I am single and in my 40s. in my early 30s I had a boyfriend to whom once I confessed my frustration about being single.That boyfriend actually asked me one question" Do you think all married people are happy?" That REALLY made me think and helped me deal better with my status.
True but more and more it's about the stigma of being single especially past a certain age. I know a lot of married women who knowingly or unknowingly exclude single gal's from the social activities. And in today's world when everyone is so busy being single can shine a light on just how alone one is. Not everyone gets married purely for romantic reasons some do it for companionship or for opportunities... sometimes it's easier to accomplish certain goals with a husband. Unpopular opinion but it's a man's world. Think of any women who has reached pinnacle of success. She had the backing of a man in some way shape or form. Whether it's was an executive who gave her a chance, a book publisher etc. Heck Beyonce wouldn't be the Beyonce she is without her Daddy or Jay Zs influence. Not to take away from any individual talent or hard work but it is what it is. A man's/husband's influence can really put you on in various spheres.
Fumi I'm 63. I got married at age 55. Me and my hubby have been going strong for 8 years now. My hubby and I were boyfriend/girlfriend from age 20-26. We kept in touch over the years. He never married , nor did I. Ladies, I didn't think I would ever get married after 50+ but I did. KEEP HOPE ALIVE!
Thank you Fumi. I am enjoying your videos. I am 43, never married, no kids, I can't have kids because I had a hysterectomy because of fibroids. I am still healing, I have been believing God for a husband since I was 20. I've decided to love myself and do the things I love, live life to the fullest. I am so liberated from expectations of African society about what it means to be a woman!!!
Patty-I am single, in my 70S, and I've never been married. I physically had no children, but I had many children and young people cross my path with whom I still have contact. One of them said they were children of my heart. They really are. I am facing retirement alone. However, I am currently going down a new path of creativity, and so many things are surfacing I never dreamed of. I believe God knows whom I will be with and when he will appear in my life. I feel he's coming, I just don't know when. That is kind of exciting. Thank you, Fumi, for the reinforcing words.
I'm 45. I knew motherhood wasn't my God-given calling when I was 12. I'm unmarried & I've never felt that longing that single women feel when they see married people. I am scarred from the trauma of having unhappily married parents, siblings and friends who stayed together long after they should. I already talked to God about it & he agrees that marriage & kids aren't for me; if he didn't, I would know it😂
I had the unhappily married parents and still got married. I hated it and will never do it again. Those married women can keep their headaches to themselves.
Too many single married folk for me to believe I’m missing out. Seeing healthy marriages is more of a pleasant surprise than something be “envied” in modern Western society.
I'm grateful for women like Fumi on TH-cam and TikTok who have spoken so much life to me, since I was 22 (now 26) I don't feel the pressure to be in a relationship or have kids at ALL! I don't know how that'll change in the next 10 years but for now I'm content being alone. PS I love the look Fumi, it looks so classy ❤
This video was on time. I learnt a long time ago, never compate your self to other people . 9 times out of 10 what you see is not the reality. People save face. Focus your energy on yourself. And prepare for his arrival ❤
This video came right on time as I’ve been feeling this way recently. Every time I go on social media, someone I know is getting engaged, married or having children. I’m still a virgin in my late 20s with minimal dating experience. With how dating is now, it’s so hard to find someone genuine. Guys have always told me that I’m marriage material, but they typically say they aren’t ready for that level of commitment or they ghost me for women with more sexual experience. Also, you’d be surprised that a lot of women and men settle for the sake of having a title and warm body. A lot of people are in relationships by themselves. So I don’t idolize people’s relationship, but I do always ask God when will my time come?
Fumi, thank you for this topic. I am 59 and single due to divorce. I love my life and focus on the next chapter of my life as I am pursuing my PhD. and other goals. You are so right to work on yourself, including your physical, mental, and emotional health. I would love to marry again (to the person God has for me), but right now, I am enjoying this time of preparation and reinventing myself! I live and love you, Fumi!❤
Fumi❤❤❤ I’ve been watching through so many stages in my life. You’ve been a counsellor for me when I needed one. When I was single and needed someone to remind me I’m worthy of the world I came to you. When I was dating and didn’t know how to handle guys, I came to you, etc. And now I just got married Aug 1st to the best guy in this world 🥰🥰 and so I will keep coming to you. I just love you and Ole and Adrian. I can see through my screen your happiness, thank you for showing us that it is possible. From the bottom of my heart, much love❤
I’ve always wanted a family. I’m your age now and never married no children. My friends’ children are in college and some are young adults. It’s tough. I feel like I spent so much time on my career and that was a waste on many levels because having a family, you leave a legacy that’s different and more meaningful. Now I don’t care one iota about my field/profession. I wish things were different.
I feel you, but please don't be sad. I'm 47. I always wanted kids (the mariage part, not so much... bad male figures early in life). I have 6 siblings, they all have children. I don't (and I'm the one who loves kids the most!). But at the same time I see them struggle with the children. It's tough. There are positives and negatives to every situation. I say to myself we are all threads of the great fabric of life, all intertwined. If you think about it, the legacy does not really last long... who remembers his/her great-great-grandmother? Not many of us. Also we can leave a legacy in many other ways: adopt, mentor youngsters, write, etc. I wish you all the best.
Number three was just right for me, but--- I never had the same timing as my single or married friends. New widow. I have no idea where to start life on my own. Just looking forward to being a grandma now. Things will work themselves out. Good advice... Don't put yourself in a position where you are not happy with the company you keep.
This video is so timely. I was feeling so sad today about deciding to cut off a situationship that was headed nowhere and started to feel the blues of being single and lonely at nearly 32 especially when I thought this man was the one. The Universe always finds a way to comfort us and I am so grateful Aunty Fumi for allowing yourself to be used. As you have said, it is not a race and I trust that it will happen for me the way and time it is meant to ❤
Oh my darlings, you have so much life ahead of you! Really. Focus on yourselves, do what pleases you. Travel, climb, caving, career or even write a book - get to know yourself as a person and the right partner will come to you. Much love xxx
Girl I would’ve thought that someone hacked into my account and wrote this on my behalf…omg I relate with this 💯% !!! Everything you mentioned is me but seeing how dating in society currently looks like, I end up feeling secure and at peace in being single. I’ve come a VERY long way because in my early 20s I would cry and get so depressed about being single. God sees how big the desire to be in a loving committed relationship and I believe that he will come through at just the right time! Keep your Faith 🙌🏾😌❤️✨
Thank you so much Fumi for this video❤. I'm 32, always wanted to be married and a mom but still single. I've never been in a relationship actually even though i try to meet men... It's so painful sometimes feeling like I'm missing so much in life. Your videos give me hope❤
Yeah, I never wanted to get married. Had a child out of wedlock, and I wasn’t concerned about getting married. I did get married, was Married for 14 years. I got divorced, I’m not interested in marriage, but never against it. I have never had any peer pressure after 15, that’s when I realized people don’t really like you. Yeah, you have people that like you, but the majority of people are living their own lives, we have a million things to think about. Children, spouses, careers, family, no one has time to worry about what other people are doing. It’s life! Great video 😊
This actually brought tears to my eyes.. felt that you were talking about my single life.. still single at 66 and feel that I have so much to give the right partner…🥺
This was SOOOO POWERFUL❤❤❤... such more an any "singles" sermon or message I've heard in churches my whole life. I'm crying and shouting because this has set me COMPLETELY FREE🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
This video is so timely. I have been feeling so tired of the wait. This is the fuel I need to keep on the hope and enjoy my present. I should count my blessing, 31 and unmarried, no child yet is not so bad. Thank you so much Fumi! Love from a Zambian in NYC.
Awesome video Fumi I'm 56 been single for over 10 years and I feel bad when I see some of my friends married and in relationships most times I question myself whether I am ugly and or I have these negative thoughts sometimes and wonder what I'm doing wrong. Luckily I'm god fearing and I pray a lot and sometimes exercise when I get the chance. I'm glad I watched this video you have given me hope.
Thank you Fumi for your special words. I have been feeling pressured as well by a few people at work being I'm single. They say I'm needing a man. I always say I'm good Alone right now, I don't need a MAN TO COMPLETE ME.
Thank you aunt Fumi, I have been home for now 6 years after graduation babysitting my cousins. They are now old and I feel left out on everything. I'm 28 and I have no idea where to start from
I’m so happy for you Fumi ❤❤ may God continue to bless you and your family. I’m 45 and single. This video is encouraging. While sometimes I moan about singleness, couples romancing in front of me, people asking me if I want marriage and children, I enjoy the drama free life. I enjoy organising my life the way I want it.
Thank you for this content! I am single in my very early 40s and I have hope for marriage and kid(s). I hope because that is what I want. Your story is an inspiration!
Just from the title alone that brought back a memory to me. I felt left out for the first time a couple of weeks ago, just after turning 30 when I heard (I believe I wasn't meant to hear the conversation just by the look my friends gave each other) that my friends (all married) were planning a party with their spouses without informing me to celebrate one that just bought her new apartment. That was a weird feeling as I am okay being single even though I am looking for the one. I'll watch the video and hopefully I'll get some good advice by you aunty Fumi ❤
Ditch them. Some married think they are superior and treat their single friends differently after they get married. Then if divorce happens they start looking for you again.
Your pictures are amazing… wow you’ve travelled so much. Defo a blueprint I’m waiting on God I was hurt in my last relationship but now I’ve healed this is a beautiful life to aspire to… thank you for sharing Fumi, it really helps soo many beautiful women feeling lost, lonely and helpless out there ❤❤
Fumi I don't even know what the video entails as a Single Woman who absolutely loves being single and finally understanding this isn't an issue it's a blessing . I wish I knew that a long time ago. Marriage is beautiful should you find someone to spend the rest of your life with happily wholly but if. Not live happy and single and it's ok to be happy single and saved. #If I keep My Last Name I think I'm going to be just fine.
God bless you aunt Fums, I have been troubled lately because all my friends even younger sisters have had all they wished, be it marriage, the dream career and many more, and I have been feeling like I have not achieved anything, my dream mostly, which is to become a medical doctor, I thank you for the encouraging message, I got the strength to pick up my books again and continue with my medical doctor entrance exam preparations. Love love from a Tanzanian lady 🇹🇿 in Italy. Un bacio a te😘.
When i tell people I am single with 0 kids people feel pity for me. I don't understand. It makes me question what am doing wrong. I was with a guy who let me down and started cheating with another woman while I was busy getting my life together. How pity!
This video was so spot on with everything I am feeling especially the financial aspects! It was so comforting to learn that I am not alone. It's something I have shame about but I guess I am not alone. I turned 30 this year and I am not quite where I want to be financially and this has got me down. I sometimes look at married people who seem to have it all. Nice big apartments or houses, seem to have their finances together while I am struggling to make ends meet. I am working towards being better with my finances and hearing your story about how things were for you when you were younger is comforting and encouraging to know my life could definitely improve for the better. Thanks so much for sharing your story.
You are such a beautiful woman inside and out! I pray to be this poised, elegant and vibrant as I grow older. Thank you for your wisdom. There are women (and men) who often become bitter due to life's circumstances and it takes away from them enjoying each stage of life. They often think "Well if I had to go through this hardship then so do you" rather than sharing lessons and teaching moments. I can tell you are a wonderful person to the people around you because you are giving us such caring and attentive advice. You don't know us personally yet you are sharing with a heart that really cares for our growth and wellness. Many people close to us probably have the same experiences and wisdom as you but would not share it generously because they are harboring pain and do not wish to see others happy. Love you Aunty Fumi!
I Love your Channel so much Aunty Fumi!!! I listen to all your videos and you're preaching to us sisters. I'm turning 32, and I can't wait to be married. But while i patiently wait. I am focusing on being the best I can be in this single hood season. One thing I don't want to do is marry wrong, so I will wait for the very very best from God. I am so happy for you, Ula and Adrian ❤. May you be blessed with the very best years for all the years of waiting ❤❤
Aunt Fumi, you are so cute❤😍🤗thank you for always being there as an auntie, big sis and counsellor. I am 38 single mommy and enjoying every moment with my daughter. I struggle sometimes but my goal is to enjoy every single moment of being single and working hard towards giving my girl a decent life🙏🙌
I swear I can't love you any less. You give the BEST, I mean ABSOLUTE BEST Advices all the time. You're Indeed Our Own Fairy god mother on the internet. I Love You Aunty Fumi & God Bless You Richly for always being a ray of positivity, kindness, sunshine, & Love. ❤❤❤
Thank you big sis Fumi. I've had the hardest time losing all my close friends who are now married as they were my whole world. The loneliness that I have felt and the feeling of failing hit me hard. And trying to make a circle of new friends is hard too. I'm a better now but this message really spoke to me. Thank you and loads of love.❤❤❤
This was FIRE 🔥 I have children but I’m not married. I can’t wait to be but I’ve experienced a lot of what you mentioned! The rubbing it in..people being intimidated by me. But God sent you as a messenger..I will stay fabulous ❤
I needed this, I am 33 years old an only child and my mom is dead. I have no family and all I want is my own family but I lose hope everyday because I don’t see love in my future sometimes. I am the last one in my friends group that is single with no kids so sometimes the pressure is there. But, at the same time I look at their lives and say I don’t want it. They never have time for themselves and work themselves to the bone. I don’t know, I’m blessed to be single but sometimes I think about having my own family but I’m stingy with my love.
This advice landed especially because it's coming from someone who walked the journey!!! You really understand the struggle and I'm glad you didn't trivialize it
Fumes, you always have the best advice, those life lessons have served you well. Gurrrl, that hair is glamorous to distraction ! Yes you look fire 🔥🔥🔥, I love your look !
Gosh I can totally relate with this video, right in this phase at the moment, of giving space to my married friends. Mainly, I am doing that to reflect on my feelings, why I feel how I feel & how I can sort it.
Fumi, I absolutely love who you are! ❤️ I am a new subscriber (about two weeks ago) and have been loving your channel ever since! Please keep giving us the raw and real you! ❤️😘
You're a remarkable individual handmade by God. The Bible says covit good gifting and I truly aspire to be somewhat like you, I'm in my mid 30's and still not sure what God has in store for me but I trust him.
Celebrate life, longevity and peace. Reality, women out number men, therefore all of us won't be able to get married but for those who desire that, I pray you find the desires of your heart. But while waiting learn to marry yourself first. Give yourself permission to be in love with you first.
Women dont outnumber men. That’s the narrative that males push. Marriage minded Women outnumber “marriageable” males. Globally, more male babies are born than female babies. In reality, straight women want the man they’d wish to marry to be mature minded, straight, financially capable, mentally stable, protective, loving, faithful, honest, etc. How many males do you know who fit that criteria? Few, if any! Plenty of males but very few have the qualities that women seek. For a woman to be proposed to by a male wanting marriage, he basically just wants a physically attractive, loving, loyal, honest woman. How many women do you know like that? Unlimited! You are correct though, many women will never get married. Period. Not because of the quantity of men but because of the quality of men available. Women are much pickier than men and we HAVE to be because we bear the offspring.
It's been a long time since I've commented on your videos 😔. This one touched me a lot because I am on the eve of my 48th birthday and still single. Thank you my sister Fumi for your words. Very encouraging and inspiring. May God bless you and protect your family! You are true a beautiful soul! You're like a friend in my head! Please, Fumi, I have a question: you often say you met Ola in LA. But how did your meeting go? Did he approach you? Was it an immediate love at first sight? I'll understand if you don't want to share the details. Merci! Sending you love & blessings from Paris. Bizoux🇫🇷🌸😘
Thank you so much. I’m 34 and still single and I’m the last of my friends to be single. I have struggled with feeling hopeless/worthless and gave up on dating. I have been praying for years for a spouse and have been trusting God but it’s a struggle, but I also know what I need to do to be in a relationship (self care, self love, and making more friends ). Anyways thank you for the encouragement.
“It’s not a race “🥹🥹. I needed this. I’m turning 31 next month and I’m still single. I’m not necessarily longing for marriage or feeling as though I’m missing out on that. I do yearn for a companion, someone to pour in me as much as I’m ready to pour into them 🥹. I’m staying single though until God does his deed in my life. I’ve set standards, boundaries and expectations for my next relationship ,therefore I will not operate from a desperate place and settle. It doesn’t make the yearning for a relationship any less though . Thank you for this video Auntie ❤️❤️
I join the community of so many of these here who are completely satisfied & content as a single (widowed) with no desire to remarry. My sweet husband left big shoes that will never be filled & I honestly believe there is no match to the love he had for me. I gave him all of myself & have no more to give to another man. I'm too selfish now. I give my love to my children, grandchildren, friends (married & single) & more importantly, to the things of God. Not a jealous or envious bone in my body towards my married fam & friends. Not 1 day of longing, loneliness, looking or lusting for a man. Love is a beautiful gift. I still cry at weddings (I don't avoid them) & love the idea of marriage...but for someone else😂
27:30 I am so glad that she talked about this because thats the stage of my life that I am in now. 50, divorced with two young adult children and I so much wanted to get married again and be happy again with love and my career and business. But it been 5 years since my divorced. And I don’t see any luck in those areas of my life.Pray for me.
Thank you so much for this video, I am 26 and I have been feeling depressed because I am not married or in a relationship. You story is so up lifting to hear ✨
Amazing episode Fumi. Love the travel photos. You are enjoying and living your best life later. God has blessed you with an amazing husband and son I got married in my twenties and divorced in my late thirties with three kids. I would love to travel and enjoy life now that I am in my fifties. So for the young ladles please enjoy your life..travel and have fun, so please don't settle ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I’m not going to lie this episode to me feels like an actual sign from God because today out of all days, I have been crying my eyes out feeling like I just want to no longer exist… but then I get this episode
Thank you so much for your advice! I love your channel and you are a blessing from God! I am 42 and just graduated with my PhD! You are truly an inspiration - I look forward and thank God in advance for my future husband and children.
Thank you so very much Fumi. I am 35 years old. I am a nurse. And I still believe that I will be able to married and have children I would be extremely happy just like you are you are a inspirations ❤❤❤we love you so much. May God bless you and your beautiful family 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you Fumi for this message ❤️ I’m 32 year old woman and I genuinely believe I am ready to be married and pour into a man and my children. I am trusting Gods timing but it’s hard!
Yumi, thanks so much for this video.Although I'm divorced, I still have moments of fearing that God will send my last and final husband.Your video touched my ❤️ it came at the perfect time. I'm reorganizing jewelry clothes shoes purses and wigs 😅yes I live wigs, too.I ordered Julianne in 2 colors. I'm not giving up on love again.Gonna dressed to impress as I used to do before COVID. When my husband arrives, I'll be mentally physically and stylishly chic ready. Your content is like food for the soul,a total addiction for me now.Continued Love Happiness and Blessings to you Ola & Adrian❤
Thank you mama funmi ♥️you’re God sent. these words of encouragement are timely 🥹your words are so comforting 😭I shed tears while watching this video bc this what I wish my biological mother would tell me that everything will be okay but instead only blesses me whenever I send her pocket money. It is well😢I’m glad I’ve found more than a mother in you. I love you
I am single and in my 40s. in my early 30s I had a boyfriend to whom once I confessed my frustration about being single.That boyfriend actually asked me one question" Do you think all married people are happy?" That REALLY made me think and helped me deal better with my status.
True but more and more it's about the stigma of being single especially past a certain age. I know a lot of married women who knowingly or unknowingly exclude single gal's from the social activities. And in today's world when everyone is so busy being single can shine a light on just how alone one is. Not everyone gets married purely for romantic reasons some do it for companionship or for opportunities... sometimes it's easier to accomplish certain goals with a husband. Unpopular opinion but it's a man's world. Think of any women who has reached pinnacle of success. She had the backing of a man in some way shape or form. Whether it's was an executive who gave her a chance, a book publisher etc. Heck Beyonce wouldn't be the Beyonce she is without her Daddy or Jay Zs influence. Not to take away from any individual talent or hard work but it is what it is. A man's/husband's influence can really put you on in various spheres.
Fumi I'm 63. I got married at age 55. Me and my hubby have been going strong for 8 years now. My hubby and I were boyfriend/girlfriend from age 20-26. We kept in touch over the years. He never married , nor did I. Ladies, I didn't think I would ever get married after 50+ but I did. KEEP HOPE ALIVE!
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Oh, that's so sweet. Wish you all the happiness in the world.
At 46, never married, no kids, but have been wanting both since my 30s, I needed to hear this. Thank you Fumi.
Thank you Fumi. I am enjoying your videos. I am 43, never married, no kids, I can't have kids because I had a hysterectomy because of fibroids. I am still healing, I have been believing God for a husband since I was 20. I've decided to love myself and do the things I love, live life to the fullest. I am so liberated from expectations of African society about what it means to be a woman!!!
I’m 37 and people make cruel comments. I am not in a rush to get married as I want to marry the right person! Thank you for this viseo
Patty-I am single, in my 70S, and I've never been married. I physically had no children, but I had many children and young people cross my path with whom I still have contact. One of them said they were children of my heart. They really are. I am facing retirement alone. However, I am currently going down a new path of creativity, and so many things are surfacing I never dreamed of. I believe God knows whom I will be with and when he will appear in my life. I feel he's coming, I just don't know when. That is kind of exciting. Thank you, Fumi, for the reinforcing words.
I'm 45. I knew motherhood wasn't my God-given calling when I was 12. I'm unmarried & I've never felt that longing that single women feel when they see married people. I am scarred from the trauma of having unhappily married parents, siblings and friends who stayed together long after they should. I already talked to God about it & he agrees that marriage & kids aren't for me; if he didn't, I would know it😂
YANA ! 😉😃 Am 55 🤷🏾♀️
I had the unhappily married parents and still got married. I hated it and will never do it again. Those married women can keep their headaches to themselves.
Too many single married folk for me to believe I’m missing out. Seeing healthy marriages is more of a pleasant surprise than something be “envied” in modern Western society.
Fact. They're married but that's about it oftentimes. Nothing to be envious of from what I'm seeing.
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I'm grateful for women like Fumi on TH-cam and TikTok who have spoken so much life to me, since I was 22 (now 26) I don't feel the pressure to be in a relationship or have kids at ALL! I don't know how that'll change in the next 10 years but for now I'm content being alone. PS I love the look Fumi, it looks so classy ❤
"your supposed to be where you are"this words are deep.Thanks fumi always here for your nuggets of wisdom
This video was on time. I learnt a long time ago, never compate your self to other people . 9 times out of 10 what you see is not the reality. People save face. Focus your energy on yourself. And prepare for his arrival ❤
"Thou shalt not covet."
This video came right on time as I’ve been feeling this way recently. Every time I go on social media, someone I know is getting engaged, married or having children. I’m still a virgin in my late 20s with minimal dating experience. With how dating is now, it’s so hard to find someone genuine. Guys have always told me that I’m marriage material, but they typically say they aren’t ready for that level of commitment or they ghost me for women with more sexual experience. Also, you’d be surprised that a lot of women and men settle for the sake of having a title and warm body. A lot of people are in relationships by themselves. So I don’t idolize people’s relationship, but I do always ask God when will my time come?
Girl…we should chat! I’m a girl in your shoes sort of…by the way.
I relate so much! Waiting on God isn't easy but it's going to be worth it.
I relate to this as well. If you all chat let me know! 😂
Single, childfree and happy @45. It is people like Fumi that are inspiring us to live bravely and blissfully 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Fumi, thank you for this topic. I am 59 and single due to divorce. I love my life and focus on the next chapter of my life as I am pursuing my PhD. and other goals. You are so right to work on yourself, including your physical, mental, and emotional health. I would love to marry again (to the person God has for me), but right now, I am enjoying this time of preparation and reinventing myself! I live and love you, Fumi!❤
Fumi❤❤❤ I’ve been watching through so many stages in my life. You’ve been a counsellor for me when I needed one. When I was single and needed someone to remind me I’m worthy of the world I came to you. When I was dating and didn’t know how to handle guys, I came to you, etc. And now I just got married Aug 1st to the best guy in this world 🥰🥰 and so I will keep coming to you. I just love you and Ole and Adrian. I can see through my screen your happiness, thank you for showing us that it is possible. From the bottom of my heart, much love❤
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I’ve always wanted a family. I’m your age now and never married no children. My friends’ children are in college and some are young adults. It’s tough. I feel like I spent so much time on my career and that was a waste on many levels because having a family, you leave a legacy that’s different and more meaningful. Now I don’t care one iota about my field/profession. I wish things were different.
I feel you, but please don't be sad. I'm 47. I always wanted kids (the mariage part, not so much... bad male figures early in life). I have 6 siblings, they all have children. I don't (and I'm the one who loves kids the most!). But at the same time I see them struggle with the children. It's tough. There are positives and negatives to every situation. I say to myself we are all threads of the great fabric of life, all intertwined. If you think about it, the legacy does not really last long... who remembers his/her great-great-grandmother? Not many of us. Also we can leave a legacy in many other ways: adopt, mentor youngsters, write, etc. I wish you all the best.
Number three was just right for me, but--- I never had the same timing as my single or married friends.
New widow. I have no idea where to start life on my own. Just looking forward to being a grandma now.
Things will work themselves out.
Good advice... Don't put yourself in a position where you are not happy with the company you keep.
This video is so timely. I was feeling so sad today about deciding to cut off a situationship that was headed nowhere and started to feel the blues of being single and lonely at nearly 32 especially when I thought this man was the one. The Universe always finds a way to comfort us and I am so grateful Aunty Fumi for allowing yourself to be used. As you have said, it is not a race and I trust that it will happen for me the way and time it is meant to ❤
Same case here darling...we shall pull through
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Trust the Lord. He will NEVER fail you❤
Oh my darlings, you have so much life ahead of you! Really. Focus on yourselves, do what pleases you. Travel, climb, caving, career or even write a book - get to know yourself as a person and the right partner will come to you. Much love xxx
Girl I would’ve thought that someone hacked into my account and wrote this on my behalf…omg I relate with this 💯% !!! Everything you mentioned is me but seeing how dating in society currently looks like, I end up feeling secure and at peace in being single. I’ve come a VERY long way because in my early 20s I would cry and get so depressed about being single. God sees how big the desire to be in a loving committed relationship and I believe that he will come through at just the right time! Keep your Faith 🙌🏾😌❤️✨
Thank you so much Fumi for this video❤. I'm 32, always wanted to be married and a mom but still single. I've never been in a relationship actually even though i try to meet men... It's so painful sometimes feeling like I'm missing so much in life. Your videos give me hope❤
Turn to God.
I feel you.
Same here❤
Yeah, I never wanted to get married. Had a child out of wedlock, and I wasn’t concerned about getting married. I did get married, was Married for 14 years. I got divorced, I’m not interested in marriage, but never against it. I have never had any peer pressure after 15, that’s when I realized people don’t really like you. Yeah, you have people that like you, but the majority of people are living their own lives, we have a million things to think about. Children, spouses, careers, family, no one has time to worry about what other people are doing. It’s life! Great video 😊
Thank you Fumi, nobody talks about this, ppl always focused on relationship goals, n single ppl are overlooked, this made me feel seen
This actually brought tears to my eyes.. felt that you were talking about my single life.. still single at 66 and feel that I have so much to give the right partner…🥺
I lost my best friend for the same topic she's married and I'm not, and she make me feel like I'm missing out because I'm not married
I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this in your friendship. Growing apart is never easy nor fair.
She’s lying.
This was SOOOO POWERFUL❤❤❤... such more an any "singles" sermon or message I've heard in churches my whole life. I'm crying and shouting because this has set me COMPLETELY FREE🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
This video is so timely. I have been feeling so tired of the wait. This is the fuel I need to keep on the hope and enjoy my present. I should count my blessing, 31 and unmarried, no child yet is not so bad. Thank you so much Fumi! Love from a Zambian in NYC.
Awesome video Fumi I'm 56 been single for over 10 years and I feel bad when I see some of my friends married and in relationships most times I question myself whether I am ugly and or I have these negative thoughts sometimes and wonder what I'm doing wrong. Luckily I'm god fearing and I pray a lot and sometimes exercise when I get the chance. I'm glad I watched this video you have given me hope.
Thank you Fumi for your special words. I have been feeling pressured as well by a few people at work being I'm single. They say I'm needing a man. I always say I'm good Alone right now, I don't need a MAN TO COMPLETE ME.
I'm so happy you recorded this chat. It is so helpful. Thanks for remembering us single ladies.😉
Thank you aunt Fumi, I have been home for now 6 years after graduation babysitting my cousins. They are now old and I feel left out on everything. I'm 28 and I have no idea where to start from
I’m a 28 yr old newly single mom of 2 beautiful children but I trust God
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your transparency and vulnerability Fumi! This video will help so many women in a similar situation
I'm 30 single no kids and starting to give up. This gives me some hope ❤
Me too
I’m so happy for you Fumi ❤❤ may God continue to bless you and your family. I’m 45 and single. This video is encouraging. While sometimes I moan about singleness, couples romancing in front of me, people asking me if I want marriage and children, I enjoy the drama free life. I enjoy organising my life the way I want it.
Thank you for this content! I am single in my very early 40s and I have hope for marriage and kid(s). I hope because that is what I want. Your story is an inspiration!
This episode brought tears to my eyes. You educate me everyday but today you educate me. I love you auntie Fumes
Just from the title alone that brought back a memory to me. I felt left out for the first time a couple of weeks ago, just after turning 30 when I heard (I believe I wasn't meant to hear the conversation just by the look my friends gave each other) that my friends (all married) were planning a party with their spouses without informing me to celebrate one that just bought her new apartment. That was a weird feeling as I am okay being single even though I am looking for the one. I'll watch the video and hopefully I'll get some good advice by you aunty Fumi ❤
Those are not your friends. They should Atleast tell you
Ditch them. Some married think they are superior and treat their single friends differently after they get married. Then if divorce happens they start looking for you again.
I say go off on them...
Your pictures are amazing… wow you’ve travelled so much. Defo a blueprint I’m waiting on God I was hurt in my last relationship but now I’ve healed this is a beautiful life to aspire to… thank you for sharing Fumi, it really helps soo many beautiful women feeling lost, lonely and helpless out there ❤❤
Fumi I don't even know what the video entails as a Single Woman who absolutely loves being single and finally understanding this isn't an issue it's a blessing . I wish I knew that a long time ago. Marriage is beautiful should you find someone to spend the rest of your life with happily wholly but if. Not live happy and single and it's ok to be happy single and saved. #If I keep My Last Name I think I'm going to be just fine.
The wait will be worth it ten folds! Thank you for this video Fumi! It is right on time. ❤
God bless you aunt Fums, I have been troubled lately because all my friends even younger sisters have had all they wished, be it marriage, the dream career and many more, and I have been feeling like I have not achieved anything, my dream mostly, which is to become a medical doctor, I thank you for the encouraging message, I got the strength to pick up my books again and continue with my medical doctor entrance exam preparations. Love love from a Tanzanian lady 🇹🇿 in Italy. Un bacio a te😘.
People can be very unkind towards unmarried women.
Absolutely!
When i tell people I am single with 0 kids people feel pity for me. I don't understand. It makes me question what am doing wrong. I was with a guy who let me down and started cheating with another woman while I was busy getting my life together. How pity!
This video was so spot on with everything I am feeling especially the financial aspects! It was so comforting to learn that I am not alone. It's something I have shame about but I guess I am not alone.
I turned 30 this year and I am not quite where I want to be financially and this has got me down. I sometimes look at married people who seem to have it all. Nice big apartments or houses, seem to have their finances together while I am struggling to make ends meet.
I am working towards being better with my finances and hearing your story about how things were for you when you were younger is comforting and encouraging to know my life could definitely improve for the better.
Thanks so much for sharing your story.
You are such a beautiful woman inside and out! I pray to be this poised, elegant and vibrant as I grow older. Thank you for your wisdom. There are women (and men) who often become bitter due to life's circumstances and it takes away from them enjoying each stage of life. They often think "Well if I had to go through this hardship then so do you" rather than sharing lessons and teaching moments. I can tell you are a wonderful person to the people around you because you are giving us such caring and attentive advice. You don't know us personally yet you are sharing with a heart that really cares for our growth and wellness. Many people close to us probably have the same experiences and wisdom as you but would not share it generously because they are harboring pain and do not wish to see others happy. Love you Aunty Fumi!
I Love your Channel so much Aunty Fumi!!! I listen to all your videos and you're preaching to us sisters. I'm turning 32, and I can't wait to be married. But while i patiently wait. I am focusing on being the best I can be in this single hood season. One thing I don't want to do is marry wrong, so I will wait for the very very best from God. I am so happy for you, Ula and Adrian ❤. May you be blessed with the very best years for all the years of waiting ❤❤
Aunt Fumi, you are so cute❤😍🤗thank you for always being there as an auntie, big sis and counsellor. I am 38 single mommy and enjoying every moment with my daughter. I struggle sometimes but my goal is to enjoy every single moment of being single and working hard towards giving my girl a decent life🙏🙌
I love these moments with Fumi ❤
I swear I can't love you any less. You give the BEST, I mean ABSOLUTE BEST Advices all the time. You're Indeed Our Own Fairy god mother on the internet. I Love You Aunty Fumi & God Bless You Richly for always being a ray of positivity, kindness, sunshine, & Love. ❤❤❤
Thank you Sis Fumi, I am 46 now and really needed to hear this. ❤😊
Thank you so much Aunty funmi, I'm 40,single, no kids and confused. I really need this video
I can never thank you enough Fumi. Keep doing what you do.
I pray that God continues to bless you with a long and happy life 💕
FUMI!! Thanks so much. I really needed to hear this today. I'm 41 and I think about this often. You are amazing
Thank you big sis Fumi. I've had the hardest time losing all my close friends who are now married as they were my whole world. The loneliness that I have felt and the feeling of failing hit me hard. And trying to make a circle of new friends is hard too. I'm a better now but this message really spoke to me. Thank you and loads of love.❤❤❤
Awwww thank you so much Mama Fumi for responding and your Advice❤❤️🎉 💃🏽 You are the best. God richly bless you. Love you.
This was FIRE 🔥 I have children but I’m not married. I can’t wait to be but I’ve experienced a lot of what you mentioned! The rubbing it in..people being intimidated by me. But God sent you as a messenger..I will stay fabulous ❤
Lesson learnt " marriage is not a race." God Almighty thank You for giving me the STRENGTH , Patience, and Spiritual insights about marriage. 🙏
I needed this, I am 33 years old an only child and my mom is dead. I have no family and all I want is my own family but I lose hope everyday because I don’t see love in my future sometimes. I am the last one in my friends group that is single with no kids so sometimes the pressure is there. But, at the same time I look at their lives and say I don’t want it. They never have time for themselves and work themselves to the bone. I don’t know, I’m blessed to be single but sometimes I think about having my own family but I’m stingy with my love.
Just go to a sperm bank. Or adopt if you can.
You don’t need marriage to have kids. Go ahead and have kids now because time isn’t kind to us women.
Powerful!!! I love those travel pictures, you look beautiful FUMI sis! 🫶🏽
This advice landed especially because it's coming from someone who walked the journey!!! You really understand the struggle and I'm glad you didn't trivialize it
Fumes, you always have the best advice, those life lessons have served you well. Gurrrl, that hair is glamorous to distraction ! Yes you look fire 🔥🔥🔥, I love your look !
Gosh
I can totally relate with this video, right in this phase at the moment, of giving space to my married friends. Mainly, I am doing that to reflect on my feelings, why I feel how I feel & how I can sort it.
Fumi, I absolutely love who you are! ❤️ I am a new subscriber (about two weeks ago) and have been loving your channel ever since! Please keep giving us the raw and real you! ❤️😘
You're a remarkable individual handmade by God. The Bible says covit good gifting and I truly aspire to be somewhat like you, I'm in my mid 30's and still not sure what God has in store for me but I trust him.
This is such a beautiful video with a beautiful message! Fumi, you are amazing ❤️ with a wonderful family!
I so so so needed this. I'm 53 and thank you. I'm doing everything you said. I do desire my husband, but I can also wait for him. Thank Fumi ❤
Celebrate life, longevity and peace. Reality, women out number men, therefore all of us won't be able to get married but for those who desire that, I pray you find the desires of your heart. But while waiting learn to marry yourself first. Give yourself permission to be in love with you first.
Women dont outnumber men. That’s the narrative that males push. Marriage minded Women outnumber “marriageable” males.
Globally, more male babies are born than female babies.
In reality, straight women want the man they’d wish to marry to be mature minded, straight, financially capable, mentally stable, protective, loving, faithful, honest, etc. How many males do you know who fit that criteria?
Few, if any! Plenty of males but very few have the qualities that women seek.
For a woman to be proposed to by a male wanting marriage, he basically just wants a physically attractive, loving, loyal, honest woman. How many women do you know like that? Unlimited!
You are correct though, many women will never get married. Period. Not because of the quantity of men but because of the quality of men available. Women are much pickier than men and we HAVE to be because we bear the offspring.
It's actually the opposite globally
Sister Fumi, this is so relevant to my life right at this moment. All my love to you and your family. Blessings! Love from T&T!
Good morning World!❤❤❤ I really love to hear you laugh❤❤🇱🇨🇱🇨
It's been a long time since I've commented on your videos 😔. This one touched me a lot because I am on the eve of my 48th birthday and still single. Thank you my sister Fumi for your words. Very encouraging and inspiring.
May God bless you and protect your family! You are true a beautiful soul! You're like a friend in my head!
Please, Fumi, I have a question: you often say you met Ola in LA. But how did your meeting go? Did he approach you? Was it an immediate love at first sight? I'll understand if you don't want to share the details. Merci! Sending you love & blessings from Paris. Bizoux🇫🇷🌸😘
Seriously, God brought to you Fumi. I soooooooo needed to hear this.
Thank you so much. I’m 34 and still single and I’m the last of my friends to be single. I have struggled with feeling hopeless/worthless and gave up on dating. I have been praying for years for a spouse and have been trusting God but it’s a struggle, but I also know what I need to do to be in a relationship (self care, self love, and making more friends ). Anyways thank you for the encouragement.
Me too sis same age
❤thank you so much .. For stepping up and speaking out forthe BLACK WOMEN ❤❤
Looking great Fumi! ❤
Thank you auntie fumi for not leaving us out....without or without a man i am enought with or without a child i am enough as a woman 😊
“It’s not a race “🥹🥹. I needed this. I’m turning 31 next month and I’m still single. I’m not necessarily longing for marriage or feeling as though I’m missing out on that. I do yearn for a companion, someone to pour in me as much as I’m ready to pour into them 🥹. I’m staying single though until God does his deed in my life. I’ve set standards, boundaries and expectations for my next relationship ,therefore I will not operate from a desperate place and settle. It doesn’t make the yearning for a relationship any less though . Thank you for this video Auntie ❤️❤️
I join the community of so many of these here who are completely satisfied & content as a single (widowed) with no desire to remarry. My sweet husband left big shoes that will never be filled & I honestly believe there is no match to the love he had for me. I gave him all of myself & have no more to give to another man. I'm too selfish now. I give my love to my children, grandchildren, friends (married & single) & more importantly, to the things of God. Not a jealous or envious bone in my body towards my married fam & friends. Not 1 day of longing, loneliness, looking or lusting for a man. Love is a beautiful gift. I still cry at weddings (I don't avoid them) & love the idea of marriage...but for someone else😂
27:30 I am so glad that she talked about this because thats the stage of my life that I am in now. 50, divorced with two young adult children and I so much wanted to get married again and be happy again with love and my career and business. But it been 5 years since my divorced. And I don’t see any luck in those areas of my life.Pray for me.
Fumi you are the friend that every girl/woman needs❤
Thank you so much for this video, I am 26 and I have been feeling depressed because I am not married or in a relationship. You story is so up lifting to hear ✨
Amazing episode Fumi. Love the travel photos. You are enjoying and living your best life later. God has blessed you with an amazing husband and son
I got married in my twenties and divorced in my late thirties with three kids. I would love to travel and enjoy life now that I am in my fifties. So for the young ladles please enjoy your life..travel and have fun, so please don't settle
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Anty funmi is just a wonderful counsellor she makes me feel good about myself and to never settle.
Keep those awesome videos coming Fumi! You are so good to us.
I’m not going to lie this episode to me feels like an actual sign from God because today out of all days, I have been crying my eyes out feeling like I just want to no longer exist… but then I get this episode
Thank you so much for your advice! I love your channel and you are a blessing from God! I am 42 and just graduated with my PhD! You are truly an inspiration - I look forward and thank God in advance for my future husband and children.
I believe getting married is a personal choice and no one should be pressured to get married
Thanks for this video. I think this video was made for me . Hmmm it’s not easy but thanks for this. I’m in my late 30’s still single 😢
Thank you so very much Fumi. I am 35 years old. I am a nurse.
And I still believe that I will be able to married and have children I would be extremely happy just like you are you are a inspirations ❤❤❤we love you so much. May God bless you and your beautiful family 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you Fumi for this message ❤️ I’m 32 year old woman and I genuinely believe I am ready to be married and pour into a man and my children. I am trusting Gods timing but it’s hard!
I just want to say I love you my sister Fumi I’ve learned a lot from you
Your family is beautiful and your laugh gives me life I love your laugh
Funmi God has blessed you with great intelligence. You single experience was not in vain. It's also relatable.
Yumi, thanks so much for this video.Although I'm divorced, I still have moments of fearing that God will send my last and final husband.Your video touched my ❤️ it came at the perfect time. I'm reorganizing jewelry clothes shoes purses and wigs 😅yes I live wigs, too.I ordered Julianne in 2 colors. I'm not giving up on love again.Gonna dressed to impress as I used to do before COVID.
When my husband arrives, I'll be mentally physically and stylishly chic ready.
Your content is like food for the soul,a total addiction for me now.Continued Love Happiness and Blessings to you Ola & Adrian❤
Your story encouraged me so much. I definitely needed this reminder. I’m 40 and this spoke to me deeply. Thank you.
Thank you for this timely word dear Auntie Fumi❤. God bless you and continue to uphold your family.
Wow! What an episode! So inspiring in many areas....career, marriage.... fulfillment in life
I wish I could give you a hug. Hearing this from you is so comforting
Hi Beautiful lady you are
Outward and inward. I'm 68 and you have lifted my heart.❤
YESSSSSSSSSS - I believe your child comes to you - chooses you to be their mother ❤❤
"You're not supposed to be anywhere else. I promise you." ✨️✨️✨️Well said. Thank you, Auntie Fumi❤🙏🏾
Thanx's fumi for these words of wisdom❤
Thank you mama funmi ♥️you’re God sent. these words of encouragement are timely 🥹your words are so comforting 😭I shed tears while watching this video bc this what I wish my biological mother would tell me that everything will be okay but instead only blesses me whenever I send her pocket money. It is well😢I’m glad I’ve found more than a mother in you. I love you
This video brought tears to my eyes.