Psychology to me is too open ended compared to astrology. It only really works its best with animals for the most part. I haven't heard of a single shred of evidence that can link anything that psychology has to offer to why humans do anything. It's always shrouded and completely complicated as well as arbitrary. The human mind is too complex to account for anything more than instinct, serious disorders, or anything out of our control. Anything we think about that's within our control can only exist psychology wise with tendencies, stereotypes, or groups. Even then though, it is still illogical to lump everyone into a certain context based off of a flawed set of historical precepts, especially a study in which doesn't have any scientific aspects. The simultaneous coinciding with human intelligence in conjunction with a perceived psychology study creates a serious contradiction that merely results, or defaults to a seriously problematic presumptive subjective material. I would take it a step further to say that psychology should be offensive to humans, since it implies that our minds work in an almost controlled fashion. We are deep, beautiful, autonomous, free, and void of any programming beyond belief. Psychology shouldn't be a major study or "subject," it should only be used as a tool for certain situations, not a leading authority. Astrology should definitely be a leading authority though and actually does have science backing it up. Psychology does not. Psychology just helps us understand certain behaviors or mindsets, but it should be a case by case basis. Astrology on the other hand actually has a "link" or "key" to certain aspects such as behaviors. Psychology only has assumptions. Astrology is as scientific as any other science. Psychology isn't a science at all. It's actually more of a philosophy or should be looked at on the same level as philosophy. I invite anyone to provide a single shred of evidence that links psychology as having any objective authority that doesn't border perceived tendencies, assumed behaviors, mental disorders, or stereotypical content. If anything, psychology is the complete opposite. As it is primarily ruled by bias, which makes no sense in a broader sense. Astrology on the other hand gets a bad reputation for being perceived for what psychology actually is. Which is biased as all get out. Astrology's backing is nothing BUT objective or scientific theories. The only contradictions are solely within the practitioners discretion or something that is arguably interpreted between people that understand it. The underlying objective material though is presumably correct in a natural form, or energies that encompass specific modalities. It's funny how psychology operates in the opposite fashion. It's perceived to be objectively sound, with absolutely ZERO evidence. Yet, it gets a better reputation compared to astrology. This blows my mind, especially when people ignorantly dismiss it without any intervention on their part.
No, I did not make this video specifically about anyone. It is for everyone. I am receiving many emails from people i don't know who have this aspect who are very upset I made this video only about them. I think some people may need to watch this video AGAIN. If you are feeling paranoid, then you may have some work yet to do regarding this aspect.
Doesn't astrology just prove itself out sometimes😋? Thanks for your continued support! Do you belong to my private teaching group on Facebook? You should join if not. You would fit right in. Message me for the name if your interested.
Well that sounds like fun as I am literally obsessed with astrology anymore. My contact info is: jh7058622@gmail.com And thank you for making these informative and educational videos that are honest and not self-pandering like other astrologers can sometimes do.
Alyssa has said she too experience 'this sort of FEEDBACK' when she did her #Aries [Mars] and #Capricorn videos. How does someone you don't know personally, take umbrage over any 'general' video? IF it doesn't apply, let it fly. Not to bring up the #psych101 class I took, but.. again, if a rank stranger is opining on *their* studies, *their* observations, how is one to take 'that' personal?? Unless... unless it *is* personal. Then, *how* is that *your* fault??
I know someone with this aspect and its spot on. Sensitive to criticism, low self-esteem, bisexual tendencies, creative and very hard to handle. This will help me a lot while interacting with that person.
@@dennisgrumple7754 If jewel claims "Bisexual tendencies" is true, then it must be the ultimate truth. LOL I think Jewel was brainwashed by Arroyo and Hickey. (both fatalistic wingnut astrologers)
Omg same here the person in my life has Mars in Aries and Neptune in Capricorn with a ton of Capricorn conjunctions which kept certain tendencies hidden. My intuition was hinting on the illusion but I hadn’t yet matured enough and with me having a 12th house Capricorn and Mars Cap rising and them having so many planets within my 12th house it took years for clarity. Be careful when dealing with these individuals intimately bc they can destroy your self esteem over time when you are young and inexperienced.
I watched this video about 6 months ago. I have gone thru quite a few transformations since then, and coming back and watching it again I realized that this video truly helped me transform through some pretty toxic behaviors. Thank you so much.
"People tend to lie to themselves with this one" So true! I tend to lie to myself that everything is ok with a person or that they will improve when at the same time I can feel and know that things will not get better. Even when I tell myself that "no, they do not want you around" I still forget and keep on doing the same thing. There is also a tendency for me to lie to myself and think that I am physically ugly when I am at least average. Fortunately, I am very self critical about my actions so I have not had many issues taking responsibility after childhood.
Very happy to hear this, I found myself laughing and cringing a bit throughout. I must have shed some light on this aspect of myself throughout the last few years, this was more of a relief to hear. I feel I have been acknowledged in some way.
I just want to thank you because your work has been so instrumental for me In being able to recognize self-diluting or escapist tendencies I have some other tough Neptune lol. You've saved me so much time and heartache and frustration. I also really like that you give tools for how to deal with difficult aspects.You're an amazing astrologer and I'm sure your work has helped so many people. You're awesome thanks again 😊
This is the “Will Hunting” placement. Talent with no direction. Big personality with no honesty and vulnerability. I can relate. I think the answer is self love and relationships. I make music so I’m sure that’s where I’ll have the chance to reach legendary works. But even then I see how I’ve been pressured to proof myself rather than being loved for who I am. So I’m repairing that through my journey. I need love. I’m oddly disciplined but the love is missing. I’m doing for people outside of myself so I can shift my focus. I think it’ll work out.
I absolutely love your work. Your are so insightful. I am fixen to book a reading soon :) I have sooooo much neptune in my chart and I appreciate your videos. They have helped me not get lost in delusion and fantasy Thanks you so much for everything you do.
This is by far the worst aspect in my natal chart. The struggle I've been through because of it without even knowing about it is, I think, my worst enemy, which makes myself my own worst enemy. You said people who have this have to be honest with themselves but that's so damn hard. And when I'm in autopilot, when I'm just minding my own goals, this all comes up in my mind and makes me question if I'm not just fooling myself again by thinking I'm in the right path. Honestly I don't know how to cope with this aspect haha Thanks for uploading this video, I love your channel
Thank you for this. This is spot on. When I was younger, this aspect was really hard to deal with. I have had good friends help me understand myself better so I could see and change the negative aspects of it over time. Also, channeling the energy through my body through yoga, dance, spiritual practices has helped immensely.
Hi Jewel. I just wanted to say thank you sooo much for the insight. I have struggled with this aspect my entire life. Almost everything you said was true. I struggled and sometimes still struggle with accepting criticism. I also had a horrible self esteem growing up and sexual confusion. Also, I am highly artistic and creative individual. My dream is to become a great screenwriter and film actor. Although this square is an obstacle but I am working and will continue working to see the higher octave.
I am glad that I didn't investigate this aspect of my chart until now. I also have a lot of 12th house planets and so have been trying work on those. I just never looked into this aspect before...like I was being shielded by the universe until I was ready. Weird. Thank you for being so forthcoming even though you know you may face criticism. These are things I've struggled with my whole life and pouring a light on the darkness helps even while it hurts. :) I must say though that i can take lovely pictures! So that's a plus! :)
I teared up a little, but only because your video was very helpful. I have this aspect in my chart and it's more of a difficulty now in life because I've been challenging it in order to become a more healthier minded person than I have been in situations and relationships. It's a struggle with this one in particular. I also study numerology and I know the personal year number I'm in for that is #7 "self reflection." I understand needing to work out this Mars aspect more than ever. Usually it's easier on my ego to blame others. But this year it feels like the universe has been forcing me to take a look at this specific placement and thanks to you I have a deeper understanding why. Thank you for your insight. I definitely will share you with my friends.
Thank goodness for you and this video. Before listening to it I had already gained the knowledge I did not know where my anger came from, nor why I used it so often; even IF I FELT it wasn’t necessary to use or be angry. What a blessing this video is. One step closer, thank you friend. ❤️ For all those that have hated on this video, please know you have helped me along my journey. I hope I speak louder then all their angry voices combined.
Brava! Brava! Another Brilliant Video! Spot on as usual Jewel! My father has this square in exact orb and his middle name is Defensiveness! Try living with someone who is very unconscious with this aspect! One thing is certain.. It will teach you patience, tolerance and compassion by force!
+Roberto Man Oh, I get it. I live with someone who struggles with this perception. I was recently blamed for him not getting to the bus on time because he didn't choose to get up when I woke him up. Then he spent an hour in the shower and became even later which was also somehow my fault. Then he actually missed the bus because a "car was blocking his way to cross the street! He would have been on time if that car hadn't of been there!" On and on and on.....it's a good thing this boy has sweet cheeks and a cute face.
hehhee... Very cute.. Well it is cute when its your SON with this defensiveness and not your DAD!As you accurately pointed out, one of the main characteristics of this placement is indeed an extremely fragile ego that is super sensitive to criticism!Talk about walking on permanent eggshells!
Neptune in Capricorn in the 1st house square Mars in Aries in the 3rd house, you feel worst this aspect when you grow in a disfunctional family and ambient. I'm still dealing with anger management and I feel really passive-aggressive and manipulative. I've sex compulsive thoughts and can't accept criticisms, much everything coming from people around me is an attack to my self and I react bad. I feel very sensitive since the childhood and I'm at the point in my life a preferr isolation from everything. I don't attract compassion because people around me feel like I'm very selfish and indifferent, and in part it's true because I hate ask for help and appear needy. My life is a mess.
Thank you sooo much for this reading. This resonated so deeply with me. I have this aspect - with Mars conjunct my north node in Libra 7th house, squaring neptune in Cap in my 10th house. I always thought my outbursts, lack of accountability, and defensiveness were due to me just being a terrible person lol (or at least so I thought.Turns out it was really low self esteem), but then as I learned about astrology and saw my scoprio moon in 8th house conjunct pluto, and my chiron in Virgo, and thought maybe those were the reasons? Because I was so secretive even with myself about my behaviors (again, I thought this was scoprio moon). But now looking at this aspect, I see it even clearer. I'm sorry you recieved emails where people were defensive about this, but I'm not surpirsed. I think about my past self and I would NEVER have been able to handle the truths you're speaking. This is such a difficult natal placement, but I'm so grateful for it because it does color life and I can't wait to see it fully utilized in my life in a productive way.
It is amazing that the more I learn about astrology, the more I identify things within myself and with people I have known for years. My best friend has this aspect, and it works exactly as described here. I have Mars trine Neptune, and I find that I am sensitive to a degree, but it is more toward the suffering of people and animals. It gets pretty irritating dealing with my friend though. She constantly bristles at any criticism, questioning of her actions, blatant proof that she is wrong, etc! Sigh, I still love her though:)
I have this aspect (Neptune conjunct midheaven square Mars conjunct ascendant) and while it's hard to admit this is pretty much true. I think both planets needs a healthy outlet, for me Mars needs exercise and Neptune needs creativity. Still it's difficult to handle.
I’ve just started exploring my harder aspects and this one is definitely on the nose. Thanks for telling it like it is. I’m definitely on a quest to become a kinder person, so hopefully I can channel this energy into my art and make my relationships better in the future 🤞🏽
Bless your heart Jewel, for this hard bit of truth. Explains soooo much. One of the positive ways I have used this aspect, is that I make art that expresses anger. I used to feel that I should express lighter themes in my art, that the angry themes disturbed people, and possibly kept me in a darker space, but lately I've been much clearer and willing to express the anger creatively and feel good about it. Thank you for helping me understand. Your courage to express the hard truths has helped me over and over again. ❤
Great video, I have this aspect, with my mars in Pisces 7th house & moon & saturn conj Neptune in Sagittarius 4th house. I definitely relate to this, especially in my childhood and early 20's, although life is still difficult, I've been working on my sensitivity, weak self esteem and anger problems. Its true, its so easy to slip into self denial- its an easy way out but the pain becomes that much deeper and harder to handle in the long run as I know my soul yearns for much more. My freedom comes from going within, meditating and counselling myself. I've discovered self compassion really helps. It has allowed me to accept myself for better or worse, and to slowly work through one issue at a time. Its almost like parenting yourself the way you needed to be parented as a child. I've also appreciated that everyone has something to share and on a deeper level everyone is a reflection of myself so I more readily hear and take peoples advice without being offended!! With my spiritual emotional work its helping me to really appreciate humility. I get to experiences peace without having to live up to anyone's standards expectations and just be. My life is far from perfect, & at times I think I know my purpose but then i can fall into confusion and wonder what my purpose really is or the purpose to life in general & not in a suicidal way anymore thank god. But I've come along way now and experience more joy than sadness more love for people than anger. So I think I'm doing something right. Thanx again for the video. Keep up the insightful videos.
I am the same as you minus saturn. Mine is part of a grand cross involving venus in the 10th and my ascendant. Going in really works for me too. Getting older helps as does working my ascendant. I stop and think what could be truth. Thankfully my Pluto is my savior also. It's all about using my power to go in then up and back out to be the SPIRITUAL WARRIOR empath that the Mars Pisces allows me to be. I am able to ask myself now exactly what is the high road in any given situation. Shalom to you dear sister.
This was great. I've always struggled with self esteem and I always seem to attract people that treat me bad in relationships, like narcissists and people that take advantage and I have been known to be very sensitive to critisism. With all that I can find myself being really defensive and sometimes I can blow up for the little things. I have been trying to ground myself more and if something triggers me I take a deep breath before reacting. My babies have been a blessing in learning to get a handle on all this ❤️
It is not because of this aspect. I know plenty of people with this aspect who didn't have the same experience as you. So, there may be something else in your charts that is causing this...
@@Darren_S you reflect on your behaviours and your intent. One thing I've noticed with narcissists is that they're inherently selfish and lack empathy so they'll do things like put you down or point out your flaws to make themselves feel better. They also blame shift, that person made me do it and refuse to work on their behaviours like go to therapy or something other type of healing their core wounds, if they finally get in to therapy because it's part of their future faking then most don't stick around because the therapist sides with their partners and don't know what they're talking about etc because most narcissists won't admit that their behaviours are the problem.
This video was amazing. I totally agree in regards of the confusion, the passive-aggressive behavior, to hurt someone and still play the victim, not seeing clearly, dissociate from one’s self, and lastly, not being open to feedback, blame everything on everyone. I also have moon square Neptune, and sun square Pluto 😂 but it’s ok. I’m glad Im finally able to notice and take action. To finally get in touch with reality, stop hurting the people I’m lucky to have by my side. Thank you for this video!
Therapy helped me sooo much working on this aspect! My self-esteem and self-worth indeed were low. It's amazing to learn how to manage this aspect (frustrations, low self esteem, etc) honestly my quality of life increased significantly. I do love photography btw! people say I'm very good at it :)
Man. Thank you so much for your honesty about this aspect. I really want to do things differently; I don't want to be at the mercy of Neptune. I saw myself in a lot of the issues described. Thank you for your insight and here's to working through it all one day at a time. :)
Hard to hear but very true and extremely helpful! My Mars is conjunct my ascendant and this video literally describes the first 35 years of my life. It took a lot of focus to hold myself accountable with this aspect. Criticism is something I still have to stop and talk myself through from time to time. 😊
Watching your videos really helped me snap out my Neptune fog (Neptune opp venus semi square mars) and see the kind of people I attract, like those with this aspect for example. Thank you!
I have this square at a 0.7 orb, Mars Libra 9th, Neptune Cap 12th. I majored in film in uni, and yes anger is a prominent emotion in my life. Haven't been able to express it in healthy ways, and it's come out as seizures when I was younger. But, I am aware of my anger, and I see it as a gift. Anger used constructively, healthfully, is a powerful emotive catalyst in creativity, advocacy. Using the squares in my chart for growth :).
I do feel this aspect in a lot of my relationships with people. My mars is in Scorpio in the 4th house, and this is a major aspect of my psyche. With these aspects I already feel the passive-aggressiveness or subtle manipulation that I can express in situations where I am very angry. However, mars in scorpios also tend to hold things in for a very long time until they are overwhelmed with emotion, and I find myself spending more time doing this than actually acting upon my frustrations. It is also a very hard aspect to feel because the aggression I can sometimes direct towards friends or family are often spur of the moment, but will continually be held against me because of how spur of the moment it was. My moon is also in aries, so it is generally hard for me to hold grudges that maybe I should be holding. The fantasy aspect of this position is pretty prominent for me, I would say. I find myself lost in daydream a lot and it becomes very distracting. However, I do not really see the touchy ego aspect of this position. It is very rare that I get angry and I like to think that when I do it is for good reason
I have this aspect, I have a T square : - Mars is conjunct Saturn in 5th, squaring Neptune on 6th/7th house cusp, which is in direct opposition to Venus in 12th (conjunct ascendant/descendant axis). What on Earth did I sign up for this lifetime?!? . . . So this video was really helpful, thank you Jewel!! Your clarity and directness in your videos is really helpful for anyone who wants to really heal and grow into their full potential. This video has helped me to realise where I might not be seeing my own subtle aggressions when I communicate with others, especially my partener. Also where maybe I perceive criticism in subtle ways, where maybe there was no criticism intended. Really useful because now I can watch out for this more in my interactions. I just hope I can see through the Neptune fog, and have the courage to see where I'm using this aspect negatively.
I’m so glad I found your video!! I love your education style, and your honesty. I too have this square (Mars 1, Neptune 4) You bring to light the good and the negative. Explains so much of what’s going on in me., and how I really need to control my aggression. I’ve just had my Neptune return - 42yr old. I’ve become more in tune with myself and trying to be me…I now identify as bisexual, and have joined the lifestyle with my partner. I’m exploring my sexuality…but I have a hard time receiving pleasure as I fell I don’t deserve it. Self esteem is still low, and I have the tendency to rely on substances. How would my moon/neptune conjugation affect this square?
Great video! And very on point. I was just made aware of this natal aspect in my chart. And it answered all the questions about myself that I couldn't figure out. You are right about all of the points you made. However, I am Libra rising so I don't get made often, but when I do it is ONLY in committed relationships, or family relationships, that I express it. And you were accurate about using my Mars to describe my Neptune. And I always date emotionally unavailable people. That had a rude or Disrespectful personality some times. I am also an Actor, and I used my career to face many of my self expression anxieties. As well as learn how to accept all forms of criticism and rejection.😅 And when it comes to sexuality, I have always had this deep deep subconscious shame of being sexually active, or just sexually interested. I grew up believing women thought it was bad if you were sexually attracted to them. I also grew up with a fear of disrespecting and coming off as a bad guy toward women, so I always froze when it came time to be sexually assertive. Flirting always seemed like I would be seen as a pig, or ass hole. It was so sad 😅 I would go on dates and women would look for me to make a move, but it was like my Neptune would make me doubt that I'm reading their body Language correctly until after the moment passed and everything fell apart. This natal transit is a soul crusher for sure. I cannot tell you how many dates I've been on where at the end of the night my date would look to me to kiss them and I just couldn't move, cause i was afraid of being wrong. And to see their eyes go from hopeful to disappointed has haunted me for decades. This transit is literally a karmic debt being paid. Powerlessness personified. But it is what it is, I'm just happy to know the cause, so I can find the solution. And experience life with my WILL POWER intact. I'm not an aggressive person, Virgo sun, Libra Rising, Cap Moon. But I would like to be much more direct and transparent. Be able to introduce myself to people in social settings, and calmly say NO, communicate my boundaries, and enjoy myself more. I know how to do all these things in theory, but execution is a Mars thing. So now I'm on a mission to heal this aspect by improving my self worth, and self esteem. And cultivating a relationship with my anger, and imagination. Being more objective, and less emotionally motivated. Thanks again this was a great video. You should make a part 2❤🎉❤
Reading your comment touched my heart. Wow you are a rare diamond as I rarely see men who possess such a degree of insightfulness, self awareness and accountability. 🥹 You go sir 👏🏾
Awww, I’m so sorry that you receive such negative feedback (and, it sounds like some of that feedback is also scary!!) for both this and the Sun Square Pluto videos. I have both of these aspects and both videos have been tremendously helpful for me. So it hurts to hear that such helpful advice you’re giving draws such ire! Thank you, thank you, thank you for uploading these videos! I’m very grateful to all of the advice and insight that you provide on your channel.
So insightful, Jewel, thank you! That explains a lot. If only I had studied astrology before I married someone with this aspect… In my experience, your description of the anger-projection-explosion pattern is dead on; granted, other factors in his chart strongly reinforced this, perhaps especially his Jupiter-Sun-Pluto-Uranus conjunction-stellium (by both sign and house) all sextile Neptune. If you're trying to bring compassion to someone with this square, I feel compelled to add that I think it's essential to have rock-solid personal boundaries; even so, they may not respect those boundaries unless you absolutely insist on that point, and perhaps not even then. In my case, the core issues I was bringing to the mix from my own chart only served to amplify the conflict (including Sun quincunx Moon-conjunct-Juno retrograde)-that is, I was futilely attempting to please someone who would not, could not be pleased and to soothe an anger that he cherished and clung to above all else. Not a pretty picture, but undoubtedly a powerful lesson.
I fear rejection and find myself avoiding a lot. Criticism and embarrassment can make me isolate and avoid. Neptune also squares my sun and opposes 12h Jupiter. It’s like a bad feedback loop. attraction-repulsion to sexuality, my artistic abilities, and ability to be assertive, achieve and just do. Self esteem tends to be v low. I definitely act like nothing is wrong to others, but am very aware, and feel like I’m in constant battle w myself. I’ve had to develop a lot of compassion for myself (always working on it) and in turn others. im working to towards being a therapist now. Thank you for this!!
My mom (only parent) has it (Mars in the 5th and Neptune in the 2nd) so imagine what it did to my life. My whole life I've been trying to find a way to communicate with her and this New Year's Eve I gave up. I'm 37 and exhausted. I also have Pluto, Lilith (square Moon in the 7th) and Uranus in my 4th house (Scorpio). I feel like an orphan ... but I'll be fine soon :) . Love you, Jewel!
Omg I'm so sorry you had this experience. It's frustrating when you can't get through to the person who gave birth to you, a very lonely feeling. I don't have any children, but I would certainly hate to effect them in this way,being I have this exact placement. If you feel comfortable, would you mind sharing a few things a person with this aspect and this placement could do to improve, from your experience? If not I totally understand and I hope things have improved for the two of you in a years time.
Sorry you had to deal with that. The father of my 2 kids has this too and I had to give up on him. He's 57 and still doesn't get it. His is mars in Leo in the 8th square Neptune Scorpio in 11th. He also has Mercury opp. Neptune, Mercury square Mars, and Venus opposite Pluto, Moon square Uranus and Pluto as well with an Aries sun. He has a very peculiar sexuality, perverted, disgusting and vile tbh, he has a thing for incest too, and I think he does not admit to himself his gay or bisexual tendencies. I'm not the only one to say that either. Wish I knew about astrology when I met him..
I have this aspect . I watch your videos all the time . I was setting here with my mom and i brought up one of your videos for her chart. Your like a spunkier version of my mom but i told her i watch you because you remind me of what and how a therapist acts . Your amazing & i really enjoy all your videos !
very true i have a virgo moon that tends to lessen the sting of critics. If its something I know I worked on for myself i tend to say "Oh okay" and keep doing what i want but if its something I've been analyzing about myself and someone notices and brings it up i love to hear their input. my self esteem is trash and I've been trying to do more for myself I've had some set backs but My heart is getting pretty cold and even tho to me its a sad thing.. Its been helping me get rid of toxic people without feeling like i owe them something or they owe me anymore damage than I've already allowed
Thank you Jewel! The transiting Mars/Neptune square is in a T-square with my natal Moon (19Vi close to 20), it started feeling quite exhausting and with some energetical and emotional burnout. I am so much waiting for it to be over and alsp tired of Neptune opposing my moon. With also transiting Pluto on my Mars & Mercury, only dance and music help yet fell sick again.
I have this close square aspect occurring in my 2nd and 5th house (however my south node is conjuct my Mars at exact degree's so this changes it a bit. Never really had an issue with being too passive-aggressive haha). No, you are completely right IMO. I have only recently started to really harness my Mars power and use the energy to positively get in tune with my higher self and to be of service to humanity. Yes, it is a TOUGH aspect to have natally. I won't go into much detail here, but the sexual things you said were on-point. If you require more info to better understand this aspect, I would be more than happy to give it to you personally, Jewel :)
So good! Thank you so much for this. I have this placement and mars square Saturn inconjunct Neptune. This has been so difficult for me. And I can only say that I had to become very devoted to self knowledge and the occult to learn and mature with this. Thank you
Wow I've been in "school" by the Universe and found this...explains a lot...to complicate it, My Leo Mars is conjunct with my Ascendant and opposite Aquarius Saturn, with Neptune sitting in the middle of a conjunct stellium of my Sun, Venus, and Mercury in Scorpio. The icing on the cake is that my North Node is in Leo just above Mars but exiting in the 12th house....more Neptune! My life path is clear....I need to become aware of who I really am BEHIND THE CURTAIN and accept that person unconditionally. How to do it is another story....at least I am aware now....thank you!
Scorpio mars 5th square Aqua Neptune 9th. So I've suffered from low self-esteem issues in the past and I get defensive very quickly. My sex life has been very rocky, to the point I have no idea what I like, it's confusing. I've been in relationships where I've just let my partners walk over me or where I've thought "this must be love" when it's just me getting used and them being manipulative. I'm growing up now and learning but this placement isn't an easy one.
I have Taurus Mars (3rd House) and Aquarius Neptune (retrograde, 1st house)... and this video hit me too hard. WTF, when you said "they're really good at film... and photography," STOP, I'M LITERALLY PRAISED FOR IT AHHHHH.
Hi Jewel! I'm not at all upset with this video. I have a Mars Square Neptune aspect in my chart, but my Mars is in Libra and Neptune in Capricorn. I'm a Scorpio Stellium and Moon in Capricorn. And I'm gay. That being said. I am extremely sensitive in the ego area. I've had periods of low self esteem and feelings of unworthiness. But I think the lashing out is kept to a minimum because of my Scorpio and Lunar Capricorn nature. Both of those signs cannot express emotion. No one knows when I'm in an inner conflict. I also have natal Mercury retrograde. I think that makes me softspoken and unwilling to speak out without thinking. And I definitely catch myself lying to myself. And I definitely victimize myself when others are accusing my of things because my Neptune is definitely kind and giving to others. I can quickly make them feel like they should be the ones apologizing to me. 😥 So, you are definitely spot on. That's how I know your videos are authentic. And I think that since my Saturn's return already happened, I'm much more of an adult now to see my light and shadow selves. You're my favorite TH-cam astrologer! Thank you 😋
Morrison Dragon you sound like me! I have mars in libra square Neptune Capricorn. Also a Scorpio stellium with sun mercury Pluto Venus and moon. And I’m gay lol
Wow, you have a very similar chart to the guy I'm 'dating', except his Mars is in Virgo and he's straight. His Venus also in Virgo squaring his Neptune as well and I believe he has severe fear of rejection, low self esteem, feeling unworthy. He also has an extremely difficult time at communication, maybe his mercury is in retrograde as well, I don't know I'm not that good at Astro. He's a scorpio stellium, cap moon (like me) and has the Neptune in Cap squaring the mars and venus😪 I feel very protective towards him♡
I've Mars Leo 8th square Neptune Scorpio 11th and I don't have a problem acknowledging I've problems so no issues with the lady here telling me about me.
My childrens father has mars in libra square Neptune. For majority of his late teens and 20's he was a closeted bisexual. He became enraged when I found out even though I was accepting of his sexuality. I use to believe it was because my sun in Capricorn squared his mars why he would lash out at me whenever he would face real life problems and beat myself up whenever he accused me of being in his way whenever he would make selfish decisions like be a cross country truck driver or just up and moving out our home because it was hard being a parent. Whenever I would just listen to him and leave him alone entirely. He would cry. Literally cry and then cry to others and posts on social media of how much of a good person he was, how much he loves hes children and how he can't wait to really fall in love ect. Ect. He always comes around with the expectation like he should be greeted with open arms and admired (whenever he feels like being a father). In my opinion, and again I understand we have narly aspects that we make in synastry outside of our own natal aspects... But in my opinion I feel like an unhealthy mars square Neptune definitely makes a person hypersensitive to others and also makes a person deceptive to themselves and others. Its very difficult coparenting with a person who lies to themselves and anyone else with eyes and ears.
My friend that has this aspect has had a 4 hour a day pornography addiction issue (which lasted for years). Finally quit cold turkey about a year ago, and has felt better since he quit.
Thank you for this explenation. It really resonated with me and i see where this has applied to me in certain situation. I truly strive to hecome a better person everyday and you sharing your knowledge through your videos is helping me see my blind spots.
I have this aspect and a lot of the things that you've talked about I have experienced and do recognize. It's not easy living with this aspect until one does the work on letting go of their childhood issues. This way one can acknowledge their own behaviors witout being too hard on themselves which is what people with this aspect do sometimes...which is why they have a hard time with criticism. Healing techniques, self partnering and heaps of self love is needed pronto. So that being said, I don't feel you were misleading anyone here. I do feel however that in this video there was a lot of emphasis on the negative qualities of this aspect and though it's important to talk about that part of the energy expressed through this aspect, there seemed to be a large portion of the video that concentrates on this and also be judgement towards the people who have it. I got the sense that you personally experienced this with someone and the energy of that experience came throug. Maybe that's why people are taking things said in this video so personally. I'm comparing it to the other videos Ive watched of yours.
No, it is not personal to me. I hear that A LOT when a video is upsetting to someone. I receive comments all the time accusing me of projecting. I’m just explaining an aspect.
I have this placement.. mars in taurus and aqua neptune (also moon) so both square mars.. i am soo sensitive and defensive and I really dislike this aspect and the my mars in taurus makes it not very direct with my anger so I usually hold everything in and it's even worse
Mars in Libra Rx Square Neptune in Sagittarius -- so much of this was spot on, including the sexuality pieces. Working on the defensive/passive aggressive nature and self-compassion. Love the way you express yourself. Thank you.
Nadia, I’m dating someone who I really like but who also has Mars in Libra Square Neptune in Sagittarius. Sun in Taurus, Aquarius moon, Venus in Aries. I’m really confused by his inconsistencies and insecurities … (I’m Taurus Sun and Scorpio moon) would love some clarity coming from someone who clearly gets it more! I’m mars in Gemini and he seems very sexually keen but very passive and disinterested/overwhelmed by in anything outside vanilla.. pls help!
@@RomiKia I can’t speak to the vanilla sexuality at all, I’m sorry. I’m actually the complete opposite. I’m also a Scorpio moon like you though, so that brings a whole different dynamic. You are acutely sensual and an Aquarius Moon person (who you are dating) is not really. I wish I could help more, but I bet you could get a great relationship reading from this astrologer! She specializes in that, I think!
My husband has this square... he also has Aries in the 12th and Mars in Pisces emphasizing this. Thanks for this video, it has given me so much clarity.
I have Mars in Virgo(6th House) Square Neptune in Sagittarius(9th House). Oh boy...Passive Aggressiveness - checked; defensiveness - checked...The think is I realize these bad traits of my personality but it`s so hard to change them. On top of this I have moon opposite Pluto which amplifies the touchiness. The other thing which is hard for me due to this aspect is lack of major life direction in terms of satisfying career. I feel it has to be something creative but don`t know what :) fogginess -checked! The question I want to ask is the following - is there an option a very strong aspect like Mars Conjunction Jupiter which gives a courage, expansion and good vibes overall to knock off this not so easy Mars-Neptune aspect? Thanks in advance!
I also have moon opposition Pluto in addition to 8th house aries Mars square 5th house capricorn Neptune. Neptune also rules my Pisces 7th house and it is conduct my 5th house cusp in which my sun and Mercury reside. I also struggle with knowing what to do for a career.
I had an ex with this aspect, as well as having hard aspects between his venus/pluto and venus/saturn. He was extremely abusive and manipulative. I can see this aspect in the arguments that we would have. He would become defensive and abusive if you tried to call him out on anything. There was no working around it. He was the most draining person that I have ever encountered. I know she said to be compassionate with these people, but man, that goes out the window if you have ever dealt with my ex.
True. Some people can't be helped and it is better off walking away. Sometimes it's necessary self preservation. My ex has this, Mars Leo 8th and Neptune Scorpio 11th (I've heard this be called a dark square) Venus opp Pluto, Mercury square Mars, Merc Opp Neptune, Moon square Uranus and Pluto, and Aries sun. He's 57 and still hasn't gotten it.
Hey love I am in deep appreciation for this information 🙏🏾🙏🏻🙏🏾🙏🏻🙏🏾 It is on point! Acceptance, transformation, mental and spiritual emancipation I wish you love, bliss and ecstasy ❤️
I have this natally as the focus of a t-square with Mercury as the third planet. My Mars is quite weak, though. It's retrograde in Libra in the 2nd house. Neptune is in the 4th (placidus houses). I struggle with taking things way too personally. Eventually instead of getting mad I just started being even more silent instead. The self-esteem problems with this aspect are only enhanced by the weak Mars. I do have a little bit of an ego but it doesn't want to come with me when I leave the house.
What a synchronicity! I was thinking about this aspect yesterday and the way it manifests in my mind and behavior (I have trine) and now this video... :) Not a nice one but I'm trying to see the gifts - stop daydreaming, clear the fog, take action! Thanks once again for a great interpretation!
I believe a coworker of mine has this aspect. If it wasnt this one its some kind of hard aspect to Mars in general. He comes into work and it almost sounds like every word he speaks must have to do with himself. And if someone even jokes with him about how he isnt actually "all that" he will look you in the eye and try to defend himself, but oddly in the most compassionate sounding voice ever and it is an odd thing to witness. But he is very creative. He knows how to work lights and displays at music concerts etc from what I hear and hes working his way up. But he cannot take haters lightly lol or will not allow anyone to "disrespect" him, talk about negatively or control him even though no one actually was! Lol
I was studying the birth chart of someone in my family who clinically has narcissistic personality disorder, saw they had Mars square Neptune at a 0°09 orb, and found this video. Wow if this doesn't explain this individual to a T. Of course, not everyone who has this aspect will have NPD, but I think this aspect (especially since it's such a tight aspect) really manifests glaringly in the NPD of my family member. She probably would have been one of the ones writing you an email if she was into astrology and saw this. She's very quick to criticize others but shrinks into a crying and angry mess if you criticize her (and then she'll refuse to let you see her children, spread rumors about you, etc)
Do the comments on this video reflect kindness? Some do, others decidedly do not. Not everyone with this aspect will be kind and not everyone with this aspect will be defensive. It depends on the entirety of the personality. I make videos about one thing at a time but you have to consider everything to be able to accurate assess the totality of the beliefs described by a birth chart.
Why would there be negative comments for this video? Very detailed and accurate. Basically i am "doomed" since i have this Mars Rx Square Neptune (very very tight square) And it doesnt help that i have Mars Rx 12H on Asc, Neptune 10H on MC, Sun 6H on Dsc, all in a super tight T-square plus Chiron 4H on my IC completes it as a Grand Cross!!! But living with a super critical Virgo Moon 10H husband has made me become much more realistic with my self and open to criticisms. I could confidently say that i most probably "solved" this square like u said! Hahaha... I agree with like almost everything u said about this square, except that i am not homosexual. I am good at photography like u said. Hehe. And i am definitely not hurt by ur video! Ur blog rocks!
So.. how do I resolve this square? There's no one to be compassionate and gentle with me because none of my exes could handle me in the long run with my passive aggressiveness and outburst of blaming, many times which I regret shortly. It doesn't help that I'm in a creative field where criticism is essential in everyday work; with a libra mars and pisces rising I just end up sulking and being depressed instead of lashing out at work. All I can do is keep telling myself the criticisms are nothing personal (which I of course don't truly believe) and that I should just do whatever I can. TLDR; I'm extremely aware of the issues this aspect causes, and I have no idea how to stop myself or get myself out of it. It's ruining my life. Help :(
I would suggest making a real effort to understand yourself because there's no guarantee somebody else will always understand you. That may seem sad, but I do think it's true. Try seeing the other person's perspective the next time you think they're being critical of you, it can help soften the impact if only by a little. And if that doesn't help, try to not give a reaction, or be very detached about it. I'm living with Mars square Neptune in my birth chart and I can relate to your experiences. I've come to my own conclusion that self-awareness and detachment are the answers to most issues this aspect brings. Though I'll also say that, from my experience, I think I'll always be challenged. From my lack of self-confidence to my apathy and confusion... Yeah, it can be too much for me _and_ others. Still, all we can do is try and try, right?
I have this aspect. Mars 11th house and Neptune 7th. Delusional notions of how I’m perceived publicly or by others in general used to thwart my ambitions...or say my Neptune like escapism undermined my position in a group, and especially my place in society...my desires for a perfect love life/partner muddled my ability to visualize a future...house placement is important. Post my first Saturn return I have much more self awareness.
Really? Yipes👀 I have mars(leo)■Pluto(scorpio). I used to rage but only at injustice and being crossed, cheated and lied to...and not often. Now it's totally mellowed out but there if I ever need it. Manifests more as a powerful aura. So, I'm considering dating this guy, he has Neptune in Capricorn squaring both Mars and Venus in Virgo...should I be worried??? 😅👀 Also, now I'm worried he's secretly gay or bi..👀🙈🙈🙈
Jewel, this aspect is shared by 2 former friends of mine: both Sun in Cancer (2 days apart) and best friends since forever. They share Mercury in Gemini & Mars in Aries sq to Neptune in Capricorn, under a 5° orb too. On top of that, Lilith on Pluto & Eris on Mars (tight orbs for both). Believe me, I have seen ALL of this play out- especially the negative and nasty. One was gay, the other a photographer. It was curious to see them together though. Both would take turns insulting and belittling the other, but there was this odd sort of understanding, possibly why they are still friends. As we speak, they are experiencing Pluto sq to their Mars. I wish them the best. They've caused me a lot of pain over the years, and it took me a long time to see through to it- both Neptune's sq'd my ASC.
What a story! Astrology proves itself, doesn't it? A passive aggressive photographer...wouldn't you know it?! People with similar aspects can and do often have an affinity for each other. They reinforce each other's beliefs about their world.
I know a person with this, Mars in Pisces square Neptune in Sagittarius, it's like you say, at first I didn't understand his passive aggressive attitude, I just didn't listen to him and I didn't encourage his attitude either, because my Saturn in Pisces is conjunct his Mars in Pisces and his ascendant, so from the beginning he also aroused my fears because I feel that he is capable of anything and has no limits, I always keep a physical distance from him, I don't like it when he is very close to me.
My scorpio Mars is semi square to my Capricorn Neptune so i definitely relate to a lot of what you discussed. Luckily that Capricorn energy aids with my judgement and discernment a tad more than most with this placement but this was a great interpretation. ❤️
Thankyou for your advice I have this square and a moon square Venus and a Venus oppose Pluto. Getting through these rough patches are so hard but I am willing to do the shadow work necessary to love myself, and see my light. I’ve suffered from low self esteem my whole life..
Jewel, you are so amazing, what would so many of us and the world do without you? Much appreciation and humblely respecting and looking up to you for all the effort you put in. Thanks a lot. I have this aspect and It can be difficult to accept too much responsibility, working on it, may be my Ego fantasy can trick itself to be rewarded with something grand if I squeeze out what is to be expected out of me, you are a blessing. Please keep posting! Thanks! Can you also do Mars square Uranus in natal birth chart.
Being with someone with this aspect is crazy making because they will make you feel like dogshit but it’s because they are they ones that are messed up. So it’s literally the most aggravating kind of projection bc they will harm you if you aren’t strong enough.
Very accurate sadly. When I interact with people it’s like an alternate personality kicks in. I do my best to be authentic but it’s almost automatic. Also can be very defensive and can easily lie to myself. I try with both though. More to go.
I searched out this aspect today because some other natal chart interpretations said to “Avoid Psychic Work.” I do not really understand why this is because I have strong psychic abilities. I imagine the strong propensity to lie to myself may have triggered the warning. What do you think?
Ego/self dellusion ego undoing by forcing will manipulation to force ego cannot see self hypersensitive ego sex manipulation/dellusion the 2 houses that the square occurs shows the area of life that connects the 2, using victimhood to force will
It's so amazing how astrology can make us understand things that psychology does.
It’s sad the psychology field does not recognize it and utilize it. I would bet it would complete it...the psychology field is severely lacking.
It blows my mind
Psychology to me is too open ended compared to astrology. It only really works its best with animals for the most part. I haven't heard of a single shred of evidence that can link anything that psychology has to offer to why humans do anything. It's always shrouded and completely complicated as well as arbitrary. The human mind is too complex to account for anything more than instinct, serious disorders, or anything out of our control. Anything we think about that's within our control can only exist psychology wise with tendencies, stereotypes, or groups. Even then though, it is still illogical to lump everyone into a certain context based off of a flawed set of historical precepts, especially a study in which doesn't have any scientific aspects. The simultaneous coinciding with human intelligence in conjunction with a perceived psychology study creates a serious contradiction that merely results, or defaults to a seriously problematic presumptive subjective material. I would take it a step further to say that psychology should be offensive to humans, since it implies that our minds work in an almost controlled fashion. We are deep, beautiful, autonomous, free, and void of any programming beyond belief.
Psychology shouldn't be a major study or "subject," it should only be used as a tool for certain situations, not a leading authority.
Astrology should definitely be a leading authority though and actually does have science backing it up. Psychology does not. Psychology just helps us understand certain behaviors or mindsets, but it should be a case by case basis.
Astrology on the other hand actually has a "link" or "key" to certain aspects such as behaviors. Psychology only has assumptions. Astrology is as scientific as any other science. Psychology isn't a science at all. It's actually more of a philosophy or should be looked at on the same level as philosophy.
I invite anyone to provide a single shred of evidence that links psychology as having any objective authority that doesn't border perceived tendencies, assumed behaviors, mental disorders, or stereotypical content. If anything, psychology is the complete opposite. As it is primarily ruled by bias, which makes no sense in a broader sense.
Astrology on the other hand gets a bad reputation for being perceived for what psychology actually is. Which is biased as all get out. Astrology's backing is nothing BUT objective or scientific theories. The only contradictions are solely within the practitioners discretion or something that is arguably interpreted between people that understand it. The underlying objective material though is presumably correct in a natural form, or energies that encompass specific modalities. It's funny how psychology operates in the opposite fashion. It's perceived to be objectively sound, with absolutely ZERO evidence. Yet, it gets a better reputation compared to astrology. This blows my mind, especially when people ignorantly dismiss it without any intervention on their part.
No, I did not make this video specifically about anyone. It is for everyone. I am receiving many emails from people i don't know who have this aspect who are very upset I made this video only about them. I think some people may need to watch this video AGAIN. If you are feeling paranoid, then you may have some work yet to do regarding this aspect.
You were so right about bracing yourself for the comments.
Doesn't astrology just prove itself out sometimes😋? Thanks for your continued support! Do you belong to my private teaching group on Facebook? You should join if not. You would fit right in. Message me for the name if your interested.
Well that sounds like fun as I am literally obsessed with astrology anymore.
My contact info is: jh7058622@gmail.com
And thank you for making these informative and educational videos that are honest and not self-pandering like other astrologers can sometimes do.
Hey Jewel I can't seem to find your Facebook page can you link it?
Alyssa has said she too experience 'this sort of FEEDBACK' when she did her #Aries [Mars] and #Capricorn videos.
How does someone you don't know personally, take umbrage over any 'general' video? IF it doesn't apply, let it fly. Not to bring up the #psych101 class I took, but.. again, if a rank stranger is opining on *their* studies, *their* observations, how is one to take 'that' personal?? Unless... unless it *is* personal. Then, *how* is that *your* fault??
I appreciate that you say these things that are hard to accept. It has honestly changed my life
+Jaime Arnold you are welcome ❤️
You are almost describing vulnerable narcissism with this aspect.
I know someone with this aspect and its spot on. Sensitive to criticism, low self-esteem, bisexual tendencies, creative and very hard to handle. This will help me a lot while interacting with that person.
Bisexual tendencies 😂 wtf
@@dennisgrumple7754 If jewel claims "Bisexual tendencies" is true, then it must be the ultimate truth. LOL I think Jewel was brainwashed by Arroyo and Hickey. (both fatalistic wingnut astrologers)
@@jolliepoussey9 who is Jewell babe
Same here. Spot on. 😂
Omg same here the person in my life has Mars in Aries and Neptune in Capricorn with a ton of Capricorn conjunctions which kept certain tendencies hidden. My intuition was hinting on the illusion but I hadn’t yet matured enough and with me having a 12th house Capricorn and Mars Cap rising and them having so many planets within my 12th house it took years for clarity.
Be careful when dealing with these individuals intimately bc they can destroy your self esteem over time when you are young and inexperienced.
I watched this video about 6 months ago. I have gone thru quite a few transformations since then, and coming back and watching it again I realized that this video truly helped me transform through some pretty toxic behaviors. Thank you so much.
"People tend to lie to themselves with this one" So true! I tend to lie to myself that everything is ok with a person or that they will improve when at the same time I can feel and know that things will not get better. Even when I tell myself that "no, they do not want you around" I still forget and keep on doing the same thing. There is also a tendency for me to lie to myself and think that I am physically ugly when I am at least average. Fortunately, I am very self critical about my actions so I have not had many issues taking responsibility after childhood.
Relatable 🖤🌹
Very happy to hear this, I found myself laughing and cringing a bit throughout.
I must have shed some light on this aspect of myself throughout the last few years, this was more of a relief to hear. I feel I have been acknowledged in some way.
I just want to thank you because your work has been so instrumental for me In being able to recognize self-diluting or escapist tendencies I have some other tough Neptune lol. You've saved me so much time and heartache and frustration. I also really like that you give tools for how to deal with difficult aspects.You're an amazing astrologer and I'm sure your work has helped so many people. You're awesome thanks again 😊
This is one of the toughest aspects in a natal chart 👍 very well explained Jewel!
This is the “Will Hunting” placement. Talent with no direction. Big personality with no honesty and vulnerability. I can relate. I think the answer is self love and relationships.
I make music so I’m sure that’s where I’ll have the chance to reach legendary works. But even then I see how I’ve been pressured to proof myself rather than being loved for who I am. So I’m repairing that through my journey.
I need love. I’m oddly disciplined but the love is missing.
I’m doing for people outside of myself so I can shift my focus. I think it’ll work out.
I absolutely love your work. Your are so insightful. I am fixen to book a reading soon :) I have sooooo much neptune in my chart and I appreciate your videos. They have helped me not get lost in delusion and fantasy Thanks you so much for everything you do.
This is by far the worst aspect in my natal chart. The struggle I've been through because of it without even knowing about it is, I think, my worst enemy, which makes myself my own worst enemy. You said people who have this have to be honest with themselves but that's so damn hard. And when I'm in autopilot, when I'm just minding my own goals, this all comes up in my mind and makes me question if I'm not just fooling myself again by thinking I'm in the right path. Honestly I don't know how to cope with this aspect haha
Thanks for uploading this video, I love your channel
Thank you for this. This is spot on. When I was younger, this aspect was really hard to deal with. I have had good friends help me understand myself better so I could see and change the negative aspects of it over time. Also, channeling the energy through my body through yoga, dance, spiritual practices has helped immensely.
My ex had this square. You've nailed it.
Hi Jewel. I just wanted to say thank you sooo much for the insight. I have struggled with this aspect my entire life. Almost everything you said was true. I struggled and sometimes still struggle with accepting criticism. I also had a horrible self esteem growing up and sexual confusion. Also, I am highly artistic and creative individual. My dream is to become a great screenwriter and film actor. Although this square is an obstacle but I am working and will continue working to see the higher octave.
I am glad that I didn't investigate this aspect of my chart until now. I also have a lot of 12th house planets and so have been trying work on those. I just never looked into this aspect before...like I was being shielded by the universe until I was ready. Weird. Thank you for being so forthcoming even though you know you may face criticism. These are things I've struggled with my whole life and pouring a light on the darkness helps even while it hurts. :) I must say though that i can take lovely pictures! So that's a plus! :)
omg wow I'm so happy I found this video AFTER I've done the work. What a validation of the struggle I've just came out of. Thank you for the video!
I teared up a little, but only because your video was very helpful. I have this aspect in my chart and it's more of a difficulty now in life because I've been challenging it in order to become a more healthier minded person than I have been in situations and relationships. It's a struggle with this one in particular. I also study numerology and I know the personal year number I'm in for that is #7 "self reflection." I understand needing to work out this Mars aspect more than ever. Usually it's easier on my ego to blame others. But this year it feels like the universe has been forcing me to take a look at this specific placement and thanks to you I have a deeper understanding why. Thank you for your insight. I definitely will share you with my friends.
Thank goodness for you and this video. Before listening to it I had already gained the knowledge I did not know where my anger came from, nor why I used it so often; even IF I FELT it wasn’t necessary to use or be angry. What a blessing this video is. One step closer, thank you friend. ❤️ For all those that have hated on this video, please know you have helped me along my journey. I hope I speak louder then all their angry voices combined.
This was nice
Brava! Brava! Another Brilliant Video! Spot on as usual Jewel! My father has this square in exact orb and his middle name is Defensiveness! Try living with someone who is very unconscious with this aspect! One thing is certain.. It will teach you patience, tolerance and compassion by force!
+Roberto Man Oh, I get it. I live with someone who struggles with this perception. I was recently blamed for him not getting to the bus on time because he didn't choose to get up when I woke him up. Then he spent an hour in the shower and became even later which was also somehow my fault. Then he actually missed the bus because a "car was blocking his way to cross the street! He would have been on time if that car hadn't of been there!" On and on and on.....it's a good thing this boy has sweet cheeks and a cute face.
hehhee... Very cute.. Well it is cute when its your SON with this defensiveness and not your DAD!As you accurately pointed out, one of the main characteristics of this placement is indeed an extremely fragile ego that is super sensitive to criticism!Talk about walking on permanent eggshells!
Neptune in Capricorn in the 1st house square Mars in Aries in the 3rd house, you feel worst this aspect when you grow in a disfunctional family and ambient. I'm still dealing with anger management and I feel really passive-aggressive and manipulative. I've sex compulsive thoughts and can't accept criticisms, much everything coming from people around me is an attack to my self and I react bad. I feel very sensitive since the childhood and I'm at the point in my life a preferr isolation from everything. I don't attract compassion because people around me feel like I'm very selfish and indifferent, and in part it's true because I hate ask for help and appear needy. My life is a mess.
Thank you sooo much for this reading. This resonated so deeply with me.
I have this aspect - with Mars conjunct my north node in Libra 7th house, squaring neptune in Cap in my 10th house. I always thought my outbursts, lack of accountability, and defensiveness were due to me just being a terrible person lol (or at least so I thought.Turns out it was really low self esteem), but then as I learned about astrology and saw my scoprio moon in 8th house conjunct pluto, and my chiron in Virgo, and thought maybe those were the reasons? Because I was so secretive even with myself about my behaviors (again, I thought this was scoprio moon).
But now looking at this aspect, I see it even clearer.
I'm sorry you recieved emails where people were defensive about this, but I'm not surpirsed. I think about my past self and I would NEVER have been able to handle the truths you're speaking. This is such a difficult natal placement, but I'm so grateful for it because it does color life and I can't wait to see it fully utilized in my life in a productive way.
It is amazing that the more I learn about astrology, the more I identify things within myself and with people I have known for years. My best friend has this aspect, and it works exactly as described here. I have Mars trine Neptune, and I find that I am sensitive to a degree, but it is more toward the suffering of people and animals. It gets pretty irritating dealing with my friend though. She constantly bristles at any criticism, questioning of her actions, blatant proof that she is wrong, etc! Sigh, I still love her though:)
I have this aspect (Neptune conjunct midheaven square Mars conjunct ascendant) and while it's hard to admit this is pretty much true. I think both planets needs a healthy outlet, for me Mars needs exercise and Neptune needs creativity. Still it's difficult to handle.
Confusion and lack of clarity regarding one's actions // who they are, what they want is not well defined // neptune is not direct
I’ve just started exploring my harder aspects and this one is definitely on the nose. Thanks for telling it like it is. I’m definitely on a quest to become a kinder person, so hopefully I can channel this energy into my art and make my relationships better in the future 🤞🏽
Bless your heart Jewel, for this hard bit of truth. Explains soooo much. One of the positive ways I have used this aspect, is that I make art that expresses anger. I used to feel that I should express lighter themes in my art, that the angry themes disturbed people, and possibly kept me in a darker space, but lately I've been much clearer and willing to express the anger creatively and feel good about it. Thank you for helping me understand. Your courage to express the hard truths has helped me over and over again. ❤
Great video, I have this aspect, with my mars in Pisces 7th house & moon & saturn conj Neptune in Sagittarius 4th house. I definitely relate to this, especially in my childhood and early 20's, although life is still difficult, I've been working on my sensitivity, weak self esteem and anger problems. Its true, its so easy to slip into self denial- its an easy way out but the pain becomes that much deeper and harder to handle in the long run as I know my soul yearns for much more. My freedom comes from going within, meditating and counselling myself. I've discovered self compassion really helps. It has allowed me to accept myself for better or worse, and to slowly work through one issue at a time. Its almost like parenting yourself the way you needed to be parented as a child. I've also appreciated that everyone has something to share and on a deeper level everyone is a reflection of myself so I more readily hear and take peoples advice without being offended!! With my spiritual emotional work its helping me to really appreciate humility. I get to experiences peace without having to live up to anyone's standards expectations and just be. My life is far from perfect, & at times I think I know my purpose but then i can fall into confusion and wonder what my purpose really is or the purpose to life in general & not in a suicidal way anymore thank god. But I've come along way now and experience more joy than sadness more love for people than anger. So I think I'm doing something right. Thanx again for the video. Keep up the insightful videos.
I am the same as you minus saturn. Mine is part of a grand cross involving venus in the 10th and my ascendant. Going in really works for me too. Getting older helps as does working my ascendant. I stop and think what could be truth. Thankfully my Pluto is my savior also. It's all about using my power to go in then up and back out to be the SPIRITUAL WARRIOR empath that the Mars Pisces allows me to be. I am able to ask myself now exactly what is the high road in any given situation. Shalom to you dear sister.
I have this aspect, and you absolutely nailed it! You are good!
This was great. I've always struggled with self esteem and I always seem to attract people that treat me bad in relationships, like narcissists and people that take advantage and I have been known to be very sensitive to critisism. With all that I can find myself being really defensive and sometimes I can blow up for the little things. I have been trying to ground myself more and if something triggers me I take a deep breath before reacting. My babies have been a blessing in learning to get a handle on all this ❤️
It is not because of this aspect. I know plenty of people with this aspect who didn't have the same experience as you. So, there may be something else in your charts that is causing this...
How do you know you aren't the narcissist?
@@Darren_S you reflect on your behaviours and your intent.
One thing I've noticed with narcissists is that they're inherently selfish and lack empathy so they'll do things like put you down or point out your flaws to make themselves feel better.
They also blame shift, that person made me do it and refuse to work on their behaviours like go to therapy or something other type of healing their core wounds, if they finally get in to therapy because it's part of their future faking then most don't stick around because the therapist sides with their partners and don't know what they're talking about etc because most narcissists won't admit that their behaviours are the problem.
This video was amazing. I totally agree in regards of the confusion, the passive-aggressive behavior, to hurt someone and still play the victim, not seeing clearly, dissociate from one’s self, and lastly, not being open to feedback, blame everything on everyone. I also have moon square Neptune, and sun square Pluto 😂 but it’s ok. I’m glad Im finally able to notice and take action. To finally get in touch with reality, stop hurting the people I’m lucky to have by my side. Thank you for this video!
Therapy helped me sooo much working on this aspect! My self-esteem and self-worth indeed were low. It's amazing to learn how to manage this aspect (frustrations, low self esteem, etc) honestly my quality of life increased significantly. I do love photography btw! people say I'm very good at it :)
Read me to filth but I needed this bc it definitely reassured me that I wasn’t over analyzing myself thank you for this I love the honesty I need it
Man. Thank you so much for your honesty about this aspect. I really want to do things differently; I don't want to be at the mercy of Neptune. I saw myself in a lot of the issues described. Thank you for your insight and here's to working through it all one day at a time. :)
Hard to hear but very true and extremely helpful! My Mars is conjunct my ascendant and this video literally describes the first 35 years of my life. It took a lot of focus to hold myself accountable with this aspect. Criticism is something I still have to stop and talk myself through from time to time. 😊
I feel you. Be strong
Watching your videos really helped me snap out my Neptune fog (Neptune opp venus semi square mars) and see the kind of people I attract, like those with this aspect for example. Thank you!
I have this square at a 0.7 orb, Mars Libra 9th, Neptune Cap 12th. I majored in film in uni, and yes anger is a prominent emotion in my life. Haven't been able to express it in healthy ways, and it's come out as seizures when I was younger. But, I am aware of my anger, and I see it as a gift. Anger used constructively, healthfully, is a powerful emotive catalyst in creativity, advocacy. Using the squares in my chart for growth :).
I do feel this aspect in a lot of my relationships with people. My mars is in Scorpio in the 4th house, and this is a major aspect of my psyche. With these aspects I already feel the passive-aggressiveness or subtle manipulation that I can express in situations where I am very angry. However, mars in scorpios also tend to hold things in for a very long time until they are overwhelmed with emotion, and I find myself spending more time doing this than actually acting upon my frustrations. It is also a very hard aspect to feel because the aggression I can sometimes direct towards friends or family are often spur of the moment, but will continually be held against me because of how spur of the moment it was. My moon is also in aries, so it is generally hard for me to hold grudges that maybe I should be holding. The fantasy aspect of this position is pretty prominent for me, I would say. I find myself lost in daydream a lot and it becomes very distracting. However, I do not really see the touchy ego aspect of this position. It is very rare that I get angry and I like to think that when I do it is for good reason
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I have this aspect, I have a T square : - Mars is conjunct Saturn in 5th, squaring Neptune on 6th/7th house cusp, which is in direct opposition to Venus in 12th (conjunct ascendant/descendant axis). What on Earth did I sign up for this lifetime?!? . . . So this video was really helpful, thank you Jewel!! Your clarity and directness in your videos is really helpful for anyone who wants to really heal and grow into their full potential. This video has helped me to realise where I might not be seeing my own subtle aggressions when I communicate with others, especially my partener. Also where maybe I perceive criticism in subtle ways, where maybe there was no criticism intended. Really useful because now I can watch out for this more in my interactions. I just hope I can see through the Neptune fog, and have the courage to see where I'm using this aspect negatively.
I’m so glad I found your video!! I love your education style, and your honesty.
I too have this square (Mars 1, Neptune 4)
You bring to light the good and the negative. Explains so much of what’s going on in me., and how I really need to control my aggression.
I’ve just had my Neptune return - 42yr old. I’ve become more in tune with myself and trying to be me…I now identify as bisexual, and have joined the lifestyle with my partner. I’m exploring my sexuality…but I have a hard time receiving pleasure as I fell I don’t deserve it. Self esteem is still low, and I have the tendency to rely on substances.
How would my moon/neptune conjugation affect this square?
Great video! And very on point. I was just made aware of this natal aspect in my chart. And it answered all the questions about myself that I couldn't figure out. You are right about all of the points you made. However, I am Libra rising so I don't get made often, but when I do it is ONLY in committed relationships, or family relationships, that I express it. And you were accurate about using my Mars to describe my Neptune. And I always date emotionally unavailable people. That had a rude or Disrespectful personality some times. I am also an Actor, and I used my career to face many of my self expression anxieties. As well as learn how to accept all forms of criticism and rejection.😅 And when it comes to sexuality, I have always had this deep deep subconscious shame of being sexually active, or just sexually interested. I grew up believing women thought it was bad if you were sexually attracted to them. I also grew up with a fear of disrespecting and coming off as a bad guy toward women, so I always froze when it came time to be sexually assertive. Flirting always seemed like I would be seen as a pig, or ass hole. It was so sad 😅 I would go on dates and women would look for me to make a move, but it was like my Neptune would make me doubt that I'm reading their body Language correctly until after the moment passed and everything fell apart. This natal transit is a soul crusher for sure. I cannot tell you how many dates I've been on where at the end of the night my date would look to me to kiss them and I just couldn't move, cause i was afraid of being wrong. And to see their eyes go from hopeful to disappointed has haunted me for decades. This transit is literally a karmic debt being paid. Powerlessness personified. But it is what it is, I'm just happy to know the cause, so I can find the solution. And experience life with my WILL POWER intact. I'm not an aggressive person, Virgo sun, Libra Rising, Cap Moon. But I would like to be much more direct and transparent. Be able to introduce myself to people in social settings, and calmly say NO, communicate my boundaries, and enjoy myself more. I know how to do all these things in theory, but execution is a Mars thing. So now I'm on a mission to heal this aspect by improving my self worth, and self esteem. And cultivating a relationship with my anger, and imagination. Being more objective, and less emotionally motivated. Thanks again this was a great video. You should make a part 2❤🎉❤
Reading your comment touched my heart. Wow you are a rare diamond as I rarely see men who possess such a degree of insightfulness, self awareness and accountability. 🥹 You go sir 👏🏾
Awww, I’m so sorry that you receive such negative feedback (and, it sounds like some of that feedback is also scary!!) for both this and the Sun Square Pluto videos. I have both of these aspects and both videos have been tremendously helpful for me. So it hurts to hear that such helpful advice you’re giving draws such ire!
Thank you, thank you, thank you for uploading these videos! I’m very grateful to all of the advice and insight that you provide on your channel.
So insightful, Jewel, thank you! That explains a lot. If only I had studied astrology before I married someone with this aspect… In my experience, your description of the anger-projection-explosion pattern is dead on; granted, other factors in his chart strongly reinforced this, perhaps especially his Jupiter-Sun-Pluto-Uranus conjunction-stellium (by both sign and house) all sextile Neptune.
If you're trying to bring compassion to someone with this square, I feel compelled to add that I think it's essential to have rock-solid personal boundaries; even so, they may not respect those boundaries unless you absolutely insist on that point, and perhaps not even then. In my case, the core issues I was bringing to the mix from my own chart only served to amplify the conflict (including Sun quincunx Moon-conjunct-Juno retrograde)-that is, I was futilely attempting to please someone who would not, could not be pleased and to soothe an anger that he cherished and clung to above all else. Not a pretty picture, but undoubtedly a powerful lesson.
I fear rejection and find myself avoiding a lot. Criticism and embarrassment can make me isolate and avoid. Neptune also squares my sun and opposes 12h Jupiter. It’s like a bad feedback loop. attraction-repulsion to sexuality, my artistic abilities, and ability to be assertive, achieve and just do. Self esteem tends to be v low. I definitely act like nothing is wrong to others, but am very aware, and feel like I’m in constant battle w myself. I’ve had to develop a lot of compassion for myself (always working on it) and in turn others. im working to towards being a therapist now. Thank you for this!!
My mom (only parent) has it (Mars in the 5th and Neptune in the 2nd) so imagine what it did to my life. My whole life I've been trying to find a way to communicate with her and this New Year's Eve I gave up. I'm 37 and exhausted. I also have Pluto, Lilith (square Moon in the 7th) and Uranus in my 4th house (Scorpio). I feel like an orphan ... but I'll be fine soon :) . Love you, Jewel!
Omg I'm so sorry you had this experience. It's frustrating when you can't get through to the person who gave birth to you, a very lonely feeling. I don't have any children, but I would certainly hate to effect them in this way,being I have this exact placement. If you feel comfortable, would you mind sharing a few things a person with this aspect and this placement could do to improve, from your experience? If not I totally understand and I hope things have improved for the two of you in a years time.
Sorry you had to deal with that. The father of my 2 kids has this too and I had to give up on him. He's 57 and still doesn't get it. His is mars in Leo in the 8th square Neptune Scorpio in 11th. He also has Mercury opp. Neptune, Mercury square Mars, and Venus opposite Pluto, Moon square Uranus and Pluto as well with an Aries sun. He has a very peculiar sexuality, perverted, disgusting and vile tbh, he has a thing for incest too, and I think he does not admit to himself his gay or bisexual tendencies. I'm not the only one to say that either. Wish I knew about astrology when I met him..
I've just recently been looking at my Mars Neptune square and I appreciate this video and your perspective. Thank you!
I have this aspect . I watch your videos all the time . I was setting here with my mom and i brought up one of your videos for her chart. Your like a spunkier version of my mom but i told her i watch you because you remind me of what and how a therapist acts . Your amazing & i really enjoy all your videos !
I have this aspect and I'm so scared of rejection, it's kinda crippling I need to work on it and ignore my crazy thoughts/story.
very true i have a virgo moon that tends to lessen the sting of critics. If its something I know I worked on for myself i tend to say "Oh okay" and keep doing what i want but if its something I've been analyzing about myself and someone notices and brings it up i love to hear their input. my self esteem is trash and I've been trying to do more for myself I've had some set backs but My heart is getting pretty cold and even tho to me its a sad thing.. Its been helping me get rid of toxic people without feeling like i owe them something or they owe me anymore damage than I've already allowed
This did hurt. But its because its true. Thank you again you're so awesome.
4:29 I have this aspect and I absolutely recognize this.
Thank you Jewel! The transiting Mars/Neptune square is in a T-square with my natal Moon (19Vi close to 20), it started feeling quite exhausting and with some energetical and emotional burnout. I am so much waiting for it to be over and alsp tired of Neptune opposing my moon. With also transiting Pluto on my Mars & Mercury, only dance and music help yet fell sick again.
Dude. My mom has this aspect. The good news is that I’m getting her into astrology.
I have this close square aspect occurring in my 2nd and 5th house (however my south node is conjuct my Mars at exact degree's so this changes it a bit. Never really had an issue with being too passive-aggressive haha). No, you are completely right IMO. I have only recently started to really harness my Mars power and use the energy to positively get in tune with my higher self and to be of service to humanity. Yes, it is a TOUGH aspect to have natally. I won't go into much detail here, but the sexual things you said were on-point. If you require more info to better understand this aspect, I would be more than happy to give it to you personally, Jewel :)
You must have done a fair amount of personal work already if you can admit this has been going on in your life. That is awesome!!!
I LOVE THE "the comments is going to be lovely" Hahahaha
So good! Thank you so much for this. I have this placement and mars square Saturn inconjunct Neptune. This has been so difficult for me. And I can only say that I had to become very devoted to self knowledge and the occult to learn and mature with this. Thank you
Wow I've been in "school" by the Universe and found this...explains a lot...to complicate it, My Leo Mars is conjunct with my Ascendant and opposite Aquarius Saturn, with Neptune sitting in the middle of a conjunct stellium of my Sun, Venus, and Mercury in Scorpio. The icing on the cake is that my North Node is in Leo just above Mars but exiting in the 12th house....more Neptune! My life path is clear....I need to become aware of who I really am BEHIND THE CURTAIN and accept that person unconditionally. How to do it is another story....at least I am aware now....thank you!
Scorpio mars 5th square Aqua Neptune 9th. So I've suffered from low self-esteem issues in the past and I get defensive very quickly. My sex life has been very rocky, to the point I have no idea what I like, it's confusing. I've been in relationships where I've just let my partners walk over me or where I've thought "this must be love" when it's just me getting used and them being manipulative. I'm growing up now and learning but this placement isn't an easy one.
that depends of the house aspected
I have Taurus Mars (3rd House) and Aquarius Neptune (retrograde, 1st house)... and this video hit me too hard. WTF, when you said "they're really good at film... and photography," STOP, I'M LITERALLY PRAISED FOR IT AHHHHH.
Hi Jewel! I'm not at all upset with this video. I have a Mars Square Neptune aspect in my chart, but my Mars is in Libra and Neptune in Capricorn. I'm a Scorpio Stellium and Moon in Capricorn. And I'm gay.
That being said. I am extremely sensitive in the ego area. I've had periods of low self esteem and feelings of unworthiness. But I think the lashing out is kept to a minimum because of my Scorpio and Lunar Capricorn nature. Both of those signs cannot express emotion. No one knows when I'm in an inner conflict. I also have natal Mercury retrograde. I think that makes me softspoken and unwilling to speak out without thinking.
And I definitely catch myself lying to myself. And I definitely victimize myself when others are accusing my of things because my Neptune is definitely kind and giving to others. I can quickly make them feel like they should be the ones apologizing to me. 😥
So, you are definitely spot on. That's how I know your videos are authentic. And I think that since my Saturn's return already happened, I'm much more of an adult now to see my light and shadow selves.
You're my favorite TH-cam astrologer! Thank you 😋
Morrison Dragon you sound like me! I have mars in libra square Neptune Capricorn. Also a Scorpio stellium with sun mercury Pluto Venus and moon. And I’m gay lol
I have it also and I struggle with those same things everyday..
Wow, you have a very similar chart to the guy I'm 'dating', except his Mars is in Virgo and he's straight. His Venus also in Virgo squaring his Neptune as well and I believe he has severe fear of rejection, low self esteem, feeling unworthy. He also has an extremely difficult time at communication, maybe his mercury is in retrograde as well, I don't know I'm not that good at Astro.
He's a scorpio stellium, cap moon (like me) and has the Neptune in Cap squaring the mars and venus😪
I feel very protective towards him♡
3:00 This is the one part that clicked. Trying to resolve who I am and how I express myself being in conflict with reality, big theme in my life.
I've Mars Leo 8th square Neptune Scorpio 11th and I don't have a problem acknowledging I've problems so no issues with the lady here telling me about me.
I love your channel. :X
My childrens father has mars in libra square Neptune. For majority of his late teens and 20's he was a closeted bisexual. He became enraged when I found out even though I was accepting of his sexuality. I use to believe it was because my sun in Capricorn squared his mars why he would lash out at me whenever he would face real life problems and beat myself up whenever he accused me of being in his way whenever he would make selfish decisions like be a cross country truck driver or just up and moving out our home because it was hard being a parent. Whenever I would just listen to him and leave him alone entirely. He would cry. Literally cry and then cry to others and posts on social media of how much of a good person he was, how much he loves hes children and how he can't wait to really fall in love ect. Ect. He always comes around with the expectation like he should be greeted with open arms and admired (whenever he feels like being a father). In my opinion, and again I understand we have narly aspects that we make in synastry outside of our own natal aspects... But in my opinion I feel like an unhealthy mars square Neptune definitely makes a person hypersensitive to others and also makes a person deceptive to themselves and others. Its very difficult coparenting with a person who lies to themselves and anyone else with eyes and ears.
My friend that has this aspect has had a 4 hour a day pornography addiction issue (which lasted for years). Finally quit cold turkey about a year ago, and has felt better since he quit.
Thank you for this explenation. It really resonated with me and i see where this has applied to me in certain situation. I truly strive to hecome a better person everyday and you sharing your knowledge through your videos is helping me see my blind spots.
I hear a lot of maturity in your comment. That’s a sign that this aspect has been largely understood. 💓
I have this placement I also have Neptune in my first house very close to ascendant 😀
I have this aspect and a lot of the things that you've talked about I have experienced and do recognize. It's not easy living with this aspect until one does the work on letting go of their childhood issues. This way one can acknowledge their own behaviors witout being too hard on themselves which is what people with this aspect do sometimes...which is why they have a hard time with criticism. Healing techniques, self partnering and heaps of self love is needed pronto. So that being said, I don't feel you were misleading anyone here.
I do feel however that in this video there was a lot of emphasis on the negative qualities of this aspect and though it's important to talk about that part of the energy expressed through this aspect, there seemed to be a large portion of the video that concentrates on this and also be judgement towards the people who have it. I got the sense that you personally experienced this with someone and the energy of that experience came throug. Maybe that's why people are taking things said in this video so personally. I'm comparing it to the other videos Ive watched of yours.
No, it is not personal to me. I hear that A LOT when a video is upsetting to someone. I receive comments all the time accusing me of projecting. I’m just explaining an aspect.
The fact that this can be pointed out to us does not make criticism ANY LESS TERRIFYING.
I have this placement.. mars in taurus and aqua neptune (also moon) so both square mars.. i am soo sensitive and defensive and I really dislike this aspect and the my mars in taurus makes it not very direct with my anger so I usually hold everything in and it's even worse
Mars in Libra Rx Square Neptune in Sagittarius -- so much of this was spot on, including the sexuality pieces. Working on the defensive/passive aggressive nature and self-compassion. Love the way you express yourself. Thank you.
Nadia, I’m dating someone who I really like but who also has Mars in Libra Square Neptune in Sagittarius. Sun in Taurus, Aquarius moon, Venus in Aries. I’m really confused by his inconsistencies and insecurities … (I’m Taurus Sun and Scorpio moon) would love some clarity coming from someone who clearly gets it more! I’m mars in Gemini and he seems very sexually keen but very passive and disinterested/overwhelmed by in anything outside vanilla.. pls help!
@@RomiKia I can’t speak to the vanilla sexuality at all, I’m sorry. I’m actually the complete opposite. I’m also a Scorpio moon like you though, so that brings a whole different dynamic. You are acutely sensual and an Aquarius Moon person (who you are dating) is not really. I wish I could help more, but I bet you could get a great relationship reading from this astrologer! She specializes in that, I think!
My husband has this square... he also has Aries in the 12th and Mars in Pisces emphasizing this. Thanks for this video, it has given me so much clarity.
I have Mars in Virgo(6th House) Square Neptune in Sagittarius(9th House). Oh boy...Passive Aggressiveness - checked; defensiveness - checked...The think is I realize these bad traits of my personality but it`s so hard to change them. On top of this I have moon opposite Pluto which amplifies the touchiness. The other thing which is hard for me due to this aspect is lack of major life direction in terms of satisfying career. I feel it has to be something creative but don`t know what :) fogginess -checked! The question I want to ask is the following - is there an option a very strong aspect like Mars Conjunction Jupiter which gives a courage, expansion and good vibes overall to knock off this not so easy Mars-Neptune aspect? Thanks in advance!
I also have moon opposition Pluto in addition to 8th house aries Mars square 5th house capricorn Neptune. Neptune also rules my Pisces 7th house and it is conduct my 5th house cusp in which my sun and Mercury reside. I also struggle with knowing what to do for a career.
I had an ex with this aspect, as well as having hard aspects between his venus/pluto and venus/saturn. He was extremely abusive and manipulative. I can see this aspect in the arguments that we would have. He would become defensive and abusive if you tried to call him out on anything. There was no working around it. He was the most draining person that I have ever encountered. I know she said to be compassionate with these people, but man, that goes out the window if you have ever dealt with my ex.
True. Some people can't be helped and it is better off walking away. Sometimes it's necessary self preservation. My ex has this, Mars Leo 8th and Neptune Scorpio 11th (I've heard this be called a dark square) Venus opp Pluto, Mercury square Mars, Merc Opp Neptune, Moon square Uranus and Pluto, and Aries sun. He's 57 and still hasn't gotten it.
Yes agreed
Impossible
Mars in 12 scorpio Square neptune inin 3rd aquarius.
I have this aspect and I'm good at acting and want to take great parts in movies. Do you guys know any famous actors with this aspect?
Zac Efron and Jodie Foster are two
And I also have Moon conjunction Uranus in natal , I have checked lots of actors have that aspect@@magical-soap5359
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I am in deep appreciation for this information 🙏🏾🙏🏻🙏🏾🙏🏻🙏🏾
It is on point! Acceptance, transformation, mental and spiritual emancipation
I wish you love, bliss and ecstasy ❤️
I have this natally as the focus of a t-square with Mercury as the third planet. My Mars is quite weak, though. It's retrograde in Libra in the 2nd house. Neptune is in the 4th (placidus houses).
I struggle with taking things way too personally. Eventually instead of getting mad I just started being even more silent instead. The self-esteem problems with this aspect are only enhanced by the weak Mars. I do have a little bit of an ego but it doesn't want to come with me when I leave the house.
What a synchronicity! I was thinking about this aspect yesterday and the way it manifests in my mind and behavior (I have trine) and now this video... :) Not a nice one but I'm trying to see the gifts - stop daydreaming, clear the fog, take action! Thanks once again for a great interpretation!
I believe a coworker of mine has this aspect. If it wasnt this one its some kind of hard aspect to Mars in general. He comes into work and it almost sounds like every word he speaks must have to do with himself. And if someone even jokes with him about how he isnt actually "all that" he will look you in the eye and try to defend himself, but oddly in the most compassionate sounding voice ever and it is an odd thing to witness. But he is very creative. He knows how to work lights and displays at music concerts etc from what I hear and hes working his way up. But he cannot take haters lightly lol or will not allow anyone to "disrespect" him, talk about negatively or control him even though no one actually was! Lol
I was studying the birth chart of someone in my family who clinically has narcissistic personality disorder, saw they had Mars square Neptune at a 0°09 orb, and found this video. Wow if this doesn't explain this individual to a T. Of course, not everyone who has this aspect will have NPD, but I think this aspect (especially since it's such a tight aspect) really manifests glaringly in the NPD of my family member. She probably would have been one of the ones writing you an email if she was into astrology and saw this. She's very quick to criticize others but shrinks into a crying and angry mess if you criticize her (and then she'll refuse to let you see her children, spread rumors about you, etc)
Do the comments on this video reflect kindness? Some do, others decidedly do not. Not everyone with this aspect will be kind and not everyone with this aspect will be defensive. It depends on the entirety of the personality. I make videos about one thing at a time but you have to consider everything to be able to accurate assess the totality of the beliefs described by a birth chart.
Why would there be negative comments for this video?
Very detailed and accurate.
Basically i am "doomed" since i have this Mars Rx Square Neptune (very very tight square)
And it doesnt help that i have Mars Rx 12H on Asc, Neptune 10H on MC, Sun 6H on Dsc, all in a super tight T-square plus Chiron 4H on my IC completes it as a Grand Cross!!!
But living with a super critical Virgo Moon 10H husband has made me become much more realistic with my self and open to criticisms. I could confidently say that i most probably "solved" this square like u said! Hahaha...
I agree with like almost everything u said about this square, except that i am not homosexual. I am good at photography like u said. Hehe.
And i am definitely not hurt by ur video!
Ur blog rocks!
So.. how do I resolve this square? There's no one to be compassionate and gentle with me because none of my exes could handle me in the long run with my passive aggressiveness and outburst of blaming, many times which I regret shortly. It doesn't help that I'm in a creative field where criticism is essential in everyday work; with a libra mars and pisces rising I just end up sulking and being depressed instead of lashing out at work. All I can do is keep telling myself the criticisms are nothing personal (which I of course don't truly believe) and that I should just do whatever I can.
TLDR; I'm extremely aware of the issues this aspect causes, and I have no idea how to stop myself or get myself out of it. It's ruining my life. Help :(
I would suggest making a real effort to understand yourself because there's no guarantee somebody else will always understand you. That may seem sad, but I do think it's true. Try seeing the other person's perspective the next time you think they're being critical of you, it can help soften the impact if only by a little. And if that doesn't help, try to not give a reaction, or be very detached about it. I'm living with Mars square Neptune in my birth chart and I can relate to your experiences. I've come to my own conclusion that self-awareness and detachment are the answers to most issues this aspect brings. Though I'll also say that, from my experience, I think I'll always be challenged. From my lack of self-confidence to my apathy and confusion... Yeah, it can be too much for me _and_ others. Still, all we can do is try and try, right?
well i hope you are doing better. just remember to use astrology as a tool to understand yourself better instead of beat yourself up. sending you love
As an artist I’m trying to stay on the good side of this aspect. Has anyone mastered this?
I have this aspect. Mars 11th house and Neptune 7th. Delusional notions of how I’m perceived publicly or by others in general used to thwart my ambitions...or say my Neptune like escapism undermined my position in a group, and especially my place in society...my desires for a perfect love life/partner muddled my ability to visualize a future...house placement is important. Post my first Saturn return I have much more self awareness.
The anger of mars square neptune is way worse than the anger of mars/pluto aspects.
Really? Yipes👀 I have mars(leo)■Pluto(scorpio). I used to rage but only at injustice and being crossed, cheated and lied to...and not often. Now it's totally mellowed out but there if I ever need it. Manifests more as a powerful aura.
So, I'm considering dating this guy, he has Neptune in Capricorn squaring both Mars and Venus in Virgo...should I be worried??? 😅👀
Also, now I'm worried he's secretly gay or bi..👀🙈🙈🙈
Jewel, this aspect is shared by 2 former friends of mine: both Sun in Cancer (2 days apart) and best friends since forever. They share Mercury in Gemini & Mars in Aries sq to Neptune in Capricorn, under a 5° orb too. On top of that, Lilith on Pluto & Eris on Mars (tight orbs for both). Believe me, I have seen ALL of this play out- especially the negative and nasty. One was gay, the other a photographer. It was curious to see them together though. Both would take turns insulting and belittling the other, but there was this odd sort of understanding, possibly why they are still friends. As we speak, they are experiencing Pluto sq to their Mars. I wish them the best. They've caused me a lot of pain over the years, and it took me a long time to see through to it- both Neptune's sq'd my ASC.
What a story! Astrology proves itself, doesn't it? A passive aggressive photographer...wouldn't you know it?! People with similar aspects can and do often have an affinity for each other. They reinforce each other's beliefs about their world.
I know a person with this, Mars in Pisces square Neptune in Sagittarius, it's like you say, at first I didn't understand his passive aggressive attitude, I just didn't listen to him and I didn't encourage his attitude either, because my Saturn in Pisces is conjunct his Mars in Pisces and his ascendant, so from the beginning he also aroused my fears because I feel that he is capable of anything and has no limits, I always keep a physical distance from him, I don't like it when he is very close to me.
My scorpio Mars is semi square to my Capricorn Neptune so i definitely relate to a lot of what you discussed. Luckily that Capricorn energy aids with my judgement and discernment a tad more than most with this placement but this was a great interpretation. ❤️
Thankyou for your advice I have this square and a moon square Venus and a Venus oppose Pluto. Getting through these rough patches are so hard but I am willing to do the shadow work necessary to love myself, and see my light. I’ve suffered from low self esteem my whole life..
Jewel, you are so amazing, what would so many of us and the world do without you? Much appreciation and humblely respecting and looking up to you for all the effort you put in. Thanks a lot. I have this aspect and It can be difficult to accept too much responsibility, working on it, may be my Ego fantasy can trick itself to be rewarded with something grand if I squeeze out what is to be expected out of me, you are a blessing. Please keep posting! Thanks! Can you also do Mars square Uranus in natal birth chart.
I have this placement and it's so true!
Being with someone with this aspect is crazy making because they will make you feel like dogshit but it’s because they are they ones that are messed up. So it’s literally the most aggravating kind of projection bc they will harm you if you aren’t strong enough.
So true….they can really damage a person all the while believing they r the victim
May I suggest a video on the aspect Mars inconjunct Neptune?
Very accurate sadly. When I interact with people it’s like an alternate personality kicks in. I do my best to be authentic but it’s almost automatic. Also can be very defensive and can easily lie to myself. I try with both though. More to go.
I love how u explain things Jewel! I've been. watching ur videos every night all night for past week. Please do planets in 12th house.
+Eran Roquemore I appreciate that very much. I will get to all the planets through the houses soon.
I searched out this aspect today because some other natal chart interpretations said to “Avoid Psychic Work.” I do not really understand why this is because I have strong psychic abilities. I imagine the strong propensity to lie to myself may have triggered the warning. What do you think?
Ego/self dellusion
ego undoing by forcing will
manipulation to force ego
cannot see self
hypersensitive ego
sex manipulation/dellusion
the 2 houses that the square occurs shows the area of life that connects the 2,
using victimhood to force will
Yay! Is there a composite video Jewel?😊
I will do that one tomorrow.