All the single moms I seen in videos and chatted with online seem like great women. But, I have to ask myself "What the heck am I doing?" Was my goal to move half way around the world so I could take care of other people's kids? Why am I suppose to be the responsible adult? Many Filipinas live for years in far away countries, different cultures, to work as nannies taking care of other people's kids for maybe $500/mo USD. I'd be doing the same except my contract wouldn't be 2 or 3 years, it would be for life. I wouldn't be paid $500/mo....I'd have to be the person paying $1500+ per month. Is that really a job I'm looking for? Doesn't seem like a very smart job to take. The story in this video is exactly the situation men are experiencing in the West. A woman gets with a hot guy who has plenty of women he can be with so doesn't want to marry. She's hot too and is getting lots of attention from men so she thinks she's got this guy nailed down. So she decides she'll live with him because her beauty will keep the guy forever. Then the years start passing and she slowly realizes she's not actually going to have her 17 year old beauty forever. It's fading. So now she looks for another way to nail down this great guy...pressures him to marry, he continues to say he never wanted to marry her so she leaves and goes looking for a guy to sponsor her and her kid(s) lives. If she bags a foreigner she we always be remembering that hot guy she once had and continues to think she deservers. The really sad part is there are indeed many foreigners standing in line to get into these situations. Most foreigners going to PH seem to want to be that guy. I've heard many guys say "there are only single moms in PH". What? That's so delusional. The deal is it's the single moms working hard to bag a sponsor so they're on dating sites many hours a day looking. No job so they can video chat for hours everyday. The single Filipinas without kids are in college and/or working 10+ hours a day, 6 days a week. They're a little harder to find. But there are 1,000's of them.
Most are looking for a good companion. Trouble in philippines is so many are married even if they are not with their husband it can still get us in trouble
That's great. Hope she never get's mad at you and takes her daughter away. You have zero rights to that child unless you adopted her. Or her baby daddy comes back into the picture and they threaten to report you to the police for whatever unless you pay them. There are PH laws against a male even being alone with unrelated kids. But I'm sure you'll be totally OK.
I don't understand this about single mothers: in the Philippines you are conservative Catholics... so how is it possible that you have children *before* the marriage? Also, if you are a single mother, you'll mostly attract older men / divorced men. There are plenty of young(er) foreigners but they want to create their own family. How can you ask your husband to support 2 children with him and 2 with another guy and have him pay for *FOUR* university fees, *FOUR* medical insurances and so on? It's crazy!
Culture mixed with poor education, lower IQ and ofc the classic women traits of poor long term decissions and lack of accountability. If there is a tragic situation where your boyfriend dies thats a different story but to just have a child for fun and then expect some man to save you is beyond delusional. It's like being short, fat, ugly and broke as a man and expecting a woman to just fly into your life. It's hard, it's possible but not very likely.
for real. I think too many on here are thinking with the small head to see that these women who "want 2nd chances" have already disqualified themselves.
It's called "findom". A fetish or sexual preference that involves being dominated in a financial way. Many Western men have been so twisted and harmed by Western culture they develop this feeling of not being worthy. So they try to buy companionship. Most never even get on a plane. Get online, find a Filipina and pretty quickly start sending money. Even when the woman doesn't ask for money, the men will push it on them. Actually going to PH and finding a single mom they can "save" compensates somewhat for their issues of feeling worthless. They fantasize she'll never leave him IF he can keep giving her money. As far as Catholics not following the rules...come on now. You serious?
That is a total no for me. For guys its a lose lose situation. You do everything a dad does financial, taking care of that child or kids but you have no discipline rights when the kid acts up. The wife might make it seem like your opinion matters but if her opinion is different it doesn't. You guys break up, not only you lose the wife you lose that child also because you have no legal rights to that child. All the time , energy and love you put into that child 99% of the time you will never hear from that kid again. I didn't even mention having to deal with the kid's father if he is still in the kids life. Most times that doesn't go too well either.
Sorry about your experience but that is not my experience. My filipina girlfriend asked me to adopt her sons once we got married. I had the same concerns you talked about. But she told me I had a right to discipline them and treat them just like I would treat my very own sons. She kept her word. I have had no problems.
“There are single moms that didn’t choose to be single????” Excuse me but anytime you have sex with a guy who is NOT your husband, you have already decided to take a risk at become a single mother. The only women who choose not to be a single mother, but it was forced upon them, are women who had children WHILE THEY WERE MARRIED but were either abandoned by their rotten husbands or widowed.
Single mothers who have children that are not yet adults would not be appropriate for me since I plan to travel a lot (every month) when I retire to the Philippines and that's something they aren't able to do when they have children to care for. Maybe it would be OK when I get too old to travel around a lot and just stay put in one easy place to live, then I think having a relationship with a single mother (& her child) could work for me.
The only problem I have with this is... Pinays are making videos saying they want a foreigner....but they have 3,4,5 kids...so why NOW do you want a foreigner and not before having 4 kids
A mate of mine was living with a single mother. Yes he was not even allowed to correct them let alone discipline them. But there was always constant demand, my children need this and that to which he was expected to folk out cash. Worse the biological father of the child would message her requesting money to which she obliged. He did eventually figured out that their relationship was more like him being a financial provider for her and her children. He moved on.
Sure, no problem in that, but it will require some commitment from both parts in the relationship. I grew up with a stepfather myself. He was 21 and my mother was 30 and she had three kids as well. He just rolled up the sleeves and took up his part of the job. You just have to avoid the thought of the child being “another mans child” and instead concider it as an important part of the family.
No thanks, I’m not supporting someone else’s child. When I first arrived in the Philippines, I was surprised on the number of single mothers. Why don’t these women get financial help from the father of the child? I’m not here to pay for your mistake of sleeping with the wrong man.
#1 reason Filipinas leave their Filipino baby daddies is to go find a guy with more money. Most Filipinos live a very minimal life. Many are having to skip eating for lack of food. Drinking water to try and reduce hunger until they can find that next bowl of rice. Forcing a poor father to pay the woman child support is called "getting blood from a stone". There's no point. The reality is many single moms leave the father because he's a farmer. Hard work, but he can provide a house and food. But the mother is expected to help with farm work to grow the food they will eat. Planting rice, etc... which is hard work, all day, everyday. So she's on her phone watching social media...Wow, look at the homes these single mom Filipinas have with an old foreign dude? Look at their food!! Going out to resorts!!! Screw this farm life...and she disappears with "her" kids. Sometimes they leave the kids with the father and they disappear. When the foreigner asks "Any kids?" her response is "Nope". From social media they know their best chance at a foreigner is without kids. If she takes the kids the farmer doesn't have the money to track her down and get his kids back. Should such men be forced to pay the mother for her choice? We have that in the US. I 100% agree, not my problem to fix.
You willingly got pregnant, you broke up with the guy, what part of that was not tour choice? Accountability is a womans cryptonite. The scary thing is that women actually believe this lie that they tell themselves.
I can think of three hard questions to ask here....1) What specific benefits are there to the man to get married nowadays in this 4th wave of feminism? Name two.... 2nd) what can a wife provide in a relationship that having a maid and mistress can not? What does the woman bring to the relationship for a high value man bring that she has not already given to a lower level or lesser man? or do the filipina women generally think like Western feminist women think that men are all the same and free and they can just pick one out of the sky whenever they feel like it? I am curious....I hear what you are saying about making good choices and I agree. However, many filipina women need to look in the mirror and take accountability for their bad choices in selecting their partners....if they made better choices then there would not be so many single mothers there in the filipines don't you agree?
Too many Filipina without kids to settle for one with. That sounds rough, but you got to consider that from the day of marriage you are financially responsible for her kids. Question is why is she single, is she like so many Filipina who get pregnant at 16 years old and has a couple of kids and is looking for a way out. Harsh but true.
Please explain to me why Filipinas continue to have children with men who have no intention to marry them? Don't tell me that they don't know that the man that has impregnated them have no intention of marrying them. I do understand this has a lot to do with education, but there are a lot of educated Pinays who are still getting pregnant without marriage; these women also know that no Filipino man will marry them if the have a child by another man; I guess it doesn't matter because the most important thing is the ingrained cultural habit of having children to serve as the parents' safety net in old age. Lastly, having a baby is ALWAYS the woman's choice. While abortion may be illegal, contraception is not. She had the choice of whether or not to have unprotected sex with a man who was not her husband.
I agree with this 2 beautiful ladies about what they said. don't be blind for beauty because maybe that beauty would ruin your life. Not all pretty are bad but there is some that using you only for thier looks to get what they want from you so don't be blind just be careful.
Mia, the problem that some men have with single Mom's is that the mother will prioritize their children over the man. Women are no different. How many women want to marry a single dad and raise his kid? There are women who find that unacceptable. Sadly some relationships becomes transactional, a business decision. A man arrives on the scene, dates a single mother, falls in love, marries, benefits the family financially, adds stability, leadership, direction, and the woman still prioritizes her kids. I am not saying neglect your kids, but do treat the man at least as an equal. All people can behave badly and there should be consequences for the bad behavior. If the man imposes a reasonable reaction, it should be honored by the mom. The alternative is chaos in the home, it will be a ship without a rudder and the family faces the possibility that the man and his resources will leave. This is not a Filipina problem, it is a female problem.
Hello Ladies, Congratulations Maya & Gio on the Marriage and also Mia on your marriage. I'm 65 and had a divorce 20 years ago, because she cheated on me many times, and received custody of our 3 children and raised them as a single father alone when they were 13, 7 & 4. I'm Christian and it was hard to do that but for my sanity and my kids well being I had to and never remarried again
I know exactly what you are talking about. Same age and my children are of age now. Being a single father parent had some challenges however, all is well now and I am moving to the Philippines 🇵🇭 😊 in 102 more day's. March 13th is target date. Selling everything and leaving my beloved America 🇺🇸 ❤. I will live out the rest of my day's in the Philippines 🇵🇭.
@@rickylee6129 same story different country. Four sons, they discovered the mothers last affair and stayed with me. Not easy raising kids alone but very rewarding. Silly but I think the thing that irked me the most was ladies asking if I was babysitting my kids when I went to the supermarket. Fathers don’t babysit their own kids, they parent.
Thanks ladies, will be retiring to the Philippines in a year or so, maybe I’ll get lucky and meet someone like you guys, I seek loyalty, faithfulness and love, I offer the same plus protection, honour and support. These things are very rare in the west now, so girls tell your friends not to copy the west, they are way above it and should not lower themselves.
I myself have 2 kids, so why would l discriminate. She has 1 child, we were married last year. I now live in the philippines & she supports me via her two businesses & l've retired at 49. Yes bringing up soneone else's child can be a struggle, but if you find the right woman, it can all be worth it.
Why would a “rich” man (in any country) choose a single mother? It just doesn’t make sense. He has so many options. I sympathize but It’s a dumb decision in any language.
I feel like on one end there are guys that have woken up but on the other hand there are guys that say they wouldn't date a single mom because it's what's trending. For me personally it's an individual choice that all comes down to each person's standards of what they're looking for.
Short answer - NO Long answer: Depends on the woman, and if the man likes children and can bond and help raise her child if necessary. For a lot of men it's a burden, to some degree or another. Not the child's fault, and it certainly doesn't mean the woman is bad either. I just think that if you're a foreigner, relatively young, good looking, and have an outgoing personality, then you can find plenty of nice women that don't yet have children.
These women have high body counts. That will effect the whole relationship down the road. Man finds out that his woman slept with 20 guys before he came along. It effects men mentally after that
Isn't divorce illegal in the Philippines? If she's a single mother, she likely already has a Philippine husband, so marrying her could make you a criminal.
I made a video on this recently. I would never ever date an American single mom or western one. I’d consider dating a good Filipina single mom though. Even though they are both single moms culturally they are worlds away and completely different. A western single mom is probably riding the Carousal 24/7 but a Filipina maybe just have 1 or 2 serious bf’s and he abandoned her etc
You are drinking the Kool-Aid. I thought the same when I first started researching a move to PH. Yeah, every single mom Filipina does seem to have had some bad luck with men haven't they? They always seem to have abandoned them. Wow, these Filipino men must be dicks! Doesn't that sound a little like in the US where all men are evil? Just ask any single mom in the US or any woman or watch movies, TV... men are all liars, cheats, etc... But Filipinas....they would never lie. At least in this video Maya is telling at least some truth. She left her Filipino baby daddy to go find a rich foreigner. There are a few videos telling the side of Filipino fathers. Living in the province working a farm. Poor and hard work. The mother gets on social media, sees the lifestyle a foreigner can provide, so she disappears with the kids to go find one. The father doesn't have the money to get his kids back. Or she leaves her kids behind because she knows from social media her best chance to bag a foreigner is to not have kids. What Maya doesn't say in the video is did the father have any choice? Does he even have the resources to track her down and hire lawyers to get his child back? Kind of weird that 100% of the time the father abandons his kids.
It is true, i am looking for a serious longterm relationship, but you don’t have to involve the church/government to show that you are serious. Marriage as many younger people don’t understand is a severe disadvantage for the man. I will probably get married again, but i will stretch the trial period out to several years. Even that is no guarantee. I had a very happy marriage to a Pinay i met in the US. I sponsored 5 siblings, and shared my home. The mother inlaw loved me more than her own children. I am being discarded for providing for my family. That is my worst offense. Working all the time. Next time I will spend more time at home. Best of luck to everyone.
I’m a single parent of two, I don’t mine a female with a child. It’s about love and can you build the relationships together. I’ve been to the Philippines in august I was with a single mother but she was trying to run game. So that you got to watch out for..
Trust me, if you got the right game, these Filipinas easy to get. I got my ex Filipina in 1 day , my current Filipina in 3 days. It’s very easy. You just got to talk right.
Just liked and subscribed Mia, I love your channel I think your husband is a lucky guy, you should have him on some time.Iam planning on coming to the Philippians in about a year or so, my brother and cousin both have girls over there and are going themselves soon.
There are good or bad women in every country. I have many friends who married beautiful women in my country. Some were gold diggers after there money. If you have a good attitude and can love unconditionally and have a good heart and generous nature you will find a beautiful filipina keeper. If you can't accept there children keep away from single mums. That's fine if single mum is after security and love. You will be Blessed with a beautiful younger woman. Being real when you are older you want companionship and happiness. You don't want a western woman who has so much baggage from previous relationships that will make you miserable instead of feeling young again and full of joy. Great video young beautiful ladies 🙂👍❤
Wow the only way I think this will work out good is if she can agree to move away with her new husband and give him the right to deal with and treat the child as his own child also it will not be good for her relationship if she keeps contact with her ex family at all
Against all advice in western views, I want to find a single mom because I always wanted a little girl as daughter. I had a son 3 decades ago, long before my vasectomy. I cannot have children but I like kids still.
You might want to reconsider a single Filipina with a daughter. If you are ever alone with the daughter, you could end up in jail. If your Filipina gets angry with you or you separate, she can accuse you of sexual abuse her daughter and you WILL go to prison. And if the prisoners find out what you were charged for, they will most likely kill you. Don't be with a Filipina who has a daughter. It is not worth it.
I have to compliment the "V' and "B" lol. You guys have a great sense of humor, something I loved while stationed there. I have a joke about karaoke in P.I with a Janet Jackson song English "Thats the way love goes" P.I "Dats da way lub goats" Pinatubo was not very fun thogh
Great perspective on this topic. Personally I was not interested in single moms when I first started exploring the concept of getting into a serious relationship with a Filipina. Then I met my wife. She was only 24 and a single mom. She got me thinking through the thoughts of being with a single mom. She knew that even though I was considered young when we met. I made it clear that I was not interested in giving her a baby and starting fatherhood again. Especially since my goal was to retire young and work part time while traveling. She accepted me even though I was not going to give her a mixed baby and I was happy that she wasn’t missing out on being a mom. This was the best decision I’ve ever made and after being together for 4 years we married and now we are almost 9 year relationship neither one of us has “trapped” each other by an unplanned baby
Its crazy. Every country in the world is full of woman that finally get it after they had a kid with the wrong guy. It didnt just happen. You chose poorly. And now its yp to the next guy to help clean it up.
Personally I'm saving myself for marriage and I expect the same from my partner. I understand that's not how most of the world operates and that my decision is considered "extreme." If that's somebody from the U.S. or a foreigner I don't care, if that means I'm single the rest of my life that's fine too.
Bro, good for u. Why should we take advice from a culture that's literally on the brink of moral and familial collapse? Also, if it's in any way possible? Try to set yourself up so u could work from home, or save, or whatever u can do in order to be able to go to Philippines, Japan, Thailand etc. Especially Philippines. It would %1000 blow your mind how incredibly loving, kind, sweet, hard working, morally devoted people and/or women the Filipinas are. They're absolutely amazing. Their whole mindset, smile, respect, kindness and attitude just brings joy to your heart. If it's at all humanly possible, start working toward a goal now that could put u into position to make that move down the road. Also, there's no divorce in the Philippines. They expect u to fulfill your vow and work things out. It's a FAR BETTER DEAL in every single aspect to marry in the Philippines, ESPECIALLY the quality of the women. There's always bad apples. But good Filipinas are quite easy to find. They'll love u with a committed, intense, genuine desire and with joy in a way that's hard to put into words. Even good women in the US don't compare cuz they've just been raised different. Filipinas have an unreal passion and intensity toward life and their men that's just beyond words. GL bro👊
I'm glad that you said this about remaining pure for your future partner. Men and women don't understand that your body count matters. How many people you sleep with follows you forever. A lot of men these days are questioning their wife or girlfriend about there sexual past. And a lot of men are mortified finding out that their wife slept with 20 guys before he came along. Men are offended because they feel like the first 19 men got a free ride without any commitment and free sex.
@@timmy1tap678 No divorce in PH? Yup, so everyone just "separates". They don't "work things out", they just move on. There's the law and then there's the culture. These are no the same. 60% of kids in PH are born out of wedlock. That doesn't include Filipinas who were married to a guy, separated and had a kid by other men because technically those kids are born to a married woman. So the number could be 70%, 80%, no one knows. I think PH is a better deal than the US, no question. Better women. But, I see no reason to be delusional about the situation either.
OK, great plan. So how exactly are you going to know your future partner "saved" herself? Because she told you? You're going to be shocked to learn women sometimes don't actually tell the truth. And women in SE Asia, because of "face saving" often have a way of looking at things so they appear the way they want. For example, a woman could have been with many men, but she doesn't count those guys because... well they have many reasons. Coming up with rationalizations is common. In times past there were tests done to ensure a woman's virginity, like checking the hymen by using white sheets on the wedding night and relatives coming in the next morning to check for blood. A test that isn't actually very reliable as sex can happen without the hymen breaking or break for other reasons. Or the woman, or man even, could bring some blood to put on the sheets. No blood meant the marriage was dissolved. Trust was that low in a woman's word on the subject.
The total number of men that commented that they are not supporting someone eles kid is surprising to me. It really makes me wonder if they are looking for a loving companion or something else. If you fall in love with someone and she has a child then you except her and her child.
Don’t tell men what to do? Accept their choice and they can accept your choices if they want to. Free humans globally now stop with your shaming language and fake authority statements
single moms, is a tuff, especially if the children father is around. the jealousy of the Filipino can get bad with you. the children will never call the foreigner daddy but might call him Tito. Now if the Filipina is a widow then it a different especially if the spouse died a year or more ago. then all the family will except the foreigner. now if the Filipina has children over the age 18 and if she close to her family it will be hard to take her to your country. missing her family.
Foreigners have to make sure that filipina was not married. If the ex local filipino comes back you can get reported and possibly jail. Know the laws before engaging with any filipina.
The foreigners kids are more than likely grown adults living on their own, so the Filipina is only accepting him. Where the foreigner is taking on the Filipina, her children, all the problems stemming from cultural and parenting differences, etc.
Hi. I was a single father here in Canada from my daughters age 10 nd 12 until adults. I think a lot of men are missing the real point. They say they are coming to PH. to find love . Well for me , if i fall in love with a philipina , and i am looking right now, and she happens to have kids. That is a bonus, because i figure if my philipina loves me , and i am a good man then i am sure the kids will love me also...............Love is love. No matter where you find it.
My wife and I are 25 years apart, and her package included a ready-made 9 year old boy. I think this marriage will probably work out and last another dozen years. That Filipino boy is about 6 feet tall now, and long ago I broke him of trying to sleep between his mother and me. Mama is almost 50 now and she is even more of a knockout than when I married her. Raising the son is probably the area we have most disagreements because the cultures are so different and male kids apparently are fairly high up in Filipino family hierarchy. Congratulations Maya!
In the US?? No way. Woman can divorce u anytime, then eave u with zero rights to the kids u helped her raise but weren't yours, and u can be held liable for child support. In Phillipines, women can't just divorce and leave and have the court system destroy me financially. Also, with the age gap being common in PH, I'd feel better being with a woman that already had a child, in case I couldn't give her a kid. Imagine marrying a younger woman with no kids. Then not being able to provide her one. She'll likely feel the strain and sadness in her 30's. I'd rather not deprive her of that. It's just not the same risk as it is in the west.
men don't lose their ability to make babies. But divorce is coming to the Philippines. It will actually be worse than in America. The Filipina judge will look down on you harshly in a divorce.
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Me personally wouldnt marry a a single mom esp here in this country, I'd never be number one in her life.
All the single moms I seen in videos and chatted with online seem like great women. But, I have to ask myself "What the heck am I doing?" Was my goal to move half way around the world so I could take care of other people's kids? Why am I suppose to be the responsible adult?
Many Filipinas live for years in far away countries, different cultures, to work as nannies taking care of other people's kids for maybe $500/mo USD. I'd be doing the same except my contract wouldn't be 2 or 3 years, it would be for life. I wouldn't be paid $500/mo....I'd have to be the person paying $1500+ per month. Is that really a job I'm looking for? Doesn't seem like a very smart job to take.
The story in this video is exactly the situation men are experiencing in the West. A woman gets with a hot guy who has plenty of women he can be with so doesn't want to marry. She's hot too and is getting lots of attention from men so she thinks she's got this guy nailed down. So she decides she'll live with him because her beauty will keep the guy forever. Then the years start passing and she slowly realizes she's not actually going to have her 17 year old beauty forever. It's fading. So now she looks for another way to nail down this great guy...pressures him to marry, he continues to say he never wanted to marry her so she leaves and goes looking for a guy to sponsor her and her kid(s) lives. If she bags a foreigner she we always be remembering that hot guy she once had and continues to think she deservers.
The really sad part is there are indeed many foreigners standing in line to get into these situations. Most foreigners going to PH seem to want to be that guy.
I've heard many guys say "there are only single moms in PH". What? That's so delusional. The deal is it's the single moms working hard to bag a sponsor so they're on dating sites many hours a day looking. No job so they can video chat for hours everyday. The single Filipinas without kids are in college and/or working 10+ hours a day, 6 days a week. They're a little harder to find. But there are 1,000's of them.
Exactly the best to be so is by going physical to the PH
Most are looking for a good companion. Trouble in philippines is so many are married even if they are not with their husband it can still get us in trouble
American here.. I married a single mom philapina with a 7yr old daughter. I love them both so much.
That's great. Hope she never get's mad at you and takes her daughter away. You have zero rights to that child unless you adopted her. Or her baby daddy comes back into the picture and they threaten to report you to the police for whatever unless you pay them. There are PH laws against a male even being alone with unrelated kids. But I'm sure you'll be totally OK.
There’s always a simp ready to be the idiot.
I don't understand this about single mothers: in the Philippines you are conservative Catholics... so how is it possible that you have children *before* the marriage?
Also, if you are a single mother, you'll mostly attract older men / divorced men. There are plenty of young(er) foreigners but they want to create their own family. How can you ask your husband to support 2 children with him and 2 with another guy and have him pay for *FOUR* university fees, *FOUR* medical insurances and so on? It's crazy!
Very few women over there use protection. They like it raw. And that's how this happens
Culture mixed with poor education, lower IQ and ofc the classic women traits of poor long term decissions and lack of accountability. If there is a tragic situation where your boyfriend dies thats a different story but to just have a child for fun and then expect some man to save you is beyond delusional. It's like being short, fat, ugly and broke as a man and expecting a woman to just fly into your life. It's hard, it's possible but not very likely.
Horny is the answer, no religion...
for real. I think too many on here are thinking with the small head to see that these women who "want 2nd chances" have already disqualified themselves.
It's called "findom". A fetish or sexual preference that involves being dominated in a financial way. Many Western men have been so twisted and harmed by Western culture they develop this feeling of not being worthy. So they try to buy companionship. Most never even get on a plane. Get online, find a Filipina and pretty quickly start sending money. Even when the woman doesn't ask for money, the men will push it on them.
Actually going to PH and finding a single mom they can "save" compensates somewhat for their issues of feeling worthless. They fantasize she'll never leave him IF he can keep giving her money.
As far as Catholics not following the rules...come on now. You serious?
Rather have a Filipina with no kids. I don't need the extra expenses, stress and responsibilities. Already checked that box.
That is a total no for me. For guys its a lose lose situation. You do everything a dad does financial, taking care of that child or kids but you have no discipline rights when the kid acts up. The wife might make it seem like your opinion matters but if her opinion is different it doesn't. You guys break up, not only you lose the wife you lose that child also because you have no legal rights to that child. All the time , energy and love you put into that child 99% of the time you will never hear from that kid again. I didn't even mention having to deal with the kid's father if he is still in the kids life. Most times that doesn't go too well either.
Her high body count will bother a man as well.
Yup, been there. Waste of time, your lost emotionally, financially etc. The children growup and forget about you all together.
That's the truth.
Sorry about your experience but that is not my experience. My filipina girlfriend asked me to adopt her sons once we got married. I had the same concerns you talked about. But she told me I had a right to discipline them and treat them just like I would treat my very own sons. She kept her word. I have had no problems.
“There are single moms that didn’t choose to be single????” Excuse me but anytime you have sex with a guy who is NOT your husband, you have already decided to take a risk at become a single mother. The only women who choose not to be a single mother, but it was forced upon them, are women who had children WHILE THEY WERE MARRIED but were either abandoned by their rotten husbands or widowed.
Single mothers who have children that are not yet adults would not be appropriate for me since I plan to travel a lot (every month) when I retire to the Philippines and that's something they aren't able to do when they have children to care for. Maybe it would be OK when I get too old to travel around a lot and just stay put in one easy place to live, then I think having a relationship with a single mother (& her child) could work for me.
The only problem I have with this is... Pinays are making videos saying they want a foreigner....but they have 3,4,5 kids...so why NOW do you want a foreigner and not before having 4 kids
A mate of mine was living with a single mother. Yes he was not even allowed to correct them let alone discipline them. But there was always constant demand, my children need this and that to which he was expected to folk out cash. Worse the biological father of the child would message her requesting money to which she obliged. He did eventually figured out that their relationship was more like him being a financial provider for her and her children. He moved on.
A single mom... Still married? Legal issues even if not married?
Sure, no problem in that, but it will require some commitment from both parts in the relationship.
I grew up with a stepfather myself. He was 21 and my mother was 30 and she had three kids as well. He just rolled up the sleeves and took up his part of the job.
You just have to avoid the thought of the child being “another mans child” and instead concider it as an important part of the family.
No thanks, I’m not supporting someone else’s child. When I first arrived in the Philippines, I was surprised on the number of single mothers. Why don’t these women get financial help from the father of the child? I’m not here to pay for your mistake of sleeping with the wrong man.
A lot of these women are doing this over there. These women have high body counts. A 21 year old woman has probably had 42 men in the sack.
#1 reason Filipinas leave their Filipino baby daddies is to go find a guy with more money. Most Filipinos live a very minimal life. Many are having to skip eating for lack of food. Drinking water to try and reduce hunger until they can find that next bowl of rice. Forcing a poor father to pay the woman child support is called "getting blood from a stone". There's no point.
The reality is many single moms leave the father because he's a farmer. Hard work, but he can provide a house and food. But the mother is expected to help with farm work to grow the food they will eat. Planting rice, etc... which is hard work, all day, everyday. So she's on her phone watching social media...Wow, look at the homes these single mom Filipinas have with an old foreign dude? Look at their food!! Going out to resorts!!! Screw this farm life...and she disappears with "her" kids. Sometimes they leave the kids with the father and they disappear. When the foreigner asks "Any kids?" her response is "Nope". From social media they know their best chance at a foreigner is without kids. If she takes the kids the farmer doesn't have the money to track her down and get his kids back.
Should such men be forced to pay the mother for her choice? We have that in the US.
I 100% agree, not my problem to fix.
Single mom will probably respect and Love you more !
You willingly got pregnant, you broke up with the guy, what part of that was not tour choice? Accountability is a womans cryptonite. The scary thing is that women actually believe this lie that they tell themselves.
Great point
i THINK USUALLY GUY lied and left
I agree all women blame the guy like they don’t have responsibility as a single mother. Wait for your husband to have sex or to have. A baby.
i truly say NO only messgas with happy ending keep working
I can think of three hard questions to ask here....1) What specific benefits are there to the man to get married nowadays in this 4th wave of feminism? Name two....
2nd) what can a wife provide in a relationship that having a maid and mistress can not?
What does the woman bring to the relationship for a high value man bring that she has not already given to a lower level or lesser man? or do the filipina women generally think like Western feminist women think that men are all the same and free and they can just pick one out of the sky whenever they feel like it? I am curious....I hear what you are saying about making good choices and I agree. However, many filipina women need to look in the mirror and take accountability for their bad choices in selecting their partners....if they made better choices then there would not be so many single mothers there in the filipines don't you agree?
Too many Filipina without kids to settle for one with. That sounds rough, but you got to consider that from the day of marriage you are financially responsible for her kids. Question is why is she single, is she like so many Filipina who get pregnant at 16 years old and has a couple of kids and is looking for a way out. Harsh but true.
Thank you for another wonderful video ! 🌺
Congratulations to you both
Please explain to me why Filipinas continue to have children with men who have no intention to marry them? Don't tell me that they don't know that the man that has impregnated them have no intention of marrying them. I do understand this has a lot to do with education, but there are a lot of educated Pinays who are still getting pregnant without marriage; these women also know that no Filipino man will marry them if the have a child by another man; I guess it doesn't matter because the most important thing is the ingrained cultural habit of having children to serve as the parents' safety net in old age. Lastly, having a baby is ALWAYS the woman's choice. While abortion may be illegal, contraception is not. She had the choice of whether or not to have unprotected sex with a man who was not her husband.
I'm almost certain that these women are getting pregnant by foreign men. And they all have high body counts. Riding the carousel
Very nice video and you ladies represented Philippino women really nice! Keep up the great work and I am looking forward to coming over.
Thanks for the great information ☺️
Awesome video I like your wisdom from both of you. I met my wife a philapina in 2006 we been together ever since.
I agree with this 2 beautiful ladies about what they said. don't be blind for beauty because maybe that beauty would ruin your life. Not all pretty are bad but there is some that using you only for thier looks to get what they want from you so don't be blind just be careful.
Fun vid,Thanks Mia😊
Men, date people with similar values and from similar socio economic backgrounds. If the girl and her family have a terrible financial history, run..,
Would you girls date a single dad
Mia, the problem that some men have with single Mom's is that the mother will prioritize their children over the man. Women are no different. How many women want to marry a single dad and raise his kid? There are women who find that unacceptable. Sadly some relationships becomes transactional, a business decision.
A man arrives on the scene, dates a single mother, falls in love, marries, benefits the family financially, adds stability, leadership, direction, and the woman still prioritizes her kids. I am not saying neglect your kids, but do treat the man at least as an equal. All people can behave badly and there should be consequences for the bad behavior. If the man imposes a reasonable reaction, it should be honored by the mom. The alternative is chaos in the home, it will be a ship without a rudder and the family faces the possibility that the man and his resources will leave. This is not a Filipina problem, it is a female problem.
Gio got married woohoo I’m so happy for you both
Two💎’s,very sweet, articulate, elegant and wise
PS. That second chance comment is so profound
What a beautiful lady I visited in November and will be back to retire there
Hello beautiful Mia, Glad you made a new video was wondering if you were ok. You look great hun.
Hello Ladies, Congratulations Maya & Gio on the Marriage and also Mia on your marriage. I'm 65 and had a divorce 20 years ago, because she cheated on me many times, and received custody of our 3 children and raised them as a single father alone when they were 13, 7 & 4. I'm Christian and it was hard to do that but for my sanity and my kids well being I had to and never remarried again
I know exactly what you are talking about. Same age and my children are of age now. Being a single father parent had some challenges however, all is well now and I am moving to the Philippines 🇵🇭 😊 in 102 more day's. March 13th is target date. Selling everything and leaving my beloved America 🇺🇸 ❤. I will live out the rest of my day's in the Philippines 🇵🇭.
@@rickylee6129 same story different country. Four sons, they discovered the mothers last affair and stayed with me. Not easy raising kids alone but very rewarding. Silly but I think the thing that irked me the most was ladies asking if I was babysitting my kids when I went to the supermarket. Fathers don’t babysit their own kids, they parent.
@@ronprince1478 I CONCUR
True love will overcome all difficulties in life no matter what the situation is.
Especially when she's 20, 30, 40 years younger and hot. True love indeed.
Thanks ladies, will be retiring to the Philippines in a year or so, maybe I’ll get lucky and meet someone like you guys, I seek loyalty, faithfulness and love, I offer the same plus protection, honour and support. These things are very rare in the west now, so girls tell your friends not to copy the west, they are way above it and should not lower themselves.
I myself have 2 kids, so why would l discriminate. She has 1 child, we were married last year. I now live in the philippines & she supports me via her two businesses & l've retired at 49. Yes bringing up soneone else's child can be a struggle, but if you find the right woman, it can all be worth it.
Why would a “rich” man (in any country) choose a single mother? It just doesn’t make sense. He has so many options. I sympathize but It’s a dumb decision in any language.
I feel like on one end there are guys that have woken up but on the other hand there are guys that say they wouldn't date a single mom because it's what's trending. For me personally it's an individual choice that all comes down to each person's standards of what they're looking for.
Short answer - NO
Long answer: Depends on the woman, and if the man likes children and can bond and help raise her child if necessary.
For a lot of men it's a burden, to some degree or another. Not the child's fault, and it certainly doesn't mean the woman is bad either.
I just think that if you're a foreigner, relatively young, good looking, and have an outgoing personality, then you can find plenty of nice women that don't yet have children.
These women have high body counts. That will effect the whole relationship down the road. Man finds out that his woman slept with 20 guys before he came along. It effects men mentally after that
I can answer the question before watching NO. I did that already. Raised a stepson. Did a good job. At my age. Not again. No way.
Short answer: No
Long answer: Nooooooooooo
Very good and important Video with great general explanations !!!
NO!
Isn't divorce illegal in the Philippines?
If she's a single mother, she likely already has a Philippine husband, so marrying her could make you a criminal.
I made a video on this recently. I would never ever date an American single mom or western one. I’d consider dating a good Filipina single mom though. Even though they are both single moms culturally they are worlds away and completely different. A western single mom is probably riding the Carousal 24/7 but a Filipina maybe just have 1 or 2 serious bf’s and he abandoned her etc
You are drinking the Kool-Aid. I thought the same when I first started researching a move to PH. Yeah, every single mom Filipina does seem to have had some bad luck with men haven't they? They always seem to have abandoned them. Wow, these Filipino men must be dicks!
Doesn't that sound a little like in the US where all men are evil? Just ask any single mom in the US or any woman or watch movies, TV... men are all liars, cheats, etc...
But Filipinas....they would never lie.
At least in this video Maya is telling at least some truth. She left her Filipino baby daddy to go find a rich foreigner.
There are a few videos telling the side of Filipino fathers. Living in the province working a farm. Poor and hard work. The mother gets on social media, sees the lifestyle a foreigner can provide, so she disappears with the kids to go find one. The father doesn't have the money to get his kids back. Or she leaves her kids behind because she knows from social media her best chance to bag a foreigner is to not have kids.
What Maya doesn't say in the video is did the father have any choice? Does he even have the resources to track her down and hire lawyers to get his child back? Kind of weird that 100% of the time the father abandons his kids.
Funny enough, America is the the place in the western world with the highest amount of single teen-moms.
Thanks for the video
Well done I enjoyed watching
Great video.
I did, best 30 years of my life.
Simple answer
No!
I wish there were more women like you guys near me smh 😢. Two beautiful women with lovely hearts (which are hard to find these days)
Never marry a single mother ever
Can just rent a single mom ? Bcoz they just after your $
single moms usually have an ex-man can be risky for the new partner. I'll stick to the single girls but good luck. 🤔
Enjoyed the video Mia
This question deserves a single word answer... NOPE!
That is a Beautiful Tree behind you ladies .
Good Video/Interview Mia 😊. Looking forward to moving there in 102 more day's.
Keep the video's comin.
Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏
Sweet M M ..
I’m single father of two and grandfather of 5 grandkids any chance for me in 🇵🇭
It is true, i am looking for a serious longterm relationship, but you don’t have to involve the church/government to show that you are serious.
Marriage as many younger people don’t understand is a severe disadvantage for the man.
I will probably get married again, but i will stretch the trial period out to several years. Even that is no guarantee.
I had a very happy marriage to a Pinay i met in the US. I sponsored 5 siblings, and shared my home. The mother inlaw loved me more than her own children. I am being discarded for providing for my family. That is my worst offense. Working all the time. Next time I will spend more time at home.
Best of luck to everyone.
get married but not legally. No reason to. Divorce is coming to the PH. It will be a nightmare for expats.
I like you vloging together!!! Great 👍 job!!!
I’m a single parent of two, I don’t mine a female with a child. It’s about love and can you build the relationships together. I’ve been to the Philippines in august I was with a single mother but she was trying to run game. So that you got to watch out for..
Here is a concept, get married before having child.
No
Trust me, if you got the right game, these Filipinas easy to get. I got my ex Filipina in 1 day , my current Filipina in 3 days. It’s very easy. You just got to talk right.
low hanging fruit is easy...especially the leftovers...
The higher quality ones aren’t that easy.
Just liked and subscribed Mia, I love your channel I think your husband is a lucky guy, you should have him on some time.Iam planning on coming to the Philippians in about a year or so, my brother and cousin both have girls over there and are going themselves soon.
your friend seems grouned I wish her the best ..
There are good or bad women in every country. I have many friends who married beautiful women in my country. Some were gold diggers after there money.
If you have a good attitude and can love unconditionally and have a good heart and generous nature you will find a beautiful filipina keeper.
If you can't accept there children keep away from single mums.
That's fine if single mum is after security and love. You will be Blessed with a beautiful younger woman. Being real when you are older you want companionship and happiness. You don't want a western woman who has so much baggage from previous relationships that will make you miserable instead of feeling young again and full of joy.
Great video young beautiful ladies 🙂👍❤
Wow the only way I think this will work out good is if she can agree to move away with her new husband and give him the right to deal with and treat the child as his own child also it will not be good for her relationship if she keeps contact with her ex family at all
Against all advice in western views, I want to find a single mom because I always wanted a little girl as daughter. I had a son 3 decades ago, long before my vasectomy. I cannot have children but I like kids still.
You might want to reconsider a single Filipina with a daughter. If you are ever alone with the daughter, you could end up in jail. If your Filipina gets angry with you or you separate, she can accuse you of sexual abuse her daughter and you WILL go to prison. And if the prisoners find out what you were charged for, they will most likely kill you. Don't be with a Filipina who has a daughter. It is not worth it.
I have to compliment the "V' and "B" lol. You guys have a great sense of humor, something I loved while stationed there. I have a joke about karaoke in P.I with a Janet Jackson song
English "Thats the way love goes"
P.I "Dats da way lub goats"
Pinatubo was not very fun thogh
Great perspective on this topic. Personally I was not interested in single moms when I first started exploring the concept of getting into a serious relationship with a Filipina.
Then I met my wife. She was only 24 and a single mom.
She got me thinking through the thoughts of being with a single mom. She knew that even though I was considered young when we met. I made it clear that I was not interested in giving her a baby and starting fatherhood again. Especially since my goal was to retire young and work part time while traveling. She accepted me even though I was not going to give her a mixed baby and I was happy that she wasn’t missing out on being a mom.
This was the best decision I’ve ever made and after being together for 4 years we married and now we are almost 9 year relationship neither one of us has “trapped” each other by an unplanned baby
Has Paul force fed you any Lutefisk yet? Don't worry, Christmas is coming, get ready for it.
You 2 😃 look like sisters ...
My girl is a single mom and I am a single dad. It works for us. Congrats to you both 👏
I wona meeery you and miss you bebo 😊
Its crazy. Every country in the world is full of woman that finally get it after they had a kid with the wrong guy. It didnt just happen. You chose poorly. And now its yp to the next guy to help clean it up.
Personally I'm saving myself for marriage and I expect the same from my partner. I understand that's not how most of the world operates and that my decision is considered "extreme." If that's somebody from the U.S. or a foreigner I don't care, if that means I'm single the rest of my life that's fine too.
Bro, good for u. Why should we take advice from a culture that's literally on the brink of moral and familial collapse? Also, if it's in any way possible? Try to set yourself up so u could work from home, or save, or whatever u can do in order to be able to go to Philippines, Japan, Thailand etc. Especially Philippines. It would %1000 blow your mind how incredibly loving, kind, sweet, hard working, morally devoted people and/or women the Filipinas are. They're absolutely amazing. Their whole mindset, smile, respect, kindness and attitude just brings joy to your heart. If it's at all humanly possible, start working toward a goal now that could put u into position to make that move down the road. Also, there's no divorce in the Philippines. They expect u to fulfill your vow and work things out. It's a FAR BETTER DEAL in every single aspect to marry in the Philippines, ESPECIALLY the quality of the women. There's always bad apples. But good Filipinas are quite easy to find. They'll love u with a committed, intense, genuine desire and with joy in a way that's hard to put into words. Even good women in the US don't compare cuz they've just been raised different. Filipinas have an unreal passion and intensity toward life and their men that's just beyond words. GL bro👊
I'm glad that you said this about remaining pure for your future partner. Men and women don't understand that your body count matters. How many people you sleep with follows you forever. A lot of men these days are questioning their wife or girlfriend about there sexual past. And a lot of men are mortified finding out that their wife slept with 20 guys before he came along. Men are offended because they feel like the first 19 men got a free ride without any commitment and free sex.
@@timmy1tap678 No divorce in PH? Yup, so everyone just "separates". They don't "work things out", they just move on. There's the law and then there's the culture. These are no the same. 60% of kids in PH are born out of wedlock. That doesn't include Filipinas who were married to a guy, separated and had a kid by other men because technically those kids are born to a married woman. So the number could be 70%, 80%, no one knows. I think PH is a better deal than the US, no question. Better women. But, I see no reason to be delusional about the situation either.
OK, great plan. So how exactly are you going to know your future partner "saved" herself? Because she told you? You're going to be shocked to learn women sometimes don't actually tell the truth. And women in SE Asia, because of "face saving" often have a way of looking at things so they appear the way they want. For example, a woman could have been with many men, but she doesn't count those guys because... well they have many reasons. Coming up with rationalizations is common.
In times past there were tests done to ensure a woman's virginity, like checking the hymen by using white sheets on the wedding night and relatives coming in the next morning to check for blood. A test that isn't actually very reliable as sex can happen without the hymen breaking or break for other reasons. Or the woman, or man even, could bring some blood to put on the sheets. No blood meant the marriage was dissolved. Trust was that low in a woman's word on the subject.
@@waterbug1135 That's what lie detector tests are for. If a girl won't submit to one, that is reason enough to walk away.
I would give her a chance😂❤😅
Second chances is right on target. First chances are even better.
The total number of men that commented that they are not supporting someone eles kid is surprising to me. It really makes me wonder if they are looking for a loving companion or something else. If you fall in love with someone and she has a child then you except her and her child.
Don’t tell men what to do? Accept their choice and they can accept your choices if they want to. Free humans globally now stop with your shaming language and fake authority statements
@@TheGammaEffecttrue... well said. 👍
single moms, is a tuff, especially if the children father is around. the jealousy of the Filipino can get bad with you. the children will never call the foreigner daddy but might call him Tito. Now if the Filipina is a widow then it a different especially if the spouse died a year or more ago. then all the family will except the foreigner. now if the Filipina has children over the age 18 and if she close to her family it will be hard to take her to your country. missing her family.
Right, single moms are for losers, who the heck want to have another’s men child…
Would never take her to our country that’s foolish
dont do it. youll have to provide for thr family also.
Been there. Done that. Nope.
You say you want to play hard to get. But what happens when the man also plays hard to get?
I wona meeery you and miss you
Foreigners have to make sure that filipina was not married. If the ex local filipino comes back you can get reported and possibly jail. Know the laws before engaging with any filipina.
Probably the foreigners have kids too , so meeting a Filipina with kids is no problem,
The foreigners kids are more than likely grown adults living on their own, so the Filipina is only accepting him. Where the foreigner is taking on the Filipina, her children, all the problems stemming from cultural and parenting differences, etc.
only a single father pays for his own kids... he will be expected to pay for hers too, and her family as well.
Nope
Never
NO
Filipinas are not easy.
Filipina- has 1 or 2 kids before marriage.
Hi. I was a single father here in Canada from my daughters age 10 nd 12 until adults. I think a lot of men are missing the real point. They say they are coming to PH. to find love . Well for me , if i fall in love with a philipina , and i am looking right now, and she happens to have kids. That is a bonus, because i figure if my philipina loves me , and i am a good man then i am sure the kids will love me also...............Love is love. No matter where you find it.
If filipina girls really want to date foreigners, why dont they do this before they have kids.
My wife and I are 25 years apart, and her package included a ready-made 9 year old boy. I think this marriage will probably work out and last another dozen years. That Filipino boy is about 6 feet tall now, and long ago I broke him of trying to sleep between his mother and me. Mama is almost 50 now and she is even more of a knockout than when I married her. Raising the son is probably the area we have most disagreements because the cultures are so different and male kids apparently are fairly high up in Filipino family hierarchy. Congratulations Maya!
Mia, You Two women are Exact Filipina Examples of How Angelic & Beautiful the filipina women Are, so sweet exceptional . Nice Video, Salamat.
Looking for partners for opal mining equal shares between partners
Well am pretty young why do you guys prefer older men than young foreign guys that is willing to commit* are the beautiful Philippines a bad idea
i would marry her ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
In the US?? No way. Woman can divorce u anytime, then eave u with zero rights to the kids u helped her raise but weren't yours, and u can be held liable for child support. In Phillipines, women can't just divorce and leave and have the court system destroy me financially. Also, with the age gap being common in PH, I'd feel better being with a woman that already had a child, in case I couldn't give her a kid. Imagine marrying a younger woman with no kids. Then not being able to provide her one. She'll likely feel the strain and sadness in her 30's. I'd rather not deprive her of that. It's just not the same risk as it is in the west.
men don't lose their ability to make babies. But divorce is coming to the Philippines. It will actually be worse than in America. The Filipina judge will look down on you harshly in a divorce.
@@puppyupper4565what date will divorce be coming in the Philippines when will things change?