I’m the mother of a white/Asian mixed race baby so hearing your experiences and insights is extremely valuable. I hope I can raise her as well as possible.
(From a person who is Western asian, Southeast Asian, European, and African with majority being 🇱🇧,🇹🇩🇩🇪🇳🇬) Wow thank you for sharing your biracial experience! I grew up in America and I'm quite multiracial. I don't look mono-racial but quite often people will often place me into the category of being black and of course coloured so I've never gotten the phrase "what are you?" before. Once acquaintances talk to me a for a while they will say something like "Are you from here?" or "Hey, are you mixed?" Which I am and I am proud of every single part of me and every single racial classification and every single family custom. I am more than the sum of my parts I speak English and German and only understand a some Levantine Arabic and even less so French
So happy to see another video from you! I really agree about that being from two different cultures/ethnicities is a big blessing. My parents migrated to the country where we currently live in, and I feel very fortunate to have both cultures in me. I also like the position of the 'outsider' that this background puts me in. I feel like I can observe more about both cultures and also in general - I think it really puts you in a more open minded state. Also I wanted to say that I really like your accent and way of speaking, it reminds me of my french speaking friends. Wishing you luck on your journey of connecting with your Chinese side
Hi, thanks for sharing your experience 🥰 It's so interesting what you said about being the 'outsider' - i now realize that I also enjoy this position a lot. It's actually quite humbling and relaxing to take in a new culture without actively being involved/integrated in it. I'm curious to know, what are your two cultures? Aw and thanks for your sweet words 💕 i'm not a bit fan of my accent so this feels good to read hihii. Take care! x
Thank you for this video, and thank you for your wilingness to open up ! It is an important topic that can also help people that are not mixed race to grasp the identity struggles that being mixed race can entail, a reality that can sometimes be a non-subject if we are not experiencing it ourselves. I'm looking forward to conversations on this.
Merci beaucoup pour ta vidéo Romy, j'ai ma crise identitaire sino-française qui a ressurgit très récemment et ça m'a apporté du réconfort d'écouter ton histoire qui résonne avec mon expérience personnelle! Comme tu le dis, c'est pas évident d'avoir ce sentiment de ne pas totalement appartenir à aucunes des deux communautés, mais j'imagine que c'est aussi ce genre de vécu qui permet de développer un regard plus nuancé sur le monde! Courage à toi, et bonne continuation dans tes projets :)
Oui absolument!! ✨ merci pour ton commentaire et j'espère que cette crise identitaire qui a ressurgit (et qui est tellement naturelle!) va passer et t'apporter de nouvelles perspectives. Elles peuvent être frustrantes mais à travers l'introspection et le questionnement on peut avoir de nouvelles reflexions sur sa vie, ce qui peut être très nourrissant! Bien sur ce n'est pas toujours facile... c'est important d'être patient et doux avec soit même, surtout dans ces moments là 💕 bon courage on your journey! 🌸
Great video :) I’m not mixed race but I moved as a young teenager to another country. I felt the exact same in terms of not belonging, not feeling at home. I moved to Australia - it was a very intuitive decision, and I feel really at home now despite not being at all Aussie. I agree home is a feeling, I was lucky where my environment matched that
Aw it's so great that Australia 'called' you and that this country resonates with you, compared to where you moved to when you were young. Feeling at home in a foreign country (especially one that's so far!) is very precious. thanks for sharing your experience 💕
Thank you so much for sharing this. I am from the northwest of Spain, moved to the Canary Islands when I was 14. I never belonged there. I felt so out of place because I spoke with a different accent. You open your mouth and people just know that you are not from there. Some choose to be nice about it and others make jokes. Moved back to Vigo when I was 18 to go to university. It didn't feel like home anymore, I don't know why. Then at 23 I moved to England for a few months and in 2013 I came to Germany and been here since. Altho my story is totally different to yours, I do feel like I still do not belong anywhere really. I know I am Spanish because that is where I grew up. I did get the German nationality but there is nothing German in me except being punctual (ADHD overcompensation). I wonder if I will ever know what it feels to have arrived home.
Hi love, thanks for sharing your experience 💕 Not feeling at home is tough, and it's definitely common to experience that when you move so much as you're still growing up -- you construct yourself in different places and leave a part of you every time you move away. At least that's how i feel sometimes, that my persona is fragmented across all the places i've lived in and people i met. But through all that, i realized that home is within ourselves and with the people we love. Places can feel familiar and give a sense of being "at home", for sure. I often feel that way when I visit the places I used to live in, for a short moment. But I also noticed that it's mostly certain people that make me feel at home in the long-run (e.g., childhood friends or people i can hang out effortlessly with), and also when I'm alone and feel safe within myself. Even if you don't feel like you belong in germany, I hope you still made a cozy home for yourself there and have friends you can be yourself with 💕in the end, i feel like there's not really a place that's *the* home for some people. maybe it's a feeling that comes and go and that we shouldn't get attached to? just some random thoughts i had haha... 😌 xx
Ooooh,@@teawithromy! Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and for sending such a lovely reply. Yes, we leave pieces of us in every place we've been to and in every person we've met, even if it was only for a short time. I find it very hard to find people who feel at home... one of them is my ex and now best friend. I am trying to meet new people to see if the circle of humans that make me feel ok for being the way I am grows. It is so hard... but I am doing ok in general. Merci beaucoup again for your lovely message. Greetings from Cologne 😊 Have a lovely evening 😊
My grandma raised in guangzhou China until puberty and my dad is half chinese and my grandmas family moved to and from the states since the trans continental railroad was built and for some reason it skipped my dads lifetime and now I want to live in China. I feel so uncomfortable just because its hard to be vulnerable. Like i cried at every sad scene in movies til i was 11 then i started holding back it sucks. Also I was raised in great majority Asian schools but that means all my friends parents were from whatever type asian they were and could place there kid in the right spaces but I always could be dragged to the other of the kids who were white and skateboarded or stole from the store after school... Then theres the mess of who built this country and is america even a stable country get me out this mess.
In regards to the ass between two chairs thing, I never compared this feeling i get to that until u said it. do you ever get on one chair and like prop your leg in a comfortable position but it only lasts seconds then you can't find how you balanced your body so comfortably. Happened every so often to me as a kid and then it just happened again today
Hi, thanks for sharing about your experience! (apologies for the late reply i don't check my comments very often these days..). I definitely get what you mean about struggling to find your balance again, it happens to me sometimes also. It's great that you'd like to live in china again, i hope you can find some balance there! wishing you all the best in this confusing journey x
I'm mostly white, one eighth or maybe a quarter native american. I'm visibly not full blood white. I can relate to the searching for your place thing. I went and lived in Hawaii for most of my twenties. I have a son who's born and raised in Hawaii. His mom is half white, quarter mexican, quarter japanese. He has his mom's last name, a japanese name. I get that there are going to be times that someone is maybe somewhat hostile to you in a very small way. You're also going to need to learn to be less sensitive. A guy used to call you china. Big deal. He didn't mean any offense. Call him germany, even if he's not german lol. He'll either take it as friendly banter or he'll get the point and stop doing it. I have a friend who's half chinese and half white. He gets offended that people ask him where he's from. That's a question that everybody asks everybody. Where are you from? What brings you here? It's a way of getting to know someone. If you look for reasons to take offense then you'll find them. There are times when there is a good reason, but don't be so sensitive that you'll get offended at someone calling you china. I've been called colorado. It doesn't mean that the person has a problem with you or where you're from.
It gets annoying when you’re being called something all your life. I’m mixed Chinese and Irish grew up in the states and was mocked, I didn’t understand why but I didn’t care. The more it happened the more it bothered me, the first few times I just ignored all comments. But after a while of it happening I politely asked them to stop and it became mean after that, and so did I. It’s not about being sensitive, it’s about respect and the person calling her that was being respectful, it was rude. I wasn’t sensitive about it either didn’t bother me just confused me. Still not sensitive, I just ignore comments and try to inform people if it’s wrong to do something. If they don’t listen I don’t interact with them regardless of what’s happening. White people are able to get away with racism and just being rude. That includes white passing people, regardless of what you are mixed with. I also wonder how you treat the mother of your child with you calling her sensitive.
The Uyghur people of Xinjiang Province are a mixed race. They are half Caucasian and half Mongolian. There are 11.8 million Uyghurs in China. The following dance perform by Uyghur dancers. th-cam.com/video/uh5qhFqJfGU/w-d-xo.html
I am an asian. In my eyes, you look more of a western (French) girl than an eastern girl. Imo, home is a place where your love ones are. This is my opinion. I am a new sub and keep up the good work 👍🏻
Start to learn Chinese language is not late. Open your communication gap that give you more open in mind. You will not confined in one atmosphere. Then you proud call yourself as part of Chinese family.
Yess I agree it's not to late, I actually hope to pick up chinese once i have more free time! I also want to travel to China again so I can practice it 😌
you look obviously biracial. but, to my surprise, i found that you look more like your mom when i saw photos of your parents. because girls mostly look more like their dads. speaking of your dad, i think he hasn't done a good job at helping you develop a better personal identity. having a muiti-ethnic background tend to make mixed people more open-minded. but your dad doesn't even give you a chinese name and sufficient education of chinese language. wish i were wrong about him.
Given your level of English accent mastery, from french, you can definitely study 45 minutes a day spread out in three increments of 15 minutes, and if you do it right I promise you you will speak and hear and read and think in chinese within 10 years.
I’m the mother of a white/Asian mixed race baby so hearing your experiences and insights is extremely valuable. I hope I can raise her as well as possible.
(From a person who is Western asian, Southeast Asian, European, and African with majority being 🇱🇧,🇹🇩🇩🇪🇳🇬) Wow thank you for sharing your biracial experience! I grew up in America and I'm quite multiracial. I don't look mono-racial but quite often people will often place me into the category of being black and of course coloured so I've never gotten the phrase "what are you?" before. Once acquaintances talk to me a for a while they will say something like "Are you from here?" or "Hey, are you mixed?" Which I am and I am proud of every single part of me and every single racial classification and every single family custom. I am more than the sum of my parts I speak English and German and only understand a some Levantine Arabic and even less so French
Wow so many different cultures! It's wonderful to hear, and you should be so proud indeed! thank you for sharing 🥰
So happy to see another video from you!
I really agree about that being from two different cultures/ethnicities is a big blessing. My parents migrated to the country where we currently live in, and I feel very fortunate to have both cultures in me. I also like the position of the 'outsider' that this background puts me in. I feel like I can observe more about both cultures and also in general - I think it really puts you in a more open minded state.
Also I wanted to say that I really like your accent and way of speaking, it reminds me of my french speaking friends.
Wishing you luck on your journey of connecting with your Chinese side
Hi, thanks for sharing your experience 🥰 It's so interesting what you said about being the 'outsider' - i now realize that I also enjoy this position a lot. It's actually quite humbling and relaxing to take in a new culture without actively being involved/integrated in it. I'm curious to know, what are your two cultures?
Aw and thanks for your sweet words 💕 i'm not a bit fan of my accent so this feels good to read hihii. Take care! x
Thank you for this video, and thank you for your wilingness to open up ! It is an important topic that can also help people that are not mixed race to grasp the identity struggles that being mixed race can entail, a reality that can sometimes be a non-subject if we are not experiencing it ourselves. I'm looking forward to conversations on this.
Merci beaucoup pour ta vidéo Romy, j'ai ma crise identitaire sino-française qui a ressurgit très récemment et ça m'a apporté du réconfort d'écouter ton histoire qui résonne avec mon expérience personnelle! Comme tu le dis, c'est pas évident d'avoir ce sentiment de ne pas totalement appartenir à aucunes des deux communautés, mais j'imagine que c'est aussi ce genre de vécu qui permet de développer un regard plus nuancé sur le monde! Courage à toi, et bonne continuation dans tes projets :)
Oui absolument!! ✨ merci pour ton commentaire et j'espère que cette crise identitaire qui a ressurgit (et qui est tellement naturelle!) va passer et t'apporter de nouvelles perspectives. Elles peuvent être frustrantes mais à travers l'introspection et le questionnement on peut avoir de nouvelles reflexions sur sa vie, ce qui peut être très nourrissant! Bien sur ce n'est pas toujours facile... c'est important d'être patient et doux avec soit même, surtout dans ces moments là 💕 bon courage on your journey! 🌸
Great video :) I’m not mixed race but I moved as a young teenager to another country. I felt the exact same in terms of not belonging, not feeling at home. I moved to Australia - it was a very intuitive decision, and I feel really at home now despite not being at all Aussie. I agree home is a feeling, I was lucky where my environment matched that
Aw it's so great that Australia 'called' you and that this country resonates with you, compared to where you moved to when you were young. Feeling at home in a foreign country (especially one that's so far!) is very precious. thanks for sharing your experience 💕
Thank you so much for sharing this.
I am from the northwest of Spain, moved to the Canary Islands when I was 14. I never belonged there. I felt so out of place because I spoke with a different accent. You open your mouth and people just know that you are not from there. Some choose to be nice about it and others make jokes.
Moved back to Vigo when I was 18 to go to university. It didn't feel like home anymore, I don't know why. Then at 23 I moved to England for a few months and in 2013 I came to Germany and been here since.
Altho my story is totally different to yours, I do feel like I still do not belong anywhere really. I know I am Spanish because that is where I grew up. I did get the German nationality but there is nothing German in me except being punctual (ADHD overcompensation).
I wonder if I will ever know what it feels to have arrived home.
Hi love, thanks for sharing your experience 💕
Not feeling at home is tough, and it's definitely common to experience that when you move so much as you're still growing up -- you construct yourself in different places and leave a part of you every time you move away. At least that's how i feel sometimes, that my persona is fragmented across all the places i've lived in and people i met. But through all that, i realized that home is within ourselves and with the people we love. Places can feel familiar and give a sense of being "at home", for sure. I often feel that way when I visit the places I used to live in, for a short moment. But I also noticed that it's mostly certain people that make me feel at home in the long-run (e.g., childhood friends or people i can hang out effortlessly with), and also when I'm alone and feel safe within myself.
Even if you don't feel like you belong in germany, I hope you still made a cozy home for yourself there and have friends you can be yourself with 💕in the end, i feel like there's not really a place that's *the* home for some people. maybe it's a feeling that comes and go and that we shouldn't get attached to? just some random thoughts i had haha... 😌 xx
Ooooh,@@teawithromy! Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and for sending such a lovely reply.
Yes, we leave pieces of us in every place we've been to and in every person we've met, even if it was only for a short time.
I find it very hard to find people who feel at home... one of them is my ex and now best friend. I am trying to meet new people to see if the circle of humans that make me feel ok for being the way I am grows. It is so hard... but I am doing ok in general.
Merci beaucoup again for your lovely message.
Greetings from Cologne 😊
Have a lovely evening 😊
The racism, microagression, and agression agression against mixed race in China is worse.
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My grandma raised in guangzhou China until puberty and my dad is half chinese and my grandmas family moved to and from the states since the trans continental railroad was built and for some reason it skipped my dads lifetime and now I want to live in China. I feel so uncomfortable just because its hard to be vulnerable. Like i cried at every sad scene in movies til i was 11 then i started holding back it sucks. Also I was raised in great majority Asian schools but that means all my friends parents were from whatever type asian they were and could place there kid in the right spaces but I always could be dragged to the other of the kids who were white and skateboarded or stole from the store after school... Then theres the mess of who built this country and is america even a stable country get me out this mess.
In regards to the ass between two chairs thing, I never compared this feeling i get to that until u said it. do you ever get on one chair and like prop your leg in a comfortable position but it only lasts seconds then you can't find how you balanced your body so comfortably. Happened every so often to me as a kid and then it just happened again today
Hi, thanks for sharing about your experience! (apologies for the late reply i don't check my comments very often these days..). I definitely get what you mean about struggling to find your balance again, it happens to me sometimes also. It's great that you'd like to live in china again, i hope you can find some balance there! wishing you all the best in this confusing journey x
@@teawithromy
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You touched on some good points, I can definitely relate obviously lol
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Do you get treated better in asia or Europe?
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I'm mostly white, one eighth or maybe a quarter native american. I'm visibly not full blood white. I can relate to the searching for your place thing. I went and lived in Hawaii for most of my twenties. I have a son who's born and raised in Hawaii. His mom is half white, quarter mexican, quarter japanese. He has his mom's last name, a japanese name. I get that there are going to be times that someone is maybe somewhat hostile to you in a very small way. You're also going to need to learn to be less sensitive. A guy used to call you china. Big deal. He didn't mean any offense. Call him germany, even if he's not german lol. He'll either take it as friendly banter or he'll get the point and stop doing it. I have a friend who's half chinese and half white. He gets offended that people ask him where he's from. That's a question that everybody asks everybody. Where are you from? What brings you here? It's a way of getting to know someone. If you look for reasons to take offense then you'll find them. There are times when there is a good reason, but don't be so sensitive that you'll get offended at someone calling you china. I've been called colorado. It doesn't mean that the person has a problem with you or where you're from.
It gets annoying when you’re being called something all your life. I’m mixed Chinese and Irish grew up in the states and was mocked, I didn’t understand why but I didn’t care. The more it happened the more it bothered me, the first few times I just ignored all comments. But after a while of it happening I politely asked them to stop and it became mean after that, and so did I.
It’s not about being sensitive, it’s about respect and the person calling her that was being respectful, it was rude. I wasn’t sensitive about it either didn’t bother me just confused me. Still not sensitive, I just ignore comments and try to inform people if it’s wrong to do something. If they don’t listen I don’t interact with them regardless of what’s happening. White people are able to get away with racism and just being rude. That includes white passing people, regardless of what you are mixed with. I also wonder how you treat the mother of your child with you calling her sensitive.
The Uyghur people of Xinjiang Province are a mixed race. They are half Caucasian and half Mongolian.
There are 11.8 million Uyghurs in China. The following dance perform by Uyghur dancers.
th-cam.com/video/uh5qhFqJfGU/w-d-xo.html
and thank you for your bravery to confront such a globally complex experience.
great video, I found it very useful to myself
such a beautiful mix
you carry your home with you
I am an asian. In my eyes, you look more of a western (French) girl than an eastern girl. Imo, home is a place where your love ones are. This is my opinion. I am a new sub and keep up the good work 👍🏻
I remembered Marinette, from Miraculous Ladybug.
Start to learn Chinese language is not late. Open your communication gap that give you more open in mind. You will not confined in one atmosphere. Then you proud call yourself as part of Chinese family.
Yess I agree it's not to late, I actually hope to pick up chinese once i have more free time! I also want to travel to China again so I can practice it 😌
As a Pakistani I also want to visit China
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1:23 You look so cute!
you look obviously biracial. but, to my surprise, i found that you look more like your mom when i saw photos of your parents. because girls mostly look more like their dads.
speaking of your dad, i think he hasn't done a good job at helping you develop a better personal identity. having a muiti-ethnic background tend to make mixed people more open-minded. but your dad doesn't even give you a chinese name and sufficient education of chinese language.
wish i were wrong about him.
Bonjour, 早上好！！你永远是中国人。
You wouldn't say that if she was Blasian and spoke fluent Chinese.
@@joseph3036why chinese people are also dark with black hair and eyes
@@joseph3036 chinese skin color is also dark
@@joseph3036this is why this weird girl is dark as a half french
@@Queenofeating They're yellow. Northern Chinese are whiter than southern Europeans.
Your confused stop giving Us nonsense
Your comment was unnecessary. If you don’t like the video, you don’t have to watch.
Your Chinese and that is it
Dad is Chinese so yeah she is Chinese..
Given your level of English accent mastery, from french, you can definitely study 45 minutes a day spread out in three increments of 15 minutes, and if you do it right I promise you you will speak and hear and read and think in chinese within 10 years.