German boyfriend saying ‘I don’t want anyone wearing a green suit but me 😢’ is sooooo adorable and totally understandable!! He should get to have his big day of standing out too 🥰🥰🥰
Honestly i doubt he will have a problem in Germany having someone else wearing a green suit to his wedding. I never saw men wearing something else than a black or a dark blue suit to a german wedding. I mean maybe the shirt could be colored, but even that would be rare. Most man wear white shirts to a wedding.
When I got married in Thailand, I proposed to her on a wednesday. We tiold her mom and she immediaely told us we had to go to a monk and find an auspicious date. We did the same day, and he told us: In two days. 48 hours later we were married in a wedding with hundreds of people. We have been happily married for 17 years now. Wish you the best!
Uyen-My friend in Thailand married an American. The Thai wedding became a comedy. The Bhuddist priests gave the bride the day using bride n groom’s birthdates. All the guests arrived from all over the world to Thailand. All of a sudden the Priests realized that when they set the date, they used the groom’s date as if he was born in Thailand NOT the US which of course was a day earlier than Thai time! They redid it and said they had to wait 3 weeks. With guests from all over, that couldn’t happen so the Priests found a lucky number day so the wedding was only delayed 2 days! So be sure when you give the fortune teller his day of birth give them the day it would be in Vietnam!
Honestly, the idea of making a photoshoot in advance is brilliant. That way the "fancy" pics can be redone if they turn out shitty and the couple can focus on enjoying the wedding, and the photographer can focus on the spontaneous pics of everyone. 10/10 would consider.
Your hubby is a funny guy. "In Germany we also have fortune tellers. They are in the Amt, and if you don't take the appointment, there will be no wedding." Love it!
My wife and I cycled around Vietnam and never got sick of being invited to many roadside weddings. We often had to sing or drink lots of crazy shots with the locals!
American here - it's very common to leave for the honeymoon right after the wedding. For ours, we left the wedding reception and drove 2 hours to our hotel then the next morning drove another 4 hours to the beach. Most people I know leave the wedding and go stay at a nice hotel before continuing on to their honeymoon.
@@CableFlame in hollywood movies it's usually that, straight to airport after the ceremony, but even having the honeymoon day after wedding is pretty sudden. From the way she described german weddings it sounds the same as Norway's where I live, and we'd wait at least a week before honeymoon (weddings lasting past midnight makes the day after pretty exhausting), some would even wait months before going on their honeymoon.
I organised my sister’s bachelorette party, and her and her besties wanted to do something chill, relaxing and fun, because they work a lot, and most of them have children. sooooo we went out for brunch, did a pottery class, made home made cocktails, and did some fun skincare while watching a movie from our childhood. Everyone loved it 🥰
So the best thing to do is get married in Vietnam first so you have the money to pay for the German wedding! Haha!! 😃 I'm so excited for you both!!! Much love to you from me in Australia.
Good idea but the German wedding has to be planed super far in advance because “wedding season” is getting bigger each year. Depends what kind of location you want. You need to get the official wedding where you sign first then you can have the church wedding in Germany! Hahah and it’s expensive omg…. My friend is spending almost 30.000€ and then you have to spend almost over a 100€ as a single person for the food and catering so you basically pay it back 🤡😆
My goodness you guys are cute together! I have tears in my eyes, because my wedding day was weird. My husband left me standing at the altar to go see his friends as soon as the church ceremony was over. It was the start of a dismal marriage. But you guys... You guys are sweet and respectful towards one another! You are going the best wedding and marriage ever!
A more traditional thing than bachelor or bachelorette party, would be a Polterabend, this party is celebrated by the couple together, the guest bring old plates, cups, mugs or similar stuff, and during the evening they smash it, an the bridal couple sweep up the fragments for good luck, and it should them prepaire to always work together as married people.
Yeah, that's very German. We don't have such a thing in Austria, we call the bachelor/bachelorette party Polterabend. In Germany, it's a different thing though, it's called Junggesellenabschied.
Yes, I was thinking that too! Bachelorette party is a very American thing to me, that just got adopted here, like Halloween. My parents back in the eighties had a three day wedding in Germany - Polterabend on the first day, Church and food on the second day and then coffee with the aunts on the third day. Polterabend is also very good to invite people who you like but are maybe a bit too removed to have them at the main wedding, e.g. if you are part of a club or a choir or an orchestra.
Agreed. Polterabend is the traditional German thing. And the kidnapping of the bride on the wedding day. That's during the party after the ceremony. the bride gets kidnapped by some friends without the husband noticing. He (usually with the help of his best man) then has to search for her in the coffeeshops, bars or pubs near the wedding location, and finally has to buy her freedom by either paying for the drinks or performing a task.
Being a south asian I can understand the enthusiasm of family for wedding... For Asian wedding is a celebration once in a lifetime so they try to make it as grand and memorable as possible 😁
Same I was the only child and usually they didn’t try to make too much fuss about it…until I got engaged and that sort of thing 😂 then it became much more important (I’m half viet half white) my viet Dad is very chill, it is my white mom that is crazy af 😅 Actually all my Dads Input was incredibly helpful and was a nice memory of our planning together as he helped me pick out a dress with my MIL and with the flowers and colours. He’s very artistic and was previously a graphic designer 😊
We also have wedding gifts for guests in Vietnam, usually it is a small bag included Vietnames tea, lotus seed with sugar (hạt sen ngào đường), and a traditonal cake (bánh phu thê). In other parts of Vietnam, people also have bag on dinning table for guest to take leftover food for their family at home.
Awwwww ❤ "I like dancing and limousines too". I want Uyen to have the very best bestest wedding & hope she gets to do all the traditions that she wants!
For avoiding the issue of guests expecting you to drink too much, you can do what we did in my bar when patrons pressured us to drink with them: have non-alcoholic beer and cocktails ready. We had code names: "Super strong beer" and "Tipsy Loo"
I plan on having 10-20 guests for my ceremony & max 50 for the reception but it'll probably be like 30 lol. Genuinely could not fathom having over 100 people there
Could totally relate to the statement, "The sun is out and life is worth living again!" 😂 Cheers from another Southeast Asian living on the other side of Germany 🙌🏼
Honeymoons are really popular in the US. You don’t always go right afterwards. It’s nice to have a romantic vacation after the wedding planning because it is so much work.
Yeah, at most of the American weddings I've been to, there's a part where the guests see the bride and groom off to their honeymoon (even if the honeymoon is just in a nearby hotel). Usually, this is when the couple finds out how badly decorated their get-away car is.
My husband (Vietnamese) and I (American) had a simultaneously very traditional and very non-traditional wedding, from both Vietnamese and American standards. We got married in a mass at our Catholic church (my husband became Catholic before the wedding), and we had our reception at a local restaurant with an outdoor garden. We had a small wedding in terms of guests with just close family and a few friends. Neither of us wanted to even have a bridesmaids or groomsmen, but our church told us we had to at least have a best man and maid of honor to act as the official witnesses to the wedding and sign our legal marriage license as witnesses. So we each chose our closest friends for those roles. Then for the reception itself, we didn't have any dancing or music besides the music from the restaurant. But the food and drinks were amazing, and everyone had a fund time just hanging out and talking. We also set up some board games for people to play at tables. We also had cookies instead of cake since neither of us wanted cake, haha. The best part of the reception was that we had a Fujifilm instant camera for guests to take pictures, so we ended up with a lot of very fun candid photos to remember the evening. We only had a few flower arrangements in the church, and I made some small decorations myself for the reception. There are a lot more details I could share, but ultimately my point is to share that weddings can come in all shapes and sizes. Just do what you want!
In indian hindu wedding too we have like 1000 guest ..some of them bride and groom meet at wedding for first time There are 3+ days functions for wedding And wedding guest dress the best ..like the bride has to step it up ..no body can outshine the bride Depend on region people do a sort of bridal shower ... Where they pamper the bride with her favourite food 😊 Normally gift is money and close family give gold or silver One tradition or atleast in my region of india has ..is to put a lemon on the bride ( normally in the bra) to ward off evil spirits 😅
You forgot something very very traditional.. It's called "Polterabend". In many areas it's often a very big event you actually can invite the whole town to, or at least many people. Usually there is drinks and maybe some small bbq, nothing fancy, nothing too expensive. It's usually outside and people bring old porcelain, like old plates and.. Smash them.. In the floor. It's supposed to be lucky. The couple has to clean it up then with a broom. Sometimes it's A LOT. This is being done sometime before the wedding.
I don’t know anyone my age getting married doing that anymore. It’s outdated. I have attended 5 weddings in the last 3 years and no one did it. It a thing that was popular when my parents married (~90s).
@@gumfiffybon it's still quite popular in more rural areas. That way you can party with the whole town and invite only close people to the actual wedding which makes things cheaper!
@@joceery you're allowed to do both ;) Also: my bachelor party went as follows: I didn't want to do that crap.. Somebody told me, I can do stuff I love and did the "the boys". So..I did that. Rented a dark room, had everyone bring their computer and paced old games the whole night long and slept there. Loved every bit of it. I heard of others that did a basketball match.
This made me soooo happy, Uyen! I definitely understand. I'm Nigerian-Egyltian and there are definitely some traditions that are trying to be imposed for my wedding. I'm really thinking of just eloping haha. Much love to you guys and you both are so very dear to me. All the best to you two and you both are such a blessing and a gift. Love you guys!
Congratulations! You sound like a sweet person yourself! Also, it’s important that you enjoy your own wedding. So do it however you like, your happiness matters most 🩵
Omg just elope! My husband and I both agree (after 22 years of marriage) if we ever get married again we will elope! 😆 So much pressure for a traditional marriage no matter the culture! 😆😆
I was recently at a wedding where the couple asked us to (if possible) wear navy, pale green or clothes of a similar colour/the same colour family because those were their wedding colours… The bridal party wore those colours as well.
Sounds like a US thing. The "wedding party" with the bridesmaids and groomsmen in the coordinated clothes and so on is a US? anglosphere? thing; definitely not traditional in Germany. "Trauzeugen" aka best man/matron of honor yes, but otherwise, there's flower children and the parents of the couple, and that's it with the special roles.
@julianelehmann ya, I'm in the us, i should have specified. There are so many beautiful traditions around the world. I love when the wedding is a community/ family event. Bridezillas are epidemic in the us
This is such a cute video. As an Indian and Asian, I can relate to some of those Vietenamise traditions. It's always fun to know the similarities in different cultures and country. Keep up the good work and happy wedding planning. P.S : - your nails are so freaking pretty :))
I love yall videos so much. Im a mixed race American who’s learning languages, one of them is Vietnamese. Your videos make me so happy! Often about the genuine pleasures in life
I’m Navajo married to a German. We both agree and did our pictures before our engagement party but… NOT our weeding, like goobers. We should’ve done it like our engagement party cuz it took almost 2 hours for pics. At least everyone went to the reception and started eating snacks or they’d have left, lol. So smart Uyen!
“As you can see we are outside in nature as summer is coming and life is worth living again!” As a Canadian 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦 - I definitely can relate to that remark!!!
actually the bachelor(ette) parties also came to germany from elsewhere (probably the states, let's be honest). my parents' generation still had a "polterabend" where you invite a bunch of people to your house the day before the wedding and smash porcelain bc "shards bring luck"
My family's tradition is for the couple to leave the wedding and go to a nice hotel for the night, then start the honeymoon the following week. We packed our overnight bags in our car the day before, and my maid of honor collected the wedding gifts and took them to our apartment for us. I can't imagine having to immediately get on a plane or start a long car ride to the honeymoon, we were so tired.
It’s really nice to see your two cultures meshing into one another. I’m in the same boat, my fiancé is not familiar let alone someone of my race and culture. We want a wedding that reflects the both of our worlds becoming one. I’m hoping my parents can accept this, they have little regard to what we want. I’ve been crying a lot over the stress. But, my fiancé has been supportive and understanding, and that helps a lot.
Here in Australia, they have the wedding ceremony say around 11am, then the couple go away to take photos and then the reservation/party starts around 5pm. Guests can go home or find something to do in between. Can't really do photos before the day, because the groom isn't supposed to see the dress before the wedding. If you don't care about that, then I actually think it's a great idea to do them before.
Omg a topic i can sympathize with. Me and my husband are both Vietnamese living in the US and even us had culture shock and arguments cause our preference were more Western lol it’s true our wedding is more for our parents too, but seeing how hard they worked for it, im glad i agreed to go with a big wedding cause they were so happy lol i’ll share some personal tips chi as our style and preferences dont really fit the standard there so make sure you vet your vendor carefully. They love to get overseas customers but some dont have good customer service. I had problems with my dress and it stressed me out. Make sure you get what you want and prepare to walk away! We also had our wedding photoshoot outdoor and my friends said that’s a very western thing to do cause it’s expensive and people prefer studio photoshoot BUT i love my photos where i went to a sandune, a hill, the ocean and they were beautiful. My photographer specialize on outdoor photography and i think German finance would really like if you guys have time and can splurge a bit. Vietnam outdoor sceneries are super pretty We fought during the wedding. Cause it was so stressful but we made it and i know you guys will make it through. So happy and excited for you!
I love the idea of having the whole day dedicated to taking the wedding pictures. That sounds like it would be relatively stress free. Plus you would not keep the guests waiting. I had to wait 3 hours in sweltering humid weather between the ceremony and reception. My boyfriend and i were so miserable that we promised that if we ever desided to marry, we'd atlest have a buffet and some sort of entertainment going. And air conditioning if it is the summer.
Trauzeuge are the people that are there in church and / or with your at the state kind of marriage. They actively sign that they legally witnessed your marriage. So the correct translation would be "witnesses".
Yes, exactly. When I was my friend's Trauzeugin, I had to sign the catholic marriage certificate thing at the church altar, I think? I also organised a bachelorette thing for her, but that was not the main thing.
Uyen,in USA the couple and parents on both sides do guest list. 500 were invited to wedding. Many as bride I did not know many of my parents and husbands parents. We had 435 guests were actually at the wedding.
I like the 'talent show' part in Vietnamese weddings 😅😂. It reminds me of the time back in my home country when kids are asked to narrate a poem, sing or dance at the reception. It's kind of sweet.
In the USA traditionally the bride's family pays for everything (except the rehearsal dinner, groom's family takes care of that). Also the honeymoon is totally a thing and yes you leave right after the wedding party is over (and yes it is very stressful to pack for a vacation and prepare for your wedding at the same time, but it is nice to spend the first few days as a married couple having fun on vacation).
You know that the tradition that the brides family pays for the weeding originates in the believe that women are less worth and need to be giving additonal gifts? So not only give the parents the daughter away they pay the husband to take her. ( Origin, i dont think that people really think of it like this anymore )
@@ronnitschka I thought it was because traditionally the husband would be providing for the wife financially for the rest of her life so it seemed fair that the bride's family would pay for the wedding. Of course that's not the expectation anymore (lots of couples both bring in income now, though not all, some women are stay at home moms) but the tradition still stands.
@@qunstrudel not really because where the husband brings the money the wife cares for the home and the children. There is nothing what she needs to give in advance because of this. But i get your way of thinking :) and sorry for my Englisch, it is not my first language
Filipino weddings also have small gifts for the guests. We call it wedding souvenirs. For example: a small stuff toy holding a card with the name of the bride and groom, the wedding date, and something like "thank you for celebrating our wedding".
I think the idea of going to the honeymoon right away is that then you can have some stress-free time with your new spouse and enjoy life. Though here in northern Europe it's more typical to leave to the honeymoon next day or two days after and first spend wedding night in hotel or some other nice location at peace.
As a german-american (was raised by my immigrant Oma) I had no clue Germany had wedding newspaper. That is very VERY cute!!! Im divorced now but my wedding favors were little cookies in the shape of my state with a little heart over the city I got married. Also I went to my honeymoon a week after my wedding
In Canada at least, the other purpose for the maid of honour and best man is to also sign the marriage license as witnesses, along with the bride and groom's signatures. Idk if that might be the same in Germany? They also commonly play a big part in planning the bachelor/bachelorette party. We have a unique tradition in my province called a social, which is basically a big party to fundraise for the wedding. There's entry tickets, a raffle, drinks cost $2. But the food is free, usually chips on every table and then what we call "social food" - basically bread, cheese, deli meats, pickles etc. Maybe even some perogies with cheese and potato. Ive been to a couple where they had pizza, but then you cant meat shoulder someone (put a piece of deli meat on their shoulder to see how long until they notice lol). Congrats to you both!
Yes, in Germany they can sign the license as well. They are actually called „Trauzeuge“ and „Trauzeugin“, which means „witness to the wedding“, which I guess in former times was a very important role. Nowadays it is optional to have the Trauzeugen sign the papers, from a legal perspective the role is not necessary.
@@Ohforgodssakethatsme Manitoba! I didn't realize stag and does/Jack and Jills were similar, I mistakenly thought they were similar to bachelor/bachelorette parties. Very cool!
We got gifted a herbal salt for one wedding. I enjoyed cooking with it for a year and remembered that day. On another wedding wie got a Lebkuchenherz (gingerbread hearts) with our names on it. I loved it. So guest presents are nice
@@ChrissieSM No. Also not every wedding party as this. Oftentimes people take their name plates with them as a memorandum. It also quite common to have a guest book where you can write good wishes and when you are willing to splurge have an accompaning photo booth.
"Life is worth living again" 😆 As far as leaving immediately for the honeymoon, Americans _do_ sometimes do that, but I always felt like you do about it. My wedding was quite short, and I made us a reservation at a nice hotel for that night. We stopped at our favorite sushi place after the wedding (while in our suit and gown still! lol), then had a nice time at the hotel. A week later, we went to a different state for the weekend to see different museums and parks for our honeymoon. It was really nice, and the whole wedding was barely over $1000, including the nice hotel and the honeymoon weekend.
Your wedding plans are making me excited!! To share some ideas, in my recent Indo-French wedding in France, we gifted a pair of little jars of mustard (from the french side) and spice-mix (from the indian side) to thank the guests. Also, all the tables were named after spices because we love cooking! 🤭
In India we have similar weddings to the Vietnamese ones but also some aspects of German Wedding, like we gift anything, we have weddings in the night like from 7-8 pm to 12 or 1 or maybe even 4 in the morning. We also have astrologists who are similar to fortune tellers who decide the date. We also have the activities and rituals and our weddings usually last from 3 to 6 days Some rich people also have weddings for 8 days!
I paid for my brother and sister in law's wedding cake for their wedding. It was a bit pricey, but i didn't mind since i love my brother and my sister in law is the best! Plus, i loved the expressions on their faces when i surprised them with the cake. They didn't know how it would look like. The cake was delicious and soon all gone. I think i did a good job in picking a wedding cake for them.🙂
In Eastern Germany there’s a tradition where the guests make a sort of mini obstacle course for the bride and groom when leaving the church or courthouse- at bare minimum, they have to cut a hole in a sheet and step through it and saw a log in half, but sometimes they have to do a bunch more stuff like solve puzzles together. At least, I assume it’s only an East Germany thing, I’ve never heard of it anywhere else.
I cannot express to you how happy I am for the both of you! Your guys relationship is so wholesome and cute it makes me go all goey. I love how funny and informative your videos are, and how care free it is. I'm one of your younger audiences (teenager lol) and I look up to you both a LOT. I love your journey as a mix couple and the facts you learn along the way. Your videos always brings a smile to my face during tough times and I'll forever be grateful for that. So thank you guys ❤️
Your boyfriend reminds me of my soulmate. We couldn’t get married because of cultural differences, despite being from the same country but our relationship was exactly like what you guys show in your videos. We are separated, and I’m married to someone else now, but I’m laterally living the rest of my story via you guys. God bless you both ♥️♥️ 🧿
Americans do leave for their honeymoon straight from the wedding night sometimes. I had a coworker who was still in her veil when she boarded the plane! Personally we waited 2 months to get better weather at our mountain destination.
Yes in UK its customary to go directly to the airport. But in practice they normally spend their first night at the hotel where the wedding took place. Then head off to the honeymoon the next day.
About drinking on wedding, in Poland groom and bride often use something we call “cheated shot-glass” (oszukany kieliszek in polish). It looks like regular shot-glass but it has only 10-15 ml and regular shot-glass has 40 ml. Sometimes groom and bride have their own bottle of vodka but with water instead of vodka ;)
In Hanoi, there are also countryside people living in Hanoi, who bring countryside mindset and put their own wedding tent in the middle of the public street!
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"with the same husband" 😀
😅😅😅😅😅😅
LOL
Ikr 😂😂
we are glad to hear
Yup this had me rolling on the floor
I can’t wait for you to start calling him “German husband”
And maybe further down the line, "German Dad" 🥰
OR his actual name!!!
Or he could always be German Boyfriend. Whatever Uyen decides, it’s all good.
@@patricesteiner1168 I wasn’t trying to get her to start calling him that. Why are you like this? Just being adversarial for no reason
German Hubby better😂
german boyfriend waving from the bushes killed me
I haven’t seen him, so I’m half convinced you’re pranking us.., 😂
The German perspective. 😂
ME TOO!! 😂😂😂
17:41 timestamp for those who missed it…
Love it 😂😂👋🏻🌳❤❤
German boyfriend saying ‘I don’t want anyone wearing a green suit but me 😢’ is sooooo adorable and totally understandable!! He should get to have his big day of standing out too 🥰🥰🥰
yes, in is amazing green suit
Honestly i doubt he will have a problem in Germany having someone else wearing a green suit to his wedding. I never saw men wearing something else than a black or a dark blue suit to a german wedding. I mean maybe the shirt could be colored, but even that would be rare. Most man wear white shirts to a wedding.
Never been to any western wedding without a dark suit on the groom and groomsmen.
Green suit. I'm not surprised. As guest gifts, I can see him giving away lithops in tiny pots, with care instructions tied on with green ribbon.
@@adamryan977last year I was at a wedding and the groom wore a green suit. That looks gorgeous. And yes, that was a German wedding.
German bf is a disney princess in an adult guy's body. Look at him picking flowers and hiding behind the bush so adorable 😂❤
He's such a pretty princess 😊
When I got married in Thailand, I proposed to her on a wednesday. We tiold her mom and she immediaely told us we had to go to a monk and find an auspicious date.
We did the same day, and he told us: In two days. 48 hours later we were married in a wedding with hundreds of people. We have been happily married for 17 years now.
Wish you the best!
Saved a lot of money, nobody had time to get new clothes, did they?
😂😂😂 @@mimisor66
That's amazing! Here's to many more!
@@mimisor66 Lol, I had to rent a suit!
Oh, that was my job 😀
I love how German Boyfriend participates, but at his comfort level. You both are a great team.
Uyen-My friend in Thailand married an American. The Thai wedding became a comedy. The Bhuddist priests gave the bride the day using bride n groom’s birthdates. All the guests arrived from all over the world to Thailand. All of a sudden the Priests realized that when they set the date, they used the groom’s date as if he was born in Thailand NOT the US which of course was a day earlier than Thai time! They redid it and said they had to wait 3 weeks. With guests from all over, that couldn’t happen so the Priests found a lucky number day so the wedding was only delayed 2 days! So be sure when you give the fortune teller his day of birth give them the day it would be in Vietnam!
That sounds like the plot of an adorable rom com
Wow... what an important detail! Make sure to equalize the birthdates before calculating the equation! 👍🏻
Afaik usa is the only country with a weird dare format
Makes sense, cause even in Sri Lanka, astrologers suggest a date based on planetary position during the time of birth
Honestly, the idea of making a photoshoot in advance is brilliant. That way the "fancy" pics can be redone if they turn out shitty and the couple can focus on enjoying the wedding, and the photographer can focus on the spontaneous pics of everyone. 10/10 would consider.
Your hubby is a funny guy. "In Germany we also have fortune tellers. They are in the Amt, and if you don't take the appointment, there will be no wedding."
Love it!
German fortune teller: You are late! No marriage! Doom! Shame on your family!
😂
And people say Germans don’t have a sense of humour
I once had a German boyfriend and we had a wedding in the US, and that was the start of our very bad luck.
My wife and I cycled around Vietnam and never got sick of being invited to many roadside weddings. We often had to sing or drink lots of crazy shots with the locals!
"You can't ever leave me, not even spiritually!" -Uyen in love 😈
"So life is worth living again".. lol, thats exactly what I feel when spring starts in Norway.
Also see Wyoming, Montana, Idaho,North Dakota
Also see 🇨🇦😊
In Poland the same.
In England also the same 😂
That's how I feel living in Northwestern New York (USA)!
American here - it's very common to leave for the honeymoon right after the wedding. For ours, we left the wedding reception and drove 2 hours to our hotel then the next morning drove another 4 hours to the beach. Most people I know leave the wedding and go stay at a nice hotel before continuing on to their honeymoon.
When she said “right after the wedding,” I think she meant “right after the ceremony, skipping the reception.” At least that’s how I took it.
@@CableFlame I don't know anyone who will miss the reception to go straight to a honeymoon.
Maybe Uyen meant after all the wedding festivities?
@@CableFlame in hollywood movies it's usually that, straight to airport after the ceremony, but even having the honeymoon day after wedding is pretty sudden. From the way she described german weddings it sounds the same as Norway's where I live, and we'd wait at least a week before honeymoon (weddings lasting past midnight makes the day after pretty exhausting), some would even wait months before going on their honeymoon.
Describing the best man as the contact guy for the catering is the most german thing I have ever heard 😂😂
Contact man for the bachelor party and getting the guy and rings to the church!
I like it.
It's true lol
I organised my sister’s bachelorette party, and her and her besties wanted to do something chill, relaxing and fun, because they work a lot, and most of them have children. sooooo we went out for brunch, did a pottery class, made home made cocktails, and did some fun skincare while watching a movie from our childhood. Everyone loved it 🥰
As a Norwegian going to a Vietnamese wedding in Vietnam next week, this video is a life saver!!! Thank you so much!
So the best thing to do is get married in Vietnam first so you have the money to pay for the German wedding! Haha!! 😃 I'm so excited for you both!!! Much love to you from me in Australia.
Brilliant idea!
Good idea but the German wedding has to be planed super far in advance because “wedding season” is getting bigger each year. Depends what kind of location you want. You need to get the official wedding where you sign first then you can have the church wedding in Germany! Hahah and it’s expensive omg…. My friend is spending almost 30.000€ and then you have to spend almost over a 100€ as a single person for the food and catering so you basically pay it back 🤡😆
My goodness you guys are cute together! I have tears in my eyes, because my wedding day was weird. My husband left me standing at the altar to go see his friends as soon as the church ceremony was over. It was the start of a dismal marriage. But you guys... You guys are sweet and respectful towards one another! You are going the best wedding and marriage ever!
A more traditional thing than bachelor or bachelorette party, would be a Polterabend, this party is celebrated by the couple together, the guest bring old plates, cups, mugs or similar stuff, and during the evening they smash it, an the bridal couple sweep up the fragments for good luck, and it should them prepaire to always work together as married people.
Yeah, that's very German. We don't have such a thing in Austria, we call the bachelor/bachelorette party Polterabend. In Germany, it's a different thing though, it's called Junggesellenabschied.
Yes, I was thinking that too! Bachelorette party is a very American thing to me, that just got adopted here, like Halloween. My parents back in the eighties had a three day wedding in Germany - Polterabend on the first day, Church and food on the second day and then coffee with the aunts on the third day. Polterabend is also very good to invite people who you like but are maybe a bit too removed to have them at the main wedding, e.g. if you are part of a club or a choir or an orchestra.
My American dad and German mother did this for good luck. ❤
Agreed. Polterabend is the traditional German thing.
And the kidnapping of the bride on the wedding day. That's during the party after the ceremony. the bride gets kidnapped by some friends without the husband noticing. He (usually with the help of his best man) then has to search for her in the coffeeshops, bars or pubs near the wedding location, and finally has to buy her freedom by either paying for the drinks or performing a task.
You are forgetting the centerpiece Toilette; there is always someone who brings an old toilet or at least a Sink to be smashed! ;)
"Fortune tellers & Thousands of guests"!! Like a Gilmore Girls episode title!!
Omg so accurate! Especially since they had quite a few weddings at the inn(s) 😂
Same exact with Indian weddings
Being a south asian I can understand the enthusiasm of family for wedding... For Asian wedding is a celebration once in a lifetime so they try to make it as grand and memorable as possible 😁
Same I was the only child and usually they didn’t try to make too much fuss about it…until I got engaged and that sort of thing 😂 then it became much more important (I’m half viet half white) my viet Dad is very chill, it is my white mom that is crazy af 😅
Actually all my Dads Input was incredibly helpful and was a nice memory of our planning together as he helped me pick out a dress with my MIL and with the flowers and colours. He’s very artistic and was previously a graphic designer 😊
We also have wedding gifts for guests in Vietnam, usually it is a small bag included Vietnames tea, lotus seed with sugar (hạt sen ngào đường), and a traditonal cake (bánh phu thê). In other parts of Vietnam, people also have bag on dinning table for guest to take leftover food for their family at home.
Awwwww ❤ "I like dancing and limousines too". I want Uyen to have the very best bestest wedding & hope she gets to do all the traditions that she wants!
I just cannot imagine a world where either German Boyfriend or Uyen would “bachelor party” in the problematic way of Brits & Americans.
For avoiding the issue of guests expecting you to drink too much, you can do what we did in my bar when patrons pressured us to drink with them: have non-alcoholic beer and cocktails ready. We had code names: "Super strong beer" and "Tipsy Loo"
In the USA 300 or more guests is considered a big wedding. Under 100 is a small wedding, and 100-250 is a medium sized. Over 1000 is crazy big lol!!!
I had a little over 250 and it honestly felt extremely overwhelming. I would have much rather have had under 100.
In Vietnam 1000 is crazy big also. 200-300 is average
I just can't fathom paying for so many guests, honestly. Even 100+.
In India 1000+ is the norm....anything less than that is considered a shotgun wedding and it's embarrassing 😂😂
I plan on having 10-20 guests for my ceremony & max 50 for the reception but it'll probably be like 30 lol. Genuinely could not fathom having over 100 people there
Could totally relate to the statement, "The sun is out and life is worth living again!" 😂 Cheers from another Southeast Asian living on the other side of Germany 🙌🏼
Honeymoons are really popular in the US. You don’t always go right afterwards. It’s nice to have a romantic vacation after the wedding planning because it is so much work.
Yeah, at most of the American weddings I've been to, there's a part where the guests see the bride and groom off to their honeymoon (even if the honeymoon is just in a nearby hotel). Usually, this is when the couple finds out how badly decorated their get-away car is.
My husband (Vietnamese) and I (American) had a simultaneously very traditional and very non-traditional wedding, from both Vietnamese and American standards. We got married in a mass at our Catholic church (my husband became Catholic before the wedding), and we had our reception at a local restaurant with an outdoor garden. We had a small wedding in terms of guests with just close family and a few friends. Neither of us wanted to even have a bridesmaids or groomsmen, but our church told us we had to at least have a best man and maid of honor to act as the official witnesses to the wedding and sign our legal marriage license as witnesses. So we each chose our closest friends for those roles. Then for the reception itself, we didn't have any dancing or music besides the music from the restaurant. But the food and drinks were amazing, and everyone had a fund time just hanging out and talking. We also set up some board games for people to play at tables. We also had cookies instead of cake since neither of us wanted cake, haha. The best part of the reception was that we had a Fujifilm instant camera for guests to take pictures, so we ended up with a lot of very fun candid photos to remember the evening. We only had a few flower arrangements in the church, and I made some small decorations myself for the reception. There are a lot more details I could share, but ultimately my point is to share that weddings can come in all shapes and sizes. Just do what you want!
aaaw the boardgames are such a cool idea!!!! :D I am stealing that idea for my wedding xD
Love the board game idea! We have been talking about it for our wedding too but unsure what to bring as we don’t have assigned tables
The Fiji cameras works out great and you get so many candid shots!
In indian hindu wedding too we have like 1000 guest ..some of them bride and groom meet at wedding for first time
There are 3+ days functions for wedding
And wedding guest dress the best ..like the bride has to step it up ..no body can outshine the bride
Depend on region people do a sort of bridal shower ...
Where they pamper the bride with her favourite food 😊
Normally gift is money and close family give gold or silver
One tradition or atleast in my region of india has ..is to put a lemon on the bride ( normally in the bra) to ward off evil spirits 😅
A slice of lemon for its flavor or a whole one😂
A whole one 😂😂 Indian lemon tend to be on smaller size
@@VirgoLunaKnight So in her bridal gown she looks like she has 3 boobs???
Which state are you from?
Maharashtra
You forgot something very very traditional.. It's called "Polterabend".
In many areas it's often a very big event you actually can invite the whole town to, or at least many people. Usually there is drinks and maybe some small bbq, nothing fancy, nothing too expensive. It's usually outside and people bring old porcelain, like old plates and.. Smash them.. In the floor. It's supposed to be lucky. The couple has to clean it up then with a broom. Sometimes it's A LOT.
This is being done sometime before the wedding.
My aunt and uncles polterabend is one of my favorite childhood memories lol
I don’t know anyone my age getting married doing that anymore. It’s outdated. I have attended 5 weddings in the last 3 years and no one did it. It a thing that was popular when my parents married (~90s).
@@gumfiffybon it's still quite popular in more rural areas. That way you can party with the whole town and invite only close people to the actual wedding which makes things cheaper!
yes! most don't do it anymore and want the bachelorette party, but I definitely want rather the Polterabend, I love the idea behind it.
@@joceery you're allowed to do both ;)
Also: my bachelor party went as follows:
I didn't want to do that crap.. Somebody told me, I can do stuff I love and did the "the boys". So..I did that. Rented a dark room, had everyone bring their computer and paced old games the whole night long and slept there. Loved every bit of it. I heard of others that did a basketball match.
Good to know it's the same groom. I thought maybe German fiancé will be one husband and German boyfriend the other 😂
A Trinity, if you will.
That would be an exciting arrangement.
This made me soooo happy, Uyen! I definitely understand. I'm Nigerian-Egyltian and there are definitely some traditions that are trying to be imposed for my wedding. I'm really thinking of just eloping haha.
Much love to you guys and you both are so very dear to me.
All the best to you two and you both are such a blessing and a gift.
Love you guys!
Congratulations!
@@kellysueballard7654 Thank you so much!
Congratulations! You sound like a sweet person yourself! Also, it’s important that you enjoy your own wedding. So do it however you like, your happiness matters most 🩵
Omg just elope! My husband and I both agree (after 22 years of marriage) if we ever get married again we will elope! 😆 So much pressure for a traditional marriage no matter the culture! 😆😆
Mazel tov! 💖 Definitely elope. It's easier, and you can save the small fortune a wedded costs.
I think this is why most couples have "wedding party colors"
It helps guests choose clothing to avoid being confused as part of the wedding party
I was recently at a wedding where the couple asked us to (if possible) wear navy, pale green or clothes of a similar colour/the same colour family because those were their wedding colours…
The bridal party wore those colours as well.
@TinaTomassen hmmm, ive never heard of that.
Sounds like a US thing. The "wedding party" with the bridesmaids and groomsmen in the coordinated clothes and so on is a US? anglosphere? thing; definitely not traditional in Germany. "Trauzeugen" aka best man/matron of honor yes, but otherwise, there's flower children and the parents of the couple, and that's it with the special roles.
@julianelehmann ya, I'm in the us, i should have specified.
There are so many beautiful traditions around the world.
I love when the wedding is a community/ family event.
Bridezillas are epidemic in the us
This is such a cute video. As an Indian and Asian, I can relate to some of those Vietenamise traditions. It's always fun to know the similarities in different cultures and country. Keep up the good work and happy wedding planning.
P.S : - your nails are so freaking pretty :))
Uyen I’m really happy for you and German bf you guys are really cute and funny love from Türkiye 🇹🇷❤️🇻🇳🇩🇪
I love yall videos so much. Im a mixed race American who’s learning languages, one of them is Vietnamese. Your videos make me so happy! Often about the genuine pleasures in life
Honeymoon is VERY real! We left from our wedding and went straight to the airport to spend two weeks in Orlando.
I’m Navajo married to a German. We both agree and did our pictures before our engagement party but… NOT our weeding, like goobers. We should’ve done it like our engagement party cuz it took almost 2 hours for pics. At least everyone went to the reception and started eating snacks or they’d have left, lol. So smart Uyen!
the bachelorette party trying to sell german bf things was hilarious!
true! xD
“As you can see we are outside in nature as summer is coming and life is worth living again!” As a Canadian 🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦 - I definitely can relate to that remark!!!
actually the bachelor(ette) parties also came to germany from elsewhere (probably the states, let's be honest). my parents' generation still had a "polterabend" where you invite a bunch of people to your house the day before the wedding and smash porcelain bc "shards bring luck"
Uyen, you look so glowing here! ✨
Who all are extremely happy and excited for them getting married 🤩❤
My family's tradition is for the couple to leave the wedding and go to a nice hotel for the night, then start the honeymoon the following week. We packed our overnight bags in our car the day before, and my maid of honor collected the wedding gifts and took them to our apartment for us. I can't imagine having to immediately get on a plane or start a long car ride to the honeymoon, we were so tired.
It’s really nice to see your two cultures meshing into one another. I’m in the same boat, my fiancé is not familiar let alone someone of my race and culture. We want a wedding that reflects the both of our worlds becoming one. I’m hoping my parents can accept this, they have little regard to what we want. I’ve been crying a lot over the stress. But, my fiancé has been supportive and understanding, and that helps a lot.
i love the sound of a vietnamese wedding. i love all the cultures who involved the entire family and community and really celebrate.
i love how vietnamese weddings are like “profit” that truly celebrates the couple
Here in Australia, they have the wedding ceremony say around 11am, then the couple go away to take photos and then the reservation/party starts around 5pm. Guests can go home or find something to do in between. Can't really do photos before the day, because the groom isn't supposed to see the dress before the wedding. If you don't care about that, then I actually think it's a great idea to do them before.
Omg a topic i can sympathize with. Me and my husband are both Vietnamese living in the US and even us had culture shock and arguments cause our preference were more Western lol it’s true our wedding is more for our parents too, but seeing how hard they worked for it, im glad i agreed to go with a big wedding cause they were so happy lol i’ll share some personal tips chi as our style and preferences dont really fit the standard there so make sure you vet your vendor carefully.
They love to get overseas customers but some dont have good customer service. I had problems with my dress and it stressed me out. Make sure you get what you want and prepare to walk away! We also had our wedding photoshoot outdoor and my friends said that’s a very western thing to do cause it’s expensive and people prefer studio photoshoot BUT i love my photos where i went to a sandune, a hill, the ocean and they were beautiful. My photographer specialize on outdoor photography and i think German finance would really like if you guys have time and can splurge a bit. Vietnam outdoor sceneries are super pretty
We fought during the wedding. Cause it was so stressful but we made it and i know you guys will make it through. So happy and excited for you!
I love the idea of having the whole day dedicated to taking the wedding pictures. That sounds like it would be relatively stress free. Plus you would not keep the guests waiting. I had to wait 3 hours in sweltering humid weather between the ceremony and reception. My boyfriend and i were so miserable that we promised that if we ever desided to marry, we'd atlest have a buffet and some sort of entertainment going. And air conditioning if it is the summer.
Trauzeuge are the people that are there in church and / or with your at the state kind of marriage. They actively sign that they legally witnessed your marriage. So the correct translation would be "witnesses".
Yes, exactly. When I was my friend's Trauzeugin, I had to sign the catholic marriage certificate thing at the church altar, I think? I also organised a bachelorette thing for her, but that was not the main thing.
Uyen,in USA the couple and parents on both sides do guest list. 500 were invited to wedding. Many as bride I did not know many of my parents and husbands parents. We had 435 guests were actually at the wedding.
I like the 'talent show' part in Vietnamese weddings 😅😂. It reminds me of the time back in my home country when kids are asked to narrate a poem, sing or dance at the reception. It's kind of sweet.
In the USA traditionally the bride's family pays for everything (except the rehearsal dinner, groom's family takes care of that). Also the honeymoon is totally a thing and yes you leave right after the wedding party is over (and yes it is very stressful to pack for a vacation and prepare for your wedding at the same time, but it is nice to spend the first few days as a married couple having fun on vacation).
You know that the tradition that the brides family pays for the weeding originates in the believe that women are less worth and need to be giving additonal gifts? So not only give the parents the daughter away they pay the husband to take her. ( Origin, i dont think that people really think of it like this anymore )
@@ronnitschka I thought it was because traditionally the husband would be providing for the wife financially for the rest of her life so it seemed fair that the bride's family would pay for the wedding. Of course that's not the expectation anymore (lots of couples both bring in income now, though not all, some women are stay at home moms) but the tradition still stands.
@@qunstrudel not really because where the husband brings the money the wife cares for the home and the children. There is nothing what she needs to give in advance because of this. But i get your way of thinking :) and sorry for my Englisch, it is not my first language
Filipino weddings also have small gifts for the guests. We call it wedding souvenirs. For example: a small stuff toy holding a card with the name of the bride and groom, the wedding date, and something like "thank you for celebrating our wedding".
I love that you are filming outside
0:03 😂😂😂😂😂😂 well, i guess you legit needed to warn that.
”life’s worth living again” 🤣😂
I think the idea of going to the honeymoon right away is that then you can have some stress-free time with your new spouse and enjoy life. Though here in northern Europe it's more typical to leave to the honeymoon next day or two days after and first spend wedding night in hotel or some other nice location at peace.
As a german-american (was raised by my immigrant Oma) I had no clue Germany had wedding newspaper. That is very VERY cute!!!
Im divorced now but my wedding favors were little cookies in the shape of my state with a little heart over the city I got married.
Also I went to my honeymoon a week after my wedding
Omg Uyen, I love watching about you and german boyfriends adventures. Thank you for all your amazing videos! ❤️
My cousin married a German woman in Germany and their wedding was in a small enclosed room in the middle of a park. It was cute but very, very small.
In Canada at least, the other purpose for the maid of honour and best man is to also sign the marriage license as witnesses, along with the bride and groom's signatures. Idk if that might be the same in Germany? They also commonly play a big part in planning the bachelor/bachelorette party.
We have a unique tradition in my province called a social, which is basically a big party to fundraise for the wedding. There's entry tickets, a raffle, drinks cost $2. But the food is free, usually chips on every table and then what we call "social food" - basically bread, cheese, deli meats, pickles etc. Maybe even some perogies with cheese and potato. Ive been to a couple where they had pizza, but then you cant meat shoulder someone (put a piece of deli meat on their shoulder to see how long until they notice lol).
Congrats to you both!
Which province?
Which province are you in? I'm in Ontario and we usually refer to the social as either a Stag and Doe or a Jack and Jill.
Yes, in Germany they can sign the license as well. They are actually called „Trauzeuge“ and „Trauzeugin“, which means „witness to the wedding“, which I guess in former times was a very important role. Nowadays it is optional to have the Trauzeugen sign the papers, from a legal perspective the role is not necessary.
@@a24e Manitoba!
@@Ohforgodssakethatsme Manitoba! I didn't realize stag and does/Jack and Jills were similar, I mistakenly thought they were similar to bachelor/bachelorette parties. Very cool!
I'm german, I've been to a few weddings in my life so far and I never heard of a "wedding newspaper"😅 but it sounds really cute!
We got gifted a herbal salt for one wedding. I enjoyed cooking with it for a year and remembered that day. On another wedding wie got a Lebkuchenherz (gingerbread hearts) with our names on it. I loved it. So guest presents are nice
That wasn't herbal cooking salt , it was herbal bath salt.
@@DemianGheist It was cooking salt. Kräutersalz. It is quite common in Germany.
I was joking. There was a story on the internet a while back, where that happened.
Were both weddings to the same person?
@@ChrissieSM No. Also not every wedding party as this. Oftentimes people take their name plates with them as a memorandum. It also quite common to have a guest book where you can write good wishes and when you are willing to splurge have an accompaning photo booth.
Ending for bug bites is the most relatable thing! Loved the video, you guys will figure out how you want your special days ❤
"Life is worth living again" 😆
As far as leaving immediately for the honeymoon, Americans _do_ sometimes do that, but I always felt like you do about it. My wedding was quite short, and I made us a reservation at a nice hotel for that night. We stopped at our favorite sushi place after the wedding (while in our suit and gown still! lol), then had a nice time at the hotel.
A week later, we went to a different state for the weekend to see different museums and parks for our honeymoon. It was really nice, and the whole wedding was barely over $1000, including the nice hotel and the honeymoon weekend.
Your wedding plans are making me excited!!
To share some ideas, in my recent Indo-French wedding in France, we gifted a pair of little jars of mustard (from the french side) and spice-mix (from the indian side) to thank the guests. Also, all the tables were named after spices because we love cooking! 🤭
In India we have similar weddings to the Vietnamese ones but also some aspects of German Wedding, like we gift anything, we have weddings in the night like from 7-8 pm to 12 or 1 or maybe even 4 in the morning. We also have astrologists who are similar to fortune tellers who decide the date. We also have the activities and rituals and our weddings usually last from 3 to 6 days Some rich people also have weddings for 8 days!
I paid for my brother and sister in law's wedding cake for their wedding. It was a bit pricey, but i didn't mind since i love my brother and my sister in law is the best! Plus, i loved the expressions on their faces when i surprised them with the cake. They didn't know how it would look like. The cake was delicious and soon all gone. I think i did a good job in picking a wedding cake for them.🙂
In Eastern Germany there’s a tradition where the guests make a sort of mini obstacle course for the bride and groom when leaving the church or courthouse- at bare minimum, they have to cut a hole in a sheet and step through it and saw a log in half, but sometimes they have to do a bunch more stuff like solve puzzles together. At least, I assume it’s only an East Germany thing, I’ve never heard of it anywhere else.
I saw it in one of the three weddings I went to so far in western Germany (only the sheet cutting part), but its definitely not common I would say
This is so awesome, thank you for sharing ❤️ 😊 i love hearing the differences and how yall are working on incorporating traditions
The wedding newsletter is a sweet tradition! 🥰
I love the idea of a wedding newspaper!! How sweet 😍
I cannot express to you how happy I am for the both of you! Your guys relationship is so wholesome and cute it makes me go all goey. I love how funny and informative your videos are, and how care free it is.
I'm one of your younger audiences (teenager lol) and I look up to you both a LOT. I love your journey as a mix couple and the facts you learn along the way. Your videos always brings a smile to my face during tough times and I'll forever be grateful for that. So thank you guys ❤️
This was so fun to learn about! And you two are the cutest couple on earth. So happy for you!
I’m so glad the drunk uncle at the reception is universal 😂
Ahh, So singing drunk uncles are universal :)
Love you guys! Have yourselves some Happy Weddings!!!! ❤❤
i just love how interesting and calm your vids are❤
That was so much fun! More comparison videos please - around holidays or other traditions, maybe?
you could knit/crochet something small for each guest
In the U.S. many couples do leave for their honeymoon right after the wedding! Sometimes the next day too.
With how crazy our world is you guys are a breath of fresh air. Thank You Love from Buffalo New York
Your boyfriend reminds me of my soulmate. We couldn’t get married because of cultural differences, despite being from the same country but our relationship was exactly like what you guys show in your videos.
We are separated, and I’m married to someone else now, but I’m laterally living the rest of my story via you guys. God bless you both ♥️♥️ 🧿
Oh, cant wait for the big wedding video ❤
within the first seconds of the video you had me rolling on the floor 🤣🤣🤣 "with the same husband" I can't.......😂😂😂😂😂
Americans do leave for their honeymoon straight from the wedding night sometimes. I had a coworker who was still in her veil when she boarded the plane! Personally we waited 2 months to get better weather at our mountain destination.
Yes in UK its customary to go directly to the airport. But in practice they normally spend their first night at the hotel where the wedding took place. Then head off to the honeymoon the next day.
About drinking on wedding, in Poland groom and bride often use something we call “cheated shot-glass” (oszukany kieliszek in polish). It looks like regular shot-glass but it has only 10-15 ml and regular shot-glass has 40 ml. Sometimes groom and bride have their own bottle of vodka but with water instead of vodka ;)
You two are delightful. 🤗 I have adopted you both. You have family in Mississippi now. But don't worry about an invite to the wedding. 😂 🤍
Aaawwww thats such a cute comment. 🥰
In Hanoi, there are also countryside people living in Hanoi, who bring countryside mindset and put their own wedding tent in the middle of the public street!
In Germany you often need to book popular venues 2 or 3 years in advance ^^
Man I can't wait to see all your wedding photos 😍🤩
So excited for you both!
Woaahhhh Vietnamese wedding is really similar like Indonesian wedding too. So happy for both of you, sending love from Indonesia ❤❤❤
Congratulations!!!!! I wish you guys a prosperous marriage!!!
I adore you both and this is the most wholesome video I've seen in a long time ❤ I'm engaged so love hearing about your wedding stuff. Much love ❤❤❤
Here in the States, we leave for the honeymoon right afterwards. It's true! ❤
You guys are adorable! It's always warming my heart when I watch your videos