cool stuff man. u talk real fast. Good money if u become a sales person. My friend has adhd, got kicked out of 20+ schools in nyc. Started a business, now brings in 25-50k a month selling stuff. Definitely an advantage
The Aspie World I have a ? My bff I think he has this is really smart but the noise kind of bother him and he has Certain routines like a rearranging some stuff that we organized he gets anxiety something he does have one Hobby do But I noticed that the noise he hears more noise than average people is that a symptom to?
My son has all these symptoms without the anxiety element. I think he avoids things he doesn't want to deal with. But he loves going places and exploring, no qualms at all. He's successful career-wise, but awkward socially. He is undiagnosed. I never had a clue! He is high IQ, 137, and when he was little he was very talkative. When he hit puberty his voice dropped and he started stuttering a little. He went virtually silent. He recently told his sister he has trouble reading social cues. He also told me today, because he hasn't driven in a year (due to where he works he takes public transport) he feels unsure of driving now. He's very much a man of few words (until you get on his topic then look out! Fast and furious! sometimes too loud, too) and very easy to get along with, easy going, quite witty and informed. But I mean the food textures, clothing, favorite topics, organization, structure, all spot on. He does not show emotional reactions at all though. I truly believe he might have Asperger's but not sure.
I used to work at Chipotle and there was this guy with Aspergers Syndrome who worked cleaning the restaurant. He also had a severe case of Social Anxiety. He would have meltdowns every now and then and I was basically the only person at work that was able to get him to relax. We became pretty close, because most co-workers & customers treated him different just because of his condition, I treated him like a normal person... and I'm pretty sure he noticed because he trusted me a lot. He was a freaking genius and had a hell of a good sense of humor! Great guy!
Thanks!! :) People like you have been a huge help to me too. Sometimes companionable quietness is deeper but a lot of people can't cope with it. One person would give me a friendly wink sometimes when they saw some of my triggers gathering and that helped me hold my ground rather than have to run off. It sounds like you are a whole lot more cool than most of your co-workers. I think most of us have a huge barrier around our private world and it's VERY rare to be able to let someone in. Thanks for being there! :) Regards from Tom :)
Alaina Loves One mistake mother's make is giving an asbergic child a little brother. It's common for younger siblings of asbergic children to develope depressive and often suicidal thoughts
+OsquiPlays haha. I love the way you said "one week I got obsessed". That not only describe my life to a T in general, but was also how I found out I was an Aspie as well. Once I found out its like my whole life made sense.
I did a project on Asperger's in 5th or 6th grade (don't remember) since my big brother has it. I then realized I had every one of the symptoms and I knew I had it about 1-2 years before I was officially diagnosed as having Asperger's.
Me too I got it right bout one of my family memembers then I realised I had it 2 years ago but I kept quite because I was a single dad and didn't want to loose my kids they like me they need me I'm the only one who understands there needs, I got diagnosed when I had a psychological assessment to get my kids back and now I cant cos of my label maybe where just more evolved
What I've learned in my 57 years as an Aspie, is to be who I am, but still be aware of your surroundings and people. I waisted too much of my life worrying about what everyone wants and thinks. I am grateful for what you share with me and everyone who watches your videos.
Trying to keep everyone else happy might be why I'm not happy, we know what we like to do but sadly the world isn't made for us, im 21 so got plenty to learn so maybe my opinions will change in future and I will stop obsessing over small things and I will get better
I have a great deal of difficulty being 'cut off' when I'm in the middle of talking about something. It gets me intensely frustrated, almost to the point of rage. Then I get annoyed with myself because it makes me think I'm being self important/centred.
Yes, same happens to me. It's made for a sad relationship with my parents also, because they have no idea what Asperger's is like. And instead they just think that I'm trying to be disrespectful, disobedient etc.
I am the same. I also have extreme difficulty knowing when it is my turn to talk in a conversation, how to know when the other person has finished. But if they cut me off when I’ve started to talk, then I respond with the same and just start cutting them off too. A rule of thumb - I let pass two occasions of cutting me off, if they do a third, I start cutting them off. Just not to be impolite, anyone can get carried away, in the heat os discussion, and make a mistake!
I'm sorry if you ever felt like you have been treated like a creep. Most people are unaware of the nature of this condition. It is also hard for the neurotypical partners of aspies..... we often feel disregarded by our partners due to their inability to read our body language and be sensitive to our feelings, which to us is as natural and necessary as breathing. Aspergers are not creeps at all. But there is a HUGE opportunity for misunderstanding and perceived coldness/assholedness between aspies and neurotypicals for obvious reasons.
I'm used to treating them the same way they do with me. Some will say sorry and they try to figure out how to behave properly, some will disappear from my life. PS: Sorry for cussing words
Well, social ability mean life or death in the olden days. (Like, identify friend vs foe) It is evolutionary psychology, we can’t really blame the neurotypical.
To be honest, I have a Grandson that I have raised that is quiet, polite, socially awkward, and has those same traits that you possess, he has not been diagnosed, but I'm quite sure that he is on the spectrum. Listening to you has brought me to the conclusion that I need to have him tested. He is 14 yrs old and a very well behaved and considerate child. I feel I need to do more to help him to better navigate his world. Thank you for the enlightenment.
As an Aspie, I can surely say that's damn true, I can easily do things that other can't or not easily can I indeed have a high IQ, probably caused by the austism itself, I have a big field of interests, I can master things from day to night like becoming Expert in chess in just a few days, I love solving rubik's cube and I have to take it anywhere I go, just to hold it in my hands can calms me down, I can think with a logic that others don't quite get, I can memorizing things pretty easily, and easily calculate the day of the week of any date. In the other hand I do struggle with a lot of things that people can easily do, that I cannot do easily. I use sunglasses most of the day time and sometimes at night even with the lights of my celphone being on the minimum possible, its still too bright and make my head ache. I use ear protectors bcoz sounds can rly stress me out and hurt my ears, even tho sometimes I can listen to rly loud music, also, I dont rly like eye contact but it makes me sad an frustrated coz I wish I could correspond more when people talk to me with their eyes...its indeed a bless and a curse at the same time
lizard guy It's interesting when you compare this video to some of his more recent uploads! The man has certainly progressed with his ability to interact with a camera/audience.
My girlfriend has Aspergers, been going out with her a year next month. I never really educated myself on it and having to deal with her constant meltdowns, mood-swings and over obsessions with things almost is quite exhausting if I'm honest. I love her millions, wouldn't change her for the world, because beneath that she's everything a lovely girlfriend should be. I definitely understand what you mean about routine though, I'm a last minute decision kinda guy and if I change plans last minute my girlfriend will freak out and sometimes even get quite aggressive.. it's something you have to deal with, no point in fighting it. And it can always be treated if you get a better knowledge of the condition. I always assumed Aspergers was a excuse to people sometimes to be cheeky and passive aggressive. it's a tough one to crack but isn't at all hard if you just keep the person safe and reassured.
Yes, can cause quite a lot of frustration indeed. Just need to find a way of being more direct and straight with them because I see Aspergers people as quite fragile minded
The feeling of being alienated or isolated is the worst part. When you feel left out, or in my case, you sit in your room on your computer all day, every day, until bed time, don't talk to anyone, never form any friendships, never socialize anymore. Simple things I'm not capable of. My mother literally does everything and controls all aspects of my life, even money. I just sit here. I wish I was dead.
i am sorry to hear that. i am the same in some sense to that. i am very much alone, i do try make friends but it's just awkward. and when i do form a good friendship or i think i have they don't bother with me any more that or turns out they only tried to get into my pants. i stay in my room every day all day playing games... i get bored pretty easy, i have so many things to do i just get confused on what to do lol i live on my own but i find it hard to motivate myself or even get out of bed. but i love the freedom, away from being bossed about. i am seeking help though. i finally went to my GP for a carer of some sort. i hope everything works out for you, because nothing is worse than questioning your existence and feeling like you don't want to live because you don't belong. you sound like a great person, so let that shine =)
Rena Ryugu Dude that's everyone these days. In our parents age people went out and had neighborhood barbeques but today everybody is lonely, everybody spends their whole day on the computer. We live in a vvery isolated era, so you don't have autism just because you're lonely.
EXACTLY my life, only difference is i don't want to die. Take this time in which you are alone, to research and find out everything about your mind to eventually come to the conclusion that having peace with everything, and by that i mean accepting yourself and the universe and loving every bit of it. However bad your physical life may be, the mind is capable of living a beautiful life because everything is state of mind. No matter how rich a person may be, they can still live horribly lives if they are stuck in an ego, constantly stressing basically living in a crappy little materialistic fake world. Then there are tribes living in nature who live very happy, spiritual lives and love it. Knowledge is bliss trust me. Knowledge seems like suffering for a long point until you reach a milestone where you are so wise that you realize that you are the architect of your own reality. And no matter what happens in the physical reality, your mind can always be at complete serenity, because the 5 senses aren't directly affecting your consciousness anymore, but you are just observing them. In this time that youre in your room, start being creative, find out what your passion is and follow it. It's better to be used to and aware of being alone, and get real joy out of company, instead of being used to company, and going crazy when alone for one day. I know, the missing love in the familie is horrible, they show their love through materialism, instead of a loving relationship. My mum also controls everything, but thats because my mum is a control freak and she knows it. It has caused me to still be a child in responsibility, while i am a wise old man in universal and life experience knowledge, because i have spent so much time on the internet researching and learning that my mind has basically become the internet :p And my other advise would be try your best to talk to your parents about everything, for example tell your mom to stop controlling things, and if she, like i think, wont stop, the only solution is to take responsibility for your shit and do it before she has a chance to, which seems almost impossible i know. But dont worry you'll be fine :)
Hm... Is there any way to get a pet, or a support animal? Are there any online groups for people with Asperger's /autism in your area who can help you out with suggestions /advice? I'm on social assistance and working hard to establish a low cost low maintenance life with an alternative job so that I don't have to stay on it. I rent a room in someone's house and fight the fight to keep out of that. It took me years to even get there, and some of the things that took me there were drastic. Hm- there are sometimes free resources in cities and towns for activities and hobbies. Walks outside to an uncrowded cafe or something or something free that's enjoyable to do might help too- exercise plus fresh air equals happier body, even if your mind isnt gung ho about it it can. Help. Hm... There's meetup.com, if that's in your area? There's also sometimes free therapy or mindfulness or something resources though those can be hard to find. Whaf your mom is doing isn't fair and is the opposite of helpful. That sounds terrifying and tiring. I'm sorry that I don't know how to help more. Also!! Special interest- for me it's art and stories and people and stuff but - whatever helps your heart chug along like- including that in your life and thinking critically about it to expand horizons and activities (like if you like one thing it can help branch out to another thing). Ohhh also maybe, try a pen pal? Idk, I'm not too good with letters but I know some people are!
This popped up on my suggested feed and it is just so great to see how much you have grown and and how comfortable and confident you have become. Your videos are amazing and you have helped me so much. I am waiting for my eval right now, and your videos have really helped me prepare. You’re awesome Dan, keep up the awesome work!
thank you for sharing! my boyfriend of 4.5 years has been undiagnosed. he's in his early 40s and was born before the diagnoses was more common. he has many of these 10 traits - food, clothing patterns + not able to tell if someone he doesn't know is using sarcasm + the crowds and overwhelm really disturb him. thank you so much for sharing this! now I don't have to be hurt or confused by his traits and can be more loving and supportive. bless you!
Where did you guys meet if I may ask, like what kind of setting. I want to put myself back out there but I’ve become out of touch with reality somewhat by isolating for so long. Holy crap this was 7 years ago my bad. I hope you guys made it
Congratulations, Dan! This video has hit over a million views and it's wonderful that you've been helpful to so many people on the spectrum especially me.
I am into 'uniform' dressing. I have several of the same black dress pants, and like 50 black tank tops, black turtlenecks etc... I cannot stand to have to 'match' clothing. I only have like 5 pairs of shoes and boots so that I don't have to think about colors or patterns. People think that I am weird wearing black all the time, but it is a calming and quiet color and I can focus on other things. Obsessing about clothing and shoes is a societal 'program' that I do not participate in.
same, I go shopping and buy the same black shirt and black pants. Also I prefer lose fit clothes. Ppl sometimes ask me why I buy bigger sizes. I can't stand clothes fit tightly, makes me itchy and makes me feel suffocating.
I so need to show all my family this. They seriously don't get it. Except my aunty, she's been great. But my mum and my uncles, and the majority don't understand, even when I've tried to explain with things I've researched. I had to do a presentation at college in 2009 and it's so annoying when they don't listen.
my step-brother has aspergers, he stay in his room almost 24/7 and sneaks around to avoid everyone, never cleans up after himself at all, and looses his temper alot :/ sometimes its creepy but I understand he has asergers and its difficult for him, hes really a nice person inside and very smart but just socially awkward due to the symptom. :)
sounds about right, when i was living at home i did the same, except the bad temper thing. i was the one that got blamed for everything. i could never do right so i just stayed in my room. i felt safe and happy in there. no one could judge me or hurt me. it's a weird situation.
I live with 7 people, i try my best to avoid them. And i regularly lay myself on the floor to relax, but always in my consciousness there's an alert that someone might spot me. So i always carefully listen for sounds such that i have time to arise myself, in effect i can't relax entirely. And if they should spot me, then the magic feeling of laying on the floor would be gone, because i'd only think about that they know that i lay on the floor. It's sad. Only peace i get is when i'm entirely alone (like in the forest running around like crazy with sticks fighting trees) and occasionally when with people i know very well.
Thank you for being an advocate of yourself. My son is in the autism spectrum having been diagnosed PDD/NOS, pervasive developmental disorder/not otherwise specified. He will be 21 this year. He has earned Eagle Scout and recently became a Black Belt in Karate. During his time in scouting he had assisted in the disability merit badge and stood in front of the troop, twice, explaining about his own "disability". I know many scouts and scouters appreciated him doing this and I had noticed a big difference in how he was accepted. As a dad with a son with autism I appreciate and applaud your courage in speaking up. Thank you!
to add to the final thing you mentioned. This is true for me too. When speaking, I know what I'm saying, but if I slow down or interrupted I can easily forget what I was going to say. Conversely, if I try to slow down and think more about what I want to say (in a concise way) I end up formulating a conversation in my own head for a very long time, and depending on how long it has been, I may have forgotten the first part and I start from scratch again.... This annoys my boss in meetings :(
I actually relate a lot to the things you said here. I'm glad to know I'm not alone. I can only ever focus on one interest at a time and when I form an interest I hold it for a long time before moving on to something else. I also tend to get a bit over imaginative about the things I'm interested in. A lot of the time it's videogames for me. I tend to become rather obsessed with certain aspects, like role playing them outside, the background music, I also like to play them in very specific ways too. I also stuggle to adapt to a change of plan, and often struggle to cope when things go wrong even if it's only something minor, like if I'm cooking something and I can't find a blender for example. I also have the urge to yap and yap about for example about a game that particularly interests me at this point in time or perhaps a show I'm watching. I often tend to have to be reminded to let other people talk too, and also I struggle to know when people are or aren't interested. I often get easily irked when I feel like something is wrong but get so frustrated when I don't know what to do to fix it. I just always feel like there's something I need to do. I also struggle to convey feelings to my family hence why sometimes I get snappy, but my Mum is very good with me and my brother/sister. We both have Asperger's and my Mum studied Autism during her time at college and she's very supportive of working around the lifestyle. I can really relate a lot to what you said about not coping well in cities. As a townsperson myself I tend to prefer the quiter life than the overcrowded cities.
My son is 26 and I'm at my wit's end, I came across this video and I almost fell over.. he's never been diagnosed with Asperger's only with ADHD as a child.... please don't stop making your videos these do help ☺
I definitely do the talking to quickly thing. One of my other major difficulties is that I can't read if someone is talking, or think clearly if there is a lot of noise.
Chelsea Jones same here, I can't focus well in a loud room, but I can't focus in a quiet room either. But if I listen to music I can because I'm in my own little bubble, and I'm bot accidentally listening to multiple other peoples conversations.
I'm taking this video into my son's psychiatrist. He's 14 and has been diagnosed as ODD, ADHD, with Disruptive Mood Disorder (Bipolar), and Tic Disorder. Those all fit in certain areas but didn't really seem to fit in others, but this was so dead on you could be him in 10 years. Thanks for your courage. It's not easy for anyone to put themselves out there like this. 🤗
Thank you for this video. My son has just been diagnosed with mild autism and your video gave me great strength, because if he is like you when he grows up, I'll be the happiest dad in the world. You're a wonderful human being.
This is a very education video. My boyfriends older sister was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, and I always kind of thought she was lying about it, but seeing the similarities between what you go through, and her symptoms, it makes a lot of sense. She shuts down in public -especially with job interviews. She has the same routine every day, and wears virtually the same clothes in a cycle. She's talented in cartoon work -but mainly only does that. Very interesting. (: Thanks for posting this!
Tarquin Mahoney And these are just 10 of his symptoms...Other Aspies will find there are other things they do that are different, but still makes them part of the spectrum.
David Lafleche Indeed....*squints at 'insults'* Plus he couldn't come up with anything better than playground stuff...what is the world coming to where even the insults reek of stupidity?
I nodded my head the WHOLE time. I get frustrated and worked up over the sound of people talking about mundane things. Smells don't bother me as much. For a while now I have feared I may have Aspergers. I have read so many articles and can't find one that points me in another direction. When you talked about busy/crowded environments I actually said out-loud "YEP" right in the middle of the office. I get filled with anxiety and begin to shut down. My girlfriend will wonder why I go to sleep after a family gathering or a shopping trip. Then, when you said you played in a band and added you enjoy playing for but not being a part of a crowd, I started to laugh very loudly despite the looks I received from my co-workers. I am a stand up comedian and I have said the same thing to those who are surprised a shy guy like me can tell jokes on a stage and enjoy every minute of it. You have convinced me to finally seek help and get an official diagnosis. I might not be mentally disturbed like I have led myself to believe for all these years. Thank You
Awesome! It becomes a great relief beginning to understand one's experiences within a new context. Not defective, just different gifts and tolerances. Nothing left to fear. You have already experienced the worst of it. Now you get to explore your aptitudes in a new light and relax about how you are just cast from a slightly different mold- so to speak.
Pretendshis Yesitsajok I definitely look forward starting this new chapter in my life. Now, instead of figuring out how to FIX myself, I get to learn how to make it all work. Thank you for your kind words.
Almost all of your descriptions here fit my 5 year old son. He's autistic but has not been tested to see exactly where on the spectrum he is. This really helped and thank you.
These symptoms do not always apply to everyone who is suffering with Asperger Syndrome. Thus everyone on the spectrum has different symptoms and different experiences with those symptoms. These symptoms are hypersensitivity issues. The main criteria and classification for Aspergers is explained in the DSM 5 i.e. an impairment in Social engagement and communication and the ability to socially interact comfortably, make friends etc; Repetitive patterns of behaviour and interest. Medical concerns with Asperger Syndrome is predominantly related to depression and anxiety which is manifested from Asperger's itself, when not treated or help being sought. Asperger's is not an internet cosmetic marketing tool, but rather a serious medical concern for most that can impact their day to day life with anxiety. Its not that a person suffering with Aspergers doesn't want to engage or do things, its that they can't which is the disability.
Quite right indeed. Hypersensitivity issue are from spd or sensory processing disorder. Although it is common with autism it is not one and the same. People can have spd as a stand alone condition or from other non autistic neurological conditions.
Quite right indeed. Hypersensitivity issue are from spd or sensory processing disorder. Although it is common with autism it is not one and the same. People can have spd as a stand alone condition or from other non autistic neurological conditions.
Quite right indeed. Hypersensitivity issue are from spd or sensory processing disorder. Although it is common with autism it is not one and the same. People can have spd as a stand alone condition or from other non autistic neurological conditions.
Oh man I can relate to #7. I my outfit from day to day is 90% the same. I have specific brand / type / style of socks, underwear, jeans and undershirt I wear everyday. The only thing that changes in my outfit is my over shirt.
Thanks for making this! My fiance has Aspergers and we only found out a little while ago, though we knew he was a little different, it's helping to have a diagnosis. He has a few of the same traits as you do. Now I'm trying to learn as much as I can about aspergers so I can be more patient and understand how his mind works more :)
You are exactly what an aspie needs. I also am on the wrong planet. (I'm an aspie) However, now that I'm aware of what I am, I've been able to somewhat control it, not completely, though.
I was diagnosed with observers syndrome when I was about 9, I believe. The doctors were very knowledgeable about autism and how things worked , this osntheir life's work and they have degrees , so they knew a thing or two . They did variuos metal tests and concluded that I met all the criteria for aspergers , but my mother didn't buy into it, and so nothing was ever done . She said no, your just depressed and they put me on medication. I took 5 different medications, all the while not finding any that helped anything I was dealing with. I don't know about the rest of the country, but in Arkansas where I was raised and still live, children are not listened to when there's a problem, they don't get a choice of whether or not they take medication. No one ever listened to me about what ideas really going through, th3yd just say well your just a child and you don't know much. I wish they've listened to me . I showed all the signs of aspergers and it was also likely that I had some complications of because my mom's brother was autistic and had turrets , so it wouldn't surprise if it was one of those "skip a genreation" things ". It's just so frustrating that I never got help to cope with all the things that were and still are in my head , that my family never admitted that I had something wrong with me , they jystvswept it under the rug and just said we're gonna believe that god will guide you through life , they never actually admit a problem. . The doctors and psychologists said it's aspergers and my family simply no, no, no and did nothing . I actually remembered the other day about those mental tests and that diagnosis , and it made me quite angry because it suddenly hit me that that's why I am the way I am, and they just did nothing.
James, I’m sorry to hear this. My step-son came to live with us 6 years ago. His mother said he had Aspergers but we just thought it was the way he was raised by his mother and step-father. We thought that they just where not good parents. It takes time to see these things. When I started to read about the traits of Aspergers, it explained things that were quite odd too me. Like, why does my step-son sit on the ground, in the hot sun, with his legs crossed Indian-style when working on a project?Why does he refuse to wear a hat when he is in the bright hot sun. The more I read, the more I could see he had Aspergers. Knowing these traits helped me to see it. By the way, we all live in Arkansas! I wish you the best!
@@MadHatter841 thanks for sharing your experience. I'm sure you can imagine how frustrating it is when people don't understand your stepson or someone else you may know that has autism , but yet when you try to educate them, they shun you away. Autism awareness and other issues of the spectrum have seen a massive advancement , even since I was a kid , I'm almost 30. There's so much more opportunities for kids nowadays than ever before to get help they need, there's less of a stigma about autism too. I'm glad their is progress in the right direction.
I noticed that you very clearly display aspergers/autism symptoms even talking on camera. I respect you doing this video. If you ever wanna have a convo over any topic of your interest I'm all ears. I'm an aspie so I understand the enjoyment of talking about stuff. Myself related to your 10 things: #1 I used to scratch my wrists. then i started rolling and squeezing my eyes shut really hard. now its neck popping. #2 routine so-so #3 I used to be very specific about food, and yes textures are the BIG DEAL for aspies. but ive grown out of that within the last 3 years. #4 I have a very poor sense of smell interestingly enough. so i can't relate. #5 I haven't ever noticed too much about noises bugging me too much, but maybe because I'm not experiencing "the noise" right now. #6 OHHHH MAN am I obsessed with certain topics. as a child it was dinosaurs and space. then pokemon. ALWAYS has been soccer. now its discussions of religion and evolution. i have 1-3 week long minor interests that I think of non stop for a few days as well #7 Yep, I would wear the same thing over and over and over and over in class over and over..... gym shorts and a red jersey (i have 6 differnet read jerseys and 4 different black gym shorts) during winter it was 2 different pairs of sweats and a t-shirt #8 Same, I ONLY understand sarcasm with people I know well. I have to guess with people I don't know yet. I prefer to take people serious just to be safe #9 I haven't been to big cities much. but I did love Stockholm sweden while i was there #10 You did speak pretty quickly even when trying to talk slow. I guess I too talk too quick. question on #10 you ever notice if you get on a topic rant (i love getting on topic rants especially if the person listens) and the person stops you mid rant to ask a question do you get frustrated? If im talking about space or evolution or religion to my girlfriend, and she stops me with a question or shows disinterest I get really frustrated.
I had a bad experience with sarcasm, if someone continues to mock me and use sarcastic rebuttals It will effect me deeply, really deeply. I just had an argument with someone and instead of remaining calm and assessing the situation I screamed my head off at them and proceeded to make an ass out of myself all the while giving them the power. I have no idea how to deescalate a situation like that and it throws me back into chronic depression. Sometimes it's like I wasn't meant to be on this planet with the way I act and that person just got to me. But anyways I appreciate the video since I try not to let my mental illnesses ruin my life.
Dude, that sounds like me, except i yell at myself inside because i let whatever the other person say affect me deeply. I have to break that concentration by distracting myself with something else, otherwise it will not end well for me.
Sarcasm hurts. It's hard to come up with a rebuttel. And it means they're sure of themselves or something, which means they might not be listening, and that's frustrating!! It's also mean and disrespectful. I've known people who use smilies that way and it got me so agitated that now when I see :) and :U I instinctively feel afraid.
I am reading Tony Attwood's Complete Guide to AS at the moment, which is very helpful in describing all the likely features. What I think the professional carers appear to miss out of their description is that the aspie experience is that we are so hyperconscious about everything. Some people are just as hypersensitive, but they are not as conscious about it as we are. Once we are conscious of this fact, many of our AS features described make much more sense. For instance, our inability to 'let go' is because we have an inability to let go consciously. Consciousness is a big question for science conceptually, and possibly this is the reason why this has not been mentioned so far. Prof Grandin is very near to doing so, although may confound sensitivity and other faculties with consciousness.
***** Thanks. I am taking a 'special interest' in the writers about AS at the moment and whether they have come up with the same conclusion as I have. I started many years ago before they come up with the label. I think it was Dr Lorna Wing who brought AS into vogue amongst the professionals. Up to then they were confusing aspies with schizophrenics and heaven knows what. It is very important to be conscious how different we are from other people, especially neuro-typicals, and Tony Attwood does a wonderful job of helping us do that. So I can understand your love of his book.
Recently, i started realizing that i have anxiety disorder, autism, introverted and i have seizure. Every day i have to come to one of these videos to listen and read comments, it calms me down, makes me feel that WE matter, we're also important
I've been doing research on Asperger's for a year now because I realized that I more than likely have it. The more I research, the more I'm convinced. I'm waiting to see a Psychiatrist to find out about diagnosis. I have no insurance so it's a bit difficult. I literally have every one of these although a few of mine have a variation on it but typically I can relate to EVERYTHING an Aspie experiences. Every day is a struggle for me unless I'm doing the SAME thing every day. Thank you for posting your videos!
This video is so relatable to me. I haven't been told by a doctor that I have aspergers. I was watching a show a few months ago where one of the characters had Aspergers and It started to make me think about some of the things that I do that most would find "different". I became emotional watching my first video on Aspergers because it's made me think of all the times I did things that not even my family understood and that maybe there are reasons for why I do these things. Sorry for the long post but just wanted to say thank you for this video it gives me peace.
1) i don't do it 2) I dont get upset if my plans change, I just dont keep the schedule anymore. 3) I hate SPICY food, even though I'm Mexican. I love grilled Chicken. 4) I cant stand some air freshers, for example Cinnamon scent. 5) I do have music with a lot of guitar solos, like SANTANA. 6) Right not my interest is WW2. 7) I drees as an 'old man', just plain shirts, no logos 8) they said im sarcastic :/ 9) I HATE big cities like Los Angeles. 10) ppl sometimes say I talk too fast too lol Thanks for sharing!
Point # 10 is spot on for me. I have the same experience. It is frustrating. Its almost like the topic you are about to talk about, requires background information, which needs to be shared in order to put the subject into context. More often than not, I am interrupted, or told to slow down, and then the string of information gets lost.
I have three Children on the spectrum and my son who is 9 has all these same traits and he has aspergers. He also has adhd/add. It's nice to see an adult version of my son (sort of). Great video!
omg thanks so much for doing this video!!! ur just like me :D i have asperger but i dont have it 100% confirmed yet by doctor but im just like u, i agree with everything u say in the vid and this kind of videos make me understand my problems and everything so thank you. i hope this helps all the ppl with asperger ;)
KimeEdits I relate to this the author of this video aswell as you. I think i also have a borderline Personality disorder or bi polar... ugh my doctor still hasn't fully diagnosed me. I cut out relationships all the tie and get irritated so easily. I can't be around screaming children, barking dogs or sirens when i'm upset because the symptoms are just exasperated.
I'm having a really tough time right now with my Doctor, so far I have only been diagnosed with social anxiety... I feel very depressed because I just can't communicate with people though, they often look at me strangely and I feel like I can't understand what they're trying to say, I find it hard to appear interested in what they're saying unless it's something specific to my interests or what I'm thinking about, my head is so heavy and clouded with thoughts which I can't get a chance to process, I feel like 'what should I be feeling now' a lot, 'what would a normal person say'. I'm always scared to say something inappropriate/wrong to embarrass myself or upset someone/appear insensitive... It extends farther than social issues though. I have checked the symptoms for Asperger's one night and I relate to each and every one-though I'm 19. Surely I must be too old to diagnose such a condition? Should it not be more obvious? I feel like I have an answer, and I cannot stop thinking about this, but at the same time I'm scared to accept I have any sort of condition... Could anyone who has been diagnosed possibly shed light in the matter? I am extremely desperate, *please*...
+bub merley I'm unsure about whether or not you're seeking assistance still, as you've published this comment nearly 5 months ago, but I'd like to share that I'm 19 years of age and was the recipient of a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome one day prior to my 19th birthday. I happened upon a website a number of years ago relating to Asperger's Syndrome, and I found that my own idiosyncrasies aligned rather well with the "symptoms" - there are a minimal number of subjects that I very much enjoy (two that I appreciate at present are Portal - a video game - and the theory of evolution), my sensual modalities are rather potent (e.g., I enjoy particular textures and store them in my pocket if I become anxious), I experience troubles with communicating physical sensations or ideas that appear in my consciousness, my executive functioning is poor (which is especially evident in how - or whether - I progress through coursework), I maintain a stringent routine and am largely averse to spontaneity, and so forth. I initially wasn't able to encourage my mother to schedule an appointment with an evaluationist; however, once two individuals (absent any prompting from me) inquired about whether or not I was "autistic" my mother acquiesced. May 18, 2015, I visited a psychiatrist who was rather familiar with the condition. In preparation, I drafted a seven page "composition" documenting the behaviors I exhibit that are in accord with the diagnosis, as well as a few asides regarding why I suspect I may not warrant a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome or ASD. In addition, I deposited a few charts portraying the results of online "Aspie examinations;" that I completed. (Incidentally, I very much suggest that you prepare one for yourself, as it will aid you to convey to the individual evaluating you what you perhaps are unable to via verbal communication). Even so, the woman perpetually solicited from me a response to the following question: "Why did your pediatrician not suggest an evaluation at a younger age?" I was unsure about how to reply, and I simply dismissed it with an "I don't know" and a bit of stimming. It remains a tricky string of words even as I type this statement - I admittedly have been equipped with a sort of indelible skepticism relating to whether or not I genuinely warrant a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome. Nevertheless, following what I suspected was unduly extensive IQ testing (which was essentially a method she employed to determine whether my strengths and inabilities aligned with the average pattern of those with the condition) and what she noted was a similarly extensive "dissertation" that I drafted, she remarked that what I present with encouraged her to conclude that I do indeed warrant a diagnosis. I felt liberated - the diagnosis, while being littered with a sort of stigma, accounts for why I operate as I operate, and will assist me with how to navigate through the larger society intact. It does, more so on particular days rather than others, but it does. As for you, my suggestion would be to not be concerned with age. I'm a sample size of one, of course, but I have encountered articles online depicting a male or female, oftentimes of a greater age than you, who acquired a diagnosis at said age. If I recall, this TH-cam user did at a later age as well. Age is in essence irrelevant, although it may be the impetus for a question or two from the evaluationist. If you truly suspect that you may be on the spectrum, to use a colloquial phrase, then seek a diagnosis - it may indeed aid you as it has me. And if you ultimately do not, then construe the result as either a miscalculation, which may encourage you to obtain an evaluation from another credible individual, or be satisfied with the idea that it quells your concerns a bit. I wish you the best - if you'd like to ask any additional questions, please do. :-)
Thank you so much for your honest video. I live with a room mate with ADD asperger. It's hard to understand, but your explanation makes me feel comfort. Keep posting videos!
Number 11. You never lose emotion as you get older. Regular people eventually stop crying at movies, books ect. Yet we never lose that. Number 12. Most likely, you are the best at what you do. Alfred Hitchcock, Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin, Satoshi Tajiri(Made Pokemon), Charles Schulz(Charlie Brown), Thomas Jefferson, Michelangelo, Mozart, Beethoven, ect. All Aspies. Number 13. You can smell when something is wrong. My father and I can tell a bullshitter a mile away. My Dad had multiple shitty bosses and family members who thought they were being sneaky, but we could smell the bullshit.
Holy shit. I'm a 40 year old who may be finding out at this very moment that I have Aspergers. Been researching for less than 24 hours and most of what I'm seeing is ringing true.
I teach teenagers with autism at the middle school level. I spend a ton of time teaching, modeling and having them role-play social skills. Thank you for allowing me to see into the world of an adult on the spectrum. It informs my teaching. ❤️
I was diagnosed with Aspergers around a year and a half ago. Having my final appointment to confirm the whole thing next Wednesday, and I'm really pumped. I don't really care that I have Aspergers, because I know that there are people like you out there who are practically EXACTLY like me! It seems like I can relate with all of these top 10 traits and especially with No. 7! I literally only wear some clothing and I have around half of my wardrobe untouched. I also understand point 8 extremely well. Whenever I'm in a new lecture or a regular lesson in class I sometimes don't get what the teachers are saying simply because they're trying to crack jokes or make sarcastic statements which i personally don't understand. Even with point number ten I can completely understand because I'm not really a very confident person, and whenever I'm meant to be doing projects in class or group speaking events I always seem to either freeze up or talk too quickly. Most of my teachers barley have a clue about my condition and I guess they just blame it on my social anxiety because, like point nine, I have trouble being in crowded places and even just walking into a classroom by myself. Thanks for opening up the light behind my eyes, dude! I'm subscribing for more because I somehow feel like I can connect to you in some ways. I hope if you see this you'll reply so we can talk in the future. . Anyway, thanks! Bye!
+GərardWayPlayz Hey! Thanks for commenting! That was a huge but awesome comment! Thank you so much for subscribing! Always talk to my subs on here so comment away 😁✌🏻.
I'm a 'new' aspie (just discovered, 28yrs). It's amazing how I find so much random shared interests. For instance, I once was obsessed with the Million Dollar Homepage story, and there it is on your wall. I don't see anyone else recognizing it! Just found your channel, greetings from México!
Number 7 is especially true for me. My arms and legs are really sensitive to fabric and thus I can't stand wearing pants, long skirts or shorts, and I hate sleeves on my shirts so I always wear a miniskirt and sleeveless button-up shirt with the top button unbuttoned. It bugs me how some people assume I dress like that to be "sexy" when that's not the case at all. I know I have ugly legs and I'm not the prettiest girl around. I just want to be comfortable. Funnily enough it's how I got the nickname Sailor Moon, but I've always been obsessed with the show so I'm okay with that. And I always wear my hair up because I can't stand my hair moving around but I refuse to get it cut short because it'd eventually grow out and be all in my face. I'm just thankful I got used to wearing glasses because I need them. I got glasses at age 6 but could never get used to wearing them until age 10. I'm 20 now (actually 19, my birthday's in a month though) I also relate to the others a lot too. I get nervous and confused when in unfamiliar locations and I definitely talk too fast and get obsessive (especially about stuff I'm obsessed with, like Sailor Moon for example). I actually get so into talking that I often run out of breath and forget to swallow my spit so I'm really bad foaming at the mouth, and I often don't notice unless someone's pointing it out to me or if I actually start drooling. Sorry if that's TMI but I just wanted to share a few things. Another thing is I've always been above average in verbal skills but math is inconsistent. I've always gone from above average to plateauing for a couple years then going from average to above average again. I either get it or don't, it's like the flip of a switch
Thank you soooo much for your gentle instruction. I am a 67 yr old child w Aspergers...diagnosed 15 yr ago by a psychiatrist friend whose own son is a brilliant 19 language+ example ( of course, I utterly rejected this "crazy branding" )...odd and lonely and one-track-minded my whole life, but high vocabularied and phenom at a very young age. Your sharing has enabled this old dog to recognise traits that could have been managed or leveraged were those bozos to have assumed rightly instead of tormenting me for years with anger and fishy "schooling".
As person with aspergers himself, i hate how society treats us like we're something different ,like we're retarded or something. Everytime i make mistake (even a tiny one ) people say " Its because he's autistic or he has special needs,or even he's handicap,etc ". Its like everytime . My peers are the worst though. Everytime i do something , one of them has to antagonize and mocked me for it. I get special treatment for my condition even though people also say i'm very smart . At my job , my old boss would tell customers without my approval about me being autistic whenever i had trouble founding what the customers were looking for. Like really. Even non aspies makes mistakes from time to time. Whose here perfect ? I hate being treated like im retarded child then praised for being smart . Its annoying. I'm tired of how people tease me for my music . Like it bullshit how whenever i played certain song from my phone , people will sometimes tease me for it yet no one said anything to next person playing theirs. Like im sorry im not like rest of you. Dont get me started on the whole babytalk thing either . That also gets really annoying. Im just fed up with how society works and how things are done. Not everyone of my peers are like this just for the record, nor do the ones who makes excuses for me do it to be mean but i wish that they're to realize that im just like everyone else. I drink beer, i smoke weed from time to time, i work, i love, i hate, i think etc. Im from the United States , so im not sure how things are in U.K and other places but i want you to know you not along in your struggles either.
I dread when a clock is innaccurate, especially in a public place. I rotate my clothing (darks on Tues/Thurs/Sat, lights on the other days) so people don't notice I'm wearing the same things. I feel compelled to count things in groups, like flocks of birds. I tend to trust people too much, being honest myself, so when they lie to me they go in a special place in my mind.
I relate so much. I only found out recently that I'm somewhere on the autism spectrum and I've been educating myself about it all ever since. Been misdiagnosed and falsely treated in psychiatric hospitals a lot in my teens. I especially love your sandwich example and the planning things you mentioned. When I plan to go to my favourite restaurant and have my favourite noodles there and they don't have it, it feels like the day is ruined xD. I feel ya bro. peace
I'm 26 and just started the official diagnosis process for autism in part because of your videos. Thank you so much for sharing yourself and your perspective.
I may not have Asperger's as "severe" as you, but I still have a lack of social skills that seperate me from the rest of the "Neurotypicals". The only people who truly understand me are either people i've known for a long time or people with Asperger's or Asperger traits. Unfortunately, some of those Asperger people are involved in drugs in alchohol, perhaps due to misunderstanding.
+Corey506 My advice to anybody is skip the alcohol and drugs because whatever superficial enjoyment that may come out of it is overrated. They won't miss out on anything except pure misery from those poisons.
Jeez have I changed over two years. At this point in my life I completely understand why people use drugs and alcohol... life can be hard, man, and sometimes you need something to get through the night. But yeah, of course some challenges are still there, like anxiety and depression, especially when starting university, but really i've learned to become more aware of myself. Yeah. I don't quite know why this comment from 2 years ago was highlighted. :P
Hi I am George & I have ASD . I have lots of the same things that you do. I love Dinosaurs & Jurassic World I would talk about it all the time if I could . I also love Pug Dogs. I hate loud noises crowded shops & having my hair cut . If my Mummy tells me that we're going to a place that i love to go to then we have to go or I have a melt down. When iam thinking I walk round in a circle or I run up & down outside. I really want to meet other people like me
Dinosaurs are fascinating creatures and I use to have an innate interest in taking about them as well as their pronunciation of their names, what period they lived, or what kind of diet they had. The taxonomy of animals is also a little interesting because like mathematics, everything is neatly categorized.
My husband, 9 year old son are both aspies. I only started noticing when my 4 year old was diagnosed as non verbal autism. Thank you for ur videos, they are helping so so much.
With me, it's not that I can't comprehend these small social cues, little jokes, sarcasm and stuff like that, but often I don't know what I'm supposed to do with it. Or, I know what I'm supposed to do, but it doesn't come naturally to me, so I just kind of stand there silently and awkwardly. So the other person either think I'm subconsciously telling them "stop it, you're embarrassing yourself" or that I can't comprehend the social message itself even if it's just a simple joke.
You "may" talk fast...but you are very clear in your pronunciation - not a problem. I've been told I speak fast myself :-) You have a lot to say - and other people have short attention spans ;-) Ufo's, Conspiracy Theories, Ghost's, Repressed Technologies........we'd sure have a LOT to talk about!!! :-) Good Day
I'm not sure if I have aspergers, but alot of these fit me. I get so distracted easily, some sounds overwhelm me, over powering smells/textures bother me, and I'm bad at reading body language and understanding sarcasm. I know youtube comments aren't the place to go for medical help, but it's worth a shot?
+VideosByKelsi The most common symptoms of an autistic person are simply eye contact and obsess over particular things. So do you have bad eye contact or try to avoid it when talking to people or any obsessive interest?
+VideosByKelsi My suggestion, if you think you have aspergers consult your GP and ask for an assessment, and go into detail about what specific sensory and social issues you have. If you tick enough boxes they'll send you off for about 3-4 more assessments and will probably talk to family members/work/school and the like, to see if you fit the diagnosis.
+J L Getting lost in your own mind ... you hear him talk about wanting to speak fast... because he is going to forget his train of thought if he doesn't. Being hypersensitive to sounds , voices. Having routines which you literally hate to break out of..
cv800. its very similar but the biggest difference i see with ny son is the sensory aspect. Most people with just anxiety dont have sensory processing issues to the point where it affects your life
Hi Daniel My 8 year old daughter has just been diagnosed and I've been trying to find videos to help her understand that she's not alone. Unfortunately she only got as far as number 2 in this video because she felt and understood your stress that arises from changes in routines so badly she couldn't watch any more. Don't feel bad, your video made her uncomfortable because it was such an accurate description and this is all very new to her. It's a stage in the diagnostic process. It just goes to show autism isn't a lack of empathy. Autistic people know all about having big feelings. I wanted to tell you because you might have come across people who don't understand the stress around changes in routines but I think my little girl understood you exactly. And now she knows it's not just her.
Hi l hate food gone cold too,l hate people whistling,talking,l hate sqeking doors,l have had obessions on topics too like saving the dolphins,l never know if people are joking or serious,l am blunt tell the truth maybe telll to much,l hate crowds too,l hate rattling crisp packets too,l talk too fast,l daydream and im in another world not my own,l prefer my own space,cant do eye contact,have communication problems ,dont like bed sheets lot os things really :)
***** Your so welcome.God bless you.Hey have you watch the sensory overload simulation videos,of what it is like for us who have aspergers/autism? l bet you can relate to the videos too like l can,all they say is so true.
***** Wow its amasing how we are all similar,has anyone here also got a problem with plug holes? l have a phobia for plug holes or any holes and l hate lifts
Bobby Ramsey I CANT HANDLE STYROFOAM! I Gape my mouth and squint my eyes, ah, GOD! And does anybody else have a problem with Air Conditioning turning on?
I have exactly the same apparent contradictory trait where I can play in a band without any problems but I can't stand being in a noisy and crowded environment. My theory on it is when you're performing as a musician there is a sort of a social barrier between you and the audience - of course you can interact with them through music, but whenever you do that you're always in control of the situation. it's as if there's no social pressure at all, and you sometimes get a lot of space to move around and it feels a lot less claustrophobic. I think that is why I am able to cope with playing in a band. Plus the electric guitar is a perfect outlet for my anxiety.
Tom Davies Nope, never heard of them, although I presume you're referring to there being a lot of interaction between the band and the audience, or people in the audience invading the stage? I still think even in those situations the social pressure is not there - I mean, if someone runs on the stage you're under no obligation to actually pay any attention to them. And interactions between you and the audience are still one-sided because you're the one with the microphone :P
***** Hi :) Any 1 exception (or a rare few if there are others) doesn't negate your main point. I agree with it = maybe that's another reason why so many truly talented or exceptional musicians are aspie-autism people. I think there are many other reasons too but your one also makes sense to me. JMC used to have to abandon their microphones and escape the stage. They seemed to have a knack for starting sooo late and being sooo annoying that audiences would get quite upset with them. 'Famously' they had to run down a corridor to the loos and climb out a back-window to escape the furious audience at more than 1 show. You spurred me into looking them up and they have re-formed! WoooHooo! :))) Thanks and regards from Tom :))
I discovered your channel just few weeks ago after I had my official assessment. Seeing you here and in your most recent videos is encouraging. You've come a long way! Congrats and thanks for doing this
When 1 on 1 in a convo with someone, I can be confident as can be and chat a lot, maybe too much (but my eye contact is wonky) If I'm 1 on 1 with someone I REALLY care about, it's gone, I freeze up and think too hard about what I wanna say to them If it's a group of people regardless of who I know in the group, and they're all hopping from topic to topic, I cannot keep up or chat so I just stand there "Listening", the most I'll do is attempt to crack a joke to make someone laugh... I like making people laugh I gesture A LOT (I think this is a common Aspie thing) and hop back and forth and mix my words up, and reiterate, or attempt to bring up old subjects others have moved on from "too fast"/being cut off is annoying which oddly happens a lot to me and me only almost like I don't exist sometimes. I can't 'goodbye' well cos my brain instantly wants to retreat as fast as possible, when I have to leave I HAVE TO LEAVE. I'm really good at predicting stuff from body language, tone of voice, other little sounds people make... sniffing people out basically. I cannot reply with simple small messages, IT HAS TO BE AT LEAST A SMALL DETAILED PARAGRAPH OR MORE. Why did I write this X'D
My best friend is now becoming a child counciller/pediatrician/psycologist for autistic children because over the time she has spent with me, she gained a lot of knowledge about my spectrum.
It's like listening to my boyfriend :). He has the same stuff you do. And yes he is already diagnosed with Asperger. But it's fun to see so many similarities with others with the same diagnosis. Right now I'm doing some more research on Asperger so that I can try to understand it a bit and help him wherever possible. I do not have Asperger so sometimes it's difficult for me to understand him or accept certain things and when in doubt I research :).
+Jaqueline van Dijk (Eenmooimomentje) That is awesome, thank you for the comment, I would guess that his is how my girlfriend is with me. It will be nice for her to see other people having relationship issues also. Thank you for the comment, :).
This is such a relatable video :D and another thing that annoys me (don't know if this because of aspergers or whatever) is that when I see certain patterns I get so annoyed by them and I feel like I just wanna scratch the pattern away like seriously it's really annoying :P.
My daughter is 4, and was recently diagnosed with aspergers. My husband tells me constantly that I show the same signs, some are more obvious than hers. After watching your video, I realized that I literally related to each and every trait you discussed.
I don't like yelling it gets me angry when ppl yell. I don't like crowds unless there's space to move. Or I'm listening to a band. I wear the same thing all the time. I buy many of the same cloths . I'm not sure what i am but i definitely would like to know if i have this
Well, one of the most dominant symptoms of Aspergers Syndrome is problems in social situations. People with Aspergers will often make akward, repetitive movements as well.
+Gordon Barnes Yeah thats definitely one to look out for, I have been diagnosed with Aspergers and thats a really big problem for me as it means I dont make friends easily:) I've somewhat learned to deal with it with the help of a couple of my best mates and I've improved my confidence through playing guitar in a band just like this guy (whatever instrument he plays I don't know).
I get nervous in crowded places, I obsess about gaming (even though I never end up playing games much), If I'm watching a TV series I get really emotionally wrapped up in it and I dig around online constantly finding theories about it and such, when people tap or make repetitive sounds it makes me very upset, when people spring change on me or break schedule it makes me upset and nervous, If there is something coming up (work or whatever, I don't work anymore because I can't handle it) I get nervous about it months in advance, for instance, my daughter starts school in 14 months and I'm already counting the days.... Does this sound anything like Asperger's? Sorry for the long comment. Great video, btw.
Those are traits associated with Asperger's. The worst you can do is diagnose yourself with it though. It's a common issue with apophenia in that everyone (AS or no) tries to find relateable symptoms and ignore others that could disprove such a diagnosis or overshadow something more serious. Go see a doctor about it. The anxiety is common but may also indicate co-morbidity. In addition, don't let people write off any symptoms you have as being purely related to Asperger's. People with AS can have all sorts of other mental health conditions besides AS or none at all. Good luck finding a finding a diagnosis, and more importantly a way to develop coping mechanisms. It's not a curse or a disorder either.
Hi! My name is Nancy, i am an everyday 20 year old girl. So I'm told. I have been diagnosed with multiples of different mental health conditions from anxiety, depression, to borderline personality disorder. After 5 minutes of watching the Netflix series "love with Autism" i found my heart drop, and realized.. I was listening to myself. I then went online and took a short quiz and was shocked by my results, 28/50. My parents, are my biggest fear as i begin my journey this morning to finding advocacy. They have never once been supportive of my counseling, school, or medical choices, shunning me for ever believing i wasn't "normal" I have never had stable friendships, schools, jobs, or anything else for that matter, and see every day as a frightening new task. Though, i am yet to be diagnosed, i believe that this could have been it all along. They even switched my schools at age seven because of this, and supposedly "thought nothing of my anxious, anti-social behavior." I would like to see more advocacy and information available for parents and family's , because i am beginning to think that I'm not the only one whose parents hid something so obvious, so long.
Manda Panda i talk fast unless im drunk. Cuz that slows down my thoughts. My thoughts move too fast so i speak fast. Its not healthy but it helps. Im not on meds tho so my effort to try and self-medicate with alcohol is actually really bad for me. Cognitive dissonance. I need help. Im gonna see a doc soon for proper medication cuz i dont wanna die. My liver is not in a healthy state. I need help. Lol
I'm a singer also I believe I'm undiagnosed autism . I I can relate to you alot on the stage thing, and being OK with it yet no wanting to be around people. also I talk very fast and don't realise it. I struggle pronouncing words also and use to have lisp. I have been diagnosed add but I don't feel my parents believe me. I remember my mum always said to me then is no such thing as add , just bad parenting and bad children. perhaps that's why she was so strict. anyway just a random comment.
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cool stuff man. u talk real fast. Good money if u become a sales person. My friend has adhd, got kicked out of 20+ schools in nyc. Started a business, now brings in 25-50k a month selling stuff. Definitely an advantage
great to see how your channel (and yourself) has grown since!
The Aspie World I have a ? My bff I think he has this is really smart but the noise kind of bother him and he has Certain routines like a rearranging some stuff that we organized he gets anxiety something he does have one Hobby do But I noticed that the noise he hears more noise than average people is that a symptom to?
i nice! I’m inspired to also start my own business ... I’ve already dropped out of premed...
My son has all these symptoms without the anxiety element. I think he avoids things he doesn't want to deal with. But he loves going places and exploring, no qualms at all. He's successful career-wise, but awkward socially. He is undiagnosed. I never had a clue! He is high IQ, 137, and when he was little he was very talkative. When he hit puberty his voice dropped and he started stuttering a little. He went virtually silent. He recently told his sister he has trouble reading social cues. He also told me today, because he hasn't driven in a year (due to where he works he takes public transport) he feels unsure of driving now. He's very much a man of few words (until you get on his topic then look out! Fast and furious! sometimes too loud, too) and very easy to get along with, easy going, quite witty and informed. But I mean the food textures, clothing, favorite topics, organization, structure, all spot on. He does not show emotional reactions at all though. I truly believe he might have Asperger's but not sure.
I used to work at Chipotle and there was this guy with Aspergers Syndrome who worked cleaning the restaurant. He also had a severe case of Social Anxiety. He would have meltdowns every now and then and I was basically the only person at work that was able to get him to relax. We became pretty close, because most co-workers & customers treated him different just because of his condition, I treated him like a normal person... and I'm pretty sure he noticed because he trusted me a lot. He was a freaking genius and had a hell of a good sense of humor! Great guy!
Thanks!! :) People like you have been a huge help to me too. Sometimes companionable quietness is deeper but a lot of people can't cope with it. One person would give me a friendly wink sometimes when they saw some of my triggers gathering and that helped me hold my ground rather than have to run off. It sounds like you are a whole lot more cool than most of your co-workers. I think most of us have a huge barrier around our private world and it's VERY rare to be able to let someone in. Thanks for being there! :) Regards from Tom :)
Churrumais you sound like me and my friend my aspbergers causes my social anxiety, but I get panic attacks onstead
Thank you! I hope my son has people like you around when he's older :)
Alaina Loves One mistake mother's make is giving an asbergic child a little brother. It's common for younger siblings of asbergic children to develope depressive and often suicidal thoughts
Foodiestthechef You can't hear or see thoughts....
Ironically, one of my intense interests was Autism itself- it's how I realized i had it
Me too,one week it got obsessed with autism and here I am
+OsquiPlays haha. I love the way you said "one week I got obsessed". That not only describe my life to a T in general, but was also how I found out I was an Aspie as well. Once I found out its like my whole life made sense.
XD It's been a year and I always find myself looking for information regarding autism
I did a project on Asperger's in 5th or 6th grade (don't remember) since my big brother has it.
I then realized I had every one of the symptoms and I knew I had it about 1-2 years before I was officially diagnosed as having Asperger's.
Me too I got it right bout one of my family memembers then I realised I had it 2 years ago but I kept quite because I was a single dad and didn't want to loose my kids they like me they need me I'm the only one who understands there needs, I got diagnosed when I had a psychological assessment to get my kids back and now I cant cos of my label maybe where just more evolved
What I've learned in my 57 years as an Aspie, is to be who I am, but still be aware of your surroundings and people. I waisted too much of my life worrying about what everyone wants and thinks. I am grateful for what you share with me and everyone who watches your videos.
How did you discover that you have aspergers? I am in my 60s and wonder if I AM...I am a sensitive person...
Trying to keep everyone else happy might be why I'm not happy, we know what we like to do but sadly the world isn't made for us, im 21 so got plenty to learn so maybe my opinions will change in future and I will stop obsessing over small things and I will get better
Nice advice
My favorite trait is "oh no, someone is in the room I need to be in, guess I'll wait until they leave"
YES! That should be a top 10 Aspergers trait. That one applies to me a lot.
Same
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lol I do this in a store, someone in that aisle, I’ll go to a different aisle first then come back and hope no one is there
I do that all the time and I don’t have Asperger
I have a great deal of difficulty being 'cut off' when I'm in the middle of talking about something. It gets me intensely frustrated, almost to the point of rage. Then I get annoyed with myself because it makes me think I'm being self important/centred.
Yeah I can totally relate to that.
Same, but I do it to other people more than they do it to me. Not on purpose of course
I have the same problem. So I stopped talking too much
Yes, same happens to me. It's made for a sad relationship with my parents also, because they have no idea what Asperger's is like. And instead they just think that I'm trying to be disrespectful, disobedient etc.
I am the same.
I also have extreme difficulty knowing when it is my turn to talk in a conversation, how to know when the other person has finished. But if they cut me off when I’ve started to talk, then I respond with the same and just start cutting them off too. A rule of thumb - I let pass two occasions of cutting me off, if they do a third, I start cutting them off. Just not to be impolite, anyone can get carried away, in the heat os discussion, and make a mistake!
I hate how society treats aspies like creeps just because we're different
I'm sorry if you ever felt like you have been treated like a creep. Most people are unaware of the nature of this condition. It is also hard for the neurotypical partners of aspies..... we often feel disregarded by our partners due to their inability to read our body language and be sensitive to our feelings, which to us is as natural and necessary as breathing. Aspergers are not creeps at all. But there is a HUGE opportunity for misunderstanding and perceived coldness/assholedness between aspies and neurotypicals for obvious reasons.
Same, some people just don’t understand that we are still humans. We just have a unique personality.
There is this great push for autism awareness, until one is past the cute kid stage. No one wants to be aware of us as adults.
I'm used to treating them the same way they do with me. Some will say sorry and they try to figure out how to behave properly, some will disappear from my life.
PS: Sorry for cussing words
Well, social ability mean life or death in the olden days. (Like, identify friend vs foe) It is evolutionary psychology, we can’t really blame the neurotypical.
Btw U've changed so much over these 6 years (I mean in a good way). U re making great videos, keep it up🔥🔥🔥
Seriously though! Respect the process and progress! Thanks for all you do Dan !
Right like wow its aweslme how into.himself he has become. Its inspiring
60 years of age and now I know I am on the spectrum...what a difference it could have made in my life if I had known sooner. TY ❤️
To be honest, I have a Grandson that I have raised that is quiet, polite, socially awkward, and has those same traits that you possess, he has not been diagnosed, but I'm quite sure that he is on the spectrum. Listening to you has brought me to the conclusion that I need to have him tested. He is 14 yrs old and a very well behaved and considerate child. I feel I need to do more to help him to better navigate his world. Thank you for the enlightenment.
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Asperger's is a blessing and a curse.
It is indeed.
Indeeed
Everything has it's Pros and Cons. I've Asperger's Syndrome too. I'm Sorry if I'm being rude though..
@ exactly. Well said. I just don't understand emotional thinking. If it's not logical I don't do it
As an Aspie, I can surely say that's damn true, I can easily do things that other can't or not easily can
I indeed have a high IQ, probably caused by the austism itself, I have a big field of interests, I can master things from day to night like becoming Expert in chess in just a few days, I love solving rubik's cube and I have to take it anywhere I go, just to hold it in my hands can calms me down, I can think with a logic that others don't quite get, I can memorizing things pretty easily, and easily calculate the day of the week of any date. In the other hand I do struggle with a lot of things that people can easily do, that I cannot do easily. I use sunglasses most of the day time and sometimes at night even with the lights of my celphone being on the minimum possible, its still too bright and make my head ache. I use ear protectors bcoz sounds can rly stress me out and hurt my ears, even tho sometimes I can listen to rly loud music, also, I dont rly like eye contact but it makes me sad an frustrated coz I wish I could correspond more when people talk to me with their eyes...its indeed a bless and a curse at the same time
I noticed you don't look at the camera began I have aspergers and don't like to make eye contact plus your awsome dude : )
lizard guy It's interesting when you compare this video to some of his more recent uploads! The man has certainly progressed with his ability to interact with a camera/audience.
My girlfriend has Aspergers, been going out with her a year next month. I never really educated myself on it and having to deal with her constant meltdowns, mood-swings and over obsessions with things almost is quite exhausting if I'm honest. I love her millions, wouldn't change her for the world, because beneath that she's everything a lovely girlfriend should be. I definitely understand what you mean about routine though, I'm a last minute decision kinda guy and if I change plans last minute my girlfriend will freak out and sometimes even get quite aggressive.. it's something you have to deal with, no point in fighting it. And it can always be treated if you get a better knowledge of the condition. I always assumed Aspergers was a excuse to people sometimes to be cheeky and passive aggressive. it's a tough one to crack but isn't at all hard if you just keep the person safe and reassured.
Thank you for sharing your story with us, it is helpful for everyone. Thank you for the comment to, :).
isnt thay every gurl really??
+PIGLETSTER91 lol, in some cases. Just takes patients.
Well my ex gf was autistic i think, because she had some of these traits but not all of them, It was very diffcult to communicate and understand her.
Yes, can cause quite a lot of frustration indeed. Just need to find a way of being more direct and straight with them because I see Aspergers people as quite fragile minded
I admire the fact that you have your own videos and a whole channel! you may not realise the door you're opening for so many people! very cool stuff.
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The feeling of being alienated or isolated is the worst part. When you feel left out, or in my case, you sit in your room on your computer all day, every day, until bed time, don't talk to anyone, never form any friendships, never socialize anymore.
Simple things I'm not capable of. My mother literally does everything and controls all aspects of my life, even money. I just sit here. I wish I was dead.
i am sorry to hear that. i am the same in some sense to that. i am very much alone, i do try make friends but it's just awkward. and when i do form a good friendship or i think i have they don't bother with me any more that or turns out they only tried to get into my pants.
i stay in my room every day all day playing games... i get bored pretty easy, i have so many things to do i just get confused on what to do lol
i live on my own but i find it hard to motivate myself or even get out of bed. but i love the freedom, away from being bossed about. i am seeking help though. i finally went to my GP for a carer of some sort.
i hope everything works out for you, because nothing is worse than questioning your existence and feeling like you don't want to live because you don't belong. you sound like a great person, so let that shine =)
Rena Ryugu Dude that's everyone these days. In our parents age people went out and had neighborhood barbeques but today everybody is lonely, everybody spends their whole day on the computer. We live in a vvery isolated era, so you don't have autism just because you're lonely.
Nick Pastorino you are really stupid lol
EXACTLY my life, only difference is i don't want to die. Take this time in which you are alone, to research and find out everything about your mind to eventually come to the conclusion that having peace with everything, and by that i mean accepting yourself and the universe and loving every bit of it. However bad your physical life may be, the mind is capable of living a beautiful life because everything is state of mind. No matter how rich a person may be, they can still live horribly lives if they are stuck in an ego, constantly stressing basically living in a crappy little materialistic fake world. Then there are tribes living in nature who live very happy, spiritual lives and love it.
Knowledge is bliss trust me. Knowledge seems like suffering for a long point until you reach a milestone where you are so wise that you realize that you are the architect of your own reality. And no matter what happens in the physical reality, your mind can always be at complete serenity, because the 5 senses aren't directly affecting your consciousness anymore, but you are just observing them. In this time that youre in your room, start being creative, find out what your passion is and follow it. It's better to be used to and aware of being alone, and get real joy out of company, instead of being used to company, and going crazy when alone for one day.
I know, the missing love in the familie is horrible, they show their love through materialism, instead of a loving relationship. My mum also controls everything, but thats because my mum is a control freak and she knows it. It has caused me to still be a child in responsibility, while i am a wise old man in universal and life experience knowledge, because i have spent so much time on the internet researching and learning that my mind has basically become the internet :p
And my other advise would be try your best to talk to your parents about everything, for example tell your mom to stop controlling things, and if she, like i think, wont stop, the only solution is to take responsibility for your shit and do it before she has a chance to, which seems almost impossible i know. But dont worry you'll be fine :)
Hm... Is there any way to get a pet, or a support animal?
Are there any online groups for people with Asperger's /autism in your area who can help you out with suggestions /advice?
I'm on social assistance and working hard to establish a low cost low maintenance life with an alternative job so that I don't have to stay on it. I rent a room in someone's house and fight the fight to keep out of that. It took me years to even get there, and some of the things that took me there were drastic.
Hm- there are sometimes free resources in cities and towns for activities and hobbies. Walks outside to an uncrowded cafe or something or something free that's enjoyable to do might help too- exercise plus fresh air equals happier body, even if your mind isnt gung ho about it it can. Help.
Hm... There's meetup.com, if that's in your area?
There's also sometimes free therapy or mindfulness or something resources though those can be hard to find.
Whaf your mom is doing isn't fair and is the opposite of helpful. That sounds terrifying and tiring.
I'm sorry that I don't know how to help more.
Also!! Special interest- for me it's art and stories and people and stuff but - whatever helps your heart chug along like- including that in your life and thinking critically about it to expand horizons and activities (like if you like one thing it can help branch out to another thing).
Ohhh also maybe, try a pen pal? Idk, I'm not too good with letters but I know some people are!
This popped up on my suggested feed and it is just so great to see how much you have grown and and how comfortable and confident you have become. Your videos are amazing and you have helped me so much. I am waiting for my eval right now, and your videos have really helped me prepare. You’re awesome Dan, keep up the awesome work!
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@@TheAspieWorld your right about the change in routine. Us Aspies don't like change in whichever routine we have
thank you for sharing! my boyfriend of 4.5 years has been undiagnosed. he's in his early 40s and was born before the diagnoses was more common. he has many of these 10 traits - food, clothing patterns + not able to tell if someone he doesn't know is using sarcasm + the crowds and overwhelm really disturb him. thank you so much for sharing this! now I don't have to be hurt or confused by his traits and can be more loving and supportive. bless you!
+Gayla D'Gaia Thanks for the comment.
Where did you guys meet if I may ask, like what kind of setting. I want to put myself back out there but I’ve become out of touch with reality somewhat by isolating for so long.
Holy crap this was 7 years ago my bad.
I hope you guys made it
Congratulations, Dan! This video has hit over a million views and it's wonderful that you've been helpful to so many people on the spectrum especially me.
Thank you!!
I am into 'uniform' dressing. I have several of the same black dress pants, and like 50 black tank tops, black turtlenecks etc... I cannot stand to have to 'match' clothing. I only have like 5 pairs of shoes and boots so that I don't have to think about colors or patterns. People think that I am weird wearing black all the time, but it is a calming and quiet color and I can focus on other things. Obsessing about clothing and shoes is a societal 'program' that I do not participate in.
Yes I was saying this to my gf, the more patterns and logos in my clothes the less I can concentrate.
same, I go shopping and buy the same black shirt and black pants. Also I prefer lose fit clothes. Ppl sometimes ask me why I buy bigger sizes. I can't stand clothes fit tightly, makes me itchy and makes me feel suffocating.
I so need to show all my family this. They seriously don't get it. Except my aunty, she's been great. But my mum and my uncles, and the majority don't understand, even when I've tried to explain with things I've researched. I had to do a presentation at college in 2009 and it's so annoying when they don't listen.
my step-brother has aspergers, he stay in his room almost 24/7 and sneaks around to avoid everyone, never cleans up after himself at all, and looses his temper alot :/ sometimes its creepy but I understand he has asergers and its difficult for him, hes really a nice person inside and very smart but just socially awkward due to the symptom. :)
sounds about right, when i was living at home i did the same, except the bad temper thing. i was the one that got blamed for everything. i could never do right so i just stayed in my room. i felt safe and happy in there. no one could judge me or hurt me. it's a weird situation.
I live with 7 people, i try my best to avoid them. And i regularly lay myself on the floor to relax, but always in my consciousness there's an alert that someone might spot me. So i always carefully listen for sounds such that i have time to arise myself, in effect i can't relax entirely. And if they should spot me, then the magic feeling of laying on the floor would be gone, because i'd only think about that they know that i lay on the floor. It's sad. Only peace i get is when i'm entirely alone (like in the forest running around like crazy with sticks fighting trees) and occasionally when with people i know very well.
***** HAHA WHAT A LOSER
00maniacmanny00 yes you are
Are you my sister? Lol
Thank you for being an advocate of yourself. My son is in the autism spectrum having been diagnosed PDD/NOS, pervasive developmental disorder/not otherwise specified. He will be 21 this year. He has earned Eagle Scout and recently became a Black Belt in Karate. During his time in scouting he had assisted in the disability merit badge and stood in front of the troop, twice, explaining about his own "disability". I know many scouts and scouters appreciated him doing this and I had noticed a big difference in how he was accepted. As a dad with a son with autism I appreciate and applaud your courage in speaking up. Thank you!
to add to the final thing you mentioned. This is true for me too. When speaking, I know what I'm saying, but if I slow down or interrupted I can easily forget what I was going to say. Conversely, if I try to slow down and think more about what I want to say (in a concise way) I end up formulating a conversation in my own head for a very long time, and depending on how long it has been, I may have forgotten the first part and I start from scratch again.... This annoys my boss in meetings :(
Yeah I can understand what you mean, :).
I know what u mean then i am sure i seem like i am lieing
I actually relate a lot to the things you said here. I'm glad to know I'm not alone. I can only ever focus on one interest at a time and when I form an interest I hold it for a long time before moving on to something else. I also tend to get a bit over imaginative about the things I'm interested in. A lot of the time it's videogames for me. I tend to become rather obsessed with certain aspects, like role playing them outside, the background music, I also like to play them in very specific ways too. I also stuggle to adapt to a change of plan, and often struggle to cope when things go wrong even if it's only something minor, like if I'm cooking something and I can't find a blender for example. I also have the urge to yap and yap about for example about a game that particularly interests me at this point in time or perhaps a show I'm watching. I often tend to have to be reminded to let other people talk too, and also I struggle to know when people are or aren't interested. I often get easily irked when I feel like something is wrong but get so frustrated when I don't know what to do to fix it. I just always feel like there's something I need to do. I also struggle to convey feelings to my family hence why sometimes I get snappy, but my Mum is very good with me and my brother/sister. We both have Asperger's and my Mum studied Autism during her time at college and she's very supportive of working around the lifestyle. I can really relate a lot to what you said about not coping well in cities. As a townsperson myself I tend to prefer the quiter life than the overcrowded cities.
Lalka Bee
Aw cool. That's kind of reassuring.
But I have been diagnosed with it.
My son is 26 and I'm at my wit's end, I came across this video and I almost fell over.. he's never been diagnosed with Asperger's only with ADHD as a child.... please don't stop making your videos these do help ☺
Hey thank you!
I definitely do the talking to quickly thing. One of my other major difficulties is that I can't read if someone is talking, or think clearly if there is a lot of noise.
+Chelsea Jones Yeah, I always get told off for talking to quick!
Chelsea Jones same here, I can't focus well in a loud room, but I can't focus in a quiet room either. But if I listen to music I can because I'm in my own little bubble, and I'm bot accidentally listening to multiple other peoples conversations.
I'm taking this video into my son's psychiatrist. He's 14 and has been diagnosed as ODD, ADHD, with Disruptive Mood Disorder (Bipolar), and Tic Disorder. Those all fit in certain areas but didn't really seem to fit in others, but this was so dead on you could be him in 10 years. Thanks for your courage. It's not easy for anyone to put themselves out there like this. 🤗
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Thank you for this video. My son has just been diagnosed with mild autism and your video gave me great strength, because if he is like you when he grows up, I'll be the happiest dad in the world. You're a wonderful human being.
+Giovanni Pisoni Thank you so much for that touching comment! 😁✌🏻️.
This is a very education video. My boyfriends older sister was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, and I always kind of thought she was lying about it, but seeing the similarities between what you go through, and her symptoms, it makes a lot of sense. She shuts down in public -especially with job interviews. She has the same routine every day, and wears virtually the same clothes in a cycle. She's talented in cartoon work -but mainly only does that. Very interesting. (: Thanks for posting this!
That is interesting, remember to have patients and give her the support she needs.
you seem like a really down to earth guy. GOD BLESS YOU and may the Lord deliver you from any fear and phobia.
+EJ Love Thank you
Most Aspies, such as myself, will find this totally relatable.
Tarquin Mahoney And these are just 10 of his symptoms...Other Aspies will find there are other things they do that are different, but still makes them part of the spectrum.
I merely made what I figured was an innocent comment...didn't expect all this stuff....I'm just confused and a little scared now...
+Jen Dowie ...which is ironic, since I find it difficult to relate to anyone.
Don't be scared of this blowhard, Jen. Anybody with "Hitler" as an icon can be ignored.
David Lafleche Indeed....*squints at 'insults'* Plus he couldn't come up with anything better than playground stuff...what is the world coming to where even the insults reek of stupidity?
I nodded my head the WHOLE time. I get frustrated and worked up over the sound of people talking about mundane things. Smells don't bother me as much.
For a while now I have feared I may have Aspergers. I have read so many articles and can't find one that points me in another direction.
When you talked about busy/crowded environments I actually said out-loud "YEP" right in the middle of the office. I get filled with anxiety and begin to shut down. My girlfriend will wonder why I go to sleep after a family gathering or a shopping trip.
Then, when you said you played in a band and added you enjoy playing for but not being a part of a crowd, I started to laugh very loudly despite the looks I received from my co-workers.
I am a stand up comedian and I have said the same thing to those who are surprised a shy guy like me can tell jokes on a stage and enjoy every minute of it.
You have convinced me to finally seek help and get an official diagnosis. I might not be mentally disturbed like I have led myself to believe for all these years.
Thank You
Awesome! It becomes a great relief beginning to understand one's experiences within a new context. Not defective, just different gifts and tolerances. Nothing left to fear. You have already experienced the worst of it. Now you get to explore your aptitudes in a new light and relax about how you are just cast from a slightly different mold- so to speak.
Pretendshis Yesitsajok I definitely look forward starting this new chapter in my life. Now, instead of figuring out how to FIX myself, I get to learn how to make it all work.
Thank you for your kind words.
Wow, you have improved in your skills so much since you made this video!
THANN YOU!! I know I’m so proud, practice makes progress!!
Almost all of your descriptions here fit my 5 year old son. He's autistic but has not been tested to see exactly where on the spectrum he is. This really helped and thank you.
Oh interesting, best of luck if you choose to get a diagnosis. Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
These symptoms do not always apply to everyone who is suffering with Asperger Syndrome. Thus everyone on the spectrum has different symptoms and different experiences with those symptoms. These symptoms are hypersensitivity issues. The main criteria and classification for Aspergers is explained in the DSM 5 i.e. an impairment in Social engagement and communication and the ability to socially interact comfortably, make friends etc; Repetitive patterns of behaviour and interest. Medical concerns with Asperger Syndrome is predominantly related to depression and anxiety which is manifested from Asperger's itself, when not treated or help being sought. Asperger's is not an internet cosmetic marketing tool, but rather a serious medical concern for most that can impact their day to day life with anxiety. Its not that a person suffering with Aspergers doesn't want to engage or do things, its that they can't which is the disability.
Quite right indeed. Hypersensitivity issue are from spd or sensory processing disorder. Although it is common with autism it is not one and the same. People can have spd as a stand alone condition or from other non autistic neurological conditions.
Quite right indeed. Hypersensitivity issue are from spd or sensory processing disorder. Although it is common with autism it is not one and the same. People can have spd as a stand alone condition or from other non autistic neurological conditions.
Quite right indeed. Hypersensitivity issue are from spd or sensory processing disorder. Although it is common with autism it is not one and the same. People can have spd as a stand alone condition or from other non autistic neurological conditions.
Oh man I can relate to #7. I my outfit from day to day is 90% the same. I have specific brand / type / style of socks, underwear, jeans and undershirt I wear everyday. The only thing that changes in my outfit is my over shirt.
I relate to everything it’s like talking to myself! Nice to know you’re not the only one and makes you not feel like a freak x
Hey welcome to the community!
Thanks for making this! My fiance has Aspergers and we only found out a little while ago, though we knew he was a little different, it's helping to have a diagnosis. He has a few of the same traits as you do. Now I'm trying to learn as much as I can about aspergers so I can be more patient and understand how his mind works more :)
That's awesome, :)
bless your heart!
Lucky couple! He's blessed to have you and you obviously appreciate what he brings to the partnership. So happy for you both….
Thank you guys
You are exactly what an aspie needs. I also am on the wrong planet. (I'm an aspie) However, now that I'm aware of what I am, I've been able to somewhat control it, not completely, though.
I was diagnosed with observers syndrome when I was about 9, I believe. The doctors were very knowledgeable about autism and how things worked , this osntheir life's work and they have degrees , so they knew a thing or two . They did variuos metal tests and concluded that I met all the criteria for aspergers , but my mother didn't buy into it, and so nothing was ever done . She said no, your just depressed and they put me on medication. I took 5 different medications, all the while not finding any that helped anything I was dealing with. I don't know about the rest of the country, but in Arkansas where I was raised and still live, children are not listened to when there's a problem, they don't get a choice of whether or not they take medication. No one ever listened to me about what ideas really going through, th3yd just say well your just a child and you don't know much. I wish they've listened to me . I showed all the signs of aspergers and it was also likely that I had some complications of because my mom's brother was autistic and had turrets , so it wouldn't surprise if it was one of those "skip a genreation" things ". It's just so frustrating that I never got help to cope with all the things that were and still are in my head , that my family never admitted that I had something wrong with me , they jystvswept it under the rug and just said we're gonna believe that god will guide you through life , they never actually admit a problem. . The doctors and psychologists said it's aspergers and my family simply no, no, no and did nothing . I actually remembered the other day about those mental tests and that diagnosis , and it made me quite angry because it suddenly hit me that that's why I am the way I am, and they just did nothing.
James, I’m sorry to hear this. My step-son came to live with us 6 years ago. His mother said he had Aspergers but we just thought it was the way he was raised by his mother and step-father. We thought that they just where not good parents. It takes time to see these things. When I started to read about the traits of Aspergers, it explained things that were quite odd too me. Like, why does my step-son sit on the ground, in the hot sun, with his legs crossed Indian-style when working on a project?Why does he refuse to wear a hat when he is in the bright hot sun. The more I read, the more I could see he had Aspergers. Knowing these traits helped me to see it. By the way, we all live in Arkansas! I wish you the best!
@@MadHatter841 thanks for sharing your experience. I'm sure you can imagine how frustrating it is when people don't understand your stepson or someone else you may know that has autism , but yet when you try to educate them, they shun you away. Autism awareness and other issues of the spectrum have seen a massive advancement , even since I was a kid , I'm almost 30. There's so much more opportunities for kids nowadays than ever before to get help they need, there's less of a stigma about autism too. I'm glad their is progress in the right direction.
I noticed that you very clearly display aspergers/autism symptoms even talking on camera. I respect you doing this video. If you ever wanna have a convo over any topic of your interest I'm all ears. I'm an aspie so I understand the enjoyment of talking about stuff.
Myself related to your 10 things:
#1 I used to scratch my wrists. then i started rolling and squeezing my eyes shut really hard. now its neck popping.
#2 routine so-so
#3 I used to be very specific about food, and yes textures are the BIG DEAL for aspies. but ive grown out of that within the last 3 years.
#4 I have a very poor sense of smell interestingly enough. so i can't relate.
#5 I haven't ever noticed too much about noises bugging me too much, but maybe because I'm not experiencing "the noise" right now.
#6 OHHHH MAN am I obsessed with certain topics. as a child it was dinosaurs and space. then pokemon. ALWAYS has been soccer. now its discussions of religion and evolution. i have 1-3 week long minor interests that I think of non stop for a few days as well
#7 Yep, I would wear the same thing over and over and over and over in class over and over..... gym shorts and a red jersey (i have 6 differnet read jerseys and 4 different black gym shorts) during winter it was 2 different pairs of sweats and a t-shirt
#8 Same, I ONLY understand sarcasm with people I know well. I have to guess with people I don't know yet. I prefer to take people serious just to be safe
#9 I haven't been to big cities much. but I did love Stockholm sweden while i was there
#10 You did speak pretty quickly even when trying to talk slow. I guess I too talk too quick.
question on #10 you ever notice if you get on a topic rant (i love getting on topic rants especially if the person listens) and the person stops you mid rant to ask a question do you get frustrated? If im talking about space or evolution or religion to my girlfriend, and she stops me with a question or shows disinterest I get really frustrated.
I had a bad experience with sarcasm, if someone continues to mock me and use sarcastic rebuttals It will effect me deeply, really deeply. I just had an argument with someone and instead of remaining calm and assessing the situation I screamed my head off at them and proceeded to make an ass out of myself all the while giving them the power. I have no idea how to deescalate a situation like that and it throws me back into chronic depression. Sometimes it's like I wasn't meant to be on this planet with the way I act and that person just got to me. But anyways I appreciate the video since I try not to let my mental illnesses ruin my life.
Yeah, it can be challenging.
Dude, that sounds like me, except i yell at myself inside because i let whatever the other person say affect me deeply. I have to break that concentration by distracting myself with something else, otherwise it will not end well for me.
Sarcasm hurts. It's hard to come up with a rebuttel. And it means they're sure of themselves or something, which means they might not be listening, and that's frustrating!! It's also mean and disrespectful.
I've known people who use smilies that way and it got me so agitated that now when I see :) and :U I instinctively feel afraid.
This sounds like me, Core Voltage; except that I just may have figured out how not to get triggered in the first place. So far, it's experimental.
I am reading Tony Attwood's Complete Guide to AS at the moment, which is very helpful in describing all the likely features. What I think the professional carers appear to miss out of their description is that the aspie experience is that we are so hyperconscious about everything. Some people are just as hypersensitive, but they are not as conscious about it as we are. Once we are conscious of this fact, many of our AS features described make much more sense. For instance, our inability to 'let go' is because we have an inability to let go consciously.
Consciousness is a big question for science conceptually, and possibly this is the reason why this has not been mentioned so far. Prof Grandin is very near to doing so, although may confound sensitivity and other faculties with consciousness.
***** Thanks. I am taking a 'special interest' in the writers about AS at the moment and whether they have come up with the same conclusion as I have. I started many years ago before they come up with the label. I think it was Dr Lorna Wing who brought AS into vogue amongst the professionals. Up to then they were confusing aspies with schizophrenics and heaven knows what. It is very important to be conscious how different we are from other people, especially neuro-typicals, and Tony Attwood does a wonderful job of helping us do that. So I can understand your love of his book.
I have stated in the past the idea of hyper conscious. Good distinction.
Recently, i started realizing that i have anxiety disorder, autism, introverted and i have seizure. Every day i have to come to one of these videos to listen and read comments, it calms me down, makes me feel that WE matter, we're also important
***** i always do
I've been doing research on Asperger's for a year now because I realized that I more than likely have it. The more I research, the more I'm convinced. I'm waiting to see a Psychiatrist to find out about diagnosis. I have no insurance so it's a bit difficult. I literally have every one of these although a few of mine have a variation on it but typically I can relate to EVERYTHING an Aspie experiences. Every day is a struggle for me unless I'm doing the SAME thing every day. Thank you for posting your videos!
+Heather Cantrell Hey, I hope
You get to have a diagnosis, I know it can be expensive.
Yes me too! I'm working on it. The more I learn about Aspies, the more I'm convinced. Thank you again for the videos. Very helpful!
This video is so relatable to me. I haven't been told by a doctor that I have aspergers. I was watching a show a few months ago where one of the characters had Aspergers and It started to make me think about some of the things that I do that most would find "different". I became emotional watching my first video on Aspergers because it's made me think of all the times I did things that not even my family understood and that maybe there are reasons for why I do these things. Sorry for the long post but just wanted to say thank you for this video it gives me peace.
1) i don't do it
2) I dont get upset if my plans change, I just dont keep the schedule anymore.
3) I hate SPICY food, even though I'm Mexican. I love grilled Chicken.
4) I cant stand some air freshers, for example Cinnamon scent.
5) I do have music with a lot of guitar solos, like SANTANA.
6) Right not my interest is WW2.
7) I drees as an 'old man', just plain shirts, no logos
8) they said im sarcastic :/
9) I HATE big cities like Los Angeles.
10) ppl sometimes say I talk too fast too lol
Thanks for sharing!
+alphaphotoandvideo Hey thanks for the comment!
honestly you sound like a massive sook lmao
Point # 10 is spot on for me. I have the same experience. It is frustrating. Its almost like the topic you are about to talk about, requires background information, which needs to be shared in order to put the subject into context. More often than not, I am interrupted, or told to slow down, and then the string of information gets lost.
I have three Children on the spectrum and my son who is 9 has all these same traits and he has aspergers. He also has adhd/add. It's nice to see an adult version of my son (sort of). Great video!
omg thanks so much for doing this video!!! ur just like me :D i have asperger but i dont have it 100% confirmed yet by doctor but im just like u, i agree with everything u say in the vid and this kind of videos make me understand my problems and everything so thank you. i hope this helps all the ppl with asperger ;)
im trying to get the point of NOT CARING what others think about me and these videos helps alot!!
KimeEdits I relate to this the author of this video aswell as you. I think i also have a borderline Personality disorder or bi polar... ugh my doctor still hasn't fully diagnosed me. I cut out relationships all the tie and get irritated so easily. I can't be around screaming children, barking dogs or sirens when i'm upset because the symptoms are just exasperated.
Thank you so much for the information,my grandson is 6 yrs old and has asperger, your a ray of hope!
I'm having a really tough time right now with my Doctor, so far I have only been diagnosed with social anxiety... I feel very depressed because I just can't communicate with people though, they often look at me strangely and I feel like I can't understand what they're trying to say, I find it hard to appear interested in what they're saying unless it's something specific to my interests or what I'm thinking about, my head is so heavy and clouded with thoughts which I can't get a chance to process, I feel like 'what should I be feeling now' a lot, 'what would a normal person say'. I'm always scared to say something inappropriate/wrong to embarrass myself or upset someone/appear insensitive... It extends farther than social issues though. I have checked the symptoms for Asperger's one night and I relate to each and every one-though I'm 19. Surely I must be too old to diagnose such a condition? Should it not be more obvious? I feel like I have an answer, and I cannot stop thinking about this, but at the same time I'm scared to accept I have any sort of condition... Could anyone who has been diagnosed possibly shed light in the matter? I am extremely desperate, *please*...
+bub merley I'm unsure about whether or not you're seeking assistance still, as you've published this comment nearly 5 months ago, but I'd like to share that I'm 19 years of age and was the recipient of a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome one day prior to my 19th birthday. I happened upon a website a number of years ago relating to Asperger's Syndrome, and I found that my own idiosyncrasies aligned rather well with the "symptoms" - there are a minimal number of subjects that I very much enjoy (two that I appreciate at present are Portal - a video game - and the theory of evolution), my sensual modalities are rather potent (e.g., I enjoy particular textures and store them in my pocket if I become anxious), I experience troubles with communicating physical sensations or ideas that appear in my consciousness, my executive functioning is poor (which is especially evident in how - or whether - I progress through coursework), I maintain a stringent routine and am largely averse to spontaneity, and so forth. I initially wasn't able to encourage my mother to schedule an appointment with an evaluationist; however, once two individuals (absent any prompting from me) inquired about whether or not I was "autistic" my mother acquiesced.
May 18, 2015, I visited a psychiatrist who was rather familiar with the condition. In preparation, I drafted a seven page "composition" documenting the behaviors I exhibit that are in accord with the diagnosis, as well as a few asides regarding why I suspect I may not warrant a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome or ASD. In addition, I deposited a few charts portraying the results of online "Aspie examinations;" that I completed. (Incidentally, I very much suggest that you prepare one for yourself, as it will aid you to convey to the individual evaluating you what you perhaps are unable to via verbal communication). Even so, the woman perpetually solicited from me a response to the following question:
"Why did your pediatrician not suggest an evaluation at a younger age?"
I was unsure about how to reply, and I simply dismissed it with an "I don't know" and a bit of stimming. It remains a tricky string of words even as I type this statement - I admittedly have been equipped with a sort of indelible skepticism relating to whether or not I genuinely warrant a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome.
Nevertheless, following what I suspected was unduly extensive IQ testing (which was essentially a method she employed to determine whether my strengths and inabilities aligned with the average pattern of those with the condition) and what she noted was a similarly extensive "dissertation" that I drafted, she remarked that what I present with encouraged her to conclude that I do indeed warrant a diagnosis. I felt liberated - the diagnosis, while being littered with a sort of stigma, accounts for why I operate as I operate, and will assist me with how to navigate through the larger society intact. It does, more so on particular days rather than others, but it does.
As for you, my suggestion would be to not be concerned with age. I'm a sample size of one, of course, but I have encountered articles online depicting a male or female, oftentimes of a greater age than you, who acquired a diagnosis at said age. If I recall, this TH-cam user did at a later age as well. Age is in essence irrelevant, although it may be the impetus for a question or two from the evaluationist. If you truly suspect that you may be on the spectrum, to use a colloquial phrase, then seek a diagnosis - it may indeed aid you as it has me. And if you ultimately do not, then construe the result as either a miscalculation, which may encourage you to obtain an evaluation from another credible individual, or be satisfied with the idea that it quells your concerns a bit.
I wish you the best - if you'd like to ask any additional questions, please do. :-)
I just came back here to see your first video.
You're just as perfect then as you are now.
Aw thank you!
Thank you so much for your honest video. I live with a room mate with ADD asperger. It's hard to understand, but your explanation makes me feel comfort. Keep posting videos!
Hey no problem, thank you so much for the comment! Yes please subscribe I have lots of content to come :)!
Number 11. You never lose emotion as you get older. Regular people eventually stop crying at movies, books ect. Yet we never lose that.
Number 12. Most likely, you are the best at what you do. Alfred Hitchcock, Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin, Satoshi Tajiri(Made Pokemon), Charles Schulz(Charlie Brown), Thomas Jefferson, Michelangelo, Mozart, Beethoven, ect. All Aspies.
Number 13. You can smell when something is wrong. My father and I can tell a bullshitter a mile away. My Dad had multiple shitty bosses and family members who thought they were being sneaky, but we could smell the bullshit.
Thank you. That is really interesting, :).
+Andrew Baker Are you good at math???
+The Aspie World Are you good at math??
Mario Mirdita Nah. Im more creative (I dont like math) I loooooooove art.
me too
Holy shit. I'm a 40 year old who may be finding out at this very moment that I have Aspergers. Been researching for less than 24 hours and most of what I'm seeing is ringing true.
You should get a diagnosis
I teach teenagers with autism at the middle school level. I spend a ton of time teaching, modeling and having them role-play social skills.
Thank you for allowing me to see into the world of an adult on the spectrum. It informs my teaching. ❤️
Heyy you are more than welcome! Thank you for sipping by and sharing some love! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
I was diagnosed with Aspergers around a year and a half ago. Having my final appointment to confirm the whole thing next Wednesday, and I'm really pumped. I don't really care that I have Aspergers, because I know that there are people like you out there who are practically EXACTLY like me! It seems like I can relate with all of these top 10 traits and especially with No. 7! I literally only wear some clothing and I have around half of my wardrobe untouched. I also understand point 8 extremely well. Whenever I'm in a new lecture or a regular lesson in class I sometimes don't get what the teachers are saying simply because they're trying to crack jokes or make sarcastic statements which i personally don't understand. Even with point number ten I can completely understand because I'm not really a very confident person, and whenever I'm meant to be doing projects in class or group speaking events I always seem to either freeze up or talk too quickly. Most of my teachers barley have a clue about my condition and I guess they just blame it on my social anxiety because, like point nine, I have trouble being in crowded places and even just walking into a classroom by myself. Thanks for opening up the light behind my eyes, dude! I'm subscribing for more because I somehow feel like I can connect to you in some ways. I hope if you see this you'll reply so we can talk in the future. . Anyway, thanks! Bye!
+GərardWayPlayz Hey! Thanks for commenting! That was a huge but awesome comment! Thank you so much for subscribing! Always talk to my subs on here so comment away 😁✌🏻.
Junkrat Main th-cam.com/video/nlbPODTQHSU/w-d-xo.html
I'm going to show this to my son. You described yourself perfectly! Thank you so much for doing this!
Thank you for the kind words and the comment, :).
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I'm a 'new' aspie (just discovered, 28yrs). It's amazing how I find so much random shared interests. For instance, I once was obsessed with the Million Dollar Homepage story, and there it is on your wall. I don't see anyone else recognizing it!
Just found your channel, greetings from México!
I don't have Aspergers but it was nice learning about it. Great video very informative👌
Number 7 is especially true for me. My arms and legs are really sensitive to fabric and thus I can't stand wearing pants, long skirts or shorts, and I hate sleeves on my shirts so I always wear a miniskirt and sleeveless button-up shirt with the top button unbuttoned. It bugs me how some people assume I dress like that to be "sexy" when that's not the case at all. I know I have ugly legs and I'm not the prettiest girl around. I just want to be comfortable. Funnily enough it's how I got the nickname Sailor Moon, but I've always been obsessed with the show so I'm okay with that. And I always wear my hair up because I can't stand my hair moving around but I refuse to get it cut short because it'd eventually grow out and be all in my face.
I'm just thankful I got used to wearing glasses because I need them. I got glasses at age 6 but could never get used to wearing them until age 10. I'm 20 now (actually 19, my birthday's in a month though)
I also relate to the others a lot too. I get nervous and confused when in unfamiliar locations and I definitely talk too fast and get obsessive (especially about stuff I'm obsessed with, like Sailor Moon for example). I actually get so into talking that I often run out of breath and forget to swallow my spit so I'm really bad foaming at the mouth, and I often don't notice unless someone's pointing it out to me or if I actually start drooling. Sorry if that's TMI but I just wanted to share a few things.
Another thing is I've always been above average in verbal skills but math is inconsistent. I've always gone from above average to plateauing for a couple years then going from average to above average again. I either get it or don't, it's like the flip of a switch
Thank you soooo much for your gentle instruction. I am a 67 yr old child w Aspergers...diagnosed 15 yr ago by a psychiatrist friend whose own son is a brilliant 19 language+ example ( of course, I utterly rejected this "crazy branding" )...odd and lonely and one-track-minded my whole life, but high vocabularied and phenom at a very young age. Your sharing has enabled this old dog to recognise traits that could have been managed or leveraged were those bozos to have assumed rightly instead of tormenting me for years with anger and fishy "schooling".
I just was diagnosed with Asperger's, most of your traits match mine.
Hi, thank you for the comment. That is interesting, keep in touch via my Facebook, link is in the description, :).
As person with aspergers himself, i hate how society treats us like we're something different ,like we're retarded or something. Everytime i make mistake (even a tiny one ) people say " Its because he's autistic or he has special needs,or even he's handicap,etc ". Its like everytime . My peers are the worst though. Everytime i do something , one of them has to antagonize and mocked me for it. I get special treatment for my condition even though people also say i'm very smart . At my job , my old boss would tell customers without my approval about me being autistic whenever i had trouble founding what the customers were looking for. Like really. Even non aspies makes mistakes from time to time. Whose here perfect ? I hate being treated like im retarded child then praised for being smart . Its annoying. I'm tired of how people tease me for my music . Like it bullshit how whenever i played certain song from my phone , people will sometimes tease me for it yet no one said anything to next person playing theirs. Like im sorry im not like rest of you. Dont get me started on the whole babytalk thing either . That also gets really annoying. Im just fed up with how society works and how things are done. Not everyone of my peers are like this just for the record, nor do the ones who makes excuses for me do it to be mean but i wish that they're to realize that im just like everyone else. I drink beer, i smoke weed from time to time, i work, i love, i hate, i think etc. Im from the United States , so im not sure how things are in U.K and other places but i want you to know you not along in your struggles either.
I dread when a clock is innaccurate, especially in a public place. I rotate my clothing (darks on Tues/Thurs/Sat, lights on the other days) so people don't notice I'm wearing the same things. I feel compelled to count things in groups, like flocks of birds. I tend to trust people too much, being honest myself, so when they lie to me they go in a special place in my mind.
+owlcu Yes these are all teaits
My son is 11 and has just been diagnosed as an aspie. I'm glad I found your page ! He has a lot of these traits. Thank you for your page!
I relate so much. I only found out recently that I'm somewhere on the autism spectrum and I've been educating myself about it all ever since. Been misdiagnosed and falsely treated in psychiatric hospitals a lot in my teens. I especially love your sandwich example and the planning things you mentioned. When I plan to go to my favourite restaurant and have my favourite noodles there and they don't have it, it feels like the day is ruined xD. I feel ya bro. peace
Thanks for the insight.
You are welcome, thank you for the comment, :).
VeganPulse Panic Attack... Dream Theater.
I'm 26 and just started the official diagnosis process for autism in part because of your videos. Thank you so much for sharing yourself and your perspective.
I may not have Asperger's as "severe" as you, but I still have a lack of social skills that seperate me from the rest of the "Neurotypicals". The only people who truly understand me are either people i've known for a long time or people with Asperger's or Asperger traits. Unfortunately, some of those Asperger people are involved in drugs in alchohol, perhaps due to misunderstanding.
Or perhaps they're involved in drugs and alcohol because they enjoy it
+Corey506 My advice to anybody is skip the alcohol and drugs because whatever superficial enjoyment that may come out of it is overrated. They won't miss out on anything except pure misery from those poisons.
Jeez have I changed over two years.
At this point in my life I completely understand why people use drugs and alcohol... life can be hard, man, and sometimes you need something to get through the night.
But yeah, of course some challenges are still there, like anxiety and depression, especially when starting university, but really i've learned to become more aware of myself.
Yeah.
I don't quite know why this comment from 2 years ago was highlighted.
:P
Samuel Donovan th-cam.com/video/nlbPODTQHSU/w-d-xo.html
Hi I am George & I have ASD . I have lots of the same things that you do. I love Dinosaurs & Jurassic World I would talk about it all the time if I could . I also love Pug Dogs. I hate loud noises crowded shops & having my hair cut . If my Mummy tells me that we're going to a place that i love to go to then we have to go or I have a melt down. When iam thinking I walk round in a circle or I run up & down outside. I really want to meet other people like me
Dinosaurs are fascinating creatures and I use to have an innate interest in taking about them as well as their pronunciation of their names, what period they lived, or what kind of diet they had. The taxonomy of animals is also a little interesting because like mathematics, everything is neatly categorized.
My husband, 9 year old son are both aspies. I only started noticing when my 4 year old was diagnosed as non verbal autism. Thank you for ur videos, they are helping so so much.
With me, it's not that I can't comprehend these small social cues, little jokes, sarcasm and stuff like that, but often I don't know what I'm supposed to do with it. Or, I know what I'm supposed to do, but it doesn't come naturally to me, so I just kind of stand there silently and awkwardly. So the other person either think I'm subconsciously telling them "stop it, you're embarrassing yourself" or that I can't comprehend the social message itself even if it's just a simple joke.
+Helgi Hilmarsson Yeah I understand that!
This is a great video! My son has aspergers too. He is 14!
Hey, thank you i am glad you like my video!, what is your sons field of research / interest ?
You are a sweetie... you are a ray of sunshine... your parents must be very proud of you! I love your honesty and openness. 😊
Thank you!!
You "may" talk fast...but you are very clear in your pronunciation - not a problem. I've been told I speak fast myself :-)
You have a lot to say - and other people have short attention spans ;-)
Ufo's, Conspiracy Theories, Ghost's, Repressed Technologies........we'd sure have a LOT to talk about!!! :-)
Good Day
Talking too loud is a symptom that I'm noticing
I'm not sure if I have aspergers, but alot of these fit me. I get so distracted easily, some sounds overwhelm me, over powering smells/textures bother me, and I'm bad at reading body language and understanding sarcasm. I know youtube comments aren't the place to go for medical help, but it's worth a shot?
+VideosByKelsi yo me too. I need help
+VideosByKelsi The most common symptoms of an autistic person are simply eye contact and obsess over particular things. So do you have bad eye contact or try to avoid it when talking to people or any obsessive interest?
+VideosByKelsi My suggestion, if you think you have aspergers consult your GP and ask for an assessment, and go into detail about what specific sensory and social issues you have. If you tick enough boxes they'll send you off for about 3-4 more assessments and will probably talk to family members/work/school and the like, to see if you fit the diagnosis.
My guy, your level of self awareness and self knowledge is remarkable. I salute you 🙌🏾❤️
Asperger symptoms seem very similiar to an anxiety disorder. How would you know the difference?
+J L
Getting lost in your own mind ... you hear him talk about wanting to speak fast... because he is going to forget his train of thought if he doesn't.
Being hypersensitive to sounds , voices.
Having routines which you literally hate to break out of..
cv800. its very similar but the biggest difference i see with ny son is the sensory aspect. Most people with just anxiety dont have sensory processing issues to the point where it affects your life
Thank you so much my son has it he's 10 I feel lost getting him all the help he needs any advice would help
Hey no problem! I have a Facebook group (linked in description) where all my fans talk and discus help etc
The Aspie World thanks
Hi Daniel
My 8 year old daughter has just been diagnosed and I've been trying to find videos to help her understand that she's not alone. Unfortunately she only got as far as number 2 in this video because she felt and understood your stress that arises from changes in routines so badly she couldn't watch any more. Don't feel bad, your video made her uncomfortable because it was such an accurate description and this is all very new to her. It's a stage in the diagnostic process. It just goes to show autism isn't a lack of empathy. Autistic people know all about having big feelings. I wanted to tell you because you might have come across people who don't understand the stress around changes in routines but I think my little girl understood you exactly. And now she knows it's not just her.
+Ali Wilkinson Hi thank you for the comment, that is interesting! And it's ok, I understand 🙂.
Hi l hate food gone cold too,l hate people whistling,talking,l hate sqeking doors,l have had obessions on topics too like saving the dolphins,l never know if people are joking or serious,l am blunt tell the truth maybe telll to much,l hate crowds too,l hate rattling crisp packets too,l talk too fast,l daydream and im in another world not my own,l prefer my own space,cant do eye contact,have communication problems ,dont like bed sheets lot os things really :)
l flick my fingers too and sway a lot when talking and say umm a lot,another thing l hate getting my feet wet that upsets me.
+TinaLovesJesus Thank you for the comment! Yeah, all of what you said, I can relate to! Thank you for sharing.
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Your so welcome.God bless you.Hey have you watch the sensory overload simulation videos,of what it is like for us who have aspergers/autism? l bet you can relate to the videos too like l can,all they say is so true.
TinaLovesJesus Yes, I have seen one and it was very good.
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Wow its amasing how we are all similar,has anyone here also got a problem with plug holes? l have a phobia for plug holes or any holes and l hate lifts
I can understand you perfectly! you're so awesome!
+meekah919 castro Thank you!
You're welcome 👍😊
+meekah919 castro 😁✌🏻.
Hey, im from germany and my teacher showed us this video in english class. You're amazing, keep up the good work
Hallo wie gets!? That is awesome!
Is one of the sounds that gets to you the sound of someone else brushing their teeth? That's what gets me.
Keith Hatlak Yes it does!
***** I have that same problem too I too have asperger syndrome as well
Keith Hatlak for me it is the sound of someone crumpling up metallic wrappers or paper napkins in their hand or palm. ouch. that one hurts my brain.
Bobby Ramsey I CANT HANDLE STYROFOAM! I Gape my mouth and squint my eyes, ah, GOD! And does anybody else have a problem with Air Conditioning turning on?
My boyfriend is not allowed to crack his knuckles around me lol
I have exactly the same apparent contradictory trait where I can play in a band without any problems but I can't stand being in a noisy and crowded environment. My theory on it is when you're performing as a musician there is a sort of a social barrier between you and the audience - of course you can interact with them through music, but whenever you do that you're always in control of the situation. it's as if there's no social pressure at all, and you sometimes get a lot of space to move around and it feels a lot less claustrophobic. I think that is why I am able to cope with playing in a band. Plus the electric guitar is a perfect outlet for my anxiety.
Hi :) I don't think you've seen Jesus and Mary Chain's earliest gigs
Tom Davies
Nope, never heard of them, although I presume you're referring to there being a lot of interaction between the band and the audience, or people in the audience invading the stage? I still think even in those situations the social pressure is not there - I mean, if someone runs on the stage you're under no obligation to actually pay any attention to them. And interactions between you and the audience are still one-sided because you're the one with the microphone :P
***** Hi :) Any 1 exception (or a rare few if there are others) doesn't negate your main point. I agree with it = maybe that's another reason why so many truly talented or exceptional musicians are aspie-autism people. I think there are many other reasons too but your one also makes sense to me.
JMC used to have to abandon their microphones and escape the stage. They seemed to have a knack for starting sooo late and being sooo annoying that audiences would get quite upset with them. 'Famously' they had to run down a corridor to the loos and climb out a back-window to escape the furious audience at more than 1 show.
You spurred me into looking them up and they have re-formed! WoooHooo! :)))
Thanks and regards from Tom :))
I discovered your channel just few weeks ago after I had my official assessment. Seeing you here and in your most recent videos is encouraging. You've come a long way! Congrats and thanks for doing this
When 1 on 1 in a convo with someone, I can be confident as can be and chat a lot, maybe too much (but my eye contact is wonky)
If I'm 1 on 1 with someone I REALLY care about, it's gone, I freeze up and think too hard about what I wanna say to them
If it's a group of people regardless of who I know in the group, and they're all hopping from topic to topic, I cannot keep up or chat so I just stand there "Listening", the most I'll do is attempt to crack a joke to make someone laugh... I like making people laugh
I gesture A LOT (I think this is a common Aspie thing) and hop back and forth and mix my words up, and reiterate, or attempt to bring up old subjects others have moved on from "too fast"/being cut off is annoying which oddly happens a lot to me and me only almost like I don't exist sometimes. I can't 'goodbye' well cos my brain instantly wants to retreat as fast as possible, when I have to leave I HAVE TO LEAVE. I'm really good at predicting stuff from body language, tone of voice, other little sounds people make... sniffing people out basically. I cannot reply with simple small messages, IT HAS TO BE AT LEAST A SMALL DETAILED PARAGRAPH OR MORE.
Why did I write this X'D
I've decided I'm sick of my parents knowing more about my disability than me, so time for knowledge!
My best friend is now becoming a child counciller/pediatrician/psycologist for autistic children because over the time she has spent with me, she gained a lot of knowledge about my spectrum.
Oh cool!
It's like listening to my boyfriend :). He has the same stuff you do. And yes he is already diagnosed with Asperger. But it's fun to see so many similarities with others with the same diagnosis. Right now I'm doing some more research on Asperger so that I can try to understand it a bit and help him wherever possible. I do not have Asperger so sometimes it's difficult for me to understand him or accept certain things and when in doubt I research :).
+Jaqueline van Dijk (Eenmooimomentje) That is awesome, thank you for the comment, I would guess that his is how my girlfriend is with me. It will be nice for her to see other people having relationship issues also. Thank you for the comment, :).
This is such a relatable video :D and another thing that annoys me (don't know if this because of aspergers or whatever) is that when I see certain patterns I get so annoyed by them and I feel like I just wanna scratch the pattern away like seriously it's really annoying :P.
Hey, thanks for the comment. Yeah, I can understand that!
My daughter is 4, and was recently diagnosed with aspergers. My husband tells me constantly that I show the same signs, some are more obvious than hers. After watching your video, I realized that I literally related to each and every trait you discussed.
You should go for an assessment :)!
In respond to no. 10; I never reach the minimum time in presentations because of this lol . Even though I give twice as much info as others.
I had that exact issue when Doug a presentation on my field of research. Follow me on Twitter, :).
I don't have twitter. but i'll def subscribe :)!
+Pretty Pink Princess (Pink Power) Hi, sorry, it is hard to keep track as I get so many on this video. Please email me or tweet me and Imll reply, :).
Done ^^
+Pretty Pink Princess (Pink Power) I will get back to you asap.
Public spaces and speed talking matched me, sometimes my mouth can outrun my brain and I end up stuttering.
Yeah, I know that feeling. Thank you for the comment, :).
The last bit about apeeding up when giving an explanation about a topic you like and being really uncomfortable in crowded spaces really apply for me.
I don't like yelling it gets me angry when ppl yell. I don't like crowds unless there's space to move. Or I'm listening to a band. I wear the same thing all the time. I buy many of the same cloths . I'm not sure what i am but i definitely would like to know if i have this
+jeremy the bear morrissette Sure sounds like you do and there's nothing wrong with it. Learn to use it to your advantage with work, etc.
Well, one of the most dominant symptoms of Aspergers Syndrome is problems in social situations. People with Aspergers will often make akward, repetitive movements as well.
+Gordon Barnes Yeah thats definitely one to look out for, I have been diagnosed with Aspergers and thats a really big problem for me as it means I dont make friends easily:) I've somewhat learned to deal with it with the help of a couple of my best mates and I've improved my confidence through playing guitar in a band just like this guy (whatever instrument he plays I don't know).
I get nervous in crowded places, I obsess about gaming (even though I never end up playing games much), If I'm watching a TV series I get really emotionally wrapped up in it and I dig around online constantly finding theories about it and such, when people tap or make repetitive sounds it makes me very upset, when people spring change on me or break schedule it makes me upset and nervous, If there is something coming up (work or whatever, I don't work anymore because I can't handle it) I get nervous about it months in advance, for instance, my daughter starts school in 14 months and I'm already counting the days.... Does this sound anything like Asperger's? Sorry for the long comment. Great video, btw.
Sounds like anxiety to me.
Anxiety can be present with other issues. Anxiety is a given. It's the whole package I'm talking about.
Those are traits associated with Asperger's. The worst you can do is diagnose yourself with it though. It's a common issue with apophenia in that everyone (AS or no) tries to find relateable symptoms and ignore others that could disprove such a diagnosis or overshadow something more serious. Go see a doctor about it. The anxiety is common but may also indicate co-morbidity. In addition, don't let people write off any symptoms you have as being purely related to Asperger's. People with AS can have all sorts of other mental health conditions besides AS or none at all. Good luck finding a finding a diagnosis, and more importantly a way to develop coping mechanisms. It's not a curse or a disorder either.
I have never been diagnosed but I suspect I have this to
@@JakCei the last thing you said made my day. I so rarely read that!! Sorry, had to say djdjdd
Hi!
My name is Nancy, i am an everyday 20 year old girl.
So I'm told.
I have been diagnosed with multiples of different mental health conditions from anxiety, depression, to borderline personality disorder.
After 5 minutes of watching the Netflix series "love with Autism" i found my heart drop, and realized.. I was listening to myself.
I then went online and took a short quiz and was shocked by my results, 28/50.
My parents, are my biggest fear as i begin my journey this morning to finding advocacy. They have never once been supportive of my counseling, school, or medical choices, shunning me for ever believing i wasn't "normal"
I have never had stable friendships, schools, jobs, or anything else for that matter, and see every day as a frightening new task.
Though, i am yet to be diagnosed, i believe that this could have been it all along.
They even switched my schools at age seven because of this, and supposedly "thought nothing of my anxious, anti-social behavior."
I would like to see more advocacy and information available for parents and family's , because i am beginning to think that I'm not the only one whose parents hid something so obvious, so long.
wonder how that went
As an aspergersey guy, myself, I actually talk veeeeeeeeeery slow.
+BlackHat9029 That's interesting, thanks for sharing!
yes that's seems to be the case ... no middle slow or fast
Manda Panda i talk fast unless im drunk. Cuz that slows down my thoughts. My thoughts move too fast so i speak fast. Its not healthy but it helps. Im not on meds tho so my effort to try and self-medicate with alcohol is actually really bad for me. Cognitive dissonance. I need help. Im gonna see a doc soon for proper medication cuz i dont wanna die. My liver is not in a healthy state. I need help. Lol
I'm a singer also I believe I'm undiagnosed autism . I I can relate to you alot on the stage thing, and being OK with it yet no wanting to be around people. also I talk very fast and don't realise it. I struggle pronouncing words also and use to have lisp. I have been diagnosed add but I don't feel my parents believe me. I remember my mum always said to me then is no such thing as add , just bad parenting and bad children. perhaps that's why she was so strict. anyway just a random comment.