If you feel compelled to over-pursue, you have to ask yourself what is causing this temptation. Or more accurately, what are you trying to achieve/hold on to? Like Corey quotes, "fear of loss is a powerful motivator." But what do you fear losing? Majority of the time, it's not the girl, it's the ego satisfaction that comes with knowing she is into you. I often tell my clients attraction is not intoxicating enough to take you over like that. Only your ego can do that. Ego satisfaction can drive people crazy. You must realize that you don't need anything to feel satisfied. You can breathe right now, and realize you already have everything you need. When you make that change, the girls will be pursuing you.
I use to follow the books of the great PUAs out there...the stuff works but it always felt weird and it was too complicated. Then I came across Coach Corey...His stuff is totally solid...all of it. Its the full package and its far more simple than a pile of tricks and games. Its much more natural to become a 3% man and it feels amazing. Thanks Corey for all your hard work.
The fact that she had no remorse and made him stay behind bars for 3 month is unforgivable and he shouldn't do anything with her anymore. As a matter of fact, he should put a restraining order on her if she contacts him.
This was a great email certainly an eye opener for many dudes. Corey I really thank God that I found your work earlier before becoming totally clueless like the gentleman in this email.
I fucking cringed watching this video because it reminded me of my overpuruit [minus the jail time] in my past 5 years with a number of females. I stumbled upon Corey's work early of 2019 and changed my perspective about EVERYTHING I wish I knew about
Corey I've learned so much from you. I've been spreading your knowledge to my friends and they have been introducing me to other people needing relationship advice. Now I get free dinners as payment haha. Love your work, keep it up and congrats on hitting 100,000 subs.
Hi Corey. I'm going on reading your book for the 6th time. I have made mistakes along the way. I was in a 2 year relationship and looking back was needy, clingy, and feminine. Too available and too nice. After our breakup for past year and 2 months either she reaches out or I do. Well I'm applying what I have learned and letting her do all the calling and texting. Lately when she has reached out I have made definate dates and hanging out, having fun, but not hooked up yet. When I feel like initiating contact I remember the illusion of action and I dont. I have grown some balls thanks to u. I hope to be a testimonial to your work. Thanks coach
just ordered ya book today,been watching ya links for a good 6 months,really helped me even though i am in my early 40s,i had the same upbringing(family wise)as you...could have done with this info 20yrs ago...i intend to help people,like you have helped me.....thanks from here in the uk..
The guy who wrote this email to coach sounds like a person who's already made up his mind since he's justifying with all these special circumstances and history with this girl that makes his situation different. Hope this video gets to him in time and he listens.
Totally fell into that category of being way, way too nice and dependable. My now-ex just thinks she can "have" me whenever she wants me back. The lack of respect is insane, I think I need to just stop contacting her entirely so she learns to value me and treat me like a man.
***** Thanks for the response, we have had arguments on the phone recently, it has been a while since we had really been open like that. At the time it feels bad, to be fighting, and it's not a sure fire way to become happy...but I feel like because of it, she'll gain respect for me, that I'm not just a push over and am happy to stand my ground even if it means a fight. Time will tell, but one thing for sure is that she definitely had lost a lot of respect for me, and that past relationship we had must be let go of because it clearly wasn't working out. I just question if we can get over it and be free with each other again, and not think about "is he/she liking this, or that" on such an insecure level.
***** I should have just gone NC, but I tried to work it out. It's hard not to sort of fall into that 'beta" like mentality, where we chase and kiss ass a bit to try and win her over, but you are right, it has the opposite effect in the end...they lose respect, which makes them lose love. Just curious, but have you moved on? Or do you sort of hold onto the regret of who you used to be, and how you acted when you tried again? I find that is the hardest - to just accept the mistakes and move forward.
***** Yeah I came across Coreys videos within the first couple of weeks of our breakup. I still haven't employed NC, and I'll admit, things just feel like they are getting worse. My ex did say she wanted to work on us, after a lot of persistence, and we might be going out soon - but I know we both feel a bit forced and shitty about the situation. I'm not going to contact her much, then ask her on a date, and just try to have a really fun time with her and keep it light. You never know, in your situation there may still be a chance if you give it time and work on yourself. I think that's certainly the key ingredient to having a better relationship the second time around, you need to grow and become a better guy or it just falls apart hey. Thanks for the replies, I don't think it's ever too late to try again, even if it's the 3rd time :).
Tiny Tony Sounds very similar to my situation, but I wasn't aware of how "clingy" the nature of our relationship was until we split up and it gave me time to reflect. I think there needs to be space to do your own things, let's face it, we can't control what our gf's/ex's think we just have to try to have a good time and enjoy ourselves in the moments. I'm taking my ex out on a date tonight, dinner and mini golf, and I plan on just having a great time with her and seeing what happens from there. It's weird you know, I went from being so cushy and comfortable in our relationship that I forgot the core to attraction and being a man, I guess it happens to all of us. We tend forget that our gf's can have a change of heart at any moment and that we should try to be impressive not just for her but for ourselves. In the absence I've had from my ex I'll be honest, I COULD have achieved more, but I have been dwelling a lot - and it's not a good thing. I start a new job on Tuesday and from there I plan on making a real hot go at some lifestyle changes, primarily fitness and getting out there, you should do the same dude you will feel a million times better no matter what happens. Just do what I do - remember, she's not DEAD, you won't NEVER see her again and you may BE with her again, a day at a time man.
***** Don't be dude, we are trying to work things out but it does not feel right just yet. One step at a time, I just want to have fun with her and show her a better me. I DEFINITELY think bettering your own quality of life makes it much easier to just live and enjoy the moment, and not worry about losing your love. People say there are "plenty of fish in the sea" and it sucks meeting new people but we are smart guys, there is definitely plenty of opportunity out there if things don't work out, plenty of awesome women.
girl I knew since college 13 years ago. we dated for 2 years, then ended it out the blue. made up crazy excuses and said I never made her s priority. I did nothing wrong at all and did everything for her. I did no contact. she reached out few times, and yhfn I lost it. everytime she spoke she said hateful things, and always said she was right, and kept hanging up the phone so imature. I did the stupid thing and pleaded with her for us to sort it out. eventually she said we can't be friends don't contact me again and blocked me from everywhere. I tried calling her back contacting etc I keeo thinking that is going into stalker territory. I've stopped. I want to know if this will fade over time and hopefully will think of the good times? I've never been like this before in the relationship .
Matthew Richards She is a fucking fruit loop forget about her second if she messages you in the future, tell her to lose your number and that you're not interested in speaking with her again! Never give her the time of day unless you have zero self respect
I hope that guy listens to you Corey and just moves on with his life...he already got burnt by that fire and needs to run as fast as he can far far away from it.
Yeah, I got robbed at gunpoint 10 years ago right in front of my house. A year later, I was driving down my street and a cat ran out in front of my car and I hit it. It’s weird that I was able to move on easily from being robbed, but hitting that cat really upset me and never got over it. I got out of the car and the cat ran under a parked car and it was traumatized. It ran off, but I still dont know if it died later or not.
i admit i like the chase thing. yet if she has a husband or baby daddy-she doesnt have a ring but she has a child-i like to find a way for her to acknowledge him.
Corey! I can't even begin to tell you how much your guidance has improved my love life and my self. From chaser to being chased..it feels great. Now...how do I tell this girl I don't really want to go on a date with her...seems like she keeps inviting herself and I feel bad since I told her I would be in town this weekend in a casual conversation. She keeps texting all day...does she have nothing else to do? I don't usually reply...only the usually short message like" thanks" " u too" etc. I feel like an asshole since she swears she's going on a date tonight and it's all over her facebook. how do I turn her down without being an asshole?
Had to pull away from a few childhood friends, since they were into the crazy females hooked on drama. I realized I couldn't talk any sense into them, but the bottom line was to prevent them from dragging me into their mix.
Sorry, not my thing. I have no problem dealing with aggressive women from the jump, and seeing them melt afterwards. As far as getting my door kicked down, or my car keyed, I'm good with that. Or, someone throwing a tantrum because I'm busy working or whatever, I'm good with that also.
I am so confused how do i not be nice but not be a dick. And how come this chick i used to be obsessed with and i drove her away, comes back to me whenever i leave after a few months but says she only wants to be friends. She gives me stares and adds me into conversation when im around her. But still says oh i want to be friends but keeps coming back when i leave.
Hey coach your book says never let a women know what you're going to do does this apply only when your in a relationship? Or when dating? Because if you make definite date you're going to have to tell them what your going to do ?
I can't believe people like this exist. Were they not taught common sense? It's not about how to act with girls some of these people need to learn how to act like normal human beings in general.
there is a lady at work im "interested" in. im a wacky, wanna be nice guy. this Lady i "believe" gives hints that she has no Husband. she mostly talks to other women co-workers about her life and relationships. i don't ketch everything she says cause whenever i come into the room she was in she just "shuts up". im a guy that likes to warm up to people by asking them questions like where they from, how does she have so many vehicles; and she is abliged to tell me. i try not to be a hard prod but i like to get to know a little about her to where we both can have some comfort. i figured that if i straight out asked if she was in a relationship she would or could mentally "RUN" and shut me out. my steps im doing. 1) let my presence be seen. 2) try to sit across the table, and ask hows she's doing and where she is from. 3.---how often should i visit her during lunch? she does have a kid. we both are in our 20's.
Coach Corey Wayne Ya dude, looks like you got nuked! I sent you an email the other day asking about a (signed) copy of your book. I read your book once so far online, but would like the paperback version.
Is Corey Wayne now in a lifelong, satisfying relationship, or is he still 'dating'? Not sure if I think this is the most advisable for people looking for something serious.
+Savio M My outcome is to enjoy my life and my relationships over the years for as long as I want to stay in them. I do not see myself ever getting married again. It is unrealistic and foolish when the divorce rate is over 60% to think lifelong marriage with one person is what everyone should aspire to. For most people it is not realistic and the stats back it up. How many people have you met in your life who are really truly happy and still in love after many decades? I can count the number of couples I have met who have this type of relationship on one hand. It is stupid, ignorant and delusional for everyone to judge a relationships success by how many decades you are together. People who still think this way, or who try to live up to that unreasonable expectation (and who try to get everyone else to live up to that unrealistic standard) that is pushed by religion and society are ignorant and foolish. Most couples who have been together for many years have become roommates and hardly ever have sex, if at all, and they stay in those relationships because they feel trapped, they care too much about what others think or they lack the skills to attract someone else or someone better. What I teach enables you to attract and keep the kind of people you really want in your life as long as you want to stay with them. Take your condescending insults somewhere else. Trashing me and my lifestyle choices is not going to do anything to make your life any better. If you do not appreciate the value I offer, then you should unsubscribe and follow someone else. I am proud of all of the amazing women I have had the honor of calling my girlfriend over the years and many of them I still talk to from time to time and have wonderful lifelong friendships with. Most men will never experience and know what it is like being with those type of women for even one day. That is a fucking tragedy!
If you feel compelled to over-pursue, you have to ask yourself what is causing this temptation. Or more accurately, what are you trying to achieve/hold on to? Like Corey quotes, "fear of loss is a powerful motivator." But what do you fear losing?
Majority of the time, it's not the girl, it's the ego satisfaction that comes with knowing she is into you. I often tell my clients attraction is not intoxicating enough to take you over like that. Only your ego can do that. Ego satisfaction can drive people crazy. You must realize that you don't need anything to feel satisfied. You can breathe right now, and realize you already have everything you need.
When you make that change, the girls will be pursuing you.
This title is legendary. I'm already laughing!!
Corey wayne is the fkng MAN!!
I use to follow the books of the great PUAs out there...the stuff works but it always felt weird and it was too complicated. Then I came across Coach Corey...His stuff is totally solid...all of it. Its the full package and its far more simple than a pile of tricks and games. Its much more natural to become a 3% man and it feels amazing. Thanks Corey for all your hard work.
+Norman Fifteen Good job dude!
The fact that she had no remorse and made him stay behind bars for 3 month is unforgivable and he shouldn't do anything with her anymore. As a matter of fact, he should put a restraining order on her if she contacts him.
🎯🤛🏿
This was a great email certainly an eye opener for many dudes. Corey I really thank God that I found your work earlier before becoming totally clueless like the gentleman in this email.
I fucking cringed watching this video because it reminded me of my overpuruit [minus the jail time] in my past 5 years with a number of females. I stumbled upon Corey's work early of 2019 and changed my perspective about EVERYTHING I wish I knew about
Corey I've learned so much from you. I've been spreading your knowledge to my friends and they have been introducing me to other people needing relationship advice. Now I get free dinners as payment haha. Love your work, keep it up and congrats on hitting 100,000 subs.
Hi Corey. I'm going on reading your book for the 6th time. I have made mistakes along the way. I was in a 2 year relationship and looking back was needy, clingy, and feminine. Too available and too nice. After our breakup for past year and 2 months either she reaches out or I do. Well I'm applying what I have learned and letting her do all the calling and texting. Lately when she has reached out I have made definate dates and hanging out, having fun, but not hooked up yet. When I feel like initiating contact I remember the illusion of action and I dont. I have grown some balls thanks to u. I hope to be a testimonial to your work. Thanks coach
just ordered ya book today,been watching ya links for a good 6 months,really helped me even though i am in my early 40s,i had the same upbringing(family wise)as you...could have done with this info 20yrs ago...i intend to help people,like you have helped me.....thanks from here in the uk..
The guy who wrote this email to coach sounds like a person who's already made up his mind since he's justifying with all these special circumstances and history with this girl that makes his situation different. Hope this video gets to him in time and he listens.
Totally fell into that category of being way, way too nice and dependable. My now-ex just thinks she can "have" me whenever she wants me back. The lack of respect is insane, I think I need to just stop contacting her entirely so she learns to value me and treat me like a man.
*****
Thanks for the response, we have had arguments on the phone recently, it has been a while since we had really been open like that. At the time it feels bad, to be fighting, and it's not a sure fire way to become happy...but I feel like because of it, she'll gain respect for me, that I'm not just a push over and am happy to stand my ground even if it means a fight. Time will tell, but one thing for sure is that she definitely had lost a lot of respect for me, and that past relationship we had must be let go of because it clearly wasn't working out. I just question if we can get over it and be free with each other again, and not think about "is he/she liking this, or that" on such an insecure level.
*****
I should have just gone NC, but I tried to work it out. It's hard not to sort of fall into that 'beta" like mentality, where we chase and kiss ass a bit to try and win her over, but you are right, it has the opposite effect in the end...they lose respect, which makes them lose love. Just curious, but have you moved on? Or do you sort of hold onto the regret of who you used to be, and how you acted when you tried again? I find that is the hardest - to just accept the mistakes and move forward.
*****
Yeah I came across Coreys videos within the first couple of weeks of our breakup. I still haven't employed NC, and I'll admit, things just feel like they are getting worse. My ex did say she wanted to work on us, after a lot of persistence, and we might be going out soon - but I know we both feel a bit forced and shitty about the situation. I'm not going to contact her much, then ask her on a date, and just try to have a really fun time with her and keep it light. You never know, in your situation there may still be a chance if you give it time and work on yourself. I think that's certainly the key ingredient to having a better relationship the second time around, you need to grow and become a better guy or it just falls apart hey. Thanks for the replies, I don't think it's ever too late to try again, even if it's the 3rd time :).
Tiny Tony
Sounds very similar to my situation, but I wasn't aware of how "clingy" the nature of our relationship was until we split up and it gave me time to reflect. I think there needs to be space to do your own things, let's face it, we can't control what our gf's/ex's think we just have to try to have a good time and enjoy ourselves in the moments. I'm taking my ex out on a date tonight, dinner and mini golf, and I plan on just having a great time with her and seeing what happens from there. It's weird you know, I went from being so cushy and comfortable in our relationship that I forgot the core to attraction and being a man, I guess it happens to all of us. We tend forget that our gf's can have a change of heart at any moment and that we should try to be impressive not just for her but for ourselves. In the absence I've had from my ex I'll be honest, I COULD have achieved more, but I have been dwelling a lot - and it's not a good thing. I start a new job on Tuesday and from there I plan on making a real hot go at some lifestyle changes, primarily fitness and getting out there, you should do the same dude you will feel a million times better no matter what happens. Just do what I do - remember, she's not DEAD, you won't NEVER see her again and you may BE with her again, a day at a time man.
*****
Don't be dude, we are trying to work things out but it does not feel right just yet. One step at a time, I just want to have fun with her and show her a better me. I DEFINITELY think bettering your own quality of life makes it much easier to just live and enjoy the moment, and not worry about losing your love. People say there are "plenty of fish in the sea" and it sucks meeting new people but we are smart guys, there is definitely plenty of opportunity out there if things don't work out, plenty of awesome women.
LOL that scorpion part was hilarious
Excellent!! I love your quotes, I wish you all the best!
Great video my man, thanks for the content.
girl I knew since college 13 years ago. we dated for 2 years, then ended it out the blue. made up crazy excuses and said I never made her s priority. I did nothing wrong at all and did everything for her. I did no contact. she reached out few times, and yhfn I lost it. everytime she spoke she said hateful things, and always said she was right, and kept hanging up the phone so imature. I did the stupid thing and pleaded with her for us to sort it out. eventually she said we can't be friends don't contact me again and blocked me from everywhere. I tried calling her back contacting etc I keeo thinking that is going into stalker territory. I've stopped. I want to know if this will fade over time and hopefully will think of the good times? I've never been like this before in the relationship .
Matthew Richards She is a fucking fruit loop forget about her second if she messages you in the future, tell her to lose your number and that you're not interested in speaking with her again! Never give her the time of day unless you have zero self respect
This guy had to ask for advice about this woman after going through that crap? Some people are just hopeless...
Coach Corey Wayne's stories are hilarious LMAO
TheBjjones I have a compilation of them in my head lol my favorite is about his male model best friend who wrecked his car
@@Blodia1990 Where can I find this?
@@remilardinois9973 it's called "Nice Guys Get No Respect"
I never clicked so fast
She resended the retraining order. Anything is possible.
I hope that guy listens to you Corey and just moves on with his life...he already got burnt by that fire and needs to run as fast as he can far far away from it.
Yeah, I got robbed at gunpoint 10 years ago right in front of my house.
A year later, I was driving down my street and a cat ran out in front of my car and I hit it. It’s weird that I was able to move on easily from being robbed, but hitting that cat really upset me and never got over it. I got out of the car and the cat ran under a parked car and it was traumatized. It ran off, but I still dont know if it died later or not.
That would bother me too. I wish no harm on animals.
I am a stupid idiot, i am a 'Nice guy' or a doormat for others
coach looks sun burnt as hell
Unfortunately, no one can be toldwhat The Matrix is. You have to see it for yourself. Read the book and I know kung-fu.
+nebulae10 nice metaphor
+Coach Corey Wayne Thx Corey your the man!
I’m crying of laughter at the scorpion part!
It wasn’t THAT funny, but something about it fucking cracked me up.
i admit i like the chase thing. yet if she has a husband or baby daddy-she doesnt have a ring but she has a child-i like to find a way for her to acknowledge him.
Wesley Groth It turns you on when she acknowledges her husband or baby daddy? What kind of sick are you?
Corey!
I can't even begin to tell you how much your guidance has improved my love life and my self. From chaser to being chased..it feels great. Now...how do I tell this girl I don't really want to go on a date with her...seems like she keeps inviting herself and I feel bad since I told her I would be in town this weekend in a casual conversation. She keeps texting all day...does she have nothing else to do? I don't usually reply...only the usually short message like" thanks" " u too" etc. I feel like an asshole since she swears she's going on a date tonight and it's all over her facebook. how do I turn her down without being an asshole?
Hi coach..you can say No bueno or muy malo..both works.
I'm going to start making a dating profile , wish me luck, I'm lazy though I only read the book one time I'm going to start reading it at night
Just checking up on you to make sure you kept your promise.
Had to pull away from a few childhood friends, since they were into the crazy females hooked on drama. I realized I couldn't talk any sense into them, but the bottom line was to prevent them from dragging me into their mix.
Rick Ford Love it. That is quality behavior, very hot.
Sorry, not my thing. I have no problem dealing with aggressive women from the jump, and seeing them melt afterwards. As far as getting my door kicked down, or my car keyed, I'm good with that. Or, someone throwing a tantrum because I'm busy working or whatever, I'm good with that also.
By aggressive women, I'm pertaining to women that work actual professions...I'll gladly work with higher-class drama
I am so confused how do i not be nice but not be a dick. And how come this chick i used to be obsessed with and i drove her away, comes back to me whenever i leave after a few months but says she only wants to be friends. She gives me stares and adds me into conversation when im around her. But still says oh i want to be friends but keeps coming back when i leave.
And do i acknowledge her when i see her or just walk by
Don't do it!!!
great movies choices, what about Liam Neeson in the "taken" series ?... damn basically all his films, great in star wars also,
Hey coach your book says never let a women know what you're going to do does this apply only when your in a relationship? Or when dating? Because if you make definite date you're going to have to tell them what your going to do ?
I can't believe people like this exist. Were they not taught common sense? It's not about how to act with girls some of these people need to learn how to act like normal human beings in general.
Laughed at 2:21 . then.. . Cried at 2:40.. I AM A MONSTER !
You Are a fucking legend coach! Love your videos!
21:30 - 23:50 is epic!
there is a lady at work im "interested" in. im a wacky, wanna be nice guy. this Lady i "believe" gives hints that she has no Husband. she mostly talks to other women co-workers about her life and relationships. i don't ketch everything she says cause whenever i come into the room she was in she just "shuts up". im a guy that likes to warm up to people by asking them questions like where they from, how does she have so many vehicles; and she is abliged to tell me. i try not to be a hard prod but i like to get to know a little about her to where we both can have some comfort.
i figured that if i straight out asked if she was in a relationship she would or could mentally "RUN" and shut me out.
my steps im doing.
1) let my presence be seen.
2) try to sit across the table, and ask hows she's doing and where she is from.
3.---how often should i visit her during lunch? she does have a kid. we both are in our 20's.
22:59
Ahahahahahah, this is one of the funniest videos you've posted here coach!
the scorpion and frog shit made my rofl
me*
I give up foamy! Not a bad game of hide n seek! But im better call it a day before i get arrested for stalking 😤😤😤
Looks like you've had a little too much Florida sun Corey!
+chopperdan88 I got fucking fried after only an hour by pool
Coach Corey Wayne Ya dude, looks like you got nuked!
I sent you an email the other day asking about a (signed) copy of your book. I read your book once so far online, but would like the paperback version.
i really want to meet you corey. no advice. no homosexual tendencies lol. i’m just a big fan
We all do bro
He lives in Florida
Your own stories corey 😂😂😂 fuckin legend 👍
no bueno and muy malo, both work in this case lmao
❤️❤️
Is Corey Wayne now in a lifelong, satisfying relationship, or is he still 'dating'? Not sure if I think this is the most advisable for people looking for something serious.
+Savio M My outcome is to enjoy my life and my relationships over the years for as long as I want to stay in them. I do not see myself ever getting married again. It is unrealistic and foolish when the divorce rate is over 60% to think lifelong marriage with one person is what everyone should aspire to. For most people it is not realistic and the stats back it up. How many people have you met in your life who are really truly happy and still in love after many decades? I can count the number of couples I have met who have this type of relationship on one hand. It is stupid, ignorant and delusional for everyone to judge a relationships success by how many decades you are together. People who still think this way, or who try to live up to that unreasonable expectation (and who try to get everyone else to live up to that unrealistic standard) that is pushed by religion and society are ignorant and foolish. Most couples who have been together for many years have become roommates and hardly ever have sex, if at all, and they stay in those relationships because they feel trapped, they care too much about what others think or they lack the skills to attract someone else or someone better. What I teach enables you to attract and keep the kind of people you really want in your life as long as you want to stay with them. Take your condescending insults somewhere else. Trashing me and my lifestyle choices is not going to do anything to make your life any better. If you do not appreciate the value I offer, then you should unsubscribe and follow someone else. I am proud of all of the amazing women I have had the honor of calling my girlfriend over the years and many of them I still talk to from time to time and have wonderful lifelong friendships with. Most men will never experience and know what it is like being with those type of women for even one day. That is a fucking tragedy!
corey you might find this interesting, im only 15 :D
DAMN
No bueno dude! Haha
i dont believe it. i clicked like :v
Hahaha
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