Talking it through with them is key! You’re doing an amazing job! Don’t feel guilty! You should know you’re not alone and how you’re handling them is so endearing and nurturing!
Thank you friend! Yes I always air in the side of vulnerability with them. I think it’s so I pry at to take accountability and be vulnerable as an adult to teach them.
Glad you enjoy the talks, and glad I could give you some things to think about too. I know I’m not alone so always want to mention things that I think will resonate with others, glad it did ♥️
Hi Becka- your hair looks awesome! Never doubt yourself for a second. You’re a GREAT mom and you are doing a super job juggling everything. You are a wonderful, caring, compassionate person. 💕
Becka, it sounds like you have a great therapist, you are human and not perfect, parenting is the hardest job you will ever have!!!! It’s the end of the week, long school days, they are tired, your very tired from everything you do, it was just a tough moment!!! Pat yourself on the back for being a caring, loving mom!!!!🥰❤️ your boys know how much you love them!!!!🥰🤗
Hey Becka! Your hair is beautiful! You're an AMAZING mother, and you are doing a great job handling everything being a single parent. You are definitely a very compassionate, caring, and loving person! Your therapist sounds great & is giving you amazing advice. 😊❤
I feel this so much!!! I hate rushing them and I try so hard to not push push push and I definitely need a step back here and there also, the mom guilt is SO real. I do know saying I’m sorry to them when I am in a bad mindset is HUGE. My parents absolutely never did that. It is nice to see how we are now that we are older and how we are becoming the adult we needed as kids. Have a good week Becka!! 💞
Ugh, I feel this. I am a single parent who doesn't live anywhere near family, so it is so hard when I need time to myself but I can't because my kids only have me consistently. Literally giving them my all, giving my job what it needs, and still tending to myself is so hard. Mom guilt is real! I am trying to change routine or the schedule so I can be more "present".
I understand exactly how you feel. I grew up in a house full of DV and CA. I have two grandchildren now that I watch regularly. I feel the same kind of guilt you do. Especially with the two year old because she’s two and I feel like all I do is scold her all day. However, I soon realized I was too hard on myself after my Husband filmed me a couple of times without me knowing and the whole video was me telling her how proud of her I was, or how smart she is, or what a good job she was doing on her tasks. Also, about two weeks ago I felt myself getting pretty irritated and to my limit over potty training and I had to tell her “Grandma needs a time out” because I knew I was getting irritated so I figured it was best that I take a few minutes to re-regulate instead of the alternative which would be traumatizing for all if I lost my cool and started yelling (which I don’t want to do). It’s REALLY hard for us parents and grandparents who grew up in homes with zero guidance about what healthy boundaries are, what healthy relationships and disagreements look like, or how to do conflict resolution. We are also trying to learn how to self regulate ourselves as adults (like you said) while also trying to teach our children and grandchildren how to do that also. The mom (and grandparent) guilt is real. I TOTALLY understand how you feel and you’re not alone.
Great video Becks, you are doing an excellent job as a single mom. I can totally relate growing up in a not so great household. You are right you try and get through it as an adult. I constantly do my deep breathing technique and that helps a lot.😊
Your hair is soooo pretty dark! I just went dark too. I love everything you said about parenting and emotions. I 100% agree with all of it! Love your videos girl ❤
I understand where your coming from I came from a very broken home no love and neglect and abuse. My daughter has autism, adhd and odd its hard all the time not to get emotional. Don't beat yourself up , I have a saying if everyone is still alive you've had a good day or if you've made one smile you've had a great day ❤❤
Hey Girl, Happy Tuesday. There’s nothing like thrift shopping at your favorite thrift store and getting some clothes that you need. ❤ Inflation has made everything go up it’s hard to afford anything and I feel like more people are either shopping for clothes at thrift stores, clearance racks, or on big sales including me. It looks like Friday night are busy nights for you and your family. ❤ It’s okay to have to step back and collect yourself before you can emotionally be there for your boys especially because you don’t want your emotions taking over and saying the wrong thing to them at that time either. I’m sure both of your boys understand and know that you are an amazing mom and don’t think any differently about you. you’re only human and you’re not perfect you’re just you and yes it’s always benefctable to talk things out with your family especially when you free like it’s something important that they need to know or will benefit from. ❤ you have a really good therapist that really cares about you and your emotions. I love how she gives you wise advice and always tries to make you feel better. ❤
😢 i have the same 13 and 14 and from small it was soo bad my youngest has seperation anxiety and you just have toe calm yourself otherwise you can not sort out the situation so proud of you❤❤❤
Prayers you will feel better Ms. Becka. I do love your dark hair.. I wish I knew what your kids likes to do. I do know that I want to give you a big hug.
Your doin a amazing job with the boys hun. Divorce sucks for everyone involved. I know you and Chris r doin everything you can to c the boys and urself threw it. My kids have been threw it too and they have turned our really good. You do the best you can and thats all that can be expected. Love ur hair girl and love you. 💜💜💜
Thank you so much friend! ♥️ I needed that! I’m so grateful that Chris and I aren’t fighting and are cordial, I can’t imagine how much harder it would be if we weren’t. Glad to hear your kids got through it too.
I have to say I like your hair dark. It makes your eyes pop you’re a beautiful young lady and don’t be hard on yourself. I think you’re a super mom. Please be safe and God bless.
I love your hair .I feel like I am really being a bad mom lately.Sence finding out I have stage four cancer I don't think I am there for them the way I should be .My boys are older but I have been a single mom for eleven years and even through I had family help it has just been us .Their dad never wanted to be part of their lives .My dad died last Christmas Eve and that was their last grandparents I know their feelings should be more important then mind but I am having trouble getting through my own feelings.I really appreciate you sharing.❤😊
I’m so sorry you’re going through all that. My heart breaks for you!! Do not worry about it, you have to put your health first and I’m sure your boys totally understand. They love you and want you to be ok I’m sure so whatever that takes is necessary.
youre doing great and im positive they know you love them and take good care of them i can guaruntee taht they wont remember any of the bad times when they are olderive asked jess do you remember this or that that i've always felt guilty for she's like no so please ont be so hard on yaself and try to enjoy your weekend you are so totally right with what you are doing for themi love the dark hair too youre doing great job dont feel bad enjoy your weekend!
You are doing great ❤ I’ve been doing the switch off for four years and my children still have difficulties with the transition. I know what you’re going through ❤
Becka, don't be so hard on yourself. Children are under stress as well as adults. They handle it the only way they know how. I remember those days when mine had meltdowns. We'd hug them and allow them to talk to us. My mom called it " Airing out their spleen." She did this with me. You're doing a great job with them, and that's all you can do!!🎉🎉
Thank you friend! It’s hard to know sometimes what’s right and what’s not, but I know for sure I’m doing tons better than what I was offered as a kid so that’s a step in being the change.
I take melatonin nightly - my doctor said it’s perfectly fine and safe. I take the sugar free gummies. I sleep great every night and wake up feeling great too. So don’t feel guilty about it ❤😊
Your hair looks great! I seriously needed that talk. I have a 2.5 and 5 year old and it is hard! Do you have any advice for when it’s time to do something they don’t want do? For example when it’s time to come inside from playing outside.
As moms we need to walk away from some situations and it’s okay. But I get it, mom guilt is the worst. I just tell mine, you’re upset so walk over here and sit and breathe and you go over there and sit and breathe. Mommy is also upset so I’ll go over here and do the same. In 3 min when the alarm goes off group cuddle then let’s talk.
❤🎉😅😊 hi Becca I hope everything is okay with you and the babies I love I love shopping it is nice to look at other things so many good things you fine take care of yourself panda babies God bless you Virginia
I wish I loved therapy… the person I went to see was not great. She was not helpful at all and I know I have childhood trauma. Lots of it. But I couldn’t talk to the therapist about anything to try and help myself because I did not feel comfortable with her at all!
Depending on medical conditions, circumstances and certain prescriptions, some doctors will advise against it. It depends on the person and situation. If you’re in a SSRI a lot of doctors and therapists will advise limiting the frequency you take it
Honestly I’ve just heard that if you take it on a regular bases that your body stops producing it. Idk how factual that is because I’ve never asked my doctor but next time I go in I’m going to see what she says about it and I’ll follow up 😊
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Talking it through with them is key! You’re doing an amazing job! Don’t feel guilty! You should know you’re not alone and how you’re handling them is so endearing and nurturing!
Thank you friend! Yes I always air in the side of vulnerability with them. I think it’s so I pry at to take accountability and be vulnerable as an adult to teach them.
I love your talks. You gave me some insight into why I always want to fix my kids problems.
Glad you enjoy the talks, and glad I could give you some things to think about too. I know I’m not alone so always want to mention things that I think will resonate with others, glad it did ♥️
Hi Becka- your hair looks awesome! Never doubt yourself for a second. You’re a GREAT mom and you are doing a super job juggling everything. You are a wonderful, caring, compassionate person. 💕
Thank you so much Kathy! That is so sweet of you to say 🥰♥️ I’m trying my best, although I’m not perfect by any means.
Becka, it sounds like you have a great therapist, you are human and not perfect, parenting is the hardest job you will ever have!!!! It’s the end of the week, long school days, they are tired, your very tired from everything you do, it was just a tough moment!!! Pat yourself on the back for being a caring, loving mom!!!!🥰❤️ your boys know how much you love them!!!!🥰🤗
Thank you friend, that means a lot! I’m very grateful to have such a wonderful therapist too, she’s gotten me through a lot the last year!
Hey Becka! Your hair is beautiful! You're an AMAZING mother, and you are doing a great job handling everything being a single parent. You are definitely a very compassionate, caring, and loving person! Your therapist sounds great & is giving you amazing advice. 😊❤
I feel this so much!!! I hate rushing them and I try so hard to not push push push and I definitely need a step back here and there also, the mom guilt is SO real. I do know saying I’m sorry to them when I am in a bad mindset is HUGE. My parents absolutely never did that. It is nice to see how we are now that we are older and how we are becoming the adult we needed as kids. Have a good week Becka!! 💞
Ugh, I feel this. I am a single parent who doesn't live anywhere near family, so it is so hard when I need time to myself but I can't because my kids only have me consistently. Literally giving them my all, giving my job what it needs, and still tending to myself is so hard. Mom guilt is real! I am trying to change routine or the schedule so I can be more "present".
I understand exactly how you feel. I grew up in a house full of DV and CA. I have two grandchildren now that I watch regularly. I feel the same kind of guilt you do. Especially with the two year old because she’s two and I feel like all I do is scold her all day. However, I soon realized I was too hard on myself after my Husband filmed me a couple of times without me knowing and the whole video was me telling her how proud of her I was, or how smart she is, or what a good job she was doing on her tasks. Also, about two weeks ago I felt myself getting pretty irritated and to my limit over potty training and I had to tell her “Grandma needs a time out” because I knew I was getting irritated so I figured it was best that I take a few minutes to re-regulate instead of the alternative which would be traumatizing for all if I lost my cool and started yelling (which I don’t want to do). It’s REALLY hard for us parents and grandparents who grew up in homes with zero guidance about what healthy boundaries are, what healthy relationships and disagreements look like, or how to do conflict resolution. We are also trying to learn how to self regulate ourselves as adults (like you said) while also trying to teach our children and grandchildren how to do that also. The mom (and grandparent) guilt is real. I TOTALLY understand how you feel and you’re not alone.
Great video Becks, you are doing an excellent job as a single mom. I can totally relate growing up in a not so great household. You are right you try and get through it as an adult. I constantly do my deep breathing technique and that helps a lot.😊
Yes, deep breathing and redirecting my mind are always my go to. Sometimes I’ll start cleaning when I need a mental break for a minute too.
Your hair is soooo pretty dark! I just went dark too. I love everything you said about parenting and emotions. I 100% agree with all of it! Love your videos girl ❤
I understand where your coming from I came from a very broken home no love and neglect and abuse. My daughter has autism, adhd and odd its hard all the time not to get emotional. Don't beat yourself up , I have a saying if everyone is still alive you've had a good day or if you've made one smile you've had a great day ❤❤
Hey Girl, Happy Tuesday. There’s nothing like thrift shopping at your favorite thrift store and getting some clothes that you need. ❤ Inflation has made everything go up it’s hard to afford anything and I feel like more people are either shopping for clothes at thrift stores, clearance racks, or on big sales including me. It looks like Friday night are busy nights for you and your family. ❤ It’s okay to have to step back and collect yourself before you can emotionally be there for your boys especially because you don’t want your emotions taking over and saying the wrong thing to them at that time either. I’m sure both of your boys understand and know that you are an amazing mom and don’t think any differently about you. you’re only human and you’re not perfect you’re just you and yes it’s always benefctable to talk things out with your family especially when you free like it’s something important that they need to know or will benefit from. ❤ you have a really good therapist that really cares about you and your emotions. I love how she gives you wise advice and always tries to make you feel better. ❤
Yes the dark hair really brings out your eyes. Hope the little guys feel better 😢. Loved the video.
Thank you friend! Glad you enjoyed it 🥰
I love thrift stores one near me had 50% off today but my checkbook said no lol. Great video. Awesome mom. Take care and stay safe.❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you Diana, you as well! ♥️ Yes thrifting is my favorite and I always find things I like at this store!
Your hair looks great! Love the color!
😢 i have the same 13 and 14 and from small it was soo bad my youngest has seperation anxiety and you just have toe calm yourself otherwise you can not sort out the situation so proud of you❤❤❤
Prayers you will feel better Ms. Becka. I do love your dark hair.. I wish I knew what your kids likes to do. I do know that I want to give you a big hug.
Thank you friend, you are so sweet! ♥️ My kids like playing outside, playing with their toys, watching tv, pretty much just the typical kids stuff 😊
smiles to you too@@sincerelybecka3
Your doin a amazing job with the boys hun. Divorce sucks for everyone involved. I know you and Chris r doin everything you can to c the boys and urself threw it. My kids have been threw it too and they have turned our really good. You do the best you can and thats all that can be expected. Love ur hair girl and love you. 💜💜💜
Thank you so much friend! ♥️ I needed that! I’m so grateful that Chris and I aren’t fighting and are cordial, I can’t imagine how much harder it would be if we weren’t. Glad to hear your kids got through it too.
I have to say I like your hair dark. It makes your eyes pop you’re a beautiful young lady and don’t be hard on yourself. I think you’re a super mom. Please be safe and God bless.
Thank you so much friend! Yes one of the reasons I love having the dark hair too, really brings my eyes 🥰
Hi Becky new to this channel.. love your cleaning channel..❤
I love your hair .I feel like I am really being a bad mom lately.Sence finding out I have stage four cancer I don't think I am there for them the way I should be .My boys are older but I have been a single mom for eleven years and even through I had family help it has just been us .Their dad never wanted to be part of their lives .My dad died last Christmas Eve and that was their last grandparents I know their feelings should be more important then mind but I am having trouble getting through my own feelings.I really appreciate you sharing.❤😊
I’m so sorry you’re going through all that. My heart breaks for you!! Do not worry about it, you have to put your health first and I’m sure your boys totally understand. They love you and want you to be ok I’m sure so whatever that takes is necessary.
I love the darker hair ❤❤❤
Thank you 🥰
Great Video
Hope you feel better love the hair
Thank you friend! ♥️
youre doing great and im positive they know you love them and take good care of them i can guaruntee taht they wont remember any of the bad times when they are olderive asked jess do you remember this or that that i've always felt guilty for she's like no so please ont be so hard on yaself and try to enjoy your weekend you are so totally right with what you are doing for themi love the dark hair too youre doing great job dont feel bad enjoy your weekend!
You are doing great ❤ I’ve been doing the switch off for four years and my children still have difficulties with the transition. I know what you’re going through ❤
Thank you Amy, it’s definitely a rough transition.
Becka, don't be so hard on yourself. Children are under stress as well as adults. They handle it the only way they know how. I remember those days when mine had meltdowns. We'd hug them and allow them to talk to us. My mom called it " Airing out their spleen." She did this with me. You're doing a great job with them, and that's all you can do!!🎉🎉
Thank you friend! It’s hard to know sometimes what’s right and what’s not, but I know for sure I’m doing tons better than what I was offered as a kid so that’s a step in being the change.
I take melatonin nightly - my doctor said it’s perfectly fine and safe. I take the sugar free gummies. I sleep great every night and wake up feeling great too. So don’t feel guilty about it ❤😊
Sweety you are an amazing momma have a fabulous week pretty friend 💕
Thank you so much friend! Sometimes we just need to hear that! 🥰♥️
Amazing video love your hair busy day for you
Thank you 😊
Great video. Girl, parenting is HARD!
So hard! But also so rewarding!
Hi ms Becka. Great day in the life vlog. Have a great week.
Thank you friend! You as well ♥️
Your hair looks great! I seriously needed that talk. I have a 2.5 and 5 year old and it is hard! Do you have any advice for when it’s time to do something they don’t want do? For example when it’s time to come inside from playing outside.
As moms we need to walk away from some situations and it’s okay. But I get it, mom guilt is the worst. I just tell mine, you’re upset so walk over here and sit and breathe and you go over there and sit and breathe. Mommy is also upset so I’ll go over here and do the same. In 3 min when the alarm goes off group cuddle then let’s talk.
❤🎉😅😊 hi Becca I hope everything is okay with you and the babies I love I love shopping it is nice to look at other things so many good things you fine take care of yourself panda babies God bless you Virginia
Thank you Virginia! You too! ♥️ Yes love a good shopping day!
I wish I loved therapy… the person I went to see was not great. She was not helpful at all and I know I have childhood trauma. Lots of it. But I couldn’t talk to the therapist about anything to try and help myself because I did not feel comfortable with her at all!
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Who told you it's not good for you to take Melatonin every night? It's an all natural herb.
Depending on medical conditions, circumstances and certain prescriptions, some doctors will advise against it. It depends on the person and situation. If you’re in a SSRI a lot of doctors and therapists will advise limiting the frequency you take it
Honestly I’ve just heard that if you take it on a regular bases that your body stops producing it. Idk how factual that is because I’ve never asked my doctor but next time I go in I’m going to see what she says about it and I’ll follow up 😊