Human traffic had it right... "When the bad times outweigh the good times the parties over " If only we all realised that instead of staggering on for years pretending were still enjoying it
Spot on, is insane really towards the end of my drinking and drug taking I’d usually blackout and not really remember much of what happened, have massive anxiety about it, spunked all my wages and still thought I was having a good time lol
@@matty832 the comedowns were worth it in the earlier days, towards the end I would be picking up almost depressed already knowing what was coming, in contrast during the great times I would be buzzing thurs night not being able to sleep with excitement for Friday ... End of the day it's all synthetic happiness though
@@matty832 yeah unless you have significant breaks for months at a time it can only go downhill pleasure wise, nothing beat being 19/20 though out on all dayers or festivals with our whole lives ahead of us... I wouldn't change those times, I mourn them but glad I had them.... Late 90s early 2000s were something else 👌
I realised this at 42 sat in a pub on my own at 11am after a few days drinking. I was chasing down a double scotch with a pint of Stella and it suddenly hit me. Why am I doing this I don’t enjoy it anymore. That was 10 months ago and haven’t touched a drop since.
I absolutely loved this Video dapper. I’ve just started my sober journey and I’m certainly struggling with being in social situations whilst sober but it’s been almost two months sober now!
Love this! Listened to you a lot in my very early sobriety, really helped. Im coming up to 8 months & I feel STRONG not weak too!! 💪🏻 Just booked tickets to see you in St Annes in Jan, cant wait! Congratulations on 2 years!
Well done on 2 years! Great achievement, love your podcasts! I'm 139 days today! Have spent the last 2 years relapsing and couldn't get past 30 days but now I finally feel like I'm getting somewhere!
5 years sober after 35 years. All through AA, it’s fantastic achievement you have done and you really are an inspiration to others including the young generation including my son, keep it up and when it gets on top others are relying on you, ( just saying 😂)
Well done brother on 2 years 👊🙏 been a listener from the start of your journey.. it's deffo helped me and I'm on 88days clean the longest iv been since I started sesh life
Wow, Dapper, you look amazing! You're absolutely glowing, and it’s clear how much hard work and dedication you’ve put into this journey. Only someone who’s been through it can truly understand how tough it is, and watching your transformation is so inspiring. You’ve been a massive inspiration to me personally, and I just want to say thank you for being so real and vulnerable. Keep shining, you’re changing lives! 💫💖
Woke up and resumed this podcast I was listening to in the van on the way work 24mins forward hit me hard and gave me a proper YES moment. Accept the change! Focus on mind and body. Focus on what to actually spend this extra cash and I’ve already been looking at investments This is how you wake up! Instant mood change there cheers dapper!! Time for my own coffee now! Haha
Well done Dan it’s a fantastic achievement I’m starting my journey again just done my 1st Friday without a beer in ages at the gym feeling fresh let’s do this
You can do it. If I can, and I was a fein, scraping straws and licking bags 😂😂 and daily drinking coz I wasn't a dry sniffer and I went cold turkey as I just got sick n tired of feeling like crap and the up and down emotional roller coaster. For me, boredom was a massive factor so my advice is keep.busy - but sounds like u have already replaced it with the gym which is amazing I hope you do it. You have the potential. Just keep reminding yourself "if it's meant to be, it's up to me" ❤
Ryan mate, well done, I love that, welcome to the good life, the more you commit to it the better you will feel mate, it is possible to change your life
Dan well done mate honestly it’s beyond inspiring and speaking for myself these podcasts are and have helped me beyond any other form of help and that’s saying something like most of the UK and our generation the ding dang doo and pubs etc got way way way out of hand for me nearly costing me everything yet I still went back for me? Insanity or what doing the same thing expecting a different outcome? All that happened was the missus fucked off with the kids and your sat in shit street skint paranoid angry confused not able to sleep in flood of tears - worth it werent it? Fucking mental how I viewed that as a good time! Finding peace and making peace with my inner demons has really helped me trace a lot of my problems back in journaling everyday, Ice baths, mediations affirmations grounding and just trying to be a decent human being rather than chasing those short term sugar highs , gratitude for what I have is where it’s at for me, and like us all when that little fucker creeps into my mind about corrr a cold one and a cheeky bump would be good now pops up I quickly remind myself of the feeling of the birds chirping walking home from fk knows where on that comedown, and I have to parent myself each and every time because what I’ve found out no one’s coming back to save and fix us so in order to be a good parent we must parent ourselves daily Health and happiness bruvva Thanks again 🙌🏾💙
First time listening to you bud but can relate 100%.4 days sober so far made it to 90 before. You are spot on with everything you say especially about self esteem and using booze to escape. It is a weakness and when you view it like that it makes sense.
Have you ever considered renewing your vows and maybe having a little gathering with your family so you can perhaps have a new positive experience to help blur the regretof your weddin? I know it wont erase the memory but maybe itl help create a new positive one as the new version of you? Just a thought as i know people who have done this. Brilliant video as always 👏👏
Great podcast brother. Congrats on two whole years sober. Some achievement. At least you havent lost your sense of humour 'When i was on my knees' quicckly followed by 'not literally' 😂😂 'It aint all Ibiza and gettin touched up by Wayne Lineker 😢 Try dogging to lose weight 😂😂 im on my way to the local woods already This is like half serious half stand up A bloody good combo Top advice Dan boy
Well done on your 2 years mate!!!! Inspiring. Love listening to you and your stories the suggestions are really helpful. Changing my whole life was the only option to help create a new life. Changing my number and friends has been best idea to start new chapter. Aww love to you and Shelly lovely words!!! Am 41 days today getting my feelings back is best thing and hardest part for me in my recovery. Ps your not nut job! 😂 Lovely connection at the end with Anthony. Sending big hugs! Super amazing 2 years!!! ❤❤❤
This pod cast is a winner mate, I'm struggling atm. I was sober for a while. I then thought I could get back on it... within weeks I'm back to feeling like cr ap all the time
Bro that work story was heavy. Definite rock bottom moment and you are brave sharing that. Reminds me of many times when I compromised important things because of getting caught up in the moment. Life is a lot better when that’s not happening ❤
yer defo. but I like to just get it out and live my real truth, the more we shy away from things like that the more we start to believe we wasn't in trouble
Congratulations mate🎉🎉🎉 you look like a different man from the first year of podcasting! I love you still go to those dark places to help us but without the same panic in you face😅 I only found the channel last month so I’m so glad I went back and watched from the beginning as it shows me the truth, I won’t be fixed in a day a week a month or maybe even a year but it will come as It has for you❤🎉🎉🎉 18 days of crying but at least I’ve stopped digging my own grave for the first time in 25 years, think it’s gonna take a little while to climb out this whole😂😂😅 Peace 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
@@menacetosobrietypodcast thanks for the reply mate👍🏼 3weeks today and every day I get a bit more clarity which only means more tears, but it does make me change the situations I can and try and deal with the ones I can’t! Keep up the great work you’re a boss👊🏼 fuck the bag
Big congratulations buddy 👊🏼💙 hit two years recently also! This podcast has helped me stay on track.. Acted as a form of AA meeting without having to attend one. Brilliant to hear all the stories and gain inspiration from so many of the top guests you've had on. Resonated a lot with the ADHD, had two kids at similar times to yourself, same issues with drink and 👃 etc all made it very easy to relate to. Thank you for being so open, you're a top bloke Dan! 👊🏼💙
Huge congratulations Dan on 2 years! That’s really amazing. We look forward to your podcasts each week, they are so heart fully honest but so uplifting to see where you are now. You’re helping so many people right now. Omg aren’t hob knobs the best!! Great podcasts Dan Keep shining your a star for so many!
@@menacetosobrietypodcast omg how the hell did I spell hobnob wrong ! 🙊 😳 Costa and Greggs been delivered to you too! Life goals and an amazing wife behind you! Keep being you!
Just moved into a homeless shelter dam mate first week of sobriety I’ve had you on my ear holes for quite some time now no pressure but there’s 1000s out there just like me. White knuckles at the wheel of life right now every Friday for 45 minutes it feels like we pulled into a sevice station refuel rehydrate for the the next week of white knuckles. Just finished the pod ( came here to comment) needed to hear somebody loved me today and shocked it came from a bloke over seas that I dint have to pay either *Bonus* cheers dam mate you’re helping more then you know
mate, im with you on this journey brother, ive felt your pain and continue to, thanks so much for the comment, you are choosing the hard road and I promise if you stick to it it will pay off. Thanks for taking the time to comment
I literally had to take it hour by hour at one point, then day by day, then week by week. Once that momentum starts rolling, sobriety became easier. Mindfulness helped a lot. I liked that little book called 30 Days to Sobriety by Harper Daniels, in combo with that book The Easy Way. The sobriety journey for me started slow, focusing on hour by hour. Each hour is a huge success.
Well done mate .Your self esteem is almost tangible on here ! Massive self esteem is the pay off being Alcohol Free , and what can be better than feeling like a good human being.
Surrender, complete surrender, nothing can touch you. I know people 50 years sober & stick close to them. I can’t keep myself sober, God keeps me sober. Amen 🙏🏻
Congratulations again on 2 years sober🎉.... I've had quite a few rock bottoms. I reckon the main one is overdosing 4 or 5 times. But as I don't remember it happening I just continued to use drink and drugs.... Another great podcast Dan 💪👏 ❤
Hi Dan I really get a lot from your advice you are very wise. I have suffered with an eating disorder it never fully leaves you and overspending too and as a result I have had so much guilt and shame about my addictions I feel as addicts we are so hard on ourselves. Eating disorders are one of the hardest addictions to recover from as we all need to eat but like all addictions it can take your mind over. I agreed with what you said about learning to accept ourselves and put ourselves first. As I live alone I'm finding it hard to get rid of some toxic relationships and also all my family are in Ireland anyway your tips were excellent and it's good to get the reminder
Im so glad my podcast can translate into something I don't understand, other addictions, that makes me feel good, im glad it can help in some way, thank you for tuning in
I like the positivity and congratulate you on your journey. Lots of helpful advice, here, but I do think yours is (obviously) very much tailored towards the recovery of an extrovert. The journey is very different for introverts, as I’ve found myself. Perhaps worth considering that not everything you’re saying is a universal truth, both in terms of the nature of the struggles and the shape of the solutions
Where have I said it's a universal truth? This is my podcast from my perspective, if you would like to listen to things from your perspective start a podcast for people like you. I never say im an expert or what I say is fact. It's lived experience thats all.
@@menacetosobrietypodcast “I’m an introvert” “Start a podcast” Yeah that sounds right up my street ffs 🤦♂️ And yes, you do present plenty of things as fact, when they aren’t. There’s the “me and I” parts, which are fine. And then there’s the “this is the way that works” approach that you take, at times, that isn’t accurate for many. It was a suggestion, in case you legitimately were trying to help. Rather than just promoting your brand and working on yourself. Guess I got my answer
Bloody Hell Dan, no pun intended, but that nose story. Grim. Anyway I have been off the booze, eight years now, bar a few weeks. Still enjoying these check-ins. I hope MATES is going good. Will you ever do guests again? It made my summer a couple of summers ago. You're doing good work.
I don't want to admit I'm a addict I hate using any excuses like there aren't any I know that deep down.... My woman is amazing my best friend I don't want to loose her ever I'm scared I will.... I'm starting to realise I need to be t total but I will struggle n be a prick doing it when I don't mean to be... Does anyone else feel like that? She's my world my best friend and my family are I'm frightened because I know this isn't going tonhaplen overnight or be easy.
I was the same joey for years, put it off because the thought of it alone was so hard, and it is the hardest thing you will ever do, hands down. But its worth it if you simply can't moderate the drink and the drugs, Do it before its too late!
Well done mate. I'm 2 year in Jan. Don't know how you can be around people off their heads though, I can't. Not cos I'm tempted, cos they do my fuckin head in hahaha. Just strengthens my sobriety cos I see what a pointless waste of time it was. All them people who say I'm a funny drunk, theres no such thing. All drunk people are annoyin haha.
I also think I have very low self esteem coming from years of guilt and shame re my addictions I think low self worth goes hand in hand with having addictions it's all about getting one's confidence back in themselves by doing things that make you feel good be it a project writing or sports
Thanks Dan I've abused alcohol and drugs in the past too to escape my problems with my eating disorder as well so I can also relate to alcohol and drug addicts but my eating disorder and overspending are my primary addictions eating disorders are quite a complex addiction it's mostly about a sense of control which is the driving force and controlling one's weight anyway I still get a lot from your podcasts please continue your great work
Human traffic had it right... "When the bad times outweigh the good times the parties over " If only we all realised that instead of staggering on for years pretending were still enjoying it
Spot on, is insane really towards the end of my drinking and drug taking I’d usually blackout and not really remember much of what happened, have massive anxiety about it, spunked all my wages and still thought I was having a good time lol
@@matty832 the comedowns were worth it in the earlier days, towards the end I would be picking up almost depressed already knowing what was coming, in contrast during the great times I would be buzzing thurs night not being able to sleep with excitement for Friday ... End of the day it's all synthetic happiness though
@@TheDreamer1980 yeah the novelty eventually wears off
@@matty832 yeah unless you have significant breaks for months at a time it can only go downhill pleasure wise, nothing beat being 19/20 though out on all dayers or festivals with our whole lives ahead of us... I wouldn't change those times, I mourn them but glad I had them.... Late 90s early 2000s were something else 👌
I realised this at 42 sat in a pub on my own at 11am after a few days drinking. I was chasing down a double scotch with a pint of Stella and it suddenly hit me. Why am I doing this I don’t enjoy it anymore. That was 10 months ago and haven’t touched a drop since.
I absolutely loved this Video dapper.
I’ve just started my sober journey and I’m certainly struggling with being in social situations whilst sober but it’s been almost two months sober now!
well done on 2 months sober mate, keep at it
Fab episode 🎉 love the man at the end ❤ well done! 👏 😊
thank you
Love this! Listened to you a lot in my very early sobriety, really helped. Im coming up to 8 months & I feel STRONG not weak too!! 💪🏻 Just booked tickets to see you in St Annes in Jan, cant wait! Congratulations on 2 years!
congrats on the 8 months sober mate
Well done on 2 years! Great achievement, love your podcasts! I'm 139 days today! Have spent the last 2 years relapsing and couldn't get past 30 days but now I finally feel like I'm getting somewhere!
Well done. Keep strong 💪 😊
Wow, thats a huge achievement Joe mate! you've broken the back of it now, thats loads of proof you have now that you can stay sober
5 years sober after 35 years. All through AA, it’s fantastic achievement you have done and you really are an inspiration to others including the young generation including my son, keep it up and when it gets on top others are relying on you, ( just saying 😂)
thats great motivation, others are relying on me, so true
It’s crazy how normalised drinking is especially in the UK. It definitively isn’t “normal” to drink the whole time or every weekend
Well done brother on 2 years 👊🙏 been a listener from the start of your journey.. it's deffo helped me and I'm on 88days clean the longest iv been since I started sesh life
wicked, I love that, m hardest bit done, making the choice and getting started you keep going strong my brother
6 years I've been trying to stop!! I have good spells off and allways end up back ! But I'm going again now
Keep at it mate
Wow, Dapper, you look amazing! You're absolutely glowing, and it’s clear how much hard work and dedication you’ve put into this journey. Only someone who’s been through it can truly understand how tough it is, and watching your transformation is so inspiring. You’ve been a massive inspiration to me personally, and I just want to say thank you for being so real and vulnerable. Keep shining, you’re changing lives! 💫💖
Karolina, tunk you for taking the time to say that, sometimes I need to hear it when it all gets a bit confusing! Thanks so much for tuning in!
Woke up and resumed this podcast I was listening to in the van on the way work
24mins forward hit me hard and gave me a proper YES moment.
Accept the change! Focus on mind and body. Focus on what to actually spend this extra cash and I’ve already been looking at investments
This is how you wake up! Instant mood change there cheers dapper!! Time for my own coffee now! Haha
thank you man
Congrats on 2 years 🎉 that’s amazing news!
thank you!!!
Gosh relate to you so much its insane! Thanks for this, helped loads ❤
Of course no problem, thank you for watching
Well done Dan it’s a fantastic achievement
I’m starting my journey again just done my 1st Friday without a beer in ages at the gym feeling fresh let’s do this
You can do it. If I can, and I was a fein, scraping straws and licking bags 😂😂 and daily drinking coz I wasn't a dry sniffer and I went cold turkey as I just got sick n tired of feeling like crap and the up and down emotional roller coaster.
For me, boredom was a massive factor so my advice is keep.busy - but sounds like u have already replaced it with the gym which is amazing
I hope you do it. You have the potential.
Just keep reminding yourself "if it's meant to be, it's up to me" ❤
@@TeamNoSafeWord love this mate thank u very much ❤️
Ryan mate, well done, I love that, welcome to the good life, the more you commit to it the better you will feel mate, it is possible to change your life
@@menacetosobrietypodcast I got a year under my belt then thought I’d cracked it n before I knew it I was nearly on the crack
Well done Dan 🙏Great podcast once again and I’m now 6 days sober 🥳🥳🙏
whooopp head down and focus now!
Dan well done mate honestly it’s beyond inspiring and speaking for myself these podcasts are and have helped me beyond any other form of help and that’s saying something like most of the UK and our generation the ding dang doo and pubs etc got way way way out of hand for me nearly costing me everything yet I still went back for me? Insanity or what doing the same thing expecting a different outcome? All that happened was the missus fucked off with the kids and your sat in shit street skint paranoid angry confused not able to sleep in flood of tears - worth it werent it? Fucking mental how I viewed that as a good time! Finding peace and making peace with my inner demons has really helped me trace a lot of my problems back in journaling everyday, Ice baths, mediations affirmations grounding and just trying to be a decent human being rather than chasing those short term sugar highs , gratitude for what I have is where it’s at for me, and like us all when that little fucker creeps into my mind about corrr a cold one and a cheeky bump would be good now pops up I quickly remind myself of the feeling of the birds chirping walking home from fk knows where on that comedown, and I have to parent myself each and every time because what I’ve found out no one’s coming back to save and fix us so in order to be a good parent we must parent ourselves daily
Health and happiness bruvva
Thanks again
🙌🏾💙
Well in on the 2 years! Class act helping that man out at the end pal 👍 , "days turn into the nights" is so fucking true 😂
cheers mate
First time listening to you bud but can relate 100%.4 days sober so far made it to 90 before. You are spot on with everything you say especially about self esteem and using booze to escape. It is a weakness and when you view it like that it makes sense.
thank you appreciate that
Love this guy man❤
thank you
I felt that Dan 👊🏼💯❤️
It’ll take awhile but this will become a big channel and hold a lot of meaning for people up and down the country
appreciate that thank you
Thanks for the episode mate. This pod really helps me 👍
I'm glad it helps man
I am 8 years sober and can honestly say that quitting was the best thing that I ever did. Well done to all that has stopped!
Mate that's amazing well done on 8 years
You have helped me so much DL. Thank you
thank you very much
Well done mate what an achievement 👏 👍 top lad. Keep it up
thanks mate
Have you ever considered renewing your vows and maybe having a little gathering with your family so you can perhaps have a new positive experience to help blur the regretof your weddin? I know it wont erase the memory but maybe itl help create a new positive one as the new version of you? Just a thought as i know people who have done this. Brilliant video as always 👏👏
10/10 mate. You've been a massive inspiration for me getting off the ale and the beak.
love that brother! only way is up now
Class mate much respect
Well done Daniel, on your 2 years...your honesty, humility, and love will keep you on the journey, God bless you
Thank you I really appreciate it, thank you for watching
Great podcast brother. Congrats on two whole years sober. Some achievement.
At least you havent lost your sense of humour 'When i was on my knees' quicckly followed by 'not literally' 😂😂
'It aint all Ibiza and gettin touched up by Wayne Lineker 😢
Try dogging to lose weight 😂😂 im on my way to the local woods already
This is like half serious half stand up
A bloody good combo
Top advice Dan boy
hahah yeah, thank you appreciate that
I feel your standup shows have really made you more comfortable in your skin, these pods are amazing mate, keep up the gods work 🙌🏼
I think it has mate, its made me feel like I have real purpose, like I kind of know who I am, its so strange its where I feel the most honest!
thank you for that
Well done on your 2 years mate!!!! Inspiring. Love listening to you and your stories the suggestions are really helpful. Changing my whole life was the only option to help create a new life. Changing my number and friends has been best idea to start new chapter. Aww love to you and Shelly lovely words!!! Am 41 days today getting my feelings back is best thing and hardest part for me in my recovery.
Ps your not nut job! 😂
Lovely connection at the end with Anthony. Sending big hugs! Super amazing 2 years!!! ❤❤❤
LOL Thanks, we are all a bit nuts tho lol - I love that we have changed our whole life its brilliant, congrats on your journey too
This pod cast is a winner mate, I'm struggling atm. I was sober for a while. I then thought I could get back on it... within weeks I'm back to feeling like cr ap all the time
yer mate its non way to live there is so much more to life
Bro that work story was heavy. Definite rock bottom moment and you are brave sharing that. Reminds me of many times when I compromised important things because of getting caught up in the moment. Life is a lot better when that’s not happening ❤
yer defo. but I like to just get it out and live my real truth, the more we shy away from things like that the more we start to believe we wasn't in trouble
Congratulations mate🎉🎉🎉 you look like a different man from the first year of podcasting! I love you still go to those dark places to help us but without the same panic in you face😅
I only found the channel last month so I’m so glad I went back and watched from the beginning as it shows me the truth, I won’t be fixed in a day a week a month or maybe even a year but it will come as It has for you❤🎉🎉🎉
18 days of crying but at least I’ve stopped digging my own grave for the first time in 25 years, think it’s gonna take a little while to climb out this whole😂😂😅
Peace 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Tears are the pain leaving mate, I cried so so much, we are healing, recovering. Thanks for the comment
@@menacetosobrietypodcast thanks for the reply mate👍🏼 3weeks today and every day I get a bit more clarity which only means more tears, but it does make me change the situations I can and try and deal with the ones I can’t! Keep up the great work you’re a boss👊🏼 fuck the bag
Big congratulations buddy 👊🏼💙 hit two years recently also! This podcast has helped me stay on track.. Acted as a form of AA meeting without having to attend one. Brilliant to hear all the stories and gain inspiration from so many of the top guests you've had on. Resonated a lot with the ADHD, had two kids at similar times to yourself, same issues with drink and 👃 etc all made it very easy to relate to. Thank you for being so open, you're a top bloke Dan! 👊🏼💙
Thanks for taking the time to message! Appreciate it, yer the ADHD defo plays a big part±! appreciate it mate
Huge congratulations Dan on 2 years! That’s really amazing.
We look forward to your podcasts each week, they are so heart fully honest but so uplifting to see where you are now.
You’re helping so many people right now.
Omg aren’t hob knobs the best!!
Great podcasts Dan
Keep shining your a star for so many!
lol a fellow hobnob addict ha ha love that! thank you!
@@menacetosobrietypodcast omg how the hell did I spell hobnob wrong ! 🙊 😳
Costa and Greggs been delivered to you too! Life goals and an amazing wife behind you!
Keep being you!
Well done dan. 🎉🎉🎉🎉
cheers mate
Just moved into a homeless shelter dam mate first week of sobriety I’ve had you on my ear holes for quite some time now no pressure but there’s 1000s out there just like me. White knuckles at the wheel of life right now every Friday for 45 minutes it feels like we pulled into a sevice station refuel rehydrate for the the next week of white knuckles. Just finished the pod ( came here to comment) needed to hear somebody loved me today and shocked it came from a bloke over seas that I dint have to pay either *Bonus* cheers dam mate you’re helping more then you know
1 week is massive mate well done. I'm also homeless.
mate, im with you on this journey brother, ive felt your pain and continue to, thanks so much for the comment, you are choosing the hard road and I promise if you stick to it it will pay off. Thanks for taking the time to comment
@@menacetosobrietypodcast cheers Dan
Good luck out there buddy
Well done mate 👏 you should be proud of the man you are! Legend mate keep striving
thank you
I literally had to take it hour by hour at one point, then day by day, then week by week. Once that momentum starts rolling, sobriety became easier. Mindfulness helped a lot. I liked that little book called 30 Days to Sobriety by Harper Daniels, in combo with that book The Easy Way. The sobriety journey for me started slow, focusing on hour by hour. Each hour is a huge success.
yer, its so so hard, especially at the start, thanks for those words im sure people will see them and it will help
Well done bro. Great episode too, enjoyed it. Keep up the great work 👊
thank you so much appreciate you watching
Well done
thank you
What a an episode, tools definitely a key element in Success. Congratulations on 2yrs 🎉
100% we need the tools!
Thank you for this. I needed to hear this tonight.
um glad you watched
Well done mate .Your self esteem is almost tangible on here !
Massive self esteem is the pay off being Alcohol Free , and what can be better than feeling like a good human being.
So so true, and the stronger we get the less we let other people hurt us.
Surrender, complete surrender, nothing can touch you. I know people 50 years sober & stick close to them. I can’t keep myself sober, God keeps me sober. Amen 🙏🏻
love that
Congratulations again on 2 years sober🎉.... I've had quite a few rock bottoms. I reckon the main one is overdosing 4 or 5 times. But as I don't remember it happening I just continued to use drink and drugs....
Another great podcast Dan 💪👏 ❤
crazy aint it, rock bottoms are our proof tho, thanks nik
Fantastic! 🎉
thank you
Breathtaking & astonishing ♥️
Thank you mate
Hi Dan I really get a lot from your advice you are very wise. I have suffered with an eating disorder it never fully leaves you and overspending too and as a result I have had so much guilt and shame about my addictions I feel as addicts we are so hard on ourselves. Eating disorders are one of the hardest addictions to recover from as we all need to eat but like all addictions it can take your mind over. I agreed with what you said about learning to accept ourselves and put ourselves first. As I live alone I'm finding it hard to get rid of some toxic relationships and also all my family are in Ireland anyway your tips were excellent and it's good to get the reminder
Im so glad my podcast can translate into something I don't understand, other addictions, that makes me feel good, im glad it can help in some way, thank you for tuning in
Massive well done.
thank you
I like the positivity and congratulate you on your journey. Lots of helpful advice, here, but I do think yours is (obviously) very much tailored towards the recovery of an extrovert. The journey is very different for introverts, as I’ve found myself. Perhaps worth considering that not everything you’re saying is a universal truth, both in terms of the nature of the struggles and the shape of the solutions
Where have I said it's a universal truth? This is my podcast from my perspective, if you would like to listen to things from your perspective start a podcast for people like you. I never say im an expert or what I say is fact. It's lived experience thats all.
@@menacetosobrietypodcast
“I’m an introvert”
“Start a podcast”
Yeah that sounds right up my street ffs 🤦♂️
And yes, you do present plenty of things as fact, when they aren’t. There’s the “me and I” parts, which are fine. And then there’s the “this is the way that works” approach that you take, at times, that isn’t accurate for many.
It was a suggestion, in case you legitimately were trying to help. Rather than just promoting your brand and working on yourself.
Guess I got my answer
Bloody Hell Dan, no pun intended, but that nose story. Grim. Anyway I have been off the booze, eight years now, bar a few weeks. Still enjoying these check-ins. I hope MATES is going good. Will you ever do guests again? It made my summer a couple of summers ago. You're doing good work.
Thanks dAVID MATE, APPRECIATE THE COMMENT, caps lock sorry, yer I may get guests back on in time!
Ran out of excuses the only place I could go was back to the meetings and get on with the programme 😊
thats the best way!
I really enjoy your stories I casually drink but it’s interesting to get an Insight. You’re doing great work.
thank you!
congrats Dan
thank you
2 years is so so good ❤️
thank you
I felt amazing just doing it for a week will try 2 weeks from today no actually party next week! But I can do it, sobriety is the only way ❤️
ok, yer good luck!
Come on lad!! congratulations 🥳 lets celebrate 🍾 😅😂😂
lol whoooppp
Keep up the good work bro love the podcast's
thank you!
Legend ❤
thank you
Lovely words to you from Shelly mate 😊
aint it great words
Legend
thanks
Well done mate
thank you
It ain't all Ibiza and getting touched up by Wayne Lineker is a fucking great line !
you know what I mean lol ha ha
Well done pal :)
thanks brother
💯 need a routine... I walk an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening, at least now... no dogging tho unfortunately 😂
thats great, routine is key!
Top marks M8
I don't want to admit I'm a addict I hate using any excuses like there aren't any I know that deep down.... My woman is amazing my best friend I don't want to loose her ever I'm scared I will.... I'm starting to realise I need to be t total but I will struggle n be a prick doing it when I don't mean to be... Does anyone else feel like that? She's my world my best friend and my family are I'm frightened because I know this isn't going tonhaplen overnight or be easy.
I was the same joey for years, put it off because the thought of it alone was so hard, and it is the hardest thing you will ever do, hands down. But its worth it if you simply can't moderate the drink and the drugs, Do it before its too late!
Well done mate. I'm 2 year in Jan. Don't know how you can be around people off their heads though, I can't. Not cos I'm tempted, cos they do my fuckin head in hahaha. Just strengthens my sobriety cos I see what a pointless waste of time it was. All them people who say I'm a funny drunk, theres no such thing. All drunk people are annoyin haha.
Yer they do my nut to but in a strange way it makes you feel good about sobriety
You're doing god's work here son.
thanks harry
I also think I have very low self esteem coming from years of guilt and shame re my addictions I think low self worth goes hand in hand with having addictions it's all about getting one's confidence back in themselves by doing things that make you feel good be it a project writing or sports
yer you got to find yourself again 100%
Thanks Dan I've abused alcohol and drugs in the past too to escape my problems with my eating disorder as well so I can also relate to alcohol and drug addicts but my eating disorder and overspending are my primary addictions eating disorders are quite a complex addiction it's mostly about a sense of control which is the driving force and controlling one's weight anyway I still get a lot from your podcasts please continue your great work