, the narrative switched. i was like, why am i still chasing and wondering. I see that no matter how much healing and time, he isnt coming towards me. at some point u just have to give it up. even if u feel vibes.
It sounds like an Attachment Trauma, that causes you to be a Fearful or Dismissive Avoidant. Emotional Neglect or Unpredictable actions from caregivers lead to those attachment traumas, that causes people than later having fear of being emotional vulnerable, let someone get to close, don't rely on someone, suppressing emotions. I've noticed, as a being earlier a chaser, that almost every runner has a avoidant behavior. That's why God invited Twin Flame, to make you vulnerable, by allowing breaking your heart by your twin. "Earthly Love" break your heart, so that God can heal you and show you the right form of Love - Unconditional, 'cause God is Love by himself. The deeper your Love and Faith in God, by believing in his only sending Son Jesus, the faster you can heal your traumas and be Secure Attached. Secure - means that you don't fear be vulnerable, have healthy boundaries, have self-love, and the most important - you don't search for someone, who can fulfill your emptiness inside you, but instead you gonna be the one, who is going to spread love.
Love this! Thank you for sharing your thoughts! ❤️
I started reading about twin flames first and then I found the dismissive attachment Disorder and it described every single step almost down to the very words and actions... My DM has abandonment issues and such a dramatic childhood. Unfortunately my DM I truly believe has dismissive avoidant detachment
thank you so much. amazing energy
Thank you! Back at ya!
So good to find this ❤
Thank you!
Good morning, thank you 🙏
Thank you! Blessings!
this ride is so heavy and he is running now, i saw a post on facebook and i felt so much pain, and i blocked him because i want to heal now , be in my power and i can't see him now or hear him now..... i'm leaving my partner have 2 kids and i'm going to travel this summer so i can heal .... something i'm thinking why this happens to me , so live will be much easier
Big love to you! You are brave and good for you on taking action and loving yourself first ❤️ if you need more support you know where to find me!
Since the twin is a mirror, is it possible that you will doubt the person and the relationship if you struggle with intense self loathing from childhood trauma? Everything fit’s except I felt an ick sometimes that really concerned me but it I believe it was usually when my twin did something that I was consistently shamed for as a kid.
Omg. This is very true!!! Especially from the childhood trauma perspective.
The reason you would doubt is not actually about them it's also about doubting yourself. I had the same and everytime I doubted my twin I realized the story I was playing out was the gaslighting of my intuition and emotions that I experienced from my parents as a child.
Most women in the twin flame dynamic have trouble finding or accepting their own voice/thoughts/emotions because they were rejected by others and because that lives in the collective female pain body.
To this day, I still feel an ick at certain things my twin has done and the honest answer is if there was absolutely no resistance to this person then the lesson would be over and there would be nothing left for them to teach you/reflect back to you for you to heal.
Don't worry too much about the ick so long as (like you said) you notice that when it comes up it has less to do with them and more to do with yourself.
You are asking all the right questions! Keep it up! And if you need more help you know where to find me! Lots of love! ❤️
So many questions .how long into separation did you realise and what made you want to contact your twin again so much rings true what you said ,I have really good phases where I try not to think of her then something triggers me ,been in no contact for 6 months it’s so hard ,I know there nothing I can do ,just have to leave it to universe ,does the runner feel that energy ,thankyou for your video
In my journey we were only ever not in contact through divine intervention. I.e. phones breaking. Service dying/power outages etc... only for days or a week at a time. So I think my journey differs slightly in that way.
Although when we were in no contact phases I did deal significantly with fears and thoughts that either he had moved on or he had been hurt/died. And in those phases I kept having to come to terms with the fact that I would be okay on my own.
Is it possible we are both runners? All I wanted was him but he led me on and then when I was ready to move forward with him, told me he was seeing someone. I was devastated but didn't chase after him. Still trying to let this go. It hurts so much.
Yes, it is common that twins will both run and chase. You may flip flop over different periods.
The reason for this is so that both twins can experience what is feels like to be on the other side.
I notice that this happens more often to twins that have less collective and personal karma to heal. Because the cycles are quicker.
Hope this makes sense!
Lots of love!
Hi lovely. Everything you describe is the same I felt at the very beginning...
That's how I know my other me. I know him through me.
Because I haven't talked or seen him in ten months, and only two days in 12 months (today).
Thank you for sharing, and really: in some moments we go through the same fears. I felt I was about to ruin his life, that he was a diamond and I was dirting him,...and not being enough...
I feel I have to give him space and time. Btw, we have never been together...But I felt that my love was confusing him, and most of all that his love was confusing him.
So now I believe that some day the love will overcome fear.
Bye
I'm with you, the love will overcome the fear. We are moving as a collective each day further from fear and closer to love. You and your twin are not exempt in that. We will all be pulled closer to love!
@@LifeAfterUnion thank you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
What a wonderful answer!
@@LifeAfterUnion love is our nature. Love is always "close"...but we are becoming now able to feel our true state of being!
Omg u just told my story too.
No way! Nice to have another one around here!
Thank you so much for this perspective. My twin is the runner and he admitted that he didn’t feel good enough for me when we first got together. We are in separation now, with no communication but this video has really helped me understand and to let go of the resentment I was feeling towards him for cutting ties. I trust that everything will work out as it is meant to be. 🩷
Yes, I believe that is so important. It's not easy by any stretch of the imagination, but I appreciate your courage to move forward and do the work. Its scary to trust, but rewarding as well! Big love!
I walked away after a year of chasing it was exhausting and after a year of this runner and chasing I realized his ego and stubbornness was too much so I ended it 12 days ago.
Is hard to love someone who doesn't want to do the work.
I have gone through the dark night may times I have healed through it all but he refused to the work.
Imagine doing that for 3 years while the person you're already with knows nothing about it! Ya, this is wrong and demonic!!
Sorry to hear that. It's incredibly hard. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Nice
But who is gonna love the chaser? When is the runner going to bring some justice into this situation? He can't be babied forever
Agree to agree!
So my tf unblocked me a week ago. But jasnt connected with me yet. He is the runner and what i have veen learning. I cant message him until he does it firat. I wanted more then anything to be with him. But now im not so sure if i even want a relationship at all. I just want to be happy and in peace. My question is what will happen if i message him just to see how he is doing.
Sorry I have another question. Am I aloud to talk to him about our tf journey?
It is your journey... you are allowed to do anything you want to! Anyone who tells you otherwise is subconsciously trying to control!
Just pay attention to the reason why you want to reach out. If it comes from a pure place then go ahead, if it comes from anything other that neutrality then I suggest working inside first!
Hope this helps!
If you need more support you know where to find us!
Do runners understand spiritual concepts fully or do they just mirror the chaser energies when ever they heal
How is this reconciled with the Runners accepting "love" from karmic partners/someone else other than their Twin? Sometimes it's like they will give and accept love to everyone except the One.
I am a male DF
Same position as your chaser .
Should i tell my DM that we are twinflame.
And she thinks exactly as you !😢
What should i do .
I am in detox now but she doesn’t even try talking to me.
Its like iam the only one trying.
She is scared of hurting me because she runs away from commitment
This is a hard position to be in. Keep up your detox and you will know when to make moves! Big love!
Its the same energy, so neither twin feels worthy of each other.
Love this absolutely my experience as well! Lots of love ❤️
It seems like we’ve been apart for an eternity. I don’t know if I can wait much longer.
I hear you.
Ssyou thankyou xxxx
Thanks for watching!
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Can runners lie that she is interested in somebody else when they actually do not have anyone?
This is a great question. I'm sure not all runners lie, but all of them are capable of it... just like all humans are.
When in separation both me and my twin slept with other people and didn't tell the other person our entire separation until a few months into our union... so it is certainly possible.
My main advice is to ask your intuition what you truly think is going on. Sometimes it can be helpful to set an intention before you sleep to talk with your twin in the Astral realm and gain more clarity on this.
@@LifeAfterUnionIt could be just a limerence right? I was captivated by the repeated numbers such as 111,222,333,555.
@@LifeAfterUnion Some people say that Twin Flame is just an occult or a scam. The movie called Serendipity is just fiction, not real. I had an advice that I need to be very objective when it comes to thinking about relationship.
@@DongPeterChung I agree. Twin Flame is what you believe it to be. There are certainly people out there doing bad things to vulnerable people. I haven't watched the series but my mother in law told me about it. ALL PEOPLE regardless of twin flame or not should be as you are saying objective about relationships. They need to be practical. Twin Flame is a fantasy in many people's eyes. To me, it is a path to spiritual awakening. If one wants this amazing relationship but isn't willing to put in the work, then that is fantasy. We should never let people tell us what to believe when it comes to our relationships. As a coach I try to help people empower themselves not become dependent on my advice.
I really like the perspectives you brought to my channel. Thank you for that!
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Are you aware that you are a starseed 😇
Thank you :) I have been told, but never been interested enough to dig into more
Maybe you should, have a look at the 144 000 twin flame starseed, you have an important mission here on earth, sending it you love!