#1- Also remember to discuss what you DON'T like. Nothing kills the mood (and possibly your relationship) like the words "OH, HELL NO!! WE ARE NOT DOING THAT!! That's disgusting!!"
Also, nothing kills the mood or build up like being called something you don’t want to be called. Communication is key. Don’t assume that our girl would like some thing that another girl liked (or that you saw in a video somewhere) and vice versa for a man.
"When you have eliminated all which is unpleasurable, then whatever remains, however improbable, must be pleasurable." - Sherlock Holmes, sort of Maybe, idk... Probably not actually... Forget it
The biggest question, is how in the hell do you get into talking about 'dirty talk' out of the bedroom? It's not even close to asking "how was your day".
Guy: (after some other convos or just chillin) So, sweety, I wanted to actually ask you a serious question so try not to laugh (she probably will a bit but that's ok). The other night was amazing, I can't stop thinking about {enter what was amazing}. I was wondering what you thought about dirty talk during sex. I kinda want to try it and want to know if u would to. From here, take it away with regular conversation flow. Be straight, up front, be playful. In the end, it's like any other convo on the planet. You just needed to get to level 10 before it was unlocked for you. It is not like "how was your day", but it comes close. if you are at this stage of a relationship it is not taboo. Just look for an opportunity and simply broach the subject. I have found that straight up conversation yields the best results And this is coming from a guy that used to be mega shy and could not have a conversation with a woman. I still have some elements of that, but having been in a relationship for the past 8 years I can honestly look back and say that I over thought everything too much.
Adding something like "Heyyyy sexy..." to the "How was your day?" is not a bad place to start. I think a good approach to effective dirty talk is to start out playful, graduate to flirty, then let it climax in raw expressions. One rule: Never force it. It is easier with who you've properly built non-sexual intimacy with.
If you have really open communication in your marriage or relationship, you can just talk about sex like it's no-big-deal... which, if you're exclusive, it ISN'T A BIG DEAL. People have sex. Everyone in a good relationship is having sex. Heck, most average relationships are still getting it on, and some of the toxic relationships are REALLY getting it on. So just be chill and absolutely confident when you tell your partner it's normal to talk about it, and you're not ashamed at all...
One of the most simple and effective ways of dirty talking is simply describing what you're seeing and feeling to your parter in whatever you're doing. Paint pictures with your words, and the more of your senses you involved the better. Dirty talk isn’t even dirty, it’s sensual observation and appreciation, you’re communicating what you authentically desire and appreciate to each other in the moment. The move you involve all your senses the more in body your experience is.
Yeah - when you said that you don't want to just freeze up - that's exactly what I did. It's just completely unnatural to me and I had to tell her, "sorry - not my thing"
Same - totally kills the mood when someone calls you a slur out of nowhere that’s supposed to be sexy. Just because some other girl they slept with liked that. 🤢
'Dirty talk' is similar to playing music and doing comedy.. It's ALL about reading the room, timing and anticipation... Remember, Green lights are easy to see, but the stop signs can sometimes sneak up on you. As for myself, I recommend you start with 'Cary Grant' (just WATCH him in North By Northwest on the train...) .... THEN read the reaction before ramping it up....
Yea. A lady says,"Talk dirty to me...." and I tell her that over the weekend, I am going to the hardware store and purchasing some mulch and transplant some plants I have wanted to move for some time... It does not go over so well....
Damn killer dirty sentence stems. You got mad balls. And you keep uncovering new nuances and naming these aspects of the love game no one else is doing and in such an elegant way. So cool.
This is some thing personally, I have tried to do, and has always worked up for a epic fail for me I’m great at a lot of things but I’m right up there with Peter Griffin when it comes to this
Amazing that talking about it beforehand is such a surprise. It really is the best way to clear the playing field, so to speak, so everyone knows what's available and where the boundaries are.
This type of talk definitely needs to be discussed before intimacy. Some couples can do the dirty talk, others not so much... "Talk Dirty to Me" was a fun Poison song though...😅❤
I've been in some comical situations with dirty talk in the past 😅. In general, I find dirty talk as a laughably funny thing to do. There have been occasions when ex's have asked me to talk dirty to them which I gladly did. However, deep down I would be fighting hard trying not to laugh out loud at our dirty talk exchange so as to not ruin the moments which clearly had them turned on.
Hey, some peoples version of dirty talk, or being freaky is about as vanilla as they come. So you have to be able to adapt. Sidenote, girls love when a guy takes charge and gets freaky, usually, it allows them to engage in things that they want to engage in, but don’t want to mentally be held accountablefor… In other words, it being his idea, allows them a little bit of leeway inside their own mind
Honestly, I would describe something like that because I’ve been through that once myself, but I’m sorry to say there are no words mostly because that’s a private matter and I’m sure you can understand that Miss Dawn I’m sorry I want to but I don’t wanna get into trouble anymore this week than I’ve already have been in
Although these advise are not very much related to my culture, but I still do find them concerning because I feel that "a woman is a woman" regardless of her origin. Respect and regards from Karachi, Pakistan.
My ex husband I and I were very conservative never did this but my partner afterward totally dirty talked and I was pleasantly surprised how hot it got me in the moment!!! 😎 I'm totally for it now!!!!
That is the problem. Women are not prepared to do stuff as a wife but they will be very open to everything when they have affair or when the man is not her husband.
Sarah, igloo's only exist in the Arctic, since there is only ice as a surface. I can't wait to get "mua" saying and screaming sounds, sights, odors, touches and all those things...you know what I mean when I say it.
I appreciate this, but why do women have to be like defusing a bomb? If you get a single thing wrong, she explodes at you. And yes, I am good at it, but it's kind of ridiculous.
My ex used to always start with take out the rubbish and clean the bin it stinks so badly that it would be nasty to your health. I guess I never realised that this was foreplay
So, the strong silent type is out. How 'bout "no". Why does this seem variations on a script? Is this graded later among the girl-friend group? Since we have to be in a relationship with the entire girlfriend group is it possible to get useful feedback for the specific relationship? Is the an online database of scripts for this, perhaps a mail-merge synthesis, or some AI supercharging? Are there recommended script doctors and voice coaches?
And the ever popular - at least me - "Get that @$$ up in the air baby" And I even got that from a song by Diamanda Galas, and it totally works. So I thank her. You gotta say it with feeling, snarl, and insistence. It seems to be a universal one. So your whole rundown here was really good,.
Season 6 episode 1 of Rules of Engagement, Jeff (Patrick Warburton) shows exactly how to do dirty talk to his wife Audrey (Megyn Price). Don't need any other direction about that. I never could figure out who I fell in love with more on that show, her or Bianca Kajlich.
Yeah, kinda hard to do any of this when you never know what you're coming home to... Tried being dominant once and talking dirty (not ugly, not unlike the first vanilla example) and she starts bawling. I ask what's wrong, apologized and just held her. Then another time, I was too nice... So, yeah...
My advice to guys who are hesitant or uncomfortable with this is don’t do it unless you can be confident. There is nothing more awkward than a guy making half hearted sexy talk. The woman will feel like she’s hooked up with an adolescent boy. Don’t be creepy. Remember you are with a grown woman who has her own dirty thoughts and secret desires. She wants a man who is strong and confident to bring those thoughts out in her.
Every girl I've met just loves dirty talk, some like it best when it's dirtiest. But you need to master the knack of doing it with respect and affection, and then it just blows her mind to bits. 👍
Sexy is composed of Novelty + Taboo, to different degrees. Sex begins and ends in the mind. Women get turned on because you use different levels of these two categories. If you do it EVERY time it’s not novel, if it’s plain church talk, it’s not taboo. Bottom line, say it. You’ll either learn something or *learn something*
Most of them were gross. I’m a dirty talker. And I get pretty into it but like juices in my mouth and squirting… By the way, scientifically proven is squirting is just urine. It’s fucking gross. But to each their own.
Do you really think that humans can be trusted by words even in bedroom 😅 where passion & desire the basic force that lead one to devour other ❤🎉❤ 💜 heart for you respected lady
Part of having him go plain crazy and unlocking his primal impulses is a result of speaking out just the right words. Yes, where to begin? Celestine Dessike's latest (go'ogle her) takes you by the hand if you really want to cut out all the guesswork and get him going!
Good lord! I am a computer nerd. I can't believe that I am watching this! I confess that I have long known that I am deficient at dirty talk, and that I secretly envy the guys who are naturals at it.
#1- Also remember to discuss what you DON'T like. Nothing kills the mood (and possibly your relationship) like the words "OH, HELL NO!! WE ARE NOT DOING THAT!! That's disgusting!!"
Also, nothing kills the mood or build up like being called something you don’t want to be called.
Communication is key.
Don’t assume that our girl would like some thing that another girl liked (or that you saw in a video somewhere) and vice versa for a man.
@@RainbowSludgeWOW, Raven!
Finally someone giving brilliant examples instead of just talking around the subject of dirty talk. Thank you!
Big problem: When your partner will always proclaim what's not working but NEVER say what does work.
But you are supposed to "just know." You've heard that right?
Well .. if she was involved..
You would know.. you help
Each other get there…
Yeah .. that’s what you do😁
"When you have eliminated all which is unpleasurable, then whatever remains, however improbable, must be pleasurable." - Sherlock Holmes, sort of
Maybe, idk... Probably not actually... Forget it
@@ForeverTogether219 Very true, IF she actually gives readable feedback... So, tell your friends to be responsive!
I used to think that way. The more I spend intimate time with her I can see what she likes and wants.
The biggest question, is how in the hell do you get into talking about 'dirty talk' out of the bedroom? It's not even close to asking "how was your day".
Booze helps 😉
Guy: (after some other convos or just chillin) So, sweety, I wanted to actually ask you a serious question so try not to laugh (she probably will a bit but that's ok). The other night was amazing, I can't stop thinking about {enter what was amazing}. I was wondering what you thought about dirty talk during sex. I kinda want to try it and want to know if u would to.
From here, take it away with regular conversation flow. Be straight, up front, be playful. In the end, it's like any other convo on the planet. You just needed to get to level 10 before it was unlocked for you.
It is not like "how was your day", but it comes close. if you are at this stage of a relationship it is not taboo. Just look for an opportunity and simply broach the subject. I have found that straight up conversation yields the best results
And this is coming from a guy that used to be mega shy and could not have a conversation with a woman. I still have some elements of that, but having been in a relationship for the past 8 years I can honestly look back and say that I over thought everything too much.
Adding something like "Heyyyy sexy..." to the "How was your day?" is not a bad place to start.
I think a good approach to effective dirty talk is to start out playful, graduate to flirty, then let it climax in raw expressions.
One rule: Never force it.
It is easier with who you've properly built non-sexual intimacy with.
Start with compliments and over some weeks, make the compliments more graphic and detailed.
If you have really open communication in your marriage or relationship, you can just talk about sex like it's no-big-deal... which, if you're exclusive, it ISN'T A BIG DEAL. People have sex. Everyone in a good relationship is having sex. Heck, most average relationships are still getting it on, and some of the toxic relationships are REALLY getting it on. So just be chill and absolutely confident when you tell your partner it's normal to talk about it, and you're not ashamed at all...
One of the most simple and effective ways of dirty talking is simply describing what you're seeing and feeling to your parter in whatever you're doing. Paint pictures with your words, and the more of your senses you involved the better. Dirty talk isn’t even dirty, it’s sensual observation and appreciation, you’re communicating what you authentically desire and appreciate to each other in the moment. The move you involve all your senses the more in body your experience is.
As a very happy married man I freaking love your content. My wife does to ;)
Glad to hear it!
Nicely done! Well needed and a hot topic more couples should explore
I don’t know, if someone said the 69 example to me, I’ll be like yeah that’s pretty fucking gross. And I’m a freak.
“The laundry needs to be done and the dishes are piled up in sink. They’re filthy.”
😂😂😂😂😂😂
"I can't stop thinking about that sandwich you made me last night"
That would be my best
Yeah - when you said that you don't want to just freeze up - that's exactly what I did. It's just completely unnatural to me and I had to tell her, "sorry - not my thing"
Same - totally kills the mood when someone calls you a slur out of nowhere that’s supposed to be sexy. Just because some other girl they slept with liked that. 🤢
unfortunately with modern day women, that "trigger word" literally triggers their PTSD, anxiety or Manic depression.
And triggers phone calls to her lawyer.
'Dirty talk' is similar to playing music and doing comedy.. It's ALL about reading the room, timing and anticipation... Remember, Green lights are easy to see, but the stop signs can sometimes sneak up on you. As for myself, I recommend you start with 'Cary Grant' (just WATCH him in North By Northwest on the train...) .... THEN read the reaction before ramping it up....
Yea. A lady says,"Talk dirty to me...." and I tell her that over the weekend, I am going to the hardware store and purchasing some mulch and transplant some plants I have wanted to move for some time...
It does not go over so well....
Well Done!!!
Damn killer dirty sentence stems. You got mad balls. And you keep uncovering new nuances and naming these aspects of the love game no one else is doing and in such an elegant way. So cool.
This is some thing personally, I have tried to do, and has always worked up for a epic fail for me I’m great at a lot of things but I’m right up there with Peter Griffin when it comes to this
First-timer here. Terrific video! You got my upvote at 2:21!
Amazing that talking about it beforehand is such a surprise. It really is the best way to clear the playing field, so to speak, so everyone knows what's available and where the boundaries are.
I like how you don't take yourself too seriously😅 you make me laugh
This type of talk definitely needs to be discussed before intimacy. Some couples can do the dirty talk, others not so much...
"Talk Dirty to Me" was a fun Poison song though...😅❤
Very tastefully done!
Sarah's talkin' that talk again. Lord have mercy!
I've been in some comical situations with dirty talk in the past 😅. In general, I find dirty talk as a laughably funny thing to do. There have been occasions when ex's have asked me to talk dirty to them which I gladly did. However, deep down I would be fighting hard trying not to laugh out loud at our dirty talk exchange so as to not ruin the moments which clearly had them turned on.
Good girl.
Hey, some peoples version of dirty talk, or being freaky is about as vanilla as they come. So you have to be able to adapt. Sidenote, girls love when a guy takes charge and gets freaky, usually, it allows them to engage in things that they want to engage in, but don’t want to mentally be held accountablefor… In other words, it being his idea, allows them a little bit of leeway inside their own mind
Honestly, I would describe something like that because I’ve been through that once myself, but I’m sorry to say there are no words mostly because that’s a private matter and I’m sure you can understand that Miss Dawn I’m sorry I want to but I don’t wanna get into trouble anymore this week than I’ve already have been in
Now for mind reading 101 .. Reference the Seinfeld dirty talk incident.
Your advanced level isn't even close to my beginning level!
Although these advise are not very much related to my culture, but I still do find them concerning because I feel that "a woman is a woman" regardless of her origin. Respect and regards from Karachi, Pakistan.
My ex husband I and I were very conservative never did this but my partner afterward totally dirty talked and I was pleasantly surprised how hot it got me in the moment!!! 😎
I'm totally for it now!!!!
That is the problem. Women are not prepared to do stuff as a wife but they will be very open to everything when they have affair or when the man is not her husband.
Sarah, igloo's only exist in the Arctic, since there is only ice as a surface. I can't wait to get "mua" saying and screaming sounds, sights, odors, touches and all those things...you know what I mean when I say it.
Imagination ❤
Yeah 🎉
Great video, Sarah...👍
Yah that's powerful love to hear that 💖💖💖💯👍 love from Papua new guinea 🇵🇬🇵🇬🇵🇬
I appreciate this, but why do women have to be like defusing a bomb? If you get a single thing wrong, she explodes at you. And yes, I am good at it, but it's kind of ridiculous.
Not every woman explodes at one wrong thing. Mine might start to laugh but that’s a different problem.
My ex used to always start with take out the rubbish and clean the bin it stinks so badly that it would be nasty to your health. I guess I never realised that this was foreplay
So, the strong silent type is out.
How 'bout "no".
Why does this seem variations on a script? Is this graded later among the girl-friend group? Since we have to be in a relationship with the entire girlfriend group is it possible to get useful feedback for the specific relationship? Is the an online database of scripts for this, perhaps a mail-merge synthesis, or some AI supercharging? Are there recommended script doctors and voice coaches?
And the ever popular - at least me - "Get that @$$ up in the air baby" And I even got that from a song by Diamanda Galas, and it totally works. So I thank her. You gotta say it with feeling, snarl, and insistence. It seems to be a universal one. So your whole rundown here was really good,.
Thanks
Go Sarah….🥳🤩😝😜🤪
Season 6 episode 1 of Rules of Engagement, Jeff (Patrick Warburton) shows exactly how to do dirty talk to his wife Audrey (Megyn Price). Don't need any other direction about that. I never could figure out who I fell in love with more on that show, her or Bianca Kajlich.
Bill Burr: "Just rub one out. It's the champagne of victory."
Excellent !!! Burr is the best.
oops; just sprung one!
Yeah, kinda hard to do any of this when you never know what you're coming home to... Tried being dominant once and talking dirty (not ugly, not unlike the first vanilla example) and she starts bawling. I ask what's wrong, apologized and just held her. Then another time, I was too nice... So, yeah...
I always just took the Rocko approach. Oh baby, oh baby, oh baby...
Remember
Be hot
Be NAUGHTY
Be Courtious
If you know, you know.
My advice to guys who are hesitant or uncomfortable with this is don’t do it unless you can be confident. There is nothing more awkward than a guy making half hearted sexy talk. The woman will feel like she’s hooked up with an adolescent boy. Don’t be creepy.
Remember you are with a grown woman who has her own dirty thoughts and secret desires. She wants a man who is strong and confident to bring those thoughts out in her.
Every girl I've met just loves dirty talk, some like it best when it's dirtiest. But you need to master the knack of doing it with respect and affection, and then it just blows her mind to bits. 👍
Sexy is composed of Novelty + Taboo, to different degrees. Sex begins and ends in the mind. Women get turned on because you use different levels of these two categories. If you do it EVERY time it’s not novel, if it’s plain church talk, it’s not taboo. Bottom line, say it. You’ll either learn something or *learn something*
There's no igloos in Antarctica. 😮
Dang i was getting turned on hearing these phrase, i can tell you from experience that this works
Most of them were gross. I’m a dirty talker. And I get pretty into it but like juices in my mouth and squirting… By the way, scientifically proven is squirting is just urine. It’s fucking gross. But to each their own.
Dirty talk is great, I'm all for it.
But I don't grunt or make any 'noises' during sex. Is that weird?
I'm like the male librarian
Do you really think that humans can be trusted by words even in bedroom 😅 where passion & desire the basic force that lead one to devour other ❤🎉❤ 💜 heart for you respected lady
No igloos in Antarctica, just in the Arctic
Does " you got a perty mouth" cut it?
how about
"your chesticles leave me speechless" ... I had another word but youtube edited it out ...
Is all that Hair yours? Or are you using extensions? ;-)
I'm very creative, lol! I could go all sorts of ways with Sarah, she is awesome, super hot, and I'm in love with her!
Just use a club, cave men had it right...
Here is another phrase that makes women go wild:" i got money!" or "Tell me which bag/shoes you want". Use with caution.
Dirty talk will get you arrested real quick!
How about we go back to looking at things like abstinence as a virtue
"What are you doing??" "Counter-clockwise swirl.."
i am sorry ... i have never had "delicious juices". ... can you say I wish you had delicious juices?
I don't have the slightest idea how to " dirty talk". It's not in my personality.
yeah and it's one step to ''hello, human resources'' hard pass
The brain is the biggest erogenous zone ..
❤👍
Momma say nice girls don't cuss nor chew tobacco with them nice young hounds who come sniffin' round.
Wow ... those are dirty
Yowza
What is some amazing dirty talk about partners feet....
Damn this is HOT! ❤
Signal her 🥗
🤨 what are you
Who do you belong too
C when I tell you to
😏and so on😳😃👍
Nope. If she likes dirty talk she's walking home with her clothes thrown out the door behind her. Full stop.
Longer than necessary, generic and repetitive. Interesting topic, though.
You are going to turn me an asshole
Alphas don't need dirty talk, 'to work'-- dirty talk won't work for Betas-- nothing will work, for Betas.
Sterling cooper may not aggree to this
Part of having him go plain crazy and unlocking his primal impulses is a result of speaking out just the right words. Yes, where to begin? Celestine Dessike's latest (go'ogle her) takes you by the hand if you really want to cut out all the guesswork and get him going!
im sure this works well for young people.when u get my age u dont even have enough phone stamina for a lady
What a tremendous scank.
Dirty talk supercharges our romantic life. It is almost as important as foreplay.
That was good!
I used to write for Hustler magazine. You want dirty talk... pay me.
divorce
Do you have a course I can take?
Theres nothing dirty about the talk during it just get hotter
Not something I could do.
Thanks
Good lord! I am a computer nerd. I can't believe that I am watching this! I confess that I have long known that I am deficient at dirty talk, and that I secretly envy the guys who are naturals at it.
Me too brother. I stick with things like “You feel so good”