If I remember the update… it didn’t end well… I think the brother needed rescuing bc she completely spiraled.. she only wanted a family, she didn’t really love him…
Lena is playing a dangerous game. She is trying to remove op from the family and insert herself by trying to get the family to turn against her. I also think there is a degree of jealousy.
I think she is trying to force her idea of a perfect family on them and is angry at OP because she doesn’t the vision of a big sister she has perfectly.
Is everyone in this family just accepting this rude awful Lena out of pity? Is like "she talks shit about us, does not respect our boundaries, criticizes everything we do, but she wants a family tho", did she just insert herself in your lives out of guilt? Like a homeless invading your home/living room telling you "I always wanted a roof over my head" and you just let it happen like out of pity?
It sounds like it was a lot of little things that they didn't know happened to each other until they all got together to talk about it and learned that it wasn't "just the one thing." Like OP said, it can be hard to handle bad situations when you've never been in them before and the brother wouldn't listen and stayed with Lena even after the family put their foot(feet?) down, so there wasn't much they could do either way. Plus OP said that when their cousin tried to argue with Lena and say what she was doing was wrong Lena threw a fit.
Personally, I think the fam's biggest mistake was enabling Lena's behavior. The moment they let her get away with the boundary stomping, the toungue in cheek comments, was the moment she dug her claws in deep. I also sort of have no sympathy for OP's brother. He chose to continue with the marriage despite the reservation of his ENTIRE family, and even got mad when OP tried to hold Lena accountable! I definitely don't think he should be stuck in a toxic relationship, no, because it isn't a crime to hope that someone will change after marriage. I suppose the only saving grace is his inability to have children. And, if he did get out of that horrid relationship, I hope he takes time to himself; therapy, some R&R in the form of a vacation of sorts. Poor guy.
OP and her family actually did the right thing, until the father refused to attend the wedding. As hard as it is, when someone is in a toxic relationship, browbeating them to leave, or distancing yourself from the situation, is the wrong thing to do. The toxic partner will twist your concern into you being jealous and trying to break them up. Address your concerns with your family member privately, and then do everything you can to stay in contact.
Tbh, the first and second post does sound like op family is treated like a doormat. Its not until the third and final post that we knew how bad the situation and how op cant just easily fix it before its too late. I too, also thought that the family provide for lina behaviour and it making her even more worse
Admittedly I watch bcs I find cake decorating seriously satisfying. It makes me a tad sad tho, bcs I have to be dairy and gluten-free, and idk how pretty I could make a cake if I decided to make one for no particular reason
I feel bad for lena, but at the same time..girl go to therapy!!! I have one family member whos an addict and it was not easy. I feel like something bad happened to lena...but it does not excuse her actions ofc.
I did too but that wicked away the moment she started insulting a dead woman. Rita did nothing to garner such hostility, and it made me dislike her greatly.
this video was really well done, and I appreciate how you handled the topic with such care. but honestly, I can't help but think that cutting ties entirely might be a bit extreme. sometimes, even the most difficult family relationships can evolve into something positive with a little effort. what do you all think?
16:28 Okay, Am I the only one who got weird it out about OP saying she lies in bed, watching while also hugging her brother? Like, I'm not insinuating anything, but we're talking about adults here, I can't imagine myself in the same situation with my sister, maybe if we were seven. 😅
If I remember the update… it didn’t end well… I think the brother needed rescuing bc she completely spiraled.. she only wanted a family, she didn’t really love him…
What? There were only 2 updates
@@lacapeludealberto1665There might have been another that the mods deleted?
@@lacapeludealberto1665I think they heard the extended version of this one somewhere else
The narrator of the Mainly Facts channel said it perfectly: Sympathy doesn't erase accountability.
Lena is playing a dangerous game. She is trying to remove op from the family and insert herself by trying to get the family to turn against her. I also think there is a degree of jealousy.
I've read a lot of manga and webtoon comic with this type of plot. But then again reality can be as strange as fantasy.
I think she is trying to force her idea of a perfect family on them and is angry at OP because she doesn’t the vision of a big sister she has perfectly.
Is everyone in this family just accepting this rude awful Lena out of pity? Is like "she talks shit about us, does not respect our boundaries, criticizes everything we do, but she wants a family tho", did she just insert herself in your lives out of guilt? Like a homeless invading your home/living room telling you "I always wanted a roof over my head" and you just let it happen like out of pity?
It sounds like it was a lot of little things that they didn't know happened to each other until they all got together to talk about it and learned that it wasn't "just the one thing." Like OP said, it can be hard to handle bad situations when you've never been in them before and the brother wouldn't listen and stayed with Lena even after the family put their foot(feet?) down, so there wasn't much they could do either way. Plus OP said that when their cousin tried to argue with Lena and say what she was doing was wrong Lena threw a fit.
MEGHAN MARKLE
@@aimay374 well, that royal family deserves someone like Markle as their grandkids's wife😂😂, unlike OP and her family.
All of them are foolish and enabled Lena. Complete nonsense.
The way the voice said “shut up” 😂
Lena doesn't need a family she needs a therapist
Personally, I think the fam's biggest mistake was enabling Lena's behavior. The moment they let her get away with the boundary stomping, the toungue in cheek comments, was the moment she dug her claws in deep.
I also sort of have no sympathy for OP's brother. He chose to continue with the marriage despite the reservation of his ENTIRE family, and even got mad when OP tried to hold Lena accountable! I definitely don't think he should be stuck in a toxic relationship, no, because it isn't a crime to hope that someone will change after marriage.
I suppose the only saving grace is his inability to have children. And, if he did get out of that horrid relationship, I hope he takes time to himself; therapy, some R&R in the form of a vacation of sorts. Poor guy.
OP and her family actually did the right thing, until the father refused to attend the wedding. As hard as it is, when someone is in a toxic relationship, browbeating them to leave, or distancing yourself from the situation, is the wrong thing to do. The toxic partner will twist your concern into you being jealous and trying to break them up. Address your concerns with your family member privately, and then do everything you can to stay in contact.
She should be in therapy!
My only question is when are the fellows in white coats are coming to tane Lena to the happy home?
Brother is an enabling doormat. Doing no one any favors
I don’t think she loves your brother- I think she is obsessed with you and wants to have everything you have not by earning but stealing it from you
Tbh, the first and second post does sound like op family is treated like a doormat. Its not until the third and final post that we knew how bad the situation and how op cant just easily fix it before its too late. I too, also thought that the family provide for lina behaviour and it making her even more worse
Delicious looking cake though 😋
that's what I'm saying
Thank you for your comment!
Admittedly I watch bcs I find cake decorating seriously satisfying. It makes me a tad sad tho, bcs I have to be dairy and gluten-free, and idk how pretty I could make a cake if I decided to make one for no particular reason
Lena has narcissistic tendencies, and she succeeded in isolating the brother from the rest of the family
I believe she is trying to take her family
I feel bad for lena, but at the same time..girl go to therapy!!! I have one family member whos an addict and it was not easy. I feel like something bad happened to lena...but it does not excuse her actions ofc.
Don’t she is psycho
I did too but that wicked away the moment she started insulting a dead woman. Rita did nothing to garner such hostility, and it made me dislike her greatly.
this video was really well done, and I appreciate how you handled the topic with such care. but honestly, I can't help but think that cutting ties entirely might be a bit extreme. sometimes, even the most difficult family relationships can evolve into something positive with a little effort. what do you all think?
Lena is a covert narc. Run!
Narcissist?
Why wont you link the original stories?! I want to read the updates/comments..
Sounds like she has BPD. Sounds heartbreaking tbh, she needs help.
16:28 Okay, Am I the only one who got weird it out about OP saying she lies in bed, watching while also hugging her brother?
Like, I'm not insinuating anything, but we're talking about adults here, I can't imagine myself in the same situation with my sister, maybe if we were seven. 😅
You don't have a sister in law they aren't married yet....
Does Lena not have her own mother to enjoy mom's day with?
No. She literally said she has no family
MEGHAN MARKLE 😂😂😂😂
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Lol op is dumb
Why?
Why do you think so?